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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beck Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we're back and it's Monday. Gang's all here.

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Speaker 3: Happy Monday, Happy Monday.

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Speaker 2: How's everyone doing.

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Speaker 3: I'm doing fine, thank you.

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Speaker 4: I wanted to let Tanya answer first, it'd be rude

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Speaker 4: to jump in otherwise.

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Speaker 5: Things. You're good in the bedroom closet here.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, surrounded by your all your.

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Speaker 4: Clothing, my stuff, and these are sweatshirts and hats on

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Speaker 4: the side it's my clothes, and the names are the

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Speaker 4: other two walls.

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Speaker 5: It's very organized somewhat.

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Speaker 6: How you doing, I'm good. I'm in a I'm in

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Speaker 6: an office, not a closet.

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Speaker 7: But I just got some got some new board shirts

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Speaker 7: in the mail and I'm wearing them right now.

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Speaker 6: I'm very excited about him.

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Speaker 2: Swim shorts.

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Speaker 7: Yeah they have a get go whoa?

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Speaker 5: That was cool? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I love those.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: What is this thing called?

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Speaker 6: That's a hang loose?

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Speaker 4: They're very cool in an Eastern sense. I'm not sure

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Speaker 4: I could pull those off.

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Speaker 6: I disagree, but you know you're living leon.

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Speaker 2: Let are you going swimming after?

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Speaker 6: Just like they're just comfortable you know, okay.

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Speaker 7: I I heard I was listening to an interview with

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Speaker 7: a guy in a band that I like, and he

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Speaker 7: was saying he wears board shorts just all the time,

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Speaker 7: and he showers with them on, and then like that's

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Speaker 7: how he watched, like and he wears them for like

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Speaker 7: four or five days at a time, which sounds like

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Speaker 7: a very dean anglic thing to do. And I don't

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Speaker 7: plan on doing that, but I did think, like this summer,

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Speaker 7: I think I'm just gonna wear bard shorts all the time,

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Speaker 7: whether I'm going in the water or not.

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Speaker 6: So that's what I'm doing.

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Speaker 2: So it's.

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Speaker 6: The new me.

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Speaker 7: We did just get an above ground pool, and I

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Speaker 7: might go in there later, and if I do, I

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Speaker 7: don't have.

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Speaker 6: To change.

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Speaker 2: Wait the one that looked like it wasn't quite set

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Speaker 2: up properly, or a different one.

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Speaker 6: We learned our lesson.

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Speaker 7: We got an inflatable above ground pool and that did

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Speaker 7: not hold water.

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Speaker 6: Uh so we sent it back.

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Speaker 7: We're lucky enough to I know they're all like sold

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Speaker 7: out right now, but we got a steel.

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Speaker 6: Framed above ground pool that's the same size.

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Speaker 5: We got one too. I wonder if we got the

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Speaker 5: same kind.

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Speaker 7: I'll sell you the brand later, but I think you're

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Speaker 7: I think yours is deeper than mine. Mine's like four

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Speaker 7: feet deep, three feet deep.

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Speaker 5: Oh, but yeah, the ours is about that, maybe even

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Speaker 5: less than that.

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Speaker 2: All right, Tonya, would you like to elaborate on your

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Speaker 2: fine or just that's just the best description.

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Speaker 8: And I mean it's like, health wise, I'm good, feeling good.

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Speaker 8: Mental wise, I'm okay. I mean I think, just like

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Speaker 8: everybody else, everything just feels very heavy, and so I'm fine,

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Speaker 8: I'm not bad. I'm not good. I'm just just damn

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Speaker 5: It's heavy.

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Speaker 4: But I'm so encouraged by the fact that these protests

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Speaker 4: are not slowing down, like they are out there every

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Speaker 4: day by the tens of thousands, and I find that

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Speaker 4: so encouraging, and that maybe this is a time when

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Speaker 4: something's actually going to change and people are going to

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Speaker 4: listen in both Houses of Congress are coming up with

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Speaker 4: policing legislation, and we'll see what gets past, if anything.

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Speaker 4: But somebody's finally listening, and I find they really encourage it.

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Speaker 8: I have to say, it's been like I've gone to

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Speaker 8: a couple of them and I've been like very overwhelmed emotionally,

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Speaker 8: you know what I mean, just like very there's this

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Speaker 8: like unity in the in these protests that's just very

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Speaker 8: like feeling of my heart feels my heart, sure, yeah,

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Speaker 8: and also very safe. Like I know a lot of

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Speaker 8: people are nervous about COVID, like that's why they're not

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Speaker 8: wanting to go protest. But I think you can find

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Speaker 8: smaller ones that are like very like.

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Speaker 2: Mm hmm.

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Speaker 3: Good.

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Speaker 2: But did you notice people were wearing masks and stuff

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Speaker 2: still or is everyone kind of like free.

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Speaker 8: For all the ones that I've been going to everybody's

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Speaker 8: and wearing masks and not so much gloves but masks.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you might be the only person still

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Speaker 8: Still wearing the gloves, baby, it's.

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Speaker 3: Just like or not because I touch my eyes a lot.

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Speaker 2: But if you so you don't touch your eyes if

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Speaker 2: you have the gloves.

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Speaker 4: On correct and which makes your eyes more susceptible to

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Speaker 4: other people's droplets, I'll like use.

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Speaker 8: My I'll use my wrist or something, you know what

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Speaker 8: I mean. It's probably still even great.

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Speaker 2: But you you had an emergency situation speaking of your

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Speaker 2: eyes always being.

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Speaker 8: Over it was like the craziest thing I was running

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Speaker 8: and I was like blinking. I was splashing water in

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Speaker 8: starts like watering and I was like, oh my gosh,

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Speaker 8: like I couldn't find anything. Maybe I thought I scratched

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Speaker 8: I was like, there's no way that I can like

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Speaker 8: go on without with something happening to my eye, you

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Speaker 8: about going to urgent care. I had one of my

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Speaker 8: girlfriends come over and literally with gloves and a mask

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Speaker 8: and like all the things lift my eyelid up. She

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Speaker 8: found this like black I don't even know what it was.

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Speaker 8: And she got it out with like a que tip

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Speaker 8: that I had like soaked in eye drops.

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Speaker 2: Was it like instant relief.

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Speaker 3: Instant relief.

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Speaker 8: And I'm telling you, this was like five hours of

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Speaker 8: what you do if you have a scratch in your eye,

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Speaker 8: Like you can't you know what I mean, Like it

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Speaker 3: It was kind of wild for five hours.

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Speaker 2: I don't I don't know how you lasted for five hours.

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Speaker 2: Like even when I just have allergies and I have

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Speaker 2: So having pain and like having something in there, no, but.

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Speaker 3: I like couldn't.

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Speaker 8: It was so crazy because I couldn't find anythings. So

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Speaker 8: then I was like, it's definitely scratched. And then what

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Speaker 8: I drop something.

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Speaker 3: I don't even know.

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Speaker 2: I don't actually know. But one time my friend in

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Speaker 2: like it was really dramatic, and finally he confesses that

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Speaker 8: My mom did that ones with She thought she was

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Speaker 8: using on her contact She thought she was putting contact

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Speaker 8: solution in them, but she really was putting like nail

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Speaker 8: like something for your nails. And so she did it

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Speaker 8: because she can't see, Like she really couldn't see, So

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Speaker 8: and she like burned off.

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Speaker 3: The like I don't even know it was.

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Speaker 2: It was really bad, like nail polish remover or something.

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Speaker 8: It was like some nail like nail something for I

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Speaker 8: don't know. My dad has something on his nails. It

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Speaker 8: was like some sort of ointment for your nails. It

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Speaker 8: just went right in her eye burned it off.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's not great.

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Speaker 8: Well, so you should have seen me on my run yesterday.

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Speaker 8: I had like full on like hack glasses I bought

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Speaker 8: but I love to like smile at people when I'm running,

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Speaker 8: and now I'm just like they don't know they can't

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but you know, you know, you know what's going

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Speaker 2: Have y'all been like because Natalie last week recommended books

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Speaker 2: and movies and like podcasts and stuff. Did y'all watch

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Speaker 2: or listen or read? And did y'all do anything? I know,

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Speaker 2: Tanya said, you were taking a class.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I signed up for that. This class is called

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Speaker 8: Do the Work. And then I watched thirteenth and I

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Speaker 8: started reading White Fragility.

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Speaker 2: What is the class? Like? How often is the class

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Speaker 8: Honestly, it's a daily thing. It's supposed to be for

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Speaker 8: thirty days. I think she just inundated with requests right

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Speaker 8: now because I put in my request a while ago

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Speaker 8: and I still haven't gotten anything. But a friend of

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Speaker 8: mine did, so she's forwarding me her lessons.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, but yeah, just kind of just to learn more

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Speaker 3: Not in the know of what's going on.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I think we're all feeling that. I think

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Speaker 2: think my thing has always been that, you know, as

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Speaker 2: I said, I've always been so scared to rock the

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Speaker 2: boat in any way and to have a strong enough

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Speaker 2: opinion to make people upset who don't agree. And it's

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Speaker 2: weird because speaking up for something like this that feels

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Speaker 2: like so internally wrong, it's kind of helped me find

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Speaker 2: my voice. I've had really tough conversations with family members

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Speaker 2: and friends that I've never had before. Actually, I think

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna see a therapist next week for the first

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Speaker 2: time in my life ever, which is like a big

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Speaker 2: deal because I kind of was raised to think like therapy,

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Speaker 2: you know, like I didn't need it because I had God.

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Speaker 2: And you know, I'm obviously I believe in prayer and God,

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Speaker 2: but I also believe that God created therapists to help people.

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Speaker 2: So but I think it's just like there's a lot

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Speaker 2: And so, yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think a therapist is going to be do loads

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Speaker 2: I think I know what you're gonna post. It is, Yeah,

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Speaker 4: Olivia posted this, what's the weirdest thing you're attracted tone

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Speaker 4: Hands is interesting, I think hands qualified. Really, I think so.

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Speaker 2: the conversation there because I get it.

444
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Speaker 3: It's nice.

445
00:22:03,359 --> 00:22:04,280
Speaker 2: It's an oasis.

446
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Speaker 3: You say it's an oasis of pleasure.

447
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Speaker 6: I remember your comments on Ben Higgins's chest hair. I

448
00:22:11,359 --> 00:22:12,000
Speaker 6: think that was.

449
00:22:14,600 --> 00:22:15,239
Speaker 3: It is good too.

450
00:22:16,000 --> 00:22:18,760
Speaker 4: The biggest oasis in the world is the Alasa Oasis

451
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Speaker 4: in Saudi Arabia.

452
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Speaker 6: That's thought.

453
00:22:21,680 --> 00:22:22,760
Speaker 3: That's Red Star right there.

454
00:22:24,119 --> 00:22:25,760
Speaker 2: That makes me feel overwhelmed.

455
00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:29,359
Speaker 3: You should see it. I should send you a photo.

456
00:22:29,480 --> 00:22:31,960
Speaker 2: I don't need I know, I'm really like, I don't

457
00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:34,560
Speaker 2: need it. I promise I trust you.

458
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Speaker 3: I'd like I.

459
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Speaker 5: Would Easton, do you have one? You know?

460
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Speaker 6: I am? I really I like big butts and you

461
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:47,760
Speaker 6: cannot lie. I'm quite capable of lying, but I'm not

462
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Speaker 6: lying about this.

463
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Speaker 7: You know that I was trying to think that there's

464
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Speaker 7: anything weird, but really it's I just have to go

465
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Speaker 7: with butts.

466
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Speaker 2: I don't think that's weird. I think pretty I think

467
00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:01,679
Speaker 2: and butts are pretty normal.

468
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Speaker 6: Yeah, but you know, honestly, that's what it is. I'm sorry.

469
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Speaker 6: I wish I had a better answer.

470
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Speaker 5: Okay, that's all right, all right, let me read an

471
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Speaker 5: email here.

472
00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:16,280
Speaker 2: Some of the answers on that thread that were really funny.

473
00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:22,760
Speaker 4: Alison strangely enough, just because he say's wife is Alison.

474
00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:24,920
Speaker 4: But anyway, Alison says, I started seeing this guy back

475
00:23:24,920 --> 00:23:27,840
Speaker 4: in January. We were taking things pretty slow. This isn't

476
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:30,119
Speaker 4: the usual case for my relationships, but he seemed pretty

477
00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:32,000
Speaker 4: nervous to make a move. However, I was a bit

478
00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:35,160
Speaker 4: confused because he's the most confident but not cocky guy.

479
00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:37,560
Speaker 4: Fast forward to now, we started taking things to the

480
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Speaker 4: next level. Long story short, he was nervous and couldn't

481
00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:44,280
Speaker 4: keep it up for us to do anything. He explained

482
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Speaker 4: that there's only been two other girls he's had feelings

483
00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:48,320
Speaker 4: for before me, and he's had the same problem with them.

484
00:23:48,720 --> 00:23:51,359
Speaker 4: But he's had friends with benefits situations where he hasn't

485
00:23:51,359 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 4: had a problem at all. I've done some research. It

486
00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:55,600
Speaker 4: seems like this is pretty common for men. I'm hoping

487
00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:58,320
Speaker 4: we can work past this because I actually have strong

488
00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:00,359
Speaker 4: feelings for this guy. But if sex is off the table,

489
00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:01,600
Speaker 4: it's definitely a deal breaker.

490
00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:11,159
Speaker 2: Remember when we had that. Was she a sex therapist

491
00:24:11,320 --> 00:24:15,400
Speaker 2: or she was a relationship they remember a few weeks recently?

492
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Speaker 9: Yeah?

493
00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:18,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, the girl from.

494
00:24:18,359 --> 00:24:19,720
Speaker 2: Married at First Sight?

495
00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:27,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, she made the comment I feel like we had

496
00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:29,800
Speaker 1: someone talk about this or she we talked about this,

497
00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:30,480
Speaker 1: and that.

498
00:24:33,200 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 2: It could be that he doesn't feel like maybe it's

499
00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:39,600
Speaker 2: because the emotions that he's having are overwhelming, he's never

500
00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:42,080
Speaker 2: felt them for the first time. I don't know. I'm

501
00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:44,080
Speaker 2: kind of blinking. It feels like a long time ago.

502
00:24:44,119 --> 00:24:47,479
Speaker 2: But I felt like there was a similar situation.

503
00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:51,960
Speaker 5: Were guys I can simplify this whole situation.

504
00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:55,040
Speaker 2: Agreed, Okay, do it.

505
00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 5: I'll be careful. I'm just here's what's going on with

506
00:24:58,320 --> 00:24:58,680
Speaker 5: this guy.

507
00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:01,760
Speaker 4: He likes you lot, and he wants it to be great,

508
00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:04,760
Speaker 4: and he's in his head about it. He's not in

509
00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:06,560
Speaker 4: his head when he's with a one night stand because

510
00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:08,800
Speaker 4: who cares he's never going to see her again, it's

511
00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:11,280
Speaker 4: no big deal, or friends with benefits, everything's on the table,

512
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:13,760
Speaker 4: it's no big deal. He wants to impress you, and

513
00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:15,960
Speaker 4: he wants to impress you so badly that he's really

514
00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:20,560
Speaker 4: not impressing you. So you need to be patient and

515
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 4: really not care about it, because if he thinks you

516
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:24,919
Speaker 4: care about it, it's going to get worse and worse

517
00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:27,240
Speaker 4: and worse each time. But if you're able to do

518
00:25:27,320 --> 00:25:31,960
Speaker 4: things to each other in other ways, it'll really relax,

519
00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:35,560
Speaker 4: things like if we can have a longer period of pregame,

520
00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:38,640
Speaker 4: or perhaps we have some time where that's not happening,

521
00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:40,480
Speaker 4: just other things are happening, and then we can work

522
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:42,159
Speaker 4: our way to that. It's going to be fine, is

523
00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:44,080
Speaker 4: what I'm trying to say. It's going to be just fine.

524
00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:46,399
Speaker 4: And just take the pressure off of him because it

525
00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:48,760
Speaker 4: is no big deal. And once he gets it in

526
00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:50,359
Speaker 4: his head that it's no big deal, it's going to

527
00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:50,760
Speaker 4: be great.

528
00:25:51,840 --> 00:25:54,840
Speaker 2: Should he take like some No.

529
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Speaker 5: No, no, I don't know. I don't know about that.

530
00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:59,040
Speaker 3: The solution to everything is an edible.

531
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:03,639
Speaker 4: Not I thought you were gonna SUGGESTI Viagara or something,

532
00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:06,919
Speaker 4: And no, you should do that, but maybe something maybe

533
00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:09,560
Speaker 4: I don't know, I've never done that well.

534
00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:11,360
Speaker 2: Like just if it's in his head and it's like

535
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:15,000
Speaker 2: the anxiety and the pressure of it maybe like or

536
00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 2: like a glass because.

537
00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:18,719
Speaker 8: I thinks about it, Like guys, like guys actually have

538
00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:22,639
Speaker 8: to like perform like and don't even get me started

539
00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:23,800
Speaker 8: on like the penis.

540
00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:25,080
Speaker 3: Are we allowed to say penis?

541
00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:29,639
Speaker 8: It's like the penis, Like I just the whole phenomenon

542
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:30,280
Speaker 8: of it is so weird.

543
00:26:30,280 --> 00:26:32,040
Speaker 3: Health can be so small and they gets so large.

544
00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:34,240
Speaker 3: Its just like is beyond me.

545
00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:40,080
Speaker 8: But it's like they actually have to Like you, guys

546
00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:43,640
Speaker 8: actually have to like get something up versus like girls

547
00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:45,720
Speaker 8: just have to like be in the mood. I guess,

548
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:50,560
Speaker 8: like we don't have to like physically get our something,

549
00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 8: like you know what you're saying, Like it's so it's

550
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:53,679
Speaker 8: so weird to me.

551
00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:56,600
Speaker 3: So I can see how that, like you would get

552
00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:57,880
Speaker 3: in your head. I feel like I'd be in my head.

553
00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:01,320
Speaker 4: It is a very mental thing. So yes, have patience

554
00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:03,479
Speaker 4: with him. It's gonna be fun. They're not.

555
00:27:03,520 --> 00:27:05,200
Speaker 2: They don't talk about that enough.

556
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:08,000
Speaker 4: Or you guys, guys don't like to talk about that.

557
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:10,359
Speaker 4: Guys all wanted to know, the biggest alpha male who's

558
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:11,000
Speaker 4: ever lived.

559
00:27:11,480 --> 00:27:15,800
Speaker 7: If I can share something really quick, like god, over

560
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:18,800
Speaker 7: ten years ago, Allison and I my wife, Allison and

561
00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:20,719
Speaker 7: I worked at a movie theater together. We were friends

562
00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:23,120
Speaker 7: and there was a mutual attraction and we were hanging

563
00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:26,119
Speaker 7: out one night and things got hot and heavy and uh,

564
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:27,680
Speaker 7: your boy had a migraine.

565
00:27:27,960 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 6: And I was also in my head about this and things.

566
00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:33,480
Speaker 7: Didn't quite happen, and I was really embarrassed of it,

567
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:35,760
Speaker 7: and we didn't talk about it for a very very

568
00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:41,199
Speaker 7: very long time. And then you know, years later we

569
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:43,840
Speaker 7: reconnected and uh, and we did talk about it, and

570
00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 7: things progressed from there, and now we were married, and

571
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:50,400
Speaker 7: I often think about what may have how my life

572
00:27:50,440 --> 00:27:52,080
Speaker 7: would have turned out differently if I had just been

573
00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:55,639
Speaker 7: honest that that first night, I could have been in

574
00:27:55,680 --> 00:27:57,480
Speaker 7: my like, you know, twelve year of marriage by now,

575
00:27:57,480 --> 00:28:02,120
Speaker 7: who knows, but.

576
00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:03,760
Speaker 6: It's it's real. It's a you know, that doesn't happen

577
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:04,560
Speaker 6: to me, but it happened.

578
00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:07,639
Speaker 2: And like, what if she had written you off just

579
00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:10,879
Speaker 2: for that one time that things didn't happen?

580
00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 4: So have patience, I guess this Alison has dated twelve

581
00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:16,960
Speaker 4: years ago.

582
00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 5: That's so weird.

583
00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:27,480
Speaker 10: Listen in tresting, So Alison, let him know that you're

584
00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:30,880
Speaker 10: not going anywhere no matter what, It's gonna be fine.

585
00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:36,639
Speaker 3: And then maybe for a different day we can talk about.

586
00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:44,040
Speaker 8: It's sounds so interesting what.

587
00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:44,280
Speaker 2: It is.

588
00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:49,320
Speaker 8: How we could just go from being like this little

589
00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:52,360
Speaker 8: shriveled thing into like a like a.

590
00:28:51,560 --> 00:28:54,840
Speaker 2: Like a space bread star. Will be so thrilled to

591
00:28:54,880 --> 00:29:01,480
Speaker 2: hear little shriveled things. You did say, spaceship.

592
00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:04,040
Speaker 8: It's just like, do you know what I'm saying? Like

593
00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:06,200
Speaker 8: every guy, this is like happens to every guy. It's

594
00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:10,080
Speaker 8: just like it's this little thing and yeah, it's so weird.

595
00:29:10,080 --> 00:29:11,840
Speaker 8: Doesn't know when they get turned on.

596
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:14,960
Speaker 5: This thing just and also randomly as well.

597
00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:18,720
Speaker 3: Yes, oh it can just go random, it goes room.

598
00:29:19,760 --> 00:29:23,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, there are certain things that are a little more consistent.

599
00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:24,000
Speaker 5: Like there are.

600
00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:29,440
Speaker 4: Like like sometimes car the vibration of a car can

601
00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:33,440
Speaker 4: make that happen. Sometimes when you're just walking around.

602
00:29:34,120 --> 00:29:36,440
Speaker 7: Sometimes if you hit like a whopper and softball, you know,

603
00:29:36,480 --> 00:29:39,880
Speaker 7: it just happens like a grand slam.

604
00:29:40,800 --> 00:29:42,120
Speaker 6: It's just blood flow, that's.

605
00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:42,400
Speaker 5: All it is.

606
00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:45,360
Speaker 4: That's the when you hear about like in kids in

607
00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:48,000
Speaker 4: like school that get them because They just happen sometimes,

608
00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:50,080
Speaker 4: and you always wake up with one. It doesn't mean

609
00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:53,800
Speaker 4: you were dreaming about something, uh, you know, exciting. It's

610
00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:55,320
Speaker 4: usually not the case at all.

611
00:29:57,000 --> 00:29:58,560
Speaker 2: Tony, Why are you shocked by that?

612
00:29:59,040 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 3: You wake up with one.

613
00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:01,600
Speaker 5: Every morning pretty much.

614
00:30:05,720 --> 00:30:07,400
Speaker 6: That's how I wake up. That's what wakes me.

615
00:30:07,440 --> 00:30:11,680
Speaker 2: Up, the alarm clock.

616
00:30:14,400 --> 00:30:16,240
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I'm gonna ask him.

617
00:30:16,080 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 5: That you heard that expression of morning Wood. That's what

618
00:30:18,680 --> 00:30:19,080
Speaker 5: that is.

619
00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:30,440
Speaker 8: Yes, great, speaking of speaking of uh well, not speaking

620
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:32,800
Speaker 8: of morning Wood, but red Star. He's about to come

621
00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:34,800
Speaker 8: over and I'm having like gnarly gas.

622
00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:36,920
Speaker 2: You better just let it.

623
00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:39,959
Speaker 3: You should just I have been this whole podcast.

624
00:30:40,120 --> 00:30:43,400
Speaker 5: But that is one advantage to the quarantine is we

625
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:44,080
Speaker 5: didn't know that.

626
00:30:47,680 --> 00:30:50,880
Speaker 2: Man just like ripping it up there.

627
00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:53,760
Speaker 8: I have to He's gonna be here in like an hour,

628
00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:56,480
Speaker 8: and I cannot, Like you should open a window.

629
00:30:56,960 --> 00:30:57,760
Speaker 5: Yeah that's true.

630
00:30:57,800 --> 00:30:58,880
Speaker 3: I'm just it.

631
00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:00,640
Speaker 5: You might not smell it used to it.

632
00:31:01,440 --> 00:31:05,200
Speaker 8: Yeah, So we record this, you know what, not to

633
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:05,959
Speaker 8: get too graphic.

634
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:08,480
Speaker 3: They're not super smelly.

635
00:31:09,080 --> 00:31:09,920
Speaker 6: Are they audible?

636
00:31:11,600 --> 00:31:11,920
Speaker 3: Yes?

637
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 6: Okay, I was saying we're recording this, you mean your mix?

638
00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 6: Does I say?

639
00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 7: We record this over zoom, which is not as clear

640
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:20,960
Speaker 7: of an audio feed. But when we mix this whole

641
00:31:20,960 --> 00:31:22,720
Speaker 7: thing down, I feel like we're going to be treated

642
00:31:22,840 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 7: some additional content.

643
00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:29,120
Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't know what to do. Stress.

644
00:31:31,000 --> 00:31:39,800
Speaker 2: I mean, you have three bathrooms. I'll never understand this problem.

645
00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:42,040
Speaker 4: You know, we all get in our head about different things.

646
00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 4: That's the theme of this segment.

647
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:43,720
Speaker 5: Of the show.

648
00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:50,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, the brain controls everything, all right. Here's another email

649
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:54,480
Speaker 4: if you're ready. This is from Rainy. This guy has

650
00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:57,000
Speaker 4: been my best friend for years, confessed his deeper feelings

651
00:31:57,000 --> 00:31:59,240
Speaker 4: to me around Christmas. We've been talking ever since. He's

652
00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:02,360
Speaker 4: literally this guy. No one's ever made me feel truly

653
00:32:02,400 --> 00:32:05,120
Speaker 4: loved like that. A few weeks ago, he brought up

654
00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 4: having a title and being official I guess meeting boyfriend

655
00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:10,720
Speaker 4: girlfriend and I told him I needed to think about

656
00:32:10,760 --> 00:32:13,080
Speaker 4: that due to the fact that due to the fact

657
00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:16,160
Speaker 4: that he recently moved eleven hours away, but I eventually

658
00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:19,040
Speaker 4: said yes. I had a conversation with my mom and

659
00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:21,160
Speaker 4: she brought up all of the concerns I also had.

660
00:32:21,000 --> 00:32:23,120
Speaker 5: With me being in college for three to four years.

661
00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:25,000
Speaker 4: I worry I'm going to miss out on the college

662
00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:28,280
Speaker 4: experience I was hoping for. In a relationship with someone

663
00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:31,120
Speaker 4: I'll rarely see. Do I wait until we're in person

664
00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:33,479
Speaker 4: after COVID to see if my feelings change.

665
00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:34,880
Speaker 5: I am really in a funk.

666
00:32:37,080 --> 00:32:39,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would be in a funk too. That's rough,

667
00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:44,560
Speaker 2: I would say, I personally, because you're going to college,

668
00:32:44,560 --> 00:32:47,240
Speaker 2: like you're so young, I would say, go to college,

669
00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:51,160
Speaker 2: do your thing. If you can't stop thinking about him

670
00:32:51,200 --> 00:32:53,560
Speaker 2: and none of the other guys compare to him, and

671
00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:56,280
Speaker 2: you just feel like he's the one you want to

672
00:32:56,320 --> 00:32:58,760
Speaker 2: be with, then make that decision. But I think you

673
00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:03,240
Speaker 2: go and do your thing and enjoy you know, what

674
00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:05,560
Speaker 2: college and life has to offer.

675
00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:07,840
Speaker 3: See.

676
00:33:07,880 --> 00:33:11,280
Speaker 8: I think the opposite, because I think that if you

677
00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:14,680
Speaker 8: don't try, you're always gonna wonder what if I didn't

678
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:17,640
Speaker 8: What if I just tried that, you know what I mean?

679
00:33:18,840 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 2: You know? Yeah? And I mean maybe maybe they try

680
00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:24,880
Speaker 2: it out for a few months and she'll quickly know

681
00:33:25,080 --> 00:33:26,760
Speaker 2: if she's in it or not.

682
00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:28,840
Speaker 8: You know, right, and she might go to college and

683
00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:33,080
Speaker 8: be like, WHOA, the stakeout here is much better, you know, or.

684
00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:35,680
Speaker 2: Just like I feel like I'm missing out because I'm

685
00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:40,960
Speaker 2: constantly having to worry about keeping this relationship alive. When

686
00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:44,240
Speaker 2: he's eleven hours away. Like you know, when someone's with

687
00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:47,280
Speaker 2: you physically and you're able to see them and remember

688
00:33:47,360 --> 00:33:49,760
Speaker 2: what that connection is, it makes it easier to make

689
00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 2: the relationship work. I just I just think that maybe

690
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:57,880
Speaker 2: she goes into college with the attempt of keeping the

691
00:33:57,920 --> 00:34:00,840
Speaker 2: relationship going, but like not be afraid to break it

692
00:34:00,880 --> 00:34:04,880
Speaker 2: off if it doesn't, if it's not where she wants

693
00:34:04,920 --> 00:34:05,640
Speaker 2: it to be.

694
00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:09,879
Speaker 8: Bea wait, Becca, do you remember when, like years ago,

695
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:12,040
Speaker 8: you always used to say that, like you were like,

696
00:34:12,360 --> 00:34:14,239
Speaker 8: I want a long distance relationship.

697
00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:15,680
Speaker 3: I think that's better for me.

698
00:34:15,920 --> 00:34:17,920
Speaker 8: Like I just want someone that's far away that I

699
00:34:17,920 --> 00:34:20,000
Speaker 8: can talk to like little by.

700
00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:21,760
Speaker 2: Little and like do my own to be bothered.

701
00:34:22,520 --> 00:34:25,000
Speaker 3: Could you that's like not the case anymore?

702
00:34:25,520 --> 00:34:26,120
Speaker 2: No, it's not.

703
00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:31,520
Speaker 3: It couldn't be farther from the case.

704
00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:35,120
Speaker 2: Now. Phoebe lives right with me and I don't wish

705
00:34:35,160 --> 00:34:40,600
Speaker 2: for a long distance Yeah. No, it's funny, like things definitely.

706
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:47,839
Speaker 4: Things change right about eleven hours away.

707
00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:48,760
Speaker 5: I mean, this is not happening.

708
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:50,400
Speaker 4: And by the way, if this was the man of

709
00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:52,239
Speaker 4: your dreams, for sure, you would not have said this

710
00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:54,279
Speaker 4: this email. You already know this is not the man

711
00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:56,319
Speaker 4: of your dreams. You were hesitant when he even brought

712
00:34:56,320 --> 00:34:57,520
Speaker 4: it up to you in the first place.

713
00:34:57,719 --> 00:35:00,080
Speaker 5: Go to college. By the way, I went to college.

714
00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:00,560
Speaker 5: I didn't.

715
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:02,920
Speaker 4: I lived with my parents because they lived only ten

716
00:35:02,920 --> 00:35:05,440
Speaker 4: minutes off a campus. Big mistake. I missed out on

717
00:35:05,440 --> 00:35:07,680
Speaker 4: the college life and I regret that, and you will

718
00:35:07,719 --> 00:35:08,439
Speaker 4: regret that too.

719
00:35:08,719 --> 00:35:10,640
Speaker 5: If you're worried about this guy that's eleven hours away.

720
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:12,359
Speaker 4: Always when you're in college and I want to can't

721
00:35:12,360 --> 00:35:13,920
Speaker 4: go out with my friends because they'll get jealous and

722
00:35:13,920 --> 00:35:16,440
Speaker 4: all the nonsense that college guys bring into your life.

723
00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 4: Just enjoy college, have a great time this guy.

724
00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:23,520
Speaker 5: Let him go. If it's meant to be, it'll happen that.

725
00:35:23,719 --> 00:35:28,880
Speaker 2: It's funny because Tanya, if you really want to be

726
00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:32,120
Speaker 2: with someone, you're so excited about making it official with

727
00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:35,719
Speaker 2: someone you know. So if you're like questioning that, that's

728
00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:37,839
Speaker 2: a good that's a sign something to think about.

729
00:35:37,960 --> 00:35:38,800
Speaker 5: You're a good point.

730
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:41,200
Speaker 3: That's true, all right.

731
00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:45,239
Speaker 4: This is a heavy email from anonymous listener. Almost a

732
00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:47,839
Speaker 4: year ago, I left the Facebook group. I had seen

733
00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:51,440
Speaker 4: quite a few nasty, bullying and racially motivated comments in

734
00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:54,600
Speaker 4: the group. This one is kind of heartbreaking. Then someone

735
00:35:54,640 --> 00:35:57,759
Speaker 4: began target Then someone began targeting me. I was a

736
00:35:57,800 --> 00:36:00,760
Speaker 4: little surprised because I didn't comment much, also not technically

737
00:36:00,800 --> 00:36:03,600
Speaker 4: a person of color and Persian. I left the group

738
00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:05,520
Speaker 4: and noticed some of the other women had left too.

739
00:36:05,520 --> 00:36:08,000
Speaker 4: I reached out to them and we talked similar experiences.

740
00:36:08,400 --> 00:36:11,320
Speaker 4: I continued to listen to the podcast and was annoyed

741
00:36:11,400 --> 00:36:14,080
Speaker 4: every time I heard how wonderful the Facebook group was.

742
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:14,960
Speaker 5: But I continued.

743
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:17,920
Speaker 4: But then the episode talking about Hannah b dropped and

744
00:36:17,960 --> 00:36:20,600
Speaker 4: I couldn't even finish it. I appreciated a small acknowledgment

745
00:36:20,640 --> 00:36:23,160
Speaker 4: that the Facebook group isn't perfect, but Tanya saying it's okay,

746
00:36:23,200 --> 00:36:24,160
Speaker 4: we all make mistakes.

747
00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:25,280
Speaker 5: It was horrible.

748
00:36:25,800 --> 00:36:27,880
Speaker 4: You don't get to say when it's okay because you

749
00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:30,200
Speaker 4: are not the person impacted or hurt by the action.

750
00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:35,200
Speaker 4: That assumption itself, that assumption in itself is privileged. I

751
00:36:35,239 --> 00:36:37,279
Speaker 4: stared at the next episode for a while with a

752
00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:39,360
Speaker 4: lot of angst in my gut, and finally decided to

753
00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 4: give it a shot. But here we are again this week.

754
00:36:41,960 --> 00:36:44,120
Speaker 4: I think it's wonderful to take a step back and say,

755
00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:46,239
Speaker 4: I don't know, I'm going to listen and learn if

756
00:36:46,239 --> 00:36:48,400
Speaker 4: there's a major point of all what's going on. But

757
00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 4: if you're going to address it and not be scared anymore,

758
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:53,799
Speaker 4: like Becka said, then just do it. Don't tiptoe around it.

759
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:57,400
Speaker 4: Having someone on who hasn't experienced racism and hasn't been

760
00:36:57,400 --> 00:37:00,000
Speaker 4: knowledgeable on it is not helpful. Whether she's African America

761
00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:02,520
Speaker 4: it or not. If you're going to take responsibility for

762
00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:05,040
Speaker 4: your voice and your content, then be thoughtful about it.

763
00:37:10,880 --> 00:37:14,880
Speaker 2: I mean that this is what I said in the

764
00:37:14,960 --> 00:37:20,120
Speaker 2: last episode of keep you know, calling us out and

765
00:37:20,200 --> 00:37:23,120
Speaker 2: keep holding us accountable. I think first of all, I

766
00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:25,640
Speaker 2: just want to say thank you for still listening, Like

767
00:37:25,680 --> 00:37:27,479
Speaker 2: the fact that you left the group a year ago

768
00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:30,680
Speaker 2: and you've continued to listen and hear what we have

769
00:37:30,760 --> 00:37:35,920
Speaker 2: to say is like thank you for doing that. Because

770
00:37:36,800 --> 00:37:39,759
Speaker 2: when I get frustrated with something, I normally just write

771
00:37:39,800 --> 00:37:44,040
Speaker 2: it off and then I'm done. I don't want to

772
00:37:44,040 --> 00:37:48,239
Speaker 2: discredit who having Natalie Cherry on last week as our

773
00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:53,960
Speaker 2: listener just because she hasn't experienced as much racism in

774
00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:56,120
Speaker 2: her life as maybe someone else. I don't want to

775
00:37:56,120 --> 00:37:59,080
Speaker 2: discredit the fact that she actually did right before that

776
00:37:59,120 --> 00:38:02,280
Speaker 2: podcast experienerience it, because that was kind of the point

777
00:38:02,360 --> 00:38:05,880
Speaker 2: of like people thinking that that's that it's not happening,

778
00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:08,040
Speaker 2: and that was just showing it is happening. She went

779
00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:11,319
Speaker 2: her whole life and then just recently, more than ever,

780
00:38:11,360 --> 00:38:14,560
Speaker 2: where you think it's done, someone says something to her

781
00:38:15,200 --> 00:38:20,759
Speaker 2: and kind of takes shifts her brain, probably completely. And

782
00:38:21,760 --> 00:38:24,240
Speaker 2: I we wanted to have her on because she wanted

783
00:38:24,239 --> 00:38:26,600
Speaker 2: to share sources for people to learn. And I think

784
00:38:26,640 --> 00:38:29,680
Speaker 2: everyone is learning a lot, everyone's listening a lot, and

785
00:38:30,560 --> 00:38:34,920
Speaker 2: it is there is a lot of unknown of saying

786
00:38:35,080 --> 00:38:38,280
Speaker 2: the wrong thing or not saying enough or saying enough,

787
00:38:38,360 --> 00:38:43,480
Speaker 2: but then someone else getting hurt, and so like continue

788
00:38:43,520 --> 00:38:46,040
Speaker 2: to challenge us, And I'm sorry that you don't feel

789
00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 2: like we've taken a big enough stand and that you

790
00:38:49,280 --> 00:38:54,000
Speaker 2: were bullied and bullied out of the Facebook group, Like

791
00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:57,160
Speaker 2: I don't want that to be the case. I think overall,

792
00:38:57,480 --> 00:39:00,759
Speaker 2: when we say how great the Facebook group is, overall,

793
00:39:00,920 --> 00:39:05,400
Speaker 2: at least from a big perspective, it is one of

794
00:39:05,440 --> 00:39:09,359
Speaker 2: the kinder groups that I've seen on the internet. So

795
00:39:11,400 --> 00:39:16,840
Speaker 2: hearing that someone was basically bullied out makes me mad.

796
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:22,600
Speaker 2: It makes me feel really frustrated and upset. But I

797
00:39:22,680 --> 00:39:25,360
Speaker 2: just wanted to say sorry. I don't want to defend

798
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:28,920
Speaker 2: anything we're all we are all learning and that means

799
00:39:28,920 --> 00:39:33,880
Speaker 2: finding our voice, and it sometimes for certain personality types,

800
00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 2: just speaking up on something is a big deal. So

801
00:39:39,040 --> 00:39:44,279
Speaker 2: just know that there is intention of doing better and

802
00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:47,560
Speaker 2: saying more and being more aware of what people are

803
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:50,880
Speaker 2: saying in the Facebook group and to each other online.

804
00:39:51,080 --> 00:39:53,799
Speaker 2: And I'm sorry that it came to the point where

805
00:39:53,840 --> 00:39:57,520
Speaker 2: you left the group and were frustrated and hurt.

806
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:01,959
Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean, I honestly, I'm sorry for saying that

807
00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:07,080
Speaker 8: it's okay. People make mistakes, although I I do believe that,

808
00:40:07,120 --> 00:40:09,960
Speaker 8: you know, it's like my intention is always from a

809
00:40:09,960 --> 00:40:13,680
Speaker 8: good place, Like I don't feel like anybody is in

810
00:40:13,719 --> 00:40:16,920
Speaker 8: my from what I feel in our Facebook group and

811
00:40:16,960 --> 00:40:20,239
Speaker 8: from our listeners, I feel like everybody is very encouraging.

812
00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:22,040
Speaker 8: So it is like, you know, I didn't know what

813
00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:23,920
Speaker 8: was going on, and I'm not I'm not on the

814
00:40:23,960 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 8: Facebook group as much as I should be probably monitoring.

815
00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:28,840
Speaker 8: I'm not seeing everything that's going on. So it's like

816
00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:34,000
Speaker 8: I shouldn't speak to that if I don't know. So

817
00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:36,440
Speaker 8: you know, that's the last thing I want to do,

818
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:39,040
Speaker 8: is like, you know, make you feel even worse by

819
00:40:39,040 --> 00:40:41,640
Speaker 8: saying that that it's okay. Because it's not okay, you know,

820
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:46,000
Speaker 8: to make anybody feel that way. So I apologize, but

821
00:40:46,080 --> 00:40:53,400
Speaker 8: again with the with speaking about it, it does it.

822
00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:58,360
Speaker 8: It's like, you know, we're all kind of you can't expect,

823
00:40:58,440 --> 00:41:02,319
Speaker 8: Like I feel like my I don't know the word

824
00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:04,799
Speaker 8: is blinders were just pulled off and I just kind

825
00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:07,440
Speaker 8: of uncovered so much that I didn't even realize. And

826
00:41:07,520 --> 00:41:11,160
Speaker 8: so it's like you can't go from just the best

827
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:13,080
Speaker 8: analogy I heard from somebody was like you need to

828
00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:15,759
Speaker 8: have a little bit of grace in terms of you

829
00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:18,279
Speaker 8: can't just come out of the womb and expect to

830
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:19,319
Speaker 8: be running the next day.

831
00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:22,480
Speaker 3: You know, you have to like crawl and walk and

832
00:41:22,840 --> 00:41:23,319
Speaker 3: you know what I mean.

833
00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:25,480
Speaker 8: So it's like I'm just kind of in that process

834
00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:28,800
Speaker 8: right now, and.

835
00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:33,120
Speaker 3: That's where I'm at.

836
00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:38,480
Speaker 4: Please and here's please report, just please report anybody who's

837
00:41:38,560 --> 00:41:41,520
Speaker 4: causing those kinds of problems on the Facebook. We'd much

838
00:41:41,600 --> 00:41:45,719
Speaker 4: rather get rid of them than lose you. So I

839
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:47,920
Speaker 4: have to feign ignorance. I'm not even sure what the

840
00:41:47,920 --> 00:41:52,680
Speaker 4: processes of reporting somebody. I know, Crystal Mazada is moderates

841
00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:54,319
Speaker 4: all that stuff, so if you want to let her know,

842
00:41:54,680 --> 00:41:56,560
Speaker 4: But I don't. We really don't want that sort of

843
00:41:56,560 --> 00:42:00,480
Speaker 4: behavior in the Facebook. We want it to be Apparently

844
00:42:00,480 --> 00:42:02,520
Speaker 4: we were imagining it was a nicer place than it is.

845
00:42:02,560 --> 00:42:04,239
Speaker 4: We wanted to get to the level that we thought

846
00:42:04,239 --> 00:42:04,600
Speaker 4: it was.

847
00:42:05,360 --> 00:42:07,319
Speaker 3: And I believe it was there at some point.

848
00:42:08,719 --> 00:42:12,360
Speaker 2: I think I think the thing is is that I've

849
00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:14,600
Speaker 2: noticed and some of the messages I've got, is that

850
00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:17,600
Speaker 2: people of color have not felt really like it's a

851
00:42:17,680 --> 00:42:22,040
Speaker 2: safe place to post all the time and have conversations.

852
00:42:22,080 --> 00:42:24,799
Speaker 2: And therefore all we're seeing are people who kind of

853
00:42:25,200 --> 00:42:27,840
Speaker 2: all look the same and think the same. And of

854
00:42:27,880 --> 00:42:30,880
Speaker 2: course it's nice because it's you know, everyone with the

855
00:42:30,920 --> 00:42:34,840
Speaker 2: same like beliefs, and you know, in like that's just

856
00:42:35,120 --> 00:42:37,960
Speaker 2: what's to be expected if that's the case. But I'm

857
00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:43,000
Speaker 2: realizing that there is a disconnect of you know, we're

858
00:42:43,000 --> 00:42:47,839
Speaker 2: two white girls who are are learning and who, like

859
00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:49,919
Speaker 2: you said, have just had the blinders pulled off, who

860
00:42:49,960 --> 00:42:52,759
Speaker 2: all their life thought I was taught to love everybody.

861
00:42:53,160 --> 00:42:57,400
Speaker 2: But our system as a society is favored towards white people,

862
00:42:57,760 --> 00:43:02,799
Speaker 2: so anyone who is not white has a disadvantage just

863
00:43:02,880 --> 00:43:07,120
Speaker 2: for their skin color, and so that it resonates in everything,

864
00:43:07,200 --> 00:43:08,719
Speaker 2: Like I don't know if you've gotten to the part

865
00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:12,880
Speaker 2: of white fragility white fragility, but the statistics of like

866
00:43:13,920 --> 00:43:15,440
Speaker 2: did you see have you gotten to where it's the

867
00:43:15,640 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 2: statistics of like like teachers that are black CEOs, the

868
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:23,719
Speaker 2: richest people in America one hundred percent white, Like it's

869
00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:27,239
Speaker 2: shocking and pretty eye opening. So I just want to say,

870
00:43:27,920 --> 00:43:32,640
Speaker 2: like Mark said, report things that and if you're white

871
00:43:32,880 --> 00:43:36,480
Speaker 2: more so than than people of color having to do this,

872
00:43:36,560 --> 00:43:38,560
Speaker 2: if you see something that you know in your heart

873
00:43:38,600 --> 00:43:42,560
Speaker 2: is not right and it's gonna and it's bullying or

874
00:43:42,600 --> 00:43:47,720
Speaker 2: it's racist towards someone, report it because some I mean Tanya,

875
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:50,279
Speaker 2: I mean Tanya, like she said, she's not on it

876
00:43:50,320 --> 00:43:52,200
Speaker 2: that much. I'm on it a lot, but there's still

877
00:43:52,239 --> 00:43:54,719
Speaker 2: there's thirty thousand people in that group, Like it's hard

878
00:43:54,719 --> 00:43:58,480
Speaker 2: to catch everything that's going on. So just report it,

879
00:43:58,480 --> 00:44:02,480
Speaker 2: and sometimes it takes. It's gonna be our our fight

880
00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:05,719
Speaker 2: as white people who are just realizing to stand up

881
00:44:05,760 --> 00:44:07,799
Speaker 2: for people who have not been stood up for and

882
00:44:07,840 --> 00:44:10,520
Speaker 2: not been able to stand up for themselves. So I

883
00:44:10,560 --> 00:44:12,960
Speaker 2: think that is a that email is really eye opening

884
00:44:13,040 --> 00:44:16,560
Speaker 2: to seeing what's really going on instead of us just

885
00:44:16,600 --> 00:44:19,600
Speaker 2: thinking it's this blissfully happy place, which there's a lot

886
00:44:19,600 --> 00:44:21,400
Speaker 2: of good in it. I've seen a lot of great

887
00:44:21,440 --> 00:44:23,399
Speaker 2: things in there. But I want it to be good

888
00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:26,840
Speaker 2: for everybody. And I don't want people to feel like

889
00:44:26,880 --> 00:44:28,960
Speaker 2: they can't be apart because they don't fit in. Because

890
00:44:29,000 --> 00:44:32,839
Speaker 2: what's the point of having a great kindness group if

891
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:34,239
Speaker 2: it's not kind to everybody?

892
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:40,799
Speaker 4: Well said, I have a game for us, for all

893
00:44:40,840 --> 00:44:44,800
Speaker 4: of you who love Friends, raise Anatomy and Section the City.

894
00:44:46,640 --> 00:44:47,080
Speaker 5: And that's me.

895
00:44:48,200 --> 00:44:51,719
Speaker 2: Friends and Grays I got but Sex and City, how

896
00:44:51,760 --> 00:44:54,480
Speaker 2: you challenge me? All right, we'll be back.

897
00:45:11,920 --> 00:45:13,439
Speaker 5: All right, here's how this is gonna work.

898
00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:16,520
Speaker 4: I have come up with obscure characters from all of

899
00:45:16,560 --> 00:45:18,880
Speaker 4: these shows, and you will have to tell me if

900
00:45:18,880 --> 00:45:21,480
Speaker 4: they are an obscure character from Grays, Sex and the

901
00:45:21,480 --> 00:45:23,120
Speaker 4: City or Friends. You do not have to tell me

902
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:25,279
Speaker 4: who they are editing. You can just kind of guess

903
00:45:25,280 --> 00:45:26,960
Speaker 4: if you want to, and then I'll explain who they were,

904
00:45:27,000 --> 00:45:30,640
Speaker 4: But I'll name an obscure character first and last game.

905
00:45:31,200 --> 00:45:33,920
Speaker 4: You tell me Grays, Sex and the City or Friends. Okay, ready,

906
00:45:34,840 --> 00:45:37,320
Speaker 4: all right, Tom, I actually want you rock paper scissors

907
00:45:37,360 --> 00:45:39,640
Speaker 4: to see who goes first. It's the first person to

908
00:45:39,680 --> 00:45:40,600
Speaker 4: get three correct.

909
00:45:40,600 --> 00:45:41,320
Speaker 5: As our champion.

910
00:45:42,080 --> 00:45:44,480
Speaker 4: I'll just say one, two three shoot, and then you

911
00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:50,320
Speaker 4: guys shoot. Okay, here we go one two three shoot. Okay,

912
00:45:50,320 --> 00:45:53,840
Speaker 4: both scissors. Here we go again, one two three shoot,

913
00:45:56,640 --> 00:45:57,600
Speaker 4: paper covers rock.

914
00:45:57,680 --> 00:45:59,880
Speaker 5: Tanya wins. All right, Tanya, here is your first one.

915
00:46:00,280 --> 00:46:01,240
Speaker 3: Okay.

916
00:46:02,000 --> 00:46:03,719
Speaker 5: Elizabeth Stephens.

917
00:46:06,320 --> 00:46:07,000
Speaker 3: Gray's anatomy.

918
00:46:08,239 --> 00:46:10,360
Speaker 4: I'm sorry that it's incorrect, and we don't have a

919
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:11,760
Speaker 4: buzzer because we're not in the studio.

920
00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:15,719
Speaker 5: Elizabeth Stevens with the student Ross dates in season six.

921
00:46:15,840 --> 00:46:17,640
Speaker 5: Her dad was played by Bruce Willis.

922
00:46:18,320 --> 00:46:19,120
Speaker 3: I know that girl.

923
00:46:19,239 --> 00:46:19,800
Speaker 5: Of course you do.

924
00:46:21,120 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 4: Next, Becca, this is yours, bram Walker Gray's anatomies. That

925
00:46:30,200 --> 00:46:31,960
Speaker 4: is right, very good.

926
00:46:31,840 --> 00:46:35,200
Speaker 3: Becca, who is bram Walker?

927
00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:39,160
Speaker 4: Bram Walker dated Charlotte in season two and always fell

928
00:46:39,200 --> 00:46:44,000
Speaker 4: asleep during the act at least once. All right, telling

929
00:46:44,040 --> 00:46:49,399
Speaker 4: you back to you. Donald Ledbetter, I am not known

930
00:46:49,640 --> 00:46:51,799
Speaker 4: one of these. Well, Becca's winning so far, so you

931
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:52,720
Speaker 4: can't need this one.

932
00:46:53,040 --> 00:46:57,200
Speaker 3: Donald Ledbetter friends right.

933
00:46:58,080 --> 00:47:01,200
Speaker 4: Oh. Season five, Ross his boss at the museum, made

934
00:47:01,239 --> 00:47:03,120
Speaker 4: his leftover turkey sandwich from Thanksgiving.

935
00:47:03,680 --> 00:47:04,239
Speaker 3: I remember him.

936
00:47:04,239 --> 00:47:06,840
Speaker 4: Wow, of course you do. Becca, Back to you. The

937
00:47:06,840 --> 00:47:10,520
Speaker 4: game is tied one to one. Lauren Boswell who is

938
00:47:10,600 --> 00:47:14,200
Speaker 4: Lauren Boswell? Becca, let me tell you that.

939
00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:21,240
Speaker 2: Peyton Sawyer aka Hillary Burton.

940
00:47:22,000 --> 00:47:23,920
Speaker 5: Wow, that was impressive.

941
00:47:24,600 --> 00:47:25,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I did not remember her name.

942
00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:30,680
Speaker 4: Season nine, Becca that you were not not confident going

943
00:47:30,719 --> 00:47:34,040
Speaker 4: into this game, but you were doing well. All right, Tanya,

944
00:47:34,120 --> 00:47:36,000
Speaker 4: back to you. This is round three, so you kind

945
00:47:36,000 --> 00:47:36,800
Speaker 4: of need this one.

946
00:47:38,960 --> 00:47:40,239
Speaker 3: I have not known one so far.

947
00:47:40,440 --> 00:47:42,320
Speaker 5: So Renee Collier.

948
00:47:45,480 --> 00:47:47,920
Speaker 3: Sexon City, I'm sorry.

949
00:47:48,040 --> 00:47:50,040
Speaker 5: No, she was on Gray's Anatomy as well.

950
00:47:50,360 --> 00:47:53,160
Speaker 4: She was working at the National Institute of Health when

951
00:47:53,239 --> 00:47:55,200
Speaker 4: Derek was there and they kissed.

952
00:47:56,000 --> 00:47:59,800
Speaker 8: Oh in season elever No, I definitely.

953
00:48:00,160 --> 00:48:03,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, he cheated and then he came back and then

954
00:48:03,400 --> 00:48:04,200
Speaker 2: then he died.

955
00:48:07,120 --> 00:48:09,960
Speaker 4: I think we're good. All right, Beca, this is for

956
00:48:10,040 --> 00:48:12,799
Speaker 4: the win. Now, this will be your third one, right

957
00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:16,520
Speaker 4: if you can get it. And your name is Melissa Warburton.

958
00:48:20,160 --> 00:48:21,600
Speaker 2: I'm gonna go to Sex and the City.

959
00:48:21,680 --> 00:48:23,840
Speaker 5: Oh, I'm sorry. She was fresh.

960
00:48:24,960 --> 00:48:28,320
Speaker 4: She was played by Winona Ryder, one of Rachels Sorority's sisters.

961
00:48:28,360 --> 00:48:29,000
Speaker 5: They made out.

962
00:48:31,920 --> 00:48:33,000
Speaker 3: I didn't remember her either.

963
00:48:33,440 --> 00:48:35,919
Speaker 4: All right, we're going around four now it is two

964
00:48:36,000 --> 00:48:41,080
Speaker 4: for Becca, one for Tanya. Here we go, Tanya Alexander Lindley.

965
00:48:43,880 --> 00:48:45,160
Speaker 3: This name sounds familiar.

966
00:48:45,200 --> 00:48:46,640
Speaker 4: All right, you can tie it up here if you

967
00:48:46,640 --> 00:48:53,440
Speaker 4: get this right. Grace, Sex and the City.

968
00:48:53,719 --> 00:48:55,640
Speaker 5: Becca knew that one. Do you know who he was?

969
00:48:56,560 --> 00:48:57,399
Speaker 2: Did he take care?

970
00:48:57,600 --> 00:49:00,560
Speaker 4: No, he did it Charlotte and verbally berated her while

971
00:49:00,560 --> 00:49:01,359
Speaker 4: they were doing it.

972
00:49:01,760 --> 00:49:03,480
Speaker 3: That was Alexander Petrowsky.

973
00:49:03,800 --> 00:49:06,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, So that was actually lucky, guess

974
00:49:07,000 --> 00:49:09,399
Speaker 2: because I was thinking, Alexander, there you go, all.

975
00:49:09,360 --> 00:49:11,239
Speaker 5: Right, Beca, this is for the win now for you,

976
00:49:12,160 --> 00:49:14,279
Speaker 5: all right, reed, Adamson.

977
00:49:15,200 --> 00:49:18,200
Speaker 2: Oh that's frat me. She was the intern that got shot.

978
00:49:18,480 --> 00:49:23,520
Speaker 4: Wow, good, very good. That is a win and well deserved. Becka,

979
00:49:23,600 --> 00:49:25,440
Speaker 4: you know your stuff. That was really nice.

980
00:49:25,520 --> 00:49:26,960
Speaker 3: I did not know one of these.

981
00:49:28,520 --> 00:49:32,279
Speaker 5: Point is success and just because I pulled it.

982
00:49:32,320 --> 00:49:34,759
Speaker 4: The only one we didn't get to is Thomas John Anderson,

983
00:49:34,800 --> 00:49:38,000
Speaker 4: who was Miranda's boyfriend who always has to shower immediately

984
00:49:38,040 --> 00:49:39,640
Speaker 4: after the act on section the City.

985
00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:41,839
Speaker 3: I remember him.

986
00:49:41,920 --> 00:49:42,080
Speaker 2: Yeah.

987
00:49:44,719 --> 00:49:46,640
Speaker 8: I was used to like not want to be a Miranda,

988
00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:49,239
Speaker 8: like I was like, and now I'm like, way more

989
00:49:49,280 --> 00:49:50,440
Speaker 8: of a Miranda than I think.

990
00:49:50,760 --> 00:49:53,560
Speaker 5: But you are a Charlotte, so you say yes, yeah.

991
00:49:53,360 --> 00:49:57,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, Charlotte. For sure, I'm Charlotte. But I like

992
00:49:57,080 --> 00:49:57,719
Speaker 3: I'll just love that.

993
00:49:57,880 --> 00:49:59,960
Speaker 8: Like Miranda was such like a modern woman, you know,

994
00:50:00,040 --> 00:50:02,719
Speaker 8: I mean she was just like career and like, ah.

995
00:50:03,440 --> 00:50:06,200
Speaker 2: It feels good to be a winner of the quiz.

996
00:50:08,200 --> 00:50:10,840
Speaker 2: It felt good to actually know and not just like

997
00:50:11,239 --> 00:50:19,239
Speaker 2: randomly guessing. That's hard, all right, Well, everyone, take care

998
00:50:19,239 --> 00:50:23,920
Speaker 2: of yourselves, Educate yourselves, be aware of what's going on.

999
00:50:24,640 --> 00:50:27,759
Speaker 2: Be kind if if you have an opinion, especially I'm

1000
00:50:27,800 --> 00:50:31,560
Speaker 2: talking to the Facebook group, and just have conversations with

1001
00:50:31,640 --> 00:50:34,239
Speaker 2: each other, have dialogue with each other. Don't go on

1002
00:50:34,280 --> 00:50:37,680
Speaker 2: the defense, don't go on the attack immediately, try to

1003
00:50:37,920 --> 00:50:41,400
Speaker 2: just teach each other. Like I've had so many people

1004
00:50:41,480 --> 00:50:43,879
Speaker 2: DM me and they're like, I know that they want

1005
00:50:43,880 --> 00:50:46,080
Speaker 2: to just get in an argument with me, and I've

1006
00:50:46,160 --> 00:50:49,919
Speaker 2: just calmly responded with what I'm learning and facts about

1007
00:50:49,960 --> 00:50:53,480
Speaker 2: what I've learned. It's just been a constructive conversation of

1008
00:50:53,719 --> 00:50:57,799
Speaker 2: understanding each other and also understanding what's going on.

1009
00:50:57,960 --> 00:51:00,000
Speaker 3: So, I mean, for sure, me too. Everybody.

1010
00:51:00,160 --> 00:51:02,520
Speaker 8: He was messaging me about things I said last week

1011
00:51:02,520 --> 00:51:05,080
Speaker 8: that were offensive and I had no idea, and I'm

1012
00:51:05,120 --> 00:51:07,200
Speaker 8: like the first to say I'm sorry, you know, like

1013
00:51:07,280 --> 00:51:11,239
Speaker 8: I'm I'm trying and I'm learning and and I'm not

1014
00:51:11,400 --> 00:51:13,319
Speaker 8: like trying to defend myself in any way because I

1015
00:51:13,400 --> 00:51:15,200
Speaker 8: understand that like that's also part of the.

1016
00:51:15,120 --> 00:51:16,080
Speaker 3: Problem, you know what I mean.

1017
00:51:16,160 --> 00:51:21,640
Speaker 9: Like yeah, and if like if you're listening to podcast

1018
00:51:22,440 --> 00:51:25,640
Speaker 9: and you're like that's so wrong or that is not accurate,

1019
00:51:25,760 --> 00:51:27,000
Speaker 9: then correct us.

1020
00:51:27,080 --> 00:51:30,879
Speaker 2: Like we're we're human beings and so just we're we're

1021
00:51:30,920 --> 00:51:33,800
Speaker 2: here to listen to y'all because you're who we're talking.

1022
00:51:34,200 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 2: You are who we do this for. So we're open

1023
00:51:38,160 --> 00:51:42,640
Speaker 2: to criticism and encouragement and anything that you want to

1024
00:51:42,680 --> 00:51:47,640
Speaker 2: send us. It is open Mike Central. So we love

1025
00:51:47,680 --> 00:51:50,480
Speaker 2: you guys, and we will see you next week or

1026
00:51:50,520 --> 00:51:50,680
Speaker 2: talk

1027
00:51:50,719 --> 00:52:02,000
Speaker 3: To love you, Bye bye,