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About blessing you enjoy 41 00:01:57,080 --> 00:02:00,240 Speaker 4: to come into your home. We love you here ever 42 00:02:00,360 --> 00:02:02,880 Speaker 4: in the Soustern area. I hope you'll stop buying se us. 43 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:05,000 Speaker 4: I promise you will make you feel right at home. 44 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 4: But thanks for tuning in today. I like to start 45 00:02:07,720 --> 00:02:10,200 Speaker 4: with something funny each week. And as I often say, 46 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:12,720 Speaker 4: don't take these things too seriously. Just laugh with me, 47 00:02:12,760 --> 00:02:15,760 Speaker 4: all right. A ninety two year old man went to 48 00:02:15,800 --> 00:02:18,360 Speaker 4: the doctor to get a physical. A few days later, 49 00:02:18,400 --> 00:02:20,560 Speaker 4: the doctor saw the man walking down the street with 50 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:23,840 Speaker 4: a beautiful young lady on his arm. The doctor stopped 51 00:02:23,880 --> 00:02:25,680 Speaker 4: him and said, you sure are doing good, aren't you. 52 00:02:26,000 --> 00:02:28,800 Speaker 4: The man replied, I'm just following your orders. You said, 53 00:02:28,880 --> 00:02:32,239 Speaker 4: get a hot mama and stay cheerful. The doctor said, 54 00:02:32,240 --> 00:02:34,400 Speaker 4: I didn't say that. I said you've got a heart murmur. 55 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:39,320 Speaker 4: Be careful, all right. Hold up your Bible. Say it 56 00:02:39,360 --> 00:02:42,440 Speaker 4: like you mean it, ready, This is my Bible. I 57 00:02:42,520 --> 00:02:45,160 Speaker 4: am what it says. I am. I have what it 58 00:02:45,160 --> 00:02:47,680 Speaker 4: says I have. I can do what it says I 59 00:02:47,720 --> 00:02:50,760 Speaker 4: can do. Today I will be taught the word of God. 60 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:55,880 Speaker 4: I boldly confess. My mind is alert, my heart is receptive. 61 00:02:56,280 --> 00:03:00,400 Speaker 4: I will never be the same. In Jesus' name you, 62 00:03:01,360 --> 00:03:03,799 Speaker 4: I want to talk to you today about the importance 63 00:03:03,919 --> 00:03:07,920 Speaker 4: of having a teachable spirit. We should always be willing 64 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:10,320 Speaker 4: to learn, and we need to stay open to new 65 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:13,440 Speaker 4: ideas and new ways of doing things, and we need 66 00:03:13,480 --> 00:03:17,560 Speaker 4: to especially be open to correction. The mark of a 67 00:03:17,639 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 4: mature person is that they can receive correction without getting 68 00:03:21,760 --> 00:03:25,600 Speaker 4: their feelings hurt. So many people today are so insecure 69 00:03:25,880 --> 00:03:29,040 Speaker 4: they get defensive. They can't be told what to do, 70 00:03:29,120 --> 00:03:31,680 Speaker 4: and if you do have to correct them in any way, 71 00:03:31,800 --> 00:03:34,160 Speaker 4: they get all bent out of shape. And really the 72 00:03:34,240 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 4: root cause of that is pride. Pride is not just 73 00:03:37,680 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 4: being conceited. It's not just thinking that you're better than 74 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 4: somebody else. When you won't take advice, that's pride. Or 75 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:48,440 Speaker 4: when you want to do things always your way, that's pride. 76 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:51,080 Speaker 4: Or when you think that your group is the only 77 00:03:51,120 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 4: one that's right and so you look down on others 78 00:03:54,080 --> 00:03:57,480 Speaker 4: because they're not exactly like you. That's the spirit of pride. 79 00:03:58,040 --> 00:04:02,360 Speaker 4: And the scripture says that pride comes before destruction. But 80 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:07,680 Speaker 4: humility always precedes honor. And humility doesn't mean we have 81 00:04:07,720 --> 00:04:10,640 Speaker 4: a low opinion of ourselves we think everybody else is 82 00:04:10,680 --> 00:04:13,120 Speaker 4: so much better now. God wants us to have a 83 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:17,320 Speaker 4: healthy self image, and true humility takes a lot of courage. 84 00:04:17,720 --> 00:04:20,680 Speaker 4: You're secure in who you are, you don't have to 85 00:04:20,720 --> 00:04:23,679 Speaker 4: have your way all the time. You're not always giving 86 00:04:23,760 --> 00:04:26,920 Speaker 4: your opinion and telling everybody what you would do. When 87 00:04:26,960 --> 00:04:30,800 Speaker 4: you walk in humility, you are open for correction. You 88 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:34,279 Speaker 4: have a teachable spirit. You're always willing to learn. For 89 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:37,280 Speaker 4: some people today, they're a no at all. They've got 90 00:04:37,279 --> 00:04:40,720 Speaker 4: an opinion about everything. They're always telling you what they 91 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:43,919 Speaker 4: would do. They dominate every conversation. You can't get a 92 00:04:43,920 --> 00:04:46,840 Speaker 4: word in edgewise. If you tell them something you did, 93 00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:49,359 Speaker 4: they'll tell you three things they did better. If you 94 00:04:49,440 --> 00:04:51,720 Speaker 4: caught a six pound bass, they'll tell you how they 95 00:04:51,760 --> 00:04:54,880 Speaker 4: caught an eight pound bass. They're always looking for some 96 00:04:55,040 --> 00:04:57,479 Speaker 4: way to one up you. And really that's the spirit 97 00:04:57,560 --> 00:05:02,920 Speaker 4: of pride. Pride breeds insecurity, and when we're insecure, we're 98 00:05:02,920 --> 00:05:08,039 Speaker 4: gonna brag. We're gonna exaggerate. When we're insecure, we're gonna 99 00:05:08,040 --> 00:05:11,120 Speaker 4: compare ourselves to others. And that's when we get judgmental. 100 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:15,480 Speaker 4: Insecurity causes us to not handle correction in the right way. 101 00:05:15,839 --> 00:05:19,680 Speaker 4: We need to have a teachable spirit. When somebody corrects, you, 102 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:23,200 Speaker 4: do not get defensive. Don't have that old attitude. Well, 103 00:05:23,279 --> 00:05:25,080 Speaker 4: who are you to tell me that I'm just as 104 00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:28,839 Speaker 4: good as you are? Now, that's that insecurity coming out, 105 00:05:29,320 --> 00:05:31,640 Speaker 4: And as I said, the mark of a secure person 106 00:05:32,240 --> 00:05:36,280 Speaker 4: is that they can be corrected without feeling rejected. In 107 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:39,159 Speaker 4: other words, they don't get their feelings hurt, they don't 108 00:05:39,200 --> 00:05:42,240 Speaker 4: throw a fit, they don't go around sour for two weeks. Well, 109 00:05:42,279 --> 00:05:45,400 Speaker 4: nobody appreciates me around here. All I do is work 110 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:47,520 Speaker 4: for this company, and all they do is tell me 111 00:05:47,560 --> 00:05:50,359 Speaker 4: what I'm doing wrong. There'll be more secure about it 112 00:05:50,400 --> 00:05:52,840 Speaker 4: than that. Just swallow your pride and learn to keep 113 00:05:52,880 --> 00:05:56,440 Speaker 4: a good attitude. Say, for instance, you turn a project 114 00:05:56,440 --> 00:05:58,560 Speaker 4: in there at the office and they don't like the 115 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:00,960 Speaker 4: colors you've chosen, they don't like your layout, and they 116 00:06:00,960 --> 00:06:03,440 Speaker 4: ask you to do it another way. Well, you cannot 117 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:08,239 Speaker 4: take that personal. Recognize your idea may be a great idea, 118 00:06:08,440 --> 00:06:12,000 Speaker 4: it's just not what that company wanted. And more than correction, 119 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 4: you ought to see that as direction. This is simply 120 00:06:14,680 --> 00:06:18,000 Speaker 4: what they want. And a mature person, a person walking 121 00:06:18,040 --> 00:06:20,440 Speaker 4: in humility, will say, hey, no big deal, let's just 122 00:06:20,480 --> 00:06:22,800 Speaker 4: do it. Your wife, and I'll be the first to 123 00:06:22,839 --> 00:06:26,920 Speaker 4: admit I don't know everything, and I'm open to suggestions. 124 00:06:27,400 --> 00:06:30,640 Speaker 4: One thing I learned from my father was to stay teachable, 125 00:06:31,240 --> 00:06:34,360 Speaker 4: to be open, to be willing to learn from others. 126 00:06:35,160 --> 00:06:37,720 Speaker 4: In fact, a reporter asked me the other day how 127 00:06:37,760 --> 00:06:40,680 Speaker 4: I handle criticism. We don't get a lot, but you know, 128 00:06:40,720 --> 00:06:43,200 Speaker 4: anybody that's in the public has people that don't agree in, 129 00:06:43,240 --> 00:06:46,400 Speaker 4: people that criticize. And I think I surprised this reporter. 130 00:06:46,600 --> 00:06:48,920 Speaker 4: He thought I'd be very defensive, but I said, no. 131 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:52,160 Speaker 4: The first thing I do is see if the criticism 132 00:06:52,240 --> 00:06:54,520 Speaker 4: is valid. The first thing I do is search my 133 00:06:54,560 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 4: own heart. I try to stay open and to see 134 00:06:57,880 --> 00:07:00,800 Speaker 4: if what they're saying is true. And the fact is 135 00:07:01,120 --> 00:07:04,720 Speaker 4: more than once I've read a criticism or some kind 136 00:07:04,760 --> 00:07:07,760 Speaker 4: of suggestion about something that I've said, and I've thought 137 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:10,440 Speaker 4: to myself, man, I would have never taken it like that. 138 00:07:10,840 --> 00:07:13,320 Speaker 4: But I can see exactly what they're saying. I can 139 00:07:13,360 --> 00:07:15,880 Speaker 4: see they've got a good point, and I've made the 140 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:20,560 Speaker 4: necessary adjustments. You can learn from your critics. Don't be 141 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:22,840 Speaker 4: such a big shot and so high minded and so 142 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:26,040 Speaker 4: arrogant you just blow off everybody that doesn't agree with you. 143 00:07:26,360 --> 00:07:29,480 Speaker 4: Listen to what they're saying. I'm not too proud to say, 144 00:07:29,480 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 4: you know what, they were right and I was wrong. 145 00:07:32,520 --> 00:07:35,560 Speaker 4: And the Scripture says here in Proverbs fifteen verse thirty two. 146 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:40,880 Speaker 4: If you reject criticism, you are only harming yourself. But 147 00:07:40,960 --> 00:07:45,200 Speaker 4: if you will listen to correction, you will grow in understanding. 148 00:07:46,120 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 4: There have been times driving home from our Saturday night service, 149 00:07:49,520 --> 00:07:52,320 Speaker 4: Victoria said to me, Joel, I know what you meant 150 00:07:52,360 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 4: by that point, but it didn't come out like you think. 151 00:07:55,320 --> 00:07:57,680 Speaker 4: You need to rephrase it, you need to change how 152 00:07:57,720 --> 00:08:02,160 Speaker 4: you said it. Well, I welcome that. I'm open to suggestions. 153 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:05,400 Speaker 4: I'm even open to criticism. Let me tell you can 154 00:08:05,480 --> 00:08:08,280 Speaker 4: learn a whole lot from your critics. And I'm not 155 00:08:08,360 --> 00:08:10,960 Speaker 4: saying to be a people pleaser and to change with 156 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:14,520 Speaker 4: every opinion you get. But you should stay open. Don't 157 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:17,400 Speaker 4: be a know at all, be willing to be corrected. 158 00:08:18,120 --> 00:08:23,320 Speaker 4: Proverbs fifteen twelve says conceited people don't like correction. They 159 00:08:23,440 --> 00:08:26,400 Speaker 4: never ask for advice. Well, you said, Joe, how do 160 00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:29,600 Speaker 4: I know if I have a problem in this area? Well, 161 00:08:29,600 --> 00:08:32,400 Speaker 4: a good way to tell is how do you respond 162 00:08:32,559 --> 00:08:35,520 Speaker 4: to correction? How do you handle it when you don't 163 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:38,520 Speaker 4: get your way? Do you get all puffy and all upset? 164 00:08:38,960 --> 00:08:42,160 Speaker 4: Well that's the insecurity coming out. Well, don't tell me 165 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:45,320 Speaker 4: what to do. My business is bigger than yours, or 166 00:08:45,360 --> 00:08:48,000 Speaker 4: my child makes better grade than your child does, or 167 00:08:48,200 --> 00:08:51,480 Speaker 4: my church has more people coming. No swallow your pride, 168 00:08:52,080 --> 00:08:55,760 Speaker 4: stay open, and always be willing to learn. In fact, 169 00:08:55,840 --> 00:08:58,080 Speaker 4: I believe that we should try to learn something new 170 00:08:58,160 --> 00:09:02,559 Speaker 4: every single day. Learn from the situations you find yourself in. 171 00:09:03,040 --> 00:09:05,280 Speaker 4: Learn from the people God has put in your life, 172 00:09:05,400 --> 00:09:10,000 Speaker 4: your family, your friends, your coworkers. Study their habits, pick 173 00:09:10,080 --> 00:09:12,760 Speaker 4: up on their good traits. See if there are areas 174 00:09:12,800 --> 00:09:15,200 Speaker 4: they have that can inspire you to come up hire in. 175 00:09:15,760 --> 00:09:18,199 Speaker 4: But you have to have a mind to learn. Let 176 00:09:18,200 --> 00:09:20,920 Speaker 4: me tell you this. If you're not learning, you're not growing. 177 00:09:21,679 --> 00:09:24,080 Speaker 4: You're never too old to learn. You're never too young 178 00:09:24,120 --> 00:09:26,840 Speaker 4: to learn. You may think this is kind of strange, 179 00:09:26,880 --> 00:09:29,360 Speaker 4: But about a year ago, we bought a new dog, 180 00:09:29,760 --> 00:09:32,920 Speaker 4: and I've learned a whole lot from this dog. I've 181 00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:37,520 Speaker 4: learned about unconditional love. Every time we come home, she 182 00:09:37,640 --> 00:09:40,439 Speaker 4: stays in the inside. She's there at the back door. 183 00:09:40,520 --> 00:09:42,880 Speaker 4: She's got her paws up on the glass, and she's 184 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:45,760 Speaker 4: just scratching as fast as she can. She cannot wait 185 00:09:45,840 --> 00:09:49,359 Speaker 4: to see us. She's so excited. She loves us unconditionally. 186 00:09:49,679 --> 00:09:52,440 Speaker 4: I go outside to lift waists in my garage. She's 187 00:09:52,480 --> 00:09:55,160 Speaker 4: always right there at my feet, and she's always in 188 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:59,439 Speaker 4: a good mood. She's never complaining. She's consistent. I mean 189 00:09:59,480 --> 00:10:02,480 Speaker 4: she's half day in and day out. I thought many times, 190 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:04,640 Speaker 4: if we could just have an attitude like this dog. 191 00:10:05,960 --> 00:10:08,880 Speaker 4: If you think I like my dog, you should see Victoria, 192 00:10:08,960 --> 00:10:11,320 Speaker 4: so you would think that dog is her own child. 193 00:10:11,600 --> 00:10:14,640 Speaker 4: She's always petting her and playing with her. I came 194 00:10:14,679 --> 00:10:16,240 Speaker 4: home the other day and she had the dog in 195 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:18,640 Speaker 4: her lap, and she was brushing her and putting all 196 00:10:18,640 --> 00:10:21,960 Speaker 4: these bows in her hair. And I said, Victoria, I 197 00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:24,160 Speaker 4: think you love this dog more than you love me. 198 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:31,120 Speaker 4: She said, yeah, this dog doesn't talk back. We have 199 00:10:31,240 --> 00:10:33,800 Speaker 4: some friends that bought a dog about the same time 200 00:10:33,880 --> 00:10:36,199 Speaker 4: we did, and this lady was telling me the exact 201 00:10:36,200 --> 00:10:38,600 Speaker 4: same thing, how much she loved her dog, and all 202 00:10:38,640 --> 00:10:41,040 Speaker 4: she had learned from this dog. She said, In fact, 203 00:10:41,120 --> 00:10:43,160 Speaker 4: I'm gonna write a book and I'm gonna call it. 204 00:10:43,320 --> 00:10:47,319 Speaker 4: This dog can preach. But my point is we need 205 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:50,880 Speaker 4: to stay open and always be willing to learn. We 206 00:10:50,920 --> 00:10:54,240 Speaker 4: need to look for opportunities to grow. I learn from 207 00:10:54,240 --> 00:10:57,760 Speaker 4: my family, I learned from other ministers. I learned from 208 00:10:57,840 --> 00:11:01,040 Speaker 4: Victoria Man. She's always trying to teach me something. You know, 209 00:11:01,120 --> 00:11:03,000 Speaker 4: the other day, she was about to do something kind 210 00:11:03,000 --> 00:11:04,960 Speaker 4: of funny, and she stopped right before she did it, 211 00:11:05,280 --> 00:11:07,079 Speaker 4: and she said, I better not do this. You may 212 00:11:07,160 --> 00:11:12,079 Speaker 4: use this in one of your sermons. I thought, she's learning, 213 00:11:12,800 --> 00:11:15,920 Speaker 4: But I learned from my children. I remember when Jonathan 214 00:11:16,040 --> 00:11:18,800 Speaker 4: was about seven years old. One time he came home 215 00:11:18,840 --> 00:11:21,000 Speaker 4: from the Sunday service and he said, Daddy, I was 216 00:11:21,040 --> 00:11:23,880 Speaker 4: listening to your sermon today and I heard you pronounce 217 00:11:23,960 --> 00:11:27,640 Speaker 4: a word wrong. Seven years old. My first thought was, 218 00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:30,240 Speaker 4: I'm the dad, you're the child, and you may have 219 00:11:30,280 --> 00:11:32,280 Speaker 4: heard something wrong. But I did not say it wrong. 220 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:34,760 Speaker 4: I know how to talk. Of course. I just kept 221 00:11:34,760 --> 00:11:36,800 Speaker 4: that to myself, and I said, oh, really, Jonathan, what 222 00:11:36,840 --> 00:11:39,479 Speaker 4: was it? He said, well, Daddy, you keep saying often, 223 00:11:40,240 --> 00:11:42,560 Speaker 4: and the tea is supposed to be more silent. It 224 00:11:42,559 --> 00:11:45,120 Speaker 4: should just be often. I said, well, Jonathan, I have 225 00:11:45,160 --> 00:11:47,319 Speaker 4: said that word my whole life. That is not right. 226 00:11:47,400 --> 00:11:50,800 Speaker 4: It's often. He said, no, it's not, Daddy, and I said, 227 00:11:50,880 --> 00:11:52,839 Speaker 4: yes it is. He said no, it's not. He said, well, Dad, 228 00:11:52,880 --> 00:11:55,680 Speaker 4: let's go look it up in the dictionary. And I thought, oh, no, 229 00:11:56,040 --> 00:11:59,319 Speaker 4: you know. Sure enough, we went and looked it up, 230 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:02,520 Speaker 4: and you know, the tea is shown to be more silent. 231 00:12:02,960 --> 00:12:05,120 Speaker 4: He told me later, Daddy, for a small fee, I'll 232 00:12:05,200 --> 00:12:12,520 Speaker 4: profreate all your sermons. But I'm not too proud to 233 00:12:12,559 --> 00:12:15,920 Speaker 4: tell you I learned something from my seven year old. Well, Joel, 234 00:12:15,960 --> 00:12:18,760 Speaker 4: I sure wouldn't admit that. No, listen, I'm secure in 235 00:12:18,840 --> 00:12:24,479 Speaker 4: who I am. I know that my worth and my value. 236 00:12:25,720 --> 00:12:28,160 Speaker 4: My value doesn't come from what I do and how 237 00:12:28,200 --> 00:12:31,000 Speaker 4: good I speak. My value comes from knowing that I'm 238 00:12:31,040 --> 00:12:33,880 Speaker 4: a child of the most High God. And until you 239 00:12:34,000 --> 00:12:37,640 Speaker 4: really understand that, you'll always be insecure. You'll always be 240 00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:40,720 Speaker 4: trying to prove something. But we need to keep growing. 241 00:12:40,800 --> 00:12:43,719 Speaker 4: And you may have a successful business today, but it's 242 00:12:43,760 --> 00:12:46,280 Speaker 4: not going to continue to grow if you don't grow. 243 00:12:46,720 --> 00:12:50,280 Speaker 4: You need to stay open to new ideas, don't get stagnant, 244 00:12:50,720 --> 00:12:52,600 Speaker 4: don't think you know it all you know and have 245 00:12:52,679 --> 00:12:55,680 Speaker 4: that attitude. Well I've arrived, I'm at the top. I'm 246 00:12:55,720 --> 00:12:59,440 Speaker 4: successful now. Things are always changing. I saw a report 247 00:12:59,520 --> 00:13:03,040 Speaker 4: last week on Walmart, the world's largest company, and you 248 00:13:03,080 --> 00:13:05,920 Speaker 4: would think that they would be pretty satisfied. You'd think 249 00:13:05,920 --> 00:13:08,320 Speaker 4: they'd just be kicking back and kind of saying, man, 250 00:13:08,400 --> 00:13:11,079 Speaker 4: we're the best, nobody's bigger than us. We're the hot shots. 251 00:13:11,400 --> 00:13:15,000 Speaker 4: But this report talked about all the changes they were 252 00:13:15,040 --> 00:13:18,319 Speaker 4: making because of what they had learned from their competitors. 253 00:13:18,720 --> 00:13:21,640 Speaker 4: They'd studied all the different areas of the market where 254 00:13:21,640 --> 00:13:24,520 Speaker 4: they weren't having as much success in, and now they're 255 00:13:24,520 --> 00:13:28,079 Speaker 4: about to implement all these new items and new clothing lines, 256 00:13:28,160 --> 00:13:32,600 Speaker 4: new procedures just so they could continue growing. See, they're 257 00:13:32,640 --> 00:13:35,520 Speaker 4: the quote big shots, but they're not too proud to 258 00:13:35,679 --> 00:13:39,040 Speaker 4: learn from others. They have a teachable spirit. And no 259 00:13:39,040 --> 00:13:40,920 Speaker 4: matter where you are in life, you need to make 260 00:13:40,920 --> 00:13:44,520 Speaker 4: sure that you're learning something, you're growing every single day. 261 00:13:45,120 --> 00:13:47,960 Speaker 4: If you're not open to new suggestions, if you're not 262 00:13:48,040 --> 00:13:50,840 Speaker 4: looking for new ideas and ways that you can improve, 263 00:13:51,080 --> 00:13:54,280 Speaker 4: then you're only hurting yourself. And if you get defensive 264 00:13:54,400 --> 00:13:57,600 Speaker 4: every time somebody corrects you and you just blow off 265 00:13:57,679 --> 00:14:00,520 Speaker 4: all the criticism, you won't listen to any of that, 266 00:14:00,640 --> 00:14:02,600 Speaker 4: well that's gonna keep you in that rough You're gonna 267 00:14:02,600 --> 00:14:05,520 Speaker 4: stay right where you are. As I said, your critics 268 00:14:05,559 --> 00:14:08,200 Speaker 4: can be your best friends. You may not agree with 269 00:14:08,280 --> 00:14:11,120 Speaker 4: them every time, and I certainly don't, but it's amazing 270 00:14:11,240 --> 00:14:14,400 Speaker 4: how much you can learn about yourself when you see 271 00:14:14,440 --> 00:14:18,160 Speaker 4: yourself through somebody else's eyes. See pride causes us to 272 00:14:18,200 --> 00:14:20,760 Speaker 4: be blinded. Well, Joel, I know I'm right. I've been 273 00:14:20,760 --> 00:14:23,200 Speaker 4: doing this a long time. I can't tell you how 274 00:14:23,240 --> 00:14:26,080 Speaker 4: many times in my life I've been one hundred percent 275 00:14:26,120 --> 00:14:28,920 Speaker 4: sure that I was right, only to find out a 276 00:14:28,960 --> 00:14:31,360 Speaker 4: few years later I wasn't right at all. And if 277 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:33,640 Speaker 4: I just stayed a little more open, if I just 278 00:14:33,720 --> 00:14:36,160 Speaker 4: paid attention to what people were telling me, if I 279 00:14:36,160 --> 00:14:39,240 Speaker 4: would have just taken their advice, could have saved me 280 00:14:39,280 --> 00:14:42,040 Speaker 4: a whole lot of heartache and pain. If every time 281 00:14:42,120 --> 00:14:45,160 Speaker 4: somebody tries to correct you, or somebody tries to give 282 00:14:45,160 --> 00:14:47,800 Speaker 4: you some advice, you get defensive and you debate it 283 00:14:47,840 --> 00:14:50,680 Speaker 4: with them, then after a while they're gonna say, what's 284 00:14:50,720 --> 00:14:53,080 Speaker 4: the use, It's not worth it. He's just gonna argue 285 00:14:53,080 --> 00:14:55,200 Speaker 4: and fight. If I try to correct him, he's gonna 286 00:14:55,200 --> 00:14:57,200 Speaker 4: get all bent out of shape, or she's gonna get 287 00:14:57,240 --> 00:14:59,640 Speaker 4: offended and go around sour for two weeks time. Let's 288 00:14:59,680 --> 00:15:03,040 Speaker 4: just leave bit alone. Now, don't be that insecure about it. 289 00:15:03,400 --> 00:15:07,760 Speaker 4: We need to recognize nobody knows everything about every single subject. 290 00:15:08,400 --> 00:15:10,800 Speaker 4: You know things that I don't know, I probably know 291 00:15:10,840 --> 00:15:13,440 Speaker 4: a few things that you don't know. We can all 292 00:15:13,520 --> 00:15:17,200 Speaker 4: learn from each other. And a humble person is always 293 00:15:17,320 --> 00:15:21,480 Speaker 4: growing because they're open to new ideas, they're open to correction, 294 00:15:21,840 --> 00:15:25,040 Speaker 4: they recognize they don't know it all. A few months back, 295 00:15:25,160 --> 00:15:28,080 Speaker 4: I was down at the Compact Center watching the construction 296 00:15:28,240 --> 00:15:31,360 Speaker 4: workers build our new five story building, and man, I 297 00:15:31,400 --> 00:15:34,440 Speaker 4: stood there in amazement. It looked like a massive amount 298 00:15:34,480 --> 00:15:37,480 Speaker 4: of work going on. There must have been several hundred 299 00:15:37,480 --> 00:15:41,440 Speaker 4: men working and maybe one hundred different individual projects going on, 300 00:15:41,600 --> 00:15:44,240 Speaker 4: all at the same time, and to me it looked like, 301 00:15:44,560 --> 00:15:47,120 Speaker 4: you know, just total chaos. They were pouring some foundation 302 00:15:47,240 --> 00:15:50,280 Speaker 4: over here and building something else over here, and I 303 00:15:50,320 --> 00:15:54,560 Speaker 4: thought to myself, these guys must be geniuses. How could 304 00:15:54,560 --> 00:15:58,840 Speaker 4: they possibly know where everything goes? But it's because they 305 00:15:58,840 --> 00:16:01,920 Speaker 4: are experts in their feel it's because they are very 306 00:16:02,000 --> 00:16:05,120 Speaker 4: knowledgeable in that line of work. That's the gifting God 307 00:16:05,120 --> 00:16:07,360 Speaker 4: has given them. And do you know what I can 308 00:16:07,440 --> 00:16:10,480 Speaker 4: learn from their gift? They may look at me one 309 00:16:10,520 --> 00:16:12,480 Speaker 4: day and say, man, Joel, I don't know how you 310 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:15,000 Speaker 4: can get up there and speak for thirty minutes and 311 00:16:15,040 --> 00:16:17,760 Speaker 4: have it all make sense at least most of the time. 312 00:16:19,080 --> 00:16:21,520 Speaker 4: See They're looking at me in amazement at what I do, 313 00:16:21,600 --> 00:16:24,320 Speaker 4: and I'm looking at them in amazement of what they do. 314 00:16:24,720 --> 00:16:27,800 Speaker 4: God has given us all different gifts, and the good 315 00:16:27,840 --> 00:16:32,120 Speaker 4: news is we don't have to learn everything from personal experiences. 316 00:16:32,440 --> 00:16:35,720 Speaker 4: I can learn from other people's successes as well as 317 00:16:35,760 --> 00:16:39,120 Speaker 4: other people's failures. And when somebody has been where I'm 318 00:16:39,160 --> 00:16:42,440 Speaker 4: trying to go, I'm gonna listen to their advice. I'm 319 00:16:42,440 --> 00:16:44,760 Speaker 4: gonna try not to make the same mistakes. I'm gonna 320 00:16:44,840 --> 00:16:47,680 Speaker 4: humble myself and say, hey, tell me how you got there, 321 00:16:48,040 --> 00:16:50,320 Speaker 4: Give me some advice, give me some of your wisdom. 322 00:16:50,560 --> 00:16:53,360 Speaker 4: But see, a proud person won't do that. Well. That 323 00:16:53,440 --> 00:16:56,040 Speaker 4: may make me look kind of weak. They might not 324 00:16:56,160 --> 00:16:59,240 Speaker 4: think I'm very smart. But you have to ask yourself, 325 00:16:59,480 --> 00:17:01,840 Speaker 4: do you want people to think you're smart or do 326 00:17:01,880 --> 00:17:04,160 Speaker 4: you really want to be smart? If you want people 327 00:17:04,160 --> 00:17:06,640 Speaker 4: to just think you're real wise because you know, never 328 00:17:06,720 --> 00:17:09,240 Speaker 4: ask or do you really want to be wise? A 329 00:17:09,320 --> 00:17:12,720 Speaker 4: proud person will be so insecure that they will never 330 00:17:12,760 --> 00:17:15,960 Speaker 4: admit they need any help. They'll never ask for any advice. 331 00:17:16,440 --> 00:17:19,840 Speaker 4: But I really believe that God specifically puts people in 332 00:17:19,920 --> 00:17:23,240 Speaker 4: our lives to help us grow, to help us be 333 00:17:23,359 --> 00:17:25,840 Speaker 4: all that He's called us to be. You don't know. 334 00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:28,840 Speaker 4: Somebody sitting around you may give you one idea that 335 00:17:28,880 --> 00:17:30,920 Speaker 4: could take you to the next level if you just ask, 336 00:17:31,000 --> 00:17:33,360 Speaker 4: if you just be open, or maybe they could give 337 00:17:33,359 --> 00:17:35,840 Speaker 4: you a little advice that could keep your marriage together, 338 00:17:36,280 --> 00:17:38,679 Speaker 4: a little wisdom that could help you break a bad habit. 339 00:17:39,240 --> 00:17:41,879 Speaker 4: Stay open, don't be too proud to say, hey, I 340 00:17:41,960 --> 00:17:45,320 Speaker 4: need your help, I need some advice. I found we 341 00:17:45,480 --> 00:17:48,240 Speaker 4: learn a whole lot more if we will listen more 342 00:17:48,760 --> 00:17:51,520 Speaker 4: most of the time. In general, we are not going 343 00:17:51,560 --> 00:17:53,840 Speaker 4: to be learning as long as we're doing all the talking. 344 00:17:54,560 --> 00:17:56,600 Speaker 4: And when I get in a meeting, our staff will 345 00:17:56,640 --> 00:17:59,399 Speaker 4: tell you. My favorite line is, what do you think. 346 00:18:00,040 --> 00:18:02,280 Speaker 4: I'll go down and ask each person give me your advice, 347 00:18:02,359 --> 00:18:05,560 Speaker 4: give me your wisdom. See, I already know what I think. 348 00:18:06,160 --> 00:18:08,439 Speaker 4: And a lot of times we do all the talking 349 00:18:08,840 --> 00:18:10,879 Speaker 4: just to make sure everybody else will know how smart 350 00:18:10,920 --> 00:18:14,080 Speaker 4: we are. But as I said, that's just insecurity. A 351 00:18:14,119 --> 00:18:16,960 Speaker 4: secure person knows who they are. They don't have to 352 00:18:17,000 --> 00:18:20,480 Speaker 4: dominate every conversation just to let people think that they're 353 00:18:20,480 --> 00:18:23,359 Speaker 4: the hot shot. I think we could all learn to 354 00:18:23,520 --> 00:18:28,760 Speaker 4: listen more and talk less, ask for advice, ask questions, 355 00:18:29,119 --> 00:18:33,400 Speaker 4: listen to other opinions, stay open, and don't think your 356 00:18:33,440 --> 00:18:36,560 Speaker 4: way is the only right way. Most of the time. 357 00:18:36,640 --> 00:18:38,880 Speaker 4: Maybe not every time, but most of the time, there 358 00:18:38,920 --> 00:18:42,119 Speaker 4: are several different ways you can accomplish the same project. 359 00:18:42,440 --> 00:18:44,840 Speaker 4: But it's pride that says my way is the only 360 00:18:44,960 --> 00:18:48,240 Speaker 4: right way. I thinking about how Victoria and I we 361 00:18:48,320 --> 00:18:52,800 Speaker 4: have very different personalities. I'm very structured and very routine. 362 00:18:53,440 --> 00:18:57,080 Speaker 4: Victoria she's just the opposite. She doesn't like routine, she 363 00:18:57,280 --> 00:19:00,119 Speaker 4: likes variety. She doesn't go to just one mallsh he 364 00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:04,320 Speaker 4: goes to all the malls. And the way she does 365 00:19:04,400 --> 00:19:07,440 Speaker 4: things is not necessarily the way that I would always 366 00:19:07,480 --> 00:19:10,480 Speaker 4: do things. But I've learned I cannot be so proud 367 00:19:11,040 --> 00:19:13,760 Speaker 4: and so stuck on myself that I can't take her 368 00:19:13,800 --> 00:19:17,280 Speaker 4: opinion and do it her way. A while back, we 369 00:19:17,359 --> 00:19:20,000 Speaker 4: had to move this mirror that was hanging in my office. 370 00:19:20,359 --> 00:19:22,520 Speaker 4: And my personality is to just get in there and 371 00:19:22,560 --> 00:19:24,760 Speaker 4: get it done as quickly as possible. And so we 372 00:19:24,840 --> 00:19:27,520 Speaker 4: went into my office and I just jumped on top 373 00:19:27,560 --> 00:19:30,080 Speaker 4: of my desk and I took the mirror off the wall, 374 00:19:30,520 --> 00:19:32,960 Speaker 4: and I was expecting to hand it down to Victoria. 375 00:19:33,240 --> 00:19:35,280 Speaker 4: So we could put it on the ground and see 376 00:19:35,280 --> 00:19:37,560 Speaker 4: where we were going to rehang it. But as I'm 377 00:19:37,600 --> 00:19:41,439 Speaker 4: standing there struggling with this mirror, weighs like sixty pounds 378 00:19:41,480 --> 00:19:43,240 Speaker 4: and it's got horns all the way around it, and 379 00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:46,040 Speaker 4: so it's very awkward and my back's kind of hurting. Well, 380 00:19:46,040 --> 00:19:49,359 Speaker 4: I noticed Victoria. She just kind of nonchalant me walking 381 00:19:49,359 --> 00:19:51,520 Speaker 4: through the room thinking about where she wants to hang 382 00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:54,520 Speaker 4: the picture. And I was as polite as I could be. 383 00:19:54,600 --> 00:19:57,840 Speaker 4: I said, Victoria, I hate to interrupt your artistic thinking, 384 00:19:57,960 --> 00:20:00,480 Speaker 4: but if you'd be so kind to help set the 385 00:20:00,520 --> 00:20:03,240 Speaker 4: mirror down, as this sweat poured off of my face, 386 00:20:03,280 --> 00:20:05,560 Speaker 4: and she said, no, Joe, if you'll hold it just 387 00:20:05,600 --> 00:20:09,920 Speaker 4: a minute, then we won't have to move it two times. 388 00:20:09,960 --> 00:20:12,320 Speaker 4: I want to hang it right over here. I said, Victoria, 389 00:20:12,400 --> 00:20:14,800 Speaker 4: I cannot hold this mirror while you go get the 390 00:20:14,840 --> 00:20:17,119 Speaker 4: hammer and the nails. She said, no, Joel, I'm going 391 00:20:17,200 --> 00:20:19,880 Speaker 4: to use the nails from the old picture right behind you. 392 00:20:20,520 --> 00:20:22,159 Speaker 4: And just as I was about to tell her that 393 00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:24,000 Speaker 4: there is no way this desk is going to hold 394 00:20:24,040 --> 00:20:26,000 Speaker 4: both of us, she jumps up on top of the 395 00:20:26,080 --> 00:20:28,520 Speaker 4: desk and now I'm going like this with this mirror. 396 00:20:29,880 --> 00:20:32,200 Speaker 4: I forgot all about my back hurt. Now I'm fearing 397 00:20:32,240 --> 00:20:36,560 Speaker 4: for my life. I said, Victoria, you are never going 398 00:20:36,600 --> 00:20:38,919 Speaker 4: to get the nails out of the wall without a hammer. 399 00:20:38,960 --> 00:20:41,240 Speaker 4: Would you just do it my way? About that time 400 00:20:41,320 --> 00:20:44,600 Speaker 4: she showed me the two nails. I said, still, Victoria, 401 00:20:44,680 --> 00:20:46,720 Speaker 4: I cannot sit around here and wait for you to 402 00:20:46,760 --> 00:20:50,240 Speaker 4: go get that hammer. Please have mercy on me. I'm 403 00:20:50,280 --> 00:20:52,440 Speaker 4: the father of your children. Will you do it my way? 404 00:20:53,359 --> 00:20:55,320 Speaker 4: She just kind of laughed. She said, Joel, who needs 405 00:20:55,359 --> 00:21:01,600 Speaker 4: a hammer? And she got one of my shoes. She 406 00:21:01,800 --> 00:21:06,200 Speaker 4: hammered those nails perfectly into the wall. We hung that mirror, 407 00:21:06,240 --> 00:21:09,080 Speaker 4: and we did it her way. Now, I can tell 408 00:21:09,119 --> 00:21:11,040 Speaker 4: you God is a god of miracles. I've seen it 409 00:21:11,080 --> 00:21:14,240 Speaker 4: with my own eyes. But my point is, don't be 410 00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:16,720 Speaker 4: too proud that you can't do it somebody else's way. 411 00:21:17,280 --> 00:21:20,360 Speaker 4: There is a slight possibility that their way may be 412 00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:23,080 Speaker 4: better than your way. And God help us to not 413 00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:26,239 Speaker 4: become know it all. That's a sure sign we're not 414 00:21:26,280 --> 00:21:28,879 Speaker 4: going to be promoted. And even if you do know 415 00:21:29,000 --> 00:21:31,640 Speaker 4: a lot in a certain subject, or maybe you're very 416 00:21:31,640 --> 00:21:34,800 Speaker 4: successful in a certain area, you have to use wisdom 417 00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:37,439 Speaker 4: in how you share that. I have some good friends 418 00:21:37,440 --> 00:21:40,800 Speaker 4: that pastor churches in other cities, and I'm very careful 419 00:21:40,840 --> 00:21:43,080 Speaker 4: when I talk to them to not just bring up 420 00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:46,200 Speaker 4: all we're doing, how big our church is, how many 421 00:21:46,200 --> 00:21:49,480 Speaker 4: people we've got coming. I've learned most people are not 422 00:21:49,560 --> 00:21:52,840 Speaker 4: as interested in my plans as I am. They're interested 423 00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:55,800 Speaker 4: in what they're doing, and nobody wants to hear all 424 00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:58,640 Speaker 4: the time about how great your life is, how many 425 00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:01,320 Speaker 4: home runs your child here, and all the victories you're having. 426 00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:05,359 Speaker 4: There's a balance be interested in other people. Now. Of 427 00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:07,840 Speaker 4: course there are times when that's appropriate, but what I'm 428 00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:10,919 Speaker 4: saying is, don't always have yourself on your mind. I 429 00:22:10,960 --> 00:22:14,199 Speaker 4: have a pastor friend. They're remodeling this old kmart to 430 00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:17,359 Speaker 4: use as they're sanctuary. He is so excited about it. 431 00:22:17,760 --> 00:22:20,119 Speaker 4: They're doing it all themselves to save money, and so 432 00:22:20,359 --> 00:22:22,800 Speaker 4: at night he's got his members and different friends coming 433 00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:24,880 Speaker 4: up to help him, and they're just giving it all 434 00:22:24,920 --> 00:22:27,480 Speaker 4: they've got. Well, when I talk to him, it's not 435 00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:30,160 Speaker 4: wise for me to say, well, your place is great, 436 00:22:30,160 --> 00:22:33,040 Speaker 4: but you should see the Compact Center. Man, it's where 437 00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:34,760 Speaker 4: the rockets used to play. We got this and that. 438 00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:37,480 Speaker 4: Although it may be true we need to be a 439 00:22:37,520 --> 00:22:40,600 Speaker 4: lot more sensitive than that. Do you know, Sometimes your 440 00:22:40,640 --> 00:22:44,280 Speaker 4: good report can be very discouraging to somebody else. And 441 00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:46,200 Speaker 4: it's not wise. If you have a friend over there 442 00:22:46,200 --> 00:22:48,639 Speaker 4: at work and he's at his desk and you can 443 00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:50,800 Speaker 4: see he's coming down with the flu and he's coughing 444 00:22:50,840 --> 00:22:53,280 Speaker 4: and sneezing, his eyes are running, well, it's not very 445 00:22:53,280 --> 00:22:54,760 Speaker 4: wise for you to go up and say, well, God 446 00:22:54,760 --> 00:22:56,720 Speaker 4: bless you brother. You know that tried to come on 447 00:22:56,800 --> 00:23:00,880 Speaker 4: me last week, but I just prayed it away. Good 448 00:23:01,000 --> 00:23:04,320 Speaker 4: luck to you. Maybe you'll do better next time. Now 449 00:23:04,359 --> 00:23:06,560 Speaker 4: we need to be a lot more sensitive than that. 450 00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:11,119 Speaker 4: Learn to walk in humility, always have a teachable spirit. 451 00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:14,520 Speaker 4: Thinking about my mother, since my father went to be 452 00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:16,800 Speaker 4: with the Lord, this has been a very big transition 453 00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:19,800 Speaker 4: for my mother. Not only did she lose somebody she'd 454 00:23:19,840 --> 00:23:22,520 Speaker 4: been married to for more than fifty years, but my 455 00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:25,879 Speaker 4: personality is not exactly the same as my father's, and 456 00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:29,119 Speaker 4: so we naturally made some changes and some adjustments. And 457 00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:32,639 Speaker 4: had she not stayed open and had a spirit of humility, 458 00:23:33,040 --> 00:23:35,680 Speaker 4: she could have got her feelings hurt. Hell, John's gone. 459 00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:38,160 Speaker 4: Now they're just doing it their own way. Now she's 460 00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:41,240 Speaker 4: been totally open to all the changes we've made. Back 461 00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:43,639 Speaker 4: in two thousand, when I mentioned to her that we 462 00:23:43,640 --> 00:23:46,720 Speaker 4: were about to start a second Sunday morning service, she 463 00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:49,239 Speaker 4: kind of kiddingly complained to me about it all. Now 464 00:23:49,240 --> 00:23:51,000 Speaker 4: we're going to have to get up real early, just kidding, 465 00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:53,399 Speaker 4: you know. A couple months later, though, after all the 466 00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:55,800 Speaker 4: people were coming and it is real exciting, and you'd 467 00:23:55,800 --> 00:23:59,280 Speaker 4: have thought it was her own idea. I mentioned about 468 00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:01,200 Speaker 4: how we're going down to the compact. She said, Joel, 469 00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:04,600 Speaker 4: I'm all for it. I'm totally on board. See she 470 00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:11,800 Speaker 4: stays open. That's a mark of a mature person. Another 471 00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:15,919 Speaker 4: important thing, don't make the mistake of thinking that only 472 00:24:16,080 --> 00:24:19,080 Speaker 4: your little group is right, and especially when it comes 473 00:24:19,119 --> 00:24:23,520 Speaker 4: to different denominations and even people of different faiths. We 474 00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:26,199 Speaker 4: may not agree and believe everything they do, but that 475 00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:28,320 Speaker 4: doesn't give us the right to look down on them. 476 00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:31,120 Speaker 4: I've spent a lot of time in India. Of course, 477 00:24:31,119 --> 00:24:33,280 Speaker 4: they come from a different faith than we do. But 478 00:24:33,359 --> 00:24:35,919 Speaker 4: I can tell you I respect most of those people. 479 00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:39,120 Speaker 4: I've seen them pray four or five times a day. 480 00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:43,440 Speaker 4: I've seen their sincerity. I can learn from their discipline. 481 00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:46,359 Speaker 4: In fact, a lot of them are more serious about 482 00:24:46,359 --> 00:24:48,920 Speaker 4: their faith than the people I know today. Don't get 483 00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:52,560 Speaker 4: me wrong, I believe in a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. 484 00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:55,080 Speaker 4: But again, that doesn't give me or us the right 485 00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:57,560 Speaker 4: to look down on people of other faiths treat them 486 00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:01,679 Speaker 4: like their second class. Jesus himself said, by this, shall 487 00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:04,560 Speaker 4: all men know that you're my disciples. Here's the key, 488 00:25:04,800 --> 00:25:07,640 Speaker 4: when you love one another. It's not gonna be by 489 00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:10,480 Speaker 4: our faith. It's not gonna be by how many miracles 490 00:25:10,520 --> 00:25:13,480 Speaker 4: we do. It's not gonna be by how many scriptures 491 00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:15,439 Speaker 4: we can quote. It's not gonna be whether or not 492 00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:17,959 Speaker 4: we all baptize the same way. It's gonna be by 493 00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:21,080 Speaker 4: our love. Why don't you swallow your pride and start 494 00:25:21,160 --> 00:25:25,720 Speaker 4: loving and respecting people, even people from other denominations, people 495 00:25:25,760 --> 00:25:28,639 Speaker 4: from other faiths. And as I said, we may not 496 00:25:28,720 --> 00:25:31,560 Speaker 4: agree and believe everything they do, but we still should 497 00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:35,480 Speaker 4: love the person the Bible called Jesus a friend of sinners. 498 00:25:36,160 --> 00:25:38,320 Speaker 4: Do you know who Jesus got the most upset with? 499 00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:42,960 Speaker 4: The religious people? That's because religious pride is the worst 500 00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:45,320 Speaker 4: kind of pride we can have. Well, I'm better than 501 00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:48,280 Speaker 4: you because I go to this church, or I pray more, 502 00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:50,800 Speaker 4: or we believe more of this and less of that. No, 503 00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:54,000 Speaker 4: that's the very worst some people. They don't realize when 504 00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:56,359 Speaker 4: we get to heaven, there's not gonna be a Baptist section, 505 00:25:56,480 --> 00:26:01,800 Speaker 4: a Catholic section, a Methodist section, a Charismatic section. There's 506 00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:04,200 Speaker 4: not even gonna be a black section, a white section, 507 00:26:04,280 --> 00:26:08,119 Speaker 4: a yellow section, of red section. We're going to be 508 00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:11,600 Speaker 4: all up there together as one big, happy family. We 509 00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:14,439 Speaker 4: might as well learn to get along down here. I 510 00:26:14,480 --> 00:26:17,520 Speaker 4: think it's kind of interesting. The biggest criticism we get 511 00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:20,679 Speaker 4: is from religious people. You would think they would be 512 00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:22,480 Speaker 4: for us. You would think we'd all be on the 513 00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:25,399 Speaker 4: same team. I mean, after all, we're all trying to 514 00:26:25,400 --> 00:26:28,199 Speaker 4: share the love, the mercy, the goodness of God. And 515 00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:31,000 Speaker 4: what a shame when we destroy each other because we 516 00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:33,560 Speaker 4: don't come from the same little group. And listen, I 517 00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:36,199 Speaker 4: know I'm not perfect. I know my doctrine's probably not 518 00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:39,119 Speaker 4: one hundred percent right, but I also know that my 519 00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:42,520 Speaker 4: heart is right. And I see other people sometimes I 520 00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:46,440 Speaker 4: don't necessarily agree with their approach, but I realize I'm 521 00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:49,200 Speaker 4: not the judge. It's not my place to say, look 522 00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:51,639 Speaker 4: how terrible they are, let's just cut them down no. 523 00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:54,879 Speaker 4: Our place is to pray for them. Our place is 524 00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:57,320 Speaker 4: to say, God, help them, give them wisdom, give them insight, 525 00:26:57,480 --> 00:27:00,960 Speaker 4: give them understanding. I'm determined in my heart I'm gonna 526 00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:03,600 Speaker 4: give people the benefit of the doubt. I may not 527 00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:06,879 Speaker 4: understand everything, but that doesn't necessarily mean they're wrong and 528 00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:11,320 Speaker 4: I'm right. We're just different. God likes variety. If every 529 00:27:11,359 --> 00:27:14,560 Speaker 4: minister was exactly like me and had my same personality, 530 00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:17,000 Speaker 4: this world wouldn't be what God wanted it to be. 531 00:27:17,280 --> 00:27:19,400 Speaker 4: And a humble person says, you know what, I don't 532 00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:21,600 Speaker 4: agree with you, but you need to know I am 533 00:27:21,880 --> 00:27:24,600 Speaker 4: for you now. I like what my father used to say. 534 00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:26,920 Speaker 4: He said, if you draw a circle and shut me out, 535 00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:29,200 Speaker 4: I'm gonna draw a bigger circle and shut you in. 536 00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:32,440 Speaker 4: And the bottom line is, we're not here to judge 537 00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:35,919 Speaker 4: and condemn. We are here to present the good news. 538 00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:39,600 Speaker 4: We're here to present a message of hope. Just because 539 00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:42,600 Speaker 4: Lakewood may be a little bigger, or maybe somebody doesn't 540 00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:46,120 Speaker 4: do it exactly like us, Please don't look down on them. 541 00:27:46,520 --> 00:27:49,320 Speaker 4: Let's concentrate on what we do agree with instead of 542 00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:51,600 Speaker 4: what we don't agree with. If we do that, we'll 543 00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:53,919 Speaker 4: get a lot further down the road. So let me 544 00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:57,720 Speaker 4: challenge again. Stay open, have a teachable spirit, don't be 545 00:27:57,760 --> 00:27:59,919 Speaker 4: a know at all. Try to learn something new if 546 00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:03,680 Speaker 4: every single day. Remember, if you're not learning, you're not growing. 547 00:28:04,240 --> 00:28:07,280 Speaker 4: And a real mark of maturity is when you can 548 00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:10,719 Speaker 4: receive correction with a good attitude without ever getting your 549 00:28:10,720 --> 00:28:13,800 Speaker 4: feelings hurt. Don't be too proud to ask for advice. 550 00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:17,120 Speaker 4: Just humble yourself and learn to do more listening than 551 00:28:17,160 --> 00:28:21,760 Speaker 4: you do talking. The scripture says humility always precedes honor. 552 00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:24,960 Speaker 4: If you will just have a teachable spirit and be 553 00:28:25,119 --> 00:28:28,400 Speaker 4: open to correction, then God will honor you. He'll pour 554 00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:31,159 Speaker 4: out his blessings, he'll promote you, and you'll experience the 555 00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:33,680 Speaker 4: victories he has in store. Amen, how many of you 556 00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:37,399 Speaker 4: receive it today? What I know you do here? We 557 00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:40,200 Speaker 4: never like to close our broadcast without giving you an 558 00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:43,480 Speaker 4: opportunity to make Jesus the lord of your life. Would 559 00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:47,920 Speaker 4: you pray with me? Just say, Lord, Jesus, I repent 560 00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:52,440 Speaker 4: of my sins. Come into my heart. I make you 561 00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:56,840 Speaker 4: my Lord and savior. 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