WEBVTT - Hold yourself accountable

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>This is part four of this week's five part series

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<v Speaker 1>on procrastination. Today's tip is about how to hold yourself accountable.

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<v Speaker 1>Certain kinds of work demand to be done right now.

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<v Speaker 1>Your boss asks you to email a file. You send it.

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<v Speaker 1>No one dithers about doing work like that. But other

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<v Speaker 1>work doesn't have to be done, certainly not now, and

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<v Speaker 1>maybe not ever. This is often speculative stuff that could

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<v Speaker 1>be a big boost to your career, but it's hard

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<v Speaker 1>to make time amid the emails and meetings for it.

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<v Speaker 1>Many people find it difficult to be accountable only to themselves,

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<v Speaker 1>so we figure, well, there's always tomorrow, or next week

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<v Speaker 1>or next year. If that's the case for you, and

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<v Speaker 1>you find yourself continually putting off things you really want

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<v Speaker 1>to do, then it might help to seek external accountability.

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<v Speaker 1>I have definitely sought out external accountability from my projects.

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<v Speaker 1>Most Fridays for the past six years, I've checked in

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<v Speaker 1>with my accountability partner, a journalist named Catherine Lewis. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a fairly casual partnership. We send each other an email

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<v Speaker 1>saying what we've done over the last week and what

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<v Speaker 1>we plan to do in the next week. There aren't

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<v Speaker 1>exactly teeth to the system. I won't get in trouble

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<v Speaker 1>if I haven't done what I told Catherine I do.

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<v Speaker 1>But if I've said I'm going to spend time brainstorming

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<v Speaker 1>book ideas and then I don't, I need to explain it,

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<v Speaker 1>and that provides a nudge to consider maybe making some

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<v Speaker 1>time for it instead. I found this helpful when I

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<v Speaker 1>was trying to write a novel a few years ago.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't have a book contract or anything. I just

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<v Speaker 1>had a story in my head about a small town

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<v Speaker 1>Pennsylvania basketball team that I wanted to tell. So I

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<v Speaker 1>told Catherine I wanted to write two thousand words week,

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<v Speaker 1>and every Friday i'd email her to tell her I've

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<v Speaker 1>done just that. I did this week after week until

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<v Speaker 1>the momentum took over and I wound up devoting every

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<v Speaker 1>hour I could find to writing the book that became

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<v Speaker 1>The Courtlant Boys. What I have made the time without

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<v Speaker 1>my accountability partnership, Well, maybe what I do know is

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<v Speaker 1>that i'd written a skeletal draft of this book back

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<v Speaker 1>in two thousand five and then had done nothing with

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<v Speaker 1>it until that winter of two thousand, so clearly I've

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<v Speaker 1>been putting it off for a while. I'm now trying

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<v Speaker 1>to do something similar with another novel. I wrote a

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<v Speaker 1>fifty thousand word draft during National Novel Writing Month back

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<v Speaker 1>in November. When you write a novel in a month,

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<v Speaker 1>it's generally not going to be a good novel. So

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<v Speaker 1>I know this manuscript is going to need heavy editing

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<v Speaker 1>before I show it to anyone. This will take time,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's purely speculative. Again, I need to convince myself

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<v Speaker 1>to stop putting it off and may time for it

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<v Speaker 1>amid the other things going on in my life. So

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<v Speaker 1>I posted a synopsis and a timeline on my blog

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<v Speaker 1>Laura Vanderkam dot com. I told my readers to hold

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<v Speaker 1>me accountable. A few have now told me they want

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<v Speaker 1>to read it, so I feel accountable to them to

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<v Speaker 1>get this thing done in a reasonable time frame. In

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<v Speaker 1>any case, if you tend to put off big things,

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<v Speaker 1>or have something big that keeps getting rolled to next

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<v Speaker 1>week's to do list, think about who might hold you accountable. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>someone like a spouse might seem obvious. This is a

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<v Speaker 1>complex enough relationship that many people find it better to

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<v Speaker 1>seek out someone else. Maybe it's someone in your same

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<v Speaker 1>industry like Catherine and me, but maybe not someone you

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<v Speaker 1>have to work with or see every single day. Or

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<v Speaker 1>you could form a small group you agree to meet

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<v Speaker 1>once a month or even once a week virtually and

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<v Speaker 1>discuss your progress. Or maybe it's your social media followers.

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<v Speaker 1>If you truly do care about them and what they think,

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<v Speaker 1>then this can nudge you to positive changes. So spend

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<v Speaker 1>some time today thinking about who might hold you accountable

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<v Speaker 1>for your big goals. Reach out and offer to help

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<v Speaker 1>that person as well, work out a timeline, figure out

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<v Speaker 1>how you'll connect and share progress. For most people, this

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<v Speaker 1>can be that extra little nudge to move your priorities

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<v Speaker 1>from someday two. Now. Do you have an accountability partner

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<v Speaker 1>or group. I'd love to hear about it. You can

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<v Speaker 1>email me at Before Breakfast podcast at i heeart media

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<v Speaker 1>dot com. In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for

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<v Speaker 1>listening and here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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<v Speaker 1>I'd love to hear from you. You can send me

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