Speaker 1: This is Suckers. I'm Kilin Bell, I'm Dean Bell, and
Speaker 1: I'm Jared Han An iHeartRadio podcast. Hey everybody, welcome to
Speaker 1: an all new episode of Suckers. Actually the first episode
Speaker 1: with just me solo sucking. Maybe that's what we should
Speaker 1: call this separate podcast, solo sucking. I like it. My
Speaker 1: name is Jared han You may know me as one
Speaker 1: of the co hosts of arguably the best podcast that
Speaker 1: I Heard Radio has ever produced. Formally known as Help
Speaker 1: I Suck At Dating, formerly known as Help We Suck
Speaker 1: At Being newly weds, now known as Suckers. We were
Speaker 1: doing our joint podcast, as we always do. We recorded
Speaker 1: that earlier this week and uploaded it, and then we
Speaker 1: told you find folks who listened to this podcast that
Speaker 1: we were also doing separate podcast because we were all
Speaker 1: suckers for individual things. I'm a sucker for being a dad,
Speaker 1: because I am the dad. Dean is a sucker for traveling,
Speaker 1: Kaitlin is a sucker for pop culture. I'm definitely more.
Speaker 1: I'm a sucker for pop culture too, most definitely traveling
Speaker 1: not so much. We're going to Disney next week. I'm
Speaker 1: very excited for that. I'm a sucker for traveling when
Speaker 1: it comes to things like that. But I gotta be honest.
Speaker 1: You know, Ashley and are extremely lucky that we still
Speaker 1: get to travel a lot, and I'm not. I will
Speaker 1: never complain to the level of like, I don't want
Speaker 1: the life we have because I'm so lucky. Guys, I'm
Speaker 1: so lucky. First of all, we're all lucky just to
Speaker 1: be alive. When you really think about it, it is
Speaker 1: pretty crazy just breathing. You know, not everybody can say it.
Speaker 1: Not everybody can say that they're breathing, So that's pretty awesome.
Speaker 1: But more, you know, not more importantly, but furthermore, Ashley
Speaker 1: and I are so lucky. I know I say it
Speaker 1: all the time, but when we complain about things, we
Speaker 1: do it to get things off our chest. Like I
Speaker 1: know I do, so does Ashley. But like I know,
Speaker 1: every time I say something, I'm like, I know that
Speaker 1: we are so grateful for the things in our life.
Speaker 1: We have a healthy child, we have a roof over
Speaker 1: our head, We're able to you know, have some money
Speaker 1: saved up for a rainy day. Don't get me wrong,
Speaker 1: I work hard, like I'm about Audrey's all the time,
Speaker 1: grinding away just the restaurant industry not making money off that.
Speaker 1: But I believe in what audres is. I believe in
Speaker 1: the concept, you know, I believe in myself to a
Speaker 1: certain extent. I think everybody does. I only believe in
Speaker 1: this elf is to a certain extent, and that extent
Speaker 1: only goes so far, and then all the doubts creep
Speaker 1: in at like eleven fifteen at night ray when you're
Speaker 1: about to go to bed. That's when you're like, oh,
Speaker 1: everything could fall apart right now, and then I try
Speaker 1: to fall asleep and I can't, obviously, but I feel
Speaker 1: like there's just a lot of people that go through that. Anyway.
Speaker 1: This podcast is not about my internal demons. It's about parenthood.
Speaker 1: If you're listening to this, you're probably a parent. So
Speaker 1: I just wanted to say, you're doing great. Just keep
Speaker 1: doing what you're doing, because none of us know what
Speaker 1: we're doing, and we're just doing things the best we can,
Speaker 1: and at the end of the day, that's the most
Speaker 1: important thing, doing the best we can. Dawson is doing well.
Speaker 1: He's currently downstairs. I was thinking about there was a
Speaker 1: news article that came out. I had to deal with
Speaker 1: Tom Cruise. He's awesome, but Cruz announced that he's moving
Speaker 1: to Warner Brothers. So he's done a ton of movies
Speaker 1: with Paramount. He's not exclusive with Paramount Pictures, but like
Speaker 1: pretty close, like for example, the Mission to Possible Movies,
Speaker 1: the Top Gun movie is like his biggest hits are
Speaker 1: all up in Paramount. But then there was some He
Speaker 1: released a post on Instagram saying that he is going
Speaker 1: to be starring and producing and creating these franchise movies
Speaker 1: and Warren Brothers. The reason I bring this up is
Speaker 1: because I love Tukers. I grew up with Tom Cruise. Like,
Speaker 1: to me, Tom Cruise is like everything I want to be.
Speaker 1: Maybe not everything. We all know that there are certain
Speaker 1: sides of his celebrity status that maybe I'm not on
Speaker 1: board with, but in terms of like how he treats people,
Speaker 1: his work ethic, his movies that I just adore and
Speaker 1: mean so much to me, like Tom Cruise is the man,
Speaker 1: And I was thinking about how what happens if the
Speaker 1: things that I love Dawson just doesn't like And while
Speaker 1: of course I support him, like I want him to
Speaker 1: love the things that he loves, but also I love
Speaker 1: him so much I want to share in a lot
Speaker 1: of these experiences with Dawson, and like, I'm excited to
Speaker 1: show the movies that I love so much to Dawson
Speaker 1: one day. What happens if he just hates him? What
Speaker 1: happens if he's like, Dude, Dad, Dad, Matchbox twenty sucks?
Speaker 1: Like do I say, bro, you suck? I can't say that, Obviously,
Speaker 1: I would never say that. So I was thinking about
Speaker 1: that the other day, Like, what happens if the things
Speaker 1: that we love Dawson doesn't love? Like right now, we're
Speaker 1: pretty good. Like he loves football, which is great. He
Speaker 1: loves throwing the football and he loves watching football. I'm like,
Speaker 1: this is great. I can It comes down to bonding,
Speaker 1: you know. I want to bond with Dawson. And the
Speaker 1: only way I know how to bond with Dawson is
Speaker 1: to share the things that I love with him. And
Speaker 1: I guess that will come naturally the more I think
Speaker 1: about it, Like when he gets older and he starts
Speaker 1: loving the things that he loves, He's gonna want to
Speaker 1: bond with me over those things. And then of course
Speaker 1: I'll want to love those things just because their opportunities
Speaker 1: to bond with my son. Is that the purpose of
Speaker 1: this podcast just for me to vocalize everything and really
Speaker 1: figure out things. Is this like therapy? Kind of felt
Speaker 1: like that. I feel like I just came to a resolution.
Speaker 1: Now I understand. I'm not really that nervous anymore, because
Speaker 1: I've realized he might not like the things that I
Speaker 1: like and he might not be able to bond with
Speaker 1: me over those things. But that's okay because he'll have
Speaker 1: his own things that he loves and it won't be
Speaker 1: about the thing for me. It'll be about spending time
Speaker 1: with my son. Okay, I feel better about that now,
Speaker 1: that makes sense. That's gonna be interesting to go through.
Speaker 1: I wonder what he's I wonder what he's gonna love
Speaker 1: like right now. He loves football, he loves Aladdin, he
Speaker 1: loves Ladin a lot, and like the toys that we
Speaker 1: get and like I got a Power Ranger, toys and
Speaker 1: Teenage Mutant Eternals, Superman and Batman again, all the things
Speaker 1: that I love that he loves right now. And for Ashley,
Speaker 1: he loves Aladdin. He loves new kids on the block
Speaker 1: bands also, I love those things. Shout out to Backstreet Boys.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, but the greatest boy band of all time
Speaker 1: for any of you in sinc lovers instincts great. Don't
Speaker 1: get me wrong, Backstreet's better. But like, I'm curious about
Speaker 1: the transition when he starts saying, Hey, Dad, I want
Speaker 1: to like I love this, And I'm gonna be like,
Speaker 1: what is that? You know? Because right now he only
Speaker 1: loves the things that I introduced to him. But they'll
Speaker 1: come a time where he introduces things to me that
Speaker 1: I will learn to love for the sole reason that
Speaker 1: he loves them. It's kind of weird being a parent,
Speaker 1: how that works out. I was also thinking about people
Speaker 1: who aren't parents. I'm not gonna say I'm jealous. Jealous
Speaker 1: is a strong word, because I wouldn't change anything. I
Speaker 1: love Dawson. I would never not want Dawson in my life.
Speaker 1: Having said that, like a lot of the people who
Speaker 1: work at Audrey's obviously are younger, don't have kids, and
Speaker 1: they just wake up and the entire day is about themselves.
Speaker 1: Like they wake up and it's like, you know, they
Speaker 1: make themselves food, they take care of themselves, you know,
Speaker 1: they go to work and then I just think back
Speaker 1: upon that time in my life and I get it.
Speaker 1: It's all about perspective, right, like, my perspective is drastically
Speaker 1: different now that I'm a parent, I'm a husband. You know,
Speaker 1: there are other people in my life that I need
Speaker 1: to sacrifice, things for which I'm more than happy to do.
Speaker 1: But it's so interesting thinking about myself ten years ago
Speaker 1: or even just you know, however many years ago, even
Speaker 1: when I was at with Ashley. I mean, the big
Speaker 1: game changer is really dawesome because Ashley, it was a
Speaker 1: fully functioning adult by the time. Better obviously with Dawson.
Speaker 1: You know, it's like you, first of all, you don't
Speaker 1: wake up. He wakes you up, so you're not waking
Speaker 1: up on your own time. You're waking up whenever your
Speaker 1: kid wakes up. And then you know, my entire now,
Speaker 1: my entire day, well a lot of my day revolves
Speaker 1: around Dawson, because it's like, all right, well, I'll wake up,
Speaker 1: I'll change Stiper, I'll do the things, and then Ashley,
Speaker 1: we'll get up, help take care of him. So I
Speaker 1: can go to the gym and then go to work.
Speaker 1: But then I also only go to the gym for
Speaker 1: a certain amount of time because it's like, all right, well,
Speaker 1: I can only be away from the house for a
Speaker 1: certain amount of times. I'm sure that you know, Ashley's
Speaker 1: not alone with Dawson all day, so it's like I'll,
Speaker 1: you know, she'll put him down for a nap, and
Speaker 1: then I'll come back after nap to help take care
Speaker 1: of him, so she has some relief. My point being
Speaker 1: in this conversation is that it's just insane. I can't
Speaker 1: even like put myself into my own headspace where I
Speaker 1: was prior to having Dawson, where it was isn't like
Speaker 1: I had to devote a majority of my entire being
Speaker 1: to someone else to ensure that they're surviving, enjoying life, ah, learning, ah,
Speaker 1: you know, being raised. Anyway, long story short, so whenever
Speaker 1: I hear someone complaining does have kids, I'm like, shut
Speaker 1: the hell up. I'm kidding. I don't say that because
Speaker 1: I know everybody has their own issues, but seriously, shut up,
Speaker 1: you know, just kidding. Oh golly, I saw an article too.
Speaker 1: I was looking up topics for this this podcast because
Speaker 1: I was like, all right, parenting parenting, that could be
Speaker 1: called it too parenting one on one. I'm sure there's
Speaker 1: already a podcast called parenting one on one. It's just
Speaker 1: too easy. But I saw something and said The Color Purple.
Speaker 1: Great movie, directed by Steven Spielberg. I remember started it
Speaker 1: started oprah. I remember watching that movie as a kid.
Speaker 1: Great movie. I think there was a roommake. But anyway,
Speaker 1: point is the only reason this headline got to me.
Speaker 1: It was because, so The Color Purple has a PG
Speaker 1: thirteen rating? Is it okay for kids? Am I? The
Speaker 1: dummy here? Isn't PG thirteen? Doesn't that mean that it's
Speaker 1: suitable for ages thirteen and up? Right? Anyway? I saw
Speaker 1: that and I was like, wait a minute, what do
Speaker 1: you mean suitable for kids? It says PG thirteen. Isn't
Speaker 1: that the whole basis of the rating system? So we know, like, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: where is this movie suitable for I guess there's some
Speaker 1: gray area, right, Like what happens if your kids twelve?
Speaker 1: Can they not watch a PG thirteen movie? I don't
Speaker 1: know what is Jaws rated? Because, oh my god, that's
Speaker 1: what I thought, guys, Jaws, Jaws one of them, you know,
Speaker 1: scariest movies of all time. I don't know about that,
Speaker 1: but like, people were terrified in this movie. There are
Speaker 1: people being eaten by sharks, and there's blood and it's
Speaker 1: quite scary as a kid. That movie's rated p G
Speaker 1: PG parental guidance. Now, that movie came out in nineteen
Speaker 1: seventy five, so PG is a lot different back in
Speaker 1: nineteen seventy five than it is now. But can you
Speaker 1: imagine that? But what else do we want to talk
Speaker 1: about on this podcast? Guys? I guess that's a question
Speaker 1: I should be asking. What do you want me to
Speaker 1: talk about on this podcast? I got? I am very
Speaker 1: excited about this. I feel like I could talk to
Speaker 1: myself for hours. I have conversations with myself all the time.
Speaker 1: Ashley has videos of my lips moving, my eyes closed,
Speaker 1: my lips moving. Because I didn't realize that when I
Speaker 1: talk to myself sometimes I talk out loud, but I
Speaker 1: talk to myself all the time. I think they say
Speaker 1: geniuses to themselves or psychopaths. I can't remember football coin really,
Speaker 1: But what do you guys want me to talk about?
Speaker 1: Make sure you comment on the Instagram, email us, give
Speaker 1: us feedback. Feedback is extremely important. You know, we want
Speaker 1: to know what you guys like, what you don't like,
Speaker 1: what you want to hear more of, what you don't
Speaker 1: want to hear more of. Maybe you shouldn't say that,
Speaker 1: because probably a lot of you be like, we don't
Speaker 1: want to hear from Jared. So if that's your thought,
Speaker 1: maybe keep that to yourself. But everything else email us comment,
Speaker 1: please let us know, and let us know what you
Speaker 1: want to hear about on our individual podcast. Because of
Speaker 1: course we're going to still come together Dean, myself, Caitlin,
Speaker 1: we're gonna talk, We're in chat, we're gonna talk about
Speaker 1: our lives, talk about dating. I love doing the podcast
Speaker 1: with them, I really do. I wish we could do
Speaker 1: it in person more. Unfortunately I live in Rhode Island.
Speaker 1: They are now living in Aspen, which looks beautiful. But
Speaker 1: it was so much fun being able to record together
Speaker 1: at the Golden Bachelor, and there's such a different dynamic
Speaker 1: when you're in the room with someone you know. We
Speaker 1: can be in a virtual room and it works, and
Speaker 1: it works well, but there is a distinct difference when
Speaker 1: you're actually physically together, being able to like, joke around,
Speaker 1: play off each other. It's just a different dynamic one
Speaker 1: that I enjoy immensely, and I wish we could do
Speaker 1: it more, but unfortunately it's not physically possible. My point
Speaker 1: being is that we're still going to do those of course,
Speaker 1: and then we're each going to do our individual podcast.
Speaker 1: So for me personally, I would love love, love, love,
Speaker 1: love love if you could tell us what you want
Speaker 1: us to talk about. Also shout out. There was a
Speaker 1: very very nice woman who came into Audrey's actually earlier
Speaker 1: today from when I'm recording, and she listens to the podcast,
Speaker 1: and she came from all the way from California. Well,
Speaker 1: she has a gen didn't come just for us. I mean,
Speaker 1: that'd be very sweet. Maybe I should just lie and
Speaker 1: say that. But she had some time share and she
Speaker 1: stayed in Newport. Newport's beautiful. If you haven't been to
Speaker 1: Newport where island, guys, go check it out. Not right
Speaker 1: now because you know it's kind of gross outside, but
Speaker 1: anytime after May, May through even December because the holidays
Speaker 1: in Newport adorable, but summer's the best. Definitely check out Newport.
Speaker 1: Let me go back. Shout out to the woman who
Speaker 1: came in. She said she listens to the podcast. And
Speaker 1: anybody who comes up and tells me they listen to
Speaker 1: the podcast, please know how much that means to me.
Speaker 1: It just means the world, It really does, because you
Speaker 1: know a lot of times just like you guys, I'm
Speaker 1: sure you have a lot of doubts about yourself, but
Speaker 1: you keep pushing forward. Everybody has doubts about themselves, so
Speaker 1: it's so nice when someone reassures me about the podcast.
Speaker 1: And I'm sure it feels great when people reasure about you,
Speaker 1: know you, about anything in life. So anyway, you're wonderful.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for coming and really appreciate it.
Speaker 1: Anybody who listens who's been to Audrey's, thank you so
Speaker 1: much for coming in and supporting Audrey's as well, because
Speaker 1: we work hard, and it's just just me, like I
Speaker 1: work really hard, but there are a lot of people
Speaker 1: that work hard at Audrey's, a lot of great people.
Speaker 1: You know. I'm very lucky to have a lot of
Speaker 1: wonderful people that work at Audrey's. And it's tough sometimes
Speaker 1: to feel like it's not as successful as it should
Speaker 1: be or as I was hoping it would to be,
Speaker 1: you know, full transparency, Audie's just well, I don't really
Speaker 1: make money off of it, but again, I do it
Speaker 1: because I've always wanted to own my own place, and
Speaker 1: I feel like I have a good grasp on the
Speaker 1: restaurant industry and I feel like I know what I'm
Speaker 1: doing to a certain extent. Once again, that line to
Speaker 1: a certain extent, But that doesn't mean it's not hard.
Speaker 1: You know, anybody who owns a restaurant can tell you
Speaker 1: how difficult it is. And also, like I care about
Speaker 1: my employees, I want to make sure that they're they're
Speaker 1: well off, you know, that they they don't have to
Speaker 1: live paycheck to paycheck, and that when they're there at
Speaker 1: Audrey's working, they're being compensated and they're being compensated well.
Speaker 1: And I want them to know how much I appreciate them.
Speaker 1: And so anyway, point is, there's a lot of people
Speaker 1: that work hard, and so when you come in to Audrey's,
Speaker 1: you're supporting me, yes, and that means the world to me,
Speaker 1: but you're really supporting them as well, you know. And
Speaker 1: I have people who work for me that have families
Speaker 1: and kids, and you know, they're paying for college, and
Speaker 1: so there's you know, just like in life. You know,
Speaker 1: everybody's got their own things going on. But I just
Speaker 1: wanted to say thank you because it means a lot,
Speaker 1: and it means a lot for you to listen. Hopefully
Speaker 1: this was not too boring. I kind of just rambled,
Speaker 1: but honestly, it was so much fun. I enjoy rambling. Ashley,
Speaker 1: you will definitely be a co host on this podcast too,
Speaker 1: not every week, but like she's definitely gonna pop in
Speaker 1: and just give her two cents, because that's what Ashley does.
Speaker 1: She comes in and she tells me exactly what she's thinking,
Speaker 1: which at the end of the day is a great,
Speaker 1: great thing to have because I'd much rather have that
Speaker 1: than never know what my partner's thinking. That would be frustrating. So,
Speaker 1: once again, thank you so much for listeners podcast, and
Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna end it just like we end suckers,
Speaker 1: which means make sure you tune in next week, where
Speaker 1: hopefully we suck just a little bit less. Thanks for listening.
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