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Speaker 1: Wheezy and today's episode is super fucking important for a

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Speaker 1: few reasons. So I feel like every time I'm out

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Speaker 1: And you know, you've actually had a guy like last

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Speaker 1: night say to me at Max Fish, y'all be on

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Speaker 1: that like feminist ship. I don't even you know, I

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Speaker 1: for you. Today's for breaking down whatever bullshit you thought

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Speaker 1: feminism was. Feminism is the advocacy of women's rights on

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Speaker 1: So I don't want you guys to think that that

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Speaker 1: I'm excited about this week's episode. Guys. UM, once again,

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Speaker 1: this is horrible decisions. I'm your girl, Mandy B. I'm wheezy,

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Speaker 1: and we do UM have a wonderful, wonderful, wonderful guest today. UM.

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Speaker 1: Before we get started, though, UM, I did want to

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Speaker 1: just open up really, uh, just just shortly about what's

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Speaker 1: we I know we got a lot to go through. UM,

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Speaker 1: Mars love Joy. Um, yeah, I think I'm I was

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Speaker 1: like yo, my feministion to ah, that's always been like

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Speaker 1: Where my niggat I falling? You've been you've been telling

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Speaker 1: I'm not like excusing anything. But like white Americans, it's different,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm out of this slope white American news.

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Speaker 1: And this is the funny thing when people come for me,

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Speaker 1: referred to them as her boyfriend, her bull, or that

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Speaker 1: she is black owned. Frequently, the husband and wife will

425
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Speaker 1: film the wife's escapades for future enjoyment. So we watched

426
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Speaker 1: like it will be like BBC cup holding. I don't

427
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Speaker 1: mean we watched. I'm just saying, like, you know when

428
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Speaker 1: we know about it like that, right, we know about

429
00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:31,080
Speaker 1: cup holding. But I have never heard of this queen

430
00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:34,800
Speaker 1: and people tattooed on the brow like they have if

431
00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:37,200
Speaker 1: you the space tattoo type in Queen of Spades, there's

432
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Speaker 1: a spacece tattoo on this heard that. I've never heard

433
00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:42,960
Speaker 1: this ship. It's on their leg, it's on their pussy,

434
00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:47,000
Speaker 1: like it's somewhere. So I was reading this hilarious thread

435
00:22:47,000 --> 00:22:49,800
Speaker 1: on Reddit about the funniest porn comments, and one of

436
00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:51,439
Speaker 1: them had to do with the Queen of Space hat

437
00:22:51,480 --> 00:22:54,119
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, what is that? And so then

438
00:22:54,119 --> 00:22:55,600
Speaker 1: I googled it, and that's when I felt this ship

439
00:22:56,119 --> 00:22:59,399
Speaker 1: that is crazy. I'm just gonna saute. That made a

440
00:22:59,440 --> 00:23:01,399
Speaker 1: lot of calm when I first started the show, and

441
00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:03,120
Speaker 1: then like, you guys are gonna run out of talk

442
00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:07,800
Speaker 1: about there's no way. Literally half way through the hundreds

443
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:10,480
Speaker 1: right now, and we're still like, I sent her video,

444
00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:12,639
Speaker 1: We're gonna do it on another episode, but I'm not

445
00:23:12,640 --> 00:23:14,480
Speaker 1: gonna lie. That's why I went to try to find

446
00:23:14,520 --> 00:23:16,280
Speaker 1: another king, because I was like, this is too soft

447
00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:18,159
Speaker 1: for us to do the kink that I sent you today.

448
00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:19,520
Speaker 1: I was like, we're not gonna bring this up in

449
00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:23,359
Speaker 1: the middle, but it's a I'll send you the video.

450
00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:25,400
Speaker 1: I'll send you the video. It's a little while, um,

451
00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:26,879
Speaker 1: but no. So when she sent me the Queen of

452
00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:29,400
Speaker 1: Space thing, I was like, here's my question to you, though,

453
00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:31,320
Speaker 1: because we've talked about this often, do you feel like

454
00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:35,199
Speaker 1: it's a fetishism of the lost on the by the

455
00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:39,520
Speaker 1: husband or the wife or both both. Bro, that's disgusting.

456
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 1: Don't clean spain not here. Niggas know that you're like,

457
00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:46,120
Speaker 1: you're I mean, you're king shaming. I'm king shaming. When

458
00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:48,200
Speaker 1: it comes into race play, I think that sho is discussed,

459
00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:51,359
Speaker 1: So what's crazy is when so I went two years

460
00:23:51,359 --> 00:23:54,240
Speaker 1: ago to hedonism. It's a it's a resort in Jamaica,

461
00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:57,879
Speaker 1: and I talked about I've mentioned this before. There was

462
00:23:58,280 --> 00:24:01,359
Speaker 1: a piano night, so on the piano, everyone like sits

463
00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:03,040
Speaker 1: around the piano and the guy on the piano just

464
00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:05,760
Speaker 1: starts freestyling these songs about the people who are in

465
00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:07,880
Speaker 1: the audience and it's really fun. It's sucking funny a ship.

466
00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:11,280
Speaker 1: And so he asked questions to the different couples sitting around,

467
00:24:11,280 --> 00:24:13,960
Speaker 1: and there was this older couple. It was a white

468
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Speaker 1: man and a white woman, and so she he asks

469
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Speaker 1: for the purse to go and see what's in her

470
00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:24,360
Speaker 1: little clutch. In her clutch, there's condoms. So they weren't magnums,

471
00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:27,000
Speaker 1: they were just like regular condoms. And so the piano

472
00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:29,720
Speaker 1: guy was like, oh, she must not like goes to

473
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Speaker 1: talk about the size of him, and the husband immediately said, oh,

474
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Speaker 1: those condoms aren't for me, there for her. And they

475
00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:39,320
Speaker 1: literally go into a conversation saying, we're in Jamaica, we

476
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Speaker 1: know what we're looking for. They wanted a black guy

477
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Speaker 1: like to join the room with them, and me and

478
00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:47,120
Speaker 1: my friends looked at each other like and he said

479
00:24:47,160 --> 00:24:49,680
Speaker 1: it so confidently in front of all these other couples,

480
00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:51,880
Speaker 1: but was like, oh, no, these condoms are for her,

481
00:24:52,040 --> 00:24:54,120
Speaker 1: and it's because we're in Jamaica. What do you think

482
00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:57,399
Speaker 1: we're looking for? And they literally came to Jamaica for

483
00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:00,240
Speaker 1: black men to fuck his his wife. And it was

484
00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:03,160
Speaker 1: just like like she said, and they said all open,

485
00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:05,760
Speaker 1: and she was like, yeah, so if anyone and we

486
00:25:05,800 --> 00:25:07,640
Speaker 1: all just looked at them, like me and my friends

487
00:25:07,680 --> 00:25:09,960
Speaker 1: looked at each other like this is kind of weird.

488
00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:11,879
Speaker 1: Like they're literally saying they're here to search for a

489
00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:14,280
Speaker 1: black man dingo. And I was just like and they

490
00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 1: said it just so confident. Really piss me off. That's

491
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:19,960
Speaker 1: pretty crazy. That's why I'm more than you know. You

492
00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:22,600
Speaker 1: hate when I say BBC, but it's not like I

493
00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:25,480
Speaker 1: know you like niggas, but like the BBC ship I've

494
00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:28,399
Speaker 1: never seen really it was like black people to get like,

495
00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:30,480
Speaker 1: I don't know, I do like big black cocks, so

496
00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:32,679
Speaker 1: like I don't like little black cocks. I like the

497
00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:36,480
Speaker 1: big ones. I'm just saying, not all black cocks are.

498
00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:38,840
Speaker 1: You don't even say I don't. That's why you just

499
00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:42,880
Speaker 1: bring it up, Okay, so that DoD I do want

500
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Speaker 1: to do you know that dicks are big? Say it

501
00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:50,719
Speaker 1: like that? Just do we know dicks are big when

502
00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:52,440
Speaker 1: we say it like that? Because like we say it

503
00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:54,439
Speaker 1: in our friends are what I mean, like, did you

504
00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:57,320
Speaker 1: last night? But she had dude? Like That's when you

505
00:25:57,400 --> 00:26:01,080
Speaker 1: know it was like good? So if you do, it's

506
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:04,280
Speaker 1: not preferred to it better than the best. If there

507
00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:06,280
Speaker 1: is not, if there's a scene, k at it at

508
00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:09,440
Speaker 1: the end and they can't say that, they can't say

509
00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:13,840
Speaker 1: due holy fuck. See look you already know what they

510
00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:22,480
Speaker 1: call it. They got a cock cock. It doesn't once

511
00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:24,639
Speaker 1: O vanilla ship this week? So are vanilla ship For

512
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:27,359
Speaker 1: those of you who don't know, Um is our sex

513
00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:29,840
Speaker 1: in the news conversation? Just so y'all know we'd be

514
00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:31,480
Speaker 1: doing research or whatever, but want you all to know

515
00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:35,000
Speaker 1: that sex is everywhere around us, um, whether it's someone

516
00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:36,600
Speaker 1: you know we got locked up, or even if we

517
00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:38,960
Speaker 1: dig into the politics of it. I'm so sorry I

518
00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:41,760
Speaker 1: said this isn't attachedment so you can't click on the link.

519
00:26:41,800 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 1: That's why I said bitch was the goddamn take it

520
00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:45,760
Speaker 1: a week. Look, see this is what happens when she

521
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:49,439
Speaker 1: produces nothing Oh my god, stop, don't want the press. Okay.

522
00:26:49,600 --> 00:26:51,240
Speaker 1: So I've been like writing a lot, which is why

523
00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:53,800
Speaker 1: I'm using my computer, and I just didn't realize that,

524
00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:56,439
Speaker 1: like I couldn't click on it from here. Yeah. Do

525
00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:58,200
Speaker 1: you see why our outlines are like so long? Now

526
00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:01,960
Speaker 1: you know I'll be paying spy. This is great. Okay.

527
00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:05,800
Speaker 1: So I found this article mainly because I heard this

528
00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:09,840
Speaker 1: rumor that this dude sued this chick to get his

529
00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:11,800
Speaker 1: money back from like not splitting a date, and it

530
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:17,040
Speaker 1: was real. Wait wait, wait wait, he's a Texas man's

531
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 1: Texas sue's a woman for texting during the first date

532
00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:25,680
Speaker 1: and explains his lawsuit. Tuesday afternoon, there is big news

533
00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:29,800
Speaker 1: about a small lawsuit. Brandon Vezmar filed a suit against

534
00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:32,160
Speaker 1: a woman who he met on Bumble, alleging she had

535
00:27:32,240 --> 00:27:35,440
Speaker 1: text during the date and she owed him the ticket

536
00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:40,480
Speaker 1: price of seventeen thirty one Guardians of the Galaxy. No,

537
00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:44,600
Speaker 1: he's psycho. Um. Yeah. The story has largely been treated

538
00:27:44,600 --> 00:27:46,600
Speaker 1: as a quirky case of a person attempting to correct

539
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:50,280
Speaker 1: bad behavior through unusual means. He said. The woman said

540
00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:52,960
Speaker 1: at a very brief day with Brandon that I chose

541
00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 1: to end prematurely. His behavior made me extremely uncomfortable, and

542
00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:57,400
Speaker 1: I felt I needed to remove myself from the situation,

543
00:27:57,400 --> 00:28:00,080
Speaker 1: from my own safety. He had escalated the situation and

544
00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:03,879
Speaker 1: far past what any mentally healthy person would. I feel sorry.

545
00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 1: I hurt his feelings bad enough that he needed to

546
00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 1: commit so much time and effort into seeking revenge. He

547
00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:12,000
Speaker 1: can move past this. But small seventeen dollars right? But no,

548
00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:15,359
Speaker 1: what was? But that's no for sure? But not only that,

549
00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:18,040
Speaker 1: Like what was? How much does cork fees? Calls for that?

550
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:20,720
Speaker 1: Like you're going above the seventeen dollars for corfees. I

551
00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:22,359
Speaker 1: don't know do taxes and we'd be having a call

552
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:27,479
Speaker 1: for notice. Isn't ship girl do taxes? Girl? I do

553
00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:31,679
Speaker 1: tex I do taxes for hedge funds, And so we

554
00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:33,800
Speaker 1: get like notices from different states. I'm on the state

555
00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:36,159
Speaker 1: and local side, and so we'll get a notice for

556
00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:39,480
Speaker 1: likes and seventeen cents and the client will have us

557
00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 1: call for it, and I'm like, our chargeable hours are

558
00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:43,840
Speaker 1: like two hundred an hour just for an account. So

559
00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:46,560
Speaker 1: it's just like you're spending two hundred an hour for

560
00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:49,160
Speaker 1: me to call a state about notice. Bitch? If you

561
00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:51,080
Speaker 1: don't just pay that ship. So for him to just

562
00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:53,280
Speaker 1: not take a god damn seventeen dollar loss. First of all,

563
00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:57,320
Speaker 1: didn't die, he said, honestly, he describes it as a

564
00:28:57,400 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 1: date from hell. He said that he didn't think his

565
00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:01,320
Speaker 1: companion had a it could be bad time. I don't know.

566
00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:03,280
Speaker 1: I didn't know that this is a bad date for her.

567
00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:05,280
Speaker 1: I think that this is probably a really great date

568
00:29:05,320 --> 00:29:06,880
Speaker 1: for her. I was really nice. She seemed to be

569
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:08,400
Speaker 1: having a great time until the point where I asked

570
00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:11,400
Speaker 1: her stopped texting, I bought her pizza, drove her car.

571
00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 1: I thought this was fun and nice day. He drove.

572
00:29:14,960 --> 00:29:16,920
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's what it says, drove her car.

573
00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:20,040
Speaker 1: I don't know why. Maybe it's mistyped. Um, this was

574
00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:22,120
Speaker 1: a nice, fun date. I wasn't actually interested in seeing

575
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:23,640
Speaker 1: her again very early on, but she was nice and

576
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:27,719
Speaker 1: the conversation was like, I feel comfortable. Can you can

577
00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:30,320
Speaker 1: to continue the date. I don't think this was a

578
00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:32,640
Speaker 1: bad experience for her. I think this was a bad

579
00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 1: experience for me. I think what's a bad experience for

580
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:39,080
Speaker 1: her at this point is her being responsible for her behavior. Um,

581
00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:44,440
Speaker 1: she's saying that basically it was yeah, inappropriate for her

582
00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:46,280
Speaker 1: to text during the movie. So I'm not gonna lie

583
00:29:46,600 --> 00:29:49,480
Speaker 1: during a movie during a movie. But so here's the

584
00:29:49,520 --> 00:29:51,320
Speaker 1: thing with this that some money he want to be

585
00:29:51,440 --> 00:29:53,440
Speaker 1: he said, He said that, I mean it is it

586
00:29:53,600 --> 00:29:56,320
Speaker 1: is like, you don't text during a movie, which I

587
00:29:56,360 --> 00:30:01,440
Speaker 1: have a business. I will on a date on the day,

588
00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:03,200
Speaker 1: I will. No, I don't give a funk. I don't

589
00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 1: agree with him. But like, if you want a movie,

590
00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:08,959
Speaker 1: like what if the movie was bad, you saw Guards

591
00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:11,480
Speaker 1: of the Galaxy, I probably would text during that too.

592
00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:15,000
Speaker 1: I don't know what the funk that is, but it

593
00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 1: sounds like I'm gonna text daring. Then let's go to

594
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:19,160
Speaker 1: a movie that we both like that we're not gonna

595
00:30:19,200 --> 00:30:22,400
Speaker 1: be texting that Honestly, I am just like really surprised

596
00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:27,720
Speaker 1: that you can't understand why texting would be bad during

597
00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:33,280
Speaker 1: a date. But that's so during a date. That's like

598
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:35,760
Speaker 1: if we're having a conversation, if we're having a conversation

599
00:30:35,840 --> 00:30:38,560
Speaker 1: over dinner and we're talking and then I look on

600
00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:41,480
Speaker 1: my that is rude. But if we're in a movie,

601
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:45,280
Speaker 1: we're watching the screen, we're not talking. I'm going to Mitch,

602
00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:47,280
Speaker 1: I'm gonna let me check my email because the bitch

603
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:51,200
Speaker 1: is busy there though. Yeah, but what's going on, I'm

604
00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:53,600
Speaker 1: gonna take a little break. I'm good interrupting you with

605
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608
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Speaker 1: new pictures on Instagram with like a little black bra,

609
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Speaker 1: so I'll be roll with you. I'm not a BRA fan,

610
00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:10,120
Speaker 1: but this ship is so light I just can't really

611
00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:12,960
Speaker 1: tell I have it on. I people thought it was

612
00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:14,680
Speaker 1: like a sports bra almost because of the way it

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Speaker 1: fit me, the material and tit's liking juicy, you know

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Speaker 1: want them all. They come in scoop neck, convertible straps,

620
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Speaker 1: all that ship. Um. They've sold over half a million

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Speaker 1: us a picture of your TITTI is it so? As

627
00:32:02,480 --> 00:32:04,800
Speaker 1: we've said UM a lot in the beginning, we are

628
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:08,480
Speaker 1: going to get into kind of feminism and what it means, um,

629
00:32:08,520 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 1: if you guys have not checked it out. I was

630
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:14,040
Speaker 1: recently on the red Pill podcast with Van Leathan and

631
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:19,440
Speaker 1: he got into kind of a conversation about patriarchy, feminism, UM,

632
00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:22,640
Speaker 1: and being courted, and I like did a deep dive

633
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:25,000
Speaker 1: into why I feel like I can still be feminists

634
00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:28,360
Speaker 1: um and expect a guy to pay for things. UM.

635
00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:32,880
Speaker 1: I had one thing that I think you didn't say

636
00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:37,160
Speaker 1: what you said. I still believe in the patriarchy a

637
00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:40,160
Speaker 1: little bit, and I think the confusion with that is

638
00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:44,760
Speaker 1: being courted is not a patriarchal thing. I've been with

639
00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:48,920
Speaker 1: women and they've courted me, and I've courted women like

640
00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:53,760
Speaker 1: right and like taking charge of being assertive, we gotta

641
00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 1: break like that's not patriarchal thing thing, right, Like you

642
00:32:57,280 --> 00:33:00,360
Speaker 1: just enjoy someone doing those things for you, but that

643
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:03,160
Speaker 1: doesn't necessarily mean that you believe in the patriarchy. So

644
00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:05,840
Speaker 1: I think that's a very big confusion with that. So

645
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:08,360
Speaker 1: but it's not because I still do because I still believe,

646
00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:10,920
Speaker 1: which is odd and I know it can go both ways.

647
00:33:10,960 --> 00:33:14,520
Speaker 1: But if I expect certain roles from a man, such

648
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:16,560
Speaker 1: as paying the bills, such as being the providers, such

649
00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:18,400
Speaker 1: as all of the things that I talked about, I

650
00:33:18,440 --> 00:33:21,320
Speaker 1: still also believe that as a woman, I want to

651
00:33:21,560 --> 00:33:24,520
Speaker 1: I still want to do the woman roles, I guess,

652
00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:29,520
Speaker 1: the female gender roles of cleaning of um, doing the dishes,

653
00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:32,800
Speaker 1: and and being kind of submissive to my man in

654
00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:35,720
Speaker 1: those aspects of the house because I expect for him

655
00:33:35,760 --> 00:33:37,920
Speaker 1: to be the man of the house. So I still

656
00:33:38,000 --> 00:33:40,680
Speaker 1: kind of do feel like as a woman, even though

657
00:33:40,720 --> 00:33:42,600
Speaker 1: I'm feminist, even though I'm independent, even though I have

658
00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:44,400
Speaker 1: all my own money and blah blah blah blah, I

659
00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:46,280
Speaker 1: still believe there are certain roles that as a woman

660
00:33:46,320 --> 00:33:48,440
Speaker 1: I want to do. And that's why we kind of

661
00:33:48,440 --> 00:33:52,120
Speaker 1: got into the argument. We also like your choice, But yeah,

662
00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:56,840
Speaker 1: I do think Um, for me, I don't believe in

663
00:33:57,280 --> 00:34:00,000
Speaker 1: that the patriarchy should stay. I think that it's really

664
00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:02,680
Speaker 1: sucked us over with work, Like I mean, how many

665
00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:04,320
Speaker 1: times are we walk in aucking office building and you

666
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 1: count the women in the room, or even when I

667
00:34:05,880 --> 00:34:07,560
Speaker 1: get hired and I'm like, oh, it's a girl here.

668
00:34:07,880 --> 00:34:09,879
Speaker 1: Like the patriarch has really fucked us up, not only

669
00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:13,320
Speaker 1: like for our personal money, but like just a livelihood

670
00:34:13,320 --> 00:34:15,640
Speaker 1: and sanctity of our bodies with you know, them making

671
00:34:15,640 --> 00:34:17,719
Speaker 1: decisions over us. So that's why I feel like I

672
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 1: can't say I really believe in it anymore, but I

673
00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:26,440
Speaker 1: know that I do appreciate a masculine energy, right, So

674
00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:29,120
Speaker 1: whether that means being assertive and them doing certain things

675
00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:31,839
Speaker 1: for me, possibly, but I don't want to use those

676
00:34:31,880 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 1: words because I feel like it means they have a

677
00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:36,040
Speaker 1: greater meaning. I don't know what are you thinking when

678
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:42,000
Speaker 1: you're listening to this, um, I think I think you're

679
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:47,560
Speaker 1: like that's your valid and wanting feeling like wanting to

680
00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:50,799
Speaker 1: have a man do certain things. I think, like you said,

681
00:34:50,800 --> 00:34:56,120
Speaker 1: have feminism, like you choose your own way. Yeah, that's

682
00:34:56,480 --> 00:35:01,120
Speaker 1: really like I personally, like I don't say I wouldn't

683
00:35:01,120 --> 00:35:03,640
Speaker 1: say I'm a feminist. I like the like the term

684
00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:08,359
Speaker 1: woman is just because like feminism has like especially like

685
00:35:08,440 --> 00:35:12,160
Speaker 1: because it's like really started with white women, like the whole,

686
00:35:12,400 --> 00:35:15,000
Speaker 1: and like it's excluded a lot of black women, a

687
00:35:15,040 --> 00:35:20,000
Speaker 1: lot of trans women. So like when I think of feminism,

688
00:35:20,040 --> 00:35:22,840
Speaker 1: I know what's changing and is becoming a lot more inclusive,

689
00:35:22,880 --> 00:35:25,919
Speaker 1: and there's so many different sectors of feminism, but like,

690
00:35:26,600 --> 00:35:28,960
Speaker 1: I don't know. We talked about that with Jamila Lemieux.

691
00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:32,560
Speaker 1: She's really big on feminism, and that was actually one

692
00:35:32,600 --> 00:35:36,319
Speaker 1: of the conversations we had, like how can you view feminism? Um?

693
00:35:36,360 --> 00:35:38,520
Speaker 1: And both of them, Um, we see and Jimmy Love

694
00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:42,399
Speaker 1: both differentiated between white feminism and black feminism. But to me,

695
00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:45,399
Speaker 1: the whole idea of feminism is we're all women still,

696
00:35:45,440 --> 00:35:48,560
Speaker 1: So I guess womanism is more so inclusive of you

697
00:35:48,640 --> 00:35:50,959
Speaker 1: feel like everyone. I like that work. I think there's

698
00:35:51,000 --> 00:35:52,920
Speaker 1: like a main point that I would like to just

699
00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:54,840
Speaker 1: make a kind of ended. There's no men here to

700
00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:57,280
Speaker 1: like sit and bitch about it, but there I feel

701
00:35:57,280 --> 00:35:59,719
Speaker 1: like men always want to throw down our throats that

702
00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:01,800
Speaker 1: we don't want to split bills. Oh you feminine that

703
00:36:01,920 --> 00:36:05,960
Speaker 1: I wanted, and so here's my issue with that. We

704
00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:08,759
Speaker 1: already are making seventy eight cents to the dollar, And

705
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:10,719
Speaker 1: that was my argument. I want to say this one

706
00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:13,720
Speaker 1: thing to just kind of piece it in and maybe

707
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 1: take men and women out of it. If I go

708
00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:17,880
Speaker 1: out with one of my friends that I make more money,

709
00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:20,680
Speaker 1: then now I'm generally paying for more of our drinks.

710
00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:24,959
Speaker 1: I have always across the board expected someone that's making

711
00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:26,400
Speaker 1: more to spend more. And I'll tell you where. We

712
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:29,480
Speaker 1: also see it when I was taking people on lunches

713
00:36:30,040 --> 00:36:32,279
Speaker 1: and then I would go to lunches with um, let's say,

714
00:36:32,280 --> 00:36:35,279
Speaker 1: a boss or something like that. Literally, in the guidelines

715
00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:38,520
Speaker 1: for UM putting in my UM, what am I saying?

716
00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:42,400
Speaker 1: The word when you pay? What's it called? When you

717
00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:45,600
Speaker 1: put in your expenses my expenseer for it, it would

718
00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:50,480
Speaker 1: say the senior person must pay, right. So I've always

719
00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:53,520
Speaker 1: just noticed I felt like if a man is making more,

720
00:36:53,920 --> 00:36:56,520
Speaker 1: it does kind of make sense for them to pay. Why,

721
00:36:56,560 --> 00:36:58,520
Speaker 1: I mean, why have me shell out when I'm still growing?

722
00:36:58,600 --> 00:37:00,919
Speaker 1: And then actually like, and that was probably the only

723
00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:03,080
Speaker 1: part of the conversation, Fan was like, I've never heard

724
00:37:03,080 --> 00:37:04,959
Speaker 1: it set like that, but that's what I said. I said,

725
00:37:05,360 --> 00:37:08,480
Speaker 1: as as women, even though we do have the right

726
00:37:08,520 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 1: to work now and the right to vote, and you know,

727
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:13,439
Speaker 1: we're now our rights of our bodies are being taken away,

728
00:37:13,440 --> 00:37:15,319
Speaker 1: but we there has been a lot of rights given

729
00:37:15,320 --> 00:37:18,040
Speaker 1: to women at the same breath. In the same breath,

730
00:37:18,280 --> 00:37:23,279
Speaker 1: we're not given the same exact opportunities because we are

731
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:26,920
Speaker 1: paid less, specifically as black women. So as black women,

732
00:37:27,200 --> 00:37:29,680
Speaker 1: we are like damn near at the bottom girl with

733
00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:32,120
Speaker 1: the with the at the bottom of the totem pole

734
00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:34,960
Speaker 1: as far as the gender pay gap, and then of

735
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 1: course when you add the race of us being black

736
00:37:37,160 --> 00:37:41,000
Speaker 1: women were paid even less. So it's just like to me,

737
00:37:41,760 --> 00:37:45,799
Speaker 1: we're sitting here at the very bottom. And so if

738
00:37:45,920 --> 00:37:49,240
Speaker 1: I'm given the opportunity to make less than you, I'm

739
00:37:49,280 --> 00:37:51,080
Speaker 1: you know, I'm already put at the bottom, Like how

740
00:37:51,120 --> 00:37:53,719
Speaker 1: can you sit here and expect me? And that's the thing,

741
00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:57,080
Speaker 1: it's just like recognizing that. And I'll be honest. I

742
00:37:57,160 --> 00:38:01,480
Speaker 1: am the last person I dated seriously as Jeeves, and

743
00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:03,560
Speaker 1: he didn't make as much money as I made, And

744
00:38:03,600 --> 00:38:06,520
Speaker 1: I did find myself wanting to pay for things so

745
00:38:06,520 --> 00:38:09,040
Speaker 1: that I could do him like frankly, like I didn't

746
00:38:09,080 --> 00:38:10,920
Speaker 1: want to make him feel uncomfortable if it wasn't in

747
00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:13,640
Speaker 1: his that's cute, that's broke. Next, I mean it happened

748
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:15,320
Speaker 1: to me. I don't I don't want to date. The

749
00:38:15,360 --> 00:38:17,200
Speaker 1: negative makes less to me. But I didn't even hold you.

750
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:19,080
Speaker 1: I went on, I went to the movies. We got

751
00:38:19,120 --> 00:38:23,680
Speaker 1: Damn fell Embay and I just texting the hoel no no, no,

752
00:38:23,680 --> 00:38:27,239
Speaker 1: no I wanted. But we got an uber coming back

753
00:38:27,280 --> 00:38:28,879
Speaker 1: to my house and it was only seven dollar uber

754
00:38:28,880 --> 00:38:30,600
Speaker 1: and I was like, you lucky because I would never

755
00:38:30,680 --> 00:38:33,280
Speaker 1: pay the scot Damn with anybody else, but it's seven dollars.

756
00:38:33,280 --> 00:38:35,680
Speaker 1: And I literally and I even told him, like, we're

757
00:38:35,719 --> 00:38:37,480
Speaker 1: going to the movies, You're paying for my candy. I

758
00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:39,320
Speaker 1: don't care if it's if it's a twenty dollar box,

759
00:38:39,400 --> 00:38:41,680
Speaker 1: like we're on a date like and he makes a

760
00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:43,120
Speaker 1: lot less to me. He caught me a millionaire the

761
00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:45,799
Speaker 1: whole time. And I was like, so, I mean I

762
00:38:45,920 --> 00:38:48,640
Speaker 1: dated this dude like I would say pretty. We hung

763
00:38:48,640 --> 00:38:51,160
Speaker 1: out like four times a week, We went on vacation together,

764
00:38:51,160 --> 00:38:53,040
Speaker 1: like I was dating him for about six months, like

765
00:38:53,280 --> 00:38:55,960
Speaker 1: quite a bit of time. And there were things that

766
00:38:56,000 --> 00:38:57,800
Speaker 1: I wanted to do and include him in. And I

767
00:38:57,880 --> 00:38:59,200
Speaker 1: knew he liked to take me on dates, like he

768
00:38:59,320 --> 00:39:01,359
Speaker 1: totally understod of that about me. So if I knew

769
00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:02,920
Speaker 1: he couldn't afford them, and I wanted him to come

770
00:39:02,920 --> 00:39:05,480
Speaker 1: with me fucking not paid for it. Now, like was

771
00:39:05,520 --> 00:39:07,719
Speaker 1: it ideal? And I way more happy now than I'm

772
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:11,960
Speaker 1: with someone that can do all of that. Yeah, but still,

773
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:14,320
Speaker 1: what are what are your thoughts? What are your thoughts

774
00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:18,600
Speaker 1: on kind of the splitting bill conversation, the courting conversation

775
00:39:18,840 --> 00:39:21,160
Speaker 1: but yet still wanting to be a womanist and own

776
00:39:21,160 --> 00:39:25,440
Speaker 1: own your independence and those things like is there is

777
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:28,200
Speaker 1: it kind of a hypocritical line of it, because I

778
00:39:28,239 --> 00:39:29,600
Speaker 1: know that's that's what I've read in a lot of

779
00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:32,560
Speaker 1: the comments that I was being a hypocrite to saying

780
00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:35,520
Speaker 1: I was feminist but yet still expected the patriarchy and

781
00:39:35,560 --> 00:39:37,960
Speaker 1: gender roles, Like what are your thoughts on that? As

782
00:39:38,040 --> 00:39:41,160
Speaker 1: someone who is for women and you know, moving forward

783
00:39:41,160 --> 00:39:43,960
Speaker 1: in that, I think, I mean, I'm always the person

784
00:39:44,040 --> 00:39:46,880
Speaker 1: who's like it's probably a problem, but I'm the one

785
00:39:46,920 --> 00:39:49,680
Speaker 1: who always wants to pay, like I'm always gonna like no,

786
00:39:49,800 --> 00:39:52,560
Speaker 1: I got it, just like I feel like that's who

787
00:39:52,840 --> 00:39:55,840
Speaker 1: I am again, and I do and I don't pride

788
00:39:55,880 --> 00:39:57,960
Speaker 1: thing and might it might be a pride thing, I

789
00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:00,880
Speaker 1: don't know, but it's that's not to say, like you know,

790
00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:03,480
Speaker 1: like you can't get a trick, like you can't get

791
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:05,279
Speaker 1: somebody to trick on you or to like, you know,

792
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:07,600
Speaker 1: spend money on you or something like that. But like

793
00:40:07,840 --> 00:40:10,120
Speaker 1: for me, like if we're going out to eat, like

794
00:40:10,680 --> 00:40:13,640
Speaker 1: I'm I don't know, I guess I don't want some

795
00:40:13,920 --> 00:40:17,560
Speaker 1: not maybe less than a date situation, but like friends

796
00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:20,080
Speaker 1: or whatever, Like I don't want somebody trying to like

797
00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:23,279
Speaker 1: having to hang something over my head like oh I

798
00:40:23,360 --> 00:40:25,600
Speaker 1: paid for you, or like you know how petty people are,

799
00:40:25,719 --> 00:40:27,600
Speaker 1: Like so, I mean it's dates, I don't feel that way,

800
00:40:27,600 --> 00:40:30,600
Speaker 1: but with friendships sometimes I do, like and it's not

801
00:40:30,680 --> 00:40:32,160
Speaker 1: that I've ever felt like a friend would do that

802
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:33,640
Speaker 1: to me, but I want to make sure that like

803
00:40:33,680 --> 00:40:36,400
Speaker 1: I pull my weight and then even to sit with

804
00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:40,680
Speaker 1: friends that I may be doing financially better than now

805
00:40:41,200 --> 00:40:44,600
Speaker 1: got to. I don't conversation. To bring it to friends

806
00:40:44,680 --> 00:40:49,320
Speaker 1: is completely like friends. Okay, all right, so dates and

807
00:40:49,480 --> 00:40:51,919
Speaker 1: saying it's dates and if you're being with someone like yeah,

808
00:40:52,640 --> 00:40:57,799
Speaker 1: has friends. But here's the thing we relate relating it

809
00:40:57,840 --> 00:40:59,920
Speaker 1: to dates, I mean to friendships. I think is the

810
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:04,120
Speaker 1: point there because we see what happens in the dynamic

811
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:07,920
Speaker 1: when someone is making more or who's treating who. For example,

812
00:41:08,560 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 1: why am I splitting a bill with you when you

813
00:41:11,080 --> 00:41:14,640
Speaker 1: invited me out on a date? Yeah, that doesn't make sense.

814
00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:17,600
Speaker 1: No period, if you wanted to take me. When I

815
00:41:17,640 --> 00:41:20,759
Speaker 1: tell my homegirls, bitch come out with me tonight, blah

816
00:41:20,800 --> 00:41:22,600
Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah, and they come out the house

817
00:41:22,640 --> 00:41:24,279
Speaker 1: to get ready with me, I'm not gonna front. I

818
00:41:24,360 --> 00:41:28,799
Speaker 1: get their drink. Like I invited you. Now, I we

819
00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:32,440
Speaker 1: make this decision together. Like, but when I decision to

820
00:41:32,600 --> 00:41:36,640
Speaker 1: invite someone anywhere, I do that. Period. If I invite

821
00:41:36,640 --> 00:41:39,040
Speaker 1: you to my home and we're gonna eat, I think

822
00:41:39,080 --> 00:41:40,640
Speaker 1: it only makes sense that I paid for the food

823
00:41:40,640 --> 00:41:43,160
Speaker 1: because I invited you here, I'm hosting you, Well that

824
00:41:43,200 --> 00:41:47,799
Speaker 1: makes sense. But if I invite anybody to do anything like,

825
00:41:48,000 --> 00:41:50,320
Speaker 1: I think it's I don't know. For me, I guess

826
00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:54,560
Speaker 1: I really haven't been on that updated and like been

827
00:41:54,640 --> 00:41:57,399
Speaker 1: on a lot of days, but like for the most part,

828
00:41:57,480 --> 00:42:00,840
Speaker 1: it's kind of like it's by actually, like the first

829
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:03,520
Speaker 1: day is kind of like, yeah, you're gonna pay. I

830
00:42:03,560 --> 00:42:06,440
Speaker 1: think that's a little insinuating, And if it becomes an issue,

831
00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:09,640
Speaker 1: like I might just pay it and whatever. But then

832
00:42:09,680 --> 00:42:12,200
Speaker 1: I'm like, I know how that. I don't know how

833
00:42:12,239 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 1: that relationship you what. Like I'm saying like if if

834
00:42:16,200 --> 00:42:18,279
Speaker 1: I was put in a situation or his date and

835
00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:20,319
Speaker 1: there was a date and he was like, whoa do

836
00:42:20,360 --> 00:42:25,279
Speaker 1: you want to split it? Or like the exactly if

837
00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:28,440
Speaker 1: it's like that, then I put my card down less

838
00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 1: like that's it, and now when I'll never see them

839
00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:34,600
Speaker 1: again exactly, and now I know where that's not exactly

840
00:42:35,080 --> 00:42:37,440
Speaker 1: I think. And I want to explain this one thing

841
00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:39,640
Speaker 1: because when it happened to me, I was confused member

842
00:42:39,680 --> 00:42:40,960
Speaker 1: with the Asian dude I went and I was like,

843
00:42:41,000 --> 00:42:43,480
Speaker 1: what the fund is this? And it was really that

844
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:46,480
Speaker 1: I just didn't find him to be generous or giving enough,

845
00:42:46,520 --> 00:42:48,200
Speaker 1: and I didn't like it exactly cause I knew he

846
00:42:48,280 --> 00:42:52,800
Speaker 1: had money exactly. That's the thing that's a big But

847
00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:57,040
Speaker 1: there's a difference between paying for a date because you're

848
00:42:57,120 --> 00:42:59,160
Speaker 1: genuinely not interested. Because I've always said, if I'm on

849
00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:00,560
Speaker 1: a date and I'm just having a good time and

850
00:43:00,600 --> 00:43:03,000
Speaker 1: I don't like the nigga, a free meal isn't worth it.

851
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 1: So I'll pay my mill and be like nice to

852
00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:06,480
Speaker 1: meet you, thanks, and then that's where we did that.

853
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:09,560
Speaker 1: But to see but to just pay it just because

854
00:43:09,600 --> 00:43:12,239
Speaker 1: you're not into I don't understand, Like, did he ask

855
00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:14,200
Speaker 1: you to split the bill? What? I don't understand your

856
00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:15,839
Speaker 1: story that you just said with the Asian I thought

857
00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:17,720
Speaker 1: I thought I had talked talked about on the podcast.

858
00:43:17,760 --> 00:43:19,080
Speaker 1: Maybe it was only on my Instagram. So I went

859
00:43:19,120 --> 00:43:20,840
Speaker 1: out with this Asian dud. Remember I was into him, Like,

860
00:43:20,880 --> 00:43:23,359
Speaker 1: we went on a few dates, and when the bill came,

861
00:43:23,400 --> 00:43:28,920
Speaker 1: he would ask for two see no, no, because and

862
00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:32,719
Speaker 1: we could both be like, even if you have five

863
00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:35,520
Speaker 1: dollars in your pocket, I have five dollars in my pocket, Like,

864
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:39,200
Speaker 1: let's figure it out. Actually, the first day we went

865
00:43:39,239 --> 00:43:43,360
Speaker 1: on bad but I'm talking about being generated. It was

866
00:43:43,480 --> 00:43:47,000
Speaker 1: up here for like ten minutes, and then I realized

867
00:43:47,040 --> 00:43:50,520
Speaker 1: he wanted to split the bill. So then what the

868
00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:52,680
Speaker 1: check was? Just you went on a second date, even

869
00:43:52,719 --> 00:43:55,120
Speaker 1: though that happened on the Honestly, I was really the

870
00:43:55,280 --> 00:43:57,520
Speaker 1: date was that good? Bro? No? I was like, that

871
00:43:57,560 --> 00:44:00,359
Speaker 1: would negate the entire days? What happened this second date?

872
00:44:00,360 --> 00:44:02,759
Speaker 1: I brought it up right now, bro. He invited me

873
00:44:02,800 --> 00:44:04,399
Speaker 1: out and bring it up as soon as y'all left.

874
00:44:05,160 --> 00:44:07,000
Speaker 1: I didn't know what to do, but I knew I

875
00:44:07,080 --> 00:44:08,640
Speaker 1: really wanted, like I was really into it, Like I

876
00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:10,560
Speaker 1: literally was in the bathroom, touched my homegrow about how

877
00:44:10,600 --> 00:44:12,320
Speaker 1: great it was going. So here's what happens. I go

878
00:44:12,440 --> 00:44:14,239
Speaker 1: to work the next day. I'm talking to everybody about

879
00:44:14,239 --> 00:44:16,520
Speaker 1: it and they're like, Yo, this is crazy. Now he,

880
00:44:17,239 --> 00:44:19,279
Speaker 1: for one, I could bet my life on it. I

881
00:44:19,400 --> 00:44:22,480
Speaker 1: know he has money. His work is I don't want

882
00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:26,640
Speaker 1: to say it because anyway, he's a creative. There's evidence

883
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:28,719
Speaker 1: that he's got money. So this was very strange because

884
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:29,880
Speaker 1: I knew it was I'm like, is he not that

885
00:44:29,960 --> 00:44:32,080
Speaker 1: into me? Maybe this was friendly? So when we went

886
00:44:32,160 --> 00:44:33,839
Speaker 1: on the second day, he invited me off for drinks

887
00:44:33,960 --> 00:44:36,560
Speaker 1: he paid. I said, oh, I'll be honest with you,

888
00:44:36,719 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 1: like I just thought it was weird, like the whole

889
00:44:39,040 --> 00:44:42,040
Speaker 1: spinning wild thing. And he was like, you know, I'm

890
00:44:42,200 --> 00:44:44,080
Speaker 1: I'm really sorry if that was offensive to you. He

891
00:44:44,200 --> 00:44:46,600
Speaker 1: was like, but this is just like how I've kind

892
00:44:46,600 --> 00:44:48,000
Speaker 1: of been. I don't want you to think that I didn't,

893
00:44:48,120 --> 00:44:49,719
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not interested. And he was like, I

894
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:51,920
Speaker 1: paid for the drinks because you know, I just didn't

895
00:44:51,920 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 1: think about it. But normally when I have a meal

896
00:44:54,000 --> 00:44:56,080
Speaker 1: with someone, I do split it and he was like,

897
00:44:56,120 --> 00:44:58,520
Speaker 1: I just that's how I've been. He was like, I'm

898
00:44:58,560 --> 00:45:01,560
Speaker 1: disgusted bringing up my face is probably showing on YouTube.

899
00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:04,920
Speaker 1: This this just honestly, I mean he could be discussing

900
00:45:06,760 --> 00:45:09,480
Speaker 1: what it is. I wanted to see him again and

901
00:45:09,640 --> 00:45:11,840
Speaker 1: I wanted to figure out what it was. Obviously I

902
00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:15,800
Speaker 1: couldn't keep going to me, it's less about you having

903
00:45:15,920 --> 00:45:19,040
Speaker 1: money and more about you being generous. Yes, you know,

904
00:45:19,239 --> 00:45:21,799
Speaker 1: because you like if you don't have like you could

905
00:45:21,840 --> 00:45:24,600
Speaker 1: have ten dollars in your pocket and like we're going

906
00:45:24,680 --> 00:45:27,560
Speaker 1: on a date, but if you spent eight of those

907
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:30,560
Speaker 1: dollars and just like me knowing that you spent that

908
00:45:30,960 --> 00:45:33,840
Speaker 1: those eight dollars, like that shows. That's why when I

909
00:45:33,960 --> 00:45:36,560
Speaker 1: was dating Jeeves, the ship that we would do together

910
00:45:36,600 --> 00:45:38,160
Speaker 1: and the dates he would take me on, Like I

911
00:45:38,280 --> 00:45:41,640
Speaker 1: was so impressed, like everything that I would want to do.

912
00:45:42,080 --> 00:45:45,840
Speaker 1: Maybe I wasn't eating scrgo would I love? But I

913
00:45:45,880 --> 00:45:48,680
Speaker 1: mean he was actually cheap in Paris. I mean yeah,

914
00:45:48,719 --> 00:45:52,400
Speaker 1: but that's because maybe Hamburgers a chieve here but expensive

915
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:54,360
Speaker 1: somewhere else. That makes sense. But I mean no, I

916
00:45:54,680 --> 00:45:56,359
Speaker 1: was like really impressed with the thought he would put

917
00:45:56,400 --> 00:45:58,160
Speaker 1: into things and he knew what to do with prisman.

918
00:45:58,200 --> 00:45:59,440
Speaker 1: So I'm like, fuck it. If I want to do

919
00:45:59,560 --> 00:46:01,719
Speaker 1: some five our missions ship, I'll pay for you because

920
00:46:01,719 --> 00:46:03,480
Speaker 1: it's a ship. I like, You've made it work enough.

921
00:46:03,880 --> 00:46:06,160
Speaker 1: But I couldn't keep it going with this dude because

922
00:46:06,160 --> 00:46:08,520
Speaker 1: I was like, I see how it works. Like when

923
00:46:08,560 --> 00:46:10,600
Speaker 1: I want my bitches, we do. I'll get the drinks

924
00:46:10,600 --> 00:46:12,040
Speaker 1: for one bar, you get it for the second bar.

925
00:46:12,600 --> 00:46:15,280
Speaker 1: If he can't even think like that, it's just tacky

926
00:46:15,320 --> 00:46:18,640
Speaker 1: to me. UM. So I want to dive into myths

927
00:46:18,760 --> 00:46:22,360
Speaker 1: of feminism. Um, I'm glad we have that conversation. I

928
00:46:22,440 --> 00:46:24,359
Speaker 1: want you guys to like join in the comba with us,

929
00:46:24,480 --> 00:46:28,239
Speaker 1: share how you feel about it. Um. Yeah to myth

930
00:46:28,360 --> 00:46:32,400
Speaker 1: number one feminist hate men and are anti men. Uh. So,

931
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:35,000
Speaker 1: like I've got the bell hooks here. UM. Shout out

932
00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:37,120
Speaker 1: to my homegirl Gila. She sent this book in the

933
00:46:37,160 --> 00:46:39,839
Speaker 1: mail to me and I fucking love it. I want

934
00:46:39,880 --> 00:46:43,120
Speaker 1: to read this excerpt that I really like. UM. Without

935
00:46:43,239 --> 00:46:46,920
Speaker 1: men as allies in uh, in the struggle of feminist movement,

936
00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:50,200
Speaker 1: we will not progress. Uh. As it is, we have

937
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:52,680
Speaker 1: to do so much work to correct the assumption deeply

938
00:46:52,760 --> 00:46:56,479
Speaker 1: embedded in the cultural psyche that feminism is anti mail,

939
00:46:56,800 --> 00:47:01,040
Speaker 1: feminism is anti sexism. A male who is divested of

940
00:47:01,200 --> 00:47:05,600
Speaker 1: male privilege who has embraced feminist politics is a worthy

941
00:47:05,719 --> 00:47:09,000
Speaker 1: comrade in the struggle in no way a threat to feminism,

942
00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:12,560
Speaker 1: whereas a female who remains embedded to the idea of

943
00:47:12,680 --> 00:47:16,120
Speaker 1: sexist thinking that men are bullshit. She didn't write that. Um,

944
00:47:16,239 --> 00:47:19,440
Speaker 1: but you know what I'm saying and basically thinking and

945
00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:23,800
Speaker 1: infiltrating that the feminist movement shouldn't include men is a

946
00:47:23,920 --> 00:47:27,439
Speaker 1: dangerous threat women that act like that. And I really

947
00:47:27,560 --> 00:47:29,719
Speaker 1: like that because it kind of makes me think too

948
00:47:29,760 --> 00:47:32,440
Speaker 1: about like when people talk about not liking white allies

949
00:47:32,560 --> 00:47:34,640
Speaker 1: that are popular and out there, you know, like I

950
00:47:34,760 --> 00:47:36,560
Speaker 1: really do believe we need white people to sit at

951
00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:38,320
Speaker 1: the tables and I won't have to see that. And

952
00:47:38,440 --> 00:47:42,000
Speaker 1: so how did Obama get an office? Not all not

953
00:47:42,840 --> 00:47:45,000
Speaker 1: did by black people, right, I mean, if you want

954
00:47:45,040 --> 00:47:48,240
Speaker 1: to take it there, no, I mean it's just percent

955
00:47:48,320 --> 00:47:50,360
Speaker 1: of us, right, maybe fifteen now, I don't know, like

956
00:47:50,440 --> 00:47:52,719
Speaker 1: as far as in the country, but for women, I

957
00:47:52,800 --> 00:47:55,959
Speaker 1: really like that, Like I'm not anti men at all, which,

958
00:47:56,200 --> 00:47:58,480
Speaker 1: so what you're saying is it's because because I see

959
00:47:58,520 --> 00:48:00,640
Speaker 1: it on the timeline a lot on her that a

960
00:48:00,719 --> 00:48:03,840
Speaker 1: lot of people assume that women who are feminists or

961
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:09,200
Speaker 1: all for female power automatically are a niggazine ship. It's

962
00:48:09,239 --> 00:48:12,399
Speaker 1: not the same like wanting women to have rights, wanting

963
00:48:12,440 --> 00:48:15,680
Speaker 1: women to be empowered, wanting the sexual liberation of women

964
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:19,600
Speaker 1: to just own themselves doesn't automatically mean niggasine ship. And

965
00:48:19,680 --> 00:48:23,040
Speaker 1: I don't know why men, I guess can't see that

966
00:48:23,480 --> 00:48:29,919
Speaker 1: we can uplift ourselves and still want them because like, yeah,

967
00:48:29,960 --> 00:48:32,319
Speaker 1: I mean, y'all be ain't ship because you're like, that's

968
00:48:32,360 --> 00:48:33,960
Speaker 1: the ship i'd be kind of like talking about, but

969
00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:36,759
Speaker 1: like not for a second when I talk or joke

970
00:48:36,800 --> 00:48:38,960
Speaker 1: about that in my ever against men. I love men,

971
00:48:39,080 --> 00:48:41,200
Speaker 1: I love my male friends, I love male energy. I'm

972
00:48:41,200 --> 00:48:47,000
Speaker 1: getting ready for right now. But when you see feminist

973
00:48:47,360 --> 00:48:50,399
Speaker 1: on someone's ship, don't just you know, think you better run?

974
00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:55,480
Speaker 1: And sorry, girl, my nail glue spill all of my purse,

975
00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:57,759
Speaker 1: so I gotta receipt for eight dollars such to my

976
00:48:57,800 --> 00:49:01,720
Speaker 1: goddamn um thing. But my bad No. So it's funny

977
00:49:01,800 --> 00:49:07,400
Speaker 1: because the feminism movement right now niggas hate and I

978
00:49:07,520 --> 00:49:11,440
Speaker 1: don't know why. Like I think I see a lot

979
00:49:11,520 --> 00:49:14,200
Speaker 1: of men who hate like I think it's because of

980
00:49:14,280 --> 00:49:18,560
Speaker 1: propaganda on TV. Like listen, a good friend of mine,

981
00:49:18,719 --> 00:49:20,680
Speaker 1: I funk with him hard, and a lot of people

982
00:49:20,760 --> 00:49:24,520
Speaker 1: don't is Andrew Schultz. He totally I mean, I don't

983
00:49:24,520 --> 00:49:27,200
Speaker 1: know who that is? Hell yeah what? A lot of

984
00:49:27,920 --> 00:49:31,360
Speaker 1: people will literally question why we keep bringing him on

985
00:49:31,400 --> 00:49:35,239
Speaker 1: the show. It ain't that much more people like his

986
00:49:35,360 --> 00:49:39,640
Speaker 1: episode is great. I'm saying people will question, but he doesn't.

987
00:49:39,800 --> 00:49:45,840
Speaker 1: He'll make jokes about feminism, right, and so that idea

988
00:49:46,000 --> 00:49:49,200
Speaker 1: of it, though, is that you know women are he's like,

989
00:49:49,280 --> 00:49:51,239
Speaker 1: he'll say, like it's always an ugly woman, I ain't

990
00:49:51,239 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 1: always look this way and blah blah blah blah blah.

991
00:49:53,200 --> 00:49:55,680
Speaker 1: But that is really what people believe because that's what

992
00:49:55,800 --> 00:49:59,360
Speaker 1: we see. It's only funny because we know we really

993
00:49:59,719 --> 00:50:03,440
Speaker 1: see that ship. We see the idea of feminism looking

994
00:50:03,520 --> 00:50:05,520
Speaker 1: that way. So I want you guys to all understand

995
00:50:05,600 --> 00:50:09,200
Speaker 1: I'm a feminist. I bought some titties. I didn't I

996
00:50:09,360 --> 00:50:13,280
Speaker 1: like it. I shave I wax like, I like wearing lipstick.

997
00:50:13,840 --> 00:50:16,440
Speaker 1: I don't feel like feminism has a look. And I

998
00:50:16,560 --> 00:50:19,719
Speaker 1: think that thinking that it's just one way is really

999
00:50:19,760 --> 00:50:25,960
Speaker 1: the problem myths. I think another myth with feminism is that, um,

1000
00:50:26,040 --> 00:50:28,640
Speaker 1: we don't need it anymore. Um that I would love

1001
00:50:28,680 --> 00:50:31,279
Speaker 1: to talk about a lot of people feel like, oh, like,

1002
00:50:31,680 --> 00:50:34,160
Speaker 1: how the fuck can you, you know, really be a

1003
00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:36,600
Speaker 1: feminist when you're getting paid. Well, oh, you're out here,

1004
00:50:36,600 --> 00:50:39,040
Speaker 1: you're an entrepreneur, you're doing your thing. Like, but you're

1005
00:50:39,040 --> 00:50:41,560
Speaker 1: a feminist, Like what's really wrong? And so what a

1006
00:50:41,640 --> 00:50:45,800
Speaker 1: lot of people don't understand is that take a side wage.

1007
00:50:45,840 --> 00:50:47,879
Speaker 1: You have to take aside housewives, all of that ship.

1008
00:50:48,320 --> 00:50:50,880
Speaker 1: I live in New York City. I literally have been

1009
00:50:50,920 --> 00:50:52,840
Speaker 1: outside for maybe a total of ten minutes today, go

1010
00:50:52,920 --> 00:50:54,880
Speaker 1: and train to train, and four niggas have cat called me.

1011
00:50:55,920 --> 00:50:58,160
Speaker 1: How do you think that fucking makes me feel? Do?

1012
00:50:58,440 --> 00:51:00,920
Speaker 1: Does everyone just assume I like it? That is some

1013
00:51:01,040 --> 00:51:03,960
Speaker 1: fucking bullshit. That to me is anti feminism thinking just

1014
00:51:03,960 --> 00:51:06,800
Speaker 1: because it nigga compliments me. I like it. The fucking

1015
00:51:07,320 --> 00:51:10,800
Speaker 1: war again, sex workers right now, that's where we need feminism.

1016
00:51:11,120 --> 00:51:13,840
Speaker 1: Look at Alabama abortions, that's where we need feminism. Like

1017
00:51:13,920 --> 00:51:18,360
Speaker 1: it's all over the world especially, I mean, yeah, and

1018
00:51:18,400 --> 00:51:20,239
Speaker 1: this is where we live the world. I want to

1019
00:51:20,280 --> 00:51:22,320
Speaker 1: talk to you about that too, because I feel like

1020
00:51:22,400 --> 00:51:24,520
Speaker 1: that is a huge fucking myth that we don't need it,

1021
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:28,400
Speaker 1: you know, stop thinking so fucking small, and even women

1022
00:51:28,480 --> 00:51:30,879
Speaker 1: too that kind of feel like it's bullshit when women

1023
00:51:30,920 --> 00:51:33,759
Speaker 1: march in the streets. Everyone has, in my opinion, when

1024
00:51:33,840 --> 00:51:36,560
Speaker 1: they speak on feminism, a different idea of what it

1025
00:51:36,680 --> 00:51:38,799
Speaker 1: means to them, or a situation. You just talked about

1026
00:51:38,840 --> 00:51:41,840
Speaker 1: one with music, right like when you were growing up.

1027
00:51:41,960 --> 00:51:43,600
Speaker 1: I don't know what Mandy does. I know when I

1028
00:51:43,680 --> 00:51:47,160
Speaker 1: think of mine, it's definitely being over sexualized and hyper sexualized.

1029
00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:49,959
Speaker 1: Like sometimes I hate that ship. I hate when people

1030
00:51:49,960 --> 00:51:53,080
Speaker 1: tell us we're doing well because we're cute. No, nigga,

1031
00:51:53,200 --> 00:51:55,760
Speaker 1: people can't see us right now. I mean, sure there's YouTube,

1032
00:51:55,800 --> 00:52:00,399
Speaker 1: but like our podcast is because our content is good.

1033
00:52:00,760 --> 00:52:02,800
Speaker 1: It's not because we're cute. You know what put it

1034
00:52:02,880 --> 00:52:05,799
Speaker 1: in the hours? Yeah, you know it's weird because I guess, yeah,

1035
00:52:05,880 --> 00:52:08,520
Speaker 1: like this, every time we talk about feminism, I get

1036
00:52:08,600 --> 00:52:10,279
Speaker 1: kind of quiet because I just I still don't really

1037
00:52:10,360 --> 00:52:13,600
Speaker 1: understand it. I'm here for women's rights, I'm here for

1038
00:52:14,200 --> 00:52:17,759
Speaker 1: sexual liberation and the women empowerment, but to me, it's

1039
00:52:17,800 --> 00:52:19,960
Speaker 1: completely different, Like I don't think about niggas at all. Like,

1040
00:52:20,040 --> 00:52:22,839
Speaker 1: to me, women empowerment is and it's why I say

1041
00:52:22,880 --> 00:52:25,360
Speaker 1: I have the best friends ever. Like women empowerment to

1042
00:52:25,480 --> 00:52:27,719
Speaker 1: me is me and my friends being on the phone

1043
00:52:27,760 --> 00:52:31,520
Speaker 1: for hours about how we're gonna grow our businesses or

1044
00:52:31,680 --> 00:52:34,880
Speaker 1: just uplifting each other, constantly being around other women like

1045
00:52:35,040 --> 00:52:38,040
Speaker 1: so to me, like me having so many female friends

1046
00:52:38,160 --> 00:52:40,279
Speaker 1: right now, like and I have so many, that to

1047
00:52:40,400 --> 00:52:42,720
Speaker 1: me as feminism. That to me is me being able

1048
00:52:42,800 --> 00:52:45,319
Speaker 1: to be what a bitch who may look badder than

1049
00:52:45,400 --> 00:52:47,759
Speaker 1: me and just be like do that ship and just

1050
00:52:47,960 --> 00:52:51,800
Speaker 1: constantly uplifting every woman that I'm around. Um, that to

1051
00:52:51,880 --> 00:52:54,960
Speaker 1: me as feminism, like just me being it's totally always

1052
00:52:55,000 --> 00:52:57,279
Speaker 1: around women. And that's like it's it's weird because I

1053
00:52:57,400 --> 00:52:58,920
Speaker 1: was even just telling my friends, I don't know if

1054
00:52:58,920 --> 00:53:01,319
Speaker 1: I want a boyfriend right now because I just am

1055
00:53:01,360 --> 00:53:03,880
Speaker 1: not really around a lot of tosastone like outside of

1056
00:53:04,120 --> 00:53:05,960
Speaker 1: the nig I fuck, like, I don't even have as

1057
00:53:06,000 --> 00:53:09,000
Speaker 1: many male friends as I had at one time. It's

1058
00:53:09,040 --> 00:53:10,879
Speaker 1: literally nothing but itches not be like bitch, I'm sick

1059
00:53:10,920 --> 00:53:14,040
Speaker 1: of y'all like not, but I'm just constantly around women.

1060
00:53:14,320 --> 00:53:16,120
Speaker 1: I want to see the women around me grow and

1061
00:53:16,600 --> 00:53:19,160
Speaker 1: anytime I meet a woman who's in this space, I'm like,

1062
00:53:19,440 --> 00:53:21,080
Speaker 1: how can we work together? And I've just built so

1063
00:53:21,120 --> 00:53:24,160
Speaker 1: many friendships because it's literally just that's feminism. I think

1064
00:53:24,200 --> 00:53:26,560
Speaker 1: it's great that you mentioned that phone call because a

1065
00:53:26,600 --> 00:53:28,800
Speaker 1: lot of men assume that female bonding has to do

1066
00:53:29,040 --> 00:53:32,560
Speaker 1: over the distaste for men and not even close like

1067
00:53:32,600 --> 00:53:34,600
Speaker 1: when I get on from like God gonna send me

1068
00:53:34,640 --> 00:53:36,800
Speaker 1: this book, you know what I mean, Like when I

1069
00:53:36,880 --> 00:53:39,879
Speaker 1: think it's important to like kind of what you just said,

1070
00:53:39,960 --> 00:53:42,480
Speaker 1: Like you don't you don't have like your idea of

1071
00:53:42,560 --> 00:53:45,520
Speaker 1: feminism or maybe you don't even have a like an

1072
00:53:46,080 --> 00:53:49,640
Speaker 1: umbrella term for you know, like you're living, you're walking,

1073
00:53:49,680 --> 00:53:52,279
Speaker 1: you're breathing it. And I think that's really important to know,

1074
00:53:52,560 --> 00:53:56,279
Speaker 1: like you these small gestures like it doesn't have to

1075
00:53:56,360 --> 00:53:58,960
Speaker 1: be you don't have to march in the street, you know,

1076
00:53:59,200 --> 00:54:02,960
Speaker 1: like you don't right get locked up, marg right, I

1077
00:54:05,840 --> 00:54:08,239
Speaker 1: protests and I aint getting locked up. I'll want to

1078
00:54:08,280 --> 00:54:10,879
Speaker 1: be whole in the time, arms don't hurt, I'll work

1079
00:54:10,920 --> 00:54:17,319
Speaker 1: out like that. But like supporting women and why feminism, Yes,

1080
00:54:17,440 --> 00:54:21,120
Speaker 1: that's but like to be confused about it. I think

1081
00:54:21,400 --> 00:54:24,319
Speaker 1: it's also just because you're not sure because we look

1082
00:54:24,360 --> 00:54:26,759
Speaker 1: at everyone's different idea and we're like, oh am I

1083
00:54:26,840 --> 00:54:28,960
Speaker 1: being a feminist, Like what am I doing actively? And

1084
00:54:29,120 --> 00:54:31,560
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. I could be personal, but I think

1085
00:54:31,600 --> 00:54:38,280
Speaker 1: it's just making the conscious um decision to see women

1086
00:54:38,880 --> 00:54:42,000
Speaker 1: right like and and and and and acknowledge that there

1087
00:54:42,000 --> 00:54:44,239
Speaker 1: are struggles that they have to i e. The cat

1088
00:54:44,320 --> 00:54:46,360
Speaker 1: calling thing, you know, sticking up for women when you

1089
00:54:46,400 --> 00:54:49,200
Speaker 1: see them out, taking care of the women in your life.

1090
00:54:49,360 --> 00:54:51,320
Speaker 1: And as far as taking care of I mean emotionally,

1091
00:54:51,680 --> 00:54:53,919
Speaker 1: you know, making sure that you're checking in. And I'm

1092
00:54:53,920 --> 00:54:56,120
Speaker 1: speaking to men right now because I think girls kind

1093
00:54:56,120 --> 00:54:58,520
Speaker 1: of just innately do it with each other. But like, yes,

1094
00:54:58,640 --> 00:55:01,040
Speaker 1: call your sisters, call your whole girls, see if they're good.

1095
00:55:01,440 --> 00:55:05,400
Speaker 1: You know, I mean, stop pushing to the side feminism

1096
00:55:05,560 --> 00:55:07,839
Speaker 1: because you think it's one way, just like you might

1097
00:55:07,880 --> 00:55:09,560
Speaker 1: have been mentioned walking in the street. Just because you

1098
00:55:09,560 --> 00:55:11,720
Speaker 1: won't do that doesn't mean that you're not a feminist.

1099
00:55:11,920 --> 00:55:13,799
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean that you can't sit here and ride

1100
00:55:13,840 --> 00:55:16,200
Speaker 1: for women too, like we all have to find I

1101
00:55:16,280 --> 00:55:19,879
Speaker 1: think our way of feminism, and I mean ship most

1102
00:55:19,960 --> 00:55:21,520
Speaker 1: of the feminism I do. I believe it's on the

1103
00:55:21,560 --> 00:55:23,919
Speaker 1: show sticking up for women, right, and it's like, Okay,

1104
00:55:23,960 --> 00:55:27,680
Speaker 1: how else can I do it? Like expressing yourself being

1105
00:55:27,800 --> 00:55:31,279
Speaker 1: able to talk about sex freely and in a fun way,

1106
00:55:31,520 --> 00:55:36,359
Speaker 1: Like I mean, it's the the episode with the two

1107
00:55:36,440 --> 00:55:42,520
Speaker 1: guys are here with thee looking. That would be fun

1108
00:55:43,120 --> 00:55:46,080
Speaker 1: and and it should be like that, right, And I

1109
00:55:46,200 --> 00:55:48,359
Speaker 1: really appreciate those guys who being super open and ship

1110
00:55:48,480 --> 00:55:51,160
Speaker 1: like that. But um, I also want to talk like

1111
00:55:51,280 --> 00:55:55,480
Speaker 1: briefly just about intersectional feminism. Um to the white listeners.

1112
00:55:55,520 --> 00:55:57,920
Speaker 1: We have all twenty six of you, I don't know, um,

1113
00:55:58,120 --> 00:56:00,799
Speaker 1: but I do appreciate white people listening to this show.

1114
00:56:00,960 --> 00:56:03,360
Speaker 1: I feel like you're already on the white path, on

1115
00:56:03,440 --> 00:56:07,680
Speaker 1: the white path, right, the white listens already on the

1116
00:56:07,719 --> 00:56:15,040
Speaker 1: white path, the right, not the wit is right. I

1117
00:56:15,120 --> 00:56:17,320
Speaker 1: feel like you're on the right path to like trying

1118
00:56:17,400 --> 00:56:20,960
Speaker 1: and like moving forward with it, but just remembers to

1119
00:56:21,120 --> 00:56:26,879
Speaker 1: include other women, women, women's women, black women, Latino women,

1120
00:56:27,000 --> 00:56:30,520
Speaker 1: all of us, not just yourselves. Um. I'm always super

1121
00:56:30,560 --> 00:56:33,040
Speaker 1: impressed when I go to a protest and I'll see

1122
00:56:33,120 --> 00:56:35,959
Speaker 1: like a white girl that like has a sign about

1123
00:56:36,000 --> 00:56:38,400
Speaker 1: black women or something else, and it's just like she

1124
00:56:38,600 --> 00:56:41,160
Speaker 1: just wants to get rid like a lot of white

1125
00:56:41,200 --> 00:56:43,680
Speaker 1: people feel that guilt. And listen, if you do feel

1126
00:56:43,719 --> 00:56:47,560
Speaker 1: that guilt, right just like I'm talking about right now,

1127
00:56:47,960 --> 00:56:51,560
Speaker 1: find a way to help another kind of woman other

1128
00:56:51,640 --> 00:56:54,560
Speaker 1: than yourself in any way that you can, and take

1129
00:56:54,600 --> 00:56:57,359
Speaker 1: yourself out of it. Yes, don't make it, just help.

1130
00:56:57,560 --> 00:57:00,080
Speaker 1: Just don't don't talk about it. Don't you know, I

1131
00:57:00,160 --> 00:57:02,200
Speaker 1: don't make it about you, Just to do it. I

1132
00:57:02,280 --> 00:57:08,360
Speaker 1: actually stopped Instagram, taking Instagram stories and posting protests because

1133
00:57:08,440 --> 00:57:13,320
Speaker 1: I felt that it looked to try hard and not genuine,

1134
00:57:13,440 --> 00:57:15,320
Speaker 1: because that's the vibe sometimes I get from going to

1135
00:57:15,360 --> 00:57:18,479
Speaker 1: protest when I see white girls out there. I'm sorry

1136
00:57:18,520 --> 00:57:20,520
Speaker 1: to say it, but I have felt that way, like

1137
00:57:20,680 --> 00:57:22,960
Speaker 1: it just kind of feels like it's like a picturesque

1138
00:57:23,040 --> 00:57:25,560
Speaker 1: thing and there's no real meaning behind it. I think

1139
00:57:26,000 --> 00:57:28,400
Speaker 1: maybe in this era of social media, I think that's

1140
00:57:28,440 --> 00:57:31,920
Speaker 1: even why I, um, aside from not wanting to get

1141
00:57:31,960 --> 00:57:33,720
Speaker 1: locked up and just be in the mix, but to me,

1142
00:57:33,880 --> 00:57:38,080
Speaker 1: the protest now has has become very um click like

1143
00:57:38,200 --> 00:57:41,439
Speaker 1: not click baby, but like um cloud chasing, almost like where,

1144
00:57:41,480 --> 00:57:43,120
Speaker 1: oh my god, this is the thing and I'm fighting

1145
00:57:43,160 --> 00:57:45,080
Speaker 1: for it, calls let me go walk and honestly, they're

1146
00:57:45,080 --> 00:57:47,040
Speaker 1: out there just taking pictures with their signs. It's all

1147
00:57:47,080 --> 00:57:49,400
Speaker 1: becoming like things just to go viral or to be

1148
00:57:49,440 --> 00:57:52,680
Speaker 1: posted on when you're walking sometimes. I don't know if

1149
00:57:52,720 --> 00:57:54,520
Speaker 1: like any of your us see this over walks whatever,

1150
00:57:54,600 --> 00:57:57,200
Speaker 1: but like I'll be walking talking to someone will just

1151
00:57:57,280 --> 00:57:59,600
Speaker 1: be like collecting our thoughts and like literally you have

1152
00:57:59,720 --> 00:58:02,640
Speaker 1: to take a step because someone's posting, are taking a

1153
00:58:02,680 --> 00:58:05,840
Speaker 1: picture on their phone, and it's like engage in this ship, bro,

1154
00:58:06,040 --> 00:58:08,320
Speaker 1: like understand what we're doing, Understand why we're out here,

1155
00:58:08,400 --> 00:58:11,600
Speaker 1: Like this is my purpose, Like I'm I'm doing this

1156
00:58:11,760 --> 00:58:14,880
Speaker 1: for you and other people, but like you do. And

1157
00:58:15,000 --> 00:58:17,280
Speaker 1: that's the weird thing because if we do post it,

1158
00:58:17,880 --> 00:58:19,920
Speaker 1: other people do want to become a part of something.

1159
00:58:20,360 --> 00:58:22,160
Speaker 1: But for me right now, it's just been a weird

1160
00:58:22,240 --> 00:58:24,600
Speaker 1: place to like post that ship. I don't know, you know,

1161
00:58:24,640 --> 00:58:26,800
Speaker 1: it's hard. It feels like you need fucking accolades just

1162
00:58:26,920 --> 00:58:29,560
Speaker 1: to fucking say, hey, I'm out here for the girls.

1163
00:58:30,280 --> 00:58:32,520
Speaker 1: You spent more time making that sign that you really

1164
00:58:32,640 --> 00:58:34,960
Speaker 1: than you really have, like being out here for bitches

1165
00:58:35,280 --> 00:58:37,600
Speaker 1: am I being And I say bitches with all respects,

1166
00:58:38,240 --> 00:58:40,800
Speaker 1: um But anyway, I also thought it would be good

1167
00:58:40,840 --> 00:58:42,200
Speaker 1: to like kind of end this before we get into

1168
00:58:42,200 --> 00:58:46,000
Speaker 1: our home mail by talking about a guy in our

1169
00:58:46,080 --> 00:58:48,760
Speaker 1: life that we are a man, maybe anyone we know

1170
00:58:48,920 --> 00:58:53,360
Speaker 1: personally each that has UM we feel as feminist or

1171
00:58:53,440 --> 00:58:59,080
Speaker 1: been in support of us daddies best feminist thing. Well,

1172
00:58:59,200 --> 00:59:03,000
Speaker 1: like even with a show like UM and I dam,

1173
00:59:03,000 --> 00:59:05,080
Speaker 1: I don't want call him because they listen to the show.

1174
00:59:05,120 --> 00:59:10,200
Speaker 1: So my friends, UM, like even they like. There's one

1175
00:59:10,280 --> 00:59:12,120
Speaker 1: who came to a few of the shows. He came

1176
00:59:12,160 --> 00:59:14,120
Speaker 1: to two of the shows during this leg, but he

1177
00:59:14,240 --> 00:59:15,960
Speaker 1: also was like, listen, I just want to support you.

1178
00:59:16,120 --> 00:59:19,680
Speaker 1: So he paid for my hotel rooms in Houston. UM.

1179
00:59:19,960 --> 00:59:23,160
Speaker 1: And then the other one that I mentioned when I

1180
00:59:23,240 --> 00:59:26,560
Speaker 1: started this show, he was super into UM, just supporting

1181
00:59:26,560 --> 00:59:27,919
Speaker 1: and I said, I wanted to get into the editing.

1182
00:59:27,960 --> 00:59:30,240
Speaker 1: He bought my MacBook Pro just because I was like,

1183
00:59:30,440 --> 00:59:32,280
Speaker 1: and Chris came over and I was like, I don't

1184
00:59:32,280 --> 00:59:33,640
Speaker 1: know how to do this, can you help teach me?

1185
00:59:33,720 --> 00:59:35,680
Speaker 1: But he's just been supportive all the way. He sent

1186
00:59:35,760 --> 00:59:37,760
Speaker 1: me this other thing, like anytime he finds anything about

1187
00:59:37,800 --> 00:59:40,480
Speaker 1: podcasting and stuff like that, UM, he sends it and

1188
00:59:41,000 --> 00:59:43,680
Speaker 1: literally it's so odd because they've all seen me grow

1189
00:59:43,800 --> 00:59:46,959
Speaker 1: from like literally needing them to now just them wanting

1190
00:59:47,000 --> 00:59:48,760
Speaker 1: to just show support. They're like, I know you don't

1191
00:59:48,760 --> 00:59:52,280
Speaker 1: need anything anymore. So them investing themselves into me and

1192
00:59:52,400 --> 00:59:54,800
Speaker 1: being here for what we do, like them even being

1193
00:59:54,840 --> 00:59:58,960
Speaker 1: okay with sharing our sexual escapades. And they'll literally send

1194
00:59:59,000 --> 01:00:01,560
Speaker 1: me snaps and stuff like them of them listening to

1195
01:00:01,920 --> 01:00:03,800
Speaker 1: my show in the car and I'm like, oh my god,

1196
01:00:03,880 --> 01:00:10,360
Speaker 1: you're listening up. You had like a romantic relationship and

1197
01:00:11,240 --> 01:00:14,120
Speaker 1: your business, but but supporting it in this way where

1198
01:00:14,160 --> 01:00:16,680
Speaker 1: we're being completely open about suddend Dick and it ain't

1199
01:00:16,680 --> 01:00:18,560
Speaker 1: there because they know when it's when I'm talking about

1200
01:00:18,560 --> 01:00:20,760
Speaker 1: them and when I'm not. So just having like people

1201
01:00:21,080 --> 01:00:24,160
Speaker 1: who support what we do. We feel that we are

1202
01:00:24,760 --> 01:00:27,880
Speaker 1: um a podcast where we empower other women, we talk

1203
01:00:27,920 --> 01:00:30,440
Speaker 1: about sexual liberation, and we're doing it in kind of

1204
01:00:30,480 --> 01:00:33,240
Speaker 1: a taboo fashion. And so to have men who I

1205
01:00:33,320 --> 01:00:36,160
Speaker 1: have been intimate with not shamey and not look down

1206
01:00:36,200 --> 01:00:38,680
Speaker 1: on me, but literally be like you're a superstar, Like

1207
01:00:38,800 --> 01:00:40,680
Speaker 1: what you're doing is making a difference and I'm so

1208
01:00:40,800 --> 01:00:43,880
Speaker 1: proud of you. That to me is means more than

1209
01:00:43,920 --> 01:00:46,920
Speaker 1: anything for men to support what we're doing. What what

1210
01:00:47,040 --> 01:00:53,840
Speaker 1: are you, I think, right, Um, I mean my husband

1211
01:00:54,200 --> 01:00:58,040
Speaker 1: Simon is just like I been a huge supporter of

1212
01:00:58,320 --> 01:01:00,240
Speaker 1: what I do and taught me a lot of about

1213
01:01:00,520 --> 01:01:02,560
Speaker 1: you know. Now, for those of you who haven't looked

1214
01:01:02,680 --> 01:01:06,400
Speaker 1: up yet, Mars has a bunch of pictures with her

1215
01:01:06,640 --> 01:01:10,440
Speaker 1: gorgeous kid hanging from her titty all over the world.

1216
01:01:10,880 --> 01:01:13,720
Speaker 1: You've taken these pictures, and I just, yeah, I want

1217
01:01:13,720 --> 01:01:15,080
Speaker 1: you to talk about that a little bit, like being

1218
01:01:15,240 --> 01:01:17,880
Speaker 1: and just your body and yeah, and just like kind

1219
01:01:17,920 --> 01:01:21,640
Speaker 1: of like very similar to what you're saying, Like like

1220
01:01:22,240 --> 01:01:24,720
Speaker 1: being with somebody where I could just be myself. That's

1221
01:01:24,800 --> 01:01:27,960
Speaker 1: so important. I could. I could be naked, I could

1222
01:01:28,040 --> 01:01:33,120
Speaker 1: wear what I want without feeling shamed, I could whatever,

1223
01:01:33,480 --> 01:01:36,480
Speaker 1: you know, I could be myself and I and I

1224
01:01:36,720 --> 01:01:39,400
Speaker 1: never thought I would get married. I never thought that

1225
01:01:39,640 --> 01:01:43,080
Speaker 1: this is how my like my trajectory would be. And

1226
01:01:44,400 --> 01:01:48,640
Speaker 1: and it could only have worked with somebody who allowed

1227
01:01:48,680 --> 01:01:52,400
Speaker 1: me to like move the way I move, be free.

1228
01:01:52,520 --> 01:01:55,520
Speaker 1: And it takes a very secure man be with a

1229
01:01:55,600 --> 01:02:00,200
Speaker 1: woman who is so um invested in her sexuality and

1230
01:02:00,320 --> 01:02:02,520
Speaker 1: like open about it, like just men don't know what

1231
01:02:02,600 --> 01:02:05,520
Speaker 1: to do with that because we always attached that people

1232
01:02:05,600 --> 01:02:07,080
Speaker 1: don't know what to do with that, you're a whole,

1233
01:02:07,240 --> 01:02:10,560
Speaker 1: you're slut like people. You're right, I'm sorry, but um,

1234
01:02:11,400 --> 01:02:14,800
Speaker 1: and I think maybe the pressure from men and specifically though,

1235
01:02:15,280 --> 01:02:18,880
Speaker 1: has hindered women from doing that. UM. So I'm gonna

1236
01:02:18,960 --> 01:02:21,400
Speaker 1: try to say maybe a friend and a lover. So

1237
01:02:21,680 --> 01:02:23,640
Speaker 1: two friends come to mind. A dude name one I

1238
01:02:23,720 --> 01:02:25,320
Speaker 1: know from Orlando and I know I don't text you

1239
01:02:25,400 --> 01:02:27,120
Speaker 1: back all the time, and I'm really sorry, but I'm

1240
01:02:27,120 --> 01:02:29,080
Speaker 1: really grateful for the text messages that you sent me

1241
01:02:29,080 --> 01:02:32,640
Speaker 1: about how proud you army um. And another friend a

1242
01:02:32,760 --> 01:02:35,439
Speaker 1: j um he was saying to me once a friend

1243
01:02:35,480 --> 01:02:37,280
Speaker 1: of mine when we were in l A and we

1244
01:02:37,360 --> 01:02:39,560
Speaker 1: were eating, he was like, Yo, everybody used to like

1245
01:02:39,960 --> 01:02:41,680
Speaker 1: talk to me, like when I was hanging out with you,

1246
01:02:42,120 --> 01:02:43,919
Speaker 1: they'd be like, yo, that girl is crazy, she's a whole,

1247
01:02:44,040 --> 01:02:46,280
Speaker 1: she's this and that. And he was like, now nigga's

1248
01:02:46,320 --> 01:02:48,400
Speaker 1: write me when I'm with you and they're like, how

1249
01:02:48,440 --> 01:02:50,840
Speaker 1: do you know? Easy? And it was like crazy to

1250
01:02:50,920 --> 01:02:52,720
Speaker 1: hear that, Like no, when someone over taging years and

1251
01:02:52,720 --> 01:02:55,040
Speaker 1: they say that ship and he's never told me that

1252
01:02:55,120 --> 01:02:56,840
Speaker 1: people said that to him when he was my friend.

1253
01:02:57,280 --> 01:02:59,040
Speaker 1: But it's just funny how the tables turned, so to

1254
01:02:59,120 --> 01:03:00,560
Speaker 1: know that there's a man in my life that like

1255
01:03:00,920 --> 01:03:03,800
Speaker 1: brushed that ship by platonic friendship and like still, I

1256
01:03:03,840 --> 01:03:05,880
Speaker 1: was like, no, that's my bit, you know um. And

1257
01:03:05,920 --> 01:03:07,720
Speaker 1: then I'll give a shout outs to someone I'm fucking

1258
01:03:07,760 --> 01:03:10,000
Speaker 1: I guess Beard bab it's a guy I've been dating

1259
01:03:10,040 --> 01:03:12,840
Speaker 1: for a few months, and like, so fucking dope. This

1260
01:03:13,000 --> 01:03:16,320
Speaker 1: nigga is like such a he made a joke once

1261
01:03:16,320 --> 01:03:19,760
Speaker 1: said he was like a fan, and like I really

1262
01:03:19,840 --> 01:03:21,880
Speaker 1: feel that, like knowing that he would listen to our

1263
01:03:21,920 --> 01:03:24,240
Speaker 1: show or like yeah, I just got done and coming

1264
01:03:24,320 --> 01:03:27,200
Speaker 1: to one of my shows, and like anytime we meet

1265
01:03:27,280 --> 01:03:31,680
Speaker 1: someone just piping me up, it's so fucking dope, like

1266
01:03:32,040 --> 01:03:34,280
Speaker 1: almost more than I'm doing it, you know what I mean,

1267
01:03:34,360 --> 01:03:36,600
Speaker 1: Like I love that just being excited about me and

1268
01:03:36,720 --> 01:03:39,840
Speaker 1: Mandy just like calling me to tell me how great

1269
01:03:39,920 --> 01:03:42,960
Speaker 1: things are, how he loves these clips, Like even when

1270
01:03:43,000 --> 01:03:45,800
Speaker 1: I'm talking about other niggas. You gotta be a really

1271
01:03:45,920 --> 01:03:48,880
Speaker 1: secure motherfucker to do that and then tell a friend

1272
01:03:48,960 --> 01:03:50,800
Speaker 1: in their face like yo, she'd be telling this story

1273
01:03:50,840 --> 01:03:54,360
Speaker 1: about this nigga. But I'm with him and it's all refreshing.

1274
01:03:54,560 --> 01:03:57,680
Speaker 1: Oh my god, like being able to be open with somebody,

1275
01:03:57,800 --> 01:04:01,760
Speaker 1: honest with somebody like what you're self. It's so refreshing.

1276
01:04:02,040 --> 01:04:06,280
Speaker 1: And women have always associated to like possessiveness with men

1277
01:04:06,400 --> 01:04:09,160
Speaker 1: caring about you, men acting a little crazy with them

1278
01:04:09,200 --> 01:04:11,360
Speaker 1: caring about you, and men wanting you to themselves are

1279
01:04:11,360 --> 01:04:14,360
Speaker 1: not showing anybody anything as like them caring. Because that

1280
01:04:14,480 --> 01:04:16,200
Speaker 1: had someone tell me like he'd let you do that

1281
01:04:16,280 --> 01:04:20,360
Speaker 1: he only fun and it's like, yeah, you know, stop

1282
01:04:20,400 --> 01:04:23,840
Speaker 1: thinking that. Men let the women that you're with open

1283
01:04:23,920 --> 01:04:26,280
Speaker 1: themselves up a little more and be comfortable enough around

1284
01:04:26,320 --> 01:04:28,960
Speaker 1: you so love you more. I really think that it

1285
01:04:29,160 --> 01:04:31,880
Speaker 1: is important. So before we get out of here, I

1286
01:04:31,960 --> 01:04:34,600
Speaker 1: think there is a good question I kind of want

1287
01:04:34,640 --> 01:04:37,680
Speaker 1: for you, because you know, you just told us you

1288
01:04:37,760 --> 01:04:40,800
Speaker 1: had a next and got married. I just got dumped.

1289
01:04:41,160 --> 01:04:44,040
Speaker 1: I'm ready to move on quick. However, even when lots

1290
01:04:44,080 --> 01:04:46,720
Speaker 1: of guys willing to hook up, I'm terrified and I

1291
01:04:46,760 --> 01:04:49,480
Speaker 1: always back out. Should I wait until the breakup is

1292
01:04:49,600 --> 01:04:52,360
Speaker 1: less fresh? Or should I just push myself out there?

1293
01:04:52,680 --> 01:04:54,600
Speaker 1: Thanks for being my best friends through this hard time?

1294
01:04:56,440 --> 01:04:58,600
Speaker 1: How do you guys? A very simple question, but I

1295
01:04:58,720 --> 01:05:00,600
Speaker 1: like that do you hear of for in the breakup?

1296
01:05:01,040 --> 01:05:02,800
Speaker 1: Do you start going out, What do you guys think

1297
01:05:02,800 --> 01:05:05,440
Speaker 1: about that? What is the usual? What makes you feel good?

1298
01:05:05,640 --> 01:05:08,640
Speaker 1: But not I want to like makes you feel good,

1299
01:05:08,680 --> 01:05:11,280
Speaker 1: but hopefully like in the healthiest way that you can

1300
01:05:11,560 --> 01:05:16,240
Speaker 1: because breakups can be hard. Um but look, I was

1301
01:05:16,320 --> 01:05:19,160
Speaker 1: in a not a good place when I broke up

1302
01:05:19,200 --> 01:05:22,400
Speaker 1: with with my eggs and that sh it just can't like.

1303
01:05:23,080 --> 01:05:27,320
Speaker 1: It was just like came blind, blind sided, spotted whatever.

1304
01:05:27,760 --> 01:05:31,160
Speaker 1: So I'm big with with energy, and so I feel

1305
01:05:31,200 --> 01:05:34,080
Speaker 1: like one of the worst things you can do when

1306
01:05:34,200 --> 01:05:36,720
Speaker 1: you have all of these emotions and you're sad and

1307
01:05:36,840 --> 01:05:39,200
Speaker 1: you're upset that it didn't work out, and you're doing

1308
01:05:39,240 --> 01:05:40,880
Speaker 1: all this, one of the worst things you can do

1309
01:05:41,240 --> 01:05:44,520
Speaker 1: is try to hide those emotions by being around other people,

1310
01:05:44,840 --> 01:05:47,560
Speaker 1: because what you actually do is you exert that that

1311
01:05:48,040 --> 01:05:51,480
Speaker 1: energy to the other person. You're masking your all of

1312
01:05:52,560 --> 01:05:55,120
Speaker 1: but just being around other people. And so I don't

1313
01:05:55,160 --> 01:05:58,000
Speaker 1: like that. I have also been around people who either

1314
01:05:58,480 --> 01:06:00,440
Speaker 1: had just gotten out of a breakup things like that,

1315
01:06:00,800 --> 01:06:02,280
Speaker 1: and little do you know, even though you're in the

1316
01:06:02,320 --> 01:06:04,240
Speaker 1: company of someone else, you bring up a lot of

1317
01:06:04,440 --> 01:06:06,640
Speaker 1: the things that happened because you feel like you want

1318
01:06:06,680 --> 01:06:08,680
Speaker 1: to vent, you want to get over and you project

1319
01:06:08,720 --> 01:06:11,040
Speaker 1: a lot, and like I said, with just the energy

1320
01:06:11,080 --> 01:06:13,200
Speaker 1: of being around somebody. I think, and it's what I've

1321
01:06:13,200 --> 01:06:16,920
Speaker 1: said in a past episode, in order to find happiness

1322
01:06:16,960 --> 01:06:19,400
Speaker 1: in other people, you first have to find happiness within yourself.

1323
01:06:19,720 --> 01:06:22,640
Speaker 1: So if you can't genuinely be happy in your own

1324
01:06:23,120 --> 01:06:25,280
Speaker 1: space or in your own home or in the room

1325
01:06:25,320 --> 01:06:28,040
Speaker 1: by yourself or at work, if you're genuinely not happy

1326
01:06:28,120 --> 01:06:31,560
Speaker 1: with where you are, you can't at all expect to

1327
01:06:31,600 --> 01:06:36,120
Speaker 1: find happiness from someone else. I think. So it's just

1328
01:06:36,240 --> 01:06:40,760
Speaker 1: gonna say, sit with your pain times, like you need

1329
01:06:40,880 --> 01:06:44,919
Speaker 1: that pain to like an order to heal its fear

1330
01:06:45,000 --> 01:06:47,520
Speaker 1: to someone else, have you. I mean, I'm sure we've

1331
01:06:47,520 --> 01:06:51,480
Speaker 1: all like dated someone that like was kind of situation

1332
01:06:51,560 --> 01:06:54,960
Speaker 1: ships in real life. But I mean I've been with

1333
01:06:55,040 --> 01:06:58,280
Speaker 1: someone that like had some past, Like I broke up

1334
01:06:58,440 --> 01:07:00,040
Speaker 1: and they were like all the way broken up, and

1335
01:07:00,040 --> 01:07:01,560
Speaker 1: I felt like it was baggage into what I had

1336
01:07:01,640 --> 01:07:05,600
Speaker 1: with them that do be having, like, but they're not

1337
01:07:05,800 --> 01:07:08,880
Speaker 1: like the breaks like fucking let go of that ship, bro, Like,

1338
01:07:09,000 --> 01:07:11,600
Speaker 1: don't bring that to me, Like, give me the honor

1339
01:07:11,720 --> 01:07:15,000
Speaker 1: of being with someone that's ready for this ship. That's fine,

1340
01:07:15,200 --> 01:07:17,800
Speaker 1: find other things that make you have happy like you

1341
01:07:17,880 --> 01:07:21,520
Speaker 1: could you could find like you could like really turn

1342
01:07:21,600 --> 01:07:24,720
Speaker 1: your pain into like what motivates you to like be

1343
01:07:24,880 --> 01:07:29,320
Speaker 1: the next big things. Right, that's the best thing to

1344
01:07:29,440 --> 01:07:31,360
Speaker 1: say about that find other things to make you happy

1345
01:07:31,680 --> 01:07:34,880
Speaker 1: because you don't have to find happiness in other people

1346
01:07:35,120 --> 01:07:40,400
Speaker 1: other relationships, like find it in And that's why I

1347
01:07:40,520 --> 01:07:43,640
Speaker 1: haven't been dating. I feel like, um for a little bit. Well,

1348
01:07:44,040 --> 01:07:45,840
Speaker 1: not only have I been really really busy, but like

1349
01:07:46,280 --> 01:07:49,480
Speaker 1: for such alongside, especially with the online dating, just a

1350
01:07:49,560 --> 01:07:51,080
Speaker 1: lot of dates that I went on was just bad.

1351
01:07:51,440 --> 01:07:53,040
Speaker 1: And I was like, not only am I wasting time?

1352
01:07:53,840 --> 01:07:56,760
Speaker 1: I just want to spend time around people that make

1353
01:07:56,840 --> 01:07:59,280
Speaker 1: me happy. Um, and I know I'm happy, So why

1354
01:07:59,280 --> 01:08:01,040
Speaker 1: am I wasting time with niggas that is just wet?

1355
01:08:01,400 --> 01:08:04,120
Speaker 1: So I actually I've been cussing out all my friends.

1356
01:08:04,480 --> 01:08:06,400
Speaker 1: I'm like, I blame them from what I'm single right now.

1357
01:08:06,760 --> 01:08:09,880
Speaker 1: I like, bitch, we just went on tour. I was

1358
01:08:09,960 --> 01:08:13,520
Speaker 1: around friends the entire tour. I'm playing trips. I went

1359
01:08:13,600 --> 01:08:16,479
Speaker 1: to the fucking dream of like every weekend I've I've done.

1360
01:08:16,520 --> 01:08:18,559
Speaker 1: I'm making plans with my friends and I'm like, y'all

1361
01:08:18,600 --> 01:08:21,280
Speaker 1: the reasons I'm single because I'm so happy, but I'm

1362
01:08:21,320 --> 01:08:23,640
Speaker 1: even happier around y'all. Then now I have no time

1363
01:08:23,640 --> 01:08:25,200
Speaker 1: to date. I don't want to be around niggas unless

1364
01:08:25,200 --> 01:08:28,320
Speaker 1: I'm getting foss. Honestly, when you end up finding someone

1365
01:08:28,479 --> 01:08:30,920
Speaker 1: like I'm waiting, all my friends still like trying to

1366
01:08:31,000 --> 01:08:33,799
Speaker 1: have me connect. When you when you grow your circle

1367
01:08:34,160 --> 01:08:37,000
Speaker 1: and you're like your your life around different ship and

1368
01:08:37,040 --> 01:08:39,760
Speaker 1: you schedule that ship and you're like growing your own

1369
01:08:39,800 --> 01:08:43,400
Speaker 1: happiness from within that ship works. Bro. I always say,

1370
01:08:43,560 --> 01:08:45,599
Speaker 1: like a great just one thing. I was just thinking

1371
01:08:45,600 --> 01:08:49,400
Speaker 1: about the best bodies come from breakups. Like whenever I

1372
01:08:49,479 --> 01:08:52,920
Speaker 1: get broken up with it's like immediate thing. I'm like hair,

1373
01:08:53,160 --> 01:08:55,120
Speaker 1: something changes or something, and then I'm in the gym

1374
01:08:55,240 --> 01:08:56,880
Speaker 1: like crazy, you did get real skinny have to love

1375
01:08:56,920 --> 01:08:59,880
Speaker 1: a boy, but she was sad. That's when you went.

1376
01:09:00,240 --> 01:09:04,080
Speaker 1: Was really in the gym like all the time. Yeah,

1377
01:09:04,080 --> 01:09:05,680
Speaker 1: because he was going through a break up and I

1378
01:09:05,760 --> 01:09:09,519
Speaker 1: was like, yo, break up at the same time. That's right,

1379
01:09:10,040 --> 01:09:12,080
Speaker 1: and like you know, it's just it just happened. But

1380
01:09:12,160 --> 01:09:14,679
Speaker 1: the art look at everything that comes out of pain,

1381
01:09:14,840 --> 01:09:18,479
Speaker 1: like all the beauty that comes gave us ship No.

1382
01:09:19,400 --> 01:09:25,640
Speaker 1: The Confessions album Lemonade Hello, Bellhooks talks about Lemonade. You

1383
01:09:25,720 --> 01:09:27,760
Speaker 1: might want to look that up after this, I will.

1384
01:09:28,040 --> 01:09:32,920
Speaker 1: She goes in on Beyonce. Does she crazy? What kind

1385
01:09:32,960 --> 01:09:39,800
Speaker 1: of crazy? Don't come? So, I mean Lemonade I fucking

1386
01:09:39,840 --> 01:09:41,320
Speaker 1: loved because I was just saying to my mom in

1387
01:09:41,400 --> 01:09:44,080
Speaker 1: the car we were talking about I played Old Town

1388
01:09:44,160 --> 01:09:45,880
Speaker 1: Road from my mom and she loved it. She's like,

1389
01:09:48,080 --> 01:09:55,640
Speaker 1: damn react to that song. It was like I was

1390
01:09:55,680 --> 01:09:57,479
Speaker 1: telling her she was. My mom was like, doesn't Beyonce

1391
01:09:57,600 --> 01:10:00,519
Speaker 1: have a country song? And I was like, yo, daddy,

1392
01:10:00,600 --> 01:10:02,240
Speaker 1: lessons in Lemonade. I'm like, this bitch came out with

1393
01:10:02,280 --> 01:10:05,200
Speaker 1: an album, a visual album, a country song, all because

1394
01:10:06,280 --> 01:10:10,360
Speaker 1: I don't know, tell you heartbreak really fucking bring some ship, bro.

1395
01:10:10,880 --> 01:10:15,120
Speaker 1: Even Beyonce can get cheated on. So well, I have

1396
01:10:15,200 --> 01:10:18,360
Speaker 1: no faith in anybody like calibery. This is why I

1397
01:10:18,520 --> 01:10:22,000
Speaker 1: make the chan ever would be ethnically nominogamous and the like,

1398
01:10:22,120 --> 01:10:26,559
Speaker 1: just enjoy other people because I cannot be Beyonce. Well,

1399
01:10:26,600 --> 01:10:28,720
Speaker 1: you said it in one of the last episodes, like

1400
01:10:28,800 --> 01:10:30,400
Speaker 1: Lauren London said one of the best things like, you

1401
01:10:30,439 --> 01:10:33,479
Speaker 1: don't possess people, you experience them, And so I think

1402
01:10:33,520 --> 01:10:35,519
Speaker 1: that that's like one of the best things that I'd

1403
01:10:35,560 --> 01:10:38,519
Speaker 1: be experienced in. Yeah, we we have to start to

1404
01:10:38,560 --> 01:10:43,120
Speaker 1: putting so much ownership people like is in including men

1405
01:10:43,240 --> 01:10:46,120
Speaker 1: with women. So again, even with what you said, just

1406
01:10:46,320 --> 01:10:48,400
Speaker 1: allowing women to be women. And if you want to

1407
01:10:48,439 --> 01:10:52,719
Speaker 1: get a clear idea of feminism, it's literally not feeling

1408
01:10:52,800 --> 01:10:56,000
Speaker 1: like we shouldn't do anything. It's allowing us to be

1409
01:10:56,120 --> 01:10:59,559
Speaker 1: who we are, to experience ourselves, to learn the same

1410
01:10:59,760 --> 01:11:02,840
Speaker 1: the aim, you know, privilege that men have. That's what

1411
01:11:02,960 --> 01:11:06,400
Speaker 1: feminism is. It's literally you're not saying a woman shouldn't, couldn't,

1412
01:11:07,120 --> 01:11:10,160
Speaker 1: you know, do anything, but just allowing us to kind

1413
01:11:10,160 --> 01:11:13,040
Speaker 1: of just be our own human being. And that's actually

1414
01:11:13,120 --> 01:11:15,600
Speaker 1: a really good thing what she said. So when you

1415
01:11:15,680 --> 01:11:18,920
Speaker 1: were saying gender roles right, you're saying you agree with them.

1416
01:11:19,840 --> 01:11:21,760
Speaker 1: You agree with I want to do that? Right, you do.

1417
01:11:21,960 --> 01:11:23,840
Speaker 1: And you made that choice, not because the dude is

1418
01:11:23,880 --> 01:11:26,960
Speaker 1: saying you should. So like, that is also a choice

1419
01:11:27,040 --> 01:11:29,320
Speaker 1: to to be in that role. But if a woman

1420
01:11:29,400 --> 01:11:31,360
Speaker 1: doesn't want it, don't sit here and tell me I'm

1421
01:11:31,400 --> 01:11:33,680
Speaker 1: less of a woman because I don't do laundry and

1422
01:11:33,720 --> 01:11:36,920
Speaker 1: I don't cook for niggas. I'm saying that's me but

1423
01:11:37,000 --> 01:11:38,840
Speaker 1: there are a lot of women like that and if

1424
01:11:39,200 --> 01:11:41,920
Speaker 1: if that's her choice, and there's a man for her too,

1425
01:11:42,680 --> 01:11:44,519
Speaker 1: because not every nigga need that. Well, we didn't have

1426
01:11:44,640 --> 01:11:46,960
Speaker 1: the whole episode, y'all came for us um b K

1427
01:11:47,120 --> 01:11:48,800
Speaker 1: chat when she was like, I got my pussy, that's

1428
01:11:48,800 --> 01:11:51,320
Speaker 1: all he needs. And we at that point in the show,

1429
01:11:51,400 --> 01:11:54,080
Speaker 1: we couldn't understand, like, bitch, all you're offering to nigga

1430
01:11:54,160 --> 01:11:57,599
Speaker 1: is your pussy. Well here's the thing though, what yeah

1431
01:12:00,160 --> 01:12:02,479
Speaker 1: a statement that she made. I don't even think we

1432
01:12:02,560 --> 01:12:04,960
Speaker 1: have to put cooking, cleaning, ship house shit out of it.

1433
01:12:05,080 --> 01:12:07,320
Speaker 1: Like if you're saying a dude should be just happy

1434
01:12:07,360 --> 01:12:09,479
Speaker 1: with your pussy, I think it dismissive to a person

1435
01:12:09,560 --> 01:12:14,679
Speaker 1: because first off, like I'm gonna be real with you people,

1436
01:12:15,040 --> 01:12:18,360
Speaker 1: since I've had scissors, who is my shorty? Like on

1437
01:12:18,560 --> 01:12:21,640
Speaker 1: my Graham, Like more frequent women are throwing way more

1438
01:12:21,680 --> 01:12:23,519
Speaker 1: pussy at me. And it even give me think like

1439
01:12:23,640 --> 01:12:25,000
Speaker 1: they'd be like yo, I bet you want to say

1440
01:12:25,080 --> 01:12:27,479
Speaker 1: it and they'll send me pictures on like bitch, you think,

1441
01:12:27,520 --> 01:12:29,160
Speaker 1: oh they don't want to suck me? Like what the

1442
01:12:29,240 --> 01:12:31,560
Speaker 1: fund is wrong with you? Girl? Try to kiss me

1443
01:12:31,640 --> 01:12:33,560
Speaker 1: in our live show in l A, like on the

1444
01:12:33,640 --> 01:12:38,720
Speaker 1: fucking mouth, like and to me, I really hate when

1445
01:12:38,800 --> 01:12:42,360
Speaker 1: people put so much fucking like don't get me wrong,

1446
01:12:42,479 --> 01:12:44,680
Speaker 1: like value your body and know you're the ship, but

1447
01:12:44,800 --> 01:12:47,160
Speaker 1: like don't really sit here and think you're pussy? Is

1448
01:12:47,200 --> 01:12:49,800
Speaker 1: that gold? And like that's all? But not only that

1449
01:12:49,880 --> 01:12:51,960
Speaker 1: they that's what I got from that. I but even

1450
01:12:52,000 --> 01:12:54,519
Speaker 1: the feminism like ways like we gotta make the stallion

1451
01:12:54,560 --> 01:12:59,120
Speaker 1: shout out to me yea. But there's been a video

1452
01:12:59,200 --> 01:13:01,720
Speaker 1: going around where she was like just performing and a

1453
01:13:01,840 --> 01:13:05,920
Speaker 1: girl slapped her ass and Megan turned around like but

1454
01:13:06,120 --> 01:13:10,520
Speaker 1: even as women of you know, sexual liberation and women empowerment,

1455
01:13:10,880 --> 01:13:14,000
Speaker 1: you need to allow just because you're wish. I'm so

1456
01:13:14,120 --> 01:13:16,559
Speaker 1: glad we're talking about this, Yes, because I didn't think

1457
01:13:17,120 --> 01:13:20,960
Speaker 1: that women have violated as they've been violating us all tour.

1458
01:13:21,080 --> 01:13:23,200
Speaker 1: I will say there's been quite quite a few women

1459
01:13:23,280 --> 01:13:25,439
Speaker 1: have asked, I love that, Can I grab your ass?

1460
01:13:25,439 --> 01:13:26,920
Speaker 1: Can I touch your tips? They've been wanting to touch

1461
01:13:27,000 --> 01:13:28,920
Speaker 1: me and wheezy and a lot of them do ask,

1462
01:13:29,160 --> 01:13:32,840
Speaker 1: but there have been times where and we get to

1463
01:13:32,880 --> 01:13:35,240
Speaker 1: choose that they can or not, and it defends their mood. Um,

1464
01:13:35,560 --> 01:13:38,519
Speaker 1: but a lot of women still have otherwise just grabbed

1465
01:13:38,600 --> 01:13:40,920
Speaker 1: us without asking. It's just like a little weird. You know.

1466
01:13:41,040 --> 01:13:43,040
Speaker 1: The men that have came, I like, I have to

1467
01:13:43,120 --> 01:13:45,920
Speaker 1: be like, I can't believe I'm even saying this. Any

1468
01:13:46,000 --> 01:13:47,640
Speaker 1: man that has come to the show has been so

1469
01:13:47,880 --> 01:13:50,599
Speaker 1: kind during me and greet like yo, many like can

1470
01:13:50,640 --> 01:13:54,479
Speaker 1: I can I take a cool and like totally like

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01:13:55,320 --> 01:14:01,240
Speaker 1: accepting if she says no? But like the girls been ready. Look,

1472
01:14:01,320 --> 01:14:04,400
Speaker 1: if you ever get pregnant, it's crazy. That's a whole

1473
01:14:04,400 --> 01:14:09,160
Speaker 1: another converse, like the touching, like oh you're sushing your

1474
01:14:09,160 --> 01:14:12,680
Speaker 1: stomach and ship like just walk like just walking up no,

1475
01:14:13,240 --> 01:14:16,280
Speaker 1: like people you don't know excuge. So I had to

1476
01:14:16,400 --> 01:14:19,559
Speaker 1: like build this armor around me when I was pregnant

1477
01:14:19,600 --> 01:14:22,559
Speaker 1: with my daughter because like people think that you don't

1478
01:14:22,560 --> 01:14:26,559
Speaker 1: want that energy touching your goddamn child. Yeah, that's crazy.

1479
01:14:27,080 --> 01:14:30,600
Speaker 1: That's crazy. It's so crazy. I want to bring up

1480
01:14:30,680 --> 01:14:32,800
Speaker 1: one thing that I actually hadn't here in it. Youveen

1481
01:14:32,840 --> 01:14:35,160
Speaker 1: saying that all I want to bring up one more

1482
01:14:35,160 --> 01:14:39,439
Speaker 1: thing to act more one man constantly like in my

1483
01:14:39,520 --> 01:14:42,400
Speaker 1: mind that I feel like this is true. But one

1484
01:14:42,439 --> 01:14:43,679
Speaker 1: of the myths that I had in there, I skipped

1485
01:14:43,720 --> 01:14:46,719
Speaker 1: over because the time was feminist. Can't listen to Wrap.

1486
01:14:47,840 --> 01:14:51,240
Speaker 1: I want to just say, you damn we can nothing.

1487
01:14:51,439 --> 01:14:54,200
Speaker 1: You know, Wrap is so fucking important, and this is

1488
01:14:54,280 --> 01:14:58,720
Speaker 1: why we all have to make sure women too, that

1489
01:14:58,840 --> 01:15:01,800
Speaker 1: we're not pitting rappers at each other, right, Like it's

1490
01:15:01,880 --> 01:15:05,200
Speaker 1: so important to have Chase the nigga. I don't even

1491
01:15:05,280 --> 01:15:08,320
Speaker 1: Chase Liqa, Like sorry, it's so fu dope to talk

1492
01:15:08,360 --> 01:15:12,200
Speaker 1: about that ship so long, Like let's talking talk about

1493
01:15:12,240 --> 01:15:14,640
Speaker 1: our own bodies with women. I love that ship and

1494
01:15:14,800 --> 01:15:19,280
Speaker 1: like worshiping our bodies and ourselves band doing it either

1495
01:15:19,439 --> 01:15:21,880
Speaker 1: it's women doing it too. Women are pinning each other

1496
01:15:21,960 --> 01:15:26,640
Speaker 1: against other women women. Imagine how dope a Cardi and

1497
01:15:26,720 --> 01:15:30,160
Speaker 1: Nikki like its other. I mean, but Nikki is mad

1498
01:15:30,200 --> 01:15:32,760
Speaker 1: and secure so she won't do it. But like you

1499
01:15:35,720 --> 01:15:39,080
Speaker 1: become a fit them together. But they did show us

1500
01:15:39,080 --> 01:15:41,800
Speaker 1: a little bit of Nikki this basic. But I do

1501
01:15:42,240 --> 01:15:44,680
Speaker 1: kind of feel bad when they compare looks and ship

1502
01:15:44,800 --> 01:15:46,280
Speaker 1: like that with these women because I've never seen them

1503
01:15:46,320 --> 01:15:49,200
Speaker 1: do that with niggas. And it's over over sexualizing women

1504
01:15:49,720 --> 01:15:51,799
Speaker 1: just like they wanted to do with you, and it sucks.

1505
01:15:51,960 --> 01:15:54,639
Speaker 1: It's like, God, damn, let the girl wrap. Like talking

1506
01:15:54,680 --> 01:15:59,680
Speaker 1: about make the stallion's body like, which is our body is?

1507
01:16:00,200 --> 01:16:01,840
Speaker 1: I mean, all right, we didn't talk about how big

1508
01:16:01,960 --> 01:16:06,080
Speaker 1: Yo Gotti forehead is, and then we might be ugly

1509
01:16:06,800 --> 01:16:09,680
Speaker 1: wrap and they'd be like, he's not even cute. Go

1510
01:16:09,800 --> 01:16:12,960
Speaker 1: way back here, like we gotta start calling them niggas out.

1511
01:16:13,080 --> 01:16:16,719
Speaker 1: Let's put them against let's do it out. Hey tweeted

1512
01:16:16,760 --> 01:16:18,760
Speaker 1: this ship with She said, to be a woman who

1513
01:16:18,840 --> 01:16:20,720
Speaker 1: loves hip hop at times is to be in love

1514
01:16:20,760 --> 01:16:24,880
Speaker 1: with your abuser. Ever doing so, then to the to

1515
01:16:25,040 --> 01:16:26,920
Speaker 1: love a rapper is to be a love to be

1516
01:16:27,040 --> 01:16:29,160
Speaker 1: in love with hip hop, and they love your abusers sometimes,

1517
01:16:29,200 --> 01:16:30,599
Speaker 1: That's what she wrote. To be a woman that loves

1518
01:16:30,680 --> 01:16:33,240
Speaker 1: hip hop and I don't. There's a really good hip

1519
01:16:33,280 --> 01:16:36,120
Speaker 1: hop feminist book that you might like. It's called um

1520
01:16:36,560 --> 01:16:40,120
Speaker 1: When the Hens Come Home to Roost or something, When

1521
01:16:40,160 --> 01:16:42,599
Speaker 1: the Hens come home through something like that. I'll check

1522
01:16:42,640 --> 01:16:44,560
Speaker 1: it out. Yeah, but yeah, I mean that's why I

1523
01:16:44,640 --> 01:16:47,080
Speaker 1: put problematic feminists because I've had so many people in

1524
01:16:47,160 --> 01:16:50,960
Speaker 1: my messages when I like post nasty as songs like wow,

1525
01:16:51,120 --> 01:16:53,120
Speaker 1: but like it's talking about bitches at home, that's fine

1526
01:16:55,200 --> 01:16:58,960
Speaker 1: choice to pop my pussy say that, ma'am so fucking

1527
01:16:58,960 --> 01:17:00,920
Speaker 1: I'm problematic is fun because y'all like to be called

1528
01:17:00,960 --> 01:17:03,800
Speaker 1: a slat when I'm getting fucked. That that's the one

1529
01:17:03,880 --> 01:17:07,720
Speaker 1: word I can't do. Bitch, but I don't want to.

1530
01:17:07,760 --> 01:17:10,760
Speaker 1: But didn't she But didn't she dit like jay Z

1531
01:17:10,920 --> 01:17:15,000
Speaker 1: and Beyonce's music video. Yeah, but I'm assuming, like she said,

1532
01:17:15,000 --> 01:17:16,880
Speaker 1: she said, sometimes like po women in hip hop, sometimes

1533
01:17:16,920 --> 01:17:19,800
Speaker 1: I'm assuming, like the hip hop that's like against women. Well,

1534
01:17:19,840 --> 01:17:23,680
Speaker 1: I love it, no, especially city girls. Chicken heads come home,

1535
01:17:24,960 --> 01:17:29,679
Speaker 1: chicken heads come home to us. You know what's crazy?

1536
01:17:29,680 --> 01:17:32,000
Speaker 1: I ain't know. Oh no, I was thinking so back

1537
01:17:32,000 --> 01:17:33,559
Speaker 1: in the day, like we used to do, like um,

1538
01:17:33,640 --> 01:17:36,240
Speaker 1: we had basketball teams. This was like elementary school, and

1539
01:17:36,560 --> 01:17:39,400
Speaker 1: we could come up with our own names, and we

1540
01:17:39,640 --> 01:17:41,600
Speaker 1: named ourselves the Project Chicks. But I didn't know what

1541
01:17:41,720 --> 01:17:45,040
Speaker 1: that meant back then. But that's when the song about

1542
01:17:45,080 --> 01:17:48,240
Speaker 1: getting me a project ship, and I was like, I

1543
01:17:48,280 --> 01:17:49,960
Speaker 1: didn't know it's a bad thing until people like you

1544
01:17:50,040 --> 01:17:53,439
Speaker 1: want to be called what give me a raight? No? Okay,

1545
01:17:53,479 --> 01:17:54,800
Speaker 1: well that's what I wanted to be called with Project

1546
01:17:54,880 --> 01:17:56,640
Speaker 1: Chicks back in the day. But I also wanted my

1547
01:17:56,720 --> 01:17:59,920
Speaker 1: dream car with and then Paula with chameleon paint job

1548
01:18:00,000 --> 01:18:03,000
Speaker 1: in rams. So don't judge me. Okay, Florida ship. Sorry

1549
01:18:03,200 --> 01:18:05,240
Speaker 1: are you from Florida? Yeah, so I know what a project.

1550
01:18:05,320 --> 01:18:10,360
Speaker 1: Well that's up here basically as we call it, the hood. Yeah,

1551
01:18:10,360 --> 01:18:12,160
Speaker 1: there were no jack, There was no jecks like that,

1552
01:18:12,439 --> 01:18:15,479
Speaker 1: Like he got building saw. Like they can still live

1553
01:18:15,520 --> 01:18:19,920
Speaker 1: in houses in the hood, like nice house that have

1554
01:18:20,120 --> 01:18:23,960
Speaker 1: them hood house house in Pine Hills. Boy, imagine in Brooklyn.

1555
01:18:24,520 --> 01:18:26,200
Speaker 1: Yeah no, like so you know you still have a

1556
01:18:26,320 --> 01:18:28,040
Speaker 1: yard in the hood. So it's just like you know

1557
01:18:28,160 --> 01:18:35,439
Speaker 1: Sam in California. Yeah, residential suburbs, baby boy, then they

1558
01:18:35,600 --> 01:18:42,960
Speaker 1: got a backyard. She was she had our garden. So

1559
01:18:43,120 --> 01:18:46,639
Speaker 1: working on listeners find you if they're interested in following

1560
01:18:46,720 --> 01:18:50,200
Speaker 1: you in your your photos and everything you do Instagram

1561
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Speaker 1: Marzi Jane m a r z y Jane Marzi Jane

1562
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Speaker 1: dot com. Projects like yeah, I wrote a baby book. Oh,

1563
01:19:01,840 --> 01:19:05,200
Speaker 1: um what else? Yeah, I'm doing a lot of stuff

1564
01:19:05,240 --> 01:19:09,120
Speaker 1: with the magazine. Um. The last issue we did I

1565
01:19:09,400 --> 01:19:19,200
Speaker 1: interviewed Salon was cute. Um. Yeah, I'm working on a documentary. Um. Well,

1566
01:19:19,240 --> 01:19:22,560
Speaker 1: we'll keep you guys updated. Um. The magazine also the

1567
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Speaker 1: books in which we referenced staring this episode, we'll go

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01:19:24,880 --> 01:19:27,519
Speaker 1: ahead and put in the description, UM, but we want

1569
01:19:27,520 --> 01:19:29,680
Speaker 1: to thank you for coming in and as you guys know,

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Speaker 1: of our patrons. Because of you, we were able to

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Speaker 1: do the tour um. And so if you guys are

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1590
01:20:16,880 --> 01:20:19,000
Speaker 1: we want to thank you all so much, and as always,

1591
01:20:19,040 --> 01:20:20,760
Speaker 1: we're gonna leave you guys with a clip from one

1592
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Speaker 1: it's on. We are starting hiding. We just did an

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Speaker 1: episode with some girls that have a podcast about tripping

1610
01:21:22,520 --> 01:21:27,160
Speaker 1: on ship and I'm highs but you know me. Um, well,

1611
01:21:27,240 --> 01:21:30,000
Speaker 1: hey guys, it's another bonus episode. Before we start, I

1612
01:21:30,040 --> 01:21:31,439
Speaker 1: want to shout out to all of you who have

1613
01:21:31,560 --> 01:21:35,599
Speaker 1: supported our brand. Um, y'all, y'all are real ones. Y'all

1614
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Speaker 1: really are. Um. Oh. Also, UM, shout out to Dread.

1615
01:21:40,479 --> 01:21:44,360
Speaker 1: I have the picture we're gonna sign Dread. Yes, um,

1616
01:21:45,200 --> 01:21:47,880
Speaker 1: thank you for getting us somehow. We finally got our mail,

1617
01:21:48,040 --> 01:21:50,800
Speaker 1: which we have a very hard time get and we

1618
01:21:50,840 --> 01:21:53,840
Speaker 1: can start getting ships and because it was almost impossible,

1619
01:21:53,880 --> 01:21:56,560
Speaker 1: but Dread, shout out to you. Um, we're gonna be

1620
01:21:56,640 --> 01:21:59,600
Speaker 1: sending your signed photo back. Thank you for being a

1621
01:22:00,000 --> 01:22:02,960
Speaker 1: long time supporter of us. UM. As always, So before

1622
01:22:03,000 --> 01:22:06,000
Speaker 1: we start, everybody else like what about me? I know yeah,

1623
01:22:06,479 --> 01:22:08,320
Speaker 1: But before we start, I guess we're gonna start up

1624
01:22:08,479 --> 01:22:12,599
Speaker 1: with a quick catch up because the last few um,

1625
01:22:12,680 --> 01:22:15,240
Speaker 1: we did have a couple of solo bonus episodes. So

1626
01:22:15,320 --> 01:22:17,639
Speaker 1: now Weezie and I are back in the motherfucker's studio

1627
01:22:18,120 --> 01:22:19,840
Speaker 1: and I guess you have what you want to catch

1628
01:22:19,920 --> 01:22:23,479
Speaker 1: up real quick with them all. I went to Miami

1629
01:22:23,720 --> 01:22:25,920
Speaker 1: with Beard day God. We had a long as vacation

1630
01:22:25,960 --> 01:22:28,960
Speaker 1: we got along great. Um, I feel like I should

1631
01:22:28,960 --> 01:22:31,240
Speaker 1: tell all this On the regular episode saw Jesus and Marrio,

1632
01:22:31,360 --> 01:22:34,719
Speaker 1: that was lit, got some new dick, been on some dates.

1633
01:22:34,880 --> 01:22:36,720
Speaker 1: I'm going on a roll, dog, You've got a lot

1634
01:22:36,800 --> 01:22:39,680
Speaker 1: going on. I've just been like really trying to um

1635
01:22:40,960 --> 01:22:44,200
Speaker 1: take in the open relationship energy, because when I'm falling

1636
01:22:44,320 --> 01:22:47,479
Speaker 1: for someone, it's very hard for me to stay or

1637
01:22:47,800 --> 01:22:49,960
Speaker 1: or stay on that path of like, oh, let let's

1638
01:22:50,000 --> 01:22:53,680
Speaker 1: explore because I'm so in love in that moment. Right.

1639
01:22:53,840 --> 01:22:55,519
Speaker 1: But now that the dust is settled and i just

1640
01:22:55,680 --> 01:23:00,200
Speaker 1: know like we're there, like I'm in a really comfortable lot.

1641
01:23:01,000 --> 01:23:03,479
Speaker 1: It'll be like almost knowing him a year coming up

1642
01:23:03,560 --> 01:23:05,760
Speaker 1: soon and dating her for a while. Like now I

1643
01:23:05,840 --> 01:23:07,160
Speaker 1: just know where we are, and now I'm like, Okay,

1644
01:23:07,200 --> 01:23:09,160
Speaker 1: now i can open myself up to new experiences because

1645
01:23:09,160 --> 01:23:12,160
Speaker 1: I'm now not weird about saying them. Bringing another negative

1646
01:23:12,160 --> 01:23:14,240
Speaker 1: hedonism was where I really thought there'd be an issue,

1647
01:23:14,520 --> 01:23:16,560
Speaker 1: and we all had such a great talk about it,

1648
01:23:17,360 --> 01:23:19,240
Speaker 1: Like both of them were just super chill and they're like,

1649
01:23:19,240 --> 01:23:20,880
Speaker 1: why would you be nervous about good? Because you were

1650
01:23:20,920 --> 01:23:24,840
Speaker 1: freaking out like a motherfucker. Mainly because once he couldn't go.

1651
01:23:25,120 --> 01:23:26,680
Speaker 1: I felt like it was really fucked up for a

1652
01:23:26,720 --> 01:23:28,760
Speaker 1: trip we've all been planning for six months to bring

1653
01:23:28,840 --> 01:23:31,760
Speaker 1: another niggad but like they made a little funny comment

1654
01:23:31,760 --> 01:23:33,920
Speaker 1: about it, and then it was like, look like, we

1655
01:23:34,040 --> 01:23:36,960
Speaker 1: get how you feel about us. How how can you,

1656
01:23:38,280 --> 01:23:40,599
Speaker 1: I don't know, how can we sit here and preach

1657
01:23:40,600 --> 01:23:42,200
Speaker 1: other We're gonna be open and care about each other

1658
01:23:42,200 --> 01:23:44,120
Speaker 1: and love each other and fun other people, and then

1659
01:23:44,160 --> 01:23:46,360
Speaker 1: shoot on you for bringing someone else. You might be

1660
01:23:46,400 --> 01:23:48,240
Speaker 1: able to get a little mild jealousy, but it's sucked

1661
01:23:48,280 --> 01:23:50,000
Speaker 1: up to do it that way. So that makes sense.

1662
01:23:50,040 --> 01:23:53,880
Speaker 1: I'm glad we got there. Um, I mean that makes

1663
01:23:54,360 --> 01:23:56,120
Speaker 1: I guess that's a lot. So y'all hear. I guess

1664
01:23:56,200 --> 01:24:00,800
Speaker 1: more about Miami all of that. Yeah, y'all go here.

1665
01:24:00,800 --> 01:24:02,920
Speaker 1: I guess on a regular episode. I wanted to bring up,

1666
01:24:03,120 --> 01:24:06,560
Speaker 1: um two things. UM, I guess. The first one is

1667
01:24:06,600 --> 01:24:09,760
Speaker 1: how I feel cursed right now. UM. I have not

1668
01:24:09,960 --> 01:24:16,000
Speaker 1: had New Dick all year, but I I've had Dick

1669
01:24:16,200 --> 01:24:19,000
Speaker 1: other than seven that I've but like Dick from the past,

1670
01:24:19,280 --> 01:24:21,840
Speaker 1: I haven't had New Dick since New Year's Eve. Um.

1671
01:24:21,960 --> 01:24:25,600
Speaker 1: Other than that, I have just really been fun for

1672
01:24:25,760 --> 01:24:28,280
Speaker 1: the last four months. He's the only dick I've taken

1673
01:24:28,320 --> 01:24:30,880
Speaker 1: into my vagina and my mouth and actually no, not

1674
01:24:31,040 --> 01:24:34,600
Speaker 1: my mouth. I did give head in l A, but

1675
01:24:34,880 --> 01:24:41,200
Speaker 1: that was it. We didn't suck, uh yeah, because that's

1676
01:24:41,280 --> 01:24:43,719
Speaker 1: long one of my little Mary booze and he didn't

1677
01:24:43,760 --> 01:24:48,360
Speaker 1: really He's the condom just was affecting his performance. So

1678
01:24:48,479 --> 01:24:51,160
Speaker 1: you would have fucked, yeah, but it just he just

1679
01:24:51,200 --> 01:24:52,960
Speaker 1: didn't really want to wear economy, wasn't in the mood

1680
01:24:53,000 --> 01:24:55,040
Speaker 1: and just wouldn't stay hard and was he asking you

1681
01:24:55,160 --> 01:24:57,959
Speaker 1: not to? Um? We just didn't even have that conversation.

1682
01:24:58,040 --> 01:24:59,600
Speaker 1: He was just like, it's the condom and that's and

1683
01:24:59,640 --> 01:25:04,240
Speaker 1: I was, It's okay, it's fine. Um. But so outside

1684
01:25:04,400 --> 01:25:08,479
Speaker 1: of that, I've literally only been able to fuck. Why

1685
01:25:08,600 --> 01:25:13,200
Speaker 1: have you? Have you only been able to you know?

1686
01:25:13,360 --> 01:25:16,360
Speaker 1: I feel like my mind is rejecting other people. I

1687
01:25:16,439 --> 01:25:21,280
Speaker 1: think I'm maybe over vetting um as far as I

1688
01:25:21,439 --> 01:25:24,519
Speaker 1: want to be sure that we would be compatible if

1689
01:25:24,520 --> 01:25:26,160
Speaker 1: I have sex with someone else, because I'm having such

1690
01:25:26,160 --> 01:25:29,560
Speaker 1: amazing sex with him, and also I know that I

1691
01:25:29,640 --> 01:25:32,200
Speaker 1: don't want a whole bunch of casual sex partners. I

1692
01:25:32,320 --> 01:25:34,519
Speaker 1: am looking for maybe a partner, So it's like, if

1693
01:25:34,560 --> 01:25:36,360
Speaker 1: you're not looking to be my boyfriend or you're not

1694
01:25:36,920 --> 01:25:39,120
Speaker 1: kinky as I want you to be, I genuinely don't

1695
01:25:39,160 --> 01:25:41,200
Speaker 1: see the purpose and fucking you. But do you think

1696
01:25:41,280 --> 01:25:43,200
Speaker 1: that like you could be blocking your best things by

1697
01:25:43,280 --> 01:25:45,800
Speaker 1: not letting it get there first, Like I don't, I know,

1698
01:25:46,120 --> 01:25:49,120
Speaker 1: Like I don't. To me, I genuinely am like I

1699
01:25:49,240 --> 01:25:51,680
Speaker 1: either want to be super kinky and nasty with you

1700
01:25:52,120 --> 01:25:55,200
Speaker 1: and have that vice explored with you because I don't

1701
01:25:55,240 --> 01:25:57,600
Speaker 1: get I don't get to peg or finger. No, but

1702
01:25:57,720 --> 01:26:00,519
Speaker 1: you said you're going to be my boyfriend, right, so like,

1703
01:26:01,240 --> 01:26:03,880
Speaker 1: But to me, our conversation doesn't need to be all

1704
01:26:03,920 --> 01:26:05,880
Speaker 1: about sex if you really want a relationship with me.

1705
01:26:06,120 --> 01:26:08,720
Speaker 1: So to me, I meeting anyone that I'm not meeting

1706
01:26:08,720 --> 01:26:11,200
Speaker 1: anyone that I even really want to fuck in real life.

1707
01:26:11,479 --> 01:26:13,000
Speaker 1: So speaking of