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Speaker 1: for the next two minutes or so. My husband's ex

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Speaker 1: wife lost her high paying job. Now my children's education

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Speaker 1: is in jeopardy. Not the kids. Doo doo doo doo

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Speaker 1: doo doo doo. I am forty two female with two

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Speaker 1: I have been married to Greg, forty four male, who

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Speaker 1: had a son fifteen male and daughter ten female with

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Speaker 1: his Exlia. We met at our children's school. Danny and

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Speaker 1: I jointly fund our children's private school and they have

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Speaker 1: college funds set up by both sets of grandparents. He

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Speaker 1: is loaded. Oh yeah, by the way, this comes from

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Speaker 1: not a doormat at Naomi. And if you want some

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Speaker 1: of your own stories, go to the r slash Okay

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Speaker 1: story Time. So illbredd it. So my ex and I

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Speaker 1: don't like each other, but we copare it well. And

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Speaker 1: want the best for the kids. Greg and I have

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Speaker 1: decided that the things we buy and treat kids with

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Speaker 1: are equal at home, but school and college funds won't

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Speaker 1: be mixed as our exes are involved, as well as

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Speaker 1: gifts from ex partners. We've had to teach the kids

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Speaker 1: the differences about the income when it comes to my

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Speaker 1: ex's kids. The kids are nice to each other and

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Speaker 1: share things, although they definitely love their bio siblings way more.

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Speaker 1: Greg and his ex jointly fund their children's education too,

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Speaker 1: but Lyya lost her job recently and has had to downgrade.

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Speaker 1: That means they can't pay for the same school. They

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Speaker 1: had to change schools. Now. He is pressuring me that

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Speaker 1: his kids hate that my children go to a bigger

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Speaker 1: international school and we should change schools after summer. So

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Speaker 1: basically asking to compromise on their child's education because they

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Speaker 1: can't afford it. The grandparents are of that so Greg

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Speaker 1: and his ex op is forty two female, Yes right

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Speaker 1: has an ex Danny. Greg has an ex Layah. Greg

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Speaker 1: Liyah has a partner and Danny has a partner right

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Speaker 1: So and also the grandparents have like Danny and them

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Speaker 1: fund the children's private school. The Danny her ex and Danny.

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Speaker 2: Is loaded, right, we are caught up.

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Speaker 1: Let me know if we need to bring out the whiteboard.

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Speaker 1: So basically, and then what happened is Greg and his

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Speaker 1: ex we're doing, you know, private school. But then Liya

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Speaker 1: Joss's job couldn't lost her job and they couldn't afford

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Speaker 1: it anymore. And Greg's like, you should you should downgrade too,

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Speaker 1: And this is like Opie and Greg are currently dating. Yes,

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Speaker 1: so I told him that my kids' education can't be compromised,

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Speaker 1: and it was clear to us that we are responsible

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Speaker 1: for our children's school as well as college education. We

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Speaker 1: are fighting a lot on this, and he is saying

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Speaker 1: I'm being too tough. He's sleeping in the other room.

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Speaker 1: But I won't change anything regarding my children, and my

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Speaker 1: ex alone can pay for the children's education even if

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Speaker 1: I try to do this. And also, my kids will

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Speaker 1: never forgive me. I love Greg, but this is the

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Speaker 1: hill I will pass away on. I don't think you

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Speaker 1: would have changed his kids' schools if this were the case.

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Speaker 1: On my side, even if it means I have to

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Speaker 1: lose him, I'm hurting inside, but I want the best

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Speaker 1: for my children. There is an edit, There is an update,

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Speaker 1: but yeah, John, what do you think about this so far?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I mean basically you shouldn't have to change your I

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Speaker 3: think like the shid is like if the scenario was reversed, like,

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Speaker 3: would you say the same thing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, No, you should never compromise your children's education.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely not definitely not so edit.

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Speaker 1: I can't take the solo decision on my children's education.

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Speaker 1: My ex will drag me to court and mine wash

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Speaker 1: the kids against me. And second, stop sending spicy sleep messages.

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Speaker 1: I am not interested in cheating on my husband. Oh no,

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Speaker 1: And everyone says Opie is not the a hole, but

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Speaker 1: there are some relevant comments, So this is the downvoted commenter.

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Speaker 1: Everyone's the a hole. Honestly, it just seems like a

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Speaker 1: get another job, then switching makes sense. If all this

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Speaker 1: He responds, there is no pride here. First, my ex

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Speaker 1: never agree to it. If I'm just trying to please

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Speaker 1: can't just bring money out of nowhere to pay for

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Speaker 1: their schools. My eldest has entered eleventh grade, and this

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Speaker 1: school's main focus is on getting kids to top colleges

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Speaker 1: in my country. Uprooting the kids will cause more damage

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Speaker 1: to their career aspects, and I can't compromise on their future.

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Speaker 1: I mean especially like eleventh grade. That's that's that's junior

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it would be a huge, huge uproot of not

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Speaker 3: just their life and like some of the final most

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Speaker 3: also they're like future chances of success in their career

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Speaker 3: and yeah, all that jazz being commentor too.

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Speaker 1: The generous thing to do would be to help pay

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Speaker 1: Being the better person versus passing away on hills is

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Speaker 1: something to consider given the long term effect of the situation,

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Speaker 1: Opi responds. The thing is, we don't have much money

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Speaker 1: budget and our retirements. How long has Ope been with Greg,

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Speaker 1: Opi responds five years in another downloaded comment, he should

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Speaker 1: have found someone who would love his kids as their own.

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Speaker 1: If those were both of their kids, they would be paying. Again,

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Speaker 1: this is not about Ope not loving these her step kids.

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Speaker 1: It's more that she has an agreement with her ex

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Speaker 1: And if the dad doesn't want his kids moving schools

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Speaker 1: I don't see any reason for this to change. You know,

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Speaker 1: from trees? How can I control my ax? He can

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Speaker 1: afford to send my kids to Harvard. He will give

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Speaker 1: you expect me to compete with that? How can I

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Speaker 1: control it? Tell me Sherlock. I care for them, but

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Speaker 1: some things aren't in my hands, which include my excess

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Speaker 1: decisions regarding our children. I gift same things to each kid.

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Speaker 1: I contribute more than half of our budget for the household.

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Speaker 1: I don't have extra cash lying around in another downpoad

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Speaker 1: they wanted. I personally think it's toxic that this is

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Speaker 1: throwing shots today. Yeah, OPI responds. They don't want to

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Speaker 1: the school. And there is a big, fat, juicy update.

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Speaker 1: Nanta Lisa Chreila says he is not a single dad.

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Speaker 1: There is a mom in the picture. Yeah, neither of

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it's about supporting the kids at the

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Speaker 3: end of the day, right, So yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: And I just I feel like it's it's just ridiculous

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Speaker 1: you know, like, yeah, it just doesn't doesn't make anything.

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Speaker 1: It makes it makes it.

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Speaker 3: You should want the absolute best in whatever that scenario

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Speaker 3: ends up being for any given child. If that opportunity

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Speaker 2: Why not?

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Speaker 1: So update. I got lots of support as well as criticism.

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Speaker 1: People told me I should have married a rich guy again. Sorry,

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Speaker 1: love doesn't ask for a bank balance. Some said I

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Speaker 1: the update. After I made this shread the same day,

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Speaker 1: I told Greg that I can't continue. I told him

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Speaker 1: expectations are going over the top. Tomorrow, Danny might gift

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Speaker 1: He transfers businesses to his kids, would we expect them

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Speaker 1: of debt and she is with all his salary changes

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Speaker 1: and little compromises here, like one vacation of a year

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Speaker 1: step child. I will contribute some to it too, Greg Sun,

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Speaker 1: who is fifteen and is in tenth class, so we

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Speaker 1: can afford his fees for three years. Ten female would

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Speaker 1: still need to go to a cheaper school for three

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Speaker 1: years if Leah's and Greg's financial condition doesn't change, which

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Speaker 1: might change in the future. But when her brother passes

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Speaker 1: out in three years, he will transfer back to a

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Speaker 1: you know, full education. The other kid is not. But

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Speaker 1: it matters less because the kid is like younger yeah,

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Speaker 1: but ten yeah, yeah. The kid is happy and even

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Speaker 1: in other ways. I know many asked to divorce, but

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Speaker 3: He said no because he doesn't like driving my car.

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Speaker 1: So Opie's wrist is broken and she's essentially asking her

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Speaker 1: If you're not willing to learn stick shift for your

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Speaker 1: He already knows it, but he just he just doesn't

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Speaker 1: Voted voted voted by eighth grade class.

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Speaker 1: But let's see what the comments have to say. I

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Speaker 2: You're right. I don't believe.

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Speaker 1: I know they're the prettiest eyes in eighth grade.

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Speaker 1: Yeah it's not, it's not.

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Speaker 3: But on to these debatable comments, ang Flew says, he

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Speaker 3: I actually did like Op's take on that where it's like,

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Speaker 3: he doesn't owe me. I mean I didn't let him

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Speaker 3: use my car, so one day I could throw it

436
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Speaker 3: in his face and be like, well.

437
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Speaker 1: I let you use my card.

438
00:21:16,359 --> 00:21:19,840
Speaker 3: But also I did do that, and the inconvenience was

439
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Speaker 3: greater for me than it would be for him. Ang

440
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Speaker 3: flu responds, he owes you because you're his wife and

441
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Speaker 3: you need help that he can give.

442
00:21:27,200 --> 00:21:29,040
Speaker 1: Owes you, he should just like do it.

443
00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:32,199
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like that's the beauty of a partnership. As

444
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Speaker 3: you are, you want to help.

445
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Speaker 1: Things for each other. Yeah, you love each other.

446
00:21:36,960 --> 00:21:40,080
Speaker 3: And again the context of he's literally a sleep so

447
00:21:40,359 --> 00:21:43,080
Speaker 3: it really would be very little skin off of his

448
00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:45,720
Speaker 3: nose for her to use the car, so it kind

449
00:21:45,720 --> 00:21:48,840
Speaker 3: of crazy. Zombie Nugget says he needs to step up

450
00:21:48,960 --> 00:21:53,399
Speaker 3: or GTFO tell him he's being immature and lame, and

451
00:21:53,440 --> 00:21:55,480
Speaker 3: if he doesn't let you use his car, you'll just

452
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Speaker 3: take time off from work and he can pay the bills.

453
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Speaker 3: Gar Raz honestly, honestly, considering you do all the yard work,

454
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Speaker 3: it shouldn't be a big ask.

455
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Speaker 1: Hope he applies to that.

456
00:22:06,320 --> 00:22:08,520
Speaker 3: We can't make it on just his income alone, and

457
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Speaker 3: I won't be able to pay my part in full

458
00:22:11,640 --> 00:22:14,040
Speaker 3: if I have to spend sixty dollars per day on uber.

459
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Speaker 3: I don't know what he expects to happen. I also

460
00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:19,160
Speaker 3: don't do all the yard work. I was just doing

461
00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:21,960
Speaker 3: some and fell I was picking up sticks and leaves

462
00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:24,959
Speaker 3: from the winter so he could mow the lawn. And

463
00:22:25,000 --> 00:22:28,359
Speaker 3: then abject director seventy six to twenty six says, well,

464
00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:31,280
Speaker 3: that's the thing he needs to understand. If he doesn't

465
00:22:31,320 --> 00:22:34,160
Speaker 3: help you get to work, you don't work, and then

466
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Speaker 3: your part becomes his part. It would all be his

467
00:22:37,880 --> 00:22:41,160
Speaker 3: part to pay. Is that what he wants? And then

468
00:22:41,200 --> 00:22:44,000
Speaker 3: Aaron Hood says, why is he being such a weianer

469
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Speaker 3: about switching cars. It's completely logical to switch cars. We

470
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Speaker 3: do have an update. So kel K says he's cheating.

471
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Speaker 1: That's what I don't want to. I don't want to

472
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Speaker 1: go straight to he's cheating. But I could see it.

473
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Speaker 3: You know what, just because dogs are out, just because

474
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Speaker 3: dogs put my.

475
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Speaker 1: Dog barking out. Here we go, Here we go, boom,

476
00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:10,360
Speaker 1: that's how you end up on foot find there we go.

477
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Speaker 3: Just to just to continue our theme of opposite day,

478
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Speaker 3: I'm going to go for the hail Mary, he's cheating.

479
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Speaker 1: I'm just gonna go for it and see I'm going

480
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Speaker 1: to hope that's not true. I was right on the

481
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Speaker 1: hail Mary before you were, you were, You're gonna be.

482
00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:24,280
Speaker 1: And I'm going to anti your hail Mary. Here we

483
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Speaker 1: go and believe they're just safely at home, not copulating

484
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Speaker 1: with people outside their marriage.

485
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Speaker 3: Well, let's see who wins today, Chad. This will be

486
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Speaker 3: fun updates. So I got a lot of advice on

487
00:23:35,080 --> 00:23:38,000
Speaker 3: my last post, some helpful, some not a lot of

488
00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:40,000
Speaker 3: people slammed him for not working more.

489
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Speaker 2: I want to clear that up.

490
00:23:41,160 --> 00:23:43,399
Speaker 3: He was working the same amount of hours as I was,

491
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Speaker 3: sometimes more, but his hours got cut at work. He's

492
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Speaker 3: been looking for a new job or a second one,

493
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Speaker 3: but hasn't had much luck. I know he has been

494
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:54,040
Speaker 3: looking and putting in the effort. That is not an issue,

495
00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:55,919
Speaker 3: but I sat down with him and said that we

496
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Speaker 3: really need to talk about this because I had to

497
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Speaker 3: go to work today Monday. I sat down and told

498
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Speaker 3: him I get he is having a hard time with

499
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:06,880
Speaker 3: his hours being cut and trying to navigate the job markets.

500
00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:09,320
Speaker 3: But I have a good job and I need to

501
00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:11,800
Speaker 3: get there and I can't afford to uber a car.

502
00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:15,119
Speaker 3: While I heal, we need to find a solution. He

503
00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:17,760
Speaker 3: kept talking in circles with the same reasons that I

504
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Speaker 3: mentioned in the last post.

505
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Speaker 2: I don't like driving your car. Yeah, uh so I'm

506
00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:24,919
Speaker 2: not gonna do it.

507
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Speaker 1: How about you learn ud Come on.

508
00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:31,399
Speaker 3: I don't know exactly what I said, but it was

509
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Speaker 3: something along the lines of that is not good enough

510
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Speaker 3: for me. I don't accept those reasons, and I don't

511
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Speaker 3: think they're true. What is the actual reason we.

512
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Speaker 1: Are married and partners? Why am I left hanging like this?

513
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Speaker 1: WEA I hope it's not cheating. I really hope it's

514
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Speaker 1: not cheating. So he finally told me the truth.

515
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Speaker 3: Ah, since his hours got cut, he hasn't been maintaining

516
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Speaker 3: his car. He had savings and maintained his car when

517
00:24:57,119 --> 00:24:59,240
Speaker 3: he worked more, but when his hours got cut, he

518
00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:02,399
Speaker 3: started using his savings to pay his part of the bills,

519
00:25:02,520 --> 00:25:05,320
Speaker 3: and when it ran low, he finally let me readjust

520
00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:08,080
Speaker 3: our spending. I pushed for it from the starts, but

521
00:25:08,160 --> 00:25:11,320
Speaker 3: he refused. But when his savings ran low, his car

522
00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:13,760
Speaker 3: started having problems and he couldn't afford to fix it.

523
00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:16,320
Speaker 3: He needs new tires, he needs new brakes that ac

524
00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:20,040
Speaker 3: has stopped working, and he also is well overdue for

525
00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:22,600
Speaker 3: an oil change. He used to keep up with his stuff,

526
00:25:22,600 --> 00:25:25,879
Speaker 3: but he hasn't because he's low on money. He was ashamed,

527
00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:27,960
Speaker 3: and he didn't want me to use his car or

528
00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:29,919
Speaker 3: ride in it because he didn't.

529
00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:31,520
Speaker 2: Want me to know how bad it was.

530
00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:37,720
Speaker 1: But like that's kind of cute honestly, though, Like it's

531
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Speaker 1: it's it's just like a little bit tragic because it's

532
00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:42,720
Speaker 1: like here he is like suffering in silence when I'm

533
00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:45,240
Speaker 1: sure she would be like, hey, how can I lend

534
00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:47,000
Speaker 1: a hand to Hell? Yeah, I know it's whacked that

535
00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:49,080
Speaker 1: he didn't say anything, but I feel like this is

536
00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:53,360
Speaker 1: way better of a situation and an outcome and him cheating.

537
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:53,840
Speaker 2: Better than cheating.

538
00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:56,680
Speaker 3: I will give beating. Hey, listen, there's still time. That's

539
00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:57,280
Speaker 3: like okay, So I.

540
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Speaker 1: Feel like that would be a great like milk, Like

541
00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 1: try all to Dina milk. It's better than cheating.

542
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:07,360
Speaker 3: That is a grat sl you just put that on anything. Yeah,

543
00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:10,879
Speaker 3: it's better than cheating, maybe like a gym or something. Yeah,

544
00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:13,720
Speaker 3: don't don't go out and find a find a secret lover,

545
00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:16,280
Speaker 3: go out and go Oh, I know what you're saying.

546
00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:19,160
Speaker 3: Like it's kind of like a sosho milk, Like it's

547
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:21,560
Speaker 3: just okay, but it's better than cheating.

548
00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:24,240
Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, yeah, we all know how great cheating is.

549
00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:29,359
Speaker 3: Samuel Donner twenty twenty five more quotes to the board.

550
00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:31,200
Speaker 3: So he was embarrassed, so he never bought it up.

551
00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:33,720
Speaker 3: So he has been driving an unsafe car and he

552
00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:36,520
Speaker 3: didn't want me to drive it. After a very long talk,

553
00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:39,440
Speaker 3: we came to a solution. I will buy him use tires.

554
00:26:39,760 --> 00:26:41,960
Speaker 3: They need to be done, but can wait a week

555
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:44,560
Speaker 3: as we get the set up. Yesterday we replaced the

556
00:26:44,560 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 3: brake pads and did an oil change. I couldn't physically

557
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:49,879
Speaker 3: help but I read him the steps and looked at

558
00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:52,800
Speaker 3: things when he wasn't sure. Love the love, the teamwork

559
00:26:52,840 --> 00:26:57,440
Speaker 3: there he his dad also helped over FaceTime. Between our brains,

560
00:26:57,480 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 3: we figured it out. We decided not to mess with

561
00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:02,040
Speaker 3: the ac because that's a comfort thing and not necessary,

562
00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 3: especially during this time of year. By the way, what

563
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:08,720
Speaker 3: what is necessary at all points.

564
00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:09,000
Speaker 2: Of the year.

565
00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:12,680
Speaker 1: I know what's necessary is listening.

566
00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:16,280
Speaker 3: To Okay story Time on Spotify, Apple and I heart

567
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:18,280
Speaker 3: where you're listening to podcasts and just just search Okay

568
00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:18,720
Speaker 3: story Time.

569
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:21,399
Speaker 1: We've got two thousand episodes striking do it. We got

570
00:27:21,560 --> 00:27:25,800
Speaker 1: episodes that will worm their way into your little ear holes. Yes.

571
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:28,040
Speaker 1: By the way, guys, why aren't you listening as much

572
00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 1: on the pod like we have many more people on

573
00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:32,560
Speaker 1: other places, So come join us over there, Come join

574
00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:33,120
Speaker 1: us on the pod.

575
00:27:33,240 --> 00:27:35,160
Speaker 3: Comment on Spotify if you're listening right now, it's great

576
00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:38,120
Speaker 3: to be honest, We'll say hi. But we are nearing

577
00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:41,040
Speaker 3: the end of the story. How are we feeling about

578
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:42,560
Speaker 3: the outcome of what has happened.

579
00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:44,840
Speaker 1: I'm glad he's not cheating. I'm glad you're still story

580
00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:48,040
Speaker 1: Leaf did not that's true. Story left right now, it's

581
00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:51,199
Speaker 1: feeling like you're hail Mary is not coming true. So

582
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:54,480
Speaker 1: that that makes me happy. I'm staying confident, doubling down,

583
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:58,639
Speaker 1: I am. I'm hoping. If you're Tom Brady, you're retiring

584
00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:00,639
Speaker 1: right now. You know what he's got to secret family,

585
00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:03,840
Speaker 1: got a secret family smooches just as much as his

586
00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:07,240
Speaker 1: regular family. He's given. He's getting a little, little little

587
00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:10,520
Speaker 1: French kisses to every That's why I can't afford child

588
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:14,720
Speaker 1: bank for a second. But he's smooching. Well, tom Brady

589
00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:16,480
Speaker 1: that he like kisses his kids on the lip.

590
00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:18,160
Speaker 2: Right, that's right, that's right.

591
00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:21,920
Speaker 1: Weird loves children, man, he loves he loves his kids.

592
00:28:21,960 --> 00:28:24,560
Speaker 1: To come on, I hate on a man for loving

593
00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:27,520
Speaker 1: his children. You know we're always saying men don't show affection.

594
00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:31,440
Speaker 1: Here tom Brady is being a beacon of light.

595
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:40,000
Speaker 3: Oh sorry, kids too much, I'm okay, sure, all right,

596
00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:43,840
Speaker 3: Well tom Brady's arrest aside, let's uh, let's close out

597
00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:44,520
Speaker 3: of this story here.

598
00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 2: So in all, he was.

599
00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:49,600
Speaker 3: Having a private struggle I wasn't aware of. I usually

600
00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:51,760
Speaker 3: don't go in his car, so I never noticed. And

601
00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 3: this morning he drove me to and from work. There

602
00:28:54,160 --> 00:28:56,920
Speaker 3: we go more teamwork and either he will drive me

603
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:59,520
Speaker 3: or I will drive myself with his permission, depends on

604
00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:01,720
Speaker 3: the day. I knew he was struggling with a lack

605
00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:04,040
Speaker 3: of income, and I have been pushing and pushing for

606
00:29:04,160 --> 00:29:07,000
Speaker 3: him to let me do more, but he held out

607
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:09,840
Speaker 3: due to pride, and his car suffered, and honestly, I

608
00:29:09,880 --> 00:29:11,480
Speaker 3: think I might do the same thing.

609
00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:14,040
Speaker 1: I still feel a bit betrayed and the trust has.

610
00:29:13,960 --> 00:29:16,400
Speaker 3: Eroded a bit, but at the same time, I also

611
00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:18,400
Speaker 3: feel like I got closer to him. It's a weird

612
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:21,360
Speaker 3: feeling I can't explain. But in the end, I can

613
00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:23,920
Speaker 3: get I can get to work with his help. And

614
00:29:23,960 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 3: we got a comment from Brainy Brink Pride in line

615
00:29:26,840 --> 00:29:29,840
Speaker 3: can unlive a relationship as quickly as cruelty. Unless your

616
00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:31,800
Speaker 3: husband sees that sharing burdens are the only way to

617
00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:34,240
Speaker 3: success as a married couple, he will sabotage the future.

618
00:29:34,560 --> 00:29:37,800
Speaker 3: And fart Master Champ says, Wow.

619
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Speaker 1: What a name, what a great username. Today, I want

620
00:29:41,480 --> 00:29:43,720
Speaker 1: to I want to name my first born that.

621
00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:45,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, fart Master art Master.

622
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:46,160
Speaker 1: Dude.

623
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Speaker 3: He's going to be so not bullied in school. It's

624
00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:52,840
Speaker 3: gonna be great. No, I mean, Harold. It is a champion.

625
00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:55,680
Speaker 1: He is far faster. Are you kidding me? They could?

626
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 1: It could work out. And yeah, dude, what's your name?

627
00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:02,160
Speaker 1: Art master cool skinzel so sick, so sick. I would

628
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:05,040
Speaker 1: love I would love my kids to be like Bartholow

629
00:30:05,160 --> 00:30:07,520
Speaker 1: you and then or like his real name to be

630
00:30:07,600 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 1: Bartholomew and his nickname to be Brick. I just think

631
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 1: Brick is such a great name. What's your name for it? Brick? Like,

632
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:16,560
Speaker 1: come on, go straight forward? That is a good great.

633
00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:17,200
Speaker 2: Name, great name.

634
00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:21,440
Speaker 3: But far master Stamp says, wait. So he was nasty

635
00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:24,240
Speaker 3: to his sick wife because he cared more about his pride.

636
00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:26,360
Speaker 3: She had to literally beg him to communicate what was

637
00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:28,280
Speaker 3: going on, and this was supposed to be a win

638
00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:31,280
Speaker 3: for the relationship. Waiting for a death, how about you?

639
00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:34,640
Speaker 3: Says exactly. And he would have encouraged her to waste

640
00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:37,320
Speaker 3: twelve hundred dollars in uber rides rather than use that

641
00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:40,000
Speaker 3: money to fix the dang car brow while he is

642
00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:43,360
Speaker 3: fully aware they are struggling financially, all to cradle his ego.

643
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:46,040
Speaker 3: At first, I was like, you know, I get that

644
00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:47,800
Speaker 3: he was embarrassed, not that he should have done That

645
00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:51,360
Speaker 3: doesn't excuse it in the slightest but yeah, I mean

646
00:30:51,560 --> 00:30:54,480
Speaker 3: the comments do bring up a good point of like, hey, look,

647
00:30:54,720 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 3: you were about to let her like burn all this

648
00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:58,960
Speaker 3: money when it's like you could have just put that

649
00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:01,520
Speaker 3: into your car. Yeah, and then you did all of

650
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:04,080
Speaker 3: this because to like protect your ego, like help, help,

651
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Speaker 3: don't don't hurt your wife quite literally in some cases, Uh, to.

652
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Speaker 1: Protect your ego. That's that's pretty whack, pretty whack. But uh,

653
00:31:14,360 --> 00:31:17,400
Speaker 1: I feel like you know, we're we're communicating, so we're

654
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:19,840
Speaker 1: talking now. Yeah, we got there, and he's not cheating

655
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Speaker 1: as far as we know. There could always be an

656
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Speaker 1: update holding on to this, but that is where that

657
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Speaker 1: story ends. But yep, we got one s three baby. Anyway,

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Speaker 1: let us get into this next story. Sam. Here, we're

659
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Speaker 1: gonna get back to the stories. But here's three of

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Speaker 1: its bads from our sponsor. I purposely make my wife

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Speaker 1: upset so she will clean the house more. That's terrible.

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Speaker 1: Stop that, I mean, but you gotta clean house, John,

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Speaker 1: have last on that one anyway. Okay, this is crazy,

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Speaker 1: all right, So I know the title sounds bad, Yeah

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Speaker 1: it does, correct, but hear me out all right. I

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Speaker 1: twenty eight male, have been married to my wife Lindsay

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Speaker 1: twenty five female, for two years, who've been together for

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Speaker 1: seven years. Our marriage is great. Despite us both being

670
00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:17,880
Speaker 1: busy with work, we still make time to go on

671
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Speaker 1: dates and be intimate with each other whenever we can.

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675
00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 1: work at engineering and Lindsey is a registered nurse, so

676
00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 1: I pay for most of the bills and utilities. We

677
00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:39,000
Speaker 1: split the bills, but I pay for the majority of

678
00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 1: the costs because I make more. Lindsay usually fully covers

679
00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 1: grocery costs and the Wi Fi, which isn't much because

680
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:46,720
Speaker 1: it's just the two of us. I feel that since

681
00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:49,719
Speaker 1: I make and spend more money, Lindsay should make up

682
00:32:49,760 --> 00:32:53,520
Speaker 1: for that in housework. I'm not some traditional wife desiring

683
00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:56,320
Speaker 1: a hole. I'm not wanting to do everything. Yeah, I

684
00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:58,680
Speaker 1: just wanted to do it all. I think it's great

685
00:32:58,760 --> 00:33:01,360
Speaker 1: that she works and has goal for her career, you know,

686
00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:04,640
Speaker 1: unlike the women that I want in my life. I

687
00:33:04,680 --> 00:33:07,720
Speaker 1: want her to I swear I feel like our chores

688
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:10,480
Speaker 1: are split fairly. It changes day by day depending on

689
00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:13,480
Speaker 1: our schedules, but typically Lindsay cooks our meals. He is

690
00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:17,320
Speaker 1: much better than me. I mean, of course, trust me,

691
00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:20,280
Speaker 1: you don't want me anywhere to your kitchen. Oh here,

692
00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:22,880
Speaker 1: we got just make it worse. I'll just say it worse. Yeah,

693
00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:25,080
Speaker 1: you're so good at folding close babe, Like, oh no,

694
00:33:25,120 --> 00:33:27,320
Speaker 1: I mean, like you don't want me anywhere near to

695
00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:29,560
Speaker 1: those things. You're just so you're just you're just so

696
00:33:29,680 --> 00:33:32,160
Speaker 1: talented all that, and like, yeah, don't I wouldn't want to,

697
00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:34,320
Speaker 1: you wouldn't want me that. But it's a nothing fancy

698
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:36,480
Speaker 1: or were crying a lot of effort. She does the

699
00:33:36,560 --> 00:33:39,680
Speaker 1: dishes and vacuums, but it's not daily. It's more like

700
00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:42,720
Speaker 1: as an as needed basis. I take out the trash

701
00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:45,560
Speaker 1: weekly and wash our cars about once a month. This

702
00:33:45,600 --> 00:33:48,440
Speaker 1: has always seemed fair to me, but recently I've felt

703
00:33:48,440 --> 00:33:50,480
Speaker 1: frustrated with her. I've been at my current job for

704
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:53,640
Speaker 1: six years and I've developed really great friendships in my time. There.

705
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:55,840
Speaker 1: There's a few of us that always get together on

706
00:33:55,920 --> 00:33:58,640
Speaker 1: break for lunch and whatnot, and one of my coworkers,

707
00:33:58,720 --> 00:34:01,040
Speaker 1: John thirty five. Mail has been married to his wife,

708
00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:04,880
Speaker 1: Claire for about ten years, if my memory serves correctly.

709
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:07,360
Speaker 1: About a month ago, John invited me over and the

710
00:34:07,360 --> 00:34:09,720
Speaker 1: rest of the gang plus our wives to have dinner

711
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:11,959
Speaker 1: at their house. Claire is a stay at home mom,

712
00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:14,239
Speaker 1: so she handles everything at home while John works and

713
00:34:14,280 --> 00:34:17,360
Speaker 1: brings home the bacon. I know this sounds bad, but

714
00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:23,800
Speaker 1: I was jealous. Man wants that bacon lifestyle. Not because

715
00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:29,359
Speaker 1: she's a traditional bacon freaking, freaking honey honey roasted Canadian ham. Oh.

716
00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:30,000
Speaker 2: I found good.

717
00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:32,200
Speaker 1: Not because she's a stay at home mom. I don't

718
00:34:32,200 --> 00:34:35,200
Speaker 1: want kids, but because John is a wife that actually

719
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:39,360
Speaker 1: puts effort into her food and cleaning and mine just

720
00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 1: does it in an as need basis. Yeah, their house

721
00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:46,800
Speaker 1: was immaculate, completely spotle, no dishes left in the sink,

722
00:34:46,960 --> 00:34:50,319
Speaker 1: little nick knacks left out on the countertops, nothing. I

723
00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:53,120
Speaker 1: couldn't believe it. Claire set the table and waited on everyone.

724
00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:56,160
Speaker 1: She was thoughtful and made sure everyone's glasses were always

725
00:34:56,200 --> 00:34:59,000
Speaker 1: full and would ask if she could get us more food.

726
00:34:59,200 --> 00:35:00,799
Speaker 1: You're describing waitress.

727
00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:06,080
Speaker 3: He's like, guys, I don't want the like stereotypical, like

728
00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:08,720
Speaker 3: traditional wife it's like waiting on me hand and foot.

729
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:12,359
Speaker 1: But I want that if only I had a woman

730
00:35:12,400 --> 00:35:14,839
Speaker 1: who's waiting on me. Need it so bad, But.

731
00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:16,719
Speaker 2: My wife needs to step it up.

732
00:35:17,560 --> 00:35:23,000
Speaker 1: She made flaming yawn with mashed potatoes and roasted vegetables. Oh,

733
00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:25,160
Speaker 1: it was amazing. And I can't remember the last time

734
00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:28,080
Speaker 1: Lindsay put any effort into our meals. It's always something

735
00:35:28,160 --> 00:35:31,720
Speaker 1: lazy like pasta, a lot of chicken centered meals, tacos,

736
00:35:31,760 --> 00:35:34,759
Speaker 1: case diaz, everything requiring a little to no effort. On

737
00:35:34,760 --> 00:35:36,759
Speaker 1: the drive home, Lindsay made a comment about how Claire

738
00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:38,799
Speaker 1: is an amazing cook and said she would like to

739
00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:41,719
Speaker 1: have dinner with them again because they're great people. I

740
00:35:41,760 --> 00:35:45,080
Speaker 1: agree with her and said something wrong lines you ready

741
00:35:45,080 --> 00:35:49,120
Speaker 1: for it, freaking go, we're locked and load drop it.

742
00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:54,719
Speaker 1: We're locked and freaking loaded. Also, Samantha al says she works, Yeah,

743
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:57,839
Speaker 1: she's a registered nurse. Again, he works. So I said

744
00:35:57,840 --> 00:36:01,440
Speaker 1: something along the lines of, you, could, you know, be

745
00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:03,840
Speaker 1: a little bit more adventurous with your meal choices so

746
00:36:03,880 --> 00:36:07,680
Speaker 1: we can eat good at home too. The thought and bye, gosh,

747
00:36:07,680 --> 00:36:11,600
Speaker 1: by golly, did this woman take offense to this? And

748
00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:14,000
Speaker 1: said she didn't realize her food was so bad. I

749
00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:17,840
Speaker 1: said it wasn't but it was nothing compared to Oh no,

750
00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:21,799
Speaker 1: because she puts effort, but I feel the love in

751
00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:24,680
Speaker 1: every dish. She stopped talking to me and was pouting

752
00:36:24,719 --> 00:36:27,799
Speaker 1: like a child. She went to bed without speaking to

753
00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:31,040
Speaker 1: me that night. I ended up apologizing the next day

754
00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:33,520
Speaker 1: when she got home and she forgave me. Fast forward

755
00:36:33,560 --> 00:36:36,520
Speaker 1: a week later, and I became more and more frustrated.

756
00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:40,719
Speaker 1: She was working twelve hour shifts. Where's my freaking pasta?

757
00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:46,200
Speaker 1: Where's my Filamigno fell her sist more than usual. As

758
00:36:46,239 --> 00:36:48,200
Speaker 1: a result, her house works suffered.

759
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:50,920
Speaker 4: Oh my god, But she's bringing in the same amount

760
00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:51,920
Speaker 4: of money now.

761
00:36:51,800 --> 00:36:54,280
Speaker 1: She has to be making good money with this twelve

762
00:36:54,280 --> 00:36:56,680
Speaker 1: hours is a nurse. But yeah, I think she's still

763
00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:58,879
Speaker 1: not making as much as him. She would leave at

764
00:36:58,880 --> 00:37:01,520
Speaker 1: seven am and come home at seven pm, and on

765
00:37:01,520 --> 00:37:04,400
Speaker 1: some nights she went straight to bed without making dinner.

766
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:08,840
Speaker 1: Good good, All right, If you're making so much money,

767
00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:11,960
Speaker 1: my guy, there's this little thing, your secret, A little secret.

768
00:37:12,480 --> 00:37:16,080
Speaker 1: I'm gonna put you on Uber eats.

769
00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:17,239
Speaker 4: What is that?

770
00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:21,359
Speaker 1: Oh my god, boom, I just saved the marriage. Call

771
00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:22,880
Speaker 1: me doctor house.

772
00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:24,400
Speaker 2: But I'm a caveman.

773
00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:29,080
Speaker 1: I don't understand, but I just save a marriage.

774
00:37:29,280 --> 00:37:31,959
Speaker 4: Also, where I'm from, if you say another woman's food

775
00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:33,520
Speaker 4: is better than your wives, that's cheating.

776
00:37:34,920 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 1: So Sophia Colan agreeing with.

777
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:39,080
Speaker 2: You shut out.

778
00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:42,759
Speaker 1: I ended up getting takeout on those nights. Dishes were

779
00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:45,600
Speaker 1: piling up in the sink, the carpets were becoming noticeably dirty,

780
00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:48,120
Speaker 1: and she just sat in bed, scrolling on her phone

781
00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:50,880
Speaker 1: or sleeping. I tried to be understanding at first. At

782
00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:52,880
Speaker 1: this point, she's used to working twelve hour shifts, so

783
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:56,440
Speaker 1: there's really no excuse. Oh my god. I ended up

784
00:37:56,480 --> 00:37:58,799
Speaker 1: having a talk with her and was brutally honest. I

785
00:37:58,840 --> 00:38:02,760
Speaker 1: told her I'm not satisfied with her level of housework anymore,

786
00:38:03,080 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 1: and I want her to do more. I want her

787
00:38:05,200 --> 00:38:08,520
Speaker 1: to come home and make dinner, and I wanted to

788
00:38:08,560 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 1: put more effort into it. I gave her some examples

789
00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:13,880
Speaker 1: of meals I would like to eat, and suggestions for

790
00:38:13,920 --> 00:38:15,839
Speaker 1: a way that she can clean before going to bed,

791
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:18,399
Speaker 1: such as drinking coffee or energy drinks on the way home.

792
00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:26,719
Speaker 1: Oh no, no, just drink some coffee. Oh god. I

793
00:38:26,760 --> 00:38:29,480
Speaker 1: thought she was receptive to my ideas at first, but

794
00:38:29,520 --> 00:38:35,080
Speaker 1: then this guy is a regular sherlock. I realized she

795
00:38:35,239 --> 00:38:40,960
Speaker 1: looked pissed. Using my power as abduction and observation, she

796
00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:44,120
Speaker 1: very coldly asked me if I feel this way because

797
00:38:44,160 --> 00:38:47,600
Speaker 1: of John's wife, and I answered honestly, and I said yes.

798
00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:50,160
Speaker 1: I told her I would be embarrassed if my friends

799
00:38:50,200 --> 00:38:52,680
Speaker 1: came over to have dinner with us after that dinner

800
00:38:53,120 --> 00:38:53,840
Speaker 1: at John's.

801
00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:55,640
Speaker 2: Oh my god, you did.

802
00:38:56,160 --> 00:38:59,040
Speaker 1: She started tearing up when I said this, and I

803
00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:04,280
Speaker 1: felt kind kind of, kind of bad for being so harsh.

804
00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:06,000
Speaker 1: She didn't say a word to me and just left

805
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:08,319
Speaker 1: the room. I came out a short while later and

806
00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:12,240
Speaker 1: saw her manically scrubbing a stain out of the carpet

807
00:39:12,400 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 1: on her hands and knees, still crying. I asked her

808
00:39:15,239 --> 00:39:17,839
Speaker 1: what she was doing, and she screed, what does it

809
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:20,920
Speaker 1: look like? You at big a hole? The stain she

810
00:39:21,040 --> 00:39:24,719
Speaker 1: was scrubbing was pretty much gone, but she continued for

811
00:39:24,760 --> 00:39:27,560
Speaker 1: what felt like ours. I started feeling sorry for pushing

812
00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:29,800
Speaker 1: her to that point, but then I remembered something.

813
00:39:29,960 --> 00:39:31,840
Speaker 2: Oh, oh, what do you remember, buddy?

814
00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:35,680
Speaker 3: What idea popped into your freaking brain, your peace size

815
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:39,200
Speaker 3: little noodle up there, something that could work out great

816
00:39:39,280 --> 00:39:39,560
Speaker 3: for me?

817
00:39:40,320 --> 00:39:41,880
Speaker 1: Or so horribly wrong.

818
00:39:42,000 --> 00:39:42,080
Speaker 4: No.

819
00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 1: When she was in high school, she was in a

820
00:39:44,960 --> 00:39:47,920
Speaker 1: psych wart. She told me she used to neglect herself

821
00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:50,480
Speaker 1: when she felt really depressed, but after being in the war,

822
00:39:50,600 --> 00:39:53,600
Speaker 1: she obviously cleans which she feels depressed or overwhelmed because

823
00:39:53,640 --> 00:39:56,239
Speaker 1: of the habits they drilled into her. I almost felt

824
00:39:56,239 --> 00:39:59,000
Speaker 1: like a DC villain because of the huge smirk that

825
00:39:59,160 --> 00:40:01,480
Speaker 1: crept on my face. The next night, she got home

826
00:40:01,520 --> 00:40:05,000
Speaker 1: at seven pm. I told her I had something to

827
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:07,680
Speaker 1: confess to her, and she was like petrified. I told

828
00:40:07,719 --> 00:40:10,279
Speaker 1: her I was sorry, but I watched Corn while she

829
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:12,600
Speaker 1: was at work because I was lonely. He ended up

830
00:40:12,640 --> 00:40:15,920
Speaker 1: throwing up from crying so much. But just as I thought,

831
00:40:16,320 --> 00:40:20,360
Speaker 1: she started cleaning. This guy's evil. This guy's evil. Dude,

832
00:40:20,560 --> 00:40:25,160
Speaker 1: what what this guy's evil? If we didn't think he

833
00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:29,400
Speaker 1: was evil before? Oh my god, she washed all the

834
00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:32,600
Speaker 1: dishes by hand. That's how I like it. I don't

835
00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:35,239
Speaker 1: want some robot washing my dishes. I want blood, sweat,

836
00:40:35,360 --> 00:40:39,080
Speaker 1: my wife, blood sweat and tears on these dishes. Instead

837
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:43,239
Speaker 1: of using the dishwasher, he dusted everything, every fan, every

838
00:40:43,360 --> 00:40:45,840
Speaker 1: TV screen, every shelf. I didn't want it to be

839
00:40:45,880 --> 00:40:49,440
Speaker 1: too obvious, so I started limiting this trick four times

840
00:40:49,440 --> 00:40:52,000
Speaker 1: a week max. Skip to present day. I made a

841
00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:54,880
Speaker 1: joke at lunch with my coworkers about how I trained

842
00:40:55,040 --> 00:40:58,680
Speaker 1: my wife to love cleaning. Everyone was laughing and asked

843
00:40:58,800 --> 00:41:01,400
Speaker 1: for the secret, so I said, all I gotta do

844
00:41:01,560 --> 00:41:04,800
Speaker 1: is make her cry and she wants to clean. Please

845
00:41:05,080 --> 00:41:09,359
Speaker 1: please come for this, man, please please do it. Coworkers

846
00:41:09,600 --> 00:41:11,920
Speaker 1: Daniel asked me what I mean. I told him how

847
00:41:11,960 --> 00:41:14,719
Speaker 1: her response to being upset is to clean, so I've

848
00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:17,880
Speaker 1: been upsetting her on purpose. Everyone was silent while I

849
00:41:17,920 --> 00:41:21,720
Speaker 1: was still laughing. Adam asked why in a very unamused tone.

850
00:41:22,160 --> 00:41:24,440
Speaker 1: I spilled the beans about how Claire. It made me

851
00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:27,840
Speaker 1: realize how unmotivated my wife is. I wish Lindsey was

852
00:41:27,840 --> 00:41:30,400
Speaker 1: more like her. The rest of lunch was pretty awkward,

853
00:41:30,480 --> 00:41:34,480
Speaker 1: and I felt like I made everyone uncomfortable. Yeah, man again,

854
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:36,279
Speaker 1: this nothing gets past this guy.

855
00:41:37,239 --> 00:41:39,680
Speaker 2: Bro is God. I can't even.

856
00:41:40,000 --> 00:41:42,120
Speaker 1: I ended up texting John to ask if I did

857
00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:44,479
Speaker 1: something wrong because he didn't come buy my station before

858
00:41:44,600 --> 00:41:46,640
Speaker 1: leaving like he usually does. He told me he felt

859
00:41:46,680 --> 00:41:49,120
Speaker 1: really weird about the way I was treating my wife

860
00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:51,680
Speaker 1: and idealizing his He told me I was being an

861
00:41:51,719 --> 00:41:54,719
Speaker 1: a hole and emotionally abusing her when I should just communicate.

862
00:41:55,120 --> 00:41:58,080
Speaker 1: I argued against this because I did communicate. I told

863
00:41:58,080 --> 00:42:00,400
Speaker 1: her exactly what I wanted from her, and all make

864
00:42:00,640 --> 00:42:03,839
Speaker 1: uses about being tired from work and eating sleep. Even

865
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Speaker 1: suggested that I should clean more if the state of

866
00:42:06,160 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 1: the house bothers me so much, and then I should

867
00:42:08,239 --> 00:42:11,000
Speaker 1: learn to cook before criticizing her. We would not be

868
00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:12,920
Speaker 1: able to afford the house we live in if it

869
00:42:12,920 --> 00:42:15,759
Speaker 1: weren't for me. The lifestyle we live is because of

870
00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:19,720
Speaker 1: me to why can't you just show appreciation by cleaning

871
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:23,040
Speaker 1: and cooking better meals. It's been three days now and

872
00:42:23,120 --> 00:42:25,520
Speaker 1: I am now sitting alone at lunch. When I sit

873
00:42:25,560 --> 00:42:28,279
Speaker 1: with my usual group, everyone stops talking. I feel like

874
00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:30,239
Speaker 1: I really fed up and want to make things right

875
00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:32,200
Speaker 1: with my friends. Same time, I feel like what I'm

876
00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:35,759
Speaker 1: doing is okay because it's not for no reason. He's

877
00:42:35,840 --> 00:42:38,839
Speaker 1: actually cleaning more and I'm so proud of her. Am

878
00:42:38,920 --> 00:42:41,000
Speaker 1: I the A hole? Because I want to keep doing it?

879
00:42:41,280 --> 00:42:44,960
Speaker 1: And there's an edit and there's an update, But is op?

880
00:42:45,360 --> 00:42:47,239
Speaker 1: This is the clearest the A hole?

881
00:42:47,360 --> 00:42:53,920
Speaker 3: You are the A hole in human space, time continuum history.

882
00:42:54,160 --> 00:42:54,560
Speaker 1: That's it.

883
00:42:55,080 --> 00:42:55,799
Speaker 2: You need to.

884
00:42:56,280 --> 00:43:00,840
Speaker 1: Marry a f doll and a maid because that robot.

885
00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:04,879
Speaker 3: Actually, you just need a robot because I always say this,

886
00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:08,319
Speaker 3: if you make such good money a pair apparently op

887
00:43:08,640 --> 00:43:12,319
Speaker 3: before this lifestyle, would you not want to, you know,

888
00:43:12,560 --> 00:43:15,680
Speaker 3: get cleaning, buy food or whatever so you could spend

889
00:43:15,719 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 3: more time with the person who's supposed to be your

890
00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:18,959
Speaker 3: best friend.

891
00:43:18,960 --> 00:43:20,920
Speaker 1: Why would you not want that? I mean, he just

892
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:23,520
Speaker 1: wants someone he can control. He wants someone he can

893
00:43:23,520 --> 00:43:27,040
Speaker 1: control and be. He wants a maid. He wants a maid.

894
00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 3: And he is doing some disgusting ways to coerce his wife.

895
00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:35,200
Speaker 2: Into becoming that.

896
00:43:35,640 --> 00:43:37,640
Speaker 1: And then we got it at it please, and we

897
00:43:37,680 --> 00:43:40,440
Speaker 1: got an update. So I understand that I'm the a

898
00:43:40,560 --> 00:43:42,600
Speaker 1: hole now. No, this is not faked. We're sorry to

899
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:45,680
Speaker 1: bring up, sorry to deprive you of that comfort. It's

900
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:48,879
Speaker 1: impossible not to recognize something is wrong with you when

901
00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:51,480
Speaker 1: a good eighty percent of the commenters are calling faker,

902
00:43:51,480 --> 00:43:54,400
Speaker 1: hoping it is. I understand now that I mentally mistreated

903
00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:56,480
Speaker 1: my wife, and I do want to fix it. Thank

904
00:43:56,480 --> 00:43:58,080
Speaker 1: you to the two people who actually took the time

905
00:43:58,120 --> 00:44:00,920
Speaker 1: to offer constructive feedback and advice. As much as I

906
00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:03,839
Speaker 1: hate the thought, I'm going to seek out a professional.

907
00:44:04,000 --> 00:44:06,279
Speaker 1: It is impossible for everyone to be wrong, and I'm right,

908
00:44:06,400 --> 00:44:08,560
Speaker 1: even though that's what my brain is telling me. I

909
00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:10,799
Speaker 1: know something is wrong with me, even though my brain

910
00:44:10,880 --> 00:44:13,200
Speaker 1: is saying there isn't. Thank you all for helping me

911
00:44:13,239 --> 00:44:16,120
Speaker 1: realize it. As per request, I will update in the

912
00:44:16,120 --> 00:44:18,760
Speaker 1: future if there's any update, and there is an update, dude.

913
00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 4: Before this happened, I remember scrolling on like TikTok and

914
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:22,760
Speaker 4: there was like.

915
00:44:22,880 --> 00:44:26,560
Speaker 1: Hey, girls, what's like a way for your a trick.

916
00:44:26,360 --> 00:44:28,239
Speaker 4: You guys do with your husband? And I was reading

917
00:44:28,239 --> 00:44:31,200
Speaker 4: the comments. All of them were like placebo effect. It's like, oh, yeah,

918
00:44:31,239 --> 00:44:32,840
Speaker 4: if he cleans, I give him the Like if he

919
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:34,719
Speaker 4: does this, I give him the And I thought this

920
00:44:34,760 --> 00:44:36,680
Speaker 4: was what it was going to be, like oh yeah,

921
00:44:36,719 --> 00:44:37,799
Speaker 4: she cleans, so I would give her the.

922
00:44:38,400 --> 00:44:42,960
Speaker 1: This is not the case. Not the case. Not so update. Hi,

923
00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:45,439
Speaker 1: it's been a while. I don't have a lot to say,

924
00:44:45,480 --> 00:44:47,359
Speaker 1: but I was asked to update if I ever did

925
00:44:47,400 --> 00:44:49,640
Speaker 1: try therapy and I did. I like it.

926
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:50,200
Speaker 3: Oh.

927
00:44:50,239 --> 00:44:53,400
Speaker 1: I dropped out of individual therapy after like foo sessions.

928
00:44:53,760 --> 00:44:56,520
Speaker 1: My therapist was more interested in my childhood than giving

929
00:44:56,560 --> 00:45:00,000
Speaker 1: me actual advice, but stuck with couples therapies. Okay, I try.

930
00:45:00,200 --> 00:45:03,640
Speaker 1: I really did the therapist, and my wife would gang

931
00:45:03,719 --> 00:45:06,120
Speaker 1: up on me. The therapist changed my wife a lot.

932
00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:08,439
Speaker 1: She went from being kind and soft spoken to rude

933
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:11,120
Speaker 1: and brazen. She would snap on me for absolutely nothing,

934
00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:13,600
Speaker 1: constantly bring up things I've done in the past, used

935
00:45:13,640 --> 00:45:15,840
Speaker 1: against being an argument to try to make me submit.

936
00:45:16,320 --> 00:45:19,560
Speaker 1: Remember how my wife is an RN. Yeah, well she

937
00:45:19,719 --> 00:45:22,400
Speaker 1: was effing cheating on me with some ugly see you

938
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:25,720
Speaker 1: next Tuesday, working the same shifts as her. She confessed

939
00:45:25,800 --> 00:45:28,120
Speaker 1: that in therapy and said if I could forgive her,

940
00:45:28,400 --> 00:45:31,160
Speaker 1: she could forgive me for all the things I've done.

941
00:45:31,960 --> 00:45:33,680
Speaker 1: This is who's worse.

942
00:45:33,960 --> 00:45:36,480
Speaker 3: I mean, okay, So here's the thing that you know,

943
00:45:36,840 --> 00:45:40,840
Speaker 3: cheating is never okay, But I would guess she was.

944
00:45:40,960 --> 00:45:44,560
Speaker 3: She had someone who's actually showing her some sort of

945
00:45:44,719 --> 00:45:47,600
Speaker 3: interest and compassion and whatever at work, being in this

946
00:45:47,800 --> 00:45:51,600
Speaker 3: insanely toxic relationship, and instead of doing what she should

947
00:45:51,600 --> 00:45:55,080
Speaker 3: have done, which is freaking run out the door and

948
00:45:55,120 --> 00:45:58,439
Speaker 3: then maybe find this person later out. She Yeah, whether

949
00:45:58,480 --> 00:46:00,239
Speaker 3: it was acting out, whether it was like, oh, this

950
00:46:00,280 --> 00:46:03,600
Speaker 3: is someone who's actually showing interest me, whatever it is, ah,

951
00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:06,480
Speaker 3: but I mean, even the idea too of like, oh,

952
00:46:06,680 --> 00:46:09,120
Speaker 3: all you know, wipe your wipe your crimes. If you

953
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:10,960
Speaker 3: wipe mind, It's like, no, that is not going to

954
00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:12,440
Speaker 3: fix the under the issue.

955
00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:16,600
Speaker 1: She's not at all, just lee soez, I have never

956
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:20,320
Speaker 1: been close to this, I've never cheated and vows me nothing. Apparently,

957
00:46:20,560 --> 00:46:22,480
Speaker 1: he also shaid a lot of things she never told me,

958
00:46:22,600 --> 00:46:25,560
Speaker 1: like her last grandparent passing away and her words he

959
00:46:25,600 --> 00:46:28,200
Speaker 1: wouldn't care. Yes, I would have if she told me

960
00:46:28,640 --> 00:46:30,440
Speaker 1: she had no reason not to, I would have been

961
00:46:30,800 --> 00:46:33,000
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have been so harsh about housework if I

962
00:46:33,080 --> 00:46:35,680
Speaker 1: knew she was grieving. But no, go ahead, please don't

963
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:37,640
Speaker 1: tell me anything and then use it against me later,

964
00:46:37,719 --> 00:46:39,160
Speaker 1: because that makes sense.

965
00:46:39,239 --> 00:46:43,320
Speaker 4: I disagree that he cheated. He coveted another man's wife.

966
00:46:43,840 --> 00:46:45,200
Speaker 4: I was like, you need to be more like this,

967
00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:48,360
Speaker 4: more like this, more like this, and then emotionally manipulated

968
00:46:48,360 --> 00:46:49,080
Speaker 4: her to do that.

969
00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:51,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so same page.

970
00:46:51,880 --> 00:46:55,400
Speaker 1: It's yeah, I thought couple therapists were supposed to be neutral.

971
00:46:55,560 --> 00:46:58,520
Speaker 1: Isn't their entire purpose bringing couples together and helping them

972
00:46:58,560 --> 00:47:02,480
Speaker 1: understand each other? Since when do they call their clients manipulative?

973
00:47:02,680 --> 00:47:05,160
Speaker 1: How is that allowed? By the way, if you want

974
00:47:05,200 --> 00:47:10,239
Speaker 1: to be manipulated by us positively. Yes, usually listen to

975
00:47:10,320 --> 00:47:13,440
Speaker 1: full episodes with stories just like this. We'll go to Spotify,

976
00:47:13,440 --> 00:47:16,840
Speaker 1: Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcast app and just search. Okay, storytime,

977
00:47:17,000 --> 00:47:19,160
Speaker 1: there's another relevant update. Hey it's Sam. We're going to

978
00:47:19,200 --> 00:47:21,080
Speaker 1: get back to these stories. But here's three minutes of

979
00:47:21,080 --> 00:47:23,680
Speaker 1: ads from our sponsors. I'm just going to go straight

980
00:47:23,680 --> 00:47:27,600
Speaker 1: into it a leap. Anyways, back to the bee wife. I

981
00:47:27,640 --> 00:47:30,239
Speaker 1: can't forgive a cheater. He's staying with her parents for

982
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:32,759
Speaker 1: now as we are separated. I don't want her back

983
00:47:32,800 --> 00:47:35,160
Speaker 1: in my house. It makes sense now why she didn't

984
00:47:35,160 --> 00:47:38,840
Speaker 1: want to have spicy sleep anymore. We stop going on dates. Intimacy.

985
00:47:39,040 --> 00:47:42,960
Speaker 1: Our intimacy suffered all because she cheated. Therapy was a

986
00:47:43,040 --> 00:47:45,160
Speaker 1: waste of time and money, but I guess it was

987
00:47:45,200 --> 00:47:46,920
Speaker 1: worth it in the end because I learned what kind

988
00:47:46,920 --> 00:47:49,960
Speaker 1: of person she really is. He discussed me. I did

989
00:47:49,960 --> 00:47:52,040
Speaker 1: not want therapy, but I try my best for her

990
00:47:52,200 --> 00:47:54,800
Speaker 1: and to change that is clearly not what you wanted

991
00:47:54,840 --> 00:47:57,560
Speaker 1: because she cheated. I learned the information last month and

992
00:47:57,600 --> 00:48:01,080
Speaker 1: I finally have come to terms with it. My friends,

993
00:48:01,160 --> 00:48:03,760
Speaker 1: I'm still cool with a few of them, Others clearly

994
00:48:03,800 --> 00:48:06,320
Speaker 1: looking down on me. So I don't interact with them anymore.

995
00:48:06,360 --> 00:48:09,080
Speaker 1: But we don't eat lunch together anymore. I sit elsewhere

996
00:48:09,120 --> 00:48:12,040
Speaker 1: now and it's not too bad. Honestly, I'm meeting new people.

997
00:48:12,320 --> 00:48:14,960
Speaker 1: Maybe I'll find love again soon. But who knows my

998
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:20,880
Speaker 1: witch in Espanol? Oh, my reputation at work in regards

999
00:48:20,880 --> 00:48:23,359
Speaker 1: to personal matters is kind of crap. Now. Well that's

1000
00:48:23,400 --> 00:48:26,239
Speaker 1: really it. Thank you all for reading. And we got

1001
00:48:26,239 --> 00:48:27,839
Speaker 1: a couple comments. I'm going to read.

1002
00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:29,799
Speaker 3: But I don't really feel too bad for this guy.

1003
00:48:30,000 --> 00:48:33,120
Speaker 3: I don't feel bad in the slightest. He needs more

1004
00:48:33,640 --> 00:48:34,640
Speaker 3: terrible things to happen.

1005
00:48:34,800 --> 00:48:37,680
Speaker 1: Comma, one karma came to bite you in the butt.

1006
00:48:37,800 --> 00:48:39,759
Speaker 1: I do not blame your wife one little bit for

1007
00:48:39,800 --> 00:48:42,320
Speaker 1: cheating on you. Good for her. You deserved it because

1008
00:48:42,320 --> 00:48:44,840
Speaker 1: you are a harmful, disgusting human being who does not

1009
00:48:44,920 --> 00:48:47,719
Speaker 1: deserve to have anyone love you. Not pulling any punch

1010
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:50,880
Speaker 1: up there, I hope, he responds. It makes sense. It

1011
00:48:50,880 --> 00:48:53,120
Speaker 1: makes no sense how you all are justifying this. Why

1012
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:55,640
Speaker 1: not leave me? Why I go to therapy with me

1013
00:48:55,880 --> 00:48:58,200
Speaker 1: just to cheat on me and see if I'll forgive you?

1014
00:48:58,640 --> 00:49:01,680
Speaker 1: How does that make sense? Hurt herself more in the process.

1015
00:49:02,040 --> 00:49:05,160
Speaker 1: I've seen the burman he slept with, and trust me,

1016
00:49:05,280 --> 00:49:08,879
Speaker 1: that's not much speak of. I'm honestly embarrassed for her.

1017
00:49:08,960 --> 00:49:11,400
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, another part of me. A lot of

1018
00:49:11,400 --> 00:49:13,399
Speaker 4: people were saying, she didn't even cheat. She's brought up

1019
00:49:13,560 --> 00:49:15,759
Speaker 4: You brought up that you watched corn and then made

1020
00:49:15,800 --> 00:49:17,400
Speaker 4: her compulsively vomit.

1021
00:49:17,600 --> 00:49:19,400
Speaker 2: Maybe she just did that to see what you would do.

1022
00:49:19,960 --> 00:49:23,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I mean again, I don't think chating is good,

1023
00:49:23,480 --> 00:49:28,320
Speaker 1: but this guy definitely wasn't laying groundwork for a great

1024
00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:32,240
Speaker 1: that's comment two. I don't know. Mental abuse seems pretty

1025
00:49:32,239 --> 00:49:34,319
Speaker 1: on par, if not worse than keating for me. In

1026
00:49:34,320 --> 00:49:37,640
Speaker 1: comment three, everyone told him at last on the last

1027
00:49:37,680 --> 00:49:40,360
Speaker 1: post that you can only chip away at someone mentally

1028
00:49:40,440 --> 00:49:42,839
Speaker 1: for so long before they recognize you're bad for them

1029
00:49:42,880 --> 00:49:45,239
Speaker 1: and move on. Then she does exactly that, and he's

1030
00:49:45,239 --> 00:49:47,839
Speaker 1: shocked in rage and still can't look into the mirror

1031
00:49:47,920 --> 00:49:50,440
Speaker 1: to find any fault with himself. There's no way the

1032
00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:52,560
Speaker 1: cleaning was the first time he acted like a piece

1033
00:49:52,640 --> 00:49:55,160
Speaker 1: of poop. The way he described himself smiling at a

1034
00:49:55,200 --> 00:49:58,239
Speaker 1: cartoon villain. That's someone who is very comfortable coming up

1035
00:49:58,239 --> 00:50:01,439
Speaker 1: with plans for manipulation. Good riddance. I'm glad your wife

1036
00:50:01,520 --> 00:50:03,520
Speaker 1: is going to get to live her best life. And

1037
00:50:03,560 --> 00:50:06,279
Speaker 1: I hope you contain yourself from the general public to

1038
00:50:06,360 --> 00:50:11,640
Speaker 1: minimize future harm. And that is where that story and

1039
00:50:11,760 --> 00:50:12,839
Speaker 1: this episode ends.

1040
00:50:13,040 --> 00:50:14,280
Speaker 2: Oh, put him in a box.

1041
00:50:14,360 --> 00:50:16,000
Speaker 1: Let's put him in a box. I can't talk to

1042
00:50:16,520 --> 00:50:20,280
Speaker 1: and Wow, watch alone for eternity. That guy is terrible.

1043
00:50:20,520 --> 00:50:22,920
Speaker 3: That is correct. Yeah, true, statement has never been said.

1044
00:50:22,960 --> 00:50:26,760
Speaker 3: Andrea mar thanks for a two box. She one didn't cheat,

1045
00:50:26,880 --> 00:50:30,000
Speaker 3: he lied to play victim. I would not be surprised

1046
00:50:30,120 --> 00:50:33,800
Speaker 3: in the slightest yet. That man is a piece of poopy.

1047
00:50:34,160 --> 00:50:36,880
Speaker 1: Yep. Just remember don't allow that kind of poopy in

1048
00:50:36,920 --> 00:50:40,960
Speaker 1: your life. You should only date people that bring joy

1049
00:50:41,360 --> 00:50:44,520
Speaker 1: and love your life. A little little raised sunshine can

1050
00:50:44,640 --> 00:50:49,040
Speaker 1: go chay on my girl. Yea. But that is where

1051
00:50:49,239 --> 00:50:52,560
Speaker 1: this story, in this episode ends. So if you love us,

1052
00:50:52,719 --> 00:50:53,880
Speaker 1: make sure to subscribe.

1053
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Speaker 2: We love you and seem