1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:03,200 Speaker 1: My best friend is way too close to my husband. 2 00:00:03,600 --> 00:00:07,120 Speaker 1: I think she likes him. That's not should get her away, 3 00:00:07,160 --> 00:00:09,719 Speaker 1: get her further away throw away because my husband stocks 4 00:00:09,760 --> 00:00:12,200 Speaker 1: read it. Also, I know he isn't cheating on me. 5 00:00:12,440 --> 00:00:14,320 Speaker 1: He's at home more often than not, and I have 6 00:00:14,440 --> 00:00:17,640 Speaker 1: full access to his electronics as does he to mine. 7 00:00:17,720 --> 00:00:21,079 Speaker 1: Note some identifying details have been changed to protect my privacy, 8 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:23,960 Speaker 1: such as names. By the way, this comes from throwaway 9 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:26,880 Speaker 1: Bestie and Hubby on the Okay storytime Separate It. My 10 00:00:27,000 --> 00:00:29,600 Speaker 1: husband and I have been together since we were young teenagers. 11 00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:32,200 Speaker 1: We got married last year and have a six month 12 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:34,839 Speaker 1: old daughter together. She is the light of both our lives, 13 00:00:34,880 --> 00:00:37,479 Speaker 1: as we both come from broken homes and want a 14 00:00:37,479 --> 00:00:40,080 Speaker 1: better life than we lived growing up. My best friend 15 00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:42,640 Speaker 1: came a few years later. We used to live in 16 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:45,400 Speaker 1: the same neighborhood and casually began to hang out. She 17 00:00:45,479 --> 00:00:47,680 Speaker 1: lives with both of her parents and siblings as she's 18 00:00:47,720 --> 00:00:50,560 Speaker 1: studying to get her bachelor's degree. At first, she didn't 19 00:00:50,600 --> 00:00:53,000 Speaker 1: like my husband, said that he was clinging and tried 20 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:56,360 Speaker 1: to insert himself into our friendship. WTF. She was civil 21 00:00:56,400 --> 00:00:58,920 Speaker 1: to him because he was my romantic partner. For context, 22 00:00:59,040 --> 00:01:02,680 Speaker 1: my husband is bipolar, type two autism and PTSD, and 23 00:01:02,760 --> 00:01:05,080 Speaker 1: it causes him to be a little socially awkward and 24 00:01:05,120 --> 00:01:08,399 Speaker 1: miss certain social cues and taboos. I love him regardless 25 00:01:08,440 --> 00:01:10,479 Speaker 1: of it. All Over the last few years, we've been 26 00:01:10,520 --> 00:01:12,760 Speaker 1: hanging out a lot more. She comes over for a 27 00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:15,920 Speaker 1: few drinks, We go to movies, and even visit local 28 00:01:15,920 --> 00:01:18,640 Speaker 1: attractions together. We all three have a good time, and 29 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:20,840 Speaker 1: my husband does try to make nights for just the 30 00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:24,559 Speaker 1: two of us often too. However, last year, my husband 31 00:01:24,600 --> 00:01:27,160 Speaker 1: and I found out we were expecting a child together. 32 00:01:27,319 --> 00:01:30,280 Speaker 1: In January, I was working and fell ill because at 33 00:01:30,319 --> 00:01:32,319 Speaker 1: the time I was working at a fast food place. 34 00:01:32,560 --> 00:01:34,480 Speaker 1: I threw up and went to the doctor. Come to 35 00:01:34,480 --> 00:01:37,920 Speaker 1: find out I was eight and a half weeks pregnant. Ooh, 36 00:01:38,080 --> 00:01:41,279 Speaker 1: that's a big surprise. My life changed, and I became 37 00:01:41,319 --> 00:01:43,720 Speaker 1: more busy to get myself ready for motherhood. My best 38 00:01:43,720 --> 00:01:46,160 Speaker 1: friend saw me less and less and we couldn't talk 39 00:01:46,160 --> 00:01:48,600 Speaker 1: as much. My husband and I got married almost a 40 00:01:48,600 --> 00:01:50,880 Speaker 1: month and a half after discovering we were going to 41 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:55,520 Speaker 1: be parents. That's when our dynamic changed. Recently, I applied 42 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:58,120 Speaker 1: to school and am currently in college trying to get 43 00:01:58,120 --> 00:01:59,960 Speaker 1: a law degree. So I could become a pair of 44 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:02,360 Speaker 1: legal and get to law school. I'm also a stay 45 00:02:02,360 --> 00:02:05,560 Speaker 1: at home mom while doing college too. I've been super busy. 46 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 1: One day, my husband gets a text and it's from 47 00:02:09,000 --> 00:02:12,639 Speaker 1: my best friend. Why is she texting the husband? That's weird? 48 00:02:12,960 --> 00:02:15,359 Speaker 1: She asks if they can talk, as she was upset. 49 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:17,880 Speaker 1: He took the phone call with me protesting, and a 50 00:02:17,919 --> 00:02:20,680 Speaker 1: few minutes later said, Sandra a fake name. We need 51 00:02:20,720 --> 00:02:23,239 Speaker 1: to go get Carla. Her father is picking a fight 52 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 1: with her. I get upset as we were watching a 53 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:27,240 Speaker 1: movie together and I had just gotten the baby down 54 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:29,120 Speaker 1: for bed. We go to her house, which is about 55 00:02:29,120 --> 00:02:32,079 Speaker 1: twenty minutes away, and she stays with us for a night. 56 00:02:32,360 --> 00:02:34,840 Speaker 1: As I get our daughter back down to bed, Carla 57 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:37,560 Speaker 1: asks to cuddle with the two of us in our bed. 58 00:02:38,160 --> 00:02:42,160 Speaker 1: Now I would say no, My first thought is no. 59 00:02:43,160 --> 00:02:45,960 Speaker 1: I was hesitant. I have issues with claustphobia due to 60 00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:49,440 Speaker 1: a traumatic experience as a child. My husband gave the 61 00:02:49,480 --> 00:02:51,959 Speaker 1: go ahead. We settle in for the night. Carla's dad 62 00:02:52,000 --> 00:02:55,120 Speaker 1: apologized and she heads back home. Once she was gone, 63 00:02:55,360 --> 00:02:57,919 Speaker 1: I blew up on my husband. What he did was 64 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:01,720 Speaker 1: not only inappropriate, but was disrespectful to my boundaries. Why 65 00:03:01,760 --> 00:03:05,639 Speaker 1: did she even ask that? I'm confused. Ever since, when 66 00:03:05,639 --> 00:03:07,519 Speaker 1: she has an issue with her dad, she calls my 67 00:03:07,639 --> 00:03:10,680 Speaker 1: husband and Vince. And also we read another I know 68 00:03:10,720 --> 00:03:12,880 Speaker 1: it's not this same story, but we read another similar 69 00:03:12,880 --> 00:03:14,880 Speaker 1: story where another girl was like, can I can I 70 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:18,160 Speaker 1: cuddle with you and your partner? Why is that happening? 71 00:03:18,320 --> 00:03:19,960 Speaker 1: I mean unless you, I don't know. I guess you 72 00:03:19,960 --> 00:03:21,919 Speaker 1: can have that relationship, but like, I feel like that's 73 00:03:21,919 --> 00:03:24,280 Speaker 1: a everyone's like, yeah, come cut it, like the partner, 74 00:03:24,440 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 1: the people. Yeah, the partners are like, come cuddle. Not 75 00:03:27,880 --> 00:03:28,320 Speaker 1: I don't know. 76 00:03:28,400 --> 00:03:28,919 Speaker 2: This is weird. 77 00:03:29,120 --> 00:03:31,639 Speaker 1: One day, while my in laws were staying with us, 78 00:03:31,800 --> 00:03:33,960 Speaker 1: my mother in law overheard a convo with my hubby 79 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:36,280 Speaker 1: and Carla. She was concerned and asked me if I 80 00:03:36,360 --> 00:03:38,640 Speaker 1: was okay with it. I said no, not really, but 81 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:41,160 Speaker 1: every time I bring it up, he gets defensive, saying 82 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 1: that she needs help, that she's going through a hard time, 83 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 1: blah blah blah. It is important to note that my 84 00:03:45,920 --> 00:03:48,480 Speaker 1: mother in law was cheated on in the past by 85 00:03:48,640 --> 00:03:52,840 Speaker 1: her ex, my husband's father. We are also extremely close 86 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:55,320 Speaker 1: and she sees me as a daughter. She hates cheaters 87 00:03:55,320 --> 00:03:57,400 Speaker 1: with a passion, and my husband, who I will refer 88 00:03:57,440 --> 00:04:01,440 Speaker 1: to as James, was using the same excuses his father did. Yeah, 89 00:04:01,480 --> 00:04:03,840 Speaker 1: I feel like this goes kind to me at least 90 00:04:03,840 --> 00:04:08,520 Speaker 1: it goes beyond you know, autism and bipolar. Ope is 91 00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:11,880 Speaker 1: being very clear about her feeling and saying I'm not 92 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:15,240 Speaker 1: comfortable with this, and he's still not listening, which is 93 00:04:15,440 --> 00:04:18,359 Speaker 1: pretty disrespectful. She asked to speak to him privately and 94 00:04:18,440 --> 00:04:21,159 Speaker 1: walked to our living room. They got into a heated match, 95 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:23,440 Speaker 1: and James apologized to me. He said he didn't know 96 00:04:23,480 --> 00:04:25,680 Speaker 1: that it was hurting me and causing issues in our marriage, 97 00:04:25,680 --> 00:04:27,920 Speaker 1: but Opie said it, and Nicki Wolf says, I think 98 00:04:27,920 --> 00:04:30,719 Speaker 1: you've read this again. We've read a similar story. I 99 00:04:30,839 --> 00:04:33,280 Speaker 1: did do like, a, uh, this sounds similar, but it's 100 00:04:33,320 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 1: not the same one because I remember the other story. 101 00:04:35,680 --> 00:04:37,720 Speaker 1: But there was another story where someone was like, can 102 00:04:37,760 --> 00:04:40,640 Speaker 1: I cuddle with you and your partners? Which why does 103 00:04:40,680 --> 00:04:42,960 Speaker 1: this keep happening? I asked him how would he feel 104 00:04:42,960 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 1: if I had asked him if another man could sleep 105 00:04:45,120 --> 00:04:47,320 Speaker 1: in the bed with us. He kind of deflated and 106 00:04:47,440 --> 00:04:50,280 Speaker 1: tried to say it's different, blah blah blah. His stepfather, 107 00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:53,560 Speaker 1: Mark thick name spoke up and said it is the same. 108 00:04:53,880 --> 00:04:57,600 Speaker 1: You're uncomfortable with it. So is she quit with the excuses. 109 00:04:57,760 --> 00:05:00,720 Speaker 1: James respects Mark quite a lot. Actually Mark raised him 110 00:05:00,720 --> 00:05:02,800 Speaker 1: since he was eight and his own father was in 111 00:05:02,880 --> 00:05:04,840 Speaker 1: and out of the picture. Once the dust settles, my 112 00:05:04,920 --> 00:05:07,719 Speaker 1: husband truly apologized to me for his actions and said 113 00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:10,000 Speaker 1: that he would do better. I kissed him and that 114 00:05:10,400 --> 00:05:13,400 Speaker 1: was that. That just Casana says, I would set up 115 00:05:13,440 --> 00:05:16,360 Speaker 1: some boundaries and leave if he continues to act like this. Yeah, 116 00:05:16,440 --> 00:05:22,120 Speaker 1: there is more, but before we get into it, Sam's back. Yeah. 117 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:26,280 Speaker 1: So bicycly OPI has a her husband and she has 118 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:28,479 Speaker 1: this best friend who she kind of like felt like 119 00:05:28,640 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 1: wasn't was getting not as close to because she got 120 00:05:31,720 --> 00:05:33,880 Speaker 1: pregnant and then is taking care of the kid and 121 00:05:34,160 --> 00:05:36,360 Speaker 1: just didn't have time to prioritize that friendship. And then 122 00:05:36,440 --> 00:05:39,120 Speaker 1: one night the friend calls her husband is like, hey, 123 00:05:39,120 --> 00:05:40,599 Speaker 1: I needed to come over and having a fight with 124 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:43,599 Speaker 1: my dad, And so they both go over and the 125 00:05:43,640 --> 00:05:45,560 Speaker 1: friend comes and stays at their house and then like 126 00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:48,240 Speaker 1: asks to cuddle with them, and she's like, I don't 127 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 1: want that, but her husband's like, no, let her cuddle, 128 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:54,960 Speaker 1: and so that happens, and then they keep having this 129 00:05:55,040 --> 00:05:57,720 Speaker 1: kind of like she keeps coming to Opie's husband for 130 00:05:57,760 --> 00:06:00,520 Speaker 1: emotional support and oh, he's like, I'm not comfortable with this, 131 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:03,240 Speaker 1: and he's like, no, no, no, it's fine, and Opie said, well, 132 00:06:03,279 --> 00:06:06,559 Speaker 1: he has autism and bipolar. But Opie's been pretty clear 133 00:06:06,640 --> 00:06:08,720 Speaker 1: about not being comfortable with this and saying I don't 134 00:06:08,760 --> 00:06:10,760 Speaker 1: want you to do this, and he's still brushing it off. 135 00:06:10,920 --> 00:06:15,600 Speaker 2: I smell stink. I smell a stink yep. 136 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:18,440 Speaker 1: However, I wouldn't be right here if that was the 137 00:06:18,520 --> 00:06:21,120 Speaker 1: end of the issues. Lately, Carla has been calling him 138 00:06:21,160 --> 00:06:23,560 Speaker 1: three to eight times a day. 139 00:06:23,880 --> 00:06:25,719 Speaker 2: That is too much. That is too way too much. 140 00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 1: I don't call anyone three day times. Well, I call 141 00:06:28,360 --> 00:06:30,520 Speaker 1: people maybe three max three, But I don't call people 142 00:06:30,520 --> 00:06:31,320 Speaker 1: eight times a day. 143 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:32,039 Speaker 2: That's too much. 144 00:06:32,200 --> 00:06:34,560 Speaker 1: She says it's because she's bored and has no one 145 00:06:34,560 --> 00:06:37,760 Speaker 1: else to talk to. I snap. I call him out 146 00:06:37,800 --> 00:06:40,560 Speaker 1: over the nonchalance about the situation. How when she calls, 147 00:06:40,640 --> 00:06:43,040 Speaker 1: he answers, how it's making me feel like a third 148 00:06:43,040 --> 00:06:47,080 Speaker 1: wheel in my marriage, et cetera. His response, she's just lonely. 149 00:06:47,200 --> 00:06:49,960 Speaker 1: You're letting it get to you. That night, I slept 150 00:06:50,040 --> 00:06:52,400 Speaker 1: in the living room I'm starting to suspect that she's 151 00:06:52,480 --> 00:06:55,320 Speaker 1: trying to monopolize his time. She calls him for over 152 00:06:55,360 --> 00:06:58,320 Speaker 1: an hour each time he calls. They talk, she complains 153 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:00,880 Speaker 1: about her life, et cetera, almost like she's his girlfriend 154 00:07:00,920 --> 00:07:03,720 Speaker 1: or something. I'm starting to find this relationship troubling. It's 155 00:07:03,720 --> 00:07:06,240 Speaker 1: getting to the point that it is affecting my marriage. 156 00:07:06,400 --> 00:07:09,640 Speaker 1: Where do I go from here? Any advice would be appreciated. 157 00:07:09,680 --> 00:07:11,240 Speaker 1: And there is a little edit, so. 158 00:07:11,200 --> 00:07:12,840 Speaker 2: I'm a harsh boundaries you need to put up. 159 00:07:12,840 --> 00:07:16,440 Speaker 3: But yeah, but your husband is setting the boundaries. 160 00:07:16,480 --> 00:07:17,080 Speaker 2: He's not listening. 161 00:07:17,240 --> 00:07:19,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean you're telling him, Hey, I'm uncomfortable with this. 162 00:07:19,920 --> 00:07:21,840 Speaker 1: I don't want you to keep doing this, and he's like, no, 163 00:07:21,880 --> 00:07:23,200 Speaker 1: you don't get it. She needs help. 164 00:07:23,440 --> 00:07:25,000 Speaker 2: But what does he not get? 165 00:07:25,200 --> 00:07:27,000 Speaker 1: I don't know. No, no, no, he's telling her. 166 00:07:27,040 --> 00:07:29,040 Speaker 2: I mean, well, what does she not get? I don't understand. 167 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:32,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it's one thing to comfort a friend, Yeah, 168 00:07:32,520 --> 00:07:35,680 Speaker 3: on a call like a couple, you know, times a week, 169 00:07:35,720 --> 00:07:39,800 Speaker 3: but every day, multiple times a day, for multiple hours 170 00:07:39,800 --> 00:07:42,080 Speaker 3: a day. Because if it's an hour every time they call, 171 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:45,200 Speaker 3: and it's three day calls a day, yeah, that's all day. 172 00:07:46,120 --> 00:07:49,760 Speaker 1: They fully have like a baby. They have a baby, Yeah, 173 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 1: and he's acting like this. 174 00:07:50,960 --> 00:07:54,520 Speaker 2: I smell stink. I smell stink. Stink. 175 00:07:54,800 --> 00:07:57,320 Speaker 1: Edit thanks everyone for the feedback. I'm going to have 176 00:07:57,400 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 1: a talk with him with his mom involved. He won't 177 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:02,160 Speaker 1: listen to me if I don't. I'm tired of fighting 178 00:08:02,240 --> 00:08:03,840 Speaker 1: him over this. I should have an update with the 179 00:08:03,840 --> 00:08:05,920 Speaker 1: resolution in a couple of days. I'm going to read 180 00:08:05,960 --> 00:08:10,720 Speaker 1: everyone's responses more thoroughly. Thanks for the advice and edit 181 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:11,640 Speaker 1: number two. 182 00:08:11,920 --> 00:08:15,080 Speaker 3: Wait really quick. Yes, if the only way that he 183 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:18,240 Speaker 3: will listen to her is his mom is if his mom's. 184 00:08:17,920 --> 00:08:20,520 Speaker 1: There, not a good sign. If your partner is not 185 00:08:20,640 --> 00:08:23,800 Speaker 1: listening to you without like an outside person stepping in, 186 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:25,400 Speaker 1: then they don't respect you. 187 00:08:25,800 --> 00:08:28,800 Speaker 2: Yeah. I think there are a lot of red flags 188 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:29,960 Speaker 2: in this relationships. 189 00:08:29,520 --> 00:08:32,560 Speaker 1: So many a lot. Edit number two. My husband and 190 00:08:32,600 --> 00:08:35,360 Speaker 1: I had to sit down talk his mother and stepfather 191 00:08:35,440 --> 00:08:38,560 Speaker 1: weren't available. He promised me that he would explain everything 192 00:08:38,600 --> 00:08:40,640 Speaker 1: in detail. I called Carla and she said that we 193 00:08:40,679 --> 00:08:42,920 Speaker 1: would talk Friday when she wasn't busy with school. She 194 00:08:42,960 --> 00:08:45,560 Speaker 1: had something she needed to air out. I will have 195 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:47,160 Speaker 1: an update on Friday, hopefully. 196 00:08:47,400 --> 00:08:49,840 Speaker 2: Cheating, Oh, no, cheating, cheating cheating. 197 00:08:50,240 --> 00:08:52,240 Speaker 1: Edit number three. I woke up to a text from 198 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:54,520 Speaker 1: Carla this morning. She actually wants to talk to me 199 00:08:54,600 --> 00:08:57,560 Speaker 1: tonight alone, as her schedule has changed. We are going 200 00:08:57,600 --> 00:08:59,600 Speaker 1: to have a heart to heart. Hopefully I will have 201 00:08:59,640 --> 00:09:05,680 Speaker 1: some new Edit number four. I need some time. I 202 00:09:05,720 --> 00:09:08,080 Speaker 1: will post an update later on. My heart is hurting. 203 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:11,920 Speaker 1: Hobby and I are getting a divorce. Thank you for understanding. 204 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:16,040 Speaker 1: Everybody whoa and there are some additional comments from Ope, 205 00:09:16,200 --> 00:09:18,160 Speaker 1: but oh my god, we just jumped. 206 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:20,800 Speaker 2: Why did she find out what zero to one hundred? 207 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:21,240 Speaker 3: Zeroo? 208 00:09:21,360 --> 00:09:23,719 Speaker 1: She was like, we're gonna have a chat about him 209 00:09:23,760 --> 00:09:25,600 Speaker 1: listening to me. We're getting a divorce. 210 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:27,160 Speaker 2: You gotta give us content. 211 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:32,680 Speaker 1: There are some additional comments. Man oh man oh. But 212 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:35,439 Speaker 1: before we get into the additional comments, there's a. 213 00:09:35,400 --> 00:09:39,280 Speaker 2: Discord chat what all that old that? Daddy? Can we 214 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:40,080 Speaker 2: can we pull it out? 215 00:09:40,480 --> 00:09:41,320 Speaker 1: It's in general chat. 216 00:09:41,440 --> 00:09:44,520 Speaker 2: You put it up. It's in general chat. Grubbing on 217 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:45,920 Speaker 2: the yeah, doing it? 218 00:09:47,080 --> 00:09:49,000 Speaker 1: Should I just read it? Are we waiting put it 219 00:09:49,080 --> 00:09:51,160 Speaker 1: on chat? You don't know what happened. No one knows 220 00:09:51,200 --> 00:09:52,120 Speaker 1: what the answer was. 221 00:09:52,280 --> 00:09:55,359 Speaker 2: Poker face. Yeah, it could be anything. 222 00:09:55,160 --> 00:09:57,520 Speaker 1: Could be anything. It could be screaming about a dog 223 00:09:57,640 --> 00:09:58,800 Speaker 1: that someone posted. 224 00:09:58,440 --> 00:10:03,280 Speaker 3: About three two and three quarters one. 225 00:10:03,559 --> 00:10:06,679 Speaker 1: Ah, oh wait is that it? Go down to scroll down. 226 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:09,320 Speaker 2: Scroll down, scroll down, please scroll down. 227 00:10:09,800 --> 00:10:10,160 Speaker 3: There we go. 228 00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:13,800 Speaker 1: Okay steal riot gaming at Sophia in response to dark 229 00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:18,520 Speaker 1: lit proposal. I do, she's impatient. I'm still gonna do 230 00:10:18,559 --> 00:10:22,199 Speaker 1: it on my own. L That's what I do. Go, 231 00:10:23,040 --> 00:10:23,320 Speaker 1: that's it. 232 00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:23,640 Speaker 3: I do. 233 00:10:24,160 --> 00:10:27,040 Speaker 1: Congratulations, that's amazing. This is so exciting. 234 00:10:27,400 --> 00:10:29,120 Speaker 2: Oh my god, whoa. 235 00:10:30,040 --> 00:10:31,000 Speaker 1: I'm so happy. 236 00:10:31,559 --> 00:10:36,760 Speaker 3: Congrad crat is amazing. Sophia the second response at dark 237 00:10:36,840 --> 00:10:39,840 Speaker 3: litt eighty six proposal. I do, she's impatient. I'm still 238 00:10:39,840 --> 00:10:45,119 Speaker 3: gonna do mine. That's so cute. It's a doll proposal proposal. 239 00:10:45,320 --> 00:10:46,520 Speaker 3: Oh so cute. 240 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:47,440 Speaker 1: I'm so happy for you. 241 00:10:47,480 --> 00:10:52,480 Speaker 3: Okay, wedding time is what I'm seeing in chat our 242 00:10:52,600 --> 00:10:53,720 Speaker 3: first proposal. 243 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:57,720 Speaker 2: Yes, yes, this is lovely. Guys. 244 00:10:57,920 --> 00:10:58,520 Speaker 1: I love you. 245 00:10:58,880 --> 00:10:59,760 Speaker 2: We're getting married? 246 00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:03,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, what what do you get? I know you just provoked? 247 00:11:04,120 --> 00:11:05,880 Speaker 2: What are you getting married? Tell us right now? 248 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:09,360 Speaker 1: And are we invited in the discord? Tell us everything? 249 00:11:09,760 --> 00:11:12,680 Speaker 1: Because so many congratulations. Put some hearts in the chat, 250 00:11:12,679 --> 00:11:14,320 Speaker 1: put some congratulations in the chat. 251 00:11:14,400 --> 00:11:18,440 Speaker 3: Wow, congratulable the chato A day wow, a day a day. 252 00:11:18,600 --> 00:11:20,720 Speaker 1: Man, oh man, Now we got to talk about this divorced. 253 00:11:20,920 --> 00:11:22,319 Speaker 2: Yeah, let's get into it, but. 254 00:11:22,280 --> 00:11:24,720 Speaker 1: With a lighter heart because I have more faith. I 255 00:11:24,880 --> 00:11:27,160 Speaker 1: quit my job after I found out I was pregnant. 256 00:11:27,320 --> 00:11:29,679 Speaker 1: I became a stay at home mom. Believe it or not, 257 00:11:29,840 --> 00:11:33,200 Speaker 1: people can have inheritance and have no bearing on job status. 258 00:11:33,360 --> 00:11:36,160 Speaker 1: My soon to be ex husband is a construction worker 259 00:11:36,200 --> 00:11:39,040 Speaker 1: who makes good money. I only worked for my own 260 00:11:39,040 --> 00:11:42,000 Speaker 1: satisfaction at being able to pay for stuff. His uncle 261 00:11:42,080 --> 00:11:44,880 Speaker 1: was a financially sound man who had no children. That's 262 00:11:44,920 --> 00:11:47,000 Speaker 1: when my ex got the house. We were looking at 263 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:49,920 Speaker 1: getting our own house soon before he passed away. And 264 00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:53,360 Speaker 1: relevant comments Aggravating Owl says, you set your boundaries and 265 00:11:53,400 --> 00:11:55,960 Speaker 1: he continues to cross them. Is this how you want 266 00:11:55,960 --> 00:11:58,080 Speaker 1: your marriage to be? She won't stop as long as 267 00:11:58,080 --> 00:12:00,760 Speaker 1: your husband responds to her every time he says, you're right. 268 00:12:00,840 --> 00:12:04,480 Speaker 1: I have issues standing up for myself. Zealous ideal Oil says, 269 00:12:04,559 --> 00:12:07,079 Speaker 1: does he not understand how badly that reflects on him 270 00:12:07,080 --> 00:12:09,480 Speaker 1: that he's unwilling to explain his actions to his own 271 00:12:09,520 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 1: wife seeing the pain and distress you are in regarding 272 00:12:12,920 --> 00:12:15,440 Speaker 1: the situation, or does he simply not care because he 273 00:12:15,480 --> 00:12:17,599 Speaker 1: has feelings for her. In my opinion, if there was 274 00:12:17,679 --> 00:12:20,199 Speaker 1: no cheating involved, he could have reassured you about that, 275 00:12:20,320 --> 00:12:22,480 Speaker 1: but explain what was going on with Carla was a 276 00:12:22,520 --> 00:12:25,560 Speaker 1: personal matter that she needed to share with you herself. Hope, 277 00:12:25,559 --> 00:12:28,360 Speaker 1: he says. Sometimes he thinks I'm too emotional. I have 278 00:12:28,440 --> 00:12:31,800 Speaker 1: PTSD and BPD, and he doesn't understand my disorder. He 279 00:12:31,840 --> 00:12:35,360 Speaker 1: doesn't understand that I feel things intensely or passionately, or 280 00:12:35,400 --> 00:12:37,840 Speaker 1: that it is super easy to hurt my feelings. He 281 00:12:37,920 --> 00:12:41,280 Speaker 1: never even tries to understand me autism or not. Honestly, 282 00:12:41,360 --> 00:12:45,040 Speaker 1: I'm considering cutting my losses and going through divorce anyway. 283 00:12:45,240 --> 00:12:47,480 Speaker 1: It's not worth the emotional anguish he put me through 284 00:12:47,520 --> 00:12:50,280 Speaker 1: each day. And there is an update and we kind 285 00:12:50,320 --> 00:12:53,360 Speaker 1: of already know where it's going. Do you have any 286 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:54,719 Speaker 1: thoughts before we jump in? 287 00:12:55,120 --> 00:12:57,760 Speaker 3: I kind of just want to jump in. Let's jump 288 00:12:57,840 --> 00:12:59,840 Speaker 3: get it over with. The update is hard. 289 00:13:00,160 --> 00:13:02,920 Speaker 1: Everything about this situation sticks, and I don't know if 290 00:13:02,960 --> 00:13:05,160 Speaker 1: I will be okay for some time. Baby and I 291 00:13:05,200 --> 00:13:08,559 Speaker 1: are currently staying with my friend Tanya to start James 292 00:13:08,559 --> 00:13:11,480 Speaker 1: and I are getting a divorce. Carla is no longer 293 00:13:11,520 --> 00:13:13,880 Speaker 1: a friend to me or mutuals The betrayal is too 294 00:13:13,880 --> 00:13:16,120 Speaker 1: deep for her to be friends with our group. As 295 00:13:16,320 --> 00:13:20,800 Speaker 1: most of you assumed, James and Carla are indeed having. 296 00:13:21,440 --> 00:13:24,440 Speaker 3: And also it was like so out in the open. Yeah, 297 00:13:24,480 --> 00:13:26,280 Speaker 3: like not even high, not even trying. 298 00:13:26,720 --> 00:13:29,520 Speaker 1: It started about three months ago and just turned physical 299 00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:32,959 Speaker 1: one month ago. When they have a kid. They were 300 00:13:33,000 --> 00:13:35,319 Speaker 1: planning on just up and leaving after James served me 301 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:37,760 Speaker 1: divorce papers. They used the ruse that he was helping 302 00:13:37,800 --> 00:13:41,320 Speaker 1: her through emotional issues to hide the fact I was crushed. 303 00:13:41,559 --> 00:13:43,640 Speaker 1: She wanted to clear the air before it got worse. 304 00:13:43,880 --> 00:13:46,839 Speaker 1: That was when she dropped a huge bombshell. James is 305 00:13:46,880 --> 00:13:49,000 Speaker 1: going to try and get me to terminate my rights 306 00:13:49,000 --> 00:13:51,680 Speaker 1: to my child in order for Carla to adopt her. 307 00:13:51,840 --> 00:13:55,240 Speaker 1: The reason my borderline diagnosis a few years ago made 308 00:13:55,240 --> 00:13:57,360 Speaker 1: me unfit to be a mother, and he was sure 309 00:13:57,440 --> 00:13:59,560 Speaker 1: that the courts would agree. She then handed me two 310 00:13:59,559 --> 00:14:03,040 Speaker 1: separates stacks of paperwork and left. I am contacting a 311 00:14:03,120 --> 00:14:06,400 Speaker 1: lawyer as I'm writing this. I was seriously hurt. You 312 00:14:06,480 --> 00:14:09,000 Speaker 1: guys were right. Carlo was a snake and only told 313 00:14:09,000 --> 00:14:11,240 Speaker 1: me this so she wouldn't feel guilty. However, I am 314 00:14:11,280 --> 00:14:13,480 Speaker 1: not letting my soon to be ex husband bully me 315 00:14:13,520 --> 00:14:16,320 Speaker 1: in determination of my rights. I called them afterwards and 316 00:14:16,360 --> 00:14:18,840 Speaker 1: got very heated about what was going on. James just 317 00:14:18,880 --> 00:14:22,240 Speaker 1: sat there in silence. I was crying afterwards. I pleaded 318 00:14:22,240 --> 00:14:23,920 Speaker 1: with him to tell me what I did wrong. For 319 00:14:24,000 --> 00:14:25,960 Speaker 1: a little bit of backstory, I had a near fatal 320 00:14:25,960 --> 00:14:29,040 Speaker 1: complication with my delivery of our daughter, where I bled 321 00:14:29,080 --> 00:14:32,080 Speaker 1: my entire labor. I had to have two blood transfusions 322 00:14:32,120 --> 00:14:35,120 Speaker 1: and haven't fully recovered from it. I was not cleared 323 00:14:35,160 --> 00:14:39,680 Speaker 1: for any extrnuous activity for three months, including spicy sleep activity. 324 00:14:39,840 --> 00:14:42,640 Speaker 1: James was getting unsatisfied with all my doctor's appointments and 325 00:14:42,720 --> 00:14:44,960 Speaker 1: not getting the spicy sleep that he wanted. What is 326 00:14:45,040 --> 00:14:47,760 Speaker 1: up with these terrible terblemen? I was hurting and ended 327 00:14:47,840 --> 00:14:51,200 Speaker 1: up needing another procedure to remove some placenta that didn't 328 00:14:51,280 --> 00:14:53,720 Speaker 1: naturally come out. I had to have my tubes tied 329 00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:57,200 Speaker 1: because if I have another child, I might not survive it. 330 00:14:57,360 --> 00:14:59,840 Speaker 1: James wanted at least two more kids, and this put 331 00:14:59,840 --> 00:15:02,600 Speaker 1: in end to his plans. I married a monster. We 332 00:15:02,600 --> 00:15:05,280 Speaker 1: were together since we were fifteen, and this is how 333 00:15:05,320 --> 00:15:08,120 Speaker 1: he repays me. I thought I knew him. He was 334 00:15:08,160 --> 00:15:11,640 Speaker 1: acting so caring and nice to me. I'm absolutely heartbroken. 335 00:15:11,840 --> 00:15:14,040 Speaker 1: I'm not even sure I'm going to update this anymore, 336 00:15:14,120 --> 00:15:16,560 Speaker 1: but if I do, it'll be after the divorce settles. 337 00:15:16,800 --> 00:15:19,520 Speaker 1: Thanks for all your concern. I'm going to step back 338 00:15:19,560 --> 00:15:22,200 Speaker 1: and take some time to adjust. There is no chance 339 00:15:22,240 --> 00:15:25,240 Speaker 1: for a healthy co parenting situation. I'm fighting for primary 340 00:15:25,280 --> 00:15:29,040 Speaker 1: custody with supervised visits. Carla will not have any access 341 00:15:29,040 --> 00:15:31,280 Speaker 1: to baby as I will ask the judge to make 342 00:15:31,320 --> 00:15:34,400 Speaker 1: a clause preventing her from interacting with my daughter. Thanks 343 00:15:34,520 --> 00:15:37,040 Speaker 1: for all the advice, but we would never want to 344 00:15:37,040 --> 00:15:39,600 Speaker 1: prevent you from interacting with us. Just join us live 345 00:15:39,680 --> 00:15:42,280 Speaker 1: every weekday on YouTube and Facebook and TikTok. 346 00:15:42,360 --> 00:15:44,960 Speaker 2: Please just tap her profile, Just tap it. 347 00:15:44,960 --> 00:15:49,120 Speaker 1: It's very exciting every day, even today. Sometimes there's proposals, 348 00:15:49,800 --> 00:15:50,920 Speaker 1: sometimes there's babies. 349 00:15:51,240 --> 00:15:53,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, you never know what you're going to never know. 350 00:15:53,280 --> 00:15:55,960 Speaker 3: And there might be a little secret stream the thing 351 00:15:56,120 --> 00:15:59,280 Speaker 3: happening on Friday. Good test stream at the end of 352 00:15:59,280 --> 00:16:01,120 Speaker 3: the stream on Friday, so watch out for that. It's 353 00:16:01,120 --> 00:16:02,240 Speaker 3: gonna be more of stuff like that. 354 00:16:02,480 --> 00:16:06,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, someone's getting married. But there is an edit. 355 00:16:06,480 --> 00:16:08,760 Speaker 1: I forgot to add that. I contacted his mother and 356 00:16:08,800 --> 00:16:11,600 Speaker 1: Mark this morning. They are furious that James is doing 357 00:16:11,640 --> 00:16:13,400 Speaker 1: this to me. They are helping me foot the cost 358 00:16:13,400 --> 00:16:15,360 Speaker 1: of a lawyer because I'm a stay at home mom 359 00:16:15,480 --> 00:16:18,080 Speaker 1: and college student. I have kicked James out and he 360 00:16:18,160 --> 00:16:20,400 Speaker 1: is now staying at our old house with Carla. He 361 00:16:20,440 --> 00:16:22,280 Speaker 1: did give me the courtesy to get my stuff and 362 00:16:22,320 --> 00:16:24,600 Speaker 1: didn't put up a fuss about me taking what I wanted. 363 00:16:24,640 --> 00:16:26,400 Speaker 1: He told me that he will keep in contact for 364 00:16:26,440 --> 00:16:31,160 Speaker 1: divorce proceedings. And that is the end of that story. Man, 365 00:16:31,200 --> 00:16:34,600 Speaker 1: oh man Yauza. I'm glad that you're no longer with 366 00:16:34,720 --> 00:16:36,440 Speaker 1: this man, but I'm sorry how it ended. 367 00:16:36,960 --> 00:16:39,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, oh my god, just really awful person. 368 00:16:39,800 --> 00:16:41,760 Speaker 1: Oh but that is the end of that episode. 369 00:16:41,800 --> 00:16:44,080 Speaker 3: That's the end of that episode, which I guess we 370 00:16:44,120 --> 00:16:48,040 Speaker 3: have just enough for a full up. Can we add 371 00:16:48,080 --> 00:16:50,800 Speaker 3: another short one at the end? Addie, do you think 372 00:16:50,840 --> 00:16:56,000 Speaker 3: you can add another yeah, EPI short episode to this episode? 373 00:16:57,320 --> 00:17:01,160 Speaker 2: Awesome? Yeah, that was that was a doozy. 374 00:17:01,520 --> 00:17:05,479 Speaker 3: Also, the whole the whole like proposal was a doozy. 375 00:17:05,560 --> 00:17:06,800 Speaker 3: I'm still geeking on that. 376 00:17:07,119 --> 00:17:10,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's amazing. Yeah, I'm not as brought down by 377 00:17:10,800 --> 00:17:13,320 Speaker 1: this story because I was brought so up. When you 378 00:17:13,400 --> 00:17:15,679 Speaker 1: do more stuff like that, you guys need to do 379 00:17:15,760 --> 00:17:16,479 Speaker 1: more stuff like that. 380 00:17:16,600 --> 00:17:18,840 Speaker 3: Well, no, like just like I feel like obviously we 381 00:17:18,920 --> 00:17:20,840 Speaker 3: love telling stories, but I think we want to try 382 00:17:20,920 --> 00:17:24,880 Speaker 3: like doing more things on stream, and so we're thinking 383 00:17:24,920 --> 00:17:26,960 Speaker 3: about like what that looks. 384 00:17:26,720 --> 00:17:28,440 Speaker 1: Like, which will see a little bit. 385 00:17:28,600 --> 00:17:29,879 Speaker 2: Right, see a little bit on Friday. 386 00:17:29,920 --> 00:17:32,520 Speaker 3: But I'm curious, like, what are some other things that 387 00:17:32,720 --> 00:17:37,000 Speaker 3: you think, like our community would want to partake in 388 00:17:37,280 --> 00:17:38,640 Speaker 3: or watch or. 389 00:17:38,720 --> 00:17:41,960 Speaker 2: Like what will be fun? Dark Lilis says, what's in 390 00:17:42,000 --> 00:17:42,480 Speaker 2: the discord? 391 00:17:42,760 --> 00:17:46,040 Speaker 3: Hannah another silent fifty five bucks? 392 00:17:46,320 --> 00:17:47,280 Speaker 2: We appreciate you. 393 00:17:47,600 --> 00:17:51,040 Speaker 1: Just a picture of dark Lili's kid. That's pretty cute, 394 00:17:52,040 --> 00:17:52,680 Speaker 1: so cute. 395 00:17:52,880 --> 00:17:54,600 Speaker 2: I love this a little Santa. 396 00:17:55,600 --> 00:17:56,280 Speaker 1: I love that. 397 00:17:56,800 --> 00:18:01,200 Speaker 3: Okay, team needs to get ordained now, Jellyba says, my 398 00:18:01,320 --> 00:18:02,800 Speaker 3: daughters both were just ordained. 399 00:18:02,800 --> 00:18:04,760 Speaker 1: Oh wait, did you already say Hannah's. 400 00:18:04,480 --> 00:18:07,199 Speaker 3: Yeah, I had to thank you again. Yes, a silent 401 00:18:07,280 --> 00:18:09,920 Speaker 3: donation from Hannah ghost Glue lady. So we can pick 402 00:18:09,960 --> 00:18:13,240 Speaker 3: whoever we want to marry us. Carly Ann says, y'all 403 00:18:13,240 --> 00:18:14,639 Speaker 3: should go to the wedding. I think that would be 404 00:18:14,720 --> 00:18:18,040 Speaker 3: kind of cool. That would be cool, isn't there? Alrighty soccer, 405 00:18:18,119 --> 00:18:21,479 Speaker 3: he says, Dancing Bubba shows Sam read my last post 406 00:18:21,720 --> 00:18:24,320 Speaker 3: for just a second ago continent idea? 407 00:18:24,440 --> 00:18:26,720 Speaker 2: Where where do you put it in the discord? Hannah? 408 00:18:26,760 --> 00:18:30,040 Speaker 3: And I appreciate all of you. We appreciate you too, Hannah. 409 00:18:30,400 --> 00:18:32,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, we really appreciate you, Hannah. Wait is it in 410 00:18:32,840 --> 00:18:33,440 Speaker 2: the discord? 411 00:18:33,760 --> 00:18:36,119 Speaker 1: This one's a fun one. Maybe? Actually I didn't. I 412 00:18:36,160 --> 00:18:38,280 Speaker 1: don't know how it ends, but this might be a 413 00:18:38,280 --> 00:18:38,720 Speaker 1: fun one. 414 00:18:38,840 --> 00:18:40,840 Speaker 2: Let's see. Give me two secks. Is it? 415 00:18:41,080 --> 00:18:43,320 Speaker 3: I don't see it in the discord. Maybe I'm live 416 00:18:43,359 --> 00:18:45,920 Speaker 3: streaming the wedding. Yeah, that would be cool. Jackbox stream 417 00:18:45,960 --> 00:18:47,480 Speaker 3: on Friday, please. 418 00:18:47,840 --> 00:18:52,000 Speaker 2: Almost almost maybe we'll see all right? You ready for 419 00:18:52,040 --> 00:18:53,400 Speaker 2: all this next one? 420 00:18:53,920 --> 00:18:56,320 Speaker 3: John already promised an okay wedding live stream if it 421 00:18:56,320 --> 00:18:57,520 Speaker 3: fits the vibe he did? 422 00:18:57,920 --> 00:19:00,240 Speaker 2: He did. That is true. That is true. 423 00:19:00,240 --> 00:19:01,920 Speaker 3: And this is the first one. As Eegle says, no, 424 00:19:02,000 --> 00:19:03,880 Speaker 3: here you go. I seriously think we need a dating 425 00:19:03,880 --> 00:19:06,240 Speaker 3: show for Sam to coding keyon. Let's chat vote who 426 00:19:06,240 --> 00:19:08,280 Speaker 3: they take on a date? Also want to see Sam 427 00:19:08,320 --> 00:19:10,359 Speaker 3: go on a blind date with a literal blindfold. 428 00:19:10,560 --> 00:19:11,800 Speaker 1: Where are we getting these people? 429 00:19:12,320 --> 00:19:15,159 Speaker 2: Yeah? Where are we sourcing these people? 430 00:19:15,480 --> 00:19:17,280 Speaker 1: We have to find people who are willing to be 431 00:19:17,359 --> 00:19:18,120 Speaker 1: on a dating show. 432 00:19:18,640 --> 00:19:19,080 Speaker 2: Diana. 433 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:21,080 Speaker 1: You know they did that with like a like all 434 00:19:21,160 --> 00:19:24,520 Speaker 1: the Minecraft gamers, what that I want? They had like 435 00:19:24,520 --> 00:19:26,679 Speaker 1: a dating show for all these Minecraft gamers where they 436 00:19:26,720 --> 00:19:28,679 Speaker 1: got like different you know, like Tommy Anda did it. 437 00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:31,399 Speaker 2: I mean, we probably could, we could do like a 438 00:19:31,480 --> 00:19:34,320 Speaker 2: dating show. It's just and also the date dating show 439 00:19:34,400 --> 00:19:36,680 Speaker 2: is like a lot. It's like a lot of prep 440 00:19:36,720 --> 00:19:38,119 Speaker 2: and stuff. So it's pretty hard to do. 441 00:19:38,359 --> 00:19:40,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a long shooting day. 442 00:19:40,119 --> 00:19:42,600 Speaker 3: Long shooting day. I've done. I've done. I've been in 443 00:19:42,680 --> 00:19:45,640 Speaker 3: dating shows before for a very short amount of time. 444 00:19:48,320 --> 00:19:49,359 Speaker 2: Okay, you ready. 445 00:19:49,440 --> 00:19:52,520 Speaker 3: So I agreed to wear my mom's wedding dress from 446 00:19:52,560 --> 00:19:54,920 Speaker 3: the eighties as long as I could throw an eighties 447 00:19:55,119 --> 00:19:56,160 Speaker 3: theme wedding. 448 00:19:56,240 --> 00:19:58,720 Speaker 2: That sounds fun. That sounds great. Yeah, that sounds a 449 00:19:58,760 --> 00:19:59,280 Speaker 2: great idea. 450 00:19:59,440 --> 00:20:01,840 Speaker 3: So this, this came up during dinner the other night, 451 00:20:01,880 --> 00:20:05,199 Speaker 3: and I'm wondering if what I had requested makes me 452 00:20:05,280 --> 00:20:07,919 Speaker 3: come across as an a hole. My mom thinks so, 453 00:20:08,119 --> 00:20:10,520 Speaker 3: or at least like a bridezillo. So, by the way, 454 00:20:10,560 --> 00:20:12,440 Speaker 3: this comes from eighties wedding dress. 455 00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:13,560 Speaker 2: The a hole on. 456 00:20:13,560 --> 00:20:15,639 Speaker 3: They are slash. Okay, storytime severed it. So when my 457 00:20:15,640 --> 00:20:17,680 Speaker 3: parents got married back in the eighties, my mom wore 458 00:20:17,720 --> 00:20:21,000 Speaker 3: a big poofy a white gown that was in style 459 00:20:21,040 --> 00:20:23,320 Speaker 3: at the time. It was like Princess Diana's dress, but 460 00:20:23,359 --> 00:20:26,119 Speaker 3: with more lace and more frills. After the wedding, she 461 00:20:26,160 --> 00:20:28,840 Speaker 3: had it packed up with the intention of saving it 462 00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:32,040 Speaker 3: for any future daughters to use. I em in twenty nineteen, 463 00:20:32,240 --> 00:20:35,320 Speaker 3: we were talking about weddings at the dinner table. Boyfriend 464 00:20:35,359 --> 00:20:37,640 Speaker 3: had been hinting at it for a while now. When 465 00:20:37,680 --> 00:20:40,160 Speaker 3: my mom says that when the time comes, she would 466 00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:42,760 Speaker 3: love to see me wear her old dress, I understand 467 00:20:42,760 --> 00:20:43,960 Speaker 3: why she would want to see me in it, but 468 00:20:44,000 --> 00:20:45,280 Speaker 3: I'm not keen on the idea. 469 00:20:45,320 --> 00:20:45,439 Speaker 2: Well. 470 00:20:45,480 --> 00:20:47,320 Speaker 3: Of the reasons is because it's just not my taste, 471 00:20:47,359 --> 00:20:49,240 Speaker 3: and the other is because when you look at the dress, 472 00:20:49,320 --> 00:20:51,200 Speaker 3: you know it came from the eighties. 473 00:20:51,320 --> 00:20:52,200 Speaker 2: It is what you. 474 00:20:52,200 --> 00:20:55,760 Speaker 3: Imagine the quintessential eighties wedding dress would look like, minus 475 00:20:55,840 --> 00:20:57,280 Speaker 3: the teas hairstyle and the. 476 00:20:57,200 --> 00:20:58,440 Speaker 2: Frosted picture stick. 477 00:20:58,560 --> 00:20:59,920 Speaker 1: Pretty I can see. 478 00:20:59,720 --> 00:21:00,520 Speaker 2: It pretty easy. 479 00:21:00,520 --> 00:21:02,000 Speaker 1: It's like huge shoulders. 480 00:21:02,240 --> 00:21:04,919 Speaker 3: It would look anachronistic in a setting with more modern 481 00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:08,440 Speaker 3: fashions and wedding styles, as if the bride accidentally walked 482 00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:10,920 Speaker 3: into a time slip and came out of it into 483 00:21:10,920 --> 00:21:15,440 Speaker 3: twenty nineteen. So here's how things went. Me sure, allwarter Mom, 484 00:21:15,680 --> 00:21:19,159 Speaker 3: great me, but on one condition that the bridal party 485 00:21:19,280 --> 00:21:22,560 Speaker 3: and the groom's men wear clothes based on eighties wedding fashion, 486 00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:26,000 Speaker 3: with an eighties themed wedding reception to follow. I'm a 487 00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:28,920 Speaker 3: history teacher who loves doing research into different time periods 488 00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:32,880 Speaker 3: and eras, So researching wedding trends, music, tech, and fashion 489 00:21:33,000 --> 00:21:35,960 Speaker 3: from the nineteen eighties and then recreating it would be fun. 490 00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:38,359 Speaker 3: And I'm not so worried about my boyfriend and friends 491 00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:40,600 Speaker 3: being opposed to the idea because they know how much 492 00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:43,560 Speaker 3: I love history and historical reenactment, not to mention some 493 00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:46,159 Speaker 3: of them partaking it themselves. One used to work at 494 00:21:46,200 --> 00:21:49,880 Speaker 3: Williamsburg and boyfriend is a Civil War reenactor. 495 00:21:50,119 --> 00:21:50,479 Speaker 1: Fun. 496 00:21:50,960 --> 00:21:53,399 Speaker 3: They someth like a fun group. My mom, however, was 497 00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:55,560 Speaker 3: not big on the idea. She thinks that the idea 498 00:21:55,600 --> 00:21:58,760 Speaker 3: of an eighties themed wedding is stod and that I 499 00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:01,359 Speaker 3: sound like a bridezilla for someting that a wedding party 500 00:22:01,400 --> 00:22:03,160 Speaker 3: go through with this idea. 501 00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:03,920 Speaker 1: I disagree. 502 00:22:03,960 --> 00:22:06,280 Speaker 2: It sounds fun, fun, It's fun wedding. 503 00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:08,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, why would anyone be upset about. 504 00:22:08,320 --> 00:22:11,200 Speaker 3: A theme wedding, and that's where that first part ends. 505 00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:12,040 Speaker 2: We got an update. 506 00:22:12,160 --> 00:22:14,639 Speaker 3: But if you think Op's the a hole or bride 507 00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:17,040 Speaker 3: Zilla for wanting an eighties themed wedding, I. 508 00:22:17,080 --> 00:22:18,960 Speaker 1: Think she would only be like a little bit the 509 00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:20,320 Speaker 1: a hole if her mom was like, oh, do you 510 00:22:20,359 --> 00:22:21,840 Speaker 1: want to wear my dress? And she was like yeah. 511 00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:24,960 Speaker 1: I mean if the wedding was eighties themed and she 512 00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:27,600 Speaker 1: was like, you know, sarcastic or fantastic about it. But 513 00:22:27,600 --> 00:22:29,159 Speaker 1: it seems like she's like, yeah, wear it, but like 514 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:30,639 Speaker 1: I think it would be more fun. But it was 515 00:22:30,920 --> 00:22:32,640 Speaker 1: like an the wedding, Yeah. 516 00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:33,639 Speaker 2: I feel like that would be cool. 517 00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:37,359 Speaker 3: It would be cool, but maybe, like she feels like 518 00:22:37,400 --> 00:22:40,320 Speaker 3: an eighties themed wedding would make fun of a dress 519 00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:43,560 Speaker 3: that she thinks it's beautiful regardless of time. 520 00:22:44,040 --> 00:22:46,159 Speaker 1: Yeah, but I don't think so. I think it's fun. 521 00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:49,800 Speaker 3: But we got an update an update. Oh also, Addie, 522 00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:53,919 Speaker 3: this is the same episode, just so you know, so updates. 523 00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:58,040 Speaker 3: Hey guys, it's that eighties bride with an update for 524 00:22:58,160 --> 00:23:00,080 Speaker 3: you before we again. Let me just say that it 525 00:22:59,880 --> 00:23:02,879 Speaker 3: is crazy how my first post blew up. I never 526 00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:06,080 Speaker 3: expected this response. Thank you guys so much. For weighing 527 00:23:06,080 --> 00:23:08,960 Speaker 3: in with your opinions. A lot has happened since I 528 00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:11,520 Speaker 3: made that post nearly a month ago, and to begin with, no, 529 00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:14,920 Speaker 3: my boyfriend still hasn't proposed, but that's okay. I know 530 00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:17,600 Speaker 3: it's going to happen. Some of my friends figured out 531 00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:19,680 Speaker 3: it was me behind the post when I mentioned the 532 00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:22,159 Speaker 3: kerfuffle with my mom. One of them said, you wouldn't 533 00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:25,520 Speaker 3: happen to be the one that the AITA posts would 534 00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:26,520 Speaker 3: be about, would you. 535 00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:28,080 Speaker 2: And also, while we. 536 00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:31,000 Speaker 3: Weren't engaged yet, and I did talk about what we 537 00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:32,840 Speaker 3: want our wedding to look like, while we have a 538 00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:35,159 Speaker 3: couple of ideas in mind, he was on board with 539 00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:37,159 Speaker 3: the eighties wedding idea and joked that if I was 540 00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:39,240 Speaker 3: to wear my mom's dress, then he wanted to find 541 00:23:39,240 --> 00:23:41,840 Speaker 3: a replica of his dad's tuxedo and grow his hair 542 00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:46,480 Speaker 3: out into a mullet and stash. That's sick. I love 543 00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:51,280 Speaker 3: this guys. He is a keeper, if ever there was one. 544 00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:55,200 Speaker 1: I think Eddie just didn't realize Ezekiel, that you were 545 00:23:55,240 --> 00:24:03,640 Speaker 1: correcting Sam. What because Ezekiel said Eddie, and Eddie responded yes, because. 546 00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:07,080 Speaker 3: Addie, instead, I've said I've been saying Addie for so 547 00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:11,680 Speaker 3: long Eddie. Okay, guys, he is a keeper if ever 548 00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:15,800 Speaker 3: there was one. But seriously, eighties wedding is now in 549 00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:19,200 Speaker 3: our top five list of wedding ideas, and when we 550 00:24:19,240 --> 00:24:21,679 Speaker 3: brought up the idea with the people we wanted our 551 00:24:21,680 --> 00:24:24,960 Speaker 3: wedding party, they were all enthusiastic for the idea is 552 00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:28,320 Speaker 3: so fun. So it looks like that eighties wedding might 553 00:24:28,359 --> 00:24:31,600 Speaker 3: be a reality now, kay. That leads me to my mom. 554 00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:33,520 Speaker 3: I sat her down and we got to her dress, 555 00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:35,480 Speaker 3: and some of you were right. She thought that I 556 00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:37,800 Speaker 3: would just be using her dress as a prop in 557 00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:41,000 Speaker 3: a tacky theme wedding instead of treating it as her 558 00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:44,280 Speaker 3: treasured possession that it is. We did get to talking 559 00:24:44,440 --> 00:24:46,480 Speaker 3: about how we could pull it off. I brought over 560 00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:49,080 Speaker 3: some bridal magazines and pointed out how the dress would 561 00:24:49,160 --> 00:24:52,440 Speaker 3: look next to more modern bridesmaids. I actually did start 562 00:24:52,440 --> 00:24:54,480 Speaker 3: doing my own research and made a pendst board to 563 00:24:54,520 --> 00:24:57,920 Speaker 3: show her how I envisioned this new eighties wedding would 564 00:24:57,960 --> 00:25:00,919 Speaker 3: look like. Not going to lie was pretty impressed with 565 00:25:01,000 --> 00:25:03,480 Speaker 3: the amount of research I did into a time period 566 00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:06,560 Speaker 3: she lived through. The Bridezilla comments came from the fact 567 00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:09,199 Speaker 3: that she thought I was going to dictate what everyone 568 00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:11,320 Speaker 3: was going to wear. Turns out she was referring to 569 00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:15,280 Speaker 3: a few more infamous cases, including the bride who wanted 570 00:25:15,400 --> 00:25:17,800 Speaker 3: orange suyed lubatons. 571 00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:18,119 Speaker 2: What's that? 572 00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:24,040 Speaker 1: Lubitons, lubatons the shoe Lubtons. 573 00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:28,560 Speaker 2: Like Louis batons, Louis batons, Louis batons, Lubitans, lubitons. Look 574 00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:29,639 Speaker 2: at that, Look at that word. 575 00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:35,240 Speaker 3: Yes, I know it's just lubatons and soda hats at 576 00:25:35,280 --> 00:25:37,159 Speaker 3: their beach wedding. Again, I had to tell her I 577 00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:40,520 Speaker 3: already ran. Oh yeah, I already ran the idea with 578 00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:43,359 Speaker 3: the prospective bridesmaids already and they loved the idea. The 579 00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:46,080 Speaker 3: most important update, I actually tried on the dress while 580 00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:48,600 Speaker 3: over at my parents for Thanksgiving and it actually fits. 581 00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:50,879 Speaker 3: It's a bit tight in the belly, but nothing that 582 00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:53,080 Speaker 3: cutting out booze and burgers for a couple of weeks 583 00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:55,960 Speaker 3: can't fix. I looked a little overdone in it, but 584 00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:59,119 Speaker 3: I loved it. There is no way I'm going to 585 00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:01,320 Speaker 3: want to turn it in to a new dress now. 586 00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:04,760 Speaker 3: I want to preserve it. But this is coming from 587 00:26:04,960 --> 00:26:07,840 Speaker 3: the die hard history buff. While I may go dress 588 00:26:07,840 --> 00:26:10,359 Speaker 3: shopping as well. This dress is a solid contender to 589 00:26:10,400 --> 00:26:12,800 Speaker 3: be my future wedding dress. By the way, if you 590 00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:16,400 Speaker 3: want to be our solid contenders for supporting this show, 591 00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:18,800 Speaker 3: you can join us live on YouTube and Facebook every 592 00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:22,240 Speaker 3: weekday at three pm PSD. And we're probably live right now, 593 00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:24,439 Speaker 3: so tap our profile. There's not the relevant update, but 594 00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:28,399 Speaker 3: it seems like a great story. Yeah, this is what 595 00:26:28,440 --> 00:26:31,320 Speaker 3: we needed edit too. I'm really sorry, guys. This was 596 00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:33,280 Speaker 3: the closest I could find to something that looked like 597 00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:36,240 Speaker 3: my mom's wedding dress. For starters, her puffs, sleeves, and 598 00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:38,920 Speaker 3: skirt were more pofy, and the latter would definitely be 599 00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:41,560 Speaker 3: because it looks like she had on a petticoat underneath 600 00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:44,359 Speaker 3: that day. But here is the closest I could find 601 00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:47,480 Speaker 3: to the overall dress. The hem of her skirt and 602 00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:49,760 Speaker 3: some kind of frilly detail as well. And here is 603 00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:54,040 Speaker 3: approximately what the back most resembles. The butt bow is 604 00:26:54,080 --> 00:26:56,280 Speaker 3: a bit smaller than the og, but the skirt and 605 00:26:56,359 --> 00:26:59,399 Speaker 3: train has a similar trim. Again, I'm really sorry, guys. 606 00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:03,479 Speaker 3: Kids not always have photographic evidence because you'll never know 607 00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:08,880 Speaker 3: when you need it. And that is where that story ends. 608 00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:13,720 Speaker 3: And Eddie, do you have it pulled up lip picture 609 00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:15,439 Speaker 3: of this wedding dress? 610 00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:19,360 Speaker 2: Who should be like maybe the original wed Yeah. 611 00:27:19,359 --> 00:27:20,840 Speaker 1: If it's not, yeah, I would say it's in the 612 00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:21,800 Speaker 1: original post probably. 613 00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:22,160 Speaker 2: Yeah. 614 00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:25,720 Speaker 3: Potentially this story is a great palette closing. I know, 615 00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:28,000 Speaker 3: I know, right before we dive deep. 616 00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:31,960 Speaker 1: Into this more to the mack. Yeah, are we going 617 00:27:32,000 --> 00:27:32,920 Speaker 1: back to the third one? 618 00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:35,400 Speaker 2: Yeah? Is that it's just. 619 00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:37,080 Speaker 1: A it's just like a more depressing story. 620 00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:37,440 Speaker 2: Woo. 621 00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:44,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, Princess and mcnubban says. Lou Baiton and Louis Bitton 622 00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:48,880 Speaker 3: are both luxury brands. Lou Batons are known for their 623 00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:49,760 Speaker 3: red bottom. 624 00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:52,439 Speaker 1: Shoes, like the like their heels and they've got like it. 625 00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:53,960 Speaker 2: I feel like I've seen those before. 626 00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:56,119 Speaker 1: You probably have. They're a pretty famous shoe. 627 00:27:56,359 --> 00:27:59,240 Speaker 2: They're a famous shoe. I feel like I've never had 628 00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:01,080 Speaker 2: a famous shoe except Vans. 629 00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:03,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, but everyone's gotten man. 630 00:28:03,560 --> 00:28:07,440 Speaker 3: And now now my my shoe choice is thanks to Sophia, 631 00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:10,680 Speaker 3: I've been rocking the Rebot classic. 632 00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:13,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I don't. I don't spend over like one. 633 00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:15,639 Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever spent over one fifty on 634 00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:16,040 Speaker 1: a shoe. 635 00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:17,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, Christian does. 636 00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:19,639 Speaker 1: Actually, is that how much I'm trying to think how 637 00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:22,800 Speaker 1: my how much my rock climbing shoes were over? I know, 638 00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:24,000 Speaker 1: I think they were under one fifty. 639 00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:26,480 Speaker 2: That's pretty good for rock climbing shoes. I think mine's 640 00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:28,360 Speaker 2: were like sixty. But I was like ages ago. 641 00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:30,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, but I got four choice ones. 642 00:28:30,440 --> 00:28:33,720 Speaker 2: All right, I'm gonna do twelve forty three, four crappy friends? 643 00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:36,320 Speaker 1: Is that a Pokemon card on the floor next year? 644 00:28:37,080 --> 00:28:39,760 Speaker 2: I think so? Wait twelve forty three? No? 645 00:28:39,760 --> 00:28:42,080 Speaker 3: No, I want, I want. I'm trying to read three right? 646 00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:47,520 Speaker 3: Oh man? Failing marriage? Oh geez, oh geez, oh man, 647 00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:49,080 Speaker 3: this is going to be sad. 648 00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:51,880 Speaker 1: Did someone give the stuff or did the boys bring 649 00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:52,200 Speaker 1: this in? 650 00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:55,920 Speaker 2: The boys are pretty into the boys. When can I 651 00:28:55,960 --> 00:28:58,600 Speaker 2: see that club? A puss? I don't know it is. 652 00:28:58,720 --> 00:28:59,520 Speaker 2: It isn't a sleeve. 653 00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:01,240 Speaker 1: It's a Coda's card apparently. 654 00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:03,240 Speaker 2: Oh, it's a Codas card. You guys know stuff? 655 00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:03,880 Speaker 1: Do you guys? 656 00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:06,920 Speaker 2: You guys know stuff? Stuff? Eddie, how are we doing? Yeah? Yeah, 657 00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:11,440 Speaker 2: let's do it please? Oh? Very eighties, very eighties. 658 00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:12,280 Speaker 1: I kind of love it. 659 00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:13,960 Speaker 3: I kind of I love it too, I kind of 660 00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:15,880 Speaker 3: love it. It's kind of phenomenal. 661 00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:18,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, I will say, yeah, very fun. 662 00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:21,120 Speaker 3: But it's so fun that we're just going to end 663 00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:23,560 Speaker 3: that episode right here. So if you love us, make 664 00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:24,320 Speaker 3: sure to subscribe. 665 00:29:24,400 --> 00:29:26,680 Speaker 1: We love you and see you tomorrow.