WEBVTT - How $5K saved my career 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.520 Hey everybody, thanks for watching and listening. It's been a 0:00:04.600 --> 0:00:07.360 while since on this podcast I've had a bunch of guests, 0:00:07.360 --> 0:00:11.200 so it's been a while since I've answered questions, and 0:00:11.360 --> 0:00:13.880 I always enjoy those podcasts. In fact, there was a 0:00:13.920 --> 0:00:18.599 time when this podcast was really dedicated strictly to answering 0:00:18.960 --> 0:00:22.840 your questions, because it seems to be an endless amount 0:00:22.880 --> 0:00:26.360 of information I could throw out there to answer your questions, 0:00:26.440 --> 0:00:29.640 and some of them are really unique, and I enjoyed 0:00:29.720 --> 0:00:33.400 doing it, and it's really good to start a Monday 0:00:34.000 --> 0:00:38.640 with giving you some answered questions about me or what's 0:00:38.680 --> 0:00:40.720 going on. I want to talk about this new album 0:00:40.760 --> 0:00:43.960 we have coming out in September, and I want to 0:00:44.000 --> 0:00:47.519 talk about the Earl Dibbles truck restoration videos that have 0:00:47.680 --> 0:00:50.360 seemed to be on a long hiatus on this channel. 0:00:51.040 --> 0:00:52.960 And I want to cover a couple of a couple 0:00:52.960 --> 0:00:56.560 of really cool options. Here a couple of questions that 0:00:56.640 --> 0:00:59.360 I've I fielded them off of Instagram. I went just 0:00:59.360 --> 0:01:01.680 a couple of hours ago and put in my story 0:01:02.680 --> 0:01:04.520 asked me some questions for the podcast, and then I 0:01:04.560 --> 0:01:10.759 went through and and screenshoted one two about about fifteen 0:01:10.800 --> 0:01:12.200 of them. I don't know if I'll get to all 0:01:12.280 --> 0:01:14.560 of them, but those are ones that just caught my 0:01:14.560 --> 0:01:17.080 eye right off the bat, and it's gonna be a 0:01:17.080 --> 0:01:20.959 fun episode. So these are good ones. Welcome to the 0:01:20.959 --> 0:02:04.320 Granger Smith Podcast. Did time and long line down on 0:02:04.720 --> 0:02:24.600 back Rangy Coation, Getting right into it right now. First 0:02:24.639 --> 0:02:28.480 question comes from Chris on Instagram and it says, is 0:02:28.520 --> 0:02:30.560 there any chance that You're going to go on tour 0:02:30.639 --> 0:02:33.760 in Europe at some point? And the reason I screenshot 0:02:33.800 --> 0:02:35.680 of that question is because I saw a lot of them, 0:02:35.800 --> 0:02:40.240 either they were specific to Italy or Germany, or England 0:02:40.320 --> 0:02:44.600 or Ireland. And my answer to that is a little 0:02:44.600 --> 0:02:46.720 bit sad because in twenty twenty we actually did have 0:02:46.760 --> 0:02:52.360 a European tour scheduled in September and October, and we 0:02:52.400 --> 0:02:56.160 had to cancel that probably in April. We held on 0:02:56.240 --> 0:02:58.959 for a while during the craziness of COVID, so we 0:02:59.639 --> 0:03:01.480 held on as long as we could. Then found out 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:05.120 it was best for everybody promoters wanted to cancel. We 0:03:05.200 --> 0:03:08.239 thought it's probably best to push that to twenty twenty one, 0:03:08.320 --> 0:03:11.919 So I would expect to go to Europe in twenty 0:03:11.919 --> 0:03:14.640 twenty one for a tour Chris, I'm sorry it's not 0:03:14.720 --> 0:03:17.440 this year. I love Europe. I love traveling to Europe, 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:20.760 I love playing Europe. We've done several tours over there. 0:03:21.720 --> 0:03:25.760 One in particular was a United States military base tour 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:31.239 in Germany and Italy. That was just our riot. I 0:03:31.280 --> 0:03:33.720 guess I shouldn't use that word these days, but it 0:03:33.800 --> 0:03:36.480 was so much fun. We had a little bus that 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:40.000 we traveled around and went to these military bases and 0:03:40.240 --> 0:03:42.400 saw some towns that we wouldn't have normally gone to 0:03:42.480 --> 0:03:46.320 on a tourist route, and gosh, I'd crave it. I 0:03:46.440 --> 0:03:52.200 crave I crave Europe for beer and coffee and food, 0:03:52.680 --> 0:03:58.880 unbelievable architecture, history and history buff all the wars. So anyway, yeah, 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:02.840 that's Chris, that's the definitely in the plan. And here's 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:08.000 here's missus Ashton on Instagram. She said update on the 0:04:08.000 --> 0:04:10.720 house build. So it's a good question. Amber and I 0:04:10.720 --> 0:04:13.240 are going to build a farmhouse out on the property 0:04:13.280 --> 0:04:15.960 where we have right now, where we're currently living in 0:04:16.000 --> 0:04:19.839 an RV, and it's been such an adventure I can 0:04:19.920 --> 0:04:22.279 I'm gonna be sad to get away from the RV 0:04:22.360 --> 0:04:25.560 at some point because it's really been fun. To have 0:04:25.640 --> 0:04:30.640 this minimalist lifestyle with the kids and really focus on 0:04:31.080 --> 0:04:35.080 each other and our time together and the environment. I mean, 0:04:35.160 --> 0:04:37.360 when it's hot outside, it's hot in that barn that's 0:04:37.400 --> 0:04:40.560 where we're living. If it's cold outside, haven't been there yet, 0:04:40.600 --> 0:04:42.479 but I'm sure it's going to be cold, and we'll 0:04:42.520 --> 0:04:44.800 just be very in tune. Like today, it's actually sprinkled 0:04:44.880 --> 0:04:47.480 rained a little bit, and you know, you could you 0:04:47.520 --> 0:04:49.080 hear it in the whole barn. You hear the rain, 0:04:49.160 --> 0:04:53.000 and you hear the thunder, and you feel just very 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:55.840 much a part of the land. So that being said, 0:04:55.880 --> 0:04:57.080 I am going to be a little bit sad and 0:04:57.120 --> 0:04:59.080 we have to leave that RV. But that being said, 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:03.280 we're supposed to break ground on this farmhouse in about 0:05:03.320 --> 0:05:07.320 a month. So this particular builder who's a friend of ours, 0:05:08.080 --> 0:05:13.040 likes to have everything picked out, everything done before they 0:05:13.080 --> 0:05:17.720 break ground. So that means flooring and walls and fixtures 0:05:17.760 --> 0:05:21.240 and faucets and all that stuff. He likes to have 0:05:21.279 --> 0:05:23.960 it all done so that whenever we finish that and 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:27.279 hit go, there's no turning back. About a month Ashton, 0:05:30.920 --> 0:05:34.680 this is a funny one. What made you make the eee'? 0:05:34.920 --> 0:05:38.520 That's the question. And there's always anytime I ask for questions, 0:05:38.520 --> 0:05:41.599 there's always questions about that, where does ee come from? 0:05:42.160 --> 0:05:45.400 Where did you get ee? Why do you say eee? 0:05:45.760 --> 0:05:49.080 I even tell people in the crowd sometimes I'll say 0:05:49.240 --> 0:05:50.919 somewhere in the show, I'll say, hey, by the way, 0:05:51.400 --> 0:05:54.799 if you came to this show and for some reason 0:05:54.880 --> 0:05:57.960 don't know what eee means, it means live life to 0:05:58.040 --> 0:06:02.440 the fullest. And in a nutshell, that's what it means, 0:06:02.440 --> 0:06:06.279 live life to the fullest. It means that because that's 0:06:06.279 --> 0:06:11.160 the meaning we gave it. And going back to the 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:14.360 origins of it, it came from the very first Earl 0:06:14.400 --> 0:06:17.880 Dibbles video before it was a music video, before all that, 0:06:17.920 --> 0:06:21.039 it was called Earl Dibbles Junior. I think it was 0:06:21.040 --> 0:06:23.920 called the Country Boy Part one or Country Boy Part one. 0:06:24.400 --> 0:06:28.520 It was back in twenty eleven and July. And right 0:06:28.520 --> 0:06:29.839 in the middle of that video, if you go watch 0:06:29.880 --> 0:06:31.560 that video, right in the middle and I'll link at 0:06:31.560 --> 0:06:36.200 the top of description, Earle says, you know, holds up 0:06:36.200 --> 0:06:41.000 a shotgun and says ye yee, and that just wasn't 0:06:41.040 --> 0:06:42.560 that big a deal. It was like it's like an 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:45.600 old Texas cattle call. And there was a couple of 0:06:45.640 --> 0:06:48.719 other takes where he said multiple ye's, but the one 0:06:48.720 --> 0:06:51.080 that actually made the video that I edited it was 0:06:51.120 --> 0:06:55.560 just two yee ye. And that was the luckiest thing 0:06:55.560 --> 0:06:58.000 I've ever said. It was Excuse me, it's the luckiest 0:06:58.000 --> 0:07:02.320 thing Earl Dibbles Junior ever said four me and I 0:07:02.320 --> 0:07:04.880 remember that I knew it was catching on. We didn't. 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:07.159 We didn't think that much of it, me and my brothers. 0:07:07.160 --> 0:07:10.800 But but people started coming to our shows holding up 0:07:10.840 --> 0:07:13.600 signs that said yee. They also held up signs and 0:07:13.600 --> 0:07:15.760 said crack a coal, one put a good dip in. 0:07:16.000 --> 0:07:18.680 I got a tough schedule that said things to other 0:07:19.200 --> 0:07:22.000 quotes from that video, but yee was the interesting one 0:07:22.000 --> 0:07:24.560 that they held up signs. And I remember, as that 0:07:24.640 --> 0:07:28.800 video started going viral, I'll never forget one day driving 0:07:28.840 --> 0:07:32.600 in lam Passas, Texas, and there was a truck dealership 0:07:33.160 --> 0:07:35.480 and in the in the front windshield of all the 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:39.400 trucks in lamp passes, it said yee and every windshield 0:07:39.440 --> 0:07:42.960 a little sign, and I thought, oh my gosh, this 0:07:43.040 --> 0:07:45.880 is terrible, this is bad. We need to trademark this 0:07:46.000 --> 0:07:49.480 right now, because I knew that if we didn't trademark it, 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:52.880 somebody else would and then make us not be able 0:07:52.960 --> 0:07:56.000 to say it. And this was right during the time. 0:07:56.080 --> 0:07:57.600 The reason I knew that is because it was right 0:07:57.680 --> 0:08:01.240 during the time when that video came out. The very 0:08:01.280 --> 0:08:04.600 first Earl Dubbles T shirt, the very first one, I 0:08:04.600 --> 0:08:07.119 guess it was the I'm sitting here at the Eye Farm, 0:08:07.200 --> 0:08:11.640 the headquarters of EEE Apparel, the very first EEE Apparel 0:08:11.800 --> 0:08:15.360 shirt ever. On the front it said I'm a country boy, 0:08:15.960 --> 0:08:18.240 and on the back it said I got a tough schedule, 0:08:18.600 --> 0:08:21.360 I wake up, put a good dip in crack a coat. 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:22.600 It was like a list and it had a little 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:26.560 check down the list. Well, just a few weeks after 0:08:26.560 --> 0:08:29.560 we started selling that shirt, we got to see some 0:08:29.640 --> 0:08:33.520 distiss see some desist letter from a company I believe 0:08:33.520 --> 0:08:37.000 it was in Ohio, and the letter said you cannot 0:08:37.160 --> 0:08:42.920 use the word the phrase country boy. And I thought 0:08:42.960 --> 0:08:44.800 that was the oddest thing. I was like, we can't 0:08:44.800 --> 0:08:49.000 say country boy any on a koozie or on a 0:08:49.040 --> 0:08:51.400 T shirt or any any kind of merchandise. It was 0:08:51.440 --> 0:08:54.360 the weirdest thing to me. But evidently there is a 0:08:54.400 --> 0:08:57.400 company and they have trademarked country boy and country Girl, 0:08:58.000 --> 0:09:01.160 and they don't let anybody use it, and that's kind 0:09:01.160 --> 0:09:02.840 of part of their stick. You know, they're the only 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:04.800 ones that could sell shirts like that. It's a terrible 0:09:04.840 --> 0:09:07.920 business to be in if that's your your business plan 0:09:08.040 --> 0:09:10.240 is to just shut down anyone else that says it 0:09:10.280 --> 0:09:12.319 so that you could be the only one. But then 0:09:12.360 --> 0:09:15.560 no one really buys your shirts. I even I even 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:18.000 know for a fact that Luke Bryan when he came 0:09:18.040 --> 0:09:20.959 out with the country Girl Shake It from Me, they 0:09:21.040 --> 0:09:24.400 literally shut down the shirts that said country girls shake 0:09:24.440 --> 0:09:28.320 It from Me because they couldn't use country girl together 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:33.480 on one shirt. So because of that, and it really 0:09:33.520 --> 0:09:36.640 motivated me to step up with EE and say, oh gosh, 0:09:36.679 --> 0:09:40.520 we got to trademark this, not so that not so 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:44.240 that it's it's it's ours away from stealing it away 0:09:44.280 --> 0:09:46.440 from the world, but more so that the world couldn't 0:09:46.480 --> 0:09:48.680 take it and tell us never to say it again 0:09:48.800 --> 0:09:50.400 or never to put it on shirts. Can you guys 0:09:50.400 --> 0:09:54.800 imagine if I had let that slip away, where what 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:56.840 would this what would this farm be called? What would 0:09:56.840 --> 0:09:58.960 this apparel company be called? What would what would Earl 0:09:59.000 --> 0:10:02.680 Dibbles say? After that? So it was a scary deal, 0:10:02.960 --> 0:10:05.960 and it was scary because it cost me five thousand 0:10:06.080 --> 0:10:09.680 dollars to trademark that, and that was everything that we 0:10:09.760 --> 0:10:13.319 all had combined. We pulled every penny we had together 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:19.320 and were able to salvage five thousand dollars for this trademark. 0:10:20.320 --> 0:10:24.120 And I mean that's digging into grocery money back in 0:10:24.120 --> 0:10:28.520 twenty eleven, and so now it was scary and terrible 0:10:28.679 --> 0:10:33.679 and heartbreaking and gave me so much anxiety. But looking 0:10:33.720 --> 0:10:35.920 back on it, it's probably the best thing I ever 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:39.520 did for my career was pay that five thousand dollars. 0:10:41.520 --> 0:10:43.559 And by the way, there's also been other podcast that 0:10:43.720 --> 0:10:46.840 go way more in depth about ye. That's kind of 0:10:46.840 --> 0:10:54.240 the short story. Next question from Bailey Marshall says, what 0:10:54.280 --> 0:10:57.520 would you recommend doing in the mornings to mentally prepare 0:10:57.679 --> 0:11:00.640 for the day. And I think that's an ow some question, 0:11:01.160 --> 0:11:05.839 Thank you, Bailey. I screenshot at it and I can 0:11:05.880 --> 0:11:10.560 answer that in a couple of ways. One, I like 0:11:10.640 --> 0:11:15.160 to get up earlier than I need to as many 0:11:15.200 --> 0:11:18.800 times as I physically can. And why I say physically 0:11:18.800 --> 0:11:22.080 can is because I need to get seven hours And 0:11:22.160 --> 0:11:25.360 I've done so much research on this and I've I've 0:11:25.400 --> 0:11:28.360 read so many books about this, and I've studied history 0:11:28.400 --> 0:11:33.800 so much about it, and you can hear flip sides 0:11:33.840 --> 0:11:36.839 of the story, Like I remember Arnold Schwarzenegger one time saying, 0:11:37.320 --> 0:11:38.880 if you want to achieve more in life, you got 0:11:38.880 --> 0:11:42.080 to sleep less, and I know what he means. But 0:11:44.360 --> 0:11:47.320 it's also it's also proven over and over again that 0:11:47.440 --> 0:11:51.959 if you sleep less than your needed time, then you 0:11:52.040 --> 0:11:55.880 are going to function at half the capacity, the mental 0:11:55.920 --> 0:11:58.600 capacity of what you would on a normal sleep night. 0:11:58.720 --> 0:12:02.280 So if you think you're going to get ahead in 0:12:02.320 --> 0:12:05.880 life by sleeping four hours and getting up early every more, 0:12:05.960 --> 0:12:07.400 like maybe you go to bed at midnight and wake 0:12:07.480 --> 0:12:10.760 up at four, and then you think you have more 0:12:10.760 --> 0:12:15.400 of the day, it's not technically right because you run 0:12:15.400 --> 0:12:19.520 into this sleep deprivation problem where you're only functioning at 0:12:19.600 --> 0:12:22.240 fifty percent of your brain or less. I mean, it's 0:12:22.360 --> 0:12:26.600 proven that you're worse off than being drunk when you 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:30.720 sleep deprive yourself. That being said, everyone kind of has 0:12:30.960 --> 0:12:34.440 their time that they need, and I have figured out 0:12:34.840 --> 0:12:39.400 that seven hours is my minimum time to sleep. I 0:12:39.440 --> 0:12:42.000 could sleep seven to eight. If I get anything over eight, 0:12:43.000 --> 0:12:46.520 that affects me negatively too. That kind of makes me groggy. 0:12:46.760 --> 0:12:51.360 I feel weird after eight hours, and I feel unproductive, 0:12:51.760 --> 0:12:55.880 So I try to get right at seven. And the 0:12:55.960 --> 0:12:58.440 reason I lead into that is to go to your 0:12:58.480 --> 0:13:01.840 morning question. Is I like to get up earlier. If 0:13:01.880 --> 0:13:05.960 I can an hour earlier that I need to is great. 0:13:06.000 --> 0:13:11.040 So if I have if I have a meeting at 0:13:11.400 --> 0:13:13.160 say eight o'clock, and I have a phone call at 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:16.480 eight o'clock, and I need to do like the normal 0:13:16.559 --> 0:13:19.439 morning stuff like wake up, like the sleep out of 0:13:19.480 --> 0:13:22.439 my eyes, take it, you know, take a drink and 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:24.560 brush my teeth and all that kind of stuff. Get dressed. 0:13:25.320 --> 0:13:28.840 Sound like Earl divils now. So if that takes thirty minutes, 0:13:29.240 --> 0:13:31.319 then that brings me back to seven thirty. That means 0:13:31.480 --> 0:13:33.320 I need to get up at six thirty to have 0:13:33.360 --> 0:13:36.680 an hour between six thirty and seven thirty to do 0:13:37.600 --> 0:13:44.920 my morning routine. That consists number one of being absent 0:13:44.960 --> 0:13:47.600 from my phone. So I learned a long time ago 0:13:47.720 --> 0:13:49.840 that I can't. I can't wake up and pull up 0:13:49.880 --> 0:13:53.520 my phone and start checking emails and checking text messages, 0:13:55.160 --> 0:13:58.600 going about oh good God, forget bids social media. I 0:13:58.640 --> 0:14:00.880 cannot do that first thing the morning. That just puts 0:14:00.920 --> 0:14:03.920 you on the wrong path. So I like to have 0:14:03.960 --> 0:14:09.800 that that hour to do some reading, to have a 0:14:09.800 --> 0:14:15.000 little little very primitive journal that I'll write in just 0:14:15.080 --> 0:14:20.600 for exercise sake, that I could I could write what's 0:14:20.600 --> 0:14:24.000 going on in my life. Not nothing detailed, nothing poetic, 0:14:24.240 --> 0:14:30.480 just heading heading on tour to the Northwest tomorrow, early 0:14:30.560 --> 0:14:36.400 morning flight. Lincoln played baseball with me last night. Just 0:14:36.720 --> 0:14:39.320 primitive stuff because that helps me a lot to be 0:14:39.360 --> 0:14:44.360 able to journal. And so reading, journaling and having some 0:14:44.480 --> 0:14:47.120 quiet time. You know, I love I love the mornings. 0:14:47.120 --> 0:14:48.520 It's my favorite time. So if I could have a 0:14:48.520 --> 0:14:52.600 cup of coffee and be outside with the birds and 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:55.800 with the sunrise, watching the sun come up, that is 0:14:56.520 --> 0:14:59.800 such a such a key factor in getting my day 0:15:00.040 --> 0:15:03.120 going in the right direction. After that, I always work out, 0:15:03.440 --> 0:15:06.280 So if I'm going to have a long workout, I 0:15:06.280 --> 0:15:08.440 also have to fact that a factor that into my 0:15:08.520 --> 0:15:12.040 morning routine whenever my day's supposed to start. So that 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:14.080 usually text me about an hour forty five minutes to 0:15:14.080 --> 0:15:17.280 an hour to get a good workout. I usually do 0:15:17.320 --> 0:15:20.440 strength training at the very least get a good sweat going. 0:15:21.400 --> 0:15:23.520 So if I could do all of those things I mentioned, 0:15:23.760 --> 0:15:29.000 before that phone call or meeting or whatever is, whatever 0:15:29.000 --> 0:15:32.040 it is to start my day, I am just a 0:15:32.040 --> 0:15:34.680 lot better off. I'm a lot better after in the day. 0:15:35.640 --> 0:15:38.440 And Bailey, I hope that kind of answers your questions. 0:15:38.440 --> 0:15:40.280 But I could say if you could do anything that 0:15:40.320 --> 0:15:43.960 I just said anything, get your required hours of sleep 0:15:44.520 --> 0:15:47.280 and don't get your phone first thing in the morning. 0:15:51.000 --> 0:15:54.880 Next question, what's the hardest thing you've ever gone through 0:15:55.240 --> 0:16:00.080 being a country singer? And that question, I'm going to 0:15:59.960 --> 0:16:05.400 stick with the business side. And I'm assuming that you 0:16:05.440 --> 0:16:09.360 were talking about because you put in country singer. I'm 0:16:09.400 --> 0:16:11.560 assuming you're putting you're talking about the business side, not 0:16:11.600 --> 0:16:13.960 the personal side. Like you didn't say what's the hardest 0:16:13.960 --> 0:16:15.640 thing you've ever gone through as a human being? You 0:16:15.680 --> 0:16:18.840 said country singers, I'm assuming you mean business. So if 0:16:18.880 --> 0:16:25.480 it's business, There's two things that come to mind. One was, well, 0:16:25.520 --> 0:16:29.080 I mean, let's throw us. Let's throw us side COVID 0:16:29.080 --> 0:16:32.480 because COVID wins. That wins that battle every time. Because 0:16:32.480 --> 0:16:34.240 the hardest thing I ever did as a country singer 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:38.040 was shut down my entire tour, tell my band they 0:16:38.040 --> 0:16:42.360 don't have a job, and scrap for the last six months, 0:16:42.680 --> 0:16:46.280 so that that throws everything out of the out of 0:16:46.280 --> 0:16:50.440 the wall, out of the window right now. So besides COVID, 0:16:53.720 --> 0:16:56.040 it would be one of two things. One and falling 0:16:56.040 --> 0:16:59.240 off the stage and breaking ribs and puncturing alung and 0:16:59.280 --> 0:17:03.680 then having that setback of recovery. But I don't think 0:17:03.680 --> 0:17:06.040 that was as much a big as much of an 0:17:06.119 --> 0:17:09.679 ordeal to me as when I lost my voice. And 0:17:09.720 --> 0:17:13.399 I lost my voice just screwed around with one of 0:17:13.440 --> 0:17:16.920 the guys on the crew. We were kind of horsing 0:17:16.960 --> 0:17:19.639 around wrestling on the bus in front of everybody, and 0:17:19.680 --> 0:17:23.480 he put me in a chokehold with his forearm and 0:17:22.720 --> 0:17:28.200 it caused swelling in my throat in my vocal cord. 0:17:28.560 --> 0:17:30.919 And then I sang that night at a show and 0:17:31.040 --> 0:17:36.040 burst that blood vessel that killed my voice. It completely 0:17:36.080 --> 0:17:39.879 went away. I had nothing but a whisper, And that 0:17:40.040 --> 0:17:42.080 was the hardest thing I've had to go through as 0:17:42.080 --> 0:17:46.400 a country singer, not being able to sing. I did 0:17:46.400 --> 0:17:49.520 a whole podcast about that crazy day and that crazy 0:17:49.640 --> 0:17:53.200 night and the recovery it took after that. It definitely 0:17:53.240 --> 0:17:55.680 put a lot of things in perspective for me and 0:17:56.960 --> 0:17:58.840 taught me a lot about myself. Taught me a lot 0:17:58.840 --> 0:18:04.399 about uh, the value of myself and how grateful I 0:18:04.440 --> 0:18:07.159 am for just a normal day of being able to 0:18:07.280 --> 0:18:17.320 use my voice. Judith Rose asked me, what do you 0:18:17.400 --> 0:18:21.280 think are the most important qualities of being a good husband. 0:18:21.680 --> 0:18:27.280 It's interesting that Judith, a female, is asking me what 0:18:27.359 --> 0:18:29.120 I think the most important qualities of being a good 0:18:29.200 --> 0:18:33.240 husband are. And I hope that I hope for a 0:18:33.280 --> 0:18:35.760 couple of reasons. Students, I hope you're not either judging 0:18:35.800 --> 0:18:39.240 your current spouse or I hope you're not going to 0:18:39.320 --> 0:18:43.199 use my advice to decide who who you like or 0:18:43.240 --> 0:18:49.240 not to marry one day. And as anything on this podcast, 0:18:49.320 --> 0:18:51.720 you cats can't take, can't take my word for gospel. 0:18:52.520 --> 0:18:54.800 I'm just giving you what I think, and so what 0:18:54.880 --> 0:18:57.840 I think the good qualities are are what I've experienced 0:18:57.840 --> 0:19:03.320 with Amber, and that is honesty. It's got to be 0:19:03.400 --> 0:19:10.840 number one. And number two is forgiveness. And a lot 0:19:10.840 --> 0:19:14.960 of times with Amber and I that forgiveness starts before 0:19:15.480 --> 0:19:20.960 a fight or an argument even happens, meaning she could 0:19:21.000 --> 0:19:26.120 do something that might be annoying or something I don't 0:19:26.119 --> 0:19:32.080 believe in fundamentally, but I know quickly that it's not 0:19:32.440 --> 0:19:37.880 worth it. It's not worth what that could cause if 0:19:37.920 --> 0:19:41.439 we if I start a disagreement, especially if I know 0:19:41.520 --> 0:19:47.920 she's passionate, passionate about it. And the truth is we've 0:19:47.960 --> 0:19:51.760 both learned how to forgive each other before the problem 0:19:51.800 --> 0:19:55.000 even starts. So that's a different than getting in a 0:19:55.080 --> 0:19:57.919 huge brawl and then at the end of it then 0:19:57.920 --> 0:20:02.639 I forgive her right, So before that even happens, I 0:20:02.680 --> 0:20:04.280 look at her and I just go, you know what, 0:20:05.600 --> 0:20:08.720 She's a human being, like I am, very smart human being, 0:20:08.760 --> 0:20:11.920 probably smarter, not probably a lot smarter than I am. 0:20:12.680 --> 0:20:15.480 And she feels that way or she does that or 0:20:15.520 --> 0:20:19.760 she thinks that way, and she's entitled to that, and 0:20:19.800 --> 0:20:23.960 who am I to tell her otherwise. And if it's 0:20:24.359 --> 0:20:29.359 a fundamental disagreement, as in disciplining kids or something like that, 0:20:30.240 --> 0:20:33.800 then we both approach each other in a very civil way, 0:20:34.000 --> 0:20:38.080 like you know, but instead of saying, instead of putting 0:20:38.119 --> 0:20:39.800 it on her, like you know what you should do, 0:20:40.560 --> 0:20:43.679 instead of doing that to London, I'll approach it like, 0:20:45.160 --> 0:20:47.879 how either how could I help you with that problem 0:20:47.960 --> 0:20:53.359 you're having with London? Or can you let me deal 0:20:53.400 --> 0:20:55.840 with her? You let me deal with London? In this 0:20:56.359 --> 0:20:59.639 I have an idea on maybe how to how to 0:20:59.680 --> 0:21:02.320 make this outcome better. It might not work, but can 0:21:02.359 --> 0:21:05.560 I try that? Can I try that on London? Instead 0:21:05.600 --> 0:21:08.320 of saying, Babe, you're wrong? Why would you do that? 0:21:08.440 --> 0:21:12.320 You're wrong? That's that's not the right way. There's nothing 0:21:12.320 --> 0:21:15.679 that's going to come out of that, nothing besides me 0:21:15.800 --> 0:21:19.560 being right, and that's not fun. Me being right means nothing. 0:21:19.960 --> 0:21:23.639 That doesn't change anything. So, Judith, I hope that helps you. 0:21:26.119 --> 0:21:30.240 Next question, that's funny, that's funny. Literally the next question, 0:21:30.720 --> 0:21:34.040 how do you discipline your children? My son likes to 0:21:34.040 --> 0:21:37.920 say no a lot and he's almost four. Brandon hashtag 0:21:37.960 --> 0:21:41.879 ye yee Brandon. First of all, as you know, I 0:21:41.880 --> 0:21:44.480 don't have to tell you, buddy that if your if 0:21:44.520 --> 0:21:47.400 your son says no a lot and he's three years old, 0:21:47.920 --> 0:21:52.960 that's natural. That's totally normal. And we both we both understand. 0:21:53.000 --> 0:21:56.200 It's like it's like the puppy theory. When you see 0:21:55.960 --> 0:22:00.879 a little lab puppy chewing on the corner of the table. 0:22:01.520 --> 0:22:05.119 You know it's cute, but you imagine him as a 0:22:05.119 --> 0:22:07.760 full grown dog doing that, and that's not cute anymore. 0:22:07.880 --> 0:22:10.920 You know, that's trouble. That's a bad dog. So it's 0:22:10.920 --> 0:22:12.399 the same thing when I when a little three year 0:22:12.440 --> 0:22:14.840 old is talking back and telling you know all the time. 0:22:16.040 --> 0:22:19.639 At some levels, it's cute and it's understandable, but in 0:22:19.680 --> 0:22:21.080 the back of your mind you're thinking, now, I don't 0:22:21.119 --> 0:22:23.000 want this to turn into a teenager that's doing this 0:22:23.080 --> 0:22:28.520 to me. My mother used to always tell me, you 0:22:28.640 --> 0:22:32.520 have to break their will, but not their spirit. And 0:22:32.560 --> 0:22:37.000 there's a big difference. There's a big difference, and you 0:22:37.720 --> 0:22:41.280 need to you need to curb, curb them and and 0:22:41.359 --> 0:22:44.320 break their will and show them the right way without 0:22:44.400 --> 0:22:48.600 tearing down their spirit. And in so many ways you 0:22:48.640 --> 0:22:53.000 could you could accomplish that. One. You gotta just really 0:22:53.040 --> 0:22:54.959 praise them for the things they're doing good, Like if 0:22:54.960 --> 0:22:57.480 they do something good, you got to praise them a lot, 0:22:57.760 --> 0:23:00.679 like good job, buddy, that's so good. Your that is 0:23:00.720 --> 0:23:03.119 so good, You're such a good boy. That was great. 0:23:03.800 --> 0:23:05.840 And then on the flip side, if they do something wrong, 0:23:06.320 --> 0:23:08.800 instead of instead of a personal attack, even with a 0:23:08.840 --> 0:23:11.560 three year old, it works with three year olds all 0:23:11.600 --> 0:23:14.320 the way up. It works with adults. If they do 0:23:14.400 --> 0:23:17.840 something wrong, you don't attack them personally, you don't attack 0:23:17.920 --> 0:23:23.240 their spirit. Instead, you just attack the action like, buddy, 0:23:23.359 --> 0:23:25.720 you are a good boy. You are a good boy, 0:23:26.080 --> 0:23:29.760 but that was not a good decision. That was wrong. 0:23:30.680 --> 0:23:32.679 You do not do that. You're a good boy. You 0:23:32.760 --> 0:23:35.159 know better, you know reinforce that. Hey, they're smart, they 0:23:35.160 --> 0:23:38.000 can make their own decisions. That can't because there're three, 0:23:38.080 --> 0:23:40.879 but you could reinforce that they can and it helps 0:23:40.880 --> 0:23:45.000 grow them up that way. To more specifically answer your 0:23:45.040 --> 0:23:49.399 discipline question, our kids, you know, all three of our 0:23:49.480 --> 0:23:52.600 kids are very different and they're in the way that 0:23:52.640 --> 0:23:58.320 they take discipline. Lincoln, he responds very well to a spanking, 0:23:58.840 --> 0:24:01.560 so I could I could spank him in the right 0:24:01.600 --> 0:24:04.440 way where I know that it's it's just enough to 0:24:04.440 --> 0:24:08.879 get his attention, not enough to hurt him, and and 0:24:08.920 --> 0:24:10.879 then he focuses on me, and then I could focus 0:24:10.920 --> 0:24:14.399 on fixing it by saying, buddy, you're a good boy. 0:24:14.680 --> 0:24:17.080 You are, you are a smart boy, but you know 0:24:17.240 --> 0:24:19.480 better than that, you know better than to do that. 0:24:20.520 --> 0:24:23.840 And with London, it's totally different because I have spanked 0:24:23.840 --> 0:24:27.000 her a few times and she she only responds with aggression, 0:24:27.720 --> 0:24:30.320 and so that doesn't that doesn't if she If your 0:24:30.400 --> 0:24:36.160 kid responds to to spanking with aggression, then The answer 0:24:36.200 --> 0:24:40.240 to that is not another spanking. That's harder, right, So 0:24:40.440 --> 0:24:42.959 with London, and you just got to learn what it 0:24:43.000 --> 0:24:45.679 is that hurts him, and it's not doesn't have to 0:24:45.680 --> 0:24:48.840 be physical. So with London, it's taken something away. So 0:24:48.960 --> 0:24:53.159 if she's responding with something, or if I'm responding with 0:24:53.200 --> 0:24:56.879