Speaker 1: You have no idea how many young people I have
Speaker 1: now got credibility with because of your TV show? Are
Speaker 1: you kidding? It's true? Like the kids think I'm really
Speaker 1: cool I do. What a ridiculous thing for you to
Speaker 1: say to me. I can't believe you did it. To
Speaker 1: be honest, I can't believe I did it. You know,
Speaker 1: of course I can't. That'd be ridiculous. There's also me
Speaker 1: just going, oh God, let me be in another scene.
Speaker 1: Let me be in another scene, and I'm okay. I
Speaker 1: suppose you can be in one with Alice on Rosa's
Speaker 1: TV show if somebody doesn't show up for work. Alice Sneddon,
Speaker 1: who co writes the show with Rose, she this is
Speaker 1: basically like this sort of Zelig figure who they can
Speaker 1: slot into any scene. And they slotted her into a
Speaker 1: scene with me in the next season and it was complete.
Speaker 1: Heaven socided, it's gonna be amazing. Can't wait. Hello, I'm
Speaker 1: Mini driver and welcome to many questions. I've always loved
Speaker 1: Bruce questionnaire. It was originally an eighteenth century parlor game
Speaker 1: meant to reveal an individual's true nature, but with so
Speaker 1: many questions, there wasn't really an opportunity to expand on anything.
Speaker 1: So I took the format of Proof's questionnaire and adapted
Speaker 1: What I think are seven of the most important questions
Speaker 1: you could ever ask someone. They are when and where
Speaker 1: were you happiest? What is the quality you like least
Speaker 1: about yourself? What relationship, real or fictionalized, defines love for you?
Speaker 1: What question would you most like answered, What person, place,
Speaker 1: or experience has shaped you the most? What would be
Speaker 1: your last meal? And can you tell me something in
Speaker 1: your life that has grown out of a personal disaster.
Speaker 1: The more people we ask, the more we begin to
Speaker 1: see what makes us similar and what makes us individual.
Speaker 1: I've gathered a group of really remarkable people who I
Speaker 1: am honored and humbled to have had a chance to
Speaker 1: engage with. My guest today are many questions. Is actor
Speaker 1: and writer Rose matter Fair. Rose and I both love
Speaker 1: George Siegel and both watch a lot of movies. Basically,
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to have things in common with her
Speaker 1: because I think she's clever and brilliant. She and the
Speaker 1: equally genius Alice Nedden wrote the show star Struck, which
Speaker 1: is on HBO in the US and BBC three in
Speaker 1: the UK, and they had the very pleasing idea to
Speaker 1: cast me in the show as well as a terrible person,
Speaker 1: which I very much enjoy. It's a really funny show.
Speaker 1: I feel like Rose and Alice have the kind of
Speaker 1: voices that rise up and over the traffic jam of
Speaker 1: comedy shows that abound on every platform. Rose is just
Speaker 1: bloody funny and her answer to what question she'd most
Speaker 1: like answered is unusual. All right, Angel, I'm gonna crack on. Okay,
Speaker 1: first question, when and where were you happiest? I don't
Speaker 1: know if many of your other gifts have difficulty like
Speaker 1: identifying when they are happy. I feel like happiness is
Speaker 1: like that thing for me that happens peripherally where it's like,
Speaker 1: oh oh yeah, and you kind of watch it, kind
Speaker 1: of passed you by, And I'm the worst living in
Speaker 1: the moment. That concept doesn't exist for me. It's like
Speaker 1: every moment is either near future or the just recent past.
Speaker 1: There is nothing about living in the moment or I'm
Speaker 1: trying to get away from it. So maybe be stuck
Speaker 1: in the moment. I want to get away from that.
Speaker 1: Let that be the past. This now has got to
Speaker 1: be the past really fucking fast, really really fast. And
Speaker 1: then I can dwell on it. I love dwelling. I
Speaker 1: live on the past. I dwell in the past. It's
Speaker 1: my house, my home. I'm going to mortgage in it.
Speaker 1: But there are very rare moments where I am very
Speaker 1: calm and aware of my surroundings and we're of just
Speaker 1: being happy and relaxed. I think the last time I
Speaker 1: happened was it was lockdown. Last year. I came back
Speaker 1: from London to New Zealand to like watch the world end.
Speaker 1: I suppose, you know, figure out what I'm going to
Speaker 1: do with my life. I don't have like a family
Speaker 1: home in New Zealand or anything, but my Nan does,
Speaker 1: and so I live with my Nan when I go
Speaker 1: back to New Zealand. So I live with her for
Speaker 1: quite a few months, and it was just me and her,
Speaker 1: and it was intense. But there was an afternoon where
Speaker 1: I was like in her backyard and it was like sunny.
Speaker 1: She's the best man ever. She was like, I put
Speaker 1: the hammer cup for your rose, and she made me
Speaker 1: sit in the hammock and she furnishes me with all
Speaker 1: this stuff. And then she brought over a radio that
Speaker 1: was like it was like a crank radio. A crank
Speaker 1: radio that was a crank radio, which is also a torch.
Speaker 1: It's an emergency it's an emergency torch. And if in radio,
Speaker 1: that's the happiest I've been in. So in a hammock
Speaker 1: with a crank radio, yeah, playing like Seals and Craft,
Speaker 1: I've got the taste of like a six year old
Speaker 1: man when it comes to music. It's that kind of
Speaker 1: era or like yacht rock, you know, yeah, Kenny Loggin's
Speaker 1: all that. Michael McDonald, Oh my god, give me some
Speaker 1: Michael McDonald, Give me some little rubber band or something.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm honestly the oldest person alive in my
Speaker 1: body currently. I think it's that feeling very like safe, relaxed.
Speaker 1: And I don't know if I'm very much an extrovert,
Speaker 1: but I love, you know, the feeling of having someone
Speaker 1: in the other room pottering. I love that feeling. I
Speaker 1: love that too. I think that goes back to childhood.
Speaker 1: I really do, the complete safety because it was before
Speaker 1: we knew that, like there was absolutely nothing they could
Speaker 1: do to stop the apocalypse if it were to happen.
Speaker 1: But when you're a child, you think that they could
Speaker 1: exactly the sound of a radio playing in a different
Speaker 1: room as well, and like the sound of someone just
Speaker 1: doing chores or like tinkering away. It's so lovely. No,
Speaker 1: I agree, you know, it's so funny. My dad had
Speaker 1: some depression later in his life, and when I asked
Speaker 1: him what he did to combat it, he said, well,
Speaker 1: you know, the first thing I do in the morning
Speaker 1: is go downstairs and put the radio on and then
Speaker 1: go back upstairs so I can hear it from upstairs.
Speaker 1: And it sort of broke my heart, but I I
Speaker 1: actually do it now, even when I'm not depressed. It's
Speaker 1: the idea that there is proof of life somewhere in
Speaker 1: the house. Totally. I listened to New Zealand Radio in
Speaker 1: London and I feel immediately just calm because it reminds
Speaker 1: me of my NaN's house. And when my granddad passed away,
Speaker 1: her sister was like, keep the radio on. She was
Speaker 1: just like, put the radio on all the time. It's
Speaker 1: going to feel like someone's in the house. And she
Speaker 1: just did. I think it's really interesting like that idea
Speaker 1: of quite literally tuning into a frequency to go okay,
Speaker 1: I can sort of be there and it becomes a companion,
Speaker 1: it becomes a tether to reality. Totally. It's pure comfort.
Speaker 1: It's really interesting. I rely on my kitchen radio. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's like the thing of like looking at the moon
Speaker 1: and then someone else looking at the same moon. It's
Speaker 1: like white people watch television, and why people go to
Speaker 1: the cinema and why people listen to it's that she
Speaker 1: had experience. It's not the same if you put a
Speaker 1: playlist on. It's like, there's something so specific and weirdly
Speaker 1: unifying about that, isn't it completely So maybe it's about
Speaker 1: the creation of community because we're also bleed and isolated.
Speaker 1: I think, so there's things that make us feel even
Speaker 1: in our isolation. You're still alone when the radio is on,
Speaker 1: but you're also not. It's a feeling of going, oh
Speaker 1: my god, I'm alive at the same time as you.
Speaker 1: It always blows my mind sometimes, you know, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: it's kind of incredible when you look around anyone everyone,
Speaker 1: You're like, oh my god, we're alive at the same time.
Speaker 1: What are the odds one of the chances? One are
Speaker 1: the chances that we are alive at the same time.
Speaker 1: I love somebody did celebrities and so I like, you know,
Speaker 1: I always get gutted because there's been so many people
Speaker 1: in human history and the universe. Is bizarre that you
Speaker 1: and I are alive at the same time. It's a
Speaker 1: very cool, astonishing thing that I don't think people realized.
Speaker 1: I know you you have. I don't mean this is
Speaker 1: an insult, but I think that you have quite a
Speaker 1: lot of stone thoughts, completely sober, like you really like
Speaker 1: you function at a really stoned level of thinking a
Speaker 1: lot of the time. That's so true, And it's one
Speaker 1: of the things I love most about you, because like
Speaker 1: you're not smoking weed when we're working and having these conversations. No, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: But with the backdrop, you know, watching the present moment
Speaker 1: go by as if it were a bar john a river,
Speaker 1: whilst listening to Michael McDonald well marveling that you're alive
Speaker 1: at the same time as all the people on that barge.
Speaker 1: Like I fucking love you. Oh my god. Don't do drugs, kids,
Speaker 1: Just be stoned sober, you know, just do a lot
Speaker 1: of overthinking. Just be a pisces either way, that's exactly it.
Speaker 1: Just be a pisces al right, So as a place
Speaker 1: and then what quality do you like least about yourself?
Speaker 1: So many I mean, it's hard to narrow it down.
Speaker 1: I'm a very self critical person and that's something that
Speaker 1: I think maybe when I was younger, I thought it
Speaker 1: was a basset and I'm kind of realizing it's not.
Speaker 1: And it's a slight form of self obsession, even though
Speaker 1: everyone is obsessed with themselves. But I've kind of built
Speaker 1: almost like a career of being self deprecating and I'm
Speaker 1: getting to the point now and like, God, there might
Speaker 1: not be a great thing. But I think that's an
Speaker 1: interesting question and that I really do think that everyone
Speaker 1: has traits and there is always like equally positive and
Speaker 1: negative aspects of them. So I think things that I go, oh, gosh,
Speaker 1: I really don't like that about myself. There's always a
Speaker 1: flip side of going, well, if I didn't have that,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have the other thing about me. And the
Speaker 1: thing recently I've realized is that I've got a quick temper.
Speaker 1: I can get really angry, and not necessarily other people.
Speaker 1: They don't take it down on other people, but I
Speaker 1: sound like I'm like in so Wars or something. I've
Speaker 1: got a lot of angry inside me sometimes and I
Speaker 1: can't control I can't control my emotions very well. I'm
Speaker 1: very bad. I think it controlling my emotions. Me and
Speaker 1: my friend ear where we describe it as living close
Speaker 1: to God, Like we're just on the edge. We are
Speaker 1: on the edge of our emotions. There is no daring it.
Speaker 1: We are living life outward. Okay, wait, I'm also loving.
Speaker 1: Hold on, I'm loving that it's taking something like I've
Speaker 1: got a really bad temper. Yeah, but let's call it
Speaker 1: being closer to God. I'm a bit of a clep Germania. Okay,
Speaker 1: let's call that stealing. For Jesus, You've got to put
Speaker 1: a positive spin on things. You've gotta look on the
Speaker 1: bright so I life, Come on, many. I couldn't agree
Speaker 1: with you more. And I wonder if that is the
Speaker 1: evolution of the awareness of the things that we don't
Speaker 1: like about ourselves is by going, well, if I didn't
Speaker 1: have this short temper or irritation or whatever it is,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't necessarily have this other thing. I don't think
Speaker 1: that the things we like, at least about ourselves are
Speaker 1: necessarily bad. Genuinely think that they're part of the awful
Speaker 1: quilt that we're shrouded in human existence. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: the quote do not quote. You could not have made
Speaker 1: a more perfect made of for my outlook on life.
Speaker 1: It involves craft, and it involves like complete cynicism. I mean,
Speaker 1: controlling emotions is hard, but I think it's it's particularly
Speaker 1: hard when your your work is about that. It's like
Speaker 1: it's about harnessing it. It's the currency. Yeah, I think
Speaker 1: that's what learning the craft of whatever you do is
Speaker 1: doing able to not go absolutely mean to It's a
Speaker 1: tight rope walk. I think it's also about figuring out
Speaker 1: what the triggers are. I figured out that men with
Speaker 1: a particular kind of handshake, we're really problematic. To the
Speaker 1: minute I shook hands to them, I was like my
Speaker 1: own coach, alright, steady, fill the total dick. You've only
Speaker 1: just mear him, but I know you're going to hate him.
Speaker 1: Don't let anything he says bother you just ignore him.
Speaker 1: And it actually worked. I wish I could do that
Speaker 1: with everybody, But I just got lucky realizing that men
Speaker 1: with weird handshakes it's a particular kind of handshake. I
Speaker 1: don't know, man instincts. I hate that instincts are often
Speaker 1: so correct. It's an annoying thing you want to ignore sometimes. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think maybe that's something I had about myself is
Speaker 1: that I do thinks against my bit of chuck. There
Speaker 1: is a small rose in me. There is a rose
Speaker 1: in me, and she is so smart and so wide,
Speaker 1: so clever, has so many principles. She is strong, she's
Speaker 1: a strong rose, but she is tiny one back somewhere
Speaker 1: in my hair. Well, you lock her in the bathroom,
Speaker 1: don't you. I mean we all do. With the sentient
Speaker 1: person who lives inside us. We often just lock them
Speaker 1: in the bathroom and don't let them come out with us.
Speaker 1: Exactly right, everyone in the car, not you, not you,
Speaker 1: not you smart Rose. All right, so you're gonna ruin tonight?
Speaker 1: What question would you most like answered? Oh? My goodness,
Speaker 1: does everyone always say, like, what happens after you die? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Pretty much? But it is kind of I don't want
Speaker 1: to know. I don't want to know. What question do
Speaker 1: you most not want answered? I don't want to know
Speaker 1: what happens when you die? Jesus, I don't. I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm petrified of death. It's awful. I don't want it
Speaker 1: to happen. Death is unacceptable. It is an unacceptable premise
Speaker 1: because it's accepting the absence of something. You cannot accept
Speaker 1: the absence of an experience. Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: I can accept it's going to rain. Oh, I have
Speaker 1: to accept the fact that I will not have the
Speaker 1: capabilities to accept anything more like a freaking paradox, Like,
Speaker 1: what are you talking about? I think it would be
Speaker 1: worse to be told because I just don't think anything happens.
Speaker 1: I think maybe something happens with the energy and your
Speaker 1: body because I was raised by mappies. You know that
Speaker 1: goes somewhere, but you're not like, you know, able to
Speaker 1: do anything with it. It's just it's probably like the
Speaker 1: end of two thousand and one space hodesty or something.
Speaker 1: But if I knew what happened after death, I would
Speaker 1: be such a ship human now and be like, oh,
Speaker 1: fuck it, Oh I can kick it? And here? Oh
Speaker 1: what am I trying to be a good person? Here? God?
Speaker 1: Fun now whatever? I'm trying to think of things I
Speaker 1: genuinely want to know. I would like to know where
Speaker 1: eels come from. Do you know about eels? Tell me?
Speaker 1: I mean, look, I didn't I read a headline. I
Speaker 1: didn't read the whole article, but I've read something. The
Speaker 1: rumor has it eels no one knows where they go.
Speaker 1: They don't know where they come from. They don't know
Speaker 1: who they read? What do you mean? What do you mean? Many?
Speaker 1: They don't don't know where the frick these eels are going. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm googling this ship right now. Where do eels? It's
Speaker 1: literally no one knows. Okay, hold on, check it out. Honestly, um, listen,
Speaker 1: the new scientists, you're absolutely right. How are baby eels made?
Speaker 1: We still don't know. So let me ask you this.
Speaker 1: You don't want to know what happens with death because
Speaker 1: you don't want desk to happen. And you're annoyed by
Speaker 1: that that you're not annoyed by eels. You would like
Speaker 1: to know where they come from. So are you quite
Speaker 1: conditional about the magic that you want an answer for? Yeah? Basically,
Speaker 1: you know what? And even in saying that I want
Speaker 1: to know where eels come from, I don't. Honestly, you
Speaker 1: know what. If you've got a secret to keep, they're
Speaker 1: keeping it for a reason, like we don't need to
Speaker 1: know everything. Look, there must be some mystery left from
Speaker 1: this world. Embrace the unknown for God's sake. I wish
Speaker 1: I knew what I should not want to know? Do
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Yeah? And just example, change,
Speaker 1: just go on, I mean, which must have been basically
Speaker 1: everybody in the dark ages. It's like, oh my god, yeah,
Speaker 1: what is that white light in the sky. I'll never
Speaker 1: know what that thing at night is, the big round
Speaker 1: silver thing, bizarre, don't need to know. It's on a
Speaker 1: need to know basis, And honey, you are not on
Speaker 1: the list. You are not on the list. But now, yeah,
Speaker 1: I think that knowing what happens after you die, it
Speaker 1: just it sucks. It sucks. I don't know that it
Speaker 1: would make now any better, that's see anything. I don't
Speaker 1: think it wor was. I don't think it would change
Speaker 1: because we can't stop. I'd rather know how to stop
Speaker 1: the dying thing. Oh god, that'd be brilliant. I would
Speaker 1: even take knowing how to stop worrying about the dying thing.
Speaker 1: Oh that's good, because to worry about something that is
Speaker 1: not in your control is irrational. And that's the worst
Speaker 1: thing about being human and being capable of understanding your
Speaker 1: own death. We've been cursed with the ability to know
Speaker 1: that we will one day die, and it's like it
Speaker 1: can be a kind of galvanizing you know, energy of Well,
Speaker 1: I was going to say I would be extremely unmotivated
Speaker 1: if I didn't worry about death so much. That's true,
Speaker 1: that's so frea control. Actually, you know what, that's a
Speaker 1: really good point. Death the great motivating mentorm All right,
Speaker 1: get off your as bed exactly. Okay, slightly more in
Speaker 1: the here and now, but also to do with death,
Speaker 1: what would be your last meal? Thank you so much
Speaker 1: for asking. Yes, so welcome. I think about this often
Speaker 1: because mainly I got really obsist with the last meals
Speaker 1: of serial killers on death row for a while. You know,
Speaker 1: my son was also very interested in that. It's usually
Speaker 1: fried chicken. Like if I were on family feuds, that
Speaker 1: would be number one that I would make everybody say,
Speaker 1: always frey chicken, or like I think often the default meal, well,
Speaker 1: if you don't ask, or something is like a row
Speaker 1: speak dinner or something I think Ted Bundy like didn't
Speaker 1: eaters or something like that. I don't know, Like I
Speaker 1: need to stop reading about this kind of stuff. One
Speaker 1: guy just chose one single P. That's where I mean,
Speaker 1: that's the most annoying. How can you be annoying all
Speaker 1: the way up? I think you can one P to wait,
Speaker 1: do you then compare what you would like to these
Speaker 1: serial killers and what they like and try and find. Well,
Speaker 1: I use it as a basis. Yeah, I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: you know, if I was really because I think you
Speaker 1: could go with something you know, sentimental or something you
Speaker 1: know my nan made. But honestly, Bartomy is like I
Speaker 1: want pizza heart, but the way they did it in
Speaker 1: the nineties where they like essentially fried the crusts and oil,
Speaker 1: which was basically boarderline illegal, And I want to meet
Speaker 1: love those pizza at one point five bottle of pepsi
Speaker 1: and some chocolate moss because I think by the end
Speaker 1: of eating that I would want to die, but be ready.
Speaker 1: I don't want to eat like a light meal. I
Speaker 1: don't need sushimi. I don't need to light meal before
Speaker 1: I die. Get me to the point where I'm like,
Speaker 1: you know what it would you all forded sort of
Speaker 1: pass on to the next stage after this, You'd be
Speaker 1: quite surprised how many people are like, you know, if
Speaker 1: I knew it was my last meal, I would barely
Speaker 1: be able to eat. And it's like, well, well, also,
Speaker 1: what if you didn't know that it was your last meal?
Speaker 1: Exactly if heaven existed and when you die and you
Speaker 1: look back on the you know, sort of highlights really
Speaker 1: your last day, and you see that you had like
Speaker 1: a pritty sandwich or something, You're like, but no, why
Speaker 1: did I eat that? May be so gutted. In fact,
Speaker 1: that's why I hate eating those yogurts that are like,
Speaker 1: you know, a billion acidophilus whatever it is, because it
Speaker 1: makes me, first of all, it makes me feel like
Speaker 1: there's a billion creatures in my cart. But also I
Speaker 1: would hate the irony of doing something for my health
Speaker 1: right before I die, because then it would just be
Speaker 1: another lyric in Alanis Morissette song It's as a list
Speaker 1: right before you die. I mean, it's the whole thing
Speaker 1: of wearing a good pair of knickers because you might
Speaker 1: get hit or something, and you tracking. I had a
Speaker 1: stand up joke and years ago from a very genuine
Speaker 1: fair and something that actually happened to me being on
Speaker 1: a plane and really specifically deciding what film that you're
Speaker 1: watching because somebody scared of flying. I don't want that
Speaker 1: plane to go down and I die, and my mom's like,
Speaker 1: what was the last thing she was watching? And then
Speaker 1: it would just be like Despicable me too. It's like,
Speaker 1: you don't want to you don't want that that to
Speaker 1: be the final one, you know, you want to watch
Speaker 1: something pointed and happened. I went. I was on a
Speaker 1: flight to Japan ones and a plane like experienced engine
Speaker 1: failure and I was like, holy sh it. I was alone.
Speaker 1: I was like, well, this could be it. But I
Speaker 1: didn't have any song saved my phone or anything. So
Speaker 1: as we were landing and as I was like really
Speaker 1: aware of the fact that this might be the last
Speaker 1: thing that I might experience on this as well, the
Speaker 1: song I picked to potentially die too was Pig by
Speaker 1: Steely Dan. Like what and like what? But you know
Speaker 1: what I stick by it, Like to Bob, it's a Bob.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that is fantastic. Pig Yeah, Pig, just
Speaker 1: those harmonies and just going down. But that's a sly
Speaker 1: one because they arguably that is a great song, even
Speaker 1: though there's just so much reference to kind of underage
Speaker 1: women and drugs and Stevie Dan. I just have you
Speaker 1: know the Queveld Gold funk God love. Do you know
Speaker 1: how hard it is to be a twenty nine year
Speaker 1: old woman living in one and all of my favorite
Speaker 1: films being made like the sixties and seventies. I've got
Speaker 1: the most problematic sort of list of texts that are
Speaker 1: my favorite others. But also we've established that you're a
Speaker 1: six year old man in a twenty nine year old
Speaker 1: body with a bunch of other personalities locked in the bathroom. Okay,
Speaker 1: so what relationship, real or fictionalized defined love fear? I mean,
Speaker 1: I I love love. It's like an interest of mine.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm not successful in it, but I love
Speaker 1: the concept of it and others having it one that
Speaker 1: I can really think of, which is so silly. When
Speaker 1: I was younger, I used to have like a celebrity
Speaker 1: hight chart because I was quite tall and I felt
Speaker 1: really insecure about how tall I was. So I decided
Speaker 1: to make a chart in my school diary of all
Speaker 1: my favorite celebrities, how tall they were, in how many's
Speaker 1: intermedis tight difference they had to me. And being now
Speaker 1: in the business of show business. Sometimes I do meet
Speaker 1: people who were probably on that chart and I tell
Speaker 1: them about it, and they always take it not crazy well,
Speaker 1: and you know, I kind of mentioned their ship. I
Speaker 1: always got abs with couples where the woman was taller
Speaker 1: than the man, like Nicole Kipman and Tom Cruise were
Speaker 1: exactly one of my favorite ones and Bancroft in mel Brooks. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. Then I just started going down this
Speaker 1: rabbit whole recently of interviews with them both and when
Speaker 1: they would work together and how they met, and they
Speaker 1: just they have like this this crazy love. I mean,
Speaker 1: I love actors and I love film, and I love
Speaker 1: the whole kind of weird I don't know universe of
Speaker 1: sometimes when they date and marry each other. But it's
Speaker 1: so nice when you see like two very talented people
Speaker 1: and you're like, oh my god, and you guys totally
Speaker 1: get on and you love each other and you're obsessed
Speaker 1: with each other and you make each other laugh. And yeah,
Speaker 1: I just I really love their relationship and that the
Speaker 1: fact that she's so much sure than you know, I agree,
Speaker 1: And I think it's because you see that they loved
Speaker 1: each other so much that walked in the room before
Speaker 1: anything else totally. And also because he's so confident and
Speaker 1: great and so not insecure and so not like quite
Speaker 1: a lot of other short actors whom I've worked with. Well,
Speaker 1: it's a thing, isn't it. We've come so far. I
Speaker 1: live in such a progressive world compared to my mom
Speaker 1: and my grandmother and all other generations, and you go
Speaker 1: it is still it's made of dates on shure and
Speaker 1: it's absolutely bizarre. It's so weird. And also, let me
Speaker 1: tell you, I don't know if this has happened to
Speaker 1: you yet as an actor, but I've had more ditches
Speaker 1: doug for me then I've had men put on boxes,
Speaker 1: Oh my god. And it's kind of like, well, can
Speaker 1: we do rock paper scissors for like, who either goes
Speaker 1: on the box or goes on the fucking ditch, because frankly,
Speaker 1: it doesn't feel equable, and you're still shorter than me exactly,
Speaker 1: someone's putting on heels here. But I've found it's so
Speaker 1: not actors or men being short. It's the overcompensation for
Speaker 1: what it is they think they're missing. Whereas in the
Speaker 1: same way that mel brooks he was just happy in
Speaker 1: himself and just with his super heart, amazing, beautiful, talented,
Speaker 1: clever wife, there wasn't anything to compensate for, exactly. And
Speaker 1: I think also particularly in you know, hetero sexual relationships,
Speaker 1: seeing absolute comfort and the other person's amazing nous with
Speaker 1: no hint of jel, I see your or competitiveness of
Speaker 1: just being like stoked to be with someone just incredible,
Speaker 1: and it's like, that's really hard to find, I think,
Speaker 1: particularly for women, you know, like women who just are
Speaker 1: fucking awesome and shine in the world. I mean, maybe
Speaker 1: I'm being a bit too better. I think there are
Speaker 1: many wonderful couples out there, but I do find it
Speaker 1: heartbreaking when really great women can't find cool people. It's
Speaker 1: all for I know. I just got a text message
Speaker 1: from someone today, can can you find me a boyfriend?
Speaker 1: And it was just like, she's so amazing. I was like,
Speaker 1: what my what, what's going on? What is going on?
Speaker 1: And then also the other awful side of that was
Speaker 1: I was then thinking about men that I knew, and
Speaker 1: oddly the way that they've been dealing with their single
Speaker 1: nous is to not kind of do any self excavation,
Speaker 1: but rather to just shag a lot of women. And
Speaker 1: they're not people that I would want to set my
Speaker 1: mate up with anyway, because they just I was like,
Speaker 1: there's no one I know who's worthy. And she's like,
Speaker 1: are you talking about X, Y and Z. And I
Speaker 1: was like yes, and she was like they're great and
Speaker 1: I was like, well, I thought so until I saw
Speaker 1: how they behave with the women that they're sleeping with. Yeah,
Speaker 1: do you know how much self respect as a cock block?
Speaker 1: It's so horrible. It's like it's so difficult. I'm single.
Speaker 1: I've been single for quite a few years intermittently. And
Speaker 1: the older I gets. So it's like when I say
Speaker 1: the older I get, I'm like, nearly, you know, I'm
Speaker 1: turning thirty. Next years, I'm like, I've no nothing. I go,
Speaker 1: and you know, in ten years, I'll look back at myself, go,
Speaker 1: what the hell was I thinking? But it's so funny,
Speaker 1: Like if I was my early twenties, there are situations
Speaker 1: I've been I'd totally act differently. But now I'm like,
Speaker 1: you're better than this, right, you aren't better than this,
Speaker 1: which means you will not have sex right now. You
Speaker 1: need to accept that. You know you're better than this,
Speaker 1: but you are not going to have sex, and you're
Speaker 1: going to own that. You've gotta live with that, Okay,
Speaker 1: all right. I feel like you've got quite a few
Speaker 1: different people who keep locked in the bathroom. I mean,
Speaker 1: it's a party, it's an on suite, and they just
Speaker 1: let them out, to let them out to brate you,
Speaker 1: and then shove them back into that you can go
Speaker 1: up by yourself and make terrible decision. I mean, that's
Speaker 1: like them. You're only twenty nine. I mean, seriously, this
Speaker 1: is the fun bit. And this sounds so patronizing, you
Speaker 1: saying that like having self respect is a cock block.
Speaker 1: That's awesome. That is so awesome. And I'm telling you
Speaker 1: there is some dude who is going to think that
Speaker 1: is absolutely brilliant. And you know what, he might be
Speaker 1: listening right now. My god, can you believe that? And
Speaker 1: how did you meet? Well? This podcast and I just
Speaker 1: felt it and I just needed to find it. The
Speaker 1: twist is that I was the one who taxted you
Speaker 1: asking for a boyfriend. Oh God Christ. The second season
Speaker 1: of star Struck that I'm very happy to be part of,
Speaker 1: comes out in February. Mini Questions is hosted and written
Speaker 1: by Me Mini Driver, Supervising producer Aaron Kaufman, Producer Morgan Lavoy,
Speaker 1: Research assistant Marissa Brown. Original music Sorry Baby by Minni Driver,
Speaker 1: Additional music by Aaron Kaufman. Executive produced by Me Minni Driver.
Speaker 1: Special thanks to Jim Nikolay, Will Pearson, Addison, No Day,
Speaker 1: Lisa Castella, and Annicke Oppenheim At w kPr de La Pescador,
Speaker 1: Kate Driver and Jason Weinberg, and for constantly solicited tech
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