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Speaker 2: Hm.

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Speaker 3: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 2: I'm Erica and I'm Mila and it's Wednesday, bitch, It's

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Speaker 2: Happy Home Day, Happy home Did you like my gangster voice?

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Speaker 3: Happy home d?

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Speaker 2: What's sorry?

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Speaker 3: Please? Never do that?

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Speaker 4: No ever on the west side. I didn't, was, bitch,

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Speaker 4: So wait the way you just said that? Haired with that,

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Speaker 4: I can't my ice cube vibes like you can't go?

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Speaker 5: I don't know, would be clover.

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Speaker 2: No nah nah nah.

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Speaker 5: Cube would be proud? Who ice cube?

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Speaker 6: O the fuck?

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Speaker 5: Okay? Sorry, I'm high.

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Speaker 3: What's up? You're right there? You're right there, buddy.

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Speaker 5: Not really.

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Speaker 4: So this week I got into a car accident and

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Speaker 4: I hit my lip on I don't know if the

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Speaker 4: steering wheel or if I think I bit through my

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Speaker 4: lip to my chin and I had a huge injury

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Speaker 4: and it was really scary.

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Speaker 5: As my first accent, and I was alone.

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Speaker 2: That's your first accent I've never ever ever wow, And

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Speaker 2: I panicked, And I didn't sound panicked.

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Speaker 5: I don't really panic.

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Speaker 2: You did not sound panicked. I was like, she's really cold.

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Speaker 2: I know that's what my guy said. But I'm not

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Speaker 2: a very panicky person. As hyper as I am like,

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Speaker 2: when she happens, I'm like, okay, let me process this. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I'm bleeding, Okay, am I dead, I'm alive.

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Speaker 5: Call someone. So I called Erca because.

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Speaker 3: She's my wife.

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Speaker 5: And then I just, oh, my gosh, I tell you this.

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Speaker 5: That adventure.

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Speaker 4: Bay was like a little bit like you mentioned that

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Speaker 4: I called you first and not really yeah.

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Speaker 3: Nigga's like, and nig get us, my be don't you

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Speaker 3: forget it?

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Speaker 5: Like, I mean, yeah I did first. I din' even

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Speaker 5: know you're on my side of town. I'm like, I

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Speaker 5: was in Hollywood.

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Speaker 4: So second of all, he was like, I mean, I

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Speaker 4: guess it makes sense why you called Erica. She might

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Speaker 4: be a little closer. I was like, well, I didn't

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Speaker 4: know what you were doing.

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Speaker 3: It was the work day.

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Speaker 4: I've known her longer, said, you've known her longer, and

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Speaker 4: I'm thinking of my head. Yeah, but I am calm.

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Speaker 4: I was like, hey girl, can I just got to cry.

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Speaker 3: It was like a.

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Speaker 2: Casual combo was like, hey, so what are you doing? Okay, Well,

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Speaker 2: I just got in a car accident, so I was

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Speaker 2: hoping you can come home.

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Speaker 4: But you know, I didn't think I was that calm

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Speaker 4: until he said the same exact thing to me. He said,

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Speaker 4: it's you know, I just want to a little worried

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Speaker 4: about because you're really calm.

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Speaker 5: Today, You're still really calm. I'm like, well, what do

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Speaker 5: you want me to do?

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Speaker 3: Just like be.

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Speaker 5: Crying all day, Like I don't know what I'm supposed

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Speaker 4: Anyway, I had to go to the hospital during COVID,

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Speaker 4: which that was the scariest part of all time because

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Speaker 4: I thought, well, the.

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Speaker 2: Scariest part of it for me was seeing your lip

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Speaker 2: because I got to the scene of the accident and bitch.

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Speaker 5: Was like, oh, is it bleeding?

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Speaker 2: And she pulled her lip down and I could see

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Speaker 2: the white meat. It was bloody, and then white meat

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Speaker 2: tyrese piercing if you wanted to, because I could see

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Speaker 2: through the hole to the other side of You're like, it.

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Speaker 3: Wasn't it was the truth.

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Speaker 2: And this bitch was like she was like she was like,

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Speaker 2: get like some invisible stitches.

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Speaker 5: I was like some liquid, some liquid.

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Speaker 3: I was like, no, you need to go to HASPS.

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Speaker 4: I was like, I'm just gonna go to CBS and

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Speaker 4: then let'll be fine, and they were both looking at

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Speaker 4: me like, bitch, are you nets?

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Speaker 5: It was so mad that they made me go.

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Speaker 4: So that happened, and I fucked my car up bad

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Speaker 4: and so like at first, I was like, panic, panic, panic,

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Speaker 4: Your world's crashing and burning right before your eyes. And

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Speaker 4: I got to the hospital. They're playing CNN, which is

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Speaker 4: my least favorite show of all time, which added to

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Speaker 4: my stress. They're like, they're testing billions of vaccines for

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Speaker 4: COVID and Africa, and I was like, what They're canceling

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Speaker 4: Obamacare is like, so everybody's gonna get COVID and no

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Speaker 4: one's gonna have insurance. Like I'm like, okay, I need

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Speaker 4: to leave the country immediately, plus my lip.

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Speaker 3: Anyway, all of.

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Speaker 5: This to say again, for like the fifty seventh week.

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Speaker 4: In a row, COVID is really a game changer because.

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Speaker 5: It's for the better. I've really had to explore myself.

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Speaker 4: I've really been you know, weird things have happened because

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Speaker 4: this is a transformative year. We can all agree there's

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Speaker 4: a lot of shit happening, and I think that's by

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Speaker 4: no chance. It's the stars, it's the universe. It's really

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Speaker 4: hitting hard in every capacity that we have to look

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Speaker 4: at ourselves as a community, as a society, as globally,

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Speaker 4: as personally, and like everybody who knows me is like,

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Speaker 4: you've never been in a car accident.

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Speaker 5: That's because I dive fast and God was trying to

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Speaker 5: slow me down. And I bet y'all never look down

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Speaker 5: at the text. Ever the fuck again, it is no.

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Speaker 3: We did that, I know it O.

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Speaker 4: Somebody DM fucking good about fucking telling Nikki what to

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Speaker 4: do in the bed or something. And I looked up

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Speaker 4: the yellow light, and he should have stopped because he

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Speaker 4: should have had balls and went and so I hit him.

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Speaker 4: The whole point is I'm not gonna get all caught

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Speaker 4: up in the logistics, because the moral of the.

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Speaker 5: Story community for your accident, perfect stop dming me.

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Speaker 3: Joking.

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Speaker 4: It's my fall and I needed to learn and luckily

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Speaker 4: I'm alive and it wasn't some crazy ash shit and

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Speaker 4: my car will be fine and life will go on,

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Speaker 4: and that's the moral of the story. I'm not going

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Speaker 4: to stress out. So I just I think that we

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Speaker 4: should discuss in what ways. Okay, First of all, we

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Speaker 4: have friends here. They're just been looking at us crazy

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Speaker 4: my story. They've heard four times. We have the Oprah

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Speaker 4: Rose Show here.

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Speaker 5: Hello, everybody, Hi.

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Speaker 3: And d D. I love that, y'all. Just a brief

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Speaker 3: major names shorter.

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Speaker 4: So it's just it's just I wish our name's rhymed better.

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Speaker 3: JJ and E. It's not cool and J there you go.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I forgot I had a former musical career anyway,

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Speaker 4: My my, my, my not so good incident. It was

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Speaker 4: just another thing that happened to me in the last

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Speaker 4: like fucking six months that was like.

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Speaker 5: Bitch, wake up.

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Speaker 4: And I think there's been a lot of that and

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Speaker 4: we discussed that, and I just want I know I

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Speaker 4: have personally experienced it, you know, and love. I've really

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Speaker 4: had like this different, new, crazy relationship that's super matured

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Speaker 4: and I've never experienced that and respectful and nice. And

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Speaker 3: It was just her birthday.

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Speaker 5: It was my birthday.

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Speaker 4: There was a birthday if you got me some really

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Speaker 5: I mean, like my lip is big.

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Speaker 4: But also I was like, wow, this is so nice

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Speaker 4: I cared for so, you know, like there's just like

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Speaker 4: there's a lot of energy happening, and sometimes we can

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Speaker 4: it's easy to focus on the negative and like the pandemic,

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Speaker 4: you know, and death and like all these murders, but

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Speaker 4: then you have to have self care and really think

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Speaker 4: what what is shifting here and how is it shifting

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Speaker 4: us personally? So I just wanted to know for all

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Speaker 4: of you, what what have you guys experienced in the

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Speaker 4: last you know, four to six months and all these

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Speaker 4: pandemics that has been you know, maybe like jolting but

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Speaker 4: also very beneficial.

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Speaker 5: Well before we do that, sorry, I'm hi. We're just

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Speaker 5: getting me going. She's honorable.

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Speaker 3: She's an Oprah from the.

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Speaker 5: I'm just channeling y'all, you know.

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Speaker 3: I channeling the Oprah side.

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Speaker 2: I'll be amber today, Yes, and waiting for before you

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Speaker 2: ask that very good question because it's a great question

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Speaker 2: because I think it's I think there's You're right, there's

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Speaker 2: a lot of ship shifting, which is why last week

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Speaker 2: we needed to take a break from the podcast because

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Speaker 2: a bit just could not do it. Can you tell

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Speaker 2: our listeners first of all, introduce you guysself, tell us

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Speaker 2: about your show, a little bit, who y'all are, and that.

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Speaker 3: Answer to this question.

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Speaker 5: You want to start to I would say, you know,

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Speaker 5: I always say.

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Speaker 1: That, Well, hello everyone, I'm Gigi uh and we're the

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Speaker 1: Oprah Roll Show. You can find us on any streaming platform.

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Speaker 1: But we're basically a podcast that discusses the modern day

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Speaker 1: millennial woman or man who happens to be black and

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Speaker 1: all of our experiences encompassing sex, relationships, jobs, self care, therapy,

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Speaker 1: crazy shit, horoscopes. And we've been doing it for almost

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Speaker 1: five years or five years, so it's been very much

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Speaker 1: and I haven't thirty yet, but so it has been

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Speaker 1: year later, our good friend Ddie, who was Tierra's actual

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Speaker 1: best friend, said, let me help you girls, let me

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Speaker 1: get you all together.

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Speaker 7: Were doing something already. It was already amazing.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 7: I just was like, you know, because I think what podcasts,

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Speaker 7: it's all about the sound, yes, and like that's the

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Speaker 7: first thing you hear. So yeah, definitely helped there.

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Speaker 3: Oh, he helped he got your sound together.

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Speaker 2: I always you know what I've been telling Jamila two,

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Speaker 2: I'd be like, girl, the sound is so important because

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Speaker 2: I'm a.

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Speaker 3: Real avid well I'm not lately, but I'm an.

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Speaker 2: Avid podcast listener, and if the sound is fucked up,

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna be like I'm gonna check out.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, it's your selling point.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 8: And Dede kind of came in, you know, to help

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Speaker 8: and he would like say little things and people were like,

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Speaker 8: hold on, we want to hear him, we want him

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Speaker 8: to come back.

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Speaker 5: Everybody else all night too.

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Speaker 5: Like, I don't I really don't have anything to comply.

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Speaker 5: But it is just like I watched Game of Throngs.

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Speaker 3: You just started.

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Speaker 5: This hasn't adventurely made me.

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Speaker 3: I can't wait to catch up with you.

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Speaker 8: So it is a bet like that was my self care,

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Speaker 2: And I don't feel about that's white privilege, no, like

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Speaker 8: Would have never watched that show, Like I said, the

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Speaker 5: What I will say is you also.

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Speaker 8: Have to sit with yourself and be really comfortable with yourself.

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Speaker 5: How you not comfortable being by yourself? I'm super confused.

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Speaker 5: You don't have a choice.

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Speaker 3: Well, I mean it'll highlight that and now what are

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Speaker 4: Then I started to realize my boundaries and my levels

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Speaker 4: to deal with it, you know, we had good gems

444
00:20:36,880 --> 00:20:39,159
Speaker 4: of conversation, but also I was just like noticing my

445
00:20:39,200 --> 00:20:41,359
Speaker 4: own boundaries, like you need to go home. Then just

446
00:20:41,359 --> 00:20:43,320
Speaker 4: one of my friends was there, and then I was like, okay, well,

447
00:20:43,440 --> 00:20:45,240
Speaker 4: especially this bitch is gonna have to go home.

448
00:20:45,119 --> 00:20:46,280
Speaker 3: Too, you know.

449
00:20:46,640 --> 00:20:47,879
Speaker 5: And then I was like alone.

450
00:20:47,920 --> 00:20:50,280
Speaker 4: And then I was like sexting four hundred men and

451
00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:52,359
Speaker 4: it was fucking horny and bored to death. And I

452
00:20:52,400 --> 00:20:54,160
Speaker 4: was like, bitch, you need to get it under control,

453
00:20:54,720 --> 00:20:58,919
Speaker 4: like all these levels, you know, and real and I

454
00:20:58,960 --> 00:21:01,320
Speaker 4: was like making all these inner appropriate videos and I

455
00:21:01,320 --> 00:21:05,560
Speaker 4: was like, pitch you to get a life. Then then

456
00:21:05,560 --> 00:21:07,560
Speaker 4: I met and then I like connected with this guy.

457
00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:10,119
Speaker 4: And the guy it's like it was like, okay, this

458
00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:13,199
Speaker 4: is good, this is great. You know, he's mature. Yeah,

459
00:21:13,280 --> 00:21:15,840
Speaker 4: and then but that guy, my guy is like he's

460
00:21:15,880 --> 00:21:16,800
Speaker 4: really isolated.

461
00:21:16,840 --> 00:21:18,520
Speaker 5: He's really comfortable being alone.

462
00:21:19,119 --> 00:21:22,520
Speaker 4: And I've realized in this last three months because we're

463
00:21:22,560 --> 00:21:24,119
Speaker 4: like we don't go together, but we also decided I'm

464
00:21:24,119 --> 00:21:25,960
Speaker 4: not going to see anybody else. Like I don't even

465
00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:29,840
Speaker 4: get it, but whatever, I agreed, you know, So like

466
00:21:30,080 --> 00:21:32,359
Speaker 4: sometimes I can tell he wants to be alone, and

467
00:21:32,359 --> 00:21:34,240
Speaker 4: then I have to go home and attend to my

468
00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:37,399
Speaker 4: own shit, and I'm like, this is so healthy. I

469
00:21:37,440 --> 00:21:41,480
Speaker 4: feel strange. Does he not love me? Of course he does. God,

470
00:21:41,520 --> 00:21:42,800
Speaker 4: I gotta go home, you know.

471
00:21:42,920 --> 00:21:48,800
Speaker 5: Like then I'm home and I'm like this is kind

472
00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:49,960
Speaker 5: of nice. I kind of like it.

473
00:21:50,359 --> 00:21:50,560
Speaker 6: You know.

474
00:21:50,680 --> 00:21:54,040
Speaker 4: So there's like all these weird things, but I'm inevitably

475
00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:57,399
Speaker 4: even with all these fucking layers. And it took me

476
00:21:57,480 --> 00:21:59,840
Speaker 4: like fifty tries to get here and a nigga who

477
00:21:59,840 --> 00:22:01,600
Speaker 4: want to be to leave them the fuck alone sometimes

478
00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:02,359
Speaker 4: for me to be like.

479
00:22:02,400 --> 00:22:06,320
Speaker 5: Oh right, loneeness is mature.

480
00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:06,199
Speaker 6: You know.

481
00:22:07,040 --> 00:22:07,560
Speaker 5: Yeah.

482
00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:10,879
Speaker 8: And I think beginning, no one knew what's happening, you know,

483
00:22:10,960 --> 00:22:13,440
Speaker 8: like we still don't know what's happening. Like I don't

484
00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:15,719
Speaker 8: know what stage New York is even on, like no

485
00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:18,520
Speaker 8: one right too, and.

486
00:22:18,480 --> 00:22:20,000
Speaker 5: They're on one hundred cause they're open.

487
00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:22,200
Speaker 3: No New York, New York Stage two, I know.

488
00:22:22,280 --> 00:22:23,040
Speaker 5: But the niggas are.

489
00:22:22,920 --> 00:22:26,920
Speaker 8: Out, Yeah, people are out, Like I'm still I'm good

490
00:22:26,960 --> 00:22:28,200
Speaker 8: on like stage two in New York.

491
00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:30,720
Speaker 5: But like that beginning, when no one.

492
00:22:30,680 --> 00:22:33,439
Speaker 8: Really really knew what was happening, it was it was

493
00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:36,200
Speaker 8: so chaotic. Like I told you, I was in the

494
00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:38,719
Speaker 8: nail salon and I was like, I have to leave now,

495
00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:38,960
Speaker 8: mind you.

496
00:22:39,040 --> 00:22:41,040
Speaker 5: I'm in the nail salon still getting my nails done.

497
00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:42,960
Speaker 8: And literally they were like, we're shutting everything down at

498
00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:45,119
Speaker 8: seven and it was and I was like, so you're

499
00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:49,760
Speaker 8: gonna finish my nails though, right, okay, all right, heard you?

500
00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:52,560
Speaker 8: All right, Okay, it's the top coat, right. I'm like,

501
00:22:52,600 --> 00:22:55,240
Speaker 8: all right, okay, well you just do the Joe Okay.

502
00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:57,720
Speaker 8: I don't know, you know, like that was the last

503
00:22:57,760 --> 00:22:58,760
Speaker 8: time I was gonna get my name.

504
00:22:58,840 --> 00:22:59,400
Speaker 5: Look at my nail.

505
00:22:59,400 --> 00:23:04,040
Speaker 8: I didn't know there was a I never looked like

506
00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:11,880
Speaker 8: this fucking ugly in my life. Shut up, ugly hair.

507
00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:13,640
Speaker 3: You are not ugly girl.

508
00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:15,800
Speaker 2: It's quarantine has forced you to face your.

509
00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:18,480
Speaker 5: Natural and made me realize how important beauty is. Because

510
00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:20,840
Speaker 5: I was getting beautiful by myself. I didn't get I

511
00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:21,680
Speaker 5: was doing my full hair.

512
00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:23,040
Speaker 3: I'm not going anywhere.

513
00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:25,960
Speaker 8: I got full lipstigon right now, get like, yeah, I

514
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:27,720
Speaker 8: told you, I threw a Broadway I wore.

515
00:23:27,760 --> 00:23:30,280
Speaker 5: I bought a brawl three times in ninety days.

516
00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:35,320
Speaker 8: Like I am completely I'm here the other day and

517
00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:37,399
Speaker 8: I called and I put on like I have become

518
00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:43,440
Speaker 8: miss frizzled. Basically, I have crocs like I have tie

519
00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:44,080
Speaker 8: die sweat.

520
00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:47,240
Speaker 5: I couldnot get out of being missed frizzled. And I

521
00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:49,000
Speaker 5: have it and I'm sticking to it.

522
00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:53,600
Speaker 4: I I'm an adamant heel wearer right Like, I'm only

523
00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:56,040
Speaker 4: like five ones, so I just wear heels all the time.

524
00:23:56,480 --> 00:23:56,800
Speaker 3: Nigga.

525
00:23:57,080 --> 00:24:00,479
Speaker 9: Yesterday somebody text me Birkenstocks had a sale. The whole

526
00:24:00,680 --> 00:24:03,159
Speaker 9: the whole site was twenty five dollars. Why did I

527
00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 9: order three things? Why didn't you tell me everything?

528
00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:09,600
Speaker 6: You know what you know I have?

529
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:11,800
Speaker 5: I don't remember. I can't remember everybody.

530
00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:13,879
Speaker 4: I've never owned a pair of twenty five dollars the

531
00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:14,800
Speaker 4: whole fucking way.

532
00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:17,760
Speaker 3: You're just still going now, no one flash us.

533
00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:20,800
Speaker 8: Oh my, I wish I would have, because I already

534
00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:25,119
Speaker 8: said I've completed the White Trinity. I've been wearing broken stocks.

535
00:24:25,119 --> 00:24:27,760
Speaker 8: I've been wearing borg sized for like five years with socks.

536
00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:31,320
Speaker 8: Now I finally got crocked and there was something. Oh

537
00:24:31,480 --> 00:24:35,719
Speaker 8: and I have Teva's so likea like those little like

538
00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:37,600
Speaker 8: swimmy shoes with the straps.

539
00:24:37,680 --> 00:24:38,600
Speaker 5: It's a belt their belt.

540
00:24:39,280 --> 00:24:44,080
Speaker 3: Oh you really doesn't done did yourself? You really outdid yourself?

541
00:24:45,440 --> 00:24:46,920
Speaker 5: Echealon of White women.

542
00:24:47,080 --> 00:24:48,479
Speaker 3: Oh wow, I had no idea.

543
00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:51,480
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm here with a weave like Teva was in

544
00:24:51,560 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 5: a wee Like I'm down to earth. But I also

545
00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:55,840
Speaker 5: like fashion.

546
00:24:56,359 --> 00:24:58,800
Speaker 3: Wait, dandy, what about you? What about you?

547
00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:00,359
Speaker 7: Oh?

548
00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:04,040
Speaker 3: We need the mail perspective. You know, it's all day long.

549
00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:07,760
Speaker 4: I got my crocs.

550
00:25:08,720 --> 00:25:10,840
Speaker 7: Frocks are like crazy, so you know you have like

551
00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 7: the little in the inside.

552
00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:17,880
Speaker 5: He was featured in the Washington Post for his crocks because.

553
00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:19,720
Speaker 7: He has Wall Street Journal.

554
00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:21,880
Speaker 5: What kind of crocks did you got?

555
00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:22,920
Speaker 6: Wait?

556
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:24,720
Speaker 5: You got the crock Look? Hold on, let me get

557
00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:27,280
Speaker 5: the discount called the personalise crocs.

558
00:25:27,280 --> 00:25:28,680
Speaker 3: Wait, what kind of cross you have? Nigga?

559
00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:29,400
Speaker 1: What the well?

560
00:25:30,119 --> 00:25:32,840
Speaker 7: I got two pairs, so I got the tie ones

561
00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:35,960
Speaker 7: that he has, and then I have this yellow pair

562
00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:37,640
Speaker 7: that has all the little gibbets and stuff in them

563
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:40,000
Speaker 7: so you can make them, you know, personalized one.

564
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:41,760
Speaker 3: You know what it was? They never seen a nigga

565
00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:42,760
Speaker 3: and crocs. They were like.

566
00:25:44,760 --> 00:25:47,000
Speaker 7: Because when I got them, it was like if we're

567
00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:50,119
Speaker 7: in June now, and that was like April, so it

568
00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:53,760
Speaker 7: was like before everybody, I guess jumped on it. No

569
00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:54,640
Speaker 7: shade because.

570
00:25:54,440 --> 00:25:57,200
Speaker 5: I definitely waiting for them to come.

571
00:25:58,080 --> 00:26:01,159
Speaker 1: But I saw mouse and I was like, oh, Ship, okay,

572
00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:04,040
Speaker 1: I need me a pair and then oh yeah, you

573
00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:06,720
Speaker 1: see when you came to my house with them, I

574
00:26:06,800 --> 00:26:09,440
Speaker 1: was like, oh, Ship, all right, we're very comfortable.

575
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:12,560
Speaker 4: If the crops are too far, I hate them, then

576
00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:13,720
Speaker 4: rub me nurse shoes.

577
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:17,240
Speaker 5: I mean, I'm know they're comfortable.

578
00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:19,000
Speaker 3: Birkenstock is like my limit.

579
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:21,399
Speaker 2: I'm like this, but you know what, that's kind of

580
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:23,560
Speaker 2: like my gateway drug, like it could be, it could get.

581
00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:26,760
Speaker 5: I used to say that about ugs and I was like, oh,

582
00:26:26,760 --> 00:26:27,440
Speaker 5: I love.

583
00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:28,919
Speaker 3: The val in the valley.

584
00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:36,639
Speaker 2: You must mid July the ugliest thing ever everybody.

585
00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:36,920
Speaker 6: Yeah.

586
00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:39,000
Speaker 5: My dad was like ugs are for ugly. I was like,

587
00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 5: they're sheepskin Australian. I'm telling you.

588
00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:46,600
Speaker 8: Like Daryl said, like if you get like because I did.

589
00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:50,000
Speaker 8: I saw his and you can personalize them. And then

590
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:51,760
Speaker 8: and like you said and ge like mouth ha is

591
00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:53,120
Speaker 8: like fifteen pair and.

592
00:26:53,080 --> 00:26:55,119
Speaker 7: So I was like, yeah, I don't know how you

593
00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:58,200
Speaker 7: do fifteen pairs. I mean currented they aren't expensive, but

594
00:26:58,400 --> 00:26:59,680
Speaker 7: still like no, I.

595
00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:01,919
Speaker 2: Was like, what do you have in your personalizations like

596
00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:02,960
Speaker 2: your initials and ship?

597
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 5: Can you pull those up more? Are they I need

598
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:06,200
Speaker 5: to see these yeah.

599
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:09,560
Speaker 7: Yeah, I don't have them on because I only where

600
00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:11,280
Speaker 7: I'm outside. I don't whar I'm in the house.

601
00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:12,240
Speaker 5: Got it.

602
00:27:12,560 --> 00:27:14,720
Speaker 8: G has like G got a rose. I think my

603
00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 8: mine is like T money. I have like a symbol.

604
00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:19,040
Speaker 5: I have like a money sign and like a T

605
00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:20,160
Speaker 5: and I.

606
00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:22,640
Speaker 7: Have like all right, pizza.

607
00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:25,600
Speaker 5: Really are you get moms about choices?

608
00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:28,240
Speaker 3: Crooks? Something? Weed signs?

609
00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:28,800
Speaker 2: Right?

610
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:29,720
Speaker 3: Some weeds?

611
00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 5: So be good.

612
00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:35,479
Speaker 7: We got to make that happen. I will help you

613
00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:37,480
Speaker 7: find the designs to personalize them.

614
00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:38,000
Speaker 3: Thank you.

615
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:41,760
Speaker 4: So basically, quarantine has made us all less fashionable and

616
00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:42,920
Speaker 4: more white woman.

617
00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:44,719
Speaker 7: It's more comfortable.

618
00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:48,360
Speaker 8: I had two friends and me a photo of theirs today,

619
00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:53,760
Speaker 8: like and I was like, we are really taking over

620
00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:55,760
Speaker 8: this crash. They all got to and I was like,

621
00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:59,160
Speaker 8: I'm telling you I had an entire full tie die

622
00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:03,200
Speaker 8: sweatsuit and that's okay.

623
00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:07,119
Speaker 3: I'm not mad at I'm all about the tie.

624
00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:10,440
Speaker 5: I'm here for. Has anyone had any quarantine?

625
00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:14,639
Speaker 2: Booze, Well, she's you're in a relate, tz, you're in

626
00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:15,520
Speaker 2: a relationship.

627
00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:17,879
Speaker 3: I don't know your what's your status, Ddie? What's you

628
00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:18,560
Speaker 3: over there doing?

629
00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:24,800
Speaker 7: Basically married at this point, living over there? Oh yeah,

630
00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:27,320
Speaker 7: we've been living together for like five years now.

631
00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:29,320
Speaker 5: Oh okay, wow, yeah, yeah you're married.

632
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 3: So Gigi, you're the only you're a single one.

633
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:36,199
Speaker 2: You and Jamila because she's in a fake relationship or

634
00:28:36,200 --> 00:28:37,280
Speaker 2: in and out of not fake.

635
00:28:37,359 --> 00:28:39,760
Speaker 5: But you know what I mean, I'm non committed.

636
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:43,560
Speaker 4: A non boyfriend boyfriend, non monogamous relationship.

637
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:46,720
Speaker 5: That's what I've been seeing on the field, non monogamous relationship.

638
00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:47,080
Speaker 5: What is it?

639
00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:48,840
Speaker 3: I am on an app? You guys? So I did

640
00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:49,440
Speaker 3: join it out?

641
00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:55,240
Speaker 4: No, a monogamous, non relationship, non monogamous, no monogamous, non relationship.

642
00:28:55,320 --> 00:28:58,400
Speaker 5: We're monogamous, but there's not a relationship.

643
00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:00,680
Speaker 6: That's very I was like, cause that makes.

644
00:29:00,960 --> 00:29:05,320
Speaker 3: I don't know, I don't know. I'm okay, I'm low

645
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:06,400
Speaker 3: key drunk at this point.

646
00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:09,840
Speaker 9: So, so have you guys heard a field app?

647
00:29:10,040 --> 00:29:12,040
Speaker 5: That's what she was gonna say that I heard her

648
00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:14,440
Speaker 5: say it. So have you guys heart a field app?

649
00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:15,280
Speaker 5: What is it?

650
00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:15,800
Speaker 3: Okay?

651
00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:18,440
Speaker 5: So go ahead tell him?

652
00:29:18,520 --> 00:29:20,880
Speaker 3: So me and my boo met on an app? Right,

653
00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:21,600
Speaker 3: I met on a hinge?

654
00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 5: Sod of me and my boo hinge. Even though we

655
00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:24,120
Speaker 5: don't endorse that.

656
00:29:24,200 --> 00:29:27,640
Speaker 2: We both jumped off hinge. We deleted the apps because well,

657
00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:29,560
Speaker 2: he deleted first. I was like, I'm deleting it, and

658
00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:31,320
Speaker 2: I was like, good for you, nigga, I don't.

659
00:29:31,120 --> 00:29:33,360
Speaker 7: Really know if so he deleted it in front of you.

660
00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:36,560
Speaker 2: So he deleted in front of me and then he

661
00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 2: and then I was like, Okay, congratulations.

662
00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:41,600
Speaker 3: I'm not deleting mine yet.

663
00:29:41,760 --> 00:29:45,240
Speaker 2: But bro, because I don't like to feel pressured into anything,

664
00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:47,440
Speaker 2: don't ever tell me not to do something, Because'm gonna

665
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:51,080
Speaker 2: do it. So I took my sweet time and deleted

666
00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:53,800
Speaker 2: on my own time, deleted the app, and then was like,

667
00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:58,200
Speaker 2: you know, I personally, I.

668
00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:58,880
Speaker 3: So I'm a scorpio right like you.

669
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:02,000
Speaker 2: So I'm I'm I don't know about you, but like

670
00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:05,000
Speaker 2: I am possessive in ways, and like, I like to

671
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:09,760
Speaker 2: know that my nigga is my nigga. However, my views

672
00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:14,560
Speaker 2: on monogamy are different because I just don't believe that.

673
00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:19,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, you're my nigga, but also I want to fuck

674
00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:20,920
Speaker 4: other people because that's natural.

675
00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:26,080
Speaker 2: So I just don't think that humans were made to

676
00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:28,280
Speaker 2: be monogamous. That was not something that was in the

677
00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:31,320
Speaker 2: cards for us. Someone forced that down our throat. Whatever,

678
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:33,520
Speaker 2: you know, I just don't I don't know if I

679
00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:35,840
Speaker 2: can have sex with the same person my entire life.

680
00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:37,680
Speaker 2: In fact, I know that I can't. It's not going

681
00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:40,560
Speaker 2: to happen. And I know that most men won't either,

682
00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:43,560
Speaker 2: ninety nine percent of them. So when I when I

683
00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 2: became single, like, I started you know, exploring that more,

684
00:30:46,120 --> 00:30:47,600
Speaker 2: and I, you know, like like we had talked about

685
00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:50,080
Speaker 2: on your podcast, like, I met a married couple and

686
00:30:50,080 --> 00:30:52,840
Speaker 2: they really opened up my mind the idea that I

687
00:30:52,840 --> 00:30:56,680
Speaker 2: could be in a in a committed relationship with someone

688
00:30:56,880 --> 00:31:00,280
Speaker 2: and and still you know, explore if I want to,

689
00:31:00,400 --> 00:31:02,400
Speaker 2: if that was what we decided for each other as

690
00:31:02,440 --> 00:31:05,400
Speaker 2: long as there was communication. So I had like kind

691
00:31:05,440 --> 00:31:08,120
Speaker 2: of like in my in my dating life, I started

692
00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 2: dating someone who had apparently been in open relationships, and

693
00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:15,160
Speaker 2: so we try to kind of explore that. What I

694
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 2: find is that most a lot of men say they've

695
00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:18,520
Speaker 2: been in open relationships, and then they get with the

696
00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:20,400
Speaker 2: bitch that really wants to be an open relationship, and

697
00:31:20,440 --> 00:31:22,280
Speaker 2: then they can't fucking handle it because they were like,

698
00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, she's actually fucking people whoa So with

699
00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:34,320
Speaker 2: my boyfriend now he is also someone who's explored openness,

700
00:31:34,640 --> 00:31:37,840
Speaker 2: and we join this app it's called the Field or Field,

701
00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:41,920
Speaker 2: and it's an app where people can kind of.

702
00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:44,760
Speaker 5: Non traditional, non traditional connections.

703
00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:47,640
Speaker 2: So people are on there. So when you fill out

704
00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:50,480
Speaker 2: the form, it's crazy. There's like so many.

705
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:53,760
Speaker 5: Areas you don't know how you identify.

706
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:54,880
Speaker 3: I don't even know.

707
00:31:55,120 --> 00:31:59,680
Speaker 5: Like there's like transhuman, too, spirited, I know too spirit

708
00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:02,800
Speaker 5: dectum sexual.

709
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:06,600
Speaker 2: Meaning like you like you love objects, like you fall

710
00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:08,320
Speaker 2: in love with objects recently.

711
00:32:10,920 --> 00:32:12,440
Speaker 3: And there's bisexual.

712
00:32:12,800 --> 00:32:17,440
Speaker 2: Then there's hetero flexible, and I'm like, which, I don't know.

713
00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:18,440
Speaker 5: They don't have hers.

714
00:32:18,600 --> 00:32:19,960
Speaker 3: Jamila calls me by fun.

715
00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:23,600
Speaker 4: She's by fun. I'm a former lesbian.

716
00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:27,960
Speaker 5: Erica was dibbling and dad when she was sticking her toe.

717
00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 5: She's just she's by when it's fun. It's fun for her.

718
00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:33,440
Speaker 4: She's like, oh, it's seven o'clock, three shots at tequila,

719
00:32:33,520 --> 00:32:36,840
Speaker 4: let's find a girl, you know, Like that's how Erica

720
00:32:36,880 --> 00:32:39,560
Speaker 4: gets I'm like, okay, you're not curious anymore.

721
00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:42,080
Speaker 3: It's in fifty. I feel bisexual. I don't.

722
00:32:42,200 --> 00:32:44,040
Speaker 2: I don't know if I identify as bisexual because I

723
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:45,720
Speaker 2: don't really want to date a woman.

724
00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:47,480
Speaker 3: Like I just want to have sex with them.

725
00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:49,120
Speaker 2: So like I feel like you're bisexual means that you

726
00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 2: would be in a relationship with a woman and you

727
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:53,200
Speaker 2: could also be a relationship with the man.

728
00:32:53,760 --> 00:32:55,680
Speaker 3: Right, I'm opposed to that.

729
00:32:55,800 --> 00:32:57,720
Speaker 2: I just haven't found a woman that I would feel

730
00:32:57,720 --> 00:32:59,040
Speaker 2: like I would want to be in a relationship with.

731
00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:03,080
Speaker 3: I'm not whatever anyway, So I joined Energy.

732
00:33:03,640 --> 00:33:07,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, I love Dick, so it's not about the mask, Andrew,

733
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:12,800
Speaker 4: it's culsating Dick.

734
00:33:12,760 --> 00:33:16,880
Speaker 5: Is what she's into. Warm sang.

735
00:33:17,120 --> 00:33:21,440
Speaker 2: But I also like girls sometimes, but you should leave

736
00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:25,800
Speaker 2: after but whatever, that's another story. So I joined this

737
00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:30,440
Speaker 2: app where I could explore these things with my man

738
00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:32,480
Speaker 2: and we can you know, match with people. It's basically

739
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:34,720
Speaker 2: an app for if you want to like explore having

740
00:33:34,720 --> 00:33:35,520
Speaker 2: a three song.

741
00:33:36,760 --> 00:33:37,840
Speaker 3: Or you want to be a unicorn?

742
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 5: Are you and your boy? Are you and your partner?

743
00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:42,800
Speaker 4: I want to explore another partner or like, there's like

744
00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 4: many like basically so many options.

745
00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:48,280
Speaker 2: And so I recently joined that and it's been interesting

746
00:33:48,320 --> 00:33:50,520
Speaker 2: to see, you know, the type of people on there,

747
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:52,840
Speaker 2: the type of people you would never expect to be

748
00:33:52,920 --> 00:33:55,720
Speaker 2: won in some crazy shit, you know, just like you.

749
00:33:55,760 --> 00:33:56,560
Speaker 3: They look like.

750
00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:00,640
Speaker 5: Like liberians, Susan, you know.

751
00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:04,760
Speaker 3: So I don't know how we got on this topic

752
00:34:04,760 --> 00:34:05,480
Speaker 3: because I'm drunk.

753
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:10,160
Speaker 4: We're talking about their relationship status and if they're on

754
00:34:10,200 --> 00:34:11,600
Speaker 4: the field, they're not you are.

755
00:34:13,040 --> 00:34:14,960
Speaker 5: And okay, so how have you.

756
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:18,160
Speaker 4: Been keeping your relationship spicy during quarantine since you but

757
00:34:18,320 --> 00:34:22,680
Speaker 4: well used to, since you you basically lived with your

758
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:25,640
Speaker 4: partner and you know you've got to get creative because.

759
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:28,799
Speaker 5: You're around them all the fucking time. It's a bad

760
00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:31,040
Speaker 5: week for me. So I'm gonna let d D handles. Okay,

761
00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:34,320
Speaker 5: I understandable, she pivoted.

762
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:38,799
Speaker 7: Hmmm, I feel like I'm being put on.

763
00:34:38,680 --> 00:34:41,480
Speaker 5: The spot or is it or is it business as usual?

764
00:34:43,640 --> 00:34:45,680
Speaker 7: I mean for the most part, yes, but you know

765
00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:46,960
Speaker 7: who doesn't love drunk sex?

766
00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:49,919
Speaker 3: I mean, and alcohol is at all time hot.

767
00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:52,440
Speaker 8: I just have to say, though, I think for for

768
00:34:52,640 --> 00:34:55,560
Speaker 8: DD and his partner be together for what what is it,

769
00:34:55,640 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 8: five five years now, six going on going on six years,

770
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:03,800
Speaker 8: Like you see them and it looks like they're still

771
00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:05,080
Speaker 8: in their honeymoon stage.

772
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:08,520
Speaker 5: But even like my boyfriend and I like there are

773
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:09,400
Speaker 5: they are collected.

774
00:35:10,120 --> 00:35:12,520
Speaker 8: My boyfriend and I love them more than we love

775
00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:13,400
Speaker 8: our own relationship.

776
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:16,400
Speaker 5: How can I be like Them's wrong with you?

777
00:35:17,040 --> 00:35:17,440
Speaker 3: Yeah?

778
00:35:17,680 --> 00:35:20,719
Speaker 8: I had an attitude one day because let me like

779
00:35:20,760 --> 00:35:24,520
Speaker 8: six copy though, like we like collectively.

780
00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:29,120
Speaker 7: He's like, right here, can hear you?

781
00:35:29,600 --> 00:35:30,640
Speaker 5: I had to send him.

782
00:35:30,800 --> 00:35:33,520
Speaker 8: I had to send dd like a back and forth

783
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:38,279
Speaker 8: conversation that my boyfriend and I had about them. It's

784
00:35:38,360 --> 00:35:40,399
Speaker 8: just like and this was just like us on a Norman.

785
00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:42,759
Speaker 8: I'm like, oh, like I was like I stand and

786
00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:44,279
Speaker 8: he's like, no, I stay harder. I was like, no,

787
00:35:44,320 --> 00:35:46,600
Speaker 8: I stay harder. And we're like going back and forth,

788
00:35:46,640 --> 00:35:48,920
Speaker 8: and I'm like, who loves them more? Because when you

789
00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:51,000
Speaker 8: see them, like I said, they're just such a beautiful

790
00:35:51,160 --> 00:35:54,799
Speaker 8: couple and it never looks like still so you guys

791
00:35:54,840 --> 00:35:58,359
Speaker 8: don't go through things, but like it ain't it ain't

792
00:35:58,400 --> 00:35:59,359
Speaker 8: my nails.

793
00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean it's like you said. I mean it's

794
00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 7: been six years. Thanks to you for saying all of that,

795
00:36:07,360 --> 00:36:10,719
Speaker 7: and it's just beautiful. Honestly. I think with the quarantine,

796
00:36:11,400 --> 00:36:13,920
Speaker 7: we haven't like got on each other's nerves or anything

797
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:16,480
Speaker 7: or you know, need that space. But we're both cancers

798
00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:20,920
Speaker 7: as well, so you just.

799
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:23,560
Speaker 5: Like to come closer to my.

800
00:36:23,560 --> 00:36:27,240
Speaker 7: Face, but then also know when to move.

801
00:36:29,360 --> 00:36:29,640
Speaker 3: Right.

802
00:36:29,719 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 7: So just like the understanding of like space and like

803
00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:34,960
Speaker 7: even you know with working like he'll work in one

804
00:36:35,080 --> 00:36:36,880
Speaker 7: part of the apartment. I'm in the other part of

805
00:36:36,920 --> 00:36:39,399
Speaker 7: the apartment, so, you know, just figuring it out.

806
00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:41,960
Speaker 4: Oh my god, I would love to see two male cancers.

807
00:36:41,960 --> 00:36:44,080
Speaker 4: They're probably so fucking in love. That ship is so

808
00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:48,280
Speaker 4: intense over there. I can't really imagine the cuttle sessions

809
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:49,080
Speaker 4: happening over there.

810
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:50,799
Speaker 8: Is in the fact that you said that you guys

811
00:36:50,800 --> 00:36:54,000
Speaker 8: haven't got a like my boy. We identify like, there's

812
00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:55,279
Speaker 8: no way we could have. We wouldn't have made it

813
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:55,920
Speaker 8: if we quarantined.

814
00:36:56,200 --> 00:36:57,640
Speaker 3: What is what is his sign? Because you know we

815
00:36:57,719 --> 00:36:59,120
Speaker 3: are some sign love and bitches.

816
00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:01,600
Speaker 8: So we have all of the same placements in different

817
00:37:01,600 --> 00:37:04,080
Speaker 8: I'm sorry, all the same signs in different placement houses.

818
00:37:04,320 --> 00:37:07,880
Speaker 8: He's an airy Sun, I'm sorry, He's Yeah, he's an

819
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:11,640
Speaker 8: air sun. I'm an aries Move. And then he's a

820
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:15,279
Speaker 8: Leo Rising and I'm a Leo Son. And then I

821
00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:18,280
Speaker 8: think we're both no, I think we're both cancer Rising

822
00:37:18,360 --> 00:37:18,799
Speaker 8: whatever it is.

823
00:37:18,840 --> 00:37:21,359
Speaker 5: We have the same cancer aries Leo oh wow.

824
00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:25,080
Speaker 8: And and I think we're a little bit more alike

825
00:37:25,160 --> 00:37:28,040
Speaker 8: than I like to admit, Like he's way more like

826
00:37:29,239 --> 00:37:29,640
Speaker 8: in your.

827
00:37:29,560 --> 00:37:31,120
Speaker 5: Face, that's what that was.

828
00:37:31,920 --> 00:37:34,480
Speaker 7: I mean, you know, both the fire signs, let's be real.

829
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:39,080
Speaker 5: And so but there's no way, like and we said that.

830
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:40,960
Speaker 5: It was like, there's no way we could have.

831
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:44,239
Speaker 8: We wouldn't We wouldn't have made it at all if

832
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:45,600
Speaker 8: we make it, but we.

833
00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:51,800
Speaker 3: Girl, it's one of them weeks. It's one of them week's.

834
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:56,279
Speaker 1: Girl ever know it's not happen one week and gonna

835
00:37:56,320 --> 00:37:57,239
Speaker 1: make it?

836
00:37:58,040 --> 00:38:00,279
Speaker 3: And then so what about you? Okay, so Gi you

837
00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:01,560
Speaker 3: are now I.

838
00:38:01,520 --> 00:38:07,400
Speaker 2: Mean recently yeah, recently single? I mean, how have you

839
00:38:07,480 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 2: even started the the.

840
00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:12,200
Speaker 5: The thought process.

841
00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:15,160
Speaker 6: I mean I think about it definitely, but.

842
00:38:16,800 --> 00:38:19,600
Speaker 1: It gets a little overwhelming, and then I just don't

843
00:38:19,680 --> 00:38:23,759
Speaker 1: think about it anymore overwhelming, like oh my god, Like

844
00:38:25,080 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 1: I've never been that single in a mom I've only

845
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:33,759
Speaker 1: been single free. It's so much, so much fuck is

846
00:38:33,840 --> 00:38:36,239
Speaker 1: this and what does this look like? How do I

847
00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:39,399
Speaker 1: fucking meet people? Because I always and with my kid

848
00:38:39,480 --> 00:38:42,680
Speaker 1: we're in COVID, you know, so I didn't even think

849
00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:44,680
Speaker 1: about dating apps because that.

850
00:38:44,719 --> 00:38:45,839
Speaker 6: Was never really my thing.

851
00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 3: But also I.

852
00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:52,839
Speaker 6: Hadn't been single since twenty seventeen, so I didn't. You know.

853
00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:56,440
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh shit, yeah, those do exist, and that

854
00:38:56,480 --> 00:39:01,000
Speaker 1: could be a nice, safer way to meet people. Also,

855
00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:03,200
Speaker 1: since we're kind of limited because we can't really go

856
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:07,759
Speaker 1: no motherfucking wear right. Yeah, but I haven't really I

857
00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:11,080
Speaker 1: haven't died, and I'm also still, like, you know, transitioning

858
00:39:11,160 --> 00:39:13,680
Speaker 1: into it. And so I think once I settled a

859
00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:16,719
Speaker 1: little bit, then you know, I can commit to that.

860
00:39:16,760 --> 00:39:19,719
Speaker 6: But I really want to have sex. I haven't had sex.

861
00:39:19,440 --> 00:39:20,759
Speaker 5: In a long time, so long.

862
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:21,640
Speaker 3: What's a long time?

863
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:26,160
Speaker 6: October of twenty nineteen was the last.

864
00:39:25,960 --> 00:39:27,000
Speaker 5: Time I had sex, bitch.

865
00:39:28,120 --> 00:39:31,800
Speaker 2: No, we're sending over the sex toy right now, sending

866
00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:34,080
Speaker 2: over Doc Johnson's address.

867
00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:36,000
Speaker 6: I know I don't want no more.

868
00:39:36,200 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 3: I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. I didn't mean to

869
00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:37,880
Speaker 3: make it.

870
00:39:37,920 --> 00:39:39,680
Speaker 6: You know, I want hard dick now, It's okay.

871
00:39:40,120 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 4: The real it means a different toy. It has to

872
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:44,040
Speaker 4: have blood circulating to its name.

873
00:39:44,160 --> 00:39:49,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, I want connecting, you know I want I want Actually, no,

874
00:39:49,440 --> 00:39:50,320
Speaker 1: I don't want connecting.

875
00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:52,320
Speaker 2: I want you to do Okay, So I'm going to

876
00:39:52,440 --> 00:39:55,960
Speaker 2: encourage you because yes, because I know exactly where you

877
00:39:56,040 --> 00:39:59,520
Speaker 2: are because I was there, and yeah, sometimes you just

878
00:39:59,719 --> 00:40:00,640
Speaker 2: the daydating app thing.

879
00:40:01,400 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 3: It is weird. I thought it was weird too, because

880
00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:04,200
Speaker 3: I was like, what the fuck is this?

881
00:40:04,239 --> 00:40:05,759
Speaker 5: Shit. I don't know she's had.

882
00:40:05,680 --> 00:40:09,560
Speaker 2: So much success on dating apps, but I will say

883
00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:12,279
Speaker 2: they it was great for my confidence because that's what

884
00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:12,680
Speaker 2: I needed.

885
00:40:12,719 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 3: At the time.

886
00:40:13,120 --> 00:40:14,840
Speaker 2: I wasn't where you were at. I was not in

887
00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:16,840
Speaker 2: the place of I'm the ship at all. I was like,

888
00:40:16,840 --> 00:40:22,040
Speaker 2: who the fuck am I I'm whack? Possibly maybe, but

889
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 2: like it really helped me kind of get out there

890
00:40:24,480 --> 00:40:26,800
Speaker 2: and figure out what it is that I want because

891
00:40:26,840 --> 00:40:30,040
Speaker 2: for me, like I didn't even know like the things

892
00:40:30,080 --> 00:40:33,040
Speaker 2: that like, especially even sexually, Like is this it for me?

893
00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:35,680
Speaker 2: Or is there more for me to explore here? Or

894
00:40:35,760 --> 00:40:39,680
Speaker 2: like do I does race matter to me? Does this

895
00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:40,560
Speaker 2: matter to me? Like?

896
00:40:40,640 --> 00:40:42,319
Speaker 3: Am I only gonna be? Cause dating apps will make

897
00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:44,359
Speaker 3: you kind of have to decide that, like am I.

898
00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:47,760
Speaker 5: Ending with white people and I'm Asian?

899
00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:52,880
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about that here in Los Angeles because apparently

900
00:40:53,000 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 1: the US, like black girls.

901
00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:58,640
Speaker 5: Black guys don't really fuck with us no, right.

902
00:40:58,760 --> 00:41:01,480
Speaker 1: So I'm like, if that's my reality, maybe I should

903
00:41:01,520 --> 00:41:05,640
Speaker 1: be a little bit more open, you know.

904
00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:10,800
Speaker 5: I wait, Okay, you're the cancer. I'm open. I tried.

905
00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:12,719
Speaker 5: I tried hard.

906
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:15,319
Speaker 4: I think Okay, cause you said you're about to be

907
00:41:15,320 --> 00:41:16,640
Speaker 4: twenty nine or you're twenty nine.

908
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:18,399
Speaker 6: Oh no, I'm thirty four.

909
00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:19,480
Speaker 3: Oh okay, I don't know why.

910
00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:21,560
Speaker 5: Where the fuck I heard twenty nine? I was like, damn, cool,

911
00:41:21,880 --> 00:41:22,160
Speaker 5: let me.

912
00:41:22,160 --> 00:41:22,960
Speaker 3: Started the podcast.

913
00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:25,160
Speaker 5: Oh when you try podcast? I thought you're saying you're

914
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:28,400
Speaker 5: about to turn it. I'm like, damn. But that's the thing. Also,

915
00:41:28,480 --> 00:41:28,960
Speaker 5: I think.

916
00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:32,920
Speaker 4: About like entering my thirties and those like I think

917
00:41:33,120 --> 00:41:36,320
Speaker 4: I've never right after I broke with my baby daddy

918
00:41:36,360 --> 00:41:39,240
Speaker 4: and I joined got into my twenty I mean my thirties.

919
00:41:39,560 --> 00:41:42,479
Speaker 4: It was like this combination of like I was having

920
00:41:42,480 --> 00:41:44,560
Speaker 4: sex with new people for the first time, and also

921
00:41:44,600 --> 00:41:45,719
Speaker 4: I was like, is there sex great?

922
00:41:45,800 --> 00:41:46,640
Speaker 5: Or am I the shit?

923
00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:47,160
Speaker 6: You know?

924
00:41:47,239 --> 00:41:48,480
Speaker 5: And I was like, oh, I'm the shit.

925
00:41:49,040 --> 00:41:51,760
Speaker 4: I was making the sex bomb because I was finally

926
00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:53,040
Speaker 4: in a place like I feel like, you know, they

927
00:41:53,040 --> 00:41:54,920
Speaker 4: say that like your early thirties is like some of

928
00:41:54,960 --> 00:41:57,760
Speaker 4: the best sex for women of your life, like your peak.

929
00:41:58,719 --> 00:42:00,120
Speaker 4: So I think it is important to tap in to

930
00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:02,960
Speaker 4: that and just happened to what you like and you know,

931
00:42:03,040 --> 00:42:06,160
Speaker 4: and eventually there'll be a time where you want another relationship,

932
00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:11,879
Speaker 4: but explore that someone lusting after you and the courtship

933
00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:16,399
Speaker 4: and like just fucking and going home. There's beauty in that,

934
00:42:16,520 --> 00:42:19,760
Speaker 4: even even if that's not like maybe it's not everyone.

935
00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:21,920
Speaker 4: I'm not encourage everyone to just fuck with no strings

936
00:42:21,920 --> 00:42:25,280
Speaker 4: to that. If you just broke up with through baby daddy,

937
00:42:25,360 --> 00:42:29,920
Speaker 4: but maybe you should. I'm not saying you shouldn't, but

938
00:42:29,960 --> 00:42:30,560
Speaker 4: maybe you should.

939
00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:32,920
Speaker 6: Listen, I'm all about that.

940
00:42:33,080 --> 00:42:37,359
Speaker 1: I was living my whole ass, whole ass life, you know,

941
00:42:37,560 --> 00:42:40,920
Speaker 1: before being a mom and being in a relationship, then

942
00:42:40,960 --> 00:42:43,160
Speaker 1: before being a mom. So I think I just want

943
00:42:43,200 --> 00:42:45,399
Speaker 1: to have fun with somebody, you know, like it don't

944
00:42:45,400 --> 00:42:47,960
Speaker 1: got to be super deep, but I want to. I

945
00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:50,799
Speaker 1: want to like you enough to be around you. I'm

946
00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:53,759
Speaker 1: not on the You're just fine and I want to

947
00:42:53,800 --> 00:42:56,359
Speaker 1: fuck you. That's not where my mind is that. I'm

948
00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:58,400
Speaker 1: beyond that, so I do wan.

949
00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:04,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just just your husban. When I was there,

950
00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:07,440
Speaker 2: I was like, you're fine, gonna so I'm gonna fuck you.

951
00:43:07,440 --> 00:43:08,799
Speaker 5: You're not very smart, it doesn't matter.

952
00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:13,279
Speaker 1: I want to have a conversation with you. I don't

953
00:43:13,280 --> 00:43:14,600
Speaker 1: gotta like love you or anything.

954
00:43:14,600 --> 00:43:16,560
Speaker 3: I'm no no, I feel you gotta make you got

955
00:43:16,680 --> 00:43:19,279
Speaker 3: you have, You're you're safe, You're sexual. You want to

956
00:43:19,280 --> 00:43:21,760
Speaker 3: at least come on, motivate turn my mind.

957
00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:23,279
Speaker 6: Got it? Yeah?

958
00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:25,560
Speaker 1: You I need my mind to be active because that's

959
00:43:25,600 --> 00:43:28,359
Speaker 1: when I have the best sex is when my mind

960
00:43:28,480 --> 00:43:29,360
Speaker 1: is active.

961
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:33,800
Speaker 6: Like I'm intrigued, you know, or at least that's what

962
00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:36,319
Speaker 6: I think. Shit, maybe I might need a fine and

963
00:43:36,440 --> 00:43:38,040
Speaker 6: be like you might.

964
00:43:39,320 --> 00:43:39,839
Speaker 5: I don't care.

965
00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:42,799
Speaker 2: I'm telling you this your new this new chapter of

966
00:43:42,840 --> 00:43:45,400
Speaker 2: your life. I'm really excited for you because I would

967
00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:47,040
Speaker 2: love to come back in like a few months and

968
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:49,839
Speaker 2: talk to you and see how you feel about all

969
00:43:49,840 --> 00:43:52,399
Speaker 2: the things you just said because I had a lot

970
00:43:52,400 --> 00:43:55,480
Speaker 2: of those things too. And then you enter into this

971
00:43:55,520 --> 00:43:56,640
Speaker 2: world of just.

972
00:43:57,120 --> 00:43:58,719
Speaker 5: It's foreign because you've never dated.

973
00:43:58,680 --> 00:44:01,320
Speaker 3: It's a kid, yeah, and you're just like, actually, I don't.

974
00:44:01,600 --> 00:44:02,319
Speaker 3: I know, I don't.

975
00:44:02,320 --> 00:44:04,239
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna get that from you, but I'll get

976
00:44:04,239 --> 00:44:06,760
Speaker 2: this from you today or for this week or whatever.

977
00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:09,640
Speaker 2: Like not to sound like you're throwing niggas away, because

978
00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:11,200
Speaker 2: I don't want to sound like that, even though.

979
00:44:11,080 --> 00:44:13,480
Speaker 3: That's what they do to us.

980
00:44:13,840 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 2: But you kind of like it really, like when you

981
00:44:17,080 --> 00:44:18,799
Speaker 2: said like, am I the ship? Like and when I'm

982
00:44:18,800 --> 00:44:20,719
Speaker 2: fucking am I am I the shit? I feel like

983
00:44:21,040 --> 00:44:22,719
Speaker 2: I had that moment too, And I've also had the

984
00:44:22,760 --> 00:44:25,080
Speaker 2: moment where I sat back and I allowed them to

985
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:27,440
Speaker 2: be like, Okay, what I'm gonna let you do your thing.

986
00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:28,640
Speaker 2: Let's see what you're doing here.

987
00:44:28,880 --> 00:44:30,520
Speaker 3: Oh no, you're not the shit.

988
00:44:31,280 --> 00:44:33,880
Speaker 2: I really am the shit and this is not for me,

989
00:44:34,400 --> 00:44:36,400
Speaker 2: or maybe like we can come together, Like there are

990
00:44:36,400 --> 00:44:38,560
Speaker 2: guys that I was sleeping with that I knew was

991
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:41,359
Speaker 2: just sex, Like this is all I needed from this.

992
00:44:41,360 --> 00:44:42,040
Speaker 3: This was great.

993
00:44:42,560 --> 00:44:43,399
Speaker 5: Damn it look good.

994
00:44:43,880 --> 00:44:46,279
Speaker 3: Peace and that's it.

995
00:44:46,360 --> 00:44:48,799
Speaker 2: But obviously at a certain point for me, like I

996
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:50,319
Speaker 2: was there, I did that and I was like, Okay,

997
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:51,120
Speaker 2: now I'm ready.

998
00:44:51,160 --> 00:44:52,120
Speaker 5: It's not sustainable.

999
00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:53,480
Speaker 3: It's not sustainable. It's not forever.

1000
00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:54,240
Speaker 5: It's not forever.

1001
00:44:54,320 --> 00:44:56,480
Speaker 4: And I think the older we get this shorter or

1002
00:44:56,480 --> 00:44:59,240
Speaker 4: hope or whole phases will last because you're like, fuck,

1003
00:45:00,120 --> 00:45:01,400
Speaker 4: like phase is quicker.

1004
00:45:01,640 --> 00:45:03,560
Speaker 5: You know, you're like, damn, am I am? I? Am

1005
00:45:03,600 --> 00:45:05,920
Speaker 5: I fucking to fuck the pain away? Or am I

1006
00:45:05,960 --> 00:45:08,800
Speaker 5: fucking because I want to be fucking? You know, drinking?

1007
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:12,719
Speaker 8: No, we we g and I go to the same

1008
00:45:12,760 --> 00:45:16,240
Speaker 8: trainer and there's typically like a theme around the session.

1009
00:45:16,360 --> 00:45:18,200
Speaker 5: So last Sunday was like a summer flame.

1010
00:45:18,920 --> 00:45:23,000
Speaker 8: And the the comments in the commentary, I was like, well, damn,

1011
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:24,000
Speaker 8: I've never experienced this.

1012
00:45:24,239 --> 00:45:27,120
Speaker 5: And I talked to him, our trainer after the class.

1013
00:45:27,560 --> 00:45:29,480
Speaker 8: His name is Zeus, and I was like, what I

1014
00:45:29,680 --> 00:45:32,240
Speaker 8: had to realize again, all this self realization in COVID.

1015
00:45:32,680 --> 00:45:35,680
Speaker 8: I always put people in boxes when I'm dated. So

1016
00:45:35,760 --> 00:45:37,600
Speaker 8: if I dated you, I knew.

1017
00:45:37,400 --> 00:45:39,800
Speaker 5: Okay, we are just for the summer, this is nothing.

1018
00:45:39,560 --> 00:45:41,439
Speaker 8: But we're never going to get to the like where

1019
00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:44,640
Speaker 8: are we going conversation because I no, I'm only dating

1020
00:45:44,640 --> 00:45:46,120
Speaker 8: you for like food and fun.

1021
00:45:46,080 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 7: That's it.

1022
00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:49,960
Speaker 8: And then you're gonna be this dude over here and

1023
00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:53,279
Speaker 8: you're gonna be like this dude and he's like, that's

1024
00:45:53,320 --> 00:45:53,800
Speaker 8: not healthy.

1025
00:45:53,840 --> 00:45:56,320
Speaker 5: And I was like, well, damn, I never realized that.

1026
00:45:56,480 --> 00:45:59,200
Speaker 8: Actually that I never and I don't know if that,

1027
00:45:59,320 --> 00:46:01,760
Speaker 8: you know, stems from my control issues of like always

1028
00:46:01,800 --> 00:46:03,920
Speaker 8: having to kind of like know what's next.

1029
00:46:04,440 --> 00:46:05,160
Speaker 5: And I said that to him.

1030
00:46:05,160 --> 00:46:06,799
Speaker 8: I was like, damn, I was like, yo, dating in

1031
00:46:06,880 --> 00:46:10,200
Speaker 8: twenty twenty is so completely different.

1032
00:46:10,040 --> 00:46:12,000
Speaker 5: Like I don't even.

1033
00:46:13,360 --> 00:46:15,920
Speaker 8: I don't know, and dating in COVID no less is

1034
00:46:15,960 --> 00:46:20,200
Speaker 8: so completely different of like you're literally dating someone for

1035
00:46:20,239 --> 00:46:22,200
Speaker 8: who they are. There is no I'm just gonna link

1036
00:46:22,239 --> 00:46:24,120
Speaker 8: you for like food because we're gonna be sitting in

1037
00:46:24,160 --> 00:46:27,000
Speaker 8: a damn parking lot eating whatever food we're gonna be eating.

1038
00:46:27,080 --> 00:46:30,240
Speaker 4: Oh no, if you're dating in COVID, you're not really

1039
00:46:30,320 --> 00:46:33,879
Speaker 4: particular about the company that you keep because we don't

1040
00:46:33,880 --> 00:46:37,319
Speaker 4: have shit else to do but talk, nigga. Like in

1041
00:46:37,360 --> 00:46:39,879
Speaker 4: a regular situation, I'm like, oh, this is bloring. One

1042
00:46:39,920 --> 00:46:42,640
Speaker 4: more drink, I'll be back. Oh I met safety over

1043
00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:46,239
Speaker 4: here by her drink. I'm spinning off, I'm dancing. I

1044
00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:48,280
Speaker 4: don't have to sit here and fuck and talk to you, nigga.

1045
00:46:48,480 --> 00:46:51,520
Speaker 4: And actually I'm making plans for the next stop. You

1046
00:46:51,560 --> 00:46:54,359
Speaker 4: feel like in COVID, I'm like, okay, we're here. I

1047
00:46:54,400 --> 00:46:56,879
Speaker 4: have to be I have to really connect deeply with you.

1048
00:46:58,280 --> 00:47:00,040
Speaker 5: All we're doing is going on picnics, Like that's it.

1049
00:47:00,040 --> 00:47:04,040
Speaker 7: It's because you're doing the same activities over and over,

1050
00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:06,640
Speaker 7: same places.

1051
00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:10,040
Speaker 8: I look in New York, I've never walked around my

1052
00:47:10,080 --> 00:47:13,000
Speaker 8: neighborhood so damn much. We both discovered we had allergies.

1053
00:47:13,000 --> 00:47:14,320
Speaker 8: I was like, I didn't know you had allergies, Like

1054
00:47:14,320 --> 00:47:15,120
Speaker 8: I didn't need it.

1055
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:17,359
Speaker 5: Like because there's so much pollen. Like these are the

1056
00:47:17,360 --> 00:47:20,160
Speaker 5: things that we're learning in COVID is that we have

1057
00:47:20,280 --> 00:47:25,000
Speaker 5: really really bad allergies, Like that's funny.

1058
00:47:26,080 --> 00:47:34,080
Speaker 7: Oh my gosh, yeah, get some water.

1059
00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:43,000
Speaker 2: Well, speaking of COVID, speaking of dating, speaking of all

1060
00:47:43,040 --> 00:47:43,359
Speaker 2: these things.

1061
00:47:43,360 --> 00:47:45,600
Speaker 3: I'm glad that we have you here DD two.

1062
00:47:46,040 --> 00:47:47,840
Speaker 2: And I know, like you guys have talked briefly on

1063
00:47:47,880 --> 00:47:50,400
Speaker 2: a previous episode of Yours of how this Is.

1064
00:47:50,520 --> 00:47:52,640
Speaker 3: We're pivoting right now about to just shift gears.

1065
00:47:52,960 --> 00:47:54,680
Speaker 5: Okay, okay, I'm ready.

1066
00:47:57,440 --> 00:48:01,200
Speaker 2: How because so last week Manajmilla took break from so

1067
00:48:01,440 --> 00:48:04,880
Speaker 2: from from uh the podcast. We recorded like a ten

1068
00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:08,480
Speaker 2: minute episode because for the past two weeks, like low Ki,

1069
00:48:08,600 --> 00:48:11,880
Speaker 2: I really wouldn haven't really been feeling podcasting. I really

1070
00:48:12,040 --> 00:48:13,719
Speaker 2: just like don't have it in me. I don't want

1071
00:48:13,719 --> 00:48:15,640
Speaker 2: to talk about shit. Really like not that I don't

1072
00:48:15,640 --> 00:48:17,720
Speaker 2: want to talk about it. I'm doing so much talking

1073
00:48:17,760 --> 00:48:22,960
Speaker 2: outside of it that like I'm just exhausted, like mentally

1074
00:48:23,239 --> 00:48:27,239
Speaker 2: talking about what's happening to our people and our men

1075
00:48:27,800 --> 00:48:30,840
Speaker 2: and our women and all those things. So last week

1076
00:48:31,120 --> 00:48:33,640
Speaker 2: JAMIEA came, she came to the house and she walked

1077
00:48:33,680 --> 00:48:38,239
Speaker 2: in and she was like, under this annex and I

1078
00:48:38,280 --> 00:48:40,520
Speaker 2: have a secret box of santics that I like half.

1079
00:48:40,560 --> 00:48:44,560
Speaker 2: I just took half that are not even mine. Actually

1080
00:48:44,600 --> 00:48:47,319
Speaker 2: they're my friend who actually needs them. But she told

1081
00:48:47,320 --> 00:48:49,160
Speaker 2: me to hold on to them because she's like, sometimes

1082
00:48:49,200 --> 00:48:52,080
Speaker 2: I need them too much, like you hold on to them.

1083
00:48:52,400 --> 00:48:55,480
Speaker 2: And I had never even taken one until COVID because

1084
00:48:55,480 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 2: I was like, bitch, I'm my test, My chest is tight.

1085
00:49:00,280 --> 00:49:01,920
Speaker 5: I think you need to take one of those pills.

1086
00:49:01,920 --> 00:49:03,440
Speaker 2: I let you have and I took one and I

1087
00:49:03,480 --> 00:49:06,520
Speaker 2: was like, whoa, this works way too well, which then happened,

1088
00:49:06,640 --> 00:49:08,399
Speaker 2: which then I was like, I don't want to start

1089
00:49:08,400 --> 00:49:10,680
Speaker 2: taking xanax. So that's what like I started, and we've

1090
00:49:10,680 --> 00:49:14,759
Speaker 2: talked about it, mushroom taking mushrooms to help my anxiety.

1091
00:49:15,960 --> 00:49:18,920
Speaker 2: So anyway, she came through and was like I need one.

1092
00:49:18,960 --> 00:49:20,319
Speaker 2: I was like, I got you girl here.

1093
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:23,719
Speaker 3: Also, do you feel like recording? Oh you don't? Okay me?

1094
00:49:23,840 --> 00:49:24,439
Speaker 3: Neither cool?

1095
00:49:26,520 --> 00:49:28,799
Speaker 6: So many a time I was right.

1096
00:49:29,600 --> 00:49:31,680
Speaker 3: We pushed, and we pushed, we pushed through.

1097
00:49:31,719 --> 00:49:33,799
Speaker 2: We always pushed through, but I just felt like, you

1098
00:49:33,840 --> 00:49:35,840
Speaker 2: know what, we need to just honor how we feel.

1099
00:49:36,480 --> 00:49:40,600
Speaker 2: And like, so I'm dating someone a black man obviously,

1100
00:49:40,680 --> 00:49:42,000
Speaker 2: because as y'all.

1101
00:49:41,760 --> 00:49:43,000
Speaker 5: Know, I only date black men.

1102
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:48,200
Speaker 2: And one morning we woke up and like I was

1103
00:49:48,320 --> 00:49:51,440
Speaker 2: he was acting weird, and I was like, are you okay, babe,

1104
00:49:51,440 --> 00:49:53,800
Speaker 2: and he was like, no, I'm not, and he was

1105
00:49:53,880 --> 00:49:56,560
Speaker 2: like had tears in his eyes, and he was like,

1106
00:49:56,600 --> 00:49:59,000
Speaker 2: I guess he woke up and was watching there's been

1107
00:49:59,000 --> 00:50:00,800
Speaker 2: a lot of like there's like a few different hangings

1108
00:50:00,800 --> 00:50:02,360
Speaker 2: in California.

1109
00:50:02,200 --> 00:50:03,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, and uh, you know.

1110
00:50:03,520 --> 00:50:06,440
Speaker 2: They're trying to say it's suicide or whatever. And he

1111
00:50:06,560 --> 00:50:10,520
Speaker 2: was like, I'm scared to be a black man. I

1112
00:50:10,600 --> 00:50:13,200
Speaker 2: have done everything that I can in my career to

1113
00:50:13,400 --> 00:50:16,759
Speaker 2: like make sure that I'm acceptable, to like make sure

1114
00:50:16,760 --> 00:50:18,560
Speaker 2: I know how to talk to white people, to make

1115
00:50:18,600 --> 00:50:22,320
Speaker 2: sure that, like you know, I drive cars that darn

1116
00:50:22,400 --> 00:50:24,919
Speaker 2: too aren't too nights or aren't too shiny and shit,

1117
00:50:24,920 --> 00:50:27,640
Speaker 2: and I don't I don't know how to feel safe anymore.

1118
00:50:28,160 --> 00:50:29,879
Speaker 3: I just don't know how to feel safe. And like.

1119
00:50:31,640 --> 00:50:33,120
Speaker 2: I didn't even know how to respond to that, Like

1120
00:50:33,160 --> 00:50:34,600
Speaker 2: I don't know how what to do, ex so tug

1121
00:50:34,640 --> 00:50:36,160
Speaker 2: you and tell you I love you and that like

1122
00:50:36,280 --> 00:50:39,600
Speaker 2: I'm gonna try my best to like always never put

1123
00:50:39,600 --> 00:50:42,920
Speaker 2: you in a position where you have to feel unsafe.

1124
00:50:43,400 --> 00:50:46,120
Speaker 2: But I got me thinking, and I was I was

1125
00:50:46,160 --> 00:50:48,880
Speaker 2: listening to one of your episodes about like how you know,

1126
00:50:50,239 --> 00:50:53,919
Speaker 2: how we how black men can protect black women, right,

1127
00:50:54,440 --> 00:50:56,480
Speaker 2: and then also how we protect black men, which I

1128
00:50:56,480 --> 00:50:58,960
Speaker 2: think women, black black women, we I mean, and you

1129
00:50:59,000 --> 00:51:00,840
Speaker 2: can argue this seed I feel like we do.

1130
00:51:01,239 --> 00:51:03,399
Speaker 3: I think we protect our men for the most part.

1131
00:51:03,520 --> 00:51:07,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, absolutely absolutely, I think to not to a fault,

1132
00:51:07,880 --> 00:51:09,879
Speaker 4: but like and also like when I when I when

1133
00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:12,160
Speaker 4: he had tears and sides, I kept there was a

1134
00:51:12,160 --> 00:51:13,040
Speaker 4: selfish part of.

1135
00:51:13,000 --> 00:51:15,640
Speaker 2: Me too that couldn't help, but think like not for him,

1136
00:51:15,680 --> 00:51:19,839
Speaker 2: but like, how do black men protect black women? I

1137
00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:22,200
Speaker 2: was like, and I'm like here, I am like I

1138
00:51:22,239 --> 00:51:24,440
Speaker 2: want to I want comforting you, and I'm gonna comfort

1139
00:51:24,480 --> 00:51:26,160
Speaker 2: you and I want to comfort you. But and I

1140
00:51:26,200 --> 00:51:28,680
Speaker 2: know he would comfort me. But there's been so many

1141
00:51:28,760 --> 00:51:32,520
Speaker 2: times where I felt like I was not protected, you know,

1142
00:51:32,880 --> 00:51:35,719
Speaker 2: or like I've seen other black women not feel protected,

1143
00:51:36,480 --> 00:51:38,920
Speaker 2: And I'm like, how is it? Like I feel like

1144
00:51:38,960 --> 00:51:40,960
Speaker 2: some black men don't even know where to start, they

1145
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:44,040
Speaker 2: don't know what to do, And I'm like, is there

1146
00:51:45,200 --> 00:51:47,560
Speaker 2: what is it that women? What is it as black women?

1147
00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:49,839
Speaker 2: What do we feel like we need from them? Because

1148
00:51:49,880 --> 00:51:51,600
Speaker 2: I feel like we don't sometimes we don't even think

1149
00:51:51,600 --> 00:51:53,280
Speaker 2: that deeply to ask those questions to ourselves.

1150
00:51:53,360 --> 00:51:55,080
Speaker 4: I don't think we even really know what that looks

1151
00:51:55,120 --> 00:51:57,759
Speaker 4: like for us, because it's been such an absence in

1152
00:51:57,800 --> 00:51:58,879
Speaker 4: our norm.

1153
00:51:58,760 --> 00:52:00,319
Speaker 5: You know what I mean. Like I I I am

1154
00:52:00,400 --> 00:52:01,080
Speaker 5: very defensive.

1155
00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:03,400
Speaker 4: I am very weird when men are kind to me

1156
00:52:03,560 --> 00:52:06,360
Speaker 4: because I'm like, this is weird. It feels strange, you know,

1157
00:52:06,360 --> 00:52:08,560
Speaker 4: because I'm not generally used to I think, especially like

1158
00:52:08,600 --> 00:52:11,200
Speaker 4: even us growing up in this very white space, the

1159
00:52:11,280 --> 00:52:14,760
Speaker 4: valley's super white. Like I'm sure you like, we've all

1160
00:52:15,040 --> 00:52:17,160
Speaker 4: I've been to school with like three other black people

1161
00:52:17,239 --> 00:52:19,560
Speaker 4: throughout elementary through high school, and so I went to

1162
00:52:19,600 --> 00:52:23,680
Speaker 4: like a black like a black college, So I've seen

1163
00:52:23,760 --> 00:52:26,640
Speaker 4: black guys like just be shitty, you know what I mean,

1164
00:52:27,000 --> 00:52:29,759
Speaker 4: openly without regard. And so I guess I don't even

1165
00:52:29,840 --> 00:52:34,320
Speaker 4: know what that would look like because I'm so I

1166
00:52:35,000 --> 00:52:35,399
Speaker 4: don't know.

1167
00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:39,080
Speaker 5: I haven't seen it. I think it's so tough and

1168
00:52:39,120 --> 00:52:39,520
Speaker 5: you don't.

1169
00:52:39,840 --> 00:52:41,480
Speaker 8: To be honest, I don't think we've ever really had

1170
00:52:41,480 --> 00:52:43,600
Speaker 8: a chance to sit and really think about it, like

1171
00:52:43,719 --> 00:52:45,520
Speaker 8: what do we need from black men?

1172
00:52:46,000 --> 00:52:49,680
Speaker 5: And what can we give to black men? And I

1173
00:52:49,760 --> 00:52:50,200
Speaker 5: you know.

1174
00:52:50,360 --> 00:52:54,160
Speaker 8: I could admit I am the niggazine shit, I would

1175
00:52:54,200 --> 00:52:59,680
Speaker 8: be walking down the aisle and I that's me, Like,

1176
00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:04,759
Speaker 8: fuck up anyway, bitch, I'm still like I am. It's

1177
00:53:04,880 --> 00:53:09,640
Speaker 8: it's literally it could be tattooed on my spoor. And

1178
00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:12,680
Speaker 8: then I had to one day like sit back, and

1179
00:53:12,719 --> 00:53:15,399
Speaker 8: I was like, you know, when I say niggazin shit,

1180
00:53:15,480 --> 00:53:19,080
Speaker 8: I don't mean you and and and I think, to

1181
00:53:19,120 --> 00:53:20,960
Speaker 8: be honest, I don't even think my boyfriend thought that

1182
00:53:21,000 --> 00:53:23,600
Speaker 8: I was when I said it that he was kind

1183
00:53:23,640 --> 00:53:26,160
Speaker 8: of like taking aback a little bit because I think

1184
00:53:26,160 --> 00:53:29,279
Speaker 8: he's so used to my like I don't mince words.

1185
00:53:28,960 --> 00:53:29,600
Speaker 3: With that either.

1186
00:53:29,760 --> 00:53:31,239
Speaker 5: Niggas ain't shit like you.

1187
00:53:31,239 --> 00:53:34,880
Speaker 8: You Like, there are some days when I feel like

1188
00:53:35,680 --> 00:53:39,440
Speaker 8: I personally I do. I can lump everybody in together,

1189
00:53:39,520 --> 00:53:41,439
Speaker 8: and what I have a really hard time of doing

1190
00:53:41,520 --> 00:53:45,239
Speaker 8: is separating, you know, like the and I hate to

1191
00:53:45,280 --> 00:53:47,560
Speaker 8: be like the good from the bed, but but it

1192
00:53:47,600 --> 00:53:49,160
Speaker 8: is what it is. And I was like, there's so

1193
00:53:49,320 --> 00:53:51,680
Speaker 8: much there's so many things that are just so deeply

1194
00:53:51,760 --> 00:53:54,200
Speaker 8: rooted in patriarchy of like I was like, you don't

1195
00:53:54,239 --> 00:53:56,400
Speaker 8: have to walk down the street just as simple as

1196
00:53:56,440 --> 00:53:58,839
Speaker 8: something as like obviously you don't have bodega's, but like

1197
00:53:59,000 --> 00:54:01,560
Speaker 8: going to the bodega looking crazy in a mask, and

1198
00:54:01,640 --> 00:54:03,360
Speaker 8: you like, I don't want to talk to you, nigga.

1199
00:54:03,400 --> 00:54:06,040
Speaker 8: I'm fucking tired of shit. I'm just moving my car.

1200
00:54:06,280 --> 00:54:07,960
Speaker 8: I'm just gonna go get bred. And I don't want

1201
00:54:07,960 --> 00:54:09,800
Speaker 8: to have a conversation and I don't want to feel

1202
00:54:09,920 --> 00:54:12,799
Speaker 8: crazy about not having a conversation with you. And I

1203
00:54:12,880 --> 00:54:15,080
Speaker 8: was like, those are things that you don't even have

1204
00:54:15,239 --> 00:54:16,359
Speaker 8: to think about or.

1205
00:54:16,320 --> 00:54:19,160
Speaker 5: Like I don't even like the word queen honestly, and

1206
00:54:19,200 --> 00:54:20,239
Speaker 5: I love it in the dark.

1207
00:54:20,440 --> 00:54:21,920
Speaker 3: I'm so glad you just said that.

1208
00:54:22,160 --> 00:54:26,120
Speaker 2: I'm so glad you hat I actually I told you

1209
00:54:26,480 --> 00:54:29,520
Speaker 2: see that today. So I have this guy that I dated.

1210
00:54:30,200 --> 00:54:33,040
Speaker 2: He was Happy Bay on the podcast, and he would

1211
00:54:33,120 --> 00:54:36,359
Speaker 2: always call me queen, and like he started calling he just.

1212
00:54:36,320 --> 00:54:38,600
Speaker 3: Called everyone queen, which was fine, everyone's a queen. I

1213
00:54:38,640 --> 00:54:40,520
Speaker 3: get it, but I.

1214
00:54:40,480 --> 00:54:42,480
Speaker 2: Just I get so triggered by because I feel like

1215
00:54:42,560 --> 00:54:45,720
Speaker 2: it is the fuck boy word of like twenty nineteen twenty,

1216
00:54:45,840 --> 00:54:50,080
Speaker 2: Like any nigga just says queen and automatically is like

1217
00:54:50,760 --> 00:54:53,799
Speaker 2: all the fuck shit he did all day long was

1218
00:54:53,880 --> 00:54:56,920
Speaker 2: just it was a vanished and now he's like he

1219
00:54:57,040 --> 00:54:58,360
Speaker 2: really gives a fuck about.

1220
00:54:58,120 --> 00:55:01,319
Speaker 5: Women, And I'm like, Nigga, don't because you said one word.

1221
00:55:01,320 --> 00:55:03,320
Speaker 8: And I remember, you know, like you know, because Twitter's

1222
00:55:03,360 --> 00:55:07,239
Speaker 8: on fire, right like black Twitter. We will take pan

1223
00:55:07,640 --> 00:55:10,120
Speaker 8: like Beyonce came out with, you know, the movie Black

1224
00:55:10,239 --> 00:55:13,200
Speaker 8: Is King, and now we're talking about like pre colonialism

1225
00:55:13,280 --> 00:55:14,279
Speaker 8: or whatever, and I'm like, oh my.

1226
00:55:14,239 --> 00:55:15,000
Speaker 5: God, Jesus Christ.

1227
00:55:15,080 --> 00:55:17,839
Speaker 8: Like some days, like God, damn it just be So

1228
00:55:18,200 --> 00:55:21,360
Speaker 8: there was a day when I remember having a conversation

1229
00:55:21,400 --> 00:55:22,160
Speaker 8: with like three different minutes.

1230
00:55:22,160 --> 00:55:23,479
Speaker 5: They're like, well, what's so wrong with Queen?

1231
00:55:23,520 --> 00:55:25,880
Speaker 8: And I was like, you're pandering because y'all are the

1232
00:55:25,920 --> 00:55:29,240
Speaker 8: same niggas that called somebody a bitch in the same conversation.

1233
00:55:29,640 --> 00:55:31,480
Speaker 3: That's literally what I said today.

1234
00:55:31,640 --> 00:55:33,560
Speaker 2: I said, if a nigga called me queen, and then

1235
00:55:33,600 --> 00:55:36,400
Speaker 2: I didn't, and then I didn't want to do work

1236
00:55:36,760 --> 00:55:40,000
Speaker 2: acknowledge whatever he was giving me. In that same breath,

1237
00:55:40,040 --> 00:55:41,959
Speaker 2: he'd be quick to say, I'm gonna have fuck you, bitch,

1238
00:55:42,120 --> 00:55:44,360
Speaker 2: and I'm and and that's what and that's my problem

1239
00:55:44,400 --> 00:55:46,440
Speaker 2: with it. And it's sucked up because there are some

1240
00:55:46,520 --> 00:55:48,360
Speaker 2: men out there and a lot of there are a

1241
00:55:48,400 --> 00:55:50,239
Speaker 2: lot of great men that really mean it when they.

1242
00:55:50,239 --> 00:55:52,720
Speaker 5: Say it, but it's just I can't get.

1243
00:55:54,080 --> 00:55:54,160
Speaker 8: It.

1244
00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:54,560
Speaker 3: No more.

1245
00:55:55,080 --> 00:55:57,600
Speaker 5: I hate it. Yeah, And honestly, I thought I was

1246
00:55:57,640 --> 00:55:58,600
Speaker 5: like in the minority.

1247
00:55:58,640 --> 00:56:01,080
Speaker 8: I was like Jesus Christ, like because my boyfriend said it,

1248
00:56:01,080 --> 00:56:02,840
Speaker 8: and I was like, Yo, this is very early on.

1249
00:56:02,880 --> 00:56:04,400
Speaker 8: I was like, Yo, don't don't say that to me.

1250
00:56:04,440 --> 00:56:05,640
Speaker 8: I was like, I hate that ship. And I couldn't

1251
00:56:05,640 --> 00:56:09,480
Speaker 8: even explain why. Right, I was like, I don't like

1252
00:56:09,520 --> 00:56:10,719
Speaker 8: this shit, and I was like, I don't know why

1253
00:56:10,719 --> 00:56:12,359
Speaker 8: I don't like it. It was just like, don't ever call

1254
00:56:12,400 --> 00:56:15,399
Speaker 8: me that, Like, don't call me. I have a name

1255
00:56:15,440 --> 00:56:18,200
Speaker 8: and it's all my birth certificates. She pays taxes, Like

1256
00:56:18,280 --> 00:56:20,359
Speaker 8: I want to be known by the name that that

1257
00:56:20,400 --> 00:56:20,959
Speaker 8: pays all.

1258
00:56:20,880 --> 00:56:24,960
Speaker 5: Of the taxes. That's what I want, shit, because.

1259
00:56:24,680 --> 00:56:26,160
Speaker 8: That's the one thing you're gonna die. You're gonna pay

1260
00:56:26,200 --> 00:56:29,120
Speaker 8: taxes and be black. So get my black ass name,

1261
00:56:29,239 --> 00:56:35,319
Speaker 8: Tierara Jasmine, Like queen, my name is queenly Ship.

1262
00:56:35,560 --> 00:56:38,600
Speaker 2: Wait, and as we're sitting here right now, as we're

1263
00:56:38,680 --> 00:56:42,320
Speaker 2: sitting here right now, the guy who calls me queen

1264
00:56:42,640 --> 00:56:46,200
Speaker 2: just texts me calling me queen right now. And I

1265
00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:48,319
Speaker 2: literally just showed it to Jamila well while we were

1266
00:56:48,360 --> 00:56:49,120
Speaker 2: just podcasting.

1267
00:56:49,200 --> 00:56:54,000
Speaker 5: I was like, and she was like, I hate oh

1268
00:56:54,080 --> 00:56:54,520
Speaker 5: my god.

1269
00:56:54,560 --> 00:56:57,319
Speaker 8: I but it's like something as small as that, right

1270
00:56:57,480 --> 00:57:01,160
Speaker 8: that I don't even think in two thousand, seventeen eighteen

1271
00:57:01,320 --> 00:57:04,680
Speaker 8: or whatever, we wouldn't have checked it necessarily because you're

1272
00:57:04,760 --> 00:57:06,680
Speaker 8: just like, okay, whatever. But now, like you said, we

1273
00:57:06,719 --> 00:57:09,880
Speaker 8: have all this time to like sit and be, and

1274
00:57:09,920 --> 00:57:13,040
Speaker 8: I think we do. We have to listen, Like I

1275
00:57:13,400 --> 00:57:15,160
Speaker 8: talk a lot, and I know I have a hard

1276
00:57:15,160 --> 00:57:17,640
Speaker 8: time sometimes listening and sometimes I just have to pay

1277
00:57:17,680 --> 00:57:21,080
Speaker 8: attention to like the nonverbal cues and like what you

1278
00:57:21,120 --> 00:57:24,640
Speaker 8: say when we're not having this like deep ass conversation

1279
00:57:25,080 --> 00:57:27,600
Speaker 8: because honestly, for men, I feel like for black men

1280
00:57:27,680 --> 00:57:31,720
Speaker 8: in particular, like at least I haven't really experienced anybody

1281
00:57:31,720 --> 00:57:35,400
Speaker 8: that's like super forthcoming about their emotions and how they feel.

1282
00:57:35,840 --> 00:57:38,240
Speaker 8: So I think, like for poetry Bay to say that

1283
00:57:38,280 --> 00:57:41,560
Speaker 8: and to be like, I'm not okay, that's so vulnerable

1284
00:57:41,560 --> 00:57:44,440
Speaker 8: and like admirable to me that you don't really or

1285
00:57:44,480 --> 00:57:47,680
Speaker 8: at least, like I said, I have not experienced that, right.

1286
00:57:47,720 --> 00:57:52,000
Speaker 8: I like attention to these very like the small things,

1287
00:57:52,040 --> 00:57:53,880
Speaker 8: and I can tell when there's a shift. I'm like, yo,

1288
00:57:53,920 --> 00:57:55,520
Speaker 8: you're good, you're not good, like and then we talk

1289
00:57:55,560 --> 00:57:58,840
Speaker 8: about it. But it's typically me probing and asking like,

1290
00:57:58,880 --> 00:58:03,000
Speaker 8: what's wrong is this? And obviously there's just so much

1291
00:58:03,240 --> 00:58:06,760
Speaker 8: going on, and I think something that we talked about

1292
00:58:06,760 --> 00:58:08,720
Speaker 8: on our show, like we just have to give each

1293
00:58:08,720 --> 00:58:11,200
Speaker 8: other grace and the patients. You know, we're so quick

1294
00:58:11,320 --> 00:58:14,120
Speaker 8: to like be like fuck that person. It's still always

1295
00:58:14,120 --> 00:58:14,840
Speaker 8: fuck niggas.

1296
00:58:14,880 --> 00:58:19,480
Speaker 2: But I literally don't, girl, we're the same person. Because

1297
00:58:19,600 --> 00:58:21,560
Speaker 2: I literally told I had an episode when I was like.

1298
00:58:21,520 --> 00:58:24,040
Speaker 5: You guys, I have to stop saying we made it committed.

1299
00:58:24,120 --> 00:58:26,600
Speaker 4: Was like, we're gonna stop to stop say because we

1300
00:58:26,600 --> 00:58:28,280
Speaker 4: also believe in manifested.

1301
00:58:27,800 --> 00:58:29,360
Speaker 5: Because I was like, we'll never get a nigga.

1302
00:58:29,440 --> 00:58:32,240
Speaker 4: So if we manifest fu niggas, I mean, these niggas

1303
00:58:32,240 --> 00:58:34,080
Speaker 4: ain't ship, then these niggas will not be shipped.

1304
00:58:34,120 --> 00:58:36,320
Speaker 5: So we gotta be like these niggas are ship. Great.

1305
00:58:36,400 --> 00:58:41,200
Speaker 8: So this is my with my roommate is he runs

1306
00:58:41,400 --> 00:58:43,720
Speaker 8: rate that and it is fuck these niggas, but their

1307
00:58:43,760 --> 00:58:44,360
Speaker 8: lives matter.

1308
00:58:44,640 --> 00:58:45,600
Speaker 5: That is our news thing.

1309
00:58:46,520 --> 00:58:51,360
Speaker 2: Okays lives matter, but that's true.

1310
00:58:51,720 --> 00:58:54,360
Speaker 8: I'm telling you I will literally I do, but fuck

1311
00:58:54,440 --> 00:58:57,040
Speaker 8: these niggas completely.

1312
00:58:57,440 --> 00:58:58,000
Speaker 5: Oh No, I.

1313
00:58:59,480 --> 00:59:01,200
Speaker 2: Feel bad for the good guys out there.

1314
00:59:02,320 --> 00:59:04,080
Speaker 5: I know we're like what the fuck?

1315
00:59:04,640 --> 00:59:07,160
Speaker 4: Because there are good men that like use queen and

1316
00:59:07,160 --> 00:59:09,960
Speaker 4: they really mean it genuinely, and they're just speaking to

1317
00:59:10,040 --> 00:59:13,120
Speaker 4: our inner royalty and ship, you know, and they're out there.

1318
00:59:13,160 --> 00:59:14,600
Speaker 5: I don't want to put them. I mean, I don't

1319
00:59:14,600 --> 00:59:16,560
Speaker 5: want to put them on the box. We can't put

1320
00:59:16,600 --> 00:59:18,920
Speaker 5: everyone in the box. We can't do it. We can't

1321
00:59:19,000 --> 00:59:20,880
Speaker 5: and we have we can't do it.

1322
00:59:20,920 --> 00:59:22,400
Speaker 2: I mean even when you were saying that, you say

1323
00:59:22,400 --> 00:59:24,840
Speaker 2: fuck niggas, and your dude said, no, he gets what

1324
00:59:24,880 --> 00:59:26,400
Speaker 2: you mean, because like fuck niggas.

1325
00:59:26,560 --> 00:59:28,680
Speaker 3: It also made me think of like have we been

1326
00:59:28,760 --> 00:59:32,400
Speaker 3: trained to think fuck niggas? Like even our men think

1327
00:59:32,440 --> 00:59:35,080
Speaker 3: fuck niggas and we think they.

1328
00:59:34,960 --> 00:59:35,280
Speaker 2: Know the.

1329
00:59:37,120 --> 00:59:39,840
Speaker 5: Right, But are they? Are they behaviors? So is their

1330
00:59:39,880 --> 00:59:40,720
Speaker 5: behavior so fun?

1331
00:59:40,760 --> 00:59:43,760
Speaker 2: But like he didn't associate himself when you said that,

1332
00:59:43,800 --> 00:59:46,200
Speaker 2: but he is so he did every other He knew

1333
00:59:46,280 --> 00:59:48,080
Speaker 2: that he knew the type of nigga you were talking about,

1334
00:59:48,120 --> 00:59:50,280
Speaker 2: but like it's still the black man, you know what

1335
00:59:50,360 --> 00:59:51,760
Speaker 2: I mean, and we're I don't know.

1336
00:59:51,800 --> 00:59:53,360
Speaker 5: It just feels like is.

1337
00:59:53,320 --> 00:59:56,280
Speaker 2: This part of the what we've been programmed and why

1338
00:59:56,640 --> 00:59:59,840
Speaker 2: we're constantly at odds with one another instead of coming together?

1339
01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:01,080
Speaker 3: I mean I think now things.

1340
01:00:00,920 --> 01:00:04,000
Speaker 2: Are shifting, but like it's always been this crab and

1341
01:00:04,040 --> 01:00:06,920
Speaker 2: a barrel mentality because the nigga need to.

1342
01:00:06,840 --> 01:00:09,160
Speaker 4: Try and make them better, which everybody knows that's a

1343
01:00:09,320 --> 01:00:10,480
Speaker 4: fucking hard ass thing to do.

1344
01:00:10,560 --> 01:00:13,120
Speaker 5: We've all tried to train some niggas, but.

1345
01:00:13,120 --> 01:00:15,800
Speaker 3: We throw people away because they fucked up or we.

1346
01:00:15,840 --> 01:00:16,480
Speaker 5: Already put them.

1347
01:00:16,960 --> 01:00:19,560
Speaker 4: We've dealt with twelve dumbass niggas and so we put

1348
01:00:19,600 --> 01:00:22,280
Speaker 4: them all in the same category. And it's just like

1349
01:00:22,480 --> 01:00:26,680
Speaker 4: they deserve the space to grow. They deserve the space

1350
01:00:26,720 --> 01:00:28,600
Speaker 4: to sometimes and sometimes if we catch me on.

1351
01:00:28,600 --> 01:00:30,560
Speaker 5: A good high day, I think I'll have.

1352
01:00:30,480 --> 01:00:32,040
Speaker 2: A speech with a nigga, But then also so do

1353
01:00:32,120 --> 01:00:34,439
Speaker 2: we and maybe like fuck bitches too, and we don't

1354
01:00:34,480 --> 01:00:36,000
Speaker 2: have a lot of space to grow, and they throw

1355
01:00:36,120 --> 01:00:39,680
Speaker 2: us away, which leads me back to my original question

1356
01:00:41,240 --> 01:00:44,880
Speaker 2: of how can black men protect women? Because I do

1357
01:00:44,920 --> 01:00:47,960
Speaker 2: feel like we give them that grace more often they

1358
01:00:48,000 --> 01:00:48,400
Speaker 2: than not.

1359
01:00:49,280 --> 01:00:51,240
Speaker 5: And we don't always get that grace.

1360
01:00:51,360 --> 01:00:53,680
Speaker 2: Like I hear a lot of men, you know, feel

1361
01:00:53,680 --> 01:00:56,040
Speaker 2: comfortable talking and candidly about women in front of me,

1362
01:00:56,120 --> 01:00:59,240
Speaker 2: and I'm like, damn, like she just fuck you're homie,

1363
01:00:59,280 --> 01:00:59,760
Speaker 2: and she.

1364
01:00:59,680 --> 01:01:02,480
Speaker 3: Ain't now nigga, you fuck how many of my friends?

1365
01:01:03,600 --> 01:01:03,840
Speaker 6: You know?

1366
01:01:04,080 --> 01:01:06,840
Speaker 2: It's like the way we and like how you know,

1367
01:01:06,960 --> 01:01:09,720
Speaker 2: oh she I just like how men also pair women

1368
01:01:09,720 --> 01:01:11,720
Speaker 2: against each other. Oh she she ain't shit, she ain't

1369
01:01:11,920 --> 01:01:13,800
Speaker 2: she ain't got that, she ain't got this. How do

1370
01:01:13,880 --> 01:01:17,360
Speaker 2: we protect all women and just not just post about

1371
01:01:17,400 --> 01:01:19,600
Speaker 2: it or like how do or how do men do it? Like,

1372
01:01:19,640 --> 01:01:21,000
Speaker 2: I think a lot of women, a lot of men

1373
01:01:21,040 --> 01:01:23,400
Speaker 2: don't know if they can because I feel like, even

1374
01:01:23,400 --> 01:01:24,680
Speaker 2: as black women, we've been.

1375
01:01:24,560 --> 01:01:25,400
Speaker 3: Paired against each other.

1376
01:01:25,600 --> 01:01:28,560
Speaker 2: They feel like they can't choose or else we're gonna

1377
01:01:28,960 --> 01:01:31,120
Speaker 2: be jealous because that's a lot of that's a lot

1378
01:01:31,160 --> 01:01:33,480
Speaker 2: of the issue that black men take with dating black

1379
01:01:33,520 --> 01:01:35,720
Speaker 2: women is that we're jealous that we can't you know

1380
01:01:35,760 --> 01:01:38,680
Speaker 2: what I mean, like reviews that they can't they can't

1381
01:01:38,720 --> 01:01:41,000
Speaker 2: praise two women, two black women at once in the

1382
01:01:41,000 --> 01:01:41,520
Speaker 2: same room.

1383
01:01:41,720 --> 01:01:42,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, I do too.

1384
01:01:42,680 --> 01:01:45,720
Speaker 8: I think I'm ge coming off because I feel like

1385
01:01:45,720 --> 01:01:48,400
Speaker 8: I'm talking a lot now, you know, I always like women.

1386
01:01:48,400 --> 01:01:49,200
Speaker 5: I'm a soapbox.

1387
01:01:50,160 --> 01:01:53,439
Speaker 8: So I feel like and something you have, I'll tell

1388
01:01:53,440 --> 01:01:56,240
Speaker 8: the story in a second, but like just listen, and

1389
01:01:56,280 --> 01:02:01,240
Speaker 8: I think you need to listen without it coming from

1390
01:02:01,320 --> 01:02:04,080
Speaker 8: just the same way you would respect your mother or

1391
01:02:04,080 --> 01:02:07,480
Speaker 8: your sister. You need to respect what that same black

1392
01:02:07,520 --> 01:02:10,880
Speaker 8: woman is saying as just a person, because so often

1393
01:02:10,920 --> 01:02:12,840
Speaker 8: it's like, well, I have to protect her because she's

1394
01:02:12,840 --> 01:02:15,120
Speaker 8: my sister. No, no, no, you have to protect her because

1395
01:02:15,160 --> 01:02:18,400
Speaker 8: she's a black woman. That the sister is just like

1396
01:02:18,440 --> 01:02:21,440
Speaker 8: a title that's a relation to somebody. But it's so

1397
01:02:21,600 --> 01:02:25,200
Speaker 8: easy for men to pick and choose who they want

1398
01:02:25,240 --> 01:02:25,760
Speaker 8: to protect.

1399
01:02:25,880 --> 01:02:27,240
Speaker 5: Attraction is a part of that.

1400
01:02:27,600 --> 01:02:29,080
Speaker 8: You know, if I'm attracted to you and I could

1401
01:02:29,080 --> 01:02:31,240
Speaker 8: potentially see a future, I could fuck you whatever it is,

1402
01:02:32,160 --> 01:02:34,800
Speaker 8: or like I said, in relation that, no fuck that.

1403
01:02:35,000 --> 01:02:38,280
Speaker 8: Like I literally last week met my sister, like the

1404
01:02:38,320 --> 01:02:39,320
Speaker 8: person that she's dating.

1405
01:02:39,360 --> 01:02:42,520
Speaker 5: We go out and he's talking and I was like,

1406
01:02:42,600 --> 01:02:43,000
Speaker 5: damn me.

1407
01:02:43,000 --> 01:02:46,760
Speaker 8: Talk a lot, all right, you know, and I'm on

1408
01:02:46,840 --> 01:02:50,120
Speaker 8: my like fifth margarita, And somehow we get to the

1409
01:02:50,200 --> 01:02:53,080
Speaker 8: on the record story about Russell Simmons and Drew Dixon,

1410
01:02:53,400 --> 01:02:57,640
Speaker 8: sorry Drew, basically all the accusers the documentary from the

1411
01:02:57,680 --> 01:03:01,880
Speaker 8: accusers of Russell Simmons with sexual assault, and I'm I'm

1412
01:03:01,880 --> 01:03:05,960
Speaker 8: talking about the documentary. He completely flips it right, and

1413
01:03:06,000 --> 01:03:06,800
Speaker 8: I'm like, I'm sorry.

1414
01:03:06,960 --> 01:03:07,400
Speaker 3: I wasn't.

1415
01:03:07,560 --> 01:03:09,640
Speaker 8: I wasn't talking about that though, Like what I am

1416
01:03:09,680 --> 01:03:11,840
Speaker 8: talking about is a very specific issue, and I am

1417
01:03:11,880 --> 01:03:14,560
Speaker 8: talking about these women that came out against this man.

1418
01:03:14,800 --> 01:03:16,920
Speaker 8: And he literally said, well when I was fifteen, my

1419
01:03:17,040 --> 01:03:18,640
Speaker 8: sister no, no, no no. I was like, I don't really

1420
01:03:18,640 --> 01:03:20,560
Speaker 8: care about that, Like that's what you're supposed to do.

1421
01:03:21,120 --> 01:03:22,280
Speaker 5: So my sister just broke it down.

1422
01:03:22,280 --> 01:03:25,160
Speaker 8: She's like, you're not listening, like you're listening to respond.

1423
01:03:25,320 --> 01:03:29,480
Speaker 8: Also you're listening from the perception of a family member,

1424
01:03:29,680 --> 01:03:31,520
Speaker 8: Like just listen to what she's saying.

1425
01:03:31,840 --> 01:03:33,840
Speaker 5: He got so angry. Do you know he left us

1426
01:03:33,880 --> 01:03:35,560
Speaker 5: at this restaurant I hope.

1427
01:03:35,400 --> 01:03:37,600
Speaker 6: Yes, the same dayton his dumb ass no more.

1428
01:03:37,920 --> 01:03:40,760
Speaker 8: He left, he walked away, and I was like, damn,

1429
01:03:40,800 --> 01:03:46,280
Speaker 8: I under Nigga's skin this week. Yeah, under Nigga's skin

1430
01:03:46,440 --> 01:03:51,880
Speaker 8: because he couldn't even take just having that conversation, like he.

1431
01:03:53,480 --> 01:03:54,200
Speaker 3: Like so much.

1432
01:03:54,200 --> 01:03:55,760
Speaker 8: I hate to say this, but like I feel like

1433
01:03:55,800 --> 01:03:58,320
Speaker 8: so much of men is also like rooted in narcissism.

1434
01:03:58,400 --> 01:04:01,720
Speaker 2: So it's like this is is he protecting Russell?

1435
01:04:01,800 --> 01:04:03,400
Speaker 3: I don't like what was he so.

1436
01:04:03,960 --> 01:04:06,040
Speaker 5: Even addressed the Russell situation?

1437
01:04:06,080 --> 01:04:09,120
Speaker 3: So what was he disturbed? About what was his ripe.

1438
01:04:09,040 --> 01:04:11,760
Speaker 8: With literally I have when I tell you, I at

1439
01:04:11,800 --> 01:04:13,760
Speaker 8: one point, like the waitresses came over and I was like,

1440
01:04:13,960 --> 01:04:17,320
Speaker 8: how fuck did we get here? I'm sorry, I don't

1441
01:04:17,320 --> 01:04:19,480
Speaker 8: mean to make your nigga run off, but and I'm

1442
01:04:19,520 --> 01:04:20,360
Speaker 8: just like drinking my drink.

1443
01:04:20,480 --> 01:04:21,520
Speaker 3: Like he was wrong.

1444
01:04:21,560 --> 01:04:25,040
Speaker 4: I mean, did he have like some personal experience. It's

1445
01:04:25,200 --> 01:04:29,120
Speaker 4: like an allegation of some sort, Like he could not

1446
01:04:29,280 --> 01:04:32,880
Speaker 4: handle being called out for not listening. And we're talking

1447
01:04:32,880 --> 01:04:34,800
Speaker 4: about listening with two years.

1448
01:04:34,800 --> 01:04:37,640
Speaker 1: You got one mouth in two years, and he can

1449
01:04:37,720 --> 01:04:39,200
Speaker 1: be called out on some shit.

1450
01:04:39,600 --> 01:04:41,360
Speaker 6: He had to be right or just.

1451
01:04:42,240 --> 01:04:44,640
Speaker 7: Or just defend however he felt in that moment, like

1452
01:04:44,760 --> 01:04:48,520
Speaker 7: I think he to that point like he just can't communicate.

1453
01:04:49,000 --> 01:04:50,680
Speaker 7: Like for you to feel as though you need to

1454
01:04:50,680 --> 01:04:54,200
Speaker 7: remove yourself from the conversation because someone's accusing you of

1455
01:04:54,200 --> 01:04:56,480
Speaker 7: not listening to what they have to say, like you

1456
01:04:56,600 --> 01:04:57,919
Speaker 7: just don't have good communications.

1457
01:04:57,960 --> 01:04:59,640
Speaker 5: Go when I tell you we did not?

1458
01:04:59,720 --> 01:05:01,440
Speaker 8: Yes, she was so like when she did it with

1459
01:05:01,560 --> 01:05:03,960
Speaker 8: whatever she and I wish, I like Verbatim couldn't say

1460
01:05:03,960 --> 01:05:04,479
Speaker 8: what she said.

1461
01:05:04,720 --> 01:05:05,800
Speaker 5: And my sister's younger than me.

1462
01:05:05,920 --> 01:05:08,400
Speaker 8: I was so proud, Like I literally was like that's

1463
01:05:08,440 --> 01:05:12,640
Speaker 8: my bitch. Like I was like, girl, I was like,

1464
01:05:12,760 --> 01:05:15,560
Speaker 8: that was so articulate and good. So that is the

1465
01:05:15,600 --> 01:05:18,360
Speaker 8: place that I'm coming from. So no one's like attacking you.

1466
01:05:18,440 --> 01:05:20,760
Speaker 8: And you see, like I talk with my hands and

1467
01:05:20,760 --> 01:05:23,560
Speaker 8: apparently he was like, well, your sister was like so expressive,

1468
01:05:23,560 --> 01:05:25,280
Speaker 8: and I'm like, we're on a zoom call and I'm

1469
01:05:25,280 --> 01:05:27,040
Speaker 8: talking with my hands, like you should tell me from

1470
01:05:27,040 --> 01:05:28,000
Speaker 8: my mother from hands down.

1471
01:05:28,120 --> 01:05:30,439
Speaker 5: I'm like, right, like that wasn't it.

1472
01:05:30,560 --> 01:05:32,640
Speaker 8: You didn't want to listen and you didn't like being

1473
01:05:32,680 --> 01:05:35,960
Speaker 8: called out about not listening. And again, it had nothing

1474
01:05:36,000 --> 01:05:37,760
Speaker 8: to do with the subject at hand, because we never

1475
01:05:38,360 --> 01:05:39,200
Speaker 8: talked about it.

1476
01:05:39,160 --> 01:05:40,920
Speaker 7: And how long they've been together.

1477
01:05:41,760 --> 01:05:43,840
Speaker 5: They like, child is a hope, I hope.

1478
01:05:44,280 --> 01:05:48,160
Speaker 3: Okay, she said it over. I mean, I think it's

1479
01:05:48,280 --> 01:05:50,760
Speaker 3: I think it has to do too just with men.

1480
01:05:51,080 --> 01:05:55,400
Speaker 2: It's men in general, not whether black, white, yellow, whatever

1481
01:05:55,440 --> 01:05:59,520
Speaker 2: the fuck, just not not being able to not amen.

1482
01:05:59,560 --> 01:06:03,800
Speaker 5: I'm sorry, but men well man, well men also not not.

1483
01:06:03,920 --> 01:06:05,680
Speaker 2: It's not their fault though, a lot of it is

1484
01:06:05,720 --> 01:06:09,200
Speaker 2: that they have been taught that their opinions are more

1485
01:06:09,280 --> 01:06:12,320
Speaker 2: valuable than ours. Yeah, right, or they're more important, they're

1486
01:06:12,360 --> 01:06:15,240
Speaker 2: paid there. That's literally that their opinions are more value.

1487
01:06:15,280 --> 01:06:16,360
Speaker 5: So they get pissed.

1488
01:06:16,080 --> 01:06:20,120
Speaker 4: Off when they're not intelligent enough to rebuttal and they

1489
01:06:20,160 --> 01:06:23,600
Speaker 4: can't and that they see like the they see and

1490
01:06:23,720 --> 01:06:25,720
Speaker 4: understand the basics of what you're trying to say, but

1491
01:06:25,760 --> 01:06:28,440
Speaker 4: they just refuse to accept it because it makes them uncomfortable,

1492
01:06:28,720 --> 01:06:31,640
Speaker 4: because it makes us equal and like normal shit, you know,

1493
01:06:31,800 --> 01:06:34,240
Speaker 4: like motherfucking patriarchy.

1494
01:06:34,480 --> 01:06:39,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, the mother track and patriarchy. Honestly, everything is, everything

1495
01:06:39,240 --> 01:06:39,720
Speaker 5: is rooted in it.

1496
01:06:39,800 --> 01:06:41,640
Speaker 8: But I do I think, but you know that long

1497
01:06:41,680 --> 01:06:44,160
Speaker 8: winded ass answer that I just gave you it just listen,

1498
01:06:45,320 --> 01:06:47,800
Speaker 8: like I said, and not because it's in relation to you.

1499
01:06:47,840 --> 01:06:52,800
Speaker 8: Every Twitter feed and comment that I see from black

1500
01:06:52,840 --> 01:06:57,120
Speaker 8: women is literally just like y'all gotta listen to what

1501
01:06:57,200 --> 01:07:01,360
Speaker 8: women are saying, right, So just like and take and

1502
01:07:01,440 --> 01:07:04,680
Speaker 8: take yourself out of the equation. And while you may

1503
01:07:04,720 --> 01:07:07,400
Speaker 8: not be doing these things, you probably do have friends

1504
01:07:07,440 --> 01:07:11,000
Speaker 8: that have super like skivy behavior and you let it slide.

1505
01:07:11,280 --> 01:07:12,640
Speaker 5: Yes' not okay?

1506
01:07:12,720 --> 01:07:13,960
Speaker 6: I yeah, Like you know you.

1507
01:07:13,960 --> 01:07:17,680
Speaker 8: Have friends that aren't acting like you know, that are

1508
01:07:17,680 --> 01:07:20,280
Speaker 8: doing things that are wrong or improper or whatever.

1509
01:07:20,520 --> 01:07:22,240
Speaker 5: Like you got to check that shit too.

1510
01:07:22,480 --> 01:07:23,280
Speaker 6: I'm accountable.

1511
01:07:23,680 --> 01:07:26,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would say listen and just have some accountability

1512
01:07:26,840 --> 01:07:29,320
Speaker 1: in your privilege, you know what I mean. Like, granted,

1513
01:07:29,360 --> 01:07:33,120
Speaker 1: this is a rough time for everyone, right, it's hard

1514
01:07:33,120 --> 01:07:33,760
Speaker 1: to be black.

1515
01:07:33,880 --> 01:07:34,920
Speaker 6: We understand that.

1516
01:07:37,040 --> 01:07:41,120
Speaker 1: You know, your experience with cops could potentially be worse.

1517
01:07:41,160 --> 01:07:44,120
Speaker 1: But we are dying too, and we are dying from cops,

1518
01:07:44,120 --> 01:07:45,800
Speaker 1: and we're dying from y'all.

1519
01:07:45,680 --> 01:07:46,320
Speaker 6: You know what I mean.

1520
01:07:46,400 --> 01:07:51,800
Speaker 8: So have being arrested, right, I said, our cops aren't

1521
01:07:51,840 --> 01:07:53,040
Speaker 8: being arrested.

1522
01:07:53,120 --> 01:07:54,320
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, no, right.

1523
01:07:54,600 --> 01:07:57,480
Speaker 1: Our cops aren't being arrested. They don't care. Our names

1524
01:07:57,480 --> 01:08:00,520
Speaker 1: are being forgotten. You know, have some accountability and that

1525
01:08:00,680 --> 01:08:03,800
Speaker 1: privilege that you own, because then you might be able

1526
01:08:03,840 --> 01:08:07,040
Speaker 1: to listen right and hear us and see us and

1527
01:08:07,120 --> 01:08:09,800
Speaker 1: stand up for us and start protecting us. But we

1528
01:08:09,840 --> 01:08:12,600
Speaker 1: won't get anywhere if we can't have a conversation because

1529
01:08:12,640 --> 01:08:13,280
Speaker 1: you won't listen.

1530
01:08:13,440 --> 01:08:15,280
Speaker 6: You can't because you aren't accountable.

1531
01:08:15,680 --> 01:08:19,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm gonna ask you a question that it's probably

1532
01:08:19,400 --> 01:08:20,640
Speaker 2: I mean, I feel.

1533
01:08:20,360 --> 01:08:24,200
Speaker 3: Like it could be controversial. Do you think that.

1534
01:08:25,800 --> 01:08:30,320
Speaker 2: This movement would have happened had it only been Breonna Taylor?

1535
01:08:30,960 --> 01:08:34,200
Speaker 3: Like, did it need George Floyd for this to happen.

1536
01:08:34,280 --> 01:08:36,320
Speaker 3: I mean, granted his death was on.

1537
01:08:36,400 --> 01:08:40,040
Speaker 8: Video, finish like I can, because I'm so I literally

1538
01:08:40,080 --> 01:08:41,719
Speaker 8: could sorry, finish, finish, finish.

1539
01:08:41,800 --> 01:08:44,439
Speaker 2: No, I'm just saying granted his death was video recorded

1540
01:08:44,520 --> 01:08:48,320
Speaker 2: versus hers was not, but I still feel like I'm

1541
01:08:48,360 --> 01:08:51,800
Speaker 2: not hearing her in the name enough, I'm not hearing.

1542
01:08:53,080 --> 01:08:53,479
Speaker 3: I'm sorry.

1543
01:08:53,479 --> 01:08:55,400
Speaker 2: What was the woman's the woman who just died to

1544
01:08:55,479 --> 01:08:56,800
Speaker 2: him and she died of them at the hands of

1545
01:08:56,840 --> 01:09:01,400
Speaker 2: a black man, you know, recently an act this and

1546
01:09:01,640 --> 01:09:04,519
Speaker 2: I'm just not I just I was thinking about this

1547
01:09:04,560 --> 01:09:07,439
Speaker 2: today because I was I was myself was wondering how

1548
01:09:07,840 --> 01:09:10,880
Speaker 2: what what do I think black men can do to

1549
01:09:10,920 --> 01:09:14,519
Speaker 2: protect black women? More like I've never really sat there

1550
01:09:14,520 --> 01:09:16,080
Speaker 2: and made a list. I've made a list of a

1551
01:09:16,080 --> 01:09:19,679
Speaker 2: lot of other shit, but like, what is what is that?

1552
01:09:19,840 --> 01:09:22,040
Speaker 2: And then I thought about Breonna Taylor, and I thought,

1553
01:09:23,560 --> 01:09:25,840
Speaker 2: had George Floyd, had it not happened, would it would

1554
01:09:25,840 --> 01:09:27,519
Speaker 2: this have been the same would it have been the

1555
01:09:27,560 --> 01:09:28,240
Speaker 2: same reaction?

1556
01:09:29,720 --> 01:09:30,200
Speaker 5: Absolutely?

1557
01:09:30,240 --> 01:09:32,439
Speaker 8: I mean I think that's shown now, Like we are

1558
01:09:32,520 --> 01:09:37,080
Speaker 8: at one hundred plus days and no one one person

1559
01:09:37,760 --> 01:09:41,120
Speaker 8: got fired. One of the police officers fired and you know,

1560
01:09:41,160 --> 01:09:43,440
Speaker 8: he probably still got his pension.

1561
01:09:43,280 --> 01:09:45,120
Speaker 4: And you can still you can still have a job

1562
01:09:45,160 --> 01:09:48,120
Speaker 4: as an officer in a different place, and you go

1563
01:09:48,200 --> 01:09:51,640
Speaker 4: to another county, which is absolutely absurd.

1564
01:09:52,400 --> 01:09:55,679
Speaker 5: You can kill someone in their fucking sleep, in their sleep,

1565
01:09:56,000 --> 01:09:58,160
Speaker 5: and they're.

1566
01:09:57,240 --> 01:09:59,520
Speaker 6: Hired the next day as a shared.

1567
01:10:00,600 --> 01:10:04,640
Speaker 8: And the only person that was arrested was her boyfriend

1568
01:10:04,640 --> 01:10:07,240
Speaker 8: that was in bed sleep with her.

1569
01:10:07,040 --> 01:10:09,760
Speaker 4: Later to be released that same evening because it made

1570
01:10:09,880 --> 01:10:10,920
Speaker 4: absolute no sense.

1571
01:10:10,960 --> 01:10:13,160
Speaker 5: They panicked, no sense, no sense.

1572
01:10:13,280 --> 01:10:15,360
Speaker 8: So no, I don't and I hate to say that,

1573
01:10:15,439 --> 01:10:17,600
Speaker 8: I think I do. I think back to again what

1574
01:10:17,640 --> 01:10:20,160
Speaker 8: we were saying. COVID has made everyone sit and their

1575
01:10:20,240 --> 01:10:23,960
Speaker 8: ship and it's like, nah, this is like wild.

1576
01:10:24,120 --> 01:10:25,320
Speaker 5: You can't do anything.

1577
01:10:25,479 --> 01:10:30,280
Speaker 8: You cannot you can't go buy something, you can't go

1578
01:10:30,479 --> 01:10:35,000
Speaker 8: bird watching, you can't sleep in your bed, you can't go.

1579
01:10:35,760 --> 01:10:38,719
Speaker 3: Buy skintles, then get ice cream, go to sleep.

1580
01:10:39,600 --> 01:10:40,360
Speaker 2: Yeah you can't.

1581
01:10:41,200 --> 01:10:43,360
Speaker 8: And so and now we have to sit in all this.

1582
01:10:43,479 --> 01:10:46,360
Speaker 8: There are no distractions. But I don't do I think

1583
01:10:46,520 --> 01:10:49,559
Speaker 8: all this would have happened with Brihanna if it was

1584
01:10:49,720 --> 01:10:52,519
Speaker 8: just Brionna Taylor and there were no Ahmad Aubrey's and

1585
01:10:52,560 --> 01:10:55,559
Speaker 8: George Foot. Absolutely not, because like I said, it's shown

1586
01:10:55,600 --> 01:10:59,679
Speaker 8: that her her police. The police officers that killed her

1587
01:10:59,800 --> 01:11:05,200
Speaker 8: are still walking free yep, like still, And I think

1588
01:11:06,280 --> 01:11:08,759
Speaker 8: when people talk about like the memification of that, sometimes

1589
01:11:08,800 --> 01:11:09,599
Speaker 8: I'm like some of the ship.

1590
01:11:09,640 --> 01:11:12,280
Speaker 5: I'm like, y'all, like, let's not get away from the issues.

1591
01:11:13,000 --> 01:11:15,040
Speaker 5: For me, it's like, you.

1592
01:11:15,000 --> 01:11:17,240
Speaker 8: Know, it's like I picked up my favorite thing from

1593
01:11:17,240 --> 01:11:21,320
Speaker 8: Trader Joel's or whatever. But Breonna Taylor's officers are still

1594
01:11:21,400 --> 01:11:25,000
Speaker 8: running loose, like because it's so much of natural conversation,

1595
01:11:25,240 --> 01:11:28,120
Speaker 8: because I think it's almost like it's fucking unbelievable that they.

1596
01:11:28,000 --> 01:11:31,560
Speaker 5: Have not been arrested. So to pinpoint on the memification

1597
01:11:31,680 --> 01:11:35,240
Speaker 5: of it, no, are you fucking calling? Are you writing?

1598
01:11:35,360 --> 01:11:37,879
Speaker 5: And are are you doing like the work that needs.

1599
01:11:37,640 --> 01:11:42,120
Speaker 1: To the side, you know, but step to the motherfucking

1600
01:11:42,200 --> 01:11:43,120
Speaker 1: side or do some.

1601
01:11:43,040 --> 01:11:44,439
Speaker 5: Shit pick and shoot.

1602
01:11:44,479 --> 01:11:46,240
Speaker 8: We also have to pick and choose our battles, I

1603
01:11:46,240 --> 01:11:49,240
Speaker 8: feel like, and that is one that I'm just like, y'all,

1604
01:11:49,280 --> 01:11:50,599
Speaker 8: like the message is the same.

1605
01:11:50,680 --> 01:11:52,280
Speaker 5: It's it's literally like when you argue with your nigga,

1606
01:11:52,280 --> 01:11:53,559
Speaker 5: because at least this is what I gotta do.

1607
01:11:53,960 --> 01:11:56,800
Speaker 8: I gotta sit back and I gotta be like, is

1608
01:11:56,880 --> 01:11:59,519
Speaker 8: this that important that I need to call this out?

1609
01:11:59,600 --> 01:12:01,599
Speaker 8: What is really the root at what I'm trying to

1610
01:12:01,640 --> 01:12:04,280
Speaker 8: get to, and the root is we are all trying

1611
01:12:04,600 --> 01:12:07,840
Speaker 8: to have justice for Breonna Taylor. So you calling out

1612
01:12:07,920 --> 01:12:11,479
Speaker 8: somebody that it's not even memification to me. It's just like,

1613
01:12:11,680 --> 01:12:15,240
Speaker 8: no pay attention because you know, like you post a selfie.

1614
01:12:14,880 --> 01:12:19,080
Speaker 1: Are going back to the regular scheduling, regularly scheduled pro programming.

1615
01:12:19,280 --> 01:12:20,639
Speaker 6: That's what I got from it.

1616
01:12:20,760 --> 01:12:23,360
Speaker 1: I got that, like, hey, I see y'all kind of

1617
01:12:23,400 --> 01:12:24,840
Speaker 1: itching back to normalcy.

1618
01:12:25,040 --> 01:12:28,599
Speaker 8: No oh but just in case, no nigga, Yeah, no,

1619
01:12:29,840 --> 01:12:31,759
Speaker 8: Like I'm like, come on, y'all, like we were getting

1620
01:12:31,760 --> 01:12:35,840
Speaker 8: away from like we're literally getting away from the issues,

1621
01:12:37,000 --> 01:12:39,080
Speaker 8: and it just it like literally upsets me because she

1622
01:12:39,280 --> 01:12:41,720
Speaker 8: could be literally like that could be my cousin, like

1623
01:12:41,840 --> 01:12:44,320
Speaker 8: that that could get me of our cousin. So that

1624
01:12:44,360 --> 01:12:48,320
Speaker 8: one is like again, one hundred plus days, she did.

1625
01:12:48,080 --> 01:12:51,280
Speaker 6: Everything right, was in her bas leap, getting ready to go.

1626
01:12:51,200 --> 01:12:54,439
Speaker 5: To work, worker Like what right?

1627
01:12:55,240 --> 01:12:55,519
Speaker 3: Right?

1628
01:12:56,760 --> 01:13:01,439
Speaker 5: And still nothing nothing? Nothing? How can you justify that?

1629
01:13:01,680 --> 01:13:04,160
Speaker 4: How the fuck can you justify that the person they

1630
01:13:04,160 --> 01:13:07,120
Speaker 4: were looking for had already been detained who they claimed

1631
01:13:07,200 --> 01:13:10,120
Speaker 4: that they were looking for, Like it's insane.

1632
01:13:10,640 --> 01:13:11,519
Speaker 5: You can't, you.

1633
01:13:11,400 --> 01:13:13,519
Speaker 8: Can't so I think, you know, I think how we

1634
01:13:13,600 --> 01:13:16,040
Speaker 8: talk about I'm very.

1635
01:13:16,160 --> 01:13:18,559
Speaker 5: We can't teach white people racism, right.

1636
01:13:18,960 --> 01:13:21,920
Speaker 8: I think for the white people that is on you

1637
01:13:22,040 --> 01:13:25,280
Speaker 8: to teach other white people because they're not gonna listenus.

1638
01:13:25,280 --> 01:13:27,280
Speaker 5: We've been saying the shit for four hundred plus years.

1639
01:13:27,560 --> 01:13:29,519
Speaker 3: Well, we done wrote. We wrote a hundred books. Go

1640
01:13:29,640 --> 01:13:30,560
Speaker 3: read those books.

1641
01:13:30,720 --> 01:13:34,040
Speaker 5: You can google it, google this shit. So I think

1642
01:13:34,120 --> 01:13:36,920
Speaker 5: for men, it is in their privilege.

1643
01:13:36,960 --> 01:13:41,200
Speaker 8: It's it's essentially like the same concept men have to

1644
01:13:41,240 --> 01:13:44,640
Speaker 8: teach other men how to be a man, how to

1645
01:13:44,840 --> 01:13:48,840
Speaker 8: not take advantage of other women, how to uphold and

1646
01:13:48,960 --> 01:13:50,080
Speaker 8: respect other women.

1647
01:13:50,080 --> 01:13:50,880
Speaker 5: It's so many things.

1648
01:13:50,920 --> 01:13:53,840
Speaker 8: You remember that like the boys that like threw the

1649
01:13:53,880 --> 01:13:56,920
Speaker 8: girl and the dumpster, and that was like a whole thing.

1650
01:13:56,960 --> 01:13:59,200
Speaker 8: And it's like I didn't even like dig that deep

1651
01:13:59,240 --> 01:14:00,800
Speaker 8: into the store, but I was like, why is there

1652
01:14:00,920 --> 01:14:03,360
Speaker 8: a girl in the dumpster. I couldn't even because I

1653
01:14:03,360 --> 01:14:05,200
Speaker 8: think she don want to talk to somebody. Like it's

1654
01:14:05,240 --> 01:14:07,360
Speaker 8: like little shit like that that we can so easily

1655
01:14:07,400 --> 01:14:09,800
Speaker 8: pass off and we can laugh about it. It's really

1656
01:14:09,840 --> 01:14:12,880
Speaker 8: not funny because those boys are fifteen or whatever they were,

1657
01:14:13,120 --> 01:14:15,000
Speaker 8: and they're gonna grow up to be twenty five year

1658
01:14:15,000 --> 01:14:16,760
Speaker 8: old men disrespecting women and doing me.

1659
01:14:17,080 --> 01:14:20,240
Speaker 3: And a girl and Popeye who got away with that shit?

1660
01:14:20,600 --> 01:14:23,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, because there's no there's no older man to be like,

1661
01:14:23,040 --> 01:14:24,000
Speaker 4: what the fuck are you doing?

1662
01:14:24,120 --> 01:14:24,240
Speaker 3: Like?

1663
01:14:24,479 --> 01:14:27,200
Speaker 4: I see such a big generation of men who claim

1664
01:14:27,280 --> 01:14:31,280
Speaker 4: to like love women but clearly hate them.

1665
01:14:30,840 --> 01:14:34,320
Speaker 2: Like if you if you love women, then treat them

1666
01:14:34,360 --> 01:14:34,840
Speaker 2: as such.

1667
01:14:34,920 --> 01:14:38,719
Speaker 4: It's it's just such a strange, such a strange place

1668
01:14:38,760 --> 01:14:39,040
Speaker 4: to be in.

1669
01:14:39,160 --> 01:14:40,439
Speaker 6: We should stop sucking them.

1670
01:14:40,800 --> 01:14:47,000
Speaker 9: We should we finally strike, fuck you the pussy strike.

1671
01:14:47,160 --> 01:14:49,920
Speaker 2: Like three hundred and sixty five days, y'all ain't got

1672
01:14:49,960 --> 01:14:53,000
Speaker 2: no pussy, and y'all still ain't valuing my life.

1673
01:14:53,600 --> 01:14:57,559
Speaker 1: We need to have the next women's meeting, right, ladies,

1674
01:14:57,720 --> 01:14:58,920
Speaker 1: don't stop fucking these.

1675
01:14:58,880 --> 01:15:01,200
Speaker 6: Niggas up in these broken niggas.

1676
01:15:02,400 --> 01:15:03,400
Speaker 5: They need to get to work.

1677
01:15:03,479 --> 01:15:04,880
Speaker 3: Oh thank god for city girls.

1678
01:15:05,000 --> 01:15:09,000
Speaker 1: Got stop these niggas because if we don't fuck them,

1679
01:15:09,080 --> 01:15:11,160
Speaker 1: then they're gonna be like, oh, ship, they don't figured

1680
01:15:11,160 --> 01:15:11,479
Speaker 1: it out.

1681
01:15:11,479 --> 01:15:13,679
Speaker 6: We really ain't ship. Let's get our ship right.

1682
01:15:14,120 --> 01:15:19,240
Speaker 4: Finally they're acting accordingly to our ant ship tactics, and.

1683
01:15:19,200 --> 01:15:22,320
Speaker 5: It's a shame. You've gotta have ancient tactics, right, right,

1684
01:15:25,040 --> 01:15:26,800
Speaker 5: we only want to take care of you and love

1685
01:15:26,880 --> 01:15:34,760
Speaker 5: you and ship. Oh lord, audacity, it's so much. It's

1686
01:15:35,000 --> 01:15:37,320
Speaker 5: it's the audacity.

1687
01:15:37,800 --> 01:15:41,599
Speaker 2: Oh okay, she's she can't hold it, so Jamia, she's

1688
01:15:41,840 --> 01:15:42,919
Speaker 2: she has a tiny bladder.

1689
01:15:43,680 --> 01:15:43,920
Speaker 3: Same.

1690
01:15:44,880 --> 01:15:46,400
Speaker 7: I was gonna say, that's as well.

1691
01:15:46,760 --> 01:15:47,639
Speaker 5: That is me all day.

1692
01:15:48,040 --> 01:15:49,840
Speaker 3: Are you a papa? Can you pee in any in

1693
01:15:49,880 --> 01:15:51,360
Speaker 3: any place, in any moment.

1694
01:15:51,640 --> 01:15:53,200
Speaker 5: Any place, any moments?

1695
01:15:53,439 --> 01:15:55,439
Speaker 3: But I mean like outdoors? Are you an outdoor peer?

1696
01:15:55,800 --> 01:15:57,719
Speaker 6: Yeahh yeah, okay.

1697
01:15:57,520 --> 01:15:58,799
Speaker 3: Cause Jamila is like experience.

1698
01:15:58,880 --> 01:16:00,960
Speaker 2: In fact, she believes all children should be taught this

1699
01:16:01,080 --> 01:16:03,120
Speaker 2: as well, like they need to know how to pee

1700
01:16:03,120 --> 01:16:07,080
Speaker 2: in public places as well. Her and Luna are professional peers.

1701
01:16:07,120 --> 01:16:11,080
Speaker 2: I'd be like, we're like, we're at we're in the

1702
01:16:11,160 --> 01:16:11,880
Speaker 2: valet line.

1703
01:16:11,960 --> 01:16:13,240
Speaker 3: How are you going to pull this off?

1704
01:16:14,040 --> 01:16:16,799
Speaker 8: That is oh my god, because you know in COVID

1705
01:16:16,880 --> 01:16:19,479
Speaker 8: there are no like nothing's open. Well this is like

1706
01:16:19,640 --> 01:16:21,240
Speaker 8: very early on when nothing was open and I was

1707
01:16:21,320 --> 01:16:22,880
Speaker 8: driving from Baltimore back.

1708
01:16:22,760 --> 01:16:25,559
Speaker 5: To New York and I stopped him a little rest stop.

1709
01:16:25,560 --> 01:16:27,519
Speaker 8: But I guess I drink a little too much water

1710
01:16:27,920 --> 01:16:30,240
Speaker 8: and I was in a residential area. Y'all should have

1711
01:16:30,240 --> 01:16:32,040
Speaker 8: seen me. I had to go down so many streets

1712
01:16:32,080 --> 01:16:34,639
Speaker 8: because people come out and I was like, oh my god,

1713
01:16:34,640 --> 01:16:36,439
Speaker 8: I was in somebody's driveway.

1714
01:16:36,000 --> 01:16:37,639
Speaker 5: And then I had to go to the side the street.

1715
01:16:37,760 --> 01:16:40,679
Speaker 5: It was just I and I always keep like wet

1716
01:16:40,680 --> 01:16:42,840
Speaker 5: wipes in my car just in case. Two.

1717
01:16:43,640 --> 01:16:48,160
Speaker 8: I finally I arrived at my destination and when I

1718
01:16:48,160 --> 01:16:50,200
Speaker 8: say you, I had an entire like spot and I

1719
01:16:50,240 --> 01:16:52,840
Speaker 8: was like, at your big old age, you are still

1720
01:16:52,920 --> 01:16:54,320
Speaker 8: kissing on yourself.

1721
01:16:54,800 --> 01:16:55,479
Speaker 3: I'm not good at it.

1722
01:16:55,560 --> 01:16:58,360
Speaker 2: I always pee on my foot somehow, like when I'm

1723
01:16:58,360 --> 01:17:00,639
Speaker 2: paying out in the door. If actually, if you're peing

1724
01:17:00,680 --> 01:17:01,400
Speaker 2: on concrete in the.

1725
01:17:03,040 --> 01:17:03,720
Speaker 5: Gona get really low.

1726
01:17:03,840 --> 01:17:05,000
Speaker 3: You got to peace slow.

1727
01:17:07,560 --> 01:17:09,960
Speaker 5: But when you gotta pee bad, you can't peace slow.

1728
01:17:10,080 --> 01:17:10,320
Speaker 6: Just you go.

1729
01:17:10,520 --> 01:17:12,439
Speaker 4: You're gonna put if you're small that you're gonna put

1730
01:17:12,479 --> 01:17:15,559
Speaker 4: both your feet up on the running stand so you're

1731
01:17:15,640 --> 01:17:16,439
Speaker 4: all the wame.

1732
01:17:17,400 --> 01:17:19,400
Speaker 5: Gonna hit your butt and now you gotta go low.

1733
01:17:21,040 --> 01:17:23,120
Speaker 5: I'd just be like, I just gotta go. When I

1734
01:17:23,120 --> 01:17:24,920
Speaker 5: gotta go, there's nothing that can stop me.

1735
01:17:25,439 --> 01:17:30,200
Speaker 4: I'm going men's bathrooms outside anything like like you said

1736
01:17:30,479 --> 01:17:34,599
Speaker 4: all of it, I've literally I've peeted everywhere. And sober, yeah,

1737
01:17:34,600 --> 01:17:37,880
Speaker 4: me too, perfectly sober mm hmm completely.

1738
01:17:38,439 --> 01:17:39,720
Speaker 2: I just looked at this candle and I was like,

1739
01:17:39,800 --> 01:17:45,320
Speaker 2: is this white Jesus like speaking of whiteness.

1740
01:17:46,360 --> 01:17:46,800
Speaker 3: No, it's not.

1741
01:17:46,880 --> 01:17:58,240
Speaker 2: It's well you guys, thank you, thank you for coming on.

1742
01:17:59,280 --> 01:18:00,960
Speaker 2: We've you got very dark over there.

1743
01:18:01,000 --> 01:18:02,639
Speaker 3: Gigi. I don't know what's going on there.

1744
01:18:03,800 --> 01:18:06,560
Speaker 2: I'm in the garage, so I was wondering how you

1745
01:18:06,600 --> 01:18:08,400
Speaker 2: were having these candid conversations.

1746
01:18:09,240 --> 01:18:12,400
Speaker 3: I'm like, she'd been real free ordering about her.

1747
01:18:12,640 --> 01:18:15,679
Speaker 5: Dating life, Like, isn't her nigga in the next room?

1748
01:18:15,760 --> 01:18:19,000
Speaker 5: Perform nigga for you?

1749
01:18:19,080 --> 01:18:20,800
Speaker 1: And right?

1750
01:18:20,960 --> 01:18:22,639
Speaker 6: She like, but you might need to check on off.

1751
01:18:23,280 --> 01:18:24,040
Speaker 5: Stay careful.

1752
01:18:24,280 --> 01:18:25,320
Speaker 3: I'm like, you kill him?

1753
01:18:27,400 --> 01:18:28,000
Speaker 5: Is he home?

1754
01:18:29,800 --> 01:18:32,759
Speaker 6: She has the baby in the house. I'm in the garage.

1755
01:18:33,160 --> 01:18:33,400
Speaker 5: Girl.

1756
01:18:33,439 --> 01:18:35,880
Speaker 2: You know what, after we are done recording, act like

1757
01:18:35,880 --> 01:18:38,880
Speaker 2: you're still working. Just staying there and let him put

1758
01:18:38,880 --> 01:18:41,360
Speaker 2: her ass to bed. Okay, that's a great idea. That's

1759
01:18:41,479 --> 01:18:43,679
Speaker 2: mom tip one on one. Just act like I didn't

1760
01:18:43,720 --> 01:18:45,360
Speaker 2: know what happened. I just I don't know.

1761
01:18:45,600 --> 01:18:48,719
Speaker 1: I would, but I've been crazy all day. I really

1762
01:18:48,720 --> 01:18:51,439
Speaker 1: I haven't seen my kid all day. I was working

1763
01:18:51,600 --> 01:18:54,000
Speaker 1: and then going back and forth to the other house.

1764
01:18:54,439 --> 01:18:56,200
Speaker 1: And then she was like, when I went in to

1765
01:18:56,320 --> 01:18:59,800
Speaker 1: go pee. She's like, Mom, I'm like, I come back.

1766
01:19:00,720 --> 01:19:02,160
Speaker 5: Don't don't get me look at me.

1767
01:19:02,640 --> 01:19:03,840
Speaker 3: I'm not here. I'm not here, Sonday.

1768
01:19:03,960 --> 01:19:04,840
Speaker 5: Literally I'm not here.

1769
01:19:05,720 --> 01:19:06,040
Speaker 3: Okay.

1770
01:19:06,160 --> 01:19:09,320
Speaker 2: So before we wrap it up, we have a segment

1771
01:19:09,320 --> 01:19:10,440
Speaker 2: on our show called horror.

1772
01:19:10,160 --> 01:19:16,519
Speaker 3: Stories, whose stories.

1773
01:19:16,720 --> 01:19:20,559
Speaker 2: For our for any new listeners. Horror story is a

1774
01:19:20,800 --> 01:19:25,799
Speaker 2: highly horrific or horrorsh hotel that you know you feel

1775
01:19:25,800 --> 01:19:28,800
Speaker 2: like sharing with our listeners. It could be scary, it

1776
01:19:28,840 --> 01:19:32,800
Speaker 2: could be funny, it could be unfucking believable, just has

1777
01:19:32,800 --> 01:19:34,400
Speaker 2: to be highly horrid, highly horrorsh.

1778
01:19:34,479 --> 01:19:35,479
Speaker 5: So send them in.

1779
01:19:38,360 --> 01:19:41,840
Speaker 8: Because we had hotels and they like stopped that ours

1780
01:19:41,840 --> 01:19:43,800
Speaker 8: were hotels, and people would like send them in and

1781
01:19:43,840 --> 01:19:45,240
Speaker 8: tell us our hotels, So I love.

1782
01:19:46,760 --> 01:19:50,800
Speaker 2: Essentially these are horror stories, yes, and we've shared many

1783
01:19:50,800 --> 01:19:52,400
Speaker 2: of ours. So if you want to go back and

1784
01:19:52,479 --> 01:19:54,040
Speaker 2: listen to all of our ship.

1785
01:19:54,200 --> 01:19:57,479
Speaker 5: Very horrishing between the two of us.

1786
01:19:57,520 --> 01:19:59,559
Speaker 3: Who actually someone wrote.

1787
01:19:59,320 --> 01:20:02,000
Speaker 2: In was like, is Erica has a boyfriend? Now it's

1788
01:20:02,040 --> 01:20:03,960
Speaker 2: like this being and her hotels are going to be over.

1789
01:20:04,880 --> 01:20:05,360
Speaker 3: Don't worry.

1790
01:20:05,360 --> 01:20:10,839
Speaker 4: She has a whole whole bag.

1791
01:20:10,680 --> 01:20:15,280
Speaker 2: She can reach in, all right, So take it away, gig,

1792
01:20:15,439 --> 01:20:17,160
Speaker 2: come on, share Sure, what's your hotel girl?

1793
01:20:17,479 --> 01:20:22,840
Speaker 6: So they volunteered me tribute only single one.

1794
01:20:23,080 --> 01:20:28,400
Speaker 1: But so I have had like some really fun vacation

1795
01:20:28,600 --> 01:20:31,200
Speaker 1: sex with like people that you know, I don't know

1796
01:20:31,439 --> 01:20:36,479
Speaker 1: that I just meet when i'm you know, in different

1797
01:20:36,479 --> 01:20:39,560
Speaker 1: places in the world. But there was one in particular

1798
01:20:41,160 --> 01:20:45,880
Speaker 1: in Jamaica. A couple of years ago. My line sister

1799
01:20:46,040 --> 01:20:49,640
Speaker 1: was getting married and we had our bachelor party or

1800
01:20:49,680 --> 01:20:54,400
Speaker 1: bachelorette party slash birthday party, and Jamaica ran at this

1801
01:20:54,560 --> 01:21:00,160
Speaker 1: cute ass crib and we spent one day in the

1802
01:21:00,200 --> 01:21:03,479
Speaker 1: grill at you know, the place where you.

1803
01:21:03,439 --> 01:21:05,599
Speaker 6: Can like jump off the cliff. I can't Rix Cafe.

1804
01:21:06,040 --> 01:21:09,640
Speaker 2: Oh I love Rix Cafe, Yes, and all that and

1805
01:21:09,680 --> 01:21:12,160
Speaker 2: all the dudes jumping off doing the show and ship.

1806
01:21:12,840 --> 01:21:13,080
Speaker 4: Yes.

1807
01:21:13,960 --> 01:21:19,120
Speaker 1: So I had jumped off the cliff and came up

1808
01:21:19,240 --> 01:21:21,000
Speaker 1: and went to go get a drink, and a dude

1809
01:21:21,920 --> 01:21:23,920
Speaker 1: who worked there was like, I saw you jump off

1810
01:21:23,920 --> 01:21:25,800
Speaker 1: that cliff whatever, and he was like, I'm buy you

1811
01:21:25,840 --> 01:21:29,519
Speaker 1: a drink. So he bought me a drink and we're

1812
01:21:29,600 --> 01:21:33,080
Speaker 1: drinking and we're just talking a little bit and I

1813
01:21:33,120 --> 01:21:34,879
Speaker 1: smoke a lot of me So I don't really remember

1814
01:21:34,920 --> 01:21:39,320
Speaker 1: our conversation, but it started getting spicy and then like

1815
01:21:39,520 --> 01:21:41,680
Speaker 1: you know what, like, let's go in the bathroom.

1816
01:21:42,640 --> 01:21:44,120
Speaker 6: And and so.

1817
01:21:44,040 --> 01:21:48,559
Speaker 1: We went in the bathroom and I sat on the

1818
01:21:48,640 --> 01:21:51,479
Speaker 1: sink and I just pulled off my bathing suit and

1819
01:21:51,520 --> 01:21:53,440
Speaker 1: he started eating my pussy.

1820
01:21:53,160 --> 01:21:54,000
Speaker 5: On the sea.

1821
01:21:56,800 --> 01:22:01,439
Speaker 1: And luckily he had a condom on him, so you know,

1822
01:22:01,520 --> 01:22:04,599
Speaker 1: he pulled out the condom and he bent me over

1823
01:22:04,640 --> 01:22:07,280
Speaker 1: the sake, and you know.

1824
01:22:07,240 --> 01:22:10,439
Speaker 6: We was fucking. It wasn't really like long or anything like.

1825
01:22:10,479 --> 01:22:12,840
Speaker 3: It was very like wam bam.

1826
01:22:13,360 --> 01:22:14,679
Speaker 6: I was like, okay, cool.

1827
01:22:15,120 --> 01:22:17,400
Speaker 1: And then he finished and I was like, okay, put

1828
01:22:17,439 --> 01:22:19,680
Speaker 1: my swim suit back on and I went back in

1829
01:22:19,720 --> 01:22:24,000
Speaker 1: the pool and he was He came by the pool

1830
01:22:24,000 --> 01:22:26,320
Speaker 1: and he was like, well, you want to talk, We're

1831
01:22:26,320 --> 01:22:26,840
Speaker 1: gonna talk.

1832
01:22:26,880 --> 01:22:29,760
Speaker 6: And I was gone, No, we're fine, we're good.

1833
01:22:29,880 --> 01:22:33,240
Speaker 5: Everything's good to liquor jerk chicken.

1834
01:22:33,760 --> 01:22:36,960
Speaker 6: Yeah.

1835
01:22:37,760 --> 01:22:39,960
Speaker 1: And I got in a pool and my line sister

1836
01:22:40,120 --> 01:22:42,960
Speaker 1: was like, you was gone for a little minute. I

1837
01:22:42,960 --> 01:22:45,040
Speaker 1: was like yeah, I was just sucking that nigga in

1838
01:22:44,439 --> 01:22:45,800
Speaker 1: the bathroom.

1839
01:22:46,840 --> 01:22:50,240
Speaker 6: And she was like wait what Yeah, that was fucking

1840
01:22:50,240 --> 01:22:51,240
Speaker 6: that nigga in the bathroom.

1841
01:22:51,400 --> 01:22:53,960
Speaker 8: I forgot when you started talking. And I was like,

1842
01:22:54,040 --> 01:22:56,160
Speaker 8: oh my god, I remember because I was like, wait.

1843
01:22:56,000 --> 01:22:56,719
Speaker 5: What story?

1844
01:22:57,760 --> 01:22:58,679
Speaker 3: Oh my god?

1845
01:22:58,840 --> 01:22:59,479
Speaker 6: I love.

1846
01:23:00,800 --> 01:23:03,479
Speaker 5: Bathroom fuck I do random? Who are you?

1847
01:23:03,520 --> 01:23:03,920
Speaker 2: I don't know?

1848
01:23:04,080 --> 01:23:04,720
Speaker 3: Looks good to me.

1849
01:23:05,080 --> 01:23:07,639
Speaker 5: I love it, you know, just sprinkle in their lifetime

1850
01:23:07,720 --> 01:23:08,400
Speaker 5: couple of times.

1851
01:23:08,680 --> 01:23:10,559
Speaker 3: I always love when the men are shocked by your

1852
01:23:10,640 --> 01:23:12,280
Speaker 3: nonchalant yeah, like, nigga.

1853
01:23:12,000 --> 01:23:12,479
Speaker 5: Who do you think?

1854
01:23:12,479 --> 01:23:15,519
Speaker 3: This was? Like? Wait, you don't love.

1855
01:23:15,360 --> 01:23:19,800
Speaker 6: Me, but you don't even remember your name? Like what

1856
01:23:19,840 --> 01:23:20,639
Speaker 6: are you talking about?

1857
01:23:20,800 --> 01:23:20,960
Speaker 2: Right?

1858
01:23:22,320 --> 01:23:22,960
Speaker 5: Who are you?

1859
01:23:23,280 --> 01:23:24,519
Speaker 3: You don't trust me?

1860
01:23:24,560 --> 01:23:26,680
Speaker 2: Those niggas that work at that Rix cafe that they

1861
01:23:26,680 --> 01:23:28,680
Speaker 2: don't run that gun gang to.

1862
01:23:28,800 --> 01:23:33,519
Speaker 5: Every one of right, right?

1863
01:23:34,000 --> 01:23:34,200
Speaker 1: Right?

1864
01:23:36,680 --> 01:23:38,639
Speaker 3: Okay, Well, thank you for sharing that horror story.

1865
01:23:38,960 --> 01:23:40,720
Speaker 2: If you guys want to submit a horror story, you

1866
01:23:40,760 --> 01:23:43,519
Speaker 2: can d m us your host horror Stories, or you

1867
01:23:43,560 --> 01:23:46,360
Speaker 2: can email us at info at Good Mom's Bad Choices

1868
01:23:46,400 --> 01:23:47,000
Speaker 2: dot com.

1869
01:23:47,960 --> 01:23:51,840
Speaker 5: And uh, we're put in the subject line hor hory.

1870
01:23:51,600 --> 01:23:53,200
Speaker 3: And make sure it's actually like.

1871
01:23:53,800 --> 01:23:56,559
Speaker 4: Good good, like I don't you're better come with that

1872
01:23:56,600 --> 01:23:58,240
Speaker 4: real horri We have some ones.

1873
01:23:58,280 --> 01:24:00,640
Speaker 5: I'm like, girl, it has to be level ten harrishness.

1874
01:24:00,920 --> 01:24:06,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, at least level seven ships.

1875
01:24:07,400 --> 01:24:08,960
Speaker 7: Make it juicy.

1876
01:24:09,040 --> 01:24:11,040
Speaker 2: And if it's not good, I'm gonna read it, just

1877
01:24:11,080 --> 01:24:13,280
Speaker 2: so everyone can know how much you approved you want to.

1878
01:24:15,880 --> 01:24:18,439
Speaker 3: I'm a who shame you. I'm a non who shame you.

1879
01:24:18,600 --> 01:24:20,880
Speaker 7: The opposite, Well, T you need to write a story

1880
01:24:20,920 --> 01:24:22,679
Speaker 7: and so you can proved shame her.

1881
01:24:25,800 --> 01:24:29,560
Speaker 5: Crazy.

1882
01:24:29,439 --> 01:24:30,080
Speaker 4: I can't.

1883
01:24:31,680 --> 01:24:33,400
Speaker 3: Think like non whole shaming someone.

1884
01:24:34,600 --> 01:24:38,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, you did anything, little Josie.

1885
01:24:39,400 --> 01:24:40,000
Speaker 3: Josie?

1886
01:24:40,160 --> 01:24:41,439
Speaker 7: Is that the name and that voice?

1887
01:24:43,080 --> 01:24:46,080
Speaker 5: You little prude? Yeah, just like you said prude.

1888
01:24:46,120 --> 01:24:46,679
Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess.

1889
01:24:46,840 --> 01:24:50,959
Speaker 5: Oh my god, what does prude actually mean? Like overly cautious?

1890
01:24:52,000 --> 01:24:56,719
Speaker 3: Oh I remember from Spain? Okay, that's out the Spanish.

1891
01:24:58,360 --> 01:25:01,080
Speaker 2: All right, ladies, so tur listener and then, gentlemen, where

1892
01:25:01,080 --> 01:25:02,679
Speaker 2: can they find uh the.

1893
01:25:02,560 --> 01:25:03,320
Speaker 3: Oprah roll Show.

1894
01:25:03,880 --> 01:25:08,840
Speaker 8: I think you told anyway, you can listen to podcasts, Instagram,

1895
01:25:08,960 --> 01:25:11,800
Speaker 8: the Oprah Rolls Show, I g Oprah roll Show, and

1896
01:25:11,920 --> 01:25:14,280
Speaker 8: the Oprah roll Show at gmail dot com.

1897
01:25:14,600 --> 01:25:17,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, so well, thank you T T.

1898
01:25:17,600 --> 01:25:20,160
Speaker 2: G G D D for coming on the show and

1899
01:25:20,240 --> 01:25:22,520
Speaker 2: Jamila for coughing right there, sorry.

1900
01:25:24,200 --> 01:25:28,799
Speaker 3: Fucking up my hair? How to cough expect?

1901
01:25:33,240 --> 01:25:34,400
Speaker 7: I'm like, you're not.

1902
01:25:34,520 --> 01:25:35,800
Speaker 5: Allowed to regularly cough.

1903
01:25:35,920 --> 01:25:37,559
Speaker 4: I can't even have a little choke in my mouth

1904
01:25:37,640 --> 01:25:40,120
Speaker 4: because automatically I got my nails done.

1905
01:25:39,920 --> 01:25:42,040
Speaker 2: For the first time, like two days ago, and I

1906
01:25:42,080 --> 01:25:45,000
Speaker 2: had like swallow some saliva the wrong way and they

1907
01:25:45,040 --> 01:25:48,000
Speaker 2: had the whole like shield They got shields on their face.

1908
01:25:48,000 --> 01:25:49,920
Speaker 2: They got shields in front of me, which I had

1909
01:25:50,000 --> 01:25:52,599
Speaker 2: to cough. I was trying so hard not to cough

1910
01:25:52,640 --> 01:25:55,120
Speaker 2: in this nail salon and I just I had it

1911
01:25:55,320 --> 01:25:56,639
Speaker 2: held it in for so long.

1912
01:25:57,080 --> 01:25:58,240
Speaker 3: Then it came out big.

1913
01:25:58,280 --> 01:26:01,080
Speaker 5: I was like, did move away from Everyone looked at me.

1914
01:26:01,200 --> 01:26:02,759
Speaker 3: I was like, bit, you better finish these nails.

1915
01:26:03,960 --> 01:26:08,000
Speaker 2: I got my mask, I got my mask on right right,

1916
01:26:08,760 --> 01:26:10,320
Speaker 2: all right? Well, you guys know where to find us

1917
01:26:10,360 --> 01:26:14,280
Speaker 2: at Good Mom's Underscore Bad Choices, and make sure you

1918
01:26:14,360 --> 01:26:18,400
Speaker 2: join our newsletter Good Moms Bad Choices dot com and.

1919
01:26:18,600 --> 01:26:20,400
Speaker 6: We'll see you guys next week.

1920
01:26:20,880 --> 01:26:41,600
Speaker 5: Ye hi hie