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Speaker 1: a true dilemma. It is literally existential. What what does

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Speaker 1: that mean? It's so you know, it's um it's it's

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Speaker 1: a problem with your existence, you know, an existential crisis. Correct,

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Speaker 1: So selfie, let's discuss Well, I need to talk about

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Speaker 1: it in a bigger capacity than that. So this week

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Speaker 1: I was speaking at Beaumont at this um was kind

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Speaker 1: this blogging class there. She was a professor for a day,

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Speaker 1: guest profit as you do for an elective class. Only

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Speaker 1: refer to me as guest profit, Kelly, please. Yeah. So anyway,

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Speaker 1: I was sitting there and they're asking me questions. They

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Speaker 1: which I thought was so relevant in something I truly

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Speaker 1: Because okay, go ahead, I mean, for me, it's one

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Speaker 1: much posting is too much is kind of where they

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Speaker 1: were asking about yourself, because if you start a blog,

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Speaker 1: you start something to where you're naturally on social media

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Speaker 1: I mean, yours is fashion and beauty related, so it

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Speaker 1: it has to be. If you're blog with sports, it

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Speaker 1: might not be, but true. I mean, the nature of

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Speaker 1: be that talking about the clothing that you're wearing in

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Speaker 1: how I have justified having to post about myself as

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Speaker 1: much as I do to myself. Is that Velvet Edge

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Speaker 1: truly is a business. Like I'm selling something cell cell

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Speaker 1: I'm linking this because people ask me about it and

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Speaker 1: it makes it easier. And I'm also now I've made today?

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Speaker 1: Instagrams and you know, social media pages into blogs and

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Speaker 1: over and over. So I found this article on mike

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Speaker 1: you call me earlier? Um? Um, Professor Profess Kelly session

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Speaker 1: take too many self it's selfitus is a genuine mental

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Speaker 1: Tell me all of them, please. Um. The low level

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Speaker 1: in my head that post a ton But it's hard.

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Speaker 1: It's that hard line now because everyone is making social

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Speaker 1: group photos. I also had a selfie stick you said

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Speaker 1: and then no, they both were for work. Okay, So

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Speaker 1: It's like their blog reps basically speaking of wanting to

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Speaker 1: just I mean, I guess it doesn't all have to

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Speaker 1: I just that's what I'm saying. I feel like sometimes

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