WEBVTT - Second Date Update PODCAST: Feminine Charms

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<v Speaker 1>Looking Jebels. Second date Update, Lydia. Before you go out

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<v Speaker 1>on a date, do you like have one of your

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<v Speaker 1>friends on standby to call you or text you in

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<v Speaker 1>the middle of it, in case you want to get

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<v Speaker 1>out of the date, like you know, oh there's an emergency,

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<v Speaker 1>I gotta go. I'm still laughing because you think that

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<v Speaker 1>like dating was a regular common thing for me, like

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<v Speaker 1>I have patterns or something, and not like I went

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<v Speaker 1>on three dates in my life, which is more than

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<v Speaker 1>you were just going. I never want this date to end, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>because I don't know when the next one will come.

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<v Speaker 1>But I've I've heard of people doing that. I've never

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<v Speaker 1>done it myself. I have I would have done that.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a secret code where like I text you Banana,

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<v Speaker 1>you gotta call me right away. You should have asked

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<v Speaker 1>Jose in the first place. He's more feminine. Yeah, come on,

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<v Speaker 1>Andy goes out with a lot of terrible people. So anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what I think happened to the guy in today's

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<v Speaker 1>second date update, Jared, who's on the phone with us

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<v Speaker 1>right now? Jared, how are you hey? I'm doing okay.

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<v Speaker 1>How are you guys doing good? Why don't you explain

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<v Speaker 1>to everybody what happened. We basically met on a online

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<v Speaker 1>dating site. Her name's Melissa, and you know, we kind

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<v Speaker 1>of chatted on there for a little bit and we

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<v Speaker 1>decided to go out to dinner, so, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>went to pick her up and she she wasn't quite ready,

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<v Speaker 1>so I went up to her apartment. It was really nice.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like, you know, nice furniture and like art

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<v Speaker 1>on the wall and smelling vanilla, you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 1>It was how much did you check out her place?

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<v Speaker 1>And were you taking video? But you know, you walk

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<v Speaker 1>in and you kind of sum it up a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit because if you walk in and it's a hell hole,

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<v Speaker 1>then you're like, oh my gosh, what have I gotten

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<v Speaker 1>myself into? Yeah? Yeah, I know. Yeah. So how was

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<v Speaker 1>dinner with her? Though I thought it weren't well, we

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<v Speaker 1>talked a lot, Like it wasn't like we were sitting

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<v Speaker 1>there awkwardly staring at each other with nothing to talk about.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, but like right before we got our entrees,

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<v Speaker 1>she got a phone call and she was like, excuse

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<v Speaker 1>me really quick, I have to take this. So she

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<v Speaker 1>comes back and she's like, I'm so sorry that was work.

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<v Speaker 1>There's an emergency I have to leave now and there.

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<v Speaker 1>It is part of your email that made me think

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<v Speaker 1>that she had someone call to try to get out

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<v Speaker 1>of the dates. That's always the excuse, like a huge emergency.

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<v Speaker 1>We're so cynical. What does she do for a living

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<v Speaker 1>and I should do something that's really important where she

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<v Speaker 1>would have like an emergency that she would have to

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<v Speaker 1>leave before even eating her food. She's an attorney, so yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>if they don't do anything important, do they come on?

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<v Speaker 1>I had two parents for attorneys, and trust me, they

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<v Speaker 1>stood me up for a lot of dates, a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of science fair Smiths. Lydia knows about this firsthand. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>she could just be busy, then I could be wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a little bit mysterious. But I was just like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, if that's if it's really an emergency, it's

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<v Speaker 1>all good. You know, we can do it again. She said,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I really want to do this again. So

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<v Speaker 1>I understood. I was disappointed. You feel like she was

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<v Speaker 1>telling the truth, though, Yeah, I mean I think I

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<v Speaker 1>have a pretty good I guess read on that, so

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<v Speaker 1>I felt like she was telling the truth. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>it would have been nice if she at least stayed

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<v Speaker 1>for the meal. Yeah, well if you really wanted to bail, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>why wouldn't she just you know, waited until the entres

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<v Speaker 1>got there, finished the meal, and then left. You know

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<v Speaker 1>that's a good point. Yeah. Yeah, So she was like

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<v Speaker 1>really abrupt and all of a sudden, and like I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't think I said anything offensive or anything to make yea,

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<v Speaker 1>And I mean, part of the reason you date is

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<v Speaker 1>for the food. Yeah, I don't care how bad the

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<v Speaker 1>date's going. A free meal is a free meal to

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<v Speaker 1>tough it out, right. Yeah. And I also, because I drove,

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<v Speaker 1>I offered to pay for a cab and she refused

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<v Speaker 1>that too, So I guess I'd just be really surprised

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<v Speaker 1>if she wasn't telling the truth, because she seemed like

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<v Speaker 1>a straight shooter and pretty genuine. So you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>guess in the brief time that I talked to her,

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<v Speaker 1>I just didn't seem like her character. All right, well,

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna play a song, come back call her and

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<v Speaker 1>get your second date update. All right, okay, all right man,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you five brooking jubil in the morning. Second date update.

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<v Speaker 1>If you're just joining us for the second date update,

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<v Speaker 1>Jared is on the phone with us Jared's date left

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<v Speaker 1>before even eating dinner. She got a phone call set

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<v Speaker 1>she had a work emergency had to cut out real quick.

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<v Speaker 1>He even offered her cab fair because he picked her up,

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<v Speaker 1>and she's like, no, no no, I don't need the money.

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<v Speaker 1>I just gotta get out of here. I gotta go

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<v Speaker 1>handle some work stuff. But I'd love to see you again.

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<v Speaker 1>He hasn't heard from her since now, Jared, I was

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<v Speaker 1>thinking about it, and the fact that she didn't need

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<v Speaker 1>her food and also the fact that she wouldn't have

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<v Speaker 1>accepted cab fair from you shows two things. Either she

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<v Speaker 1>really did have an emergency or she really hates you.

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<v Speaker 1>You really did something to screw up on the date.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. I hope she's not lying to me, but

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. You guys got me thinking a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit now. No, Jared, I want you to stick with

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<v Speaker 1>your instinct. Let's not be bitter on the show. Let's

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<v Speaker 1>be optimistic that they are good people who tell the truth.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like trying new things, all right. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>ask you before. How many times have you tried to

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<v Speaker 1>get a hold of her. I've called her twice and

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<v Speaker 1>texted her once. I think all right, that's not bad yet. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna call her right now, get her on the

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<v Speaker 1>phone and see if we can get an answer. Okay, Hello,

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<v Speaker 1>Hi is Melissa Theresa. Hey Melissa, how are you? This

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<v Speaker 1>is Jewel from Brook and Jewel in the morning. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>moving ninety two point five. Um, Okay, why are you calling?

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<v Speaker 1>You recently went out on a date with one of

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<v Speaker 1>our listeners. His name is Jared. Uh huh. And you

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<v Speaker 1>know about this. I do, because he emailed us and

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<v Speaker 1>wanted us to get a hold of you because you

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<v Speaker 1>won't return his calls. And he told us about the date.

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<v Speaker 1>He didn't go into like in depth detail or personal detail.

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<v Speaker 1>He just said that you left in the middle of

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<v Speaker 1>the date for a work phone call and said you'd

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<v Speaker 1>like to go out again, but never responded to him.

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<v Speaker 1>So my theory was you faked the work phone call

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<v Speaker 1>and just wanted to get out of the date. That's

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<v Speaker 1>not my theory, though. I think you're a good person

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<v Speaker 1>and you really had to work. Well. Thanks, Why didn't matter?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't I don't understand did you did you fake

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<v Speaker 1>the phone call? It's kind of my own personal deal.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, can you tell us something like anything, because

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<v Speaker 1>you kind of left Jared hanging nothing. Um, here's the deal.

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<v Speaker 1>We met online. I don't know if he told you that,

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<v Speaker 1>And especially for a woman, it can be a little

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<v Speaker 1>weird and I'd like to protect myself. So I have

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<v Speaker 1>my brother you call, you know, to kind of find

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<v Speaker 1>out if things are going well or not. So I

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<v Speaker 1>usually set up a time in advance that he knows

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<v Speaker 1>when to call. If it's going really well, then I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>it's great, and I go back to the date. But

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<v Speaker 1>if it's not, then I'll leave the date. I knew it.

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<v Speaker 1>Your brother called you and you weren't having fun with Jared.

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<v Speaker 1>Where are you? I don't know. He's just he's sort

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<v Speaker 1>of a creep, I'll be honest. What did he do

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<v Speaker 1>that was creepy? It sounds like a nice dude to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I talked to him, but I'm a creep, so from

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<v Speaker 1>one to another, yeah, I might not notice those things.

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<v Speaker 1>What did he do to you that was so creepy?

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<v Speaker 1>When we were driving over to the restaurant and while

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<v Speaker 1>we were having our appetizers and stuff, he started asking

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<v Speaker 1>me about my feminine hygiene products? Okay, ye, like which

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<v Speaker 1>ones you use? Like asking me about like because he's

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<v Speaker 1>a guy, wasn't sure, like how you know what kind

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<v Speaker 1>to get and how they work, like if he should

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<v Speaker 1>have some at his house for women he's dating. That

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<v Speaker 1>is weird. You're right. That is a creepy conversation to

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<v Speaker 1>have with a woman on a first date. And I've

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<v Speaker 1>been with girls for like long periods of time. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't like having that conversation with him after like four years. Yeah, exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>But he's super curious, Like there's different sizes, so do

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<v Speaker 1>you do you test them out the right one to use? Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>Come on, dude, yeah, there is a certain tests or Melissa,

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<v Speaker 1>can you hold on for one second, just real quick, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I have to ask a question of Jared because Jared

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<v Speaker 1>is actually on the phone listening. Jared. Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>you can just google that. You realize that, right? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god? Yeah, Jared, why would you ever think

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<v Speaker 1>that's appropriate first date conversation? I just I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm a dude, Like I just don't know these things,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. It's just I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I was just really nervous, like I don't know, like

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<v Speaker 1>she's really pretty, and I was really excited about it.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was just like, here's the thing. First of all,

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<v Speaker 1>that's the worst conversation I've never had a guy I've

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<v Speaker 1>ever dated that ever even wanted to talk about this

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<v Speaker 1>product those products, like have anything to do with those

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<v Speaker 1>products because they don't even want to think about why

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<v Speaker 1>you're using those products. Yeah. Yeah, so it's like, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, have you never had a girlfriend before. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been in the long distance relationship for the for

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<v Speaker 1>the past few years and recently we broke up, So

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't dated in a while, and you decided to

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<v Speaker 1>bust out that talk on a first date. Yeah. I mean, honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>a part of me was curious because, like I said,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a guy, and I have no idea how this stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean, I just something I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know about. I don't even want to know how they work.

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<v Speaker 1>A guy just so embarrassed, Like I feel, well, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>absolutely mortified right now. Maybe you shouldn't have called the radio,

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<v Speaker 1>Like listen, Melissa, I really like you, like I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, like it's something about you. I just

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<v Speaker 1>really like you. And I just felt like I messed

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<v Speaker 1>it up somehow, and I really did it. Did disappointed.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, when people get nervous, Jared, they might like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, hiccup or talk too quickly or I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know to understand, Like I just gonna have a long

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<v Speaker 1>term relationship, you know, and I just haven't been on

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<v Speaker 1>like dates like this, and like literally, yeah, I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like that's not a good excuse, Jared. Common sense, dude,

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<v Speaker 1>common sense. I don't care if it's not a good

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<v Speaker 1>excuse or not. That's the honest truth. So I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what else to say except I'm sorry. Did you

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<v Speaker 1>you know I might have probably did screw something up

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<v Speaker 1>that I was genuinely excited about. And Melissa, would you

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<v Speaker 1>like to go out with Jared again? He obviously he

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<v Speaker 1>thinks you're funny, he thinks you're smart, he thinks you

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<v Speaker 1>have great taste in feminine hygiene products. I mean, that's

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<v Speaker 1>what come on, ladies look for in a guy, right, No,

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<v Speaker 1>would you like to go out with him again? We

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<v Speaker 1>will pay for it. Jared. I think that, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>coming out of this relationship, like you said, I think

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<v Speaker 1>you need some time and maybe um date a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of women to kind of, you know, get more comfortable.

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<v Speaker 1>And Melissa, that is a very nice way of saying hell, no, yeah, Jared,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry. I don't think Melissa wants to go out

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<v Speaker 1>with you again. You got your answer no, but at

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<v Speaker 1>least you improved your dating skills. Okay, yeah, Melissa, you're

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<v Speaker 1>sure you don't want to go out with him again.

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<v Speaker 1>Think about this, If you guys did end up in

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<v Speaker 1>a relationship, you might be the only dude on the

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<v Speaker 1>planet who's happy to go buy that stuff for you.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'll totally let him go buy them for

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<v Speaker 1>me if you want. I'm not going to date it,

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<v Speaker 1>but I don't like buying them jar for me. It

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<v Speaker 1>has been sort of a successful second date update for you.

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<v Speaker 1>There you go, broken jewel in the morning. It might

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<v Speaker 1>seem