WEBVTT - The Cost Of Going Off (Robert Madu) 0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:05.440 How y'all doing Elevation now? This is your first time here, 0:00:05.480 --> 0:00:07.440 a first time in a long time, and you're confused 0:00:07.520 --> 0:00:11.760 right now, You're like, yo, Bester, Stephen looked different. Let 0:00:11.760 --> 0:00:15.560 me help you a little bit. I am not faster, Stephen. Verdict. 0:00:15.600 --> 0:00:22.720 My name is Robert Madeu and I'm home. I'm home. 0:00:22.760 --> 0:00:24.840 And the reason there was no introduction is because you 0:00:24.880 --> 0:00:28.200 don't introduce family. I'm part of the Elevation family and 0:00:28.680 --> 0:00:30.720 I've had the privilege to come to this church now 0:00:30.760 --> 0:00:33.839 the last three or four years, and it is always 0:00:34.400 --> 0:00:37.239 just the highest honor to be here. How many know 0:00:37.400 --> 0:00:41.479 you are a part of the greatest church on the planet, 0:00:41.880 --> 0:00:46.000 Like y'all are crazy blessed. And I'm not just saying 0:00:46.040 --> 0:00:48.400 that as a matter of fact. The reason Pastor Stephen 0:00:48.479 --> 0:00:50.199 is not here and Passor Holly's not here in the 0:00:50.280 --> 0:00:53.480 sum of the team is Elevation Nights are happening right 0:00:53.520 --> 0:00:57.440 now in so many different cities. And if you need 0:00:57.520 --> 0:01:01.840 empirical evidence for how awesome this church is, you realize 0:01:01.840 --> 0:01:05.479 people across the nation are paying to pack out arenas 0:01:05.920 --> 0:01:11.039 for what you get for free. Earth y'all are crazy blessed, 0:01:11.120 --> 0:01:14.520 and that's a gift that should not be taken for granted. 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:17.080 I pray you never take this church for granted. How 0:01:17.120 --> 0:01:20.320 pray you never take your pastors for granted, or two 0:01:20.360 --> 0:01:23.000 of the greatest people, not just leaders, but people on 0:01:23.040 --> 0:01:25.560 the planet. So right now, in case they're watching, which 0:01:25.560 --> 0:01:27.720 I have the strain suspicion they might be, can we 0:01:27.840 --> 0:01:30.240 let pastors Stephen and Holly Ferdick know how much we 0:01:30.319 --> 0:01:33.840 love them, how much we appreciate them. Come on, y'all 0:01:33.880 --> 0:01:37.360 can do better than that across every location. E fam, 0:01:38.160 --> 0:01:44.480 help me thank God for your pastors, for your leaders. 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:50.360 I absolutely positively love them so much. I bring you 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:55.160 greetings from the great country of Texas and my wife Taylor, 0:01:55.200 --> 0:01:57.160 she sends her love. She is holding down the fort 0:01:57.240 --> 0:01:59.840 at home. A year ago, in fact, we just celebrated 0:01:59.840 --> 0:02:03.480 our one year anniversary. We planted a church called Social Dallas, 0:02:03.520 --> 0:02:07.240 and we're seeing God do incredible things. But here's another 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:10.040 thing you need to know about your pastors. A year ago, 0:02:10.120 --> 0:02:12.679 when we launched out to plant this church, one of 0:02:12.760 --> 0:02:16.400 the first checks that we ever received, as we were 0:02:16.440 --> 0:02:20.440 just stepping out on faith, was from your pastor saying, 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:23.280 I believe in you and I'm sowing in to you. 0:02:23.320 --> 0:02:27.840 Come on, you have an incredibly generous leader, and he 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:31.359 just did it, didn't put on TikTok and nothing, just 0:02:31.360 --> 0:02:34.080 just blessed us. And I love them so much and 0:02:34.400 --> 0:02:36.440 counted the privilege to be here. And I can't wait 0:02:36.480 --> 0:02:39.639 to preach the word if you're ready to hear it yet, 0:02:39.680 --> 0:02:41.919 you come to get a word from God, and he 0:02:42.040 --> 0:02:43.720 telling me if you feel like hearing it like I 0:02:43.760 --> 0:02:46.919 feel like preaching it, it's gonna be good in here today. 0:02:46.960 --> 0:02:49.240 I want you to go with me to Second Kings today, 0:02:49.320 --> 0:02:52.640 Second King chapter five, and I want to look at 0:02:52.840 --> 0:02:56.560 verses one through four, and then we'll hop down to 0:02:56.680 --> 0:03:00.720 verse number nine and go to verse fourteen. The Second 0:03:00.800 --> 0:03:06.040 King's chapter five, starting at verse number one. When you're 0:03:06.040 --> 0:03:10.640 ready to read it, say yeah. If you're not ready, 0:03:10.680 --> 0:03:12.639 you need some time to find this, say hold on, 0:03:13.639 --> 0:03:15.440 I heard those hold ups. I'm away for you. I'm 0:03:15.440 --> 0:03:19.280 away for you. I know that's Old Testament's stressful for somehow. 0:03:21.200 --> 0:03:24.800 Second King's Chapter five, And I really believe this is 0:03:24.800 --> 0:03:29.919 a word for somebody who's in this place watching online, 0:03:29.960 --> 0:03:33.600 but this is a word for our culture, and I 0:03:33.639 --> 0:03:36.440 know it's going to speak to you. Starting at verse 0:03:36.480 --> 0:03:41.160 number one, it says, now Naman was commander of the 0:03:41.360 --> 0:03:44.560 army of the king of Aram. He was a great 0:03:44.600 --> 0:03:47.920 man in the sight of his master, and highly regarded 0:03:48.680 --> 0:03:52.280 because through him the lord had given victory to Aram. 0:03:52.800 --> 0:03:58.000 He was a valiant soldier, but he had leprosy. Now 0:03:58.040 --> 0:04:00.440 bands of raiders from Aram had gone out and had 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:03.560 taken captive a young girl from Israel, and she served 0:04:03.600 --> 0:04:08.000 Nayman's wife. She said to her mistress, if only my 0:04:08.160 --> 0:04:11.840 master would see the prophet who was in Samaria, he 0:04:11.920 --> 0:04:15.920 would cure him of his leprosy. Namon went to his 0:04:16.040 --> 0:04:18.400 master and told him what the young girl from Israel 0:04:18.520 --> 0:04:21.240 had said. Verse nine it says, so Naman went with 0:04:21.320 --> 0:04:23.719 his horses and his cheerios, and stopped at the door 0:04:23.720 --> 0:04:26.520 of Elisha's house. And Elisha sent a messenger to say 0:04:26.520 --> 0:04:30.200 to him, go wash seven times in the Jordan, and 0:04:30.240 --> 0:04:33.520 your flesh will be restored, and you will be cleansed. 0:04:34.440 --> 0:04:45.320 But Namon went away angry and said, whom I thought, 0:04:45.360 --> 0:04:50.280 those two words right there are the tension in the 0:04:50.480 --> 0:04:54.320 entire text. I thought, come on, just us talking. Have 0:04:54.440 --> 0:04:58.200 you ever got in trouble or got frustrated or agitated 0:04:58.360 --> 0:05:02.599 or angry? Not over what happened in your life, but 0:05:02.800 --> 0:05:07.719 over what you thought was gonna happen and what actually happened. 0:05:07.760 --> 0:05:09.960 Come on, I'm the only one like I thought you 0:05:10.000 --> 0:05:13.520 were coming to help me, you actually coming to hurt me. Yeah, 0:05:13.720 --> 0:05:17.240 I thought I was getting a raise. Oh y'all firing me? Okay, okay, 0:05:18.240 --> 0:05:21.760 I thought that you were about to propose. Wait a minute, 0:05:21.760 --> 0:05:23.320 you're breaking up with me. Come on, am I the 0:05:23.360 --> 0:05:28.560 only one has ever gotten frustrated or angry, not because 0:05:28.560 --> 0:05:31.679 of what was happening, but because of a preconceived notion 0:05:31.839 --> 0:05:36.560 and idea of what you thought. He said, I thought 0:05:37.040 --> 0:05:38.839 he would surely come out to me and stand and 0:05:38.839 --> 0:05:40.440 calling the name of the Lord is God, and wave 0:05:40.520 --> 0:05:42.600 his hand over the spot and cure me of my leprosy? 0:05:43.000 --> 0:05:45.080 Are not a bana and far part in the rivers 0:05:45.080 --> 0:05:48.000 of Damascus better than all the waters of Israel? Couldn't 0:05:48.000 --> 0:05:50.760 not wash in them and be cleansed? So he turned 0:05:50.800 --> 0:05:55.240 and went off in a rage. The name and servant 0:05:55.240 --> 0:05:58.000 went to him and said, my father, if the prophet 0:05:58.000 --> 0:05:59.680 had told you to do some great thing, would you 0:05:59.760 --> 0:06:02.400 not have done it? How much more then, when he 0:06:02.440 --> 0:06:05.520 tells you to wash and be cleansed, so he went 0:06:05.600 --> 0:06:09.200 down and dipped himself in the Jordans seven times, as 0:06:09.240 --> 0:06:11.799 the Man of God had told him, and his flesh 0:06:11.920 --> 0:06:16.200 was restored and became clean like that of a young boy. 0:06:16.279 --> 0:06:21.640 Can you say, a man, I love this passage. But 0:06:21.760 --> 0:06:25.640 what got my attention is that when Nayman gets the 0:06:25.680 --> 0:06:30.960 prescription for his healing that will stop the leprosy, his 0:06:31.080 --> 0:06:36.080 immediate reaction was anger, and the Bible says that he 0:06:36.680 --> 0:06:42.920 turned and went off. He went off. I want to 0:06:42.920 --> 0:06:45.400 appreciate to you today at Elevation Church for about five 0:06:45.440 --> 0:06:50.800 and a half hours, using this as a title, The 0:06:50.920 --> 0:06:58.839 Cost of going off, The Cost of going off, quick 0:06:58.880 --> 0:07:03.840 sermonic disclaimer. If you have never gone off or been 0:07:03.960 --> 0:07:06.920 tempted to go off, I don't have a message for 0:07:06.960 --> 0:07:11.320 you today. If you have never ever been tempted to 0:07:11.480 --> 0:07:15.640 go off on somebody. If you have never responded to 0:07:15.720 --> 0:07:19.280 an email or a text message with all caps, if 0:07:19.320 --> 0:07:23.120 you have never had somebody say something so sideways to 0:07:23.240 --> 0:07:27.280 you that your nose began to flare, and your eyebrows 0:07:27.320 --> 0:07:30.400 got furled, and your heart began to palpitate. If you 0:07:30.480 --> 0:07:33.880 have never been driving behind somebody that was driving so 0:07:34.000 --> 0:07:36.040 crazy that you had to pull up next to them 0:07:36.040 --> 0:07:41.400 at the stop like just to look at them. You 0:07:41.440 --> 0:07:43.679 ain't never done that. I ain't gonna work for you today. 0:07:43.880 --> 0:07:50.200 Just gone go home? Love offee fail you've ever gone off, 0:07:51.080 --> 0:07:55.680 had rage or anger? I want to talk to you today. 0:07:56.200 --> 0:07:57.960 This is gonna be good. Would you bow your heads? 0:07:58.000 --> 0:08:06.560 Let's pray along. Prayer God, you are awesome, speak today? Amen. 0:08:09.720 --> 0:08:13.800 Are there are there any parents in the house today? 0:08:13.840 --> 0:08:16.120 Any parents? Can I see your hand? Come all the parents? 0:08:16.200 --> 0:08:23.200 Make some noise? Been trying something different? Are there are 0:08:23.240 --> 0:08:26.720 there any single people with our kids in the house? 0:08:27.080 --> 0:08:33.280 Y'all make some noise? Do you notice the difference in 0:08:33.360 --> 0:08:38.320 the screens? See the reason y'all gotta all that NLC 0:08:38.640 --> 0:08:41.640 Because you ain't in the fight of your life. You 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:44.719 don't know the pains. You don't know the struggle it 0:08:44.920 --> 0:08:47.559 is to raise little humans. You don't know what we're 0:08:47.600 --> 0:08:53.320 going through. Of course you can wow because you don't know. Parents. 0:08:53.440 --> 0:08:55.640 I had y'all scream first because I need to see 0:08:55.640 --> 0:08:59.440 what my support group is today. Can't we be honest 0:08:59.480 --> 0:09:02.760 parents that there is nothing more challenging. There was nothing 0:09:02.800 --> 0:09:06.120 more daunting. Yes, this rewarding, but there was nothing more 0:09:06.200 --> 0:09:11.880 daunting than parenting, trying to raise little humans. I have 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:15.440 often said, often said that if you're struggling to have 0:09:15.480 --> 0:09:19.520 a prayer life, have some kids. Just have some kids, 0:09:19.679 --> 0:09:22.640 and I promise you will pray real quick. If you 0:09:22.720 --> 0:09:24.920 want to be an intercessor, then just have a bunch 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:27.800 of kids. And I'm telling you will learn how to 0:09:27.960 --> 0:09:30.120 call on the name of the Father, the Son, and 0:09:30.160 --> 0:09:32.720 the Holy Spirit. You will make a trip to Costco 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:35.480 and get a big bottle of annoint to oil ats 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:40.080 find you a prayer closet, because parenting it is the 0:09:40.120 --> 0:09:42.800 fight of your life. I'm telling you this because I know. 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:45.280 I know. Let me show you my family. We have 0:09:45.440 --> 0:09:47.720 three little humans, we have three kids. Can you put 0:09:47.800 --> 0:09:50.160 up that picture of my family. I want you to see. 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:52.040 I want you to see my family. There it is 0:09:52.160 --> 0:09:55.280 right there. That's my bride and those are our kids. 0:09:55.320 --> 0:10:00.000 Watch the ages here we go, seven, six and four. Yeah, 0:10:00.160 --> 0:10:02.559 pray for your boy. Pray for your boy. It's not 0:10:02.600 --> 0:10:04.600 just their ages. Those are the times that they wake 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:08.240 up throughout the night. And I'm in the fight of 0:10:08.240 --> 0:10:11.199 my life. And I'll be honest with you today, I'm scared. 0:10:11.280 --> 0:10:13.440 I'm scared a little bit because there's nothing more that 0:10:13.520 --> 0:10:16.120 I fear. There's nothing more that I fear than then 0:10:16.200 --> 0:10:21.280 projecting onto these little humans my own idiosyncrasies and my 0:10:21.400 --> 0:10:25.280 own deficiencies, Like I don't want my crazy to cap 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:28.160 their capacity, you know, I want them to be all 0:10:28.240 --> 0:10:31.000 that God has created and called them to be. It is. 0:10:31.040 --> 0:10:34.760 It is challenging to raise children. And shout out to 0:10:34.800 --> 0:10:37.720 all y'all if you got teenagers too, who hadn't even 0:10:37.760 --> 0:10:41.040 got to that stage yet, that's a whole another thing 0:10:41.160 --> 0:10:43.400 right there. You realize in the Bible, in the Bible, 0:10:43.600 --> 0:10:46.160 we only hear about Jesus from birth to twelve and 0:10:46.200 --> 0:10:48.960 then boom, he shows up on the sand at age thirty. 0:10:50.600 --> 0:10:52.880 Even the Bible don't even tell you about Jesus teenage 0:10:52.920 --> 0:10:56.920 years just like are you on, y'awn. It's a challenge. 0:10:57.840 --> 0:11:03.319 It's a challenge to parent. And so uh, I pray, 0:11:03.880 --> 0:11:06.000 I call on the name of the Lord, and I 0:11:06.000 --> 0:11:08.320 also look for resources to read. And I was recently 0:11:08.600 --> 0:11:10.280 reading a book and the title of the book was 0:11:11.000 --> 0:11:15.199 Parenting from the inside Out, Parenting from the inside out, 0:11:15.240 --> 0:11:19.520 And what the book postulates is that parenthood can and 0:11:19.600 --> 0:11:26.559 will trigger the unprocessed emotions of your childhood. Parenthood can 0:11:26.679 --> 0:11:31.040 and will trigger the unprocessed emotions of your childhood. So 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:33.000 what the book says is that if you can heal 0:11:33.600 --> 0:11:37.320 the child that's in every parent, then that parent will 0:11:37.320 --> 0:11:40.520 produce healthier children. So this is the book that I'm 0:11:40.559 --> 0:11:45.120 reading before I take my youngest to kindergarten. First, this 0:11:45.160 --> 0:11:46.560 is what I'm reading before I take him to his 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:48.840 kindergarten class. And I'll never get it. I walk into 0:11:48.840 --> 0:11:51.040 the K five class and his teacher's there, and I'm 0:11:51.040 --> 0:11:52.640 looking through the room, and all of a sudden, I 0:11:52.640 --> 0:11:54.360 saw something in the corner that I've never seen in 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:58.560 the classroom before. I saw this small whiteboard and all 0:11:58.600 --> 0:12:01.800 these little markers, and I asked the teacher, I said, 0:12:01.840 --> 0:12:06.080 what is that. She said, that is the calm down corner. 0:12:07.600 --> 0:12:12.000 Say excuse me, she said, that is the calm down corner. 0:12:12.320 --> 0:12:14.679 She said. These kids are young, their brains are still 0:12:14.679 --> 0:12:17.680 developing to sometimes their emotions get the best of them, 0:12:17.920 --> 0:12:20.040 and whenever they're having a moment, they can go to 0:12:20.120 --> 0:12:22.880 the calm down corner and pick out whatever colors they 0:12:22.920 --> 0:12:26.199 want and they can process their emotions on the board. 0:12:26.240 --> 0:12:28.520 She said, that's the calm down corner. And as soon 0:12:28.559 --> 0:12:31.920 as she said it, I asked her, are these just 0:12:31.960 --> 0:12:37.160 for the kids or can parents us to calm down corner? 0:12:37.160 --> 0:12:39.480 A be honest and this climate we live in, I 0:12:39.559 --> 0:12:42.360 need a calm down corner. Oh, don't look at me 0:12:42.480 --> 0:12:45.679 like that. You need a calm down corner. As a 0:12:45.720 --> 0:12:49.559 matter of fact, I think our world right now needs 0:12:49.600 --> 0:12:54.040 a calm down corner. So is it just me? Does 0:12:54.080 --> 0:12:59.600 it seem like everybody is on edge? Everybody is going off? 0:12:59.640 --> 0:13:02.920 Everybody these patients has worn thin. Fact, I was studying 0:13:02.920 --> 0:13:05.160 for this message and I saw this article, and I 0:13:05.200 --> 0:13:08.280 love the title of this article. It says that watch 0:13:08.400 --> 0:13:14.560 this that adults are throwing tantrums in restaurants, planes, and 0:13:14.600 --> 0:13:18.679 at home. Blame the pandemic, they said, now more than 0:13:18.800 --> 0:13:23.280 ever in our world, at restaurants, at airlines, the customer 0:13:23.320 --> 0:13:25.679 service industry doesn't know what to do. They're calling in 0:13:25.679 --> 0:13:29.440 for extra security because everybody is on edge, everybody's going off, 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:32.560 everybody's blowing up. All of us went through a trauma 0:13:32.720 --> 0:13:36.160 collectively called a pandemic. And you are naive if you 0:13:36.200 --> 0:13:40.400 don't understand how that's affecting your emotions and what's triggering 0:13:40.440 --> 0:13:44.240 you and what's making you go off. So today I'm 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:45.760 going to ask you a question that maybe a preacher's 0:13:45.760 --> 0:13:48.200 never ask you in church today. I want to know 0:13:48.520 --> 0:13:55.920 who how's your anger? How's your anger? What I love 0:13:55.920 --> 0:13:59.199 about this message today is that nobody can dismiss this message. 0:13:59.320 --> 0:14:01.400 I don't care what campus you're at, I don't care 0:14:01.480 --> 0:14:04.160 who you are, where you're watching this from. You cannot 0:14:04.160 --> 0:14:07.439 dismiss this message because I want to talk about anger, 0:14:07.640 --> 0:14:11.840 and then what comes to anger. Anger is a universal emotion. Yeah, 0:14:11.880 --> 0:14:13.199 this is the message. You can say, Oh, I know 0:14:13.240 --> 0:14:15.439 three people that need this, I'm gonna send it to them. No, no, no, 0:14:15.440 --> 0:14:20.080 no no. Anger is a universal emotion. When it comes 0:14:20.160 --> 0:14:22.880 to the issue of anger, the question is not if 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:25.640 you are going to get angry. The question is when 0:14:26.160 --> 0:14:28.880 you get angry, what are you going to do when 0:14:28.880 --> 0:14:33.120 those feelings of rage well up inside of you? Oo 0:14:33.240 --> 0:14:37.280 house your anger? Today, everybody has to face this message today. 0:14:37.280 --> 0:14:39.280 As a matter of fact, you came in the world angry. 0:14:40.160 --> 0:14:42.200 Oh yes, not a single baby came into the world 0:14:42.200 --> 0:14:45.680 calm and collected, saying I'm not gonna yell. I would 0:14:45.760 --> 0:14:49.920 just slic some milk right now, please. No, you came 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:55.840 into the world going screaming and raging, and now we're 0:14:55.880 --> 0:14:58.880 doing it as adults. What are we gonna do about 0:14:58.920 --> 0:15:01.680 this issue of anger? Look at your neighbors, say, I 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:05.160 know this for you today. I know this is for 0:15:05.280 --> 0:15:10.120 you today. What do you do? What do you do 0:15:10.160 --> 0:15:13.160 when you get angry? Let's talk about it. We're just talking. 0:15:13.800 --> 0:15:16.000 What do you do when you get angry? Do you yell? 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:21.160 You kick? You scream? You punch a hole in the wall? 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:27.280 Who use profanity? Because don't answer? What? No? What? No? For? 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:29.800 What do you do when you get out? You explode? Oh? 0:15:29.880 --> 0:15:35.840 Do you leave? Do you leave? Your stormtroopers? Just let you? Oh, 0:15:36.000 --> 0:15:38.560 don't stay at home? Shelters mess up by y'all stormtroopers 0:15:38.880 --> 0:15:40.800 because you couldn't go outside, you had nowhere to go. 0:15:41.520 --> 0:15:44.440 What do you do? Do you just go off and yell? 0:15:44.800 --> 0:15:48.880 I want to talk first to all of you erupts eruptors. Yeah, 0:15:48.880 --> 0:15:52.880 because y'all listening to this message. Erupts, erupts, y'all are crazy, 0:15:53.120 --> 0:15:57.120 because whenever y'all get mad, we know about it, and 0:15:57.160 --> 0:16:01.800 we know it quickly. Because you explode, eruptors, y'all go off. 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:05.080 You will throw a staple across the cubicle. You will 0:16:05.080 --> 0:16:08.160 throw a chair, you erupt and eruptors, y'all are funny 0:16:08.320 --> 0:16:10.880 because after you go off, you look back at yourself, 0:16:10.920 --> 0:16:12.720 once you've calmed down for a minute, and you go, oh, 0:16:12.760 --> 0:16:15.520 my goodness, did I just do that? Did I just 0:16:15.560 --> 0:16:18.320 do that? Did I just walk up on stage and slap? 0:16:18.400 --> 0:16:20.760 Did I do that? Did I just what did I? 0:16:21.600 --> 0:16:25.000 Because once you come down, you realize what in the 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:28.160 world did I just do? And I laugh at y'all. 0:16:28.160 --> 0:16:31.280 I laughed at y'all because you are crazy. You are 0:16:31.360 --> 0:16:34.840 crazy because you understand it is impossible for you to 0:16:34.920 --> 0:16:39.600 function and wisdom and anger at the same time. The 0:16:39.720 --> 0:16:41.520 a lot the Book of Proverbs. The Book of Proverbs 0:16:41.560 --> 0:16:45.080 is replete with scriptures about anger, about anger and how 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:47.520 you handle it. I love this verse in Proverbs fourteen. 0:16:47.760 --> 0:16:51.320 It says people with understanding control their anger. A hot 0:16:51.360 --> 0:16:58.680 temper shows great foolishness. Translation, you are craig ray when 0:16:58.720 --> 0:17:02.120 you get angry. And I laugh at you erupts when 0:17:02.160 --> 0:17:06.080 you explode. I judge you erupts when you explode. I 0:17:06.160 --> 0:17:10.439 do you know why, Because I'm not an erupt I 0:17:10.520 --> 0:17:14.919 am what you call a stuffer and stuffers we are 0:17:14.920 --> 0:17:18.240 different than those erupters because stuffers whenever we get mad, 0:17:18.280 --> 0:17:21.040 we don't kick, we don't yell, we don't scream, We 0:17:21.200 --> 0:17:23.720 just calmly say. Even when you ask us, are you mad, 0:17:23.880 --> 0:17:28.920 we will look at you and go, no, I'm not mad. No, No, 0:17:29.040 --> 0:17:35.919 I'm fine, I am fine, It's okay. It happens. And 0:17:36.040 --> 0:17:39.240 all while we're saying it, we are ruminating and rehearsing 0:17:39.600 --> 0:17:43.760 over every single thing that you did. We cannot believe 0:17:43.800 --> 0:17:46.720 you had the nerve and the audacity to do it. 0:17:46.920 --> 0:17:50.119 And we are smiling telling you I'm fine. But all 0:17:50.200 --> 0:17:53.200 the while we are pushing it down into the basement 0:17:53.240 --> 0:17:57.679 of our soul until it becomes a cantanguerous cesspool of bitterness, 0:17:57.880 --> 0:18:00.880 and we will isolate and pull away a mom all 0:18:01.000 --> 0:18:06.480 while we're smiling and saying I'm fine. Oh, and stuffers 0:18:06.560 --> 0:18:10.760 might be worse than eruptors because all that stuffing. Your 0:18:10.880 --> 0:18:15.879 physical body can't even handle the stuffing. Do your research. 0:18:16.240 --> 0:18:19.720 Scientists and the medical community will tell you that anger 0:18:19.920 --> 0:18:24.560 does more damage to your physical body than grief or anxiety. 0:18:24.960 --> 0:18:28.080 Anger will give you a heart attack, Anger will destroy 0:18:28.160 --> 0:18:31.360 your nervous system, Anger will mess up your blood pressure, 0:18:31.640 --> 0:18:35.080 anger will aid you. Oh yeah, you can forgive bout 0:18:35.119 --> 0:18:40.719 all that exfoliation. Just keep getting mad. You'll mess up 0:18:40.760 --> 0:18:47.199 your skin and your life. Stuffing down the anger and 0:18:47.280 --> 0:18:52.679 even erupters, and even stuffers become erupts. So I have 0:18:52.800 --> 0:18:56.800 the inevitability of anger, and I can't rupt, and I 0:18:56.840 --> 0:19:00.680 can't stuff, Then what do I do with it? If 0:19:00.720 --> 0:19:05.280 it's coming? I've learned that anger it's much like having 0:19:05.280 --> 0:19:09.439 a toddler in the car how me. You know you 0:19:09.520 --> 0:19:16.439 don't want that toddler behind the steering wheel eruptors. You 0:19:16.520 --> 0:19:24.720 also don't want that toddler in the trunk stuffers. What 0:19:24.840 --> 0:19:29.400 you want is to put that toddler in a car seat, 0:19:30.480 --> 0:19:34.560 buckled in and periodically check in the rearview mirror to 0:19:34.680 --> 0:19:38.840 make sure it is in its proper place. God says, 0:19:38.960 --> 0:19:42.920 I want you to use that emotion that I gave 0:19:43.119 --> 0:19:47.520 and created, anger to be in its proper place. Anger 0:19:47.800 --> 0:19:50.919 has a proper place. But if anger is not in 0:19:50.960 --> 0:19:54.280 its proper place, hear me, you will destroy your destiny. 0:19:54.520 --> 0:19:57.120 You will mess up the call of God on your life. 0:19:57.240 --> 0:20:00.880 You will forfeit your purpose if you don't get your 0:20:01.200 --> 0:20:05.880 anger in its proper place. You don't believe me. Ask Moses, 0:20:06.480 --> 0:20:09.080 who missed out on a promised land that he was 0:20:09.160 --> 0:20:12.800 able to see but not enter into. Why because of 0:20:12.840 --> 0:20:17.840 the frustration, the agitation that made him go off. I'm 0:20:17.880 --> 0:20:22.679 wondering today, are you forfeiting your promise because you haven't 0:20:22.920 --> 0:20:27.040 put anger in its proper place? I love the Apostle Paul. 0:20:27.080 --> 0:20:30.520 Y'all good. I love the Apostle Paul and Ephesian chapter four. 0:20:30.600 --> 0:20:34.040 The Apostle Paul, in brevity, actually gives us the biblical 0:20:34.080 --> 0:20:37.240 worldview of anger. In Ephesian chapter four, verse twenty six. 0:20:37.560 --> 0:20:40.840 What Paul says, he says, be angry and do not sin. 0:20:41.680 --> 0:20:43.919 He says, do not let the sun go down on 0:20:43.960 --> 0:20:46.600 your wrath. In other words, when it comes to anger 0:20:46.960 --> 0:20:49.320 from a Biblical perspective, the goal is not to get 0:20:49.400 --> 0:20:52.040 rid of the anger. God does not call for you 0:20:52.400 --> 0:20:55.240 to just stop getting angry. No, because he just said, 0:20:55.560 --> 0:20:58.040 be angry still a holy ghost. Two step on that 0:20:58.119 --> 0:21:01.560 right there. You can get angry, he said, But don't 0:21:01.600 --> 0:21:04.080 let that anger lead you to sin. In other words, 0:21:04.119 --> 0:21:06.879 anger has its proper place because if you never get 0:21:06.960 --> 0:21:11.200 angry about anything, then you don't love anything. You don't 0:21:11.240 --> 0:21:13.120 love anything. As a matter of fact, if you want 0:21:13.160 --> 0:21:15.760 to check what you really love, watch what you get 0:21:15.800 --> 0:21:19.720 angry about. Whatever you get angry about is the sign 0:21:19.880 --> 0:21:21.760 of the thing that you really love. If you care 0:21:21.760 --> 0:21:24.920 about your image, anytime somebody attexts your image, you're gonna 0:21:24.960 --> 0:21:28.439 explode because that's what you love. Whatever you love is 0:21:28.480 --> 0:21:30.359 the thing that will get a reaction out of you 0:21:30.520 --> 0:21:33.240 and get angry. So Christians aren't called to not have anger. 0:21:33.359 --> 0:21:35.040 As a matter of fact, gusts, I want you to 0:21:35.080 --> 0:21:38.040 have anger, but use anger in its proper place. As 0:21:38.080 --> 0:21:40.000 a matter of fact, there are things we should see 0:21:40.040 --> 0:21:42.800 in the world that actually make us angry. We should 0:21:42.840 --> 0:21:46.680 be angry about poverty. We should be angry about injustice, 0:21:46.840 --> 0:21:50.480 we should be angry about people who are abused and marginalized. 0:21:50.560 --> 0:21:52.439 But we shouldn't get angry just to get angry. We 0:21:52.440 --> 0:21:54.720 should get angry and say, God, I'm gonna be a 0:21:54.840 --> 0:21:57.480 light in the midst of darkness. I'm gonna do something 0:21:57.520 --> 0:22:00.440 about it. I'm gonna make a change in the earth. God, 0:22:00.520 --> 0:22:02.280 you didn't call me to just come to church and 0:22:02.359 --> 0:22:05.040 listen to sermons and same songs off a screen like 0:22:05.040 --> 0:22:08.280 it's Christian karaoke. No, you called me to bring the 0:22:08.440 --> 0:22:12.480 Kingdom on Heaven into the earth and affect every sphere 0:22:12.600 --> 0:22:16.040 of society and that step into let that anger push 0:22:16.080 --> 0:22:20.600 you to do something. Oh, don't you forget your God? 0:22:20.880 --> 0:22:23.880 That one day cleared a whole temple because they were 0:22:23.880 --> 0:22:26.760 making it difficult for people to worship God. And he said, 0:22:26.800 --> 0:22:29.280 don't you know my house will be a house of prayer. 0:22:29.520 --> 0:22:32.160 Don't you ever stop people from coming in the house 0:22:32.200 --> 0:22:34.720 of God and lifting up my name. I will turn 0:22:34.760 --> 0:22:39.040 over tables and kick people out. I get angry sometime, 0:22:40.680 --> 0:22:44.240 so this is not a call to passivity. Doll says, 0:22:44.240 --> 0:22:47.159 you can get angry, but make sure that anger is 0:22:47.200 --> 0:22:53.280 in its proper place. Woo. Anger is interesting because what 0:22:53.400 --> 0:22:57.080 makes you angry doesn't make me angry. What makes her 0:22:57.119 --> 0:23:00.680 angry doesn't make her angry. This is what triguing about 0:23:00.720 --> 0:23:04.640 anger is that it is ubiquitous, but it is unique. 0:23:04.680 --> 0:23:06.800 And that's why you have to understand it. Because a 0:23:06.840 --> 0:23:08.640 lot of people will think, well, if they hadn't said it, 0:23:08.720 --> 0:23:12.359 I wouldn't have done it. Now they don't want to 0:23:12.400 --> 0:23:14.640 cut me off. Now you saw I could have died, 0:23:16.600 --> 0:23:18.520 and then the fundy whenever you get angry about someonever 0:23:18.520 --> 0:23:21.640 you go off. We always try to blame the external factors, 0:23:22.960 --> 0:23:25.720 but if it's really the external factor. How come what 0:23:25.880 --> 0:23:30.560 made you go off didn't make somebody else go off. See, 0:23:30.560 --> 0:23:33.040 this is what we don't understand that anger is a 0:23:33.200 --> 0:23:39.000 secondary emotion. Whenever somebody goes off, it's really about what 0:23:39.040 --> 0:23:43.040 they're going off about. It's always something deeper. As a 0:23:43.080 --> 0:23:45.200 matter of fact, when it comes to anger, you can't 0:23:45.240 --> 0:23:48.640 look at anger. You have to look under it because 0:23:48.640 --> 0:23:53.040 there's always something deeper. Which brings me to my text today. 0:23:53.359 --> 0:24:00.000 Who all of that was intro? I'm confused. I'm confused 0:24:00.800 --> 0:24:05.760 about naming because this is a man who has a leprosy, 0:24:05.920 --> 0:24:11.040 the incurable skin disease of leprosy, the disease that there 0:24:11.119 --> 0:24:13.400 is no cure, the disease that starts off in your 0:24:13.400 --> 0:24:17.000 skin and spreads all over your entire body. A disease 0:24:17.040 --> 0:24:20.439 that had social ramifications because as soon as you had it, 0:24:20.600 --> 0:24:23.200 you had to isolate yourself from people. You had to 0:24:23.240 --> 0:24:27.000 tell people, I'm unclean. You were stripped away from your family, 0:24:27.160 --> 0:24:29.920