1 00:00:01,400 --> 00:00:04,520 Speaker 1: Charlot Maine say the gang, don't get out the shape man, 2 00:00:04,920 --> 00:00:12,559 Speaker 1: you are a donkey today does not discriminate. I might 3 00:00:12,560 --> 00:00:14,000 Speaker 1: not have the song of today, but I got the 4 00:00:14,080 --> 00:00:21,040 Speaker 1: donkey that a donkey man the breakfast club bitch. Please 5 00:00:21,120 --> 00:00:24,760 Speaker 1: don't keep today today well and Sharon or today's donkey 6 00:00:24,800 --> 00:00:26,680 Speaker 1: that day is very sad. Donkey to day from Monday, 7 00:00:26,680 --> 00:00:29,680 Speaker 1: October thirty first goes to thirty three year old Keisha 8 00:00:29,720 --> 00:00:33,600 Speaker 1: Golden of Chicago, Illinois, Loot everybody from the shy. This 9 00:00:33,720 --> 00:00:37,160 Speaker 1: story saddens me deeply for a number number of reasons, 10 00:00:37,159 --> 00:00:38,959 Speaker 1: but it's a teachable moment in this story, and it's 11 00:00:38,960 --> 00:00:43,120 Speaker 1: a simple lesson stop trying to make toxic relationships work. 12 00:00:43,920 --> 00:00:46,440 Speaker 1: Whenever I see these articles that have headlines like ten 13 00:00:46,560 --> 00:00:50,519 Speaker 1: necessary steps to fix a toxic relationship, I don't pay 14 00:00:50,520 --> 00:00:52,400 Speaker 1: attention to any of those. Okay, the ones I pay 15 00:00:52,440 --> 00:00:56,520 Speaker 1: attention to are ten steps to end a toxic relationship. 16 00:00:56,560 --> 00:00:59,440 Speaker 1: Are ten steps on how to stop being in a 17 00:00:59,480 --> 00:01:03,160 Speaker 1: toxic relationship. Because the reality is, toxic relationships do not 18 00:01:03,680 --> 00:01:05,880 Speaker 1: end well. And this leads me to the story I'm 19 00:01:05,880 --> 00:01:09,440 Speaker 1: about to tell you today. Keisha Golden, thirty three years old, 20 00:01:09,800 --> 00:01:12,360 Speaker 1: her boyfriend and multiple family members at the house kicking 21 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:15,160 Speaker 1: it on a Sunday, and they began to argue over 22 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:18,160 Speaker 1: the microwave. Okay, listen to what I just said. They 23 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:21,360 Speaker 1: started to argue over the microwave, and Keisha knocked the 24 00:01:21,400 --> 00:01:23,600 Speaker 1: plate out her boyfriend's hands. Now, let me tell you something. 25 00:01:23,680 --> 00:01:25,440 Speaker 1: When you get to the point where y'are arguing over 26 00:01:25,520 --> 00:01:29,680 Speaker 1: something as simple as microwave us, it's time to move on. Okay. 27 00:01:29,720 --> 00:01:31,120 Speaker 1: Next thing, you know, you're gonna start hating the way 28 00:01:31,160 --> 00:01:32,840 Speaker 1: the person choose. You're gonna start hating the way the 29 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:35,520 Speaker 1: person breathes. Everything about the person is gonna start pissing 30 00:01:35,560 --> 00:01:38,080 Speaker 1: you off. And that's what this situation sounds like to me. 31 00:01:38,120 --> 00:01:41,600 Speaker 1: It's not the microwaves microwave us that piss Keisha offers 32 00:01:41,640 --> 00:01:44,319 Speaker 1: everything that has been going on in their life previously 33 00:01:44,400 --> 00:01:47,680 Speaker 1: that I'm sure culminated into this microwave moment. Trust me, 34 00:01:47,760 --> 00:01:50,240 Speaker 1: whatever has been happening with these two was brewing and 35 00:01:50,360 --> 00:01:53,120 Speaker 1: baking for a while, and this microwave moment was the 36 00:01:53,200 --> 00:01:56,200 Speaker 1: final stand because after Keisha knocked the plate out of 37 00:01:56,200 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 1: her boyfriend's hand, her boyfriend grabbed her and pushed her 38 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:03,680 Speaker 1: down against the counter. Her uncle intervened, stepped between them, 39 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:06,080 Speaker 1: broke them up, and then Keisha's boyfriend went to their 40 00:02:06,080 --> 00:02:09,359 Speaker 1: bedroom and a Keisha allegedly continued to argue with him 41 00:02:09,360 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 1: before grabbing a knife. A family member tried to separate them, 42 00:02:12,520 --> 00:02:16,040 Speaker 1: but Keisha allegedly reached around them and stabbed her boyfriend 43 00:02:16,560 --> 00:02:21,240 Speaker 1: in the thigh. Golden's boyfriend, who has not been identified, 44 00:02:21,320 --> 00:02:24,799 Speaker 1: was taken to a hospital with a severed artery and died. 45 00:02:25,800 --> 00:02:29,240 Speaker 1: Now there's a lot of nuance to this story. Number one, 46 00:02:29,280 --> 00:02:31,880 Speaker 1: She's eight months pregnant with her boyfriend's child. I'm sure 47 00:02:31,880 --> 00:02:34,200 Speaker 1: emotions were through the roof, hormones off, all types of 48 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:37,359 Speaker 1: things going on. Not making excuses of justifying anything she did, 49 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:39,560 Speaker 1: just giving some nuance and remember what I say, you 50 00:02:39,639 --> 00:02:42,760 Speaker 1: just don't get to the point of arguing over microwave 51 00:02:42,919 --> 00:02:45,959 Speaker 1: use and not leading to a murder. Okay. Prosecutor said 52 00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:49,720 Speaker 1: Keisha had no criminal history, but since June between her 53 00:02:49,760 --> 00:02:53,359 Speaker 1: and her boyfriend and they have filed five domestic violence 54 00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:57,960 Speaker 1: reports with police. Five and for the incidents, Golden accused 55 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:01,520 Speaker 1: her boyfriend of physical violence, including shoking, slapping, or punching her, 56 00:03:01,720 --> 00:03:04,720 Speaker 1: and a report made in August with police. Her boyfriend 57 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:08,600 Speaker 1: accused her of stabbing him in the neck. He was hospitalized, 58 00:03:08,639 --> 00:03:10,840 Speaker 1: but he didn't press charges. Let me tell you something, man, 59 00:03:11,360 --> 00:03:14,360 Speaker 1: we live in a society that really, really really loves 60 00:03:14,400 --> 00:03:17,119 Speaker 1: playing crashes. We see it all the time. Nobody wants 61 00:03:17,160 --> 00:03:19,640 Speaker 1: to truly help anyone. In fact, instead of getting people 62 00:03:19,720 --> 00:03:22,280 Speaker 1: help when we see they needed, we pull out our 63 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:25,200 Speaker 1: phones and record the dysfunction. And then when situations like 64 00:03:25,280 --> 00:03:28,880 Speaker 1: this happened, everyone act shocked in surprise and can't believe it, 65 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:31,600 Speaker 1: as if all the signs weren't right there in your face. 66 00:03:31,680 --> 00:03:35,600 Speaker 1: These two individuals had no business together, which is why 67 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 1: I told you I don't read articles that tell you 68 00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:40,840 Speaker 1: how to fix a toxic relationship. There's no fixing a 69 00:03:40,920 --> 00:03:44,000 Speaker 1: toxic relationship. Okay, it's just a trauma bond until both 70 00:03:44,000 --> 00:03:47,920 Speaker 1: individuals decide to go fix themselves individually. Okay, do some 71 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:52,040 Speaker 1: work on themselves individually. Okay. Two healed people are two 72 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:55,040 Speaker 1: people on a healing journey can have a healthy relationship 73 00:03:55,120 --> 00:03:58,600 Speaker 1: to unhealed people can't do anything but hurt each other. Okay, 74 00:03:58,920 --> 00:04:02,480 Speaker 1: So how do you endo toxic relationship carefully? And I'm 75 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 1: not no relationship expert, but I do know that, at 76 00:04:04,400 --> 00:04:05,960 Speaker 1: least for me, the number one way to end the 77 00:04:06,000 --> 00:04:09,760 Speaker 1: toxic relationship is to stop being in denial about the relationship. 78 00:04:09,920 --> 00:04:13,840 Speaker 1: That's the first step to solving any problem. Deal with it, 79 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:17,600 Speaker 1: head up with truth. Stop lying to yourself. Okay, listen 80 00:04:17,640 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 1: to Eve. Love is blind one hundred times until you 81 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:22,320 Speaker 1: realize that what you think is love is truly not. 82 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:24,680 Speaker 1: You need to elevate and find Okay, what you have 83 00:04:24,720 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 1: to go from. You know, you have to go from 84 00:04:26,520 --> 00:04:28,840 Speaker 1: the now to acceptance. Okay. Once you accept you are 85 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:31,200 Speaker 1: someplace you don't need to be, then you can work 86 00:04:31,240 --> 00:04:33,840 Speaker 1: on leaving. And that's all I got. Okay, the rest 87 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 1: you got to talk to an expert about. We'll talk 88 00:04:35,640 --> 00:04:38,200 Speaker 1: to your therapist or something. But I am really tired 89 00:04:38,200 --> 00:04:41,160 Speaker 1: of us just standing around watching this function and tell 90 00:04:41,240 --> 00:04:43,960 Speaker 1: us too late. Now, this woman who is eight months 91 00:04:43,960 --> 00:04:49,400 Speaker 1: pregnant is in jail with a two million dollar bail, 92 00:04:50,200 --> 00:04:53,440 Speaker 1: and a man is dead for no other reason than 93 00:04:53,520 --> 00:05:00,200 Speaker 1: nobody intervened to say, Hey, enough is enough. Please give 94 00:05:00,240 --> 00:05:09,680 Speaker 1: Keysha Golden of Chicago your biggest see hall tragic man terrible. 95 00:05:10,279 --> 00:05:12,640 Speaker 1: All right, well, thank you for that donkey today, Yes, indeed, 96 00:05:13,240 --> 00:05:15,599 Speaker 1: now let's open up the phone lines. Eight hundred five 97 00:05:15,680 --> 00:05:18,400 Speaker 1: eight five one oh five one. Let's talk about smelling tart, 98 00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:23,440 Speaker 1: smelling ripe, musty must your musty ass, boy, you sent 99 00:05:23,520 --> 00:05:27,520 Speaker 1: your little musty ass down somewhere now. Now do you 100 00:05:27,560 --> 00:05:31,159 Speaker 1: remember a time where you smell musty funky and somebody 101 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:33,559 Speaker 1: picked it up? Or you just felt embarrassed? Eight hundred 102 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:35,719 Speaker 1: five eight five one oh five one. I have one 103 00:05:36,160 --> 00:05:38,440 Speaker 1: you stink right now? No I don't. I got one too, 104 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:40,520 Speaker 1: but I ain't telling it. But just no, having a 105 00:05:40,560 --> 00:05:43,440 Speaker 1: black wife will save your stink ass life. Okay, dropping 106 00:05:43,440 --> 00:05:48,240 Speaker 1: a clue, mom from my wife telling you stink. So 107 00:05:48,320 --> 00:05:51,479 Speaker 1: the last fifty cet interview, I ran out the house 108 00:05:51,720 --> 00:05:53,960 Speaker 1: and I didn't put the odor in on. And I'm 109 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:56,160 Speaker 1: a sweater. When I say I'm a sweater, I sweat 110 00:05:56,200 --> 00:05:58,479 Speaker 1: like I sweat when I sleep, I sweat. I sweat. 111 00:05:59,000 --> 00:06:02,239 Speaker 1: And I remember doing that interview, and I remember smelling myself. 112 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:04,520 Speaker 1: I didn't even want to take a picture with y'all 113 00:06:04,520 --> 00:06:07,200 Speaker 1: because I stunk so bad like Iran. So that day 114 00:06:07,240 --> 00:06:09,520 Speaker 1: I told you stunk. That was the truth. I mean, 115 00:06:09,560 --> 00:06:11,040 Speaker 1: I tell you stink all the time, just because you 116 00:06:11,120 --> 00:06:13,600 Speaker 1: like I feel like there's been several instances where envy sting. 117 00:06:13,760 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 1: He definitely has. I agree with you. No, that's not true. 118 00:06:17,320 --> 00:06:20,120 Speaker 1: Yes they have. We actually had a meeting about it. 119 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:22,560 Speaker 1: Musty is one thing. But boy, when somebody tell you 120 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:25,800 Speaker 1: you're ass, think you know what people say and you're 121 00:06:25,800 --> 00:06:30,280 Speaker 1: not in the room. I don't talk behind people back 122 00:06:30,360 --> 00:06:31,640 Speaker 1: like that. If you stink, I'm gonna tell you in 123 00:06:31,680 --> 00:06:33,920 Speaker 1: some way. You actually had to do an intervention one time. 124 00:06:34,000 --> 00:06:42,600 Speaker 1: But who somebody here? Well we had an intern. Hey, 125 00:06:43,680 --> 00:06:45,360 Speaker 1: how did not do that? Though? Let's not do that. 126 00:06:46,839 --> 00:06:49,960 Speaker 1: Let's not do that. See you talk to that any much? Yeah, 127 00:06:49,960 --> 00:06:52,520 Speaker 1: you go too far. People used to make Joe's they'd 128 00:06:52,520 --> 00:06:54,520 Speaker 1: be like, you smell me and then not me. I 129 00:06:54,520 --> 00:06:56,760 Speaker 1: an't no Jo, I don't mean no. Joe is honest. 130 00:06:57,120 --> 00:06:59,400 Speaker 1: I tell who you're all talking about. Who you're talking about? Oh, 131 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:01,920 Speaker 1: you're that's someone else? Oh I told you talking about 132 00:07:03,360 --> 00:07:06,800 Speaker 1: about when I was a serious Like he said, said, 133 00:07:07,560 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 1: y'all are talking about a different person. Y'all know if 134 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:13,160 Speaker 1: he was involved in that one? Did me? And you? Yeah? 135 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:16,520 Speaker 1: You you told him, Yeah we did, But y'all talked 136 00:07:16,560 --> 00:07:18,560 Speaker 1: about it first before you told them. No, no, no no, no, no, 137 00:07:19,240 --> 00:07:20,840 Speaker 1: I told him soon. As as soon as it hit 138 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:24,160 Speaker 1: my nostrils, I thought, but you know what, he was 139 00:07:24,200 --> 00:07:25,800 Speaker 1: working too hard. It was it was, it was, it 140 00:07:25,880 --> 00:07:28,360 Speaker 1: was something going on around that whole time. And yes, 141 00:07:28,480 --> 00:07:30,800 Speaker 1: we all had to be here for like days. Yes 142 00:07:31,040 --> 00:07:34,440 Speaker 1: it was a natural disaster. Yes, so no one else stunk. 143 00:07:34,480 --> 00:07:39,640 Speaker 1: But this person. Yes, yes, who laughing? That's Taylor. Tell 144 00:07:39,720 --> 00:07:42,239 Speaker 1: you better not laugh, Taylor, you better shut up. Oh 145 00:07:42,600 --> 00:07:45,240 Speaker 1: eight hundred five eight five one on five one. Let's 146 00:07:45,360 --> 00:07:48,480 Speaker 1: us have much musty stories. It's the Breakfast club Boy.