WEBVTT - RHONJ's Melissa Gorga

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<v Speaker 1>Hellotle, my gorgeous humans. It's your friend, Lala Kent. What

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<v Speaker 1>is good Jessica Walter?

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<v Speaker 2>Hi, Lala Kent.

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<v Speaker 1>How are you?

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<v Speaker 2>How are you feeling?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm feeling happy today.

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<v Speaker 3>Are you?

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<v Speaker 2>How is your weekend?

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<v Speaker 1>My weekend was awesome. Okay. I went to my friend

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<v Speaker 1>Janet's engagement party. That was fabulous. I took Ocean with me.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm that girl who was like, you have a baby

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<v Speaker 1>in a bar? You have a baby?

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<v Speaker 3>Wait?

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<v Speaker 2>What is that from?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>I took her and she loved it. She loved every minute,

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<v Speaker 1>she loved the music. She was a vibe. She was

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<v Speaker 1>the most popular one there besides the bride to be Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>and then thank you mom my. Mom brought in a

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<v Speaker 1>sweatshirt for me, closed the motherfucking door out. I'm just kidding.

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<v Speaker 1>I love you. And then last night I had a

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<v Speaker 1>really fun time. I went and had girl time. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to talk to everyone about what my girl

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<v Speaker 1>time consisted of. But before we get super into that,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to remind everybody that I'm going on tour.

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<v Speaker 1>You're welcome. I'm going on tour. We're gonna start in Irvine, California.

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<v Speaker 1>Then we are hitting Fort Lauderdale, Clearwater, Orlando, Atlanta, Nashville,

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<v Speaker 1>New Orleans, Houston, Austin, and Dallas. I'm so excited. The

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<v Speaker 1>tour is going to be amazing. It's the Give Them

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<v Speaker 1>La La brand new tour, very interactive. We just had

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<v Speaker 1>a meeting with the tour management and talked about everything

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<v Speaker 1>that this tour will consist of, and I'm so excited

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<v Speaker 1>for the segments.

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<v Speaker 4>Hey guys, Lalla is bringing it on this tour. If

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<v Speaker 4>you don't have your tickets, buy them now. Because I

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<v Speaker 4>was like I was sitting in on the meeting freaking

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<v Speaker 4>out of.

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<v Speaker 1>Everything she was saying she was gonna do.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>We it was like I had it in my head

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<v Speaker 1>and then we put it down on paper and we

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<v Speaker 1>were like sitting there having these really good salads, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was just like, Bam, this is what we're doing

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<v Speaker 1>this segment. And I literally had chills. Everyone else had chills.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I'm a fucking genius and everyone coming

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<v Speaker 1>to the show is going to have such a fun

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<v Speaker 1>time and I'm going to have such a fun time

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<v Speaker 1>with everybody. Yes, So if you do not have your

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<v Speaker 1>tickets yet, go to give them live dot com and

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<v Speaker 1>if you purchase tickets that were for the old tour.

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<v Speaker 1>Those tickets are still valid and I can't wait to

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<v Speaker 1>see all of you because I love you so much.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's talk about my girl time last night. Let's hear it.

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<v Speaker 1>It was all about sex, love it all about it. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So there were five of us. Katie is obviously married,

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<v Speaker 1>so and then the other girl just got into a relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>So the three of us were newly single, like newly single,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, it gets weird. It gets weird when

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<v Speaker 1>you've been in a relationship for a long time and

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<v Speaker 1>that's the sexual partner that you know, unless you're a

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<v Speaker 1>fuck wad and you creep around, which I do not

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<v Speaker 1>unless you haven't asked. Like Ariannas, I'm tapping that ship.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just kidding. But I'm on a roll today. We

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<v Speaker 1>have a listed Gorgon on the podcast today. I have.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like on a roll you are. So I'm sitting

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<v Speaker 1>here talking to these fine ladies about being single and

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<v Speaker 1>like what sex is going to be like, and we're

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<v Speaker 1>very open about it all. You know. It's like I

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<v Speaker 1>felt bad for the waiter, not so bad for him

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<v Speaker 1>there at a restaurant and the first thing that comes

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<v Speaker 1>up is Oh my god, you guys, I have not

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<v Speaker 1>had sober sex with a new partner probably since I

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<v Speaker 1>was seven. I was sober when I lost my virginity,

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<v Speaker 1>but after that, yeah, I'm a drinker girl, Like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a bag of fun. Okay, but I've been sober for

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<v Speaker 1>over three years and I had the same partner for

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<v Speaker 1>almost six of those.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and then before that, you're saying most of your

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<v Speaker 4>sex was when you were drunk or a couple drinks

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<v Speaker 4>in like what is no.

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<v Speaker 1>Like meet the guy, look at him, the eye contact. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>few drinks, and it is on. It is on what

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<v Speaker 1>you want to do? Tell me? Yeah, throw me into

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<v Speaker 1>a glass window. Awesome, Awesome, We're ready. You really don't

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<v Speaker 1>do that. But I was like, whatever, I'm down.

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<v Speaker 4>Because and you feel like that alcohol. You don't feel

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<v Speaker 4>like you would have been like that if you were sober.

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<v Speaker 1>Well I know for a fact, I wouldn't be like

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<v Speaker 1>that because I've had sex sober, oh, which I couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>wait for it to be over most of the time.

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<v Speaker 1>So maybe that could be it. Okay, all right, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it probably was it. Yeah. So not only is it that,

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm going into new territory where it's like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to be banging it out without an ounce of

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<v Speaker 1>alcohol in my system. Yeah. However, I think it's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be fun because I've been like talking to a few people, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, I fucking got it. Yeah, you still

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<v Speaker 1>got it? I still got it.

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<v Speaker 2>You think it'll be fun? What do you think the

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<v Speaker 2>difference will be?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, first of all, I love nipple play, okay, And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a little concerned because do I warn the dude, like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I lack tape. You could be into that if you

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<v Speaker 1>are go to town put it in your mouth?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Or do I tell like, do I tell them that

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<v Speaker 1>that happens so that they can say, fun, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>try it out, or like avoid that area reight my mouth?

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe they just want to do a little Hong Kong.

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<v Speaker 4>I definitely say I would say something because here's the

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<v Speaker 4>two things. I feel like, it's a win win. Number one,

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<v Speaker 4>you're telling a guy what you want sexually. Always a win,

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<v Speaker 4>always a win right. Number two, they might love it

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<v Speaker 4>and they might it might turn them on. And number

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<v Speaker 4>number three, if you tell them and they're not into it,

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<v Speaker 4>then there you go. No one's shocked, No one's accidentally

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<v Speaker 4>getting milk squirted in their face.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, yeah, no, I know, and I get suited. Like,

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<v Speaker 1>to me, that's a turn on, Like when I think

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<v Speaker 1>about like a dude there, Yeah, that happening. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>that's hot. And it tastes like almond milk. It's really good.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so good.

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<v Speaker 2>Does it squirt?

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<v Speaker 4>Because I had no idea, Like I think you mentioned

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<v Speaker 4>it and I was like, wait, you see you're still

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<v Speaker 4>lac taba.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh if you got a grown man's mouth on there. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he gave a good pull. Oh it's gonna get's shoot it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's right. It's like a little tiny it's almost like

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<v Speaker 1>you a pinhole in a balloon. Yeah that time, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>where it's like yes, yeah, that's what it's like.

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<v Speaker 4>It might be honestly a turn on more than you think,

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<v Speaker 4>Like Kyle, he can't wait until I'm pregnant because like

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<v Speaker 4>he's like, I am going to town.

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<v Speaker 1>And it free.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like, no, that's so strange. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 4>watch you do that. But you're saying like that's something

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<v Speaker 4>you want to watch.

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<v Speaker 1>I definitely want to watch that. See.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's Valley more of a turn on than

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<v Speaker 2>you think.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I'm into that. Yeah, but the other thing is Jess,

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm gonna be so vulnerable right now. I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm I'm ready to like the texting game is

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<v Speaker 1>where it's at, and like I'm not a weirdo, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I don't sext, right, I don't sext I'm thirty fucking one, right,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a grown ass woman. Yes, we're not sexting. If

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<v Speaker 1>I want to sext, you just come.

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<v Speaker 4>Over right, you might touch it, right, I'm not gonna pretend,

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<v Speaker 4>so I.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't do this sexting thing. I can flirt and I

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<v Speaker 1>can give like the cute little like that's the direction

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<v Speaker 1>I would like to go with you in my bed,

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<v Speaker 1>right sexting though it ain't happening. Of better things to do?

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<v Speaker 1>Where was I going with this thought.

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<v Speaker 4>We were talking about talking about you said, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 4>be very vulnerable.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, I don't think I'm like I'm still in

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<v Speaker 1>this zone of like I can text dudes or whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>but like I don't feel right about leaving my kid

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<v Speaker 1>behind to go on a date yet, Like I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>not there And there could be people that say there's

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<v Speaker 1>nothing wrong with that, like you deserve to go and

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<v Speaker 1>do that. I just don't want to do that. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>take time away from ocean to go with my girlfriends

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<v Speaker 1>and like blow off some steam and have girl time.

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<v Speaker 1>That I will do. I feel like that's good for

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<v Speaker 1>my soul and my heart. A dude, I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>about all that right now. Yeah, but I have a

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<v Speaker 1>consultation about getting these tig old biddies done, okay, right, okay, right,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm excited for that. Once I get some new

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<v Speaker 1>fun bag twins, I may be ready to roll out,

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<v Speaker 1>right right.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah, yes, suh, I'm interested in that. Okay, I'm

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<v Speaker 4>interested in that. Would you say you're getting your boobs

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<v Speaker 4>done for yourself or men?

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<v Speaker 1>By the by the sound of it, it sounds like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm getting my boobs done for men. But it's getting

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<v Speaker 1>my boobs done for me because then I you know

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<v Speaker 1>when they say kids suck the life out of your

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<v Speaker 1>boobs if you choose to breastfeed or if you're even

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<v Speaker 1>able to, they literally suck the life out of them.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I got some I got some cute little boobies,

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<v Speaker 1>right yeah, but it looks they they're they're small now,

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<v Speaker 1>they're they're not the boobies that I had before Ocean,

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<v Speaker 1>and they for damn tarn't the boobies I had when

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<v Speaker 1>I was pregnant or breastfeating Ocean read two hours. They

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<v Speaker 1>were massive, massive, and I loved them.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, so you're getting them done, well, I mean it

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<v Speaker 4>makes sense here.

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<v Speaker 1>Myself, and then I'm gonna be generous enough to share them.

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<v Speaker 1>To share them fine ass men?

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<v Speaker 2>So do you think that's the only thing holding you back?

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<v Speaker 4>Like, you know, well, I'm not comfortable going on dates

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<v Speaker 4>now because I think I'd get horny and want to

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<v Speaker 4>have sex and like, my boobs aren't done yet. Do

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<v Speaker 4>you think once you get your boobs done, it's like

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<v Speaker 4>go time or do you think it's just it's it's

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<v Speaker 4>too much?

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<v Speaker 1>No, I think you would think that by what I'm saying. Definitely,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm all over the place today. No, but it's good.

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<v Speaker 3>Now.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to break it down because I like like

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<v Speaker 1>making funny jokes, right, but for real, mentally, I'm not there. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>once I get my boobs done, I probably still won't

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<v Speaker 1>be there, but I'm excited for that.

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<v Speaker 2>For me, I love that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's like the bounce back. It's like, ooh, there's

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<v Speaker 1>nothing hotter than like a hot mom. It's like, right,

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<v Speaker 1>she's fine. Oh, and she's like a human being, right,

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<v Speaker 1>Like she popped a baby out of that cookie, right,

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<v Speaker 1>bad ass?

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<v Speaker 4>I know, and there's more hot moms. Maybe it's just

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<v Speaker 4>like I don't know, I feel like there's more hot

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<v Speaker 4>moms today than there has ever been, and.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want it. We don't even have to pop

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<v Speaker 1>that out of your own cookie. It's just like when

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<v Speaker 1>someone becomes the mom, it's like you are suddenly the

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<v Speaker 1>hottest human I've ever seen.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, right, And I think that's great. Confidence is the

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<v Speaker 2>hottest thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I just want boobies. You just want boobies.

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<v Speaker 4>She's saying that to someone who's like has like ten

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<v Speaker 4>times smaller boobs than her.

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<v Speaker 1>I've seen your boy. You have a great ass. And

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<v Speaker 1>I asked my gusbands. I said, how long do I

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<v Speaker 1>work on my ass before I say fuck it? I'm

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<v Speaker 1>injecting it right? What did? What did? They say? They're like,

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<v Speaker 1>give it three months? Three months? That seems kind of low.

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<v Speaker 4>I love that they like that answer, because I would

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<v Speaker 4>have been like, oh my, it's getting it's looking great.

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<v Speaker 4>But the gusbands are like ninety days and then go

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<v Speaker 4>get it in if it's not looking at the way

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<v Speaker 4>I want.

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<v Speaker 1>So I don't know. I mean, who knows. I'm looking

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<v Speaker 1>at all these Mommy makeover things right the ass though

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<v Speaker 1>I want it as its own planet. But I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know that I have that build. But when I see

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<v Speaker 1>those girls with those huge butts, I get so jealous.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, it's so hot.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, your butt has grown.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like in the past two week, like there's

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<v Speaker 4>all of a sudden, You're leggings and I'm like, whoa,

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<v Speaker 4>what is going on back there?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, because it used to be flat as bored, so

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<v Speaker 1>I had the I had such a bomb booty when

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<v Speaker 1>I was working out, and then at twenty weeks I

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<v Speaker 1>was placed on bed rest with ocean. I couldn't maintain

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<v Speaker 1>working out anymore. And then you have the kid and

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<v Speaker 1>we go straight into film me and it's like I'm tired.

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<v Speaker 1>Like the last thing I want to go and do

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<v Speaker 1>is work out right now, right, So I'm just starting.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's been like two weeks that I got

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<v Speaker 1>in that I've been in the gym.

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<v Speaker 2>But it shows, but it is.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I want to keep my flat stomach and grow

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<v Speaker 1>a fat ass.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So if any of you guys know how to do that,

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<v Speaker 1>can you please call me at one eight sixty six

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<v Speaker 1>D or if you know a good doctor who can

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<v Speaker 1>inject this flatty, I will take that route if necessary.

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<v Speaker 1>I will do anything for some tigle bennies and a

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<v Speaker 1>big booby.

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<v Speaker 4>Updated on that in ninety days exactly three months.

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<v Speaker 1>After three months, if I don't see Kim k results,

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<v Speaker 1>we are into the doctor perfect. I love it. So

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<v Speaker 1>I have a really dope guest today, Melissa Gorga. I

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<v Speaker 1>have a crush on her, I do. She's so beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>She's beautiful, yes, and I love her husband Joe. I

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<v Speaker 1>love their dynamic. I love her as to see her

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<v Speaker 1>as a mama and just like their family is.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, you know you have hot moms. How many kids

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<v Speaker 2>does she have?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, she is a hot mom. She just three and

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<v Speaker 1>they're like grown. Ye're grown. So I'm excited to talk

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<v Speaker 1>to her. I want to, you know, dig into the

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<v Speaker 1>new season of Real house Sives of New Jersey because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a huge never met a housewives franchise that I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't like. I watched every single one of them, so perfect.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a fangirl. Before we have Melissa Gorga the foinest

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<v Speaker 1>on the podcast. Part one of the Vanner Pump Rules

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<v Speaker 1>Reunion aired last night. Part two will air tonight. It's

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<v Speaker 1>definitely juicy. I've seen both of them. There are things

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<v Speaker 1>that I want to address because obviously, you know, we

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<v Speaker 1>filmed for a really long time. You gotta chop everything

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<v Speaker 1>up and make things not really make sense. But what

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<v Speaker 1>is the the most entertaining of everything we filmed? So

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<v Speaker 1>some of the shit doesn't really like add up. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>It's like things were said and I'm gonna spill the

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<v Speaker 1>tea on why they were said. I said what I said. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>so there's that. Next week, I'm going all out on

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<v Speaker 1>segment one of the podcast. Oh, no one is safe, Jessica,

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<v Speaker 1>No one's safe.

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<v Speaker 4>So next week you're going to talk about reunion part

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<v Speaker 4>one and part two.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I love it. That's just a little teaser. Just

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<v Speaker 1>a little teaser. And you know what, don't come for

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<v Speaker 1>me unless I send for you, all right, she said it.

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<v Speaker 1>These hoes want to go toes and then when I react,

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<v Speaker 1>they don't like it too much. Yeah, well, we'll see

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<v Speaker 1>how much they like the tam about to spill next week.

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<v Speaker 1>With that being said, we will be right back. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>on a fucking what is happening? I'll be back to

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<v Speaker 1>normal soon. I promise We'll be right back with Melissa Gorga.

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<v Speaker 1>We are back. We have Melissa Gorga. Hello, gorgeous, Hi pretty,

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<v Speaker 1>how are you? We're so good. I'm so excited to

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<v Speaker 1>have you. We've been trying to get this on the

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<v Speaker 1>books for a minute, and here you are.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm here live from New Jersey. What's going on? I know,

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like I spoke to you not that long ago.

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<v Speaker 1>You have.

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<v Speaker 3>I just want to tell you that every time I

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<v Speaker 3>jump on Instagram, all I see is your face. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>are you like losing it right now? Because you are

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<v Speaker 3>like on everything E News, this that like, there's so

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<v Speaker 3>much talk about you right now.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I mean, I don't know if that's a good

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<v Speaker 1>thing or a bad thing, but you know, we'll we'll

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<v Speaker 1>just take it and move on. I try not to look.

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<v Speaker 1>Every time I see my face on the Explore page,

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<v Speaker 1>I refresh immediately.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, well I'm not saying say much bad about you.

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<v Speaker 3>I'll just say that, but well then that's good. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So the new season, you're you're feeling excited?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I can't believe we're in season twelve. I always say,

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<v Speaker 3>it's crazy. I've been doing this show literally since my

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<v Speaker 3>daughter is four and she's sixteen, so it's just crazy.

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<v Speaker 3>You're actually going to see her sweet sixteen this year.

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<v Speaker 3>So to believe, like just to even know that I

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<v Speaker 3>have a sixteen year old daughter for me is like crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>It's crazy for us to because I feel like that's

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<v Speaker 1>why we all feel like we know you. I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>fan of your show obviously, even though I'm on Bravo,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm also a huge Bravo fan. And to see your

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<v Speaker 1>Instagram and your kids that we've been watching since they

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<v Speaker 1>were children, I mean, that's gotta be so weird and

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<v Speaker 1>kind of make you sad.

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<v Speaker 3>It is. It's crazy when I see like, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>you know the Bravo fans. I mean, I know I'm

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<v Speaker 3>talking to you here, so you know the Bravo fans.

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<v Speaker 3>They are intense. They are in there. So they will

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<v Speaker 3>send me dms and videos of you know, the little

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<v Speaker 3>memes and gifts of like my children from when they

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<v Speaker 3>were little, and I literally want to like cry. They'll

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<v Speaker 3>put little videos together like oh remember this from season

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<v Speaker 3>three or season four, and I look at my kids

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm like, oh my god, they were babies, and

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<v Speaker 3>it's like I feel like that is the good part.

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<v Speaker 3>I guess it being on reality TV with the kids,

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<v Speaker 3>it's like I have a lot of those memories documented

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<v Speaker 3>and like, you know, it's not like we my father

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<v Speaker 3>used to walk around with that VHS recorder thing, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>that big old like big that, but like I have Bravo,

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<v Speaker 3>Like I can turn on any season and get like

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<v Speaker 3>a funny little scene of my kids like running through

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<v Speaker 3>my house or screaming or something. So it's crazy. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>we're just like I can't believe how long this season

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<v Speaker 3>has been. And this season, let me just tell you,

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<v Speaker 3>is like drama season for real. Like I know, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>not here to be like, oh my god, it's the

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<v Speaker 3>best season ever, because I hate when people do that

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<v Speaker 3>every season, but this one really is like it brings

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<v Speaker 3>back like the old school. Like I'm like I saw

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<v Speaker 3>the trailer and I'm like, this is giving me like

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<v Speaker 3>mom wives vibes. What's happening here? They were everybody's like

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<v Speaker 3>it's high that the tensions are high, and it's because

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<v Speaker 3>it's about a lot about relationships and when people what

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<v Speaker 3>makes you more mad than when someone talks about like

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<v Speaker 3>your husband, your boyfriend and your family. Like so that's

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of what this season is about relationships. So

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<v Speaker 3>everyone's like losing their shit.

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<v Speaker 1>I noticed that in the trailer. And nothing will make

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<v Speaker 1>you comfort someone harder than when they come for you know,

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<v Speaker 1>your man or the person that you're with. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been there before. And do you ever get anxiety

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<v Speaker 1>before a new season airs, because you know you're if

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if they do it the same for you.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean we don't get to see the episodes like

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<v Speaker 1>way before the rest of everybody else. I mean you

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<v Speaker 1>see the episode maybe a couple of days before it airs,

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<v Speaker 1>and you don't have much time to process it, and

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<v Speaker 1>we don't know what it's gonna look like, like the

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<v Speaker 1>editing process. So do you do you get a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit of anxiety or are you so used to it

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<v Speaker 1>at this point.

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<v Speaker 3>I only get anxiety when it's about the family drama.

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<v Speaker 3>That is the only thing I get anxiety about. So

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<v Speaker 3>this very first episode, like the first couple episodes, there's

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<v Speaker 3>family drama between Joe and like Teresa and Gia, and

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<v Speaker 3>just like a little bit of the family drama drops

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<v Speaker 3>in there the first couple, So that gives me anxiety

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<v Speaker 3>because I never want people to take it the wrong way.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like, the reason people love Jersey is because we

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<v Speaker 3>do put it all out there with our family and

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<v Speaker 3>it's raw, it's real. But you know, it's hard because

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<v Speaker 3>we're all going to you know, I'm gonna see Teresa Sunday.

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<v Speaker 3>We're all gonna have we're all going to go to

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<v Speaker 3>her house for dinner to eat, and it's like, you know,

0:20:30.800 --> 0:20:33.119
<v Speaker 3>it's like if we're watching something on TV and we

0:20:33.160 --> 0:20:36.040
<v Speaker 3>say things in these interviews, right, and then you go

0:20:36.080 --> 0:20:39.320
<v Speaker 3>and have dinner. It's awkward, it's weird. It's like you

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<v Speaker 3>have to really differentiate sometimes the show from like Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>well that's what we were going through six months ago,

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<v Speaker 3>but today we're going to have dinner because we remember,

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<v Speaker 3>we made up. We're good today, like we got through

0:20:50.280 --> 0:20:54.600
<v Speaker 3>that situation. But it's hard while it's airing because that's

0:20:54.600 --> 0:20:57.399
<v Speaker 3>always the tough part because you're watching what you already

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<v Speaker 3>got through six months ago, you know, and when your

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<v Speaker 3>family now, you guys like you can be like screw

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<v Speaker 3>you see you when you film, see when I film,

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<v Speaker 3>But like, we can't do that. We go to Christmases together,

0:21:06.960 --> 0:21:09.400
<v Speaker 3>we have birthdays. It's Gia just turned twenty one. I'm

0:21:09.400 --> 0:21:11.359
<v Speaker 3>going to her house to have dinner. Like it's like,

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<v Speaker 3>this is what we do. So the show is hard

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<v Speaker 3>with the family dynamic. It's definitely hard.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, and you know you also watch it back because yes,

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<v Speaker 1>we live it. But then you get to see what

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<v Speaker 1>everyone said in their little confessionals and you're like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my gosh, that's stupid, bitch, and like it brings up

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<v Speaker 1>a whole new, you know, can of emotions because you're like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>like I got that. We were, you know, at each

0:21:37.640 --> 0:21:39.879
<v Speaker 1>other's throats. But then you're in your confessional and then

0:21:39.920 --> 0:21:42.760
<v Speaker 1>you're saying this to whoever, and it is you have

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<v Speaker 1>to relive everything. And for you, I feel like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you've dealt with family drama in past seasons and it's

0:21:52.119 --> 0:21:54.840
<v Speaker 1>always giving you anxiety. I mean it would give anyone anxiety,

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<v Speaker 1>but like you've dropped to your knees begging for that

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<v Speaker 1>to stop. So like, what is your outlet? Like how

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<v Speaker 1>I know you say you have to differentiate the difference

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<v Speaker 1>between like real life and real life, you know, the

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<v Speaker 1>one on camera and the one that is not on camera,

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<v Speaker 1>like how do you do that? Does Joe help you

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<v Speaker 1>do that?

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<v Speaker 3>No, I feel like we're pros at it at this point.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like we've learned and even you know, within

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<v Speaker 3>our own family dynamic. I mean really like I feel

0:22:23.560 --> 0:22:26.199
<v Speaker 3>like the Gorgas and the judea Ice is really you know,

0:22:26.400 --> 0:22:29.320
<v Speaker 3>we've held that show for so long because we've given

0:22:29.680 --> 0:22:32.600
<v Speaker 3>our real family drama to it. So we've also learned

0:22:32.720 --> 0:22:35.440
<v Speaker 3>how to separate the two. And it's not that it's

0:22:35.480 --> 0:22:37.600
<v Speaker 3>real life and fake life. That's not really what's going

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<v Speaker 3>on because all the situations are real. But what's going

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<v Speaker 3>on is it's the life that happened probably six months ago.

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<v Speaker 3>So you're trying to like come back, like you're trying

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<v Speaker 3>not to go back to that spot when you're eating

0:22:49.600 --> 0:22:52.040
<v Speaker 3>Sunday dinner. That's always like the challenge because no matter

0:22:52.040 --> 0:22:53.760
<v Speaker 3>what you want to be, like, oh, like on that

0:22:53.880 --> 0:22:57.359
<v Speaker 3>interview when you said, you know, it's always the confessional

0:22:58.240 --> 0:23:02.400
<v Speaker 3>I Shall kill you. Reality TV, we get like Ballsy

0:23:02.400 --> 0:23:04.880
<v Speaker 3>and our confessionals because it's your time to just go

0:23:05.480 --> 0:23:07.520
<v Speaker 3>and it's venting and you're not really saying it to

0:23:07.560 --> 0:23:10.840
<v Speaker 3>someone's face. So I feel like everyone gets there, like

0:23:10.920 --> 0:23:13.520
<v Speaker 3>it's a little ballsy, and the confessionals.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I'm the I totally agree in my confessionals. I

0:23:15.960 --> 0:23:19.680
<v Speaker 1>feel like I'm with a therapist who's always team wai

0:23:19.760 --> 0:23:23.880
<v Speaker 1>la yes, and I just rant, just like.

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<v Speaker 3>Go tell us you have every right to feel that way.

0:23:27.200 --> 0:23:30.080
<v Speaker 1>They do. They encourage it, and then they look at

0:23:30.119 --> 0:23:32.480
<v Speaker 1>you and you see this big grin on their face,

0:23:32.600 --> 0:23:35.600
<v Speaker 1>you know, the person that's sitting there talking to you,

0:23:35.800 --> 0:23:37.040
<v Speaker 1>and you just are like, and.

0:23:37.080 --> 0:23:39.440
<v Speaker 3>They're so happy or delivering, and it's.

0:23:39.320 --> 0:23:41.960
<v Speaker 1>Just yeah, you feel like I did great today, And

0:23:42.000 --> 0:23:44.760
<v Speaker 1>then you watch it and you're like, why did I

0:23:44.920 --> 0:23:45.240
<v Speaker 1>do that?

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<v Speaker 3>It's so funny. There's such a big difference between like

0:23:49.520 --> 0:23:52.399
<v Speaker 3>sitting in that room with your makeup done all ready

0:23:52.400 --> 0:23:54.080
<v Speaker 3>to go, with the lights on, so like when you're

0:23:54.080 --> 0:23:57.040
<v Speaker 3>on the couch watch and you're like, oh shit, I said.

0:23:56.800 --> 0:24:00.400
<v Speaker 1>That, Like I know, like, how can one person into

0:24:00.440 --> 0:24:04.200
<v Speaker 1>such a savage in a room by herself with a

0:24:04.440 --> 0:24:06.000
<v Speaker 1>camera onner It happened.

0:24:06.160 --> 0:24:09.000
<v Speaker 3>It happens. They think we're by ourselves, little do they

0:24:09.000 --> 0:24:13.399
<v Speaker 3>know there's cameramenal lights and there's per asking us questions

0:24:13.480 --> 0:24:16.040
<v Speaker 3>and you know, you think you're by yourself, but it's

0:24:16.119 --> 0:24:18.399
<v Speaker 3>just it's a vibe and it's also it really is

0:24:18.440 --> 0:24:22.280
<v Speaker 3>truly like a venting situation. It's like you've been dying

0:24:22.280 --> 0:24:24.320
<v Speaker 3>to vent and there's someone in front of you with

0:24:24.440 --> 0:24:28.359
<v Speaker 3>a psychiatrist or a therapist that's just like vent, tell

0:24:28.400 --> 0:24:30.520
<v Speaker 3>me everything, and you just I just go.

0:24:30.480 --> 0:24:32.520
<v Speaker 1>Oh, yeah, I don't know. I just oh, I've been

0:24:32.520 --> 0:24:34.520
<v Speaker 1>on a roll some of those times. And I'm like,

0:24:35.240 --> 0:24:37.200
<v Speaker 1>and you know, they don't care if you want things

0:24:37.240 --> 0:24:40.560
<v Speaker 1>cut out. They're like, you said it, if we like it,

0:24:40.560 --> 0:24:41.439
<v Speaker 1>it's being used.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, that's that's for sure. I have over the years.

0:24:45.160 --> 0:24:47.439
<v Speaker 3>I'll never forget. Like the first couple of seasons I

0:24:47.480 --> 0:24:49.879
<v Speaker 3>was on the show, I would call and be like,

0:24:50.240 --> 0:24:52.800
<v Speaker 3>oh no, like this is totally taken out of context,

0:24:52.880 --> 0:24:54.879
<v Speaker 3>Like that is not how that went down. Like I

0:24:54.920 --> 0:24:58.080
<v Speaker 3>didn't like the way that came off. And they were like, yeah,

0:24:58.160 --> 0:24:59.760
<v Speaker 3>well if you say it and you do it, Like

0:25:00.000 --> 0:25:03.000
<v Speaker 3>there is absolutely nothing like any one of the things

0:25:03.000 --> 0:25:06.360
<v Speaker 3>we have editing over like we have no editing at all,

0:25:06.359 --> 0:25:10.080
<v Speaker 3>no editing rights, Like we have to accept whatever comes

0:25:10.160 --> 0:25:12.120
<v Speaker 3>at right and that is it. Like we can't all

0:25:12.119 --> 0:25:14.200
<v Speaker 3>and complain and they'll change it. That doesn't happen.

0:25:14.680 --> 0:25:16.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, no, I do know. I wish that I had

0:25:16.920 --> 0:25:19.560
<v Speaker 1>that power because I would edit a lot of things.

0:25:19.440 --> 0:25:21.760
<v Speaker 3>Don't we all. I want my next reality TV show,

0:25:21.760 --> 0:25:24.399
<v Speaker 3>I'm going to produce it also, that's what I've decided.

0:25:25.600 --> 0:25:28.040
<v Speaker 1>That's the money move, be a producer on the actual

0:25:28.080 --> 0:25:32.640
<v Speaker 1>show that you're on. I feel like when the way

0:25:32.680 --> 0:25:38.080
<v Speaker 1>that I like compartmentalize real life versus my real life,

0:25:38.160 --> 0:25:39.320
<v Speaker 1>that's the only way I know how to put it,

0:25:39.320 --> 0:25:43.199
<v Speaker 1>because like you said, it is real life is I

0:25:43.280 --> 0:25:47.160
<v Speaker 1>have to remember whatever is edited for the actual show,

0:25:47.200 --> 0:25:50.720
<v Speaker 1>even though that is my behavior. If I go insane

0:25:50.840 --> 0:25:54.560
<v Speaker 1>or I say something messed up, it's like, okay, but

0:25:54.680 --> 0:25:57.320
<v Speaker 1>we made a damn good show. Like that's the only

0:25:57.480 --> 0:25:59.600
<v Speaker 1>way I can get through it, Melissa. For me to

0:25:59.640 --> 0:26:03.240
<v Speaker 1>not be mortified during certain moments, I have to just

0:26:03.240 --> 0:26:05.520
<v Speaker 1>sit there and be like it was entertaining.

0:26:05.760 --> 0:26:09.119
<v Speaker 3>So it and you almost owe that to like, you know,

0:26:09.320 --> 0:26:11.840
<v Speaker 3>there is a piece of this where yes, it's your

0:26:11.840 --> 0:26:14.320
<v Speaker 3>real life and it's it's your real thoughts and feelings

0:26:14.320 --> 0:26:16.800
<v Speaker 3>and opinions, but like, at the same time, we are

0:26:16.920 --> 0:26:20.760
<v Speaker 3>making television trucks, you know, So there is a part

0:26:20.800 --> 0:26:23.600
<v Speaker 3>where you're like, okay, like I make nobody wants to

0:26:23.600 --> 0:26:26.359
<v Speaker 3>watch anybody like sew us a blanket, you know what,

0:26:26.840 --> 0:26:29.280
<v Speaker 3>Like nobody wants to see that, you know. So there

0:26:29.320 --> 0:26:32.359
<v Speaker 3>is an aspect of it where it's like we're on

0:26:32.440 --> 0:26:35.439
<v Speaker 3>reality TV and you know, we know it. So there

0:26:35.560 --> 0:26:37.840
<v Speaker 3>is a certain part that you do have to give

0:26:37.920 --> 0:26:41.320
<v Speaker 3>up that vulnerable side and get a little crazy sometimes

0:26:41.359 --> 0:26:44.119
<v Speaker 3>and oh shit, what did I do or say? But

0:26:44.320 --> 0:26:46.520
<v Speaker 3>it's like you're on reality television, so you almost owe

0:26:46.520 --> 0:26:48.720
<v Speaker 3>it to the fans, you know, to show them what

0:26:48.800 --> 0:26:50.960
<v Speaker 3>you really feel and how it's really going down.

0:26:51.119 --> 0:26:54.520
<v Speaker 1>I totally agree with you. Did you ever I'm a

0:26:54.600 --> 0:26:57.120
<v Speaker 1>huge fan of yours, like I fan Girl Out all

0:26:57.160 --> 0:26:57.600
<v Speaker 1>the time.

0:26:57.880 --> 0:26:58.199
<v Speaker 3>Thank you?

0:26:58.600 --> 0:27:02.800
<v Speaker 1>Did you ever feel worried about putting your your kids

0:27:02.840 --> 0:27:07.879
<v Speaker 1>on TV at such a young age and were you

0:27:08.000 --> 0:27:12.440
<v Speaker 1>worried about like what the trolls would say or did

0:27:12.480 --> 0:27:14.600
<v Speaker 1>you even go there when you signed up for the show.

0:27:14.800 --> 0:27:17.720
<v Speaker 1>Did it just seem like we're a family, like this

0:27:17.760 --> 0:27:20.520
<v Speaker 1>could be a fun opportunity or did you think, like

0:27:20.880 --> 0:27:22.560
<v Speaker 1>my kids are really young, I don't know that I

0:27:22.560 --> 0:27:23.560
<v Speaker 1>want them out there like that.

0:27:24.280 --> 0:27:26.840
<v Speaker 3>I did worry about the kids at in the beginning,

0:27:26.880 --> 0:27:30.200
<v Speaker 3>but my kids were so young Joey was two months old,

0:27:30.320 --> 0:27:32.919
<v Speaker 3>so it was like I was they weren't teenagers, I

0:27:32.920 --> 0:27:36.440
<v Speaker 3>think I would worry more because at the time, it's like, oh, well,

0:27:36.440 --> 0:27:38.080
<v Speaker 3>what's my four year old going to do wrong? And

0:27:38.160 --> 0:27:40.560
<v Speaker 3>Gina was two, so you're thinking, oh, they're going to

0:27:40.560 --> 0:27:43.040
<v Speaker 3>show them just so cute and they're cute outfits and

0:27:43.080 --> 0:27:45.280
<v Speaker 3>like playing. That's where my brain went, like how big

0:27:45.320 --> 0:27:48.440
<v Speaker 3>of a bow can I put on our head? And yeah,

0:27:48.520 --> 0:27:50.359
<v Speaker 3>like there's too Like I'm like, they're going to be

0:27:50.440 --> 0:27:53.080
<v Speaker 3>playing on the floor. I worry about it more now

0:27:53.720 --> 0:27:57.120
<v Speaker 3>that I have a cour Yes, definitely more as a teenager,

0:27:57.240 --> 0:28:00.720
<v Speaker 3>because their friends actually watched the show. Know, in preschool,

0:28:00.760 --> 0:28:03.400
<v Speaker 3>nobody's watching The Real Housewives and U Jerity. Now their

0:28:03.440 --> 0:28:05.480
<v Speaker 3>friends watch it. We go to the we go to

0:28:05.520 --> 0:28:08.159
<v Speaker 3>the football games, and their friends are like like you know,

0:28:08.280 --> 0:28:10.960
<v Speaker 3>their friends are like, holy where you know, I could

0:28:10.960 --> 0:28:13.119
<v Speaker 3>have gone anywhere with them in the beginning seasons and

0:28:13.440 --> 0:28:15.600
<v Speaker 3>they don't know what's going on the kids. But now

0:28:16.119 --> 0:28:18.600
<v Speaker 3>you know, the teenagers are fans. They watch the show

0:28:19.119 --> 0:28:22.160
<v Speaker 3>and so you know, Antonia, I'll be driving with Antonio,

0:28:22.240 --> 0:28:23.879
<v Speaker 3>She'll put it on FaceTime like so and so I

0:28:23.920 --> 0:28:26.000
<v Speaker 3>want to say hi, mom, Like, hey, Like, it's like

0:28:26.560 --> 0:28:28.800
<v Speaker 3>that I worry about you don't have to worry about

0:28:28.800 --> 0:28:31.080
<v Speaker 3>it while your your beautiful little daughter is dis little.

0:28:31.280 --> 0:28:33.840
<v Speaker 3>It's it's when they turn into like you know, I

0:28:33.840 --> 0:28:37.560
<v Speaker 3>would say eleven, twelve, thirteen, fourteen, like these eight. This

0:28:37.600 --> 0:28:40.080
<v Speaker 3>is where it gets a little difficult because they're old

0:28:40.160 --> 0:28:43.000
<v Speaker 3>enough to understand what the show is. They've seen it

0:28:43.040 --> 0:28:45.720
<v Speaker 3>on TV. Their parents are watching it and they sit

0:28:45.760 --> 0:28:48.040
<v Speaker 3>down they're like, oh, that's my friend's mom, you know

0:28:48.080 --> 0:28:51.280
<v Speaker 3>what I mean, Like, that's where so you have some

0:28:51.400 --> 0:28:54.840
<v Speaker 3>time before you have to stress about about, you know,

0:28:54.880 --> 0:28:57.840
<v Speaker 3>your child being on TV. But it's definitely harder for

0:28:57.880 --> 0:29:01.400
<v Speaker 3>me now, definitely because I worry sometimes what she's going

0:29:01.480 --> 0:29:03.080
<v Speaker 3>to say. Like a lot of the times they love

0:29:03.280 --> 0:29:05.360
<v Speaker 3>my kids in the scene and they love my kids

0:29:05.360 --> 0:29:08.280
<v Speaker 3>to film, so I worry. I'm like, Oh, I don't

0:29:08.280 --> 0:29:10.120
<v Speaker 3>want her to say anything as a sixteen year old

0:29:10.160 --> 0:29:12.720
<v Speaker 3>girl that she's ever going to regret because I can't

0:29:12.720 --> 0:29:14.520
<v Speaker 3>guarantee I can get it taken out totally.

0:29:14.600 --> 0:29:15.520
<v Speaker 1>Do you know what I mean?

0:29:16.240 --> 0:29:19.720
<v Speaker 3>That's stressful Now, it's stressful. Back then, it was not stressful.

0:29:19.760 --> 0:29:22.480
<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, you just gave me all the anxiety

0:29:22.520 --> 0:29:23.040
<v Speaker 1>in the world.

0:29:23.400 --> 0:29:25.520
<v Speaker 3>I worry about that, to be honest, now, you know,

0:29:25.560 --> 0:29:27.640
<v Speaker 3>because now I have the podcast and I'm doing that

0:29:27.720 --> 0:29:29.840
<v Speaker 3>all the time. I worry about just what Joe and

0:29:29.920 --> 0:29:34.040
<v Speaker 3>I say on my podcast, to be honest, Like just

0:29:34.120 --> 0:29:39.040
<v Speaker 3>because we talk so personal about relationship and our marriage,

0:29:39.120 --> 0:29:42.040
<v Speaker 3>and like sometimes I worry just what she's going to

0:29:42.120 --> 0:29:44.040
<v Speaker 3>hear on the podcast. Do you know what I'm saying?

0:29:44.040 --> 0:29:46.320
<v Speaker 3>Because I feel like the podcast is on edit, it's

0:29:46.320 --> 0:29:49.240
<v Speaker 3>even a little a little more raunchy than definitely more

0:29:49.280 --> 0:29:51.320
<v Speaker 3>raunchy than the show is, like from what Joe and

0:29:51.360 --> 0:29:53.440
<v Speaker 3>I will say to each other. So I'm like, God,

0:29:53.480 --> 0:29:56.760
<v Speaker 3>and she's listening. I'm now I'm always thinking about her listening.

0:29:56.880 --> 0:29:59.680
<v Speaker 1>So she she listens to your podcast.

0:29:59.400 --> 0:30:03.320
<v Speaker 3>Well, she's very active on Instagram. You know, I'm posting, Yes,

0:30:03.440 --> 0:30:06.200
<v Speaker 3>I'm posting the clips, Like I posted a clip yesterday

0:30:06.280 --> 0:30:08.440
<v Speaker 3>just about like Joe, like that they try to get

0:30:08.440 --> 0:30:11.240
<v Speaker 3>in the room while we're you know, while Joe's there's

0:30:11.280 --> 0:30:14.360
<v Speaker 3>no lock on it, right, So he comes home He's like,

0:30:14.400 --> 0:30:16.520
<v Speaker 3>you know, she heard that. Now she's gonna think every time.

0:30:16.520 --> 0:30:19.960
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, I know. Like, so it's a thing when

0:30:19.960 --> 0:30:23.880
<v Speaker 3>your kids get this age because they understand everything. Like

0:30:24.120 --> 0:30:26.520
<v Speaker 3>just that clip loaned to her, She's probably like, oh

0:30:26.560 --> 0:30:28.520
<v Speaker 3>my god, my parents are trying to like have sex

0:30:28.560 --> 0:30:31.200
<v Speaker 3>in the room and I'm I'm bart I'm ruining it

0:30:31.240 --> 0:30:32.040
<v Speaker 3>for them all the time.

0:30:32.080 --> 0:30:33.480
<v Speaker 1>Oh my, that's what I go.

0:30:34.520 --> 0:30:37.240
<v Speaker 3>You know, yes, So if I'm saying this, that's why

0:30:37.280 --> 0:30:39.640
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, there's just so much to be part of

0:30:39.680 --> 0:30:42.360
<v Speaker 3>this world. When you have children that kind of like,

0:30:42.640 --> 0:30:45.040
<v Speaker 3>it does get a little scary, and it also it

0:30:45.120 --> 0:30:47.880
<v Speaker 3>also makes them very mature because you they end up

0:30:47.920 --> 0:30:50.479
<v Speaker 3>hearing it all, knowing it all, and like, I am

0:30:50.560 --> 0:30:53.680
<v Speaker 3>blessed I have like great kids. They really are great.

0:30:53.720 --> 0:30:56.800
<v Speaker 3>They're very mature. They're not they're like above the frey.

0:30:56.840 --> 0:30:59.680
<v Speaker 3>They don't care that they're like that everyone knows their name,

0:30:59.760 --> 0:31:01.440
<v Speaker 3>or that they're on TV or how it goes.

0:31:01.640 --> 0:31:02.040
<v Speaker 1>Used to it.

0:31:02.160 --> 0:31:04.800
<v Speaker 3>You think they're used to it, but it's not something

0:31:04.840 --> 0:31:07.400
<v Speaker 3>they thrive off of, which I love. It's not My

0:31:07.480 --> 0:31:11.200
<v Speaker 3>kids are athletes. They're like athletes. They play football, they wrestle.

0:31:11.240 --> 0:31:14.640
<v Speaker 3>My daughters and a gymnast and a cheerleader. So they

0:31:14.680 --> 0:31:16.880
<v Speaker 3>thrive off that, which I love because you never know,

0:31:17.000 --> 0:31:18.960
<v Speaker 3>growing up in this world, they could have turned into

0:31:19.000 --> 0:31:22.560
<v Speaker 3>some little monsters like thinking who not shit and like

0:31:22.600 --> 0:31:26.120
<v Speaker 3>who they are? You know, but they thank god it's

0:31:26.160 --> 0:31:26.520
<v Speaker 3>been good.

0:31:26.600 --> 0:31:28.920
<v Speaker 1>Well that makes me happy because you're right. They could

0:31:28.960 --> 0:31:31.960
<v Speaker 1>have turned into like little baby terrorists. You don't know.

0:31:32.160 --> 0:31:33.959
<v Speaker 3>You don't know when you sign up for this stuff,

0:31:34.000 --> 0:31:36.000
<v Speaker 3>like what's going to happen to your life? I didn't know.

0:31:36.280 --> 0:31:39.280
<v Speaker 3>I mean my life changed drastically from just you know,

0:31:40.160 --> 0:31:43.200
<v Speaker 3>so drastically, like you know, I'm so in business now

0:31:43.200 --> 0:31:45.200
<v Speaker 3>and I'm so busy all the time, where before I

0:31:45.240 --> 0:31:47.920
<v Speaker 3>was like where am I going shopping today? And who

0:31:47.960 --> 0:31:50.640
<v Speaker 3>am I going to have lunch with? And like now

0:31:50.720 --> 0:31:52.920
<v Speaker 3>I'm like I'm busy. I can't get off my phone

0:31:53.000 --> 0:31:54.400
<v Speaker 3>or leave my desk for four hours.

0:31:54.600 --> 0:31:59.080
<v Speaker 1>To see where you were at the very beginning and

0:31:59.240 --> 0:32:03.480
<v Speaker 1>where you are now is so amazing. And you have

0:32:03.600 --> 0:32:07.200
<v Speaker 1>been so open about your life, which you know, just

0:32:07.200 --> 0:32:09.440
<v Speaker 1>because you're on reality TV. There's a lot of reality

0:32:09.480 --> 0:32:12.360
<v Speaker 1>TV people who don't open up their lives, you know,

0:32:12.680 --> 0:32:17.640
<v Speaker 1>the way I feel you do or Teresa does. And

0:32:17.720 --> 0:32:20.880
<v Speaker 1>I remember this scene of you. I believe you were

0:32:20.920 --> 0:32:22.760
<v Speaker 1>on the couch with Joan. It was when you were

0:32:23.080 --> 0:32:26.160
<v Speaker 1>you were wanting to go and like be a business woman,

0:32:26.920 --> 0:32:29.760
<v Speaker 1>and you had kind of felt like, you know, being

0:32:29.800 --> 0:32:33.880
<v Speaker 1>the housewife and the mom was just not fulfilling enough anymore.

0:32:34.160 --> 0:32:36.680
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's like it's I don't want to say not fulfilling,

0:32:36.720 --> 0:32:40.200
<v Speaker 3>because you'll see, it's always fulfilling. It's fulfilling to raise

0:32:40.200 --> 0:32:41.760
<v Speaker 3>a family and have children, and that's it.

0:32:41.840 --> 0:32:44.360
<v Speaker 1>So walk me through that. Walk me through that, because

0:32:44.640 --> 0:32:46.760
<v Speaker 1>because for me, I don't know that I would be

0:32:46.800 --> 0:32:49.160
<v Speaker 1>fulfilled by just being a mom. So walk me through

0:32:49.200 --> 0:32:51.880
<v Speaker 1>you saying that it is fulfilling but what you were

0:32:51.880 --> 0:32:52.560
<v Speaker 1>in search of.

0:32:52.800 --> 0:32:55.080
<v Speaker 3>Right, So, and that makes total sense what you just said,

0:32:55.080 --> 0:32:58.480
<v Speaker 3>because you're right, it's it's fulfilling, but it's not one

0:32:58.560 --> 0:33:01.520
<v Speaker 3>hundred percent about you or your dreams or your goals.

0:33:01.720 --> 0:33:03.960
<v Speaker 3>So what you're doing is you're fulfilling the needs of

0:33:04.000 --> 0:33:06.600
<v Speaker 3>everyone else all day and it makes you fulfilled because

0:33:06.600 --> 0:33:08.440
<v Speaker 3>you're like, oh, I did the right thing today. I

0:33:08.480 --> 0:33:10.160
<v Speaker 3>did the right thing today for my daughter, or I

0:33:10.240 --> 0:33:12.880
<v Speaker 3>made this, I did this, I made dinner. My husband's happy,

0:33:12.920 --> 0:33:15.960
<v Speaker 3>everybody's happy, but I want more, you know. And that's

0:33:15.960 --> 0:33:18.520
<v Speaker 3>where I always tell even new moms like yourself, and

0:33:18.600 --> 0:33:21.760
<v Speaker 3>like you know, girls who are just getting married and

0:33:21.760 --> 0:33:25.080
<v Speaker 3>they're younger and and you know right from the start

0:33:25.200 --> 0:33:28.120
<v Speaker 3>you can do both, and it does seems it's like

0:33:28.160 --> 0:33:30.240
<v Speaker 3>it's weird. There's always like this thing where it's like, well,

0:33:30.520 --> 0:33:32.200
<v Speaker 3>the woman is supposed to take care of the kids

0:33:32.240 --> 0:33:34.240
<v Speaker 3>all day, and who's then we have to pay for

0:33:34.240 --> 0:33:36.840
<v Speaker 3>the babysitter and then this and then that. But it's like, no,

0:33:37.320 --> 0:33:39.840
<v Speaker 3>it's both of your problems. And that's what I learned

0:33:40.000 --> 0:33:42.800
<v Speaker 3>later in life that it's not it's not just all

0:33:42.880 --> 0:33:45.000
<v Speaker 3>on the mom. It's on both of you, you know,

0:33:45.120 --> 0:33:47.920
<v Speaker 3>to figure it out. And I used to just take

0:33:47.960 --> 0:33:49.280
<v Speaker 3>all the heat and be like, this is on me,

0:33:49.360 --> 0:33:50.960
<v Speaker 3>it's my kid. Let me figure out how I'm going

0:33:51.040 --> 0:33:53.600
<v Speaker 3>to like open up envy because I opened up that

0:33:53.640 --> 0:33:56.719
<v Speaker 3>whole business and I did all of this, and I

0:33:56.760 --> 0:33:58.600
<v Speaker 3>literally would still run to the bus stop to pick

0:33:58.600 --> 0:34:01.520
<v Speaker 3>my kids up from school halfway through day until I

0:34:01.560 --> 0:34:05.239
<v Speaker 3>got it functioning enough where I was able to like,

0:34:05.360 --> 0:34:08.680
<v Speaker 3>wait a second, pull babysitters in and pull nanny's in

0:34:08.760 --> 0:34:11.200
<v Speaker 3>and get the extra help that I needed. But I

0:34:11.280 --> 0:34:14.759
<v Speaker 3>feel like you, even though we're having families and we're

0:34:14.760 --> 0:34:18.080
<v Speaker 3>creating families, and you still need to have your inner

0:34:18.320 --> 0:34:21.120
<v Speaker 3>happiness of what your dreams are what your goals are.

0:34:21.160 --> 0:34:23.040
<v Speaker 3>If you want to open a little shop, open a shop.

0:34:23.080 --> 0:34:26.480
<v Speaker 3>If your dream is to create a cosmetic line, because

0:34:26.480 --> 0:34:29.319
<v Speaker 3>that's what you want to do, well, then that's what

0:34:29.400 --> 0:34:32.759
<v Speaker 3>you need to do. We can't let things like motherhood.

0:34:32.840 --> 0:34:35.560
<v Speaker 3>You can't just say, oh, well, you know, that's not right,

0:34:35.680 --> 0:34:37.719
<v Speaker 3>and a lot of times that guilt sets in of

0:34:37.840 --> 0:34:39.880
<v Speaker 3>like I'm going to work too much and then what

0:34:40.239 --> 0:34:42.040
<v Speaker 3>am I doing to my child? There is a way

0:34:42.080 --> 0:34:44.640
<v Speaker 3>to kind of to make it all happen. It's not

0:34:44.680 --> 0:34:47.840
<v Speaker 3>always easy, but it's a barrier that I broke through.

0:34:47.880 --> 0:34:50.200
<v Speaker 3>And I think a lot of people kind of like

0:34:50.280 --> 0:34:52.600
<v Speaker 3>to watch me go through that process because they watched

0:34:52.600 --> 0:34:55.000
<v Speaker 3>me as a thirty year old girl, because that's what

0:34:55.040 --> 0:34:56.759
<v Speaker 3>I was at the time when I started all this

0:34:56.920 --> 0:34:59.800
<v Speaker 3>on the TV, and they watched me kind of break

0:35:00.040 --> 0:35:02.920
<v Speaker 3>through and work my way up and braz these kids

0:35:02.960 --> 0:35:05.600
<v Speaker 3>and go into my Now I turned forty, you know,

0:35:05.680 --> 0:35:08.520
<v Speaker 3>so for the last ten years they've been watching me

0:35:08.800 --> 0:35:10.719
<v Speaker 3>go from like just a mom at home all this

0:35:10.840 --> 0:35:13.680
<v Speaker 3>time into a businesswoman where I did open envy and

0:35:13.760 --> 0:35:16.759
<v Speaker 3>I broke through that and now I'm opening a second envy,

0:35:16.800 --> 0:35:19.240
<v Speaker 3>a second envy double the size is about to open

0:35:19.440 --> 0:35:22.640
<v Speaker 3>next month. So that's that's huge for me, you know,

0:35:22.719 --> 0:35:24.480
<v Speaker 3>I just always yes, I'm.

0:35:24.360 --> 0:35:28.239
<v Speaker 1>Very excited, so excited for you. Yes, And where's the

0:35:28.320 --> 0:35:29.120
<v Speaker 1>second location.

0:35:29.440 --> 0:35:32.120
<v Speaker 3>The second location is in Bridgewood, New Jersey, which is

0:35:32.239 --> 0:35:34.799
<v Speaker 3>like a great town over here. I mean my online

0:35:34.960 --> 0:35:38.000
<v Speaker 3>my online store is like phenomenal. That's where. I mean

0:35:38.000 --> 0:35:40.520
<v Speaker 3>everyone from California, Florida, Dallas, everywhere.

0:35:40.520 --> 0:35:43.719
<v Speaker 1>It's like the online is accessible to everybody. Yes, but

0:35:44.400 --> 0:35:46.719
<v Speaker 1>my brick and waters do so well too. So I'm

0:35:46.719 --> 0:35:49.960
<v Speaker 1>opening one double the size now and super super excited.

0:35:49.960 --> 0:35:51.200
<v Speaker 3>But that's when I'm Solissa.

0:35:51.360 --> 0:35:55.440
<v Speaker 1>That is freaking huge. A second store. I'm like beyond

0:35:55.520 --> 0:35:58.439
<v Speaker 1>happy for you, thank you, thank you. Well everyone else

0:35:58.520 --> 0:36:00.200
<v Speaker 1>is shutting down. You're expanding.

0:36:02.680 --> 0:36:06.520
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, I'm either crazy or we'll see. But now

0:36:06.640 --> 0:36:08.920
<v Speaker 3>I like a challenge. I'm a work I've always been

0:36:08.920 --> 0:36:11.480
<v Speaker 3>a worker, that is me. Like before I even met Joe,

0:36:11.520 --> 0:36:14.520
<v Speaker 3>I had three jobs, like whether be I worked at

0:36:14.600 --> 0:36:17.960
<v Speaker 3>a tanic salon, a title company. I answered the phones

0:36:18.000 --> 0:36:21.520
<v Speaker 3>over here. I bartended on like a Thursday or Friday night.

0:36:21.600 --> 0:36:24.440
<v Speaker 3>Like I was just always someone who's like I'm not

0:36:24.480 --> 0:36:27.240
<v Speaker 3>going to sit down. I don't I don't. I obviously

0:36:27.440 --> 0:36:30.480
<v Speaker 3>love that Joe is successful and that he can take

0:36:30.480 --> 0:36:34.000
<v Speaker 3>care of himself. But trust me, ladies, is ever listening

0:36:34.000 --> 0:36:37.600
<v Speaker 3>out there? It is. There's something about making your own money,

0:36:38.000 --> 0:36:41.440
<v Speaker 3>even if you don't need to. It's there's something about that.

0:36:41.560 --> 0:36:47.080
<v Speaker 3>It's it's freeing. It's that thing if something unexpected, expected,

0:36:47.440 --> 0:36:50.400
<v Speaker 3>as you would know, comes out of life right and

0:36:50.440 --> 0:36:53.520
<v Speaker 3>you get hit with the left, You're like, I'm good.

0:36:53.680 --> 0:36:56.279
<v Speaker 3>Like you can walk when you need to walk, you

0:36:56.320 --> 0:36:58.640
<v Speaker 3>can buy something when you need to buy it. There's

0:36:58.640 --> 0:37:01.920
<v Speaker 3>something very freeing about about having your own business or

0:37:02.000 --> 0:37:04.680
<v Speaker 3>working and having doing what you love. You know, So

0:37:04.719 --> 0:37:05.400
<v Speaker 3>I always.

0:37:05.200 --> 0:37:06.920
<v Speaker 1>Promote that I love that you said that, and I

0:37:06.960 --> 0:37:08.879
<v Speaker 1>actually want to come back to it. After we cut

0:37:08.880 --> 0:37:11.080
<v Speaker 1>to a short break, we will be right back with

0:37:11.120 --> 0:37:18.680
<v Speaker 1>Melissa Gorga. We are back with my most favorite housewife.

0:37:18.920 --> 0:37:21.760
<v Speaker 1>Do feel uncomfortable every time I'm asked about my favorite

0:37:21.800 --> 0:37:24.200
<v Speaker 1>housewife and I'm like, I'm gonna snag her from Joe?

0:37:24.239 --> 0:37:26.960
<v Speaker 1>You know, I'm joking, right, not that that would ever happen,

0:37:27.080 --> 0:37:29.640
<v Speaker 1>But I never want to make anyone feel uncomfortable. But

0:37:29.640 --> 0:37:31.319
<v Speaker 1>I think it's fun to set Joe and he loves you.

0:37:31.400 --> 0:37:33.480
<v Speaker 3>He always Joe loves you, by the way too. He's

0:37:33.560 --> 0:37:35.839
<v Speaker 3>always like, she's so cute. I'm like, when we go out,

0:37:35.840 --> 0:37:37.160
<v Speaker 3>when we're in LA, We're gonna go have like a

0:37:37.239 --> 0:37:37.759
<v Speaker 3>drink with her?

0:37:37.840 --> 0:37:40.680
<v Speaker 1>Please do? I would love that. Give me a call.

0:37:40.680 --> 0:37:42.560
<v Speaker 1>I would love to hang out with you and Joe.

0:37:43.160 --> 0:37:46.239
<v Speaker 1>Going back to what we were talking about before, when

0:37:46.320 --> 0:37:49.680
<v Speaker 1>did you realize that it was important for you to

0:37:49.719 --> 0:37:51.880
<v Speaker 1>be making your own money? Was it because you're in

0:37:51.920 --> 0:37:55.799
<v Speaker 1>a great marriage, you have a beautiful family, like you

0:37:55.880 --> 0:38:00.200
<v Speaker 1>were probably one of those people who will never need

0:38:00.280 --> 0:38:02.160
<v Speaker 1>a plan to be ever.

0:38:02.440 --> 0:38:05.040
<v Speaker 3>I mean, listen, I always say never say never, but

0:38:05.080 --> 0:38:07.600
<v Speaker 3>I from your mouth to God's ears, right, like that's

0:38:07.640 --> 0:38:10.640
<v Speaker 3>always how I how I You know, I would love

0:38:10.719 --> 0:38:12.440
<v Speaker 3>things to go in life, just like we all would.

0:38:12.840 --> 0:38:16.040
<v Speaker 3>But I think I just I don't know. I've watched

0:38:16.120 --> 0:38:19.080
<v Speaker 3>Joe be so successful because he's a developer in New Jersey.

0:38:19.080 --> 0:38:22.600
<v Speaker 3>So he'll take old warehouses and he'll buy them and

0:38:22.680 --> 0:38:26.360
<v Speaker 3>convert them into like apartment buildings and condos. And this

0:38:26.480 --> 0:38:28.160
<v Speaker 3>is what he loves to do, right, this is what

0:38:28.200 --> 0:38:32.000
<v Speaker 3>gives him and it was successful for our family. But

0:38:32.080 --> 0:38:35.200
<v Speaker 3>I would watch him, you know, kind of doing all

0:38:35.320 --> 0:38:38.160
<v Speaker 3>these things and feel proud and you know, break the

0:38:38.200 --> 0:38:41.200
<v Speaker 3>wall down at another building. And I said to myself, like,

0:38:41.200 --> 0:38:44.920
<v Speaker 3>I'm happy for him, but but I want something that's mine,

0:38:45.000 --> 0:38:47.719
<v Speaker 3>and I feel like that's when you know, you know,

0:38:47.800 --> 0:38:49.520
<v Speaker 3>you start to say what am I good at?

0:38:49.680 --> 0:38:49.799
<v Speaker 1>Like?

0:38:49.880 --> 0:38:52.160
<v Speaker 3>What? What do I love to do? What gives me

0:38:52.200 --> 0:38:54.919
<v Speaker 3>a high? Like what gets me excited? Yes, your kids

0:38:54.920 --> 0:38:56.920
<v Speaker 3>are going to give you a high. Yes, there's nothing

0:38:57.040 --> 0:38:57.839
<v Speaker 3>like a child in.

0:38:57.800 --> 0:38:59.000
<v Speaker 1>The world, but they grow up.

0:38:59.200 --> 0:39:01.759
<v Speaker 3>You're never gonna have complete happiness unless you have your

0:39:01.800 --> 0:39:06.320
<v Speaker 3>own happiness, something inside that's you. And I love clothes.

0:39:06.400 --> 0:39:09.920
<v Speaker 3>I've always loved fashion. Fashion is fun for me. I've

0:39:09.920 --> 0:39:12.120
<v Speaker 3>always been good. I'm always the one that everyone used

0:39:12.120 --> 0:39:14.160
<v Speaker 3>to call my girlfriend's like they don't know what to wear.

0:39:14.200 --> 0:39:16.680
<v Speaker 3>I'll like put an outfit for them together. So that's

0:39:16.719 --> 0:39:18.279
<v Speaker 3>what I loved. And you know what I you know

0:39:18.280 --> 0:39:21.200
<v Speaker 3>how I really got started with envy. Everyone when I

0:39:21.239 --> 0:39:22.719
<v Speaker 3>was on the Real House Size of New Jersey would

0:39:22.719 --> 0:39:25.480
<v Speaker 3>say to me, these these boutiques would give me clothes,

0:39:25.480 --> 0:39:27.760
<v Speaker 3>which I'm sure you know, all the time I'd get clothes,

0:39:27.800 --> 0:39:31.080
<v Speaker 3>they'd send me clothes. This brand would send me this salve.

0:39:31.840 --> 0:39:34.080
<v Speaker 3>You'd wear them and then everyone's like, where'd you get

0:39:34.120 --> 0:39:35.879
<v Speaker 3>your outfit? Where'd you get your outfit? And I would

0:39:35.880 --> 0:39:38.080
<v Speaker 3>send them to that boutique. I would send them over there.

0:39:38.120 --> 0:39:40.080
<v Speaker 3>I would send them over there, and I'm like, what

0:39:40.120 --> 0:39:42.600
<v Speaker 3>the hell am I doing? Like why am I sending

0:39:42.600 --> 0:39:45.640
<v Speaker 3>them to everyone else? Let me open my own boutique.

0:39:45.840 --> 0:39:47.759
<v Speaker 3>And when everyone asked me what I'm wearing, I'm gonna

0:39:47.760 --> 0:39:51.360
<v Speaker 3>say here, click this link Envy by MG dot com,

0:39:51.400 --> 0:39:54.160
<v Speaker 3>like you know, And that's how Envy by Melissa Gorga

0:39:54.200 --> 0:39:56.920
<v Speaker 3>came because I was like, why do I keep sending

0:39:56.920 --> 0:39:59.840
<v Speaker 3>everyone everywhere else? Like it's it's let me send them

0:39:59.880 --> 0:40:02.680
<v Speaker 3>to Envy by melissic Rga. And that's what I started doing.

0:40:02.640 --> 0:40:08.880
<v Speaker 1>So crazy because it's so simple yet so hard to accomplish.

0:40:09.200 --> 0:40:11.480
<v Speaker 1>The thought of it, The thought of it is like,

0:40:11.800 --> 0:40:15.720
<v Speaker 1>let's open something. We'll send them to my boutique instead

0:40:15.800 --> 0:40:19.759
<v Speaker 1>or my store. But the fact that you actually did it,

0:40:19.800 --> 0:40:23.400
<v Speaker 1>and that's that's no easy feat because you had to

0:40:23.440 --> 0:40:25.759
<v Speaker 1>go and find the clothing that you're going to fill

0:40:25.800 --> 0:40:27.840
<v Speaker 1>your store with. You gotta be making enough money to

0:40:27.960 --> 0:40:32.799
<v Speaker 1>keep new inventory in Like did anybody walk you through this?

0:40:32.960 --> 0:40:35.760
<v Speaker 1>Did you have like a business partner or a mentor,

0:40:36.560 --> 0:40:39.080
<v Speaker 1>because I wouldn't have even known where to start.

0:40:39.400 --> 0:40:42.640
<v Speaker 3>Yes, I think I had met a lady at the

0:40:42.680 --> 0:40:46.440
<v Speaker 3>time that was asking me to do like some photo

0:40:46.440 --> 0:40:50.239
<v Speaker 3>shoots and stuff for her stores, all of her boutiques

0:40:50.280 --> 0:40:53.200
<v Speaker 3>and all of this, and I was like I after

0:40:53.200 --> 0:40:55.080
<v Speaker 3>a while, just like I said, I'm like, I gotta

0:40:55.120 --> 0:40:57.200
<v Speaker 3>do this for my own boutique, Like this doesn't make

0:40:57.200 --> 0:41:00.279
<v Speaker 3>sense for me anymore. So I did originally go into

0:41:00.360 --> 0:41:03.799
<v Speaker 3>it with a partner, asking her like, you know, like

0:41:03.880 --> 0:41:05.520
<v Speaker 3>do you want to do this together. I don't want

0:41:05.520 --> 0:41:07.160
<v Speaker 3>to promote your boutique. I want it to be my

0:41:07.200 --> 0:41:10.720
<v Speaker 3>own boutique, And we went in together. But within within

0:41:10.800 --> 0:41:13.040
<v Speaker 3>six months I bought her out because she was just

0:41:13.160 --> 0:41:16.600
<v Speaker 3>not it was not a good fit for me. So

0:41:16.719 --> 0:41:18.759
<v Speaker 3>within six months I bought her out, and Envy just

0:41:18.880 --> 0:41:21.400
<v Speaker 3>celebrated five years. We just had our five year anniversary,

0:41:21.480 --> 0:41:24.600
<v Speaker 3>so congratulations going strong. But I always my advice to

0:41:24.640 --> 0:41:28.799
<v Speaker 3>everyone is really really like if it's in your heart,

0:41:28.840 --> 0:41:31.200
<v Speaker 3>if you keep thinking about it, if it keeps popping

0:41:31.280 --> 0:41:33.360
<v Speaker 3>up and you're like, damn, I would really love to

0:41:33.440 --> 0:41:35.799
<v Speaker 3>be like, like, I have a girlfriend that's like I

0:41:35.880 --> 0:41:38.839
<v Speaker 3>just want she finds everyone everything, she wants to do

0:41:38.880 --> 0:41:41.680
<v Speaker 3>the find Like, if you need to find something, this

0:41:41.800 --> 0:41:43.359
<v Speaker 3>is where you need to go. You need to call

0:41:43.400 --> 0:41:46.240
<v Speaker 3>her because she can find it for you. Like something

0:41:46.280 --> 0:41:48.440
<v Speaker 3>as simple as that. If you know that that is

0:41:48.480 --> 0:41:51.839
<v Speaker 3>what you're good at, make some start researching. Figure out

0:41:51.840 --> 0:41:55.080
<v Speaker 3>how you could start small on a smaller platform, just

0:41:55.080 --> 0:41:57.480
<v Speaker 3>like I did. I started with a smaller store, and

0:41:57.520 --> 0:41:59.720
<v Speaker 3>then you as the years go on, it got bigger.

0:41:59.719 --> 0:42:03.480
<v Speaker 3>My on my website. When I first started, we're nothing

0:42:03.760 --> 0:42:06.840
<v Speaker 3>like they are now. I groupled them. It takes time,

0:42:07.000 --> 0:42:07.719
<v Speaker 3>it takes.

0:42:07.480 --> 0:42:10.480
<v Speaker 1>Patience, but little little bit at a time, but it

0:42:11.160 --> 0:42:14.719
<v Speaker 1>becomes your baby and you you start to see its

0:42:14.719 --> 0:42:17.799
<v Speaker 1>potential and its growth, and you become addicted.

0:42:17.520 --> 0:42:20.160
<v Speaker 3>Addicted, Oh my god, addicted. I have a little app

0:42:20.200 --> 0:42:23.200
<v Speaker 3>on my phone which this is so funny. It makes

0:42:23.200 --> 0:42:26.359
<v Speaker 3>like a chit chin every time there's a sale, whether

0:42:26.600 --> 0:42:29.120
<v Speaker 3>on the website or in store, it does like a

0:42:29.120 --> 0:42:32.240
<v Speaker 3>little chichin. When it first started going off all the time,

0:42:32.640 --> 0:42:34.480
<v Speaker 3>when I'd be like sitting on the couch with Joe

0:42:34.480 --> 0:42:37.240
<v Speaker 3>and I'd be like, chit chang chang. It's like frigging

0:42:37.320 --> 0:42:41.759
<v Speaker 3>at the casino. I'm like, oh my god, and Joe

0:42:41.800 --> 0:42:45.000
<v Speaker 3>would just like look at me from across the couch like, ash, wow,

0:42:45.280 --> 0:42:47.560
<v Speaker 3>a lot of people are shopping today. I'm like, yeah, bitch,

0:42:47.600 --> 0:42:49.360
<v Speaker 3>I'm making money. What are you doing?

0:42:49.480 --> 0:42:50.560
<v Speaker 1>What are you doing it?

0:42:51.600 --> 0:42:54.040
<v Speaker 3>Yeah? It was like funny, like I would choose him

0:42:54.120 --> 0:42:56.200
<v Speaker 3>because I always used to ask Joe. I was a

0:42:56.200 --> 0:42:58.680
<v Speaker 3>girl out of college, Like as soon as I met Joe,

0:42:59.280 --> 0:43:01.799
<v Speaker 3>I gradual way to college kind of at the same time.

0:43:01.960 --> 0:43:04.120
<v Speaker 3>So I used to have to like say to him

0:43:04.160 --> 0:43:06.000
<v Speaker 3>like I just was going to be I'm I have

0:43:06.040 --> 0:43:08.840
<v Speaker 3>a BA in teaching, Okay, So I went to college

0:43:08.920 --> 0:43:10.920
<v Speaker 3>to be a teacher. I was supposed to go be

0:43:10.960 --> 0:43:15.240
<v Speaker 3>a elementary school teacher, and I ended up on reality

0:43:15.320 --> 0:43:17.800
<v Speaker 3>TV within you know, a couple of years after being married.

0:43:17.880 --> 0:43:20.000
<v Speaker 3>But it's just funny. I used to have to ask

0:43:20.040 --> 0:43:21.640
<v Speaker 3>you for a hundred dollars bill. I'd be like, oh,

0:43:21.719 --> 0:43:24.200
<v Speaker 3>you're going to work, okay, Like can I get like

0:43:24.200 --> 0:43:26.320
<v Speaker 3>a hundred I don't know where I'm going to go todayay,

0:43:26.440 --> 0:43:28.879
<v Speaker 3>or like whatever, I would need cash. And now I'm

0:43:28.920 --> 0:43:31.239
<v Speaker 3>just like it's just funny. That's why we It's like

0:43:31.280 --> 0:43:33.120
<v Speaker 3>a funny joke in our house because like when the

0:43:33.200 --> 0:43:36.000
<v Speaker 3>chichain goes off I'm like, oh, yeah, don't need you what.

0:43:36.320 --> 0:43:39.800
<v Speaker 1>Like, No, I love it because there's I feel like

0:43:40.400 --> 0:43:43.840
<v Speaker 1>there's so many women who who do that and and

0:43:43.880 --> 0:43:47.160
<v Speaker 1>they're as you know, I'm passionate about the topic of

0:43:47.880 --> 0:43:50.520
<v Speaker 1>women having their own funds, and even if that means

0:43:50.560 --> 0:43:52.319
<v Speaker 1>you work something out with your husband, if you're a

0:43:52.320 --> 0:43:55.040
<v Speaker 1>stay at home mom and he gives you X amount

0:43:55.040 --> 0:43:57.759
<v Speaker 1>of dollars every month. I just want women to have

0:43:57.880 --> 0:44:01.160
<v Speaker 1>some sort of you know, safety net if God forbid,

0:44:01.200 --> 0:44:04.960
<v Speaker 1>anything happened. And you know that could even mean for me.

0:44:05.400 --> 0:44:09.080
<v Speaker 1>It was when the recession hit for my family and

0:44:09.280 --> 0:44:13.799
<v Speaker 1>my dad went from you know, completely being okay and

0:44:13.920 --> 0:44:17.560
<v Speaker 1>supporting us financially to what are we going to do?

0:44:18.280 --> 0:44:20.440
<v Speaker 1>And it was my mom who stepped up to the

0:44:20.480 --> 0:44:24.720
<v Speaker 1>plate because she had worked her entire life, never stopped

0:44:24.719 --> 0:44:27.759
<v Speaker 1>even though she could have with my dad. And I

0:44:27.840 --> 0:44:30.719
<v Speaker 1>saw that it doesn't even have to be like your

0:44:31.160 --> 0:44:34.360
<v Speaker 1>relationship goes south, one partner could be put out of

0:44:34.360 --> 0:44:38.400
<v Speaker 1>business tomorrow, and it feels nice the other one picks up.

0:44:38.480 --> 0:44:41.800
<v Speaker 1>So I think that is great that you are also

0:44:41.920 --> 0:44:45.600
<v Speaker 1>preaching that to chicks. I want to talk about your

0:44:45.640 --> 0:44:48.400
<v Speaker 1>relationship with Joe, because I think it's something that a

0:44:48.400 --> 0:44:51.400
<v Speaker 1>lot of people look at and they're like, I want that.

0:44:51.760 --> 0:44:55.160
<v Speaker 1>It's so cute, it's so sweet. We know you have

0:44:55.200 --> 0:44:57.600
<v Speaker 1>a great sex life, which is good for you.

0:44:57.800 --> 0:44:58.120
<v Speaker 4>Girl.

0:44:58.600 --> 0:44:59.600
<v Speaker 3>How could you not know?

0:45:00.000 --> 0:45:03.560
<v Speaker 1>It makes me happy? Okay? I love you guys, and

0:45:03.600 --> 0:45:06.320
<v Speaker 1>I love the way you display your love and affection

0:45:06.520 --> 0:45:10.239
<v Speaker 1>for each other. And he is meant for reality TV,

0:45:10.360 --> 0:45:12.000
<v Speaker 1>by the way, I know he is.

0:45:12.040 --> 0:45:13.920
<v Speaker 3>He's such a ham. He's such a ham. And he's

0:45:13.920 --> 0:45:17.000
<v Speaker 3>also just like he doesn't overthink it, which is sometimes

0:45:17.000 --> 0:45:20.800
<v Speaker 3>a problem, which is also making amazing reality television because

0:45:21.000 --> 0:45:23.759
<v Speaker 3>he doesn't think it at all. If he's thinking it,

0:45:23.960 --> 0:45:25.560
<v Speaker 3>he's saying it right, that's Joe.

0:45:25.760 --> 0:45:27.719
<v Speaker 1>And he doesn't care if you want to crawl under

0:45:27.760 --> 0:45:28.200
<v Speaker 1>a table.

0:45:28.719 --> 0:45:30.640
<v Speaker 3>He does not care. Do you know how many times

0:45:30.680 --> 0:45:34.000
<v Speaker 3>I kicked Joe under the like we're filming, there's cameramen

0:45:34.080 --> 0:45:36.640
<v Speaker 3>and I'm like, ah, I'm literally kicking his shins and

0:45:36.680 --> 0:45:38.080
<v Speaker 3>he notices that, stop kicking.

0:45:38.200 --> 0:45:39.680
<v Speaker 1>Oh he's that guy.

0:45:40.640 --> 0:45:43.920
<v Speaker 3>Yes, he's like that guy. So I just give up

0:45:43.960 --> 0:45:46.000
<v Speaker 3>on him. In the beginning, I was more anal. I

0:45:46.000 --> 0:45:47.719
<v Speaker 3>would be like trying to control it all and be like,

0:45:47.719 --> 0:45:50.400
<v Speaker 3>oh my god, like stop talking about all of this

0:45:50.560 --> 0:45:52.399
<v Speaker 3>and like what are you doing? And like now I'm

0:45:52.440 --> 0:45:54.680
<v Speaker 3>just like just roll with it. Joe, Like he's that guy,

0:45:54.760 --> 0:45:57.280
<v Speaker 3>no matter what he says, no matter what he does,

0:45:57.680 --> 0:46:00.200
<v Speaker 3>no matter how he acts, everybody loves him. It's it's

0:46:00.239 --> 0:46:00.759
<v Speaker 3>just jump.

0:46:00.800 --> 0:46:03.480
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know, it's very It's well, you're both very

0:46:03.520 --> 0:46:06.920
<v Speaker 1>easy to love. I have to ask, what what is

0:46:07.000 --> 0:46:10.960
<v Speaker 1>your fighting style? When you get into an argument? What

0:46:11.080 --> 0:46:14.240
<v Speaker 1>is Joe's fighting style and what is yours? Do you disengage?

0:46:14.680 --> 0:46:17.600
<v Speaker 1>Are you a let's raise my voice a little bit,

0:46:17.719 --> 0:46:19.799
<v Speaker 1>do the hands get to move in? Like? What's your

0:46:19.800 --> 0:46:20.560
<v Speaker 1>fighting style?

0:46:21.080 --> 0:46:23.360
<v Speaker 3>So I think our fighting style, Joe and I that

0:46:23.560 --> 0:46:25.759
<v Speaker 3>might be the problem with us. We have two totally

0:46:25.840 --> 0:46:31.040
<v Speaker 3>different types of fighting style. So I am super impulsive,

0:46:31.280 --> 0:46:34.480
<v Speaker 3>like I'm hot headed from the beginning, like very quickly,

0:46:35.040 --> 0:46:38.239
<v Speaker 3>I freak like I don't even think straight. I just

0:46:38.400 --> 0:46:40.480
<v Speaker 3>freak so like before I even have all the facts.

0:46:40.520 --> 0:46:43.200
<v Speaker 3>And this is to a fault, I scream, I yeah,

0:46:43.200 --> 0:46:46.279
<v Speaker 3>I'm like what, Like I freak like a savage. But

0:46:46.360 --> 0:46:48.640
<v Speaker 3>I'm literally over it. Like once I get that all

0:46:48.680 --> 0:46:50.960
<v Speaker 3>out and I hear all the answers, like I will

0:46:51.040 --> 0:46:52.759
<v Speaker 3>drop it and go to dinner with you. Within the

0:46:52.800 --> 0:46:55.759
<v Speaker 3>next hour or two, like I'm good, I just need

0:46:55.800 --> 0:46:58.280
<v Speaker 3>to rage for like a second totally, and I'm impulsive.

0:46:58.400 --> 0:47:03.840
<v Speaker 3>I'm impulsive. Jump Oh doesn't rage. He kind of sits back,

0:47:04.320 --> 0:47:06.799
<v Speaker 3>he doesn't say much. Things will bother him, things will

0:47:06.800 --> 0:47:12.480
<v Speaker 3>bother him. Then he'll explode like out of nowhere, and

0:47:12.520 --> 0:47:15.080
<v Speaker 3>he'll hold the grudge. He won't talk to you for

0:47:15.200 --> 0:47:18.840
<v Speaker 3>probably three to four days. So it's a problem because

0:47:19.080 --> 0:47:21.000
<v Speaker 3>I want to rage on you. I want to go crazy,

0:47:21.040 --> 0:47:22.960
<v Speaker 3>I want to like get it all out. And then

0:47:22.960 --> 0:47:25.239
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, all right, let's go to dinner like I'm good,

0:47:25.520 --> 0:47:28.560
<v Speaker 3>and he won't speak to you for three days. So

0:47:28.640 --> 0:47:32.240
<v Speaker 3>it's like we just have totally different styles of argument.

0:47:32.440 --> 0:47:33.920
<v Speaker 3>We argue totally different.

0:47:33.920 --> 0:47:36.239
<v Speaker 1>I think I'm more like you. I'm more like you,

0:47:36.280 --> 0:47:39.520
<v Speaker 1>and I explode on people and then I'm like, Okay,

0:47:39.640 --> 0:47:44.080
<v Speaker 1>feel better and I'm like why is everyone so destroyed?

0:47:44.280 --> 0:47:47.240
<v Speaker 1>And they're like are you kidding? Like what you just said?

0:47:47.280 --> 0:47:47.920
<v Speaker 1>And did.

0:47:49.440 --> 0:47:52.840
<v Speaker 3>So I get it and I say nasty, I like

0:47:53.000 --> 0:47:56.919
<v Speaker 3>get like impulsively crazy, and I'm like, I think we're

0:47:57.000 --> 0:47:59.319
<v Speaker 3>just on our producers to be honest, like if they've

0:47:59.360 --> 0:48:01.880
<v Speaker 3>called me to say something that I don't like but

0:48:03.520 --> 0:48:06.960
<v Speaker 3>what like how and then they'll like call me to

0:48:07.200 --> 0:48:10.840
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, wow, I was like aggressive before, Like I'm good,

0:48:10.880 --> 0:48:13.520
<v Speaker 3>Like I understand why you're saying that to me. I

0:48:13.719 --> 0:48:16.920
<v Speaker 3>just like I don't know. I I'm very impulsive. But

0:48:16.920 --> 0:48:19.400
<v Speaker 3>then I chill. But then yeah, but that's an awesome thing.

0:48:19.400 --> 0:48:21.600
<v Speaker 3>I'm a forgiver. I move on like I'm not a

0:48:21.600 --> 0:48:24.160
<v Speaker 3>grudge holder. And I always say, like it's better to

0:48:24.200 --> 0:48:26.240
<v Speaker 3>be that way because there's a reason, like you must.

0:48:26.440 --> 0:48:28.920
<v Speaker 3>I feel like the happier person can let things go

0:48:29.320 --> 0:48:31.359
<v Speaker 3>because it's like you don't want to ruin the night right.

0:48:31.400 --> 0:48:33.400
<v Speaker 3>You don't want to when you fight with your boyfriend

0:48:33.560 --> 0:48:36.399
<v Speaker 3>or you fight with your husband or your significant other.

0:48:36.440 --> 0:48:38.920
<v Speaker 3>You don't want to ruin the whole weekend. Like let's

0:48:38.960 --> 0:48:40.719
<v Speaker 3>just like get it out and move on. I don't

0:48:40.760 --> 0:48:43.600
<v Speaker 3>like when you ruin the dinners that are coming up

0:48:43.680 --> 0:48:45.600
<v Speaker 3>or like totally go to the movies later. I'm not

0:48:45.600 --> 0:48:48.160
<v Speaker 3>going to hate each other for that, Like let's drop it.

0:48:48.239 --> 0:48:51.600
<v Speaker 3>But Joe will ruin the whole weekend, Like the whole weekend.

0:48:51.719 --> 0:48:56.960
<v Speaker 3>Weekend is fucked if this happens. So so that's how

0:48:57.000 --> 0:48:57.479
<v Speaker 3>that goes.

0:48:57.680 --> 0:48:59.640
<v Speaker 1>So you guys have been married. You said you were

0:48:59.640 --> 0:49:02.239
<v Speaker 1>married for two years when you started the show.

0:49:02.000 --> 0:49:04.600
<v Speaker 3>Five five years? Oh no, how could that be? Yes,

0:49:04.719 --> 0:49:06.520
<v Speaker 3>five years? We were married for five years?

0:49:06.640 --> 0:49:09.200
<v Speaker 1>Wow, and Antonio was no.

0:49:09.120 --> 0:49:12.319
<v Speaker 3>It can't be because Antonio was four. So I think

0:49:12.320 --> 0:49:15.080
<v Speaker 3>it was like we had her. We had her. I

0:49:15.120 --> 0:49:18.640
<v Speaker 3>got pregnant two months after I got married, so we Yes.

0:49:18.719 --> 0:49:20.880
<v Speaker 3>I want to say I was only married for like

0:49:20.920 --> 0:49:21.759
<v Speaker 3>three and a half years.

0:49:21.800 --> 0:49:23.400
<v Speaker 1>Okay, So I don't know why how long have you

0:49:23.440 --> 0:49:24.960
<v Speaker 1>guys been together because I'm bad at math.

0:49:25.200 --> 0:49:26.320
<v Speaker 3>Seventeen years?

0:49:26.440 --> 0:49:27.439
<v Speaker 1>Oh my good.

0:49:28.800 --> 0:49:34.640
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we just hit seventeen years, so crazy, absolutely crazy. Yeah,

0:49:34.680 --> 0:49:37.319
<v Speaker 3>Antonia sixteen. We were in the fast lane though, like

0:49:37.400 --> 0:49:40.720
<v Speaker 3>I met him at twenty four, was married by twenty five,

0:49:41.320 --> 0:49:43.440
<v Speaker 3>had Antonia at twenty six.

0:49:43.760 --> 0:49:45.239
<v Speaker 1>Oh damn, and then was.

0:49:45.200 --> 0:49:48.600
<v Speaker 3>On reality TV. I was thirty or thirty one, so

0:49:49.520 --> 0:49:51.160
<v Speaker 3>so yeah, I was only married for like four and

0:49:51.160 --> 0:49:51.920
<v Speaker 3>a half years.

0:49:51.960 --> 0:49:55.719
<v Speaker 1>Wow. Can I tell you if you were to tell

0:49:55.760 --> 0:49:58.719
<v Speaker 1>that story but you were based in LA you guys

0:49:58.760 --> 0:50:00.320
<v Speaker 1>would be divorced already.

0:50:00.560 --> 0:50:05.280
<v Speaker 3>I listen, not for nothing, but start doing your homework.

0:50:05.360 --> 0:50:09.400
<v Speaker 3>We are one of the longest standing reality couples on

0:50:09.480 --> 0:50:12.360
<v Speaker 3>Bravo and in the universe.

0:50:12.760 --> 0:50:13.640
<v Speaker 1>In the universe.

0:50:14.400 --> 0:50:17.600
<v Speaker 3>We're one of them. Yes we are, we are. We've

0:50:17.600 --> 0:50:19.839
<v Speaker 3>been Yes, we're going strong for seventy years. It is

0:50:19.880 --> 0:50:25.040
<v Speaker 3>not easy to be married on reality TV, especially housewives,

0:50:25.680 --> 0:50:31.200
<v Speaker 3>because they draw in so much into your marriage, your

0:50:31.239 --> 0:50:33.719
<v Speaker 3>home life. It's not like I'm on a show about

0:50:33.800 --> 0:50:35.839
<v Speaker 3>decorating where I leave my house every day and I go.

0:50:35.880 --> 0:50:38.960
<v Speaker 3>You watch me decorate a window. You're watching me in

0:50:39.080 --> 0:50:41.279
<v Speaker 3>my house with my kids, my children, my husband, my

0:50:41.360 --> 0:50:45.120
<v Speaker 3>home arguments. So the hardest thing in the world is

0:50:45.160 --> 0:50:47.839
<v Speaker 3>to be married on reality television. So I gotta say,

0:50:47.920 --> 0:50:49.880
<v Speaker 3>Joe and I are doing a pretty good job.

0:50:50.000 --> 0:50:51.800
<v Speaker 1>You're doing a damn good job.

0:50:51.880 --> 0:50:53.920
<v Speaker 3>Thank you. We've had bumps in the road, don't let

0:50:53.920 --> 0:50:56.080
<v Speaker 3>me get you wrong. Like through the pandemic, I feel

0:50:56.120 --> 0:51:00.000
<v Speaker 3>like I got a little I was getting definitely busy,

0:51:00.400 --> 0:51:02.480
<v Speaker 3>very I was always busy, but it went up to

0:51:02.520 --> 0:51:05.160
<v Speaker 3>a different level. I would say maybe the year before

0:51:05.320 --> 0:51:08.919
<v Speaker 3>that twenty twenty pandemic hit, and so I was out

0:51:08.920 --> 0:51:10.719
<v Speaker 3>of the house a lot. The whole year of like

0:51:10.719 --> 0:51:14.840
<v Speaker 3>twenty nineteen, I would say, and I was super busy.

0:51:14.920 --> 0:51:17.759
<v Speaker 3>And then as soon as the pandemic pandemic hit, which

0:51:17.800 --> 0:51:20.759
<v Speaker 3>was really March of twenty twenty, right, and we all

0:51:20.840 --> 0:51:23.680
<v Speaker 3>just like shut down in every state. Joe and I

0:51:23.800 --> 0:51:26.279
<v Speaker 3>work so much that we're not used to you know,

0:51:26.320 --> 0:51:28.080
<v Speaker 3>we don't talk. So I think he was getting a

0:51:28.080 --> 0:51:31.399
<v Speaker 3>little annoyed with like all of my work. He felt

0:51:31.440 --> 0:51:32.719
<v Speaker 3>like I was starting to be out of the house

0:51:32.719 --> 0:51:34.839
<v Speaker 3>too much. I was starting to put work before him.

0:51:34.920 --> 0:51:38.080
<v Speaker 3>I was, you know, becoming this mongol that didn't care

0:51:38.120 --> 0:51:41.680
<v Speaker 3>about anything but like money and work and getting bigger fame.

0:51:42.000 --> 0:51:44.160
<v Speaker 3>That was in his head, which is not true, but

0:51:44.640 --> 0:51:46.560
<v Speaker 3>that was where his head was at at the time.

0:51:46.920 --> 0:51:49.160
<v Speaker 3>So when the pandemic hit in twenty twenty and we

0:51:49.200 --> 0:51:51.200
<v Speaker 3>had so much time to sit on a couch and

0:51:51.320 --> 0:51:54.000
<v Speaker 3>actually look at each other because you couldn't leave the house, right,

0:51:54.320 --> 0:51:57.440
<v Speaker 3>I think that's when things really came to head and

0:51:57.480 --> 0:51:59.919
<v Speaker 3>we started to argue. And they also started the camera

0:52:00.200 --> 0:52:02.520
<v Speaker 3>up within a month or two later. So there was

0:52:02.560 --> 0:52:05.200
<v Speaker 3>that one season two seasons ago where you really saw

0:52:05.320 --> 0:52:08.319
<v Speaker 3>us like at each other's throats, and it was it

0:52:08.400 --> 0:52:10.680
<v Speaker 3>was real. It was because that was what was really

0:52:10.760 --> 0:52:13.600
<v Speaker 3>going down in our house, and and that was it.

0:52:13.719 --> 0:52:15.960
<v Speaker 3>I feel like we went through that bump and we were,

0:52:16.400 --> 0:52:18.720
<v Speaker 3>you know, we come out of it, but it's not easy.

0:52:18.800 --> 0:52:22.640
<v Speaker 3>It's not easy, really television. And it's for a guy

0:52:22.719 --> 0:52:25.600
<v Speaker 3>who marries someone who wasn't in this world.

0:52:25.760 --> 0:52:28.760
<v Speaker 1>Originally, I was just gonna say this right, And now.

0:52:28.640 --> 0:52:31.400
<v Speaker 3>It's like, I didn't marry some woman who has to

0:52:31.400 --> 0:52:33.320
<v Speaker 3>be in New York City every night and at events

0:52:33.320 --> 0:52:37.520
<v Speaker 3>and on red carpets and business meetings and publicists, and

0:52:37.560 --> 0:52:38.800
<v Speaker 3>he's like, what the fuck?

0:52:39.120 --> 0:52:42.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And it's probably also one of those things where

0:52:42.560 --> 0:52:47.000
<v Speaker 1>he marries this beautiful woman and you know, you guys

0:52:47.120 --> 0:52:49.560
<v Speaker 1>go out in New Jersey or you travel, and it's

0:52:49.680 --> 0:52:52.680
<v Speaker 1>just who's in that room that gets to sit and

0:52:52.719 --> 0:52:55.320
<v Speaker 1>look and you know, at you guys as a couple,

0:52:55.880 --> 0:52:58.520
<v Speaker 1>and how beautiful you are. And then all of the sudden,

0:52:59.320 --> 0:53:03.440
<v Speaker 1>you know, you're getting all of this attention from people

0:53:03.680 --> 0:53:08.080
<v Speaker 1>all over the world. Really, and I'm sure for any

0:53:08.160 --> 0:53:11.560
<v Speaker 1>man that is like what is this, Like this is

0:53:11.680 --> 0:53:15.480
<v Speaker 1>my beautiful wife? Who are all of these people coming

0:53:15.520 --> 0:53:16.959
<v Speaker 1>in and acting like they know her?

0:53:17.560 --> 0:53:20.680
<v Speaker 3>That would mess with me one percent. And especially a

0:53:20.719 --> 0:53:24.040
<v Speaker 3>guy like Joe, who is that guy like this is mine?

0:53:24.239 --> 0:53:26.319
<v Speaker 3>Like he's a claimer, you know what I mean, He's

0:53:26.560 --> 0:53:29.600
<v Speaker 3>he has a little of that old school like Italian boy,

0:53:29.920 --> 0:53:33.440
<v Speaker 3>like that's my wife type vibe. You know. So it

0:53:33.520 --> 0:53:37.040
<v Speaker 3>might hit someone else different. For Joe, it hits hard,

0:53:37.360 --> 0:53:39.879
<v Speaker 3>you know. So it took a minute, but I think

0:53:39.920 --> 0:53:41.680
<v Speaker 3>we got there. I think we got there. He got that.

0:53:41.840 --> 0:53:44.719
<v Speaker 3>Look at him now, he's running around on stages doing

0:53:44.719 --> 0:53:48.160
<v Speaker 3>his comedy and he's loving that. So you know, I'm like, oh,

0:53:48.160 --> 0:53:49.719
<v Speaker 3>he yelled at me, forgot he put it. He made

0:53:49.760 --> 0:53:52.879
<v Speaker 3>himself a tour. He's all over the place. He's all

0:53:52.920 --> 0:53:55.279
<v Speaker 3>over the place, like you know. So I'm like, all right,

0:53:55.480 --> 0:53:56.040
<v Speaker 3>here we go.

0:53:56.280 --> 0:53:58.160
<v Speaker 1>Like I love that he's doing that.

0:53:58.280 --> 0:54:01.600
<v Speaker 3>At the core of though we have, there's like there's

0:54:01.680 --> 0:54:03.120
<v Speaker 3>love there, do you know what I mean? So I

0:54:03.160 --> 0:54:07.080
<v Speaker 3>always tell everyone who's looking to get married, who if

0:54:07.080 --> 0:54:10.200
<v Speaker 3>you're looking for anyone new, whatever it is, make sure

0:54:10.239 --> 0:54:13.000
<v Speaker 3>there's true love there. Because money does not carry you through.

0:54:14.200 --> 0:54:16.680
<v Speaker 3>Looks will not carry you through either. There needs to

0:54:16.719 --> 0:54:20.839
<v Speaker 3>be love and attraction, not necessarily looks, but something needs

0:54:20.920 --> 0:54:23.200
<v Speaker 3>to be So you need to be so attracted and

0:54:23.239 --> 0:54:26.319
<v Speaker 3>hang on their every word and miss them when you're

0:54:26.320 --> 0:54:29.120
<v Speaker 3>not with them or else. Trust me, everyone out there,

0:54:29.200 --> 0:54:31.320
<v Speaker 3>it just gets harder, it gets harder.

0:54:31.400 --> 0:54:34.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to find all of that. I'm good so

0:54:35.560 --> 0:54:37.680
<v Speaker 1>glad that I had you on the podcast, that you

0:54:38.120 --> 0:54:41.320
<v Speaker 1>finally had time in your busy schedule. Where can people

0:54:41.480 --> 0:54:44.839
<v Speaker 1>shop Envy who don't live in New Jersey and where

0:54:44.840 --> 0:54:46.360
<v Speaker 1>can they find you? Look and find?

0:54:46.520 --> 0:54:50.200
<v Speaker 3>So you can go to Envy buy mg dot com

0:54:50.400 --> 0:54:52.960
<v Speaker 3>and find everything I wear basically on there. We have

0:54:53.040 --> 0:54:55.200
<v Speaker 3>so much. We have everything from denam to date tonight,

0:54:55.320 --> 0:54:58.359
<v Speaker 3>so everything. And of course you guys can all listen

0:54:58.400 --> 0:55:00.560
<v Speaker 3>to my podcast that I'm so great that you came

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<v Speaker 3>on too. Thank you for having on with so much fun.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you, Melissa. We'll talk to you soon, babe.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, all right bye