1
00:00:01,720 --> 00:00:03,880
Speaker 1: You have no idea how many young people I have

2
00:00:03,920 --> 00:00:06,600
Speaker 1: now got credibility with because of your TV show? Are

3
00:00:06,600 --> 00:00:09,360
Speaker 1: you kidding? It's true? Like the kids think I'm really

4
00:00:09,400 --> 00:00:12,200
Speaker 1: cool I do. What a ridiculous thing for you to

5
00:00:12,280 --> 00:00:14,000
Speaker 1: say to me. I can't believe you did it. To

6
00:00:14,040 --> 00:00:15,600
Speaker 1: be honest, I can't believe I did it. You know,

7
00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:19,079
Speaker 1: of course I can't. That'd be ridiculous. There's also me

8
00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:21,120
Speaker 1: just going, oh God, let me be in another scene.

9
00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:22,880
Speaker 1: Let me be in another scene, and I'm okay. I

10
00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:25,680
Speaker 1: suppose you can be in one with Alice on Rosa's

11
00:00:25,720 --> 00:00:28,680
Speaker 1: TV show if somebody doesn't show up for work. Alice Sneddon,

12
00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:31,680
Speaker 1: who co writes the show with Rose, she this is

13
00:00:31,720 --> 00:00:34,120
Speaker 1: basically like this sort of Zelig figure who they can

14
00:00:34,159 --> 00:00:37,760
Speaker 1: slot into any scene. And they slotted her into a

15
00:00:37,840 --> 00:00:41,000
Speaker 1: scene with me in the next season and it was complete.

16
00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:46,080
Speaker 1: Heaven socided, it's gonna be amazing. Can't wait. Hello, I'm

17
00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:50,240
Speaker 1: Mini driver and welcome to many questions. I've always loved

18
00:00:50,360 --> 00:00:53,960
Speaker 1: Bruce questionnaire. It was originally an eighteenth century parlor game

19
00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:57,440
Speaker 1: meant to reveal an individual's true nature, but with so

20
00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:01,080
Speaker 1: many questions, there wasn't really an opportunity to expand on anything.

21
00:01:01,600 --> 00:01:04,640
Speaker 1: So I took the format of Proof's questionnaire and adapted

22
00:01:04,640 --> 00:01:07,319
Speaker 1: What I think are seven of the most important questions

23
00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:11,280
Speaker 1: you could ever ask someone. They are when and where

24
00:01:11,280 --> 00:01:15,119
Speaker 1: were you happiest? What is the quality you like least

25
00:01:15,120 --> 00:01:20,560
Speaker 1: about yourself? What relationship, real or fictionalized, defines love for you?

26
00:01:21,800 --> 00:01:26,279
Speaker 1: What question would you most like answered, What person, place,

27
00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:30,520
Speaker 1: or experience has shaped you the most? What would be

28
00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:34,360
Speaker 1: your last meal? And can you tell me something in

29
00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:37,360
Speaker 1: your life that has grown out of a personal disaster.

30
00:01:38,480 --> 00:01:41,120
Speaker 1: The more people we ask, the more we begin to

31
00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:44,160
Speaker 1: see what makes us similar and what makes us individual.

32
00:01:45,440 --> 00:01:48,200
Speaker 1: I've gathered a group of really remarkable people who I

33
00:01:48,240 --> 00:01:50,400
Speaker 1: am honored and humbled to have had a chance to

34
00:01:50,440 --> 00:01:55,280
Speaker 1: engage with. My guest today are many questions. Is actor

35
00:01:55,520 --> 00:01:59,880
Speaker 1: and writer Rose matter Fair. Rose and I both love

36
00:02:00,240 --> 00:02:05,560
Speaker 1: George Siegel and both watch a lot of movies. Basically,

37
00:02:05,720 --> 00:02:07,920
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to have things in common with her

38
00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:11,080
Speaker 1: because I think she's clever and brilliant. She and the

39
00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:14,680
Speaker 1: equally genius Alice Nedden wrote the show star Struck, which

40
00:02:14,760 --> 00:02:17,239
Speaker 1: is on HBO in the US and BBC three in

41
00:02:17,280 --> 00:02:21,080
Speaker 1: the UK, and they had the very pleasing idea to

42
00:02:21,240 --> 00:02:24,560
Speaker 1: cast me in the show as well as a terrible person,

43
00:02:25,120 --> 00:02:27,600
Speaker 1: which I very much enjoy. It's a really funny show.

44
00:02:28,000 --> 00:02:30,400
Speaker 1: I feel like Rose and Alice have the kind of

45
00:02:30,480 --> 00:02:33,920
Speaker 1: voices that rise up and over the traffic jam of

46
00:02:33,919 --> 00:02:36,840
Speaker 1: comedy shows that abound on every platform. Rose is just

47
00:02:36,880 --> 00:02:41,000
Speaker 1: bloody funny and her answer to what question she'd most

48
00:02:41,040 --> 00:02:50,040
Speaker 1: like answered is unusual. All right, Angel, I'm gonna crack on. Okay,

49
00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:54,799
Speaker 1: first question, when and where were you happiest? I don't

50
00:02:54,800 --> 00:02:57,480
Speaker 1: know if many of your other gifts have difficulty like

51
00:02:57,560 --> 00:03:00,120
Speaker 1: identifying when they are happy. I feel like happiness is

52
00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:03,280
Speaker 1: like that thing for me that happens peripherally where it's like,

53
00:03:03,760 --> 00:03:06,440
Speaker 1: oh oh yeah, and you kind of watch it, kind

54
00:03:06,440 --> 00:03:08,960
Speaker 1: of passed you by, And I'm the worst living in

55
00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:12,240
Speaker 1: the moment. That concept doesn't exist for me. It's like

56
00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:16,079
Speaker 1: every moment is either near future or the just recent past.

57
00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:18,400
Speaker 1: There is nothing about living in the moment or I'm

58
00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:21,440
Speaker 1: trying to get away from it. So maybe be stuck

59
00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:23,000
Speaker 1: in the moment. I want to get away from that.

60
00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:25,440
Speaker 1: Let that be the past. This now has got to

61
00:03:25,480 --> 00:03:28,200
Speaker 1: be the past really fucking fast, really really fast. And

62
00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:30,280
Speaker 1: then I can dwell on it. I love dwelling. I

63
00:03:30,320 --> 00:03:32,280
Speaker 1: live on the past. I dwell in the past. It's

64
00:03:32,320 --> 00:03:34,000
Speaker 1: my house, my home. I'm going to mortgage in it.

65
00:03:34,120 --> 00:03:37,480
Speaker 1: But there are very rare moments where I am very

66
00:03:37,520 --> 00:03:40,320
Speaker 1: calm and aware of my surroundings and we're of just

67
00:03:40,360 --> 00:03:42,680
Speaker 1: being happy and relaxed. I think the last time I

68
00:03:42,720 --> 00:03:46,080
Speaker 1: happened was it was lockdown. Last year. I came back

69
00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:49,040
Speaker 1: from London to New Zealand to like watch the world end.

70
00:03:49,080 --> 00:03:53,000
Speaker 1: I suppose, you know, figure out what I'm going to

71
00:03:53,120 --> 00:03:54,920
Speaker 1: do with my life. I don't have like a family

72
00:03:54,960 --> 00:03:57,320
Speaker 1: home in New Zealand or anything, but my Nan does,

73
00:03:57,400 --> 00:03:58,640
Speaker 1: and so I live with my Nan when I go

74
00:03:58,680 --> 00:04:00,440
Speaker 1: back to New Zealand. So I live with her for

75
00:04:00,520 --> 00:04:02,360
Speaker 1: quite a few months, and it was just me and her,

76
00:04:02,640 --> 00:04:05,400
Speaker 1: and it was intense. But there was an afternoon where

77
00:04:05,440 --> 00:04:08,360
Speaker 1: I was like in her backyard and it was like sunny.

78
00:04:08,920 --> 00:04:10,720
Speaker 1: She's the best man ever. She was like, I put

79
00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:12,560
Speaker 1: the hammer cup for your rose, and she made me

80
00:04:12,600 --> 00:04:14,520
Speaker 1: sit in the hammock and she furnishes me with all

81
00:04:14,520 --> 00:04:17,440
Speaker 1: this stuff. And then she brought over a radio that

82
00:04:17,560 --> 00:04:20,440
Speaker 1: was like it was like a crank radio. A crank

83
00:04:20,520 --> 00:04:22,800
Speaker 1: radio that was a crank radio, which is also a torch.

84
00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:28,279
Speaker 1: It's an emergency it's an emergency torch. And if in radio,

85
00:04:29,680 --> 00:04:33,000
Speaker 1: that's the happiest I've been in. So in a hammock

86
00:04:33,080 --> 00:04:37,600
Speaker 1: with a crank radio, yeah, playing like Seals and Craft,

87
00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:39,839
Speaker 1: I've got the taste of like a six year old

88
00:04:39,839 --> 00:04:41,960
Speaker 1: man when it comes to music. It's that kind of

89
00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:45,520
Speaker 1: era or like yacht rock, you know, yeah, Kenny Loggin's

90
00:04:45,720 --> 00:04:48,000
Speaker 1: all that. Michael McDonald, Oh my god, give me some

91
00:04:48,040 --> 00:04:50,360
Speaker 1: Michael McDonald, Give me some little rubber band or something.

92
00:04:50,400 --> 00:04:53,599
Speaker 1: You know, I'm honestly the oldest person alive in my

93
00:04:53,680 --> 00:04:58,560
Speaker 1: body currently. I think it's that feeling very like safe, relaxed.

94
00:04:58,640 --> 00:05:00,760
Speaker 1: And I don't know if I'm very much an extrovert,

95
00:05:00,800 --> 00:05:02,680
Speaker 1: but I love, you know, the feeling of having someone

96
00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:05,480
Speaker 1: in the other room pottering. I love that feeling. I

97
00:05:05,520 --> 00:05:08,240
Speaker 1: love that too. I think that goes back to childhood.

98
00:05:08,400 --> 00:05:12,440
Speaker 1: I really do, the complete safety because it was before

99
00:05:12,440 --> 00:05:15,160
Speaker 1: we knew that, like there was absolutely nothing they could

100
00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:17,279
Speaker 1: do to stop the apocalypse if it were to happen.

101
00:05:17,360 --> 00:05:19,760
Speaker 1: But when you're a child, you think that they could

102
00:05:20,279 --> 00:05:23,000
Speaker 1: exactly the sound of a radio playing in a different

103
00:05:23,080 --> 00:05:25,120
Speaker 1: room as well, and like the sound of someone just

104
00:05:25,160 --> 00:05:29,479
Speaker 1: doing chores or like tinkering away. It's so lovely. No,

105
00:05:29,720 --> 00:05:32,479
Speaker 1: I agree, you know, it's so funny. My dad had

106
00:05:32,480 --> 00:05:34,880
Speaker 1: some depression later in his life, and when I asked

107
00:05:34,960 --> 00:05:37,320
Speaker 1: him what he did to combat it, he said, well,

108
00:05:37,400 --> 00:05:39,520
Speaker 1: you know, the first thing I do in the morning

109
00:05:40,320 --> 00:05:42,800
Speaker 1: is go downstairs and put the radio on and then

110
00:05:42,839 --> 00:05:45,440
Speaker 1: go back upstairs so I can hear it from upstairs.

111
00:05:46,279 --> 00:05:49,200
Speaker 1: And it sort of broke my heart, but I I

112
00:05:49,240 --> 00:05:52,960
Speaker 1: actually do it now, even when I'm not depressed. It's

113
00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:56,240
Speaker 1: the idea that there is proof of life somewhere in

114
00:05:56,360 --> 00:05:59,440
Speaker 1: the house. Totally. I listened to New Zealand Radio in

115
00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:02,880
Speaker 1: London and I feel immediately just calm because it reminds

116
00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:05,560
Speaker 1: me of my NaN's house. And when my granddad passed away,

117
00:06:05,720 --> 00:06:08,840
Speaker 1: her sister was like, keep the radio on. She was

118
00:06:08,839 --> 00:06:11,000
Speaker 1: just like, put the radio on all the time. It's

119
00:06:11,040 --> 00:06:13,039
Speaker 1: going to feel like someone's in the house. And she

120
00:06:13,160 --> 00:06:15,920
Speaker 1: just did. I think it's really interesting like that idea

121
00:06:15,960 --> 00:06:19,479
Speaker 1: of quite literally tuning into a frequency to go okay,

122
00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:22,280
Speaker 1: I can sort of be there and it becomes a companion,

123
00:06:22,400 --> 00:06:27,000
Speaker 1: it becomes a tether to reality. Totally. It's pure comfort.

124
00:06:27,040 --> 00:06:29,800
Speaker 1: It's really interesting. I rely on my kitchen radio. Yeah,

125
00:06:29,920 --> 00:06:31,360
Speaker 1: it's like the thing of like looking at the moon

126
00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:33,080
Speaker 1: and then someone else looking at the same moon. It's

127
00:06:33,120 --> 00:06:35,520
Speaker 1: like white people watch television, and why people go to

128
00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:38,039
Speaker 1: the cinema and why people listen to it's that she

129
00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:40,800
Speaker 1: had experience. It's not the same if you put a

130
00:06:40,880 --> 00:06:45,040
Speaker 1: playlist on. It's like, there's something so specific and weirdly

131
00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:48,800
Speaker 1: unifying about that, isn't it completely So maybe it's about

132
00:06:48,839 --> 00:06:52,159
Speaker 1: the creation of community because we're also bleed and isolated.

133
00:06:52,400 --> 00:06:55,200
Speaker 1: I think, so there's things that make us feel even

134
00:06:55,200 --> 00:06:57,839
Speaker 1: in our isolation. You're still alone when the radio is on,

135
00:06:58,000 --> 00:07:00,640
Speaker 1: but you're also not. It's a feeling of going, oh

136
00:07:00,680 --> 00:07:03,000
Speaker 1: my god, I'm alive at the same time as you.

137
00:07:04,240 --> 00:07:06,760
Speaker 1: It always blows my mind sometimes, you know, and I'm like,

138
00:07:06,839 --> 00:07:10,200
Speaker 1: it's kind of incredible when you look around anyone everyone,

139
00:07:10,240 --> 00:07:12,200
Speaker 1: You're like, oh my god, we're alive at the same time.

140
00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:14,320
Speaker 1: What are the odds one of the chances? One are

141
00:07:14,360 --> 00:07:16,320
Speaker 1: the chances that we are alive at the same time.

142
00:07:16,400 --> 00:07:18,560
Speaker 1: I love somebody did celebrities and so I like, you know,

143
00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:21,080
Speaker 1: I always get gutted because there's been so many people

144
00:07:21,320 --> 00:07:25,200
Speaker 1: in human history and the universe. Is bizarre that you

145
00:07:25,280 --> 00:07:27,800
Speaker 1: and I are alive at the same time. It's a

146
00:07:27,920 --> 00:07:31,040
Speaker 1: very cool, astonishing thing that I don't think people realized.

147
00:07:31,240 --> 00:07:35,000
Speaker 1: I know you you have. I don't mean this is

148
00:07:35,040 --> 00:07:37,760
Speaker 1: an insult, but I think that you have quite a

149
00:07:37,800 --> 00:07:43,160
Speaker 1: lot of stone thoughts, completely sober, like you really like

150
00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:47,080
Speaker 1: you function at a really stoned level of thinking a

151
00:07:47,160 --> 00:07:49,680
Speaker 1: lot of the time. That's so true, And it's one

152
00:07:49,720 --> 00:07:51,760
Speaker 1: of the things I love most about you, because like

153
00:07:51,920 --> 00:07:55,600
Speaker 1: you're not smoking weed when we're working and having these conversations. No, no, no, no,

154
00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:58,280
Speaker 1: But with the backdrop, you know, watching the present moment

155
00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:00,600
Speaker 1: go by as if it were a bar john a river,

156
00:08:00,640 --> 00:08:04,400
Speaker 1: whilst listening to Michael McDonald well marveling that you're alive

157
00:08:04,440 --> 00:08:06,320
Speaker 1: at the same time as all the people on that barge.

158
00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:11,720
Speaker 1: Like I fucking love you. Oh my god. Don't do drugs, kids,

159
00:08:11,760 --> 00:08:14,560
Speaker 1: Just be stoned sober, you know, just do a lot

160
00:08:14,560 --> 00:08:18,000
Speaker 1: of overthinking. Just be a pisces either way, that's exactly it.

161
00:08:18,120 --> 00:08:24,440
Speaker 1: Just be a pisces al right, So as a place

162
00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:27,360
Speaker 1: and then what quality do you like least about yourself?

163
00:08:28,040 --> 00:08:32,959
Speaker 1: So many I mean, it's hard to narrow it down.

164
00:08:33,440 --> 00:08:37,120
Speaker 1: I'm a very self critical person and that's something that

165
00:08:37,160 --> 00:08:39,040
Speaker 1: I think maybe when I was younger, I thought it

166
00:08:39,120 --> 00:08:41,640
Speaker 1: was a basset and I'm kind of realizing it's not.

167
00:08:41,840 --> 00:08:44,400
Speaker 1: And it's a slight form of self obsession, even though

168
00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:46,839
Speaker 1: everyone is obsessed with themselves. But I've kind of built

169
00:08:46,920 --> 00:08:49,640
Speaker 1: almost like a career of being self deprecating and I'm

170
00:08:49,640 --> 00:08:52,160
Speaker 1: getting to the point now and like, God, there might

171
00:08:52,200 --> 00:08:54,600
Speaker 1: not be a great thing. But I think that's an

172
00:08:54,600 --> 00:08:57,199
Speaker 1: interesting question and that I really do think that everyone

173
00:08:57,280 --> 00:09:01,400
Speaker 1: has traits and there is always like equally positive and

174
00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:04,400
Speaker 1: negative aspects of them. So I think things that I go, oh, gosh,

175
00:09:04,400 --> 00:09:06,319
Speaker 1: I really don't like that about myself. There's always a

176
00:09:06,320 --> 00:09:07,839
Speaker 1: flip side of going, well, if I didn't have that,

177
00:09:08,040 --> 00:09:10,800
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have the other thing about me. And the

178
00:09:10,800 --> 00:09:13,280
Speaker 1: thing recently I've realized is that I've got a quick temper.

179
00:09:13,800 --> 00:09:18,080
Speaker 1: I can get really angry, and not necessarily other people.

180
00:09:18,559 --> 00:09:20,160
Speaker 1: They don't take it down on other people, but I

181
00:09:20,320 --> 00:09:22,880
Speaker 1: sound like I'm like in so Wars or something. I've

182
00:09:22,920 --> 00:09:26,200
Speaker 1: got a lot of angry inside me sometimes and I

183
00:09:26,200 --> 00:09:28,679
Speaker 1: can't control I can't control my emotions very well. I'm

184
00:09:28,760 --> 00:09:31,440
Speaker 1: very bad. I think it controlling my emotions. Me and

185
00:09:31,480 --> 00:09:33,559
Speaker 1: my friend ear where we describe it as living close

186
00:09:33,640 --> 00:09:37,959
Speaker 1: to God, Like we're just on the edge. We are

187
00:09:38,080 --> 00:09:40,800
Speaker 1: on the edge of our emotions. There is no daring it.

188
00:09:40,920 --> 00:09:45,160
Speaker 1: We are living life outward. Okay, wait, I'm also loving.

189
00:09:45,280 --> 00:09:47,640
Speaker 1: Hold on, I'm loving that it's taking something like I've

190
00:09:47,679 --> 00:09:50,280
Speaker 1: got a really bad temper. Yeah, but let's call it

191
00:09:50,720 --> 00:09:55,720
Speaker 1: being closer to God. I'm a bit of a clep Germania. Okay,

192
00:09:55,920 --> 00:10:01,800
Speaker 1: let's call that stealing. For Jesus, You've got to put

193
00:10:01,800 --> 00:10:04,480
Speaker 1: a positive spin on things. You've gotta look on the

194
00:10:04,520 --> 00:10:06,800
Speaker 1: bright so I life, Come on, many. I couldn't agree

195
00:10:06,840 --> 00:10:08,560
Speaker 1: with you more. And I wonder if that is the

196
00:10:08,640 --> 00:10:10,600
Speaker 1: evolution of the awareness of the things that we don't

197
00:10:10,640 --> 00:10:12,880
Speaker 1: like about ourselves is by going, well, if I didn't

198
00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:16,559
Speaker 1: have this short temper or irritation or whatever it is,

199
00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:19,640
Speaker 1: I wouldn't necessarily have this other thing. I don't think

200
00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:21,440
Speaker 1: that the things we like, at least about ourselves are

201
00:10:21,480 --> 00:10:25,280
Speaker 1: necessarily bad. Genuinely think that they're part of the awful

202
00:10:26,240 --> 00:10:34,959
Speaker 1: quilt that we're shrouded in human existence. Oh my god,

203
00:10:35,320 --> 00:10:37,120
Speaker 1: the quote do not quote. You could not have made

204
00:10:37,160 --> 00:10:39,360
Speaker 1: a more perfect made of for my outlook on life.

205
00:10:39,480 --> 00:10:43,880
Speaker 1: It involves craft, and it involves like complete cynicism. I mean,

206
00:10:44,160 --> 00:10:47,239
Speaker 1: controlling emotions is hard, but I think it's it's particularly

207
00:10:47,240 --> 00:10:50,920
Speaker 1: hard when your your work is about that. It's like

208
00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:54,319
Speaker 1: it's about harnessing it. It's the currency. Yeah, I think

209
00:10:54,360 --> 00:10:56,839
Speaker 1: that's what learning the craft of whatever you do is

210
00:10:57,160 --> 00:11:00,720
Speaker 1: doing able to not go absolutely mean to It's a

211
00:11:00,800 --> 00:11:03,240
Speaker 1: tight rope walk. I think it's also about figuring out

212
00:11:03,240 --> 00:11:05,440
Speaker 1: what the triggers are. I figured out that men with

213
00:11:05,440 --> 00:11:08,720
Speaker 1: a particular kind of handshake, we're really problematic. To the

214
00:11:08,760 --> 00:11:10,640
Speaker 1: minute I shook hands to them, I was like my

215
00:11:10,720 --> 00:11:15,640
Speaker 1: own coach, alright, steady, fill the total dick. You've only

216
00:11:15,679 --> 00:11:17,439
Speaker 1: just mear him, but I know you're going to hate him.

217
00:11:17,640 --> 00:11:21,040
Speaker 1: Don't let anything he says bother you just ignore him.

218
00:11:21,160 --> 00:11:23,720
Speaker 1: And it actually worked. I wish I could do that

219
00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:26,559
Speaker 1: with everybody, But I just got lucky realizing that men

220
00:11:26,640 --> 00:11:29,480
Speaker 1: with weird handshakes it's a particular kind of handshake. I

221
00:11:29,520 --> 00:11:32,600
Speaker 1: don't know, man instincts. I hate that instincts are often

222
00:11:32,840 --> 00:11:37,959
Speaker 1: so correct. It's an annoying thing you want to ignore sometimes. Yeah,

223
00:11:38,040 --> 00:11:39,719
Speaker 1: I think maybe that's something I had about myself is

224
00:11:39,760 --> 00:11:43,120
Speaker 1: that I do thinks against my bit of chuck. There

225
00:11:43,200 --> 00:11:45,160
Speaker 1: is a small rose in me. There is a rose

226
00:11:45,200 --> 00:11:47,160
Speaker 1: in me, and she is so smart and so wide,

227
00:11:47,240 --> 00:11:50,760
Speaker 1: so clever, has so many principles. She is strong, she's

228
00:11:50,800 --> 00:11:53,960
Speaker 1: a strong rose, but she is tiny one back somewhere

229
00:11:53,960 --> 00:11:56,520
Speaker 1: in my hair. Well, you lock her in the bathroom,

230
00:11:56,600 --> 00:11:59,480
Speaker 1: don't you. I mean we all do. With the sentient

231
00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:03,080
Speaker 1: person who lives inside us. We often just lock them

232
00:12:03,120 --> 00:12:05,400
Speaker 1: in the bathroom and don't let them come out with us.

233
00:12:05,720 --> 00:12:09,720
Speaker 1: Exactly right, everyone in the car, not you, not you,

234
00:12:10,280 --> 00:12:13,080
Speaker 1: not you smart Rose. All right, so you're gonna ruin tonight?

235
00:12:22,720 --> 00:12:27,520
Speaker 1: What question would you most like answered? Oh? My goodness,

236
00:12:28,240 --> 00:12:31,400
Speaker 1: does everyone always say, like, what happens after you die? Yeah?

237
00:12:31,400 --> 00:12:33,920
Speaker 1: Pretty much? But it is kind of I don't want

238
00:12:33,920 --> 00:12:36,360
Speaker 1: to know. I don't want to know. What question do

239
00:12:36,400 --> 00:12:39,079
Speaker 1: you most not want answered? I don't want to know

240
00:12:39,200 --> 00:12:42,160
Speaker 1: what happens when you die? Jesus, I don't. I mean,

241
00:12:42,320 --> 00:12:44,800
Speaker 1: I'm petrified of death. It's awful. I don't want it

242
00:12:44,800 --> 00:12:48,720
Speaker 1: to happen. Death is unacceptable. It is an unacceptable premise

243
00:12:48,760 --> 00:12:52,040
Speaker 1: because it's accepting the absence of something. You cannot accept

244
00:12:52,040 --> 00:12:54,000
Speaker 1: the absence of an experience. Do you know what I mean?

245
00:12:54,240 --> 00:12:56,160
Speaker 1: I can accept it's going to rain. Oh, I have

246
00:12:56,200 --> 00:12:57,959
Speaker 1: to accept the fact that I will not have the

247
00:12:58,000 --> 00:13:01,520
Speaker 1: capabilities to accept anything more like a freaking paradox, Like,

248
00:13:01,640 --> 00:13:03,840
Speaker 1: what are you talking about? I think it would be

249
00:13:03,880 --> 00:13:07,079
Speaker 1: worse to be told because I just don't think anything happens.

250
00:13:07,440 --> 00:13:09,559
Speaker 1: I think maybe something happens with the energy and your

251
00:13:09,600 --> 00:13:13,040
Speaker 1: body because I was raised by mappies. You know that

252
00:13:13,160 --> 00:13:15,480
Speaker 1: goes somewhere, but you're not like, you know, able to

253
00:13:15,480 --> 00:13:17,160
Speaker 1: do anything with it. It's just it's probably like the

254
00:13:17,240 --> 00:13:19,160
Speaker 1: end of two thousand and one space hodesty or something.

255
00:13:19,600 --> 00:13:22,160
Speaker 1: But if I knew what happened after death, I would

256
00:13:22,160 --> 00:13:24,160
Speaker 1: be such a ship human now and be like, oh,

257
00:13:24,200 --> 00:13:27,200
Speaker 1: fuck it, Oh I can kick it? And here? Oh

258
00:13:27,559 --> 00:13:30,000
Speaker 1: what am I trying to be a good person? Here? God?

259
00:13:30,000 --> 00:13:32,160
Speaker 1: Fun now whatever? I'm trying to think of things I

260
00:13:32,200 --> 00:13:35,839
Speaker 1: genuinely want to know. I would like to know where

261
00:13:35,880 --> 00:13:39,880
Speaker 1: eels come from. Do you know about eels? Tell me?

262
00:13:40,559 --> 00:13:42,880
Speaker 1: I mean, look, I didn't I read a headline. I

263
00:13:42,880 --> 00:13:46,040
Speaker 1: didn't read the whole article, but I've read something. The

264
00:13:46,120 --> 00:13:50,120
Speaker 1: rumor has it eels no one knows where they go.

265
00:13:51,280 --> 00:13:53,360
Speaker 1: They don't know where they come from. They don't know

266
00:13:53,400 --> 00:13:59,319
Speaker 1: who they read? What do you mean? What do you mean? Many?

267
00:13:59,400 --> 00:14:05,240
Speaker 1: They don't don't know where the frick these eels are going. Okay,

268
00:14:05,240 --> 00:14:10,360
Speaker 1: I'm googling this ship right now. Where do eels? It's

269
00:14:10,480 --> 00:14:17,160
Speaker 1: literally no one knows. Okay, hold on, check it out. Honestly, um, listen,

270
00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:20,640
Speaker 1: the new scientists, you're absolutely right. How are baby eels made?

271
00:14:20,760 --> 00:14:23,240
Speaker 1: We still don't know. So let me ask you this.

272
00:14:23,760 --> 00:14:26,640
Speaker 1: You don't want to know what happens with death because

273
00:14:27,120 --> 00:14:29,280
Speaker 1: you don't want desk to happen. And you're annoyed by

274
00:14:29,320 --> 00:14:32,080
Speaker 1: that that you're not annoyed by eels. You would like

275
00:14:32,320 --> 00:14:35,480
Speaker 1: to know where they come from. So are you quite

276
00:14:35,560 --> 00:14:41,120
Speaker 1: conditional about the magic that you want an answer for? Yeah? Basically,

277
00:14:41,480 --> 00:14:43,240
Speaker 1: you know what? And even in saying that I want

278
00:14:43,240 --> 00:14:46,840
Speaker 1: to know where eels come from, I don't. Honestly, you

279
00:14:46,840 --> 00:14:49,640
Speaker 1: know what. If you've got a secret to keep, they're

280
00:14:49,720 --> 00:14:51,320
Speaker 1: keeping it for a reason, like we don't need to

281
00:14:51,320 --> 00:14:54,160
Speaker 1: know everything. Look, there must be some mystery left from

282
00:14:54,160 --> 00:14:57,040
Speaker 1: this world. Embrace the unknown for God's sake. I wish

283
00:14:57,080 --> 00:15:00,640
Speaker 1: I knew what I should not want to know? Do

284
00:15:00,640 --> 00:15:02,680
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Yeah? And just example, change,

285
00:15:02,680 --> 00:15:04,480
Speaker 1: just go on, I mean, which must have been basically

286
00:15:04,840 --> 00:15:07,880
Speaker 1: everybody in the dark ages. It's like, oh my god, yeah,

287
00:15:08,040 --> 00:15:11,040
Speaker 1: what is that white light in the sky. I'll never

288
00:15:11,200 --> 00:15:14,560
Speaker 1: know what that thing at night is, the big round

289
00:15:14,760 --> 00:15:18,480
Speaker 1: silver thing, bizarre, don't need to know. It's on a

290
00:15:18,560 --> 00:15:20,920
Speaker 1: need to know basis, And honey, you are not on

291
00:15:20,960 --> 00:15:23,480
Speaker 1: the list. You are not on the list. But now, yeah,

292
00:15:23,480 --> 00:15:25,680
Speaker 1: I think that knowing what happens after you die, it

293
00:15:26,040 --> 00:15:28,200
Speaker 1: just it sucks. It sucks. I don't know that it

294
00:15:28,240 --> 00:15:31,360
Speaker 1: would make now any better, that's see anything. I don't

295
00:15:31,360 --> 00:15:33,480
Speaker 1: think it wor was. I don't think it would change

296
00:15:33,520 --> 00:15:37,280
Speaker 1: because we can't stop. I'd rather know how to stop

297
00:15:37,720 --> 00:15:41,640
Speaker 1: the dying thing. Oh god, that'd be brilliant. I would

298
00:15:41,680 --> 00:15:44,720
Speaker 1: even take knowing how to stop worrying about the dying thing.

299
00:15:45,440 --> 00:15:49,960
Speaker 1: Oh that's good, because to worry about something that is

300
00:15:50,000 --> 00:15:52,880
Speaker 1: not in your control is irrational. And that's the worst

301
00:15:52,880 --> 00:15:56,440
Speaker 1: thing about being human and being capable of understanding your

302
00:15:56,440 --> 00:16:01,240
Speaker 1: own death. We've been cursed with the ability to know

303
00:16:01,320 --> 00:16:04,080
Speaker 1: that we will one day die, and it's like it

304
00:16:04,080 --> 00:16:07,520
Speaker 1: can be a kind of galvanizing you know, energy of Well,

305
00:16:07,560 --> 00:16:11,160
Speaker 1: I was going to say I would be extremely unmotivated

306
00:16:11,480 --> 00:16:15,520
Speaker 1: if I didn't worry about death so much. That's true,

307
00:16:15,600 --> 00:16:18,920
Speaker 1: that's so frea control. Actually, you know what, that's a

308
00:16:18,960 --> 00:16:24,600
Speaker 1: really good point. Death the great motivating mentorm All right,

309
00:16:25,400 --> 00:16:33,560
Speaker 1: get off your as bed exactly. Okay, slightly more in

310
00:16:33,560 --> 00:16:35,840
Speaker 1: the here and now, but also to do with death,

311
00:16:36,000 --> 00:16:38,280
Speaker 1: what would be your last meal? Thank you so much

312
00:16:38,280 --> 00:16:41,080
Speaker 1: for asking. Yes, so welcome. I think about this often

313
00:16:41,160 --> 00:16:44,400
Speaker 1: because mainly I got really obsist with the last meals

314
00:16:44,400 --> 00:16:46,680
Speaker 1: of serial killers on death row for a while. You know,

315
00:16:46,800 --> 00:16:49,480
Speaker 1: my son was also very interested in that. It's usually

316
00:16:49,480 --> 00:16:52,120
Speaker 1: fried chicken. Like if I were on family feuds, that

317
00:16:52,160 --> 00:16:55,280
Speaker 1: would be number one that I would make everybody say,

318
00:16:55,400 --> 00:16:58,320
Speaker 1: always frey chicken, or like I think often the default meal, well,

319
00:16:58,360 --> 00:16:59,960
Speaker 1: if you don't ask, or something is like a row

320
00:17:00,000 --> 00:17:02,840
Speaker 1: speak dinner or something I think Ted Bundy like didn't

321
00:17:02,920 --> 00:17:05,439
Speaker 1: eaters or something like that. I don't know, Like I

322
00:17:05,440 --> 00:17:07,280
Speaker 1: need to stop reading about this kind of stuff. One

323
00:17:07,280 --> 00:17:11,200
Speaker 1: guy just chose one single P. That's where I mean,

324
00:17:11,240 --> 00:17:13,640
Speaker 1: that's the most annoying. How can you be annoying all

325
00:17:13,680 --> 00:17:18,160
Speaker 1: the way up? I think you can one P to wait,

326
00:17:18,280 --> 00:17:20,760
Speaker 1: do you then compare what you would like to these

327
00:17:20,800 --> 00:17:23,760
Speaker 1: serial killers and what they like and try and find. Well,

328
00:17:23,800 --> 00:17:26,600
Speaker 1: I use it as a basis. Yeah, I'm like, well,

329
00:17:26,640 --> 00:17:29,159
Speaker 1: you know, if I was really because I think you

330
00:17:29,200 --> 00:17:31,480
Speaker 1: could go with something you know, sentimental or something you

331
00:17:31,480 --> 00:17:36,480
Speaker 1: know my nan made. But honestly, Bartomy is like I

332
00:17:36,520 --> 00:17:39,560
Speaker 1: want pizza heart, but the way they did it in

333
00:17:39,600 --> 00:17:43,560
Speaker 1: the nineties where they like essentially fried the crusts and oil,

334
00:17:44,160 --> 00:17:49,080
Speaker 1: which was basically boarderline illegal, And I want to meet

335
00:17:49,119 --> 00:17:53,120
Speaker 1: love those pizza at one point five bottle of pepsi

336
00:17:53,760 --> 00:17:56,360
Speaker 1: and some chocolate moss because I think by the end

337
00:17:56,400 --> 00:17:59,080
Speaker 1: of eating that I would want to die, but be ready.

338
00:17:59,560 --> 00:18:02,119
Speaker 1: I don't want to eat like a light meal. I

339
00:18:02,160 --> 00:18:04,200
Speaker 1: don't need sushimi. I don't need to light meal before

340
00:18:04,200 --> 00:18:06,040
Speaker 1: I die. Get me to the point where I'm like,

341
00:18:06,600 --> 00:18:08,600
Speaker 1: you know what it would you all forded sort of

342
00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:11,199
Speaker 1: pass on to the next stage after this, You'd be

343
00:18:11,280 --> 00:18:13,480
Speaker 1: quite surprised how many people are like, you know, if

344
00:18:13,480 --> 00:18:16,159
Speaker 1: I knew it was my last meal, I would barely

345
00:18:16,160 --> 00:18:21,280
Speaker 1: be able to eat. And it's like, well, well, also,

346
00:18:21,440 --> 00:18:23,800
Speaker 1: what if you didn't know that it was your last meal?

347
00:18:24,040 --> 00:18:27,240
Speaker 1: Exactly if heaven existed and when you die and you

348
00:18:27,240 --> 00:18:29,080
Speaker 1: look back on the you know, sort of highlights really

349
00:18:29,080 --> 00:18:30,840
Speaker 1: your last day, and you see that you had like

350
00:18:30,880 --> 00:18:33,960
Speaker 1: a pritty sandwich or something, You're like, but no, why

351
00:18:34,000 --> 00:18:36,840
Speaker 1: did I eat that? May be so gutted. In fact,

352
00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:40,280
Speaker 1: that's why I hate eating those yogurts that are like,

353
00:18:40,400 --> 00:18:44,639
Speaker 1: you know, a billion acidophilus whatever it is, because it

354
00:18:44,720 --> 00:18:46,480
Speaker 1: makes me, first of all, it makes me feel like

355
00:18:46,480 --> 00:18:49,840
Speaker 1: there's a billion creatures in my cart. But also I

356
00:18:49,880 --> 00:18:52,639
Speaker 1: would hate the irony of doing something for my health

357
00:18:53,240 --> 00:18:55,560
Speaker 1: right before I die, because then it would just be

358
00:18:55,760 --> 00:19:00,440
Speaker 1: another lyric in Alanis Morissette song It's as a list

359
00:19:00,960 --> 00:19:04,360
Speaker 1: right before you die. I mean, it's the whole thing

360
00:19:04,359 --> 00:19:06,480
Speaker 1: of wearing a good pair of knickers because you might

361
00:19:06,520 --> 00:19:09,600
Speaker 1: get hit or something, and you tracking. I had a

362
00:19:09,640 --> 00:19:11,960
Speaker 1: stand up joke and years ago from a very genuine

363
00:19:12,000 --> 00:19:13,960
Speaker 1: fair and something that actually happened to me being on

364
00:19:14,040 --> 00:19:17,360
Speaker 1: a plane and really specifically deciding what film that you're

365
00:19:17,359 --> 00:19:20,159
Speaker 1: watching because somebody scared of flying. I don't want that

366
00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:22,399
Speaker 1: plane to go down and I die, and my mom's like,

367
00:19:23,280 --> 00:19:25,280
Speaker 1: what was the last thing she was watching? And then

368
00:19:25,280 --> 00:19:28,639
Speaker 1: it would just be like Despicable me too. It's like,

369
00:19:28,680 --> 00:19:30,600
Speaker 1: you don't want to you don't want that that to

370
00:19:30,720 --> 00:19:33,760
Speaker 1: be the final one, you know, you want to watch

371
00:19:33,800 --> 00:19:35,840
Speaker 1: something pointed and happened. I went. I was on a

372
00:19:35,840 --> 00:19:38,480
Speaker 1: flight to Japan ones and a plane like experienced engine

373
00:19:38,480 --> 00:19:40,480
Speaker 1: failure and I was like, holy sh it. I was alone.

374
00:19:40,520 --> 00:19:42,680
Speaker 1: I was like, well, this could be it. But I

375
00:19:42,720 --> 00:19:45,760
Speaker 1: didn't have any song saved my phone or anything. So

376
00:19:45,760 --> 00:19:47,920
Speaker 1: as we were landing and as I was like really

377
00:19:47,960 --> 00:19:49,800
Speaker 1: aware of the fact that this might be the last

378
00:19:49,840 --> 00:19:52,280
Speaker 1: thing that I might experience on this as well, the

379
00:19:52,480 --> 00:19:57,280
Speaker 1: song I picked to potentially die too was Pig by

380
00:19:57,359 --> 00:20:03,199
Speaker 1: Steely Dan. Like what and like what? But you know

381
00:20:03,280 --> 00:20:07,200
Speaker 1: what I stick by it, Like to Bob, it's a Bob.

382
00:20:07,280 --> 00:20:14,879
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that is fantastic. Pig Yeah, Pig, just

383
00:20:14,920 --> 00:20:18,040
Speaker 1: those harmonies and just going down. But that's a sly

384
00:20:18,160 --> 00:20:21,359
Speaker 1: one because they arguably that is a great song, even

385
00:20:21,359 --> 00:20:24,240
Speaker 1: though there's just so much reference to kind of underage

386
00:20:24,240 --> 00:20:27,240
Speaker 1: women and drugs and Stevie Dan. I just have you

387
00:20:27,320 --> 00:20:33,200
Speaker 1: know the Queveld Gold funk God love. Do you know

388
00:20:33,240 --> 00:20:35,360
Speaker 1: how hard it is to be a twenty nine year

389
00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:38,520
Speaker 1: old woman living in one and all of my favorite

390
00:20:38,520 --> 00:20:41,640
Speaker 1: films being made like the sixties and seventies. I've got

391
00:20:41,640 --> 00:20:45,680
Speaker 1: the most problematic sort of list of texts that are

392
00:20:45,680 --> 00:20:49,119
Speaker 1: my favorite others. But also we've established that you're a

393
00:20:49,200 --> 00:20:51,840
Speaker 1: six year old man in a twenty nine year old

394
00:20:51,920 --> 00:21:05,760
Speaker 1: body with a bunch of other personalities locked in the bathroom. Okay,

395
00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:12,320
Speaker 1: so what relationship, real or fictionalized defined love fear? I mean,

396
00:21:12,400 --> 00:21:15,000
Speaker 1: I I love love. It's like an interest of mine.

397
00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:17,000
Speaker 1: You know, I'm not successful in it, but I love

398
00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:19,199
Speaker 1: the concept of it and others having it one that

399
00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:21,680
Speaker 1: I can really think of, which is so silly. When

400
00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:23,520
Speaker 1: I was younger, I used to have like a celebrity

401
00:21:23,560 --> 00:21:25,560
Speaker 1: hight chart because I was quite tall and I felt

402
00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:27,919
Speaker 1: really insecure about how tall I was. So I decided

403
00:21:27,960 --> 00:21:30,080
Speaker 1: to make a chart in my school diary of all

404
00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:32,960
Speaker 1: my favorite celebrities, how tall they were, in how many's

405
00:21:33,000 --> 00:21:36,240
Speaker 1: intermedis tight difference they had to me. And being now

406
00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:40,040
Speaker 1: in the business of show business. Sometimes I do meet

407
00:21:40,080 --> 00:21:43,240
Speaker 1: people who were probably on that chart and I tell

408
00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:46,080
Speaker 1: them about it, and they always take it not crazy well,

409
00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:47,960
Speaker 1: and you know, I kind of mentioned their ship. I

410
00:21:47,960 --> 00:21:50,600
Speaker 1: always got abs with couples where the woman was taller

411
00:21:50,640 --> 00:21:53,120
Speaker 1: than the man, like Nicole Kipman and Tom Cruise were

412
00:21:53,119 --> 00:21:57,880
Speaker 1: exactly one of my favorite ones and Bancroft in mel Brooks. Yeah,

413
00:21:57,880 --> 00:21:59,879
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. Then I just started going down this

414
00:22:00,040 --> 00:22:02,439
Speaker 1: rabbit whole recently of interviews with them both and when

415
00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:04,680
Speaker 1: they would work together and how they met, and they

416
00:22:04,800 --> 00:22:08,160
Speaker 1: just they have like this this crazy love. I mean,

417
00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:10,200
Speaker 1: I love actors and I love film, and I love

418
00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:13,040
Speaker 1: the whole kind of weird I don't know universe of

419
00:22:13,280 --> 00:22:15,880
Speaker 1: sometimes when they date and marry each other. But it's

420
00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:18,320
Speaker 1: so nice when you see like two very talented people

421
00:22:18,359 --> 00:22:20,520
Speaker 1: and you're like, oh my god, and you guys totally

422
00:22:20,720 --> 00:22:22,640
Speaker 1: get on and you love each other and you're obsessed

423
00:22:22,640 --> 00:22:25,480
Speaker 1: with each other and you make each other laugh. And yeah,

424
00:22:25,520 --> 00:22:27,440
Speaker 1: I just I really love their relationship and that the

425
00:22:27,520 --> 00:22:30,439
Speaker 1: fact that she's so much sure than you know, I agree,

426
00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:32,600
Speaker 1: And I think it's because you see that they loved

427
00:22:32,600 --> 00:22:37,000
Speaker 1: each other so much that walked in the room before

428
00:22:37,280 --> 00:22:41,320
Speaker 1: anything else totally. And also because he's so confident and

429
00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:44,760
Speaker 1: great and so not insecure and so not like quite

430
00:22:44,800 --> 00:22:50,160
Speaker 1: a lot of other short actors whom I've worked with. Well,

431
00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:52,879
Speaker 1: it's a thing, isn't it. We've come so far. I

432
00:22:52,920 --> 00:22:55,720
Speaker 1: live in such a progressive world compared to my mom

433
00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:58,480
Speaker 1: and my grandmother and all other generations, and you go

434
00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:02,399
Speaker 1: it is still it's made of dates on shure and

435
00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:07,280
Speaker 1: it's absolutely bizarre. It's so weird. And also, let me

436
00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:08,720
Speaker 1: tell you, I don't know if this has happened to

437
00:23:08,760 --> 00:23:11,520
Speaker 1: you yet as an actor, but I've had more ditches

438
00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:15,200
Speaker 1: doug for me then I've had men put on boxes,

439
00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:19,800
Speaker 1: Oh my god. And it's kind of like, well, can

440
00:23:19,840 --> 00:23:22,640
Speaker 1: we do rock paper scissors for like, who either goes

441
00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:25,640
Speaker 1: on the box or goes on the fucking ditch, because frankly,

442
00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:29,560
Speaker 1: it doesn't feel equable, and you're still shorter than me exactly,

443
00:23:29,840 --> 00:23:32,919
Speaker 1: someone's putting on heels here. But I've found it's so

444
00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:37,520
Speaker 1: not actors or men being short. It's the overcompensation for

445
00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:39,639
Speaker 1: what it is they think they're missing. Whereas in the

446
00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:41,919
Speaker 1: same way that mel brooks he was just happy in

447
00:23:42,040 --> 00:23:45,560
Speaker 1: himself and just with his super heart, amazing, beautiful, talented,

448
00:23:45,600 --> 00:23:49,879
Speaker 1: clever wife, there wasn't anything to compensate for, exactly. And

449
00:23:49,880 --> 00:23:53,480
Speaker 1: I think also particularly in you know, hetero sexual relationships,

450
00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:57,880
Speaker 1: seeing absolute comfort and the other person's amazing nous with

451
00:23:57,960 --> 00:24:01,920
Speaker 1: no hint of jel, I see your or competitiveness of

452
00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:06,120
Speaker 1: just being like stoked to be with someone just incredible,

453
00:24:06,160 --> 00:24:09,080
Speaker 1: and it's like, that's really hard to find, I think,

454
00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:12,280
Speaker 1: particularly for women, you know, like women who just are

455
00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:16,400
Speaker 1: fucking awesome and shine in the world. I mean, maybe

456
00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:17,760
Speaker 1: I'm being a bit too better. I think there are

457
00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:19,879
Speaker 1: many wonderful couples out there, but I do find it

458
00:24:20,040 --> 00:24:23,920
Speaker 1: heartbreaking when really great women can't find cool people. It's

459
00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:26,800
Speaker 1: all for I know. I just got a text message

460
00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:29,240
Speaker 1: from someone today, can can you find me a boyfriend?

461
00:24:29,720 --> 00:24:32,080
Speaker 1: And it was just like, she's so amazing. I was like,

462
00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:34,920
Speaker 1: what my what, what's going on? What is going on?

463
00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:38,040
Speaker 1: And then also the other awful side of that was

464
00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:41,119
Speaker 1: I was then thinking about men that I knew, and

465
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:44,200
Speaker 1: oddly the way that they've been dealing with their single

466
00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:47,680
Speaker 1: nous is to not kind of do any self excavation,

467
00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:50,119
Speaker 1: but rather to just shag a lot of women. And

468
00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:51,919
Speaker 1: they're not people that I would want to set my

469
00:24:51,960 --> 00:24:54,119
Speaker 1: mate up with anyway, because they just I was like,

470
00:24:54,160 --> 00:24:56,320
Speaker 1: there's no one I know who's worthy. And she's like,

471
00:24:56,359 --> 00:24:57,960
Speaker 1: are you talking about X, Y and Z. And I

472
00:24:58,000 --> 00:24:59,760
Speaker 1: was like yes, and she was like they're great and

473
00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:02,000
Speaker 1: I was like, well, I thought so until I saw

474
00:25:02,119 --> 00:25:05,320
Speaker 1: how they behave with the women that they're sleeping with. Yeah,

475
00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:07,680
Speaker 1: do you know how much self respect as a cock block?

476
00:25:08,680 --> 00:25:12,280
Speaker 1: It's so horrible. It's like it's so difficult. I'm single.

477
00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:15,240
Speaker 1: I've been single for quite a few years intermittently. And

478
00:25:15,280 --> 00:25:17,920
Speaker 1: the older I gets. So it's like when I say

479
00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:19,400
Speaker 1: the older I get, I'm like, nearly, you know, I'm

480
00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:21,440
Speaker 1: turning thirty. Next years, I'm like, I've no nothing. I go,

481
00:25:21,760 --> 00:25:23,359
Speaker 1: and you know, in ten years, I'll look back at myself, go,

482
00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:25,520
Speaker 1: what the hell was I thinking? But it's so funny,

483
00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:28,399
Speaker 1: Like if I was my early twenties, there are situations

484
00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:31,360
Speaker 1: I've been I'd totally act differently. But now I'm like,

485
00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:35,080
Speaker 1: you're better than this, right, you aren't better than this,

486
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:37,800
Speaker 1: which means you will not have sex right now. You

487
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:40,520
Speaker 1: need to accept that. You know you're better than this,

488
00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:42,920
Speaker 1: but you are not going to have sex, and you're

489
00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:45,800
Speaker 1: going to own that. You've gotta live with that, Okay,

490
00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:48,520
Speaker 1: all right. I feel like you've got quite a few

491
00:25:48,560 --> 00:25:51,400
Speaker 1: different people who keep locked in the bathroom. I mean,

492
00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:53,719
Speaker 1: it's a party, it's an on suite, and they just

493
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:56,439
Speaker 1: let them out, to let them out to brate you,

494
00:25:56,480 --> 00:25:58,240
Speaker 1: and then shove them back into that you can go

495
00:25:58,320 --> 00:26:01,960
Speaker 1: up by yourself and make terrible decision. I mean, that's

496
00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:07,480
Speaker 1: like them. You're only twenty nine. I mean, seriously, this

497
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:10,720
Speaker 1: is the fun bit. And this sounds so patronizing, you

498
00:26:10,880 --> 00:26:14,000
Speaker 1: saying that like having self respect is a cock block.

499
00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:18,760
Speaker 1: That's awesome. That is so awesome. And I'm telling you

500
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:20,840
Speaker 1: there is some dude who is going to think that

501
00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:24,280
Speaker 1: is absolutely brilliant. And you know what, he might be

502
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:28,360
Speaker 1: listening right now. My god, can you believe that? And

503
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:33,359
Speaker 1: how did you meet? Well? This podcast and I just

504
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:36,199
Speaker 1: felt it and I just needed to find it. The

505
00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:37,800
Speaker 1: twist is that I was the one who taxted you

506
00:26:37,840 --> 00:26:44,359
Speaker 1: asking for a boyfriend. Oh God Christ. The second season

507
00:26:44,400 --> 00:26:47,480
Speaker 1: of star Struck that I'm very happy to be part of,

508
00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:55,879
Speaker 1: comes out in February. Mini Questions is hosted and written

509
00:26:55,920 --> 00:27:02,560
Speaker 1: by Me Mini Driver, Supervising producer Aaron Kaufman, Producer Morgan Lavoy,

510
00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:09,760
Speaker 1: Research assistant Marissa Brown. Original music Sorry Baby by Minni Driver,

511
00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 1: Additional music by Aaron Kaufman. Executive produced by Me Minni Driver.

512
00:27:16,680 --> 00:27:21,680
Speaker 1: Special thanks to Jim Nikolay, Will Pearson, Addison, No Day,

513
00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:27,800
Speaker 1: Lisa Castella, and Annicke Oppenheim At w kPr de La Pescador,

514
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:32,880
Speaker 1: Kate Driver and Jason Weinberg, and for constantly solicited tech

515
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:34,560
Speaker 1: support Henry Driver,