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Speaker 1: Spreading In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Red and I

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio podcast. Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in and

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Speaker 1: today it's a big day. It's a big day, some

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Speaker 1: may say a holiday holiday. Yeah, because we have the one,

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Speaker 1: the only Haley Yo go scrubbing in. Hello. It just

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Speaker 1: rolls off the tongue. That is just so smooth. I'm

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Speaker 1: so happy to be here. Thank you so much. This

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Speaker 1: has been a long time coming, a long time coming.

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Speaker 1: I'm so honored to be a part of this podcast

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Speaker 1: and to be here in both of your presence. And

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Speaker 1: we're in Berkeley too, which is really cool, really cool

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Speaker 1: because we're here to see you, and I'm here to

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Speaker 1: see you. I mean, it's been we were talking about

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Speaker 1: this on the plane. It's been over four years and

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Speaker 1: I don't remember it was it Robbie that was like, wait,

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Speaker 1: Hailey's never been on the podcast. Yeah, because I think

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Speaker 1: we had talks about it, like having you come on

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Speaker 1: as a guest before you guys were public about your relationship,

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Speaker 1: and I was like, that could be kind of fun

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Speaker 1: to just have her on as a guest. But Becca

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Speaker 1: is probably right that she would have blown. I would

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Speaker 1: have blown recover. I think yeah, yeah, we people knew,

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Speaker 1: but people would have really knew. We practiced. We worked

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Speaker 1: too hard to avoid pronouns and exposing ourselves, like Eastern.

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Speaker 1: We put in too much work for you to come

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Speaker 1: on and just expose us. Yeah, a lot of last

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Speaker 1: minute edits and yeah yeah, so Eastern. Round of applause

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Speaker 1: really did the big Yeah. So yeah, also to YouTube

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Speaker 1: because you were really good. You could rearrange a sentence

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Speaker 1: like I had never seen before. Everyone gets a round

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Speaker 1: of applause. But you know what, it doesn't matter because

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Speaker 1: we're here today. We are here, and you know this

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Speaker 1: all started April third of nine when so um that's

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Speaker 1: where this all began, your life, my birth, and now

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Speaker 1: and now we're here. You are thirty one years of

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Speaker 1: age and a flourishing, beautiful relationship. So we're gonna get

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Speaker 1: to we want to really just dive in here. Because

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Speaker 1: Becca shared her side of the story, and you know

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Speaker 1: there's always three sides of the story. There's three three.

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Speaker 1: Well there's Becca side, there's your side, and there's the truth.

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Speaker 1: So I'm feeling very nervous. I feel like I'm like

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Speaker 1: on an Oprah episode. That's exactly what she wanted to

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Speaker 1: go I want to say thank you, because that's exactly

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Speaker 1: what I wanted to embody. Her legs are crossed. I'm

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Speaker 1: leaning slightly askew. So this all started at your your

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Speaker 1: album release party. Becca went with Brittany, Brittany and Dean

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Speaker 1: Dean and Hillary and Hillary but Hanker, what was it

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Speaker 1: of your They were supposed to go, Okay, yeah, so

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Speaker 1: you guys see I want I want that when you

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Speaker 1: guys first met and Becca was trying to set you

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Speaker 1: up with one of her sisters, like, what was really

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Speaker 1: going through your your mind at that point? Well, so

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Speaker 1: it was my Expectations album released party. I had not

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Speaker 1: invited Becca. I invited Brittany. Brittany brought Becca and when

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Speaker 1: I walked and we always talked about like the first

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Speaker 1: Becca on Brittany's Instagram like maybe years prior, and I

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Speaker 1: had noted that. But I walked out of this car

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Speaker 1: and I saw Becca waiting in line and I clocked her,

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Speaker 1: and she talked about how she clocked me, but she

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Speaker 1: what did you say that? I was like just not, well, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that was her first time we saw each other. So

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Speaker 1: she walked up and said hey to Brittany, but didn't

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Speaker 1: was like hi, and I like said to Brittany, and

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Speaker 1: then we got it. I got into the venue and

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Speaker 1: then Brittany introduced Becca to me and I met Dean

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Speaker 1: and then we dispersed. And then I remember being at

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Speaker 1: by this fireplace. I don't know if you've been in

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Speaker 1: She's standing like the you have to go through the ya.

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Speaker 1: So she's like illuminating, like she's just like glowing, and

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Speaker 1: Like we were just like making small talk and then

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Speaker 1: and so, and then we just started chatting. And then

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Speaker 1: sister Hank, and I was like, she's way too young

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Speaker 1: and that's not happening. And then I kept telling Brittany,

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Speaker 1: I was like, well what about Becca, Like she and

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Speaker 1: of this, this is probably like within five or ten minutes,

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Speaker 1: we had taken this photo, this group photo which you've

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Speaker 1: seen on the internet, where we're basically we had known

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Speaker 1: each other for like ten minutes. It was like instant,

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Speaker 1: trying to get with it. From the beginning. She was persistent.

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Speaker 1: She just had this glow which we talked about, which

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Speaker 1: you know, she has this like glow and and so yeah,

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Speaker 1: but nothing ever happened that night. No, it did not happen.

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Speaker 1: And then the next morning I slid into her d

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Speaker 1: M S and I literally wrote in all caps, which

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Speaker 1: very like like, oh, this is cute and all caps,

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Speaker 1: I said, sliding into your d M S. And that

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Speaker 1: was my move. That was my move, okay, because she

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Speaker 1: talked about the d MS, slide into him, and then

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Speaker 1: we started chatting and then she set up Then she

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Speaker 1: set me up with drinks with Hank on Friday. We

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Speaker 1: had met on a Wednesday. The drinks were on Friday.

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Speaker 1: I love the specifics. Thank you. Yeah, well, because I

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Speaker 1: happened really quick. I know I was leaving for tour

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Speaker 1: on that Monday. So the timeline of Wednesday meeting Friday,

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Speaker 1: we're going to meet up for drinks and then you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm just gonna do a group hang. We were I

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Speaker 1: wasn't setting them up to go because she was. All

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Speaker 1: of them were like, let's just make it casual, so

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Speaker 1: it's gonna be like a full group like me, Haley,

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Speaker 1: britt He, Caroline, just like a group of people, right,

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Speaker 1: and then somehow, mysteriously except for the two of you. Yeah, well,

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Speaker 1: I told her I had gone to an event and

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Speaker 1: I'd be like, okay, whatever, if she's not gonna be there,

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna go, right. So yeah, there was like

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Speaker 1: I'm going to get drinks alone with her? Like I've

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Speaker 1: say said she has never gone drinks with a lesbian before. Right,

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Speaker 1: but all you knew she was she was into me,

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Speaker 1: So I was like, am I going to give her

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Speaker 1: the wrong impression? I remember this my favorite story? Why?

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Speaker 1: So we decided, mind you, this is like ten thirty

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Speaker 1: you guys met late. I remember that I uber there.

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Speaker 1: I love that she's telling this. I was gonna say,

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Speaker 1: I want you to the blanks. What she's saying is correct, right, Yes,

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Speaker 1: this is correct? Getting the truth? What was it we're

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Speaker 1: going to tell about how you were stressed that we

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Speaker 1: arrived at the same time. Oh yeah. So I'm like

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Speaker 1: saying it like praying. No. I said, like it was

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Speaker 1: I do so much. And so we sit down and

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Speaker 1: funny to send women throughout the night to hit the table,

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Speaker 1: I've never heard this. It was like like just as

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Speaker 1: you know, like and then when she went to the bathroom,

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Speaker 1: she stayed and we continue to talk when we were there, um,

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Speaker 1: and how are you just giving all the dealers? So

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Speaker 1: then afterwards were by the street and I was trying

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Speaker 1: you just go like, yeah, just test it out, you

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Speaker 1: test it. It wasn't. She kept waiting back like what

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Speaker 1: did she do it? Did you tell him the superher story?

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Speaker 1: I don't think I've told the super. I've heard it.

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Speaker 1: You have heard it, Yeah, you told me about it,

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Speaker 1: but have I talked to the podcast? So then we're

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Speaker 1: standing out there now you can take it in. Well,

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Speaker 1: Like these are my dreams, please and thank you? You know,

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Speaker 1: of got any moments in your relationship where I have

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Speaker 1: what season are you on? And like stupid, And then

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00:23:38,720 --> 00:23:41,680
Speaker 1: obviously I had to confess to her later by the way,

426
00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:45,679
Speaker 1: I'm a psycho Bachelor fan and this just happens to

427
00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:47,960
Speaker 1: be a coincidence that you're the love of my life

428
00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:52,920
Speaker 1: and uh, happily ever after. Yeah, oh my gosh, it's

429
00:23:52,920 --> 00:23:57,480
Speaker 1: so good. Okay, so you guys become exclusive. I'm just

430
00:23:57,480 --> 00:23:59,480
Speaker 1: trying to make sure I go in order here, so

431
00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:02,080
Speaker 1: we'll just so you know. So basically I left her

432
00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:04,919
Speaker 1: tour and then I was playing Coachella that weekend she

433
00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:08,359
Speaker 1: couldn't come, and then she came the second weekend of Coachella,

434
00:24:09,320 --> 00:24:13,280
Speaker 1: and then but you guys talked like incessantly is that

435
00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:16,119
Speaker 1: the right word. Instantly, you guys were constantly communication, like

436
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:19,760
Speaker 1: and so from as a best friend seeing this, like

437
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:23,800
Speaker 1: I've always had these conversations with Becca where I was

438
00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:26,120
Speaker 1: explaining like how love feels and what it feels like,

439
00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:27,840
Speaker 1: and she was just like, I don't think I have

440
00:24:28,040 --> 00:24:31,600
Speaker 1: that chip in me. She's like, yeah, it's just not

441
00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:34,360
Speaker 1: for me. Like I just I like my Space, I

442
00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:37,200
Speaker 1: like you know, it's just I don't know. I don't

443
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:39,680
Speaker 1: know if I'm that that love is is in me,

444
00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:42,720
Speaker 1: you know. And I was like, ah, I don't know.

445
00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:45,320
Speaker 1: And then when you guys met and she started like

446
00:24:45,680 --> 00:24:47,320
Speaker 1: always wanted to be with you and didn't want to

447
00:24:47,320 --> 00:24:50,280
Speaker 1: stop talking to you and started having those emotions, I

448
00:24:50,359 --> 00:24:52,560
Speaker 1: was like, it was such a beautiful thing to see

449
00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:54,680
Speaker 1: as a best friend because I was like, I knew

450
00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:57,000
Speaker 1: that they were in you, like I knew you were capable,

451
00:24:57,119 --> 00:24:59,119
Speaker 1: but she just hadn't found the right person, you know

452
00:24:59,160 --> 00:25:01,399
Speaker 1: what I mean. And so was like really cool to

453
00:25:01,480 --> 00:25:04,439
Speaker 1: get to see her experiencing all those feelings for the

454
00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:07,840
Speaker 1: first time. Did you feel that well, I didn't know

455
00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:12,040
Speaker 1: her previous, Like I wasn't her best friend leading up

456
00:25:12,080 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 1: to this experience, but it just my previous relationships there

457
00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:20,959
Speaker 1: was always something hard to navigate with like and also too,

458
00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:25,719
Speaker 1: I've also always dated women that hadn't prior dated women before,

459
00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:28,640
Speaker 1: and so I've always had to go through then. As

460
00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:31,320
Speaker 1: my fans know who listen to my music, it's like,

461
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:34,480
Speaker 1: I'm just curious, is it's serious. It's like always going

462
00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:36,880
Speaker 1: through I'm not sure. I don't know if I can

463
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:38,760
Speaker 1: do this I don't know if I can be that

464
00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:41,520
Speaker 1: person for you. And when I met Becca, it was

465
00:25:41,560 --> 00:25:44,040
Speaker 1: just instant and then I remember we had like a

466
00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:47,679
Speaker 1: brief conversation while I was like hey, like I'm obviously

467
00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:51,600
Speaker 1: a woman and like this is different. Can you do this?

468
00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:54,760
Speaker 1: And she was just like this feels right and I

469
00:25:54,840 --> 00:25:58,200
Speaker 1: was like basically the end of the conversation, and that

470
00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:01,760
Speaker 1: to me was like, oh, this is like this, this

471
00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:03,960
Speaker 1: makes sense, Like it's not so I don't I shouldn't

472
00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:08,119
Speaker 1: have to explain myself or anything, like the right person

473
00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:10,600
Speaker 1: is just going to meet me where I'm at and

474
00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:13,160
Speaker 1: she just met me and was like, yeah, let's do this.

475
00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:15,960
Speaker 1: But it is interesting. You bring up an interesting point

476
00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:18,760
Speaker 1: because you guys were on the same page with each other,

477
00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:21,000
Speaker 1: and your friends and your family knew you were dating,

478
00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:23,760
Speaker 1: but you guys were not public about your relationship. And

479
00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:26,320
Speaker 1: I know it's like when you're in a relationship, there's

480
00:26:26,359 --> 00:26:29,640
Speaker 1: two people and when you don't agree on certain things,

481
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:31,560
Speaker 1: you have to kind of meet in the middle. And

482
00:26:31,640 --> 00:26:34,959
Speaker 1: so out of respect Rebecca, you were like respectful and

483
00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:37,480
Speaker 1: like kept it. You know, you're a public figure, she's

484
00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:39,600
Speaker 1: a public figure, so you would think it would be

485
00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:42,280
Speaker 1: a public thing, but out of respect for her, you

486
00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:44,280
Speaker 1: took it slow when you were patient in that way.

487
00:26:44,400 --> 00:26:46,800
Speaker 1: Was that hard for you? And like what did that

488
00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:48,879
Speaker 1: bring up in you? Because you were saying you had

489
00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:52,239
Speaker 1: been in relationships before where you weren't sure, So like

490
00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:55,600
Speaker 1: I feel like that was probably triggering for you. Yeah, definitely,

491
00:26:55,640 --> 00:27:00,000
Speaker 1: I think it was an adjustment. Obviously was worth it, right, um,

492
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:02,359
Speaker 1: But when we initially started dating, like I was ready

493
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:05,000
Speaker 1: to have like a public relationship, Like I was like

494
00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:10,720
Speaker 1: here and like I was like yeah, Like and then

495
00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 1: when obviously we're navigating her you know, experience and where

496
00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:18,520
Speaker 1: she was out in her journey, that obviously shifted. But

497
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 1: it was worth it to me because I wanted to

498
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:23,359
Speaker 1: be in a relationship with her and I never felt

499
00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:25,879
Speaker 1: like she was hiding me, Like that would have been

500
00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:28,760
Speaker 1: a different situation because I've been hidden before. I've been

501
00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:31,600
Speaker 1: a secret before. I was never a secret. We just

502
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:36,480
Speaker 1: kept our relationship private, which I think, as we know,

503
00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:39,920
Speaker 1: there's a difference between like secret and private, and that's

504
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:42,679
Speaker 1: something it took me a second to get used to.

505
00:27:42,880 --> 00:27:44,960
Speaker 1: And then I fell in love with it because it

506
00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:47,720
Speaker 1: was like this is ours and like how cool is

507
00:27:47,760 --> 00:27:50,840
Speaker 1: this that this we get to just share this and

508
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:54,800
Speaker 1: grow it and like really build a foundation. And then

509
00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:59,600
Speaker 1: obviously now we've shared it with everyone and it's been

510
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:03,159
Speaker 1: great because we know where we stand and what we

511
00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:05,160
Speaker 1: love to share and what we like to maybe keep

512
00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:08,000
Speaker 1: to ourselves and finding that fine line. But this is

513
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:11,119
Speaker 1: the first time I've done this too, so we're navigating

514
00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:15,040
Speaker 1: that together and I'm just happy to to be a

515
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:19,000
Speaker 1: part of her journey. Yeah, it's it's interesting because I

516
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:25,280
Speaker 1: feel like it are you getting emotional? Yeah? Why? Just

517
00:28:26,040 --> 00:28:30,120
Speaker 1: a lot people really know what she's been through. I know,

518
00:28:30,760 --> 00:28:35,160
Speaker 1: and she deserves lots of love, and you know, everyone

519
00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:38,320
Speaker 1: in in my community, in our community, deserved to be

520
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:42,920
Speaker 1: loved and accepted for who they are. And it's not

521
00:28:44,200 --> 00:28:49,000
Speaker 1: necessarily easy for a lot of people, and so it

522
00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:53,040
Speaker 1: was hard. And I was also honored to just be

523
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:58,719
Speaker 1: there with her during her journey to know that she

524
00:28:59,040 --> 00:29:02,680
Speaker 1: should live the life that she wants to live. And

525
00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 1: um so, but a lot, you know, a lot of

526
00:29:06,120 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 1: my fans go through that too, So it's really interesting

527
00:29:09,880 --> 00:29:14,280
Speaker 1: to be a partner for that, Yeah, if that makes sense, Yeah,

528
00:29:14,360 --> 00:29:17,240
Speaker 1: because I hadn't been a part of that. Yeah, And

529
00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:20,120
Speaker 1: you know, I think that and Becca, you can chime

530
00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:23,240
Speaker 1: in if you want to share that, because again, like

531
00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:25,880
Speaker 1: I feel like when you talked about on the on

532
00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:28,360
Speaker 1: the podcast and you finally opened up about it just publicly,

533
00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 1: I feel like it was a different feeling. Like obviously,

534
00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:34,840
Speaker 1: you know, you were going through your own personal journey

535
00:29:35,080 --> 00:29:37,520
Speaker 1: in those years, because like you know, we still talked

536
00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:41,280
Speaker 1: about the relationship, we just kind of kept you, you know,

537
00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:44,680
Speaker 1: we kept the person private, and so it's like you

538
00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:46,920
Speaker 1: were still sharing about your relationship, but you needed to

539
00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 1: kind of do everything in your own time and your

540
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:52,240
Speaker 1: own way. And I know that that was obviously, And

541
00:29:52,280 --> 00:29:54,320
Speaker 1: I feel like when you have a partner that wants

542
00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:57,320
Speaker 1: it to be public, like that's obviously also very hard

543
00:29:57,800 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 1: to deal with two because you want to make them happy.

544
00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:03,360
Speaker 1: How was that for you to like navigate that time? Well,

545
00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:07,640
Speaker 1: I knew that, like I was, it was going to

546
00:30:07,760 --> 00:30:12,000
Speaker 1: be too much to make it public too soon, and

547
00:30:12,080 --> 00:30:15,280
Speaker 1: so I I tried my best to like empathize with

548
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 1: Haley and let her know, like I know, it's hard.

549
00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:20,440
Speaker 1: I don't want you to I never want you to

550
00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:23,720
Speaker 1: feel hidden or like your secret, but I'm this is

551
00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:25,680
Speaker 1: my first time navigating it, and I don't want to

552
00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:29,680
Speaker 1: have to do it in the public yet, and so

553
00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:32,560
Speaker 1: I mean it was four years that we, you know,

554
00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:35,320
Speaker 1: kept it private. So I was, I'm just like really

555
00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:40,160
Speaker 1: proud of us navigating those hard conversations because yeah, I

556
00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:43,479
Speaker 1: had my own stuff going on, but I was so

557
00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:45,720
Speaker 1: certain of her. It was never like I had doubts

558
00:30:45,720 --> 00:30:47,760
Speaker 1: about her, like I was ashamed of her. It was

559
00:30:47,840 --> 00:30:50,719
Speaker 1: about my own stuff that I was navigating personally and

560
00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 1: also coming from the Bachelor world. But um, and I

561
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:56,440
Speaker 1: had been in a public relationship with Robert, and I

562
00:30:56,440 --> 00:30:58,360
Speaker 1: remember the pressure, like when it was time to break

563
00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:01,320
Speaker 1: up that it was like, you're letting people down. So

564
00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:03,920
Speaker 1: I was. I was trying to explain that to her,

565
00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:07,040
Speaker 1: like I don't want that pressure, especially on top of

566
00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:10,080
Speaker 1: navigating all of this for the first time. So by

567
00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:14,600
Speaker 1: the time we went in public, I felt so secure

568
00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:18,240
Speaker 1: in who I am and so secure in our relationship

569
00:31:18,360 --> 00:31:21,800
Speaker 1: and that we were on the same page and was

570
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:24,640
Speaker 1: just ready to share with people's And I think it

571
00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:26,560
Speaker 1: was a good lesson for me too, because I think

572
00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:29,720
Speaker 1: from my past, I was triggered by this situation because,

573
00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:32,320
Speaker 1: like I said, I've been a relationships where I'm always

574
00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:36,080
Speaker 1: like hidden or the secret you know or whatever, and

575
00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:40,840
Speaker 1: it obviously initially triggered all these traumas, but I also

576
00:31:40,880 --> 00:31:43,880
Speaker 1: had to be like, that's not Becca, Like that's not

577
00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:49,000
Speaker 1: our situation and I need to respect her journey and

578
00:31:49,160 --> 00:31:53,640
Speaker 1: feeling comfortable and wherever she's at, and so like that

579
00:31:53,760 --> 00:31:56,160
Speaker 1: was interesting for me to navigate too, because it's not

580
00:31:56,200 --> 00:31:58,960
Speaker 1: black and white, and like growing up, like if a

581
00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:01,640
Speaker 1: girl wasn't ready to want me or like show up

582
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:04,880
Speaker 1: like a thousand percent, I was like, well, they don't

583
00:32:04,880 --> 00:32:06,960
Speaker 1: love me or they're not the one, and that's not

584
00:32:07,040 --> 00:32:11,640
Speaker 1: necessarily if she loved me, she would like that's not

585
00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 1: black and white. Yeah. Yeah, I think it's important for

586
00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:18,480
Speaker 1: people to hear because I think navigating relationships are they

587
00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:20,520
Speaker 1: are tricky, and it creates like there are moments of

588
00:32:20,520 --> 00:32:23,600
Speaker 1: tension because like no matter what, there's going to be

589
00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:26,000
Speaker 1: moments where like someone's ready for something and someone's not.

590
00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:29,600
Speaker 1: And I feel like navigating and communicating and like working

591
00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:31,560
Speaker 1: through those things are so important and I feel like

592
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 1: a lot of people, you know, love is not a

593
00:32:33,520 --> 00:32:36,840
Speaker 1: fairy tale. It is in certain ways, but it's not

594
00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:39,000
Speaker 1: like there's a reality to it, you know what I mean.

595
00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:42,520
Speaker 1: It's two different people from different walks of life, creating

596
00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:45,440
Speaker 1: a life together, and so I think it's just it's

597
00:32:45,440 --> 00:32:49,840
Speaker 1: been a beautiful like journey just to watch and to see,

598
00:32:49,960 --> 00:32:53,040
Speaker 1: especially like seeing back in love for the first time,

599
00:32:53,160 --> 00:32:55,360
Speaker 1: Like it's just been such a beautiful thing to see

600
00:32:55,400 --> 00:32:57,520
Speaker 1: and you guys respecting each other, and so I just

601
00:32:57,520 --> 00:32:59,400
Speaker 1: want to commend you both because I know it wasn't

602
00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 1: easy on either one of you, you know, but your

603
00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:05,000
Speaker 1: love is so strong and you guys got through it.

604
00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:28,080
Speaker 1: We love you, Tonya. Please pause. Okay, So now you

605
00:33:28,080 --> 00:33:31,720
Speaker 1: know you guys have you made the choice to announce

606
00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:35,080
Speaker 1: your relationship with your music video? Whose idea was that?

607
00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:38,440
Speaker 1: Because Becca, there's just so much to go over, because

608
00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:40,240
Speaker 1: I don't want to forget about the breakup songs that

609
00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:44,000
Speaker 1: are about Becca. Where do you want to begin, Tonya?

610
00:33:45,160 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 1: You got me right here. We can start with a

611
00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:50,800
Speaker 1: decision to to put her in your music video, Like

612
00:33:50,840 --> 00:33:53,240
Speaker 1: where did that come? Because honestly, the way it was done,

613
00:33:53,280 --> 00:33:58,160
Speaker 1: it was so tasteful and like chic it's weird, I

614
00:33:58,200 --> 00:34:00,880
Speaker 1: don't know, like the reality chic, I don't know, like

615
00:34:00,920 --> 00:34:02,800
Speaker 1: having her at the very end, like it was just

616
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:06,959
Speaker 1: such a It was a very clever but also tasteful

617
00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:10,120
Speaker 1: and classy way in my opinion. So I wanted to

618
00:34:10,200 --> 00:34:12,080
Speaker 1: like kind of how all that happened and like how

619
00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:14,719
Speaker 1: the conversation was to actually do this, like okay, it's

620
00:34:14,800 --> 00:34:18,319
Speaker 1: go time correct me if I'm wrong. But I was

621
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 1: trying to figure out the concept before the girls and

622
00:34:22,520 --> 00:34:25,920
Speaker 1: I had some limitations on the budget and timing and

623
00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:27,560
Speaker 1: all this stuff, and I was like, how am I

624
00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:29,040
Speaker 1: going to pull this off? Like what am I going

625
00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:31,480
Speaker 1: to do? And it was Beca's idea. She was like, well,

626
00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:34,280
Speaker 1: why don't you just do like a Bachelor themed music video?

627
00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:37,319
Speaker 1: And I was like, that's genius because I could just

628
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:43,120
Speaker 1: shoot it really like raw and real, and she kin,

629
00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:48,320
Speaker 1: I came up with the chance contract yeah, creative director,

630
00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:52,719
Speaker 1: so um. But yeah, So she came up with the

631
00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 1: idea and then she was like, let me play the

632
00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:57,799
Speaker 1: drunk girl and I was like, okay, I'll think about it.

633
00:34:57,840 --> 00:34:59,800
Speaker 1: And then I was like doing auditions and I was

634
00:34:59,840 --> 00:35:02,319
Speaker 1: just like what if. I was like, what if you

635
00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:05,000
Speaker 1: just come out in the limo at the end and

636
00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:07,359
Speaker 1: do like a third times a charm kind of thing,

637
00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:10,319
Speaker 1: and she was like that's so boring. I've already done that,

638
00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:14,040
Speaker 1: Like I've already left the limo and arrived at the end,

639
00:35:14,360 --> 00:35:17,919
Speaker 1: and I was like, I know, but like that might

640
00:35:17,960 --> 00:35:20,719
Speaker 1: be it because we've always talked, she's always wanted to

641
00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:23,560
Speaker 1: be one of my music video girls and same, but

642
00:35:23,840 --> 00:35:28,000
Speaker 1: it's never really worked out. Interesting, never worked out. Yeah,

643
00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:31,759
Speaker 1: I feel like I know it never worked out. She

644
00:35:31,840 --> 00:35:35,120
Speaker 1: auditioned for Chance. I did an audition. I didn't get

645
00:35:35,120 --> 00:35:38,320
Speaker 1: an audition. The fact that, like I was like, to

646
00:35:38,360 --> 00:35:41,480
Speaker 1: tell you from from the ever when Becca told me

647
00:35:41,800 --> 00:35:44,880
Speaker 1: that she auditioned to be the lead your love interest

648
00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:47,960
Speaker 1: in his music video, yeah, for Chance, and you shot

649
00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:50,400
Speaker 1: her down. You picked somebody else. I literally was like,

650
00:35:51,000 --> 00:35:54,319
Speaker 1: good on, Haley, I did. I was like giving Becca

651
00:35:54,320 --> 00:35:57,520
Speaker 1: a taste of her taste of medicine, how because you

652
00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:03,719
Speaker 1: can't just now, like just decide. And she is a

653
00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:09,920
Speaker 1: really talented actress and singer. Rebecca is the most epic thing.

654
00:36:09,920 --> 00:36:11,719
Speaker 1: I think. I laughed for like two days straight when

655
00:36:11,719 --> 00:36:13,200
Speaker 1: she told me she didn't get the part. I was

656
00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:16,799
Speaker 1: like that. It was like we'd be hanging out and

657
00:36:16,840 --> 00:36:19,359
Speaker 1: then I would just like out of nowhere, I'd be

658
00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:22,400
Speaker 1: like cry, or I'd be like I'd be like, you

659
00:36:22,520 --> 00:36:24,560
Speaker 1: just saw the love of your life go and she

660
00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:27,560
Speaker 1: would like leap into it. And here's the thing about

661
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:30,240
Speaker 1: my music videos, and most of my fans known sometimes

662
00:36:30,239 --> 00:36:34,440
Speaker 1: they don't, you know, I'm not, you know, the number

663
00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:36,120
Speaker 1: one artist in the world. So I have a lot

664
00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:38,520
Speaker 1: of limitations with budget and timing. And so when you

665
00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:41,239
Speaker 1: were doing these music videos, I had eight hours to

666
00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:44,560
Speaker 1: shoot that music video chance that you saw, and it's

667
00:36:44,680 --> 00:36:47,120
Speaker 1: you have one to two takes and if you don't

668
00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:50,279
Speaker 1: get it, we're moving on. And so if I had

669
00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:53,279
Speaker 1: the time and the flexibility, like a normal shoot, a

670
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:56,360
Speaker 1: couple of days shoot where we could really workshop things,

671
00:36:56,520 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 1: I think she could do it. But I told her,

672
00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:01,840
Speaker 1: I said, listen, there's gonna be win flying. I'm gonna

673
00:37:01,880 --> 00:37:04,759
Speaker 1: be screaming at you. You're gonna have ten seconds to

674
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:08,239
Speaker 1: get the shot or start doing you know, get the

675
00:37:08,280 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 1: moment in emotion, and if you don't get it, it's

676
00:37:10,760 --> 00:37:13,640
Speaker 1: going to be uncomfortable for both of us. And so

677
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:16,040
Speaker 1: she understood that. She understood that. I was like, it's

678
00:37:16,080 --> 00:37:18,719
Speaker 1: literally like, you gotta get the shot. And she experienced

679
00:37:18,719 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 1: that on four the Girls and three was the everyone

680
00:37:24,160 --> 00:37:31,879
Speaker 1: everyone like fun wave. How hard is that everyone only

681
00:37:31,920 --> 00:37:34,759
Speaker 1: got one take? She got three and all she had

682
00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:36,480
Speaker 1: to do, is is step out of the limo and

683
00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:39,319
Speaker 1: look me dead at the all think it's easy, Wait

684
00:37:39,440 --> 00:37:44,759
Speaker 1: till you have action after the Four the Girls experience,

685
00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 1: say anything? Yeah, anything, But I did have to hear action. Yeah,

686
00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:53,400
Speaker 1: but wouldn't you say, after your Four the Girls experience,

687
00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:57,680
Speaker 1: you understood my concerns and reservations of giving you a

688
00:37:57,840 --> 00:38:02,239
Speaker 1: lead role in a high intense the situation. Yeah, I

689
00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:07,239
Speaker 1: totally understand, and I hope I get an opportunity in

690
00:38:07,280 --> 00:38:10,520
Speaker 1: the near future. Yeah, now that Becca has had a

691
00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:12,279
Speaker 1: taste of it. Or is she going to be your

692
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:14,400
Speaker 1: love interest in all of them moving forward? Or like

693
00:38:14,440 --> 00:38:18,279
Speaker 1: what have you guys talked about? She's gonna hire actors

694
00:38:18,320 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 1: and actresses and I'm left in the dust on the No,

695
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:25,320
Speaker 1: he'll never be left in the dust. Well, no, actually

696
00:38:25,440 --> 00:38:29,200
Speaker 1: we should talk about that because Becca is like infamous

697
00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:31,759
Speaker 1: and we still haven't figured out which podcast you've said

698
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:33,840
Speaker 1: this in. But she always used to say, like I

699
00:38:33,880 --> 00:38:36,600
Speaker 1: need to date someone that lives far away and I

700
00:38:36,600 --> 00:38:38,919
Speaker 1: can have my space and like we can hang out

701
00:38:38,920 --> 00:38:42,200
Speaker 1: whenever left. And then when you left for tour this

702
00:38:42,280 --> 00:38:46,480
Speaker 1: time around, Becca was a basket case, Like it wasn't good.

703
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:49,480
Speaker 1: It was not good, like she missed you. So I

704
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:55,359
Speaker 1: was there, I was on those phone calls and it's

705
00:38:55,640 --> 00:39:05,360
Speaker 1: so it's so I love it, like I think, yeah,

706
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:08,000
Speaker 1: but um, I don't know where I'm going with this,

707
00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:13,359
Speaker 1: but just like that different different is it's so different? Yeah?

708
00:39:13,440 --> 00:39:17,919
Speaker 1: I guess for you Becca, like is that weird? Yeah,

709
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:21,200
Speaker 1: it's very it's not. It sucks. I'd prefer it to

710
00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:24,360
Speaker 1: not be that way. Do you take back everything you

711
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:28,319
Speaker 1: said those years ago? Yeah? Unfortunately I do because I

712
00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:30,439
Speaker 1: feel like I'm manifested this for myself. But I will

713
00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:33,120
Speaker 1: say what I didn't manifest for myself was the whole

714
00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:35,600
Speaker 1: like making out with other girls and music videos and stuff.

715
00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:38,359
Speaker 1: I didn't. I never that was never part of my plan.

716
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 1: That would be tough. Yeah, but we navigate it. We

717
00:39:42,000 --> 00:39:47,120
Speaker 1: talk a lot about it communication. No, I do actually

718
00:39:47,120 --> 00:39:49,279
Speaker 1: want to talk about that because I want to know, like,

719
00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:51,560
Speaker 1: and you both can if you have different answers, what's

720
00:39:51,560 --> 00:39:54,759
Speaker 1: been like the biggest not necessarily revelation, but what have

721
00:39:54,800 --> 00:39:58,439
Speaker 1: you learned the most through a couple of therapy. I mean,

722
00:39:58,719 --> 00:40:02,279
Speaker 1: we've learned so much, but I feel like the overall

723
00:40:02,480 --> 00:40:08,040
Speaker 1: consensus is like learning tools to help work together utilizing

724
00:40:08,040 --> 00:40:13,200
Speaker 1: those tools to be a team and sometimes in a relationship,

725
00:40:13,320 --> 00:40:16,520
Speaker 1: like you won't see eye to eye and like a

726
00:40:16,560 --> 00:40:19,880
Speaker 1: lot sometimes like if we have situations like learning to

727
00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:21,440
Speaker 1: like just be like, you know what, we're not going

728
00:40:21,440 --> 00:40:23,040
Speaker 1: to see eye to eye on this, and I still

729
00:40:23,040 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 1: love you and like let's work through this, or like

730
00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:31,200
Speaker 1: let's let's move on, you know, like because sometimes there's

731
00:40:31,360 --> 00:40:34,480
Speaker 1: you have to just kind of like I don't know,

732
00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:36,839
Speaker 1: I don't know how to explain it. I think it's

733
00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:39,920
Speaker 1: given us the tools to argue in a productive way

734
00:40:40,120 --> 00:40:43,759
Speaker 1: or to like settle disagreements in a productive way that

735
00:40:43,840 --> 00:40:49,319
Speaker 1: doesn't get like escalated to a point where we're to fight. Yeah,

736
00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:52,359
Speaker 1: it still comes from love. Like we now can have

737
00:40:52,440 --> 00:40:55,440
Speaker 1: disagreements and arguments that are like okay, but we're on

738
00:40:55,480 --> 00:40:59,200
Speaker 1: the same team and like we may figure out a

739
00:40:59,200 --> 00:41:02,359
Speaker 1: solution or we may not figure out a solution, and

740
00:41:02,400 --> 00:41:06,320
Speaker 1: if we don't, that's okay, And like that's really helpful.

741
00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:11,000
Speaker 1: I really encourage couples therapy for anybody in a relationship

742
00:41:11,040 --> 00:41:14,759
Speaker 1: with anyone, honestly, because you learn so much about yourself.

743
00:41:14,800 --> 00:41:17,640
Speaker 1: Like I've learned so much about what I've carried into

744
00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:21,959
Speaker 1: past relationships over and over and over again, and things

745
00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 1: that I want to unlearn and unpack, and it's just

746
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:28,919
Speaker 1: made us stronger. Like we have such an amazing relationship

747
00:41:29,600 --> 00:41:32,400
Speaker 1: and I really do feel like we can navigate anything.

748
00:41:32,719 --> 00:41:35,840
Speaker 1: And you know, I'm grateful for couple of therapy for

749
00:41:35,880 --> 00:41:39,200
Speaker 1: those tools, because you can't just wake up one morning

750
00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:43,080
Speaker 1: and be like, oh I'm different or oh I'm gonna differently.

751
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:46,120
Speaker 1: Yeah I'm going to know exactly how you feel. Like

752
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:50,080
Speaker 1: that's just not realistic. Yeah, I think I think naturally

753
00:41:50,080 --> 00:41:52,200
Speaker 1: people just you're stuck in your own ways, you know

754
00:41:52,239 --> 00:41:54,520
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like you're stuck in kind of your

755
00:41:54,520 --> 00:41:57,440
Speaker 1: mentality of how you handle situations, and it's not necessarily

756
00:41:57,480 --> 00:41:59,879
Speaker 1: how your partner does. So it's just like figuring out

757
00:42:00,680 --> 00:42:03,080
Speaker 1: the best path. Yeah, a couple of therapy has been

758
00:42:03,080 --> 00:42:06,400
Speaker 1: really good for us. We we see the world very differently,

759
00:42:06,520 --> 00:42:09,799
Speaker 1: so very different backgrounds. Yeah, we just think differently, we

760
00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:12,600
Speaker 1: see things differently, So like having someone who's like a

761
00:42:12,600 --> 00:42:17,040
Speaker 1: middleman to like navigate hard conversations has just been a

762
00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:36,000
Speaker 1: game changer. We have a couple of fun questions okay, okay,

763
00:42:36,120 --> 00:42:41,000
Speaker 1: um before we get into a couple more serious ones. Um,

764
00:42:41,040 --> 00:42:45,160
Speaker 1: do you listen to the podcast Haley No, No, was

765
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:49,319
Speaker 1: that a request by Becca? No? I personally choose not

766
00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:52,719
Speaker 1: to listen to it just because I don't I don't

767
00:42:52,760 --> 00:42:55,360
Speaker 1: want to hear anything like that. Maybe we'll, like, I

768
00:42:55,360 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 1: don't know, upset me. Yeah, that's my that was the

769
00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:02,439
Speaker 1: initially wife first, I wasn't listening to it. We also

770
00:43:02,480 --> 00:43:06,239
Speaker 1: when we weren't public. I just didn't like the idea, Like,

771
00:43:06,280 --> 00:43:08,279
Speaker 1: I just didn't want to listen to it, and not

772
00:43:08,360 --> 00:43:11,960
Speaker 1: because I'm not supportive, like I think y'all are amazing.

773
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:14,840
Speaker 1: And the one episode I did listen to us, the

774
00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:20,240
Speaker 1: one came out out. Yeah, I listened to that episode. Um,

775
00:43:20,280 --> 00:43:23,520
Speaker 1: but my friends listen this coing in like everyone everyone

776
00:43:23,560 --> 00:43:26,200
Speaker 1: listens to it except for me, because I just I

777
00:43:26,239 --> 00:43:27,560
Speaker 1: don't want to be like, why did you say that?

778
00:43:27,719 --> 00:43:31,439
Speaker 1: Or like, you know, use I was like, I want

779
00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:35,120
Speaker 1: her to feel free to like shot talk. I don't

780
00:43:35,160 --> 00:43:38,160
Speaker 1: need to like you know, I don't know. I just

781
00:43:38,560 --> 00:43:42,480
Speaker 1: I don't listen. Alright, fine, fair enough, Um, what are

782
00:43:42,480 --> 00:43:46,600
Speaker 1: your thoughts on Client? I think clients really sexy and

783
00:43:46,760 --> 00:43:51,920
Speaker 1: client borderline makes me question if I'm bisexual, and I

784
00:43:52,040 --> 00:43:55,080
Speaker 1: know I'm not bisexual, And so for Klein to really

785
00:43:55,160 --> 00:43:59,759
Speaker 1: make me question that is there's some strong energy go

786
00:44:00,040 --> 00:44:04,279
Speaker 1: on with him, you know. Yeah, I think he's super attractive.

787
00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:08,359
Speaker 1: Like when she's inclined, I'm into her. He does have

788
00:44:08,400 --> 00:44:14,319
Speaker 1: like beady Yeah, he just like give like doesn't speak ever,

789
00:44:14,640 --> 00:44:16,920
Speaker 1: you know, like when she's in So I just want

790
00:44:17,000 --> 00:44:18,759
Speaker 1: you all to know. Like sometimes I'll come home from

791
00:44:18,760 --> 00:44:21,200
Speaker 1: work and I'll be like, hey babe, and I'll open

792
00:44:21,200 --> 00:44:24,080
Speaker 1: the door and then Cline will just be standing there

793
00:44:24,560 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 1: and not just say and she's like in character and

794
00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:32,719
Speaker 1: I'll be like hey babe, and she'll just like give

795
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:35,480
Speaker 1: me a nod and I'm like, you can speak to me,

796
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:38,960
Speaker 1: but she's full in character. Yeah that's him. Yea, there

797
00:44:39,239 --> 00:44:46,160
Speaker 1: is Clin. You didn't even spell his name right to

798
00:44:46,680 --> 00:44:49,520
Speaker 1: k l I n E. Well, that's when you know

799
00:44:49,600 --> 00:44:54,160
Speaker 1: you're really in love because I love her both ways. Yeah.

800
00:44:54,440 --> 00:44:57,959
Speaker 1: Um okay, what are your favorite things about Becca? I said,

801
00:44:57,960 --> 00:44:59,839
Speaker 1: and I want you each to do it. I think

802
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:06,440
Speaker 1: one physical and one uh like personality traitor like not physical.

803
00:45:09,000 --> 00:45:17,640
Speaker 1: Thanks for clarify. Yeah, thanks so bro. Um Well, I

804
00:45:17,680 --> 00:45:26,200
Speaker 1: love everything about becas facial features. Um, I love her eyes. Um,

805
00:45:26,440 --> 00:45:29,400
Speaker 1: I want to go with her eyes and um, because

806
00:45:29,520 --> 00:45:33,040
Speaker 1: you only said one and then I just love her lights.

807
00:45:33,320 --> 00:45:35,160
Speaker 1: When we talked about this a lot, but she just

808
00:45:35,239 --> 00:45:42,280
Speaker 1: has like emotional she was like, well why I always

809
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:43,920
Speaker 1: tell her one of my favorite thing is about her

810
00:45:43,960 --> 00:45:47,200
Speaker 1: personalities that she makes other people feel really good about

811
00:45:47,200 --> 00:45:52,600
Speaker 1: themselves and that's like a really specials you know, magic

812
00:45:52,760 --> 00:45:58,319
Speaker 1: to have, and like I love witnessing her interacting with

813
00:45:58,320 --> 00:46:02,720
Speaker 1: people and seeing those people feel better about themselves walking away.

814
00:46:03,760 --> 00:46:08,080
Speaker 1: I feel very proud that she's my partner when I

815
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:17,319
Speaker 1: see stuff like that. Yeah, Mecca, it's good that I'm

816
00:46:17,360 --> 00:46:19,480
Speaker 1: not on the podcast all the time because I would

817
00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:23,960
Speaker 1: I would you over. And I'm like such a crier

818
00:46:24,480 --> 00:46:26,319
Speaker 1: to I mean, most of my fans know, but I'm

819
00:46:26,360 --> 00:46:30,160
Speaker 1: like such a sap, I always crying. Are you more

820
00:46:30,280 --> 00:46:32,759
Speaker 1: romantic than? Who's more? Hold? Man? Becca? You go for

821
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:36,120
Speaker 1: you have to answer the question. My favorite physical feature

822
00:46:37,160 --> 00:46:40,000
Speaker 1: I can't. I love her lips and I love her nose.

823
00:46:40,040 --> 00:46:45,320
Speaker 1: I think she's cute. Like her profile just the cutest.

824
00:46:45,640 --> 00:46:48,600
Speaker 1: Oh it was a oh yeah you can't hear profile

825
00:46:48,800 --> 00:46:52,279
Speaker 1: post shot of her profile for you all, um. And

826
00:46:52,400 --> 00:46:58,840
Speaker 1: my favorite non physical is her passion and vulnerability because

827
00:46:58,880 --> 00:47:00,800
Speaker 1: I think what she's been able to do like I

828
00:47:01,320 --> 00:47:04,000
Speaker 1: don't think. I think it's become a lot more common

829
00:47:04,080 --> 00:47:06,920
Speaker 1: for people to be comfortable in their sexuality. But I

830
00:47:06,960 --> 00:47:10,280
Speaker 1: really think Hayley paved the way for so many people

831
00:47:10,360 --> 00:47:14,560
Speaker 1: and like artists to be open and vulnerable about who

832
00:47:14,640 --> 00:47:18,799
Speaker 1: they are. And I am just so proud that I'm

833
00:47:18,840 --> 00:47:22,640
Speaker 1: with someone whom I was able to be so brave

834
00:47:22,840 --> 00:47:27,160
Speaker 1: because I, from firsthand experience, know how challenging it is,

835
00:47:27,200 --> 00:47:30,319
Speaker 1: and to put art out there that is vulnerable just

836
00:47:30,480 --> 00:47:32,960
Speaker 1: to make other people feel like they're not alone is

837
00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:36,160
Speaker 1: such a powerful and amazing thing to do. And she's

838
00:47:36,200 --> 00:47:40,920
Speaker 1: also very She's made me like feel safe being vulnerable too,

839
00:47:41,200 --> 00:47:43,840
Speaker 1: and I think that's a superpower because a lot of

840
00:47:43,840 --> 00:47:49,600
Speaker 1: people don't have that. UM So we'd like to take

841
00:47:49,640 --> 00:47:53,080
Speaker 1: you back to your voice doing that now to February

842
00:47:53,160 --> 00:47:59,640
Speaker 1: of January. I believe the dates might January. We had

843
00:47:59,640 --> 00:48:02,040
Speaker 1: our first life show in San Francisco and you were

844
00:48:02,080 --> 00:48:05,040
Speaker 1: in the audience. Yeah, you were dating at the time.

845
00:48:05,560 --> 00:48:07,160
Speaker 1: Nobody knew it, and I don't even know if people

846
00:48:07,200 --> 00:48:09,160
Speaker 1: knew you were in the audience there, or if Becca

847
00:48:09,200 --> 00:48:12,360
Speaker 1: significant other was in the audience there. They didn't know.

848
00:48:12,680 --> 00:48:14,680
Speaker 1: So you're sitting in the audience and we're up on

849
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:18,640
Speaker 1: stage and Becca gets asked the question what percentage are

850
00:48:18,719 --> 00:48:21,600
Speaker 1: you that you will end up marrying the person you're

851
00:48:21,680 --> 00:48:27,919
Speaker 1: with right now? And Becca went with, which is where

852
00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:34,160
Speaker 1: your name was born? In your middle name? Your middle

853
00:48:34,239 --> 00:48:38,160
Speaker 1: name was born. How did it feel hearing that percentage

854
00:48:38,600 --> 00:48:41,520
Speaker 1: and being there? Because my girlfriend Paulina was sitting right

855
00:48:41,560 --> 00:48:45,000
Speaker 1: next to you, and she was like dying inside because

856
00:48:45,040 --> 00:48:47,080
Speaker 1: she was she and she was like, this is so wild,

857
00:48:47,120 --> 00:48:48,799
Speaker 1: Like I want to know how it felt for you

858
00:48:48,880 --> 00:48:51,560
Speaker 1: to hear that. It was really cute. It was really

859
00:48:51,600 --> 00:48:55,640
Speaker 1: fun that, you know, the audience like freaked out and

860
00:48:55,760 --> 00:49:00,960
Speaker 1: Becca was like so like uncomfortable, and I didn't know

861
00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:03,640
Speaker 1: what she was going to say. So I was really

862
00:49:03,680 --> 00:49:08,840
Speaker 1: happy with I was feeling pretty boss at that point.

863
00:49:09,000 --> 00:49:13,560
Speaker 1: So um, I agreed and felt good about it, and

864
00:49:13,760 --> 00:49:17,359
Speaker 1: I felt grateful that I had a nickname finally, you know,

865
00:49:17,600 --> 00:49:21,640
Speaker 1: like I felt like it needed to happen. Yeah, it

866
00:49:21,719 --> 00:49:24,719
Speaker 1: was organic. It was a really That live show was

867
00:49:24,840 --> 00:49:27,680
Speaker 1: so much fun. It was such a blast. It was

868
00:49:27,719 --> 00:49:31,880
Speaker 1: really fun, and yeah, it was really cool. I just

869
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:36,720
Speaker 1: loved watching Becca like freak out, being like what do

870
00:49:36,719 --> 00:49:39,279
Speaker 1: do I low ball do? I highball, what do I do?

871
00:49:39,920 --> 00:49:43,759
Speaker 1: Within like five seconds, I had to make that decision. Yeah. Well,

872
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:47,359
Speaker 1: so now I ask you, Hayley Kiyoko, what is your

873
00:49:47,400 --> 00:49:50,200
Speaker 1: percentage that you will end up with the partner that

874
00:49:50,239 --> 00:49:53,960
Speaker 1: you were with currently? Becca Tilly? I agree with her.

875
00:49:54,440 --> 00:49:57,960
Speaker 1: I'm like, but we we don't even know if we

876
00:49:57,960 --> 00:49:59,640
Speaker 1: want to get married, so it's kind of like one

877
00:49:59,640 --> 00:50:03,279
Speaker 1: of those sort of yeah, if we want, if we

878
00:50:03,360 --> 00:50:06,759
Speaker 1: choose to have marriage, and that's what we want, Like,

879
00:50:08,680 --> 00:50:14,160
Speaker 1: oh yeah, not higher. I feel like is basically a

880
00:50:14,280 --> 00:50:18,320
Speaker 1: hundred and the five is like five, but the five

881
00:50:18,480 --> 00:50:22,520
Speaker 1: just is leaves for like reality of variables. But I

882
00:50:22,560 --> 00:50:28,120
Speaker 1: feel like very confident in tell me good about she

883
00:50:28,200 --> 00:50:33,880
Speaker 1: told me lost. She said, if yeah, about having a

884
00:50:33,960 --> 00:50:38,640
Speaker 1: future with you, on being being with your partner forever. Yeah,

885
00:50:39,960 --> 00:50:42,879
Speaker 1: we want to be in this relationship. If it wasn't

886
00:50:42,880 --> 00:50:50,279
Speaker 1: a hundred, that's nice. You know, relationships, relationships are hard,

887
00:50:50,400 --> 00:50:53,719
Speaker 1: so like you have to be in it, and like

888
00:50:53,880 --> 00:50:57,120
Speaker 1: especially traveling and what we do, and you know, just

889
00:50:57,160 --> 00:50:59,920
Speaker 1: with everything, I don't think either of us would be

890
00:51:00,280 --> 00:51:05,440
Speaker 1: sitting here weren't like in and wanting this to work

891
00:51:05,520 --> 00:51:07,799
Speaker 1: for the future. Well, you brought up an interesting thing

892
00:51:07,880 --> 00:51:10,040
Speaker 1: that a lot of people did ask, like marriage, do

893
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:12,480
Speaker 1: you see marriage in your future? You, guys, don't necessarily

894
00:51:12,520 --> 00:51:15,839
Speaker 1: see marriage. You don't necessarily want it. It's just not

895
00:51:15,920 --> 00:51:19,600
Speaker 1: like a priority. I feel like it's not something that

896
00:51:20,800 --> 00:51:24,520
Speaker 1: I just love being happy and being in a great relationship.

897
00:51:24,640 --> 00:51:28,080
Speaker 1: And um, I don't know, you can take that question.

898
00:51:28,800 --> 00:51:30,440
Speaker 1: I think we're on the same page. And I do

899
00:51:30,520 --> 00:51:33,600
Speaker 1: think if it came to a point where, like Haley

900
00:51:33,960 --> 00:51:38,160
Speaker 1: expressed to me, like it's really important that we get married,

901
00:51:38,280 --> 00:51:40,960
Speaker 1: and you know that's really important to me, I would

902
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:43,560
Speaker 1: do it even if it wasn't like the priority for me,

903
00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:45,839
Speaker 1: and I think she would do the same for me

904
00:51:46,000 --> 00:51:49,120
Speaker 1: as well. But I don't think there's like any rush

905
00:51:49,320 --> 00:51:52,560
Speaker 1: or I think we're very happy in a relationship and

906
00:51:52,600 --> 00:51:55,880
Speaker 1: where we are right now. It's it's surprising to me

907
00:51:55,920 --> 00:51:58,400
Speaker 1: because I feel like you and I are very similar

908
00:51:58,400 --> 00:52:00,800
Speaker 1: in that sense. I'm surprising. I'm not going to say

909
00:52:00,840 --> 00:52:03,640
Speaker 1: that a ring wouldn't look great on my finger. I

910
00:52:03,680 --> 00:52:10,239
Speaker 1: love the idea of a party, but a party, but

911
00:52:10,400 --> 00:52:13,560
Speaker 1: I'm just like, I don't know, weddings are so traditional,

912
00:52:14,400 --> 00:52:17,360
Speaker 1: and I'm just not said at the beginning of this podcast,

913
00:52:17,360 --> 00:52:22,080
Speaker 1: you're traditional. I am traditional, but like my you know, yeah,

914
00:52:22,160 --> 00:52:25,480
Speaker 1: there's like sometimes I go tod like does this tradition

915
00:52:25,600 --> 00:52:29,759
Speaker 1: fit my tradition or how I want to celebrate love?

916
00:52:29,800 --> 00:52:34,520
Speaker 1: And like, you know, so to me, there's like sometimes

917
00:52:34,520 --> 00:52:37,200
Speaker 1: there's a disconnect there. But like I think marriage is

918
00:52:37,239 --> 00:52:40,480
Speaker 1: amazing and we're just the type of people that we're

919
00:52:40,520 --> 00:52:43,440
Speaker 1: not putting that pressure on ourselves. And like if we

920
00:52:43,480 --> 00:52:45,920
Speaker 1: want to have kids, then we'll have kids. And if

921
00:52:45,920 --> 00:52:49,000
Speaker 1: we want to get married, we'll get married. But we're

922
00:52:49,040 --> 00:52:52,400
Speaker 1: just happy to just be living life, live last publicly

923
00:52:54,040 --> 00:52:57,440
Speaker 1: you know, the phase that we're right, So like no

924
00:52:57,560 --> 00:53:02,680
Speaker 1: kid discussion, We've we've had discussions, had lots of discussions.

925
00:53:02,719 --> 00:53:05,200
Speaker 1: We're all the same page about that right now, not

926
00:53:05,400 --> 00:53:12,240
Speaker 1: right now, okay, not for quite two while. So marriage

927
00:53:13,640 --> 00:53:17,080
Speaker 1: at the last thing. I don't think our future. I

928
00:53:17,080 --> 00:53:19,480
Speaker 1: don't think marriage. I'm sorry, but no, I was going

929
00:53:19,480 --> 00:53:22,360
Speaker 1: through the making sure, just hitting all my all my bullets. Um.

930
00:53:22,400 --> 00:53:24,880
Speaker 1: The living together. Have you guys ever talked about it?

931
00:53:24,920 --> 00:53:27,080
Speaker 1: Is that like a step you want to take. We

932
00:53:27,080 --> 00:53:30,319
Speaker 1: we lived together, we basically together, don't but we do

933
00:53:30,400 --> 00:53:33,960
Speaker 1: like we each have our own place, but we but

934
00:53:34,000 --> 00:53:38,480
Speaker 1: we have and I have everything at her place every

935
00:53:38,560 --> 00:53:43,760
Speaker 1: night together. That's living together. We never spent a night apart,

936
00:53:43,840 --> 00:53:46,880
Speaker 1: so we lived together, but we split the time. Yeah,

937
00:53:46,920 --> 00:53:49,600
Speaker 1: like we got to place one week in my place.

938
00:53:49,600 --> 00:53:57,000
Speaker 1: We have changed closets. Very elevated lifestyle. Yeah, we'll have

939
00:53:57,080 --> 00:54:01,799
Speaker 1: a home together eventually. But you know that's also not

940
00:54:01,880 --> 00:54:06,320
Speaker 1: really Wow. To be lax is very to be laxed.

941
00:54:07,360 --> 00:54:12,439
Speaker 1: My mind is spinning. It is uncomfortable. She's like, all

942
00:54:12,480 --> 00:54:15,560
Speaker 1: of these answers are not what I want in my life.

943
00:54:18,400 --> 00:54:21,960
Speaker 1: It's not so much it's it's I respect it. You're

944
00:54:22,000 --> 00:54:23,879
Speaker 1: on the same page, you know what I mean. Yeah,

945
00:54:23,920 --> 00:54:27,200
Speaker 1: that's what's important. And we weren't on the same page,

946
00:54:27,280 --> 00:54:31,000
Speaker 1: this would be a whole different kind of podcast. Um,

947
00:54:31,040 --> 00:54:33,719
Speaker 1: before we wrap up, because I want to respect your time,

948
00:54:34,120 --> 00:54:37,160
Speaker 1: we do need to talk about the breakup songs on

949
00:54:37,200 --> 00:54:40,719
Speaker 1: the album that are about Becca, because everybody's very confused. So,

950
00:54:42,440 --> 00:54:44,759
Speaker 1: so essen is supposed to be our breakup songs, but

951
00:54:44,800 --> 00:54:47,759
Speaker 1: you wrote them about Becca, So can you explain that?

952
00:54:48,640 --> 00:54:51,080
Speaker 1: Can I jump in and say those are the only

953
00:54:51,239 --> 00:54:54,839
Speaker 1: songs about Deep in the Woods is about you? Yes,

954
00:54:54,920 --> 00:54:56,839
Speaker 1: I think you just threw that out there to give

955
00:54:56,880 --> 00:54:59,920
Speaker 1: me a romantic life. Deep in the Woodard is about you,

956
00:55:01,760 --> 00:55:06,879
Speaker 1: and Luna is inspired by you. Luna is obviously I know,

957
00:55:06,960 --> 00:55:09,600
Speaker 1: but like, is that your moon? Yeah, she's like my

958
00:55:09,719 --> 00:55:17,960
Speaker 1: older woman. You know what is that an older woman

959
00:55:18,160 --> 00:55:21,520
Speaker 1: term from your moon? Not? I think it's coogar. No,

960
00:55:21,719 --> 00:55:26,160
Speaker 1: she's like more mature like you guys don't understand, Like

961
00:55:26,239 --> 00:55:33,240
Speaker 1: I've always been attracted to wiser, older women, years older

962
00:55:33,239 --> 00:55:36,239
Speaker 1: than you. I know, but that's so sexy to me.

963
00:55:36,760 --> 00:55:42,200
Speaker 1: She's not like I'm so I never Why are you?

964
00:55:42,239 --> 00:55:44,239
Speaker 1: Why are you putting the word old? And it's such

965
00:55:44,280 --> 00:55:50,800
Speaker 1: a small bottle. She's I'm two years older than older

966
00:55:50,800 --> 00:55:53,160
Speaker 1: than me. She's older than me. To me, two years

967
00:55:53,239 --> 00:55:55,239
Speaker 1: is like a wash, Like it's not there's not a

968
00:55:55,320 --> 00:55:58,719
Speaker 1: significant age gap until you're like a decade apart. I

969
00:55:58,760 --> 00:56:02,360
Speaker 1: think I'm just saying that it adds in an attractiveness

970
00:56:02,360 --> 00:56:05,080
Speaker 1: to her, like if she was younger than me, it

971
00:56:05,080 --> 00:56:07,320
Speaker 1: would be a different thing. I feel like you're avoiding

972
00:56:07,320 --> 00:56:11,840
Speaker 1: the question of the breakup songs on a tangent and

973
00:56:11,960 --> 00:56:20,000
Speaker 1: accusing me of many things. Um So s os was

974
00:56:20,040 --> 00:56:22,160
Speaker 1: a song that I wrote prior to us going in

975
00:56:22,239 --> 00:56:25,239
Speaker 1: couples therapy, So that was like a pivotal moment was

976
00:56:25,320 --> 00:56:28,400
Speaker 1: like am I am? Can I change? Like is this

977
00:56:28,440 --> 00:56:29,960
Speaker 1: going to work out? Or do I need to like

978
00:56:30,560 --> 00:56:33,000
Speaker 1: look within like and is it too late to try

979
00:56:33,040 --> 00:56:36,440
Speaker 1: to solve this? So that was the pre couples therapy

980
00:56:36,480 --> 00:56:41,960
Speaker 1: song and supposed to be UM. I went to Joshua

981
00:56:42,120 --> 00:56:46,040
Speaker 1: Tree for riding camp and I think we were fighting,

982
00:56:46,080 --> 00:56:48,560
Speaker 1: but she was like breaking my heart and I thought

983
00:56:48,560 --> 00:56:50,840
Speaker 1: we were breaking up. And I have a thing which

984
00:56:50,960 --> 00:56:53,600
Speaker 1: I deal with on my own, but I'm very black

985
00:56:53,680 --> 00:56:56,680
Speaker 1: or white, so I'm like I've been conditioned where like

986
00:56:56,920 --> 00:57:01,440
Speaker 1: if we don't agree, we're going to break up. Like

987
00:57:01,600 --> 00:57:04,000
Speaker 1: that's just I go from zero to a thousand. So

988
00:57:04,120 --> 00:57:07,399
Speaker 1: in that moment, we were going through a tiff and

989
00:57:07,440 --> 00:57:10,160
Speaker 1: I thought we weren't going to get through it. So

990
00:57:10,200 --> 00:57:13,239
Speaker 1: I wrote supposed to be only you can make Me

991
00:57:13,280 --> 00:57:20,800
Speaker 1: this Lonely? You know you read it, you know, So

992
00:57:21,040 --> 00:57:25,040
Speaker 1: that was real for me. And I played that song

993
00:57:25,080 --> 00:57:28,400
Speaker 1: Rebecca and she was like, who's this about? And I

994
00:57:28,440 --> 00:57:31,800
Speaker 1: was like you. I was like, you broke my heart

995
00:57:31,840 --> 00:57:35,400
Speaker 1: and Joshua Tree, I was like sobbing like the whole camp.

996
00:57:35,480 --> 00:57:38,080
Speaker 1: I was like a mess. And that was the camp

997
00:57:38,120 --> 00:57:41,400
Speaker 1: I written Demons and my this um I'm too sensitive

998
00:57:41,440 --> 00:57:43,840
Speaker 1: for the EP and I had written supposed to be

999
00:57:43,840 --> 00:57:46,760
Speaker 1: that week and I was just devastated because I was like,

1000
00:57:46,800 --> 00:57:49,040
Speaker 1: we're not gonna make it. It's not gonna work out.

1001
00:57:49,680 --> 00:57:52,360
Speaker 1: And she's over here like who's this song about? And

1002
00:57:52,360 --> 00:57:56,720
Speaker 1: I'm like you So anyways, those those are the reasons,

1003
00:57:57,200 --> 00:57:59,360
Speaker 1: those are the explanations. So it is interesting because I

1004
00:57:59,400 --> 00:58:01,840
Speaker 1: think there are moments like it's like an feel a

1005
00:58:01,880 --> 00:58:04,400
Speaker 1: different way. Yeah, and also relationships, like we said, they

1006
00:58:04,400 --> 00:58:07,000
Speaker 1: aren't fairy tales. There's bumps in the road. There's rocky roads,

1007
00:58:07,160 --> 00:58:09,400
Speaker 1: and like there are those moments where you're like, are

1008
00:58:09,440 --> 00:58:12,320
Speaker 1: we going to it's gonna very real? Is it? Is it? You?

1009
00:58:12,480 --> 00:58:14,400
Speaker 1: Is it us? And you said you work through it,

1010
00:58:14,560 --> 00:58:16,880
Speaker 1: but like those emotions are really wrong. I know, I

1011
00:58:16,920 --> 00:58:21,360
Speaker 1: get it. And then in the Woods Deep in the Woods, um,

1012
00:58:21,400 --> 00:58:24,480
Speaker 1: I was like inspired. I mean, I just feel like

1013
00:58:25,120 --> 00:58:26,640
Speaker 1: you know in the lyric, it's like, I know I

1014
00:58:26,680 --> 00:58:29,160
Speaker 1: met you in another lie, which I asked you literally

1015
00:58:29,200 --> 00:58:31,120
Speaker 1: the other day and you said, no, I don't think

1016
00:58:31,160 --> 00:58:33,000
Speaker 1: that that I met you in another I don't know

1017
00:58:33,040 --> 00:58:36,040
Speaker 1: you were talking me about lyrics. I wasn't. But now

1018
00:58:36,040 --> 00:58:39,160
Speaker 1: that you bring up the lyrics, She was trying, You're

1019
00:58:39,200 --> 00:58:44,360
Speaker 1: going on a tangent, should we I'm trying to catch up.

1020
00:58:44,880 --> 00:58:48,200
Speaker 1: Your poor guests are really having a hop, skip and hoop. Yeah,

1021
00:58:48,240 --> 00:58:49,800
Speaker 1: that's true, Okay, I like to make them go through.

1022
00:58:49,960 --> 00:58:52,400
Speaker 1: You want to talk about that? So she had asked me,

1023
00:58:53,240 --> 00:58:55,600
Speaker 1: She had asked me, do you think that we met

1024
00:58:55,640 --> 00:58:59,040
Speaker 1: in another life? Or do you think that? Right? Is

1025
00:58:59,080 --> 00:59:01,880
Speaker 1: that what you asked me? Yeah? Like better like and

1026
00:59:02,000 --> 00:59:06,080
Speaker 1: I thought the romantic answer was is no, Like that's

1027
00:59:06,120 --> 00:59:08,280
Speaker 1: why this. I feel like this is the first time

1028
00:59:08,320 --> 00:59:11,080
Speaker 1: we've met, Like we've missed each other in multiple past

1029
00:59:11,160 --> 00:59:14,600
Speaker 1: lives and we've finally have met at the right time,

1030
00:59:14,720 --> 00:59:18,640
Speaker 1: at the right place, at the right moment. Very philosophable.

1031
00:59:18,680 --> 00:59:23,440
Speaker 1: Rebecca test surprised. So I'm like, you know, emotional and

1032
00:59:23,480 --> 00:59:27,000
Speaker 1: like this is romantic and she obviously that was apparently

1033
00:59:27,040 --> 00:59:29,840
Speaker 1: the wrong answer to her. But Deep in the Woods

1034
00:59:30,000 --> 00:59:33,120
Speaker 1: is about a song. It's like like wanting to be

1035
00:59:33,200 --> 00:59:36,000
Speaker 1: in that exact same place with that person in that moment,

1036
00:59:36,040 --> 00:59:38,160
Speaker 1: and wanting to go there over and over and over again,

1037
00:59:38,160 --> 00:59:40,720
Speaker 1: and that like excitement and that feeling in that rush

1038
00:59:40,800 --> 00:59:43,160
Speaker 1: that you get when you're in love and you meet

1039
00:59:43,200 --> 00:59:45,840
Speaker 1: this person you're like, I have to be with you,

1040
00:59:46,000 --> 00:59:48,880
Speaker 1: Like I'm going to go go through hell or high

1041
00:59:48,920 --> 00:59:52,120
Speaker 1: water just to be there with you and go through

1042
00:59:52,160 --> 00:59:54,240
Speaker 1: this life with you. And that's what even the woods about.

1043
00:59:54,600 --> 01:00:01,080
Speaker 1: It's about me, folks about folks. Yeah, but they're supposed

1044
01:00:01,160 --> 01:00:04,240
Speaker 1: to be I. I like, I remember us getting into

1045
01:00:04,240 --> 01:00:06,520
Speaker 1: that argument, but I had no idea that affected her

1046
01:00:06,560 --> 01:00:10,960
Speaker 1: that much mental that it warranted a breakup song about me.

1047
01:00:11,120 --> 01:00:16,440
Speaker 1: I was just like an absolute wreck, and you can

1048
01:00:16,480 --> 01:00:20,480
Speaker 1: hear it on the song you supposed to be. I

1049
01:00:20,560 --> 01:00:23,200
Speaker 1: was a mess and she's over here just sitting eating

1050
01:00:23,280 --> 01:00:25,440
Speaker 1: Cheetos on her cow. I know, I get it. I'm

1051
01:00:25,480 --> 01:00:30,120
Speaker 1: with you. I am the Haley. So there's that. I

1052
01:00:30,200 --> 01:00:32,720
Speaker 1: hope that clears some things up for people. It definitely

1053
01:00:32,720 --> 01:00:35,200
Speaker 1: cleared it up for me, at least. Did I cleared

1054
01:00:35,280 --> 01:00:38,800
Speaker 1: up for you guys? Yeah? It makes sense. Yeah, an artist,

1055
01:00:39,080 --> 01:00:42,120
Speaker 1: an artist and artist if you will, well, I think

1056
01:00:42,360 --> 01:00:46,640
Speaker 1: we hit everything that everybody really needed us to hit. Um.

1057
01:00:46,800 --> 01:00:48,640
Speaker 1: Is there anything that you would like to you know,

1058
01:00:49,040 --> 01:00:53,640
Speaker 1: some closing thoughts, some closing thoughts. This was so much fun.

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Speaker 1: I'm so sad it's over. I'll be back. Please invite

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Speaker 1: me again. Yeah, I would love to come back and

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01:00:59,560 --> 01:01:05,400
Speaker 1: chat with you both. Um. I also think too now

1062
01:01:05,440 --> 01:01:07,160
Speaker 1: that you're just like in it. You know, if I'm

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01:01:07,200 --> 01:01:10,520
Speaker 1: ever gone for a week like Haley should co host. Yeah,

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01:01:10,560 --> 01:01:15,200
Speaker 1: it's gonna put me to work. Yeah, yeah, I can

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01:01:15,280 --> 01:01:17,040
Speaker 1: do that. Well. I didn't want to get a messtion

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Speaker 1: on that, man, I didn't want to say, um, well,

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Speaker 1: I just wanted to. I wanted to thank everyone on

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01:01:25,920 --> 01:01:30,280
Speaker 1: this podcast and all your listeners and Eastern Mark and

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01:01:30,560 --> 01:01:33,600
Speaker 1: Tanya and everyone, Danielle, everyone on this podcast, because I

1070
01:01:33,680 --> 01:01:37,680
Speaker 1: feel like you guys really created a space Rebecca during

1071
01:01:37,720 --> 01:01:41,560
Speaker 1: a really hard time navigating how to be honest and

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01:01:41,680 --> 01:01:46,480
Speaker 1: truthful while also keeping things private. And I really feel

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01:01:46,520 --> 01:01:50,320
Speaker 1: like you respected her journey so much, and as a partner,

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Speaker 1: I've been very grateful for that. And also to all

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01:01:54,760 --> 01:01:58,160
Speaker 1: your fans and listeners, like I feel like they have

1076
01:01:58,280 --> 01:02:01,560
Speaker 1: been so supportive and respectful, and so I want to

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Speaker 1: thank you personally, UM for loving Becca and respecting her,

1078
01:02:09,440 --> 01:02:13,120
Speaker 1: and UM, it just means a lot because I know

1079
01:02:13,240 --> 01:02:15,919
Speaker 1: it was really hard and it continues to be hard,

1080
01:02:16,000 --> 01:02:18,960
Speaker 1: and so thank you for being that safe space for

1081
01:02:19,080 --> 01:02:22,919
Speaker 1: her and support and UM, I know this podcast means

1082
01:02:23,000 --> 01:02:25,320
Speaker 1: the world to her. So I just wanted to thank

1083
01:02:25,360 --> 01:02:30,040
Speaker 1: you guys for that really sweet no, And it's really

1084
01:02:30,120 --> 01:02:33,040
Speaker 1: it's it's it's really um I feel the same way

1085
01:02:33,080 --> 01:02:34,840
Speaker 1: like I feel like as a collective, everybody just like

1086
01:02:34,920 --> 01:02:37,000
Speaker 1: wrapped their arms around Becca and wanted to make her

1087
01:02:37,080 --> 01:02:40,720
Speaker 1: feel very like safe and comfortable. And you know, like

1088
01:02:40,880 --> 01:02:43,560
Speaker 1: we work in an entertainment industry that's very cutthroat and

1089
01:02:43,800 --> 01:02:45,880
Speaker 1: very like can be very sleazy, And I feel like

1090
01:02:45,920 --> 01:02:48,280
Speaker 1: everybody treated you with so much respect because I feel like,

1091
01:02:48,800 --> 01:02:50,680
Speaker 1: also it was not a secret. People knew that you

1092
01:02:50,720 --> 01:02:53,160
Speaker 1: guys were dating, but there weren't articles written and people

1093
01:02:53,200 --> 01:02:55,360
Speaker 1: weren't like digging in and doing stuff like that, And

1094
01:02:55,480 --> 01:02:57,280
Speaker 1: so it just goes to show how much people love

1095
01:02:57,320 --> 01:03:00,880
Speaker 1: and respect you. I think, Yeah, well, the I'll never

1096
01:03:01,040 --> 01:03:06,000
Speaker 1: forget it. I'll never not remember what all of you

1097
01:03:06,840 --> 01:03:09,760
Speaker 1: in this room and everyone listening to it from me,

1098
01:03:13,240 --> 01:03:16,800
Speaker 1: we love you, Yeah for people listening. It's it's hard,

1099
01:03:16,880 --> 01:03:19,800
Speaker 1: you know, it's like really hard for people to navigate

1100
01:03:20,400 --> 01:03:25,160
Speaker 1: self love and um identity and sexuality and to have

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01:03:25,360 --> 01:03:27,760
Speaker 1: like a safe space and have a support system and

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01:03:27,840 --> 01:03:31,440
Speaker 1: a community. And so for anyone in someone's life who

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01:03:31,520 --> 01:03:34,880
Speaker 1: was able to create that space for that person to

1104
01:03:35,840 --> 01:03:39,479
Speaker 1: be and on their own timeline and to not out

1105
01:03:39,600 --> 01:03:44,520
Speaker 1: someone and to be respectful knowing their safety is important

1106
01:03:44,760 --> 01:03:48,640
Speaker 1: and everything, and it goes a long way, so I

1107
01:03:48,720 --> 01:03:56,040
Speaker 1: don't take it lightly. Oh so anyways, I also think

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01:03:56,080 --> 01:03:58,280
Speaker 1: we were able to really distinguish that Haley is a

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01:03:58,360 --> 01:04:01,960
Speaker 1: Tanya not really sealed the deal. I don't have a

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Speaker 1: podcast because I would be dehydrated. This funny because like

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01:04:08,120 --> 01:04:10,200
Speaker 1: you can see, like Haley and I are very similar,

1112
01:04:10,280 --> 01:04:14,400
Speaker 1: and so you're like, it's it's it's such a blessing

1113
01:04:14,440 --> 01:04:15,880
Speaker 1: in a weird way because whenever I would get in

1114
01:04:15,920 --> 01:04:17,560
Speaker 1: fights with robbing, I would talk to beck about it,

1115
01:04:17,640 --> 01:04:19,280
Speaker 1: like she always saw his side of things, and so

1116
01:04:19,400 --> 01:04:20,600
Speaker 1: it was like good for me to hear. And I

1117
01:04:20,640 --> 01:04:22,760
Speaker 1: feel like whenever you guys are having issues, I would

1118
01:04:22,760 --> 01:04:25,439
Speaker 1: always like have see you your side of things. That's

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01:04:25,440 --> 01:04:28,240
Speaker 1: good to have. Yeah, good for all of us, good

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Speaker 1: for it's good for everybody. Vault, I love you all

1121
01:04:31,480 --> 01:04:37,840
Speaker 1: so much and we love you. Walter. What a flub

1122
01:04:38,880 --> 01:04:43,200
Speaker 1: Tanya Walters. Everybody, Thank you, Hailey, Kioko, thank you for

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01:04:43,320 --> 01:04:45,560
Speaker 1: taking the time. Oh my gosh, thank you. I'll see

1124
01:04:45,600 --> 01:04:48,720
Speaker 1: you at the show. At the show. Yeah, wipe off

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01:04:48,760 --> 01:04:52,160
Speaker 1: those tears and throw on those hot pants. Sing some

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01:04:52,320 --> 01:05:06,760
Speaker 1: songs all right, love you all. Buy two.