WEBVTT - Best of TMI Part 2

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<v Speaker 1>Piece of the planet.

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<v Speaker 2>Y'allamagine the God here. And as we come closer to

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<v Speaker 2>closing out this year, I just want to say thank

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<v Speaker 2>you for tuning into the Black Effect Podcast Network. There

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<v Speaker 2>have been so many great moments over the past year.

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<v Speaker 2>Take a listen to some of those captivating moments in

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<v Speaker 2>this special best of episode.

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<v Speaker 3>Mallory and the Ship Boy my Son in general. We

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<v Speaker 3>are your host of Tami.

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<v Speaker 1>Tamika and my Son's Information, Truth, motivation and inspiration name.

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<v Speaker 4>New Energy.

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<v Speaker 1>Dope.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, well, let's get into our guest, good conversation,

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<v Speaker 3>lots to learn.

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<v Speaker 4>Check it out. Our friends have joined us again too. Well.

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<v Speaker 3>First of all, our sister Keisha ya coach Jesse has

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<v Speaker 3>been with us a number of times, and so it's

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<v Speaker 3>really good to have y'all on our show because y'all

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<v Speaker 3>been doing everybody else's show to talk about you know,

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<v Speaker 3>what has recently took uh what recently took place as

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<v Speaker 3>a family that I think is incredible, beautiful, amazing, And

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<v Speaker 3>I see.

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<v Speaker 4>Keisha, Lakeisha, That's.

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<v Speaker 3>How it has already just you know, helped you to

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<v Speaker 3>walk into your advocacy, which I knew was going to

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<v Speaker 3>happen for you at some point and it's beautiful to

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<v Speaker 3>watch that. Now.

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<v Speaker 4>So first of all, let me just introduce you all properly.

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<v Speaker 3>Lakeisha Randolph is now a black She is the leader

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<v Speaker 3>of the Black Fertility Matters community.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, let's get that straight.

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<v Speaker 3>So I feel an organization on the way, something big

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<v Speaker 3>buildings and a lot of things.

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<v Speaker 4>I can see it in the future.

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<v Speaker 3>And she Keisha has had to have IVF has also

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<v Speaker 3>now an egg a donor. You are have received eggs.

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<v Speaker 3>So I know Coach Jesse's gonna get all of this

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<v Speaker 3>language clearness.

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<v Speaker 5>It's okay, we all learning. I'm learning.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm learning all the things.

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<v Speaker 3>And then Coach Jesse health AFT activists and founder of

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<v Speaker 3>the detox now but she's also our big sister that

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<v Speaker 3>keeps us healthy, keeps us mentally stable.

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<v Speaker 4>And we don't listen like we should, but we appreciate you.

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<v Speaker 3>Coach Jesse, Love you all. Thank y'all so much for

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<v Speaker 3>joining the show today. And I think it would be

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<v Speaker 3>great for us to hear from you, Keisha about that story,

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<v Speaker 3>what took place and how all these other incredible women

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<v Speaker 3>got involved.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, thank you so much for having me.

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<v Speaker 6>Yes, I am Lakeisha Laurel or Latisha Randolph or Keisha.

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<v Speaker 6>I am the founder of a support group called Black

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<v Speaker 6>Fertility Matters. I wanted to start the support group for

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<v Speaker 6>women who have been on the road and who have

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<v Speaker 6>been dealing with infertility for as long as I have.

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<v Speaker 6>I've been dealing with infertility for over twenty five year

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<v Speaker 6>years I have. I've had two failed IVF cycles. I'm

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<v Speaker 6>currently on the show Love and Hip Hop Atlanta season eleven,

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<v Speaker 6>about to be season twelve, telling my story alongside of

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<v Speaker 6>my sister Yandy Smith, who volunteer to donate her eggs

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<v Speaker 6>to me.

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<v Speaker 5>So I am I am.

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<v Speaker 4>The receiver, she is the donor.

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<v Speaker 5>Yandy Smith is the donor.

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<v Speaker 6>I am receiving her eggs to conceive have my own child.

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<v Speaker 6>So we're on our journey to motherhood. I wanted to

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<v Speaker 6>provide a support group for women who may.

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<v Speaker 5>Feel ashamed, guilty, depressed, anxiety, who go through an emotional

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<v Speaker 5>roller coaster dealing with IVA and infertility soul. This is

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<v Speaker 5>where my.

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<v Speaker 6>Sister, alongside with my sister Yandy Smith, introduced me to

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<v Speaker 6>Coach Jefse who is our health and wellness coach. I've

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<v Speaker 6>also detoked with her many years ago, and Coach Jesse

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<v Speaker 6>introduced me and ye Be who to our fertilities doctor,

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<v Speaker 6>which is doctor Daniel Lane. Unfortunately she had to go,

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<v Speaker 6>but she is an amazing fertilities that have been working

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<v Speaker 6>with me and Yandy on our journey or my journey

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<v Speaker 6>to motherhood.

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<v Speaker 5>So that's a little bit about our story.

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<v Speaker 6>We wanted to uh and Coach Jesse and doctor Lane

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<v Speaker 6>wanted to also join the Black Fertility Matter to help educate,

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<v Speaker 6>support and provide resources for the black and brown community.

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<v Speaker 6>I just felt like I wanted to continue to tell

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<v Speaker 6>my story.

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<v Speaker 5>I didn't know where to start.

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<v Speaker 6>I reached out to LaToya Bond, Yandy Smith, Coach Jessee,

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<v Speaker 6>doctor Lane, and said, listen, I need to tell my

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<v Speaker 6>story because it's not only gonna help me. It was

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<v Speaker 6>a time where I couldn't even talk this much about

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<v Speaker 6>my process what's happening without me crying. So now for

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<v Speaker 6>me to be able to stand up here and say

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<v Speaker 6>I'm providing a support room for myself and other women

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<v Speaker 6>who are going down.

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<v Speaker 5>This journey, it's amazing. It's amazing.

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<v Speaker 6>I just thank you guys for telling my story and

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<v Speaker 6>having Coach Jesse, doctor Lane, and Nandy Smith joining the

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<v Speaker 6>Black Fertility Matters team.

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<v Speaker 1>Well that's powerful. Well how long have you been trying

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<v Speaker 1>to conceive a child.

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<v Speaker 6>So I've been literally trying to conceive a child for

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<v Speaker 6>over twenty five years. I've been dealing with fibroids and demetriosis,

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<v Speaker 6>and then I went to a fertilities who you know.

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<v Speaker 6>My gyn said, okay, you cannot conceive due to age.

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<v Speaker 6>Once you're over forty, your egg count becomes low. And

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<v Speaker 6>then because I have fibroids and in demetriosis makes my

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<v Speaker 6>fertility even harder. So I've been dealing with infertility for

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<v Speaker 6>over twenty five years, and now I know long that

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<v Speaker 6>can conceive healthy embryos.

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<v Speaker 3>Coach Jesse, you know our audience, our listeners are no

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<v Speaker 3>stranger to your story. But I think in the context

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<v Speaker 3>of what Lakeisha has been dealing with, it would be

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<v Speaker 3>great to be reminded of your story and how you

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<v Speaker 3>got into this work, and then if you could give

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<v Speaker 3>us some insight on you know, what was the process,

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<v Speaker 3>what was your planning process to support Lakisha?

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, you know, first of all, Lakeisha, she rat.

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<v Speaker 8>She just My heart went out to her when I

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<v Speaker 8>learned to her story because I battled in fertility that

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<v Speaker 8>was paused by five roids.

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<v Speaker 7>I battled bibras for thirteen years and infratility pause it's

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<v Speaker 7>one news.

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<v Speaker 8>And that first episode of what I called My Million

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<v Speaker 8>Dollar Baby Journey, where I had by BYBX cycles, the

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<v Speaker 8>in vitual fertilization cycles that Keisha was mentioning, and the

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<v Speaker 8>first one I had miscarriage.

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<v Speaker 7>Three failed IVF cycles after that, and even after we

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<v Speaker 7>did conceive my daughter on the F cycle had major

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<v Speaker 7>life threatening situations. Whatever even told.

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<v Speaker 8>Me actually because of the terminating my intet twenty one

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<v Speaker 8>running more weeks because in the journey I was either

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<v Speaker 8>having fibrant turvey or ideas because the fibrides kept coming back,

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<v Speaker 8>and here they were now back.

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<v Speaker 7>And this literally in the Life of My.

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<v Speaker 8>Baby where they said that red from a hostile environment

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<v Speaker 8>at twenty Now, thank god my journey, even though my

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<v Speaker 8>night stopped coming, nothing but follow on clear day, I.

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<v Speaker 7>Do have my miracle baby.

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<v Speaker 3>I guess in our last few shows, I don't know

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<v Speaker 3>if we even notice it, but we've been talking about

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<v Speaker 3>health a lot. I realize, especially with all this extra weight,

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<v Speaker 3>that a lot of people act like they don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>But I have a few friends, including my dear friend Peaches,

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<v Speaker 3>that does not let me forget, because she will send

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<v Speaker 3>me a picture of myself out somewhere in a minute

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<v Speaker 3>and be like, you see this circling the fat in

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<v Speaker 3>my cheeks, my name, and it's okay because I do.

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<v Speaker 3>We do that for one another. It's not like she's

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<v Speaker 3>trying to like disrespect me or anything or shame me,

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<v Speaker 3>but she knows what I want to look like. And

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<v Speaker 3>I realized that I didn't have to be in the

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<v Speaker 3>situation that I'm in the backfat this and that all

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<v Speaker 3>of these things happened to me because I thought that

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<v Speaker 3>I could just still.

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<v Speaker 4>I thought I was still thirty. I don't know what

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<v Speaker 4>I thought, but it's not. It isn't so ill.

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<v Speaker 3>And what I realized is working out by itself is

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<v Speaker 3>not enough. Like you do have to actually take care

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<v Speaker 3>of your inside. I never knew this whole theory of

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<v Speaker 3>gut health.

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<v Speaker 4>I never heard that before in my life.

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<v Speaker 3>I knew your stomach, but then when I hear people

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<v Speaker 3>talking about how much is happening in your gut, I'm like, Wow,

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<v Speaker 3>there's so many concepts that I can tell you right now.

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<v Speaker 4>My family members that live in.

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<v Speaker 3>Alabama, North Carolina, no wherever we talking about no gut.

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<v Speaker 4>Health like at all. We did these things.

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<v Speaker 3>It was it was can you try that good piece

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<v Speaker 3>of pork chop and tear it up? Now they don't

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<v Speaker 3>live like that anymore because so many people have died

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<v Speaker 3>from art disease and whatever, and over time people have

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<v Speaker 3>become introduced to these things. But that wasn't the thing

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<v Speaker 3>we were talking about today though. Today we get an

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<v Speaker 3>opportunity to talk to doctor Robert Singleton, the second, who

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<v Speaker 3>is an anesthesiology physician, and he also is very big

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<v Speaker 3>on the internet talking about health, and you know, I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know if enough of us, Like I was talking

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<v Speaker 3>to someone recently and they were like, oh, certain things

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<v Speaker 3>never show up on my page. It's also what you

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<v Speaker 3>follow like and what you're interested in. And when I

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<v Speaker 3>came across the algorithm, when I came across doctor Singleton,

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<v Speaker 3>obviously we were introduced to him by LaToya Bonn and

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<v Speaker 3>our team and they were like, hey, you got to

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<v Speaker 3>check this guy out. It's some real robust discussion and

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<v Speaker 3>rich discussion going on on his social media about health

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<v Speaker 3>in general.

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<v Speaker 4>And I'm grateful that.

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<v Speaker 3>He's taken some time today Scrubs and all to come

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<v Speaker 3>on and be a guest on TMI to talk about

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<v Speaker 3>our health and help us get straight on like what

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<v Speaker 3>we posed to be doing to get health in our community.

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<v Speaker 1>Wes how you doing, doctor, and how you doing today?

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<v Speaker 9>I'm doing great, great, glad to be here, and I'm

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<v Speaker 9>glad that we're talking about health because it's so important.

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<v Speaker 9>Like you said, there's so many different health conditions that

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<v Speaker 9>affect us as black people disproportionately, and so it's important

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<v Speaker 9>that we have conversations like this to help ourselves, to

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<v Speaker 9>help our communities.

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<v Speaker 4>Absolutely.

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<v Speaker 9>Let me.

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<v Speaker 3>Let me give a few points about how legendary you are.

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<v Speaker 3>You are a board certified anesthesiologist in Chicago.

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<v Speaker 4>You went to Howard University.

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<v Speaker 3>We have Howard University nutcases that follow us that they

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<v Speaker 3>don't pull, they do not play about the ahu you know. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>but you are a medical school grad from Howard and

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<v Speaker 3>then also the ambassador for the Anesthesia Patient Safety Foundation.

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<v Speaker 3>This is a very very serious topic for me, and

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<v Speaker 3>I'll tell you why in the second. And since completing

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<v Speaker 3>your anesthesiology training in twenty sixteen, you've been committed to

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<v Speaker 3>serve it as an advocate for patients and their families,

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<v Speaker 3>practicing evidence based medicine and insurance patience safety. And I'll

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<v Speaker 3>tell you why this topic is so sensitive for me

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<v Speaker 3>around anesthesiology. My mother in twenty twenty, prior to twenty

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<v Speaker 3>twenty March of twenty twenty, she had been told she

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<v Speaker 3>has an issue with her esophagus where it closes and

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<v Speaker 3>she has.

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<v Speaker 4>To have it stretched, maybe years or so.

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<v Speaker 3>So this is something that we believe pretty much know

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<v Speaker 3>that it became her new reality after working at near

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<v Speaker 3>right next door to the World Trade Center during nine eleven.

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<v Speaker 3>So my mom, you know, she was there and the

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<v Speaker 3>fumes and whatnot, and then her esophagus changed as a

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<v Speaker 3>result of the pollution that so many people down there

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<v Speaker 3>faced and what have you. She lived, thank god, but

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<v Speaker 3>she did start to struggle with this thing.

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<v Speaker 4>The last time that she.

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<v Speaker 3>Was getting before this twenty twenty incident, the last time

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<v Speaker 3>she was getting her esophagus stretched, the doctor told her

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<v Speaker 3>that they did not like the way that she responded

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<v Speaker 3>to the anesthesia. They said that when it was time

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<v Speaker 3>for her to wake up, she was having a major difficulty.

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<v Speaker 3>They did not like the way she rebounded, and they

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<v Speaker 3>felt uncomfortable about it. However, with my mother, her situation

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<v Speaker 3>is either you get the stretching or go into complete

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<v Speaker 3>liquid dye, and even then she can choke and die.

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<v Speaker 3>So she doesn't have a lot of options, right, So

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<v Speaker 3>they did the surgery in March of twenty twenty, and

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<v Speaker 3>sure enough, my mother had a stroke and lost the

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<v Speaker 3>ability on her left side. My mother was a dance

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<v Speaker 3>instructor for a number of dance classes in her community.

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<v Speaker 4>You cannot be her in my line on the dance.

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<v Speaker 1>You got vible videos.

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<v Speaker 3>And every eighty million people watching her videos of her

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<v Speaker 3>line dance instructing and all of that.

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<v Speaker 4>And now she's in a wheelchair.

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<v Speaker 3>She moves around a lot better, you know, over to

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<v Speaker 3>time things have gotten better, but she does not have

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<v Speaker 3>the ability to do much with her left side and

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<v Speaker 3>she needs twenty four hour care.

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<v Speaker 4>So anesthesia is.

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<v Speaker 3>A big topic of a place of pain for us

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<v Speaker 3>when we even start talking about it, And ironically it

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<v Speaker 3>is coming up on the timel she's beginning to choke

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<v Speaker 3>again because in twenty twenty, once they did get through

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<v Speaker 3>the surgery, she's starting to have the same issues again,

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<v Speaker 3>and here were people.

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<v Speaker 4>Having to try to figure out what to do.

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<v Speaker 3>So, just for the personal reference, this topic is you

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<v Speaker 3>know you and what you do is very sensitive to me.

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<v Speaker 3>But again, thank you so much for joining us, and

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<v Speaker 3>we just want to hear on sure how you got

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<v Speaker 3>into this in the first place.

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, so, I've always wanted to be a doctor. I

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<v Speaker 9>just didn't know what type. I really liked surgery, but

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<v Speaker 9>anesthesia is one of those fields that doesn't get a

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<v Speaker 9>lot of exposure or it's not as known as the

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<v Speaker 9>other fields. Everybody knows about pediatricians and cardiologists, but anesthesia

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<v Speaker 9>is a really behind the scenes type of medicine and

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<v Speaker 9>for most of the time you don't really you know,

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<v Speaker 9>see or hear much about anesthesia because for most of

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<v Speaker 9>the procedures that we do, everything goes smoothly. But we

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<v Speaker 9>do have those in instances where there are emergencies, where

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<v Speaker 9>there are traumas, where there are you know, incidences of

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<v Speaker 9>cardiovasculic collapse, difficulty breathing, or we have to step in,

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<v Speaker 9>and those are very critical moments where every moment matters.

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<v Speaker 9>We saw that a lot with COVID and just even today,

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<v Speaker 9>you know, it's essential that patients have anesthesia doctors to

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<v Speaker 9>make sure that their procedures are safe. And so I

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<v Speaker 9>gravitated towards anesthesia. I've been doing this practicing independently since

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<v Speaker 9>twenty sixteen. Absolutely love it. I can't see myself. I

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<v Speaker 9>could not see myself doing any other any other job.

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<v Speaker 1>That's amazing. I just I would like to know, like

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<v Speaker 1>being an anesthe geologist, being in the field of medicine,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you think are the biggest things that affect

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<v Speaker 1>Black people that you can think of?

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, so we have, like I said earlier, a lot

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<v Speaker 9>of unique diseases and a lot of issues that affect

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<v Speaker 9>does disproportionately. One big one and today's the last day

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<v Speaker 9>of heart health minds, But one big one is as

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<v Speaker 9>far as cardiovascular disease, our people are between thirty and

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<v Speaker 9>fifty four percent more likely to die of a cardiovascular

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<v Speaker 9>disease compared to our non Hispanic white counterparts. We die

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<v Speaker 9>of heart attacks more, we have higher rates of obesity,

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<v Speaker 9>higher rates of diabetes, and there's a lot of different

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<v Speaker 9>reasons for that. But it's important that we have conversations

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<v Speaker 9>like this, we spread reliable health information and take some

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<v Speaker 9>steps to reverse that.

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<v Speaker 3>Tell me the connection, because you know we can dispel

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<v Speaker 3>the myth right now. You're anesthesiologists, people are like you

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<v Speaker 3>just put the needle in on and knock me out,

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<v Speaker 3>Like what do what is your role or how do

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<v Speaker 3>you even know about all these other medical things because

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<v Speaker 3>people would think that that's not your area.

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, so that's a good question. You know, We as

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<v Speaker 9>anesthesia doctors are periodical positions, and so whenever a patient

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<v Speaker 9>is before me, I have to make sure that they're

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<v Speaker 9>optimized respiratory wise, cardiovascular wise, that all their organ systems

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<v Speaker 9>are are ready to undergo the stress of surgery and anesthesia,

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<v Speaker 9>and so I have to I have to manage diabetes.

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<v Speaker 9>I have to tailor each anesthetic to each patient because

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<v Speaker 9>it is not a one size fits all thing. I

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<v Speaker 9>desire and tailor my anesthetic to each patient's need. And

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<v Speaker 9>the biggest thing, you know, if there's there's no surgery

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<v Speaker 9>without anesthesia, and so we it's essential that we're there

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<v Speaker 9>to make sure that patients are are still, that they

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<v Speaker 9>don't have pain and they can go through having a

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<v Speaker 9>surgical procedure.

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<v Speaker 1>Mm hmmm. So I asked you about you know, what

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<v Speaker 1>are the things that affect us? What do you think

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<v Speaker 1>causes those things? It is our personal lifestyle choices. Is

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<v Speaker 1>it that we're forced to eat certain foods and what

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<v Speaker 1>do you think are the biggest things that causes those

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<v Speaker 1>situations that we have.

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<v Speaker 9>You know, that's it's it's multi factorial. There's a lot

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<v Speaker 9>of different things. Uh. Some of it is cultural, you know,

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<v Speaker 9>the kind of foods that we gravitate towards as a culture.

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<v Speaker 9>A lot of us don't have health clubs and our

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<v Speaker 9>neighborhood we don't have neighborhoods that are safe enough, safe

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<v Speaker 9>enough for us to go on walks and jogs. Uh,

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<v Speaker 9>many of our people living uh, food deserts where you

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<v Speaker 9>don't have access to whole foods or you know, organic

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<v Speaker 9>healthy produce that's at a reasonable price. And so there's

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<v Speaker 9>things that you know, within our society are keeping us

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<v Speaker 9>from being healthy and also just lack of information that's

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<v Speaker 9>keeping us from changing our habits in the way that

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<v Speaker 9>we live.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's environ mental racism is what we call it.

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<v Speaker 3>And you know, and I mean and food desert's a

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<v Speaker 3>real thing. When we first arrived in Louisville, Kentucky, where

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<v Speaker 3>we were fighting for Breonna Taylor, we lived there for

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<v Speaker 3>three months. During that time, we learned how the people

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<v Speaker 3>were suffering, Like one supermarket in the entire area where

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<v Speaker 3>all these hundreds of thousands of people lived one supermarket

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<v Speaker 3>did not.

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<v Speaker 4>I went in there one time. The fruit was terrible.

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<v Speaker 3>It wasn't even a good supermarket, right, And so we

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<v Speaker 3>found out that we had to, you know, start bringing

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<v Speaker 3>fresh produce just to deliver to the community to even

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<v Speaker 3>have a conversation. And it's so important for people to

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<v Speaker 3>understand that between our activism, your work as a doctor,

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<v Speaker 3>it all connects, because you can't even have a conversation

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<v Speaker 3>with somebody about fighting for Breonna Taylor while they're hungry.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like, you know, hey, I hear you terrible what

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<v Speaker 3>happened to that system? I'm hungry, but I'm hungry and

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<v Speaker 3>maybe after you feed me then I can meet you

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<v Speaker 3>on the battlefield. So I hear you, you know talking

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<v Speaker 3>about Well, first of all, tell us the conditions.

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<v Speaker 4>You said, it's.

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<v Speaker 3>Heart Health Month, and I know that applies to all

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<v Speaker 3>of us as black people and other races. But what

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<v Speaker 3>would you say at the top two issues?

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe there's more for men and women that are.

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<v Speaker 3>Avoidable, like things that you know, if we just don't

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<v Speaker 3>do this, more than likely we will not have these issues.

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, So there's there's three major issues, and I mean

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<v Speaker 9>like you said, there's a lot of issues that we

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<v Speaker 9>could talk about, including high cholesterol all and but the

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<v Speaker 9>big three would have to be obesity, high blood pressure,

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<v Speaker 9>and diabetes. City high blood pressure and diabetes. Those are

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<v Speaker 9>three issues that affect us as black people more and

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<v Speaker 9>for the most part, they are somewhat reversible, treatable, preventable

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<v Speaker 9>if we are if we just do some common sense

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<v Speaker 9>things to improve them and educate ourselves.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, my thought of the day today is around

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<v Speaker 3>this idea of sobriety. You know, I am really I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know if I want to say proud of me,

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<v Speaker 3>because I don't even know. I don't I really don't

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<v Speaker 3>have all of the lexicon. I'm literally developing it. Five

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<v Speaker 3>years later, I'm writing my first real speech about my

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<v Speaker 3>process to get sober and what I went through and

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<v Speaker 3>how I initially got addicted and what was at one

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<v Speaker 3>point something that I didn't even know was a part

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<v Speaker 3>of addiction. And I had no idea the first time

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<v Speaker 3>I swallowed a pill that it was a part of

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<v Speaker 3>an addiction thing. And I certainly didn't understand the political

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<v Speaker 3>nature of addiction and that there's actual forces working towards

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<v Speaker 3>like I didn't think any of that. I didn't know

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<v Speaker 3>there was a story and a situation out there in

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<v Speaker 3>the world that can explain why we're addicted to these pills.

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<v Speaker 4>So I didn't know. I didn't know so many other

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<v Speaker 4>people was on it.

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<v Speaker 3>But now that I'm more educated and now that I'm

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<v Speaker 3>more confident, right now that I've been able to kick

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<v Speaker 3>shame and the ass about this particular issue and other

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<v Speaker 3>things like you know what I'm saying. One thing i

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<v Speaker 3>will say is one of the things that I'm beginning

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<v Speaker 3>to realize that certain parts of my story I'm not

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<v Speaker 3>able to tell because other people's lives will be impacted.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm talking about things from childhood all the way

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<v Speaker 3>to now. You don't tell or you don't want to

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<v Speaker 3>disrespect or embarrass other people, even your family members and

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<v Speaker 3>your friends. You want to be mindful, and it's very

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<v Speaker 3>important that when we start talking about telling our stories,

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<v Speaker 3>which people are entitled to, that that we're very careful

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<v Speaker 3>to know that your time is not everybody else's time.

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<v Speaker 3>And because I have compassion for that, I'm careful and mindful.

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<v Speaker 3>But there's lots of components of my life that there

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<v Speaker 3>are people in the world who believe because they know

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<v Speaker 3>that I did something, or I was a place, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>a strip club, slept with this guy, did this thing

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<v Speaker 3>or whatever.

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<v Speaker 4>They believe that they're.

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<v Speaker 3>Holding something that will just tear me to shreds. And

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<v Speaker 3>of course, when the truth about your life and things

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<v Speaker 3>come out, it can hurt you to hear people's opinions

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<v Speaker 3>and to lose opportunities, or to have people don't trust

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<v Speaker 3>you or don't believe you or don't believe in you,

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<v Speaker 3>of course, but I've come to know that ripping the

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<v Speaker 3>band aid off of situations, problems, issues that you've been

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<v Speaker 3>through can oftentimes provide you with freedom, freedom to walk

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<v Speaker 3>forward and deal with whatever it is and kick it

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<v Speaker 3>up under your feet. Right, so, I have disassociated myself

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<v Speaker 3>with the shame of my story around addiction.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't have it anymore. I've thrown it out.

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<v Speaker 3>It's taking years to get there, but I think five

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<v Speaker 3>years of sobriety is a time when you could actually

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<v Speaker 3>tell the full story and not worry about who feel

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<v Speaker 3>Who know, who was there, who saw you when you

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<v Speaker 3>was nodding out, who to help you get the drugs,

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<v Speaker 3>who didn't, who did this?

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<v Speaker 4>Who?

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<v Speaker 3>It doesn't matter because now the work that's on me

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<v Speaker 3>is bigger than me. I have found that disassociating yourself

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<v Speaker 3>from all of this shame and guilt that holds us

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<v Speaker 3>down might just be the thing that we need to

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<v Speaker 3>get free and to have the space to do things.

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<v Speaker 4>Right going forward.

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<v Speaker 1>Sounds like you have been in deep contemplation and you

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<v Speaker 1>have really come to terms with you. You know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>just being just understanding who you are, what you are,

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<v Speaker 1>and just freeing yourself from all the things that bind you.

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<v Speaker 4>And my TMI today is we as women.

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<v Speaker 3>And I saw a man Decillo's, talking on her Small

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<v Speaker 3>Doses podcast about being too much right. We as women

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<v Speaker 3>we do, you know, we talk when we want to.

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<v Speaker 3>I never forget getting a call from someone very close

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<v Speaker 3>to me who said, oh, you know, women just all

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<v Speaker 3>day y'all just don't ever stop telling and doing and directing.

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<v Speaker 3>But I feel like men don't, really, they say, because

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<v Speaker 3>I've been told by a number of men, you gotta

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<v Speaker 3>say it the right way.

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<v Speaker 4>You can't just always have an attitude.

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<v Speaker 3>You need to stop being so this and that, and

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<v Speaker 3>you know, and and and nagging, and you have to

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<v Speaker 3>nurture the right way, and you need to you know,

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<v Speaker 3>have a certain type of positivity, and this and that,

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<v Speaker 3>and you could get a man to do anything just

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<v Speaker 3>your energy. I have found you could say it nice,

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<v Speaker 3>you could say it nasty, and the same result that

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<v Speaker 3>most men do not want to be corrected and or

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<v Speaker 3>just suggested of a new or better way to do things.

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<v Speaker 4>Period.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that's true. I really I think that

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<v Speaker 1>delivery is everything. Right. Because you say it nasty, that's

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<v Speaker 1>not true. It's not nasty or nice, right. It's the

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<v Speaker 1>time you say it, is when you say it, it's

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<v Speaker 1>how you say it. All those things come if you're

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<v Speaker 1>correct if a man. If a man is in the

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<v Speaker 1>middle of a speech and he's giving it, and he's

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<v Speaker 1>talking around people who are listening to him, and he's

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<v Speaker 1>and he's saying something, you stopping, I don't say it

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<v Speaker 1>that way. Don't say it that way.

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<v Speaker 4>Say it this when you smile.

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<v Speaker 1>And you stop and you say it. Don't say this

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<v Speaker 1>when you smile. You think that you're saying it nice. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>What you just did is correct him in front of

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<v Speaker 1>people that think he knows what he's talking. Right. So

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<v Speaker 1>what you did is you just you lowered a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit of his his his status in front of people, right,

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<v Speaker 1>you didn't whisper behind his back and say yo, if

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<v Speaker 1>you got a man and you would a man and

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<v Speaker 1>you saying and something he did something on you? Rub

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<v Speaker 1>his back, babe, you know what you should have did.

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<v Speaker 1>I loved what you did. But imagine if.

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<v Speaker 4>You gotta line right, so you gotta lie.

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<v Speaker 1>Because it's like but it's still a man has an ego.

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<v Speaker 1>Everyone has an ego. You dealing with a man with

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<v Speaker 1>an ego, and if you don't care about the man's ego,

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<v Speaker 1>then fuck it. You can say what you want, but

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<v Speaker 1>if you want to get the best response from a man,

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<v Speaker 1>then you have to fill out how do I work

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<v Speaker 1>with this individual?

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