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Oh yeah, 0:01:28.920 --> 0:01:33.319 it's upped up. We want to thank everybody for listening 0:01:33.360 --> 0:01:38.399 to another episode of It's up to the podcast. You know. 0:01:38.480 --> 0:01:42.880 Today we got our usuals in and it's me, it's 0:01:43.000 --> 0:01:47.400 Jay Styles, and it's day Ship d right. I know 0:01:47.520 --> 0:01:49.720 y'all love that because that is what we've been giving 0:01:49.760 --> 0:01:51.560 y'all for the last couple of weeks, and y'all just 0:01:51.600 --> 0:01:54.080 have been giving a good comment. So we funck with y'all. 0:01:54.520 --> 0:01:57.600 Now we want big facts. Now. We want to start 0:01:57.640 --> 0:02:00.520 off to day saying first, this is our first sure twin, 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:06.520 So we definitely want to put out some homes. Happy 0:02:06.560 --> 0:02:08.840 New Year, Happy New Year, Happy New Year. How was 0:02:08.880 --> 0:02:11.720 New Year for y'all? How was New Year for y'all? 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:20.280 New Year? It was nice for me? All right, it's 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:25.920 up there. So my New Years was well, it was 0:02:26.080 --> 0:02:28.680 kind of random, but you know it was cool. I 0:02:28.720 --> 0:02:31.720 had a good time. That's for something. New Years for me, 0:02:31.880 --> 0:02:41.919 was it? Okay? I can't when I tell you take 0:02:43.280 --> 0:02:45.840 for my New Year. She had me and her dying 0:02:45.919 --> 0:02:50.799 laughing like she was in the room loud like. So 0:02:50.840 --> 0:02:53.480 while we can't what happened, it was just you just 0:02:53.560 --> 0:02:57.880 got it was random. I mean, it was fun, but 0:02:57.919 --> 0:02:59.639 it was random. I had a great time. You know. 0:03:00.200 --> 0:03:02.880 It's like a complete weirdo, Like for real, I'm gonna 0:03:02.919 --> 0:03:07.320 here laughing like, Okay, it was a great day. That's 0:03:07.320 --> 0:03:09.800 what's up. That's what's what about your New Year? What 0:03:09.840 --> 0:03:14.839 you do? I'm gonna keep it always. Gee, I ain't, man, 0:03:15.120 --> 0:03:17.600 look like you doing That's why I see. That's how 0:03:17.639 --> 0:03:19.480 that's how my end my New Year ended up the 0:03:19.480 --> 0:03:22.600 way it ended up because my dude, like you, I 0:03:22.639 --> 0:03:26.040 ain't do nothing. I ain't I'm telling my man. I 0:03:26.080 --> 0:03:28.600 was at the house. I was just like I'm gonna 0:03:28.600 --> 0:03:31.240 just chill. I ain't doing that. It's too cold, I mean, 0:03:31.280 --> 0:03:34.720 and the cold don't get along. And it was really cold, 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:37.480 it was, but I had on a dress and everybody 0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:39.360 with my little peak cold, I was looking out good. 0:03:39.400 --> 0:03:42.120 I don't care about the cold when it's cold, but 0:03:42.280 --> 0:03:48.520 you feel everything didn't. That's like I don't for me. Man. 0:03:48.600 --> 0:03:53.800 There's something about criminals ready for the hope, something about 0:03:53.800 --> 0:03:55.720 that cold. I don't get along with it. You know 0:03:55.760 --> 0:03:58.640 what I'm saying that ship right now is we're gonna 0:03:58.680 --> 0:04:01.800 have to hit the heat like we don't do like 0:04:03.040 --> 0:04:07.720 you know, laces is an important, uh fabric. You know, 0:04:07.840 --> 0:04:15.280 lace is one of the leading I would tell you 0:04:15.320 --> 0:04:22.719 about lace now you know. You know I don't even try. 0:04:23.279 --> 0:04:25.440 But you know, it's been a whole bunch of shit 0:04:25.640 --> 0:04:29.960 going on, man, y'all know, like since we've been gone. Man, 0:04:30.000 --> 0:04:33.360 it's it's been I don't know, it's been so much 0:04:33.400 --> 0:04:36.200 shit going on. We got I know, Joe Button, let's 0:04:36.200 --> 0:04:41.480 talk about that, okay, Joe Budden left complex. We didn't 0:04:41.480 --> 0:04:44.440 get a chance to speak on that because we you know, 0:04:44.520 --> 0:04:49.080 we're doing a show right now. This that's something like 0:04:49.160 --> 0:04:51.600 what you know, what he represented and what they brought 0:04:51.640 --> 0:04:54.280 to the table. So I got some clips and you 0:04:54.320 --> 0:04:56.960 know what I'm saying, I'm gonna play these. I'm gonna 0:04:56.960 --> 0:04:58.960 play the clip of you know, it's like a five 0:04:59.000 --> 0:05:01.960 minute clips of y'all bear with it. Is Joe Budden. 0:05:02.040 --> 0:05:04.080 He letting know why he left. So we're gonna get 0:05:04.120 --> 0:05:06.240 into that and then we're gonna come up with a 0:05:06.360 --> 0:05:12.080 response and see what's going on. I don't have worries, right, 0:05:12.880 --> 0:05:15.800 That's not really the case for a lot of other creators. Man, 0:05:16.440 --> 0:05:19.000 let me paint this timeline for some people. And I 0:05:19.000 --> 0:05:21.520 want to start this timeline. And again, we're not here 0:05:21.560 --> 0:05:25.280 to bash anyone. We love everyone that we have worked with. 0:05:26.360 --> 0:05:29.200 But I start, I start this timeline with the good 0:05:29.240 --> 0:05:32.960 people with Complex telling me for nine months that I 0:05:33.080 --> 0:05:37.839 can't smoke in the bathroom. So we knew that that 0:05:38.040 --> 0:05:41.640 was not allowed. Creators, I'm talking to y'all. We are afforded, 0:05:42.120 --> 0:05:46.000 We are afforded some different rights while we knew that 0:05:46.200 --> 0:05:50.440 was not allowed for the job that we were doing. 0:05:50.600 --> 0:05:54.960 Inside of the building, Nigga, they would go build you 0:05:55.000 --> 0:05:59.880 a smoking chamber if you wanted to smoke a cigarette, 0:06:00.520 --> 0:06:03.400 if you wanted to smoke a blunt. If you wanted 0:06:03.480 --> 0:06:09.440 to smoke crack cocaine last decade at a record label 0:06:09.839 --> 0:06:13.520 and you were profitable, they would find a way to 0:06:13.720 --> 0:06:18.640 appease you. That is important here because every time them 0:06:18.720 --> 0:06:21.400 nigga said to me, why are you smoking in the bathroom? 0:06:21.480 --> 0:06:23.839 For me, it was a constant reminder of people that 0:06:23.920 --> 0:06:27.480 were out of touch with culture. I'll put it to 0:06:27.520 --> 0:06:31.920 you this way, Rory. Three weeks ago, they attacked. They 0:06:31.920 --> 0:06:38.400 attacked security at complex downstairs, attacked, trampled a man who 0:06:38.520 --> 0:06:42.919 was trying to break in to that building to get 0:06:43.160 --> 0:06:47.839 to complex to speak to academics or myself, I being 0:06:47.880 --> 0:06:53.160 the famous person there. When people are famous, you have 0:06:53.400 --> 0:06:57.400 to kind of cater to their notoriety, is what I'm saying. 0:06:58.120 --> 0:07:01.720 So let's fast forward. I create a show. I do 0:07:01.800 --> 0:07:05.240 not care what the end credits of that show say. 0:07:05.880 --> 0:07:11.240 Noah along with Elliott, along with some other people, understand 0:07:11.840 --> 0:07:15.760 how this show came to Fruition. There wasn't very much 0:07:15.800 --> 0:07:19.320 to negotiate when I created this show because I just 0:07:19.360 --> 0:07:22.680 created a show. I mean, it wasn't profitable at all. 0:07:23.800 --> 0:07:27.720 As a creator. I went into this venture with a 0:07:27.880 --> 0:07:32.560 vision for what it could become. What it quickly became 0:07:33.120 --> 0:07:38.440 was the best hip hop show ever. That dynamic between 0:07:38.480 --> 0:07:40.640 the three of us on that screen does not exist 0:07:40.920 --> 0:07:45.600 without everybody playing a part. I think that part from 0:07:45.720 --> 0:07:51.720 day one was disregarded and ignored by whoever it is 0:07:51.960 --> 0:07:55.240 that is running Complex. Let me speed this time line 0:07:55.320 --> 0:07:58.360 up for a little bit. Day one, when I walk 0:07:58.480 --> 0:08:03.120 into All Complex, I look at their objective. They're at 0:08:03.160 --> 0:08:05.880 the company's objective on the board to see what it 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:09.080 is they need to meet as a company. I was 0:08:09.120 --> 0:08:13.760 aware of the company's standing when I got there in 0:08:13.920 --> 0:08:16.160 month one and month two, I noticed that all of 0:08:16.200 --> 0:08:18.520 that shit was out the fucking window. Nobody really gave 0:08:18.520 --> 0:08:21.520 a fuck the way that I did. The money didn't 0:08:21.520 --> 0:08:24.480 make anybody right or wrong. It just means Joe is 0:08:24.880 --> 0:08:31.520 a lot more passionate and psychoneurotic and obsessive than some 0:08:31.600 --> 0:08:37.400 other people. Month three, they come to us and they say, 0:08:37.600 --> 0:08:43.960 Nike has Vapormax sneakers and we're doing a sponsor integration 0:08:44.080 --> 0:08:45.880 or some shit. We need you niggas to wear this. 0:08:46.040 --> 0:08:50.200 My business mind told told me I knew better than that. 0:08:50.880 --> 0:08:55.720 I wore it anyway. That's a check, people, and it's 0:08:55.760 --> 0:09:00.280 not a small check. It is a rather large check. 0:09:01.360 --> 0:09:08.960 Complex solicits rather large checks. Do they share with the creators? No, 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:17.439 fast forward. Spotify calls them. They want to, They want to. 0:09:17.720 --> 0:09:21.760 They want us to talk about a rap caviar playlist. 0:09:23.040 --> 0:09:27.840 They want to insert topics for me to speak about 0:09:28.400 --> 0:09:33.120 Candid under the guise of it being air quotes Candid 0:09:34.640 --> 0:09:39.359 for no money or very little money. As the creator 0:09:39.520 --> 0:09:46.839 of this show. That's a problem, right, So Joe says, no, no, 0:09:46.960 --> 0:09:50.400 what they said? Fuck you, Joe will do it without 0:09:50.440 --> 0:09:55.520 you know what Spotify said? Sorry, Complex, No you won't. 0:09:56.800 --> 0:10:00.360 So Joe, noo. I'm telling you about it. Come company 0:10:00.440 --> 0:10:05.400 that has now damaged a relationship with one of the 0:10:05.440 --> 0:10:11.960 top three streaming providers creators. Because I'm not talking to everyone, 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:16.960 everyone will not understand what Joe fights for. I'm talking 0:10:17.000 --> 0:10:21.640 to the creators. I cannot create a show and you 0:10:21.760 --> 0:10:26.160 sell the fucking properties of that show without cutting a 0:10:26.240 --> 0:10:32.400 slice to the niggas that make that fucking show possible. Sorry, anyway, 0:10:32.400 --> 0:10:36.480 they lose the fucking relationship with Spotify. They keep moving 0:10:36.520 --> 0:10:40.120 like nothing has occurred. Great, so I can see now 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:42.120 you wanting to walk say fuck that you make too 0:10:42.160 --> 0:10:44.000 much money off me. I'm not doing this again unless 0:10:44.000 --> 0:10:46.440 you renegotiate and I get a percentage of Nike vapor 0:10:46.480 --> 0:10:48.679 of the Spotify bullish story where we are, let me, 0:10:48.800 --> 0:10:50.360 let me, let me respond to you, so you save 0:10:50.520 --> 0:10:55.320 some breath where you are. This is the renegotiation. This 0:10:55.440 --> 0:10:59.600 is the end of the contract. I thought the complex 0:10:59.600 --> 0:11:05.120 would recognize what academics and myself as outside entities and 0:11:05.320 --> 0:11:10.040 vendors have done for that conglomerate, and at the end 0:11:10.120 --> 0:11:14.640 of the contract they would show that they have appreciated 0:11:14.960 --> 0:11:19.200 the best year that they have ever had more subscriptions 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:23.440 than they've ever had, more audiences now, today, yesterday, today, Okay, 0:11:23.640 --> 0:11:30.520 I'm an audience. My R show increased numbers for all 0:11:30.600 --> 0:11:35.960 the shows. Okay, So that was a lot to take in. 0:11:36.040 --> 0:11:40.280 It's a whole bunch, it's a whole bunch involved in that. 0:11:40.920 --> 0:11:47.439 But this man made them fifteen million dollars and they 0:11:47.480 --> 0:11:51.600 didn't cut them no money. So when when the thing 0:11:51.679 --> 0:11:55.400 about it is like, it's like the more money you 0:11:55.480 --> 0:11:59.640 make a corporation, the more that you would expect for 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:03.720 them to pay you. Right, he's in a position where 0:12:03.720 --> 0:12:07.000 he created a lane for them. They was I wouldn't 0:12:07.000 --> 0:12:09.960 say necessarily, they're they're being in sneaker coach and all 0:12:09.960 --> 0:12:13.839 of that. But those guys wasn't have y'all watched the 0:12:13.880 --> 0:12:15.840 show before. I know we did clips on it on 0:12:15.840 --> 0:12:19.080 our podcast, but hey, you watched them before, all right, 0:12:19.120 --> 0:12:22.360 so we did clips. What it was is DJ Academics 0:12:22.440 --> 0:12:25.400 Joe Buddon had a show on Complex. Complex is owned 0:12:25.440 --> 0:12:29.360 by verizon Um. The show was called every Day Struggled. 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:33.360 The Ashanti clip we talked about was from there, the 0:12:33.400 --> 0:12:36.920 clip from Safari to Jesus, certain clips I was pulling 0:12:36.960 --> 0:12:40.920 from them. We would talk about it. But Joe Budden 0:12:41.000 --> 0:12:45.440 created the show right, and he grabbed Academics and grabbing 0:12:45.480 --> 0:12:48.719 the desker for me looking at it because when he 0:12:48.800 --> 0:12:51.199 say he talking to the creators, he talking to niggas 0:12:51.240 --> 0:12:53.480 is doing what we're doing. You know what I'm saying 0:12:53.480 --> 0:12:55.679 that saying loo yo, let's get let's get with bro, 0:12:56.160 --> 0:12:58.480 let's make some ship, let's get together, let's make some 0:12:58.480 --> 0:13:01.080 shit go. And then a co operation come in get 0:13:01.120 --> 0:13:07.240 it and they make fifteen millions and they don't feeding you. Yeah, yeah, 0:13:07.280 --> 0:13:09.640 that's what I mean. You don't even get the loaf. 0:13:09.960 --> 0:13:15.240 Listen them folks getting They went from getting ten twelve 0:13:15.400 --> 0:13:19.480 fifteen thousand, twenty thirty forty thousand thumbs up on their 0:13:19.559 --> 0:13:23.520 videos to now they're getting twenty thirty forty thousand thumbs down, 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:27.199 like and and then the internet world. If people who 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:31.640 don't understand what that means, you don't get as many advertisers, 0:13:31.679 --> 0:13:35.600 you don't get as many you know, things won't tone 0:13:35.800 --> 0:13:38.720 right right. People wanting to promote on your channel when 0:13:38.720 --> 0:13:42.959 it's such negativity surrounded, they might attached somebody else brand 0:13:43.040 --> 0:13:45.920 with the negativity. You see what I'm saying, so so 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:48.880 so so brands want to stay away from you know, 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:53.120 shit like that. But you know what they're saying is 0:13:53.200 --> 0:13:57.760 Joe Budden saying with M would revote for five million. 0:13:58.600 --> 0:14:00.680 You know, I hope, hope that's a your thing because 0:14:00.720 --> 0:14:04.640 you know, Joe Budden is instrumental in this media. He 0:14:04.760 --> 0:14:06.800 does a good job. You know, I'm saying, y'all need 0:14:06.840 --> 0:14:08.640 to check him out. If you ain't, if you ain't 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:12.880 heard of anything of Joe Budden, I would, I would, um, 0:14:12.920 --> 0:14:14.760 I would ask people to go check him out. Here. 0:14:14.800 --> 0:14:17.880 Real good in this space. It's a real, real unique thing. Now. 0:14:17.920 --> 0:14:20.840 A couple of weeks ago, we did talk about Cameron 0:14:21.480 --> 0:14:30.040 and Jude Jude. Y'all remember what so so Cameron basically 0:14:30.160 --> 0:14:35.200 said it wasn't fun no more. You know, they asked him, 0:14:35.200 --> 0:14:37.760 why wouldn't he would and that's what that's what's his response. 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:41.240 You know, it wasn't fun no more. And and this 0:14:41.400 --> 0:14:43.840 was her response back to that. This is what she 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:47.680 said back to him, saying his interview on Breakfast Club. 0:14:48.000 --> 0:14:50.560 Now we're gonna get into this. This is that's why 0:14:50.640 --> 0:14:54.000 y'all can never jump in here once out of the story, 0:14:54.280 --> 0:14:58.240 because you know, guys like like they're so tough in 0:14:58.320 --> 0:15:03.880 every situation when it's always more to the story. Let's see, 0:15:05.080 --> 0:15:06.720 all right now, he said the reason that you guys 0:15:06.720 --> 0:15:09.200 broke up was it just wasn't fun anymore. You know. 0:15:09.240 --> 0:15:12.720 That was really hurtful to me because um Keim and 0:15:12.760 --> 0:15:15.480 I had, uh you know, we were really good friends. 0:15:15.520 --> 0:15:18.200 And he said it wasn't fun for him anymore, and 0:15:18.320 --> 0:15:22.119 that I was concerned about what was going on Instagram 0:15:22.200 --> 0:15:26.000 and saying who he was following, and that's not true. Um, 0:15:26.160 --> 0:15:29.440 I basically was more concerned about a respect level, you 0:15:29.480 --> 0:15:31.520 know what I mean. There's dick picks up and down 0:15:31.520 --> 0:15:33.560 my Instagram as well, and I don't like them out 0:15:33.560 --> 0:15:36.560 of respect. People were sending you his dick picks. No no no, 0:15:36.560 --> 0:15:39.840 no, no no no, I'm just saying no no, I'm just saying, like, 0:15:40.160 --> 0:15:43.960 just as you're in a relationship people, if if somebody 0:15:43.960 --> 0:15:46.080 has like the Coucia or the Bootya and you liking 0:15:46.120 --> 0:15:47.640 the pick, then I, oh, Ca'm just like my pick 0:15:47.840 --> 0:15:50.960 sliding the DM touched it. My thing was, don't do 0:15:51.000 --> 0:15:53.240 what I don't do to you, like respect me. Because 0:15:53.240 --> 0:15:55.680 there's dick picks that flopping down my Instagram as well, 0:15:55.720 --> 0:15:57.200 and I can like them too, but out of respect 0:15:57.200 --> 0:15:59.040 for you, I don't do that. So I just wanted 0:15:59.040 --> 0:16:01.200 the same respect. I don't want to wake up and 0:16:01.240 --> 0:16:03.360 look at Instagram and you're at a game with somebody 0:16:03.560 --> 0:16:05.720 talking about all me and my friend. If that's your friend, 0:16:05.720 --> 0:16:06.840 I don't have a problem with it. I don't have 0:16:06.880 --> 0:16:08.600 a problem with you being having female friends. But it 0:16:08.680 --> 0:16:10.680 has to be a respect level. Tell me, hey, babe, 0:16:10.720 --> 0:16:12.720 I'm going to the you know, to the game. Why 0:16:12.720 --> 0:16:14.480 do I have to see it on Instagram? And it's 0:16:14.560 --> 0:16:16.600 not because of Instagram. It's because of the things that 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:19.600 you were doing concerning Instagram, and then you didn't respect 0:16:19.640 --> 0:16:21.560 my feelings, you know, what I'm saying. So that was 0:16:21.600 --> 0:16:23.200 more of it. What were you going to say? Cam 0:16:23.720 --> 0:16:26.360 for the past year was just like basically pushing me away, 0:16:26.400 --> 0:16:28.560 Like I didn't go to any of his concerts, I 0:16:28.560 --> 0:16:30.680 wouldn't go to any of his whole things. And I 0:16:30.760 --> 0:16:32.640 was like, yo, what's up? Like you know this me, 0:16:32.760 --> 0:16:35.240 like we're like best friends, like peas in the pot, 0:16:35.320 --> 0:16:36.960 Like what's up? Oh, you got your own thing going on? 0:16:37.000 --> 0:16:40.320 You wouldn't He said, I couldn't go. He said I 0:16:40.360 --> 0:16:42.720 had my own thing going. And I never understood. I'm like, 0:16:42.800 --> 0:16:44.600 what does that mean? And he's like, now you got 0:16:44.600 --> 0:16:46.840 your own thing going on. I'm like, well, what happened 0:16:46.840 --> 0:16:48.400 in the year that now I have my own thing going? 0:16:48.480 --> 0:16:51.040 Because for the past nine years I've been going to 0:16:51.040 --> 0:16:52.960 everything and I've been cheering you on and been, you know, 0:16:53.240 --> 0:16:56.560 behind you. So what's going on In the same token, 0:16:57.320 --> 0:17:00.360 I didn't understand what was going on and why I 0:17:00.520 --> 0:17:03.480 felt that because Cam introduced me to this industry, that 0:17:03.640 --> 0:17:05.760 me working hard because I worked just as hard as 0:17:05.760 --> 0:17:07.399 he works, you know what I mean? And I worked 0:17:07.440 --> 0:17:09.080 like that because I wanted to make him proud and 0:17:09.080 --> 0:17:12.159 show him like Cam's been in the industry, for twenty years, 0:17:12.200 --> 0:17:13.679 So if he wanted to sit down and live off 0:17:13.680 --> 0:17:15.320 the real estate we have in the businesses he have. 0:17:15.560 --> 0:17:17.040 I want to be able to be like they've sit ow. 0:17:17.160 --> 0:17:18.919 I got it, you know what I mean. I'm bringing 0:17:18.960 --> 0:17:21.280 something to the table as well. I never knew that 0:17:21.359 --> 0:17:24.479 me going for my education, going for my degrees, working 0:17:24.520 --> 0:17:26.920 hard as well as like as hard as he's working, 0:17:27.160 --> 0:17:29.919 was gonna turn into that's not fun. You know. He 0:17:30.000 --> 0:17:32.040 never told me that. I heard it when you know 0:17:32.040 --> 0:17:34.040 the snippet I saw on Instagram, and it was really 0:17:34.119 --> 0:17:37.199 hurtful because I'm like, yo, like you're gonna let go 0:17:37.480 --> 0:17:39.520 a friendship of fifteen years because you're saying it's not 0:17:39.520 --> 0:17:41.560 fun for you no more. I'm sorry. I can't be 0:17:41.640 --> 0:17:43.919 the two thousand and nine, two thousand and ten juju. 0:17:44.080 --> 0:17:46.480 We're almost in a new century, like we're going into 0:17:46.520 --> 0:17:48.720 twenty and eighteen. I can't do it. This thing called 0:17:48.720 --> 0:17:51.800 life is about elevating and growing and if that makes 0:17:51.800 --> 0:17:55.800 me not fun, then I'll I'm okay with that. Respect 0:17:59.720 --> 0:18:03.440 feel huddup because men do like to be double sided. 0:18:03.480 --> 0:18:06.120 Like if you don't want that woman doing certain things, 0:18:06.160 --> 0:18:09.840 what's wrong with me saying respect? Me to a level 0:18:09.880 --> 0:18:12.159 to where you duty. So you don't do that because 0:18:12.160 --> 0:18:14.560 you concerned about how I would feel if I saw that. 0:18:14.880 --> 0:18:18.240 But it's not even with your girlfriends that I don't 0:18:18.240 --> 0:18:20.520 even probably know of. Maybe I didn't know about them, 0:18:20.600 --> 0:18:22.080 or maybe I hope she knew about him. You know 0:18:22.119 --> 0:18:23.800 what I'm saying this, what's wrong with letting her no 0:18:23.920 --> 0:18:27.080 Communication is the best thing you can have. But the 0:18:27.119 --> 0:18:29.600 thing is with the Instagram thing, like him going out 0:18:29.600 --> 0:18:31.960 with girls and stuff. That was smile she really there 0:18:32.000 --> 0:18:34.479 was his cry for attention, which men don't know how 0:18:34.520 --> 0:18:37.000 to just come and say, look back like I'm sport 0:18:37.040 --> 0:18:39.680 as hell, I'm you saving all of your attention. I've 0:18:39.720 --> 0:18:42.159 been feeling neglected to your work, you know, just saying it, 0:18:42.160 --> 0:18:44.240 and then maybe we can find a balance. So instead 0:18:44.640 --> 0:18:47.520 they go and last shouting like okay, she yet her 0:18:47.520 --> 0:18:50.199 own thing going off and to start doing me posting 0:18:50.240 --> 0:18:53.399 pictures on Instagram he did. She liked it on purpose 0:18:53.440 --> 0:18:55.879 for to get her attention because she was focused on 0:18:56.000 --> 0:18:58.160 leveling up. It was nothing like I'm over here worried 0:18:58.160 --> 0:18:59.800 about another man. I'm trying to get on the level 0:18:59.760 --> 0:19:02.640 of her. She said, I'm doing this to make him proud. Yeah, 0:19:02.720 --> 0:19:07.359 and so I respect. I respect. I respect when you 0:19:07.520 --> 0:19:11.440 understand you as a woman you want to try to 0:19:11.480 --> 0:19:14.119 get out there and match my hustle, and you know 0:19:14.960 --> 0:19:21.440 it's appreciation involved in that. I can respect that. You know, 0:19:21.680 --> 0:19:26.439 um with this situation, her side of things. See, we 0:19:26.520 --> 0:19:30.760 gotta always remember both sides are coming from. It's some 0:19:30.880 --> 0:19:33.440 truth in both for them. But I wouldn't say either 0:19:33.560 --> 0:19:36.920 one um or one hundred percent the truth. And that's 0:19:36.920 --> 0:19:39.639 how it usually happens. That's truth. You're a side of 0:19:39.680 --> 0:19:44.920 the thing, right. So now with women, and especially a 0:19:44.920 --> 0:19:50.840 woman of her education level, she's able to articulator. He 0:19:50.840 --> 0:19:54.000 didn't even take the time and articulator. So what he 0:19:54.119 --> 0:19:57.280 and I understood him. See, certain niggas can understand him 0:19:57.280 --> 0:19:59.639 when he said it wasn't fun no more. Did he 0:19:59.680 --> 0:20:02.159 mean I'm gonna get into that. But I want to. 0:20:02.280 --> 0:20:05.000 I want I want to, I want to clear, I 0:20:05.080 --> 0:20:06.720 want to I want to put the I want to 0:20:06.760 --> 0:20:10.919 put it out there that there is a distinguish. The 0:20:11.040 --> 0:20:14.440 difference on how to approach was. Her approach was, well, 0:20:14.440 --> 0:20:16.480 it wasn't really I was trying to She went down 0:20:16.520 --> 0:20:20.000 through there about all. Listen that what this man in 0:20:20.119 --> 0:20:22.920 my In my opinion, what he meant was but loved. 0:20:25.000 --> 0:20:31.720 You don't start to become insecure, like you're showing me insecurities. 0:20:32.480 --> 0:20:36.200 So when you're saying it's because I'm bossing up, it's like, nah, 0:20:36.240 --> 0:20:38.359 I don't invite you to my shows no more because 0:20:38.359 --> 0:20:43.520 it's seventy five women hollering and I know you're insecure. See, 0:20:43.640 --> 0:20:48.320 my thoughts have changed on on your outlook, on the situation. 0:20:48.359 --> 0:20:50.520 When I didn't think you were insecure, you was women 0:20:50.760 --> 0:20:53.600 the bitches out hidn't mean nothing out of nine years though, 0:20:53.640 --> 0:20:57.440 Like I'm right, but Instagram, social media has changed things. 0:20:57.480 --> 0:20:59.480 I don't care about that. If we got ten years 0:20:59.480 --> 0:21:02.960 and it's nothing the social media can do not for 0:21:03.080 --> 0:21:06.080 a woman stand strong, but you can stand strong, but 0:21:06.200 --> 0:21:09.680 your man may not be he telling her she can't 0:21:09.680 --> 0:21:12.320 even take pictures with certain people with their arm around 0:21:12.359 --> 0:21:14.600 her or something like that, when this is business. But 0:21:14.720 --> 0:21:19.320 how many times I have I said that men operate different. 0:21:20.359 --> 0:21:24.320 Just accept it. But now you have to because that's no. 0:21:25.560 --> 0:21:30.080 We don't say you say say when you getting your 0:21:30.160 --> 0:21:34.600 car and your gas like pop on ima, motherfucker, you 0:21:34.640 --> 0:21:37.080 ain't got the accept that. You ain't got the accept 0:21:37.080 --> 0:21:39.200 that your cofference run out of gain. But you can 0:21:39.320 --> 0:21:43.440 keep all right mother if you're won't too what I'm telling. 0:21:43.720 --> 0:21:49.080 So the reality of the situation, right is men operate 0:21:49.200 --> 0:21:52.200 different than women. That's period. I don't you don't got accepted, 0:21:52.359 --> 0:21:57.119 but you are greedy. I just want you to understand 0:21:57.119 --> 0:22:00.200 that ownership is important for evorite man. But I'm say 0:22:02.080 --> 0:22:05.119 you introduced me to this, and you set me up 0:22:05.160 --> 0:22:08.280 for this situation, and don't true, we got nine years 0:22:08.280 --> 0:22:12.280 in change out of nowhere. What kind of nigga would 0:22:12.280 --> 0:22:15.040 I be nine years in not to put you in position? 0:22:15.280 --> 0:22:17.560 So now I'm getting faulted for putting you in position 0:22:17.600 --> 0:22:22.520 and position. I'm now that I told you in position. 0:22:22.920 --> 0:22:25.840 I at loop you in position and you felt to 0:22:26.480 --> 0:22:29.879 or you insecure in that light because when you were 0:22:29.960 --> 0:22:33.560 just playing the back, it was good when I when 0:22:33.560 --> 0:22:35.680 I said, come on, you've been in the back long enough. Man, 0:22:35.720 --> 0:22:37.679 You you mean more than meet than this. Come on 0:22:37.800 --> 0:22:41.320 at you when I threw you out there, and then 0:22:41.400 --> 0:22:46.960 it it's like damn, so help me, I'm gotta we 0:22:47.000 --> 0:22:49.800 gotta talk about it. Help me understand. I'm not gonna 0:22:49.880 --> 0:22:52.919 understand where you or coming from. I'm at the end 0:22:52.960 --> 0:22:55.320 of the day, what dude, the respect level that you 0:22:55.440 --> 0:22:58.439 hold me to got to do with what job title 0:22:58.480 --> 0:23:00.880 I didn't took or whatever. Like I'm saying, like, why 0:23:01.000 --> 0:23:03.600 do I have to find out social media? I'm saying, 0:23:03.640 --> 0:23:06.239 that's your woman of nine years. Why do I have 0:23:06.280 --> 0:23:13.320 to find out on anything with another woman? And I 0:23:13.680 --> 0:23:18.240 know about it? That's not a business with a female 0:23:18.480 --> 0:23:22.320 is not a business. I'm sure that she wouldn't do 0:23:22.440 --> 0:23:25.080 with her being at her education level like you said, 0:23:25.440 --> 0:23:28.480 or certain moves that she wouldn't make because she protecting 0:23:28.880 --> 0:23:31.440 his image or holding him to a certain type of 0:23:31.480 --> 0:23:33.119 light to where she got to respect him. That's the 0:23:33.160 --> 0:23:34.960 same thing she feels. So naw, if I'm on the 0:23:34.960 --> 0:23:37.360 spotlight and now all of a sudden that you just 0:23:37.400 --> 0:23:40.840 would random women on pictures and everything, you got to 0:23:40.880 --> 0:23:45.640 know that's really gonna come in and take what I'm saying. 0:23:45.880 --> 0:23:48.119 Would you know that you opening up a doorway for 0:23:48.160 --> 0:23:50.680 people to come to me with things that I shouldn't 0:23:50.720 --> 0:23:53.600 even have to be understand what you're saying. But okay, 0:23:53.640 --> 0:23:57.240 so it ain't concern me and process from a different waever, 0:23:57.320 --> 0:24:02.240 you don't have to listen what cancerns me is if 0:24:02.280 --> 0:24:04.840 you heard this interview. I heard that. Did you hear 0:24:04.880 --> 0:24:07.639 the whole interview? And it's entirety. Let me tell you 0:24:07.760 --> 0:24:12.560 something about this woman right here. She's totally one thousand 0:24:12.560 --> 0:24:14.280 percent in love with him and want to be with 0:24:14.359 --> 0:24:17.960 him us. So the key to this is what I'm saying, 0:24:18.119 --> 0:24:21.520 is you lost a ten year relationship with this guy 0:24:21.600 --> 0:24:25.600 that you know you love over insecurities and over like No, 0:24:25.840 --> 0:24:28.960 not lost it like she said. She said, if it's 0:24:29.000 --> 0:24:31.439 not fun for him anymore, I'm good on it. But 0:24:31.480 --> 0:24:34.080 then she's not saying that she's giving up to She 0:24:34.160 --> 0:24:36.600 said that they get into little arguments and vice like 0:24:36.640 --> 0:24:39.359 everybody else. But when you go from not talking to 0:24:39.400 --> 0:24:45.960