1 00:00:00,480 --> 00:00:04,160 Speaker 1: Okay, Well, first of all, I have to say happy birthday. 2 00:00:04,160 --> 00:00:05,880 Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like a terrible friend because I 3 00:00:05,920 --> 00:00:08,000 Speaker 1: knew we celebrated last weekend, and I didn't think this 4 00:00:08,080 --> 00:00:10,879 Speaker 1: was your actual birthday today. What are you going to 5 00:00:10,920 --> 00:00:14,040 Speaker 1: do to celebrate? I mean, I'm too old to celebrate. Actually, 6 00:00:14,160 --> 00:00:16,759 Speaker 1: I'm having a party with like eight my closest friends 7 00:00:16,760 --> 00:00:19,280 Speaker 1: tomorrow and I didn't bridge, Oh, I'll be there fantastic 8 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:23,400 Speaker 1: cm A Awards. Wait. Um, so last week on my 9 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:26,240 Speaker 1: Instagram I posted that I wanted to do a question 10 00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:29,720 Speaker 1: and answer podcast. So then, first of all, I had 11 00:00:29,720 --> 00:00:31,080 Speaker 1: no time to do that. I don't know why I 12 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:33,040 Speaker 1: thought that was a good idea because I was traveling 13 00:00:33,120 --> 00:00:36,280 Speaker 1: last week. But then second of all, I sat down. 14 00:00:36,360 --> 00:00:38,360 Speaker 1: I had about fifteen minutes. I was like, oh, I'll 15 00:00:38,400 --> 00:00:41,880 Speaker 1: just knocked this out really fast. I hate doing podcasts 16 00:00:41,880 --> 00:00:45,640 Speaker 1: by myself. Have you you never tried one? Can you 17 00:00:45,720 --> 00:00:47,400 Speaker 1: imagine if I just left this room and you were 18 00:00:47,440 --> 00:00:50,800 Speaker 1: doing it by yourself. Well, I'd find some way to 19 00:00:50,840 --> 00:00:55,440 Speaker 1: make it funny, you would think. But I thought it 20 00:00:55,520 --> 00:00:57,840 Speaker 1: was so boring and I have no one to like 21 00:00:58,160 --> 00:01:00,960 Speaker 1: banter with or interact it, and so I was just 22 00:01:01,040 --> 00:01:02,680 Speaker 1: reading the questions and then I would answer like a 23 00:01:02,760 --> 00:01:07,440 Speaker 1: book on tape. Yes, that's exactly what it sounded like. 24 00:01:07,520 --> 00:01:10,200 Speaker 1: So I was like, okay, nixt this I kind of 25 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:12,119 Speaker 1: bring to do you try like doing a fake voice 26 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:14,520 Speaker 1: for the question in person? What if I did? I 27 00:01:14,640 --> 00:01:19,280 Speaker 1: was like, good, fake voice, Hello, what's the question? Give 28 00:01:19,280 --> 00:01:23,399 Speaker 1: me a question first? With me? Are you asking? That 29 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:26,319 Speaker 1: was weird? Hello? Will you go out with me? And 30 00:01:26,319 --> 00:01:28,720 Speaker 1: then I'll be actually, no, I can't go out with 31 00:01:28,760 --> 00:01:35,120 Speaker 1: you because I have a boyfriend, Mike Job. Um yeah, 32 00:01:35,160 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 1: freaking hearts. Yeah, oh no, I didn't even think about that. 33 00:01:40,200 --> 00:01:44,960 Speaker 1: I love that you're acting like you're interested right now. Um. So, anyway, 34 00:01:45,040 --> 00:01:47,560 Speaker 1: I gave you a list of questions to go through 35 00:01:48,080 --> 00:01:52,000 Speaker 1: and then did you think of any of the questions? Okay, 36 00:01:52,040 --> 00:01:54,080 Speaker 1: so we'll go through this. I might like flip the 37 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:57,320 Speaker 1: switch and ask you something too, so we'll see what happens. 38 00:01:57,720 --> 00:02:00,720 Speaker 1: Don't don't don't think my mom doesn't know how to 39 00:02:00,840 --> 00:02:04,120 Speaker 1: listen to God, my poor mom. At this point, she's 40 00:02:04,200 --> 00:02:08,440 Speaker 1: just like what I mean to podcast? Of course she 41 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:11,160 Speaker 1: listens to my podcast and she's seen me on TV 42 00:02:11,240 --> 00:02:14,760 Speaker 1: talk about sex, you know, normal things. Actually, it was 43 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:19,400 Speaker 1: more like uncircumcised penises. But the problem, I'm sure it's 44 00:02:19,440 --> 00:02:22,040 Speaker 1: just because he just googled it. You know, I've actually 45 00:02:22,040 --> 00:02:26,200 Speaker 1: never seen one. Yes, very true. Have you see here 46 00:02:26,240 --> 00:02:33,440 Speaker 1: we go? Interesting? What was it like? I mean, it's 47 00:02:33,480 --> 00:02:38,080 Speaker 1: like I like to describe it favorite thing I've ever like, Um, 48 00:02:38,200 --> 00:02:42,080 Speaker 1: do you remember like glow worms? Remember those those like 49 00:02:42,200 --> 00:02:44,640 Speaker 1: toys that you held that like slipped through your hands, 50 00:02:44,639 --> 00:02:47,800 Speaker 1: like sure do. He just did the motion, But I 51 00:02:47,800 --> 00:02:49,520 Speaker 1: don't know what they were called, but that's what they 52 00:02:49,520 --> 00:02:52,960 Speaker 1: remind me up. Turtle neck on, Yeah, that's what I said. 53 00:02:53,000 --> 00:02:56,760 Speaker 1: I was like, it's like a turtle. Then it's called out. 54 00:02:57,440 --> 00:02:59,520 Speaker 1: It is really chilly out. All right, let's get to 55 00:02:59,560 --> 00:03:01,720 Speaker 1: these question sens. What do we have? All right? So 56 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 1: these are some from These are from Velvet's Edge fans, Yeah, 57 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:13,600 Speaker 1: followers and followers, listeners, whatever it is. What is the 58 00:03:13,639 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 1: favorite podcasts that you've done? Oh? I mean that's so hard. 59 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:20,639 Speaker 1: That's like when people say it's like asking you your 60 00:03:20,680 --> 00:03:23,760 Speaker 1: favorite child. I mean, I don't know that I can pick, 61 00:03:23,840 --> 00:03:26,520 Speaker 1: because they all end up meaning something to me. You know. 62 00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:30,320 Speaker 1: I think the ones I leave feeling the most satisfied 63 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:34,359 Speaker 1: with are the ones that i've truly, um, learned something, 64 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:37,480 Speaker 1: or even if it's like grown spiritually in some way, 65 00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:40,120 Speaker 1: someone's done a reading on me of some sorts. If 66 00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:43,120 Speaker 1: it's like enlightening, you know that must be nice because 67 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:45,960 Speaker 1: it's not like you're just doing it for people to listen, like, oh, 68 00:03:46,160 --> 00:03:49,000 Speaker 1: I'm actually just letting someone into like a moment in 69 00:03:49,040 --> 00:03:52,600 Speaker 1: your life. Absolutely so. Yeah, when I'm like just genuinely 70 00:03:52,640 --> 00:03:55,160 Speaker 1: curious about a topic and I get answers to it, 71 00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:58,000 Speaker 1: those are the ones that I'm like, yes, good. The 72 00:03:58,080 --> 00:04:00,200 Speaker 1: Mary Hilliard one was fun too, yeah. Well, and the 73 00:04:00,200 --> 00:04:04,400 Speaker 1: ones with my friends, yeah, they're super fun. All right. Um, 74 00:04:05,200 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 1: what is a staple wardrobe piece that you must have 75 00:04:09,280 --> 00:04:11,920 Speaker 1: for the fall? This is a very velvet edged question. 76 00:04:11,920 --> 00:04:14,760 Speaker 1: I get this one a lot um. I always tell 77 00:04:14,840 --> 00:04:17,840 Speaker 1: people that a leather jacket is the one thing you 78 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:20,440 Speaker 1: should splurge one. I wear mine. Well, I wear it 79 00:04:20,440 --> 00:04:22,839 Speaker 1: in more seasons of our mine in the summer sometimes 80 00:04:22,839 --> 00:04:26,200 Speaker 1: absolutely or spring. Um. But it's just one of those 81 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:28,440 Speaker 1: things that it seems like such a big price tag, 82 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:30,560 Speaker 1: but you end up wearing it so much that it's 83 00:04:30,680 --> 00:04:33,800 Speaker 1: way worth it. And the last multiple years. If you 84 00:04:33,800 --> 00:04:37,360 Speaker 1: get a classic cut, yeah, it's really and I mean, 85 00:04:37,480 --> 00:04:38,920 Speaker 1: that's that's the thing I said. I wear mine in 86 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:42,520 Speaker 1: the summer. Sometimes it's gotta remember it's technically skin, you know, 87 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 1: it's like it is meant it breathes. Oh exactly, it's 88 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:50,480 Speaker 1: actually but it it keeps me warm in the winter. 89 00:04:50,520 --> 00:04:54,120 Speaker 1: It's pretty awesome. Yeah, I think. Also, um, this is 90 00:04:54,160 --> 00:04:56,080 Speaker 1: not like a huge plug on the website, but I 91 00:04:56,120 --> 00:04:58,279 Speaker 1: do get this question a lot, and so for people 92 00:04:58,320 --> 00:05:01,719 Speaker 1: who are just interested it in, Like my everyday picks 93 00:05:01,760 --> 00:05:04,159 Speaker 1: are things you can wear on velvet edge dot com 94 00:05:04,279 --> 00:05:07,360 Speaker 1: under this shop tab. There is one that's called everyday Favorites, 95 00:05:07,400 --> 00:05:09,719 Speaker 1: and I have the leather jacket that I have linked. 96 00:05:10,160 --> 00:05:12,600 Speaker 1: I also think like a good pair of boots as 97 00:05:12,640 --> 00:05:15,880 Speaker 1: a staple is another really good fall investment because you're 98 00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:18,400 Speaker 1: going to wear them like every day totally. It's worth it. 99 00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:21,240 Speaker 1: And you can resold boots if they're if they're well made, 100 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:23,440 Speaker 1: you can resold them. So they have and I get 101 00:05:23,480 --> 00:05:25,719 Speaker 1: compliments on my boots all the time, and it's because 102 00:05:26,200 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 1: there I've worn them so much people that's when people 103 00:05:31,120 --> 00:05:36,080 Speaker 1: really notice them. But I'm so velvets edgy, Oh my god, 104 00:05:36,200 --> 00:05:38,560 Speaker 1: living on a ved well, I guess this supplied This 105 00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:40,839 Speaker 1: next question is sort of pertinent. How do you how 106 00:05:40,920 --> 00:05:43,360 Speaker 1: how would you anyone who's looking to get into the 107 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:48,240 Speaker 1: fashion industry, how would what would you suggest that they do? Okay, 108 00:05:48,279 --> 00:05:49,960 Speaker 1: this is a good one, and I've gone on a 109 00:05:50,160 --> 00:05:52,560 Speaker 1: rant about this. I just remembered my rant this one 110 00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:57,880 Speaker 1: day on my Instagram. I get emails or direct messages 111 00:05:58,080 --> 00:06:01,640 Speaker 1: a lot from people say can I get together with 112 00:06:01,680 --> 00:06:04,640 Speaker 1: you and pick your brain? Or can um? I would 113 00:06:04,680 --> 00:06:06,400 Speaker 1: just love to be on set with you one day 114 00:06:06,400 --> 00:06:10,560 Speaker 1: and follow you around. And I'm like, okay, what's in 115 00:06:10,600 --> 00:06:12,480 Speaker 1: that for me? Like I don't mean to sound like 116 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:17,280 Speaker 1: a total bit, but it's super hard work, like what 117 00:06:17,320 --> 00:06:19,960 Speaker 1: you do once you get into this industry, And it 118 00:06:20,040 --> 00:06:23,960 Speaker 1: actually sounds like more work for me to like, you know, 119 00:06:24,080 --> 00:06:25,880 Speaker 1: like sit with someone and just tell them how to 120 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:27,960 Speaker 1: do my job. Like it's taken me years to have 121 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:31,080 Speaker 1: to learn how to do certain things busting my ass. 122 00:06:31,080 --> 00:06:33,000 Speaker 1: I worked for free. And so that's what I always 123 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:35,080 Speaker 1: tell people is if you really want to get into 124 00:06:35,080 --> 00:06:37,279 Speaker 1: this industry, first of all, get ready to work, because 125 00:06:37,279 --> 00:06:40,119 Speaker 1: if it was easy, then everybody would do it. So 126 00:06:41,279 --> 00:06:43,799 Speaker 1: get ready to work. Also, if you're gonna email someone, 127 00:06:44,080 --> 00:06:46,640 Speaker 1: tell them what you can bring to the table to help. 128 00:06:46,760 --> 00:06:49,920 Speaker 1: Don't say pick your brains, say hey, can I intern 129 00:06:50,040 --> 00:06:53,320 Speaker 1: for you? Well, like I will work for free. Um 130 00:06:53,440 --> 00:06:54,960 Speaker 1: or if you don't want to work for free, don't 131 00:06:55,000 --> 00:06:58,279 Speaker 1: offer that. But like, I'm a hard worker. Here's my 132 00:06:58,360 --> 00:07:01,280 Speaker 1: skill set. I'm super organized. That's something I'm always looking 133 00:07:01,279 --> 00:07:04,800 Speaker 1: for because I am not organized. So if someone was 134 00:07:04,880 --> 00:07:06,720 Speaker 1: to come to me and tell me a skill set 135 00:07:06,760 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: about their organization or that they're good at Google docs 136 00:07:10,960 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 1: even you know what I mean, Like I would get 137 00:07:12,640 --> 00:07:16,400 Speaker 1: really specific and tell people what it is you're really 138 00:07:16,400 --> 00:07:19,640 Speaker 1: good at. And also like work on building your own 139 00:07:19,680 --> 00:07:22,080 Speaker 1: book and shoot with your friends, like dress your friends 140 00:07:22,120 --> 00:07:23,560 Speaker 1: up and take pictures of them, even if it's on 141 00:07:23,560 --> 00:07:25,760 Speaker 1: your iPhone these days, that can be amazing. But to 142 00:07:25,800 --> 00:07:28,320 Speaker 1: be able to show someone that you have good style 143 00:07:28,440 --> 00:07:31,440 Speaker 1: or a style that's like matches their own, you know, 144 00:07:31,640 --> 00:07:33,720 Speaker 1: that's who I want working. Yeah, I mean even with 145 00:07:33,760 --> 00:07:36,680 Speaker 1: Instagram now it's like you can have sort of a 146 00:07:36,680 --> 00:07:42,520 Speaker 1: fashion website. Yeah exactly. Um, well that's that's the next 147 00:07:42,560 --> 00:07:46,080 Speaker 1: person who sends you a message that asked a dumb 148 00:07:46,320 --> 00:07:48,720 Speaker 1: that dumb question, what are you going to do to that? Well, 149 00:07:48,760 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 1: I just don't respond. Usually like, if you want to 150 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:53,000 Speaker 1: get a response for me, I do have a resume 151 00:07:53,120 --> 00:07:57,000 Speaker 1: folder that I keep. I'm currently already have people working that, 152 00:07:57,440 --> 00:08:00,960 Speaker 1: but you know, different positions um will open up over 153 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:02,880 Speaker 1: the years or whatever, and so I always keep a 154 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:05,800 Speaker 1: resume folder, but I'm not putting it in there unless 155 00:08:05,920 --> 00:08:08,960 Speaker 1: you actually, like give me some reason to want to 156 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:13,760 Speaker 1: remember you there. You have it, kids have it, volunteer. 157 00:08:14,200 --> 00:08:16,160 Speaker 1: I mean, it's that way in the industry. Really, Like 158 00:08:16,280 --> 00:08:19,520 Speaker 1: in the music industry, I worked all through college for 159 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:22,720 Speaker 1: free just to get the experience to get a really 160 00:08:22,760 --> 00:08:25,080 Speaker 1: low ping job. Well, and that's the other thing is 161 00:08:25,120 --> 00:08:28,360 Speaker 1: I think a lot of times what I see is um, 162 00:08:28,400 --> 00:08:31,920 Speaker 1: you know, twenty somethings graduating college, and I remember feeling 163 00:08:31,920 --> 00:08:34,320 Speaker 1: this way, like I actually really think I could be 164 00:08:34,320 --> 00:08:38,040 Speaker 1: great at this and I just came out of school, 165 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:40,760 Speaker 1: uh you know, did really well or blah blah blah 166 00:08:40,760 --> 00:08:43,439 Speaker 1: blah blah. And so they think that they deserve to 167 00:08:43,600 --> 00:08:46,280 Speaker 1: just walk into a job, and like, no, you don't. 168 00:08:47,200 --> 00:08:50,080 Speaker 1: And even if you're the most well right, even if 169 00:08:50,120 --> 00:08:53,640 Speaker 1: you're the most creative talented person, you still have to 170 00:08:53,640 --> 00:08:56,880 Speaker 1: earn it because experience you cannot just like know that 171 00:08:56,960 --> 00:09:01,200 Speaker 1: stuff so I feel like I saw really hardcore right now. 172 00:09:01,280 --> 00:09:03,480 Speaker 1: I mean, look, I think it's it's important for people 173 00:09:03,520 --> 00:09:07,439 Speaker 1: to understand that it's it really truly is about experience. 174 00:09:07,440 --> 00:09:10,160 Speaker 1: I would venture to say most people that I know, 175 00:09:10,360 --> 00:09:14,280 Speaker 1: working professionals in various businesses, they don't use what they 176 00:09:14,360 --> 00:09:16,720 Speaker 1: learned in college. They've learned they use what they've learned 177 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:21,000 Speaker 1: in the workforce, the actual work experience so much as 178 00:09:21,080 --> 00:09:24,199 Speaker 1: relationship driven in particularly in entertainment, that you know, it's 179 00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:28,240 Speaker 1: invaluable just being out there and meeting people absolutely, all right, 180 00:09:28,520 --> 00:09:32,360 Speaker 1: Moving on? Okay, Um, what is your favorite place to 181 00:09:32,400 --> 00:09:38,200 Speaker 1: go on vacation? M hmm is somewhere warm? I guess 182 00:09:38,320 --> 00:09:41,920 Speaker 1: anywhere warm? I mean I traveled so much, like I 183 00:09:42,040 --> 00:09:44,480 Speaker 1: literally haven't been home. So the only ways I really 184 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:46,240 Speaker 1: want to go right now it is home to my 185 00:09:46,280 --> 00:09:49,480 Speaker 1: own bed. Is that vacation. I mean it can be. Yeah, 186 00:09:49,640 --> 00:09:52,400 Speaker 1: I don't know, anywhere warm, usually like with a beach 187 00:09:52,920 --> 00:09:58,760 Speaker 1: and good drinks. That's the worst answer, ever, I don't vacation. 188 00:09:59,400 --> 00:10:02,360 Speaker 1: How about where? Where's the favorite place that you've been? Um? 189 00:10:02,400 --> 00:10:04,480 Speaker 1: I did go on a trip to Barbados one time, 190 00:10:04,559 --> 00:10:08,400 Speaker 1: and it was a beautiful. The rereas from there exactly. 191 00:10:08,480 --> 00:10:10,360 Speaker 1: That's enough said, I mean, but it was. It was 192 00:10:10,400 --> 00:10:14,439 Speaker 1: so beautiful. The water was amazing. Just the people are 193 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:17,640 Speaker 1: so nice. It's just super chill. You're on island times 194 00:10:17,640 --> 00:10:20,920 Speaker 1: and nothing matters. My phone didn't work, so it was amazing. 195 00:10:21,559 --> 00:10:23,880 Speaker 1: They also it's a pretty small island. And what I 196 00:10:23,920 --> 00:10:27,400 Speaker 1: remember is you get the It has so many different 197 00:10:27,400 --> 00:10:30,600 Speaker 1: types of beaches. It has like a really like smooth 198 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:33,200 Speaker 1: glassy beach. It's got ones with big waves where people 199 00:10:33,200 --> 00:10:35,400 Speaker 1: that like the surf can go. Yeah, there was a 200 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:38,440 Speaker 1: lot of different options. We went um snorkeling one day, 201 00:10:38,920 --> 00:10:42,400 Speaker 1: swam with the turtles, you know, just things like that 202 00:10:42,559 --> 00:10:46,319 Speaker 1: thing you do on vacations. All right, enough of this 203 00:10:46,480 --> 00:10:51,600 Speaker 1: velvet edge stuff. We're listening to it. You come on, 204 00:10:51,679 --> 00:10:54,000 Speaker 1: this is act casual. I want to embarrass you a 205 00:10:54,040 --> 00:11:00,520 Speaker 1: little bit, all right, Um, so sorry, Mom's what's the 206 00:11:00,559 --> 00:11:02,920 Speaker 1: most embarrassing thing that's ever happened to you during sex? 207 00:11:03,120 --> 00:11:06,400 Speaker 1: Literally can't Oh my god, you just took such a 208 00:11:06,440 --> 00:11:08,439 Speaker 1: hard turn. I'm about to drink the other two and 209 00:11:08,480 --> 00:11:10,920 Speaker 1: a half hours of this time, half five hour energy. 210 00:11:11,480 --> 00:11:16,160 Speaker 1: Pump it up, girl. Oh wait, what's the question. What's 211 00:11:16,240 --> 00:11:18,640 Speaker 1: the most embarrassing thing that's ever happened to you? Do 212 00:11:18,679 --> 00:11:27,040 Speaker 1: to you during sex queeting? Really common though, I don't know. 213 00:11:27,280 --> 00:11:30,079 Speaker 1: I can't believe I just said that. Oh, I got 214 00:11:30,160 --> 00:11:35,560 Speaker 1: That's definitely the title of this episode with a question 215 00:11:35,880 --> 00:11:39,880 Speaker 1: was literally going to be like what happened? Well, maybe 216 00:11:39,880 --> 00:11:42,280 Speaker 1: she'll tell you. What's your answer to that one? I missed? 217 00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:47,320 Speaker 1: I mean probably farting. Well. I thought maybe it could 218 00:11:47,320 --> 00:11:51,480 Speaker 1: be like prematurely well all that too, but I think 219 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:55,720 Speaker 1: that's so rampant with guys, and it's like, I mean, yeah, 220 00:11:55,760 --> 00:11:58,360 Speaker 1: I think it happens to everybody. What do you do? 221 00:11:58,600 --> 00:12:10,280 Speaker 1: You're like directly asleep? You wore me out. I gotta go, 222 00:12:10,160 --> 00:12:13,560 Speaker 1: I gotta go. I mean this question you guys, I'm 223 00:12:13,600 --> 00:12:17,040 Speaker 1: I found a website that has funny questions. Um, and 224 00:12:17,280 --> 00:12:21,880 Speaker 1: you're going to gasp when I read this. Give me 225 00:12:22,040 --> 00:12:26,120 Speaker 1: three adjectives to best describe your vagina? And I'm not 226 00:12:27,280 --> 00:12:33,600 Speaker 1: just okay, I have to like pause this. This is 227 00:12:33,840 --> 00:12:37,680 Speaker 1: way too inappropriate, even for a casual. Yeah, it's time 228 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:42,559 Speaker 1: for more casual. I think a little more velvet edge. Yes, um, okay, 229 00:12:42,559 --> 00:12:45,080 Speaker 1: I got one. What do you think is the easiest 230 00:12:45,160 --> 00:12:48,559 Speaker 1: and hardest part of dating? In your thirties versus your twenties. 231 00:12:50,080 --> 00:12:53,040 Speaker 1: The easiest part is probably that I'm more self assured. 232 00:12:53,080 --> 00:12:54,720 Speaker 1: I know who I am, I know what I want, 233 00:12:55,120 --> 00:12:59,200 Speaker 1: so it's easier to sort of like weed out, you know, 234 00:12:59,600 --> 00:13:05,800 Speaker 1: bad people in just bullshit. The hardest part is that 235 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:09,080 Speaker 1: younger people are so much hotter, you know, like you 236 00:13:09,160 --> 00:13:13,120 Speaker 1: just feel older. I'm tired, like literally, the last thing 237 00:13:13,160 --> 00:13:15,160 Speaker 1: I want to do is go on a date. You 238 00:13:15,200 --> 00:13:18,080 Speaker 1: have more energy in your twenties. Yeah, I would definitely 239 00:13:18,080 --> 00:13:21,280 Speaker 1: agree with you on the thirties piece of knowing more 240 00:13:21,320 --> 00:13:23,760 Speaker 1: of what you want for me. The twenties is like, 241 00:13:23,800 --> 00:13:26,280 Speaker 1: there's just the thing that was better about your twenties 242 00:13:26,360 --> 00:13:29,079 Speaker 1: is everyone's single. You just have so many options, and 243 00:13:29,080 --> 00:13:32,920 Speaker 1: in your thirties it's like where is everybody? They're either 244 00:13:33,000 --> 00:13:36,280 Speaker 1: married or you're like, why are you still single? Right? 245 00:13:36,320 --> 00:13:38,600 Speaker 1: I guess too. The funny thing about being in your 246 00:13:38,600 --> 00:13:41,280 Speaker 1: twenties is that you feel like you've got all the 247 00:13:41,320 --> 00:13:44,480 Speaker 1: time in the world, like down, I'm in my twenties, 248 00:13:44,600 --> 00:13:46,199 Speaker 1: nothing has to be that. And then you're in your 249 00:13:46,200 --> 00:13:49,800 Speaker 1: thirties and you're like, damn it, I'm almost forty and 250 00:13:49,840 --> 00:13:53,920 Speaker 1: I'm still single. You know, But honestly, it's I am 251 00:13:53,960 --> 00:13:56,720 Speaker 1: in my forties now and I'm single, and it's I'm 252 00:13:56,840 --> 00:14:02,040 Speaker 1: kind of thankful you are because I haven't settled. It's 253 00:14:02,679 --> 00:14:04,360 Speaker 1: I mean, I would have loved to have you know, 254 00:14:04,520 --> 00:14:08,559 Speaker 1: met my forever. But I also don't feel like I've chosen. 255 00:14:10,440 --> 00:14:12,800 Speaker 1: I didn't get locked down into anything that like, I'm 256 00:14:12,880 --> 00:14:16,640 Speaker 1: unhappy and yeah. Another person asked, what are your age 257 00:14:16,679 --> 00:14:20,920 Speaker 1: cut offs for dating young and old? I mean, it's 258 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:23,760 Speaker 1: I truly do believe that age is just a number. 259 00:14:23,960 --> 00:14:28,080 Speaker 1: You're in a grave. Seriously, the closer to the grave 260 00:14:28,320 --> 00:14:30,920 Speaker 1: is what I'm looking for. And they've got to be rich. 261 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:34,880 Speaker 1: But if they're old, um, Now, I do think that 262 00:14:34,960 --> 00:14:36,920 Speaker 1: age is just a number. It's more sort of about 263 00:14:36,960 --> 00:14:41,800 Speaker 1: like their personality to me. But I have learned that, 264 00:14:43,760 --> 00:14:49,640 Speaker 1: you know, life brings you lessons, you know, and it's 265 00:14:50,360 --> 00:14:53,440 Speaker 1: maturity comes with age. Um. And that's not to say 266 00:14:53,440 --> 00:14:55,880 Speaker 1: that there aren't really mature younger people, because there are, 267 00:14:55,920 --> 00:14:58,280 Speaker 1: but I've yet to really come across them in the 268 00:14:58,360 --> 00:15:01,240 Speaker 1: dating world. Yeah, young or has not worked for me. 269 00:15:01,520 --> 00:15:04,960 Speaker 1: The youngest I've gone is uh eight or nine years 270 00:15:04,960 --> 00:15:08,800 Speaker 1: younger than me. I tried. Well, yeah, I mean, like again, 271 00:15:08,960 --> 00:15:12,320 Speaker 1: no problems, but like, what do you relate about? I 272 00:15:12,360 --> 00:15:14,920 Speaker 1: don't know. But then again, like I've dated a guy 273 00:15:15,240 --> 00:15:17,400 Speaker 1: twelve years older than me, and so what was he 274 00:15:17,440 --> 00:15:21,040 Speaker 1: relating to me? But I think it's different, Like I 275 00:15:21,080 --> 00:15:24,360 Speaker 1: don't know. I think for me at least, it's been 276 00:15:25,160 --> 00:15:27,560 Speaker 1: that when guys are older, it doesn't it just doesn't 277 00:15:27,600 --> 00:15:30,760 Speaker 1: matter as much, you know, say, girls mature faster, right, 278 00:15:30,880 --> 00:15:39,600 Speaker 1: was so basically that evens us out that twelve years difference. Um, 279 00:15:39,640 --> 00:15:43,120 Speaker 1: do you have one? Yeah, if you could have any 280 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:48,720 Speaker 1: other career, what would it be and why? Oh? A therapist? Yeah, 281 00:15:48,920 --> 00:15:51,880 Speaker 1: that would be mine. I love that was Actually psychology 282 00:15:51,960 --> 00:15:56,320 Speaker 1: was my major, so I mean minor, and I almost 283 00:15:56,360 --> 00:15:59,040 Speaker 1: majored in it, but instead I did communications. And I've 284 00:15:59,080 --> 00:16:01,040 Speaker 1: always kind of been like, should I have done that 285 00:16:01,120 --> 00:16:03,240 Speaker 1: and gone to grad school? And you know, I don't know. 286 00:16:03,280 --> 00:16:06,600 Speaker 1: I love talking to people. I love helping them get 287 00:16:06,600 --> 00:16:09,400 Speaker 1: to solutions, you know, with any problems that are they're 288 00:16:09,400 --> 00:16:12,600 Speaker 1: going to I'm fascinated by the way our brains work 289 00:16:12,840 --> 00:16:16,680 Speaker 1: and how like situations you go through or trauma affects 290 00:16:16,800 --> 00:16:19,600 Speaker 1: everything we do in the future, you know. Just I 291 00:16:19,640 --> 00:16:21,720 Speaker 1: don't know. I just love all of that stuff. That's 292 00:16:21,720 --> 00:16:24,920 Speaker 1: why I love helping somebody unravel it too. Yeah, just 293 00:16:25,040 --> 00:16:27,800 Speaker 1: learning about it. It's so fascinating to me. What would 294 00:16:27,800 --> 00:16:30,800 Speaker 1: you do? God, the list is so long. Do people 295 00:16:30,840 --> 00:16:33,840 Speaker 1: even know what you do? I don't know. So do 296 00:16:33,840 --> 00:16:37,120 Speaker 1: you want to tell? I do marketing and management of 297 00:16:37,160 --> 00:16:40,520 Speaker 1: the music management company. So, and my history is I've 298 00:16:40,520 --> 00:16:43,880 Speaker 1: worked at record labels for most of my career. I think, 299 00:16:43,920 --> 00:16:48,600 Speaker 1: I mean, there's a lot maybe a veterinarian, so not 300 00:16:48,680 --> 00:16:50,720 Speaker 1: what I thought you were going to say, but I 301 00:16:50,840 --> 00:16:53,360 Speaker 1: just the sadness that comes along with it. I don't 302 00:16:53,360 --> 00:16:55,120 Speaker 1: think I could deal with it like they're sick or 303 00:16:55,200 --> 00:16:58,480 Speaker 1: dying right, um, and having to deal with people that 304 00:16:58,560 --> 00:17:01,400 Speaker 1: are like losing or putting right like I'd be like 305 00:17:01,480 --> 00:17:06,000 Speaker 1: bawling with them. Um. I think a screenwriter would be 306 00:17:06,000 --> 00:17:08,760 Speaker 1: a really fun job. Do you like to write? I do, 307 00:17:08,880 --> 00:17:16,320 Speaker 1: but I don't do it enough. Um. And yeah, maybe 308 00:17:16,359 --> 00:17:18,880 Speaker 1: those two Okay, why what were you thinking? I would 309 00:17:18,880 --> 00:17:23,480 Speaker 1: be neither of them? Maybe I have seen those body rolls. 310 00:17:23,840 --> 00:17:25,399 Speaker 1: I also think it's one of those things that like 311 00:17:25,480 --> 00:17:27,560 Speaker 1: it's super difficult to be like, Oh, that would be 312 00:17:27,560 --> 00:17:29,879 Speaker 1: a fun job to do, because every people say that 313 00:17:30,040 --> 00:17:31,960 Speaker 1: to me all the time too. And there's so many 314 00:17:31,960 --> 00:17:35,760 Speaker 1: different parts of it you just don't see. And like 315 00:17:35,960 --> 00:17:37,760 Speaker 1: people are always like, oh, it'd be so fun to 316 00:17:37,800 --> 00:17:39,520 Speaker 1: just pick out clothes all the time, and I'm like 317 00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:41,640 Speaker 1: the fact that that's what you really think that it's 318 00:17:41,720 --> 00:17:45,440 Speaker 1: like it's just so much more complicated lugging them everywhere. 319 00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:47,600 Speaker 1: Oh my god, the bags that I carry on the 320 00:17:47,680 --> 00:17:50,280 Speaker 1: road are a hundred pounds each. I'm not even exaggerating. 321 00:17:50,680 --> 00:17:53,040 Speaker 1: It's crazy. So even you got to pull them out 322 00:17:53,040 --> 00:17:56,840 Speaker 1: and steam clean them, and it's just yeah, but again, 323 00:17:56,920 --> 00:17:59,480 Speaker 1: I love it, and so it makes it worth it. 324 00:17:59,640 --> 00:18:02,359 Speaker 1: But it's not just this simple like, oh, let's put 325 00:18:02,400 --> 00:18:04,640 Speaker 1: clothes on people and like they're going to really wear 326 00:18:04,640 --> 00:18:07,120 Speaker 1: what I want them to all the time. I mean, 327 00:18:07,119 --> 00:18:08,880 Speaker 1: it's just I feel like the same thing happens with 328 00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:10,760 Speaker 1: my job. Like people are like, oh my god, I 329 00:18:10,760 --> 00:18:13,200 Speaker 1: would kill for it, and I'm like, yeah, it's it's 330 00:18:13,200 --> 00:18:15,879 Speaker 1: a fun job, but it is a job at the 331 00:18:15,960 --> 00:18:18,119 Speaker 1: end of the day, and we travel a lot and 332 00:18:18,160 --> 00:18:20,040 Speaker 1: we're not home and we miss our beds and we 333 00:18:20,080 --> 00:18:24,800 Speaker 1: miss our families. Every job, I mean, my my my 334 00:18:24,880 --> 00:18:28,320 Speaker 1: mother was like her job was from eight to four. 335 00:18:28,440 --> 00:18:30,639 Speaker 1: She took an hour lunch. If she only took a 336 00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:32,439 Speaker 1: half hour, she could leave a three thirty. Like it 337 00:18:32,520 --> 00:18:35,399 Speaker 1: was like so structured and she was able to have 338 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:39,640 Speaker 1: a really balanced life because of that. But what she did, 339 00:18:39,760 --> 00:18:43,720 Speaker 1: like you know, I would I couldn't imagine doing that forever. 340 00:18:43,760 --> 00:18:46,720 Speaker 1: I mean, she what she did was good. She worked, Um, 341 00:18:46,840 --> 00:18:49,480 Speaker 1: she was a social worker, but like it was, she 342 00:18:49,600 --> 00:18:51,520 Speaker 1: was in the welfare part of it, so it was 343 00:18:51,600 --> 00:18:55,600 Speaker 1: like really grueling a lot of paperwork, you know, emotional 344 00:18:55,680 --> 00:18:58,000 Speaker 1: with that job, so emotional. I do think that it's 345 00:18:58,040 --> 00:19:01,080 Speaker 1: so true that every single person is made for a 346 00:19:01,119 --> 00:19:03,880 Speaker 1: certain type of position, you know what I mean. And 347 00:19:04,560 --> 00:19:06,800 Speaker 1: I don't know that even just like I was just 348 00:19:06,800 --> 00:19:09,120 Speaker 1: thinking when you were saying that about your mom's schedule, like, 349 00:19:09,280 --> 00:19:11,280 Speaker 1: first of all, what would that be like? And then 350 00:19:11,359 --> 00:19:15,880 Speaker 1: second of all, I recently was talking to the guy 351 00:19:15,880 --> 00:19:18,200 Speaker 1: I'm dating about trying to plan a trip in March, 352 00:19:18,680 --> 00:19:22,040 Speaker 1: and I'm like, March, I can't, like I can barely 353 00:19:22,080 --> 00:19:24,840 Speaker 1: think past this week. And that is how my schedule works. 354 00:19:25,240 --> 00:19:26,960 Speaker 1: But that's been a hard thing for a lot of 355 00:19:26,960 --> 00:19:30,000 Speaker 1: my friends who aren't in the business or people have 356 00:19:30,119 --> 00:19:32,520 Speaker 1: dated to adjust to, especially if you have like a 357 00:19:32,560 --> 00:19:35,679 Speaker 1: more regular schedule, you want to be planned out, you know, 358 00:19:35,720 --> 00:19:38,080 Speaker 1: like his life he wants to be planned out, and 359 00:19:38,119 --> 00:19:40,479 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, ship, Like it stresses me out all 360 00:19:40,480 --> 00:19:42,280 Speaker 1: the time because I have no idea what my client's 361 00:19:42,359 --> 00:19:44,640 Speaker 1: needs are going to be at that point. Yeah, that's 362 00:19:45,280 --> 00:19:47,879 Speaker 1: so it's like, yeah, there's just pluses and minuses, and 363 00:19:47,920 --> 00:19:49,960 Speaker 1: you just get used to everything. I guess in your 364 00:19:50,000 --> 00:19:52,919 Speaker 1: own world. But this is a good one. How do 365 00:19:52,960 --> 00:19:56,720 Speaker 1: you handle financial stress? Yeah? How do you? That was it? 366 00:19:58,480 --> 00:20:00,080 Speaker 1: Let me tell it again? How do you hand no 367 00:20:00,200 --> 00:20:03,560 Speaker 1: financial stress? I mean I think my problem is is 368 00:20:03,600 --> 00:20:07,399 Speaker 1: that I don't handle it. Um you like dig a 369 00:20:07,440 --> 00:20:12,080 Speaker 1: hole and hide kinda or just act like there's no 370 00:20:12,160 --> 00:20:20,159 Speaker 1: problem acting to casual sometimes. Um, you know, it's finances funny, 371 00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:22,840 Speaker 1: Like I definitely know that I need to be better 372 00:20:22,880 --> 00:20:27,160 Speaker 1: about it. But it's I feel like in my life 373 00:20:27,160 --> 00:20:30,080 Speaker 1: it's money comes along at the right times often and 374 00:20:30,119 --> 00:20:35,119 Speaker 1: you're like, oh wow, okay, that went away. Um, I 375 00:20:35,240 --> 00:20:37,239 Speaker 1: just you know, I know the things that I need 376 00:20:37,280 --> 00:20:39,800 Speaker 1: to fix in order to like help with my I'm 377 00:20:39,880 --> 00:20:42,080 Speaker 1: like really bad about cooking, so I like eat out 378 00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:44,800 Speaker 1: all the time. It just gets really expensive. And if 379 00:20:44,800 --> 00:20:46,840 Speaker 1: I was just better about a few things, like it 380 00:20:46,960 --> 00:20:51,000 Speaker 1: was cut costs so that's your tip is cut cost cost? Yeah, 381 00:20:51,280 --> 00:20:52,960 Speaker 1: you know, I feel like, first of all, that I've 382 00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:56,760 Speaker 1: only grown up financially, are like into a financial adult, 383 00:20:56,840 --> 00:20:59,600 Speaker 1: and probably the last like three years, like I just was. 384 00:20:59,680 --> 00:21:01,399 Speaker 1: I don't know. I think maybe it was like the 385 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:04,359 Speaker 1: freelance life that I lived, but I didn't really have 386 00:21:04,440 --> 00:21:07,120 Speaker 1: a concept of how to be an adult with money. 387 00:21:07,240 --> 00:21:09,240 Speaker 1: And for me, I actually did a podcast with this 388 00:21:09,280 --> 00:21:12,360 Speaker 1: guy who, um he's a money manager, and I thought 389 00:21:12,400 --> 00:21:14,280 Speaker 1: you had to have like so much money to go 390 00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:17,000 Speaker 1: meet with people like that, but you don't, or he 391 00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:19,520 Speaker 1: you know, works with multiple different kinds of people. But 392 00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:23,560 Speaker 1: he sat with me and literally things like figuring out 393 00:21:23,840 --> 00:21:27,040 Speaker 1: what I need to make each month to pay my bills. 394 00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:30,120 Speaker 1: Like I didn't do stuff like that. That sounds ridiculous, 395 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:32,840 Speaker 1: but like if you're not in a salary position, which 396 00:21:32,880 --> 00:21:36,080 Speaker 1: I'm not, I get paid per job. I just didn't 397 00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:37,399 Speaker 1: think about it. I was always just like, let me 398 00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:40,240 Speaker 1: just go make money. Yeah, And so that was fine 399 00:21:40,280 --> 00:21:43,120 Speaker 1: and it worked fine for years, I guess, but like 400 00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:45,520 Speaker 1: I was not really sure of how much I was 401 00:21:45,560 --> 00:21:48,280 Speaker 1: supposed to be saving or anything like that. So we 402 00:21:48,320 --> 00:21:50,720 Speaker 1: sat down and he told me how much I needed 403 00:21:50,720 --> 00:21:53,080 Speaker 1: to be taken out of each check to put into savings. 404 00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:55,760 Speaker 1: Like it sounds so basic and it sounds embarrassing to 405 00:21:55,760 --> 00:21:59,200 Speaker 1: say out loud, but it helped me to like buy 406 00:21:59,240 --> 00:22:02,600 Speaker 1: a house or build us savings, like I'm freezing my eggs. 407 00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:05,320 Speaker 1: You know, things that like big deal, grown up things 408 00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:07,679 Speaker 1: that I probably wouldn't have been able to do if 409 00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:11,040 Speaker 1: I wasn't just a little bit conscious. Yeah, it's just 410 00:22:11,080 --> 00:22:13,880 Speaker 1: about paying attention. Yeah, if you haven't listened to that podcast, 411 00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:17,560 Speaker 1: it's with Daniel Burke. He is a financial guy who's 412 00:22:17,600 --> 00:22:20,919 Speaker 1: amazing and has so many easy tips that are applicable 413 00:22:20,960 --> 00:22:25,480 Speaker 1: to everyone. So go check that one out. Um, oh, listen, 414 00:22:25,560 --> 00:22:28,440 Speaker 1: My turn to ask the question, Um, okay, if you 415 00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:33,480 Speaker 1: um could be a celebrity embroiled in a scandal, which 416 00:22:33,600 --> 00:22:37,680 Speaker 1: one probably Kim Kardashian because she's made so much money 417 00:22:37,720 --> 00:22:41,480 Speaker 1: off of her scandal, I guess I'm making a sex day. 418 00:22:43,760 --> 00:22:50,640 Speaker 1: What about you? Um, God, I don't even know. Don't 419 00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:52,720 Speaker 1: pick someone? Remember the Okay ship and I did a 420 00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:55,639 Speaker 1: podcast a couple of weeks ago to about all the 421 00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:58,320 Speaker 1: celebrity meltdown, So you probably don't want to pick someone 422 00:22:58,359 --> 00:23:04,720 Speaker 1: from that lift, right, The Lindsay Lohans of the Crew. Um, god, 423 00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:07,280 Speaker 1: it's do you want to pray about it and get 424 00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:10,400 Speaker 1: back to us? I was gonna say the raw Low one, 425 00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:14,520 Speaker 1: but that's kind of gross. He was Wait, what he 426 00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:17,399 Speaker 1: was on film having sex with like a sixteen year 427 00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:19,160 Speaker 1: old or something. But what did you just call him? 428 00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:21,480 Speaker 1: He was a pedophile? You thought you said a pedophile 429 00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:26,560 Speaker 1: ped but his career like he sort of escaped it, 430 00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:29,119 Speaker 1: you know, and I didn't even don't even really remember 431 00:23:29,119 --> 00:23:32,920 Speaker 1: it anymore. So maybe that's what I would want for 432 00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:35,359 Speaker 1: my scandal, is that it's a blip on the radar. Okay, 433 00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:37,400 Speaker 1: I feel like I was having this conversation with someone 434 00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:40,240 Speaker 1: the other day, But like most things these days are 435 00:23:40,280 --> 00:23:43,280 Speaker 1: blips on the radar because there is just we're just 436 00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:47,040 Speaker 1: so oversaturated all the time, and there's so much the 437 00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:50,520 Speaker 1: news is a negative, Like there's so much scandal all 438 00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:52,840 Speaker 1: the time that it's like you you might have a 439 00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:54,959 Speaker 1: scandal for a week and then it goes away. Well, 440 00:23:54,960 --> 00:23:57,159 Speaker 1: I mean that's what's happening in politics right now. It's 441 00:23:57,240 --> 00:24:01,240 Speaker 1: like people are like creating scandals to make you forget 442 00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:04,200 Speaker 1: about the current scandal. It's just crazy, so you can't 443 00:24:04,240 --> 00:24:07,240 Speaker 1: keep up. This is a fashion question. What's the best 444 00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:13,639 Speaker 1: place for affordable, affordable men's suits. My go to is Topman, Bobby, 445 00:24:13,640 --> 00:24:16,680 Speaker 1: I put Bobby and Topman all the time. Yeah, Zara 446 00:24:16,760 --> 00:24:19,080 Speaker 1: makes good suits too, but they're you know, it's they're 447 00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:22,359 Speaker 1: cut for Italian bodies, which are tall and thin. So yeah, 448 00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:25,920 Speaker 1: I do. I will say like with Topman, um Asis 449 00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:28,760 Speaker 1: is another really good one. But I what I would 450 00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:31,920 Speaker 1: do is buy that suit and they're I mean, they're 451 00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:34,760 Speaker 1: under a hundred bucks sometimes and if you get it tailored, 452 00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:37,159 Speaker 1: it looks like a really well made like get it 453 00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:40,160 Speaker 1: tailored to fit your body, which shouldn't cause that much 454 00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:43,240 Speaker 1: more either. It's still less expensive than buying an expensive suit. 455 00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:47,720 Speaker 1: Um but that way it looks expensive, it looks really 456 00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:50,240 Speaker 1: well made. It looks custom. Not just the way to 457 00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:52,240 Speaker 1: go because sometimes they're they're a little boxing or like 458 00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:55,840 Speaker 1: you said, they're made to fit certain body types. Topman 459 00:24:55,920 --> 00:24:58,360 Speaker 1: is good to go because they have the skinny fit, 460 00:24:58,480 --> 00:25:00,639 Speaker 1: which is you know, not everyone can pull off. But 461 00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:02,600 Speaker 1: they also have like a muscle fit, or they have 462 00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:07,960 Speaker 1: different different shapes. This is like a top Man at now, God, 463 00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:12,040 Speaker 1: they need to sponsor me or something. Do you have 464 00:25:12,080 --> 00:25:15,359 Speaker 1: one I got one. How do you how do you 465 00:25:15,400 --> 00:25:17,600 Speaker 1: get over being angry at someone? I love? This is 466 00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:20,280 Speaker 1: hilarious to ask me this question. How do you get 467 00:25:20,280 --> 00:25:23,600 Speaker 1: over being angry at someone? Especially if you're not one 468 00:25:23,680 --> 00:25:25,760 Speaker 1: to hold grudges, If you don't just get over it 469 00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:28,879 Speaker 1: then right, Yeah, that's a weird question. Anger is my 470 00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:32,560 Speaker 1: go to emotion, So I think it's funny someone asked 471 00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:34,959 Speaker 1: me about that. I don't know. Do you know? What 472 00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:38,679 Speaker 1: my mom says is that the best way to get 473 00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:42,000 Speaker 1: over anger is to pray for someone or like resentment, 474 00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:45,520 Speaker 1: pray for someone every day to have everything that they 475 00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:48,919 Speaker 1: want to be happy. To pray for that person to 476 00:25:48,960 --> 00:25:51,560 Speaker 1: have everything they want to be happy, everything you want, 477 00:25:51,640 --> 00:25:54,720 Speaker 1: like just all of the things that in life that 478 00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:58,199 Speaker 1: are good. And if you do that every day, I 479 00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:01,600 Speaker 1: get why that works. Why be the hardest thing to 480 00:26:01,640 --> 00:26:06,080 Speaker 1: do when you're because, um, you're not mirroring their anger, 481 00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:09,960 Speaker 1: so you're not harboring that like bullshit. That's I mean, 482 00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:12,640 Speaker 1: if it's generally when someone's anger with you, it's has 483 00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:18,159 Speaker 1: you're angry at I know, but they've probably done something 484 00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:22,000 Speaker 1: because they're angry at you, you know what I mean? Um? 485 00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:27,480 Speaker 1: And I think that like by sending good vibes their away, 486 00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:30,320 Speaker 1: it creates good vibes in your life, and it helps 487 00:26:30,359 --> 00:26:32,840 Speaker 1: you just sort of move past it to let go. Yeah, 488 00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:34,800 Speaker 1: I mean, what good is it to like sit around 489 00:26:34,800 --> 00:26:37,880 Speaker 1: and just be angry at somebody? Well, they say that 490 00:26:38,240 --> 00:26:41,360 Speaker 1: anger and like holding onto resentment is like drinking poison 491 00:26:41,560 --> 00:26:44,399 Speaker 1: and expecting the other person to die, you know what 492 00:26:44,400 --> 00:26:47,200 Speaker 1: I mean. Like you're just you are really holding onto 493 00:26:47,200 --> 00:26:49,280 Speaker 1: something that's not punishing them that you're holding on. Right, 494 00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:52,840 Speaker 1: they've moved on, fishing yourself, they've moved on. But that's 495 00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:54,679 Speaker 1: so hard. I mean, the hardest thing to do when 496 00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:56,320 Speaker 1: you're piss is someone is to go. I hope they 497 00:26:56,320 --> 00:26:59,520 Speaker 1: get everything they want in their life. I'm like, I 498 00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:04,480 Speaker 1: hope they get hit by bus. I mean, you can 499 00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:08,359 Speaker 1: think that instantly and then sort of change your vibe, 500 00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:10,160 Speaker 1: like you don't want to think that over and over 501 00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:14,280 Speaker 1: and over again. Yeah. I've definitely been through phases or situations. 502 00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:16,119 Speaker 1: This is way in the past before I did so 503 00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:20,560 Speaker 1: much therapy. But I would I would feel like just 504 00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:24,200 Speaker 1: if I had felt wrong or you know, wrong or hurt, 505 00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:26,919 Speaker 1: that I would I can't even say this one out. 506 00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:30,040 Speaker 1: I'll never mind. It's gonna make me crazy. No, you 507 00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:32,280 Speaker 1: have to say it now. Like I literally went through 508 00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:34,920 Speaker 1: that situation where I went through that really bad breakup 509 00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:37,200 Speaker 1: and I would drive by Rex and be like, oh, 510 00:27:37,280 --> 00:27:41,679 Speaker 1: is it his car? For a while I was that mad. 511 00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:44,080 Speaker 1: Luckily I was able to work through that anger. But 512 00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:47,200 Speaker 1: you know, I'm glad no one died well, and you're 513 00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:49,600 Speaker 1: like laughing about it, So there is like an element 514 00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:52,439 Speaker 1: of humor to it. I mean, at the time there 515 00:27:52,480 --> 00:27:56,440 Speaker 1: probably wasn't but that his car. Yeah, what would you 516 00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:59,040 Speaker 1: have done if it was? Then? I probably would have 517 00:27:59,080 --> 00:28:01,480 Speaker 1: been sad. But in the moment when you're just so 518 00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:03,679 Speaker 1: mad at someone, you like pull over and you're like, 519 00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:08,040 Speaker 1: you got you had to come in, motherfucker. Hope they 520 00:28:08,080 --> 00:28:11,760 Speaker 1: were laughing about it. Luckily it was never his car, 521 00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:15,840 Speaker 1: and hopefully all the Rex that you saw miner. Okay, 522 00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:21,160 Speaker 1: that's a really great point you make. Um, I just 523 00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:23,679 Speaker 1: saw a question from that other list I was looking at, 524 00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:25,959 Speaker 1: and I'm not going to ask that one. God, this 525 00:28:26,040 --> 00:28:29,520 Speaker 1: is your last chance. What you got, you got one shot. 526 00:28:29,560 --> 00:28:33,200 Speaker 1: I'm about to start wrapping eminem to you. UM, if 527 00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:39,200 Speaker 1: you could give if you could leave UM one legacy. 528 00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:42,680 Speaker 1: I mean, you can leave one legacy. What do you 529 00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:44,640 Speaker 1: hope your legacy is that you leave on this earth? 530 00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:49,360 Speaker 1: I think lately the thing that I've been wanting to 531 00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:54,320 Speaker 1: come across the most about my life or just what 532 00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:57,800 Speaker 1: I'm like giving back to people is just owning and 533 00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:01,360 Speaker 1: loving yourself and like living your authentic life and living 534 00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:04,040 Speaker 1: in your authentic truth. And then that's what I'm trying 535 00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:07,560 Speaker 1: to learn how to do, but just being vulnerable enough 536 00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:11,160 Speaker 1: with each other to let ourselves be actually seen. So 537 00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:14,880 Speaker 1: if I can live my life that way, hopefully it 538 00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:18,440 Speaker 1: can you know, show that to others or they can 539 00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:20,600 Speaker 1: be inspired. But I don't know. It's just that's kind 540 00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:23,280 Speaker 1: of what I'm trying to do in my life. And 541 00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:25,640 Speaker 1: so if that's what people remembered me by, that would 542 00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:32,280 Speaker 1: be awesome. I like that answer. Do you have one? UM? 543 00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:35,560 Speaker 1: I don't know that I do yet. UM, other than like, 544 00:29:36,160 --> 00:29:41,160 Speaker 1: you know, I'd like to think that, um, people will 545 00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:44,320 Speaker 1: remember my kindness, you know, and because I do think 546 00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:47,240 Speaker 1: it's infectious. And I also think, you know, just by 547 00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:49,320 Speaker 1: being kind to people, it's sort of mirrors what you 548 00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:51,800 Speaker 1: were saying. It's like accepting people for who they are, 549 00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:54,120 Speaker 1: and like, I don't know, the world is such a 550 00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:57,120 Speaker 1: negative place right now, and I know I get wrapped 551 00:29:57,200 --> 00:29:59,440 Speaker 1: up in it and I try not to. But the 552 00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:02,640 Speaker 1: reason why I feel like I'm so wrapped up in 553 00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:06,480 Speaker 1: it is because a lot of the problem seems so 554 00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:11,200 Speaker 1: easily fixed by just being kind, you know, like choosing 555 00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:14,640 Speaker 1: the moral right thing to do and not only thinking 556 00:30:14,640 --> 00:30:18,400 Speaker 1: about ourselves, you know. So it's if so if I can, 557 00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:21,920 Speaker 1: if I can change one person with and start a 558 00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:24,600 Speaker 1: ripple of kindness, then that would be a good enough, 559 00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:27,760 Speaker 1: like you say, for me, I love that. What's that 560 00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:31,720 Speaker 1: My Angelo quote where she says people will remember. I 561 00:30:31,800 --> 00:30:34,000 Speaker 1: think it's my Angelo. I just think everything good as 562 00:30:34,040 --> 00:30:37,360 Speaker 1: her So people don't remember what you said or what 563 00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:40,080 Speaker 1: you did, but how you treated them right, something like that. Yeah, 564 00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:42,800 Speaker 1: I probably misquoted that, but you know, like what you 565 00:30:42,840 --> 00:30:46,000 Speaker 1: did something like that? It's a good one. Did you 566 00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:47,960 Speaker 1: guys like this? What do you think about the question 567 00:30:47,960 --> 00:30:52,080 Speaker 1: and the answer series minus all the sex? You guys 568 00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:56,640 Speaker 1: ands we're going to edit some sh it out. Maybe 569 00:30:56,640 --> 00:30:58,200 Speaker 1: this is something we could do once a month if 570 00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:01,320 Speaker 1: you guys wanted some more questions and um, let us know, 571 00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:05,720 Speaker 1: give us some feedback at casual at velvet edge dot com. 572 00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:10,480 Speaker 1: Maybe keep them PG. Thirteen wish Yeah, we'll go with that. 573 00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:12,280 Speaker 1: Let us know what you guys want to know and 574 00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:17,080 Speaker 1: always remember at Casual. I thank you for listening to 575 00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:20,720 Speaker 1: this week's episode of at Casual on velvets Edge. 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