WEBVTT - Two Jersey Js: Mom Fails & LOLs 0:00:01.880 --> 0:00:05.560 Hey, guys, it's Jackie Gulchnighter Jen Bessler, and we are 0:00:06.600 --> 0:00:10.280 two Jersey j's. But we should tell you something. 0:00:10.440 --> 0:00:12.800 Yes, we definitely should tell you something. It's actually not 0:00:12.880 --> 0:00:16.760 going to be as dramatic as one would think. We 0:00:16.920 --> 0:00:19.480 are still the best of friends. 0:00:21.160 --> 0:00:21.720 There's nothing. 0:00:21.760 --> 0:00:25.840 We got a lot of What happened. Jackie is Jackie 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:27.800 on her own. You're on your own. What happened between you? 0:00:28.440 --> 0:00:30.480 I wish that I could say that it was that exciting. 0:00:30.560 --> 0:00:32.360 It really it's just not that exciting. 0:00:32.600 --> 0:00:35.320 Yeah, I wish we could say. Actually I don't wish 0:00:35.400 --> 0:00:36.919 we could say, but I mean I think a lot 0:00:36.960 --> 0:00:38.599 of people wish we could say that we got in 0:00:38.600 --> 0:00:41.280 a big, old nasty fight because Jen is friends with 0:00:41.320 --> 0:00:43.800 people that I'm not friends with, and we got really 0:00:43.840 --> 0:00:46.599 mad at each other over that. But hence that's just 0:00:46.640 --> 0:00:49.479 not what happened. It didn't happen. We are just, you know, 0:00:49.600 --> 0:00:51.760 we got a lot to say, and so our own 0:00:51.920 --> 0:00:54.640 voices are going to be highlighted in addition to two 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:56.680 Jersey jys. But nothing could ever take the place of 0:00:56.680 --> 0:00:59.360 two Jersey jas because we have so much to tell 0:00:59.400 --> 0:01:01.840 you guys and talk about, so. 0:01:02.000 --> 0:01:04.480 And there's just stuff that. I think there's stuff that 0:01:04.560 --> 0:01:08.319 Jackie really is dying to discuss that's personal to her. 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:10.560 There's some things that I want to discuss, and you 0:01:10.560 --> 0:01:13.640 guys all know that Jackie has been through it and 0:01:13.680 --> 0:01:16.040 written a book about it in terms of eating disorders 0:01:16.080 --> 0:01:18.960 and her life, and so a lot of that is, 0:01:19.480 --> 0:01:22.280 you know, really more I think appropriate for her to 0:01:23.120 --> 0:01:24.959 discuss with you guys. She could delve into some of that. 0:01:25.040 --> 0:01:27.040 I've had some stuff in my own life that you know, 0:01:27.319 --> 0:01:28.640 I'd love to share with you. 0:01:28.400 --> 0:01:30.119 You know. So Jenna and I were just talking about 0:01:30.160 --> 0:01:33.920 how the weekend that just passed was the first weekend 0:01:33.920 --> 0:01:36.480 that the show was not on, and I have to 0:01:36.560 --> 0:01:41.160 say was a nice little break. I'm worrying because we 0:01:41.280 --> 0:01:43.600 had been watching the show. When you guys watched the show, 0:01:44.720 --> 0:01:46.960 we hadn't been seeing it in advance, so if there 0:01:46.959 --> 0:01:50.800 were any surprises, we didn't know about them until they 0:01:50.920 --> 0:01:52.920 popped up on our screen. So like the night that 0:01:53.640 --> 0:01:57.200 Thereesa said she was using me, my god, I sat 0:01:57.240 --> 0:02:01.320 at my kitchen table eating and watch with my jaw 0:02:01.440 --> 0:02:04.680 on the floor, and then my phone rang like four 0:02:04.760 --> 0:02:09.800 hundred times. Oh gosh. So yeah, it's a nice it was. 0:02:09.840 --> 0:02:10.120 I was. 0:02:11.040 --> 0:02:13.120 I was with my three best friends from high school. 0:02:13.200 --> 0:02:16.399 I went to high school in Houston, Texas, so once 0:02:16.400 --> 0:02:19.079 a year we get together. One of my friends has 0:02:19.120 --> 0:02:21.239 a home on the eastern shore of Maryland, and it's 0:02:21.320 --> 0:02:24.280 just so dreamy. And I want to say the weekend 0:02:24.400 --> 0:02:29.480 was so separate from all things housewives, all things Jersey 0:02:29.560 --> 0:02:32.200 in general, and it was such a respite. It was 0:02:32.200 --> 0:02:36.200 such a nice few days of just you know, nothing 0:02:36.280 --> 0:02:40.960 but old friends and laughs and you know, catching up. 0:02:41.160 --> 0:02:43.480 It was. It was really nice. Yeah, I've been spending 0:02:43.480 --> 0:02:46.480 a lot of time in my real world, but anyway, 0:02:46.560 --> 0:02:50.680 my real world involves a lot of children, Yes, a lot. 0:02:50.760 --> 0:02:51.320 I've got a. 0:02:51.240 --> 0:02:54.200 Lot of children. And so today's episode we were going 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:57.400 to talk about like the things that come along with 0:02:57.480 --> 0:02:59.600 motherhood at this stage, like my kids are getting ready 0:02:59.600 --> 0:03:03.080 to leave, your kids are out of the house, but 0:03:03.200 --> 0:03:06.840 like still like in graduate school or like close to home, 0:03:06.919 --> 0:03:09.959 and like what we thought would be a little bit funnier, 0:03:10.400 --> 0:03:14.320 like what naturally came was like all of these memories 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:16.679 of and I think I'm a really really good mom, 0:03:16.720 --> 0:03:19.720 It's like my best thing, but like all these memories 0:03:19.760 --> 0:03:22.760 of like parenting fails throughout the years. 0:03:22.680 --> 0:03:25.680 Parenting fails, which we I think every mother has plenty 0:03:25.680 --> 0:03:27.760 of those stories. I know that every mother has plenty 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:30.560 of those stories to tell unless they're really not self aware. 0:03:30.600 --> 0:03:32.200 But if you have any self awareness, you know that 0:03:32.240 --> 0:03:33.560 you're not always a perfect mom. 0:03:33.800 --> 0:03:34.000 Right. 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:35.280 But then also a couple we want to through in 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:37.880 a couple of our the things that we're most proud of. 0:03:37.680 --> 0:03:40.320 Of course, and the things we miss and the things 0:03:40.320 --> 0:03:43.280 that we don't miss. But parenting fails. You want me 0:03:43.320 --> 0:03:44.720 to start, or you want to start. 0:03:45.000 --> 0:03:47.120 I want you to start, But before you start, I 0:03:47.160 --> 0:03:50.840 do also want to say that as a mom, you 0:03:50.880 --> 0:03:54.240 know of little kids, and I'm not that anymore, but 0:03:54.360 --> 0:03:58.480 it was such a wonderful relief to hear about other 0:03:58.560 --> 0:04:01.040 moms and what they were going through and not just 0:04:01.800 --> 0:04:05.040 all the success, right, like to share the fails and 0:04:05.120 --> 0:04:08.200 to you know, misery loves company or whatever that is, 0:04:08.240 --> 0:04:10.320 but to get that kind of support. So I love 0:04:10.400 --> 0:04:13.840 this topic because guess what, I'm now a parent of 0:04:13.880 --> 0:04:15.640 a twenty four and twenty two year old, and I 0:04:15.640 --> 0:04:18.360 can tell you there are still fails going on, might 0:04:18.520 --> 0:04:20.800 be fails, and I'm sure my kids would love to 0:04:20.839 --> 0:04:21.680 tell you about them. 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:24.240 But they're not here, so yeah, because everyone always tells 0:04:24.279 --> 0:04:28.719 you loy enjoy every moment, and like, I just feel 0:04:28.760 --> 0:04:31.160 like there's a whole lot of like no one talks 0:04:31.200 --> 0:04:33.640 about the bad stuff. But anyway, so here we go. 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:35.480 None of this stuff is really bad, Like at the 0:04:35.520 --> 0:04:38.159 core of it, you love your children. Now it's just 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:40.880 your mess up sometimes, So okay, I'll start. Okay. So, 0:04:41.200 --> 0:04:46.480 when Jonas and Aiden were not even two and a half, 0:04:46.800 --> 0:04:48.800 I gave birth to Hudson and Alexis. So I had 0:04:48.800 --> 0:04:52.280 four kids under the age of three. And when Alexis 0:04:52.320 --> 0:04:54.680 was a few weeks old, I took her with me 0:04:54.800 --> 0:04:58.440 to pick up Jonas and Aiden from nursery school. And 0:04:58.520 --> 0:05:01.839 they were in a twos program and she was just 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:04.799 a few weeks old, and I had not really been sleeping, 0:05:04.960 --> 0:05:08.440 of course I had. I was changing thirty two diapers 0:05:08.440 --> 0:05:11.120 a day. Oh my god, they were all fourign diapers, 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:13.520 and you know, it was like roggy, you know. So 0:05:13.600 --> 0:05:15.560 I go to pick them up and I saw this 0:05:15.880 --> 0:05:18.440 older woman who I had I think she was somebody's 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:20.640 grandparent that I had always seen when I used to 0:05:20.680 --> 0:05:22.680 go pick up my kids from the nursery school. And 0:05:22.720 --> 0:05:24.120 I was waiting for the boys to get out of 0:05:24.120 --> 0:05:28.479 their class. And she says to me, oh, you had 0:05:28.520 --> 0:05:33.400 your babies. She says, what's her name? And I said, Alexis. 0:05:33.839 --> 0:05:36.400 Now let me divert for a second. So in the 0:05:36.480 --> 0:05:39.839 Jewish religion, you don't name after. In Ashkenazi, you don't 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:43.400 name after people who are still alive, right, only the dead. 0:05:43.760 --> 0:05:46.520 My sister had four kids already, she named after everybody. 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:48.800 So by the time we got to my second set 0:05:48.800 --> 0:05:51.560 of twins, everybody had been named after. So we chose 0:05:51.800 --> 0:05:54.640 middle names that like, we didn't really just things that 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:58.800 we love, right right right. So Alexis's middle name is Harlow, 0:05:59.320 --> 0:06:01.919 which I just love the name, zero connection to it. 0:06:04.040 --> 0:06:07.000 So she says to me, what's her name? I said, Alexis. 0:06:07.120 --> 0:06:10.400 She said what's her middle name? And I completely forgot 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:14.200 because the middle name didn't mean anything to us, you know, 0:06:14.440 --> 0:06:17.840 Plus your head is scram scrambling, And I said, oh 0:06:17.880 --> 0:06:20.839 my god, what do I do. Do I lie and 0:06:20.920 --> 0:06:23.359 say it rose or do I say I forgot? So 0:06:23.400 --> 0:06:26.880 I said, you know what, it's human. I said, oh 0:06:26.880 --> 0:06:31.120 my goodness, I'm blanking. And instead of being like that's okay, 0:06:31.200 --> 0:06:34.880 you've got four babies, she goes, you forgot your own 0:06:34.960 --> 0:06:40.120 child's middle name, and I felt so bad about myself. 0:06:40.160 --> 0:06:43.599 I would come back and I felt so bad. I 0:06:43.600 --> 0:06:45.839 felt I said, oh my god, I'm the worst mother 0:06:45.880 --> 0:06:48.840 in the world. How am I forgetting my child? Would like, 0:06:50.960 --> 0:06:53.039 oh my god, I said. I said, I'm just I'm 0:06:53.080 --> 0:06:55.080 so tired. And she's like, wow. 0:06:55.240 --> 0:06:56.800 She was like, I don't think I've ever asked a 0:06:56.839 --> 0:07:01.479 mother her child's name for her Okay, so the kicker 0:07:01.960 --> 0:07:04.200 I came home. A few weeks later, we had we 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:09.160 had company over and I was telling the story and 0:07:09.279 --> 0:07:12.800 Jonas and Aiden heard me. Yeah, you know, it wasn't 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:14.240 a few weeks later, it was like the next year. 0:07:15.240 --> 0:07:22.200 And they said, they said, well, what's her middle name? 0:07:22.680 --> 0:07:28.240 And I said Harlow and they said it's Harlow. I said, yeah, 0:07:28.280 --> 0:07:31.080 you guys know that. They said, oh, I said, what'd 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:37.520 you think it was? They thought it was Carlos w Anyway, 0:07:37.640 --> 0:07:39.880 I forgot my child's name. You know, why would they 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:45.240 think it was Carlos Harlow. They just couldn't. Before I 0:07:45.320 --> 0:07:48.200 have introduced my daughter Rachel as Rachel Rose. That is 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:50.840 not her name. That is my niece's middle name. So 0:07:50.960 --> 0:07:51.840 she's Rachel Faith. 0:07:52.000 --> 0:07:56.840 But anyway, all right, So mine is the best news 0:07:56.880 --> 0:07:58.720 about mine is that it's really about Jeff. 0:08:01.720 --> 0:08:02.080 Okay. 0:08:02.120 --> 0:08:04.240 So my son's in middle school and he is running 0:08:04.280 --> 0:08:08.920 for president of the class, and I guess it's like 0:08:09.000 --> 0:08:12.280 his You start middle school in what in sixth grade? 0:08:12.280 --> 0:08:14.320 Sixth so it's like seventh grade, right, president of seven 0:08:14.400 --> 0:08:18.239 whatever it is. So we are invested in this, right. 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:21.680 So we are making the posters, we are making the videos, 0:08:21.720 --> 0:08:24.600 we are campaigning. We are all just in and it's 0:08:24.840 --> 0:08:27.680 I brought my brethren because he's he's like an expert 0:08:27.760 --> 0:08:30.560 in terms of like everything technical to make these videos. 0:08:30.600 --> 0:08:33.160 And we went overboard, way overboard, like it should have 0:08:33.200 --> 0:08:37.280 been like, you know, Zach with a bunch of markers, 0:08:37.320 --> 0:08:39.320 all of us sitting around on the kitchen floor, you 0:08:39.320 --> 0:08:42.320 know Zach for and said it was like way over 0:08:42.360 --> 0:08:45.480 the top and really really sort of cringey. But anyway, 0:08:45.760 --> 0:08:51.040 so he runs for president and he does not win. Okay, 0:08:51.040 --> 0:08:54.280 he actually won the next year, but anyway, so he 0:08:54.320 --> 0:08:59.680 doesn't win. So my husband, Jeff becomes so enraged, I 0:08:59.679 --> 0:09:01.760 mean just so cringe. I can't stand it that he 0:09:01.840 --> 0:09:07.720 calls the principal yeah okay, and he insists that the 0:09:07.760 --> 0:09:11.560 election was rigged. No, I'm not kidding, this actually happened, Okay, 0:09:11.880 --> 0:09:14.480 because the time so they took the votes, everybody turned 0:09:14.480 --> 0:09:17.000 into kids, put their votes in their little ballot boxes, 0:09:17.040 --> 0:09:19.480 and they had the results so quickly that Jeff Vessel 0:09:19.559 --> 0:09:22.199 was convinced they didn't have time to count them. No, 0:09:22.320 --> 0:09:24.400 I can't even talk, I can't even actually say it 0:09:24.440 --> 0:09:25.439 without shuddering. 0:09:25.480 --> 0:09:28.240 And their principle was the nicest guy. Okay. 0:09:28.559 --> 0:09:32.600 I didn't walk into that school for months. I was 0:09:32.920 --> 0:09:35.760 so mortified. But worse than that is what he did 0:09:35.760 --> 0:09:36.240 to my kid. 0:09:36.960 --> 0:09:40.760 My son was so so embarrassed, embarrassed, like, are you 0:09:41.280 --> 0:09:44.319 get a life like this is where this is called 0:09:44.360 --> 0:09:50.640 getting too involved, dysfunctional relationships, no boundaries, All of that 0:09:50.760 --> 0:09:51.680 rolled up into wine. 0:09:51.720 --> 0:09:55.480 It's such a function of like loving your child so much, 0:09:55.679 --> 0:09:57.600 being discompletely dysfunctional. 0:09:57.720 --> 0:10:00.000 Yeah, so, I mean, we definitely laugh about it now, 0:10:00.280 --> 0:10:02.560 but that was definitely like it wasn't mine, but it 0:10:02.600 --> 0:10:04.200 was a parental veil for sure. 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:15.240 I like that. So one year we planned a very 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:20.200 big trip to the Dominican Republic and we got to 0:10:20.360 --> 0:10:24.800 the airport, bags packed, and I let two of their 0:10:24.800 --> 0:10:28.319 passports expire and didn't realize it. So we are standing 0:10:28.360 --> 0:10:32.560 in the airport with our bags all packed, and they're like, 0:10:32.960 --> 0:10:35.560 your passport's expired. And I said, we just got this 0:10:35.600 --> 0:10:38.480 five years ago. They said, yeah, kids are every five years. 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:41.280 I know that adults are every ten years, but kids 0:10:41.280 --> 0:10:43.520 are every five years. And I didn't know that. So 0:10:43.679 --> 0:10:48.400 my kids are all absolutely hysterical crying. I'm going to 0:10:48.520 --> 0:10:52.040 go home. I don't want to go home. I said, guys, 0:10:52.559 --> 0:10:55.520 we're in an airport. We're going to figure it out. 0:10:56.600 --> 0:10:58.959 And I looked at everyone like this is on you too, 0:10:59.080 --> 0:11:01.760 Like I just did it to be one. But like 0:11:01.920 --> 0:11:05.440 I do, like take responsibility for that kind of stuff, 0:11:05.480 --> 0:11:07.520 Like I'm always like I'll take care of that. I'll 0:11:07.520 --> 0:11:12.360 take care of that. I know, I let our passports expire. 0:11:12.760 --> 0:11:16.400 I mean a deposit, it was. It was a disaster. Sucks. 0:11:16.400 --> 0:11:18.600 But if that's a fail, I need we need more time. 0:11:18.720 --> 0:11:20.920 We have to extend episodes worse. 0:11:21.000 --> 0:11:23.520 Okay, you go all right, So I'll tell you about 0:11:23.559 --> 0:11:26.320 one because I think that it's important also to talk 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:28.960 about ones that are not necessarily funny. Yeah, they're just 0:11:29.040 --> 0:11:31.440 you know, things that that I wish that I had 0:11:31.440 --> 0:11:37.800 done differently. So before kindergarten at at our school, at 0:11:37.800 --> 0:11:41.160 our elementary school in Upper Settle River, the kids get 0:11:41.160 --> 0:11:45.320 tested for kindergarten, and if they qualify for something called 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:49.960 junior kindergarten, they get into a year where it's almost 0:11:50.040 --> 0:11:55.000 like like a repeat of I guess nursery school almost 0:11:55.040 --> 0:11:56.520 like it just they just they get tested to see 0:11:56.520 --> 0:12:00.160 if they're ready for that next step. Right, So all 0:12:00.320 --> 0:12:02.439 of the parents that I know, junior kindergarten is like 0:12:02.480 --> 0:12:04.600 a gift in our district. It's such a great thing, 0:12:04.720 --> 0:12:07.520 right because the ability for some kids that are not 0:12:07.600 --> 0:12:11.360 quite there yet to have another year to develop before 0:12:11.440 --> 0:12:12.360 kindergarten is great. 0:12:12.440 --> 0:12:12.640 Right. 0:12:13.120 --> 0:12:16.439 So both my kids were really really little in stature, 0:12:17.040 --> 0:12:21.920 and they were both late in terms of the like 0:12:22.120 --> 0:12:24.360 what is it called like like they were both born 0:12:24.440 --> 0:12:27.520 la cut off by the cut off right now, so 0:12:27.559 --> 0:12:29.320 they would have been like both of they're both like 0:12:29.520 --> 0:12:33.120 some amongst the youngest in their class. Anyway. So Rachel 0:12:33.160 --> 0:12:35.360 goes through the testing and they say to me, know 0:12:35.360 --> 0:12:38.080 what she qualifies. She could she could go you know, 0:12:38.160 --> 0:12:43.360 junior k Really she's like developmentally, she was always very 0:12:44.440 --> 0:12:49.040 very behind little in stature and because she was diagnosed 0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:51.720 with Type one diabetes and needed growth hormone. There were 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:56.199 always there was always stuff right, And instead of embracing 0:12:56.240 --> 0:12:59.480 this extra help that I was being offered, I went 0:12:59.520 --> 0:13:04.000 into I think, what was my Mama bear bs, like, 0:13:04.200 --> 0:13:06.320 don't tell me that my daughter is not ready for 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:11.000 kindergarten and she knows her letters and her numbers better 0:13:11.000 --> 0:13:13.480 than Zach did at that age, and just this whole 0:13:13.559 --> 0:13:19.280 like defensive ridiculousness and said, I'm not she's going into kindergarten. 0:13:19.640 --> 0:13:24.040 She did fine in kindergarten, made friends. I also was 0:13:24.120 --> 0:13:25.720 very attached to the idea that she had already made 0:13:25.760 --> 0:13:28.320 friends in nursery school and that now she was not 0:13:28.360 --> 0:13:29.840 going to be able to, you know, be with that 0:13:29.840 --> 0:13:33.640 group of friends she was in nursery school. Okay, this 0:13:33.840 --> 0:13:38.679 is like where I went. And so I ignored this, this 0:13:38.800 --> 0:13:41.440 gift that I was being offered and pushed her into 0:13:41.840 --> 0:13:42.719 into kindergarten. 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:43.679 Oh you didn't even take it. 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:47.520 I didn't take it, thank you, and all about my 0:13:47.640 --> 0:13:50.680 BS and my ego and my Mama Bear and my 0:13:50.840 --> 0:13:54.080 kid and not really like listening to this is what 0:13:54.120 --> 0:13:57.600 your kid needs? More worried about you know me, I think, 0:13:57.640 --> 0:13:59.040 And I don't need a kid that's going to be 0:13:59.160 --> 0:14:02.360 just complete and utter nonsense. I wish she wished sometimes 0:14:02.360 --> 0:14:05.960 that you were. I wish that I was my age then, right, 0:14:06.160 --> 0:14:10.280 raising this little kindergartener. I mean, she did fine, but 0:14:10.400 --> 0:14:13.200 I think it would have been such a fabulous gift 0:14:13.600 --> 0:14:16.200 to have given her. And you know, kids, they just 0:14:16.240 --> 0:14:19.920 mature at different times. We're here to talk about it. 0:14:20.000 --> 0:14:22.960 She again, she did fine, But like you know, I 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:25.560 think that sometimes being one of the oldest in the 0:14:25.560 --> 0:14:28.320 grade comes along with a lot of advantages as well. 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:32.040 It's sometimes hardest to be so young and so little. Anyway, 0:14:32.120 --> 0:14:34.520 So there's one for the list. The list is long, 0:14:34.560 --> 0:14:41.800 and there's one you know. It's the ego. 0:14:40.080 --> 0:14:44.000 The ego, and if I could get rid of my ego, 0:14:44.120 --> 0:14:46.320 I think I'd have so much more peace in my life. 0:14:46.320 --> 0:14:48.760 And I'm working on her now because I do think 0:14:48.880 --> 0:14:54.000 sometimes because of how I think they'll make me feel 0:14:54.120 --> 0:14:57.480 and appear, but not because they're authentically, of course, what 0:14:57.560 --> 0:15:00.960 I want. But a yes, that's another topic. So here's 0:15:01.000 --> 0:15:03.400 one that breaks the fourth wall on our show a 0:15:03.400 --> 0:15:05.920 little bit. It's from years ago, though we're not recording 0:15:06.120 --> 0:15:10.040 a really really long time ago, so one year this 0:15:10.160 --> 0:15:12.240 might have been like my second season on the show. Yeah, 0:15:12.280 --> 0:15:15.880 it was, And so it was twenty nineteen. Hudson and 0:15:15.920 --> 0:15:20.920 Alexis were only they were eight years old at the time. 0:15:21.560 --> 0:15:27.960 And during the season we had filmed, it was cold 0:15:28.000 --> 0:15:31.720 out and I was taking a ride to my father's house, 0:15:32.280 --> 0:15:34.720 who lives like an hour away, and Hudson and Alexis 0:15:34.720 --> 0:15:39.040 were with me. So when it came time for the 0:15:39.120 --> 0:15:43.240 show to air, sometimes there's things called pickups, right where 0:15:43.280 --> 0:15:46.320 like if a line got like muffled on the microphone, 0:15:46.320 --> 0:15:50.520 they didn't hear it, it was important. They asked you 0:15:50.560 --> 0:15:53.760 to do it again. Right. So they had called me 0:15:53.880 --> 0:15:57.560 and it was now like July, and they said, we 0:15:57.640 --> 0:16:00.720 need you to we couldn't hear or this one line. 0:16:00.720 --> 0:16:03.920 It's very important so that people understand why you were 0:16:03.920 --> 0:16:06.680 going to your dad's house. We need you to refilm 0:16:06.680 --> 0:16:09.360 that scene. Said great, fine, They said the kids were 0:16:09.360 --> 0:16:11.360 with you. I said, all right, I'll make sure they're available. 0:16:11.480 --> 0:16:12.960 They said, okay, so you're gonna have to drive your 0:16:12.960 --> 0:16:15.520 car on the highway. This is They sent me a 0:16:15.520 --> 0:16:17.240 picture and said this is what the kids were wearing. 0:16:17.560 --> 0:16:21.360 I said, okay. So the kids had been in big 0:16:21.400 --> 0:16:25.200 winter coats and you know, like heavy, heavy clothes and 0:16:25.240 --> 0:16:29.200 big winter coats and like cats. And it was now July. 0:16:30.200 --> 0:16:32.280 So I said, okay, do they have to they have 0:16:32.320 --> 0:16:33.880 to wear these coats and they were like yeah. So 0:16:34.240 --> 0:16:37.240 I'm getting Hudson and Alexis and they're like, why are 0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:37.960 we wearing this? 0:16:38.080 --> 0:16:39.000 It's so hot out. 0:16:39.360 --> 0:16:41.240 It's so hot, and I was like, listen, we'll blast 0:16:41.280 --> 0:16:43.360 the air conditioning in the car. We just have to 0:16:43.360 --> 0:16:44.960 do this. It's it's not going to be that long. 0:16:45.000 --> 0:16:46.920 We have to get on the highway. They're going to 0:16:46.960 --> 0:16:49.480 be filming us on the highway. It's fine. And they 0:16:49.520 --> 0:16:51.000 were like all right. So we get in the car 0:16:51.360 --> 0:16:52.760 and I put the air conditioning all the way up 0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:55.000 because it's like a hundred degrees in the car, and 0:16:55.040 --> 0:16:57.480 they were like, so we have to shut the air 0:16:57.600 --> 0:16:58.800 because we can't hear you. 0:16:59.480 --> 0:17:03.400 So I'm on the highway because my kids aren't miserable 0:17:03.840 --> 0:17:07.199 and are dying of heat, and they're both zipped up 0:17:07.280 --> 0:17:13.400 into a massive face winter jackets in like a hundred 0:17:13.400 --> 0:17:16.000 degrees with no air conditioning on and the windows all 0:17:16.040 --> 0:17:18.840 the way up, and I was like, I am the 0:17:19.000 --> 0:17:21.720 worst mother in the world right now. They could not 0:17:22.040 --> 0:17:25.280 understand what we were doing. Why we were wearing winter 0:17:25.359 --> 0:17:26.040 coats in July. 0:17:26.560 --> 0:17:29.080 I felt so Jackie, that would have kept me up. 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:31.040 Yeah, I would have definitely gone to town on myself 0:17:31.040 --> 0:17:34.600 for that one up good. Yes, I know that they did. 0:17:34.720 --> 0:17:39.920 They're here to talk about it. Okay, how about this one? 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:44.560 Another ego, one that I look back on and think, oh, 0:17:44.760 --> 0:17:48.879 JENNI forget a life. So again, Rachel was really really 0:17:49.119 --> 0:17:53.440 small until she was now she's five five, but anyway, Uh, 0:17:53.920 --> 0:17:57.840 she took dance at this place called Studio L, and 0:17:58.200 --> 0:18:01.200 all of her friends took dance there and there was 0:18:01.240 --> 0:18:03.320 something there, so you paid for dance class were you 0:18:03.320 --> 0:18:06.320 always paid for dance, But then if they were really good, 0:18:06.400 --> 0:18:09.520 they got into something called company, So you know what 0:18:09.520 --> 0:18:14.120 I'm talking about. Okay. So Company was this competitive. It's 0:18:14.240 --> 0:18:17.000 kind of a league, right, it was, and all the 0:18:17.000 --> 0:18:19.280 girls wanted to be in it, and it meant that 0:18:19.280 --> 0:18:21.080 you were now going to compete. It wasn't just that 0:18:21.080 --> 0:18:23.040 you were going there, you know, a couple times a 0:18:23.040 --> 0:18:24.359 week and then at the end of it there was 0:18:24.400 --> 0:18:25.679 going to be a recital. It was going to be 0:18:25.680 --> 0:18:27.879 that you guys, you know, the Studio L was going 0:18:27.920 --> 0:18:31.080 to compete against other dance companies. Blah blah blah. Some 0:18:31.160 --> 0:18:33.959 of these girls do it all through high school. It's 0:18:34.040 --> 0:18:37.080 you know, it's this sort of almost like a lifestyle. Well, 0:18:37.160 --> 0:18:41.920 Rachel didn't make company. Oh I shudder at this crap. Yeah, 0:18:41.960 --> 0:18:45.920 God forbid that my baby girl had to be disappointed? 0:18:46.359 --> 0:18:48.679 Were here a no? I mean this is actually, as 0:18:48.960 --> 0:18:51.119 we're talking about this, there's like a theme going on 0:18:51.200 --> 0:18:54.679 in my life. So I she was away at Sleepwoy 0:18:54.680 --> 0:18:57.680 camp and I found out she didn't make company. I'm 0:18:57.720 --> 0:19:00.399 actually like grossed out at myself as I'm saying this. 0:19:00.440 --> 0:19:02.120 I've marched myself. 0:19:03.160 --> 0:19:03.360 Jack. 0:19:03.920 --> 0:19:07.639 Okay, I marched myself into that dance school and her 0:19:07.680 --> 0:19:10.320 friends in meet it, And I was like, how do 0:19:10.359 --> 0:19:13.199 you do that to a kid? All the friends she 0:19:13.600 --> 0:19:16.119 is hanging out with, they're all moving on now the company. 0:19:16.160 --> 0:19:20.040 Except for Rachel. This is all she's wanted. And in 0:19:20.119 --> 0:19:22.240 terms of like not all want it, but in terms 0:19:22.280 --> 0:19:25.680 of you know, studio l and it's just it's not right. 0:19:25.840 --> 0:19:31.280 And I guess I was loud enough. Jennifer, Yes, and 0:19:31.400 --> 0:19:34.439 you did your duty. Except that's done. Great, except that 0:19:34.560 --> 0:19:38.320 Rachel didn't like it. Oh yeah, she didn't like it. 0:19:38.320 --> 0:19:40.199 She didn't like it. She never liked it. She's like, 0:19:40.520 --> 0:19:43.080 she didn't like the chore Mom, I don't like the choreography. 0:19:44.160 --> 0:19:47.680 The choreography. Like second thought, well, I think we put 0:19:47.680 --> 0:19:51.880 down a certain amount of money for a company and 0:19:51.960 --> 0:19:54.360 it's just so cringey. I can't stand it. And then 0:19:54.840 --> 0:19:57.919 Rachel is like, you know, like any kid would be, 0:19:57.920 --> 0:19:58.480 I don't want this. 0:19:58.560 --> 0:19:59.000 I don't like it. 0:19:59.000 --> 0:20:00.480 I don't even like it. Before I one company, I 0:20:00.480 --> 0:20:02.680 don't like dance. I'm not taking to dance anymore. Okay, 0:20:02.920 --> 0:20:09.399 except I made a full I mean, you know, just 0:20:09.560 --> 0:20:11.440 like there's definitely a theme here. 0:20:12.000 --> 0:20:14.639 Okay. So so when my kids were when Jonas and 0:20:14.680 --> 0:20:17.359 Naden were potty training, so they potty trained, they were fine. 0:20:18.000 --> 0:20:22.840 They were three years old. They were now out of diapers, 0:20:23.320 --> 0:20:28.240 and I took them to the Carter's store in Edgewater and, uh, 0:20:28.560 --> 0:20:31.760 we're in there the outlet. Was it an outlet store? No, 0:20:31.800 --> 0:20:35.359 it wasn't, but it was big and we used to 0:20:35.359 --> 0:20:37.199 like shop there all the time. Got him sort of 0:20:37.240 --> 0:20:41.760 missed those days. But anyway, so Jonah says to me, 0:20:42.320 --> 0:20:45.040 I gotta make a peepee. So I said, all right, 0:20:45.359 --> 0:20:47.800 hold on, let me put this shirt down. And I'm 0:20:47.840 --> 0:20:49.560 going to find the lady and we'll ask where the 0:20:49.600 --> 0:20:51.760 bathroom is. And I put the shirt down and I 0:20:51.760 --> 0:20:53.200 turned around and he took a big piss in the 0:20:53.200 --> 0:20:53.879