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Speaker 1: Hellotle, my gorgeous humans. It's your friend, Lala Kent. What

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Speaker 1: is good Jessica Walter?

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Speaker 2: Hi, Lala Kent.

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Speaker 1: How are you?

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Speaker 2: How are you feeling?

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Speaker 1: I'm feeling happy today.

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Speaker 3: Are you?

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Speaker 2: How is your weekend?

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Speaker 1: My weekend was awesome. Okay. I went to my friend

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Speaker 1: Janet's engagement party. That was fabulous. I took Ocean with me.

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Speaker 1: I'm that girl who was like, you have a baby

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Speaker 3: Wait?

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Speaker 2: What is that from?

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Speaker 3: Oh? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I took her and she loved it. She loved every minute,

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Speaker 1: the most popular one there besides the bride to be Okay,

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Speaker 1: and then thank you mom my. Mom brought in a

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Speaker 1: sweatshirt for me, closed the motherfucking door out. I'm just kidding.

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Speaker 1: I love you. And then last night I had a

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Speaker 1: really fun time. I went and had girl time. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I want to talk to everyone about what my girl

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Speaker 1: time consisted of. But before we get super into that,

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Speaker 1: I want to remind everybody that I'm going on tour.

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Speaker 1: You're welcome. I'm going on tour. We're gonna start in Irvine, California.

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Speaker 1: Then we are hitting Fort Lauderdale, Clearwater, Orlando, Atlanta, Nashville,

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Speaker 1: New Orleans, Houston, Austin, and Dallas. I'm so excited. The

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Speaker 1: tour is going to be amazing. It's the Give Them

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Speaker 1: La La brand new tour, very interactive. We just had

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Speaker 1: for the segments.

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Speaker 4: Hey guys, Lalla is bringing it on this tour. If

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Speaker 4: you don't have your tickets, buy them now. Because I

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Speaker 4: was like I was sitting in on the meeting freaking

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Speaker 1: Everything she was saying she was gonna do.

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Speaker 1: We it was like I had it in my head

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Speaker 1: and then we put it down on paper and we

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Speaker 1: I was just like, Bam, this is what we're doing

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Speaker 1: this segment. And I literally had chills. Everyone else had chills.

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Speaker 1: I was like, I'm a fucking genius and everyone coming

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Speaker 1: to the show is going to have such a fun

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Speaker 1: time and I'm going to have such a fun time

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Speaker 1: with everybody. Yes, So if you do not have your

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Speaker 1: tickets yet, go to give them live dot com and

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Speaker 1: if you purchase tickets that were for the old tour.

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Speaker 1: Those tickets are still valid and I can't wait to

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Speaker 1: see all of you because I love you so much.

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Speaker 1: Let's talk about my girl time last night. Let's hear it.

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Speaker 1: It was all about sex, love it all about it. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So there were five of us. Katie is obviously married,

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Speaker 1: so and then the other girl just got into a relationship.

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Speaker 1: So the three of us were newly single, like newly single,

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Speaker 1: and you know, it gets weird. It gets weird when

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Speaker 1: unless you haven't asked. Like Ariannas, I'm tapping that ship.

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Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. But I'm on a roll today. We

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Speaker 1: I'm like on a roll you are. So I'm sitting

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Speaker 2: You think it'll be fun? What do you think the

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Speaker 1: I don't sext, right, I don't sext I'm thirty fucking one, right,

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Speaker 1: right sexting though it ain't happening. Of better things to do?

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yes, suh, I'm interested in that. Okay, I'm

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Speaker 1: Like I got some I got some cute little boobies,

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Speaker 1: right yeah, but it looks they they're they're small now,

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Speaker 1: they're they're not the boobies that I had before Ocean,

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Speaker 1: I was pregnant or breastfeating Ocean read two hours. They

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Speaker 4: Okay, so you're getting them done, well, I mean it

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Speaker 1: Myself, and then I'm gonna be generous enough to share them.

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Speaker 1: To share them fine ass men?

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Speaker 2: So do you think that's the only thing holding you back?

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Speaker 4: Like, you know, well, I'm not comfortable going on dates

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Speaker 4: you think once you get your boobs done, it's like

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Speaker 4: too much?

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Speaker 1: No, I think you would think that by what I'm saying. Definitely,

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Speaker 1: I'm all over the place today. No, but it's good.

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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to break it down because I like like

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Speaker 1: making funny jokes, right, but for real, mentally, I'm not there. Okay,

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Speaker 1: once I get my boobs done, I probably still won't

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Speaker 2: For me, I love that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like the bounce back. It's like, ooh, there's

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Speaker 1: nothing hotter than like a hot mom. It's like, right,

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Speaker 1: she's fine. Oh, and she's like a human being, right,

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Speaker 1: Like she popped a baby out of that cookie, right,

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Speaker 4: I know, and there's more hot moms. Maybe it's just

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Speaker 1: I don't want it. We don't even have to pop

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Speaker 1: We are back. We have Melissa Gorga. Hello, gorgeous, Hi pretty,

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Speaker 1: one on camera and the one that is not on camera,

433
00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:13,399
Speaker 1: like how do you do that? Does Joe help you

434
00:22:13,440 --> 00:22:13,679
Speaker 1: do that?

435
00:22:14,720 --> 00:22:17,800
Speaker 3: No, I feel like we're pros at it at this point.

436
00:22:17,840 --> 00:22:20,920
Speaker 3: I feel like we've learned and even you know, within

437
00:22:20,960 --> 00:22:23,560
Speaker 3: our own family dynamic. I mean really like I feel

438
00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:26,199
Speaker 3: like the Gorgas and the judea Ice is really you know,

439
00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:29,320
Speaker 3: we've held that show for so long because we've given

440
00:22:29,680 --> 00:22:32,600
Speaker 3: our real family drama to it. So we've also learned

441
00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:35,440
Speaker 3: how to separate the two. And it's not that it's

442
00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:37,600
Speaker 3: real life and fake life. That's not really what's going

443
00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:40,600
Speaker 3: on because all the situations are real. But what's going

444
00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:43,560
Speaker 3: on is it's the life that happened probably six months ago.

445
00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:47,720
Speaker 3: So you're trying to like come back, like you're trying

446
00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:49,560
Speaker 3: not to go back to that spot when you're eating

447
00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:52,040
Speaker 3: Sunday dinner. That's always like the challenge because no matter

448
00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:53,760
Speaker 3: what you want to be, like, oh, like on that

449
00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:57,359
Speaker 3: interview when you said, you know, it's always the confessional

450
00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:02,400
Speaker 3: I Shall kill you. Reality TV, we get like Ballsy

451
00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:04,880
Speaker 3: and our confessionals because it's your time to just go

452
00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:07,520
Speaker 3: and it's venting and you're not really saying it to

453
00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:10,840
Speaker 3: someone's face. So I feel like everyone gets there, like

454
00:23:10,920 --> 00:23:13,520
Speaker 3: it's a little ballsy, and the confessionals.

455
00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:15,919
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm the I totally agree in my confessionals. I

456
00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:19,680
Speaker 1: feel like I'm with a therapist who's always team wai

457
00:23:19,760 --> 00:23:23,880
Speaker 1: la yes, and I just rant, just like.

458
00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:27,000
Speaker 3: Go tell us you have every right to feel that way.

459
00:23:27,200 --> 00:23:30,080
Speaker 1: They do. They encourage it, and then they look at

460
00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:32,480
Speaker 1: you and you see this big grin on their face,

461
00:23:32,600 --> 00:23:35,600
Speaker 1: you know, the person that's sitting there talking to you,

462
00:23:35,800 --> 00:23:37,040
Speaker 1: and you just are like, and.

463
00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:39,440
Speaker 3: They're so happy or delivering, and it's.

464
00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:41,960
Speaker 1: Just yeah, you feel like I did great today, And

465
00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:44,760
Speaker 1: then you watch it and you're like, why did I

466
00:23:44,920 --> 00:23:45,240
Speaker 1: do that?

467
00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:49,119
Speaker 3: It's so funny. There's such a big difference between like

468
00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:52,399
Speaker 3: sitting in that room with your makeup done all ready

469
00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:54,080
Speaker 3: to go, with the lights on, so like when you're

470
00:23:54,080 --> 00:23:57,040
Speaker 3: on the couch watch and you're like, oh shit, I said.

471
00:23:56,800 --> 00:24:00,400
Speaker 1: That, Like I know, like, how can one person into

472
00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:04,200
Speaker 1: such a savage in a room by herself with a

473
00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:06,000
Speaker 1: camera onner It happened.

474
00:24:06,160 --> 00:24:09,000
Speaker 3: It happens. They think we're by ourselves, little do they

475
00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:13,399
Speaker 3: know there's cameramenal lights and there's per asking us questions

476
00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:16,040
Speaker 3: and you know, you think you're by yourself, but it's

477
00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:18,399
Speaker 3: just it's a vibe and it's also it really is

478
00:24:18,440 --> 00:24:22,280
Speaker 3: truly like a venting situation. It's like you've been dying

479
00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:24,320
Speaker 3: to vent and there's someone in front of you with

480
00:24:24,440 --> 00:24:28,359
Speaker 3: a psychiatrist or a therapist that's just like vent, tell

481
00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:30,520
Speaker 3: me everything, and you just I just go.

482
00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:32,520
Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, I don't know. I just oh, I've been

483
00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:34,520
Speaker 1: on a roll some of those times. And I'm like,

484
00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:37,200
Speaker 1: and you know, they don't care if you want things

485
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:40,560
Speaker 1: cut out. They're like, you said it, if we like it,

486
00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:41,439
Speaker 1: it's being used.

487
00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:45,120
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that's that's for sure. I have over the years.

488
00:24:45,160 --> 00:24:47,439
Speaker 3: I'll never forget. Like the first couple of seasons I

489
00:24:47,480 --> 00:24:49,879
Speaker 3: was on the show, I would call and be like,

490
00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:52,800
Speaker 3: oh no, like this is totally taken out of context,

491
00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:54,879
Speaker 3: Like that is not how that went down. Like I

492
00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:58,080
Speaker 3: didn't like the way that came off. And they were like, yeah,

493
00:24:58,160 --> 00:24:59,760
Speaker 3: well if you say it and you do it, Like

494
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:03,000
Speaker 3: there is absolutely nothing like any one of the things

495
00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:06,360
Speaker 3: we have editing over like we have no editing at all,

496
00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:10,080
Speaker 3: no editing rights, Like we have to accept whatever comes

497
00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:12,120
Speaker 3: at right and that is it. Like we can't all

498
00:25:12,119 --> 00:25:14,200
Speaker 3: and complain and they'll change it. That doesn't happen.

499
00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:16,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I do know. I wish that I had

500
00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:19,560
Speaker 1: that power because I would edit a lot of things.

501
00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:21,760
Speaker 3: Don't we all. I want my next reality TV show,

502
00:25:21,760 --> 00:25:24,399
Speaker 3: I'm going to produce it also, that's what I've decided.

503
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:28,040
Speaker 1: That's the money move, be a producer on the actual

504
00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:32,640
Speaker 1: show that you're on. I feel like when the way

505
00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:38,080
Speaker 1: that I like compartmentalize real life versus my real life,

506
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:39,320
Speaker 1: that's the only way I know how to put it,

507
00:25:39,320 --> 00:25:43,199
Speaker 1: because like you said, it is real life is I

508
00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:47,160
Speaker 1: have to remember whatever is edited for the actual show,

509
00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:50,720
Speaker 1: even though that is my behavior. If I go insane

510
00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:54,560
Speaker 1: or I say something messed up, it's like, okay, but

511
00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:57,320
Speaker 1: we made a damn good show. Like that's the only

512
00:25:57,480 --> 00:25:59,600
Speaker 1: way I can get through it, Melissa. For me to

513
00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 1: not be mortified during certain moments, I have to just

514
00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:05,520
Speaker 1: sit there and be like it was entertaining.

515
00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:09,119
Speaker 3: So it and you almost owe that to like, you know,

516
00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:11,840
Speaker 3: there is a piece of this where yes, it's your

517
00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:14,320
Speaker 3: real life and it's it's your real thoughts and feelings

518
00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 3: and opinions, but like, at the same time, we are

519
00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:20,760
Speaker 3: making television trucks, you know, So there is a part

520
00:26:20,800 --> 00:26:23,600
Speaker 3: where you're like, okay, like I make nobody wants to

521
00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:26,359
Speaker 3: watch anybody like sew us a blanket, you know what,

522
00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:29,280
Speaker 3: Like nobody wants to see that, you know. So there

523
00:26:29,320 --> 00:26:32,359
Speaker 3: is an aspect of it where it's like we're on

524
00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:35,439
Speaker 3: reality TV and you know, we know it. So there

525
00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:37,840
Speaker 3: is a certain part that you do have to give

526
00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:41,320
Speaker 3: up that vulnerable side and get a little crazy sometimes

527
00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:44,119
Speaker 3: and oh shit, what did I do or say? But

528
00:26:44,320 --> 00:26:46,520
Speaker 3: it's like you're on reality television, so you almost owe

529
00:26:46,520 --> 00:26:48,720
Speaker 3: it to the fans, you know, to show them what

530
00:26:48,800 --> 00:26:50,960
Speaker 3: you really feel and how it's really going down.

531
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Speaker 1: I totally agree with you. Did you ever I'm a

532
00:26:54,600 --> 00:26:57,120
Speaker 1: huge fan of yours, like I fan Girl Out all

533
00:26:57,160 --> 00:26:57,600
Speaker 1: the time.

534
00:26:57,880 --> 00:26:58,199
Speaker 3: Thank you?

535
00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:02,800
Speaker 1: Did you ever feel worried about putting your your kids

536
00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:07,879
Speaker 1: on TV at such a young age and were you

537
00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:12,440
Speaker 1: worried about like what the trolls would say or did

538
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:14,600
Speaker 1: you even go there when you signed up for the show.

539
00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:17,720
Speaker 1: Did it just seem like we're a family, like this

540
00:27:17,760 --> 00:27:20,520
Speaker 1: could be a fun opportunity or did you think, like

541
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:22,560
Speaker 1: my kids are really young, I don't know that I

542
00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:23,560
Speaker 1: want them out there like that.

543
00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:26,840
Speaker 3: I did worry about the kids at in the beginning,

544
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:30,200
Speaker 3: but my kids were so young Joey was two months old,

545
00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:32,919
Speaker 3: so it was like I was they weren't teenagers, I

546
00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:36,440
Speaker 3: think I would worry more because at the time, it's like, oh, well,

547
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:38,080
Speaker 3: what's my four year old going to do wrong? And

548
00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:40,560
Speaker 3: Gina was two, so you're thinking, oh, they're going to

549
00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 3: show them just so cute and they're cute outfits and

550
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:45,280
Speaker 3: like playing. That's where my brain went, like how big

551
00:27:45,320 --> 00:27:48,440
Speaker 3: of a bow can I put on our head? And yeah,

552
00:27:48,520 --> 00:27:50,359
Speaker 3: like there's too Like I'm like, they're going to be

553
00:27:50,440 --> 00:27:53,080
Speaker 3: playing on the floor. I worry about it more now

554
00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:57,120
Speaker 3: that I have a cour Yes, definitely more as a teenager,

555
00:27:57,240 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 3: because their friends actually watched the show. Know, in preschool,

556
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:03,400
Speaker 3: nobody's watching The Real Housewives and U Jerity. Now their

557
00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:05,480
Speaker 3: friends watch it. We go to the we go to

558
00:28:05,520 --> 00:28:08,159
Speaker 3: the football games, and their friends are like like you know,

559
00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:10,960
Speaker 3: their friends are like, holy where you know, I could

560
00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:13,119
Speaker 3: have gone anywhere with them in the beginning seasons and

561
00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:15,600
Speaker 3: they don't know what's going on the kids. But now

562
00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:18,600
Speaker 3: you know, the teenagers are fans. They watch the show

563
00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:22,160
Speaker 3: and so you know, Antonia, I'll be driving with Antonio,

564
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:23,879
Speaker 3: She'll put it on FaceTime like so and so I

565
00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:26,000
Speaker 3: want to say hi, mom, Like, hey, Like, it's like

566
00:28:26,560 --> 00:28:28,800
Speaker 3: that I worry about you don't have to worry about

567
00:28:28,800 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 3: it while your your beautiful little daughter is dis little.

568
00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:33,840
Speaker 3: It's it's when they turn into like you know, I

569
00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 3: would say eleven, twelve, thirteen, fourteen, like these eight. This

570
00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 3: is where it gets a little difficult because they're old

571
00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 3: enough to understand what the show is. They've seen it

572
00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:45,720
Speaker 3: on TV. Their parents are watching it and they sit

573
00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:48,040
Speaker 3: down they're like, oh, that's my friend's mom, you know

574
00:28:48,080 --> 00:28:51,280
Speaker 3: what I mean, Like, that's where so you have some

575
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:54,840
Speaker 3: time before you have to stress about about, you know,

576
00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:57,840
Speaker 3: your child being on TV. But it's definitely harder for

577
00:28:57,880 --> 00:29:01,400
Speaker 3: me now, definitely because I worry sometimes what she's going

578
00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:03,080
Speaker 3: to say. Like a lot of the times they love

579
00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:05,360
Speaker 3: my kids in the scene and they love my kids

580
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:08,280
Speaker 3: to film, so I worry. I'm like, Oh, I don't

581
00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 3: want her to say anything as a sixteen year old

582
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:12,720
Speaker 3: girl that she's ever going to regret because I can't

583
00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:14,520
Speaker 3: guarantee I can get it taken out totally.

584
00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:15,520
Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean?

585
00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:19,720
Speaker 3: That's stressful Now, it's stressful. Back then, it was not stressful.

586
00:29:19,760 --> 00:29:22,480
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, you just gave me all the anxiety

587
00:29:22,520 --> 00:29:23,040
Speaker 1: in the world.

588
00:29:23,400 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 3: I worry about that, to be honest, now, you know,

589
00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:27,640
Speaker 3: because now I have the podcast and I'm doing that

590
00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:29,840
Speaker 3: all the time. I worry about just what Joe and

591
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:34,040
Speaker 3: I say on my podcast, to be honest, Like just

592
00:29:34,120 --> 00:29:39,040
Speaker 3: because we talk so personal about relationship and our marriage,

593
00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:42,040
Speaker 3: and like sometimes I worry just what she's going to

594
00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:44,040
Speaker 3: hear on the podcast. Do you know what I'm saying?

595
00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:46,320
Speaker 3: Because I feel like the podcast is on edit, it's

596
00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:49,240
Speaker 3: even a little a little more raunchy than definitely more

597
00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:51,320
Speaker 3: raunchy than the show is, like from what Joe and

598
00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:53,440
Speaker 3: I will say to each other. So I'm like, God,

599
00:29:53,480 --> 00:29:56,760
Speaker 3: and she's listening. I'm now I'm always thinking about her listening.

600
00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 1: So she she listens to your podcast.

601
00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:03,320
Speaker 3: Well, she's very active on Instagram. You know, I'm posting, Yes,

602
00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:06,200
Speaker 3: I'm posting the clips, Like I posted a clip yesterday

603
00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 3: just about like Joe, like that they try to get

604
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:11,240
Speaker 3: in the room while we're you know, while Joe's there's

605
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:14,360
Speaker 3: no lock on it, right, So he comes home He's like,

606
00:30:14,400 --> 00:30:16,520
Speaker 3: you know, she heard that. Now she's gonna think every time.

607
00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:19,960
Speaker 3: I'm like, I know. Like, so it's a thing when

608
00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:23,880
Speaker 3: your kids get this age because they understand everything. Like

609
00:30:24,120 --> 00:30:26,520
Speaker 3: just that clip loaned to her, She's probably like, oh

610
00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:28,520
Speaker 3: my god, my parents are trying to like have sex

611
00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:31,200
Speaker 3: in the room and I'm I'm bart I'm ruining it

612
00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:32,040
Speaker 3: for them all the time.

613
00:30:32,080 --> 00:30:33,480
Speaker 1: Oh my, that's what I go.

614
00:30:34,520 --> 00:30:37,240
Speaker 3: You know, yes, So if I'm saying this, that's why

615
00:30:37,280 --> 00:30:39,640
Speaker 3: I'm like, there's just so much to be part of

616
00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:42,360
Speaker 3: this world. When you have children that kind of like,

617
00:30:42,640 --> 00:30:45,040
Speaker 3: it does get a little scary, and it also it

618
00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:47,880
Speaker 3: also makes them very mature because you they end up

619
00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:50,479
Speaker 3: hearing it all, knowing it all, and like, I am

620
00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:53,680
Speaker 3: blessed I have like great kids. They really are great.

621
00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:56,800
Speaker 3: They're very mature. They're not they're like above the frey.

622
00:30:56,840 --> 00:30:59,680
Speaker 3: They don't care that they're like that everyone knows their name,

623
00:30:59,760 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 3: or that they're on TV or how it goes.

624
00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:02,040
Speaker 1: Used to it.

625
00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:04,800
Speaker 3: You think they're used to it, but it's not something

626
00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:07,400
Speaker 3: they thrive off of, which I love. It's not My

627
00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:11,200
Speaker 3: kids are athletes. They're like athletes. They play football, they wrestle.

628
00:31:11,240 --> 00:31:14,640
Speaker 3: My daughters and a gymnast and a cheerleader. So they

629
00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 3: thrive off that, which I love because you never know,

630
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:18,960
Speaker 3: growing up in this world, they could have turned into

631
00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:22,560
Speaker 3: some little monsters like thinking who not shit and like

632
00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:26,120
Speaker 3: who they are? You know, but they thank god it's

633
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:26,520
Speaker 3: been good.

634
00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:28,920
Speaker 1: Well that makes me happy because you're right. They could

635
00:31:28,960 --> 00:31:31,960
Speaker 1: have turned into like little baby terrorists. You don't know.

636
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:33,959
Speaker 3: You don't know when you sign up for this stuff,

637
00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:36,000
Speaker 3: like what's going to happen to your life? I didn't know.

638
00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:39,280
Speaker 3: I mean my life changed drastically from just you know,

639
00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:43,200
Speaker 3: so drastically, like you know, I'm so in business now

640
00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:45,200
Speaker 3: and I'm so busy all the time, where before I

641
00:31:45,240 --> 00:31:47,920
Speaker 3: was like where am I going shopping today? And who

642
00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:50,640
Speaker 3: am I going to have lunch with? And like now

643
00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:52,920
Speaker 3: I'm like I'm busy. I can't get off my phone

644
00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:54,400
Speaker 3: or leave my desk for four hours.

645
00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:59,080
Speaker 1: To see where you were at the very beginning and

646
00:31:59,240 --> 00:32:03,480
Speaker 1: where you are now is so amazing. And you have

647
00:32:03,600 --> 00:32:07,200
Speaker 1: been so open about your life, which you know, just

648
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:09,440
Speaker 1: because you're on reality TV. There's a lot of reality

649
00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:12,360
Speaker 1: TV people who don't open up their lives, you know,

650
00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:17,640
Speaker 1: the way I feel you do or Teresa does. And

651
00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:20,880
Speaker 1: I remember this scene of you. I believe you were

652
00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:22,760
Speaker 1: on the couch with Joan. It was when you were

653
00:32:23,080 --> 00:32:26,160
Speaker 1: you were wanting to go and like be a business woman,

654
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 1: and you had kind of felt like, you know, being

655
00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:33,880
Speaker 1: the housewife and the mom was just not fulfilling enough anymore.

656
00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:36,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like it's I don't want to say not fulfilling,

657
00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:40,200
Speaker 3: because you'll see, it's always fulfilling. It's fulfilling to raise

658
00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:41,760
Speaker 3: a family and have children, and that's it.

659
00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:44,360
Speaker 1: So walk me through that. Walk me through that, because

660
00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:46,760
Speaker 1: because for me, I don't know that I would be

661
00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:49,160
Speaker 1: fulfilled by just being a mom. So walk me through

662
00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:51,880
Speaker 1: you saying that it is fulfilling but what you were

663
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:52,560
Speaker 1: in search of.

664
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Speaker 3: Right, So, and that makes total sense what you just said,

665
00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:58,480
Speaker 3: because you're right, it's it's fulfilling, but it's not one

666
00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:01,520
Speaker 3: hundred percent about you or your dreams or your goals.

667
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:03,960
Speaker 3: So what you're doing is you're fulfilling the needs of

668
00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:06,600
Speaker 3: everyone else all day and it makes you fulfilled because

669
00:33:06,600 --> 00:33:08,440
Speaker 3: you're like, oh, I did the right thing today. I

670
00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:10,160
Speaker 3: did the right thing today for my daughter, or I

671
00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:12,880
Speaker 3: made this, I did this, I made dinner. My husband's happy,

672
00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:15,960
Speaker 3: everybody's happy, but I want more, you know. And that's

673
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:18,520
Speaker 3: where I always tell even new moms like yourself, and

674
00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:21,760
Speaker 3: like you know, girls who are just getting married and

675
00:33:21,760 --> 00:33:25,080
Speaker 3: they're younger and and you know right from the start

676
00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:28,120
Speaker 3: you can do both, and it does seems it's like

677
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:30,240
Speaker 3: it's weird. There's always like this thing where it's like, well,

678
00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:32,200
Speaker 3: the woman is supposed to take care of the kids

679
00:33:32,240 --> 00:33:34,240
Speaker 3: all day, and who's then we have to pay for

680
00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:36,840
Speaker 3: the babysitter and then this and then that. But it's like, no,

681
00:33:37,320 --> 00:33:39,840
Speaker 3: it's both of your problems. And that's what I learned

682
00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:42,800
Speaker 3: later in life that it's not it's not just all

683
00:33:42,880 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 3: on the mom. It's on both of you, you know,

684
00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:47,920
Speaker 3: to figure it out. And I used to just take

685
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:49,280
Speaker 3: all the heat and be like, this is on me,

686
00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:50,960
Speaker 3: it's my kid. Let me figure out how I'm going

687
00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 3: to like open up envy because I opened up that

688
00:33:53,640 --> 00:33:56,719
Speaker 3: whole business and I did all of this, and I

689
00:33:56,760 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 3: literally would still run to the bus stop to pick

690
00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:01,520
Speaker 3: my kids up from school halfway through day until I

691
00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:05,239
Speaker 3: got it functioning enough where I was able to like,

692
00:34:05,360 --> 00:34:08,680
Speaker 3: wait a second, pull babysitters in and pull nanny's in

693
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:11,200
Speaker 3: and get the extra help that I needed. But I

694
00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:14,759
Speaker 3: feel like you, even though we're having families and we're

695
00:34:14,760 --> 00:34:18,080
Speaker 3: creating families, and you still need to have your inner

696
00:34:18,320 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 3: happiness of what your dreams are what your goals are.

697
00:34:21,160 --> 00:34:23,040
Speaker 3: If you want to open a little shop, open a shop.

698
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:26,480
Speaker 3: If your dream is to create a cosmetic line, because

699
00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:29,319
Speaker 3: that's what you want to do, well, then that's what

700
00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:32,759
Speaker 3: you need to do. We can't let things like motherhood.

701
00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:35,560
Speaker 3: You can't just say, oh, well, you know, that's not right,

702
00:34:35,680 --> 00:34:37,719
Speaker 3: and a lot of times that guilt sets in of

703
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:39,880
Speaker 3: like I'm going to work too much and then what

704
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:42,040
Speaker 3: am I doing to my child? There is a way

705
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:44,640
Speaker 3: to kind of to make it all happen. It's not

706
00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:47,840
Speaker 3: always easy, but it's a barrier that I broke through.

707
00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:50,200
Speaker 3: And I think a lot of people kind of like

708
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:52,600
Speaker 3: to watch me go through that process because they watched

709
00:34:52,600 --> 00:34:55,000
Speaker 3: me as a thirty year old girl, because that's what

710
00:34:55,040 --> 00:34:56,759
Speaker 3: I was at the time when I started all this

711
00:34:56,920 --> 00:34:59,800
Speaker 3: on the TV, and they watched me kind of break

712
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:02,920
Speaker 3: through and work my way up and braz these kids

713
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:05,600
Speaker 3: and go into my Now I turned forty, you know,

714
00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:08,520
Speaker 3: so for the last ten years they've been watching me

715
00:35:08,800 --> 00:35:10,719
Speaker 3: go from like just a mom at home all this

716
00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:13,680
Speaker 3: time into a businesswoman where I did open envy and

717
00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:16,759
Speaker 3: I broke through that and now I'm opening a second envy,

718
00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:19,240
Speaker 3: a second envy double the size is about to open

719
00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:22,640
Speaker 3: next month. So that's that's huge for me, you know,

720
00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:24,480
Speaker 3: I just always yes, I'm.

721
00:35:24,360 --> 00:35:28,239
Speaker 1: Very excited, so excited for you. Yes, And where's the

722
00:35:28,320 --> 00:35:29,120
Speaker 1: second location.

723
00:35:29,440 --> 00:35:32,120
Speaker 3: The second location is in Bridgewood, New Jersey, which is

724
00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:34,799
Speaker 3: like a great town over here. I mean my online

725
00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:38,000
Speaker 3: my online store is like phenomenal. That's where. I mean

726
00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:40,520
Speaker 3: everyone from California, Florida, Dallas, everywhere.

727
00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:43,719
Speaker 1: It's like the online is accessible to everybody. Yes, but

728
00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:46,719
Speaker 1: my brick and waters do so well too. So I'm

729
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:49,960
Speaker 1: opening one double the size now and super super excited.

730
00:35:49,960 --> 00:35:51,200
Speaker 3: But that's when I'm Solissa.

731
00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:55,440
Speaker 1: That is freaking huge. A second store. I'm like beyond

732
00:35:55,520 --> 00:35:58,439
Speaker 1: happy for you, thank you, thank you. Well everyone else

733
00:35:58,520 --> 00:36:00,200
Speaker 1: is shutting down. You're expanding.

734
00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:06,520
Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm either crazy or we'll see. But now

735
00:36:06,640 --> 00:36:08,920
Speaker 3: I like a challenge. I'm a work I've always been

736
00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:11,480
Speaker 3: a worker, that is me. Like before I even met Joe,

737
00:36:11,520 --> 00:36:14,520
Speaker 3: I had three jobs, like whether be I worked at

738
00:36:14,600 --> 00:36:17,960
Speaker 3: a tanic salon, a title company. I answered the phones

739
00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:21,520
Speaker 3: over here. I bartended on like a Thursday or Friday night.

740
00:36:21,600 --> 00:36:24,440
Speaker 3: Like I was just always someone who's like I'm not

741
00:36:24,480 --> 00:36:27,240
Speaker 3: going to sit down. I don't I don't. I obviously

742
00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:30,480
Speaker 3: love that Joe is successful and that he can take

743
00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:34,000
Speaker 3: care of himself. But trust me, ladies, is ever listening

744
00:36:34,000 --> 00:36:37,600
Speaker 3: out there? It is. There's something about making your own money,

745
00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:41,440
Speaker 3: even if you don't need to. It's there's something about that.

746
00:36:41,560 --> 00:36:47,080
Speaker 3: It's it's freeing. It's that thing if something unexpected, expected,

747
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:50,400
Speaker 3: as you would know, comes out of life right and

748
00:36:50,440 --> 00:36:53,520
Speaker 3: you get hit with the left, You're like, I'm good.

749
00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:56,279
Speaker 3: Like you can walk when you need to walk, you

750
00:36:56,320 --> 00:36:58,640
Speaker 3: can buy something when you need to buy it. There's

751
00:36:58,640 --> 00:37:01,920
Speaker 3: something very freeing about about having your own business or

752
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:04,680
Speaker 3: working and having doing what you love. You know, So

753
00:37:04,719 --> 00:37:05,400
Speaker 3: I always.

754
00:37:05,200 --> 00:37:06,920
Speaker 1: Promote that I love that you said that, and I

755
00:37:06,960 --> 00:37:08,879
Speaker 1: actually want to come back to it. After we cut

756
00:37:08,880 --> 00:37:11,080
Speaker 1: to a short break, we will be right back with

757
00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:18,680
Speaker 1: Melissa Gorga. We are back with my most favorite housewife.

758
00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:21,760
Speaker 1: Do feel uncomfortable every time I'm asked about my favorite

759
00:37:21,800 --> 00:37:24,200
Speaker 1: housewife and I'm like, I'm gonna snag her from Joe?

760
00:37:24,239 --> 00:37:26,960
Speaker 1: You know, I'm joking, right, not that that would ever happen,

761
00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:29,640
Speaker 1: But I never want to make anyone feel uncomfortable. But

762
00:37:29,640 --> 00:37:31,319
Speaker 1: I think it's fun to set Joe and he loves you.

763
00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:33,480
Speaker 3: He always Joe loves you, by the way too. He's

764
00:37:33,560 --> 00:37:35,839
Speaker 3: always like, she's so cute. I'm like, when we go out,

765
00:37:35,840 --> 00:37:37,160
Speaker 3: when we're in LA, We're gonna go have like a

766
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:37,759
Speaker 3: drink with her?

767
00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:40,680
Speaker 1: Please do? I would love that. Give me a call.

768
00:37:40,680 --> 00:37:42,560
Speaker 1: I would love to hang out with you and Joe.

769
00:37:43,160 --> 00:37:46,239
Speaker 1: Going back to what we were talking about before, when

770
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:49,680
Speaker 1: did you realize that it was important for you to

771
00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:51,880
Speaker 1: be making your own money? Was it because you're in

772
00:37:51,920 --> 00:37:55,799
Speaker 1: a great marriage, you have a beautiful family, like you

773
00:37:55,880 --> 00:38:00,200
Speaker 1: were probably one of those people who will never need

774
00:38:00,280 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 1: a plan to be ever.

775
00:38:02,440 --> 00:38:05,040
Speaker 3: I mean, listen, I always say never say never, but

776
00:38:05,080 --> 00:38:07,600
Speaker 3: I from your mouth to God's ears, right, like that's

777
00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:10,640
Speaker 3: always how I how I You know, I would love

778
00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:12,440
Speaker 3: things to go in life, just like we all would.

779
00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:16,040
Speaker 3: But I think I just I don't know. I've watched

780
00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:19,080
Speaker 3: Joe be so successful because he's a developer in New Jersey.

781
00:38:19,080 --> 00:38:22,600
Speaker 3: So he'll take old warehouses and he'll buy them and

782
00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:26,360
Speaker 3: convert them into like apartment buildings and condos. And this

783
00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:28,160
Speaker 3: is what he loves to do, right, this is what

784
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:32,000
Speaker 3: gives him and it was successful for our family. But

785
00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:35,200
Speaker 3: I would watch him, you know, kind of doing all

786
00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:38,160
Speaker 3: these things and feel proud and you know, break the

787
00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:41,200
Speaker 3: wall down at another building. And I said to myself, like,

788
00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:44,920
Speaker 3: I'm happy for him, but but I want something that's mine,

789
00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:47,719
Speaker 3: and I feel like that's when you know, you know,

790
00:38:47,800 --> 00:38:49,520
Speaker 3: you start to say what am I good at?

791
00:38:49,680 --> 00:38:49,799
Speaker 1: Like?

792
00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:52,160
Speaker 3: What? What do I love to do? What gives me

793
00:38:52,200 --> 00:38:54,919
Speaker 3: a high? Like what gets me excited? Yes, your kids

794
00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:56,920
Speaker 3: are going to give you a high. Yes, there's nothing

795
00:38:57,040 --> 00:38:57,839
Speaker 3: like a child in.

796
00:38:57,800 --> 00:38:59,000
Speaker 1: The world, but they grow up.

797
00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:01,759
Speaker 3: You're never gonna have complete happiness unless you have your

798
00:39:01,800 --> 00:39:06,320
Speaker 3: own happiness, something inside that's you. And I love clothes.

799
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:09,920
Speaker 3: I've always loved fashion. Fashion is fun for me. I've

800
00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 3: always been good. I'm always the one that everyone used

801
00:39:12,120 --> 00:39:14,160
Speaker 3: to call my girlfriend's like they don't know what to wear.

802
00:39:14,200 --> 00:39:16,680
Speaker 3: I'll like put an outfit for them together. So that's

803
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:18,279
Speaker 3: what I loved. And you know what I you know

804
00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:21,200
Speaker 3: how I really got started with envy. Everyone when I

805
00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:22,719
Speaker 3: was on the Real House Size of New Jersey would

806
00:39:22,719 --> 00:39:25,480
Speaker 3: say to me, these these boutiques would give me clothes,

807
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:27,760
Speaker 3: which I'm sure you know, all the time I'd get clothes,

808
00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:31,080
Speaker 3: they'd send me clothes. This brand would send me this salve.

809
00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:34,080
Speaker 3: You'd wear them and then everyone's like, where'd you get

810
00:39:34,120 --> 00:39:35,879
Speaker 3: your outfit? Where'd you get your outfit? And I would

811
00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:38,080
Speaker 3: send them to that boutique. I would send them over there.

812
00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:40,080
Speaker 3: I would send them over there, and I'm like, what

813
00:39:40,120 --> 00:39:42,600
Speaker 3: the hell am I doing? Like why am I sending

814
00:39:42,600 --> 00:39:45,640
Speaker 3: them to everyone else? Let me open my own boutique.

815
00:39:45,840 --> 00:39:47,759
Speaker 3: And when everyone asked me what I'm wearing, I'm gonna

816
00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:51,360
Speaker 3: say here, click this link Envy by MG dot com,

817
00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:54,160
Speaker 3: like you know, And that's how Envy by Melissa Gorga

818
00:39:54,200 --> 00:39:56,920
Speaker 3: came because I was like, why do I keep sending

819
00:39:56,920 --> 00:39:59,840
Speaker 3: everyone everywhere else? Like it's it's let me send them

820
00:39:59,880 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 3: to Envy by melissic Rga. And that's what I started doing.

821
00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:08,880
Speaker 1: So crazy because it's so simple yet so hard to accomplish.

822
00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:11,480
Speaker 1: The thought of it, The thought of it is like,

823
00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:15,720
Speaker 1: let's open something. We'll send them to my boutique instead

824
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:19,759
Speaker 1: or my store. But the fact that you actually did it,

825
00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:23,400
Speaker 1: and that's that's no easy feat because you had to

826
00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:25,759
Speaker 1: go and find the clothing that you're going to fill

827
00:40:25,800 --> 00:40:27,840
Speaker 1: your store with. You gotta be making enough money to

828
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:32,799
Speaker 1: keep new inventory in Like did anybody walk you through this?

829
00:40:32,960 --> 00:40:35,760
Speaker 1: Did you have like a business partner or a mentor,

830
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:39,080
Speaker 1: because I wouldn't have even known where to start.

831
00:40:39,400 --> 00:40:42,640
Speaker 3: Yes, I think I had met a lady at the

832
00:40:42,680 --> 00:40:46,440
Speaker 3: time that was asking me to do like some photo

833
00:40:46,440 --> 00:40:50,239
Speaker 3: shoots and stuff for her stores, all of her boutiques

834
00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:53,200
Speaker 3: and all of this, and I was like I after

835
00:40:53,200 --> 00:40:55,080
Speaker 3: a while, just like I said, I'm like, I gotta

836
00:40:55,120 --> 00:40:57,200
Speaker 3: do this for my own boutique, Like this doesn't make

837
00:40:57,200 --> 00:41:00,279
Speaker 3: sense for me anymore. So I did originally go into

838
00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:03,799
Speaker 3: it with a partner, asking her like, you know, like

839
00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:05,520
Speaker 3: do you want to do this together. I don't want

840
00:41:05,520 --> 00:41:07,160
Speaker 3: to promote your boutique. I want it to be my

841
00:41:07,200 --> 00:41:10,720
Speaker 3: own boutique, And we went in together. But within within

842
00:41:10,800 --> 00:41:13,040
Speaker 3: six months I bought her out because she was just

843
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:16,600
Speaker 3: not it was not a good fit for me. So

844
00:41:16,719 --> 00:41:18,759
Speaker 3: within six months I bought her out, and Envy just

845
00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:21,400
Speaker 3: celebrated five years. We just had our five year anniversary,

846
00:41:21,480 --> 00:41:24,600
Speaker 3: so congratulations going strong. But I always my advice to

847
00:41:24,640 --> 00:41:28,799
Speaker 3: everyone is really really like if it's in your heart,

848
00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:31,200
Speaker 3: if you keep thinking about it, if it keeps popping

849
00:41:31,280 --> 00:41:33,360
Speaker 3: up and you're like, damn, I would really love to

850
00:41:33,440 --> 00:41:35,799
Speaker 3: be like, like, I have a girlfriend that's like I

851
00:41:35,880 --> 00:41:38,839
Speaker 3: just want she finds everyone everything, she wants to do

852
00:41:38,880 --> 00:41:41,680
Speaker 3: the find Like, if you need to find something, this

853
00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:43,359
Speaker 3: is where you need to go. You need to call

854
00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:46,240
Speaker 3: her because she can find it for you. Like something

855
00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:48,440
Speaker 3: as simple as that. If you know that that is

856
00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:51,839
Speaker 3: what you're good at, make some start researching. Figure out

857
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:55,080
Speaker 3: how you could start small on a smaller platform, just

858
00:41:55,080 --> 00:41:57,480
Speaker 3: like I did. I started with a smaller store, and

859
00:41:57,520 --> 00:41:59,720
Speaker 3: then you as the years go on, it got bigger.

860
00:41:59,719 --> 00:42:03,480
Speaker 3: My on my website. When I first started, we're nothing

861
00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:06,840
Speaker 3: like they are now. I groupled them. It takes time,

862
00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:07,719
Speaker 3: it takes.

863
00:42:07,480 --> 00:42:10,480
Speaker 1: Patience, but little little bit at a time, but it

864
00:42:11,160 --> 00:42:14,719
Speaker 1: becomes your baby and you you start to see its

865
00:42:14,719 --> 00:42:17,799
Speaker 1: potential and its growth, and you become addicted.

866
00:42:17,520 --> 00:42:20,160
Speaker 3: Addicted, Oh my god, addicted. I have a little app

867
00:42:20,200 --> 00:42:23,200
Speaker 3: on my phone which this is so funny. It makes

868
00:42:23,200 --> 00:42:26,359
Speaker 3: like a chit chin every time there's a sale, whether

869
00:42:26,600 --> 00:42:29,120
Speaker 3: on the website or in store, it does like a

870
00:42:29,120 --> 00:42:32,240
Speaker 3: little chichin. When it first started going off all the time,

871
00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:34,480
Speaker 3: when I'd be like sitting on the couch with Joe

872
00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:37,240
Speaker 3: and I'd be like, chit chang chang. It's like frigging

873
00:42:37,320 --> 00:42:41,759
Speaker 3: at the casino. I'm like, oh my god, and Joe

874
00:42:41,800 --> 00:42:45,000
Speaker 3: would just like look at me from across the couch like, ash, wow,

875
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:47,560
Speaker 3: a lot of people are shopping today. I'm like, yeah, bitch,

876
00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:49,360
Speaker 3: I'm making money. What are you doing?

877
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 1: What are you doing it?

878
00:42:51,600 --> 00:42:54,040
Speaker 3: Yeah? It was like funny, like I would choose him

879
00:42:54,120 --> 00:42:56,200
Speaker 3: because I always used to ask Joe. I was a

880
00:42:56,200 --> 00:42:58,680
Speaker 3: girl out of college, Like as soon as I met Joe,

881
00:42:59,280 --> 00:43:01,799
Speaker 3: I gradual way to college kind of at the same time.

882
00:43:01,960 --> 00:43:04,120
Speaker 3: So I used to have to like say to him

883
00:43:04,160 --> 00:43:06,000
Speaker 3: like I just was going to be I'm I have

884
00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:08,840
Speaker 3: a BA in teaching, Okay, So I went to college

885
00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:10,920
Speaker 3: to be a teacher. I was supposed to go be

886
00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:15,240
Speaker 3: a elementary school teacher, and I ended up on reality

887
00:43:15,320 --> 00:43:17,800
Speaker 3: TV within you know, a couple of years after being married.

888
00:43:17,880 --> 00:43:20,000
Speaker 3: But it's just funny. I used to have to ask

889
00:43:20,040 --> 00:43:21,640
Speaker 3: you for a hundred dollars bill. I'd be like, oh,

890
00:43:21,719 --> 00:43:24,200
Speaker 3: you're going to work, okay, Like can I get like

891
00:43:24,200 --> 00:43:26,320
Speaker 3: a hundred I don't know where I'm going to go todayay,

892
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:28,879
Speaker 3: or like whatever, I would need cash. And now I'm

893
00:43:28,920 --> 00:43:31,239
Speaker 3: just like it's just funny. That's why we It's like

894
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:33,120
Speaker 3: a funny joke in our house because like when the

895
00:43:33,200 --> 00:43:36,000
Speaker 3: chichain goes off I'm like, oh, yeah, don't need you what.

896
00:43:36,320 --> 00:43:39,800
Speaker 1: Like, No, I love it because there's I feel like

897
00:43:40,400 --> 00:43:43,840
Speaker 1: there's so many women who who do that and and

898
00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:47,160
Speaker 1: they're as you know, I'm passionate about the topic of

899
00:43:47,880 --> 00:43:50,520
Speaker 1: women having their own funds, and even if that means

900
00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:52,319
Speaker 1: you work something out with your husband, if you're a

901
00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:55,040
Speaker 1: stay at home mom and he gives you X amount

902
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:57,759
Speaker 1: of dollars every month. I just want women to have

903
00:43:57,880 --> 00:44:01,160
Speaker 1: some sort of you know, safety net if God forbid,

904
00:44:01,200 --> 00:44:04,960
Speaker 1: anything happened. And you know that could even mean for me.

905
00:44:05,400 --> 00:44:09,080
Speaker 1: It was when the recession hit for my family and

906
00:44:09,280 --> 00:44:13,799
Speaker 1: my dad went from you know, completely being okay and

907
00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:17,560
Speaker 1: supporting us financially to what are we going to do?

908
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:20,440
Speaker 1: And it was my mom who stepped up to the

909
00:44:20,480 --> 00:44:24,720
Speaker 1: plate because she had worked her entire life, never stopped

910
00:44:24,719 --> 00:44:27,759
Speaker 1: even though she could have with my dad. And I

911
00:44:27,840 --> 00:44:30,719
Speaker 1: saw that it doesn't even have to be like your

912
00:44:31,160 --> 00:44:34,360
Speaker 1: relationship goes south, one partner could be put out of

913
00:44:34,360 --> 00:44:38,400
Speaker 1: business tomorrow, and it feels nice the other one picks up.

914
00:44:38,480 --> 00:44:41,800
Speaker 1: So I think that is great that you are also

915
00:44:41,920 --> 00:44:45,600
Speaker 1: preaching that to chicks. I want to talk about your

916
00:44:45,640 --> 00:44:48,400
Speaker 1: relationship with Joe, because I think it's something that a

917
00:44:48,400 --> 00:44:51,400
Speaker 1: lot of people look at and they're like, I want that.

918
00:44:51,760 --> 00:44:55,160
Speaker 1: It's so cute, it's so sweet. We know you have

919
00:44:55,200 --> 00:44:57,600
Speaker 1: a great sex life, which is good for you.

920
00:44:57,800 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 4: Girl.

921
00:44:58,600 --> 00:44:59,600
Speaker 3: How could you not know?

922
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:03,560
Speaker 1: It makes me happy? Okay? I love you guys, and

923
00:45:03,600 --> 00:45:06,320
Speaker 1: I love the way you display your love and affection

924
00:45:06,520 --> 00:45:10,239
Speaker 1: for each other. And he is meant for reality TV,

925
00:45:10,360 --> 00:45:12,000
Speaker 1: by the way, I know he is.

926
00:45:12,040 --> 00:45:13,920
Speaker 3: He's such a ham. He's such a ham. And he's

927
00:45:13,920 --> 00:45:17,000
Speaker 3: also just like he doesn't overthink it, which is sometimes

928
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:20,800
Speaker 3: a problem, which is also making amazing reality television because

929
00:45:21,000 --> 00:45:23,759
Speaker 3: he doesn't think it at all. If he's thinking it,

930
00:45:23,960 --> 00:45:25,560
Speaker 3: he's saying it right, that's Joe.

931
00:45:25,760 --> 00:45:27,719
Speaker 1: And he doesn't care if you want to crawl under

932
00:45:27,760 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 1: a table.

933
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:30,640
Speaker 3: He does not care. Do you know how many times

934
00:45:30,680 --> 00:45:34,000
Speaker 3: I kicked Joe under the like we're filming, there's cameramen

935
00:45:34,080 --> 00:45:36,640
Speaker 3: and I'm like, ah, I'm literally kicking his shins and

936
00:45:36,680 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 3: he notices that, stop kicking.

937
00:45:38,200 --> 00:45:39,680
Speaker 1: Oh he's that guy.

938
00:45:40,640 --> 00:45:43,920
Speaker 3: Yes, he's like that guy. So I just give up

939
00:45:43,960 --> 00:45:46,000
Speaker 3: on him. In the beginning, I was more anal. I

940
00:45:46,000 --> 00:45:47,719
Speaker 3: would be like trying to control it all and be like,

941
00:45:47,719 --> 00:45:50,400
Speaker 3: oh my god, like stop talking about all of this

942
00:45:50,560 --> 00:45:52,399
Speaker 3: and like what are you doing? And like now I'm

943
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:54,680
Speaker 3: just like just roll with it. Joe, Like he's that guy,

944
00:45:54,760 --> 00:45:57,280
Speaker 3: no matter what he says, no matter what he does,

945
00:45:57,680 --> 00:46:00,200
Speaker 3: no matter how he acts, everybody loves him. It's it's

946
00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:00,759
Speaker 3: just jump.

947
00:46:00,800 --> 00:46:03,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, it's very It's well, you're both very

948
00:46:03,520 --> 00:46:06,920
Speaker 1: easy to love. I have to ask, what what is

949
00:46:07,000 --> 00:46:10,960
Speaker 1: your fighting style? When you get into an argument? What

950
00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:14,240
Speaker 1: is Joe's fighting style and what is yours? Do you disengage?

951
00:46:14,680 --> 00:46:17,600
Speaker 1: Are you a let's raise my voice a little bit,

952
00:46:17,719 --> 00:46:19,799
Speaker 1: do the hands get to move in? Like? What's your

953
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:20,560
Speaker 1: fighting style?

954
00:46:21,080 --> 00:46:23,360
Speaker 3: So I think our fighting style, Joe and I that

955
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:25,759
Speaker 3: might be the problem with us. We have two totally

956
00:46:25,840 --> 00:46:31,040
Speaker 3: different types of fighting style. So I am super impulsive,

957
00:46:31,280 --> 00:46:34,480
Speaker 3: like I'm hot headed from the beginning, like very quickly,

958
00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:38,239
Speaker 3: I freak like I don't even think straight. I just

959
00:46:38,400 --> 00:46:40,480
Speaker 3: freak so like before I even have all the facts.

960
00:46:40,520 --> 00:46:43,200
Speaker 3: And this is to a fault, I scream, I yeah,

961
00:46:43,200 --> 00:46:46,279
Speaker 3: I'm like what, Like I freak like a savage. But

962
00:46:46,360 --> 00:46:48,640
Speaker 3: I'm literally over it. Like once I get that all

963
00:46:48,680 --> 00:46:50,960
Speaker 3: out and I hear all the answers, like I will

964
00:46:51,040 --> 00:46:52,759
Speaker 3: drop it and go to dinner with you. Within the

965
00:46:52,800 --> 00:46:55,759
Speaker 3: next hour or two, like I'm good, I just need

966
00:46:55,800 --> 00:46:58,280
Speaker 3: to rage for like a second totally, and I'm impulsive.

967
00:46:58,400 --> 00:47:03,840
Speaker 3: I'm impulsive. Jump Oh doesn't rage. He kind of sits back,

968
00:47:04,320 --> 00:47:06,799
Speaker 3: he doesn't say much. Things will bother him, things will

969
00:47:06,800 --> 00:47:12,480
Speaker 3: bother him. Then he'll explode like out of nowhere, and

970
00:47:12,520 --> 00:47:15,080
Speaker 3: he'll hold the grudge. He won't talk to you for

971
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:18,840
Speaker 3: probably three to four days. So it's a problem because

972
00:47:19,080 --> 00:47:21,000
Speaker 3: I want to rage on you. I want to go crazy,

973
00:47:21,040 --> 00:47:22,960
Speaker 3: I want to like get it all out. And then

974
00:47:22,960 --> 00:47:25,239
Speaker 3: I'm like, all right, let's go to dinner like I'm good,

975
00:47:25,520 --> 00:47:28,560
Speaker 3: and he won't speak to you for three days. So

976
00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:32,240
Speaker 3: it's like we just have totally different styles of argument.

977
00:47:32,440 --> 00:47:33,920
Speaker 3: We argue totally different.

978
00:47:33,920 --> 00:47:36,239
Speaker 1: I think I'm more like you. I'm more like you,

979
00:47:36,280 --> 00:47:39,520
Speaker 1: and I explode on people and then I'm like, Okay,

980
00:47:39,640 --> 00:47:44,080
Speaker 1: feel better and I'm like why is everyone so destroyed?

981
00:47:44,280 --> 00:47:47,240
Speaker 1: And they're like are you kidding? Like what you just said?

982
00:47:47,280 --> 00:47:47,920
Speaker 1: And did.

983
00:47:49,440 --> 00:47:52,840
Speaker 3: So I get it and I say nasty, I like

984
00:47:53,000 --> 00:47:56,919
Speaker 3: get like impulsively crazy, and I'm like, I think we're

985
00:47:57,000 --> 00:47:59,319
Speaker 3: just on our producers to be honest, like if they've

986
00:47:59,360 --> 00:48:01,880
Speaker 3: called me to say something that I don't like but

987
00:48:03,520 --> 00:48:06,960
Speaker 3: what like how and then they'll like call me to

988
00:48:07,200 --> 00:48:10,840
Speaker 3: I'm like, wow, I was like aggressive before, Like I'm good,

989
00:48:10,880 --> 00:48:13,520
Speaker 3: Like I understand why you're saying that to me. I

990
00:48:13,719 --> 00:48:16,920
Speaker 3: just like I don't know. I I'm very impulsive. But

991
00:48:16,920 --> 00:48:19,400
Speaker 3: then I chill. But then yeah, but that's an awesome thing.

992
00:48:19,400 --> 00:48:21,600
Speaker 3: I'm a forgiver. I move on like I'm not a

993
00:48:21,600 --> 00:48:24,160
Speaker 3: grudge holder. And I always say, like it's better to

994
00:48:24,200 --> 00:48:26,240
Speaker 3: be that way because there's a reason, like you must.

995
00:48:26,440 --> 00:48:28,920
Speaker 3: I feel like the happier person can let things go

996
00:48:29,320 --> 00:48:31,359
Speaker 3: because it's like you don't want to ruin the night right.

997
00:48:31,400 --> 00:48:33,400
Speaker 3: You don't want to when you fight with your boyfriend

998
00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:36,399
Speaker 3: or you fight with your husband or your significant other.

999
00:48:36,440 --> 00:48:38,920
Speaker 3: You don't want to ruin the whole weekend. Like let's

1000
00:48:38,960 --> 00:48:40,719
Speaker 3: just like get it out and move on. I don't

1001
00:48:40,760 --> 00:48:43,600
Speaker 3: like when you ruin the dinners that are coming up

1002
00:48:43,680 --> 00:48:45,600
Speaker 3: or like totally go to the movies later. I'm not

1003
00:48:45,600 --> 00:48:48,160
Speaker 3: going to hate each other for that, Like let's drop it.

1004
00:48:48,239 --> 00:48:51,600
Speaker 3: But Joe will ruin the whole weekend, Like the whole weekend.

1005
00:48:51,719 --> 00:48:56,960
Speaker 3: Weekend is fucked if this happens. So so that's how

1006
00:48:57,000 --> 00:48:57,479
Speaker 3: that goes.

1007
00:48:57,680 --> 00:48:59,640
Speaker 1: So you guys have been married. You said you were

1008
00:48:59,640 --> 00:49:02,239
Speaker 1: married for two years when you started the show.

1009
00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:04,600
Speaker 3: Five five years? Oh no, how could that be? Yes,

1010
00:49:04,719 --> 00:49:06,520
Speaker 3: five years? We were married for five years?

1011
00:49:06,640 --> 00:49:09,200
Speaker 1: Wow, and Antonio was no.

1012
00:49:09,120 --> 00:49:12,319
Speaker 3: It can't be because Antonio was four. So I think

1013
00:49:12,320 --> 00:49:15,080
Speaker 3: it was like we had her. We had her. I

1014
00:49:15,120 --> 00:49:18,640
Speaker 3: got pregnant two months after I got married, so we Yes.

1015
00:49:18,719 --> 00:49:20,880
Speaker 3: I want to say I was only married for like

1016
00:49:20,920 --> 00:49:21,759
Speaker 3: three and a half years.

1017
00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:23,400
Speaker 1: Okay, So I don't know why how long have you

1018
00:49:23,440 --> 00:49:24,960
Speaker 1: guys been together because I'm bad at math.

1019
00:49:25,200 --> 00:49:26,320
Speaker 3: Seventeen years?

1020
00:49:26,440 --> 00:49:27,439
Speaker 1: Oh my good.

1021
00:49:28,800 --> 00:49:34,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, we just hit seventeen years, so crazy, absolutely crazy. Yeah,

1022
00:49:34,680 --> 00:49:37,319
Speaker 3: Antonia sixteen. We were in the fast lane though, like

1023
00:49:37,400 --> 00:49:40,720
Speaker 3: I met him at twenty four, was married by twenty five,

1024
00:49:41,320 --> 00:49:43,440
Speaker 3: had Antonia at twenty six.

1025
00:49:43,760 --> 00:49:45,239
Speaker 1: Oh damn, and then was.

1026
00:49:45,200 --> 00:49:48,600
Speaker 3: On reality TV. I was thirty or thirty one, so

1027
00:49:49,520 --> 00:49:51,160
Speaker 3: so yeah, I was only married for like four and

1028
00:49:51,160 --> 00:49:51,920
Speaker 3: a half years.

1029
00:49:51,960 --> 00:49:55,719
Speaker 1: Wow. Can I tell you if you were to tell

1030
00:49:55,760 --> 00:49:58,719
Speaker 1: that story but you were based in LA you guys

1031
00:49:58,760 --> 00:50:00,320
Speaker 1: would be divorced already.

1032
00:50:00,560 --> 00:50:05,280
Speaker 3: I listen, not for nothing, but start doing your homework.

1033
00:50:05,360 --> 00:50:09,400
Speaker 3: We are one of the longest standing reality couples on

1034
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:12,360
Speaker 3: Bravo and in the universe.

1035
00:50:12,760 --> 00:50:13,640
Speaker 1: In the universe.

1036
00:50:14,400 --> 00:50:17,600
Speaker 3: We're one of them. Yes we are, we are. We've

1037
00:50:17,600 --> 00:50:19,839
Speaker 3: been Yes, we're going strong for seventy years. It is

1038
00:50:19,880 --> 00:50:25,040
Speaker 3: not easy to be married on reality TV, especially housewives,

1039
00:50:25,680 --> 00:50:31,200
Speaker 3: because they draw in so much into your marriage, your

1040
00:50:31,239 --> 00:50:33,719
Speaker 3: home life. It's not like I'm on a show about

1041
00:50:33,800 --> 00:50:35,839
Speaker 3: decorating where I leave my house every day and I go.

1042
00:50:35,880 --> 00:50:38,960
Speaker 3: You watch me decorate a window. You're watching me in

1043
00:50:39,080 --> 00:50:41,279
Speaker 3: my house with my kids, my children, my husband, my

1044
00:50:41,360 --> 00:50:45,120
Speaker 3: home arguments. So the hardest thing in the world is

1045
00:50:45,160 --> 00:50:47,839
Speaker 3: to be married on reality television. So I gotta say,

1046
00:50:47,920 --> 00:50:49,880
Speaker 3: Joe and I are doing a pretty good job.

1047
00:50:50,000 --> 00:50:51,800
Speaker 1: You're doing a damn good job.

1048
00:50:51,880 --> 00:50:53,920
Speaker 3: Thank you. We've had bumps in the road, don't let

1049
00:50:53,920 --> 00:50:56,080
Speaker 3: me get you wrong. Like through the pandemic, I feel

1050
00:50:56,120 --> 00:51:00,000
Speaker 3: like I got a little I was getting definitely busy,

1051
00:51:00,400 --> 00:51:02,480
Speaker 3: very I was always busy, but it went up to

1052
00:51:02,520 --> 00:51:05,160
Speaker 3: a different level. I would say maybe the year before

1053
00:51:05,320 --> 00:51:08,919
Speaker 3: that twenty twenty pandemic hit, and so I was out

1054
00:51:08,920 --> 00:51:10,719
Speaker 3: of the house a lot. The whole year of like

1055
00:51:10,719 --> 00:51:14,840
Speaker 3: twenty nineteen, I would say, and I was super busy.

1056
00:51:14,920 --> 00:51:17,759
Speaker 3: And then as soon as the pandemic pandemic hit, which

1057
00:51:17,800 --> 00:51:20,759
Speaker 3: was really March of twenty twenty, right, and we all

1058
00:51:20,840 --> 00:51:23,680
Speaker 3: just like shut down in every state. Joe and I

1059
00:51:23,800 --> 00:51:26,279
Speaker 3: work so much that we're not used to you know,

1060
00:51:26,320 --> 00:51:28,080
Speaker 3: we don't talk. So I think he was getting a

1061
00:51:28,080 --> 00:51:31,399
Speaker 3: little annoyed with like all of my work. He felt

1062
00:51:31,440 --> 00:51:32,719
Speaker 3: like I was starting to be out of the house

1063
00:51:32,719 --> 00:51:34,839
Speaker 3: too much. I was starting to put work before him.

1064
00:51:34,920 --> 00:51:38,080
Speaker 3: I was, you know, becoming this mongol that didn't care

1065
00:51:38,120 --> 00:51:41,680
Speaker 3: about anything but like money and work and getting bigger fame.

1066
00:51:42,000 --> 00:51:44,160
Speaker 3: That was in his head, which is not true, but

1067
00:51:44,640 --> 00:51:46,560
Speaker 3: that was where his head was at at the time.

1068
00:51:46,920 --> 00:51:49,160
Speaker 3: So when the pandemic hit in twenty twenty and we

1069
00:51:49,200 --> 00:51:51,200
Speaker 3: had so much time to sit on a couch and

1070
00:51:51,320 --> 00:51:54,000
Speaker 3: actually look at each other because you couldn't leave the house, right,

1071
00:51:54,320 --> 00:51:57,440
Speaker 3: I think that's when things really came to head and

1072
00:51:57,480 --> 00:51:59,919
Speaker 3: we started to argue. And they also started the camera

1073
00:52:00,200 --> 00:52:02,520
Speaker 3: up within a month or two later. So there was

1074
00:52:02,560 --> 00:52:05,200
Speaker 3: that one season two seasons ago where you really saw

1075
00:52:05,320 --> 00:52:08,319
Speaker 3: us like at each other's throats, and it was it

1076
00:52:08,400 --> 00:52:10,680
Speaker 3: was real. It was because that was what was really

1077
00:52:10,760 --> 00:52:13,600
Speaker 3: going down in our house, and and that was it.

1078
00:52:13,719 --> 00:52:15,960
Speaker 3: I feel like we went through that bump and we were,

1079
00:52:16,400 --> 00:52:18,720
Speaker 3: you know, we come out of it, but it's not easy.

1080
00:52:18,800 --> 00:52:22,640
Speaker 3: It's not easy, really television. And it's for a guy

1081
00:52:22,719 --> 00:52:25,600
Speaker 3: who marries someone who wasn't in this world.

1082
00:52:25,760 --> 00:52:28,760
Speaker 1: Originally, I was just gonna say this right, And now.

1083
00:52:28,640 --> 00:52:31,400
Speaker 3: It's like, I didn't marry some woman who has to

1084
00:52:31,400 --> 00:52:33,320
Speaker 3: be in New York City every night and at events

1085
00:52:33,320 --> 00:52:37,520
Speaker 3: and on red carpets and business meetings and publicists, and

1086
00:52:37,560 --> 00:52:38,800
Speaker 3: he's like, what the fuck?

1087
00:52:39,120 --> 00:52:42,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's probably also one of those things where

1088
00:52:42,560 --> 00:52:47,000
Speaker 1: he marries this beautiful woman and you know, you guys

1089
00:52:47,120 --> 00:52:49,560
Speaker 1: go out in New Jersey or you travel, and it's

1090
00:52:49,680 --> 00:52:52,680
Speaker 1: just who's in that room that gets to sit and

1091
00:52:52,719 --> 00:52:55,320
Speaker 1: look and you know, at you guys as a couple,

1092
00:52:55,880 --> 00:52:58,520
Speaker 1: and how beautiful you are. And then all of the sudden,

1093
00:52:59,320 --> 00:53:03,440
Speaker 1: you know, you're getting all of this attention from people

1094
00:53:03,680 --> 00:53:08,080
Speaker 1: all over the world. Really, and I'm sure for any

1095
00:53:08,160 --> 00:53:11,560
Speaker 1: man that is like what is this, Like this is

1096
00:53:11,680 --> 00:53:15,480
Speaker 1: my beautiful wife? Who are all of these people coming

1097
00:53:15,520 --> 00:53:16,959
Speaker 1: in and acting like they know her?

1098
00:53:17,560 --> 00:53:20,680
Speaker 3: That would mess with me one percent. And especially a

1099
00:53:20,719 --> 00:53:24,040
Speaker 3: guy like Joe, who is that guy like this is mine?

1100
00:53:24,239 --> 00:53:26,319
Speaker 3: Like he's a claimer, you know what I mean, He's

1101
00:53:26,560 --> 00:53:29,600
Speaker 3: he has a little of that old school like Italian boy,

1102
00:53:29,920 --> 00:53:33,440
Speaker 3: like that's my wife type vibe. You know. So it

1103
00:53:33,520 --> 00:53:37,040
Speaker 3: might hit someone else different. For Joe, it hits hard,

1104
00:53:37,360 --> 00:53:39,879
Speaker 3: you know. So it took a minute, but I think

1105
00:53:39,920 --> 00:53:41,680
Speaker 3: we got there. I think we got there. He got that.

1106
00:53:41,840 --> 00:53:44,719
Speaker 3: Look at him now, he's running around on stages doing

1107
00:53:44,719 --> 00:53:48,160
Speaker 3: his comedy and he's loving that. So you know, I'm like, oh,

1108
00:53:48,160 --> 00:53:49,719
Speaker 3: he yelled at me, forgot he put it. He made

1109
00:53:49,760 --> 00:53:52,879
Speaker 3: himself a tour. He's all over the place. He's all

1110
00:53:52,920 --> 00:53:55,279
Speaker 3: over the place, like you know. So I'm like, all right,

1111
00:53:55,480 --> 00:53:56,040
Speaker 3: here we go.

1112
00:53:56,280 --> 00:53:58,160
Speaker 1: Like I love that he's doing that.

1113
00:53:58,280 --> 00:54:01,600
Speaker 3: At the core of though we have, there's like there's

1114
00:54:01,680 --> 00:54:03,120
Speaker 3: love there, do you know what I mean? So I

1115
00:54:03,160 --> 00:54:07,080
Speaker 3: always tell everyone who's looking to get married, who if

1116
00:54:07,080 --> 00:54:10,200
Speaker 3: you're looking for anyone new, whatever it is, make sure

1117
00:54:10,239 --> 00:54:13,000
Speaker 3: there's true love there. Because money does not carry you through.

1118
00:54:14,200 --> 00:54:16,680
Speaker 3: Looks will not carry you through either. There needs to

1119
00:54:16,719 --> 00:54:20,839
Speaker 3: be love and attraction, not necessarily looks, but something needs

1120
00:54:20,920 --> 00:54:23,200
Speaker 3: to be So you need to be so attracted and

1121
00:54:23,239 --> 00:54:26,319
Speaker 3: hang on their every word and miss them when you're

1122
00:54:26,320 --> 00:54:29,120
Speaker 3: not with them or else. Trust me, everyone out there,

1123
00:54:29,200 --> 00:54:31,320
Speaker 3: it just gets harder, it gets harder.

1124
00:54:31,400 --> 00:54:34,560
Speaker 1: I'm going to find all of that. I'm good so

1125
00:54:35,560 --> 00:54:37,680
Speaker 1: glad that I had you on the podcast, that you

1126
00:54:38,120 --> 00:54:41,320
Speaker 1: finally had time in your busy schedule. Where can people

1127
00:54:41,480 --> 00:54:44,839
Speaker 1: shop Envy who don't live in New Jersey and where

1128
00:54:44,840 --> 00:54:46,360
Speaker 1: can they find you? Look and find?

1129
00:54:46,520 --> 00:54:50,200
Speaker 3: So you can go to Envy buy mg dot com

1130
00:54:50,400 --> 00:54:52,960
Speaker 3: and find everything I wear basically on there. We have

1131
00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:55,200
Speaker 3: so much. We have everything from denam to date tonight,

1132
00:54:55,320 --> 00:54:58,359
Speaker 3: so everything. And of course you guys can all listen

1133
00:54:58,400 --> 00:55:00,560
Speaker 3: to my podcast that I'm so great that you came

1134
00:55:00,600 --> 00:55:02,759
Speaker 3: on too. Thank you for having on with so much fun.

1135
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Speaker 1: Thank you, Melissa. We'll talk to you soon, babe.

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Speaker 3: Okay, all right bye