WEBVTT - Sometimes you gotta pump the breaks... 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:01.560 I would ask you to just give us a little 0:00:01.560 --> 0:00:04.640 bit of grace. I mean, is it really does Is 0:00:04.680 --> 0:00:07.920 it really necessary to come forth with this this harsh, 0:00:08.039 --> 0:00:11.120 harsh of a judgment to say I would support you 0:00:11.560 --> 0:00:15.120 if you started, if you started acting more on your 0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:19.560 faith and and it's tacky and unnecessary to say it 0:00:19.560 --> 0:00:22.360 with that, I would just say, hey, he well, pump 0:00:22.440 --> 0:00:35.559 the brakes a little bit. What's up, guys. Welcome to 0:00:35.680 --> 0:00:38.560 the podcast. Thank you for listening. Thank you for watching. 0:00:38.600 --> 0:00:41.360 If you're on YouTube, thank you for listening on Spotify, 0:00:41.560 --> 0:00:45.640 Apple Music, any other podcast app that you might be 0:00:45.640 --> 0:00:49.760 coming from. Thank you for making this constantly one of 0:00:49.800 --> 0:00:53.880 the top podcast in all of music. It's it's been fun. 0:00:54.680 --> 0:00:58.080 My favorite guest here, Parker Smith repeat from last week. 0:00:58.880 --> 0:01:02.160 Thank you for coming, dude, Thanks for having me. Parker 0:01:02.280 --> 0:01:08.319 is thirteen years younger than me, and we have known 0:01:08.400 --> 0:01:10.440 like three Parkers in my life. One I knew the 0:01:10.480 --> 0:01:14.280 toddler Parker, like the little kid, and then I moved 0:01:14.280 --> 0:01:17.720 away and went to college, and by the time I 0:01:17.760 --> 0:01:21.480 saw him again besides Christmas and Thanksgiving, he was already 0:01:22.560 --> 0:01:26.280 a high school Parker, and then high school Parker. We 0:01:26.319 --> 0:01:28.440 kind of separated a little bit, and then he became 0:01:28.440 --> 0:01:31.039 adult Parker and now we work together. So that's the 0:01:31.040 --> 0:01:33.760 three versions. You know, sometimes I missed the little kid Parker. 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:38.400 What version will we get next? I wonder? No, man, 0:01:38.560 --> 0:01:42.679 this is it two adults. We're thirteen years apart. So 0:01:43.640 --> 0:01:46.560 when we were younger, we just felt worlds apart a 0:01:46.640 --> 0:01:50.840 lot of times. But now it feels it doesn't feel 0:01:50.840 --> 0:01:53.920 like there's an age difference, besides the fact that I've 0:01:53.960 --> 0:01:56.560 been married longer. Yeah, and I just show you how 0:01:56.600 --> 0:02:01.640 to format your Instagram posts true. True. The way that 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:05.400 we run this podcast, guys, is you email me Grangersmith 0:02:05.440 --> 0:02:08.400 Podcast at gmail dot com. I'll check your email, ask 0:02:08.480 --> 0:02:12.000 me a question, and then we'll answer the question. Like 0:02:12.040 --> 0:02:14.680 we're just sitting around a campfire you're shooting. Hey, can 0:02:14.760 --> 0:02:17.600 I ask you a question? It's about a relationship, or 0:02:17.600 --> 0:02:20.840 about my boss, or about a new job I want 0:02:20.840 --> 0:02:23.639 to try, or we want to move, or it could 0:02:23.680 --> 0:02:27.480 be about anything, and Parker and I will walk through it. 0:02:27.840 --> 0:02:31.320 Parker is also the CEO of Yegee Apparel, our brother 0:02:31.400 --> 0:02:36.919 apparel line. My middle brother, Tyler is my manager, my 0:02:37.000 --> 0:02:40.280 business excuse me, my music manager, and he's also co 0:02:40.320 --> 0:02:44.000 owner of Ygee with me, so we work together. What 0:02:44.200 --> 0:02:47.760 is going on at ee Apparel. It's been crazy after 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:50.520 the fall lunch. You guys are finally catching up after that. Yeah, 0:02:50.560 --> 0:02:54.480 we're getting ready for a big push heading into the 0:02:54.600 --> 0:02:58.320 end of the year. Finally caught up on orders at 0:02:58.320 --> 0:03:00.359 this point by the time you're listening to this, and 0:03:00.440 --> 0:03:02.679 so you should get your order fairly quickly if you 0:03:02.800 --> 0:03:05.200 ordered today. And then we have some cool We have 0:03:05.440 --> 0:03:08.359 actually the biggest thing that we've ever done, releasing on 0:03:08.440 --> 0:03:12.400 Black Friday, which is Project X, and we will be 0:03:12.520 --> 0:03:17.520 teasing that sometime in November, and that is going to 0:03:17.560 --> 0:03:22.560 be extremely exciting day for ee Are you excited? Yeah? Man, 0:03:23.000 --> 0:03:25.240 this has been in the works for a long time, 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:30.400 so much research, so much field trials to make sure 0:03:30.480 --> 0:03:33.880 this is exactly right Project X, and you guys talk 0:03:33.919 --> 0:03:36.360 about it. We have another podcast called the Eegee Podcast. 0:03:36.400 --> 0:03:38.760 It comes out on Wednesdays. You're on almost every episode 0:03:38.760 --> 0:03:42.000 of that, right, Yes, so that's with Hayden and Parker. 0:03:42.040 --> 0:03:44.800 I'm not on it that I'm maybe once a month 0:03:44.840 --> 0:03:49.040 Hayden invites me. But you guys have talked about Project X. 0:03:49.320 --> 0:03:51.320 I just retweeted something you guys, a little clip you 0:03:51.360 --> 0:03:55.280 put from that podcast, but I'm so pumped about that. Hey, 0:03:55.920 --> 0:03:58.280 I got to ask you, what if someone listening now 0:03:58.480 --> 0:04:01.920 wants to work at the ee farm for you, if 0:04:01.960 --> 0:04:04.840 they are local in the Austin area and they can 0:04:04.880 --> 0:04:08.560 work more than twenty hours a week, then email store 0:04:08.600 --> 0:04:13.640 at yeapparel dot com with your resume and we'll go 0:04:13.680 --> 0:04:18.000 through them and we may be able to use you. Great. 0:04:18.360 --> 0:04:21.880 Let's get to this first question here. It comes from 0:04:22.120 --> 0:04:24.760 a girl named Amber, a name I'm very familiar with, 0:04:24.880 --> 0:04:28.120 says Hey, Granger, how would you feel about a man 0:04:28.520 --> 0:04:32.400 that your wife and you met together at the same 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:36.000 time sending your wife a friend request and not you. 0:04:37.080 --> 0:04:39.200 This happened to me recently. A woman that my husband 0:04:39.240 --> 0:04:41.279 and I met at a dinner party sent my husband 0:04:41.320 --> 0:04:44.880 a friend request but not me. I thought this was strange, 0:04:45.000 --> 0:04:47.320 and my husband said that he didn't want to accept 0:04:47.320 --> 0:04:50.280 the request until she sent me one. I don't want 0:04:50.320 --> 0:04:52.279 to blow the situation out of proportion, but it gave 0:04:52.320 --> 0:04:58.120 me a weird feeling. What are your thoughts. It's interesting. Yeah, 0:04:58.120 --> 0:05:04.640 that's very specific and a little uneasiness, maybe a little insecurity. 0:05:06.720 --> 0:05:09.400 Not to say that's not a strange situation. She was 0:05:09.440 --> 0:05:15.400 probably pretty probably maybe a little intimidated by her. Nothing 0:05:15.440 --> 0:05:18.360 against your amber. I think it's a valid question. And 0:05:19.040 --> 0:05:23.600 let me say it this way. You can't control anything 0:05:23.600 --> 0:05:28.479 that happens outside of your marriage to you, guys, all 0:05:28.520 --> 0:05:31.040 you can control is how you and your husband react 0:05:31.200 --> 0:05:36.120 to it. So, yes, it's at one level, it's weird. 0:05:36.680 --> 0:05:38.880 It's weird that you would get at friend request, that 0:05:38.920 --> 0:05:41.640 he would get a friend request, not you. But on 0:05:41.720 --> 0:05:44.039 another level, it's almost like, well, the world's gonna do 0:05:44.040 --> 0:05:46.000 what the world's going to do. You didn't know this 0:05:46.040 --> 0:05:50.239 guy or this girl, and you can't really trust someone 0:05:50.240 --> 0:05:52.960 that you don't know for just from one time meeting 0:05:53.000 --> 0:05:55.719 at a dinner party, And so I think you're you're 0:05:55.800 --> 0:05:58.120 valid and being uneasy about it. But it's not that 0:05:58.200 --> 0:06:04.160 big a deal if your husband just ignores it. Yeah. Yeah, 0:06:04.200 --> 0:06:06.679 at the end of the day, it's like she probably 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:10.400 has a crush on your husband, so what So yeah, 0:06:10.520 --> 0:06:13.839 it shouldn't affect anything. Yeah, and that's a conversation between 0:06:13.839 --> 0:06:15.599 you and your husband. And I don't think you're wrong 0:06:15.640 --> 0:06:19.160 and telling your husband don't accept it, that's weird. I 0:06:19.160 --> 0:06:21.200 don't think you're being a crazy jealous wife. I don't 0:06:21.200 --> 0:06:24.559 think you're being out of line. I think he would 0:06:24.560 --> 0:06:26.719 probably do the same thing right back to you. It's 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:30.200 no big deal. It's weird that it happened, but move on. 0:06:30.760 --> 0:06:33.760 Ignore it. And it's it's uncalled for, it's it's a 0:06:34.200 --> 0:06:39.920 it's unnatural, man. I got I got a lot of 0:06:40.000 --> 0:06:42.440 questions for you, Parker that I kind of set aside. 0:06:43.240 --> 0:06:48.160 And oh, this is interesting, this is an interesting one. 0:06:48.200 --> 0:06:50.599 I want to read this to you. I've been holding 0:06:50.600 --> 0:06:54.840 onto this since September. It says the subject line is 0:06:54.960 --> 0:06:58.960 ye Ye quote faith family outdoors. That's something we say 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:02.559 a lot at EE a perils family outdoors. It says, 0:07:02.600 --> 0:07:07.599 I've noticed faith family outdoors on your EE apparel, but 0:07:07.720 --> 0:07:11.440 I haven't noticed faith as a part of YEE. Yes, 0:07:11.480 --> 0:07:15.200 we see Granger sharing as faith regularly and occasionally Parker 0:07:15.240 --> 0:07:18.800 and Tyler, but not YEE itself. Faith doesn't seem to 0:07:18.840 --> 0:07:21.160 be a part of the company as a whole. I 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:24.360 purchased YEE in the past, and I would purchase more 0:07:24.440 --> 0:07:29.120 and be more interested if faith were more prevalent. I 0:07:29.160 --> 0:07:31.360 get that you have a dedicated fan base who likes 0:07:31.400 --> 0:07:35.960 the outdoors redneck country lifestyle represented by the company. If 0:07:36.160 --> 0:07:38.640 but and you want to cater to that, but using 0:07:38.760 --> 0:07:42.640 faith as part of the tagline seems tacky and unnecessary 0:07:43.040 --> 0:07:46.520 if the company itself isn't going to actually represent Christian 0:07:46.600 --> 0:07:49.440 values or share the Gospel in any way through the brand. 0:07:50.280 --> 0:07:52.440 I thought that just blew me away when I read that. 0:07:55.120 --> 0:07:58.720 It blew me away because I want to ask, what 0:07:58.720 --> 0:08:02.440 what do you think, ye yee? Is it is us? 0:08:03.400 --> 0:08:05.600 It is me Parker and Tyler. We're the ones that 0:08:05.720 --> 0:08:09.360 started it. And if we're the ones sharing the gospel 0:08:09.400 --> 0:08:13.480 and sharing our faith all the time, then what do 0:08:13.600 --> 0:08:17.600 you want from yee that we are? Ye? Right? Isn't 0:08:17.640 --> 0:08:21.040 that kind of what you think? Yeah? I agree. I remember. 0:08:21.160 --> 0:08:24.960 I remember having a conversation with our team when when 0:08:25.040 --> 0:08:28.720 I first decided to make our tagline Faith Family Outdoors, 0:08:28.720 --> 0:08:30.560 And I remember having conversation with a gal who goes, 0:08:31.360 --> 0:08:33.040 are you sure you want that to be in our 0:08:33.120 --> 0:08:37.480 bio of ye apparel? Because that faith could turn some 0:08:37.559 --> 0:08:41.160 people away? Having a conversation with a guy internally, and 0:08:41.200 --> 0:08:43.160 I was like, yes, one hundred percent, and he goes, okay, 0:08:43.200 --> 0:08:47.720 also that that faith doesn't necessarily align with some of 0:08:47.720 --> 0:08:50.079 the things that we're posting right now, And that was 0:08:50.120 --> 0:08:53.040 a big wake up call to me to be like, Okay, 0:08:53.120 --> 0:08:56.360 well it should. So if you look at our page 0:08:56.480 --> 0:08:59.280 two years ago versus what we're posting today, there is 0:08:59.360 --> 0:09:03.120 a stone difference of the type of content that we're 0:09:03.600 --> 0:09:07.800 promoting that was I mean before it was really promoting 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:12.760 drunkenness and uh and a lot of cussing and things 0:09:12.800 --> 0:09:17.400 that were not you know, necessarily rooted in a company 0:09:17.400 --> 0:09:19.240 that is going to use the tagline of faith. And 0:09:19.280 --> 0:09:21.720 so yeah, I think that we do a good job 0:09:21.760 --> 0:09:23.760 of representing that on our personal pages and on the 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:27.600 EE platform. Now, yeah, to to this emailer, I would 0:09:27.600 --> 0:09:29.280 ask you to just give us a little bit of grace. 0:09:29.880 --> 0:09:32.839 I mean, is it really does Is it really necessary 0:09:32.880 --> 0:09:35.679 to come forth with this this harsh, harsh of a 0:09:35.800 --> 0:09:39.600 judgment to say I would support you if you started, 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:43.880 if you started acting more on your faith and and 0:09:44.480 --> 0:09:47.559 it's tacky and unnecessary to say it with that, I 0:09:47.600 --> 0:09:50.079 would just say, hey, he well, pump the brakes a 0:09:50.080 --> 0:09:53.040 little bit. I mean, do you not fall There has 0:09:53.080 --> 0:09:55.040 been a big change in the Three Brothers over the 0:09:55.120 --> 0:09:58.560 last two years. Another question I get constantly is a 0:09:58.640 --> 0:10:02.600 question along the lines where of hey, don't you think 0:10:03.120 --> 0:10:07.920 that you singing earl debbils. Singing about getting drunk is 0:10:07.960 --> 0:10:13.080 not representing the faith that you talk about. And I'm 0:10:13.120 --> 0:10:16.080 just there's that's such a loaded question because I'm like, man, 0:10:16.080 --> 0:10:19.320 that was in twenty eleven. It's a very very different. 0:10:19.400 --> 0:10:22.080 It's it's also a very valid question because I asked 0:10:22.080 --> 0:10:26.160 myself that question too when I whenever I would consider 0:10:26.200 --> 0:10:29.320 myself a born again radical follower of Christ, I remember 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:32.160 texting you and saying, I don't see any other way 0:10:32.600 --> 0:10:36.040 to follow Christ than to become basically a pastor. At 0:10:36.040 --> 0:10:38.080 this point, I need to stop everything. I need to 0:10:38.160 --> 0:10:41.000 quit everything. And the only thing that I do is 0:10:41.200 --> 0:10:44.240 go to seminary and start my own plant, my own church. 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:46.840 And it's like so and so for the people ask 0:10:46.880 --> 0:10:49.160 you that, it's like grandeur. The only thing you literally 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:53.120 need to be singing is is gospel and worship every 0:10:53.200 --> 0:10:55.720 single song. You need to stop your career and halt it. 0:10:56.040 --> 0:10:59.040 Ye apparel needs to stop. Every post and every single 0:10:59.080 --> 0:11:00.800 post needs to be sharing the gospel. And it's like, 0:11:00.880 --> 0:11:03.440 I just think that there's ways to I think that 0:11:03.440 --> 0:11:06.760 there's ways to grow where we're planted, where Christ finds us, 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:10.640 so that we can promote the gospel to his glory 0:11:10.640 --> 0:11:12.440 in the best way we know through what we're doing, 0:11:12.640 --> 0:11:16.640 not necessarily quitting everything and opening a church. Right. But 0:11:16.720 --> 0:11:20.880 I mean, my transformation happened, you know, even since the 0:11:21.000 --> 0:11:25.120 latest album. You know, because the latest album was done 0:11:25.120 --> 0:11:29.520 and wrapped up before the crazy transformation happened to me. 0:11:29.640 --> 0:11:32.120 So yeah, we think about it all the time. If 0:11:32.160 --> 0:11:34.040 you go to my concert. Now, here's a good example. 0:11:34.080 --> 0:11:37.400 You go to my concert now, Earl Dibbles Junior. The 0:11:37.840 --> 0:11:40.760 bridge of the countrybou song is getting country junk in 0:11:40.760 --> 0:11:42.680 the back of my truck. The night is young gonna 0:11:42.679 --> 0:11:46.720 get messed up. That's the bridge and has been over 0:11:46.760 --> 0:11:50.200 the years a really big moment of the show. I 0:11:50.240 --> 0:11:53.000 stopped it. I don't do that anymore because I felt 0:11:53.000 --> 0:11:56.640 convicted about it. So now that part, instead of that line, 0:11:56.760 --> 0:11:59.800 I changed it to wherever city we are, I'll say 0:12:00.600 --> 0:12:05.000 it's in Nebraska celebration we are Ye Ye Nation. It's 0:12:05.000 --> 0:12:08.440 in Nebraska celebration, we are ye Nation. So I change 0:12:08.440 --> 0:12:11.439 it to wherever we are and that's the new line. 0:12:11.480 --> 0:12:13.839 So so there's like little things that we shave off 0:12:13.880 --> 0:12:15.840 here and there, but man, we're working on it. Please 0:12:16.160 --> 0:12:18.920 please do the email or pump your breaks a little 0:12:18.960 --> 0:12:21.880 bit and give us a little bit of grace. You 0:12:22.240 --> 0:12:24.520 sound like you got a lot figured out, and I 0:12:24.559 --> 0:12:26.560 wish I wish I was more like you, and I'm 0:12:26.559 --> 0:12:32.079 working on it. I'll say that. Here's a quick one. 0:12:32.160 --> 0:12:34.760 I just went right to it. It It says, dear Granger, 0:12:35.160 --> 0:12:37.760 please tell me what are your thoughts on race mixing 0:12:37.880 --> 0:12:43.200 and racial integration. I was a little surprised by that. 0:12:45.280 --> 0:12:54.360 But man, good, good with it, that's my answer. Oh, 0:12:54.400 --> 0:12:59.520 good with it. I don't know because because of the question, 0:12:59.640 --> 0:13:02.920 I don't know where you're leaning with that are what 0:13:02.920 --> 0:13:07.079 you're needing out of me? But man, see, I wouldn't 0:13:07.080 --> 0:13:09.679 bat an eye at it. I wouldn't think twice about it. 0:13:09.800 --> 0:13:15.360 So that's my answer. Yep, I agreed. Family issues, Hey Granger, 0:13:15.440 --> 0:13:18.760 I'm Charles Holly. I'm thirteen, and I have a problem. 0:13:19.080 --> 0:13:22.640 So for a while, my dad's brothers have been sucking 0:13:22.679 --> 0:13:25.160 up to his mom for money instead of working. My 0:13:25.280 --> 0:13:27.760 dad is very mad at his brothers and does not 0:13:27.800 --> 0:13:31.400 want to confront his mom because she has been through 0:13:31.400 --> 0:13:33.720 cancer several times. So I would love your advice. Please 0:13:33.760 --> 0:13:37.120 reply if you're going to put this on the podcast, 0:13:37.200 --> 0:13:44.480 in which episode God bless Charles, Holly, dad is Dad's 0:13:44.520 --> 0:13:47.000 brother has been sucking up the mom for money instead 0:13:47.000 --> 0:13:51.040 of working, and Dad's very mad. But he doesn't confront mom. 0:13:52.280 --> 0:13:54.679 But does he confront the brother. That's where he needs 0:13:54.720 --> 0:13:57.400 to do. He doesn't need to confront mom. I get that, 0:13:58.240 --> 0:14:01.040 But does he confront the brother. That's Hey, Charles, this 0:14:01.080 --> 0:14:05.960 is this is between your dad and his brothers. You're thirteen. 0:14:07.600 --> 0:14:11.560 I appreciate your concern, but this is this is on 0:14:11.679 --> 0:14:13.959 your dad. We have to at some level be men 0:14:14.000 --> 0:14:19.400 of integrity, and Dad, Charles is watching. You do the 0:14:19.480 --> 0:14:21.600 right thing. If it's not a big deal, if you 0:14:21.640 --> 0:14:23.600 don't care that much, then don't worry about it. If 0:14:23.640 --> 0:14:25.960 you don't worry that mom's given your brother money, don't 0:14:25.960 --> 0:14:28.240 worry about it. If you do care that much about it, 0:14:28.520 --> 0:14:31.080 go to your brother and say, hey, we need to talk. 0:14:31.880 --> 0:14:34.280 We need to talk. You're taking advantage of mom. She's 0:14:34.320 --> 0:14:37.920 been through cancer. She can't keep doing this. But there's 0:14:38.000 --> 0:14:40.200 one of these in so many families, there's this kind 0:14:40.200 --> 0:14:50.440 of situation happens a lot. Communication. Thanks, Charles, you want 0:14:50.440 --> 0:14:52.200 to read a couple of these to you. Some subject 0:14:52.200 --> 0:14:54.880 clients know where to go. Man, we're kind of rocking 0:14:54.920 --> 0:14:58.760 some questions right now, we're moving faster than we normally do. Yeah, 0:14:58.800 --> 0:15:00.840 how about this one for first one on the list? 0:15:00.880 --> 0:15:06.480 Now it says help please read pornography. It doesn't say 0:15:06.480 --> 0:15:10.800 read pornography. It says in parentheses, please help read. And 0:15:10.840 --> 0:15:15.320 then hey Granger. First of all, just want to say 0:15:15.320 --> 0:15:17.360 thanks for doing this podcast and making your music. My 0:15:17.480 --> 0:15:20.400 name is Tim. I'm fifteen, and I have an older 0:15:20.400 --> 0:15:23.960 brother who's seventeen, who's addicted to pornography. Our parents don't 0:15:23.960 --> 0:15:26.640 know about this. My question is should I tell our 0:15:26.680 --> 0:15:31.440 parents about his pornography problem. You also should know that 0:15:31.480 --> 0:15:35.040 my older brother has a big anger problem, and one 0:15:35.080 --> 0:15:37.160 of my fears is that if I tell our parents, 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:39.920 he's going to beat me up physically. I've been praying 0:15:39.920 --> 0:15:42.200 for my brother since I found out. I'm just not 0:15:42.320 --> 0:15:44.440 sure if it's my place to tell our parents about 0:15:44.440 --> 0:15:48.480 his pornography problem. Also, if I were to tell our parents, 0:15:48.880 --> 0:15:52.160 how would I go about doing it? I appreciate your thoughts. 0:15:52.160 --> 0:15:55.800 This is Tim from Idaho. Thank you, Tim shout out 0:15:55.840 --> 0:15:59.760 to Idaho, appreciate you. Listen. Brother, that's two a young 0:15:59.760 --> 0:16:03.920 teen in a row that we read here and both 0:16:03.960 --> 0:16:07.080 of the questions what we could what the analogy between 0:16:07.200 --> 0:16:09.360 the thirteen year old and the fifteen year old is 0:16:09.400 --> 0:16:13.520 they're both worried about someone else in the family that's 0:16:13.560 --> 0:16:18.200 not theirs problem. These questions are hard. Did you think 0:16:18.240 --> 0:16:19.280 I was going to give you a bunch of easy 0:16:19.320 --> 0:16:23.240 ones for that? Yes, honestly, because it's one question. It's 0:16:23.280 --> 0:16:27.280 one thing to be addicted to pornography yourself and to 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:31.600 be seeking ways to be freed from that. It's another 0:16:31.640 --> 0:16:34.640 situation when you add in these complications of is it 0:16:34.760 --> 0:16:37.440 my place to speak up for someone that I love 0:16:38.080 --> 0:16:42.040 for what I know is ultimately going to be right 0:16:42.160 --> 0:16:45.960 for them, even if it's at the expense of potentially 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:52.440 some type of physical abuse. I mean, that's just I 0:16:52.440 --> 0:17:01.960 don't know. Yeah, I hear you so so, Tim, you 0:17:02.240 --> 0:17:07.280 being afraid of your big brother for you calling him 0:17:07.320 --> 0:17:10.560 out and he beats you up physically. That's like a 0:17:10.600 --> 0:17:16.600 different issue. So that's something else that we probably should 0:17:16.600 --> 0:17:22.440 talk about. That's probably a higher priority than your brother's addiction, 0:17:22.560 --> 0:17:26.520 because this is what affects you directly, Tim, is the 0:17:26.760 --> 0:17:30.320 possibility of you getting beaten up. I'm assuming this has 0:17:30.400 --> 0:17:32.920 happened before, otherwise you wouldn't have said it. That way, 0:17:33.160 --> 0:17:34.520 you would have said you were scared that he might, 0:17:34.640 --> 0:17:40.040 but you're scared that he is. So go to your 0:17:40.040 --> 0:17:42.639 parents with that right, Like go to your parents with 0:17:42.720 --> 0:17:48.679 that first, Like, Hey, I'm afraid of my older brother 0:17:49.440 --> 0:17:53.080 that he might beat me up physically. Can we talk 0:17:53.080 --> 0:17:54.960 about this as a family, because I don't want to 0:17:54.960 --> 0:17:58.440 live in the house where I'm afraid. That's a great 0:17:58.480 --> 0:18:01.800 question for mom and dad. And once again, this is 0:18:01.920 --> 0:18:03.760 just like the last question. This goes back to mom 0:18:03.760 --> 0:18:08.919 and dad being parents full of integrity that have a 0:18:09.000 --> 0:18:13.160 household that when you come home from school, any kid 0:18:13.160 --> 0:18:16.679 that's listening you should you should come home from school 0:18:16.720 --> 0:18:19.720 to a safe place. When you walk in your house, 0:18:20.240 --> 0:18:24.120 you're safe from physical abuse, you're safe from name calling, 0:18:24.600 --> 0:18:27.639 you're safe from verbal abuse of any kind. That's how. 0:18:27.840 --> 0:18:30.720 It's not always like that, but that's how it should be. 0:18:30.880 --> 0:18:35.080 So parents should should always be aware that they have 0:18:35.119 --> 0:18:39.000 a safe place you come home because the world is crazy. 0:18:39.040 --> 0:18:41.680 You're going to see crazy things at school and at work, 0:18:42.440 --> 0:18:45.160 but when you come home through our doors, you could 0:18:45.200 --> 0:18:48.200 relax because this is a safe spot. That's what as 0:18:48.240 --> 0:18:51.000 a parent, that's what you want your kids to feel. 0:18:51.080 --> 0:18:55.000 So Tim go to them with that. And as far 0:18:55.080 --> 0:18:58.760 as the pornography, you love your brother, I think that's great, 0:18:59.200 --> 0:19:03.840 but there's there's other issues right now. And I would 0:19:03.920 --> 0:19:06.680 I would take all that energy that you're you're you're 0:19:06.720 --> 0:19:10.800 throwing out to want to fix your brother and turn 0:19:10.880 --> 0:19:14.119 that that energy back to yourself and your own life 0:19:14.600 --> 0:19:17.800 and go, what is it that I'm doing that I 0:19:17.840 --> 0:19:20.760 could clean up a little bit? You know, like the 0:19:20.840 --> 0:19:23.240 kid that we read, you know, was it last week 0:19:23.280 --> 0:19:27.000 about the coffee? You know, how how do I stop 0:19:27.040 --> 0:19:30.000 being addicted to coffee? And he's fourteen years old? You 0:19:30.040 --> 0:19:32.280 know that is there something going on with you, Tim 0:19:32.600 --> 0:19:36.040 that you could help clean up in your own life 0:19:36.119 --> 0:19:39.320 and and be that, be that example where your your 0:19:39.359 --> 0:19:41.320 older brother goes, Man, my brother Tim is just a 0:19:41.400 --> 0:19:46.480 rock solid kid. He's that guy's has got it figured out. 0:19:46.800 --> 0:19:50.200 And I don't that's a much better example than you 0:19:50.320 --> 0:19:52.800 two years younger, going you shouldn't do that. I mean, 0:19:52.840 --> 0:19:56.879 who are you to tell him that? Right? Yeah? I 0:19:56.920 --> 0:19:59.840 actually I think that you sum that up fairly well. 0:19:59.840 --> 0:20:02.479 And and I wanted to ask you. I think that 0:20:02.480 --> 0:20:03.840 there's a lot of guys out there. This is a 0:20:03.880 --> 0:20:06.000 subject that not a lot of guys like to talk 0:20:06.040 --> 0:20:09.160 about openly, and there's probably a lot of guys out 0:20:09.200 --> 0:20:12.880 there who are wondering what steps that they can take 0:20:13.440 --> 0:20:17.159 to free themselves from the addiction of pornography that has 0:20:17.200 --> 0:20:21.680 gotten so popular. I am so accessible and so accessible, 0:20:23.119 --> 0:20:27.160 and I remember growing up not knowing one guy who 0:20:27.200 --> 0:20:31.000 did not watch pornography, like from middle school on every 0:20:31.080 --> 0:20:32.960 and it was so normalized and it's continued to be 0:20:33.000 --> 0:20:37.680 normalized and accessible. Would you have any advice for guys 0:20:37.720 --> 0:20:41.760 who are are addicted to it at this point, or 0:20:41.800 --> 0:20:43.520 maybe just explain some of the dangers of it for 0:20:43.600 --> 0:20:45.720 some people who don't think who it's so normalized that 0:20:45.720 --> 0:20:48.400 they don't understand the dangers of it. There's two levels. 0:20:48.480 --> 0:20:52.560 There's two levels to that question. And on one level, 0:20:53.359 --> 0:20:58.280 you could say, because God doesn't want you to, you know, 0:20:58.600 --> 0:21:00.960 And I think so many times when we're when we're teaching, 0:21:01.040 --> 0:21:07.400 like our kids, you shouldn't lie, you shouldn't you shouldn't steal. Why, Well, 0:21:07.520 --> 0:21:10.439 ultimately we want to tell our kids because God says 0:21:10.880 --> 0:21:13.840 not to, you should honor your parents. Why because God 0:21:13.960 --> 0:21:16.160 says to it's right here, let me show you the verse. 0:21:16.240 --> 0:21:18.440 Let me show you the verse. And so at some 0:21:18.640 --> 0:21:20.520 level with this, it's like, well, let me show you 0:21:20.560 --> 0:21:23.040 the verse. So when people hear you say that though 0:21:23.080 --> 0:21:24.840 that they're going to say, well, God doesn't say not 0:21:24.840 --> 0:21:28.760 to watch pornography. Well, there's no verse that says that, Yeah, absolutely, 0:21:28.800 --> 0:21:32.280 but he's gonna say that you you have to flee 0:21:32.320 --> 0:21:36.639 from any kind of sexual immorality and any kind of 0:21:36.640 --> 0:21:40.320 sexual temptation. And that's exactly what that is. So that's 0:21:40.359 --> 0:21:43.120 one level. The second level is just the mental addiction 0:21:43.240 --> 0:21:45.639 of it and the and the damage that it does. 0:21:48.520 --> 0:21:50.159 One of okay, you could start with. One of the 0:21:50.280 --> 0:21:53.600 levels of damage that it does is it will degrade 0:21:54.320 --> 0:21:59.320 your perception of women and it's gonna it's gonna really, 0:21:59.480 --> 0:22:04.680 it's gonna really hurt the image you have of the 0:22:04.720 --> 0:22:07.160 next girlfriend that you have when you're nineteen years old. 0:22:09.040 --> 0:22:13.639 And so it's here we go back to the cookie 0:22:13.720 --> 0:22:17.280 jar thing. You know, what is it that's triggering this, 0:22:18.040 --> 0:22:20.760 Why are you going to it and how are you 0:22:20.800 --> 0:22:22.960 getting to it? And let's get the cookie jar out 0:22:22.960 --> 0:22:24.520 of the kitchen. If you're on a diet, you don't 0:22:24.560 --> 0:22:26.240 want to walk past the cookie driver day. Get it 0:22:26.240 --> 0:22:30.359 out of the kitchen. So we can start with that. Yeah, 0:22:30.440 --> 0:22:33.119 I think it has a lot to do with at 0:22:33.160 --> 0:22:35.720 the root what John Piper says and what he calls 0:22:35.720 --> 0:22:38.399 his Christian hedonism, which is he says, Okay, what's the 0:22:38.440 --> 0:22:41.560 definition of hedonism? A pleasure filled life? And so he 0:22:41.720 --> 0:22:45.360 was the one who really started this movement of Christian hedonism. 0:22:45.440 --> 0:22:47.879 And it's like, Okay, we have a God, and we 0:22:48.000 --> 0:22:51.120 know that through following Christ, we will have trial and 0:22:51.200 --> 0:22:53.120 we will have suffering, but at the same time, we 0:22:53.160 --> 0:22:55.680 know that that is the only place that we can 0:22:55.720 --> 0:22:59.240 find the joy and fulfillment that our souls long for. 0:22:59.840 --> 0:23:02.720 And so when you're when you're searching through you know, 0:23:02.760 --> 0:23:06.000 pornography or alcohol or drugs, you're saying, I don't trust you. 0:23:06.640 --> 0:23:10.720 I will figure out how to fill that void myself 0:23:10.800 --> 0:23:14.000 through these this the dopamine trickle in my brain that 0:23:14.080 --> 0:23:18.200 comes from doing these short term things. And you're saying, 0:23:18.240 --> 0:23:22.359 I do not I don't trust your your ability to 0:23:22.400 --> 0:23:25.520 give me fulfillment and peace. And so I think it's 0:23:25.560 --> 0:23:28.439 just an honest conversation with yourself at that point, saying 0:23:28.520 --> 0:23:31.920 that I've been trying to rely upon myself rather than 0:23:31.920 --> 0:23:34.800 God for the fulfillment that my soul needs. Yeah, so 0:23:34.960 --> 0:23:37.600 what do you do. And I think an easy answer 0:23:37.600 --> 0:23:42.040 to that, the quick answer is what we say, seek 0:23:42.080 --> 0:23:45.720