1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:02,719 Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam. This is John, your og Okay 2 00:00:02,759 --> 00:00:05,320 Speaker 1: Storytime podcast host, and we got some great stories coming up. 3 00:00:05,360 --> 00:00:07,360 Speaker 1: Before that, we have a quick two minute break from 4 00:00:07,400 --> 00:00:08,799 Speaker 1: the sponsors that keep the show a lot. 5 00:00:09,360 --> 00:00:11,920 Speaker 2: My husband has a secret son from a past partner. 6 00:00:11,960 --> 00:00:13,600 Speaker 3: Hold up, Sam, how do we know? Do we have 7 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:14,520 Speaker 3: the DNA test? 8 00:00:14,680 --> 00:00:16,800 Speaker 1: Well, John, luckily it's mother. May I have a DNA 9 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:20,280 Speaker 1: test week on the Okay Storytime podcast. So let's jump 10 00:00:20,280 --> 00:00:22,800 Speaker 1: in to what this person has to say. My husband 11 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:26,040 Speaker 1: thirty two male, and I twenty nine female, have been 12 00:00:26,079 --> 00:00:30,720 Speaker 1: a pretty typical couple up until now, I would say, so, yeah, 13 00:00:30,880 --> 00:00:35,600 Speaker 1: things are changing. Dual income, no kids, and we're hoping 14 00:00:35,640 --> 00:00:38,280 Speaker 1: to have one or two within the next few years, 15 00:00:38,560 --> 00:00:41,160 Speaker 1: but are in no rush and are enjoying this time 16 00:00:41,200 --> 00:00:45,319 Speaker 1: in our lives again until now. By the way, this 17 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:47,920 Speaker 1: comes from Love Child fifty three to forty Sex And 18 00:00:47,920 --> 00:00:49,720 Speaker 1: if you want to submit your own stories, go to 19 00:00:49,840 --> 00:00:52,080 Speaker 1: the r slash Okay Storytime subredit. 20 00:00:52,159 --> 00:00:52,239 Speaker 2: So. 21 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:55,000 Speaker 1: I have a white collar job and he works for 22 00:00:55,040 --> 00:00:58,840 Speaker 1: a startup. Of course, we had our problems what couple doesn't, 23 00:00:59,200 --> 00:01:01,400 Speaker 1: but have always made managed to work through them and 24 00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:03,960 Speaker 1: seem to always come out stronger. And I have the 25 00:01:03,960 --> 00:01:08,200 Speaker 1: Blue John. Something happens. What happens got our inciting into it. 26 00:01:08,360 --> 00:01:13,560 Speaker 1: My husband received a Facebook message over the weekend from 27 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:17,759 Speaker 1: a woman saying that he is the father of her 28 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:18,960 Speaker 1: five year old son. 29 00:01:19,080 --> 00:01:21,919 Speaker 4: Okay, why is it every time there's a Facebook message 30 00:01:22,000 --> 00:01:25,040 Speaker 4: just never like hey, you know you dropped one hundred dollars, 31 00:01:25,160 --> 00:01:28,080 Speaker 4: or like, oh, I'm a Nigerian prince and I need 32 00:01:28,120 --> 00:01:30,479 Speaker 4: to give you two million dollars. That would be great 33 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:33,399 Speaker 4: to be to move funds for the air of my throne. 34 00:01:33,680 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 4: You know, it's never that. It's always oh, here's your 35 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:39,440 Speaker 4: secret son, Oh here's your here's the affair partner that 36 00:01:39,480 --> 00:01:40,600 Speaker 4: you're guys sleeping with. 37 00:01:40,680 --> 00:01:41,880 Speaker 3: It's it's it's never good. 38 00:01:42,160 --> 00:01:46,560 Speaker 1: I want good news in my Facebook message and I 39 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:49,720 Speaker 1: never get any. Maybe one day the Nigerian Prince well 40 00:01:49,840 --> 00:01:51,840 Speaker 1: will be waiting for me, all of those. 41 00:01:52,120 --> 00:01:54,360 Speaker 4: All of our Facebook messages to just stop yelling into 42 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:55,560 Speaker 4: the microphone. 43 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:58,120 Speaker 1: If we won't, won't we are going to continue yelling. 44 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:01,760 Speaker 1: So although he didn't immediately remember who she was, man, 45 00:02:01,760 --> 00:02:04,680 Speaker 1: it's a player. After confirming a few details, he was 46 00:02:04,720 --> 00:02:08,079 Speaker 1: able to place her as a one night stand right 47 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:10,120 Speaker 1: before we just started dating. 48 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:11,960 Speaker 3: I mean, that's pretty compelling evidence. 49 00:02:12,120 --> 00:02:13,160 Speaker 2: Man is prolific. 50 00:02:13,280 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 3: That's not good. 51 00:02:14,040 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 2: Man was slang and way that's not good in wild 52 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:19,440 Speaker 2: oats again. 53 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:24,720 Speaker 1: Oh oh, that's Sally's Sally number four. Although it might 54 00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 1: seem that there could be overlap between her and me, 55 00:02:28,000 --> 00:02:33,280 Speaker 1: given the kid's birthday and you know math, yikes. I 56 00:02:33,320 --> 00:02:35,320 Speaker 1: do believe him when he said that he slept with 57 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:42,000 Speaker 1: her only once a month before we started dating. The 58 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:46,000 Speaker 1: punctuation on that is a little little suns is it? 59 00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:49,920 Speaker 1: You only somewhe her once a month or once a 60 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:51,799 Speaker 1: month before we started dating. 61 00:02:51,880 --> 00:02:57,480 Speaker 4: I mean, this is sounded like once a month. I guess, 62 00:02:57,560 --> 00:02:59,799 Speaker 4: I guess there isn't if it's a one night stand, 63 00:03:00,120 --> 00:03:02,600 Speaker 4: just like it's a one night stand, it's a one 64 00:03:02,639 --> 00:03:03,120 Speaker 4: night stand. 65 00:03:03,160 --> 00:03:03,600 Speaker 3: Yeah it's not. 66 00:03:04,120 --> 00:03:06,000 Speaker 2: It's once a month a month. 67 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:09,280 Speaker 3: Once a month stand is crazy, that's why. 68 00:03:09,400 --> 00:03:13,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, he's gone monthly delivery. 69 00:03:13,639 --> 00:03:14,799 Speaker 3: Yeah he can. 70 00:03:14,840 --> 00:03:16,240 Speaker 2: We have a little bit. 71 00:03:16,360 --> 00:03:18,040 Speaker 3: You know, I'm a little busy this. 72 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:20,520 Speaker 1: Week a six week thing. Yeah, I got this new 73 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:27,320 Speaker 1: girl in the block. Well, this isn't an infidelity situation. 74 00:03:27,639 --> 00:03:30,799 Speaker 1: On the one hand, though I'm irrationally angry at them. 75 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 1: This should not be my problem, and I was not 76 00:03:34,240 --> 00:03:38,200 Speaker 1: the one who decided to have unprotected, spicy sleep with 77 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:41,000 Speaker 1: someone I did not know while wasted. 78 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:41,880 Speaker 2: Amen. 79 00:03:42,160 --> 00:03:45,840 Speaker 1: Amen, sister. Well, we bought a house a year ago 80 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:48,040 Speaker 1: that in hindsight, was probably more of a reach than 81 00:03:48,040 --> 00:03:51,480 Speaker 1: we should have done. So money is very tight at 82 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:53,960 Speaker 1: this point in time. We live in a completely different province, 83 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 1: so logistically speaking, having a relationship with this child WI 84 00:03:57,320 --> 00:04:00,480 Speaker 1: will be difficult. I'm not saying it's impossible. I'm not 85 00:04:00,600 --> 00:04:03,280 Speaker 1: saying it wouldn't be worth it. I'm just saying it 86 00:04:03,320 --> 00:04:06,280 Speaker 1: will be harder than if we were still in the 87 00:04:06,320 --> 00:04:09,840 Speaker 1: same city. So already, op is like, I want to 88 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:13,760 Speaker 1: make this relationship with this kid work for for my husband. 89 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:15,280 Speaker 3: Yes, So I mean that's. 90 00:04:15,160 --> 00:04:18,520 Speaker 1: Kind of that's kind of a nice move on her part. 91 00:04:18,960 --> 00:04:23,600 Speaker 4: W move because again, assuming what we know is true, 92 00:04:23,600 --> 00:04:26,680 Speaker 4: which is true that they they basically conceive the baby 93 00:04:26,680 --> 00:04:29,599 Speaker 4: before the relationship, It's like, Okay, you can't like fault 94 00:04:29,680 --> 00:04:32,520 Speaker 4: him no for that, you know, But now it's like, Okay, 95 00:04:32,720 --> 00:04:33,640 Speaker 4: my husband. 96 00:04:33,320 --> 00:04:35,760 Speaker 2: That was that was me way long ago. 97 00:04:36,200 --> 00:04:37,159 Speaker 3: I'm a different person. 98 00:04:37,760 --> 00:04:40,880 Speaker 1: Thirty days before when I met you, I was a 99 00:04:41,000 --> 00:04:41,680 Speaker 1: changed man. 100 00:04:41,760 --> 00:04:42,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, let me tell you what a count. 101 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:48,560 Speaker 2: But I took on that fatherly duty. 102 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:51,279 Speaker 1: At the same time, I'm likely getting ahead of myself 103 00:04:51,320 --> 00:04:55,440 Speaker 1: as there is no confirmation that he is even his son. Yep, 104 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:57,159 Speaker 1: they don't know where's the DNA desk? 105 00:04:57,440 --> 00:04:57,720 Speaker 2: Got it? 106 00:04:57,760 --> 00:04:58,479 Speaker 3: Gotta give it to me. 107 00:04:58,600 --> 00:05:01,679 Speaker 1: She has a meeting with her lawyer on September eighth 108 00:05:01,720 --> 00:05:04,800 Speaker 1: to discuss how to go about getting a paternity test done, 109 00:05:04,920 --> 00:05:08,360 Speaker 1: which to me implies that since lawyers are getting involved, 110 00:05:08,720 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 1: she will be going after him for that money that yes, moolah, 111 00:05:13,640 --> 00:05:16,200 Speaker 1: which she is entitled to and is her right if 112 00:05:16,240 --> 00:05:17,320 Speaker 1: he is his son. 113 00:05:17,920 --> 00:05:20,560 Speaker 2: Which I love how OPI is, like, I guess, I 114 00:05:20,560 --> 00:05:20,919 Speaker 2: guess so. 115 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:23,360 Speaker 4: I mean she's so like I feel like she's very 116 00:05:23,360 --> 00:05:26,119 Speaker 4: like level headed and reasonable, very very down to earth 117 00:05:26,160 --> 00:05:27,839 Speaker 4: and just like earth this is what it is. 118 00:05:28,040 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, which I feel like if I was getting 119 00:05:31,560 --> 00:05:33,560 Speaker 1: this Facebook message, I don't know if I would be 120 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:38,080 Speaker 1: as reasonable as Op. So he props to up for 121 00:05:38,120 --> 00:05:39,040 Speaker 1: for Wayne both sides. 122 00:05:39,080 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 4: I'm actually curious for everyone watching comment below if you 123 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:45,400 Speaker 4: think that they should only be entitled to like the 124 00:05:45,480 --> 00:05:50,240 Speaker 4: husband's side of the money, because if there's intermingled funds, like, is. 125 00:05:50,120 --> 00:05:52,080 Speaker 3: That really like effect? 126 00:05:52,200 --> 00:05:53,080 Speaker 2: Is that fair? Yeah? 127 00:05:53,160 --> 00:05:53,640 Speaker 3: Is that fair? 128 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:54,039 Speaker 2: I don't know. 129 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:57,320 Speaker 1: Well, a different side of me feels robbed, and the 130 00:05:57,360 --> 00:06:00,279 Speaker 1: protective side of me also feels like my husband has 131 00:06:00,279 --> 00:06:02,880 Speaker 1: been robbed, albeit in a different way. He didn't know 132 00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:05,599 Speaker 1: about this child and consequently has missed many of the 133 00:06:05,600 --> 00:06:09,160 Speaker 1: traditional milestones. He broke down in the middle of our 134 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:12,720 Speaker 1: living room, apologizing and saying that he had always imagined 135 00:06:12,839 --> 00:06:15,480 Speaker 1: that his children would be with me, and that this 136 00:06:15,560 --> 00:06:18,159 Speaker 1: is not the kind of father he wanted to be. 137 00:06:18,800 --> 00:06:21,920 Speaker 4: I mean, it does suck like that he he didn't know, 138 00:06:22,160 --> 00:06:24,640 Speaker 4: he didn't know. You can't you kind of I mean, 139 00:06:24,680 --> 00:06:27,240 Speaker 4: I guess you can blame him, you know, doing the 140 00:06:27,480 --> 00:06:30,839 Speaker 4: lap in the willie, but like, ah, I do still 141 00:06:30,880 --> 00:06:31,320 Speaker 4: feel for. 142 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:32,200 Speaker 2: Him, yeah, you know. 143 00:06:32,279 --> 00:06:35,680 Speaker 1: I And also I think this reaction like if I 144 00:06:35,720 --> 00:06:37,680 Speaker 1: was a wife, all right, damn I got a good one. 145 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:40,240 Speaker 2: That's good, you know. You know. It's like like he 146 00:06:40,279 --> 00:06:41,120 Speaker 2: wants to be a good father. 147 00:06:41,120 --> 00:06:42,840 Speaker 1: That's what he really He's like sad, you know, what 148 00:06:42,880 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 1: do you want to hear as a wife green flat. 149 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:47,720 Speaker 1: His first instinct, though, if it comes to it, is 150 00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:51,240 Speaker 1: to pay child support, but to not have any presence 151 00:06:51,320 --> 00:06:54,560 Speaker 1: in his life since his future family is with me. 152 00:06:54,960 --> 00:06:57,719 Speaker 4: Oh, He's like he's like, Babe, I want to be 153 00:06:57,760 --> 00:07:01,839 Speaker 4: the best father ever, but only to your hid you 154 00:07:02,200 --> 00:07:04,960 Speaker 4: I guess I mean not W. 155 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:07,479 Speaker 1: I feel like a less of a W. Yeah, less 156 00:07:07,480 --> 00:07:09,720 Speaker 1: of a do at least you, I guess know he's 157 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:12,480 Speaker 1: committed to you. I don't know is that a word now? 158 00:07:12,840 --> 00:07:14,560 Speaker 1: I don't think I honestly, I don't think it is. 159 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:16,440 Speaker 1: I feel it's lots of a W. But I would 160 00:07:16,440 --> 00:07:18,640 Speaker 1: love to know what y'all think. And given how my 161 00:07:18,720 --> 00:07:22,600 Speaker 1: post probably sounds, you would think this would make me happy, 162 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:25,440 Speaker 1: but that actually just made me even sadder and even 163 00:07:25,440 --> 00:07:28,800 Speaker 1: more disappointed my husband. The kid looks exactly like how 164 00:07:28,840 --> 00:07:31,480 Speaker 1: my husband looked at five, and I think he should 165 00:07:31,480 --> 00:07:34,280 Speaker 1: get to know him, even if this impacts my life negatively, 166 00:07:34,480 --> 00:07:36,000 Speaker 1: since this is not the kid's fault. 167 00:07:36,320 --> 00:07:37,800 Speaker 2: Wife yep, I. 168 00:07:37,720 --> 00:07:39,520 Speaker 1: Told him to just reflect for a while and did 169 00:07:39,560 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 1: not make any decisions until we know more. But I 170 00:07:42,360 --> 00:07:45,520 Speaker 1: am hoping that once the shock has worn off, he'll 171 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:50,480 Speaker 1: want to have a relationship with him. Also, John, if 172 00:07:50,480 --> 00:07:52,200 Speaker 1: you're new here, which I know you are, you just 173 00:07:52,280 --> 00:07:52,720 Speaker 1: can't know. 174 00:07:52,760 --> 00:07:53,280 Speaker 3: What this is. 175 00:07:53,440 --> 00:07:56,840 Speaker 1: There are multiple parts to this story, so make sure 176 00:07:56,840 --> 00:07:59,880 Speaker 1: to follow us on iHeart or Apple podcasts. We're gonna 177 00:07:59,880 --> 00:08:02,000 Speaker 1: get back to the story. But if you're new here, 178 00:08:02,080 --> 00:08:03,800 Speaker 1: come on. This is this is a family right here. 179 00:08:03,880 --> 00:08:06,480 Speaker 1: We go live every weekday. I mean it's it's freaking awesome. 180 00:08:06,680 --> 00:08:09,360 Speaker 1: Don't come into the fault. We'll love you, we'll accept you, 181 00:08:09,640 --> 00:08:12,320 Speaker 1: We'll give you little little cute kisses right before you 182 00:08:12,360 --> 00:08:12,840 Speaker 1: go to sleep. 183 00:08:12,880 --> 00:08:15,120 Speaker 2: Oh my, hey, it's Sam, your og host. Here. 184 00:08:15,120 --> 00:08:16,720 Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to the stories. But here's three 185 00:08:16,720 --> 00:08:19,560 Speaker 1: minutes of ads from our sponsors. But on Facebook, she 186 00:08:19,640 --> 00:08:21,600 Speaker 1: was rambling and made it sound like the kid had 187 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:24,920 Speaker 1: a hard life and was mistreated by your previous partner 188 00:08:25,040 --> 00:08:27,800 Speaker 1: who was presenting as the father. So on top of it, 189 00:08:28,240 --> 00:08:30,760 Speaker 1: this is a sad situation. So Op's like, hey, like 190 00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:32,840 Speaker 1: you kind of have a responsibility, man. 191 00:08:32,760 --> 00:08:33,800 Speaker 2: Up do something. 192 00:08:33,840 --> 00:08:36,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, like this this is your kid. 193 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:36,959 Speaker 2: This is your kid. 194 00:08:37,080 --> 00:08:39,520 Speaker 3: Indeed, and uh, the kid proceeds. 195 00:08:39,640 --> 00:08:39,840 Speaker 2: Yeah. 196 00:08:39,840 --> 00:08:42,480 Speaker 1: I feel like I feel like the moral compass of 197 00:08:42,520 --> 00:08:44,880 Speaker 1: OP is pretty high, which is pretty great. I mean, 198 00:08:44,920 --> 00:08:47,760 Speaker 1: like you don't you don't. You don't throw any woman 199 00:08:47,760 --> 00:08:50,480 Speaker 1: in this situation and have her actly. I feel like 200 00:08:50,720 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 1: OP is like balanced and and like all right, like 201 00:08:53,920 --> 00:08:55,240 Speaker 1: like be the best man you can. 202 00:08:55,160 --> 00:08:58,600 Speaker 4: Be as far as like the Okay Storytime podcast principles 203 00:08:58,640 --> 00:09:02,560 Speaker 4: like op is kind of like hitting every checkbox so far, 204 00:09:02,720 --> 00:09:03,880 Speaker 4: I would say, I. 205 00:09:03,840 --> 00:09:05,800 Speaker 1: Don't know if this is even relevant, but the mother 206 00:09:05,840 --> 00:09:09,120 Speaker 1: of his child is not the most stable person. There's 207 00:09:09,120 --> 00:09:12,160 Speaker 1: a very loose connection between her and me, although I 208 00:09:12,160 --> 00:09:14,720 Speaker 1: don't know her personally. Oh, I have heard of her 209 00:09:15,160 --> 00:09:19,000 Speaker 1: throughout the years via mutual friends. My best friend's boyfriend's 210 00:09:19,000 --> 00:09:22,160 Speaker 1: brother used to be friends with her. That is quite 211 00:09:22,160 --> 00:09:24,400 Speaker 1: the grape vine something though, so this is a pretty 212 00:09:24,400 --> 00:09:27,760 Speaker 1: distant connection. And I remember the stories showing she's not 213 00:09:27,880 --> 00:09:30,840 Speaker 1: the most sane person in the world. So it's like 214 00:09:31,520 --> 00:09:34,800 Speaker 1: kind of having her in the fold, you're inviting drama. 215 00:09:34,520 --> 00:09:35,160 Speaker 2: Into your life. 216 00:09:35,360 --> 00:09:39,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, at the same time, it meant nothing and the 217 00:09:39,280 --> 00:09:41,520 Speaker 1: stories were amusing as I had nothing to do with her, 218 00:09:41,559 --> 00:09:44,760 Speaker 1: But now this is the person he and by extension 219 00:09:44,880 --> 00:09:48,440 Speaker 1: I will maybe have to co parent with. And although 220 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:51,080 Speaker 1: my husband and I make a typical middle class income 221 00:09:51,200 --> 00:09:54,280 Speaker 1: ADK combined, so we're not hurting, but by no means 222 00:09:54,320 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 1: are we wealthy. My parents have a lot of money, 223 00:09:57,640 --> 00:10:00,719 Speaker 1: let's go. But and so par to me wonders if 224 00:10:00,720 --> 00:10:04,360 Speaker 1: she will go after me or what her expectations are 225 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:06,520 Speaker 1: when it comes to that. So she's like, I see 226 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:09,920 Speaker 1: those dollars signs parents? Is that even parents? Is that 227 00:10:09,960 --> 00:10:10,360 Speaker 1: a thing? 228 00:10:10,920 --> 00:10:14,400 Speaker 3: Grand printal rights well brands for enough to get the money. 229 00:10:14,559 --> 00:10:16,920 Speaker 1: I don't think it is the thing. But what what 230 00:10:17,120 --> 00:10:20,040 Speaker 1: she could like, you know, if you have if she's like, oh, 231 00:10:20,080 --> 00:10:22,800 Speaker 1: I can sue them for everything they have, and I 232 00:10:22,880 --> 00:10:25,680 Speaker 1: know that their parents are going to help out, like 233 00:10:25,840 --> 00:10:30,600 Speaker 1: they can sue for the five years Yeah of back pay. 234 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:35,720 Speaker 1: Oh that's a lot, five years of monthly back pay 235 00:10:36,040 --> 00:10:39,280 Speaker 1: for child support. That's like at least you know, let's 236 00:10:39,280 --> 00:10:42,400 Speaker 1: say one thousand dollars minimum per month. 237 00:10:42,800 --> 00:10:45,599 Speaker 4: And you just go and you know, get rid of 238 00:10:45,640 --> 00:10:48,880 Speaker 4: the grandparents. Uh, op and Harris all the money? Now 239 00:10:48,880 --> 00:10:49,559 Speaker 4: you go after that. 240 00:10:49,800 --> 00:10:52,400 Speaker 1: Boom boom are you saying to get rid of Like yeah, 241 00:10:52,440 --> 00:10:54,800 Speaker 1: like get get rid of it, rid of like you know, 242 00:10:54,800 --> 00:10:56,760 Speaker 1: get that hair Like all. 243 00:10:56,800 --> 00:10:58,520 Speaker 4: Right, let me let me, let me go real crazy 244 00:10:58,559 --> 00:11:03,479 Speaker 4: on these grandparents. They're gone. Sure with the fishes, all 245 00:11:03,600 --> 00:11:05,160 Speaker 4: of her family's inheritance goes to Op. 246 00:11:05,520 --> 00:11:07,920 Speaker 1: Now she can sue her for millions, Yeah, millions. But 247 00:11:07,960 --> 00:11:10,400 Speaker 1: I'm definitely getting ahead of myself. The only people we 248 00:11:10,480 --> 00:11:13,120 Speaker 1: have told so far are my parents. He has a 249 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:15,480 Speaker 1: better relationship with my parents than with his, and they 250 00:11:15,520 --> 00:11:17,640 Speaker 1: told us not to make decisions at the moment until 251 00:11:17,679 --> 00:11:20,560 Speaker 1: we know what is going on, that the child may 252 00:11:20,600 --> 00:11:23,240 Speaker 1: not even be his. Again, we have not done the 253 00:11:23,240 --> 00:11:25,760 Speaker 1: paternity test, so we're going to ahead of ourselves, and 254 00:11:25,800 --> 00:11:27,760 Speaker 1: that it is suspect that she is only getting in 255 00:11:27,800 --> 00:11:30,760 Speaker 1: touch with us now. They advised us to reduce both 256 00:11:30,840 --> 00:11:35,400 Speaker 1: of our online footprints, especially his, delete LinkedIn, make Instagram 257 00:11:35,400 --> 00:11:38,640 Speaker 1: and Facebook completely private, et cetera, limit contact with her 258 00:11:38,720 --> 00:11:41,920 Speaker 1: and wait until her lawyer formally contacts him for a 259 00:11:41,920 --> 00:11:45,520 Speaker 1: paternity test and child support and go from there. I, 260 00:11:45,760 --> 00:11:48,640 Speaker 1: generally speaking, tend to believe things at face value and 261 00:11:48,679 --> 00:11:50,840 Speaker 1: could be naive sometimes, so it was hard for me 262 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:54,040 Speaker 1: to hear that she could be contacting us for selfish reasons. 263 00:11:54,040 --> 00:11:56,120 Speaker 1: She kept saying she wanted to do right by her 264 00:11:56,160 --> 00:11:58,600 Speaker 1: son and for him to know his father. The point 265 00:11:58,640 --> 00:12:02,000 Speaker 1: was not to give her and her lawyer any more ammunition. 266 00:12:02,040 --> 00:12:05,360 Speaker 1: I feel their reality their wealth has forced them to 267 00:12:05,400 --> 00:12:07,760 Speaker 1: be more cautious and calculated, as this type of thing 268 00:12:08,040 --> 00:12:10,760 Speaker 1: has happened in their circle and has turned out to 269 00:12:10,800 --> 00:12:13,320 Speaker 1: be a money grab. But I guess they are right, 270 00:12:13,400 --> 00:12:16,960 Speaker 1: so it seems like the parents, because they're they're wealthy, 271 00:12:16,960 --> 00:12:20,120 Speaker 1: have had people sue them or go after them for 272 00:12:20,240 --> 00:12:22,960 Speaker 1: like various things, or like, hey, don't don't believe everyone 273 00:12:22,960 --> 00:12:25,199 Speaker 1: who comes at you with a with a lawsuit and 274 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:26,080 Speaker 1: a paternity test. 275 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:31,000 Speaker 4: Dude that when you have multiple people coming after that's crazy. 276 00:12:31,200 --> 00:12:34,840 Speaker 1: I mean, dude, I feel like it happened. That has happened, 277 00:12:35,000 --> 00:12:37,600 Speaker 1: you know, I do think that. I guess like the 278 00:12:37,640 --> 00:12:40,520 Speaker 1: sage wisdom of the parents might might help in this situation. 279 00:12:40,720 --> 00:12:42,479 Speaker 3: Yeah, oh a thousand. 280 00:12:42,679 --> 00:12:46,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, the most recent one since we spoke to 281 00:12:46,400 --> 00:12:48,280 Speaker 1: my parents, he has not responded to any of her 282 00:12:48,280 --> 00:12:50,640 Speaker 1: Facebook messages. I guess to not give her extra ammo 283 00:12:50,760 --> 00:12:53,120 Speaker 1: in the lawsuit or whatever. Right, The most recent one 284 00:12:53,120 --> 00:12:55,120 Speaker 1: she has sent was whether or not he wanted to 285 00:12:55,120 --> 00:12:57,400 Speaker 1: get to know his son. I guess I don't really 286 00:12:57,440 --> 00:12:59,800 Speaker 1: have a question, but more needed to rant since like 287 00:12:59,800 --> 00:13:02,160 Speaker 1: an not really talk to my friends about this. I'm 288 00:13:02,160 --> 00:13:04,440 Speaker 1: not sure what my next step should be, how I 289 00:13:04,520 --> 00:13:07,439 Speaker 1: even should feel about the situation, and I need tips 290 00:13:07,679 --> 00:13:09,800 Speaker 1: on how to temper the selfish side of me. I 291 00:13:09,840 --> 00:13:11,680 Speaker 1: need to be there for him, but I'm having a 292 00:13:11,720 --> 00:13:14,720 Speaker 1: hard time even looking at him in the eyes, and 293 00:13:14,760 --> 00:13:16,960 Speaker 1: although my vows do mean something and I would not 294 00:13:17,000 --> 00:13:19,840 Speaker 1: actually do this, part of me just wants to leave 295 00:13:20,800 --> 00:13:22,760 Speaker 1: as this was not what I signed up for and 296 00:13:22,840 --> 00:13:26,880 Speaker 1: our reality, no matter what happens next, will be very 297 00:13:26,920 --> 00:13:32,480 Speaker 1: different going forward. I mean yeah, yeah, super different, super different. 298 00:13:32,480 --> 00:13:35,760 Speaker 1: I mean there's no escaping it. I do love again. 299 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:38,720 Speaker 1: That op is like feeling this duty to the relationship. 300 00:13:38,760 --> 00:13:41,360 Speaker 1: She's not just trying to abandon ship and recognizing these 301 00:13:41,360 --> 00:13:45,280 Speaker 1: emotions that might not be like completely rational or completely 302 00:13:45,280 --> 00:13:46,960 Speaker 1: what she actually wants to do deep down, if she's 303 00:13:47,000 --> 00:13:50,960 Speaker 1: following her moral compass, like like these emotions exist, she's. 304 00:13:50,760 --> 00:13:53,640 Speaker 4: Not letting the emotions take her to a place of 305 00:13:53,679 --> 00:13:57,880 Speaker 4: making a potentially rash decision. But she's like, hey, I 306 00:13:57,960 --> 00:14:00,800 Speaker 4: am feeling these things. I'm acknowledging these things and trying 307 00:14:00,840 --> 00:14:03,440 Speaker 4: to sift through and figure out what is the. 308 00:14:03,280 --> 00:14:06,200 Speaker 3: Best thing to do because it's a crazy situation. 309 00:14:05,920 --> 00:14:08,320 Speaker 1: Crazy situation, and I think it's about to get crazier. 310 00:14:08,520 --> 00:14:11,200 Speaker 1: We're less than a third through this story. Again, if 311 00:14:11,240 --> 00:14:15,080 Speaker 1: you're new here, this is just part one of this story. 312 00:14:15,200 --> 00:14:16,880 Speaker 1: We got some juice left to squeeze, so make sure 313 00:14:16,920 --> 00:14:20,240 Speaker 1: you're following us on iHeart Apple podcasts or wherever you 314 00:14:20,280 --> 00:14:22,640 Speaker 1: get your podcasts and click the link in the description, 315 00:14:22,760 --> 00:14:24,880 Speaker 1: or go to our profile to get the next part 316 00:14:25,200 --> 00:14:29,480 Speaker 1: of the story. 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