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Speaker 1: Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fred Show. Chris,

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Speaker 1: Good morning, welcome to the show.

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Speaker 2: Hey, how are you all right? Man?

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Speaker 1: It's waiting by the phone. Let's hear what's going on

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Speaker 1: with this woman? Teresa? How did you meet? Tell us

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Speaker 1: about any dates that you've been on, and then what's

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Speaker 1: going on now?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm at SISA on Hinge, which is a dating

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Speaker 2: up most people know about. I had a lot of

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Speaker 2: luck on Hinge. I thought i'd luck with Theresa. I

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Speaker 2: met her. We both live in Lincoln Park area and

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Speaker 2: buildings like literally almost in nice to each other. And

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Speaker 2: our first date we walked our dogs together. She had

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Speaker 2: a dog, I have a dog. We both walk them

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Speaker 2: each morning. So we decided to meet for coffee and

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Speaker 2: do that together.

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Speaker 3: Okay, walk with the dogs.

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Speaker 2: We got along great, the dogs even like each other.

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Speaker 1: What a nice active date. Look at that, you know,

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Speaker 1: and just going about your routines. Everybody's getting along. This

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Speaker 1: is so this is very sweet, like a Hallmark movie

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Speaker 1: or something.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, something different at least, you know, not the typical movie.

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Speaker 2: And at dinner her so I thought, you know, conversation

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Speaker 2: was easy, had a lot in common. You know, I've

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Speaker 2: felt like we're both inquisitive about or at least I was,

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Speaker 2: about her life, that, you know, things going on with her,

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Speaker 2: because my friends told me, you know, in order to

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Speaker 2: really engage with a woman, we should ask I should

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Speaker 2: ask about her, you.

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Speaker 1: Know what she's about, you know, thinking about her as

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Speaker 1: opposed to a lot of guys on this thing that

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Speaker 1: it turns out it's all about them. And so you're

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Speaker 1: asking about her, you're engaging with her, trying to figure

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Speaker 1: out or her interests in what makes her.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, right, I'm kind of opposed to talking about myself

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Speaker 2: in that instance. Honestly, I really I want to know

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Speaker 2: about her, right. So we met for drinks and dinner

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Speaker 2: on the second date, the second go round, and she

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Speaker 2: or we were going to and she said she wasn't

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Speaker 2: feeling great, so we had like one drink, she left,

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Speaker 2: talked about rescheduling, but since then she's kind of been

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Speaker 2: ghosting though response to anything text called.

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Speaker 3: Nothing Wow, okay, huh.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I felt we were onto something. I don't really know

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Speaker 2: what's going on.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and it this all sounds pretty good. Sounds like

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Speaker 1: you were doing a lot of the right things. So

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Speaker 1: let's see if we can get Teresa on the phone.

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Speaker 1: We'll ask some questions for you, and hopefully whatever's going

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Speaker 1: on we can straighten out. Set you guys up on

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Speaker 1: a third date in this case that we pay for.

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Speaker 1: All right, all right, so I'm gonna play one song.

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Speaker 1: Can you hang on, We'll come back and do it.

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Speaker 2: Sounds good.

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Speaker 3: Let's see what happens next.

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Speaker 1: In part two of waiting out a phone in three

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Speaker 1: minutes after us, you're a Fred Show. Sure, the Fred

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Speaker 1: Show is not commercial free for the next forty minutes.

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Speaker 1: You don't have to go anywhere. Hey, Chris, Hey, how's

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Speaker 1: it going? Still good? Still great? Yeah, So let's call

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Speaker 1: this woman Teresa. You were telling us about her. You

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Speaker 1: met on hings, you live near each other, You went

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Speaker 1: on a couple of dates. You thought you were doing

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Speaker 1: all the right stuff, asking about her, talking about her,

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Speaker 1: getting to know her, not making it about yourself, and

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Speaker 1: really two dates that went well, except now you're being ghosted.

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Speaker 1: And even the second date was kind of weird. You said,

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Speaker 1: she kind of bailed, you know, kind of mid date after.

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Speaker 2: One drink, just one drink, and then kind of show

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Speaker 2: and well I haven't worked from her.

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Speaker 1: All right, Well, let's call her at some point, you're

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Speaker 1: welcome to jump in on the call and hopefully we

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Speaker 1: another date and.

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Speaker 3: Pay for it. You ready, that's sure? Hello?

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Speaker 1: Hi is this Teresa? Yeah, Hey Teresa, good morning. It's

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Speaker 1: Fred from the Fred Show. The whole crew is here.

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Speaker 1: When I have to tell you that we are on

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Speaker 1: the radio right now and I would need your permission

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Speaker 1: to continue with the calls.

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Speaker 3: That okay if we chat for a minute. Yeah, sure,

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Speaker 3: thank you very much.

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Speaker 1: I know it's kind of strange, but we're calling on

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Speaker 1: behalf of a guy who reached out to us. His

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Speaker 1: name is Chris. Says he met you on him. You

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Speaker 1: guys are kind of neighbors and went on a couple

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Speaker 4: Yes, yeah, I remember Chris.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So he told us about what he thought was

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Speaker 1: a really successful first date. Its kind of an okay

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Speaker 1: second date, but says, since then you are not responding

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Speaker 1: to him, you're ghosting. He's kind of wondering why. So

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Speaker 1: that's what we're here, trying to figure it out, maybe

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Speaker 1: fix it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I kind of was hoping he'd take

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Speaker 4: the hint that I'm not interested.

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Speaker 3: So like so you're not interested. But why though, I mean.

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Speaker 4: You know he's he's a fine person and all that,

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Speaker 4: but I don't know if he told you he is

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Speaker 4: a therapist, you know, focuses on mental health, and like

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Speaker 4: that's that's great, that's an admirable career path whatever. But

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Speaker 4: like he couldn't turn it off for the dates, you

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Speaker 4: know what I'm saying. Like the entire walk, it honestly

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Speaker 4: felt like we were in a therapy session. He kept

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Speaker 4: like digging for skeletons in my closet, you know, and

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Speaker 4: like he even went as far as like giving me

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Speaker 4: tips for dealing with my grief and like that. And

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Speaker 4: then he said I wasn't reaching my full potential in

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Speaker 4: life because of God. Why he's say, oh, cognitive distortions

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Speaker 4: and like black and white thinking or something like that.

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Speaker 1: God like sounds about.

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Speaker 4: Like control falcies and you know, he's like playing yourself

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Speaker 4: for the past. And then oh, and then he brought

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Speaker 4: up like my relationship with.

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Speaker 3: My dad and my daddy.

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Speaker 4: I know, I don't.

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Speaker 3: Psychology. I can do all this.

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Speaker 4: I mean, like I mean, you know, like he was

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Speaker 4: nice whatever, but like so I agreed to like continue

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Speaker 4: the day, like get some drinks whatever. But you know,

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Speaker 4: I'm pretty sure he's a freaking psycho. Like seriously, you know,

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Speaker 1: I don't know about your mom. Camlin's mom is a

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Speaker 1: is a psychotherapist. My sister is too. My sister, I

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Speaker 1: think once you learn. I got to think once you

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Speaker 1: learn about all that stuff, that it's hard to shut

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Speaker 1: it off. But at the same time, my sister is

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Speaker 1: not saying you're not giving me like you know, she's

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Speaker 1: not talking about theories and Freud, you know, and and

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Speaker 3: When we sit down to talk. It's so annoying that, I.

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Speaker 4: Mean that our first date, like our first time dating,

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Speaker 4: you know, and he's bringing up all these things like

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Speaker 4: not cool.

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Speaker 1: Let me bring up for to mention that Chris is here.

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Speaker 1: I always leave that part out. I'm sorry about that.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to cause any further issues for you

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Speaker 1: or any further skeletons. But Chris, so you were being inquisitive,

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Speaker 1: but you were prying like you were psychoanalyzing your date.

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Speaker 2: Listen, I was just listening. So what I did. She's

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Speaker 2: entitled to her feelings, but I was just trying to help.

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Speaker 2: Entitled to her feelings, you can't avoid your emotions. Okay,

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Speaker 2: how was this attitude? How is this working for you?

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Speaker 3: Annoying?

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Speaker 4: The attitude is for you, you know.

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Speaker 3: I mean, and I shouldn't. I shouldn't have to agree

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Speaker 3: to keep going and.

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Speaker 1: Doing with it.

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Speaker 2: I should and shouldn't. All that just kind of anxiety.

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Speaker 2: You might consider not using.

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Speaker 3: Maybe dating, turn it off.

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Speaker 1: Bro all this, I feel like even theist doesn't sound

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Speaker 2: Guys, I appreciate that after all this, after hearing all this,

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Speaker 2: I just said, I don't think today. I don't think

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Speaker 4: I don't think you're a normal person.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're just spewing like terms. I mean, it's exactly

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Speaker 1: and I understand you're trying to help, but this is annoying.

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Speaker 2: It's what I did. I am sorry. I can't turn

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Speaker 2: it off. I I care a little too much, I guess, huh.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I mean if I wanted, like a therapy session,

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Speaker 4: I go see a therapist, like I don't want that.

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Speaker 1: For my Yeah, so you can't shut it off, like

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Speaker 1: you can't just just not sort of dig' don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't do it as digging. I'm trying to get

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Speaker 2: to know the person, and that's that's just how that's

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Speaker 2: my love language, if you will.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, well think so, Teresa, what's your what's

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Speaker 1: your takeaway from this one?

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Speaker 3: Speak from the eye, Yeah, speak from the eye perspective,

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Speaker 3: you know.

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Speaker 4: I just I really again, like it's great that that's

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Speaker 4: his career path, but he can't shut it off. I mean,

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Speaker 4: he's maybe he needs to find another therapist, fello therapist,

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Speaker 4: a date or something, because I don't think it's okay

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Speaker 4: to like treat a date as a therapy session.

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Speaker 1: I just still know about that black and white thinking. Teresa,

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Speaker 1: I'm worried.

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Speaker 3: About it, my gosh, not you too, Chris.

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Speaker 1: I'm it's not going to work out. Chris, Teresa is

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Speaker 1: that interested? I wish you the best of luck, both

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Speaker 1: of you.

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Speaker 2: I appreciate it, guys, thank you very much.

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