1 00:00:00,440 --> 00:00:05,320 Speaker 1: It's called self love for a reason, right, not man 2 00:00:05,480 --> 00:00:09,920 Speaker 1: love or we love or even partner love. We get 3 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:27,200 Speaker 1: to manage how we feel. Hey, Hurdler's Emily a Body 4 00:00:27,240 --> 00:00:30,960 Speaker 1: here bringing you another installment of Hurdle Moment from Hurdle, 5 00:00:31,360 --> 00:00:34,840 Speaker 1: a wellness focused podcast where I sit down with inspiring 6 00:00:34,880 --> 00:00:38,440 Speaker 1: individuals to talk about everything from their big wins to 7 00:00:38,479 --> 00:00:41,400 Speaker 1: how they've gotten through some of life's toughest moments. Now, 8 00:00:41,720 --> 00:00:45,199 Speaker 1: with the weekly Hurdle Moment episodes, I'm diving into the 9 00:00:45,240 --> 00:00:48,600 Speaker 1: topics that are either on my mind or the questions 10 00:00:48,680 --> 00:00:51,640 Speaker 1: coming through my dms. And you can always reach out 11 00:00:51,640 --> 00:00:54,840 Speaker 1: to me on Instagram, either over at Emily a Body 12 00:00:54,960 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 1: that's a b b ate or at Hurdle Podcast. Well, 13 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:04,000 Speaker 1: it's the week of Love, and so that's what we're 14 00:01:04,040 --> 00:01:07,000 Speaker 1: talking about. I was looking at my time hoop the 15 00:01:07,040 --> 00:01:09,640 Speaker 1: other day and I realized that the last time that 16 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:13,440 Speaker 1: I was actually in a relationship on Valentine's Day was 17 00:01:13,800 --> 00:01:17,920 Speaker 1: twenty fifteen. I came home from work. I remember it 18 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:20,280 Speaker 1: was a weeknight, and my boyfriend at the time had 19 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:26,480 Speaker 1: surprised me by making Natella dipped strawberries. He also bought 20 00:01:26,520 --> 00:01:29,200 Speaker 1: me and I wish I was joking a ladle as 21 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:33,520 Speaker 1: a gift, like the type of kitchen implement that you 22 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:38,480 Speaker 1: make pancakes with or serve sauce with. In retrospect, it 23 00:01:38,560 --> 00:01:42,319 Speaker 1: was really thoughtful because he knew that I needed said ladle, 24 00:01:42,400 --> 00:01:45,800 Speaker 1: and I wanted to buy one, But I wouldn't necessarily 25 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:48,000 Speaker 1: say that it was on the top of my things 26 00:01:48,040 --> 00:01:52,280 Speaker 1: that most women want for Valentine's Day list. I digress. 27 00:01:52,840 --> 00:01:55,040 Speaker 1: So I was sitting in my living room thinking about 28 00:01:55,040 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: my history with Valentine's Day, reading my twenty third estimated 29 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:02,680 Speaker 1: toted email of the morning referencing the Hallmark holiday, and 30 00:02:02,720 --> 00:02:07,520 Speaker 1: realize that, well, it's bs because none of these emails, 31 00:02:07,720 --> 00:02:10,800 Speaker 1: or my dating history or anything else, none of that 32 00:02:10,840 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 1: gets to shape how I feel about myself this week. 33 00:02:14,440 --> 00:02:19,320 Speaker 1: It's called self love for a reason, right, not man 34 00:02:19,480 --> 00:02:23,959 Speaker 1: love or we love or even partner love. We get 35 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:28,359 Speaker 1: to manage how we feel. And although other people are 36 00:02:28,480 --> 00:02:31,760 Speaker 1: targeted marketing emails may tug at her heartstrings every now 37 00:02:31,760 --> 00:02:35,400 Speaker 1: and again, it is just so valuable when you realize 38 00:02:35,560 --> 00:02:41,400 Speaker 1: how powerful it is to have that control. So today 39 00:02:41,520 --> 00:02:44,320 Speaker 1: I am reading you a love letter that I should 40 00:02:44,360 --> 00:02:48,880 Speaker 1: have written a long long time ago, the one that 41 00:02:48,919 --> 00:02:52,640 Speaker 1: I really deserve this week, and when you're done listening 42 00:02:52,680 --> 00:02:56,160 Speaker 1: to today's episode, I would love it so much if 43 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:58,519 Speaker 1: you head on over to the Hurdle Instagram and click 44 00:02:58,760 --> 00:03:01,399 Speaker 1: into the stories to get a template that you yourself 45 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:04,720 Speaker 1: can fill out too. I'd love to know what it 46 00:03:04,760 --> 00:03:08,119 Speaker 1: is that you love about yourself, whether you are singled 47 00:03:08,280 --> 00:03:12,480 Speaker 1: or attached, whatever the case may be. Regardless of your status, 48 00:03:12,639 --> 00:03:16,919 Speaker 1: we all deserve some compassion. Now, before I get into it, 49 00:03:17,120 --> 00:03:19,200 Speaker 1: I want to take a moment to give some love 50 00:03:19,400 --> 00:03:23,119 Speaker 1: to my sponsor at Beam. I went to Miami last 51 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:25,720 Speaker 1: weekend to run the Miami Half Marathon and there are 52 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:28,240 Speaker 1: a few things I knew that I could not leave 53 00:03:28,280 --> 00:03:33,400 Speaker 1: home without, one of them being Beam's Fixer salve. 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Last year, around this time of 74 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:49,360 Speaker 1: sitting around a small table with a group of women 75 00:04:49,440 --> 00:04:52,320 Speaker 1: on a work trip in a Biza and we were 76 00:04:52,440 --> 00:04:57,120 Speaker 1: asked to write ourselves a letter. In the letter, we 77 00:04:57,160 --> 00:05:00,679 Speaker 1: could say anything we wanted. It was a safe space. 78 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:05,880 Speaker 1: It was our opportunity to get something out. And so 79 00:05:05,960 --> 00:05:10,800 Speaker 1: I started writing. And when I was done, I was 80 00:05:11,880 --> 00:05:17,560 Speaker 1: beside myself because I realized that I took that opportunity 81 00:05:17,920 --> 00:05:23,480 Speaker 1: to be a downer. I got honest, and in getting honest, 82 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:28,800 Speaker 1: I realized that my negative self talk was had what 83 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:33,440 Speaker 1: felt like, at the moment, an all time high. I 84 00:05:33,480 --> 00:05:35,880 Speaker 1: remember that time I was struggling a lot. I was 85 00:05:35,920 --> 00:05:40,000 Speaker 1: struggling with my self image. I had gained some weight, 86 00:05:40,040 --> 00:05:42,679 Speaker 1: and I felt as though I was spiraling out of control, 87 00:05:42,720 --> 00:05:45,640 Speaker 1: that I couldn't get it under control, that my emotions, 88 00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:49,640 Speaker 1: my feelings, they were all over the place. After reading 89 00:05:49,680 --> 00:05:52,880 Speaker 1: that letter to myself in my room later that day, 90 00:05:53,279 --> 00:05:56,320 Speaker 1: I promised myself that I would shift the dialogue, that 91 00:05:56,440 --> 00:05:58,960 Speaker 1: I would make a change. And since then, about a 92 00:05:59,040 --> 00:06:03,400 Speaker 1: year ago, I have done so much work. I've talked 93 00:06:03,400 --> 00:06:06,440 Speaker 1: through a lot of those negative feelings often here on 94 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:09,599 Speaker 1: the podcast, and they've been so well received and to 95 00:06:09,720 --> 00:06:13,600 Speaker 1: you all, I am so grateful for that. I am 96 00:06:13,720 --> 00:06:17,360 Speaker 1: here to take my power back and hopefully inspire you 97 00:06:17,760 --> 00:06:22,000 Speaker 1: to do the same as well. I am here to 98 00:06:22,160 --> 00:06:25,240 Speaker 1: write a love letter. Like I said in that intro, 99 00:06:25,600 --> 00:06:27,839 Speaker 1: I'd love for you to chime in on this as well, 100 00:06:27,839 --> 00:06:30,960 Speaker 1: because I think that it's really a beautiful exercise that 101 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:35,200 Speaker 1: we can share and no matter what your relationship status is, again, 102 00:06:35,520 --> 00:06:43,400 Speaker 1: we are all worthy of self love. So here it goes, Haym. 103 00:06:44,440 --> 00:06:47,080 Speaker 1: I'm proud of you. I know, I don't tell you 104 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:50,920 Speaker 1: that often enough, and it's a hard thing, right, stopping 105 00:06:50,960 --> 00:06:55,160 Speaker 1: to take the time to show your appreciation. I get it. 106 00:06:55,920 --> 00:06:59,919 Speaker 1: You're busy, Okay, okay, you're not just busy your product. 107 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:04,640 Speaker 1: You're always thinking about what has to happen next, even 108 00:07:04,760 --> 00:07:09,160 Speaker 1: when you're taking the time to just chill out. And yeah, 109 00:07:09,520 --> 00:07:12,239 Speaker 1: some people might see that as some sort of character flaw, 110 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:14,760 Speaker 1: but I want to tell you that I think it's 111 00:07:14,800 --> 00:07:20,800 Speaker 1: pretty impressive. I'm impressed with how motivated you are, how 112 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:24,720 Speaker 1: stubborn you can be about your goals. But I need 113 00:07:24,760 --> 00:07:28,560 Speaker 1: you to do this one thing. I need you to 114 00:07:28,640 --> 00:07:31,800 Speaker 1: make sure that you stop to recognize the good things 115 00:07:31,840 --> 00:07:37,480 Speaker 1: as they happen, because there is so much good happening 116 00:07:38,240 --> 00:07:41,240 Speaker 1: right now. If you pause and look at your life, 117 00:07:41,280 --> 00:07:43,840 Speaker 1: you might not even realize just how many things you 118 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:47,680 Speaker 1: have right at this very moment that you wish you 119 00:07:47,840 --> 00:07:50,880 Speaker 1: had not all that long ago, in the days after 120 00:07:50,960 --> 00:07:56,280 Speaker 1: those big victories, the large crowds, the iTunes charts, the 121 00:07:56,400 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 1: articles that go viral. I want you, instead of thinking 122 00:08:00,520 --> 00:08:04,440 Speaker 1: of the moments afterward as downers, to accept that sometimes 123 00:08:04,480 --> 00:08:07,840 Speaker 1: there's going to be a little bit of mediocrity. I 124 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:11,840 Speaker 1: know you're working on it. I'm proud of you. I'm 125 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:14,760 Speaker 1: in love with how hard you've worked to shift the 126 00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:17,720 Speaker 1: negative dialogue in your head when it comes to your body. 127 00:08:18,800 --> 00:08:21,160 Speaker 1: Just as hard as it was to lose those seventy 128 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:24,640 Speaker 1: pounds more than ten years ago. The same goes for 129 00:08:24,680 --> 00:08:29,280 Speaker 1: the way that we speak to ourselves. Body acceptance doesn't 130 00:08:29,400 --> 00:08:33,360 Speaker 1: just happen overnight. There is nothing wrong with you, because 131 00:08:33,360 --> 00:08:37,680 Speaker 1: that is something that you still struggle with. I remember, man, 132 00:08:37,800 --> 00:08:40,439 Speaker 1: the days that you wouldn't wear a bathing suit at 133 00:08:40,440 --> 00:08:43,320 Speaker 1: the beach. Just last week, you wore one every day 134 00:08:43,400 --> 00:08:47,760 Speaker 1: for four days straight. Do you recognize the journey there? 135 00:08:48,880 --> 00:08:52,920 Speaker 1: I want you to recognize just how much progress that is. 136 00:08:53,640 --> 00:08:55,920 Speaker 1: I want you to know how special it is that 137 00:08:55,960 --> 00:08:59,480 Speaker 1: you are finally starting to feel at home in your 138 00:08:59,520 --> 00:09:04,560 Speaker 1: own body, a feeling that we all deserve. Let's talk 139 00:09:04,600 --> 00:09:09,520 Speaker 1: about that body. Yeah. Your strong legs, the legs that 140 00:09:09,600 --> 00:09:14,480 Speaker 1: have carried you across eight different marathon finish lines that 141 00:09:14,520 --> 00:09:17,080 Speaker 1: have helped you get from New York to Los Angeles, 142 00:09:17,160 --> 00:09:20,880 Speaker 1: to London to Hong Kong in search for stories solidified 143 00:09:20,920 --> 00:09:26,520 Speaker 1: in sweat, stories that you can share, stories that help people. 144 00:09:27,559 --> 00:09:30,680 Speaker 1: I love you for embracing them, the cellulate and the 145 00:09:30,760 --> 00:09:35,120 Speaker 1: quote unquote imperfections and all. I love you for recognizing 146 00:09:35,280 --> 00:09:37,880 Speaker 1: just how special it is that you have the opportunity 147 00:09:38,200 --> 00:09:41,480 Speaker 1: to chase your dreams just as fast as those legs 148 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:44,960 Speaker 1: can carry you. I know you still feel like that 149 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:48,199 Speaker 1: girl sometimes, that girl who couldn't run more than a 150 00:09:48,280 --> 00:09:52,280 Speaker 1: half mile without stopping. But I want you to embrace 151 00:09:52,360 --> 00:09:57,200 Speaker 1: that you aren't her anymore. You are capable of so 152 00:09:57,880 --> 00:10:03,040 Speaker 1: much more, not just faster times, but bigger goals. You 153 00:10:03,080 --> 00:10:06,320 Speaker 1: know that ultra marathon you dream about doing. I want 154 00:10:06,360 --> 00:10:09,120 Speaker 1: you to know that you can do it. Just like 155 00:10:09,280 --> 00:10:12,319 Speaker 1: anything else in your life, it is time to stop 156 00:10:12,520 --> 00:10:16,760 Speaker 1: procrastinating the stuff that scares you. When you get to 157 00:10:16,800 --> 00:10:19,520 Speaker 1: that moment, when you get that hurdle and you're stuck 158 00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:23,120 Speaker 1: at a crossroads, wondering why you feel as though you can't, 159 00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:26,480 Speaker 1: I want you to go back to your why. I 160 00:10:26,559 --> 00:10:29,080 Speaker 1: want you to remember that no one can take that 161 00:10:29,240 --> 00:10:32,480 Speaker 1: why from you. I want you to remember that you 162 00:10:32,920 --> 00:10:36,280 Speaker 1: can make it happen. You know, the other day, when 163 00:10:36,320 --> 00:10:39,120 Speaker 1: you were cleaning near the bedroom mirror and you notice 164 00:10:39,120 --> 00:10:42,280 Speaker 1: the stretch marks on your hips and your waist, you 165 00:10:42,360 --> 00:10:44,240 Speaker 1: realize that you hadn't looked at them in a while. 166 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:48,840 Speaker 1: I love you for thinking about how special they are 167 00:10:48,960 --> 00:10:53,520 Speaker 1: instead of letting the negative talk spiral. I love you 168 00:10:53,640 --> 00:10:57,520 Speaker 1: for recognizing that they tell a story of where you've 169 00:10:57,559 --> 00:11:01,360 Speaker 1: been and also where you're going, a story that so 170 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:05,720 Speaker 1: many women and men everywhere they can truly relate to. 171 00:11:06,679 --> 00:11:08,320 Speaker 1: I'm in love with the way that you show up 172 00:11:08,320 --> 00:11:14,320 Speaker 1: for others. Your compassion is awesome. It's contagious. I'm proud 173 00:11:14,360 --> 00:11:17,360 Speaker 1: of you forgetting to a place where you understand that 174 00:11:17,520 --> 00:11:20,200 Speaker 1: just because the people around you are happy, because you're 175 00:11:20,200 --> 00:11:24,520 Speaker 1: making other people happy, that doesn't mean that you're gonna 176 00:11:24,559 --> 00:11:30,600 Speaker 1: automatically be happy to You deserve to be happy. So 177 00:11:30,720 --> 00:11:32,680 Speaker 1: I want you to promise me this. I want you 178 00:11:32,720 --> 00:11:35,720 Speaker 1: to always make time to do the things on the 179 00:11:35,760 --> 00:11:38,240 Speaker 1: list that you wrote last year, the list that you 180 00:11:38,280 --> 00:11:40,839 Speaker 1: wrote in the small coffee shop on the next block 181 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:43,560 Speaker 1: that details the things in life, the simple things that 182 00:11:43,640 --> 00:11:47,000 Speaker 1: bring you joy. Running before the rest of the city 183 00:11:47,040 --> 00:11:50,840 Speaker 1: wakes up, taking time to decompress at home after a 184 00:11:50,880 --> 00:11:55,160 Speaker 1: long day, drinking barolo at barb Primi, planning a trip. 185 00:11:55,240 --> 00:11:59,560 Speaker 1: The list is important because your happiness is important. The 186 00:11:59,679 --> 00:12:03,800 Speaker 1: list of things they make you feel home again. It 187 00:12:03,880 --> 00:12:07,120 Speaker 1: is so easy to be your own biggest critic. It 188 00:12:07,200 --> 00:12:10,280 Speaker 1: is so easy to feel overwhelmed. But what I want 189 00:12:10,320 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 1: for you more than anything during this week of love 190 00:12:12,960 --> 00:12:16,760 Speaker 1: is to understand that you are so so worthy. And again, 191 00:12:17,000 --> 00:12:22,440 Speaker 1: no one gets to take that from you. No relationship, friend, boss, partner, 192 00:12:22,720 --> 00:12:26,880 Speaker 1: ex boyfriend, girlfriend, neighbor, no one. So what if it 193 00:12:26,880 --> 00:12:29,360 Speaker 1: didn't work out, So what if you had to part 194 00:12:29,400 --> 00:12:32,679 Speaker 1: separate ways. You are stronger than the words or the 195 00:12:32,760 --> 00:12:36,240 Speaker 1: actions that have disappointed you in the past. And I'll 196 00:12:36,320 --> 00:12:38,840 Speaker 1: let you in on a little secret. If it doesn't happen, 197 00:12:38,880 --> 00:12:42,160 Speaker 1: then it's not meant to be. You are exactly who 198 00:12:42,240 --> 00:12:45,720 Speaker 1: you are supposed to be. You are exactly where you're 199 00:12:45,720 --> 00:12:50,520 Speaker 1: supposed to be. I love you, I am so so 200 00:12:50,760 --> 00:12:55,800 Speaker 1: proud of you, and you're doing great. Keep hurdling, another 201 00:12:55,840 --> 00:12:58,960 Speaker 1: hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.