1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:04,360 Speaker 1: iHeart podcasts, bring you the ultimate Summer of love Tree. 2 00:00:04,680 --> 00:00:10,280 Speaker 1: This is famously available, been here on famously Available, and 3 00:00:10,400 --> 00:00:13,480 Speaker 1: as we wind up this year of twenty twenty five, 4 00:00:13,720 --> 00:00:17,639 Speaker 1: I wanted to get our famously available women together to 5 00:00:17,720 --> 00:00:21,840 Speaker 1: chat and reflect back on what this year has been 6 00:00:22,239 --> 00:00:25,520 Speaker 1: for them. So ladies, take it away. 7 00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:31,320 Speaker 2: Hey, everybody, Kathy here with Deanna and Mercedes and we 8 00:00:31,360 --> 00:00:33,800 Speaker 2: are just here together to have some end of the 9 00:00:33,880 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 2: year girl chat. How are you guys doing today. 10 00:00:36,280 --> 00:00:38,320 Speaker 3: I'm feeling a little under the weather, but I'm talking 11 00:00:38,360 --> 00:00:39,519 Speaker 3: to you guys, so it's a good day. 12 00:00:41,479 --> 00:00:44,240 Speaker 4: I'm doing great. I just listened to the podcast yesterday 13 00:00:44,240 --> 00:00:47,839 Speaker 4: with Mercedes and Bryce me too. I just like so happy. 14 00:00:48,320 --> 00:00:49,400 Speaker 3: What'd you guys think? 15 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:54,120 Speaker 4: I listen, whether you fall madly in love and run 16 00:00:54,160 --> 00:00:57,200 Speaker 4: off into the sunset or not. I thought it was 17 00:00:57,240 --> 00:00:59,240 Speaker 4: a really great first date. And he's a nice guy. 18 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:05,200 Speaker 4: Is his episode. I just have mad respect for guys 19 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:07,560 Speaker 4: who can show up in that sense. I think it's 20 00:01:07,600 --> 00:01:09,240 Speaker 4: a lot for all of us to come on here 21 00:01:09,319 --> 00:01:11,080 Speaker 4: and go on blind dates and then talk about it, 22 00:01:11,080 --> 00:01:13,759 Speaker 4: for everyone to listen and dissect and tear apart, but 23 00:01:14,040 --> 00:01:17,119 Speaker 4: for him in particular to come on and date you 24 00:01:17,280 --> 00:01:19,000 Speaker 4: and then be a part of the podcast and talk 25 00:01:19,040 --> 00:01:21,440 Speaker 4: about it. And I don't know if you've listened yet, Mercedes, 26 00:01:21,480 --> 00:01:23,960 Speaker 4: but he only had really wonderful things to say about you. 27 00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:27,520 Speaker 4: Not shocking, not shocking because you're so great. But I 28 00:01:27,600 --> 00:01:29,800 Speaker 4: just think that makes a stand up guy. He could 29 00:01:29,800 --> 00:01:31,600 Speaker 4: have come on and been like, m she ignored me 30 00:01:31,640 --> 00:01:33,640 Speaker 4: with all her friends and Lula lulit. No, he was 31 00:01:33,680 --> 00:01:36,080 Speaker 4: a solid dude. He was like, she's gorgeous, she's wonderful. 32 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:36,760 Speaker 2: The date was great. 33 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:38,880 Speaker 4: I'd love to see her again. He just had really 34 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:40,520 Speaker 4: great things to say about you, and I have a 35 00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:41,440 Speaker 4: lot of respect for that. 36 00:01:42,000 --> 00:01:45,840 Speaker 2: I've got to echo that. I listened to the podcast, Mercedes, 37 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:49,160 Speaker 2: and I was even more adamant. Oh, she's got to 38 00:01:49,160 --> 00:01:50,840 Speaker 2: give him a second date. She's got to give him 39 00:01:50,800 --> 00:01:55,080 Speaker 2: a second champion. I really because he when he was 40 00:01:55,120 --> 00:01:57,920 Speaker 2: talking about the date, and he was saying, you know, 41 00:01:58,320 --> 00:02:00,560 Speaker 2: there were all these people she had like people, and 42 00:02:00,640 --> 00:02:03,360 Speaker 2: I had no one. But I made it work. I 43 00:02:03,400 --> 00:02:07,080 Speaker 2: thought he came across on the podcast a really positive 44 00:02:07,160 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 2: person who's ready to engage to have fun. He thought 45 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:14,000 Speaker 2: you were beautiful. He said that if you were in 46 00:02:14,160 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 2: La he would have already had another date with you. 47 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 2: He just said, you check a lot of boxes. And 48 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:22,920 Speaker 2: I do agree that it's really hard to go on 49 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:25,640 Speaker 2: a first date at a concert with when you know 50 00:02:25,840 --> 00:02:27,600 Speaker 2: no one and the girl you're having to date and 51 00:02:27,840 --> 00:02:29,920 Speaker 2: knows everyone. I went such a. 52 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:35,440 Speaker 4: I'm with Kathy, I think you ought to give him 53 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:37,480 Speaker 4: a second chance, even if it's just like a quick drink, 54 00:02:37,520 --> 00:02:39,240 Speaker 4: if he makes his way to Nashville, because it sounds 55 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:41,520 Speaker 4: like he's there quite a bit. Yeah, even if he 56 00:02:41,600 --> 00:02:43,400 Speaker 4: just makes his way to Nashville and you guys meet 57 00:02:43,440 --> 00:02:46,160 Speaker 4: for a drink, just to see without anybody else there, 58 00:02:46,200 --> 00:02:48,920 Speaker 4: without any other noise, if there is anything there. Because 59 00:02:48,919 --> 00:02:51,040 Speaker 4: I think he's a really great I think he's a 60 00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:54,120 Speaker 4: really great guy, whether he's yours or not. But I 61 00:02:54,160 --> 00:02:58,639 Speaker 4: believe that it is worth a second date to just see, 62 00:02:59,040 --> 00:03:00,600 Speaker 4: to just see if there's any mystery there. 63 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:01,080 Speaker 2: Yeah. 64 00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:04,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I agree. I definitely like the first day was. 65 00:03:05,080 --> 00:03:07,480 Speaker 3: It was good, And it says a lot about his 66 00:03:07,600 --> 00:03:09,280 Speaker 3: character and who he is that he could just like 67 00:03:09,360 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 3: jump in and do whatever. Do you know, Like not 68 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:13,960 Speaker 3: a lot of people can do that, I will say. 69 00:03:14,560 --> 00:03:16,800 Speaker 3: And we were actually texting the other day and I 70 00:03:16,880 --> 00:03:19,240 Speaker 3: was like you know, distance is hard, and we both 71 00:03:19,240 --> 00:03:20,880 Speaker 3: agreed that we were like kind of on the same 72 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:23,360 Speaker 3: page as like we were very aware that we live 73 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 3: in different cities and like that's really really hard. But 74 00:03:26,360 --> 00:03:28,120 Speaker 3: he was like, if we ever like find each other 75 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:30,200 Speaker 3: in if I'm in Nashville or you're in LA, like 76 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:30,880 Speaker 3: let's catch up. 77 00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:32,400 Speaker 2: And I was like, yeah, yeah, but let me let 78 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 2: me just say that that sounds sort of fatalistic to me, Like, yeah, 79 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:37,400 Speaker 2: it's nice knowing you. You know, if I ever crossed 80 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:40,680 Speaker 2: your way again, I think you should be intentional with 81 00:03:40,760 --> 00:03:45,240 Speaker 2: him about trying to set up a gate that you know, 82 00:03:45,320 --> 00:03:48,680 Speaker 2: in the next let's just say month, surely you'll be 83 00:03:48,720 --> 00:03:51,080 Speaker 2: in LA or he'll be in Nashville. And and like 84 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:55,000 Speaker 2: Deanna said, get together have a drink, because I really, 85 00:03:55,440 --> 00:03:59,560 Speaker 2: I mean I only spoken briefly at the concert, and 86 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:02,280 Speaker 2: I did feel for him that you knew everyone, he 87 00:04:02,360 --> 00:04:04,720 Speaker 2: knew no one, plus just chasing you both up and 88 00:04:04,720 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 2: down from the bar and back up the suite again. 89 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:08,680 Speaker 2: So I didn't have a whole lot of time, but 90 00:04:09,720 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 2: I really liked what I heard when he was talking 91 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:14,440 Speaker 2: to Ben. I really think I think you should do it. 92 00:04:14,720 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I need to I honestly haven't listened to it, 93 00:04:17,279 --> 00:04:20,320 Speaker 3: so I need to listen to it and then. But no, 94 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:22,120 Speaker 3: he's a great guy at the end of the day, 95 00:04:22,240 --> 00:04:25,720 Speaker 3: and I do think I should give him another date 96 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:26,360 Speaker 3: for sure. 97 00:04:26,640 --> 00:04:30,640 Speaker 4: I think it's quite interesting given we're on the same 98 00:04:30,680 --> 00:04:33,800 Speaker 4: podcast and we went on the same scenario for two days. Right, 99 00:04:34,120 --> 00:04:36,400 Speaker 4: I had a different experience, And I think that's why 100 00:04:36,600 --> 00:04:39,960 Speaker 4: I'm so advocating for you to have a second date, 101 00:04:39,960 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 4: because my scenario was very different. Like the guy that 102 00:04:43,120 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 4: I went on a date with, he really didn't engage 103 00:04:45,120 --> 00:04:48,359 Speaker 4: with anybody else there. Right, Kathy was there, she knows. 104 00:04:49,520 --> 00:04:52,000 Speaker 2: Are we talking about the guy at the concert, Deanna? Yeah, 105 00:04:52,200 --> 00:04:53,839 Speaker 2: unbelievably different vibe. 106 00:04:54,040 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 4: It's night and day my date to Mercedes date. 107 00:04:56,640 --> 00:04:58,720 Speaker 2: Yeah. Bryce was really trying to get to talk to 108 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:01,360 Speaker 2: everyone and really trying to engage with all of us 109 00:05:01,560 --> 00:05:04,159 Speaker 2: and make the best of a situation where, you know what, 110 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:08,320 Speaker 2: Dianna's state kind of stood there like a statue and 111 00:05:08,640 --> 00:05:11,240 Speaker 2: just he didn't even try to engage. 112 00:05:10,839 --> 00:05:13,320 Speaker 4: Like he was a placeholder. He was there, yes, you know, 113 00:05:13,440 --> 00:05:15,560 Speaker 4: for for whatever reason he was, I don't know, maybe 114 00:05:15,560 --> 00:05:17,320 Speaker 4: he's doing somebody a solid and just showing up so 115 00:05:17,360 --> 00:05:19,120 Speaker 4: I actually had a date. That's what it felt like, 116 00:05:19,200 --> 00:05:21,880 Speaker 4: do you know what I mean? Or like your date 117 00:05:22,120 --> 00:05:28,320 Speaker 4: was actually engaging and genuinely interested in you, like that 118 00:05:28,440 --> 00:05:31,600 Speaker 4: was seen across the room. So I just think that 119 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 4: if we're comparing the two and it's not a point 120 00:05:34,000 --> 00:05:36,080 Speaker 4: of comparison, that's not what I mean. I'm rooting for 121 00:05:36,160 --> 00:05:38,000 Speaker 4: you to hopefully explore, to see if there is something 122 00:05:38,000 --> 00:05:40,160 Speaker 4: else there. That's what I'm rooting for. Mine was clear 123 00:05:40,200 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 4: as day that there was nothing there. He did not 124 00:05:42,600 --> 00:05:44,160 Speaker 4: try to talk to anybody else in the suite, he 125 00:05:44,160 --> 00:05:46,000 Speaker 4: didn't leave the suite, he left early. He didn't even 126 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:47,840 Speaker 4: ask my phone number, Like there was like it was 127 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:48,919 Speaker 4: like nothing on. 128 00:05:48,960 --> 00:05:52,120 Speaker 2: A scale of one to ten, about a minus one. 129 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 4: Really, Oh my god, he's a nice guy. There just 130 00:05:55,800 --> 00:05:56,840 Speaker 4: wasn't anything there. 131 00:05:57,160 --> 00:06:01,360 Speaker 2: I mean, there was no connection with yeah, Jna or 132 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:05,440 Speaker 2: frankly anyone else where Mercedes. I thought. Bryce really tried. 133 00:06:05,520 --> 00:06:08,320 Speaker 2: I know, he chatted with me, and I did throw 134 00:06:08,400 --> 00:06:10,440 Speaker 2: him for a loop though, when when I first met 135 00:06:10,520 --> 00:06:13,360 Speaker 2: him and I said, so, what are you looking for? 136 00:06:13,760 --> 00:06:15,720 Speaker 2: And he said, you know? And he said this on 137 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:18,360 Speaker 2: the on the podcast with Ben and his mother, He said, 138 00:06:18,360 --> 00:06:21,839 Speaker 2: you know, I'm just looking for a beautiful woman. And 139 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:24,920 Speaker 2: then he said, but you know, beautiful looks different different people. 140 00:06:25,360 --> 00:06:28,440 Speaker 2: I'm looking for someone who has he's intrinsic qualities. Like 141 00:06:28,480 --> 00:06:32,080 Speaker 2: he he spoke very well about what beauty meant him. 142 00:06:32,279 --> 00:06:34,520 Speaker 2: But when he said it to me, I thought, is 143 00:06:34,520 --> 00:06:37,600 Speaker 2: he really like superficial saying I want a beautiful woman? 144 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:39,800 Speaker 4: He's not. I feel like there's so he's. 145 00:06:39,680 --> 00:06:41,479 Speaker 2: Not a different what I'm saying. He has so much 146 00:06:41,520 --> 00:06:42,000 Speaker 2: more depth. 147 00:06:42,400 --> 00:06:44,479 Speaker 4: Yeah, for someone who has like been in like a 148 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:47,880 Speaker 4: spiritual growth journey and working on myself. I could see 149 00:06:47,880 --> 00:06:49,280 Speaker 4: that through the things that he was saying. There's a 150 00:06:49,320 --> 00:06:50,880 Speaker 4: part of it where he's still trying to look cool 151 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:53,159 Speaker 4: and attractive, Like I could see that, but there was 152 00:06:53,200 --> 00:06:55,800 Speaker 4: also I could read between the lines that there is 153 00:06:55,920 --> 00:06:59,239 Speaker 4: growth in the things that he had to say. And listen, 154 00:06:59,279 --> 00:07:01,560 Speaker 4: y'all would all be lying if you weren't, like, we 155 00:07:01,600 --> 00:07:03,320 Speaker 4: want some tall, dark and handsome to show up who's 156 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:06,200 Speaker 4: super freaking hot. Like, come, there's a piece of it 157 00:07:06,200 --> 00:07:08,400 Speaker 4: where we're all really superficial. Of course, he went's a 158 00:07:08,400 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 4: beautiful girl. 159 00:07:09,640 --> 00:07:12,000 Speaker 2: Okay, So we have to be proud of ourselves. We 160 00:07:12,040 --> 00:07:14,280 Speaker 2: have put ourselves out there. I went to two Christmas 161 00:07:14,360 --> 00:07:19,720 Speaker 2: parties this past week, solo, literally solo, and this really 162 00:07:19,760 --> 00:07:21,720 Speaker 2: good looking guy came up to me and I thought, 163 00:07:21,840 --> 00:07:26,720 Speaker 2: thank you God, my Christmas is come early. And we 164 00:07:26,720 --> 00:07:29,080 Speaker 2: were standing and he introduced himself and the minute up 165 00:07:29,120 --> 00:07:31,119 Speaker 2: in his mouth. I hadn't been at this party forty 166 00:07:31,160 --> 00:07:33,560 Speaker 2: five minutes and I had another one to go to. 167 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:36,360 Speaker 2: So I was honestly finishing my drink, getting ready to leave. 168 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:40,720 Speaker 2: And when I tell you drunk, he his tongue with 169 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:45,160 Speaker 2: two thick no oh no, and yeah. I just so 170 00:07:45,760 --> 00:07:49,240 Speaker 2: literally forty five minutes in and he's he's drunk. He said, 171 00:07:49,240 --> 00:07:51,000 Speaker 2: you know, I don't know anyone here. I'm here. It 172 00:07:51,040 --> 00:07:53,840 Speaker 2: was from out of town there lies he I would say, 173 00:07:53,840 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 2: he's in the sixties, so you. 174 00:07:55,160 --> 00:07:57,000 Speaker 4: Know, you know enough to know better. 175 00:07:57,200 --> 00:07:59,400 Speaker 2: You're appropriate for me and a really good looking guy, 176 00:07:59,400 --> 00:08:02,520 Speaker 2: but so drunk. And so I said to him, uh, 177 00:08:02,600 --> 00:08:04,400 Speaker 2: you know, he said, you're you know, you're beautiful. I 178 00:08:04,440 --> 00:08:07,040 Speaker 2: mean it was bad. So I said, you know, I 179 00:08:07,080 --> 00:08:09,160 Speaker 2: wish I hope you have a great holiday. I got 180 00:08:09,200 --> 00:08:12,240 Speaker 2: to run out the door. Oh my god. But I 181 00:08:12,280 --> 00:08:14,600 Speaker 2: was proud of myself that I did it. I went 182 00:08:14,680 --> 00:08:17,720 Speaker 2: by myself and I went from there to the next party, 183 00:08:17,760 --> 00:08:21,200 Speaker 2: which was a much younger crowd, uh, but still lots 184 00:08:21,240 --> 00:08:23,840 Speaker 2: of fun. And you know, I put myself out there. 185 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:25,120 Speaker 2: That's that's what we got to do. 186 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:28,040 Speaker 4: That's really awesome, Kathy. You know, as someone who does 187 00:08:28,080 --> 00:08:31,760 Speaker 4: not drink anymore, the drunkenness I cannot tolerate. I don't 188 00:08:31,840 --> 00:08:35,040 Speaker 4: mind dating someone who drinks. That doesn't bother me, but 189 00:08:35,120 --> 00:08:39,560 Speaker 4: I cannot tolerate like drunkenness, like slurring your words, not 190 00:08:39,640 --> 00:08:41,920 Speaker 4: remembering it. 191 00:08:41,080 --> 00:08:44,320 Speaker 2: Is never I don't care what you say drinking, you know, 192 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:46,240 Speaker 2: getting a buzz on whatever you want to call it, 193 00:08:46,520 --> 00:08:49,680 Speaker 2: giving your confidence, all that stuff. Here's what I have 194 00:08:49,760 --> 00:08:52,440 Speaker 2: seen people do. They get drunk and then they use 195 00:08:52,600 --> 00:08:55,960 Speaker 2: alcohols and excuse for bad behavior, and it's never an 196 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:56,959 Speaker 2: excuse for bad pain. 197 00:08:57,160 --> 00:09:00,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, or people will get like too drunks because they're nervous, 198 00:09:00,200 --> 00:09:02,840 Speaker 3: and then it's just like you're ruining it for yourself 199 00:09:02,920 --> 00:09:05,439 Speaker 3: right before you even talk to someone, Like get a 200 00:09:05,480 --> 00:09:08,360 Speaker 3: good buzz, but like getting too drunk is like it's 201 00:09:08,679 --> 00:09:09,200 Speaker 3: very good thing. 202 00:09:09,600 --> 00:09:11,440 Speaker 4: Even when I did drink, I don't feel like I 203 00:09:11,480 --> 00:09:13,959 Speaker 4: went on a first date and got too drunk. Do 204 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:15,880 Speaker 4: you know what I mean like I still wanted to 205 00:09:15,920 --> 00:09:17,520 Speaker 4: be able to make sure I liked someone and to 206 00:09:17,559 --> 00:09:20,439 Speaker 4: be able to read the room correctly, but even more 207 00:09:20,480 --> 00:09:22,839 Speaker 4: so now that I don't drink. For me, it feels 208 00:09:22,880 --> 00:09:25,600 Speaker 4: like a solid lesson, Like mind your p's and q's. 209 00:09:25,720 --> 00:09:28,000 Speaker 4: We still want to show up and impress someone. Don't 210 00:09:28,040 --> 00:09:30,360 Speaker 4: be sloppy on a first or second or third date. 211 00:09:30,559 --> 00:09:31,520 Speaker 4: Don't be sloppy in general. 212 00:09:31,559 --> 00:09:33,760 Speaker 2: I'm not gonna say, I think good rule of thumb 213 00:09:33,840 --> 00:09:36,040 Speaker 2: is don't ever get slapped with alcohols. I mean, if 214 00:09:36,080 --> 00:09:37,959 Speaker 2: you're with a bunch of girls on a girl's weekend, 215 00:09:38,320 --> 00:09:40,839 Speaker 2: yeah great, but I'm dating Uh. 216 00:09:41,240 --> 00:09:43,760 Speaker 4: No, No, it's just not cute. It's not a good look. 217 00:09:43,800 --> 00:09:46,560 Speaker 4: Don't show up that way. Don't show up. I too 218 00:09:46,960 --> 00:09:49,120 Speaker 4: went to a Christmas party, but I did not have 219 00:09:49,200 --> 00:09:53,720 Speaker 4: the same experience Kathy. It was all women. I know, 220 00:09:54,320 --> 00:09:55,760 Speaker 4: I didn't I know. 221 00:09:56,440 --> 00:10:00,160 Speaker 2: But still that you know, I mean, honestly, I'm I'm 222 00:10:00,160 --> 00:10:03,360 Speaker 2: going to give you kudos, Deanna, because I find it 223 00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:05,960 Speaker 2: difficult sometimes to go out, even with a bunch of 224 00:10:06,080 --> 00:10:08,840 Speaker 2: I was out with girls last night. Sometimes it's hard 225 00:10:08,880 --> 00:10:11,760 Speaker 2: to get the clothes on, get the makeup on, to 226 00:10:11,880 --> 00:10:15,240 Speaker 2: show up just because it's hard. Even if it's with girls. 227 00:10:15,280 --> 00:10:17,160 Speaker 2: You know, there's lots of questions, what are you doing? 228 00:10:17,160 --> 00:10:19,679 Speaker 2: Are you're dating? It's always the same kind of stuff, 229 00:10:19,679 --> 00:10:22,240 Speaker 2: So I find that difficult as well. Sometimes. 230 00:10:22,320 --> 00:10:35,840 Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I think I've learned to show up in 231 00:10:35,880 --> 00:10:38,360 Speaker 4: certain ways and it's so hard. And I know you 232 00:10:38,360 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 4: both understand this having been on television and you know. 233 00:10:44,160 --> 00:10:45,720 Speaker 4: Not to take it back to Bryce, but he said 234 00:10:46,280 --> 00:10:49,360 Speaker 4: when I was listening to the conversation between you and 235 00:10:49,400 --> 00:10:52,160 Speaker 4: Bryce and I was there, Mercedes, he made the comment of, like, 236 00:10:52,200 --> 00:10:54,880 Speaker 4: you guys not going to know each other beforehand because 237 00:10:54,920 --> 00:10:57,160 Speaker 4: you don't want to preconceived notion. And I feel that 238 00:10:57,320 --> 00:11:01,320 Speaker 4: for myself. I have a really hard time going to 239 00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:04,960 Speaker 4: parties or making new friends or dating in general because 240 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:07,080 Speaker 4: if they know who I am or they have Googled me, 241 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:10,360 Speaker 4: that is a turnoff because then they have a preconceived 242 00:11:10,400 --> 00:11:14,320 Speaker 4: notion of who they think that I am. And my experience, 243 00:11:15,440 --> 00:11:18,320 Speaker 4: I have found that people don't truly want to get 244 00:11:18,360 --> 00:11:19,880 Speaker 4: to know me. They want to get to know that 245 00:11:19,880 --> 00:11:22,760 Speaker 4: person that they saw on TV. They think they know 246 00:11:22,880 --> 00:11:25,080 Speaker 4: that person, so they don't try to get to know me. 247 00:11:25,679 --> 00:11:28,360 Speaker 4: They just think that they know this person and that's hard. 248 00:11:28,600 --> 00:11:30,880 Speaker 4: Like in dating general, that feels really hard for me. 249 00:11:31,480 --> 00:11:33,760 Speaker 3: I think that's my least favorite thing about dating like 250 00:11:33,840 --> 00:11:38,600 Speaker 3: today is because social media is so in the center 251 00:11:38,640 --> 00:11:41,840 Speaker 3: of our world and Google and all these things that 252 00:11:42,040 --> 00:11:44,840 Speaker 3: like you and especially like you said us being on TV, 253 00:11:44,920 --> 00:11:48,800 Speaker 3: we're really easy to find and before and I'm I 254 00:11:48,920 --> 00:11:51,120 Speaker 3: do this too. I will say, like I am the 255 00:11:51,160 --> 00:11:53,080 Speaker 3: type of girl before a date. I'm like looking at 256 00:11:53,080 --> 00:11:56,280 Speaker 3: your social media, like you know, like I've definitely been 257 00:11:56,280 --> 00:11:58,800 Speaker 3: that girl. So like going on blind dates. I think 258 00:11:58,840 --> 00:12:00,840 Speaker 3: it's really cool because yeah, you're not able to do 259 00:12:00,880 --> 00:12:03,040 Speaker 3: that and you have no you don't know. 260 00:12:03,040 --> 00:12:06,000 Speaker 2: This person like you're literally just it's like, so here's something, 261 00:12:06,040 --> 00:12:08,040 Speaker 2: here's something for you both to look forward to when 262 00:12:08,080 --> 00:12:10,679 Speaker 2: you get to be my age. Men my age and 263 00:12:10,760 --> 00:12:13,800 Speaker 2: really even five and ten years younger, they don't they're 264 00:12:13,800 --> 00:12:15,319 Speaker 2: not on social media Facebook. 265 00:12:15,400 --> 00:12:18,000 Speaker 4: Maybe that is so attractive to me. Nice, it is 266 00:12:18,080 --> 00:12:19,560 Speaker 4: so attractive. 267 00:12:19,160 --> 00:12:22,480 Speaker 2: It is. Uh, But to your point, Deanna, I've had 268 00:12:22,520 --> 00:12:25,600 Speaker 2: a few guys that have found me through Facebook or whatever, 269 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:28,240 Speaker 2: or friends have set me up, but they have done 270 00:12:28,280 --> 00:12:31,559 Speaker 2: the research once they know no, Yep. 271 00:12:31,440 --> 00:12:33,240 Speaker 4: It's an itch for me, it's an inch for me. 272 00:12:33,280 --> 00:12:37,880 Speaker 4: To for me for them to show up and say, oh, 273 00:12:38,000 --> 00:12:40,400 Speaker 4: I know who you are. I watched your show however, 274 00:12:40,440 --> 00:12:44,760 Speaker 4: long time, long ago. That's that's unattractive for me. When 275 00:12:44,800 --> 00:12:46,640 Speaker 4: someone walks up and they're like, oh, I'm sorry, I 276 00:12:46,679 --> 00:12:49,360 Speaker 4: didn't watch your show. I'm like, no, please, No. 277 00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:50,880 Speaker 3: I love when people say that. 278 00:12:51,200 --> 00:12:53,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, that's so attractive to me. If you come up 279 00:12:53,520 --> 00:12:54,720 Speaker 4: and you're like, oh no, no, no, I know you may 280 00:12:54,800 --> 00:12:57,280 Speaker 4: sound this on Instagram, it's a hard pass for me. 281 00:12:57,679 --> 00:12:59,599 Speaker 4: It is immediately a turn off. It's hard for me 282 00:12:59,640 --> 00:12:59,880 Speaker 4: to move. 283 00:13:00,440 --> 00:13:03,560 Speaker 2: All right, Wait, do you guys really be You said 284 00:13:03,600 --> 00:13:06,000 Speaker 2: it's a turn off that they're checking out your social media, 285 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:08,480 Speaker 2: But would either of you really want a guy who 286 00:13:08,520 --> 00:13:09,720 Speaker 2: has no social media? 287 00:13:10,360 --> 00:13:12,280 Speaker 4: No, I want him to have social media so that 288 00:13:12,320 --> 00:13:14,560 Speaker 4: I can go down the rabbit hole was I was 289 00:13:14,600 --> 00:13:17,400 Speaker 4: messaging you guys last week because this guy reached out 290 00:13:17,440 --> 00:13:19,680 Speaker 4: to me on Instagram and said that he listens to 291 00:13:19,720 --> 00:13:23,160 Speaker 4: the podcast, and one of his friends told him that 292 00:13:23,200 --> 00:13:25,600 Speaker 4: he should message me, and he messaged our producer Heather 293 00:13:25,679 --> 00:13:28,960 Speaker 4: as well, well listen, I'm keeping my options open. So 294 00:13:29,040 --> 00:13:31,560 Speaker 4: I immediately go to this guy's profile, but it's private, 295 00:13:31,600 --> 00:13:34,400 Speaker 4: and I'm like, oh, who has a private profile these days, 296 00:13:34,400 --> 00:13:36,160 Speaker 4: and I couldn't get a solid picture of him. So 297 00:13:36,160 --> 00:13:38,800 Speaker 4: it allows me to be a little bit of a 298 00:13:38,880 --> 00:13:41,800 Speaker 4: detective to try and find things out to see because 299 00:13:41,800 --> 00:13:43,280 Speaker 4: there has to be some piece. 300 00:13:43,960 --> 00:13:45,400 Speaker 2: Has he reached out to you yet? 301 00:13:45,679 --> 00:13:48,480 Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah, we've had a full on conversation on Instagram. 302 00:13:48,480 --> 00:13:51,959 Speaker 4: But I need like a wow, he doesn't even live here, 303 00:13:52,040 --> 00:13:54,880 Speaker 4: you guys, he lives like in northern California. He doesn't 304 00:13:54,880 --> 00:13:55,480 Speaker 4: even live here. 305 00:13:55,880 --> 00:13:57,840 Speaker 2: Don't let distance get in your way. 306 00:13:58,040 --> 00:14:00,199 Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm not letting it get in my way. But 307 00:14:00,360 --> 00:14:08,800 Speaker 4: I am completely acknowledging that my free time is very minimum. Okay, 308 00:14:08,520 --> 00:14:10,720 Speaker 4: so I have a set schedule with my kids. So 309 00:14:10,840 --> 00:14:12,440 Speaker 4: say if I have a stretch of five days where 310 00:14:12,440 --> 00:14:14,240 Speaker 4: I don't have the kids, am I really flying to 311 00:14:14,280 --> 00:14:15,880 Speaker 4: northern California to spend. 312 00:14:15,720 --> 00:14:17,719 Speaker 2: The hour with a guy said he's going to fly 313 00:14:17,840 --> 00:14:18,080 Speaker 2: to you. 314 00:14:18,640 --> 00:14:20,760 Speaker 4: He has kids too, that's the thing. So he has 315 00:14:20,840 --> 00:14:23,120 Speaker 4: young kids too. So I just from the get go, 316 00:14:23,160 --> 00:14:25,760 Speaker 4: before there is any attachment made or any feelings or 317 00:14:25,800 --> 00:14:28,720 Speaker 4: anything that happens, I'm immediately like, uh, this is probably 318 00:14:28,760 --> 00:14:31,440 Speaker 4: not going to work. He has his children are younger 319 00:14:31,440 --> 00:14:34,320 Speaker 4: than mine. Just listen, I'm running this whole scenario out 320 00:14:34,480 --> 00:14:36,400 Speaker 4: just from what I see on his social media. His 321 00:14:36,480 --> 00:14:39,480 Speaker 4: children look to be younger than mine. But I immediately 322 00:14:39,480 --> 00:14:42,000 Speaker 4: am like, well, it's probably not going to work. How 323 00:14:42,120 --> 00:14:43,960 Speaker 4: much time could I truly invest? 324 00:14:44,680 --> 00:14:47,880 Speaker 2: I will say I to be fair. When you have 325 00:14:48,000 --> 00:14:51,040 Speaker 2: young children, Deanna and Anyonheen you're dating has young children, 326 00:14:51,440 --> 00:14:54,600 Speaker 2: and you've got you know, divorce, You've got their dads 327 00:14:54,760 --> 00:14:58,239 Speaker 2: or whatever it is, You've got the mechanics, it's complicated 328 00:14:58,560 --> 00:15:01,160 Speaker 2: to set up to set up. 329 00:15:02,040 --> 00:15:04,320 Speaker 4: Yeah, in a dream scenario, I'd love to find someone 330 00:15:04,320 --> 00:15:07,360 Speaker 4: here in Los Angeles, you know, and given that that's 331 00:15:07,400 --> 00:15:09,320 Speaker 4: long distance as it is, I mean, it could take 332 00:15:09,320 --> 00:15:11,680 Speaker 4: me twenty minutes to get to someone's house for four hours, right, 333 00:15:11,760 --> 00:15:14,560 Speaker 4: you know what I mean? I would ideally love to 334 00:15:14,600 --> 00:15:17,040 Speaker 4: find someone here in Los Angeles so that it's like, hey, 335 00:15:17,080 --> 00:15:19,360 Speaker 4: let's meet up on Thursday night and drive down and 336 00:15:19,400 --> 00:15:20,680 Speaker 4: be able to sleep in my own bed at night 337 00:15:20,680 --> 00:15:21,160 Speaker 4: and drive back. 338 00:15:21,200 --> 00:15:21,720 Speaker 2: You know what I mean. 339 00:15:21,760 --> 00:15:23,920 Speaker 4: That would be an ideal scenario for me because I 340 00:15:23,960 --> 00:15:26,960 Speaker 4: am not in a position realistically that if I met 341 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:30,560 Speaker 4: someone back home in Georgia, I'm not moving home for 342 00:15:30,600 --> 00:15:33,800 Speaker 4: another ten years at least. Yeah, so what does that 343 00:15:33,880 --> 00:15:34,560 Speaker 4: really look like? 344 00:15:35,160 --> 00:15:39,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it is different. I really hadn't given 345 00:15:39,240 --> 00:15:43,520 Speaker 2: that serious thought. It is true I have kids here, 346 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:46,600 Speaker 2: but I've made it very clear that I will move if. 347 00:15:46,440 --> 00:15:48,040 Speaker 4: I but your children are older. 348 00:15:48,040 --> 00:15:52,600 Speaker 2: That's right I'm saying. I'm saying that I absolutely give 349 00:15:52,680 --> 00:15:55,560 Speaker 2: a lot of credence to that whole thought. Now that 350 00:15:55,800 --> 00:15:57,840 Speaker 2: you have young kids, you can't just pack up and. 351 00:15:57,920 --> 00:16:01,040 Speaker 4: I can't pack up and move and somebody else and 352 00:16:01,200 --> 00:16:04,160 Speaker 4: he probably he can't, so it goes just it's back 353 00:16:04,200 --> 00:16:06,360 Speaker 4: to the whole thing. Like I I it's a love 354 00:16:06,400 --> 00:16:10,560 Speaker 4: hate relationship with social media. If they're posting shirtless, come 355 00:16:10,600 --> 00:16:12,760 Speaker 4: get ready with me, that's an ick for me. But 356 00:16:12,960 --> 00:16:16,920 Speaker 4: it's so it's so bad something where I can go 357 00:16:16,960 --> 00:16:19,440 Speaker 4: down the rabbit hole to see if they're attractive or not. 358 00:16:19,880 --> 00:16:20,560 Speaker 4: I enjoy that. 359 00:16:20,920 --> 00:16:21,280 Speaker 3: I don't know. 360 00:16:21,320 --> 00:16:22,440 Speaker 4: What do you think, Mercedes? 361 00:16:22,760 --> 00:16:25,600 Speaker 3: I always say like a man with under a thousand 362 00:16:25,680 --> 00:16:28,360 Speaker 3: followers is my type of man. Like with social media. 363 00:16:28,480 --> 00:16:30,840 Speaker 3: You know, like they have social media. It's not like 364 00:16:30,880 --> 00:16:34,120 Speaker 3: they're like against it, but they're not like they're not 365 00:16:34,280 --> 00:16:36,160 Speaker 3: making it their life, do you know what I'm saying? 366 00:16:36,240 --> 00:16:38,520 Speaker 3: Like they're not Again, the get readies with me, or 367 00:16:38,560 --> 00:16:40,000 Speaker 3: like the gym shirtless picks. 368 00:16:40,040 --> 00:16:41,560 Speaker 4: I'm like, look what's in my coffee? 369 00:16:41,800 --> 00:16:42,040 Speaker 3: Yeah? 370 00:16:42,120 --> 00:16:43,080 Speaker 4: Thank you? No? 371 00:16:43,280 --> 00:16:45,680 Speaker 2: Thanks? Can I give you something to look forward to? 372 00:16:46,200 --> 00:16:46,440 Speaker 3: Yes? 373 00:16:47,280 --> 00:16:50,240 Speaker 2: When you? When the guys did are on social media 374 00:16:50,560 --> 00:16:54,120 Speaker 2: that think it's really hot to post pictures themselves with 375 00:16:54,240 --> 00:16:56,120 Speaker 2: baseball caps on backwards. 376 00:16:56,480 --> 00:16:56,920 Speaker 4: I love that. 377 00:16:57,520 --> 00:17:03,479 Speaker 2: Wait in bathrooms, any any combination of this scenario in bathrooms, 378 00:17:04,359 --> 00:17:07,600 Speaker 2: shirtless sitting on the sofa with the beer, or a 379 00:17:07,640 --> 00:17:10,040 Speaker 2: dead fish hanging from a hook on a boat. I 380 00:17:10,080 --> 00:17:13,000 Speaker 2: mean it's all the same. It's like, really, you think 381 00:17:13,040 --> 00:17:13,959 Speaker 2: that's attractive? 382 00:17:14,119 --> 00:17:17,440 Speaker 3: No? Yeah, yeah, no, it's not my vibe. Again, a 383 00:17:17,520 --> 00:17:19,800 Speaker 3: man was under a thousand followers. That doesn't make it 384 00:17:19,840 --> 00:17:24,440 Speaker 3: his whole personality. That's that's the dream social media man. 385 00:17:24,920 --> 00:17:25,280 Speaker 2: Yeah. 386 00:17:25,359 --> 00:17:27,199 Speaker 4: I don't walk around with my phone out all the 387 00:17:27,240 --> 00:17:29,679 Speaker 4: time trying to take pictures and videos of everything and 388 00:17:29,720 --> 00:17:31,680 Speaker 4: putting it on social media. That's not who I am. 389 00:17:31,720 --> 00:17:33,160 Speaker 4: So I for sure don't want to date a guy 390 00:17:33,160 --> 00:17:35,280 Speaker 4: who is like that. I just can't have that be 391 00:17:35,400 --> 00:17:35,879 Speaker 4: his pride. 392 00:17:35,920 --> 00:17:37,720 Speaker 2: I think women do it more than men, though. 393 00:17:38,160 --> 00:17:38,639 Speaker 3: For sure. 394 00:17:38,880 --> 00:17:42,000 Speaker 2: Women just post more more more about their lives and 395 00:17:42,119 --> 00:17:44,240 Speaker 2: what they're doing, and I think at least that's been 396 00:17:44,280 --> 00:17:44,960 Speaker 2: my experience. 397 00:17:45,240 --> 00:17:48,360 Speaker 4: Yeah, but I like that. I don't. I don't mind 398 00:17:48,400 --> 00:17:50,560 Speaker 4: that as long as it's not the whole world, and 399 00:17:50,600 --> 00:17:53,239 Speaker 4: there is something to say for guys who just make 400 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:56,960 Speaker 4: it like their entire it's their life, it's their livelihood. 401 00:17:57,080 --> 00:17:58,760 Speaker 4: I don't want that. That's not the kind of life 402 00:17:58,760 --> 00:17:59,040 Speaker 4: I want. 403 00:18:00,119 --> 00:18:03,080 Speaker 3: Also, I will say one thing, and this is so me. 404 00:18:04,119 --> 00:18:06,760 Speaker 3: If a man follows me and they like are on 405 00:18:06,760 --> 00:18:10,560 Speaker 3: social media or whatever, I automatically go to who they follow, 406 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:15,280 Speaker 3: and if they are following like girl, girl gro girl, like, 407 00:18:16,119 --> 00:18:18,359 Speaker 3: I just think it says so much about that person 408 00:18:18,400 --> 00:18:20,600 Speaker 3: who they're following. And if it's a whole bunch of 409 00:18:20,720 --> 00:18:23,200 Speaker 3: random girls, I'm like, yeah, I'm not following you back, 410 00:18:23,280 --> 00:18:24,920 Speaker 3: like I'm just another girl in the book that you're 411 00:18:24,960 --> 00:18:28,679 Speaker 3: just trying to you know. So I always pay attention 412 00:18:28,720 --> 00:18:29,439 Speaker 3: to who they follow. 413 00:18:30,040 --> 00:18:31,680 Speaker 4: Oh, I'm gonna have to make a note of that. 414 00:18:31,800 --> 00:18:34,840 Speaker 4: I don't do very much like diving in Instagram, So 415 00:18:34,880 --> 00:18:37,919 Speaker 4: I don't do very much well. We've talked about this 416 00:18:37,960 --> 00:18:39,520 Speaker 4: before and I'm pretty sure I've said it to Kathy. 417 00:18:39,560 --> 00:18:41,640 Speaker 4: People don't slide into my DMS. I don't know if 418 00:18:41,640 --> 00:18:43,960 Speaker 4: that happens to you, Mercedes, But that doesn't happen to me. 419 00:18:44,040 --> 00:18:46,679 Speaker 4: I get a lot of women who message me just 420 00:18:46,720 --> 00:18:49,120 Speaker 4: say they followed me since the Bachelorette, or they listen 421 00:18:49,200 --> 00:18:52,600 Speaker 4: to our podcast, or they like my mom tips or 422 00:18:52,600 --> 00:18:56,600 Speaker 4: my freaking elf tips. These stupid elves leaving soon, thank goodness. 423 00:18:58,200 --> 00:19:00,320 Speaker 4: But I don't get a lot of men who slide 424 00:19:00,320 --> 00:19:04,040 Speaker 4: into my dms who are like, it doesn't happen. So 425 00:19:04,080 --> 00:19:07,679 Speaker 4: this one guy, this one guy messaging me, I was like, okay, bold, 426 00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:10,359 Speaker 4: I appreciate it. I at least appreciate it. But I 427 00:19:10,400 --> 00:19:12,240 Speaker 4: don't that doesn't happen to me. I don't get people 428 00:19:12,280 --> 00:19:15,240 Speaker 4: who slide into my dms and message me at all. 429 00:19:15,280 --> 00:19:18,360 Speaker 4: So even just this this guy doing that, I was like, hey, 430 00:19:18,400 --> 00:19:21,439 Speaker 4: this is bold. I really appreciate it. Like way to 431 00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:23,280 Speaker 4: go I did. I told him that. I was like, 432 00:19:23,320 --> 00:19:25,280 Speaker 4: I appreciate it, and then he sent me his phone number, 433 00:19:25,280 --> 00:19:26,920 Speaker 4: and I was like, let's let's stile it back a bit. 434 00:19:27,000 --> 00:19:29,280 Speaker 4: Let's just you know, slow down. I listened to way 435 00:19:29,320 --> 00:19:31,399 Speaker 4: too many crime podcasts. I'm not trying to you know, 436 00:19:31,520 --> 00:19:32,119 Speaker 4: so like, do. 437 00:19:32,160 --> 00:19:34,280 Speaker 2: You know the solution to that? Wait, I'm going to 438 00:19:34,320 --> 00:19:37,920 Speaker 2: be your mother here for a minute. I my kids 439 00:19:37,960 --> 00:19:40,520 Speaker 2: gave me this idea. I wasn't that smart myself. I 440 00:19:40,640 --> 00:19:45,200 Speaker 2: got a Google phone number and a Google phone number. 441 00:19:45,520 --> 00:19:48,159 Speaker 2: I'm telling you I've turned more people onto this again. 442 00:19:48,520 --> 00:19:52,159 Speaker 2: My kids have to get the credit to You cannot 443 00:19:52,520 --> 00:19:56,720 Speaker 2: trace if you give someone your mobile phone. Believe me, 444 00:19:56,920 --> 00:19:59,239 Speaker 2: they can find out your address, pretty much everything they 445 00:19:59,240 --> 00:20:01,600 Speaker 2: want to know about you. But a Google phone number 446 00:20:01,720 --> 00:20:05,680 Speaker 2: is untraceable. And I will tell you my sign of 447 00:20:06,040 --> 00:20:07,840 Speaker 2: can I trust a guy when I give And I've 448 00:20:07,840 --> 00:20:12,000 Speaker 2: had it happen twice where I gave him my Google 449 00:20:12,119 --> 00:20:16,360 Speaker 2: number and it comes through as a random number. It's 450 00:20:16,640 --> 00:20:19,840 Speaker 2: weird how they dealt. But when they dial you, they 451 00:20:19,840 --> 00:20:22,520 Speaker 2: have to say who they are and then it rings 452 00:20:22,600 --> 00:20:25,120 Speaker 2: and you can accept or deny the call. I've had 453 00:20:25,160 --> 00:20:28,359 Speaker 2: two guys say to me, why are you doing that? 454 00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:31,800 Speaker 2: I said, because I'm concerned about safety and I don't 455 00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:34,760 Speaker 2: know you. And if they take that badly, if they 456 00:20:34,760 --> 00:20:39,640 Speaker 2: don't like that. Out most men that when I've talked 457 00:20:39,640 --> 00:20:41,560 Speaker 2: to them, they're like, oh my god, that's so smart. 458 00:20:41,560 --> 00:20:44,600 Speaker 2: I'm glad that you care about your safety. So that's 459 00:20:44,680 --> 00:20:46,680 Speaker 2: what I do. And then they you know, so that's 460 00:20:46,680 --> 00:20:49,719 Speaker 2: something you might try, or you can also do calls 461 00:20:49,760 --> 00:20:52,520 Speaker 2: through Instagram, Facebook. I don't know if those are traceable though, 462 00:20:52,640 --> 00:20:53,080 Speaker 2: I just don't. 463 00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:54,760 Speaker 4: I don't know either, but that's a really good tip. 464 00:20:54,760 --> 00:20:57,200 Speaker 4: Thank you for telling me that, because I'm not tech savvy. 465 00:20:57,560 --> 00:20:59,680 Speaker 4: And I also have this dream that I'm going to 466 00:20:59,720 --> 00:21:01,960 Speaker 4: walk in the Whole Foods and be perusing the asparagus 467 00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:05,000 Speaker 4: and be blown off my socks. You know what I mean. 468 00:21:05,720 --> 00:21:07,960 Speaker 4: That's I'm dreaming that I'm going to meet some man 469 00:21:08,000 --> 00:21:10,040 Speaker 4: in the wild and I was in the airport. 470 00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:12,560 Speaker 2: He's not going to be in the asparagus isle. The 471 00:21:12,600 --> 00:21:15,159 Speaker 2: guy that, you know, the hot, the cool dude is 472 00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:17,479 Speaker 2: gonna be I know. But the hot cool dudes are 473 00:21:17,480 --> 00:21:19,679 Speaker 2: going to be in the side of B file. You know, 474 00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:22,320 Speaker 2: they're gonna be in the Ribbi steak section. 475 00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:26,119 Speaker 3: Yes, I always think I'm gonna My dream is like 476 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:28,159 Speaker 3: in an airport. I'm like, so every time I'm at 477 00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:30,200 Speaker 3: the airport, I'm like fantasizing my life. I'm like, oh, 478 00:21:30,240 --> 00:21:30,880 Speaker 3: when's my husband? 479 00:21:30,960 --> 00:21:31,120 Speaker 2: Good? 480 00:21:31,200 --> 00:21:33,880 Speaker 4: I did get hit on in an airport once. I did. 481 00:21:33,920 --> 00:21:37,000 Speaker 4: Love that I did, and again I was like bold 482 00:21:37,119 --> 00:21:38,760 Speaker 4: and me he was I call him a kid. He 483 00:21:38,840 --> 00:21:40,639 Speaker 4: was like I don't know. This was like when I 484 00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:42,639 Speaker 4: first got divorced. So I was like, oh my god, 485 00:21:42,840 --> 00:21:46,439 Speaker 4: I'm so got hot mom vibes. But he was like, 486 00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:49,399 Speaker 4: I don't know. He must have been twelve or thirteen 487 00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:51,960 Speaker 4: years younger than me. And he was on my flight, 488 00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:54,240 Speaker 4: like he sat like two rows back, and I obviously 489 00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:57,199 Speaker 4: was eyeballing him, but I was with my kids, so 490 00:21:57,240 --> 00:21:59,160 Speaker 4: it was not on the forefront of my mind. And 491 00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:02,639 Speaker 4: we had been on the same connection flights and ultimately, 492 00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:05,399 Speaker 4: in the last airport he did, he totally came running 493 00:22:05,400 --> 00:22:07,399 Speaker 4: over and was like, Hey, I'm gonna shoot my shot, Like, 494 00:22:07,440 --> 00:22:10,040 Speaker 4: here's my phone number. I think you're hot. I'd love 495 00:22:10,119 --> 00:22:10,880 Speaker 4: to I'd love. 496 00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:13,040 Speaker 2: To talk to you, and he did. 497 00:22:15,280 --> 00:22:15,960 Speaker 3: I love that. 498 00:22:16,000 --> 00:22:19,359 Speaker 4: He was so attractive to me. It ultimately didn't go anywhere, 499 00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:21,719 Speaker 4: and he lives like twenty minutes from me. We ended 500 00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:23,360 Speaker 4: up seeing each other a couple of times and kept 501 00:22:23,359 --> 00:22:25,160 Speaker 4: in touch. But it just the age difference. To you, guys, 502 00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:28,679 Speaker 4: I just cannot Our lives are so different. But for me, 503 00:22:29,320 --> 00:22:34,399 Speaker 4: those bold moves like speak wonders like shoot your shot? 504 00:22:34,760 --> 00:22:47,760 Speaker 2: Why not? So here's something We're coming to the close 505 00:22:47,840 --> 00:22:51,040 Speaker 2: of the year. Everyone we've been shooting our shots all year, 506 00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:54,679 Speaker 2: but I want to know or trying to shoot our stats. 507 00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:58,119 Speaker 2: I want to know it's not working, it's not working. 508 00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:02,280 Speaker 2: But what is one word that you would use to 509 00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:04,919 Speaker 2: describe your twenty twenty five. 510 00:23:06,080 --> 00:23:09,879 Speaker 4: I'm going to go with rebirth. I've had it's a 511 00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:14,439 Speaker 4: good one, such a tough year with the headlines to 512 00:23:14,480 --> 00:23:18,320 Speaker 4: prove it that, I just am ready to be like, 513 00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:21,159 Speaker 4: wash me clean, make me new, wash me clean, and 514 00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:22,960 Speaker 4: make me new. I want to put all of that 515 00:23:23,240 --> 00:23:28,560 Speaker 4: stuff to to rest and I am ready to just 516 00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:32,679 Speaker 4: like live my best life and not be followed by 517 00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:35,160 Speaker 4: the grips of my past and my divorce. 518 00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:36,560 Speaker 2: Oh I love that. 519 00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:37,760 Speaker 3: I love that too. 520 00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:40,879 Speaker 2: That's a. That's a I'm going to blow a candle 521 00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:42,880 Speaker 2: out make a wish for that for you too, Deanna. 522 00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:44,480 Speaker 2: What about you, Mercedes? 523 00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:49,720 Speaker 3: I feel like transformative. I feel like it's a good 524 00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:53,399 Speaker 3: word for me. I feel like I've really in my 525 00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:56,440 Speaker 3: year of being twenty seven, twenty twenty five, I feel 526 00:23:56,440 --> 00:23:59,919 Speaker 3: like I've really just like been okay with just being me, 527 00:24:01,160 --> 00:24:04,680 Speaker 3: and so because of that, my standards have raised. I 528 00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:07,800 Speaker 3: can say like, no, this is what I believe, and 529 00:24:07,840 --> 00:24:09,240 Speaker 3: I have to feel like I have to over explain 530 00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:12,320 Speaker 3: myself to people. So I feel like I've just yeah, 531 00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:15,680 Speaker 3: I feel like I've really just been I've transformed into 532 00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:18,000 Speaker 3: my own self and I'm finally like, this is me 533 00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:20,760 Speaker 3: and if you don't like it, then see it, you know. 534 00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:24,199 Speaker 4: So that's huge, such a good place to be in. 535 00:24:24,680 --> 00:24:27,480 Speaker 4: I'm not apologetically you, especially your age. 536 00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:30,800 Speaker 2: I mean, most people take they're older when they come 537 00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:33,160 Speaker 2: to that conclusion that I am who I am, take 538 00:24:33,160 --> 00:24:34,840 Speaker 2: me or leave me. I'm not everyone's cup of tea, 539 00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:38,360 Speaker 2: all those things that we hear. That's amazing. Yah you Mercedes. 540 00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:40,800 Speaker 4: Yeah, Kathy, I is just going to say the same 541 00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:43,479 Speaker 4: thing like it took me years Mercedes to get to 542 00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:45,879 Speaker 4: that point. I was still people pleasing at your age. 543 00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:48,520 Speaker 4: So I think that's that's so awesome. I am so 544 00:24:48,520 --> 00:24:49,359 Speaker 4: so proud of you. 545 00:24:49,760 --> 00:24:50,320 Speaker 3: Thank you. 546 00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:53,280 Speaker 2: My word is nothing compared to you, guys. My word 547 00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:54,760 Speaker 2: is grateful. 548 00:24:56,040 --> 00:24:57,359 Speaker 4: That's wonderful one though. 549 00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:01,520 Speaker 2: Well, it's it's how I am. Just I'm so grateful 550 00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:05,240 Speaker 2: for my health, for all of you, truly, for the 551 00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:10,880 Speaker 2: whole iHeart Bachelor, the whole community, the wonderful people I've met, 552 00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:14,360 Speaker 2: my kids, my grandkids. I mean, I know that we're 553 00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:19,480 Speaker 2: supposed to be grateful. But every day I wake up 554 00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:22,159 Speaker 2: and I try to find one thing to start the 555 00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:24,760 Speaker 2: day off, something I'm grateful about the first thing that 556 00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:28,280 Speaker 2: I can, you know, come up with. But I think 557 00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:30,720 Speaker 2: we just, at least for me, I've gotten into this 558 00:25:30,840 --> 00:25:36,840 Speaker 2: habit of until this year thinking Okay, this is this 559 00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:38,800 Speaker 2: is just what's supposed to happen. And this year I 560 00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:44,520 Speaker 2: really realized no intentionally thanking God and being grateful for 561 00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:45,960 Speaker 2: all the blessings in my life. 562 00:25:46,359 --> 00:25:48,040 Speaker 4: Mm hmm, that's so beautiful. 563 00:25:48,080 --> 00:25:48,480 Speaker 3: I love that. 564 00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:51,720 Speaker 4: Yeah, I love that. I love nothing more than to 565 00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:54,560 Speaker 4: have like a full and grieful heart. And I make 566 00:25:54,560 --> 00:25:56,879 Speaker 4: them I'm such a mom. But like I was going 567 00:25:56,920 --> 00:25:58,639 Speaker 4: to say, I make my kids do that. When I 568 00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:00,359 Speaker 4: pick them up from school, I'm like, hey, how your day, 569 00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:02,600 Speaker 4: and like good, And I'm like, m you got to 570 00:26:02,640 --> 00:26:04,840 Speaker 4: tell me something good, you know what I mean? We 571 00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:06,920 Speaker 4: practice a rose and a thorn. They get to tell 572 00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:07,640 Speaker 4: me something good. 573 00:26:08,680 --> 00:26:11,000 Speaker 2: My son does highs and loves at dinner every time. 574 00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:13,520 Speaker 2: I love that. 575 00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:15,560 Speaker 4: Yeah, we do a rose and a thorn and then 576 00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:17,200 Speaker 4: every once in a while they throw in a bud 577 00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:20,480 Speaker 4: which is something that they're looking forward to. Yeah, And 578 00:26:20,520 --> 00:26:23,439 Speaker 4: it's a good practice, right, because I think that in general, 579 00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:26,359 Speaker 4: we have to be taught those things. You know, I 580 00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:29,480 Speaker 4: don't believe that we're born with all of these gifts communication. 581 00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:34,520 Speaker 4: That is a learned skill. To have a full grateful heart. 582 00:26:34,720 --> 00:26:36,800 Speaker 4: I think that is a learned skill. Like I am 583 00:26:36,840 --> 00:26:40,000 Speaker 4: a glass half empty person. I think that's who I 584 00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:42,199 Speaker 4: naturally am. So I have to wake up and make 585 00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:43,919 Speaker 4: a point to be like, oh, yeah, look at this 586 00:26:43,960 --> 00:26:45,520 Speaker 4: like I have, I have a roof over my head, 587 00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:46,879 Speaker 4: I can pay my bills. 588 00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:49,280 Speaker 2: To me, Deana, you do not give up that vibe 589 00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:49,880 Speaker 2: at all. 590 00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:53,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, I would agree not to make. 591 00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:57,560 Speaker 2: You come of as a beautiful, assured somebody who's working 592 00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:00,760 Speaker 2: hard on herself to build a strong family, who loves 593 00:27:00,800 --> 00:27:03,399 Speaker 2: her kids. Quite to the opposite, I look at you 594 00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:06,640 Speaker 2: as someone who's class more than half full. I mean, 595 00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:07,040 Speaker 2: not him. 596 00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:09,560 Speaker 4: Thanks, Kathy. I'm grateful you guys got to meet me 597 00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:13,920 Speaker 4: this year. No, I just you know, I just don't 598 00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:16,040 Speaker 4: believe that I was always that way, and. 599 00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:18,959 Speaker 2: I am thank you for saying that progress. 600 00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:22,080 Speaker 4: That's exactly right. I love that, Kathy grateful. That's really 601 00:27:22,119 --> 00:27:25,360 Speaker 4: really awesome to be grateful for, And like. 602 00:27:25,440 --> 00:27:28,640 Speaker 3: I feel like whenever I am like when I'm because 603 00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:30,680 Speaker 3: I go through seasons, right, Like, there's some seasons where 604 00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:33,399 Speaker 3: I'm like so grateful, I'm always grateful, but there's some 605 00:27:33,440 --> 00:27:35,560 Speaker 3: seasons where like I do maybe get down the dumps 606 00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:38,120 Speaker 3: about things. But when I am like grateful and make 607 00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:41,840 Speaker 3: myself like Kathy said, every morning, like being like thank 608 00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:44,800 Speaker 3: God for this, like thank you for everything, it actually 609 00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:48,879 Speaker 3: changes everything about your life. It is insane when you 610 00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:51,919 Speaker 3: are truly, truly, truly grateful, how many good things come 611 00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:52,840 Speaker 3: into your life as. 612 00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:55,639 Speaker 2: Well, and you're looking for them, you see them and 613 00:27:55,680 --> 00:27:57,840 Speaker 2: it doesn't have to be a big thing. I was grateful. 614 00:27:58,040 --> 00:28:00,840 Speaker 2: You're gonna laugh. I had a doctor's this morning. I 615 00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:02,280 Speaker 2: was like, am I going to get back in time? 616 00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:06,240 Speaker 2: All literally the traffic lights were green, the doctor was early. 617 00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:09,600 Speaker 2: I literally said the whole way, thank you for those 618 00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:11,920 Speaker 2: green lights. God, thank you for getting me. I mean, 619 00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:14,680 Speaker 2: and I just like my day it started out great 620 00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:15,800 Speaker 2: because I got green lights. 621 00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:19,879 Speaker 4: You know, Yes, you're a fucking catch, Kathy, you two Mercedes. 622 00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:21,560 Speaker 4: I do the same thing when I joked around with 623 00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:22,879 Speaker 4: you guys that when I got up, I get up 624 00:28:22,920 --> 00:28:24,880 Speaker 4: extra early because I need to get my mind right 625 00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:26,919 Speaker 4: before with anybody else. And that's the first thing I do. 626 00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:29,040 Speaker 4: I wake up and I pray and I meditate. I've 627 00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:30,919 Speaker 4: got to get my mind right. I've I've got to 628 00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:33,240 Speaker 4: put myself in the right position to show up for 629 00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:36,320 Speaker 4: anyone else who has to be around me, which. 630 00:28:36,200 --> 00:28:38,400 Speaker 2: Is why your glasses half full, because you do. 631 00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:41,920 Speaker 1: Thanks been jumping back in here. This has been such 632 00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:45,800 Speaker 1: a great conversation. You've all been so vulnerable during this pod, 633 00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:49,479 Speaker 1: which is great. We've got more to chat about with 634 00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:53,160 Speaker 1: these women to come. Bubb will end here for now. 635 00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:54,480 Speaker 1: I've been ben