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Speaker 1: It is to straw baby letter. Thank you nephew. Dear

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Speaker 1: Steve Anne Shirley. I am a young man who is

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Speaker 1: He smokes weed constantly, and he does it in front

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Speaker 1: her and was very strict and mean. This was all

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Speaker 1: done it around me. As her man. I swore on

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Speaker 1: But my girl says she will stop sharing things with

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Speaker 1: him if he gets out of line again? Okay, I

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Speaker 1: got this as your girl, and you want to protect

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Speaker 1: you know, she doesn't like the way that her dad

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Speaker 1: I mean, I know you're her man, you don't like

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Speaker 1: But so you know this talk of you knocking his

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Speaker 1: black belt and all of this, well, you know, I

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Speaker 1: just think it's a bit premature knocking his lights out.

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Speaker 1: He hasn't done anything yet, you know. I mean, you

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Speaker 1: But all he does is get high and talk to

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Speaker 1: You're both grown. She can walk away. He hasn't put

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Speaker 1: Absolutely not. But to you, I say stand down for now,

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Speaker 1: I agree with you, Shirley, because young man, he keeps

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Speaker 1: But like Shirley said, he not beating this girl. Now,

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Speaker 1: and you say you're not gonna take no disrespect. Now

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Speaker 1: this because a good ass whipper stops a lot of

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Speaker 1: I come back. I'll give you the rest, all right, dude, listen, young,

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Speaker 1: Now I've told you in this letter, I think since

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Speaker 1: This could be a gift that keeps on giving. Don't

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Speaker 1: excuse me, are you freeing to meet mister Johnson. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm talking to you. You look young, young ass, punk,

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Speaker 1: said mister mister Johnson. No disrespect, but I really don't

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Speaker 1: I wish you would. That usually provokes high people. High

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Speaker 1: I wish you wasn't here. What I'm here? So now

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Speaker 1: So does he swang let all foe degrees out on

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Speaker 1: You can't pound on him. You just got it's gotta

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Speaker 1: look now, mister Johnson, I didn't want to do that,

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Speaker 1: but you came upon and you scared him, and then

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Speaker 1: everybody in the fairly gonna be man. He didn't knocking

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Speaker 1: with ass man, dude, man knock with assha, then the

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Speaker 1: grandmamma be over there. That's good. Falls as about time

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Speaker 1: somebody knocked him out. I like Lord Dar Savior. He

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Speaker 1: that's for savior of people, Dar Savior, and that's your chance. Now,

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Speaker 1: what didn't happened to you is over the weekend, your

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Speaker 1: Now I feel like I'm failing her as a boyfriend,

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Speaker 1: a good feeling. Man, You should always maintain these feelings.

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Speaker 1: I could knock this dude's lights out, but my girl

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Speaker 1: he pretty much harmless, really though. Now you're not from

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Speaker 1: I asked, whooping, Now, a lot of people don't go

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Speaker 1: settle it all. She said, she's afraid that I may

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Speaker 1: and once she's my wife, I really won't be able

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Speaker 1: here's what you said. Should I try talking to her

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Speaker 1: I likes that in you, boy, but that ain't the way.

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Speaker 1: But Steve Harve, I likes that in you. But this

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Speaker 1: probably gonna be man because you're gonna break it back

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Speaker 1: bad with this? Yes, So what I need for you

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Speaker 1: to do? I think you should talk to him man

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Speaker 1: he ain't high, Johnson, Can I have a word with you?

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Speaker 1: It just really sounds so crazy when I hear you

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Speaker 1: talking to the family like this and when you're yelling

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Speaker 1: at hood really bothers me. Man, do you think, man,

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Speaker 1: you could look at that a little bit better and

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Speaker 1: You can go that route. That's the route Shirley saying,

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Speaker 1: And that's the route I recommend. Then if all that

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Speaker 1: might not, it might not, young player, but that's the

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Speaker 1: way to go. But if it don't, did them fourth

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Speaker 1: degree ass whipping out? All right, we gotta go, Steve. Listen,

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