WEBVTT - Your ‘TMI’ Pregnancy Questions 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:08.959 Who baby a baby. I need you, Oh, hell, I 0:00:09.119 --> 0:00:14.000 need you What to Expect as a production of I 0:00:14.200 --> 0:00:18.239 Heart Radio. I'm your host Heidi Mrko, and I'm a 0:00:18.280 --> 0:00:20.960 mom on a mission, a mission to help you know 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:27.000 what to expect every step of the way. So if 0:00:27.080 --> 0:00:30.600 you know me, you know there's nothing that is tm 0:00:30.600 --> 0:00:33.080 I in my book, at least when it comes to 0:00:33.200 --> 0:00:37.840 mom's sharing their symptoms or concerns. Today we are devoting 0:00:37.840 --> 0:00:41.320 the entire episode of What to Expect podcast on t 0:00:41.560 --> 0:00:44.519 m I symptoms that you have shared and here to 0:00:44.560 --> 0:00:47.879 help me do that is Emma informally known as the 0:00:47.960 --> 0:00:50.640 Queen of t m I across all social media because 0:00:50.680 --> 0:00:55.240 there is nothing she hasn't shared or wouldn't share. And Sarah, 0:00:55.240 --> 0:01:00.520 who is our fearless What to Expect community leader. Hey Emma, 0:01:00.680 --> 0:01:04.720 Hey Sarah. Hi, I feel like I would like totally 0:01:05.600 --> 0:01:08.640 post a picture of like my nipple when it was 0:01:08.680 --> 0:01:12.200 falling off when I was pumping. I'm like that intense 0:01:12.200 --> 0:01:15.200 with t m I. Well, I think moms do often 0:01:15.240 --> 0:01:17.440 send in a lot of pictures or share pictures to 0:01:17.480 --> 0:01:20.600 say like, Hey, is this normal? Is this weird? And 0:01:20.760 --> 0:01:23.039 you know, sometimes you just got to do that. Yeah, 0:01:23.120 --> 0:01:26.120 when when someone else is experiencing the same thing. But 0:01:26.840 --> 0:01:28.560 t m I, it makes you feel a little better, 0:01:29.200 --> 0:01:32.040 a little solidarity, little kumbay ya t m I sharing. 0:01:32.080 --> 0:01:35.280 I love it. It's getting around the campfire. Yes. So, 0:01:35.360 --> 0:01:38.480 speaking of sharing, when we had our pregnancy Q and 0:01:38.520 --> 0:01:41.640 A episode, Heidi, we had a ton of questions and 0:01:41.720 --> 0:01:43.640 we didn't have enough for one episode, so we needed 0:01:43.680 --> 0:01:47.840 a follow up, and specifically with questions that you know, 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:52.120 maybe don't seem like people want to share with everyone, 0:01:52.280 --> 0:01:54.400 or they might think or t m I and your 0:01:54.440 --> 0:01:57.120 mission for what to expect has always been to have 0:01:57.280 --> 0:02:00.880 a supportive and safe environment, and I think because of that, 0:02:00.920 --> 0:02:03.600 our moms in our community have this high level of 0:02:03.640 --> 0:02:07.800 support and they are comfortable with sharing. There are questions 0:02:07.840 --> 0:02:09.600 that they might not want to talk to their doctor 0:02:09.680 --> 0:02:12.760 about or their friends. And I think Heidi and Emma, 0:02:12.840 --> 0:02:16.120 you both see this a lot across your social pages 0:02:16.280 --> 0:02:19.480 as well. I've gotten a whole lot. Mine's more sex 0:02:19.680 --> 0:02:23.200 oriented t m I. On my page, Sharing is caring. 0:02:24.200 --> 0:02:26.480 So we asked our community what their most t m 0:02:26.560 --> 0:02:29.840 I questions and concerns are, and man, they really came 0:02:29.880 --> 0:02:32.280 through for us. So, just like in the Q and 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:35.080 A episode, where you answered some help me, Heidi in 0:02:35.080 --> 0:02:37.960 a hurry questions. I'm going to go through the list, Heidi, 0:02:38.080 --> 0:02:42.200 Emma jump in. We're asking is this normal? Kind of 0:02:42.240 --> 0:02:44.399 like a true or false thing. So the first one 0:02:44.600 --> 0:02:49.720 was leaky boobs at week one, So not everyone starts 0:02:49.800 --> 0:02:53.160 leaking coloss room, but some women do and can start 0:02:53.200 --> 0:02:58.040 it leaking at about twenty weeks or so, and some 0:02:58.080 --> 0:03:01.800 women never do the thing. Remember, though, it has nothing 0:03:01.919 --> 0:03:05.160 to do with how much milk you're ultimately going to produce, 0:03:05.840 --> 0:03:08.440 so keep that in mind. Oh that's good to know. 0:03:08.560 --> 0:03:10.600 I think it was just one of those weird things 0:03:10.639 --> 0:03:15.160 where I was like, this is interesting. Let's start using 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:18.320 breast pads in advance and see how that cos. So 0:03:18.400 --> 0:03:21.280 you did have that, Sarah? I did. Yeah. Yeah, I 0:03:21.280 --> 0:03:23.680 mean it wasn't anything crazy. It was just a little bit, 0:03:23.800 --> 0:03:25.919 but it was just kind of like this, all right, Well, 0:03:25.919 --> 0:03:29.000 you know, things are working, things are moving along, roll 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:32.079 with it. Yeah, but the good news is it's working anyway, 0:03:32.120 --> 0:03:34.920 even if you don't notice any leaking. And in fact, 0:03:35.120 --> 0:03:38.040 when I gave birth, I couldn't even squeeze any of 0:03:38.080 --> 0:03:42.360 it out, but Emma managed to. Yet, Oh I have 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:44.000 so many things I could say, I don't know, I'm 0:03:44.040 --> 0:03:47.120 gonna stop though. We'll get to that later. We'll get 0:03:47.200 --> 0:03:50.680 done later, right, Okay. So another question was skin tags 0:03:50.720 --> 0:03:53.920 in the Perry area. Okay, so let's back up. You 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:57.920 can get skin tags anywhere when you're pregnant. It's all 0:03:57.960 --> 0:04:01.240 those extra hormones, thank you hormone owns um. But you're 0:04:01.560 --> 0:04:04.320 especially likely to be blessed with them in areas that 0:04:04.360 --> 0:04:09.160 are high friction, so under your arms, under your breast, 0:04:09.560 --> 0:04:13.880 and also in your vaginal area. They're definitely harmless. They 0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:17.279 can be removed, so yeah, run them by your doctor, 0:04:17.320 --> 0:04:21.640 your midwife if you're concerned about them, and if they're uncomfortable, 0:04:21.640 --> 0:04:25.479 they can always be removed. Another question was hair growth 0:04:25.640 --> 0:04:29.480 on your belly. Is that normal? So pregnant bellies are 0:04:29.680 --> 0:04:33.719 fuzzy bellies. You can also find hair sprouting in other 0:04:33.760 --> 0:04:38.280 places you would not expect it, like your lips, your breasts, 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:42.120 your timmy tin tin. You know what's interesting is that 0:04:42.160 --> 0:04:45.159 like the only place I had hair on my body 0:04:45.160 --> 0:04:47.159 when I was pregnant, I had like fuzz on my belly, 0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:50.839 but everywhere else it was so spares, like normally, like 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:52.960 I shaved my legs, but when I was pregnant, I 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:55.600 barely got hair into my arms. I barely got hair 0:04:55.600 --> 0:04:58.320 on my legs. Yeah that's actually pretty common. Yeah, I 0:04:58.360 --> 0:05:00.320 feel like hair wasn't really a thing for me, but 0:05:00.520 --> 0:05:02.520 just you know, like other things that you have on 0:05:02.560 --> 0:05:05.080 your stomach, like the line and all that other stuff 0:05:05.080 --> 0:05:07.600 that kind of I love the line mine still there. 0:05:07.880 --> 0:05:10.240 I was pretty darned fuzzy, I have to say. But 0:05:10.720 --> 0:05:13.240 it is hair. Hair today, gone to mark because you'll 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:17.000 you'll shed it after your pregnancy. I feel like that's comforting. 0:05:17.000 --> 0:05:19.160 A lot of the stuff that happens during pregnancy, it 0:05:19.240 --> 0:05:21.760 just goes away over time, like either right away or 0:05:21.839 --> 0:05:24.920 a little bit over time. It's not always permanent. Oh, Heidi, 0:05:25.000 --> 0:05:28.400 this one came from your Facebook page. She said, sharp 0:05:28.480 --> 0:05:31.640 nipple pain. She has it so bad that it stings 0:05:31.640 --> 0:05:34.600 in the shower and even a little breeze is unbearable. 0:05:34.880 --> 0:05:38.359 So yeah, first time mester nipple pain is real. It 0:05:38.560 --> 0:05:42.599 can be excruciating. In fact, I remember like it was 0:05:42.880 --> 0:05:45.120 just yesterday. I mean I couldn't put on a bra 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:50.920 without it being agonizing. And it should taper off by 0:05:50.920 --> 0:05:53.760 the second trimester. Of course. If you have any concerns, 0:05:53.800 --> 0:05:58.159 check with your doctor, but yeah, be gentle. Yes, okay. 0:05:58.160 --> 0:06:01.680 Another question was and it she anus and I think 0:06:01.680 --> 0:06:06.480 we're talking about hemorrhoids here, babe, Oh my gosh, hemorrhoids 0:06:06.520 --> 0:06:10.640 ahoy for me on both times. Yeah, the worst. That's 0:06:10.680 --> 0:06:13.760 definitely the hemorrhoids. You can try ice packs and which 0:06:13.800 --> 0:06:18.000 hazel pads? Check with your doctor about other options, Gentle? 0:06:18.080 --> 0:06:22.679 Does it when wiping? Pat? Pat? Pat? Yeah? But those 0:06:22.680 --> 0:06:25.320 witch hazel pads? Mom, I think you recommend them to me. 0:06:25.400 --> 0:06:30.800 They were really great. Who makes them? Talks talks? Thank you? Yeah, 0:06:30.920 --> 0:06:33.480 I always keep them at my house because those hemorrhoids 0:06:33.480 --> 0:06:37.279 are forever. I always associate that smell with just becoming 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:39.919 a new mom, like well forever because that was my 0:06:39.960 --> 0:06:46.240 first introduction to Okay, so another good question. Can you 0:06:46.360 --> 0:06:50.040 use a vibrator while you're pregnant? Um? Yes, please just 0:06:50.120 --> 0:06:52.680 keep it clean. Yes. I never used a vibrator when 0:06:52.680 --> 0:06:54.599 I was pregnant. I like the real thing for pregnancy 0:06:54.640 --> 0:06:58.320 for me personally, but you know, you go girl. Okay. 0:06:58.400 --> 0:07:03.360 Another question we had was lactating during sex normal? Oh yeah, 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:08.000 so breasts can definitely leak during sex um, both during 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:12.760 pregnancy and postpartum. Okay, so we can't get personal without 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:16.600 talking about vaginas. And we had a lot of questions. 0:07:16.720 --> 0:07:19.040 So I'm going to read what our moms sent in, 0:07:19.880 --> 0:07:22.239 and the first one, I think a lot of moms. 0:07:22.320 --> 0:07:24.600 You know you you want things to be looking nice. 0:07:24.640 --> 0:07:27.560 So she said, I want to wax my badge. Can 0:07:27.600 --> 0:07:29.600 I do that or at least make her nice? Is 0:07:29.600 --> 0:07:31.960 that good or bad? Mom? You take this and then 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:36.720 I have a comment. Okay, I say, your age, your business, 0:07:37.000 --> 0:07:40.880 whatever makes you happy. I mean, of course, ironically you 0:07:40.920 --> 0:07:43.200 can't see down there, but if you are going to 0:07:43.320 --> 0:07:46.480 go get wax, just make sure you choose an esthetician 0:07:46.680 --> 0:07:50.000 who has experienced with pregnancy. Sensitive skin is going to 0:07:50.120 --> 0:07:54.240 be extra extra gentle because you can get far more 0:07:54.360 --> 0:07:58.600 irritated your Your skin is is super super sensitive in 0:07:58.640 --> 0:08:01.760 all areas, but especially that area when you're pregnant. And 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:05.720 I would not try waxing at home simply because you're 0:08:05.760 --> 0:08:07.320 not gonna be able to see what you're doing and 0:08:07.360 --> 0:08:11.080 you could hurt yourself. I remember when I was pregnant 0:08:11.120 --> 0:08:14.160 with Lennox. You got me a special day to get 0:08:14.200 --> 0:08:19.120 waxed um in my business, and I have never felt 0:08:19.120 --> 0:08:21.320 pain like that in my life because I was pregnant. 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:24.720 So that was the first and only time I got 0:08:24.760 --> 0:08:27.360 waxed during pregnancy. But a lot of people do it 0:08:27.360 --> 0:08:29.360 and they love it, but for me, I was like no. 0:08:30.040 --> 0:08:33.080 I somehow managed to shave, but I mainly was just 0:08:33.120 --> 0:08:36.360 worried about the delivery and like a bunch of people 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:39.920 seeing what was going on there. I shaved like the 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:42.240 night before, which was before when to labor. I had 0:08:42.280 --> 0:08:43.480 no idea I was going to go into labor. But 0:08:43.559 --> 0:08:47.040 I shaved. And then my mom I think she filmed 0:08:47.080 --> 0:08:49.440 my birth and I saw my vagina. I was like, 0:08:49.520 --> 0:08:54.880 oh wow, I really missed a few spots, Like my 0:08:54.960 --> 0:08:57.360 mom filmed my verse two and I can't look at it. 0:08:57.440 --> 0:09:02.360 I love that video. I can't do it. Okay. Another 0:09:02.440 --> 0:09:04.320 question we had, and I think this came in a 0:09:04.320 --> 0:09:07.319 lot moms wanted to know if their vagina is supposed 0:09:07.360 --> 0:09:10.800 to be changing color? Is that normal? All your genitals 0:09:10.800 --> 0:09:14.160 do get darker, They're deeper shade of the color they 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:17.320 usually are, So they don't exactly change color. They just 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:22.200 become deeper in their hue, including around the labia and aerials, 0:09:22.280 --> 0:09:24.679 of course, and those are those are keepers. Those are 0:09:24.760 --> 0:09:28.160 keeper colors. I mean, you may fade somewhat, but you're 0:09:28.160 --> 0:09:30.880 always going to be a little darker than you were. Yeah, 0:09:30.880 --> 0:09:33.400 my vagina is a lot darker than it was. I 0:09:33.400 --> 0:09:35.720 don't know about my nipples. My nipples are massive now. 0:09:36.240 --> 0:09:39.840 I think both got darker for me. Maybe it's all good. Okay, 0:09:39.840 --> 0:09:41.920 So we had some kind of a little more on 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:44.520 the personal side of t M I. You know, a 0:09:44.520 --> 0:09:46.839 lot of moms asked this, why does my vagina smell 0:09:46.960 --> 0:09:50.800 different while pregnant? And not a good different? And actually 0:09:50.840 --> 0:09:53.920 this was up there with the most asked question. You 0:09:54.080 --> 0:09:58.640 definitely have more discharge, and as your pregnancy progresses, you 0:09:58.720 --> 0:10:01.120 have more and more and more of it, and it's 0:10:01.120 --> 0:10:05.080 actually a nature's way of preventing infection and of keeping 0:10:05.080 --> 0:10:09.760 your pH nicely balance. It will, however, make a mess 0:10:09.760 --> 0:10:13.080 out of your underwear, and it's it's milky like. It 0:10:13.200 --> 0:10:18.600 will smell differently, but it shouldn't smell offensive. Um, And 0:10:18.640 --> 0:10:21.959 if it does smell offensive, then you should always check 0:10:22.000 --> 0:10:25.439 with a doctor or midwife about possibility of infection. And 0:10:25.559 --> 0:10:27.440 the the other thing to keep in mind is that 0:10:27.480 --> 0:10:31.640 when you're pregnant, your sniffer is far more sensitive, so 0:10:31.800 --> 0:10:35.520 you might be smelling it more than anybody else. The 0:10:35.559 --> 0:10:39.360 most important thing to remember is nature has your back 0:10:39.600 --> 0:10:44.040 and has your business down there nicely taking care of 0:10:44.200 --> 0:10:47.840 and so you don't want to introduce anything artificial, no doucing, 0:10:48.000 --> 0:10:52.400 no sprays, no wipes, because then you will be interfering 0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:55.679 with your natural pH and and that could make you 0:10:55.720 --> 0:10:59.120 more vulnerable to infection. But that's pregnancy or not. I've 0:10:59.120 --> 0:11:01.920 always been told like not to douche even when you're 0:11:01.920 --> 0:11:06.600 not pregnant, just because let your badge be your badge. No, 0:11:06.600 --> 0:11:09.960 no douching is never a good idea, but especially especially 0:11:10.080 --> 0:11:13.640 especially when you're pregnant. So a related question, um, we 0:11:13.720 --> 0:11:16.840 had a few of these about yeast infection and if 0:11:16.880 --> 0:11:21.360 they're frequent, how do you prevent them? They are way, way, 0:11:21.440 --> 0:11:24.360 way more common during pregnancy, and some women are more 0:11:24.400 --> 0:11:28.800 prone to them than others. Always get a diagnosis, don't 0:11:28.840 --> 0:11:33.280 self treat. Even if you know the symptoms backwards and forwards, 0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:37.720 you've had tons of them in your lifetime. You should 0:11:37.800 --> 0:11:41.400 always get that diagnosis and that treatment plan from your 0:11:41.440 --> 0:11:43.960 provider when you're pregnant. Now, one of the things that 0:11:44.040 --> 0:11:48.920 sometimes helps is avoiding sugar, like excessive amounts of sugar 0:11:49.000 --> 0:11:53.720 refined grains because yeast loves to feast on those kinds 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:58.280 of foods. Right. Also, taking probiotics, they're good for all 0:11:58.320 --> 0:12:02.079 your tummy troubles, but they also can build up your 0:12:02.080 --> 0:12:05.440 troops of good bacteria and that keeps a bad bacteria 0:12:05.480 --> 0:12:08.880 away the ones that are infection causing. Also make sure 0:12:08.960 --> 0:12:14.839 you keep your underwear cotton. Yeah, another question that came 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:17.400 up with a lot of moms was being frustrated with 0:12:17.440 --> 0:12:21.800 bacterial vaginosis and wondering what's your advice on treating that. 0:12:22.320 --> 0:12:25.840 So to be clear, um, this is different from a 0:12:25.920 --> 0:12:28.520 yeast infection, and that's one of the reasons you should 0:12:28.520 --> 0:12:31.719 always have that diagnosis. When you think you have an infection. 0:12:32.240 --> 0:12:37.600 There are telltale signs. They are similar to a yeast infection, 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:43.840 but there's a often a distinctly fishy smell, so you 0:12:43.880 --> 0:12:45.640 want to look out for that. Now, that's that not 0:12:45.880 --> 0:12:49.440 every woman has symptoms with b V. Sometimes there are 0:12:49.480 --> 0:12:52.640 no symptoms at all. And something also I want to 0:12:52.640 --> 0:12:56.400 make sure everybody understands is it's not an STD. A 0:12:56.440 --> 0:12:58.640 lot of people think that it is, but it isn't. 0:12:59.000 --> 0:13:02.280 If you're a symptomatic they probably won't treat, but if 0:13:02.280 --> 0:13:07.120 you are symptomatic, you will need treatment with antibiotics, and 0:13:07.280 --> 0:13:20.760 so that why you need to go see your provider. Okay, 0:13:20.800 --> 0:13:26.520 I'm definitely going to mispronounce this. What are over very 0:13:26.640 --> 0:13:32.520 very consitist. I don't know, yes, vericasitys. So we're talking 0:13:32.559 --> 0:13:36.760 about very coast veins down there. The thing to remember 0:13:36.920 --> 0:13:39.839 is that you can get very coast veins anywhere when 0:13:39.840 --> 0:13:45.280 you're pregnant, especially in your lower body, because the blood 0:13:45.520 --> 0:13:49.440 is having a hard time circulating back up so attempts 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:51.760 to pull in your extremities. So that's why you get 0:13:51.800 --> 0:13:55.360 very clost vans in your legs. In fact, did you 0:13:55.400 --> 0:13:58.440 know that hemorrhoids are actually very coast vans of the rectum. 0:13:58.760 --> 0:14:00.880 I didn't know that. I didn't even know you could 0:14:00.880 --> 0:14:03.400 get veracospins in your vagina. This is all new to me. 0:14:03.720 --> 0:14:05.640 I actually hear this a lot. And one of the 0:14:06.320 --> 0:14:10.800 things that you might feel is like a swelling, throbbing feeling, 0:14:10.840 --> 0:14:13.720 not in a good way. Throbbing, I was going to say, 0:14:13.800 --> 0:14:15.679 because there is a lot of blood flows, so you 0:14:15.760 --> 0:14:17.880 might think, oh, I'm throbbing there all the time. And 0:14:17.960 --> 0:14:22.840 some women just are like highly sexually charged during especially 0:14:22.920 --> 0:14:25.760 during early pregnancy. From all that blood flow. But this 0:14:25.840 --> 0:14:28.080 is not in a good way. It might look a 0:14:28.120 --> 0:14:31.840 little lumpy, it might even be a little bluish but 0:14:32.040 --> 0:14:36.360 very very swollen feeling, and it's really important to to 0:14:36.440 --> 0:14:41.280 get a diagnosis and treatment. It's nothing, nothing, nothing to 0:14:41.360 --> 0:14:44.760 worry about, but it can become chronic. So there are 0:14:44.760 --> 0:14:47.920 things like an ice pack and how um sitting on 0:14:48.000 --> 0:14:52.360 a doughnut Kenny exercise you want to avoid long periods 0:14:52.360 --> 0:14:56.960 of standing or sitting. And a support garment that's designed 0:14:57.040 --> 0:15:00.760 for your paranneal area, even one for your will help 0:15:00.800 --> 0:15:03.640 support it. Elevate your legs every chance you get. That 0:15:03.680 --> 0:15:07.280 can also help with the very coast fans and your legs. 0:15:07.320 --> 0:15:09.640 Nothing to worry about, but it can be a real pain. 0:15:10.000 --> 0:15:13.560 So while we're on this vagina topic, we have so 0:15:13.600 --> 0:15:15.760 many moms I can't even tell you how many moms 0:15:16.280 --> 0:15:20.480 asking about how to identify their mucus plug. And like 0:15:20.640 --> 0:15:22.640 I'm telling you, from the history of time and community, 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:26.000 everyone post pictures of their mucus plug, like you can't. 0:15:26.000 --> 0:15:28.680 It's hard to tell, and so people want to know, like, 0:15:28.760 --> 0:15:30.560 how do I know if this is the mucus plug? 0:15:31.080 --> 0:15:34.400 I get these all the time. Emma did show me 0:15:34.520 --> 0:15:37.240 her mucus plug. I lost it in Babies Are Us 0:15:37.240 --> 0:15:41.320 while we were filming. I remember losing mine and I 0:15:41.400 --> 0:15:43.760 was all alone and I had no social media to 0:15:43.840 --> 0:15:46.400 share with. So I saw it in the toilet and 0:15:46.440 --> 0:15:48.560 I was like, what the heck is? That is that 0:15:48.600 --> 0:15:51.680 the baby is not the baby. And by the way, 0:15:51.960 --> 0:15:54.760 just in case you're getting excited, it does not mean 0:15:54.760 --> 0:15:57.680 that labor is going to be a few hours away. 0:15:57.720 --> 0:16:01.360 I lost mine three weeks before, but your body keeps 0:16:01.400 --> 0:16:04.280 producing more of that mucus. So the mucus plug is 0:16:04.600 --> 0:16:07.920 kind of like the cork that seals the cervix up 0:16:08.480 --> 0:16:11.200 um and keeps your baby nice and safe and protected. 0:16:12.240 --> 0:16:15.240 You might lose it all in one big gelatinous glob, 0:16:15.800 --> 0:16:18.720 or you might lose it, you know, smaller pieces. If 0:16:18.720 --> 0:16:21.680 you're the kind of person who who flushes and rushes, 0:16:21.720 --> 0:16:23.800 you might not notice it at all. You might see 0:16:23.800 --> 0:16:26.400 it on your underwear, you might see it on the 0:16:26.520 --> 0:16:30.400 toilet paper, but it's not likely to be bloody. It 0:16:30.480 --> 0:16:33.440 might just be a little pink tinge, but not bloody. 0:16:33.640 --> 0:16:37.720 The mucus plug is generally clear. Okay, let's turn to 0:16:37.760 --> 0:16:40.360 our favorite topic. I bet you can't guess what it 0:16:40.440 --> 0:16:44.280 is sex. Yes, let's talk about sex. So we had 0:16:44.400 --> 0:16:48.640 tons of juicy good sex questions and I want to 0:16:48.640 --> 0:16:52.760 get into those. Okay, Which stage of pregnancy is unsafe 0:16:52.800 --> 0:16:56.360 to have sex? Is it based on a level of comfort? Oh? Yeah, 0:16:56.720 --> 0:16:59.920 So if you've gotten the go ahead, then go ahead. 0:17:00.360 --> 0:17:04.040 Like comfort should be your only concern um and of 0:17:04.080 --> 0:17:07.720 course your pleasure. But if your doctor midwife has said 0:17:07.760 --> 0:17:10.399 go for it, go for it. The only time you 0:17:10.600 --> 0:17:13.720 don't want to have sex is if your water has 0:17:13.760 --> 0:17:17.280 broken just because bacteria. Right, Yeah, if there's a rupture 0:17:17.320 --> 0:17:19.240 in your membranes, you don't want to have sex. But 0:17:19.280 --> 0:17:22.080 I don't think you'd want to know that doesn't sound 0:17:22.160 --> 0:17:24.119 like a good time. I was one of the unfortunate 0:17:24.160 --> 0:17:27.400 people to have placenta previous, so like I could have 0:17:27.520 --> 0:17:30.440 sex in the beginning and at the very end where 0:17:30.480 --> 0:17:33.800 it was like no and I wanted to be having sex, 0:17:34.080 --> 0:17:37.040 but that whole second trimester it was like no, sorry, 0:17:38.119 --> 0:17:40.919 your body shop is closed. Yeah, so you were on 0:17:41.040 --> 0:17:45.840 the quote unquote pelvic rest. Yes, okay, So which positions 0:17:45.880 --> 0:17:49.560 are safest and which are best when you're feeling uncomfortable, 0:17:50.040 --> 0:17:53.600 You definitely should stay off your back after the fourth month. 0:17:53.880 --> 0:17:57.520 But I mean, honestly, whatever feels good, you should do it. 0:17:57.720 --> 0:17:59.840 You know, try it out first. You can. I always 0:18:00.080 --> 0:18:02.439 just doing a dry run with your clothes on, so 0:18:02.520 --> 0:18:05.320 there's no pressure to see if everything's gonna fit well, 0:18:06.080 --> 0:18:07.960 and you're going to find that what feels good in 0:18:08.000 --> 0:18:10.560 the first trimester is going to feel not as good 0:18:10.640 --> 0:18:14.359 later on second third trimester. Second second trimester is always 0:18:14.560 --> 0:18:19.359 best for sex because you're not yet so large. You 0:18:19.400 --> 0:18:23.360 can still fit yourself into many positions like the first trimester. 0:18:23.400 --> 0:18:26.639 The vest. Yeah, okay, sometimes it feels like my baby 0:18:26.760 --> 0:18:30.080 is getting pushed out while I'm having sex. What is happening? 0:18:30.480 --> 0:18:33.640 It does sound like she's feeling pressure, and you can 0:18:33.720 --> 0:18:37.120 feel that kind of pressure when you're having orgasm. When 0:18:37.119 --> 0:18:41.200 you're having sex, your contractions, um, you get some contractions 0:18:41.200 --> 0:18:43.159 from that, and they're not the kind of contractions that 0:18:43.240 --> 0:18:47.359 put you in labor, but your uterus does gently contract 0:18:47.600 --> 0:18:51.040 and that can make you feel more pressure. And this 0:18:51.080 --> 0:18:53.520 can happen during sex, it can happen after sex. But 0:18:54.040 --> 0:18:58.399 of course, if there's any pain, definitely definitely check with 0:18:58.400 --> 0:19:01.240 your doctor. So this is like I think, a good 0:19:01.280 --> 0:19:05.639 to no question for everyone. If I'm one centimeter dilated. 0:19:05.880 --> 0:19:09.320 Is sex safe? Yes, and that's a really good thing 0:19:09.359 --> 0:19:12.359 because you can walk around one centimeter dial Yeah. I 0:19:12.359 --> 0:19:16.080 think I was one centimeter for like months. And again, 0:19:16.119 --> 0:19:19.680 if your provider has not put any restrictions on your 0:19:19.800 --> 0:19:23.320 pelvic activities, then you can go for it and keep 0:19:23.359 --> 0:19:27.160 going for it. Um you have Heide's blessing to get 0:19:27.200 --> 0:19:30.239 it on, Get it on? Okay. Is it true that 0:19:30.320 --> 0:19:35.240 semen softens the cervix in theory? In theory because sperm 0:19:35.359 --> 0:19:39.639 contained prostaglandins, and so when you go to the hospital 0:19:39.720 --> 0:19:42.879 and they're ripening your service, they will do that with 0:19:42.920 --> 0:19:49.360 a similar yet not as natural substance. So those prostaglandins 0:19:49.520 --> 0:19:52.720 might be able to soften your cervix and help get 0:19:52.760 --> 0:19:56.680 the labor party started, but only if conditions are ripe. Okay, 0:19:56.760 --> 0:19:59.879 This one I'd never heard of. Is it true that orgasm, 0:20:00.080 --> 0:20:03.919 by the way of masturbation during labor is good. I 0:20:04.000 --> 0:20:07.960 would argue that orgasm is always good. It's a win 0:20:08.040 --> 0:20:14.040 win in theory because you release oxytocin during orgasm and 0:20:14.240 --> 0:20:17.760 that causes the uterus to contract. There could be benefits. 0:20:18.200 --> 0:20:20.639 I would also argue that many women will not be 0:20:20.720 --> 0:20:25.320 in the mood for masturbation during labor. So this is 0:20:25.359 --> 0:20:30.200 another situation where if it feels good, go forward. Yeah. 0:20:30.320 --> 0:20:32.880 I thought it was a really interesting question. Nothing I've 0:20:32.920 --> 0:20:35.520 ever heard of before. Yeah, yeah, it's really cool, and 0:20:35.640 --> 0:20:37.480 you know, good for you if you're that relaxed you 0:20:37.480 --> 0:20:52.159 want to masturbate during labor. Okay, So we have some 0:20:52.400 --> 0:20:55.359 postpartum questions as well. In Heidi, I wanted to start 0:20:55.359 --> 0:20:58.600 off with a story that another mom from your Facebook 0:20:58.640 --> 0:21:02.240 page shared. She's said after delivery, I may or may 0:21:02.280 --> 0:21:04.800 not have ran out of the bathroom crying, saying there 0:21:04.800 --> 0:21:08.360 were pieces of my placenta falling out. Nobody warned me 0:21:08.400 --> 0:21:12.960 about blood clots. Mom, was that me? Remember after I 0:21:13.000 --> 0:21:15.440 held Seby, I thought it was my whole placenta that 0:21:15.520 --> 0:21:17.280 came out at me. Mom. Remember I called you and 0:21:17.280 --> 0:21:19.000 I was crying and I was freaking out, and I 0:21:19.040 --> 0:21:20.760 like saved it and I brought it to the doctor 0:21:20.800 --> 0:21:24.720 and like a tupperware. So whoever wrote that question, you're 0:21:24.760 --> 0:21:28.800 my soul sister. I feel you. It's true. I I mean, 0:21:28.840 --> 0:21:30.720 I remember the same thing when I stood up for 0:21:30.720 --> 0:21:33.240 the first time in the hospital and all this blood 0:21:33.320 --> 0:21:36.280 was gushing out of me. But that blood and tissue 0:21:36.320 --> 0:21:40.000 was accumulated during pregnancy and it's got to exit the building. 0:21:40.200 --> 0:21:42.560 Whether you've had a vaginal delivery or you've had a 0:21:42.600 --> 0:21:46.800 C section, you will get some clots at first in 0:21:46.840 --> 0:21:50.639 the first few days. You should always check with the 0:21:50.720 --> 0:21:52.920 nurse or the doctor or the midwife if you're having 0:21:53.280 --> 0:21:56.120 really really large clots. So, Emma, that was a good 0:21:56.160 --> 0:21:59.320 idea to go show them you're o be, but say, 0:21:59.320 --> 0:22:02.840 if they're lemon size or larger, that's definitely, you know, 0:22:02.920 --> 0:22:06.040 more of a cause for concern that it's possible. That's 0:22:06.119 --> 0:22:11.200 completely normal. You know, they do examine the placenta when 0:22:11.240 --> 0:22:13.840 it's delivered to make sure there are no missing pieces, 0:22:13.880 --> 0:22:15.880 but once in a while there there are a few. 0:22:15.920 --> 0:22:18.959 But you would have signs of infection following that if 0:22:19.000 --> 0:22:21.680 you did have any retained placenta. But for the most part, 0:22:22.080 --> 0:22:25.840 placenta has come out intact, and uh, you don't have 0:22:25.880 --> 0:22:29.080 to worry. So I think every mom heading towards a 0:22:29.160 --> 0:22:34.520 vaginal delivery is concerned about this one. Are postpartum diapers 0:22:34.640 --> 0:22:39.679 for blood, urine poop, or all of the above. Yeah, 0:22:39.960 --> 0:22:43.600 it can definitely be all of the above. You've got 0:22:43.680 --> 0:22:46.600 blood for sure, as we discuss. Also keep in mind, 0:22:46.600 --> 0:22:50.679 besides all the blood that you've accumulated, UH, the placenta 0:22:50.920 --> 0:22:53.960 has separated from the uterus and that's going to cause 0:22:53.960 --> 0:22:57.679 bleeding as well. It should start tapering off. If it 0:22:57.800 --> 0:23:01.359 isn't tapering off or it's increasing, all your provider right away. 0:23:01.480 --> 0:23:04.399 Um after about two weeks, and then you'll just have 0:23:04.560 --> 0:23:09.520 lighter bleeding that gets lighter and lighter now. P You 0:23:09.680 --> 0:23:12.920 may have some control issues at first, especially if you've 0:23:12.960 --> 0:23:16.560 had a catheter because you had an epidural c section. 0:23:17.080 --> 0:23:19.760 You also have a lot of fluid to pe out 0:23:20.440 --> 0:23:24.760 uh to get rid of after you've delivered, do your keygels. 0:23:24.880 --> 0:23:27.600 If you keep leaking, see your provider and get a 0:23:27.640 --> 0:23:32.560 referral to a pelvic for physical therapist. Poop hard to 0:23:32.560 --> 0:23:35.320 pass it first, then it might get hard to contain. 0:23:35.480 --> 0:23:38.439