1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,160 Speaker 1: My dad's marrying his affair partner and with the app 2 00:00:03,320 --> 00:00:05,480 Speaker 1: if I don't go to the wedding, this is OKOP, 3 00:00:05,640 --> 00:00:08,600 Speaker 1: the home of the craziest stories on the Internet. I'm 4 00:00:08,640 --> 00:00:11,400 Speaker 1: Sam and John. Do you think OP would be the 5 00:00:11,440 --> 00:00:14,000 Speaker 1: ass if they don't go to their dad's wedding? 6 00:00:14,280 --> 00:00:18,680 Speaker 2: You know, the dad started the a holary, the a 7 00:00:18,720 --> 00:00:22,120 Speaker 2: holary by a having the affair partner and then having 8 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:25,400 Speaker 2: the audacity to marry the affair po. 9 00:00:25,480 --> 00:00:28,320 Speaker 1: He is the engine of the a holary train. I 10 00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:30,680 Speaker 1: think if OP does not want to be the caboose, 11 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:31,400 Speaker 1: they don't have to be. 12 00:00:31,720 --> 00:00:32,559 Speaker 3: Not the a hole. 13 00:00:32,680 --> 00:00:35,120 Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. I'm throwing it down. Let's see 14 00:00:35,120 --> 00:00:39,160 Speaker 1: if that holds up under context. So Lucy aria Rose says, 15 00:00:39,720 --> 00:00:43,640 Speaker 1: when I was seventeen, my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. 16 00:00:44,200 --> 00:00:47,600 Speaker 1: Two years later she passed away. During these two years, 17 00:00:47,800 --> 00:00:51,159 Speaker 1: my dad was not around much. He was always working 18 00:00:51,320 --> 00:00:57,640 Speaker 1: and going on business trips. Oh business, John, do you 19 00:00:57,720 --> 00:00:59,440 Speaker 1: see a red flag? I don't want to see a 20 00:00:59,520 --> 00:01:01,280 Speaker 1: red flag this this early. 21 00:01:01,480 --> 00:01:03,800 Speaker 2: The two sentences like, guys, we don't want to have 22 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:07,440 Speaker 2: to point to these hats two sentences and please no, damn. 23 00:01:08,280 --> 00:01:10,560 Speaker 1: My aunt and grandma took care of my mom. Five 24 00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:14,679 Speaker 1: months after my mother's passing, my dad introduced me to 25 00:01:14,800 --> 00:01:17,319 Speaker 1: his new girlfriend. I think you need what it was? 26 00:01:17,319 --> 00:01:19,520 Speaker 1: The rule we made a month for every year of marriage. 27 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:21,119 Speaker 3: Oh yes, was that? 28 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:26,560 Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, that sounds like it sounds like something an 29 00:01:26,600 --> 00:01:32,920 Speaker 1: insane rule. How long were they married? At least seventeen years? 30 00:01:32,920 --> 00:01:36,400 Speaker 1: So like, come on, you gotta wait to leave seventeen months? 31 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:39,360 Speaker 3: Year and a half. I was pissed. 32 00:01:40,240 --> 00:01:43,000 Speaker 1: I yelled at him. How quickly he moved on from 33 00:01:43,040 --> 00:01:45,120 Speaker 1: my mom. When they decided to tell me that they 34 00:01:45,120 --> 00:01:51,360 Speaker 1: had been in a relationship for three years? Whoa, They're like, hey, 35 00:01:51,440 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 1: I know you're mad, but don't worry going along before? 36 00:01:56,840 --> 00:01:57,440 Speaker 1: How does that? 37 00:01:57,560 --> 00:02:01,960 Speaker 2: I mean, at least I'm being honest, but likes it 38 00:02:02,080 --> 00:02:02,720 Speaker 2: so much more. 39 00:02:02,760 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 3: It makes it so much worse. Why would you? 40 00:02:05,320 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 1: I would almost like, do you even come clean with 41 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:08,440 Speaker 1: that information? 42 00:02:08,720 --> 00:02:12,600 Speaker 2: Because if this story revolved around oh, they he just 43 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:15,400 Speaker 2: started dating five months later and op, he's not attending 44 00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:16,799 Speaker 2: the wedding, that's a different story. 45 00:02:16,800 --> 00:02:18,800 Speaker 3: It's like, yeah, I don't know if you get but 46 00:02:19,120 --> 00:02:20,079 Speaker 3: they've been dating for. 47 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:23,080 Speaker 1: Three years and mama is cheating on your dead mother? 48 00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:26,839 Speaker 1: Like I would be pretty pissed. That terrible. I would 49 00:02:26,840 --> 00:02:30,160 Speaker 1: be pretty pissed, like a whole Hall of Fame level terrible. Okay, 50 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 1: really quick to the audience, it's you, John. Is it 51 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 1: a good move? 52 00:02:34,880 --> 00:02:35,200 Speaker 3: All right? 53 00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:39,960 Speaker 1: Like, all right, it's a bad cheat obviously, right. Is 54 00:02:39,960 --> 00:02:43,520 Speaker 1: it a good move to tell your daughter that you 55 00:02:43,560 --> 00:02:45,320 Speaker 1: were cheating to come clean about it? Do you think 56 00:02:45,360 --> 00:02:48,160 Speaker 1: the truth is always warranted in cases like this? You're 57 00:02:48,200 --> 00:02:51,160 Speaker 1: not to get canceled one way or the other one? Yeah? 58 00:02:51,880 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 2: Oh man, you know, I mean there's a there's a 59 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:57,440 Speaker 2: pretty good argument there for like you could tell the 60 00:02:57,560 --> 00:03:00,960 Speaker 2: daughter and like just roy. 61 00:03:01,960 --> 00:03:06,959 Speaker 1: And invested of happiness that she had left, like what 62 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:07,760 Speaker 1: the marriage was. 63 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:11,880 Speaker 2: Maybe maybe you wait for a year and you and 64 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:13,760 Speaker 2: you sit her down and you were like and you're like, 65 00:03:14,440 --> 00:03:16,840 Speaker 2: I wanted to tell you this like a year ago, 66 00:03:17,120 --> 00:03:21,240 Speaker 2: but your mother's passing was fresh. I intentionally gave you 67 00:03:21,280 --> 00:03:24,000 Speaker 2: a year to grieve and I need to be honest 68 00:03:24,040 --> 00:03:24,880 Speaker 2: with you and come that's. 69 00:03:24,720 --> 00:03:28,960 Speaker 1: Probably the right And by the way, happy birthday, Yeah exactly, 70 00:03:30,800 --> 00:03:34,320 Speaker 1: your babysitters. So yeah, I would love to know what 71 00:03:34,320 --> 00:03:36,560 Speaker 1: you guys think. Is it a good move to tell 72 00:03:36,760 --> 00:03:41,840 Speaker 1: your kids that you had an affair always, even in 73 00:03:41,880 --> 00:03:45,320 Speaker 1: this context, let us know in the conference you think, 74 00:03:45,840 --> 00:03:51,800 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, it will be very easy to communicate this. 75 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:55,720 Speaker 1: My dad has been cheating on my mom while she 76 00:03:55,920 --> 00:04:01,640 Speaker 1: was dying. Ouch his business trips where to meet, he's 77 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:02,360 Speaker 1: a fair partner. 78 00:04:03,440 --> 00:04:06,880 Speaker 3: What I'm floored. 79 00:04:07,400 --> 00:04:09,880 Speaker 1: We saw it, we saw it coming. I was so angry, 80 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:12,800 Speaker 1: I packed myself and left his house. I haven't spoken 81 00:04:12,800 --> 00:04:18,120 Speaker 1: to him since that day, which, understand the most fair thing. Ever. 82 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:21,200 Speaker 1: Currently I am twenty five. The only family I speak 83 00:04:21,240 --> 00:04:23,440 Speaker 1: to is an aunt who helped me when I left 84 00:04:23,480 --> 00:04:26,320 Speaker 1: my dad's house a few days ago. My aunt called me, 85 00:04:26,800 --> 00:04:29,600 Speaker 1: asked me how I was, and then asked me if 86 00:04:29,640 --> 00:04:32,480 Speaker 1: I heard from Dad. I said, why would I hear 87 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:32,960 Speaker 1: from him? 88 00:04:33,200 --> 00:04:33,440 Speaker 3: Ever? 89 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:38,600 Speaker 1: Again, my aunt said, Dad is getting married, who is 90 00:04:38,640 --> 00:04:39,520 Speaker 1: a fair partner? 91 00:04:39,920 --> 00:04:44,200 Speaker 4: Ooh, home on. 92 00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:48,120 Speaker 1: And by going to his wedding it would help us 93 00:04:48,240 --> 00:04:51,640 Speaker 1: to mend our relationship. I said, why would I do that? 94 00:04:52,520 --> 00:04:53,520 Speaker 3: He's to me? 95 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:55,560 Speaker 1: To me, There was silence on the phone for a 96 00:04:55,560 --> 00:05:00,280 Speaker 1: bit before my dad replied, asking if that was what 97 00:05:00,360 --> 00:05:05,160 Speaker 1: I felt about him. He was on the line, Oh 98 00:05:05,200 --> 00:05:10,520 Speaker 1: my god, stop, But why would the aunt be complicit 99 00:05:10,600 --> 00:05:14,120 Speaker 1: in that? Like this is like a we've. 100 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:16,279 Speaker 3: Seen, we've seen the crazy family members. 101 00:05:15,960 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 1: That Ryan, but that's the aunt that like helped her. She, 102 00:05:22,720 --> 00:05:24,800 Speaker 1: like the aunt knows all the context. I don't know 103 00:05:24,839 --> 00:05:28,440 Speaker 1: why she would agree to have that dad be like surprise, 104 00:05:28,520 --> 00:05:28,960 Speaker 1: I'm here. 105 00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:30,479 Speaker 3: That's even more insane. 106 00:05:30,880 --> 00:05:34,200 Speaker 1: Wow, oh my god. I immediately cut the call when 107 00:05:34,240 --> 00:05:37,680 Speaker 1: I heard his voice. I realized he was with my 108 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:40,719 Speaker 1: aunt when she made the call to me. She texted 109 00:05:40,760 --> 00:05:44,080 Speaker 1: me back saying I wasn't ask for saying what I said, 110 00:05:44,440 --> 00:05:47,919 Speaker 1: and my dad is crushed hearing that, and that I 111 00:05:47,960 --> 00:05:49,279 Speaker 1: should move on by now. 112 00:05:49,600 --> 00:05:51,320 Speaker 3: He wasn't supposed to be on the call the first place. 113 00:05:52,520 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 3: He wasn't supposed to cheat on his dying life. Okay, 114 00:05:55,880 --> 00:06:01,039 Speaker 3: how about that? Come on, Yeah, brings up some good. 115 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:05,159 Speaker 1: I did not want to argue with someone who helped me, 116 00:06:05,640 --> 00:06:08,680 Speaker 1: so I blocked her. Oh, I did not want to 117 00:06:08,880 --> 00:06:11,480 Speaker 1: argue with someone who helped me, so I blocked her. 118 00:06:11,680 --> 00:06:14,840 Speaker 1: I'm confused by that. Yeah, I'm maybe I did not 119 00:06:14,960 --> 00:06:16,720 Speaker 1: want to argue with someone who helped me, Like, could 120 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:20,040 Speaker 1: I guess because the aunt helped her when you're moving 121 00:06:21,920 --> 00:06:24,040 Speaker 1: But like I understand the first part. Hey, I don't 122 00:06:24,040 --> 00:06:26,240 Speaker 1: want to argue with someone to help me. I don't 123 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:28,120 Speaker 1: agree with her, so I'm just going to end the conversation. 124 00:06:28,560 --> 00:06:30,919 Speaker 1: But blocking her feels. 125 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:33,240 Speaker 2: Like I think. I think Op is just in a 126 00:06:33,400 --> 00:06:37,880 Speaker 2: very emotional state right now, and it's just like like 127 00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:40,800 Speaker 2: like saying the dad is dead to her, Like maybe 128 00:06:40,839 --> 00:06:42,760 Speaker 2: that's over the line, but I think she's just like 129 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:44,000 Speaker 2: in this raw emotion. 130 00:06:44,160 --> 00:06:46,320 Speaker 1: You feel like she's like, now the aunt is dead 131 00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:49,120 Speaker 1: to me too, Like because the blocking is pretty. 132 00:06:49,440 --> 00:06:50,320 Speaker 3: That's pretty strong. 133 00:06:50,480 --> 00:06:52,640 Speaker 1: I mean, like it could we we don't know, we 134 00:06:52,800 --> 00:06:54,360 Speaker 1: understand Op wanted to be mad. 135 00:06:54,480 --> 00:06:56,760 Speaker 2: It haven't gotten been no contact hammer yet, so it 136 00:06:56,760 --> 00:06:58,560 Speaker 2: could just be like I need to shut you up 137 00:06:58,680 --> 00:06:59,360 Speaker 2: for a minute. 138 00:06:59,120 --> 00:07:01,919 Speaker 1: For a while, as you just did something so terrible 139 00:07:01,960 --> 00:07:04,240 Speaker 1: to me, and let's not like we're not talking. I 140 00:07:04,240 --> 00:07:05,960 Speaker 1: don't want you to call me again and give me 141 00:07:06,200 --> 00:07:08,760 Speaker 1: the whoopsie doop. Yeah, that makes total sense. It makes 142 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:11,240 Speaker 1: all sense. Over the next two days, I got sent 143 00:07:11,320 --> 00:07:14,080 Speaker 1: a wedding invitation to my mailbox. The only person in 144 00:07:14,120 --> 00:07:16,720 Speaker 1: the family who knew my address was my aunt, and 145 00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:19,840 Speaker 1: she gave my number to various members of the family. 146 00:07:20,320 --> 00:07:25,960 Speaker 1: I am being bombarded with calls and texts from dad, uncle, cousins, aunts, 147 00:07:26,240 --> 00:07:28,200 Speaker 1: saying I should give him a chance and. 148 00:07:28,160 --> 00:07:29,120 Speaker 3: To come to the wedding. 149 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:31,800 Speaker 1: Dude, that's such not a nice move from the aunt. 150 00:07:32,040 --> 00:07:32,720 Speaker 3: What is going on? 151 00:07:32,800 --> 00:07:34,920 Speaker 1: Obviously OP didn't want to be contact in the an 152 00:07:35,080 --> 00:07:37,600 Speaker 1: is like totally breaching that trust on thousand percent, some 153 00:07:37,760 --> 00:07:40,000 Speaker 1: calling me names for saying what I said. I got 154 00:07:40,000 --> 00:07:42,720 Speaker 1: a text from the affair partner saying, my dad is 155 00:07:42,760 --> 00:07:46,320 Speaker 1: thinking of postponing the wedding and I should just talk 156 00:07:46,360 --> 00:07:46,720 Speaker 1: to him. 157 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:48,760 Speaker 3: You cannot reach out to her right now, that's not 158 00:07:48,760 --> 00:07:49,040 Speaker 3: the move. 159 00:07:49,160 --> 00:07:51,840 Speaker 1: For context, the affair partner was a friend of my 160 00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:56,480 Speaker 1: mom and knew she had cancer. I actually did hear that, 161 00:07:56,560 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 1: Like when a partner has cancer or when they're pregnant 162 00:08:00,240 --> 00:08:05,680 Speaker 1: is the most likely time when cheating goes on, right, Like, 163 00:08:05,760 --> 00:08:06,960 Speaker 1: can you look that up and tell me. 164 00:08:06,960 --> 00:08:08,160 Speaker 3: If that's true? Can we fact check? 165 00:08:08,240 --> 00:08:11,160 Speaker 1: Yeah? I don't want to have a relationship with dad 166 00:08:11,400 --> 00:08:11,880 Speaker 1: or her. 167 00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:15,600 Speaker 3: They are trying to force it. It got quiet after that. 168 00:08:15,560 --> 00:08:18,000 Speaker 1: But being told by so many people from my dad's 169 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 1: side I am an APP did leave me conflicted. But 170 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:25,200 Speaker 1: I am sticking to my guns. So am I the app. 171 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:28,280 Speaker 1: And there are some relevant comments. But before we dive 172 00:08:28,320 --> 00:08:30,400 Speaker 1: into those, John, what do you think is OP the 173 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:34,560 Speaker 1: app for one cutting off contact of dad, two saying 174 00:08:34,640 --> 00:08:37,760 Speaker 1: dad is dead to them? Yeah, three blocking the aunt 175 00:08:38,320 --> 00:08:42,240 Speaker 1: and then four I guess like not going not going 176 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:44,800 Speaker 1: to the way yea. So those are like on on, 177 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:45,439 Speaker 1: So we have. 178 00:08:45,520 --> 00:08:49,720 Speaker 2: Four cat four am are you the starting at number 179 00:08:49,720 --> 00:08:54,520 Speaker 2: one which was for uh not which is for cutting 180 00:08:54,559 --> 00:08:55,080 Speaker 2: off the dad? 181 00:08:55,160 --> 00:09:00,400 Speaker 3: Right? Yeah, not at all, Like the OP needs some space. 182 00:09:00,840 --> 00:09:03,800 Speaker 2: Honestly, I think it's a smart move because, like again 183 00:09:03,920 --> 00:09:05,559 Speaker 2: I feel like OP, he's just in a really raw 184 00:09:05,600 --> 00:09:08,000 Speaker 2: emotional state and maybe they're like, I don't want to 185 00:09:08,040 --> 00:09:11,080 Speaker 2: say anything else out of turn, or do you deal 186 00:09:11,120 --> 00:09:11,760 Speaker 2: with it totally? 187 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:14,280 Speaker 1: Not the a hole why she probably wasn't talking to 188 00:09:14,320 --> 00:09:16,640 Speaker 1: her dad because she knew she would have said something 189 00:09:16,840 --> 00:09:19,800 Speaker 1: that would have like really hurt him, like what she 190 00:09:19,880 --> 00:09:21,280 Speaker 1: said on the call exactly. 191 00:09:21,679 --> 00:09:24,040 Speaker 3: And then and you know what, actually I. 192 00:09:24,000 --> 00:09:25,880 Speaker 2: Was debating on number two. I was like, number two 193 00:09:25,920 --> 00:09:29,080 Speaker 2: was the one. If you're going to make an argument 194 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:30,800 Speaker 2: for one of those four of OP being the a whole, 195 00:09:30,880 --> 00:09:32,400 Speaker 2: number two would be the one to do it, which 196 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:35,240 Speaker 2: is saying that the dad is dead to her. She 197 00:09:35,400 --> 00:09:37,520 Speaker 2: didn't say that to him, now, she said that to 198 00:09:37,600 --> 00:09:39,880 Speaker 2: the aunt, not knowing that the dad was on the line. 199 00:09:39,960 --> 00:09:42,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, So response to being like, oh, you should reach 200 00:09:42,160 --> 00:09:43,520 Speaker 1: out to him, or why aren't you going to go 201 00:09:43,559 --> 00:09:46,600 Speaker 1: to the wedding, and she was probably maybe she's like 202 00:09:47,440 --> 00:09:50,920 Speaker 1: maybe some hyperbole, yes, speaking like why would I talk 203 00:09:50,920 --> 00:09:52,719 Speaker 1: to him, like he did such a wrong thing that 204 00:09:52,720 --> 00:09:53,440 Speaker 1: I'm never talking to him. 205 00:09:53,679 --> 00:09:55,240 Speaker 3: That's that's how I'm interpreting it. 206 00:09:55,920 --> 00:09:57,719 Speaker 2: And so the fact, like you could make more of 207 00:09:57,760 --> 00:09:59,520 Speaker 2: an argument if it was directly to the dad's space, 208 00:09:59,520 --> 00:10:01,679 Speaker 2: but it was so not. The a hole in that 209 00:10:02,360 --> 00:10:05,840 Speaker 2: number three cutting off the ant, Yeah, blocking the air, 210 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:09,200 Speaker 2: blocking the ant, blocking the ant totally warranted because again 211 00:10:09,240 --> 00:10:11,240 Speaker 2: the same thing. Don't want to deal with it, don't 212 00:10:11,240 --> 00:10:13,440 Speaker 2: want to say anything out of you know, like I 213 00:10:13,520 --> 00:10:15,680 Speaker 2: just need space, you know, I don't want to you know, 214 00:10:15,880 --> 00:10:19,840 Speaker 2: blow up at you. I need time million percent. And 215 00:10:20,240 --> 00:10:23,360 Speaker 2: finally for not going to the wedding, absolutely not. I mean, 216 00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:26,600 Speaker 2: like the way it's it's so it's crazy how rushed 217 00:10:26,600 --> 00:10:29,680 Speaker 2: this was. It was like mom dies a few months later, Hey, 218 00:10:29,880 --> 00:10:32,760 Speaker 2: I've been dating this woman, not just for the five months, surprise, 219 00:10:33,160 --> 00:10:35,080 Speaker 2: been cheating on her, you know, on your mom for 220 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:37,120 Speaker 2: like almost three years. That makes it so much worse, 221 00:10:37,120 --> 00:10:41,400 Speaker 2: and then we're getting married. Like, just what an insane 222 00:10:41,400 --> 00:10:46,439 Speaker 2: whiplash after this horrendous grieving problem, not just the grieving process, 223 00:10:46,480 --> 00:10:49,400 Speaker 2: but the process of losing your mom. I mean, just 224 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:52,760 Speaker 2: unimaginable of the dad to do, unimatchable. 225 00:10:53,840 --> 00:10:56,480 Speaker 1: I agree, I agree, I think not the ahole on 226 00:10:56,960 --> 00:10:59,960 Speaker 1: all counts. But Riley, really quick, do we have any update. 227 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:04,960 Speaker 1: It's on when cheating most likely takes place in relationships. 228 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:07,080 Speaker 4: So it says like one in every ten men cheat 229 00:11:07,080 --> 00:11:08,560 Speaker 4: on their wives while they're pregnant. 230 00:11:09,040 --> 00:11:13,760 Speaker 1: Right, so for fathers to be insane, ten percent ten 231 00:11:14,840 --> 00:11:20,600 Speaker 1: of fathers to be cheat on their pregnant wives. That's crazy. 232 00:11:20,720 --> 00:11:24,640 Speaker 1: That's an insane stat How about like like with like sickness. 233 00:11:24,880 --> 00:11:25,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't. 234 00:11:25,559 --> 00:11:27,760 Speaker 4: Think they've done a lot of case studies with that 235 00:11:27,760 --> 00:11:30,240 Speaker 4: one yet. 236 00:11:29,840 --> 00:11:31,920 Speaker 1: Did chat GPT say anything. 237 00:11:31,960 --> 00:11:34,000 Speaker 4: Oh, I didn't ask chat but it says here in 238 00:11:34,040 --> 00:11:39,080 Speaker 4: an article that like people that are have cancer, it 239 00:11:39,080 --> 00:11:41,360 Speaker 4: puts a lot of stress on their relationship and. 240 00:11:41,360 --> 00:11:43,040 Speaker 3: They're more likely to leave. 241 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:46,040 Speaker 4: But I think they leave because they found someone else 242 00:11:46,120 --> 00:11:47,199 Speaker 4: or like stuff like that. 243 00:11:47,640 --> 00:11:52,040 Speaker 1: All right, Well, while Riley's asking chat GPT the world's questions, 244 00:11:52,160 --> 00:11:55,880 Speaker 1: let's get into some relevant comments. So your aunt violated 245 00:11:55,920 --> 00:11:57,719 Speaker 1: your trust and the rest of your family needs to 246 00:11:57,720 --> 00:12:01,040 Speaker 1: be cut off too. Yeah, so this is Ope responding. Yeah, 247 00:12:01,080 --> 00:12:05,040 Speaker 1: I have blocked thirty nine numbers. Who but what my 248 00:12:05,120 --> 00:12:07,960 Speaker 1: aunt did really made me sad. I genuinely thought she 249 00:12:08,120 --> 00:12:12,520 Speaker 1: cared for me, which I think she still does in 250 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:15,679 Speaker 1: her own way, but the way that she's showing it 251 00:12:15,720 --> 00:12:22,200 Speaker 1: is verily story warped, and I think disrespectful and like 252 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:22,880 Speaker 1: hurtful to you. 253 00:12:23,240 --> 00:12:24,280 Speaker 3: Yes, so hurtful. 254 00:12:24,559 --> 00:12:27,400 Speaker 1: And then another commenter says it feels like there is 255 00:12:27,440 --> 00:12:29,839 Speaker 1: a catch here for them to want to reach out 256 00:12:29,840 --> 00:12:34,000 Speaker 1: to you and not years ago, and then Ope resply replies, Actually, 257 00:12:34,040 --> 00:12:36,280 Speaker 1: I thought about this too, and I think you might 258 00:12:36,320 --> 00:12:38,720 Speaker 1: be right because I got some text like it's a 259 00:12:38,880 --> 00:12:41,920 Speaker 1: son's duty to take care of his father and your 260 00:12:41,960 --> 00:12:46,000 Speaker 1: future kids would want their grandfather in their life, So 261 00:12:46,080 --> 00:12:50,480 Speaker 1: I think it's like they want grandkids. Yeah. And then 262 00:12:50,520 --> 00:12:53,400 Speaker 1: on safety, Opie says, thank you. I am in the 263 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:57,160 Speaker 1: process of changing my number and updating contacts. As where 264 00:12:57,160 --> 00:12:59,640 Speaker 1: I live it's a pretty secure apartment. You can only 265 00:12:59,640 --> 00:13:02,360 Speaker 1: come in after me or someone buzzes you in. Then 266 00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:04,320 Speaker 1: you have to write down your name with security and 267 00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:06,760 Speaker 1: the elevator works with a key fob only. I am 268 00:13:06,880 --> 00:13:09,080 Speaker 1: hoping that I don't have to move, but keeping my 269 00:13:09,120 --> 00:13:11,000 Speaker 1: options open if it escalates. 270 00:13:11,080 --> 00:13:13,280 Speaker 3: That's insane. Yeah, are you kidding me? 271 00:13:13,760 --> 00:13:17,720 Speaker 1: I feel like it's as far as I can see 272 00:13:17,720 --> 00:13:20,000 Speaker 1: from the what's in the story doesn't feel like it's 273 00:13:20,040 --> 00:13:21,160 Speaker 1: at that point yet. 274 00:13:21,480 --> 00:13:24,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm wondering if there's some context we're missing of 275 00:13:24,720 --> 00:13:28,000 Speaker 2: like her, the craziness. 276 00:13:27,440 --> 00:13:28,560 Speaker 3: Of her family or something. 277 00:13:28,800 --> 00:13:31,360 Speaker 2: I don't know, because maybe that's maybe that's why she 278 00:13:31,440 --> 00:13:34,200 Speaker 2: blocked all of them. Yeah, because she's like, this whole 279 00:13:34,200 --> 00:13:36,040 Speaker 2: group is absolutely insane. 280 00:13:36,120 --> 00:13:37,720 Speaker 3: I'm just not even gonna give you the chance. 281 00:13:37,840 --> 00:13:41,680 Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, but there is a big update and a 282 00:13:41,800 --> 00:13:45,320 Speaker 1: mini update. I'll hit the mini update first. I sent 283 00:13:45,400 --> 00:13:47,800 Speaker 1: a text to all thirty nine numbers who called her 284 00:13:47,840 --> 00:13:51,320 Speaker 1: texted me detailing what dad did and blocked all of them. 285 00:13:51,520 --> 00:13:55,480 Speaker 1: I don't care for their responses. And let's get into 286 00:13:55,520 --> 00:14:00,599 Speaker 1: this big, thick, juicy update. Let's do it before we 287 00:14:00,720 --> 00:14:05,120 Speaker 1: jump in. John, any conspiracies about what you think will happen? 288 00:14:06,200 --> 00:14:10,760 Speaker 2: Well, but on so, I'm getting we're getting little inklings 289 00:14:10,800 --> 00:14:13,200 Speaker 2: of do I think that the family is going to, like, 290 00:14:13,240 --> 00:14:16,040 Speaker 2: you know, storm the capital of Op's apartment. Maybe not, 291 00:14:16,840 --> 00:14:19,240 Speaker 2: but that's. 292 00:14:19,400 --> 00:14:20,480 Speaker 3: That's conspiracy for you. 293 00:14:20,960 --> 00:14:24,680 Speaker 2: But it's sounding like maybe the family is just so 294 00:14:24,840 --> 00:14:28,560 Speaker 2: wild that one of them might like try calling, calling, calling, 295 00:14:28,600 --> 00:14:31,160 Speaker 2: and then like show up at Op's apartment. It's like, 296 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:34,000 Speaker 2: why aren't you answering me? You need to connect with 297 00:14:34,040 --> 00:14:36,240 Speaker 2: your dad so your grandkids can know him. 298 00:14:36,320 --> 00:14:43,000 Speaker 1: I also conspira theorize, yeah, that someone from Opie's family 299 00:14:43,400 --> 00:14:46,480 Speaker 1: is going to show up in person, Like, yeah, I'm 300 00:14:46,600 --> 00:14:51,200 Speaker 1: almost certain the aunt. The aunt totally could. I mean 301 00:14:51,240 --> 00:14:53,640 Speaker 1: she seems to be the most, like possibly the dad 302 00:14:55,080 --> 00:14:57,440 Speaker 1: because the ant might share that is the most where 303 00:14:58,880 --> 00:15:02,040 Speaker 1: he lives. Yeah, let's see, let's do it. Let's get 304 00:15:02,080 --> 00:15:06,040 Speaker 1: back to reality. So this is a month later. So hello, First, 305 00:15:06,080 --> 00:15:08,280 Speaker 1: I want to thank you all who commented on the 306 00:15:08,280 --> 00:15:11,200 Speaker 1: first post and all who messaged me. It really helped 307 00:15:11,280 --> 00:15:13,800 Speaker 1: stick with my decision to not go to the wedding. 308 00:15:14,320 --> 00:15:16,760 Speaker 1: I wanted to update earlier, but it's been pretty hectic 309 00:15:16,880 --> 00:15:20,280 Speaker 1: with work. So after many texts and calls from multiple 310 00:15:20,320 --> 00:15:23,320 Speaker 1: family members, I sent a text to all the numbers 311 00:15:23,360 --> 00:15:26,520 Speaker 1: detailing what Dad did and why I chose to be 312 00:15:26,640 --> 00:15:30,400 Speaker 1: no contact with him. I then blocked all the numbers. 313 00:15:30,760 --> 00:15:33,200 Speaker 1: I have changed my number, but kept the old number 314 00:15:33,200 --> 00:15:35,800 Speaker 1: in a separate phone to collect evidence if they start 315 00:15:35,840 --> 00:15:38,680 Speaker 1: to harass me from random numbers. But luckily, nothing happened, 316 00:15:39,000 --> 00:15:41,160 Speaker 1: and I thought that was that. 317 00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:42,360 Speaker 3: Okay. 318 00:15:43,120 --> 00:15:49,160 Speaker 1: A week or so after that, my aunt's fiance came 319 00:15:49,200 --> 00:15:49,920 Speaker 1: to my apartment. 320 00:15:50,240 --> 00:15:54,640 Speaker 3: Stop, what stake do you have in this? Yeah we 321 00:15:54,680 --> 00:15:55,800 Speaker 3: didn't see that, covied, Yeah. 322 00:15:55,840 --> 00:15:58,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, truly, he knows what time I get off work 323 00:15:58,560 --> 00:16:01,200 Speaker 1: and was waiting for me in the parking lot. God, 324 00:16:01,360 --> 00:16:05,160 Speaker 1: that is wild. I was apprehensive, but he assured me 325 00:16:05,200 --> 00:16:08,320 Speaker 1: he only wanted to talk, and according to him, the 326 00:16:08,400 --> 00:16:12,720 Speaker 1: text I sent has caused a shit storm in that family. 327 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:16,280 Speaker 1: I mean yeah, basically, just like let off a bomb 328 00:16:16,400 --> 00:16:17,600 Speaker 1: in thirty nine and. 329 00:16:19,480 --> 00:16:20,560 Speaker 3: Walked away without. 330 00:16:20,280 --> 00:16:21,280 Speaker 1: Looking like cool guys. 331 00:16:21,800 --> 00:16:24,040 Speaker 3: Explosions's explosions behind us. 332 00:16:24,720 --> 00:16:25,680 Speaker 1: I'm not looking. I'm not looking. 333 00:16:25,800 --> 00:16:26,360 Speaker 3: I did that. 334 00:16:26,680 --> 00:16:28,680 Speaker 1: He told me that some of the cousins who did 335 00:16:28,800 --> 00:16:31,760 Speaker 1: not know what happened in the past, started to question 336 00:16:31,920 --> 00:16:34,480 Speaker 1: Dad and the affair partner, and they started to get 337 00:16:34,520 --> 00:16:40,120 Speaker 1: defensive and deny it, but someone revealed that it was true. 338 00:16:41,120 --> 00:16:44,280 Speaker 1: This has caused a massive argument within the family, with 339 00:16:44,320 --> 00:16:47,760 Speaker 1: some cousins pulling out of the wedding. Dad wanted to 340 00:16:47,800 --> 00:16:49,880 Speaker 1: postpone the wedding so you can talk to me, but 341 00:16:50,000 --> 00:16:53,280 Speaker 1: the affair partner threatened to leave him if he did that. 342 00:16:53,680 --> 00:16:55,000 Speaker 3: Such a healthy relationship. 343 00:16:55,240 --> 00:17:02,000 Speaker 1: Wait ah wow, So the affair partner is basically like 344 00:17:02,280 --> 00:17:06,360 Speaker 1: gatekeeping the dad and Op's relationship, which I mean OPI 345 00:17:06,400 --> 00:17:09,520 Speaker 1: doesn't want a relationship with the dad, but the fact 346 00:17:09,560 --> 00:17:12,880 Speaker 1: that the affair partner is doing that is incredibly toxic. 347 00:17:12,960 --> 00:17:13,160 Speaker 3: Yeah. 348 00:17:13,200 --> 00:17:16,920 Speaker 1: She's like, yo, forget about your son. This is us, 349 00:17:17,560 --> 00:17:19,919 Speaker 1: Like I'm going to have this wedding like she's your 350 00:17:19,960 --> 00:17:22,320 Speaker 1: son now. Yeah. Yeah, I like she tried. She was 351 00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:26,360 Speaker 1: like I could totally see really quick. I could totally 352 00:17:26,560 --> 00:17:28,200 Speaker 1: see their conversation. 353 00:17:27,840 --> 00:17:28,360 Speaker 3: Going like. 354 00:17:29,840 --> 00:17:31,199 Speaker 2: I really want my daughter to and she's like, you 355 00:17:31,200 --> 00:17:32,720 Speaker 2: know what, Okay, I'll give it a shot, or I 356 00:17:33,000 --> 00:17:35,360 Speaker 2: really want my son there, and then the affair partner's like, okay, 357 00:17:35,400 --> 00:17:38,520 Speaker 2: I'll give it a shot. But really, in her mind 358 00:17:38,520 --> 00:17:40,159 Speaker 2: the whole time, she's like, I don't care if this 359 00:17:40,200 --> 00:17:42,200 Speaker 2: works or not. I'm gonna just get him to marry 360 00:17:42,200 --> 00:17:44,679 Speaker 2: me or just give him this ultimatum. I think that 361 00:17:44,760 --> 00:17:46,520 Speaker 2: was the affair partner's playing the whole time, because if 362 00:17:46,560 --> 00:17:51,680 Speaker 2: she's willing to cheat on her dying friend's husband. 363 00:17:52,640 --> 00:17:55,679 Speaker 3: What's she going to care about the son for? Yeah, 364 00:17:55,720 --> 00:17:57,160 Speaker 3: there we go, there we go. 365 00:17:57,440 --> 00:18:00,560 Speaker 1: I also now wonder if the affair partner is after 366 00:18:00,680 --> 00:18:02,360 Speaker 1: some kind of monetary incentive. 367 00:18:02,920 --> 00:18:05,200 Speaker 4: Yeah, that's what I was thinking too, because I want 368 00:18:05,200 --> 00:18:07,040 Speaker 4: to know how old he is, and I also want 369 00:18:07,040 --> 00:18:08,200 Speaker 4: to know how much money he's. 370 00:18:08,080 --> 00:18:12,760 Speaker 1: Got, and also like sometimes if you work at like 371 00:18:12,880 --> 00:18:18,840 Speaker 1: a large company, you have to get life insurance, and 372 00:18:20,560 --> 00:18:22,560 Speaker 1: could there be a large life insurance payout? 373 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:28,080 Speaker 2: Are we going into true crime territory? 374 00:18:31,640 --> 00:18:34,359 Speaker 4: They were together while the wife had cancer, and low key, 375 00:18:36,320 --> 00:18:40,000 Speaker 4: the fair partner could have given Opie's mom cancer. 376 00:18:40,920 --> 00:18:47,520 Speaker 1: Okay, we'll got we're too far. Let's reel it in. 377 00:18:48,119 --> 00:18:50,600 Speaker 1: Let's reel it in. But I do think that the 378 00:18:50,680 --> 00:18:56,439 Speaker 1: fact that it's almost a deal breaker for Ope's dad 379 00:18:57,160 --> 00:19:00,760 Speaker 1: to talk to Ope for the affair partner, that's like, oh, 380 00:19:00,840 --> 00:19:04,359 Speaker 1: then like we're breaking it off. Yeah, I think that 381 00:19:04,480 --> 00:19:09,080 Speaker 1: shows that there's maybe some incentives that are misaligned here totally. 382 00:19:08,720 --> 00:19:11,560 Speaker 2: But in in concert with your half falling off, let's 383 00:19:11,560 --> 00:19:12,240 Speaker 2: get back to reality. 384 00:19:12,320 --> 00:19:13,439 Speaker 3: Let's see what I get back to it. 385 00:19:13,560 --> 00:19:16,280 Speaker 1: So the news of what dad and a fair partner 386 00:19:16,320 --> 00:19:19,480 Speaker 1: did also reached some of their friends who were at 387 00:19:19,480 --> 00:19:22,880 Speaker 1: one point friends of my mom as well, to get 388 00:19:22,880 --> 00:19:25,760 Speaker 1: you a good friend group, because it's like the mom 389 00:19:25,960 --> 00:19:26,720 Speaker 1: was friends. 390 00:19:26,400 --> 00:19:27,200 Speaker 3: With the affair partner. 391 00:19:27,280 --> 00:19:31,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, some of them have also pulled out the wedding, 392 00:19:31,080 --> 00:19:34,280 Speaker 1: and this caused the affair partner to have a breakdown 393 00:19:34,760 --> 00:19:39,240 Speaker 1: and started banning anyone who brings it up. Family members 394 00:19:39,320 --> 00:19:43,479 Speaker 1: included from the wedding. According to aunts fiance, she is 395 00:19:43,520 --> 00:19:48,560 Speaker 1: blaming this all on me and says I did this intentionally. 396 00:19:49,560 --> 00:19:52,600 Speaker 3: I laugh at that. I mean, like, I mean, technically, 397 00:19:52,880 --> 00:19:53,720 Speaker 3: are you kidding me? 398 00:19:53,920 --> 00:19:56,159 Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I'm like, yes, I mean yes, but like 399 00:19:56,280 --> 00:20:00,399 Speaker 1: you were the one who cheated you, he did the 400 00:20:00,480 --> 00:20:05,200 Speaker 1: wrong somebody who was dying she got God. 401 00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:08,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, sorry, sorry for being honest. 402 00:20:08,320 --> 00:20:12,240 Speaker 1: I laughed at that. The wedding is still somehow happening. 403 00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:15,600 Speaker 1: I asked him about my aunt and how all this started, 404 00:20:15,800 --> 00:20:18,080 Speaker 1: and he said all he knows is that there was 405 00:20:18,119 --> 00:20:21,640 Speaker 1: a conversation of how bad the family would look if 406 00:20:21,680 --> 00:20:24,400 Speaker 1: I wasn't at the wedding, and that my aunt offered 407 00:20:24,440 --> 00:20:27,359 Speaker 1: to call me. He said that he disagreed, but she 408 00:20:27,480 --> 00:20:30,320 Speaker 1: did it anyway. He said that he is only here 409 00:20:30,400 --> 00:20:33,560 Speaker 1: because he felt I needed to know what happened. I 410 00:20:33,560 --> 00:20:36,320 Speaker 1: thanked him, but said I will be going completely no 411 00:20:36,480 --> 00:20:41,120 Speaker 1: contact with her and by extension him as well. He agreed, 412 00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:43,840 Speaker 1: wished me well and left. 413 00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:44,960 Speaker 3: Wow. 414 00:20:45,160 --> 00:20:48,399 Speaker 1: I'm not going to lie and say that I'm completely okay, Opie, 415 00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:49,240 Speaker 1: we understand. 416 00:20:49,359 --> 00:20:49,600 Speaker 3: Yep. 417 00:20:49,880 --> 00:20:52,760 Speaker 1: I missed my aunt, I miss my mom, but I 418 00:20:52,800 --> 00:20:55,200 Speaker 1: know what I did was the right thing. I'm currently 419 00:20:55,240 --> 00:20:57,480 Speaker 1: staying with my girlfriend and she has been cheering me 420 00:20:57,600 --> 00:21:01,000 Speaker 1: up by coming up with absurd ways to ruin the wedding. 421 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:03,320 Speaker 1: Has a lot of you said I should try therapy, 422 00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:05,960 Speaker 1: and I am going to take that advice. Some of 423 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:08,800 Speaker 1: the comments have made me realize that I've bottled up 424 00:21:08,840 --> 00:21:12,040 Speaker 1: a lot of grief and anger. I am super nervous 425 00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:14,200 Speaker 1: about it, but I also feel it'll do me good. 426 00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:18,040 Speaker 1: So once again, thank you for all your comments and advice. 427 00:21:18,720 --> 00:21:23,000 Speaker 1: Chow And there is one comment on the girlfriend's ideas. 428 00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:25,640 Speaker 1: The very first idea she came up with was let's 429 00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:29,040 Speaker 1: go to the landfill, catch some rats, then release them 430 00:21:29,080 --> 00:21:33,920 Speaker 1: at the wedding. I got progressively worse from there. Obviously, 431 00:21:33,920 --> 00:21:35,560 Speaker 1: this is just for fun. I have no intention of 432 00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:37,679 Speaker 1: going anywhere near that wedding, but reading some of the 433 00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:40,399 Speaker 1: ideas here is giving me a good laugh. 434 00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:45,000 Speaker 2: Oh and that is all wow, well a well deserved laugh, 435 00:21:45,160 --> 00:21:46,400 Speaker 2: like my goodness open. 436 00:21:46,560 --> 00:21:48,639 Speaker 1: Ohp he needs it, dude, ohp needs it is a 437 00:21:48,920 --> 00:21:53,240 Speaker 1: this is and it really feels like there are situations 438 00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:56,240 Speaker 1: where I feel on Reddit where everyone's like, oh, no 439 00:21:56,359 --> 00:22:00,040 Speaker 1: contact and it feels like undeserved. I feel like this 440 00:22:00,160 --> 00:22:02,080 Speaker 1: feels fairly deserved. 441 00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:03,840 Speaker 2: One hundred percent, like get a bare minimum just for 442 00:22:03,920 --> 00:22:07,000 Speaker 2: the time being, because like like like Opie was saying, 443 00:22:07,040 --> 00:22:11,840 Speaker 2: like they let off the bomb and honestly good like 444 00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:18,119 Speaker 2: you you fed up dad, and like you're dad was 445 00:22:18,200 --> 00:22:21,360 Speaker 2: just trying to skate by with no consequences. That's probably 446 00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:23,440 Speaker 2: why he was rushing the wedding so quick. 447 00:22:23,480 --> 00:22:26,360 Speaker 1: It's like, let me just like blitz creak you with 448 00:22:26,440 --> 00:22:30,280 Speaker 1: all of this stuff, and you're so like discombobbious, like you. 449 00:22:31,880 --> 00:22:33,919 Speaker 3: You know, and OPI was like, no, I'm not. 450 00:22:34,040 --> 00:22:36,280 Speaker 2: I'm not standing for that at all, and like I 451 00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:40,680 Speaker 2: love the fact, like the nuclear revenge perfect. 452 00:22:40,440 --> 00:22:45,200 Speaker 1: Like yeah, I think OPI kind of did everything right. Yeah, 453 00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:50,159 Speaker 1: because the only reason that op said he texted all 454 00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:52,879 Speaker 1: those thirty nine people like that that like this is 455 00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:55,760 Speaker 1: what's actually happening is because they were harassing him, Yes, 456 00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:59,720 Speaker 1: and he just wanted it to stop, exactly, Yes, exactly, yeah, 457 00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:00,240 Speaker 1: and and. 458 00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:02,679 Speaker 3: Honestly, like, I don't know. 459 00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:04,439 Speaker 1: I mean, obviously there is a move where you can 460 00:23:04,680 --> 00:23:06,480 Speaker 1: just like leave it be and walk away, of course, 461 00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:09,440 Speaker 1: but it's like, I don't know that with all the harassment, 462 00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:09,840 Speaker 1: I don't know. 463 00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:11,880 Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, not with all hazard, not at all. 464 00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:15,440 Speaker 2: I was saying, like, if the harassment hadn't have happened, 465 00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:18,040 Speaker 2: you could one could argue it's like, hey, just walk 466 00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:20,439 Speaker 2: away whatever. But it's like, I don't know. I just 467 00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:24,560 Speaker 2: hate the idea of the dad getting away with this. Yeah, 468 00:23:24,600 --> 00:23:26,919 Speaker 2: you know. And it's like, Yo, you did something wrong. 469 00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:29,719 Speaker 2: You're going to face the repercussions. I'm sorry. Yeah, like 470 00:23:30,400 --> 00:23:33,439 Speaker 2: you you messed up, you gotta go. You have to 471 00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:33,919 Speaker 2: deal with that. 472 00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:36,960 Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm actually curious what what y'all would do in 473 00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:41,520 Speaker 1: this situation? Yes, would you walk away no explosions? Or 474 00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:47,560 Speaker 1: would you throw thirty nine bombs and then just walk 475 00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:48,760 Speaker 1: away fire? 476 00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:50,119 Speaker 3: Which one would you do? 477 00:23:50,240 --> 00:23:53,320 Speaker 1: I would love to know your reasons and why, John, 478 00:23:53,359 --> 00:23:54,800 Speaker 1: which one you would you do? I feel like I 479 00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:57,360 Speaker 1: know what you would do. I would walk away it's 480 00:23:57,520 --> 00:24:00,760 Speaker 1: like it's it's just like I want to get out 481 00:24:00,800 --> 00:24:01,520 Speaker 1: of the chaos. 482 00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:03,640 Speaker 3: I would be like, yeah, I think I would. 483 00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:06,919 Speaker 2: Say like no, I'm not attending the wedding like you know, 484 00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:10,400 Speaker 2: but I would be like I just need time to process. 485 00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:12,480 Speaker 3: And be away and like get away from all this 486 00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:15,800 Speaker 3: BS like that's what I would need. 487 00:24:15,960 --> 00:24:19,960 Speaker 1: Okay, here's a hard, very difficult question. 488 00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:21,320 Speaker 3: Oh boy, oh boy. 489 00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:25,840 Speaker 1: If op if you were Opie and you found out 490 00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:30,040 Speaker 1: that your dad was cheating on your mom, and your 491 00:24:30,080 --> 00:24:34,240 Speaker 1: mom was still alive but in her like final weeks, 492 00:24:35,320 --> 00:24:38,840 Speaker 1: would you tell your mom that your dad was cheating? 493 00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:46,720 Speaker 2: Honestly, probably not, because at that point, like it would 494 00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:49,800 Speaker 2: hurt the mom so much in a stage of pain 495 00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:53,800 Speaker 2: in her already that it's like it's not worth Like yeah, 496 00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:56,480 Speaker 2: it's not worth the mom's now going back at the 497 00:24:56,560 --> 00:25:00,280 Speaker 2: dad in some other ways, one hundred percent, but to 498 00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:06,479 Speaker 2: ruin the mom's happiness in that moment probably actually. Okay, 499 00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:13,280 Speaker 2: story time, my grandparents literally past and this is apparently 500 00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:15,200 Speaker 2: a common thing. I didn't know this until it's happened, 501 00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:17,960 Speaker 2: but my grandparents literally passed away within days of each other, 502 00:25:18,080 --> 00:25:20,560 Speaker 2: like less than a week. And it's like very common 503 00:25:20,600 --> 00:25:23,000 Speaker 2: with older couples, Like it's kind of. 504 00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:28,440 Speaker 3: Crazy so cute? Yeah, well, yes, yes, I see what 505 00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:28,959 Speaker 3: you're saying. 506 00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:30,240 Speaker 1: I love it. 507 00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:34,400 Speaker 3: So your grandparent's dying is adorable. I love their dath. 508 00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:35,520 Speaker 1: Is that not cute? 509 00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:36,080 Speaker 3: And it's cute? 510 00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:38,760 Speaker 1: It is cude, It is kind of cute, right. I 511 00:25:38,800 --> 00:25:41,639 Speaker 1: feel like Riley's ideal way to go is within days 512 00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:46,959 Speaker 1: of his life. You're so right, it's such a for cuteness. Yea, 513 00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:49,760 Speaker 1: If Riley wants that in his life, it's probably it 514 00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:50,960 Speaker 1: is cute one hundred percent. 515 00:25:52,080 --> 00:26:00,760 Speaker 2: But so uh, I think my my grandfather passed away first, 516 00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:03,800 Speaker 2: and then my family was like, oh no, sorry, my 517 00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:07,680 Speaker 2: grandmother passed away first. And then for my grandfather, who 518 00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:11,479 Speaker 2: had insane dementia at this time, they're like, it's not 519 00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:14,880 Speaker 2: worth it because we'll tell him and then he'll. 520 00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:18,480 Speaker 1: Forget in like an hour. Oh really yeah, one hundred percent. 521 00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:21,000 Speaker 1: Like so you wouldn't even tell, like you you wouldn't 522 00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:22,840 Speaker 1: tell him, No, we didn't, you did and then he 523 00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:24,760 Speaker 1: passed away a few days later. Wow. 524 00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:28,520 Speaker 2: So that was like a different scenario obviously, but kind 525 00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:29,080 Speaker 2: of similar. 526 00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:32,160 Speaker 3: And like do you go and like break. 527 00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:36,760 Speaker 2: This person's spirit who's literally at Death's Door and my 528 00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:39,199 Speaker 2: family's decision. I was like, very I wasn't part of 529 00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:42,680 Speaker 2: the decision. I thought I was like nineteen, but yeah, 530 00:26:42,680 --> 00:26:45,479 Speaker 2: all the adults were like, yeah, it's not it's not 531 00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:46,080 Speaker 2: worth it. 532 00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:49,200 Speaker 1: Yeah. Like a few episodes back, we got chewed out 533 00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:55,800 Speaker 1: a little bit for uh not for saying not my monkey, 534 00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:58,560 Speaker 1: not your monkey, not your circus. 535 00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:02,680 Speaker 2: Right right? Oh to not yeah, not tell the cheating. Yeah. 536 00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:06,080 Speaker 1: We were like, oh, like if you're not involved, right, 537 00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:09,640 Speaker 1: don't does it? Does it make sense to like write? 538 00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:11,920 Speaker 1: And people were saying, oh, like she was friends with them, 539 00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:14,240 Speaker 1: but she wasn't really friends with that person at the point. 540 00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:18,280 Speaker 2: That's these are two very different scenarios. These are too, 541 00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:21,720 Speaker 2: we'll break someone's spirit at death store, I think I 542 00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:27,040 Speaker 2: think that's yeah, definitely a very different scenario where it's like, 543 00:27:27,119 --> 00:27:28,240 Speaker 2: do you want to ruin the person. 544 00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:28,480 Speaker 1: To have this? 545 00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:29,280 Speaker 3: What would you do? 546 00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:32,439 Speaker 1: Put your answers in the comments below.