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Speaker 1: Looking Jebels. Second date Update, Lydia. Before you go out

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Speaker 1: the middle of it, in case you want to get

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Speaker 1: out of the date, like you know, oh there's an emergency,

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Speaker 1: I gotta go. I'm still laughing because you think that

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Speaker 1: like dating was a regular common thing for me, like

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Speaker 1: you were just going. I never want this date to end, yeah,

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Speaker 1: because I don't know when the next one will come.

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Speaker 1: But I've I've heard of people doing that. I've never

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Speaker 1: done it myself. I have I would have done that.

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Speaker 1: There's a secret code where like I text you Banana,

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Speaker 1: you gotta call me right away. You should have asked

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Speaker 1: Jose in the first place. He's more feminine. Yeah, come on,

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Speaker 1: Andy goes out with a lot of terrible people. So anyway,

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Speaker 1: that's what I think happened to the guy in today's

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Speaker 1: second date update, Jared, who's on the phone with us

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Speaker 1: right now? Jared, how are you hey? I'm doing okay.

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Speaker 1: How are you guys doing good? Why don't you explain

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Speaker 1: to everybody what happened. We basically met on a online

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Speaker 1: dating site. Her name's Melissa, and you know, we kind

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Speaker 1: of chatted on there for a little bit and we

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Speaker 1: so I went up to her apartment. It was really nice.

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Speaker 1: It was how much did you check out her place?

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Speaker 1: And were you taking video? But you know, you walk

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Speaker 1: myself into? Yeah? Yeah, I know. Yeah. So how was

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Speaker 1: dinner with her? Though I thought it weren't well, we

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Speaker 1: There's an emergency I have to leave now and there.

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Speaker 1: It is part of your email that made me think

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Speaker 1: of the dates. That's always the excuse, like a huge emergency.

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Speaker 1: We're so cynical. What does she do for a living

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Speaker 1: if they don't do anything important, do they come on?

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Speaker 1: I had two parents for attorneys, and trust me, they

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Speaker 1: of science fair Smiths. Lydia knows about this firsthand. All right,

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Speaker 1: she could just be busy, then I could be wrong.

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Speaker 1: It was a little bit mysterious. But I was just like, okay,

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Speaker 1: thank you five brooking jubil in the morning. Second date update.

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Speaker 1: If you're just joining us for the second date update,

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Speaker 1: Jared is on the phone with us Jared's date left

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Speaker 1: He hasn't heard from her since now, Jared, I was

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Speaker 1: I don't know. You guys got me thinking a little

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Speaker 1: be optimistic that they are good people who tell the truth.

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Speaker 1: I don't like trying new things, all right. I didn't

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Speaker 1: ask you before. How many times have you tried to

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Speaker 1: we're gonna call her right now, get her on the

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Speaker 1: phone and see if we can get an answer. Okay, Hello,

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Speaker 1: Hi is Melissa Theresa. Hey Melissa, how are you? This

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Speaker 1: is Jewel from Brook and Jewel in the morning. I'm

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Speaker 1: moving ninety two point five. Um, Okay, why are you calling?

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Speaker 1: You recently went out on a date with one of

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Speaker 1: our listeners. His name is Jared. Uh huh. And you

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Speaker 1: He didn't go into like in depth detail or personal detail.

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Speaker 1: So my theory was you faked the work phone call

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Speaker 1: not my theory, though. I think you're a good person

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Speaker 1: and you really had to work. Well. Thanks, Why didn't matter?

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Speaker 1: I don't I don't understand did you did you fake

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Speaker 1: it's great, and I go back to the date. But

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Speaker 1: if it's not, then I'll leave the date. I knew it.

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Speaker 1: Your brother called you and you weren't having fun with Jared.

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Speaker 1: Where are you? I don't know. He's just he's sort

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Speaker 1: of a creep, I'll be honest. What did he do

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Speaker 1: I talked to him, but I'm a creep, so from

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Speaker 1: What did he do to you that was so creepy?

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Speaker 1: When we were driving over to the restaurant and while

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Speaker 1: Come on, dude, yeah, there is a certain tests or Melissa,

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Speaker 1: can you hold on for one second, just real quick, Okay,

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Speaker 1: you can just google that. You realize that, right? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Oh my god? Yeah, Jared, why would you ever think

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Speaker 1: Like listen, Melissa, I really like you, like I don't.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, like it's something about you. I just

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Speaker 1: You know, when people get nervous, Jared, they might like,

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Speaker 1: like that's not a good excuse, Jared. Common sense, dude,

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Speaker 1: what come on, ladies look for in a guy, right, No,

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Speaker 1: will pay for it. Jared. I think that, you know,

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Speaker 1: And Melissa, that is a very nice way of saying hell, no, yeah, Jared,

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I don't think Melissa wants to go out

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Speaker 1: with you again. You got your answer no, but at

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Speaker 1: least you improved your dating skills. Okay, yeah, Melissa, you're

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Speaker 1: sure you don't want to go out with him again.

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Speaker 1: Think about this, If you guys did end up in

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Speaker 1: a relationship, you might be the only dude on the

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Speaker 1: planet who's happy to go buy that stuff for you.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'll totally let him go buy them for

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Speaker 1: me if you want. I'm not going to date it,

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Speaker 1: but I don't like buying them jar for me. It

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Speaker 1: has been sort of a successful second date update for you.

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Speaker 1: There you go, broken jewel in the morning. It might

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Speaker 1: seem