WEBVTT - Protecting Our Children From Fear

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<v Speaker 1>Good morning, peeps, and welcome to bokate F Daily with

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<v Speaker 1>me your girl, Danielle Moody. Pre recording from the home Bunker. Folks,

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<v Speaker 1>you know that I am a former educator and that

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<v Speaker 1>my background has been in education and education policy, and

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<v Speaker 1>the reason for that is because I really care one

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<v Speaker 1>about kids, but also believe that an educated citizen try

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<v Speaker 1>is the foundation to a healthy democracy, and our democracy

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<v Speaker 1>can only be as healthy as our youth are. And

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<v Speaker 1>so on today's show, I get into a conversation with

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<v Speaker 1>the child psychiatrist, doctor Jess Shatkin, and I talk to him,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, about a lot of things that have been

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<v Speaker 1>on my mind. You know, for one, I say that

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<v Speaker 1>I get nervous at the beginning of every school year,

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<v Speaker 1>probably since to be honest, you know, new Town, that

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<v Speaker 1>I get worried about how many headlines we are going

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<v Speaker 1>to see, how many young people we are going to

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<v Speaker 1>see pictures of on nightly news who have been robbed

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<v Speaker 1>of their futures due to gun violence, due to school shootings.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, I think about the impact that the

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<v Speaker 1>stressors that we are all taking in as adults on

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<v Speaker 1>a regular basis following the news, following the headlines of

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<v Speaker 1>One day it's a devastation in Maui. Another day it's

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<v Speaker 1>a devastation in Florida. Another day it is a shooting

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<v Speaker 1>at a dollar store. Another day it's a grocery store,

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<v Speaker 1>an authoritarian takeover. Another day it's books being taken away

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<v Speaker 1>in band or you know, threats being made. Every day,

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<v Speaker 1>it is something, and the stress and our cortisol levels,

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<v Speaker 1>I think as a nation are at an all time

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<v Speaker 1>high without much ease, insight, and that feeling, that anxiousness,

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<v Speaker 1>that fear seeps into our children. Right, And so I

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<v Speaker 1>talk today with doctor Shatkin about what are some of

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<v Speaker 1>the things that we can be doing right, whether or

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<v Speaker 1>not you're a teacher or an administrator, if you are

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<v Speaker 1>a parent, if you are an uncle or an aunt

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<v Speaker 1>or a godparent, what are some of the tools, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>some of the things that we can be thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>to ensure that yes, you know, kids understand that bad,

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<v Speaker 1>terrible things can happen, right, but that we will do

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<v Speaker 1>our best to keep them safe, and you know, and

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<v Speaker 1>they can do their best to keep themselves safe and

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<v Speaker 1>keep their community well and give them some agency in

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<v Speaker 1>what is happening around them. And so today's conversation is

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<v Speaker 1>about just that, really understanding what kids are going through,

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<v Speaker 1>how they are feeling, and how as the adults in

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<v Speaker 1>their lives, we can do a better job of ensuring,

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<v Speaker 1>particularly that the people that we are electing actually give

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<v Speaker 1>a damn about their wellbeing and don't just see children

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<v Speaker 1>as a problem or as a political football or a stunt,

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<v Speaker 1>but are really creating policies that are about their future

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<v Speaker 1>and their well being. Coming up next, my conversation with

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<v Speaker 1>doctor Jess Shatkin, Folks, I am very happy to welcome

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<v Speaker 1>to OKF Daily for the very first time, doctor Jess Shatkin,

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<v Speaker 1>who is a child psychiatrist and a professor at NYU

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<v Speaker 1>School of Medicine, to talk about something that I find,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, regularly really important to bring up to all

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<v Speaker 1>of you, which is the health and well being of

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<v Speaker 1>America's children youth students. Doctor Shaftan, let me start with this,

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<v Speaker 1>when you come across a lot of these headlines right

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<v Speaker 1>that every American reads about the unc shooting and lockdown

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<v Speaker 1>that just took place at Chapel Hill, the shooting that

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<v Speaker 1>took place in Nashville at the return of every school year,

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<v Speaker 1>right end of August beginning of September, I get a

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<v Speaker 1>nod in my stomach about what this school year is

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<v Speaker 1>going to have in store for America's children, and so,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, as a as a child psychiatrist, I want

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<v Speaker 1>to get your thoughts on how you feel at the

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<v Speaker 1>start of every school year knowing that there is danger ahead.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, thanks for having me on, Danielle, I appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 2>Feel free to call me Jess. I agree with you

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<v Speaker 2>that it is extraordinarily troubling that we have so many

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<v Speaker 2>shootings and that we're so aware of them. I'm glad

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<v Speaker 2>we're aware of them. If we're going to have them,

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's important that we hear about them and

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<v Speaker 2>be prepared. I think one of the things that it does, however,

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<v Speaker 2>because school is still the safest place for our kids

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<v Speaker 2>to be because compared to how many people go to school,

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<v Speaker 2>while these shootings and these incidents are horrendous, it doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>happen to the vast, vast, vast majority of people, and

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<v Speaker 2>most of us are not affected directly by it other

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<v Speaker 2>than this not in the stomach you describe. So I

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<v Speaker 2>still think schools are safe. I still think schools are

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<v Speaker 2>where we need to send kids. I think we need

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<v Speaker 2>to do a better job of managing access to violent

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<v Speaker 2>means and keeping an eye on our schools and keeping

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<v Speaker 2>things safe. I'm a big advocate for gun control, but

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<v Speaker 2>you can't work with kids and not be There's just

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<v Speaker 2>no way that you can't be an advocate for gun control.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't think of a logical reason that most people

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<v Speaker 2>need an assault weapon or a handgun. But those are

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<v Speaker 2>other issues that you know, maybe we do it don't

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<v Speaker 2>talk about. But I don't worry as the school year

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<v Speaker 2>starts because I'm a hopeful person. I think that's why

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<v Speaker 2>I do the work that I do. I'm excited by fall.

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<v Speaker 2>I always like when the kids are back in school,

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<v Speaker 2>and I mean I like summer too, but I like

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<v Speaker 2>when the kids are going back to school and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>talking to the teachers. I also am a professor at

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<v Speaker 2>the medical school and at the college at NYU, and

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<v Speaker 2>I like seeing the students and being engaged with them.

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<v Speaker 2>So for me, I'm not troubled by the beginning of school.

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<v Speaker 2>But every day, twice a week it seems I'm hearing

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<v Speaker 2>about a shooting, and that, of course, is extraordinarily troublesome.

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<v Speaker 1>How does it weigh on the minds I guess of

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<v Speaker 1>young people because what I realize. You know, I am

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<v Speaker 1>so very removed. Right as I told you before we

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<v Speaker 1>started recording, I was a teacher, an educator in an

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<v Speaker 1>elementary school. My master's degree is in early childhood education.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I really think about kindergartener's first grader, second

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<v Speaker 1>graders having to go through their shooter drills, active shooter drills.

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<v Speaker 1>I think about the guidelines and protocols that are being

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<v Speaker 1>put in place, but what fear that conjures in young people?

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<v Speaker 1>And so I just want to get an understanding of

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<v Speaker 1>while we live in a society that requires this type

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<v Speaker 1>of preparation, what does this type of preparation do to

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<v Speaker 1>you to young kids?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well, I don't know that we know, first of all,

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<v Speaker 2>because these aren't the kind of things that we study.

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<v Speaker 2>And also some of this is new, right, We're just

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<v Speaker 2>starting to get a sense of these things going on.

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<v Speaker 2>I think for most kids, though, knowing kids as I

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<v Speaker 2>do and having been around them my whole life, I

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<v Speaker 2>think think that most kids probably tolerate this as just

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<v Speaker 2>another like a fire drill, an earthquake drill. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>when I was a kid growing up in California. We

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<v Speaker 2>had to get under our desks for fire drills and

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<v Speaker 2>earthquake drills regularly. Sorry it was a fire drills, you outside,

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<v Speaker 2>earthquake you get under desk. And we also had nuclear

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<v Speaker 2>bomb attack drills too, and we would joke about them

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<v Speaker 2>and make fun of them, as kids do. The kids

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<v Speaker 2>who are bothered by those things generally tend to be

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<v Speaker 2>kids who have already experienced trauma. And so if you've

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<v Speaker 2>already experienced trauma in your life, then seeing the repeated

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<v Speaker 2>media replays of the violent episodes, the fires, the earthquakes,

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<v Speaker 2>the shootings, that is troubling for kids much more often

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<v Speaker 2>if those kids have been exposed to trauma already of

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<v Speaker 2>any sort, if they're stuffering from post traumatic stress. So

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<v Speaker 2>those are the kids that we really worry about.

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<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 2>We worried a lot about nine to eleven, and we

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<v Speaker 2>had a big intervention at NYU in downtown Manhattan after

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<v Speaker 2>nine to eleven, and we went into all these schools

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<v Speaker 2>and we had these programs that went on for about

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<v Speaker 2>a decade, and what we learned was that most kids,

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<v Speaker 2>even kids who were there when it happened, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>when the buildings fell, they were not traumatized. They didn't

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<v Speaker 2>have PTSD, they weren't upset about going back to school.

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<v Speaker 2>But those kids who had had trauma in their lives already,

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<v Speaker 2>those kids who had been abused, those kids who had

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<v Speaker 2>suffered or seen someone in their family suffer, those kids

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<v Speaker 2>were bothered. So I think it's probably the same sort

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<v Speaker 2>of thing now in certain neighborhoods, more impoverished neighborhoods, more

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<v Speaker 2>minoritized neighborhoods. There you're going to see kids who have

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<v Speaker 2>had more exposure to trauma in their life on average,

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<v Speaker 2>who are in environments where their glocal cordicoord levels or

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<v Speaker 2>stress levels are high to begin with, and so those

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<v Speaker 2>kids might be more bothered by that too, But it's

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<v Speaker 2>hard to know, and we don't study those things directly,

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<v Speaker 2>So it doesn't have an impact on the vulnerable kids

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<v Speaker 2>for sure, but how much it's hard to say.

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<v Speaker 1>What are some of the remedies. If I am a parent,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a caregiver, I'm a teacher that is listening to this,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, I can remember I was at the

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<v Speaker 1>time of Katrina right there, and I'm trying to think.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, was it Katrina or was it another storm?

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<v Speaker 1>That had happened, And I remember that my first and

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<v Speaker 1>second graders were terrified, like they you know, their parents

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<v Speaker 1>were watching the news and they're seeing all of this

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<v Speaker 1>water coming in and they're seeing little kids like them,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, grab their you know, grab their belongings, and

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<v Speaker 1>they were terrified, and they wanted to talk about it

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<v Speaker 1>and understand like, am I safe? Will I be safe?

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<v Speaker 1>How can we help those people? Because children are naturally empathetic, right,

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<v Speaker 1>and less taught not to be. And so I'm wondering,

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<v Speaker 1>what are some of the ways that if you are

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<v Speaker 1>a parent, a caregiver, a teacher, and a child or

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<v Speaker 1>classroom of children is wanting to talk about these things

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<v Speaker 1>as a means to calm you know, their their systems

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<v Speaker 1>and their imaginations. What are some of the of the

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<v Speaker 1>tools that you would advise.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I think the cognitive piece, the learning piece, is

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<v Speaker 2>just framing it. And we do this around any anxiety.

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<v Speaker 2>So if someone has post traumatic s cress disorder, which

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<v Speaker 2>is a type of anxiety, it's not trivial, but it's

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<v Speaker 2>an anxious reaction or response to something that happened to you.

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<v Speaker 2>What we do is we look at the risks, we say, well,

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<v Speaker 2>what is the likelihood that you're actually going to be

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<v Speaker 2>in an incident with a shooter, And the likelihood is very,

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<v Speaker 2>very low. And I don't have the numbers in front

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<v Speaker 2>of me, but if we were to, although these episodes

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<v Speaker 2>happen sometimes two or three times a week in our

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<v Speaker 2>country when we hear about them, still the likelihood that

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<v Speaker 2>any one of us will be in an environment where

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<v Speaker 2>that happens is remarkably low. And so I think you

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<v Speaker 2>frame that as best you can for kids, and kids

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<v Speaker 2>can understand that differently at different ages. So high school

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<v Speaker 2>student can understand the numbers, whereas a kid in elementary

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<v Speaker 2>school wouldn't understand the numbers. But you tell them basically

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<v Speaker 2>that school is still the safest place to be. This

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<v Speaker 2>is the place where we learn, This is the place

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<v Speaker 2>where we engage with each other, where we have activities,

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<v Speaker 2>where we have fun and support, and teachers are here.

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<v Speaker 2>And if parents aren't squeezing their can the hand of

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<v Speaker 2>their child desperately as they drop them up in school

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<v Speaker 2>and they say be safe, honey, it's okay, it's okay,

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<v Speaker 2>be brave. When a parent does that, that imbuse fear

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<v Speaker 2>into the child. So the parent needs to correspondingly have confidence.

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<v Speaker 2>It's the same thing as when you drop a kid

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<v Speaker 2>off the kindergarten or preschool. You know, a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>parents who themselves have separation anxiety or other anxieties will

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<v Speaker 2>be very holding on to their kids, and the kids

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<v Speaker 2>get anxious. But if you let your child go, if

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<v Speaker 2>you let your child know that this is the place

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<v Speaker 2>to be, it's all good. The kids almost always adapt

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<v Speaker 2>to that well, and when they don't, we have a

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<v Speaker 2>few ways to help them with that. But I think

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of this is us as teachers and clinicians

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<v Speaker 2>basically being matter of fact about the place and what's

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<v Speaker 2>happens there and this is how it goes, and parents

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<v Speaker 2>being relaxed enough themselves to let their kids go. And again,

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<v Speaker 2>for parents who might be listening, the risk that your

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<v Speaker 2>child will be in one of these incidents in general

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<v Speaker 2>is remarkably low. It's much more likely they'll get hurt

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<v Speaker 2>in an automobile accident that they will be hurt in

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<v Speaker 2>a household actiscident, that something terrible will happen. So the

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<v Speaker 2>media is on top of this now, in part because

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's mostly the more progressive media who's trying

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<v Speaker 2>to say listen, we need gun control. This is happening

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<v Speaker 2>so much. A lot of this stuff has always happened.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, in the seventies when I was growing up,

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<v Speaker 2>there were tons of kidnappings. We have very few kidnappings now,

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<v Speaker 2>it's not really a common thing, but there's a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of kidnappings back in the seventies where you know, and

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes it wasn't always like some organization. It might just

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<v Speaker 2>be a father who takes a child from a home

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<v Speaker 2>or and isn't living with the homer, it doesn't have custody.

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<v Speaker 2>But those things happen. It used to happen an awful

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<v Speaker 2>lot more than they do now. And it wasn't until

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<v Speaker 2>we started advertising them on the milk cartons that people

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<v Speaker 2>became sort of savvy about it, and then people came

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<v Speaker 2>very concerned about it, and then our anxiety started to

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<v Speaker 2>lead us around a little bit. It's not that we

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<v Speaker 2>should be cavalier and not acknowledge that these things happen.

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<v Speaker 2>It's important we acknowledge it. It's also important to realize

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<v Speaker 2>that most everybody is safe, most all of the time,

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<v Speaker 2>and we can do more to short that good feeling up,

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<v Speaker 2>not by acting in denial, but by normalizing it. Bad

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<v Speaker 2>things happen sometimes, It's absolutely true. Uh, we do everything

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<v Speaker 2>we can to keep you safe. We do everything we

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<v Speaker 2>can to enjoy our time here and to learn together.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's have parents on the same page, and let's let

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<v Speaker 2>our kids go to school. If the school is unsafe,

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<v Speaker 2>if the neighborhoods unsafe, that's a different story.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I want to talk about the cortisol levels

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<v Speaker 1>for a minute, because you you've brought it up before

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<v Speaker 1>earlier in our conversation, and you know, it's something that

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<v Speaker 1>I think about on a regular basis. My mother is

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<v Speaker 1>a is a is a retired nurse, and is a

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<v Speaker 1>is a yogi and on a yoga studio. So it's

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<v Speaker 1>something that a daughter that is in politics on a

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<v Speaker 1>regular basis, whose cortisol levels are quite high. Can you

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<v Speaker 1>talk to us about, you know, us as as as

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<v Speaker 1>adults that are really living you know, at a at

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<v Speaker 1>a heightened state, and like you're saying, can bring that

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<v Speaker 1>in to the the kind of the understand you know,

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<v Speaker 1>bring that into the home, bring that in to our

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<v Speaker 1>connections with young people, and so talk to us about

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<v Speaker 1>what happens with the stressor and then why it's important

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<v Speaker 1>to kind of bring those levels down given what we're

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<v Speaker 1>all seeing, right and how we're all tapped in on

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<v Speaker 1>a regular basis.

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<v Speaker 2>So, cortisol is a remarkable and wonderfully protective hormone that

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<v Speaker 2>is released by our adrenal glands which sit on top

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<v Speaker 2>of our kidneys, and when we are stressed out, cortisol

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<v Speaker 2>levels are released in higher amounts. It's a natural, normal hormone.

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<v Speaker 2>It does all sorts of things for us to help

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<v Speaker 2>protect us. It helps with managing some of our fight

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<v Speaker 2>flight and freeze sort of protections. It's important for getting

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<v Speaker 2>us ready for managing any stressor that happens in our life.

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<v Speaker 2>And it can basically help us feel less pain, and

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<v Speaker 2>be more strong and muscular, and be more acutely focused,

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<v Speaker 2>and all these kinds of things that can make us

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<v Speaker 2>at times almost superhuman, so we can get through the

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<v Speaker 2>stressors that we face. But unabated high levels of cortisol

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<v Speaker 2>are also released when people are stressed, and that makes sense,

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<v Speaker 2>and so the levels stay high. And when they stay high,

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<v Speaker 2>although they protect us and they allow us to sort

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<v Speaker 2>of be ready for any disaster or any possibility that

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<v Speaker 2>can happen, they also have a wear and tear effect

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<v Speaker 2>on our bodies because you can't maintain that high cortisol

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<v Speaker 2>without some pain. That pain would be high blood pressure,

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<v Speaker 2>that pain would be a rapid pulse. That pain would

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<v Speaker 2>be irritability, agitation, anxiety, and so those things. While again

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<v Speaker 2>it's protective and helpful for us, if you are a

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<v Speaker 2>child that's say, growing up an impoverished neighborhood and you're

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<v Speaker 2>an unsafe school and you have an unsafe route to school,

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<v Speaker 2>but you've got to go by yourself, and you live

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<v Speaker 2>in a disorganized and violent area, then your levels of

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<v Speaker 2>cortisol are high, and you're primed always for disaster because

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<v Speaker 2>you hear sirens at night and your sleep is disrupted

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<v Speaker 2>and always have a great night of sleep. And you

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<v Speaker 2>also have a great meal every day because the food

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<v Speaker 2>is little insecure and you're not sure that you are

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<v Speaker 2>you're not warm enough for the cold days and cool

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<v Speaker 2>enough for the hot days, and so your body is

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<v Speaker 2>always sort of primed for any kind of urgent situation,

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<v Speaker 2>and that wears you down. That leads to higher rates

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<v Speaker 2>of anxiety, drug abuse, school drop out, Your behaviors around

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<v Speaker 2>like things like early pregnancy or getting involved with a

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<v Speaker 2>rough group as much higher you're risk with age of obesity, hypertension,

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<v Speaker 2>heart disease. You know, these people who are in these

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<v Speaker 2>environments die on average twenty to thirty years earlier because

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<v Speaker 2>of these high levels of court is all that take

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<v Speaker 2>a toll on their body, causes their circulation to break down,

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<v Speaker 2>increases the likelihood of diabetes, makes them not very efficient

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<v Speaker 2>at processing glucose. Pancreas doesn't work as well, or insulin

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<v Speaker 2>isn't as effective. So there's all sorts of things that

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<v Speaker 2>we've learned in the past three decades or so about this,

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<v Speaker 2>and so we're cautious about it. And on a very

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<v Speaker 2>micro level, if you're a kid in school and you

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<v Speaker 2>go to a typical school, well, there are some kids,

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<v Speaker 2>of course who are bathing in cortisol all the time

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<v Speaker 2>because their environments are unsafe. There's abuse in the home,

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<v Speaker 2>someone's in and out of jail, there's drugs in the home,

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<v Speaker 2>there's a lot of instability in the home. They live

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<v Speaker 2>in a poor area, whatever it is. And so those

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<v Speaker 2>kids go to school primed for fights, primed for tension.

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<v Speaker 2>And those kids, we actually know that when you show

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<v Speaker 2>those kids even an ambivalent face, you're walking down the

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<v Speaker 2>hall and You're not one of these kids who's affected

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<v Speaker 2>by this. You're a typical kid, but you don't, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you just have a sort of a straight face on

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<v Speaker 2>or maybe you smile a certain way, which a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of kids would interpret as awkward, weird, ambivalent, unsure, or

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<v Speaker 2>even friendly. Some of these kids who are primed for

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<v Speaker 2>disasters see that as a violent face or a threatening face,

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<v Speaker 2>and they get agitated and they respond to it. These

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<v Speaker 2>kids get into more fights, These kids get into more detentions,

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<v Speaker 2>these kids get kicked out of school, and all that

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<v Speaker 2>stuff sets them up for all the other things I

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<v Speaker 2>was talking about, you know, bad food, lower income paying jobs,

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<v Speaker 2>earlier pregnancy, more drug use, likelihood of being incarcerated. So

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<v Speaker 2>all of this stuff works in and it becomes this

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<v Speaker 2>big stew. Cortisol is not the only thing here, but

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<v Speaker 2>it's a big part of our biological response that leads

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<v Speaker 2>to uh OR as a result of these exposures and

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<v Speaker 2>then leads to more problems.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I think about that in all the ways

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<v Speaker 1>that you just layered. You know, the issues that students are,

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<v Speaker 1>that students can face, and I think a lot about

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<v Speaker 1>how the response is that the student is the problem

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<v Speaker 1>as opposed to the environment is the problem, right, And

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<v Speaker 1>the environment is the problem because we don't invest in

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<v Speaker 1>the ways that we should to pro to make what

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<v Speaker 1>is quote unquote typical for some to be the actual

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<v Speaker 1>norm for everyone. Right. That when you have environments that

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<v Speaker 1>are are riddled with these with these issues that are

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<v Speaker 1>societal issues that are ignored, the effects then become domino

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<v Speaker 1>right from youth all the way into adult. And I

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<v Speaker 1>think that that is something that is really important for

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<v Speaker 1>us to think about when we think about again what

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<v Speaker 1>kind of elected officials we are putting in place and

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<v Speaker 1>where their priorities are. Before I let you go, I

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<v Speaker 1>do want I just punctuate, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Please, I punctuate what you just said. Though. What you

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<v Speaker 2>just said is something we've known for years. It's what

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<v Speaker 2>our best interventions do. We take kids who are in disorganized, crowded,

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<v Speaker 2>unhealthy environments and we enhance their environment somehow. Maybe it's

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<v Speaker 2>at school, maybe it's at home. Sometimes it means a

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<v Speaker 2>certain type of foster care or placement. But whatever it

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<v Speaker 2>is that we do, when we move them into an

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<v Speaker 2>environment that is structured for them, that gives them a

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<v Speaker 2>reliable way to learn, a reliable sort of behavioral patterns

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<v Speaker 2>where they're waking around the same time and going to

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<v Speaker 2>sleep around the same time, and they're eating healthy meals,

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<v Speaker 2>and they're getting exercise, and they're getting teachers who identify

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<v Speaker 2>their learning difficulties and support them if they have them.

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<v Speaker 2>When we do that, people get better. They may still

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<v Speaker 2>have to press or they may still have ADHD, they

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<v Speaker 2>may still have autism. It doesn't treat all that stuff,

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<v Speaker 2>but it makes them so much less less intensive, and

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<v Speaker 2>some of those things that are triggered by environmental situations

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<v Speaker 2>never show up in the first place, or they're so

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<v Speaker 2>minimal they don't need treatment because they're getting all the

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<v Speaker 2>supports in place that they need. There are a million

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<v Speaker 2>political reasons that we don't always invest in those interventions

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<v Speaker 2>the way we should. Politicians are elected for a few years,

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<v Speaker 2>these things take a number of years to show their benefits,

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<v Speaker 2>but they do have. Every study we've done looking at

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<v Speaker 2>this shows that these are cost effective that if we

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<v Speaker 2>follow them for four or ten, eight years, are multi

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<v Speaker 2>systemic treatment. Things like Boystown. I was just in Boystown

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<v Speaker 2>consulting with them in Omaha, Nebraska. It's the same thing.

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<v Speaker 2>They basically bring these kids into homes, these are foster

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<v Speaker 2>kids or kids who've been in violent environments. They just

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<v Speaker 2>raise them in a safe home with a family where

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<v Speaker 2>they have reliable meals, reliable activities, and the vast majority

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<v Speaker 2>of them do very well and go to college, or

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<v Speaker 2>they go get jobs, they get training. They are kids

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<v Speaker 2>who are able to function very well when taken out

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<v Speaker 2>of a very disruptive vironment or when given the supports

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<v Speaker 2>in that environment that they need. So and a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of this happens not because people are lazy, and not

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<v Speaker 2>because people are bad, as you're suggesting, but because people

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<v Speaker 2>have had well, We've got all sorts of generational trauma.

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<v Speaker 2>We've got genetic changes, we've got racism, we've got poverty,

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<v Speaker 2>and those things really chip away at people and it

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<v Speaker 2>makes it very hard for people to get back on

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<v Speaker 2>their feet. And I think that if we could level

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<v Speaker 2>the playing field, we would see a huge change in

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<v Speaker 2>our population.

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<v Speaker 1>The last question that I want to ask you to

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<v Speaker 1>is the fact that in Texas right now, there are

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<v Speaker 1>many school districts that are gutting their libraries and putting

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<v Speaker 1>in disciplinary centers right that instead of having a place

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<v Speaker 1>for learning, creativity, relaxation. At least, you know that was

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<v Speaker 1>the privilege of the libraries that I grew up going

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<v Speaker 1>to in my school district. They're replacing them with discipline

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<v Speaker 1>and their centers. Just give me your thoughts and response

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<v Speaker 1>to those decisions that are being made in school districts

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<v Speaker 1>also that happen to have predominantly black and brown children.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well, we know that disciplinary action isn't terribly effective.

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<v Speaker 2>We know that expelling kids or even suspending kids from

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<v Speaker 2>school does not result in better behavior. It gives them

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<v Speaker 2>a break, it sends them home and the parents then

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<v Speaker 2>have to deal with them, but it doesn't fix the

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<v Speaker 2>problem they're having at school, and when they come back,

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<v Speaker 2>nothing is changed. It's like taking someone who's addicted to drugs,

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<v Speaker 2>putting them in a thirty day rehabilitation detox program and

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<v Speaker 2>putting them right back in the same place. It doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>make much difference for ninety nine point nine percent of people.

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<v Speaker 2>They stay clean for two weeks and they're back in

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<v Speaker 2>the same problems because they're in the same place and

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<v Speaker 2>nothing is changed in their home environment. Nothing has changed

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<v Speaker 2>with the people they hang out with, or the way

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<v Speaker 2>they earn their living, or the activities they're engaged in.

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<v Speaker 2>So I think that setting up a disciplinary center will

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<v Speaker 2>not teach our kids anything. It will scratch the itch

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<v Speaker 2>of the adults in their lives who are angry and

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<v Speaker 2>are frustrated and say, don't you mess with us. We

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<v Speaker 2>will make you pay for that. But that doesn't change anything,

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<v Speaker 2>and it takes an extraordinary it's natural. We all have

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<v Speaker 2>this natural tendency to want to punish when somebody does

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<v Speaker 2>something wrong. The dog junks on the counter and the

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<v Speaker 2>dog eats your dinner, you're angry at the dog. You

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<v Speaker 2>don't praise the dog for that. But if you hit

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<v Speaker 2>the dog, the dog learns nothing, and if you put

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<v Speaker 2>the dog in a cage, the dog learns nothing. So

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<v Speaker 2>there are ways to teach people and to make behavioral changes.

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<v Speaker 2>We've known about behavioral modification for We've got really good

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<v Speaker 2>data for sixty seventy years on how to raise kids

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<v Speaker 2>with behavioral modification tools. And there's variations on the theme,

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<v Speaker 2>but basically it's positive reinforcement. You know, it's giving and

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<v Speaker 2>leading people and rewarding people for good behavior, and it's

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes punishing a little bit, but the punishment is not

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<v Speaker 2>to be devastating. The punishment is brief, focused on the problem,

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<v Speaker 2>and then we're neutral afterwards, we're not continuing to grind

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<v Speaker 2>them in the ground and make them pay for this

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<v Speaker 2>one act of jumping on the counter food. The dog

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't remember, and a lot of kids, quite frankly, don't remember.

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<v Speaker 2>When you punish a child for more than a day

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<v Speaker 2>by taking something away or taking away their television privileges

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<v Speaker 2>or their phone or whatever, they barely remember what they did.

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<v Speaker 2>They just think of you as a angry you know,

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<v Speaker 2>parent who's exacting a lot of retribution. Punishments when they

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<v Speaker 2>happen should be short and focused on the problem, and

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<v Speaker 2>then we get right back into all the positives and

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<v Speaker 2>the guidance and the structure, because that is what really

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<v Speaker 2>makes a difference, and we have gobs of data on that,

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<v Speaker 2>but it doesn't scratch our own itch of like I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to make them pay. You know. That's why Rambo

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<v Speaker 2>movies and die Hard they're so they're so unbelievably fulfilling

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<v Speaker 2>for us to watch because the bad guys pay and

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<v Speaker 2>that feels really good. But that's not how the world

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<v Speaker 2>really works. Well that's a fantasy.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, one hundred percent. Well, doctor Josh shock In, this

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<v Speaker 1>has been a fantastic conversation, and I really appreciate your

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<v Speaker 1>insight and analysis, and I hope that you will join

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<v Speaker 1>us again on WOKF.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm always happy to come back. Thanks for having me, Danielle,

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<v Speaker 2>nice to speak with you.

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<v Speaker 1>That is it for me today. Dear friends on Woke

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<v Speaker 1>af AS always, power to the people and to all

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<v Speaker 1>the people. Power, get woke and stay woke as fuck.