WEBVTT - Former Bachelorette Desiree Siegfried 0:00:02.000 --> 0:00:05.680 Welcome back, happy our listeners, and we're so excited about 0:00:05.680 --> 0:00:09.160 our episode today because, as we mentioned last week, we 0:00:09.200 --> 0:00:12.080 are officially on the road to the premiere of The 0:00:12.080 --> 0:00:15.640 Bad Chelarette and we are so thrilled because Rachel, I 0:00:15.680 --> 0:00:17.279 don't know if it's just me, but I feel like 0:00:17.360 --> 0:00:19.959 we just sat down and had Claire on and you know, 0:00:20.000 --> 0:00:21.759 granted that was actually a couple of months ago, but 0:00:21.800 --> 0:00:25.440 it feels like yesterday. And so we are a month 0:00:25.560 --> 0:00:28.880 away from the premiere and on October thirteenth, mark your 0:00:28.920 --> 0:00:32.239 calendars because we are getting our season premiere and it's 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:33.680 not going to be on Mondays. It's going to be 0:00:33.680 --> 0:00:35.680 on Tuesdays, so make sure you mark that down too. 0:00:35.680 --> 0:00:37.640 It's going to be a change for us all. But 0:00:38.280 --> 0:00:41.720 last week we mentioned that in anticipation of the upcoming season, 0:00:41.800 --> 0:00:43.879 we wanted to get some former Bad Cherettes on who 0:00:43.920 --> 0:00:46.120 we haven't had on the podcast yet. So we want 0:00:46.120 --> 0:00:47.879 to get them on and get us all pumped up 0:00:47.880 --> 0:00:50.720 for this season because what is better than some girl power? 0:00:51.360 --> 0:00:54.400 And so we're going to do that today because we 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:58.360 are having a very special lady on one who makes 0:00:58.400 --> 0:01:01.880 me laugh like no other and who I personally love 0:01:01.960 --> 0:01:04.360 I'm sure you do too, But we are having Jillian 0:01:04.480 --> 0:01:07.679 Harris on, and if you are a dedicated Bachelor fan, 0:01:07.880 --> 0:01:10.800 you know, I mean, she truly does it all. She's 0:01:10.800 --> 0:01:13.160 so cool. She's not only a mother as soon to 0:01:13.200 --> 0:01:16.760 be wife, she's a badass businesswoman. Like I said, she 0:01:16.959 --> 0:01:19.560 does it all, and so we're gonna have her on 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:21.800 and get her talking to us today about all things 0:01:21.800 --> 0:01:27.240 a bachelorette's past, present, and future. You know, I was, 0:01:27.680 --> 0:01:29.920 I was thinking, I'm excited to have Jillian on because 0:01:29.959 --> 0:01:31.560 I think we both met her for the first time 0:01:31.560 --> 0:01:35.880 at the same time, which was at the reunion and 0:01:36.080 --> 0:01:39.080 a fifteen year reunion, and she was hilarious. It's like 0:01:39.120 --> 0:01:41.360 I had heard about her. I knew that she was 0:01:42.440 --> 0:01:45.080 the most accomplished bachelorette, and I still am going to 0:01:45.160 --> 0:01:50.000 give her that title. But I had no idea what 0:01:50.040 --> 0:01:52.160 we were in for and how great she was going 0:01:52.200 --> 0:01:54.440 to be. But at the same time, also when you 0:01:54.440 --> 0:01:56.880 started talking about how we're on the road to Bachelorette, 0:01:56.920 --> 0:02:00.280 I was thinking, don't you feel like we've already seen 0:02:00.520 --> 0:02:04.520 this season, because more than any other season, there have 0:02:04.640 --> 0:02:10.440 been so many rumors swirling around this bachelorette or Bachelorette's 0:02:10.480 --> 0:02:15.240 plural whatever it is season that I feel like, I 0:02:15.240 --> 0:02:20.160 I've already watched it. Yeah, I feel like there's definitely 0:02:20.200 --> 0:02:22.919 more spoilers out there than there than we've ever had 0:02:22.960 --> 0:02:25.919 in the past, but A I try not to read 0:02:25.960 --> 0:02:28.800 too much into those because I can't help it. You can't. 0:02:31.440 --> 0:02:34.800 This one is like to a whole other level, because 0:02:35.000 --> 0:02:37.480 of course there's always some spoilers, but this one, I mean, 0:02:37.520 --> 0:02:41.080 I think because people are speculating so much, but also 0:02:42.200 --> 0:02:45.000 I feel like there's so much that when we actually 0:02:45.000 --> 0:02:48.040 watch each week back on once it starts, I guess 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:51.240 we're gonna be like, oh my gosh, Like it's just 0:02:51.280 --> 0:02:55.440 gonna be like I don't even know. I don't even know, 0:02:55.480 --> 0:02:56.920 Like I just want to watch it. I want to 0:02:56.919 --> 0:02:58.560 get to know the guys because I heard that there's 0:02:58.600 --> 0:03:01.280 more guys than there's ever been, and I just it's 0:03:01.320 --> 0:03:03.040 gonna be you know. And I think I said this 0:03:03.080 --> 0:03:04.760 on the podcast a couple of weeks ago, but when 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:07.040 Chris Harrison always comes out and says the most dramatic 0:03:07.080 --> 0:03:10.320 season ever, I truly think that that is going to 0:03:10.360 --> 0:03:13.200 live up to the title. For this season. I'm just like, 0:03:14.320 --> 0:03:18.839 ass it I'm calling Claire anyways, Um, okay, so yeah, 0:03:18.919 --> 0:03:20.919 I do. I totally feel like it's all it's all 0:03:20.919 --> 0:03:23.560 been played out, whether it be in the rumor mill 0:03:24.280 --> 0:03:26.960 or you know, it definitely isn't popping off in our 0:03:27.000 --> 0:03:29.320 bachelorette chat. I'll tell you that. I feel like, Oh, 0:03:29.639 --> 0:03:32.400 I feel like we're all like Claire, speak to us, 0:03:32.720 --> 0:03:37.240 tell us something we know nothing. I feel like we're 0:03:37.240 --> 0:03:39.560 trying to dig so much like the way we'll ask 0:03:39.640 --> 0:03:43.840 questions like word things for Claire is like we want something, 0:03:43.920 --> 0:03:46.320 but she is so tightited. I mean, she'll respond and 0:03:47.240 --> 0:03:49.400 you know, she'll give us like the baselines like oh, 0:03:49.440 --> 0:03:51.280 I'm good, how are you guys doing? But I'm like, 0:03:51.360 --> 0:03:54.560 give us more? Wait, can I ask you this? Because 0:03:54.600 --> 0:03:56.520 I got a lot of flak from this, and it's 0:03:56.520 --> 0:03:59.800 typically from Facebook moms, because I'm not well liked on 0:04:00.000 --> 0:04:02.480 Facebook and usually the people who are coming at me 0:04:02.520 --> 0:04:05.160 all look the same. I got a lot of flak 0:04:05.600 --> 0:04:12.800 for being confused by Claire's poster for the Bachelorette. I 0:04:12.960 --> 0:04:16.080 have a graduate. I'd never seen the graduate, so I 0:04:16.120 --> 0:04:19.040 didn't understand the concept of it. So and then in 0:04:19.160 --> 0:04:22.160 real time during an interview, somebody explained it to me, 0:04:22.200 --> 0:04:25.920 and I was like, what, I'm a little bothered by this. 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:30.640 Why are we playing into this cougar mentality? Did we 0:04:30.720 --> 0:04:33.120 do it for Ari? Did we do it for Nick? 0:04:33.880 --> 0:04:36.520 I literally was like, they might as well dress Claire 0:04:36.720 --> 0:04:40.000 up an animal print and tell it a roar. I 0:04:40.040 --> 0:04:42.679 don't like it? Well, no, And that was my first 0:04:42.680 --> 0:04:45.400 thing that I said, because when I woke up one 0:04:45.480 --> 0:04:48.320 day and one of my friends sent it to me 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:50.560 and she was like, what does this mean? And for 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:53.240 whatever reason, had just recently watched The Graduate and I 0:04:53.279 --> 0:04:55.800 was like, oh, it's after this movie. But I was like, 0:04:55.839 --> 0:04:58.159 if I was Claire, I'd be a little bit bothered 0:04:58.200 --> 0:05:00.720 by this too. And that was my first reaction, Like 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:03.040 you said, it's played into this cougar It's like, okay, yes, 0:05:03.120 --> 0:05:05.760 she's the oldest batcheerrette, Like, let's get over it. At 0:05:05.760 --> 0:05:08.640 this point, she's still Therefore, why we all became the 0:05:08.640 --> 0:05:11.000 bachelrette And that was hopefully to find a partner and 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:13.680 who cares if she is a little bit older, Like, 0:05:13.800 --> 0:05:15.760 let her just do her thing. Now it's played out. 0:05:15.800 --> 0:05:19.360 And so the fact that that was the ad route 0:05:19.400 --> 0:05:21.520 that they were going, I was like, hmmm, I would 0:05:21.640 --> 0:05:24.360 not enjoy that if that was me, it was I 0:05:24.360 --> 0:05:26.480 don't like the double standard. And the first time I 0:05:26.520 --> 0:05:30.080 saw it was on Chris Harrison's Instagram, so I thought 0:05:30.080 --> 0:05:32.159 it was a joke. I was like, why does Chris 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:34.720 Harrison have his foot in the middle of Claire's poster? 0:05:35.240 --> 0:05:40.039 It was so confused and up until I had that interview. 0:05:40.080 --> 0:05:42.840 But I'm not being critical like everyone's like, oh, Rachel 0:05:42.880 --> 0:05:46.200 criticizes everything. I just am like, we gotta support our 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:49.680 girl here. There's so many other aspects to highlight about her. 0:05:50.040 --> 0:05:53.160 Why are we get it she's the oldest bacherette. Surely 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:55.120 there's more to her than that. Let's not that be 0:05:55.240 --> 0:06:00.839 the whole spiel or the stick when it comes to Claire. Yeah, yeah, 0:06:00.920 --> 0:06:04.560 let it die here, Okay, we know her age, who cares? 0:06:04.640 --> 0:06:06.719 Let it go. Let her just find love and and 0:06:06.880 --> 0:06:10.240 enjoyed the journey of this all. So yeah, it could 0:06:10.279 --> 0:06:13.800 have been thirty nine and fine, forty and fabulous, you know, 0:06:13.920 --> 0:06:16.480 like coming, you know, like whatever, Like, I don't know 0:06:16.560 --> 0:06:18.400 it could have been. I didn't. I didn't like it. 0:06:18.440 --> 0:06:20.479 I wanted to do you did you have like a 0:06:20.600 --> 0:06:27.760 theme for your poster? Black, Well, I'm gonna what your 0:06:27.839 --> 0:06:32.080 poster looked like, I don't im Yeah, I didn't have one. 0:06:32.560 --> 0:06:37.120 It well, yours was it's a doing the damn thing, right, 0:06:37.640 --> 0:06:41.240 let's do the Mine was that's our girl? I guess 0:06:41.800 --> 0:06:44.960 I guess that was. But like I felt, I just warned. 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:47.040 There was a commercial that was something like she's bold, 0:06:48.000 --> 0:06:50.080 She's bad bad. I might have made that up in 0:06:50.120 --> 0:07:00.599 my head. I really think I made that up, know what, Like, 0:07:01.200 --> 0:07:04.719 actually thinking about it, it wasn't. Maybe it wasn't until 0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:08.400 Hannah because they kind of played off the whole beauty pageant, 0:07:08.560 --> 0:07:10.080 you know, where she ripped off the skirt and had 0:07:10.080 --> 0:07:13.880 the crown that I like, fabulous. Yeah, but and it 0:07:13.920 --> 0:07:15.720 was it was so fitting for her. So maybe it 0:07:15.760 --> 0:07:20.200 wasn't until her that they had like a theme or this. 0:07:21.200 --> 0:07:24.440 Hopefully let's ask what we should ask Jillian when Julian 0:07:24.520 --> 0:07:26.600 comes on. Let's ask her if she had one, if 0:07:26.640 --> 0:07:28.200 she had a thing, because like I feel like for us, 0:07:28.240 --> 0:07:31.800 they do songs now, but I'm very curious with her 0:07:31.920 --> 0:07:34.600 if she had a thing, because what are they Claire, 0:07:34.720 --> 0:07:38.080 here's to you, missus. Robinson like, no, that's exactly what 0:07:38.120 --> 0:07:41.120 they did with the poster, I know, but the foot 0:07:41.200 --> 0:07:47.080 is as big as Claire. So gosh, one of my 0:07:47.120 --> 0:07:49.120 friends actually sentenced me. She's like, do you know whose 0:07:49.160 --> 0:07:50.920 foot this is? Like? Is this one of the dudes? 0:07:50.960 --> 0:07:52.600 I'm like, no, they're not going to actually pick one 0:07:52.640 --> 0:07:54.240 of the guys from her season to like be the 0:07:54.280 --> 0:07:56.920 foot model for her poster. I mean, maybe it's been, 0:07:57.880 --> 0:08:05.640 but it's been. It's foot shut. I'm just kidding. Just 0:08:05.680 --> 0:08:08.480 took below for often. Here's this night, so it's Sustin 0:08:08.600 --> 0:08:11.320 Hoffman's Is this an offense foot? They brought him in 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:16.200 just for that moment? Oh god, I hate it? Okay, 0:08:16.560 --> 0:08:19.080 well listen, I had to get your take on that. 0:08:19.160 --> 0:08:21.000 But I also want to do something fun because we 0:08:21.080 --> 0:08:23.960 talked about this on the podcast before and we love 0:08:24.000 --> 0:08:26.040 when you guys send in questions or tell us what 0:08:26.120 --> 0:08:29.400 you think, especially you're burning Batchelorrette questions. So we thought 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:31.480 before we bring Jillian on, it would be fun because 0:08:31.520 --> 0:08:33.640 we ask you guys on Instagram to send in your 0:08:33.720 --> 0:08:36.840 questions and you guys did not disappoint. You send in 0:08:36.920 --> 0:08:39.840 so many replies. So we're gonna go through some of them. 0:08:40.000 --> 0:08:42.280 We can't go through all of them. Maybe we'll do 0:08:42.320 --> 0:08:45.080 that on the later podcast, but maybe we'll ask Jillian 0:08:45.480 --> 0:08:48.800 some of these questions as well. So I guess I'll 0:08:48.840 --> 0:08:56.560 ask you the first one. And as I'm flipping through papers, um, oh, 0:08:56.720 --> 0:09:01.319 here's I'm curious about this. From your season, what guy 0:09:01.520 --> 0:09:05.480 are you the closest to. Oh, that's a good one. 0:09:05.640 --> 0:09:12.840 I say probably Jason, just because I mean he's always 0:09:12.880 --> 0:09:15.440 just been such a sweetheart and such a fun guy 0:09:15.559 --> 0:09:19.760 and one that it was never awkward, but also just 0:09:19.880 --> 0:09:22.600 being close with Caitlin and talking to him, and now 0:09:22.600 --> 0:09:25.000 that he is in LA closer to us, I'm like, 0:09:25.040 --> 0:09:28.319 let's get the dogs together. So I would say Jason. 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:34.520 But I still stay in touch, not regularly, I shouldn't 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:36.520 say that, but I still like stay on good terms 0:09:36.520 --> 0:09:38.760 and talk to some of the dudes every now and again, 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:42.760 like I mean Joe every now and again, like we 0:09:42.800 --> 0:09:47.480 had him on last week, and like even Blake and 0:09:47.520 --> 0:09:51.880 Colton just like checking in and like small chats with them. 0:09:51.960 --> 0:09:54.319 I don't know if do you remember Kriston for my season? 0:09:55.240 --> 0:10:00.439 He was the guy who dugged over me on Night one. Yeah, 0:10:00.480 --> 0:10:02.839 so he lives in LA and we'll chat every now 0:10:02.880 --> 0:10:04.599 and again, and he has a cute dog, so he's like, 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:08.800 let's get the dogs together. So yeah, Jason's probably like 0:10:08.840 --> 0:10:13.040 the closest. I would say, okay, you as you were saying, 0:10:13.040 --> 0:10:15.920 and I was thinking, I because I'm like, who has 0:10:16.000 --> 0:10:18.400 my phone number? Like I feel like that shows a 0:10:18.480 --> 0:10:22.720 level of closeness and I think I think Alex is 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:25.800 the only one that has my phone number. So you know, 0:10:25.920 --> 0:10:28.280 Alex was at our wedding. And it's so funny because 0:10:28.280 --> 0:10:29.960 I don't know if I've said this before, but a 0:10:30.000 --> 0:10:33.360 lot of my family members thought Alex was Brian. They 0:10:33.440 --> 0:10:38.719 kept saying congratulations, and Alex is like, at one point 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:40.360 he was like, you know what, I just ran with it. 0:10:40.400 --> 0:10:42.760 I would just say, thank you so much. I'm so happy. 0:10:42.760 --> 0:10:46.080 I appreciate it. But they do like the dark hair, 0:10:46.200 --> 0:10:49.800 They're tall, they're like both bill like I can I 0:10:49.800 --> 0:10:52.559 guess if if they didn't really know Brian. And that 0:10:52.679 --> 0:10:56.000 was the first time I get it, it was are 0:10:56.040 --> 0:10:58.280 they are they? He's really doing that. It's hilarious and 0:10:58.280 --> 0:11:01.079 I love that he embrace it. I would I would say, Alex, 0:11:01.600 --> 0:11:03.240 who I haven't talked to in a while. But then 0:11:03.280 --> 0:11:05.400 there are other people that like Eric, you know, I 0:11:05.520 --> 0:11:11.560 communicate with who else I'm even communicated with Peter Krause, 0:11:12.320 --> 0:11:13.920 you know through And I think that's probably gonna be 0:11:13.960 --> 0:11:16.360 a shocker to so many people because people are thinking 0:11:16.360 --> 0:11:18.400 of the last time we saw each other, which was 0:11:18.520 --> 0:11:21.719 on stage, but that was also three years ago. We're 0:11:21.760 --> 0:11:25.120 adults here and we can all move on, yeah, you know. 0:11:25.320 --> 0:11:28.199 And I feel like even this, people read into everything. 0:11:28.360 --> 0:11:31.079 Like you could like someone's photo and people would be like, 0:11:31.120 --> 0:11:33.840 oh my gosh, is she flirting with him? Are they 0:11:33.880 --> 0:11:35.920 talking like they just it's like no, But like you said, 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:38.920 we're all adults. Like the world. This world bonds you 0:11:38.960 --> 0:11:41.920 in such a weird way that unless you had like 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:45.240 a really terrible falling out or experience with someone, I 0:11:45.240 --> 0:11:48.400 can't imagine you not being on okay terms with someone. 0:11:48.520 --> 0:11:51.040 And you know what's funny is we talked. We were 0:11:51.080 --> 0:11:53.560 like man, because we were talking about Black Lives Matter, 0:11:54.160 --> 0:11:57.760 and and like he was asking me questions about it 0:11:57.800 --> 0:12:00.559 and stuff and like for some advice ice about like 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:03.760 responses he had gotten. And it's funny because we were like, man, 0:12:03.880 --> 0:12:07.120 we almost hit that follow button. But then what like 0:12:07.200 --> 0:12:09.640 it would just turn into something that it shouldn't because 0:12:09.679 --> 0:12:12.760 I still get messages that tell me, you know, you 0:12:12.760 --> 0:12:14.559 were really into Peter, and it's like, guys, do you 0:12:14.559 --> 0:12:17.080 guys I'm married that I just celebrated to your anniversary. Yeah, 0:12:17.080 --> 0:12:18.920 so we were. It's sad because we were like, yeah, 0:12:19.080 --> 0:12:23.199 probably not a good idea hit that follow button. It's 0:12:23.240 --> 0:12:26.360 just you know, people, Yeah, they just read so much 0:12:26.400 --> 0:12:28.880 into it that it's hard sometimes but I get it. 0:12:28.960 --> 0:12:32.720 But Okay, I'm gonna ask you one of these. Okay, 0:12:32.800 --> 0:12:37.360 these are all so good. Okay, this is I want 0:12:37.360 --> 0:12:39.840 to ask you this too, because I feel like you 0:12:40.880 --> 0:12:43.120 probably were in a better headspace and like could prepare 0:12:43.160 --> 0:12:44.920 a little bit better. I'm just like, well, whatever, go 0:12:45.000 --> 0:12:47.439 with the flow. But how did you mentally prepare yourself 0:12:47.800 --> 0:12:52.800 to date so many men? Oh so, I guess see. 0:12:52.960 --> 0:12:56.520 I think it's badass to be able to say, you 0:12:56.600 --> 0:12:59.480 know what, whether you're here for the right or wrong reasons, 0:12:59.480 --> 0:13:03.040 you're all my season. This is my season of the Bachelorette, 0:13:03.160 --> 0:13:06.520 you know. So. I felt very empowered, I felt very 0:13:06.600 --> 0:13:09.839 in control. I loved being in the driver's seat. I'm 0:13:09.880 --> 0:13:12.360 a taurist, I'm an any acrim eight. We've talked about 0:13:12.440 --> 0:13:14.560 these things. I love that as very much. Show me 0:13:15.320 --> 0:13:18.520 and it was invigorating, it was refreshing, and I was 0:13:18.559 --> 0:13:21.880 the first woman of color, I was the first black bachelorette. 0:13:21.960 --> 0:13:24.679 It was something to me. It was an honor, and 0:13:24.760 --> 0:13:28.920 I went into it with that mentality. I also went 0:13:28.920 --> 0:13:32.400 into it with the mentality that I'm open for this, 0:13:32.440 --> 0:13:35.560 but there's absolutely no way I'm gonna fall for these men. 0:13:36.040 --> 0:13:38.200 You know, there's no way they can play batchmaker for 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:40.400 me and it'll work. So I think I had kind 0:13:40.400 --> 0:13:42.960 of psyched myself out about it, and I didn't have 0:13:43.040 --> 0:13:46.360 high expectations, and that's why after the first night, I 0:13:46.480 --> 0:13:48.920 was like, I remember I turned to Caitlin, my producer 0:13:48.960 --> 0:13:51.120 for those of you don't know, and I was like, WHOA, 0:13:52.160 --> 0:13:55.079 I think I might be in some trouble. I think 0:13:55.200 --> 0:13:58.760 there's the potential here. I was like, dare I say 0:13:59.000 --> 0:14:01.520 I think I might? I'd have met my husband tonight. 0:14:01.600 --> 0:14:03.920 I couldn't believe. So I think for me, it was 0:14:03.920 --> 0:14:06.960 just a little different going in. What about you, Yeah, 0:14:07.000 --> 0:14:10.240 I mean I just went in. I think I was 0:14:10.800 --> 0:14:16.520 so nervous at first, because I mean I knew going in, 0:14:16.600 --> 0:14:18.840 like some of the guys would hopefully be there and 0:14:18.960 --> 0:14:20.840 like me and some of the guys were just doing 0:14:20.880 --> 0:14:23.360 it to go on this TV show. And make a 0:14:23.440 --> 0:14:27.000 name for themselves. And so I was very i think 0:14:27.960 --> 0:14:30.320 guarded at first, where I was like I need to 0:14:30.320 --> 0:14:32.960 really weed out like the wrong ones here. But kind 0:14:33.000 --> 0:14:35.040 of like you after night one and you start to 0:14:35.080 --> 0:14:38.200 interact and actually talk to them, you see, like, oh, man, 0:14:38.360 --> 0:14:40.680 like maybe I could actually form some connections here. Like 0:14:40.720 --> 0:14:44.920 I remember leaving night one being like I'm hopeful for 0:14:44.960 --> 0:14:46.800 a handful of these guys, like I know a lot 0:14:46.840 --> 0:14:48.840 of them aren't here for me. A lot of them 0:14:48.880 --> 0:14:51.960 like aren't going to be into me, and that's okay, 0:14:51.960 --> 0:14:54.800 but as long as I had some but like to 0:14:54.920 --> 0:14:58.800 mentally prepare yourself to date thirty dudes, it's just like 0:14:59.440 --> 0:15:02.160 you're I'd just hid there and we're like, let's make 0:15:02.200 --> 0:15:04.040 this happen. What do we gotta do? Like I'll just 0:15:04.040 --> 0:15:06.160 sit here. You guys can come to me and we'll 0:15:06.200 --> 0:15:08.720 have a nice little chat like bring me champagne, bring 0:15:08.760 --> 0:15:12.480 me treat like whatever. But um, It's it's funny looking 0:15:12.520 --> 0:15:14.560 back because it's such a whirlwind and it does go 0:15:14.640 --> 0:15:19.200 by so fast. But now looking back, I'm like, did 0:15:19.520 --> 0:15:22.880 plus men? I couldn't like I would relive that again. 0:15:23.160 --> 0:15:25.680 And here's the thing for all those guys that came 0:15:25.720 --> 0:15:27.720 for the wrong reason. At the end of the day, 0:15:27.760 --> 0:15:30.560 they will always be known as so and so from 0:15:30.560 --> 0:15:34.240 Becka season, you know, any article that mentions them, any 0:15:34.280 --> 0:15:37.280 Google or whatever, it's like, Blake blank blank from Becka 0:15:37.360 --> 0:15:40.400 season and so from Rachel's season of the Back. It's like, 0:15:40.480 --> 0:15:42.600 yea's right, you always going to be attached to my 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:45.720 season and my name. I just think it's it's plus, 0:15:45.760 --> 0:15:49.320 I'm a serial dater, so I'm like thirty men I've done. No, 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:50.840 i haven't done this before, but I mean I'm just 0:15:50.920 --> 0:15:54.400 saying it's it's I love every bit of it. That's 0:15:54.400 --> 0:15:56.920 why that was interesting to hear trist To talk about 0:15:57.120 --> 0:15:59.560 the stigma that was placed on her. It's so crazy 0:15:59.640 --> 0:16:02.920 healthy change over the years, because now you're looked at 0:16:02.920 --> 0:16:07.120 as like such a strong, independent woman wrangling these men 0:16:07.200 --> 0:16:10.560 in whereas Trusted did it. It was like almost as 0:16:10.560 --> 0:16:13.280 if like a negative connotation was placed on her to 0:16:13.280 --> 0:16:15.640 be a woman dating all these men. There was such 0:16:15.640 --> 0:16:18.720 a double standard. So yeah, it's like taboo kind of 0:16:18.760 --> 0:16:23.280 I mean, especially back then, but I think about it now, 0:16:23.360 --> 0:16:26.080 just like in my life now because obviously, like I 0:16:26.120 --> 0:16:28.440 am single, and now that I can say that it's 0:16:28.480 --> 0:16:31.440 easier to like talk about like where I'm at. But 0:16:31.520 --> 0:16:34.800 I think, like, you know, I never, like I was 0:16:34.880 --> 0:16:37.840 always in exclusive relationships when I was with someone like 0:16:37.920 --> 0:16:39.680 that was the first time where I could really like 0:16:39.800 --> 0:16:43.760 explore multiple relationships at once and really balance them out. 0:16:44.280 --> 0:16:46.960 And so now I'm like, you know what, like I'm thirty, 0:16:47.000 --> 0:16:50.640 Like I'm ready to maybe like be okay with like 0:16:50.720 --> 0:16:52.400 not having to like throw all my eggs in one 0:16:52.440 --> 0:16:55.200 basket per se and be like only you like this 0:16:55.240 --> 0:16:56.720 is my goal in mind and just kind of like 0:16:57.000 --> 0:16:59.720 enjoy the experience that life in dating has to offer. 0:16:59.800 --> 0:17:04.520 So it's, um, it's definitely fun. Though it's like a weird, 0:17:05.000 --> 0:17:07.280 weird thing to do, but it's like I don't think 0:17:07.320 --> 0:17:10.879 any girl would turn that down. No, No, you know, 0:17:11.080 --> 0:17:13.040 if you get if you get offered the bat to right, 0:17:13.160 --> 0:17:15.880 you take it all your future Batchelor rights out there. 0:17:15.880 --> 0:17:18.480 And can I just also say something about being thirty? 0:17:18.560 --> 0:17:21.280 First of all, you know, welcome to this decade. But 0:17:21.320 --> 0:17:25.240 for for Becca and all my other Batchlor Happy Hour 0:17:25.280 --> 0:17:28.919 listeners who are in their thirties are about to approach thirty, 0:17:29.359 --> 0:17:32.560 there is nothing like stepping into your thirties. And I 0:17:32.680 --> 0:17:38.280 know you've heard it before, but it's I can't explain it. 0:17:38.280 --> 0:17:40.800 It's like you wake up and you're like, I get it. 0:17:41.119 --> 0:17:42.960 And there's so many things that you did in your 0:17:42.960 --> 0:17:45.200 twenties that you leave behind, and there's so many things 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:49.200 that come to you in your thirties, like wisdom, um 0:17:49.560 --> 0:17:52.840 just like the maturity, the growth, even the beauty that 0:17:52.920 --> 0:17:56.600 comes out of it, like internally and and and physically. 0:17:57.000 --> 0:17:59.960 I can't tell you what it is about turning thirty, 0:18:00.160 --> 0:18:03.199 but it's like a light bulb goes off and I 0:18:03.359 --> 0:18:05.760 you know, and I showed this with you private, Rebecca, 0:18:05.840 --> 0:18:09.159 that like I came out of a really really tough 0:18:09.560 --> 0:18:12.879 relationship when I was thirty one and I was like 0:18:12.960 --> 0:18:15.399 at the bottom, and then later in that year my 0:18:15.640 --> 0:18:19.040 entire life change. I don't know, there is something magical 0:18:19.280 --> 0:18:21.879 about your thirties that I'm so excited for you and 0:18:22.040 --> 0:18:25.520 all you other thirty year olds out there. Rachel. The 0:18:25.640 --> 0:18:28.000 fact you just gave me chills all over because when 0:18:28.040 --> 0:18:29.800 you just said magic, that is exactly what I was 0:18:29.840 --> 0:18:33.560 about to say. Is like, I feel like it's this weird, 0:18:33.640 --> 0:18:36.119 like magical spot that I'm in right now. Like maybe 0:18:36.119 --> 0:18:37.919 it's the fact that I also moved to La and 0:18:37.920 --> 0:18:40.359 then it's like this new chapter, but it just feels 0:18:40.359 --> 0:18:44.240 like magic. It is, it is. I'm telling you. Remember 0:18:44.240 --> 0:18:47.280 when the song thirties the New twenty came out, and 0:18:47.359 --> 0:18:49.120 I remember I was like in my twenties, I might've 0:18:49.119 --> 0:18:50.960 even been my teens, and I was like, that's just 0:18:51.000 --> 0:18:53.000 something thirty year olds are saying to sound young. Okay, 0:18:53.080 --> 0:18:56.560 now that I'm in my thirties, I'm like, yes, is 0:18:56.600 --> 0:19:01.280 the New twenty and it feels so good. Yeah, welcome 0:19:01.480 --> 0:19:03.399 you guys. Do that's like turn of thirty. We're not 0:19:03.440 --> 0:19:05.359 just we're not just saying this here because we are 0:19:05.359 --> 0:19:08.520 in our thirties. I'm telling you. Also, I will say 0:19:08.560 --> 0:19:11.080 I'm not considering myself thirty quite yet because I never 0:19:11.119 --> 0:19:14.920 had a party because I was in quarantine. So the 0:19:15.080 --> 0:19:18.400 day things can open up and I can plan everything 0:19:18.400 --> 0:19:21.600 and like do something fun with people, that's when I 0:19:21.640 --> 0:19:24.800 turned thirty officially. But I also like, I'm embracing the thirties, 0:19:24.800 --> 0:19:27.480 so I do like it. No, I'm all, I'm all 0:19:27.520 --> 0:19:30.200 for a good party. So like I'm hopping on this train, 0:19:30.280 --> 0:19:35.440 so let's do it. Let's do it. So whoever sent 0:19:35.520 --> 0:19:37.560 this one in, they asked, do we think filming should 0:19:37.560 --> 0:19:40.120 be longer? And would we want it to be? And 0:19:40.320 --> 0:19:44.280 this is a great question because it is my last 0:19:45.520 --> 0:19:47.480 week with the guys, with my last two guys in 0:19:47.560 --> 0:19:49.639 the Maldis, I sat down with my uncle Chuck, and 0:19:49.720 --> 0:19:51.720 he asked me that same question because he could tell 0:19:51.720 --> 0:19:53.679 I was so stressed. I was so anxious, and he's like, 0:19:54.040 --> 0:19:56.800 if filming he's good. He always comes in with the 0:19:56.800 --> 0:20:00.000 hard hitting questions though, and for me at that point, obviously, 0:20:00.080 --> 0:20:01.560 like I had two great guys, I was trying to 0:20:01.600 --> 0:20:05.080 decide between and so he was like, if you had 0:20:05.160 --> 0:20:10.080 more time, would you take it? And I remember being like, like, shit, yes, 0:20:10.359 --> 0:20:12.520 if I could, I would, and he's like, well, then 0:20:12.520 --> 0:20:15.520 maybe you're not ready, and I'm like, but I think 0:20:15.520 --> 0:20:17.920 I am, but like you just made me question things, 0:20:18.000 --> 0:20:21.160 but I think I don't know. It's like, you want 0:20:21.200 --> 0:20:23.719 to get on with your life and find your partner 0:20:23.720 --> 0:20:25.320 and you don't want to keep filming and being our 0:20:25.320 --> 0:20:27.320 own cameras. But if you had a little bit of 0:20:27.359 --> 0:20:30.160 more time, I would have personally loved that. I would 0:20:30.200 --> 0:20:32.760 have taken it, but not like a ton, just you know, 0:20:34.119 --> 0:20:37.920 a couple of weeks. I would say no, Actually, you're ready. 0:20:38.320 --> 0:20:40.320 If I would have wanted more time in the beginning, 0:20:40.720 --> 0:20:42.919 but once I had gotten to the end and I 0:20:42.960 --> 0:20:46.119 had narrowed it down, I was stuck in a place 0:20:46.160 --> 0:20:48.879 where I knew what I wanted to do, but I 0:20:48.960 --> 0:20:51.040 was still it was hard for me to let go 0:20:52.720 --> 0:20:55.879 of the other guy. And so I think more time 0:20:56.000 --> 0:20:59.720