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Speaker 1: First Day to follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 1: Attorneys online at advocateslad dot com.

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Speaker 2: Maelan is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Trevor.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're gonna call him and

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Speaker 2: see if you'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her a second date. But first, Mailan, how long

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Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Trevor?

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Speaker 3: Hey, so it's been nine days.

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Speaker 1: Nine days, all right, that's a long time. Yeah, did

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Speaker 1: you try to call him or text?

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Speaker 3: Well?

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Speaker 4: I first talketed him and he didn't even text me back,

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Speaker 4: like sorry, I've been busy. So I sent him a

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Speaker 4: voicemail of a voice message of me singing the theme

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Speaker 4: song from Friends, thinking that he would laugh at but

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Speaker 4: nothing so fun.

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Speaker 1: I mean that's kind of funny. I mean it is

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Speaker 1: very funny.

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Speaker 3: I think it's funny.

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Speaker 1: Well, why don't you tell us about the date?

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Speaker 4: So Trevor, he's like confident, a little oh fancastic, But

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Speaker 4: I don't know, I just like was so attracted to him.

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Speaker 4: We went to this karaoke bar. It was my idea.

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Speaker 4: He seemed down and you know, I love a guy

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Speaker 4: who doesn't take to himself too seriously. You were doing

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Speaker 4: duets and by the second round he was like, he

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Speaker 4: has a super gravelly voice, and he did. He sang

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Speaker 4: creed and ironically somehow made it sexy and yeah.

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Speaker 3: And then after the carry ogat we went outside. There

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Speaker 4: So we sat at a bench close by and ate

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Speaker 4: ice cream and swapped family.

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Speaker 3: Stories and laughed at drunk people.

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Speaker 4: Stumbling out at the bar, and I don't know, it

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Speaker 4: felt real.

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Speaker 3: And so like natural. And then we kissed, like a

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Speaker 3: slow burnt.

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Speaker 4: Kiss, yeah, and that you don't expect. But then when

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Speaker 4: it happened, my brain was like short circuiting. I was

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Speaker 4: like whoa, Yeah, and he's just like he's different, not

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Speaker 4: in like a fake deep way, but like in a

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Speaker 4: like a whoa. He surprised me kind of a way.

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Speaker 4: And I just know that trouble Trevor feel the same

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Speaker 4: way about me. I could steel it in my bones

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Speaker 4: that this was something different. And he also smelled like

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Speaker 4: cedar wood and like mystery, and I just I want

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Speaker 4: all of that. He did tell me his last relationship

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Speaker 4: ended because he got teated on and.

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Speaker 3: He is working on trust issues.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, Okay.

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Speaker 4: So, thinking back, I know that a lot of the

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Speaker 4: guys at the bar were looking at me, and the

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Speaker 4: ice cream truck guy blatantly flirted with me, and I

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Speaker 4: and I think it may have triggered him and you know,

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Speaker 4: his trust issues. Yeah, I can't believe I did that.

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Speaker 4: I mean, in the moment, I didn't think about it,

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Speaker 1: Did he start to seem jealous when the ice cream

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Speaker 1: guy was hitting on you? Or do you feel like

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Speaker 1: he noticed to the other people were looking at you.

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Speaker 3: I definitely think he knows if he was jealous, he

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Speaker 4: But yeah, like, looking back, I was like, oh, maybe

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Speaker 4: he was a little uncomfortable.

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Speaker 1: Maybe because that's really the only thing you could think

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Speaker 1: of that would have made it so he would and

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, exactly. I feel like it was a perfect date.

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Speaker 1: Okay, And so you think that might be the reason

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Speaker 1: you're too hot? It happened, honestly, good for you, girl, Okay.

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Speaker 2: Man, I can't tell you the number of times I

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Speaker 2: haven't gotten a callback because I've just been way too

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Speaker 2: sexy hot person.

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Speaker 1: Problem happens all the time.

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Speaker 2: All right, we'll play a song come back, and then

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Speaker 2: call him and see if he'll tell us why he's

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Speaker 2: ghosting you and maybe get you a second date if

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Speaker 2: you still want one. In just a second, okay, okay,

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Speaker 2: thinks all right, we'll get your first date follow up

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Speaker 2: right after this. It's the Jewel Show right in the

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Speaker 2: middle of today's first date follow up. And if you're

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Speaker 2: just joined us, Maelan is on the phone and she's

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Speaker 2: getting ghosted by a dude named Trevor. So we're about

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Speaker 2: to call him and see if he'll tell us why

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Speaker 2: he's ghostinger and maybe get her a second date. But first, Maylan,

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Speaker 2: why don't you break down your date again.

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Speaker 1: For us real quick? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Sure. So we went to this Carrio could date. It

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Speaker 3: was my idea. We had a great.

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Speaker 4: Time, and then we had ice cream outside afterwards, and

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Speaker 4: then we kissed and it was amazing. And then he

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Speaker 4: did tell me that he had trust issues because his

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Speaker 4: last girlfriend cheated on him.

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Speaker 3: And since then it's been nine days. I've texted him.

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Speaker 4: I even sent him a voice message of me singing

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Speaker 4: the same song from Friends and nothing nothing, all.

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Speaker 3: Right, because you think that the other guy is in

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Speaker 3: the ice cream guy was hitting on you to trigger him. Yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 3: I feel like it was a trigger for him.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so it could be because the ice cream man.

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Speaker 1: I don't know where I was.

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Speaker 2: Well anyway, so it could be because the ice cream

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Speaker 2: man was hitting on you. That's the only reason you

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Speaker 2: can think of, only reason. Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, man,

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Speaker 2: speak to Trevor please.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is them. Hey, Trevor, how are you. This

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Speaker 1: is a radio show. It's called The Jubile Show. Hi, Trevor.

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Speaker 1: I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria and my name's Jebel. What's up.

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Speaker 1: How are you?

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Speaker 3: Oh what, I'm.

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Speaker 4: Good?

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Speaker 5: How are you?

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Speaker 4: Guys?

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Speaker 1: Sweet? Pretty good? Thanks for asking. Do you ever listen

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Speaker 1: to the show?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: I know you guys? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Oh cool. Okay, well maybe you've heard the first a

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Speaker 1: follow up before yeah, yeah, yeah, all right.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the segment where if you're ghosting somebody, they

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Speaker 2: can email us to get you on the phone and

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Speaker 2: ask why you're not calling them back. And we got

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Speaker 2: an email about you, Trevor. Okay, then you guesses who

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Speaker 2: that who that is? Who would email us.

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Speaker 3: It's probably mailing.

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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, I guessed, yes, it's on purpose.

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Speaker 1: Huh.

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Speaker 2: It's been nine days. Oh weird, she hasn't heard from

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's because she's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Why oh why do you say that?

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Speaker 5: Well, like, okay, we were sitting on a bench like

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Speaker 5: we'd met up, and we're talking about life and and

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Speaker 5: like she out of nowhere, just starts talking to her

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Speaker 5: dad grandma, Like she said to me, literally says to

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Speaker 5: me that her grandma keeps reminding her of funny stories

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Speaker 1: She literally said that.

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Speaker 5: She said, I want my grandma wants you to know

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Speaker 5: that if I break her granddaughter's heart, she's gonna haunt

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Speaker 5: me forever. And then literally she started cackling, Like what how.

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Speaker 1: Was she talking to her grandma though? Was she actually

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Speaker 5: I really felt like she was talking like she thought

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Speaker 5: she was talking to her like she was like with us.

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Speaker 2: It was bizarre, okay, and that's the reason.

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Speaker 1: Okay, how would you feel jubile?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I don't know, you know, like it

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Speaker 2: depends where I was in life. Okay, Like if I

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Speaker 2: down because that sounds like it'd be probably fun. But

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Speaker 2: I would want to make sure if I was looking

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Speaker 2: for a long term thing that you know, she's not

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Speaker 1: Got it, she was joining us, got it? You need

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Speaker 1: some alone time?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, thank you Trevor for being honest. And Maylen

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Speaker 2: is actually on the phone and must have talked to you.

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Speaker 3: I Trevor.

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Speaker 5: Maylan.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's yeah, yeah. I just want you

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Speaker 4: but it's nothing to worry about, and she's always.

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Speaker 3: Kind of there for me.

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Speaker 5: But okay, but wait, yeah, you're nothing to worry about.

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Speaker 1: You were literally talking to your your dead grandma on

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Speaker 4: Well that's something I just want you to know that

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Speaker 4: I'm not crazy. I talk to my grandma because my

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Speaker 4: grandma's always there. For me when I'm nervous and she

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Speaker 5: I mean, I'm just not I don't know what to

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Speaker 3: Very jarring for me.

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Speaker 4: So you know, well she was there and she is

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Speaker 4: actually with me right now, and she doesn't like how

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Speaker 5: Great, okay, so I've I've been roasted by a ghost

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Speaker 5: and I guess okay.

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Speaker 1: For first.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, well she does not like how you're packling right now.

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Speaker 3: And she thought that you were really sweet on the date.

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Speaker 4: But you know, right now she's really really unsure, like

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Speaker 4: she thinks that maybe you're crazy.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, okay, well I guess that's something I'm yeah.

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Speaker 3: Okay, he probably does.

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Speaker 1: What do you what?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I was talking to her grandma and.

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Speaker 4: She says that your hips are really tight, so you're

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Speaker 4: probably not really good in bed?

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Speaker 1: Wow grandma doing?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Okay what and now your grandma is talking to me, Well,

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Speaker 5: you're talking about her.

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Speaker 4: Like she doesn't exist, so she's basically just defending herself.

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Speaker 5: Well, Maylan, if your grandma is so alive, I would

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Speaker 5: rock her world to show her and then I'm good

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Speaker 5: in bed.

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Speaker 1: But wait, what why show her what's up? I mean,

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Speaker 1: but she said, so I did not do that. Wow,

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Speaker 1: well you.

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Speaker 4: Won't be able to handle my grandma. She was married

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Speaker 4: five times, so I guarantee you she's a lot more

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Speaker 4: experienced than you are.

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Speaker 2: Grandma, Trevor, would you like to go on another date

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Speaker 2: with Mayland? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I couldn't barely had my own mom, Like, I

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Speaker 5: don't know if I'm ready for her Grandma like the

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Speaker 5: dead Grandma commentary.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, well, I don't need to go on a date

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Speaker 4: with you because obviously you're not good in bed, and

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Speaker 4: I need that.

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Speaker 1: I need that

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Speaker 3: You will first date follow up