1 00:00:16,000 --> 00:00:18,440 Speaker 1: Yes, Yes, I am Dramos and this is the Street 2 00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:21,320 Speaker 1: Stoke Podcast bring you your daily dose of timeless stoic 3 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:24,840 Speaker 1: philosophy remix for the hip hop generation. Now, with that 4 00:00:24,920 --> 00:00:27,680 Speaker 1: in mind, let's get things started with your daily shot 5 00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:37,880 Speaker 1: of inspiration. Now today, we're gonna be focusing all around 6 00:00:37,920 --> 00:00:42,000 Speaker 1: the stoic idea of practicing resilience when faced with obstacles, 7 00:00:42,360 --> 00:00:46,720 Speaker 1: failure or tragedy. And a song that immediately came to 8 00:00:46,760 --> 00:00:48,760 Speaker 1: my mind when I was prepping for today's show, I 9 00:00:48,840 --> 00:00:50,960 Speaker 1: was listening to this album, just re listening to it 10 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:54,440 Speaker 1: for like the five hundred times Big Sean Detroit two 11 00:00:54,560 --> 00:00:58,080 Speaker 1: and the song everything That's Missing, and it really just 12 00:00:58,280 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 1: to me encapsulates all that we're talking about with this 13 00:01:00,560 --> 00:01:05,520 Speaker 1: idea of practicing a resilience when faced with obstacles. Right now. 14 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:08,360 Speaker 1: In the record, he says, there's no romance in without 15 00:01:08,360 --> 00:01:11,280 Speaker 1: the pain, just like there's no loss without some gain, 16 00:01:11,920 --> 00:01:14,800 Speaker 1: just like there's no day without a blessing, just like 17 00:01:14,880 --> 00:01:19,080 Speaker 1: no paydays without finessing. But when who hurt you's forgiven, 18 00:01:19,680 --> 00:01:22,399 Speaker 1: and all the late nights you've been wishing finally pay 19 00:01:22,440 --> 00:01:25,560 Speaker 1: off and go the distance. I pray you get everything 20 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:28,080 Speaker 1: you miss in and that's the hook of the record, right, 21 00:01:28,120 --> 00:01:30,360 Speaker 1: And in that first verse he actually goes on to 22 00:01:30,959 --> 00:01:32,919 Speaker 1: say this part that I wanted to include. He says, 23 00:01:33,319 --> 00:01:36,280 Speaker 1: it's not about the trophy, it's about what it took 24 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:39,679 Speaker 1: to grab it. And if you feel in stagnant, just 25 00:01:39,800 --> 00:01:42,199 Speaker 1: know you attracting the energy that you put out there, 26 00:01:42,520 --> 00:01:45,200 Speaker 1: you will walk in magnet. Life can be a struggle. 27 00:01:45,560 --> 00:01:49,240 Speaker 1: Well what isn't that's worth having? And one thing that 28 00:01:49,320 --> 00:01:52,680 Speaker 1: really man just really sticks out to me and all 29 00:01:52,720 --> 00:01:57,480 Speaker 1: that he's saying. I love that line about the journey itself. Right, 30 00:01:57,880 --> 00:02:00,560 Speaker 1: he's saying it's not about the trophy, but what it 31 00:02:00,600 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 1: took to grab it. And he's really focusing in on 32 00:02:04,280 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 1: the idea that it's not about the goal itself. Right. 33 00:02:07,440 --> 00:02:09,440 Speaker 1: Of course, that is what we focus on. That is 34 00:02:09,480 --> 00:02:11,000 Speaker 1: the thing that gets us up in the morning, and 35 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:14,800 Speaker 1: that's sort of the north star guiding us. But really 36 00:02:15,040 --> 00:02:18,840 Speaker 1: the goal and having goals and setting them, the reward 37 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:21,679 Speaker 1: comes from the journey that they set us out on, right, 38 00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:25,840 Speaker 1: and the inevitable experiences that happen as a result of 39 00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:28,799 Speaker 1: us trying to accomplish something, of us trying to make 40 00:02:28,840 --> 00:02:32,600 Speaker 1: something happen. And I think he's also focusing in on 41 00:02:32,639 --> 00:02:36,480 Speaker 1: the idea of there's gonna be ups and downs, there's 42 00:02:36,520 --> 00:02:39,080 Speaker 1: gonna be good with the bad, and the tour are inseparable. 43 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:40,799 Speaker 1: They are all a part of your story, a part 44 00:02:40,800 --> 00:02:43,080 Speaker 1: of your journey, a part of living, and you have 45 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:47,320 Speaker 1: to learn how to embrace them and understanding and recognizing 46 00:02:47,320 --> 00:02:49,480 Speaker 1: the fact that anything that comes to you that is 47 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:52,480 Speaker 1: of value is always going to have some sort of 48 00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 1: struggle to obtain. And this leads us to one of 49 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:57,080 Speaker 1: the quotes from one of the stoics, Seneca, and he 50 00:02:57,200 --> 00:03:01,960 Speaker 1: says a gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a 51 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:07,239 Speaker 1: man perfected without trials. It's this idea that to get 52 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:10,480 Speaker 1: to the good things, to get to the beauty, there 53 00:03:10,600 --> 00:03:12,920 Speaker 1: has to be some sort of tug and pull, right, 54 00:03:13,280 --> 00:03:16,400 Speaker 1: And I also think he's obviously saying in that last line, 55 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:20,280 Speaker 1: you don't know what you're made of until you're actually tested, right, 56 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:23,720 Speaker 1: until you're put through the trials and tribulations. You don't 57 00:03:23,760 --> 00:03:26,960 Speaker 1: really know who you are as a person and what 58 00:03:27,120 --> 00:03:30,200 Speaker 1: really matters to you and all of the different ingredients 59 00:03:30,200 --> 00:03:32,560 Speaker 1: that really make you up right without any of that friction, 60 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 1: without any of those hard times, without any of that tension, 61 00:03:35,360 --> 00:03:37,440 Speaker 1: you really don't know yourself at the end of the day, right, 62 00:03:38,040 --> 00:03:42,480 Speaker 1: I relate to this wholeheartedly. Specifically recently, you know, I 63 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:45,600 Speaker 1: am at a point right now in my life where 64 00:03:45,680 --> 00:03:50,120 Speaker 1: I recognize that I am alone, truly for the first 65 00:03:50,120 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 1: time in my life where I don't have a roommate. 66 00:03:54,760 --> 00:03:58,080 Speaker 1: I am not in the midst of a relationship. I 67 00:03:58,120 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 1: am here just living my life day to day by myself. 68 00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:05,040 Speaker 1: And I had recently moved out of the city where 69 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 1: you know, that's what kind of my hub of my 70 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:10,920 Speaker 1: social life is. And I'm really having to challenge myself 71 00:04:11,160 --> 00:04:15,000 Speaker 1: in learning to love my own company again and truly 72 00:04:15,080 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 1: learning to love my own company, because I think I've 73 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:19,839 Speaker 1: always had that in me. But it's easy when you have, 74 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:22,599 Speaker 1: you know, to go into the office every day and 75 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:25,760 Speaker 1: you have a social life that's incredibly busy, it's easy 76 00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:27,880 Speaker 1: to sort of be sort of one foot in, one 77 00:04:27,880 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 1: foot out when it comes to enjoying your own company. Right. 78 00:04:30,400 --> 00:04:32,919 Speaker 1: But I truly have had to kind of sit back 79 00:04:33,040 --> 00:04:35,240 Speaker 1: and reflect on who I am and what I want 80 00:04:35,360 --> 00:04:38,359 Speaker 1: and refine that love for myself and the life that 81 00:04:38,440 --> 00:04:42,359 Speaker 1: I have. And I think also within that letting go 82 00:04:42,480 --> 00:04:47,080 Speaker 1: of putting expectations on other people, right, And this entire 83 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:51,520 Speaker 1: journey of finding peace within, this right within just taking 84 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:54,760 Speaker 1: things as they come, within being okay by myself, being 85 00:04:54,800 --> 00:04:57,800 Speaker 1: okay with my own company, and not relying on anybody 86 00:04:57,800 --> 00:05:02,239 Speaker 1: else for validation or for attention. Right. And that's exactly 87 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:04,920 Speaker 1: what has happened kind of through these last couple months 88 00:05:04,920 --> 00:05:08,520 Speaker 1: of challenging myself to not give into the temptations of 89 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:12,040 Speaker 1: drowning out the thoughts in my mind with frivolous or 90 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 1: superficial human interaction, right, but instead challenging myself to dig 91 00:05:16,360 --> 00:05:18,159 Speaker 1: deeper and to get to the core of what was 92 00:05:18,200 --> 00:05:20,360 Speaker 1: coming up for me as I was spending this time 93 00:05:20,440 --> 00:05:23,040 Speaker 1: alone for the first time in my adult life. Now 94 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:25,920 Speaker 1: we've talked about Big Sean, we have talked from We've 95 00:05:25,960 --> 00:05:27,640 Speaker 1: heard from one of the stoic Seneca. I've given you 96 00:05:27,720 --> 00:05:30,080 Speaker 1: some insight into my own life and how I'm practicing 97 00:05:30,160 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 1: resilience when facing my own obstacles internally. Now let's talk 98 00:05:33,640 --> 00:05:35,760 Speaker 1: about how you can make it your mantra for today. 99 00:05:36,080 --> 00:05:38,360 Speaker 1: But first's take a quick break and then we'll lead 100 00:05:38,560 --> 00:05:51,400 Speaker 1: right back. All right, So to say, we've heard the 101 00:05:51,440 --> 00:05:53,080 Speaker 1: words of Big Sean, we have heard from one of 102 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:55,240 Speaker 1: the Stoic Seneca. I've given you some insight into my 103 00:05:55,279 --> 00:05:59,200 Speaker 1: own life on this Stoic idea of practicing resilience when 104 00:05:59,240 --> 00:06:02,479 Speaker 1: facebook obstacle, goal's failure, or tragedy. Now, let's talk about 105 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:04,680 Speaker 1: how you can make it your mantra for today. And 106 00:06:04,720 --> 00:06:07,359 Speaker 1: I think one of the key things that kind of 107 00:06:07,360 --> 00:06:09,320 Speaker 1: came to mind as I'm thinking if I'm going to 108 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:11,320 Speaker 1: give advice to somebody, you know, somebody close to me 109 00:06:11,440 --> 00:06:16,919 Speaker 1: or myself, I think we have to accept, be okay 110 00:06:16,960 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 1: with and sort of plan for adversity. Right. Obviously, you 111 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:24,679 Speaker 1: don't know what obstacles you're going to run into. Life 112 00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:27,880 Speaker 1: is sort of unpredictable in that fashion. But I think 113 00:06:27,920 --> 00:06:31,400 Speaker 1: when we set out for chasing after a goal or 114 00:06:31,680 --> 00:06:35,560 Speaker 1: potentially getting involved in a relationship, a friendship, whatever it 115 00:06:35,640 --> 00:06:39,320 Speaker 1: might be, I think we can't get swept up in 116 00:06:39,400 --> 00:06:43,200 Speaker 1: the excitement of the initial sort of honeymoon phase. Right. 117 00:06:43,600 --> 00:06:46,479 Speaker 1: We also have to be realistic and sort of coach 118 00:06:46,520 --> 00:06:50,600 Speaker 1: ourselves on the idea that at some point this situation 119 00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:54,040 Speaker 1: is going to produce some sort of adversity, some sort 120 00:06:54,040 --> 00:06:58,080 Speaker 1: of obstacle that I'm gonna have to face. And I 121 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:02,039 Speaker 1: need to mentally prepare myself to embrace it head on 122 00:07:02,240 --> 00:07:04,919 Speaker 1: and be okay with it and understand that this is 123 00:07:04,920 --> 00:07:07,080 Speaker 1: going to be a part of the process, rather than 124 00:07:07,080 --> 00:07:09,880 Speaker 1: being shocked or surprised by it, or angered by it 125 00:07:10,040 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 1: or running away in fear of it. But instead, since 126 00:07:13,080 --> 00:07:16,920 Speaker 1: I'm planning and knowing that inevitably some sort of obstacle 127 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:19,920 Speaker 1: is going to present itself, I'm more willing to face it, 128 00:07:20,120 --> 00:07:22,239 Speaker 1: deal with it, and then move forward. And I think 129 00:07:22,600 --> 00:07:25,600 Speaker 1: that's sort of the only way that we can really 130 00:07:26,560 --> 00:07:31,000 Speaker 1: accept it and be okay with the inevitability of obstacles, right. 131 00:07:31,320 --> 00:07:33,600 Speaker 1: And I think to recap all we've been talking about, 132 00:07:34,240 --> 00:07:38,080 Speaker 1: we're talking about practicing resilience, and I think practicing resilience 133 00:07:38,240 --> 00:07:41,560 Speaker 1: involves having acceptance for the inevitable, right, And that's sort 134 00:07:41,600 --> 00:07:44,040 Speaker 1: of what Big Sean is talking about. You know, he's 135 00:07:44,080 --> 00:07:47,080 Speaker 1: talking about romance and but saying there's no romance in 136 00:07:47,160 --> 00:07:50,320 Speaker 1: without the pain, right, just like saying there's no loss 137 00:07:50,360 --> 00:07:53,320 Speaker 1: without some gain, right, Like that every single thing in 138 00:07:53,360 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 1: this life, there's always going to be two sides of 139 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:57,600 Speaker 1: the coin to look at, and you have to be 140 00:07:57,800 --> 00:08:00,320 Speaker 1: accepting of the good with the bad. That's just part 141 00:08:00,360 --> 00:08:02,760 Speaker 1: of life. It's an inevitable part of life. And Seneco 142 00:08:02,760 --> 00:08:06,120 Speaker 1: one of the stoics, talking about the idea that a gem, right, 143 00:08:06,200 --> 00:08:09,120 Speaker 1: something that we look at as beautiful and as valuable, 144 00:08:09,280 --> 00:08:12,440 Speaker 1: that it can't be polished to its fullest potential without 145 00:08:12,560 --> 00:08:15,360 Speaker 1: some sort of friction, right, without some sort of interference, 146 00:08:15,720 --> 00:08:19,240 Speaker 1: and that no man can really know what they are 147 00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 1: are made of or become the best version of themselves 148 00:08:22,440 --> 00:08:25,680 Speaker 1: without having some sort of tests, without having to go 149 00:08:25,720 --> 00:08:28,560 Speaker 1: through trials and tribulations to come out on the other side. Right. 150 00:08:28,640 --> 00:08:31,440 Speaker 1: And even for me, it was in the avoidance of 151 00:08:31,560 --> 00:08:35,000 Speaker 1: facing my own internal struggles that sort of kept me 152 00:08:35,320 --> 00:08:38,040 Speaker 1: living in the same cycle over and over again. Right. 153 00:08:38,120 --> 00:08:40,800 Speaker 1: And it was when I began to embrace the pain 154 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:43,560 Speaker 1: associated with some of these things that I struggle with, right, 155 00:08:43,600 --> 00:08:46,600 Speaker 1: when I began to force myself to face it head 156 00:08:46,640 --> 00:08:49,440 Speaker 1: on and be okay with the uncomfortability of it and 157 00:08:49,480 --> 00:08:51,640 Speaker 1: be okay with all the negative that came with it, 158 00:08:51,760 --> 00:08:54,480 Speaker 1: knowing that it was making me better. That's when I 159 00:08:54,520 --> 00:08:56,920 Speaker 1: began to heal these parts of myself. And that's when 160 00:08:56,960 --> 00:08:59,720 Speaker 1: I began to have the clarity that I needed to 161 00:09:00,000 --> 00:09:03,079 Speaker 1: and certain relationships in my life, and also not rely 162 00:09:03,240 --> 00:09:06,440 Speaker 1: on outside sources as much to fill the voids that 163 00:09:06,440 --> 00:09:09,600 Speaker 1: I have within myself right, recognizing that I personally have 164 00:09:09,679 --> 00:09:12,079 Speaker 1: everything that I need to fill those voids. But again 165 00:09:12,480 --> 00:09:15,800 Speaker 1: that realization, that sort of moment that I've come to 166 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:19,880 Speaker 1: of healing and that growth, it's only come through having 167 00:09:19,920 --> 00:09:22,559 Speaker 1: to face the storm right and walk through it and 168 00:09:22,880 --> 00:09:25,960 Speaker 1: be unafraid of it, knowing that on the other side 169 00:09:26,000 --> 00:09:28,000 Speaker 1: of it is going to be the growth and the 170 00:09:28,320 --> 00:09:31,440 Speaker 1: happiness that I'm looking for. So again, I think at 171 00:09:31,440 --> 00:09:35,120 Speaker 1: the end of the day, it's embracing the bad with 172 00:09:35,160 --> 00:09:38,520 Speaker 1: the good, planning for adversity as best as you can, 173 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:42,920 Speaker 1: and allowing yourself to move from a place of clarity 174 00:09:43,040 --> 00:09:46,640 Speaker 1: and calm in knowing that all that you're facing is 175 00:09:46,800 --> 00:09:50,120 Speaker 1: just a part of the process, and it's a part 176 00:09:50,160 --> 00:09:52,800 Speaker 1: of the process that is essential to getting you to 177 00:09:52,920 --> 00:09:55,240 Speaker 1: exactly where you want to be. Now, with that said, 178 00:09:55,280 --> 00:09:57,560 Speaker 1: thank you so much for checking out the Street Stoke Podcast. 179 00:09:57,800 --> 00:09:59,880 Speaker 1: Do your best to apply these concepts that we discussed 180 00:10:00,240 --> 00:10:11,560 Speaker 1: everyday life and I will catch you next time. 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