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In her Space. 12 00:00:37,560 --> 00:00:43,680 Speaker 1: And just realizing how helpful taking that moment to breathe 13 00:00:43,800 --> 00:00:49,400 Speaker 1: in and out can really help you to recenter yourself 14 00:00:49,640 --> 00:00:54,640 Speaker 1: and release a lot of that pencilp frustration. And I 15 00:00:54,680 --> 00:00:57,200 Speaker 1: think that sometimes using that breathing technique, even in a 16 00:00:57,240 --> 00:00:59,840 Speaker 1: moment when you're not frustrated or you may have been 17 00:00:59,840 --> 00:01:04,120 Speaker 1: holding on to some things, can actually be helpful as well. 18 00:01:05,480 --> 00:01:09,080 Speaker 2: Today's episode is sure to provide you with motivation, inspiration, 19 00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:13,360 Speaker 2: or even a fresh perspective. 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We 56 00:03:23,040 --> 00:03:27,160 Speaker 2: are airing our first ever live zoom recorded episode and 57 00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:29,840 Speaker 2: so you will hear feedback from other ladies that are 58 00:03:29,840 --> 00:03:31,840 Speaker 2: in her Space. So we hope you enjoy, and we 59 00:03:31,880 --> 00:03:33,760 Speaker 2: hope that you click the link on our Instagram bio 60 00:03:33,880 --> 00:03:36,440 Speaker 2: at her Space podcast so that you can tune in 61 00:03:36,520 --> 00:03:38,480 Speaker 2: to our next episode. Enjoy. 62 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 1: Our topic for today is how to deal with frustration 63 00:03:44,000 --> 00:03:48,720 Speaker 1: when technology won't let you be great? And so I 64 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:53,280 Speaker 1: am going to reiterate our quote of the day, and 65 00:03:53,320 --> 00:03:56,200 Speaker 1: then Terry and I are going to dive in. So 66 00:03:56,280 --> 00:03:59,960 Speaker 1: our quote of the day is when women affirm women, 67 00:04:00,480 --> 00:04:05,080 Speaker 1: it unlocks our power. It gives us permission to shine brighter. 68 00:04:06,120 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 1: And that quote comes to us from Elaine Welter Ross, 69 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:13,760 Speaker 1: who is the former editor in chief of teen Vogue. 70 00:04:14,360 --> 00:04:17,760 Speaker 1: All Right, team, So. 71 00:04:16,800 --> 00:04:22,840 Speaker 3: That quote doesn't necessarily tie into the title when you 72 00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:27,320 Speaker 3: hear it right off the bat, right, But what comes 73 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:31,000 Speaker 3: up for you when you think about like how as 74 00:04:31,080 --> 00:04:35,440 Speaker 3: women we can when we affirm one another, we can 75 00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:37,320 Speaker 3: shine brighter in times of frustration. 76 00:04:38,480 --> 00:04:41,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, so I think that's a loaded That's a loaded question. 77 00:04:41,240 --> 00:04:42,960 Speaker 2: I love that quote too, by the way, I feel 78 00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:45,920 Speaker 2: like they're I don't know, I feel like in my experience, 79 00:04:45,960 --> 00:04:48,440 Speaker 2: you know, being raised like in the Black Church and 80 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:51,440 Speaker 2: just having a lot of strong black women around me, 81 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:55,120 Speaker 2: I feel like there are just so many instances when 82 00:04:55,800 --> 00:04:58,480 Speaker 2: I've been alone with other Black women and it's just 83 00:04:58,520 --> 00:05:01,640 Speaker 2: like a magic that just just consumes the space, you 84 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:04,040 Speaker 2: know what I mean. I'm talking about their positive spaces, right, 85 00:05:04,480 --> 00:05:06,679 Speaker 2: and whether it's like the hair salon and we're having 86 00:05:06,760 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 2: deep conversation and catching up on what's going on. Whether 87 00:05:10,400 --> 00:05:12,479 Speaker 2: we're just having like a women's group, usually there are 88 00:05:12,520 --> 00:05:15,800 Speaker 2: tears and tissues, and there's usually like some type of 89 00:05:15,839 --> 00:05:18,080 Speaker 2: positive vibe. And I feel like, when I think about 90 00:05:18,080 --> 00:05:21,599 Speaker 2: my journey in different situations where maybe I didn't have 91 00:05:21,680 --> 00:05:24,120 Speaker 2: enough confidence to you know, go out and pursue a 92 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:26,400 Speaker 2: goal or to do something. When I saw another black 93 00:05:26,400 --> 00:05:29,320 Speaker 2: woman doing it, it inspired me and made me think, Okay, 94 00:05:29,760 --> 00:05:31,280 Speaker 2: if she can do it, then I can do it too, 95 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:32,640 Speaker 2: And it kind of gave me that strength. And so 96 00:05:32,680 --> 00:05:34,720 Speaker 2: I think that when we come together, I mean, when 97 00:05:34,720 --> 00:05:37,359 Speaker 2: black people in general come together, it's so powerful and 98 00:05:37,480 --> 00:05:39,919 Speaker 2: we know that vibe our predicament in this country, like 99 00:05:39,960 --> 00:05:41,800 Speaker 2: they just I mean you ever, I don't know that 100 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:43,400 Speaker 2: I was at this event. I think me and my 101 00:05:43,480 --> 00:05:45,359 Speaker 2: husband we went to go see anyone listened to the 102 00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:46,200 Speaker 2: Read podcast. 103 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:48,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, I haven't listened to it in a while, but 104 00:05:48,520 --> 00:05:49,880 Speaker 1: yes I haven't. 105 00:05:49,920 --> 00:05:51,760 Speaker 2: I don't really listen to podcasts that much since we 106 00:05:51,920 --> 00:05:54,160 Speaker 2: started our podcast because I'm always like super busy and 107 00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:56,560 Speaker 2: the super focused. But we used to listen to the 108 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:58,159 Speaker 2: Read faithfully and we went to one of the live 109 00:05:58,200 --> 00:06:00,360 Speaker 2: recordings and it was I mean, they had a GM 110 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:03,279 Speaker 2: packed house, and I remember us standing outside. It was 111 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:05,880 Speaker 2: just a long line of black people in San Francisco 112 00:06:05,920 --> 00:06:07,880 Speaker 2: when they came here, just long line of black people. 113 00:06:07,880 --> 00:06:10,280 Speaker 2: And I remember people driving by looking like, what's the 114 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:12,640 Speaker 2: black people up to? It's just like we've drawn so 115 00:06:12,720 --> 00:06:14,800 Speaker 2: much attention when we come together, like people always like 116 00:06:14,839 --> 00:06:16,320 Speaker 2: what they up to, what they doing, because it's just 117 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:18,760 Speaker 2: we have so much power. And so I think about 118 00:06:19,160 --> 00:06:22,200 Speaker 2: how yes the read, Viva asked us to repeat the 119 00:06:22,200 --> 00:06:27,520 Speaker 2: podcast name the Read with Crystal and Kid Fury, and 120 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:31,320 Speaker 2: so I written reminded that when we come together and 121 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:34,720 Speaker 2: we encourage one another, it does have the ability to 122 00:06:34,760 --> 00:06:38,440 Speaker 2: unlock the power within all of us. What about you comes. 123 00:06:38,320 --> 00:06:41,560 Speaker 1: Up for definitely. So I think one of the things 124 00:06:41,560 --> 00:06:43,760 Speaker 1: that comes up for me is one of the comments 125 00:06:43,800 --> 00:06:46,360 Speaker 1: that like Audrey put on the side here in our 126 00:06:46,440 --> 00:06:48,440 Speaker 1: chat that says, it's so easy for women to seek 127 00:06:48,520 --> 00:06:51,919 Speaker 1: validation because we're taught to be accommodating to others. So 128 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:55,719 Speaker 1: when other women give us it's uplifting or showing us 129 00:06:55,760 --> 00:06:57,920 Speaker 1: what we're capable of, it takes some of the weight off. 130 00:06:58,600 --> 00:07:01,160 Speaker 1: And so for me, what comes up with that is 131 00:07:01,279 --> 00:07:06,039 Speaker 1: just that general power of what it really means to 132 00:07:06,800 --> 00:07:11,160 Speaker 1: have one another's back, right. Oftentimes we are in spaces 133 00:07:11,200 --> 00:07:15,160 Speaker 1: where we may be the only one or one of 134 00:07:15,200 --> 00:07:20,720 Speaker 1: a few, and that's a lot of stress, like daily 135 00:07:20,840 --> 00:07:23,720 Speaker 1: stress and trauma that is placed on us. And so 136 00:07:24,920 --> 00:07:28,520 Speaker 1: when we are around one another and we actually are 137 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:31,960 Speaker 1: trying to affirm and uplift and support one another, that 138 00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:36,040 Speaker 1: feeling is just like so amazing. And it's like that 139 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:40,720 Speaker 1: thing that phrased iron sharpens iron, where when you are 140 00:07:40,800 --> 00:07:43,920 Speaker 1: around people who truly believe in you, who are truly 141 00:07:43,960 --> 00:07:47,760 Speaker 1: affirming you, and sometimes just their mere presence just knowing 142 00:07:48,160 --> 00:07:51,200 Speaker 1: that there is another black woman there in that space 143 00:07:51,280 --> 00:07:56,040 Speaker 1: with you can inspire you to like do better, right, 144 00:07:57,160 --> 00:08:02,360 Speaker 1: And it also in time oftentimes can make you feel 145 00:08:02,840 --> 00:08:07,560 Speaker 1: less stressed in an otherwise really stressful situation. 146 00:08:08,280 --> 00:08:10,440 Speaker 2: Yes, at a spot on Don and Don, you've probably 147 00:08:10,480 --> 00:08:13,360 Speaker 2: had experiences like this too. But I remember when I 148 00:08:13,440 --> 00:08:15,280 Speaker 2: was working with a tech company that I work at. 149 00:08:15,600 --> 00:08:17,600 Speaker 2: I had just started there and I was still in 150 00:08:17,640 --> 00:08:19,480 Speaker 2: this like just going to find myself in the company. 151 00:08:19,480 --> 00:08:22,760 Speaker 2: I was dealing with imposter syndrome because I was oftentimes 152 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:25,560 Speaker 2: the only black woman and also the only black person 153 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:27,960 Speaker 2: in certain rooms, and so it took me a couple 154 00:08:28,000 --> 00:08:29,920 Speaker 2: of years to kind of feel more comfortable being in 155 00:08:29,920 --> 00:08:31,720 Speaker 2: that space and feeling like I deserve to be here. 156 00:08:31,760 --> 00:08:34,240 Speaker 2: You know, I'm public school educated, and I was in 157 00:08:34,280 --> 00:08:36,080 Speaker 2: the room with a lot of Ivy League, you know, 158 00:08:36,240 --> 00:08:39,160 Speaker 2: educated people. I was insecure about that, but now I'm like, 159 00:08:39,400 --> 00:08:41,160 Speaker 2: you know, this makes my story more interesting because I 160 00:08:41,160 --> 00:08:42,800 Speaker 2: got here too. You done paid all the money to 161 00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:45,640 Speaker 2: go to these schools. I'm still here and I'm still 162 00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:47,880 Speaker 2: facilitating meetings and stuff like that. So I have a 163 00:08:47,880 --> 00:08:49,679 Speaker 2: lot more confidence now. But one thing that was so 164 00:08:49,720 --> 00:08:52,360 Speaker 2: powerful for me there were two black people that had 165 00:08:52,400 --> 00:08:55,520 Speaker 2: started at the company, and usually we're still diversity is 166 00:08:55,559 --> 00:08:57,240 Speaker 2: important for the company, and I see that they are 167 00:08:57,400 --> 00:09:00,439 Speaker 2: taking the initiative to you know, get more people and 168 00:09:00,480 --> 00:09:02,560 Speaker 2: people of color there, but we're still it's still work 169 00:09:02,600 --> 00:09:05,040 Speaker 2: in progress. And so I remember when this one black 170 00:09:05,080 --> 00:09:07,960 Speaker 2: woman started and I was doing her onboarding session and 171 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:10,400 Speaker 2: she had said to me after She's like, in my career, 172 00:09:11,080 --> 00:09:13,480 Speaker 2: this is the first time a black woman has facilitated 173 00:09:13,559 --> 00:09:16,000 Speaker 2: a meeting, and I was just like, what, Like that 174 00:09:16,160 --> 00:09:18,440 Speaker 2: just blew my mind. I felt honored because I got 175 00:09:18,440 --> 00:09:20,120 Speaker 2: to be that person for her, But I was like, 176 00:09:20,360 --> 00:09:23,600 Speaker 2: that's ridiculous, like we need more of us in leadership spaces. 177 00:09:23,640 --> 00:09:25,200 Speaker 2: And then there was a black guy that started and 178 00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:27,080 Speaker 2: he was like, you know, when I first started here 179 00:09:27,280 --> 00:09:28,760 Speaker 2: and I realized we were sitting next to each other, 180 00:09:28,760 --> 00:09:30,080 Speaker 2: and I was sitting next to a sister, and then 181 00:09:30,120 --> 00:09:32,040 Speaker 2: there was another sister down the aisle. I was like, 182 00:09:32,240 --> 00:09:34,160 Speaker 2: that meant a lot to me. And I think sometimes 183 00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:38,920 Speaker 2: people don't understand that it's so important to see representation. 184 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:41,559 Speaker 2: And I think when you are the majority, you just 185 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:43,640 Speaker 2: don't understand what it's like to walk into a room 186 00:09:43,679 --> 00:09:45,880 Speaker 2: and not see anyone that looks like you like I would. 187 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:49,280 Speaker 2: For I know, we have people that are different races 188 00:09:49,320 --> 00:09:51,559 Speaker 2: that listen to the podcast, but if you've never been 189 00:09:51,559 --> 00:09:54,520 Speaker 2: in a situation where you're the only you should try 190 00:09:54,520 --> 00:09:56,640 Speaker 2: to embrace it, Like go into situations where you are 191 00:09:56,679 --> 00:09:58,240 Speaker 2: to see how it feels so you can understand what 192 00:09:58,240 --> 00:09:59,080 Speaker 2: our daily life is. 193 00:09:59,120 --> 00:09:59,200 Speaker 4: Like. 194 00:09:59,440 --> 00:10:01,480 Speaker 2: I had an age friend who he had attendent Black 195 00:10:01,520 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 2: Conference Afrotech and he was like, I went and it 196 00:10:05,080 --> 00:10:07,880 Speaker 2: was so interesting and I'm like yeah, He's like yeah, 197 00:10:07,920 --> 00:10:10,160 Speaker 2: I was like the only one there. I'm like, yeah, 198 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:12,600 Speaker 2: that's how we feel every day, every day, and it 199 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:14,880 Speaker 2: does something to your psyche, like it does something to 200 00:10:14,920 --> 00:10:17,040 Speaker 2: how you show up when you are the only one. 201 00:10:17,080 --> 00:10:20,400 Speaker 2: So yeah, it's really important for us to be together 202 00:10:20,480 --> 00:10:22,000 Speaker 2: support one another. And I just want to read some 203 00:10:22,080 --> 00:10:23,000 Speaker 2: of the we got. 204 00:10:22,880 --> 00:10:24,960 Speaker 1: Some live feedback into the live episodes. 205 00:10:25,000 --> 00:10:27,160 Speaker 2: So let's see. We have ta Mari sayd that she agrees, 206 00:10:27,720 --> 00:10:31,280 Speaker 2: mm hmm. We make each other better. Yes, that's so true, 207 00:10:31,320 --> 00:10:34,080 Speaker 2: and it works both ways, so right, we can make 208 00:10:34,120 --> 00:10:35,880 Speaker 2: each other better. But if we're going into a space 209 00:10:35,880 --> 00:10:38,160 Speaker 2: and we haven't dealt with our stuff, and now we're 210 00:10:38,160 --> 00:10:39,880 Speaker 2: going into the room and we see a sister walking 211 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:41,280 Speaker 2: by and we're like, oh, she thinks she all that 212 00:10:41,640 --> 00:10:43,920 Speaker 2: she got her, you know, she got her her hair 213 00:10:43,960 --> 00:10:45,440 Speaker 2: is down her back or she got them heels on. 214 00:10:45,480 --> 00:10:47,320 Speaker 2: She When we do that kind of thing, then it 215 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:49,720 Speaker 2: also tears you know, one another down. So we really 216 00:10:49,720 --> 00:10:51,640 Speaker 2: have to be mindful by our energy. And I realized 217 00:10:51,640 --> 00:10:54,920 Speaker 2: that when I find that I'm in situations where I 218 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:57,160 Speaker 2: may feel at the right end or I felt, you know, 219 00:10:57,440 --> 00:10:59,880 Speaker 2: envious of someone, it's all about me, Like I've had 220 00:10:59,880 --> 00:11:01,840 Speaker 2: to work on my stuff and it's really not about 221 00:11:01,840 --> 00:11:04,440 Speaker 2: the person that I'm engaging with. And the other key 222 00:11:04,480 --> 00:11:06,280 Speaker 2: backs that you see, that's good to share here down. 223 00:11:06,640 --> 00:11:09,520 Speaker 1: Yes, I think so. Stephanie make the comment of like 224 00:11:10,040 --> 00:11:14,040 Speaker 1: the love and hip hop society of basically just this competition, 225 00:11:14,760 --> 00:11:19,599 Speaker 1: and I think that a lot of that is intentional 226 00:11:19,880 --> 00:11:24,200 Speaker 1: in terms of like maintaining white supremacy, right that if 227 00:11:24,360 --> 00:11:30,040 Speaker 1: we don't get along, if we're not united, then how 228 00:11:30,120 --> 00:11:36,120 Speaker 1: can they win? Right, And what helps what keeps us 229 00:11:36,120 --> 00:11:40,880 Speaker 1: from being united is this competition amongst us, right that 230 00:11:41,360 --> 00:11:45,200 Speaker 1: crabs in a barrel mentality of we have to tear 231 00:11:45,280 --> 00:11:49,280 Speaker 1: one another down to get to the top, when in reality, 232 00:11:50,120 --> 00:11:54,679 Speaker 1: if one of us wins, then we all win. And 233 00:11:54,760 --> 00:11:57,920 Speaker 1: when one of us wins, we should be helping one 234 00:11:57,920 --> 00:12:01,959 Speaker 1: another pull everyone else up as well so that we 235 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:05,160 Speaker 1: truly all could win. Because then it goes back to 236 00:12:05,200 --> 00:12:09,240 Speaker 1: what I was saying about iron sharpens iron, and when 237 00:12:09,320 --> 00:12:11,840 Speaker 1: one of us is doing well and we're helping those 238 00:12:11,880 --> 00:12:16,120 Speaker 1: around us do well, then all that does is benefit 239 00:12:16,160 --> 00:12:19,320 Speaker 1: the greater good. And so for me, it's more it's 240 00:12:19,360 --> 00:12:25,920 Speaker 1: about really finding ways to help other people around me, 241 00:12:26,160 --> 00:12:30,679 Speaker 1: especially because you know, I'm in a position where I 242 00:12:30,840 --> 00:12:33,920 Speaker 1: can do that, and so I want to be aware 243 00:12:35,040 --> 00:12:39,000 Speaker 1: and acknowledge that not everybody's in that position. So I 244 00:12:39,040 --> 00:12:43,560 Speaker 1: think of one of our participants right now, Audrey, who's nineteen, 245 00:12:44,600 --> 00:12:48,160 Speaker 1: You at nineteen might not be in the same position 246 00:12:48,240 --> 00:12:51,440 Speaker 1: as one of us who's over forty right and has 247 00:12:51,520 --> 00:12:55,559 Speaker 1: had a longer career, And so to me, the expectation 248 00:12:56,120 --> 00:12:59,240 Speaker 1: is that that person who's over forty should be reaching 249 00:12:59,320 --> 00:13:03,200 Speaker 1: back to figure out how to help you get to 250 00:13:03,240 --> 00:13:08,199 Speaker 1: where she is right and be willing to as she's 251 00:13:08,320 --> 00:13:12,800 Speaker 1: helping you, get help from you because there are new 252 00:13:12,840 --> 00:13:15,559 Speaker 1: things that you were exposed to, that you were learning 253 00:13:15,840 --> 00:13:19,760 Speaker 1: that can uplift her. And so to me, it really 254 00:13:19,880 --> 00:13:25,199 Speaker 1: is about figuring out how we can all use our 255 00:13:25,280 --> 00:13:27,520 Speaker 1: strengths to help one another out. 256 00:13:29,160 --> 00:13:30,760 Speaker 2: I could have said it better. I see going doing 257 00:13:30,840 --> 00:13:33,560 Speaker 2: over there like a shay, yes okay, like she is 258 00:13:33,600 --> 00:13:38,320 Speaker 2: like preach okay, I see you girl. I love it. 259 00:13:38,360 --> 00:13:40,200 Speaker 2: And that is so true. I mean, I think that 260 00:13:40,280 --> 00:13:42,280 Speaker 2: at every stage of our journey, we can always reach 261 00:13:42,360 --> 00:13:44,480 Speaker 2: back and help the next person. And I mean people 262 00:13:44,520 --> 00:13:46,920 Speaker 2: did it for us down I think about a long 263 00:13:47,080 --> 00:13:49,720 Speaker 2: and challenging and difficult journey I had, and even along 264 00:13:49,720 --> 00:13:52,080 Speaker 2: that journey, there were mentors that were helping me. There 265 00:13:52,120 --> 00:13:54,120 Speaker 2: were other black women and black men that were helping me. 266 00:13:54,240 --> 00:13:56,240 Speaker 2: There were people from all races that were helping push 267 00:13:56,280 --> 00:13:59,240 Speaker 2: me along the journey. And I always vowed and I 268 00:13:59,280 --> 00:14:01,800 Speaker 2: told God, like I make it quote unquote, like when 269 00:14:01,840 --> 00:14:04,120 Speaker 2: I get to a position or I can help someone else, yes, 270 00:14:04,280 --> 00:14:06,920 Speaker 2: bridge the gap. Right when I make it and I'm 271 00:14:06,920 --> 00:14:08,640 Speaker 2: in a position to help someone else, I am most 272 00:14:08,760 --> 00:14:11,079 Speaker 2: definitely going to do it right. So now I used 273 00:14:11,080 --> 00:14:13,040 Speaker 2: to be the one asking for letters of recommendation and 274 00:14:13,080 --> 00:14:15,600 Speaker 2: things of that nature. Now I'm writing letters of recommendation 275 00:14:15,640 --> 00:14:17,280 Speaker 2: for other people. So I think we always have to 276 00:14:17,320 --> 00:14:19,760 Speaker 2: be giving back. And I will say one thing I 277 00:14:19,800 --> 00:14:22,240 Speaker 2: noticed the older I get down. I never used to 278 00:14:22,320 --> 00:14:24,800 Speaker 2: understand why there was like this conflict between young women 279 00:14:24,840 --> 00:14:27,400 Speaker 2: and older women. And now that I'm getting older, I'm like, oh, 280 00:14:27,440 --> 00:14:30,240 Speaker 2: I can see how someone could be in a position 281 00:14:30,280 --> 00:14:32,600 Speaker 2: where they feel like they're in competition, right because the 282 00:14:32,640 --> 00:14:35,360 Speaker 2: young the younger girls or younger generation, they may be 283 00:14:35,800 --> 00:14:38,720 Speaker 2: they're like, I want to say hotter, right, because society 284 00:14:38,760 --> 00:14:41,240 Speaker 2: likes you. And I remember when I was in my twenties, 285 00:14:41,240 --> 00:14:43,040 Speaker 2: it was like your prime time. And I can see 286 00:14:43,040 --> 00:14:46,360 Speaker 2: how when you get older, society sometimes look like they 287 00:14:46,400 --> 00:14:49,120 Speaker 2: kind of give us this message of like, oh, you're older. Now, 288 00:14:49,280 --> 00:14:51,800 Speaker 2: it's past your time. You know this is a live show, y'all. 289 00:14:51,840 --> 00:14:54,200 Speaker 2: I have some stage burning over here, and I want 290 00:14:54,200 --> 00:14:55,840 Speaker 2: to make sure that I'm not about to start a fire. 291 00:14:55,880 --> 00:14:56,960 Speaker 2: So down, I'm gonna put myself on. 292 00:14:57,040 --> 00:15:02,840 Speaker 1: No, I'm going to take you over. To keep going 293 00:15:02,920 --> 00:15:06,280 Speaker 1: off of what Terry was saying in terms of that 294 00:15:06,400 --> 00:15:11,640 Speaker 1: older generation, oftentimes, what it is is that older generation 295 00:15:11,760 --> 00:15:14,320 Speaker 1: feels like maybe they're going to be pushed out right, 296 00:15:14,760 --> 00:15:19,000 Speaker 1: and in order to maintain their relevance, they look at 297 00:15:19,160 --> 00:15:23,760 Speaker 1: the younger people as competition, when, like I was saying earlier, 298 00:15:23,800 --> 00:15:26,800 Speaker 1: I think it's really about how can we help the 299 00:15:26,920 --> 00:15:33,160 Speaker 1: younger generation and still learn from that younger generation, like 300 00:15:33,320 --> 00:15:37,480 Speaker 1: how can we continue to work together. But I think 301 00:15:37,520 --> 00:15:39,760 Speaker 1: it does go to it does speak a lot to 302 00:15:40,640 --> 00:15:44,840 Speaker 1: our country's lack of value of the older generation. And 303 00:15:44,880 --> 00:15:47,640 Speaker 1: we see that evidence right now when we look at 304 00:15:47,720 --> 00:15:51,680 Speaker 1: what's really happening with COVID nineteen in terms of how 305 00:15:51,680 --> 00:15:55,600 Speaker 1: it's disproportionately affecting black and brown folks within also affecting 306 00:15:55,640 --> 00:16:00,520 Speaker 1: the elderly, and how our country truly does not multiple 307 00:16:00,640 --> 00:16:06,880 Speaker 1: facets of life, does not value older generations. 308 00:16:07,320 --> 00:16:09,440 Speaker 2: YEP, I would agree with you. Don thank y'all for 309 00:16:09,480 --> 00:16:11,000 Speaker 2: letting me chat. I had to go open the window 310 00:16:11,040 --> 00:16:11,560 Speaker 2: to make sure. 311 00:16:11,440 --> 00:16:12,160 Speaker 5: We're good over here. 312 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:13,760 Speaker 2: But this is what happens through your life, right and 313 00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:15,680 Speaker 2: so yeah, dom, I would agree with you. And I 314 00:16:15,680 --> 00:16:18,200 Speaker 2: think that the way that this can transition into, like 315 00:16:18,240 --> 00:16:21,560 Speaker 2: dealing with frustration when it comes to technology and when 316 00:16:21,600 --> 00:16:23,920 Speaker 2: technology won't let me be great. I think that we 317 00:16:24,000 --> 00:16:26,680 Speaker 2: can use this chance to encourage each other because now 318 00:16:26,720 --> 00:16:28,640 Speaker 2: we're in a space in life where a lot of 319 00:16:28,720 --> 00:16:32,280 Speaker 2: us are leaning into technology and it's not as singles 320 00:16:32,320 --> 00:16:35,320 Speaker 2: for everyone, like everyone's not tech savvy. I am tech 321 00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:37,680 Speaker 2: savvy and I don't have some issues with technology over 322 00:16:37,680 --> 00:16:40,000 Speaker 2: the past couple of months, and maybe I thought I 323 00:16:40,040 --> 00:16:43,280 Speaker 2: was gonna be on snack. Okay, like I let's walk through, 324 00:16:43,360 --> 00:16:45,640 Speaker 2: let's walk through what was going on? Okay, yeah, okay, 325 00:16:45,680 --> 00:16:48,120 Speaker 2: So and don I know you've had your own experiences too. 326 00:16:48,120 --> 00:16:50,880 Speaker 2: So for me, the issues that I've been having internet right, So, 327 00:16:50,920 --> 00:16:52,720 Speaker 2: the internet that we have in our building, it's just 328 00:16:52,760 --> 00:16:54,240 Speaker 2: not good. So I've been trying to do work and 329 00:16:54,280 --> 00:16:57,280 Speaker 2: I've been in meetings, you know, on Zoom, and my 330 00:16:57,440 --> 00:17:00,160 Speaker 2: calls would get lost and things would you know, it 331 00:17:00,280 --> 00:17:01,920 Speaker 2: just I didn't have a good connection, and so it 332 00:17:01,960 --> 00:17:04,520 Speaker 2: took me about a good month. I was like going 333 00:17:04,560 --> 00:17:06,960 Speaker 2: to the store to try to go you know, get it. 334 00:17:06,960 --> 00:17:09,879 Speaker 2: It's like a hotspot, you know, with COVID nineteen and everything. 335 00:17:10,000 --> 00:17:11,880 Speaker 2: Would they let me in, but they were like, oh, 336 00:17:12,000 --> 00:17:14,800 Speaker 2: we're only doing limited services. I was going around to Spring, 337 00:17:14,880 --> 00:17:16,320 Speaker 2: I was going to AGC, I was going around to 338 00:17:16,320 --> 00:17:18,240 Speaker 2: all these different places and it was like so difficult. 339 00:17:18,480 --> 00:17:20,040 Speaker 2: I'm like, what does it take. I'm trying to give 340 00:17:20,080 --> 00:17:22,560 Speaker 2: you my money, like, give me some good internet. So 341 00:17:22,600 --> 00:17:26,080 Speaker 2: I finally got a hotspot, and then literally yesterday my 342 00:17:26,200 --> 00:17:29,240 Speaker 2: desktop stopped working or my monitor stopped working. So I'm 343 00:17:29,320 --> 00:17:32,920 Speaker 2: used to working on a laptop that I'm also using, 344 00:17:33,280 --> 00:17:35,560 Speaker 2: used to having two screens. And I don't know about you, 345 00:17:35,600 --> 00:17:37,520 Speaker 2: but if you're used to having two screens, like a 346 00:17:37,560 --> 00:17:39,199 Speaker 2: big screen and then a smaller one, and you go 347 00:17:39,240 --> 00:17:41,480 Speaker 2: to using one, it's a challenge. And so it wasn't 348 00:17:41,520 --> 00:17:43,480 Speaker 2: working for me yesterday. And I have a lot of 349 00:17:43,520 --> 00:17:45,000 Speaker 2: stuff I need to do on the computer. So now 350 00:17:45,000 --> 00:17:47,240 Speaker 2: I have to work a little slower because I don't 351 00:17:47,320 --> 00:17:50,119 Speaker 2: have the two views. So dom when I was sitting here, 352 00:17:50,160 --> 00:17:52,399 Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, first it was the internet. The Internet 353 00:17:52,480 --> 00:17:55,199 Speaker 2: is good now, and now it's the monitor. And I 354 00:17:55,320 --> 00:17:57,800 Speaker 2: was so frustrated sitting here at the computer. I was 355 00:17:57,840 --> 00:17:59,760 Speaker 2: taking deep breaths and I was trying to move past it. 356 00:17:59,760 --> 00:18:01,480 Speaker 2: But ever just get to that place where you're like, 357 00:18:02,240 --> 00:18:04,080 Speaker 2: I keep trying to get this to work and it's 358 00:18:04,119 --> 00:18:06,399 Speaker 2: not working. It got to the point where I was 359 00:18:06,400 --> 00:18:09,280 Speaker 2: taking the debreaths, but then that's up working. I was like, okay, 360 00:18:09,280 --> 00:18:11,920 Speaker 2: I'm frustrated. I had this pent up energy, so don't 361 00:18:12,000 --> 00:18:16,320 Speaker 2: judge me on My husband was downstairs and I was like, okay, 362 00:18:16,359 --> 00:18:18,600 Speaker 2: I need to like get this energy out. So I 363 00:18:18,680 --> 00:18:20,679 Speaker 2: was like, I want to punch the monitor, but obviously 364 00:18:20,680 --> 00:18:21,800 Speaker 2: I'm not going to do because I don't want to 365 00:18:21,840 --> 00:18:23,440 Speaker 2: hurt my hand. I was like, let me walk through 366 00:18:23,440 --> 00:18:25,160 Speaker 2: what will happen. I could punch it. It will feel really 367 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:27,000 Speaker 2: good in the moment, but then literally a second later, 368 00:18:27,320 --> 00:18:29,320 Speaker 2: I'm gonna look at the track screen and I'll my 369 00:18:29,400 --> 00:18:32,080 Speaker 2: hand will hurt, I'll have it, I'll be upset, so 370 00:18:32,160 --> 00:18:34,239 Speaker 2: on and so forth. Right, So then I was like, 371 00:18:34,280 --> 00:18:35,800 Speaker 2: you know what, I'm just gonna throw this. I had 372 00:18:35,800 --> 00:18:38,080 Speaker 2: this little thing on my desk. I just tossed it 373 00:18:38,119 --> 00:18:39,720 Speaker 2: on the floor. It kind of felt good in the moment, 374 00:18:40,000 --> 00:18:42,000 Speaker 2: and then I kind of banged on the table and 375 00:18:42,000 --> 00:18:44,240 Speaker 2: then at one point I was just like ah, I 376 00:18:44,320 --> 00:18:46,160 Speaker 2: just like made this noise, and he came upstairs like 377 00:18:46,200 --> 00:18:48,640 Speaker 2: are you Are you good? And I was like, I'm 378 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:50,679 Speaker 2: dealing with my frustration in a healthy way. I'm not 379 00:18:50,760 --> 00:18:53,639 Speaker 2: lashing out at anyone. I'm not hurting myself. But it 380 00:18:53,680 --> 00:18:56,040 Speaker 2: made me think maybe we should talk about this conversation 381 00:18:56,119 --> 00:18:59,399 Speaker 2: because other people are going through their own issues with tech, right, 382 00:18:59,440 --> 00:19:01,280 Speaker 2: So that's mine down, What about yours? What have you 383 00:19:01,640 --> 00:19:03,200 Speaker 2: what have you gone through in the past when it 384 00:19:03,240 --> 00:19:03,800 Speaker 2: comes to tech. 385 00:19:04,600 --> 00:19:07,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, So when we were when Terry and I were 386 00:19:07,119 --> 00:19:08,760 Speaker 1: prepping for this STUFFI sooe. One of the things that 387 00:19:09,080 --> 00:19:11,640 Speaker 1: you know, is we were talking it out. I realized 388 00:19:11,800 --> 00:19:15,159 Speaker 1: how fortunate I am right now in this moment that 389 00:19:16,119 --> 00:19:18,439 Speaker 1: when the pandemic started the shelter in place, not the 390 00:19:18,480 --> 00:19:21,520 Speaker 1: pandemic itself, but when the sheltering place started, I had 391 00:19:21,840 --> 00:19:24,959 Speaker 1: recently just moved into a new spot, so I was 392 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:30,080 Speaker 1: able to get the latest fiber Internet. And what that 393 00:19:30,240 --> 00:19:33,960 Speaker 1: means essentially is, in my non tech terms, is that 394 00:19:34,640 --> 00:19:39,479 Speaker 1: my shit runs fast. Okay, And so I ran an 395 00:19:39,480 --> 00:19:43,119 Speaker 1: Internet speed test and my stuff was amazing, and so 396 00:19:43,160 --> 00:19:45,280 Speaker 1: what that meant was that I should not have any 397 00:19:45,560 --> 00:19:50,520 Speaker 1: technology difficulties at all. So generally, for me, the biggest 398 00:19:50,520 --> 00:19:53,600 Speaker 1: issue that I usually have is like background noise. And 399 00:19:53,680 --> 00:19:56,000 Speaker 1: so because the street that I live on in Oakland 400 00:19:56,040 --> 00:19:59,520 Speaker 1: is a pretty busy street, and so even though we 401 00:19:59,520 --> 00:20:01,840 Speaker 1: were sheltered in place, there's still a lot of traffic 402 00:20:01,880 --> 00:20:04,479 Speaker 1: on my street. So for me, the biggest concern was 403 00:20:04,800 --> 00:20:08,440 Speaker 1: the noise in the background. Now, what I will say 404 00:20:08,560 --> 00:20:10,840 Speaker 1: is that in the past and the place that I 405 00:20:10,920 --> 00:20:14,680 Speaker 1: was living in prior to this move, I would have 406 00:20:14,760 --> 00:20:18,719 Speaker 1: had those same issues, and because the way the internet 407 00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:21,880 Speaker 1: was set up there, it was not the best. And 408 00:20:22,240 --> 00:20:26,000 Speaker 1: I was telling Terry that I had this one instance 409 00:20:26,119 --> 00:20:28,640 Speaker 1: and actually probably having multiple times now as I'm really 410 00:20:28,640 --> 00:20:32,639 Speaker 1: reflecting on it, multiple instances where I was trying to 411 00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:36,480 Speaker 1: watch a TV show and the internet wasn't working. And 412 00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:38,800 Speaker 1: so at first I was trying it on my TV 413 00:20:39,240 --> 00:20:41,320 Speaker 1: to because I don't have cable, so I was trying 414 00:20:41,359 --> 00:20:43,680 Speaker 1: to stream it through one of those services like Hulu 415 00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:48,040 Speaker 1: or Netflix or something, and it wasn't coming up, and 416 00:20:48,080 --> 00:20:50,800 Speaker 1: so I was like, okay, whatever, maybe you know, I 417 00:20:50,840 --> 00:20:53,480 Speaker 1: went through all the things, unplugged the device, let it 418 00:20:53,760 --> 00:20:55,679 Speaker 1: count to thirty seconds, plug it back in and it 419 00:20:55,720 --> 00:20:58,000 Speaker 1: wasn't working. Then I was like, okay, well let me 420 00:20:58,000 --> 00:21:00,560 Speaker 1: pull it up on my iPad. Internet was working on 421 00:21:00,600 --> 00:21:03,520 Speaker 1: the iPad. So it was like after about thirty minutes 422 00:21:03,560 --> 00:21:07,399 Speaker 1: to an hour, I finally just like gave up. And 423 00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:10,600 Speaker 1: at that point the point of me trying to watch 424 00:21:10,640 --> 00:21:13,359 Speaker 1: TV was for me to relax. And at that point 425 00:21:13,440 --> 00:21:16,320 Speaker 1: I am no longer relaxed. Like I noticed that my 426 00:21:16,440 --> 00:21:19,200 Speaker 1: body is like tense stuff, and like Terry I was, 427 00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:22,440 Speaker 1: I was ready to throw the iPad. I was. I 428 00:21:22,600 --> 00:21:25,000 Speaker 1: really was just like what the hell is going on? 429 00:21:25,800 --> 00:21:29,000 Speaker 1: And so in those moments, what I've had to do 430 00:21:29,200 --> 00:21:32,320 Speaker 1: is remind myself of one of my favorite phrases, trust 431 00:21:32,359 --> 00:21:36,720 Speaker 1: the process, and then ask myself one of my favorite questions, 432 00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:41,600 Speaker 1: what can I control in this moment? And in this moment, 433 00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:44,640 Speaker 1: I cannot control the Internet. As much as I would 434 00:21:44,760 --> 00:21:47,879 Speaker 1: like to, I can't control the Internet. So what I 435 00:21:47,960 --> 00:21:53,920 Speaker 1: can control is how I am responding to what's happening. 436 00:21:55,080 --> 00:21:58,680 Speaker 1: And if I lean in to trust the process, then 437 00:21:59,119 --> 00:22:02,760 Speaker 1: to me, my interpretation in that moment is it's not 438 00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:06,440 Speaker 1: meant for me to watch TV right now. So let 439 00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:09,960 Speaker 1: me take some deep breaths to calm myself back down, 440 00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:12,480 Speaker 1: because my body is keyed up and really tense in 441 00:22:12,480 --> 00:22:14,560 Speaker 1: this moment because I'm frustrated because this was something that 442 00:22:14,600 --> 00:22:18,200 Speaker 1: I wanted to do. But let me take some deep breaths. 443 00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:21,800 Speaker 1: And maybe this means that I need to check some 444 00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:24,720 Speaker 1: emails or maybe I need to read a book. Y'all know, 445 00:22:24,760 --> 00:22:27,359 Speaker 1: reading is one of my favorite things, and so maybe 446 00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:29,959 Speaker 1: I need to find an alternative way to connect. And 447 00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:33,439 Speaker 1: so for me in those moments of frustration, it truly 448 00:22:33,560 --> 00:22:38,399 Speaker 1: is about reminding myself to trust the process and to 449 00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:43,040 Speaker 1: ask myself what can I control in this moment. And 450 00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:46,399 Speaker 1: I will say one of my nieces yesterday actually was 451 00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:47,919 Speaker 1: trying to teach me, like one of the things that 452 00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:49,560 Speaker 1: she's fourteen, and one of the things she loves to 453 00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:52,040 Speaker 1: do is try to teach me things. And Brandy can 454 00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:54,840 Speaker 1: attest to this the amount of things that she likes 455 00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:56,239 Speaker 1: to teach me. And so one of the things that 456 00:22:56,280 --> 00:22:59,600 Speaker 1: she wanted to teach me was a breathing exercise, and 457 00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:02,240 Speaker 1: I was like, in my head initially, I was like, 458 00:23:03,080 --> 00:23:05,760 Speaker 1: all right, girl, you're talking to the therapist here. What 459 00:23:05,800 --> 00:23:08,840 Speaker 1: breathing exercise are you about to show me? And so, 460 00:23:08,960 --> 00:23:10,760 Speaker 1: but she was really excited to teach it to me. 461 00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:13,080 Speaker 1: And then my five year old niece joined in on it, 462 00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:16,119 Speaker 1: and I found it really helpful. So I will credit 463 00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:19,200 Speaker 1: that fourteen year old niece for teaching me a different 464 00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:21,120 Speaker 1: breathing exercise and so we're going to try it out 465 00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:25,040 Speaker 1: right now. And so that breathing exercise really was just 466 00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:30,240 Speaker 1: we'd take a big, deep breath in and then we 467 00:23:30,400 --> 00:23:38,479 Speaker 1: scream it out. So it's like, and I'm sorry, I 468 00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:41,600 Speaker 1: know I probably heard you all ears screaming, but what 469 00:23:41,680 --> 00:23:45,080 Speaker 1: that does was as you're releasing that breath and that 470 00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:49,080 Speaker 1: scream comes out, a lot of that frustration comes out 471 00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:51,960 Speaker 1: as well. And so Terry, I think back to what 472 00:23:52,040 --> 00:23:55,800 Speaker 1: you were saying about in that moment, like you found 473 00:23:55,800 --> 00:23:59,520 Speaker 1: yourself kind of letting out a scream and your husband 474 00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:01,600 Speaker 1: was kind of are like, what the hell is going on? 475 00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:06,360 Speaker 1: You're doing? Right? Is everything okay? But in that moment 476 00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:10,120 Speaker 1: of I think the act of actually taking that breath 477 00:24:10,160 --> 00:24:14,640 Speaker 1: in and then releasing it with the screen helps your 478 00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:17,879 Speaker 1: body to release a lot of that pence up energy. 479 00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:20,280 Speaker 2: I would agree, don that is so good and I 480 00:24:20,280 --> 00:24:22,240 Speaker 2: feel like we should dive right into the tips because 481 00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:25,280 Speaker 2: we are already on track with that, and so I 482 00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:27,479 Speaker 2: think one of the points that you shared was like, 483 00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:31,080 Speaker 2: recognize the moment of frustration. That's number one. Recognize that 484 00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:33,920 Speaker 2: you are frustrated. Sometimes it can be easy to be 485 00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:36,719 Speaker 2: attempted to kind of get into this space of denial 486 00:24:36,760 --> 00:24:38,960 Speaker 2: where it's like, oh, I'm not mad, it's all going 487 00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:40,639 Speaker 2: to work out. But at some point you have to realize, 488 00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:42,959 Speaker 2: you know what this is actually really frustrating me, right, 489 00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:44,600 Speaker 2: And I think the first step in any process is 490 00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:48,560 Speaker 2: acknowledging what is and so that's step number one or 491 00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:52,000 Speaker 2: tip number one. Number two I would play is investigate right, 492 00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:55,440 Speaker 2: investigations understanding like what's going on here, so that you 493 00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:58,159 Speaker 2: can have a better understanding on how you might be 494 00:24:58,160 --> 00:24:59,960 Speaker 2: able to resolve to eating right or just get clear 495 00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:02,600 Speaker 2: already on what exactly is the problem. And so with me, 496 00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:05,800 Speaker 2: I had to realize, oh, I thought it was the hdmis, 497 00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:08,600 Speaker 2: Like I HDMI still had issues, and so I found 498 00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:10,280 Speaker 2: out that I think it's my monitor, So I made 499 00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:11,520 Speaker 2: it to get a new one, right, But I think 500 00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:14,400 Speaker 2: investigating it's going to be key so you can understand 501 00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:15,879 Speaker 2: where are we current. 502 00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:20,960 Speaker 1: Right right, And so yes, number three goes right back 503 00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:23,000 Speaker 1: to what I the example that I just gave of 504 00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:27,400 Speaker 1: using breathing techniques of figuring out what you can do 505 00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:30,600 Speaker 1: to like get your breath back regulate, to get your 506 00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:34,840 Speaker 1: body to physically calm itself down, and I, you know, 507 00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:37,080 Speaker 1: and I think I want to make sure that I 508 00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:40,359 Speaker 1: do acknowledge and shout out that you know, earlier we 509 00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:44,960 Speaker 1: talked about being older and recognizing when a younger person 510 00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:47,240 Speaker 1: can help us, and so I do want to give 511 00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:50,280 Speaker 1: full credit where credit is due, and that is to 512 00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:53,400 Speaker 1: my fourteen year old niece for teaching me that new 513 00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:59,919 Speaker 1: breathing technique and just realizing how helpful taking that moment 514 00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:05,359 Speaker 1: to breathe in and out can really help you to 515 00:26:06,119 --> 00:26:11,080 Speaker 1: recenter yourself and release a lot of that pencil frustration. 516 00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:14,840 Speaker 1: And I think that sometimes using that breathing technique, even 517 00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:17,439 Speaker 1: in a moment when you're not frustrated, but you may 518 00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:21,400 Speaker 1: have been holding onto some things, can actually be helpful 519 00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:26,080 Speaker 1: as well. And so tip number four is to have 520 00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:29,439 Speaker 1: a backup plan. Now, I know I said that breathing 521 00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:34,120 Speaker 1: technique works, right, and so let's say that breathing technique 522 00:26:34,119 --> 00:26:37,200 Speaker 1: doesn't work for you in that particular moment, like you've 523 00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:39,600 Speaker 1: done it a few times and you still can't release 524 00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:44,439 Speaker 1: that frustration. Then that means, let's look at what is 525 00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:48,840 Speaker 1: planned B for the situation that caused you, that's currently 526 00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:53,840 Speaker 1: causing your frustration. And so if your technology isn't working 527 00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:58,440 Speaker 1: so with me in my situation, I tried the TV 528 00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:01,240 Speaker 1: that was my first that was plan A. Plan A 529 00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:03,920 Speaker 1: wasn't working out, so then I moved on to plan B. 530 00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:08,080 Speaker 1: The iPad. iPad still wasn't working out. So then at 531 00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:11,639 Speaker 1: that point I do my deep bruhs, and then I 532 00:27:11,720 --> 00:27:14,000 Speaker 1: move on to plan C. And plan C may mean 533 00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:16,800 Speaker 1: that I have to scrap that entire activity and figure 534 00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:17,600 Speaker 1: something else out. 535 00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:20,680 Speaker 2: All right, and let's move on to number five, which 536 00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:23,560 Speaker 2: is shift your perspective. I'm going to read this little 537 00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:25,880 Speaker 2: blurb here that will add a link in the show notes, 538 00:27:25,920 --> 00:27:29,639 Speaker 2: but it really just really summarizes how you can shift 539 00:27:29,680 --> 00:27:32,480 Speaker 2: your perspective when things aren't going your way. And so 540 00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:34,320 Speaker 2: it says, now that you have some clarity about what 541 00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:37,040 Speaker 2: you want, it's time to challenge yourself to view your 542 00:27:37,080 --> 00:27:41,120 Speaker 2: predicament in a more optimal way. In other words, it's 543 00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:43,800 Speaker 2: time to shift your perspective of the situation and choose 544 00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:47,400 Speaker 2: to view your frustrations as an opportunity to challenge yourself 545 00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:50,280 Speaker 2: to do things better. Right, So your first objective is 546 00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:52,919 Speaker 2: to identify what exactly has been working for you. There 547 00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:55,320 Speaker 2: must have been something that you've done well, so identify 548 00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:58,520 Speaker 2: what that is, and then also figure out the mistakes 549 00:27:58,520 --> 00:28:01,359 Speaker 2: you might have or the mistakes that you might have 550 00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:04,040 Speaker 2: made along the way. Now view those mistakes as helpful 551 00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:07,160 Speaker 2: coincidences and use them as an opportunity for positive change. 552 00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:09,960 Speaker 2: So for me, I realized that, you know, my monitor, 553 00:28:09,960 --> 00:28:11,480 Speaker 2: I guess it just broke or something. So I'm going 554 00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:13,480 Speaker 2: to have to do some research tomorrow to figure out. Okay, 555 00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:16,160 Speaker 2: let's get into solution mode. Because me being pissed off, 556 00:28:16,440 --> 00:28:18,879 Speaker 2: me being angry, and also right before we started, I 557 00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:20,280 Speaker 2: kept trying to get it to work, and I was like, 558 00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:22,200 Speaker 2: why are you going back to the same thing and 559 00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:24,520 Speaker 2: it's clearly not working. You're literally doing the same thing 560 00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:27,159 Speaker 2: over and over expecting a different result. And so I 561 00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:29,840 Speaker 2: had to work on detachment. I was praying about it, 562 00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:31,680 Speaker 2: I was like meditating about it. So I really want 563 00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:33,479 Speaker 2: this to work so I can be productive, and I 564 00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:36,119 Speaker 2: had to detach myself from what the vision was in 565 00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:38,080 Speaker 2: my mind of like this is gonna work. I'm gonna 566 00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:40,000 Speaker 2: do all the things. And now I'm like, okay, there 567 00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:41,920 Speaker 2: has to be a new way. So shifting your perspective 568 00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:45,040 Speaker 2: is key. And then number six, the final tip here 569 00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:50,240 Speaker 2: is think flexible and creatively. So sometimes once we detached, 570 00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:53,080 Speaker 2: we need to just explore all the other opportunities. Right, 571 00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:55,760 Speaker 2: so I'm going to look at possibly going to the office. 572 00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:57,400 Speaker 2: I'm going to see if I have access to the office. 573 00:28:57,560 --> 00:28:59,840 Speaker 2: Now everything's closed, right, See if I've access to the 574 00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:02,400 Speaker 2: so I can bring my monitor from work home. That 575 00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:04,360 Speaker 2: doesn't work, I may have to go to the computer store. 576 00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:06,800 Speaker 2: See they can fix this or just order a new one. Right, 577 00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:11,360 Speaker 2: So now I have other options because the goal that 578 00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:14,720 Speaker 2: had in mind is not working. And so, Lady, that 579 00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:19,920 Speaker 2: wraps up our tips for dealing with frustration when technology 580 00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:21,400 Speaker 2: won't let you be great. We're going to just do 581 00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:24,000 Speaker 2: a quick little recap of the tips that we covered 582 00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:26,360 Speaker 2: and then we'll open up the floor for some Q 583 00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:27,920 Speaker 2: and A and you might get a chance to be 584 00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:31,520 Speaker 2: aired on this week's episode. Number one is recognize the 585 00:29:31,520 --> 00:29:35,760 Speaker 2: moment of frustration. Number two, investigate figure out what the 586 00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:38,680 Speaker 2: hell is going on here? Okay. Number three is these 587 00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:43,880 Speaker 2: breathing techniques. Number four is have a backup plan. Number 588 00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:47,960 Speaker 2: five is shift your perspective, and number six is think 589 00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:49,960 Speaker 2: flexible and creatively. 590 00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:54,080 Speaker 1: All right, ladies and so as you all have had 591 00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:57,520 Speaker 1: this opportunity to listen to us and listen to our tips. 592 00:29:58,040 --> 00:30:00,640 Speaker 1: What are some questions that you all min half for 593 00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:04,840 Speaker 1: us or some feedback so maybe some even some tips said, 594 00:30:05,160 --> 00:30:07,080 Speaker 1: maybe we can add to this list. 595 00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:08,520 Speaker 2: Okay, this is for lidiar. 596 00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:11,720 Speaker 6: I wanted to just say for me, Tamara and I 597 00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:14,600 Speaker 6: we work for the same department, and like she mentioned, 598 00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:18,960 Speaker 6: our so sorority sisters, and for me, a lot of 599 00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:22,120 Speaker 6: times she's extremely tech savvy and I am not so 600 00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:24,760 Speaker 6: a lot of times I'll get on Skype and she'll 601 00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:25,960 Speaker 6: walk me through three things. 602 00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:29,000 Speaker 2: I'll call her and say, Tamara, I have literally had it. 603 00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:30,640 Speaker 2: I've had it, you. 604 00:30:30,600 --> 00:30:32,280 Speaker 6: Know, and she'll say, okay, well what is it. You know, 605 00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:34,440 Speaker 6: she's a little more calm than I am. You know, 606 00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:35,920 Speaker 6: I'm one of those people like Okay, I need to 607 00:30:35,960 --> 00:30:37,440 Speaker 6: do this now, I need to do it right now. 608 00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:39,960 Speaker 6: She's like, oh, well, you really don't need to do 609 00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:42,040 Speaker 6: it right now. So let's just walk through it, and 610 00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:43,800 Speaker 6: so on and so forth. So I think just having 611 00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:47,720 Speaker 6: someone to connect with and to talk to about your frustrations. 612 00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:50,000 Speaker 6: She talks to me off the ledge quite often, so 613 00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:52,680 Speaker 6: just having that person that can be a sounding board 614 00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:54,320 Speaker 6: is extremely important. 615 00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:58,800 Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, that is so important. I think you know, 616 00:30:59,760 --> 00:31:03,400 Speaker 1: in our team, Terry and I you know, Terry is 617 00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:07,120 Speaker 1: the tech person, and so for me when I'm hearing her, 618 00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:11,960 Speaker 1: as I'm hearing her process having frustrations with technology, I'm like, well, 619 00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:14,600 Speaker 1: if anybody can handle this, then I have faith that 620 00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:17,160 Speaker 1: Terry will figure it out because she is the tech person. 621 00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:19,840 Speaker 2: Thank you, Dom. I think Gwendolen had something to say. 622 00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:22,080 Speaker 2: Gwendolen was going an unw use You can share, lady, 623 00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:22,720 Speaker 2: what was coming. 624 00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:22,960 Speaker 5: Up for you. 625 00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:27,160 Speaker 4: In my learning and studies lately, I've learned the phrase 626 00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:33,320 Speaker 4: E plus R equals O events plus response equals your outcome. 627 00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:36,560 Speaker 4: And a lot of that is I know when I 628 00:31:36,600 --> 00:31:41,720 Speaker 4: get upset and frustrated, I stop breathing. Basically I don't breathe, 629 00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:45,080 Speaker 4: and that breathing I'm getting that over beaten over my 630 00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:48,000 Speaker 4: head over and over again, is to breathe. If you 631 00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:51,440 Speaker 4: simply take the time to breathe. It will actually calm 632 00:31:51,520 --> 00:31:53,880 Speaker 4: you down so you can think about what you want 633 00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:56,120 Speaker 4: your outcome to be and how you want to get 634 00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:56,440 Speaker 4: it there. 635 00:31:57,080 --> 00:32:00,400 Speaker 2: So breathing is really really an excellent thing for me. 636 00:32:01,200 --> 00:32:03,520 Speaker 2: You better preach girl. I noticed that too the other day, 637 00:32:03,560 --> 00:32:05,760 Speaker 2: going tone I was going through. I was like, wait you, 638 00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:08,360 Speaker 2: I was so like like holding my breath just so 639 00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:10,120 Speaker 2: caught up in the moment. So I'm so glad that 640 00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:12,239 Speaker 2: you said that. Yes, the breathing is so important. Who 641 00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:13,880 Speaker 2: else was to share? To share? 642 00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:18,640 Speaker 7: Okay, So I know I'm young, but I am really 643 00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:20,800 Speaker 7: really bad with technology. 644 00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:22,560 Speaker 5: I mess up so many things. 645 00:32:22,600 --> 00:32:25,080 Speaker 7: I don't understand so many things, and a lot of 646 00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:27,040 Speaker 7: times I feel like I'm looked at a certain way 647 00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:28,800 Speaker 7: because I am young and I've grown up with it 648 00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:30,040 Speaker 7: and I don't know how to work it. 649 00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:33,360 Speaker 5: But for me, the tech person is actually my grandmother. 650 00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:36,120 Speaker 7: She's fifty five, but she's been working with computers her 651 00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:38,720 Speaker 7: whole life, so she knows different systems, she knows all 652 00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:39,760 Speaker 7: the different ins and outs. 653 00:32:39,760 --> 00:32:41,760 Speaker 5: So whenever it comes to technology. 654 00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:44,479 Speaker 7: I call her as opposed to somebody calling me, and 655 00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:47,280 Speaker 7: so I know it's like it's just a weird thing 656 00:32:47,960 --> 00:32:51,280 Speaker 7: to get around, especially when everybody else around me is 657 00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:54,320 Speaker 7: understanding and it's clicking, and sometimes like they're like, girl, 658 00:32:54,360 --> 00:32:56,440 Speaker 7: you really don't know how to do this, or you 659 00:32:56,520 --> 00:32:58,520 Speaker 7: really can't figure out how to do that, and it's 660 00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:00,640 Speaker 7: like if I could, I would have done it. But 661 00:33:00,680 --> 00:33:02,840 Speaker 7: I'm taking this moment to be vulnerable and to ask you, 662 00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:05,120 Speaker 7: and you're throwing it in my face like I just 663 00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:05,600 Speaker 7: need help. 664 00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:07,600 Speaker 2: That is such a good point and that goes back 665 00:33:07,600 --> 00:33:09,480 Speaker 2: to what we talked about earlier. Right, Well, the learning 666 00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:12,760 Speaker 2: is cyclical, right, So we have older women that are 667 00:33:12,760 --> 00:33:14,560 Speaker 2: helping young women, we have young women that are helping 668 00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:16,720 Speaker 2: older women. We're all learning from one another. And I 669 00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:18,720 Speaker 2: love to you point that out, and I think you're right. 670 00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:21,160 Speaker 2: Sometimes if you're, you know, on the younger end of 671 00:33:21,160 --> 00:33:22,880 Speaker 2: the spectrum of you're a millennium, people are like you 672 00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:24,680 Speaker 2: should know how to do this, and it's like, well, 673 00:33:24,720 --> 00:33:27,120 Speaker 2: not everyone is into text, so we can all learn 674 00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:28,800 Speaker 2: from one another. I love that you share that to marriage. 675 00:33:28,800 --> 00:33:30,600 Speaker 2: Did you have something you want to share? I was 676 00:33:30,600 --> 00:33:31,320 Speaker 2: going to say that I. 677 00:33:31,320 --> 00:33:34,320 Speaker 8: Learned early on to be patient with technology from a 678 00:33:34,360 --> 00:33:38,120 Speaker 8: young age. I want help the window that's okay to 679 00:33:38,200 --> 00:33:39,800 Speaker 8: do that. Then you know you're not going to have 680 00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:43,400 Speaker 8: to be frustrated. So then I just learned to be patient. 681 00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:46,920 Speaker 8: And I need you see videos to learn about little 682 00:33:47,000 --> 00:33:49,320 Speaker 8: things that you can do, and all the first everyone 683 00:33:49,400 --> 00:33:51,960 Speaker 8: on the phone to just you know, learn one little 684 00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:54,960 Speaker 8: thing it's you're serious about or want to learn, and 685 00:33:55,080 --> 00:33:57,920 Speaker 8: then just keep building from gap. But it does take patients, 686 00:33:58,160 --> 00:34:01,160 Speaker 8: and I just first age. I mean, I'll give myself 687 00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:03,760 Speaker 8: maybe an hour or so, and then if I can't 688 00:34:03,760 --> 00:34:07,200 Speaker 8: give you want to do another past altogether, say okay, 689 00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:07,560 Speaker 8: let me. 690 00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:12,600 Speaker 2: Just move and do something different. So those are some 691 00:34:12,680 --> 00:34:15,360 Speaker 2: of the things I can do. And it is so good. 692 00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:18,720 Speaker 2: Thank you Tomor for sharing. Thank you for sharing. And ladies, 693 00:34:18,760 --> 00:34:20,799 Speaker 2: let's take Do you want to welcome Keishaanna? I know 694 00:34:20,880 --> 00:34:23,919 Speaker 2: you joined us mid Chatki Shanna, but welcome, we see 695 00:34:23,960 --> 00:34:25,640 Speaker 2: you there. We just want to thank you for showing up. 696 00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:30,000 Speaker 4: That's my daughter, Yes, that's the twenty five year old, 697 00:34:30,080 --> 00:34:31,680 Speaker 4: and I have a thirty three year old. 698 00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:35,200 Speaker 2: Hi, good morning. 699 00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:36,240 Speaker 5: How are you. 700 00:34:36,880 --> 00:34:42,160 Speaker 2: I'm good in yourself? Good good, Yes, so happy you're here. 701 00:34:42,200 --> 00:34:43,920 Speaker 2: Did you want to share anything about the conversation? 702 00:34:44,840 --> 00:34:49,560 Speaker 6: Just adding to Audrey, I also am really bad at 703 00:34:49,560 --> 00:34:52,319 Speaker 6: technology right now, like working from home. 704 00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:54,960 Speaker 2: I just well, when I started working with the County, 705 00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:55,960 Speaker 2: I just learned. 706 00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:59,120 Speaker 6: How to use all of their apps and websites and things, 707 00:34:59,520 --> 00:35:00,719 Speaker 6: and I have I've learned them. 708 00:35:01,120 --> 00:35:03,560 Speaker 2: So now that I'm working from home, it's all on 709 00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:06,640 Speaker 2: me to figure out because there's nobody I can just Hey, 710 00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:07,520 Speaker 2: how can I do this? 711 00:35:07,880 --> 00:35:08,840 Speaker 1: What is this app? 712 00:35:09,640 --> 00:35:14,000 Speaker 2: How do I download this? So it's very frustrating. Thank 713 00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:16,040 Speaker 2: you so much for tuning in so much for sharing. 714 00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:18,600 Speaker 2: I think that when ladies hear this conversation, I think 715 00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:21,239 Speaker 2: that they will really resonate with the topics that we 716 00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:23,680 Speaker 2: cover today. So we want to thank you all for 717 00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:27,480 Speaker 2: tuning in live with us. We appreciate you this. I 718 00:35:27,520 --> 00:35:29,360 Speaker 2: don't know about you down, but this just made me 719 00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:32,200 Speaker 2: give me all the fuels today. So I can't wait 720 00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:35,440 Speaker 2: to air this episode. Yes, and lady, the next time 721 00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:38,040 Speaker 2: we have live events, we'll send you email, so be 722 00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:40,319 Speaker 2: sure to follow us on Instagram. We're at her Space 723 00:35:40,400 --> 00:35:42,359 Speaker 2: podcast and if you click the link in our bio 724 00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:44,239 Speaker 2: that'll say you du our email list. You can sign 725 00:35:44,280 --> 00:35:46,719 Speaker 2: up that way. Whenever we have more events like this 726 00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:49,600 Speaker 2: that are virtually live, you can tune in. You'll get 727 00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:53,000 Speaker 2: those email updates and so yeah, we appreciate you for 728 00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:54,560 Speaker 2: tuning in and for hanging out with us. 729 00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:59,759 Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yes, we hope everyone gets a chance to 730 00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:06,719 Speaker 1: enjoy this Memorial Day, and we hope that everyone remembers 731 00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:09,800 Speaker 1: to breathe. Gwendoline, one of the things that you were saying, 732 00:36:09,880 --> 00:36:13,040 Speaker 1: like really resonated with me. Just this idea of making 733 00:36:13,080 --> 00:36:16,880 Speaker 1: sure that we remind ourselves to breathe. It's something that 734 00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:20,879 Speaker 1: our bodies naturally do, and so oftentimes when we get 735 00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:23,799 Speaker 1: in that state of frustration or that state or state 736 00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:28,279 Speaker 1: of anxiety, our bodies will tense up and we will 737 00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:32,760 Speaker 1: forget to breathe. And so just sometimes just that gentle 738 00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:37,160 Speaker 1: reminder of taking a moment to check in with yourself 739 00:36:37,800 --> 00:36:41,839 Speaker 1: and say, wait, hold on, am I breathing? What's going 740 00:36:41,880 --> 00:36:45,959 Speaker 1: on here? And just allowing yourself to take a big, 741 00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:50,719 Speaker 1: deep breath in and slowly let it out. 742 00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:51,960 Speaker 2: Thank you so much. 743 00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:56,560 Speaker 1: Hey, lady, is doctor Dom here from the Herspace podcast. 744 00:36:57,160 --> 00:36:59,160 Speaker 1: Do you have a burning question you're dying to get 745 00:36:59,200 --> 00:37:02,880 Speaker 1: feedback on? Do you want an unbiased perspective on a 746 00:37:02,920 --> 00:37:07,960 Speaker 1: situation you're facing? If so, visit her spacepodcast dot com 747 00:37:08,280 --> 00:37:11,920 Speaker 1: and click ask doctor Dom under the start here option. 748 00:37:12,440 --> 00:37:15,200 Speaker 1: Every Tuesday, I'll choose a few questions and answer them 749 00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:19,720 Speaker 1: at random. 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