Speaker 1: It's really important to make things meaningful and to stop.
Speaker 1: And meaning doesn't mean money, and meaning doesn't mean big.
Speaker 1: Britt and I were supposed to go to the Jingle
Speaker 1: Ball in LA and then there was an iHeart party
Speaker 1: on the Saturday night at Nobu, which is like Nobu
Speaker 1: and she loves it and it's tiktokie and it's fancy
Speaker 1: and it's like Adam Sandler goes Aaron. Brin's obsessed with
Speaker 1: Adam Sandler. And it's Friday night and it's going to
Speaker 1: the jingle Ball and it's getting dressed up and it's great.
Speaker 1: But you're flying to LA for just two nights and
Speaker 1: it's activating and it's exhausting. And it's in the middle
Speaker 1: of December, which is our season. It's the holiday season,
Speaker 1: people say. Paulaway says, I don't go big with my comedy.
Speaker 1: We don't go big with our holiday stuff. Our tree
Speaker 1: looks like a Charlie Brown misfit Christmas. And I see
Speaker 1: all these people on social media with these perfect trees
Speaker 1: and tree designers are coming and like, you know what,
Speaker 1: and it's no disrespect. No one does Christmas like Chris Jenner.
Speaker 1: It should be Christmas should be Kris Tmas. Chris Jenner
Speaker 1: does Christmas like crazy Kathy Hilton. Kyle now is following
Speaker 1: in Kathy's footsteps with all the trees and all the decorators,
Speaker 1: and Kim's got fucking the Eiffel Tower lights and her
Speaker 1: driveway and it's amazing. I really like our homemade misfit Christmas,
Speaker 1: like I really wouldn't have it any other way. And
Speaker 1: bring one year cried when someone that works with me
Speaker 1: who put up the tree like a house manager, put
Speaker 1: up the tree for us, but we said no ornaments,
Speaker 1: and they put up all the fancy ornaments, like the
Speaker 1: ones that have meaning. And it's such a meaningful thing
Speaker 1: to do together. And we get so busy and it's overwhelming.
Speaker 1: You're taking your tree out, your shit is out, it's clutter.
Speaker 1: It's like you got other things to do. The game
Speaker 1: moves so fast. So how we did it was I
Speaker 1: had someone that works with me, and you may not
Speaker 1: have that, so you'll do it. But you know, I'm
Speaker 1: lucky and I'm working a lot. Put up the tree
Speaker 1: like they just put the naked tree up, and then
Speaker 1: you pull out all the ornaments. I really strongly recommend
Speaker 1: organizers for your ornaments. It's just like you'll cry if
Speaker 1: an ornament breaks. It's happened. It happens when we do
Speaker 1: it perfectly. And then I could tell you later about
Speaker 1: the ornament sleeves. We can discuss that later. But basically,
Speaker 1: how I managed it, how I tackled it, was I
Speaker 1: took out all those ornament things, and all the boxes
Speaker 1: and all the bags and put them next to the tree,
Speaker 1: and one by one I went through each and anything
Speaker 1: that I didn't live for, anything I didn't live for,
Speaker 1: or like it's a little juvenile, it's a little rusty,
Speaker 1: or it's a little gross, it's a little broken, or
Speaker 1: a little over it. It's just like it's too many stockings.
Speaker 1: Pick the things you love. I got rid of all
Speaker 1: that stuff, because God forbid you walk into one of
Speaker 1: those TJ or Home Goods or CBS or any store,
Speaker 1: not knowing the shit you already have, you're gonna just
Speaker 1: have so much clutter, so much clutter. So I opened
Speaker 1: everything up, and there were things. There were at least
Speaker 1: like five things like these stockings, they're brand new, they
Speaker 1: still have tags on them. We don't need nineteen stockings,
Speaker 1: you know what. I'm putting a bottle one and that's
Speaker 1: gonna be a gift bag. Like just went through everything.
Speaker 1: Some of these, like Santa hats are a little gross
Speaker 1: and dirty. Some of this battery operated shit we bought
Speaker 1: it like some fucking the Radio City Music show. Like
Speaker 1: throw that out, the memorabilia, dumb cups that the drinks
Speaker 1: came in. Whatever. Okay, snow globes are great things to
Speaker 1: buy when you go to an event, and so are
Speaker 1: ornaments because you're gonna put them on your tree. They're
Speaker 1: not just clutter hanging around in some box. This stupid
Speaker 1: glitter garland that looked good and now it's getting ready
Speaker 1: dump it. Okay, that's stage one, Stage two. Just dip
Speaker 1: in and put like five ornaments on the tree the
Speaker 1: first time. Another habit I got into is I got
Speaker 1: rid of any non meaningful ornaments, any like big just
Speaker 1: glitter balls or pink or purple that you bought in
Speaker 1: bulk on mass goodbye, fuck off. Just have a nice
Speaker 1: lit tree with like meaningful Oh this is when we
Speaker 1: were in Santa Barbara, like meaningful tree. So now I've
Speaker 1: put on like five ornaments. Then the next day brings
Speaker 1: home and then she puts five and I put five
Speaker 1: every time you walk by, and you do it together too,
Speaker 1: like you have at least that like hour that you're together.
Speaker 1: So you talk about it and what's your favorite and
Speaker 1: do you remember this? And you do that and then
Speaker 1: you go with God and it's up. Don't get all crazy. Also,
Speaker 1: the day you take out your Christmas decorations, you're like,
Speaker 1: oh the other it doesn't fit in with all my
Speaker 1: other shit. I didn't need that I bought this year,
Speaker 1: Like you know what I mean. You've got a candle out,
Speaker 1: you got a vase now where you jamming this like
Speaker 1: weird Christmas shit. Make it work. Don't just like pile
Speaker 1: shit on top of shit because then it looks bad.
Speaker 1: Like make it work. Have like you know, I had
Speaker 1: this like nice jar that has like cinnamon whatever cinnamon
Speaker 1: sticks are in and it's got like a nice bow
Speaker 1: around it and some pine sticking out of it and
Speaker 1: they're nice like vases, So like take down two other
Speaker 1: vases or just like move things around and make it meaningful.
Speaker 1: Like don't just throw the shit on top of your shit,
Speaker 1: because then you're gonna be living in a cluttered mess.
Speaker 1: And then you just did it. To do it, you
Speaker 1: check the box make it so it makes sense and
Speaker 1: it looks good. I strongly recommend this, honestly, Like get
Speaker 1: a process for your Christmas program, same shit for Halloween, Easter,
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day, that fourth of July. We love an excuse
Speaker 1: to buy shit, put the shit out, put the shit away,
Speaker 1: take the shit out. It's it's a George carl And
Speaker 1: stuff special. But create a process for it. That whole
Speaker 1: exasperating story was to tell you that this was the
Speaker 1: weekend that we did, like Hampton's meaning, and we didn't
Speaker 1: go to the Jingle Ball, and we didn't exhaust ourselves
Speaker 1: in La because we wanted to go to our house
Speaker 1: and do our Charlie round Christmas tree and do our ornaments,
Speaker 1: and we baked cookies and we played Christmas music and
Speaker 1: then we did and we were gonna go ice skating,
Speaker 1: but we got tired and we just lived in the
Speaker 1: moment and we didn't go. And we did one holiday
Speaker 1: thing a day, went to TJ max and bought gift stuff.
Speaker 1: We went to our favorite store in the Hampton's called Martyrs,
Speaker 1: that has all these incredible ornaments and everyone looks like
Speaker 1: someone you know, like there's a blow dryer or there's
Speaker 1: an art set, or there's like books and an apple
Speaker 1: for a teacher. It's amazing. And we each year have
Speaker 1: a ritual where we pick out an ornament that represents
Speaker 1: the other person. And as we've been there for years,
Speaker 1: they've changed them. So we bought a lot and they've
Speaker 1: gotten harder. They've either like reduced their scope or something.
Speaker 1: So this year, what did Brinn get me? Hers? What's good?
Speaker 1: I forgot what Brins was for me. I'm gonna open
Speaker 1: it on Christmas? What did she because I just saw
Speaker 1: it for a second and then she put it away.
Speaker 1: It reminded her of me. She's gotten me the margarita
Speaker 1: one one year, I got her a peanut. God, I'll
Speaker 1: have to let you guys know, but I got her
Speaker 1: a little like rainbow troll, like a little with the
Speaker 1: hair on the top trolls. And it's just so fun.
Speaker 1: And then on Sunday, on the way home, because it's
Speaker 1: on the way home, we go to Gingerbread University. Now
Speaker 1: this is a college. I've belated. I've graduated, I have
Speaker 1: a degree. I was going back for my master's. Now
Speaker 1: Brinn has gone and she's an amazing artist. So you
Speaker 1: go and like they give you the candy and you
Speaker 1: decorate your gingerbread house. Or you could decorate a ginger
Speaker 1: man or ginger person or ginger woman, or ginger bay
Speaker 1: or ginger cheat. You can decorate a ginger anything you want.
Speaker 1: And I had they had a chocolate gingerbread house this year,
Speaker 1: so I got to decorate a chocolate house because like,
Speaker 1: there are a lot of blackbarns now in the Hampton,
Speaker 1: So I did a blackbarn. But and she stayed in
Speaker 1: there for an hour and a half extra. After my hour,
Speaker 1: I was like running at it. Gas I went back
Speaker 1: out into the car and it's just like relaxing. I'm like,
Speaker 1: you're a crafts woman, so honor your craft. She came out.
Speaker 1: You'll see it on my social media. It's like fucking
Speaker 1: Pablo Picasso did her gingerbread house. It's like she's it's insane.
Speaker 1: It's so stunning, but it's so meaningful. Toss that we
Speaker 1: do this every year, and some years we haven't been
Speaker 1: able to get out there, and then we just buy
Speaker 1: a gingerbread house and all the candy and you can
Speaker 1: do it yourself at home, but we like the ritual
Speaker 1: of going there. It's so meaningful and she really relies
Speaker 1: because I don't have a big family on my side,
Speaker 1: and our version of family is these moments that we
Speaker 1: never miss. We have not missed one Radio City Music
Speaker 1: Hall Christmas Spectacular except for the pandemic since she was
Speaker 1: like I want to say two to three, Like I've
Speaker 1: stuck to that. Every year, go to the Radio City
Speaker 1: Christmas Show. Then we go look at the tree sometimes.
Speaker 1: Now a new ritual is the jingle Ball every year.
Speaker 1: I think we did it two years and then to
Speaker 1: make it easier and faster to go see the Sax
Speaker 1: windows even though it's late at night and we're tired.
Speaker 1: Then we drive after the jingle Ball in pajamas in
Speaker 1: the car because we've been decked out, and we get
Speaker 1: undressed in the car to then go look at the
Speaker 1: Sax windows. No one's there. It's twelve o'clock, you know,
Speaker 1: it's eleven fifty five at night, And we look at
Speaker 1: the tree and we take a picture and then meet
Speaker 1: means like less stress. On the Radio City day, we
Speaker 1: buy an ornament which goes on our memory tree, like
Speaker 1: we really do it. When she was a little kid,
Speaker 1: we did Macy's every year. I just think that whatever
Speaker 1: your version of that is. Is it that two nights
Speaker 1: before Christmas you go ice skating somewhere or you go
Speaker 1: you know, just whatever it is. But we've built them
Speaker 1: and we've stuck to them, and we love them. And
Speaker 1: this year there's a new ritual of waking up in
Speaker 1: the morning. We're getting home the night before from skiing,
Speaker 1: and she wants to drive out to the Hamptons from
Speaker 1: Connecticut on the day of Christmas, like take a drive.
Speaker 1: She doesn't want to be driven. We have a driver.
Speaker 1: She wants to make a meaningful and the two of
Speaker 1: us get in the car in pajamas and if there's
Speaker 1: a Starbucks open, we stop. She loves the ritual because
Speaker 1: I love the ritual. And last year we couldn't. The
Speaker 1: twenty fourth we traveled and like it was like a
Speaker 1: Christmas movie. We almost dink it back for Sana and
Speaker 1: we were freaking out. We wanted to beat Sanna, like
Speaker 1: you know home. We got home like in the middle
Speaker 1: of the night and still made it for presents in
Speaker 1: the morning. And we're traveling the twenty fourth. So I
Speaker 1: hope that the ritual isn't that we always have like
Speaker 1: a terrible adventure where it takes us twenty one hours
Speaker 1: to get home, but we're honoring the season. And while
Speaker 1: I tell people to make it meaningful, full for them
Speaker 1: and not be marketed, to make it meaningful for you
Speaker 1: in your own way? Is that being alone? Is that
Speaker 1: wearing fuzzy socks and pajamas? Is it that every year
Speaker 1: you do your own thing, you know it doesn't have
Speaker 1: to be expensive. That I can definitely tell you because
Speaker 1: we could have gone to the jingle Ball and met
Speaker 1: tons of stars, and we could have gone to Nobu
Speaker 1: and run into Adam Sandler if it was a Sunday night,
Speaker 1: and we chose to do our meaningful, warm Charlie Brown
Speaker 1: Christmas Tree, and we're so happy. It connected us so much,
Speaker 1: so so much so that this morning whom was going
Speaker 1: to school and she said, Mom, I only have acting
Speaker 1: for the first for the first class. Can I come
Speaker 1: in and snuggle with my mama? And she crawled into
Speaker 1: my bed and we did like an hour, were like
Speaker 1: warm body, mom, teenager snuggle and it was like eating
Speaker 1: like warm, delicious, like oatmeal with like fresh like maple
Speaker 1: syrup and brown sugar and like butter. It was delicious
Speaker 1: that snuggle. So it all means something, and I believe
Speaker 1: that she's not. She's thirteen, so she's not connecting it.
Speaker 1: But taking that weekend to bond all weekend was meaningful.
Speaker 1: And with our kids. You know, you could think you're
Speaker 1: with your kids because they're home all day. They're in
Speaker 1: their room, they're doing homework, they're talking to their teen friends,
Speaker 1: they're putting their makeup on, they're growing out with their boys,
Speaker 1: they're doing whatever, or you have kids over, or you're
Speaker 1: with all your kids and you're not really bonding with
Speaker 1: one per se. The one on one time is really
Speaker 1: important because and doing these little adventures because it really
Speaker 1: bonds you. So it bonded Brennan and I in a
Speaker 1: way that's different. Many other times we could be together
Speaker 1: but not really together. So that's important to me.