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Speaker 2: You've ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the

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Speaker 2: Fred Show. Hey, Dmitri, Hey, how are you? Hey man

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Speaker 2: doing okay, welcome to the program. Here we are waiting

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Speaker 2: by the phone. Of course. Why don't you tell us

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Speaker 2: what's going on with this woman, Kelly? We got to

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Speaker 2: know all the backstory. How did you meet?

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Speaker 3: Uh?

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Speaker 2: Tell us about any dates that you've been on, and

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Speaker 2: then where things are now?

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Speaker 4: So you know, I apply to Hinch and you know,

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Speaker 4: I'm sure you know adding comments on these girls and

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Speaker 4: you're trying to find the wand and you know you.

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Speaker 2: Mean adding comments where you like, you'd like you're matching

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Speaker 2: with people and then giving them commentary on themselves. Think

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Speaker 2: over again.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so on hints, you.

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Speaker 4: Can like add a comment if you want, like basically

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Speaker 4: like oh you're your beautiful smile or your you.

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Speaker 2: Know, when you like the picture, you can add something.

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Speaker 2: You're exactly right. I just never do that. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's a lot of work, but like stand out. So

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Speaker 2: I got you, Okay, So you you were commenting on

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Speaker 2: stuff and stuff, so you matched with Kelly?

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Speaker 1: Yes, I did. I was surprisingly I'm like, oh wow.

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Speaker 4: So we talked for like a while, and then we

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Speaker 3: Wait?

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Speaker 1: So you yeah, yeah, Caitlin, So you guys never went

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Speaker 1: I'm just trying to figure out this story.

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Speaker 4: No, we never went, like we were like very close,

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Speaker 2: Me icy, So this was never even a date. I mean,

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Speaker 2: this was simply chatting that you thought was going somewhere.

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Speaker 2: So you got ghosted before you could get ghosted, right, huh? Okay,

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Speaker 2: can get her on the phone and and let's she

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Speaker 2: out maybe why she did that. Okay, Okay, I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: play one song, Dmitri. We'll come back and do it

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Speaker 2: in the second.

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Speaker 1: Hang on, we're.

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Speaker 2: Gonna find out what's going on a pot of It's

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Speaker 2: after Sabrina Carpenter in two minutes, Part two of Waiting

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Speaker 2: about the phone on The Fred Show.

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Speaker 1: It's the Fred Show. Good morning.

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Speaker 2: We're on the radio, of course, and the iHeart app

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Speaker 2: anytime search for the Fred Show on demand. Dimitri, Yes,

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Speaker 2: welcome back. Let's call Kelly. You guys met on Hinge.

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Speaker 2: We actually never really met. You just matched and messaged

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Speaker 2: and then Kelly kind of ghosted before you could ever

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Speaker 2: finalize plans to go out, right, That is true? All right, Well,

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Speaker 2: let's call her now and let's see if we can

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Speaker 2: figure out what's going on with her.

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Speaker 1: Okay, good luck, thank you?

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Speaker 2: Hello?

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Speaker 3: Hi?

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Speaker 1: Is this Kelly?

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Speaker 2: Yah?

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Speaker 1: Hi Kelly.

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Speaker 2: My name is Fred. The whole crew is here for

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Speaker 2: the Fred Show and this is kind of a weird one.

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Speaker 2: But I would need your permission to continue talking because

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Speaker 1: Is that okay?

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Speaker 2: If we chat for a second. Sure, I know, kind

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Speaker 2: dude reached out to us who you've actually apparently never met,

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Speaker 1: His name is Dimitri. Do you remember this guy?

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Speaker 3: Uh huh yeah, yeah, okay.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, he reached out to us and thought

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Speaker 3: Uh huh, yeah, I mean he was close to a

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Speaker 3: we all know what we all know what snapchat is.

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Speaker 2: For, right, Uh Well, I thought I did. I mean,

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Speaker 3: to me, that was a major red flag for someone

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Speaker 1: Has a Snapchat, Well I don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't have a snapchat, but I don't know, I do,

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Speaker 2: but not for that. Let me bring Dimitrian Dimitri. I'm sorry, Kelly,

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Speaker 1: Can't be real? I mean, why not?

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Speaker 4: Well, you know, that's the way we everyone communicates. So

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Speaker 1: Her for her snapchat? Okay, okay, all right?

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Speaker 2: So you thought, okay, she gives it to me, then

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and you know, potentially go out and you know,

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Speaker 1: But I guess she didn't like that.

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Speaker 2: I mean, Kelly, is there any circumstance under which you

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Speaker 3: Absolutely not, Like you're clearly a boy.

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Speaker 2: Know, I see both sides of this, because sometimes conversation,

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Speaker 1: And that's your right.

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Speaker 2: But Dimitri, you got to know that that's I mean,

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Speaker 2: that's the problem, right, But if she I want to

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Speaker 3: He's literally just like on the site, we get as

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh Jmitri, Okay, well look that's not a Kelly.

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Speaker 2: I assume this isn't gonna this isn't for you. You're

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Speaker 2: On a date. Hey, look, if you're gonna swing big,

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Speaker 2: and I've been there, I'll admit it. You swing big

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Speaker 2: might be into it. She's not.

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Speaker 1: But you got to know when you do that it

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Speaker 2: So does this work for you often? I know the answer,

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Speaker 2: so it must work for someone just to meet you

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Speaker 2: want just well, Kelly, wasn't the one? Sounds like no

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Speaker 2: one is the one for your approach to Beetri. No

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Speaker 2: for this approach. Oh yeah, I would suggest a new

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'll think about it.

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Speaker 2: The more you know, the more you know. Okay, Kelly,

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Speaker 2: thank you for your time. I'm really sorry to bother Dmitrie.

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Speaker 2: Good luck out there.

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Speaker 1: Man.

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