WEBVTT - Rethinking Work

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<v Speaker 1>Good morning, peeps, and welcome to okay f Daily with

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<v Speaker 1>me your girl, Danielle Moody recording live not so much

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<v Speaker 1>from my Brooklyn Cilarium. Folks. As you know, it is

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<v Speaker 1>my birthday week and I take my birthday very seriously

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<v Speaker 1>as do many scorpios. But before I checked out to

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<v Speaker 1>have some much needed good times and recharging, I left

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<v Speaker 1>you all with a slight of interviews that I hope

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<v Speaker 1>that you have enjoyed. Coming up today is my conversation

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<v Speaker 1>with the author of the book The Episodic Careers, Farai Chideya,

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<v Speaker 1>who I've known for many, many years. Through her work

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<v Speaker 1>and politics and advocacy and justice as well as her

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<v Speaker 1>work in media and as a black woman. She has

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<v Speaker 1>pretty much laid the path and the foundation for many

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<v Speaker 1>of us who started out following her and her guidelines

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<v Speaker 1>to how to navigate the media and being in media

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<v Speaker 1>as a black woman. But in today's episode, we delve

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<v Speaker 1>into what it means to work and to be a worker.

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<v Speaker 1>One of the things that I think is a positive

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<v Speaker 1>that came out of the trauma, the beautiful mess that

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<v Speaker 1>is COVID nineteen and our continuing dealings with a global

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<v Speaker 1>health pandemic is that for those of us that are

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<v Speaker 1>in privileged spaces, we were really able to assess or

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<v Speaker 1>begin to assess our relationship to work. You see, growing up,

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<v Speaker 1>I think that many of us were taught that, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you keep your head down, you do what is asked

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<v Speaker 1>of you, and you will be rewarded with a paycheck

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<v Speaker 1>at the end of each week. Where you are able

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<v Speaker 1>to take care of your family, you're able to buy

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<v Speaker 1>a home. And maybe that was true at one point

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<v Speaker 1>in time in our American history, but we know as

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<v Speaker 1>we are assessing things later on in life that whose

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<v Speaker 1>back was that on right? Who actually was given the

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<v Speaker 1>loans in order to buy a home? Who was given,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, the raises because their wives were pregnant. Who

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<v Speaker 1>was the one that was able to have access to

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<v Speaker 1>economic mobility? And these ideas of pensions and long hours

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<v Speaker 1>and just doing the work no longer exist. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>when Cheryl Sandberg wrote her book Lean In, it was

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<v Speaker 1>talking about the fact that we had moved ourselves from

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<v Speaker 1>this place where we were trying to climb a corporate ladder, right,

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<v Speaker 1>which means that in order for you to climb up,

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<v Speaker 1>other people needed to come down. Right. They needed to

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<v Speaker 1>do a dismount from their career path, they would retire

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<v Speaker 1>and then you know, you would kiss the and be

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<v Speaker 1>able to move up. But she followed up with that

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<v Speaker 1>kind of thinking that corporate ladder into the jungle gym,

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<v Speaker 1>right where things no longer work linearly, Right, that we're

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<v Speaker 1>swinging from one position to the next. Wherever there is

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<v Speaker 1>an opening is where a lot of people find themselves. Again,

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<v Speaker 1>I say that with folks who are privileged in terms

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<v Speaker 1>of the type of education that they have, where they

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<v Speaker 1>actually live, their geography, what they've studied, and whether or

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<v Speaker 1>not it's a industry that is thriving or one that's

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<v Speaker 1>barely surviving. But there are a lot of differences that

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<v Speaker 1>we understand now that COVID has been a reflection in

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<v Speaker 1>a mirror to us that a lot of the ways

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<v Speaker 1>in which people have been working has been extraordinarily exploited.

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<v Speaker 1>What for I will tell us is that it has

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<v Speaker 1>been exploited for bipop people, right, But now that exploitation

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<v Speaker 1>has begin to seep into white communities and now guess what,

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<v Speaker 1>we're in an uproar collectively. But the reality is is

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<v Speaker 1>that during this time we have been thinking about our

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<v Speaker 1>relationship to work. What does it mean to work forty

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<v Speaker 1>hours a week and still not be able to provide

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<v Speaker 1>for yourself or your loved ones? What does it mean

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<v Speaker 1>to be self employed when the tax system is actually

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<v Speaker 1>not working in your favor? Does not encourage ingenuity, innovation

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<v Speaker 1>outside of being a part of an organization and or

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<v Speaker 1>a company. What does it mean that when families, when

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<v Speaker 1>we are family planning, recognize that in a lot of ways,

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<v Speaker 1>if both parents are going to be out of the

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<v Speaker 1>home and working, if there are two family households, that

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<v Speaker 1>you're going to be paying as much in childcare as

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<v Speaker 1>you are for your mortgage or your rent. Which is

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<v Speaker 1>why in Joe Biden's Build Back Better right in this

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<v Speaker 1>Human Infrastructure Bill, I don't remember which is named what

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<v Speaker 1>at this point, but in the Human Infrastructure Bill, why

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<v Speaker 1>we were talking about paid family leave. Why as a

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<v Speaker 1>part of the COVID nineteen Critical Response Package that we

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<v Speaker 1>were looking at child tax credits because you see too

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<v Speaker 1>many people, namely women, had been forced out of the workforce,

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<v Speaker 1>right because at the height of twenty twenty, in the

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<v Speaker 1>height of the pandemic, they were being forced to be

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<v Speaker 1>both their child's teacher as well as their primary caregiver. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>and so if we are not setting up a culture

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<v Speaker 1>in which we are both able to work and live

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<v Speaker 1>and not give this false construct of the work life balance.

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<v Speaker 1>Knowing that something has to give? But should it be

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<v Speaker 1>our sanity? Should it be our mental and emotional and

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<v Speaker 1>physical well being? Should that be the thing that gives?

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<v Speaker 1>And what we have seen through out this slowdown and

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<v Speaker 1>this emergence back into a new abnormal is that we

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<v Speaker 1>have been participating in a system that is associated with

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<v Speaker 1>our spiritual, emotional and physical demise. Right, that we do

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<v Speaker 1>not have the freedom to be able to move from jobs. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>this was the whole one of the many ideas behind Obamacare,

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<v Speaker 1>that you shouldn't be forced to stay at your position

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<v Speaker 1>of work, right if in fact you hate it and

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<v Speaker 1>you're just now doing it for the health benefits. That

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<v Speaker 1>you should be able to get healthcare regardless of whether

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<v Speaker 1>or not you're employed at a big company or a

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<v Speaker 1>small nonprofit or self employed. And I think that you know,

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<v Speaker 1>for far too long we have just gone with the flow,

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<v Speaker 1>and the wrong sense of going with the flow. Just

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<v Speaker 1>because things have always been done in one way doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>mean that there is an opportunity to evaluate how we

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<v Speaker 1>can do things differently where it benefits all parties. This

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<v Speaker 1>has always been a very employer centric country, which is

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<v Speaker 1>that we are tending to the needs of the CEOs

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<v Speaker 1>and the shareholders and the executive directors at right at

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<v Speaker 1>the expense of the workers. You know, even in this

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<v Speaker 1>concept right pre COVID, when you're looking at the ways

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<v Speaker 1>in which Silicon Valley began to change the physical sense

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<v Speaker 1>of our work, right, they started to bring in this

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<v Speaker 1>collegiate idea of campuses where you had everything that you

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<v Speaker 1>needed on said campus, whether it be fully stocked cafeterias,

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<v Speaker 1>foodsball tables, beer on tap, wine nights, the ability to

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<v Speaker 1>get your dry cleaning sent out and picked up, and

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<v Speaker 1>all of these things were done. And initially we thought

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<v Speaker 1>that those changes were great. Sure, who doesn't want to

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<v Speaker 1>be able to readily pull down on the tap at

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<v Speaker 1>their place of work and grab a beer and finish

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<v Speaker 1>up the day's work once it hits five o'clock and

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<v Speaker 1>you're not leaving. Except that all amounted to was creating

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<v Speaker 1>a velvet cage for a lot of people, because it

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't about how are you creating a better life for

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<v Speaker 1>those employees once they leave the campus. It was creating

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<v Speaker 1>the conditions so that they would never have any reason

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<v Speaker 1>to leave in the first fucking place. Right, So you

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<v Speaker 1>had that shift that was happening. But now with folks

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<v Speaker 1>having had been home for several months during quarantine, but

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<v Speaker 1>then many of us who are still in jobs where

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<v Speaker 1>they have gone fully remote or they're only coming back

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<v Speaker 1>two and three days a week, this is allowing for

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<v Speaker 1>there to be an opportunity for us to really assess

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<v Speaker 1>what it is that we need from our employers as

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<v Speaker 1>opposed to what is it that we are giving them. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>And the fact is, you know, I left a firm,

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<v Speaker 1>and I've said this before, I left working for others

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<v Speaker 1>roughly three years ago. Now I've been self employed for

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<v Speaker 1>three years. And the reason for that was a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of things. I began to really think about what was

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<v Speaker 1>important to me right and for I and I will

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<v Speaker 1>get into this conversation as well, what was important where

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<v Speaker 1>do my values lie? And I have always, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>worked in spaces and places where the mission of said

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<v Speaker 1>organization or office was aligned with my personal mission, meaning

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<v Speaker 1>that my whole work and life professionally has been around

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<v Speaker 1>being of service. Right, making my life of service to

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<v Speaker 1>other people. So, whether that was working at a environmental organization,

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<v Speaker 1>trying to give children of color access to the outdoors, right,

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<v Speaker 1>making greener spaces, and moving us from this testing culture

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<v Speaker 1>into a time if you remember when children were losing recess, right,

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<v Speaker 1>because we needed to teach to the test and we

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<v Speaker 1>needed more time. And so they don't need to run around,

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<v Speaker 1>and they don't need to socially connect with one another.

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<v Speaker 1>They just need to fill in fucking bubbles all day

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<v Speaker 1>right in multiple choice tests. And so part of my

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<v Speaker 1>work was about stopping that because I recognized how detrimental

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<v Speaker 1>it was to kids. You know, from working in the

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<v Speaker 1>women's organization and spaces to working in LGBTQ plus spaces,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, working for these organizations and companies and

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<v Speaker 1>representatives all helped color the fact of what was important

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<v Speaker 1>to me right, and what was important to me was

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<v Speaker 1>the ability to say no. I didn't always want it

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<v Speaker 1>to be beholden to who my employer said was going

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<v Speaker 1>to be the next client, was going to be the

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<v Speaker 1>next issue. I wanted the autonomy to be able to

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<v Speaker 1>use that beautiful sentence no, right, or as Nicolehannah Jones said,

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<v Speaker 1>I refuse. Right. Being self employed allows me the freedom

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<v Speaker 1>to be able to select what best aligns with my

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<v Speaker 1>personal values and mission. I'm not saying that I would

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<v Speaker 1>never go back into an organization or company type setting,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm saying it would have to be something major, right,

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<v Speaker 1>something major that was in true alignment. And I think

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<v Speaker 1>that right now, as we are all changing, our relationship

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<v Speaker 1>to work or work in general is changing. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>first off, it was you know, this shift from agriculture

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<v Speaker 1>to industry. Then it was the shift into the gig economy,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you know, that became super exploitive, which we

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<v Speaker 1>thought was going to be a democratization of work, right,

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<v Speaker 1>work when you want, how you want, and that became exploitive.

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<v Speaker 1>And now we're in a next shift, right where employers

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<v Speaker 1>are recognizing, after people working from home for a year

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<v Speaker 1>plus the lie of the fact that you needed an office,

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<v Speaker 1>that their productivity was going to slow down if people

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<v Speaker 1>had the ability to what shop, you know, grocery store,

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<v Speaker 1>shop while you were taking a call, while you were

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<v Speaker 1>on a zoom. And so I think that there is

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of opportunity at this moment for us collectively

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<v Speaker 1>to reimagine our relationship to work. And you know, frankly,

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<v Speaker 1>for I and I start off with the utter lie

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<v Speaker 1>that I have been talking about on wok F, which

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<v Speaker 1>is that there is a labor shortage. No, there is

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<v Speaker 1>not a la for shortest. There is not a shortage

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<v Speaker 1>of workers willing to work. There is a shortage of

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<v Speaker 1>employers willing to pay people a living wage, willing to

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<v Speaker 1>give them health benefits, right, willing to like meet their

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<v Speaker 1>needs and not just think that they are expendable. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>And so if you are being emotionally, physically and spiritually

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<v Speaker 1>beat down forty hours a week, then you may rethink

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<v Speaker 1>like how I show up or if I show up.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a reason why eleven million people have left the workforce, right,

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<v Speaker 1>There's a reason for the mass resignation. And it isn't

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<v Speaker 1>just laziness, as as as our Republican politicians would love

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<v Speaker 1>to tell us, Oh, the American people, we need to

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<v Speaker 1>cut their unemployment because they're lazy. No, that's not the case.

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<v Speaker 1>We're just not willing to be exploited in this very extractive,

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<v Speaker 1>top heavy capitalistic system that only rewards the few at

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<v Speaker 1>the expense of the many. And so, in this conversation

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<v Speaker 1>with Pharai we unpack a lot and we talk about

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<v Speaker 1>what it means to reimagine community and community building, economic stability.

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<v Speaker 1>When young people nowadays are marrying later, living at home

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<v Speaker 1>with their families longer, and not buying cars, not buying

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<v Speaker 1>homes all because they're strapped with student debt, is there

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<v Speaker 1>another way for them to exist and the ability to thrive.

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<v Speaker 1>Those are's parts of the conversation that I will have

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<v Speaker 1>with Pharai that is coming up next. But folks, tell

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<v Speaker 1>me what your experiences have been with work? Right? Are

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<v Speaker 1>you a person that went into work strictly focused on

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<v Speaker 1>their passion right or is it just a means to

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<v Speaker 1>an end? And how are you viewing it differently now,

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<v Speaker 1>right in the midst of this health pandemic and the

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<v Speaker 1>advent of you know, may streaming of remote work and

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<v Speaker 1>what does it look like in the future for you?

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<v Speaker 1>So coming up next is my conversation, my interview with

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<v Speaker 1>the author of Episodic Careers for I TODAYA folks, I

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<v Speaker 1>am so excited to welcome to woke a f daily

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<v Speaker 1>for what I believe is the first time I think

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<v Speaker 1>for I TODAYA on to discuss a myriad of things.

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<v Speaker 1>We will open up with talking about her book, The

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<v Speaker 1>Episodic Career and how we must be psychologically self employed,

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<v Speaker 1>as well as delving into, you know, the politics of

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<v Speaker 1>the day, because you are no stranger to political forums,

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<v Speaker 1>to discussions of race and inequality in media and how

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<v Speaker 1>we talk about this, as you have been steeped in

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<v Speaker 1>this work for quite some time. I want to start off, though,

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<v Speaker 1>with your book, The Episodic Career, because you know right

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<v Speaker 1>now and I'm certain that you're you're listening in the

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<v Speaker 1>same way that I am to all of these segments

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<v Speaker 1>and news reports about how there is a labor shortage,

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<v Speaker 1>about how people don't want to work. The Wall Street

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<v Speaker 1>Journal a couple of weeks ago had their article the

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<v Speaker 1>mass Resignation, right over eleven million people have left the workforce.

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<v Speaker 1>You had Republicans saying that we needed to end support

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<v Speaker 1>for unemployed people because that would then force them back

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<v Speaker 1>into work. But what I have recognized and what I

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<v Speaker 1>want to know from you, is that that is a lie, right,

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<v Speaker 1>and that there isn't a shortage of workers. There is

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<v Speaker 1>a shortage of employers that are paying Joe, paying for

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<v Speaker 1>work that is of high paying quality right with benefits,

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<v Speaker 1>where people are able to work forty hours a week

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<v Speaker 1>and not have to play you know, three cardmonte or

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<v Speaker 1>Russian Roulette with their with their lives. Should I get

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<v Speaker 1>medicine today? Can I afford to do that? And groceries

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<v Speaker 1>and childcare and all of these different things? How do

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<v Speaker 1>you make sense of the current narrative around work and

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<v Speaker 1>workers in America? You know, first of all, thanks for

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<v Speaker 1>having me on and thanks for doing everything you do.

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<v Speaker 1>I think what's what is happening in some ways is

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<v Speaker 1>that the way that black people have always been treated

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<v Speaker 1>by the labor economy has become more generalized, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and there are more you know that that it was before,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and it's always fluctuated somewhat, but never that much.

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<v Speaker 1>It's you know, for example, the unemployment rate for Black

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<v Speaker 1>Americans has almost always been, you know, in the modern era,

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<v Speaker 1>twice that for White Americans. And it's not that Black

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<v Speaker 1>people don't want to work, but beyond a certain point,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, given the massive amounts of labor discrimination and

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<v Speaker 1>also just structural you know, like so many structural barriers

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<v Speaker 1>to being a working parent. For example, black Americans are

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<v Speaker 1>put in situations where the labor market has not rewarded

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<v Speaker 1>us or served us, and now that's happening to white Americans.

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<v Speaker 1>And what we're seeing is kind of a mass reckoning

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<v Speaker 1>with what has been an extractive labor market. And I

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<v Speaker 1>talked about this to you know, a group of wealthy

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<v Speaker 1>people whom you know, we're asking what can we do

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<v Speaker 1>about America today? And I said extracted economics were one

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<v Speaker 1>part of the pillar of destruction, you know, like that

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<v Speaker 1>that essentially people have been giving their lives for no

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<v Speaker 1>fixed reward at the end. Like at least in the past,

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<v Speaker 1>my family has had a lot of government civil servants,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, Post Office, social secure, the administration. They got

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<v Speaker 1>their retirement benefits. What do you get if you have

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<v Speaker 1>been working subsistence wages at the dollar General or even

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<v Speaker 1>a better job than that, but that you've always been

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<v Speaker 1>just you know, paycheck to paycheck and you have saved

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<v Speaker 1>nothing for retirement. And then you know, people who are

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<v Speaker 1>considered middle class are one paycheck away from disaster. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think what some people are They're looking at the

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<v Speaker 1>labor market and saying, I am working so hard just

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<v Speaker 1>to be so stressed and broke. At least I can

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<v Speaker 1>take care of my family. There were high school students

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<v Speaker 1>who did not go to high school when they were

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<v Speaker 1>asked to go in person during COVID because they were like,

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<v Speaker 1>I've got a family full of essential workers that are

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<v Speaker 1>already risking their life. I'm not going to be that

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<v Speaker 1>person who brings COVID back and gets everybody sick and

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<v Speaker 1>then we get evicted. So you have, you know, And

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<v Speaker 1>that was New York Times op ed. But you have

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<v Speaker 1>teenagers who have been making decisions about their level of exposure.

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<v Speaker 1>You have parents making decisions about their level of exposure.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't just mean exposure to COVID. I mean

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<v Speaker 1>exposure to what can be. And I've had the whole

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<v Speaker 1>spectrum of experiences from work being like magical to work

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<v Speaker 1>being like, you know, potentially life threatening on a psychological level,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and you know with harassment and discrimination. But

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<v Speaker 1>when work becomes something that is humiliating and also doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>reward you financially, it's like why why, you know, Like

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<v Speaker 1>so many people, there have been so many great stories

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<v Speaker 1>about people who just that they are that manager at

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<v Speaker 1>the dollar store. No one is showing up to work

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<v Speaker 1>because they're all opting out, and the managers working three

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<v Speaker 1>shifts in a row, and then the managers like I'm out,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like you know, like done. And then you

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<v Speaker 1>have all of the people who thought that they were

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<v Speaker 1>solidly middle class to income and all of a sudden

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<v Speaker 1>they're homeschooling or their homeschooling toddlers, and it's it's I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, toddlers through elementary through whatever, and yeah, they're

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<v Speaker 1>down to one exactly. It's like we cannot survive, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>Like there's so many people who are like, we cannot

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<v Speaker 1>survive the middle class to earner parent family because we

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<v Speaker 1>just we will we will all lose our minds. And

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<v Speaker 1>I do see, like what we covered this on on

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<v Speaker 1>our Body Politic my show, that there is a profound

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<v Speaker 1>mental health crisis affecting parents, you know, um from the pandemic.

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<v Speaker 1>Like there's seriously like a huge uptick. I mean it's

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<v Speaker 1>it's uptick across the board. But I think that we

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<v Speaker 1>can recognize not just for parents, but for care givers.

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<v Speaker 1>It can be like I just talked to someone the

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<v Speaker 1>other day who's, you know, has her husband suffered a

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<v Speaker 1>traumatic brain injury, and now like the caregiver situation, like

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<v Speaker 1>there are caregivers who both have gotten COVID from their

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<v Speaker 1>clients or given COVID to their clients, and so it's

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<v Speaker 1>just changing, you know, so you get the picture. There's

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people who have factors in their lives

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<v Speaker 1>where what had been considered an already shaky but slightly

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<v Speaker 1>functional way to earn a living has just gone up

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<v Speaker 1>in smoke. And you know, you know, it's funny because

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<v Speaker 1>I believe, you know, in so many ways and a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of the things, a lot of the examples that

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<v Speaker 1>you just provided illuminate this. You know, we were fundamentally

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<v Speaker 1>cracked as it was, right like the way in which

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<v Speaker 1>you know, our economy has worked, the way in which

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<v Speaker 1>that we even look and view work. Right Like we

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<v Speaker 1>are seen, particularly by our representatives, who were supposed to be,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, amplifying our voices and our needs. We are

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<v Speaker 1>just seen as cogs in a machine, right like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>Stephanie Rule on MSNBC a couple of weeks back had

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<v Speaker 1>said something and I'm sure you know she didn't originate it,

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<v Speaker 1>but she said, you know, with regard to Facebook, when

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<v Speaker 1>you're not being charged for something, recognized that you are

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<v Speaker 1>the product. And I see that in reality that you know,

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<v Speaker 1>our representatives who are supposed to again be our voices,

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<v Speaker 1>see us as the product, see us as like we

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<v Speaker 1>are the ones that are malfunctioning because we don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to show up in this extractive and oppressive system that

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<v Speaker 1>leaves us depleted and emotionally scarred, right and psychologically abused

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<v Speaker 1>in order to be able to barely provide for ourselves

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<v Speaker 1>and our families. And I think that COVID, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the pandemic illuminated so many gaps and problems that we had.

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<v Speaker 1>But what we are seeing right now too is that

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<v Speaker 1>as in this desire to force ourselves back into this

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<v Speaker 1>space of quote unquote normal, that people are recognizing with

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<v Speaker 1>this pause, those of us that had the privilege to pause,

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<v Speaker 1>recognize that. Man, how I've been working and thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>work and absorbing work, Like I get the joke. Work

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<v Speaker 1>is supposed to be a four letter you know, work

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<v Speaker 1>is a four letter word, but it isn't supposed to

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<v Speaker 1>feel right like this oppressive. And so do you think

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<v Speaker 1>that we are at a moment you know when they

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<v Speaker 1>talk about in real estate it's a buyer's marketer, it's

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<v Speaker 1>a seller's market. Do you think that we have arrived

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<v Speaker 1>or are we arriving at the worker's market right when

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<v Speaker 1>we are at a place where we get to determine

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<v Speaker 1>how work flows as opposed to just being forced to

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<v Speaker 1>go along for the get along. That's a complicated one.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that we are in a worker's market for

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<v Speaker 1>hourly wages. So I've seen, like I've driven by designs

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<v Speaker 1>where a burger can is like seventeen dollars an hour

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<v Speaker 1>people needed, you know, like that kind of stuff, but

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<v Speaker 1>for and and and you now see Amazon, for example,

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<v Speaker 1>offering um people who've who come on board and are

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<v Speaker 1>there for a certain amount of time college tuition. That's

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<v Speaker 1>that's one step above. But still there is not a

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<v Speaker 1>clear pathway in most cases for people to have the

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<v Speaker 1>job that allows them to work hours that they can

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<v Speaker 1>do caregiving and receive some form of you know, deferred

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<v Speaker 1>compensation ie, retirement savings and healthcare and do it in

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<v Speaker 1>a way that's functional. So there we're seeing I think,

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<v Speaker 1>a wage increase first, but we're not necessarily seeing all

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<v Speaker 1>the system changes. And what I have said for years,

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<v Speaker 1>and what I wrote about in the book The Episodic Career,

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<v Speaker 1>was the way that when you compare us to other

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<v Speaker 1>you know, what are considered developed nations, we get nothing

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<v Speaker 1>in Germany, right right, right, in Germany, you can have

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<v Speaker 1>a child, both parents can take parental leave for several

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<v Speaker 1>months and it can be paid, and at least the

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<v Speaker 1>mother or primary parent can have a guaranteed job. Three

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<v Speaker 1>years later. They don't get paid the whole time, but

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<v Speaker 1>three years later they are guaranteed a job at the

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<v Speaker 1>same level that they were working at before. So it

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<v Speaker 1>builds in for caregiving, it builds in for for um

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<v Speaker 1>parent child bonding. You know, there's so much emotional trauma

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<v Speaker 1>to people putting their kids in what I call baby jail.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I wrote a piece, um, you know, about

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<v Speaker 1>my journey to adopt, which was not successful. But during

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<v Speaker 1>a series of failed adoptions with a horrible adoption agency,

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<v Speaker 1>I spent more time than I would like in baby

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<v Speaker 1>jail looking for that that, you know, childcare. They were

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<v Speaker 1>charging four hundred dollars a week for baby jail in Brooklyn. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, yea four hundred dollars a week for baby jail.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's like I'm talking like really, like you walk

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<v Speaker 1>in and you're like, I'm depressed, Like and if I

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<v Speaker 1>was a baby, I would be really depressed, you know

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<v Speaker 1>it Just like it's like Basically, it's kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>the place. One of the places I saw it was

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like the Walking Dead for toddlers. It's just

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<v Speaker 1>all these toddlers stocks staggering around like and then you know,

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<v Speaker 1>people on their phone while agads just wander. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, wow, okay. And so this is what people

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<v Speaker 1>are facing. It's not just the hourly wages or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, you are lucky if you can get baby

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<v Speaker 1>jail because a lot of childcare places have shut down

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<v Speaker 1>all of the extra work that they have to do

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<v Speaker 1>on sanitation, etc. And Laid Limball did an incredible film

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<v Speaker 1>called Through the Night, a documentary about overnight daycare. So

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<v Speaker 1>think about all the essential workers who work overnight. Where

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<v Speaker 1>do they put their kids? They put about it right,

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<v Speaker 1>They put their kids in overnight daycare. What happens in

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<v Speaker 1>overnight daycare is like you have people who are just heroic,

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<v Speaker 1>but they're burning out, you know, And so you're lucky.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, like, if you can find a provider, you're lucky.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm also hearing from not just one or two,

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<v Speaker 1>but multiple parents in my life that their childcare providers

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<v Speaker 1>are having nervous breakdowns because the childcare providers, not all

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<v Speaker 1>of them, but some of them are people who have

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<v Speaker 1>their own kids, are making money by taking care of

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<v Speaker 1>someone else's kids, and are living in at the expense

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<v Speaker 1>of their own right and also living in financial precarity,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. And so it's all a syndrome where this country,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and like, I hate to be a broken record,

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<v Speaker 1>but like this country built the middle class model on

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<v Speaker 1>broken families, on the extracted labor practices of slavery and

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<v Speaker 1>and even extracting from from white Americans. It wasn't just slavery.

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<v Speaker 1>There were many white Americans who you know, you think

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<v Speaker 1>about that the whole line in the song about I

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<v Speaker 1>sold my soul to the company's store, and all the

0:29:25.520 --> 0:29:30.240
<v Speaker 1>people who lived, you know, in debt, and the white sharecroppers, etc.

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<v Speaker 1>So there was there was a way in which the

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<v Speaker 1>American dream that we were told was normal was always

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<v Speaker 1>built on a layer of suppressing the potential of other

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<v Speaker 1>people to live good lives. And you know, I've worked

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<v Speaker 1>hard my whole life. My mother, you know who's alive,

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<v Speaker 1>worked hard for her whole life and never got what

0:30:00.920 --> 0:30:05.080
<v Speaker 1>she deserved from the economy or from the job market.

0:30:05.320 --> 0:30:09.840
<v Speaker 1>My grandmother raised six kids and also worked. And I've

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<v Speaker 1>seen what black women in particular do who try to

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<v Speaker 1>do better for themselves and their kids, and it can

0:30:17.360 --> 0:30:19.600
<v Speaker 1>it can also that can be a mental health crisis

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<v Speaker 1>in and of itself. I mean, I remember my mother

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<v Speaker 1>at one point just crying in front of me and

0:30:24.880 --> 0:30:28.160
<v Speaker 1>my sister because we were talking about some racial something

0:30:28.200 --> 0:30:30.680
<v Speaker 1>that happened. She was like, I thought it would be

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<v Speaker 1>better by now, and you know, it's like it's crushing

0:30:33.920 --> 0:30:40.400
<v Speaker 1>because also what you've seen, and the book Disintegration Um

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<v Speaker 1>talks about this, is that in black families now, kids

0:30:47.360 --> 0:30:51.520
<v Speaker 1>of the black middle class are slipping backwards economically. So

0:30:51.640 --> 0:30:54.640
<v Speaker 1>you know, the whole idea of like the American dream

0:30:54.680 --> 0:30:58.600
<v Speaker 1>is that you do your kids. That's just not true

0:30:58.640 --> 0:31:01.720
<v Speaker 1>for black families. I mean, it's it's and it's honestly,

0:31:02.280 --> 0:31:04.720
<v Speaker 1>not only is it not true for black families, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not true for a multitude of families, particularly particularly those

0:31:09.360 --> 0:31:12.880
<v Speaker 1>who are straddle, who are strapped with excuse me, you know,

0:31:13.600 --> 0:31:17.480
<v Speaker 1>hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of debt, student loan debt.

0:31:17.720 --> 0:31:20.080
<v Speaker 1>So where are you? Where are you? So we told kids,

0:31:20.160 --> 0:31:23.880
<v Speaker 1>we told young people, go out there, go you know,

0:31:24.080 --> 0:31:26.959
<v Speaker 1>go get a higher education. A higher education means that

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<v Speaker 1>you're going to be sought after and highly employed, right,

0:31:30.800 --> 0:31:34.200
<v Speaker 1>and then they get out after strapping themselves with one

0:31:34.240 --> 0:31:37.600
<v Speaker 1>hundred thousand dollars in student loan debt, to realize that

0:31:37.680 --> 0:31:39.880
<v Speaker 1>the boomers didn't leave their jobs, so there are no

0:31:39.960 --> 0:31:43.040
<v Speaker 1>positions that are open. And then the gen xers right

0:31:43.120 --> 0:31:45.640
<v Speaker 1>are stuck in middle management because there's nowhere to go.

0:31:45.760 --> 0:31:48.960
<v Speaker 1>There's nowhere to go, right, And so for them, they

0:31:48.960 --> 0:31:51.480
<v Speaker 1>are stuck at entry if in fact they are even

0:31:51.520 --> 0:31:54.520
<v Speaker 1>welcomed inside of that door, in that space. So then

0:31:54.720 --> 0:31:58.600
<v Speaker 1>leaving them if they're lucky enough to have family security

0:31:58.720 --> 0:32:01.120
<v Speaker 1>to them be living at home with families, which is

0:32:01.120 --> 0:32:03.520
<v Speaker 1>why they're not getting married, which is why they're not

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<v Speaker 1>buying homes. Like it's all of this trickle. Yep, it's

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<v Speaker 1>it sure is. And what I one thing I will

0:32:10.320 --> 0:32:13.160
<v Speaker 1>say that it was really interesting to talk to her.

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<v Speaker 1>So there was an episode of my show that I

0:32:16.200 --> 0:32:24.760
<v Speaker 1>taped with Michelle Singletary of the Washington Post about Black women,

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<v Speaker 1>aging and money and she and as part of that

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<v Speaker 1>she talked about intergenerational wealth building and her daughter, who

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<v Speaker 1>is a recent college graduate, is living at home saving

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<v Speaker 1>to buy her first house. I was one of those people.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like I wanted to have my fantasy career. And sometimes,

0:32:46.280 --> 0:32:48.440
<v Speaker 1>like I said, it was fantasy. Sometimes it was nightmare.

0:32:48.520 --> 0:32:52.240
<v Speaker 1>Sometimes it was just work. But I always was spending

0:32:52.280 --> 0:32:54.600
<v Speaker 1>so much money on rent. And I think that we

0:32:54.720 --> 0:32:58.000
<v Speaker 1>do have to start thinking about ways. We don't have

0:32:58.080 --> 0:33:02.240
<v Speaker 1>to live with our parents, but maybe we find new

0:33:02.280 --> 0:33:06.040
<v Speaker 1>ways of building intentional community, like we can have family

0:33:06.080 --> 0:33:10.160
<v Speaker 1>of love and build wealth together. And maybe, for example,

0:33:10.280 --> 0:33:14.680
<v Speaker 1>there is a group of you know, for you know,

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<v Speaker 1>twenty somethings who are like, we're going to have a

0:33:17.080 --> 0:33:22.440
<v Speaker 1>pact where we have a savings plan and we have

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<v Speaker 1>somebody who monitors the savings plan, who holds the money

0:33:26.640 --> 0:33:29.479
<v Speaker 1>like a you know, like a banking institution with some

0:33:29.560 --> 0:33:32.920
<v Speaker 1>clear rules, and we're all going to collectively save for

0:33:33.200 --> 0:33:36.719
<v Speaker 1>a mortgage. Yeah. Now we're in the West Indian culture.

0:33:36.800 --> 0:33:41.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm Jamaican. That is called partner or a susu. I

0:33:41.600 --> 0:33:44.400
<v Speaker 1>participated in a su su, you know, and I did it.

0:33:44.560 --> 0:33:47.840
<v Speaker 1>I did it because I wanted to see what collective

0:33:47.880 --> 0:33:50.680
<v Speaker 1>economics look like. You know. My hair my hairdressers from

0:33:50.720 --> 0:33:53.240
<v Speaker 1>Guyana and she was running a susu and then at

0:33:53.280 --> 0:33:55.360
<v Speaker 1>the time she didn't know me that well, and I

0:33:55.400 --> 0:33:56.600
<v Speaker 1>was like, oh, I want to do it, and she

0:33:56.720 --> 0:34:00.240
<v Speaker 1>was like, m sidey because what I found out was,

0:34:00.280 --> 0:34:02.959
<v Speaker 1>at least in Miss Susu, if you bring someone in

0:34:03.040 --> 0:34:06.040
<v Speaker 1>and they default, you have to pay for their hand

0:34:06.120 --> 0:34:08.600
<v Speaker 1>as well as your hand. So it's a trust based

0:34:08.640 --> 0:34:11.800
<v Speaker 1>economic system. And so I think we have to start

0:34:11.840 --> 0:34:15.040
<v Speaker 1>going back to things like that and ways of building,

0:34:15.200 --> 0:34:19.719
<v Speaker 1>you know, like this system was not designed for our success,

0:34:19.920 --> 0:34:23.200
<v Speaker 1>so we're going to have to have workarounds and it

0:34:23.239 --> 0:34:27.120
<v Speaker 1>will that won't change some of the dynamics, but it

0:34:27.160 --> 0:34:30.960
<v Speaker 1>allows you to at least control what you can. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>is that what you mean in your book where you

0:34:34.920 --> 0:34:40.360
<v Speaker 1>talk about being psychologically self employed, meaning that you should

0:34:42.400 --> 0:34:44.799
<v Speaker 1>you should be the steward of what it is that

0:34:44.840 --> 0:34:47.759
<v Speaker 1>you actually can control, because there is so much that

0:34:47.920 --> 0:34:50.600
<v Speaker 1>is out of our control. Oh yes. And what it

0:34:50.640 --> 0:34:53.160
<v Speaker 1>also means is don't in the same way that I

0:34:53.160 --> 0:35:01.720
<v Speaker 1>would tell any human being not to put room, like

0:35:01.719 --> 0:35:04.920
<v Speaker 1>like I've got to be dating somebody and you take abuse,

0:35:04.960 --> 0:35:08.000
<v Speaker 1>like I was in a situation where I had, you know,

0:35:08.040 --> 0:35:11.719
<v Speaker 1>an abusive X and it's it's like you're like, I'll

0:35:11.719 --> 0:35:15.799
<v Speaker 1>just make it work. You know, like the reality is,

0:35:16.160 --> 0:35:22.160
<v Speaker 1>in some cases things just don't work, and your fantasy

0:35:22.200 --> 0:35:26.040
<v Speaker 1>about being that six figure earner or whatever your fantasy is,

0:35:26.239 --> 0:35:28.600
<v Speaker 1>you put yourself through abuse of situations and then you

0:35:28.719 --> 0:35:31.960
<v Speaker 1>naelt down. And I really love Minta Heart's new book

0:35:32.440 --> 0:35:35.560
<v Speaker 1>right within about healing from racial trauma in the workplace,

0:35:35.920 --> 0:35:40.240
<v Speaker 1>because she talks about how, you know, she achieved certain

0:35:40.280 --> 0:35:43.640
<v Speaker 1>salaries and certain dream jobs that left her traumatized and

0:35:43.719 --> 0:35:45.680
<v Speaker 1>mounded and in need of healing. And I can say

0:35:45.719 --> 0:35:47.920
<v Speaker 1>that I did the same thing. So part of it

0:35:48.000 --> 0:35:52.120
<v Speaker 1>is part of psychological self employment, is about financial planning,

0:35:52.200 --> 0:35:56.360
<v Speaker 1>planning for your present and your future, doing what I

0:35:56.400 --> 0:35:59.319
<v Speaker 1>call work style design, so that like if you know

0:35:59.360 --> 0:36:02.960
<v Speaker 1>that you're someone who is a sprinter and not a

0:36:03.080 --> 0:36:06.760
<v Speaker 1>marathon or maybe like for example, one of my friends,

0:36:06.840 --> 0:36:12.439
<v Speaker 1>the author k Ibura, who has a ya novel coming

0:36:12.480 --> 0:36:18.880
<v Speaker 1>out next year, when she was the mother of a

0:36:18.960 --> 0:36:23.040
<v Speaker 1>young daughter and she and the father had split up,

0:36:23.440 --> 0:36:26.440
<v Speaker 1>she would work nine months out of the year or

0:36:26.480 --> 0:36:30.120
<v Speaker 1>eight months out of the year in New York, make

0:36:30.200 --> 0:36:34.920
<v Speaker 1>that money and then take her daughter to a a

0:36:35.080 --> 0:36:38.839
<v Speaker 1>place of African heritage around the world, like one year

0:36:38.880 --> 0:36:41.640
<v Speaker 1>it was Bohea, you know, like, and she and they would.

0:36:41.960 --> 0:36:44.560
<v Speaker 1>So she would work hard for a certain amount of

0:36:44.600 --> 0:36:48.120
<v Speaker 1>time so that she could live a full, culturally rich life.

0:36:48.160 --> 0:36:51.120
<v Speaker 1>And then once her child started schools, she wanted to

0:36:51.120 --> 0:36:53.759
<v Speaker 1>be more rooted. But there are ways that you can,

0:36:54.400 --> 0:36:58.759
<v Speaker 1>Like you don't have to be someone who earns a

0:36:58.800 --> 0:37:03.399
<v Speaker 1>lot of money to work less time than most Americans do.

0:37:03.440 --> 0:37:05.680
<v Speaker 1>You what you have to do is be frugal, Like

0:37:05.840 --> 0:37:09.280
<v Speaker 1>first of all, like there's a lot of free stuff

0:37:09.320 --> 0:37:15.120
<v Speaker 1>out there, a lot of free stuff, and it's geographic dependent.

0:37:15.520 --> 0:37:19.560
<v Speaker 1>So for example, I was renting until recently in Bethesda, Maryland.

0:37:20.440 --> 0:37:23.000
<v Speaker 1>If you joined the Bethesda free cycle lists, you can

0:37:23.040 --> 0:37:25.520
<v Speaker 1>get all sorts of stuff. So I would also tell

0:37:25.600 --> 0:37:29.680
<v Speaker 1>people there are all sorts of lists listing free stuff.

0:37:29.960 --> 0:37:32.840
<v Speaker 1>Join the list in places where people are giving away

0:37:33.480 --> 0:37:36.359
<v Speaker 1>like last year's furniture, you know what I mean. Yeah,

0:37:36.440 --> 0:37:41.400
<v Speaker 1>Like like go like I am all for up cycling,

0:37:41.520 --> 0:37:44.960
<v Speaker 1>free cycling, like keep your keep your fixed costs low,

0:37:45.719 --> 0:37:47.920
<v Speaker 1>and you can have Like there were times where I

0:37:47.960 --> 0:37:50.919
<v Speaker 1>would just take a break, Like I spent a month

0:37:50.960 --> 0:37:55.640
<v Speaker 1>in Honduras once and I just didn't work for a month,

0:37:55.800 --> 0:37:58.160
<v Speaker 1>you know, And and of course I had to hustle

0:37:58.239 --> 0:38:01.000
<v Speaker 1>at other times. But like, I think that for those

0:38:01.040 --> 0:38:04.279
<v Speaker 1>of us who are lucky enough to have options, we

0:38:04.320 --> 0:38:07.040
<v Speaker 1>can do some really interesting things with those options. But

0:38:07.120 --> 0:38:09.920
<v Speaker 1>no matter what our choices are, there are those people

0:38:09.920 --> 0:38:13.799
<v Speaker 1>who I forget what it's called where they work, they

0:38:13.880 --> 0:38:17.359
<v Speaker 1>keep their costs super low and work to retire by

0:38:17.360 --> 0:38:20.160
<v Speaker 1>the age of thirty five or forty. You know, there's

0:38:21.960 --> 0:38:25.759
<v Speaker 1>and so like, everyone has a different work style and

0:38:25.920 --> 0:38:28.120
<v Speaker 1>first and none of us are going to get exactly

0:38:28.120 --> 0:38:31.880
<v Speaker 1>what we want, but we can make choices within those constructs.

0:38:31.920 --> 0:38:33.480
<v Speaker 1>But one thing that I'm just going to say right

0:38:33.520 --> 0:38:35.600
<v Speaker 1>now is that no matter what your choices are, you

0:38:35.719 --> 0:38:38.960
<v Speaker 1>better save for your own retirement. Don't wait for anybody.

0:38:39.080 --> 0:38:41.319
<v Speaker 1>Like if you're saving at your job, that means you

0:38:41.360 --> 0:38:46.120
<v Speaker 1>are saving, but don't if you are self employed, put

0:38:46.200 --> 0:38:49.799
<v Speaker 1>some of that money away if you are. I mean,

0:38:51.000 --> 0:38:53.799
<v Speaker 1>I was the kind of person who I actually work

0:38:53.920 --> 0:38:56.240
<v Speaker 1>jobs that gave me retirement savings, and at one point

0:38:56.640 --> 0:38:58.760
<v Speaker 1>I dipped into them and spent some of them down.

0:38:59.120 --> 0:39:02.719
<v Speaker 1>And I'm in a good place because I'm in a

0:39:02.719 --> 0:39:08.319
<v Speaker 1>good place overall. But things if if things in my

0:39:08.400 --> 0:39:10.560
<v Speaker 1>career had gone a different way, I might never have

0:39:10.600 --> 0:39:14.000
<v Speaker 1>been able to recoup those at loss. Yeah, and now

0:39:14.040 --> 0:39:16.720
<v Speaker 1>that I'm over fifty, I was able to do something.

0:39:17.480 --> 0:39:20.759
<v Speaker 1>There's something called makeup payments where you can once you're

0:39:20.800 --> 0:39:23.640
<v Speaker 1>over fifty, you can put more of your paycheck into

0:39:23.640 --> 0:39:27.080
<v Speaker 1>your retirement savings than when you're under fifty if you

0:39:27.120 --> 0:39:30.160
<v Speaker 1>feel like you need to make up lost time. So

0:39:30.200 --> 0:39:35.360
<v Speaker 1>there's you know, it's it's all exhausting. It's exhausting to

0:39:35.440 --> 0:39:37.319
<v Speaker 1>look at your options. But you know what's you know,

0:39:37.360 --> 0:39:40.320
<v Speaker 1>what's really exhausting is to find out that you didn't

0:39:40.320 --> 0:39:42.680
<v Speaker 1>look at your options and that you really wish you

0:39:42.680 --> 0:39:45.839
<v Speaker 1>had made other choices. So yeah, because I think that

0:39:45.920 --> 0:39:47.960
<v Speaker 1>you know, at the end of the day, you know,

0:39:48.120 --> 0:39:50.719
<v Speaker 1>being at the whim of other people, being at the

0:39:50.800 --> 0:39:54.440
<v Speaker 1>mercy of other people, whether it be nonprofit you know,

0:39:54.719 --> 0:39:58.560
<v Speaker 1>organizations or in corporate America, they're all extractive. And I

0:39:58.600 --> 0:40:01.880
<v Speaker 1>think that what this time presents for people is to

0:40:01.920 --> 0:40:05.520
<v Speaker 1>really think about how they want to engage with work, right,

0:40:05.640 --> 0:40:10.160
<v Speaker 1>Like how you know, because because you depending on your

0:40:10.280 --> 0:40:15.520
<v Speaker 1>education and depending on your geographics, like, there are ways

0:40:15.560 --> 0:40:18.160
<v Speaker 1>in which to design the life that you want. There

0:40:18.200 --> 0:40:21.600
<v Speaker 1>are ways for you to figure out and center yourself

0:40:21.600 --> 0:40:23.399
<v Speaker 1>on the fact that you know what maybe that six

0:40:23.440 --> 0:40:26.560
<v Speaker 1>figure job that is going to drain my soul isn't

0:40:26.600 --> 0:40:28.359
<v Speaker 1>exactly what it is that I want to do. Maybe

0:40:28.440 --> 0:40:30.959
<v Speaker 1>I realize I don't need as much money, I don't

0:40:30.960 --> 0:40:33.480
<v Speaker 1>need as much house, I don't need as much as

0:40:33.640 --> 0:40:37.000
<v Speaker 1>like is being dictated to me through capitalism and this

0:40:37.200 --> 0:40:41.240
<v Speaker 1>keeping up, you know, grind hustle culture, that maybe maybe

0:40:41.280 --> 0:40:45.720
<v Speaker 1>there's an opportunity to reorient my values and then find

0:40:45.800 --> 0:40:49.640
<v Speaker 1>work that is that is in alignment. Yeah. I couldn't

0:40:49.640 --> 0:40:53.799
<v Speaker 1>agree more. And I mean, I will say that right now.

0:40:54.040 --> 0:40:57.400
<v Speaker 1>You know, I just recently left, uh, you know, like

0:40:57.440 --> 0:41:00.400
<v Speaker 1>a traditional FTE and I'm working for myself again. And

0:41:00.440 --> 0:41:03.799
<v Speaker 1>I've worked for myself before, but I didn't do the

0:41:03.840 --> 0:41:05.680
<v Speaker 1>things that I know to do now, which is that

0:41:05.880 --> 0:41:08.800
<v Speaker 1>I better budget for retirement savings. If I'm going to

0:41:08.840 --> 0:41:10.719
<v Speaker 1>work for myself, I'm also going to work for my

0:41:10.719 --> 0:41:14.880
<v Speaker 1>own retirement. And also, you know, there's the black tax,

0:41:15.120 --> 0:41:16.560
<v Speaker 1>you know, at least that's what they call it in

0:41:16.560 --> 0:41:19.040
<v Speaker 1>South Africa, which is that those of us who make

0:41:19.080 --> 0:41:21.719
<v Speaker 1>it to a certain level, we have people to take

0:41:21.760 --> 0:41:28.600
<v Speaker 1>care of, you know, whether it's you know, blood relatives, partners, whatever, like,

0:41:28.680 --> 0:41:32.360
<v Speaker 1>we often end up paying for things for other people.

0:41:32.480 --> 0:41:37.280
<v Speaker 1>So I've sent money back to Zimbabwe, I've sent money

0:41:37.360 --> 0:41:40.759
<v Speaker 1>to Baltimore. And to also figure out what is your

0:41:40.800 --> 0:41:44.880
<v Speaker 1>relationship to the black tax? Like are you someone who

0:41:45.040 --> 0:41:47.600
<v Speaker 1>really has to draw the line and say no, I

0:41:47.680 --> 0:41:51.640
<v Speaker 1>can't which is acceptable, by the way, it is acceptable

0:41:51.640 --> 0:41:55.680
<v Speaker 1>to say no, I cannot finance whatever thing, no matter

0:41:55.680 --> 0:41:58.799
<v Speaker 1>how worthy it is. Are you someone who puts away

0:41:58.840 --> 0:42:04.080
<v Speaker 1>a certain amount of money to help your friends, neighbors, relatives, whatever.

0:42:04.360 --> 0:42:07.320
<v Speaker 1>These are strategies. Like if you come from an upper

0:42:07.320 --> 0:42:10.320
<v Speaker 1>middle class family where you're used to getting the house

0:42:10.360 --> 0:42:13.680
<v Speaker 1>down payment from your parents, you might not have to

0:42:13.719 --> 0:42:15.560
<v Speaker 1>think about this, but a lot of us have to

0:42:15.600 --> 0:42:18.640
<v Speaker 1>think about how we resource other people and when we

0:42:18.680 --> 0:42:23.400
<v Speaker 1>resource other people and not make it something that that

0:42:23.560 --> 0:42:28.080
<v Speaker 1>really drains us. Yeah, I mean I percent agree, and

0:42:28.120 --> 0:42:31.040
<v Speaker 1>there is there is so much to think about these

0:42:31.120 --> 0:42:34.080
<v Speaker 1>days in terms of, you know, our relationship to each other,

0:42:34.239 --> 0:42:36.640
<v Speaker 1>how we build community. I'm still thinking about what you

0:42:36.719 --> 0:42:40.280
<v Speaker 1>just said in terms of like building your own community.

0:42:40.320 --> 0:42:42.080
<v Speaker 1>You don't have to live with your parents, but what

0:42:42.160 --> 0:42:44.239
<v Speaker 1>does what does that look like? What does it look

0:42:44.280 --> 0:42:48.200
<v Speaker 1>like to build out economic safety outside of you know,

0:42:48.239 --> 0:42:50.799
<v Speaker 1>the traditional four oh one k if that's not the

0:42:50.880 --> 0:42:53.319
<v Speaker 1>kind of work that you are doing. And so what

0:42:53.360 --> 0:42:56.200
<v Speaker 1>are the machinations of that that allow us to have

0:42:56.640 --> 0:43:00.360
<v Speaker 1>more freedom in our day to day lives? Is actually

0:43:00.360 --> 0:43:03.880
<v Speaker 1>for black and brown and you know BIPOC folks who

0:43:04.000 --> 0:43:06.400
<v Speaker 1>you know from the jump, we're already behind in the

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<v Speaker 1>freedom game, you know, and just trying to articulate that truth.

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<v Speaker 1>The final question that I have for you for eyes,

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<v Speaker 1>like for young people. I have young people in my family,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, who are in their early you know, early

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<v Speaker 1>to mid twenties and thinking that in all honesty that

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<v Speaker 1>they have all the time in the world to figure

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<v Speaker 1>out their life. And I have become that older person

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<v Speaker 1>that's just like, well, you may want to start thinking

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<v Speaker 1>about things now right as opposed to waiting teny years.

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<v Speaker 1>What advice do you have for those people that are

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<v Speaker 1>either like f the system, I don't even want to

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<v Speaker 1>participate in it, but then have no other plans, or

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<v Speaker 1>are not recognizing how quickly things devolve and how fast

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<v Speaker 1>time goes. Yeah, I mean some of it is just

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<v Speaker 1>you know, school of life and hard knocks, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like sometimes people will not know until they know themselves elves.

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<v Speaker 1>But I would say that it was really liberating to

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<v Speaker 1>me when I started developing the friendships where I could

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<v Speaker 1>really talk about sex and what it was and wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>with people who I loved and trusted. And money is

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<v Speaker 1>the same thing. You've got to find people who you

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<v Speaker 1>can have those intimate conversations within money is an intimate conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>Find people who you can have an intimate conversation with, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm scared. I'm scared that I won't ever. I'm scared

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<v Speaker 1>that I will. I'm scared that this will happen. Like,

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<v Speaker 1>find people who you trust, and sometimes the people who

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<v Speaker 1>you think you can trust are not as trustworthy, so

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<v Speaker 1>you know, judge it. But like so many people are

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<v Speaker 1>scared about money, I just bought my first house. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>fifty two years old. Why did I buy my first

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<v Speaker 1>house at fifty two Because I saw how much it

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<v Speaker 1>was really challenge lenging to my mother to be a homeowner,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, to be a single black mother who's a homeowner.

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<v Speaker 1>It was hard and I didn't want to put myself

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<v Speaker 1>in that position and I had to really deprogram myself.

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<v Speaker 1>So find people who you love and trust who can

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<v Speaker 1>help you deal with your fears. Thank you so much

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<v Speaker 1>for making time today for our today. The book is

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<v Speaker 1>The Episodic Career. I just want to thank you so

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<v Speaker 1>much for your work, for sharing so many truths right

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<v Speaker 1>that like, we all have an opportunity to have moments

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<v Speaker 1>of you know where I call stop, pivot and reflect

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<v Speaker 1>right to make those changes because the world is being

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<v Speaker 1>disruptive and disrupted in a lot of ways, which I

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<v Speaker 1>like to think can also create opportunities out of the

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<v Speaker 1>obstacles that they present. And I think that your book,

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<v Speaker 1>The Episodic Career is a guide. So I appreciate you.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much. I appreciate you, Danielle, thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>That is it for me here, Folks on woke f

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<v Speaker 1>daily as always. Power to the people and to all

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<v Speaker 1>the people. Power, get woke and stay woke as fuck.