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Speaker 1: I have no idea what to do.

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Speaker 2: I knocked up our cleaning lady's daughter and my waists

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Speaker 2: parents are not happy about it, But then there was

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Speaker 2: something that made them change their mind.

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Speaker 3: Maybe Hope's dad is Arnold Schwartzenegger and so he's used

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Speaker 3: to knocking up his cleaning ladies.

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Speaker 2: Am info. My parents for years had the same cleaning lady.

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Speaker 2: I was somewhat friendly with her daughter, who was around

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Speaker 2: my same age.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, you were friendly.

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Speaker 2: Quite friendly, but it didn't become a thing. I was

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Speaker 2: back home from college for winter break. We got to

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Speaker 2: spend some time together and then I went back to school. Well,

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Speaker 2: that time that we spent together resulted in her getting pregnant,

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Speaker 2: only I didn't know it at the time. She didn't

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Speaker 2: want to tell anyone who it was because she was

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Speaker 2: scared for her mom's job and me possibly rejecting the baby.

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Speaker 2: That is a tricky situation off position to be in.

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Speaker 2: After I finished college, I tried to reach out to

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Speaker 2: her again, and that's when I found out My son

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Speaker 2: was three years old at the time. We did a

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Speaker 2: paternity test to find out that I was indeed the father.

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Speaker 2: That's why you wrap it. My parents showed their true colors.

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Speaker 2: After I told them I should add that my son's

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Speaker 2: mom's side is Cuban. They always gave subtle racist stuff

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Speaker 2: every now and then they say, I guess we'll find out,

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Speaker 2: But this was the first time I saw them as

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Speaker 2: full blown racist a holes. Even after the paternity test,

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Speaker 2: they accused my son's mom of being a gold digger,

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Speaker 2: tampering with paternity results to try to trap me into

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Speaker 2: taking care of her kid.

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Speaker 3: Damn. I love how like OP doesn't think any of

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Speaker 3: this though.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they say all this as if a court DNA

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Speaker 2: test was gonna lie. Unfortunately, they did fire her mom,

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Speaker 2: but she did manage to find work. For all these reasons,

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Speaker 2: I stopped having contact with my parents for three years.

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Speaker 3: Thank God. That's a while. So now is kid six.

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Speaker 2: I'm with my son's mom now and we've been living

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Speaker 2: together for a while. A few months ago, I got

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Speaker 2: a surprise visit from my grandma on my dad's side.

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Speaker 2: She finally found out why I'm not in the family anymore,

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Speaker 2: and she wanted to meet her great grandson. Luckily, she

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Speaker 2: is not like the rest of my family, and she

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Speaker 2: was really mad when I heard the whole story.

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Speaker 3: Wow, as she should be. How could you just disown

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Speaker 3: your own son and grandson.

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Speaker 2: My grandma ended up making lots of changes to her will,

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Speaker 2: and she says that she wants my son.

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Speaker 1: To have a piece.

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, that's awesome.

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Speaker 2: It's big no coincidence that once has happened. My parents

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Speaker 2: were suddenly wanting to come around to reconcile.

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Speaker 3: Oh, now that you're getting cut from the will.

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Speaker 1: I have a feeling that she probably took them.

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Speaker 3: Out of the will. I'm with hope on this one, and.

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Speaker 2: Most of their wialth actually came from her because I'm

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Speaker 2: rejecting them for being in our lives. My mom decided

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Speaker 2: to post a pick of my son on Facebook recently

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Speaker 2: to say happy birthday for a sixth birthday. You really

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Speaker 2: think this is gonna work? No one Facebook post. I

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Speaker 2: saw it because my sister sent it to me. It's

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Speaker 2: her venting about not being in her grandson's life and

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Speaker 2: to tell them happy birthday.

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Speaker 3: Hmmm, almost like your racism is affecting you negatively.

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Speaker 2: A lot of people were giving her sympathy on this post.

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Speaker 2: Oh come on being able to bamboozle from on fact.

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Speaker 2: Chris so I commented, remember how you said you didn't

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Speaker 2: want a brown baby in the family.

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Speaker 3: No, I did not say that. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Within an hour, got some reactions, and my mom ended

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Speaker 2: up deleting the phone. Some in our family say that

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Speaker 2: I was an a hole for embarrassing my mom online

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Speaker 2: where she was only venting her frustrations, and so I

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Speaker 2: should have left it at that. I say my mom

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Speaker 2: is mad too, or using a mistake she made back

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Speaker 2: then to humiliate her to her friends and other family

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Speaker 2: who saw the post and are now being It's hard

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Speaker 2: to feel like I am the a hole when I

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Speaker 2: just called her out when she tried to pull the

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Speaker 2: victim card.

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Speaker 1: So am I the A hole?

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Speaker 2: Ladies and gentlemen, you know the drill was OPI the

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Speaker 2: a hole here? Would you have done anything differently in

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Speaker 2: Op's shoes?

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Speaker 3: What doesn't sound like the parents have actually made showed

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Speaker 3: me that you actually freaking.

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Speaker 2: Care, Sam, She ended racism. I don't think OP necessarily

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Speaker 2: did anything wrong handle. The only thing I would say

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Speaker 2: is like, allow them to show you that they've actually changed.

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Speaker 2: I would say, okay, like sit down, what is there

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Speaker 2: beyond your Facebook post?

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Speaker 3: Exactly? And like seems like they didn't care until money

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Speaker 3: was involved. So I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: What do you do? You think we'll see you soon?

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Speaker 3: I'm in love with you, but that doesn't matter because

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Speaker 3: I'm throwing you in jail because you stole fourteen thousand

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Speaker 3: dollars for me.

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Speaker 1: You deserve it, you know, I mean that is that

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Speaker 1: is a crime.

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Speaker 3: Dude, fourteen k what what's the crime? And like like

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Speaker 3: like it's a felony to steal more than like nine

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Speaker 3: hundred bucks.

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Speaker 1: I heard it's a crime of passion.

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Speaker 3: Hmm, let's make this a crime of passion. That sounds bad, Okay,

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Speaker 3: very good. I'll just get straight to it. I'm a

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Speaker 3: college student and this is my last semester until medical school.

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Speaker 3: Yeah do that doctor shit bro sice those people open,

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Speaker 3: get blood all over your pants, slip it up, become

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Speaker 3: a vampire. I've never been able to get a lot,

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Speaker 3: and I've worked five and a half years to get

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Speaker 3: so it takes away longer. That's freaking hard.

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Speaker 1: That's a lot.

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Speaker 3: Man. He's gonna it's gonna be sad when he realizes

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Speaker 3: college is fucking worthless. I've worked two, sometimes three jobs

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Speaker 3: at a time, and I barely have a social life.

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Speaker 3: Sucks for you, bro, It's gonna be your whole life

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Speaker 3: as a doctor.

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Speaker 2: Look at me, I'm just operating without any friends.

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Speaker 3: God, I'm just imagining. Like he like fucks up on

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Speaker 3: a surgery and uh, he just recreates like a weekend

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Speaker 3: at Bernie's kind of deals.

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Speaker 1: Like this is my friend, me his friend.

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Speaker 3: And for this upcoming semester, I reached my goal for tuition,

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Speaker 3: so I quit one of my jobs so I could

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Speaker 3: relax a bit. Wrong, never relax, Always be operating, baby right.

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Speaker 3: I was a server bartender at two bars, and an

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Speaker 3: office job, so I always had a little cash. Hit

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Speaker 3: my apartment, in my closet in a box. Catch me

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Speaker 3: stealing your shit? Now I know where it is.

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Speaker 1: You mean like this, Yeah, you'll like that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. So I hide this in the closet box and

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Speaker 3: then I deposit it every once in a while so

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Speaker 3: I can pay my tuition. My boyfriend sometimes stays over

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Speaker 3: while I'm there or when i'm not. Since I've been

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Speaker 3: saving for this semester, he's the only one who's been over.

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Speaker 3: Oh really, I've never told him about the box, but

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Speaker 3: he knows I have to pay for school. Damn. Okay,

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Speaker 3: she's setting something up. That's right, she's setting up a

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Speaker 3: b a big buffoonery by this boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: Her father stole it, Dan calling it twist.

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Speaker 3: Well, yesterday night, I get home to put money in

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Speaker 3: the box because I was a gunna deposit it today,

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Speaker 3: and then I found out it's all gone.

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Speaker 2: No.

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Speaker 3: I freaked out and tore my apartment up, thinking I

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Speaker 3: put it somewhere else, knowing I didn't. I called my

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Speaker 3: boyfriend like crazy and no answer, suspicies. I didn't sleep

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Speaker 3: last night because I was panicking. Then this morning, boyfriend

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Speaker 3: finally calls me back. I'm yelling at him about my money,

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Speaker 3: and he's acting all confused like I'm crazy. Motherfucker's gas

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Speaker 3: light in her What money? Eh?

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Speaker 1: I don't know anything about that.

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Speaker 3: He comes over and I'm still pissed off. And then finally,

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Speaker 3: after a while, he admits he took it because he

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Speaker 3: wants to borrow it, and then he'll pay me back.

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Speaker 1: Don't worry, I'll get it back to you.

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Speaker 3: You know that's how borrowing works. You take first, You

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Speaker 3: take first, then ask for permission later.

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Speaker 2: Exactly, Sam, Sam, can I just have a hundred thousand away?

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Speaker 3: I already heard Johnny, you can have anything. Yay, take

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Speaker 3: from me all you want. Oh yeah, oh yeah, baby.

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Speaker 3: I was ridiculously surprised. Where the f is he gonna

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Speaker 3: get fourteen thousand dollars in two weeks. I went into

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Speaker 3: a race agent, called the police and reported a theft

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Speaker 3: because that's what he did, he was thieving. Well, it's

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Speaker 3: been hours now. I guess he got his phone call

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Speaker 3: because his family has been blowing my phone up and

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Speaker 3: his mother has said some really hurtful and racist things

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Speaker 3: to me. Wait, so boyfriend got arrested. I guess she.

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Speaker 1: Did the job. Wow, that was quick, that's right.

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Speaker 3: They've been harassing me for the past six hours and

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Speaker 3: it's stressing me out even more. And I hate that.

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Speaker 3: I'm feeling bad for him. But he stole my money

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Speaker 3: that I've been saving for months.

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Speaker 1: Literally.

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Speaker 3: His brother did call and he was respectful and said

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Speaker 3: they'll help him pay it back, and I should just

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Speaker 3: go to the police station with him and tell him

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Speaker 3: I want to drop the charges, but I really don't

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Speaker 3: believe them. I could do that and never get my

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Speaker 3: money back. I don't know what to do, and I

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Speaker 3: hate that I'm contemplating doing this and having my boyfriend

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Speaker 3: sent to prison forever. I'm just really pissed off and

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Speaker 3: I've been crying all frickin' day.

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Speaker 2: I think she should play some mind games, like like

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Speaker 2: take him to court and then and then be like,

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Speaker 2: will you marry me? And then get married in the

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Speaker 2: court because she's already there. And then she says, I'm

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Speaker 2: divorcing you and taking you for every taking.

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Speaker 3: Taking half baby. No, no, I don't.

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Speaker 1: I don't want just for I want all of it.

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Speaker 3: Damn bro, that's a move. That's that's how she does it.

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Speaker 3: That that's a freaking uh that's a chess move right there.

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Speaker 3: That's some forty chess. That's right, I think, Like, I mean,

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Speaker 3: like one, that's not how you borrow shit. So like

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Speaker 3: boyfriend is totally in the wrong.

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Speaker 2: Take a little.

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Speaker 3: I mean also like I think what wasn't addresses definitely

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Speaker 3: break up with this guy? Oh yeah, I love how

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Speaker 3: it's like all right, Like I feel like the order

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Speaker 3: of operation should have been like I'm breaking up with you, yes,

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Speaker 3: I'm reporting you to the police, But she just went

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Speaker 3: straight to the reporting the police part, and she admitted

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Speaker 3: in the title like she's still in love with this guy.

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Speaker 3: So like, are they still dating, but like she's going

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Speaker 3: to visit him in jail and still dating through the

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Speaker 3: phone call. So let me.

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Speaker 2: Address the elephant in the prison walls in the cell

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Speaker 2: of the elephant.

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Speaker 3: In the cell. Oh god, well yeah, this is this

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Speaker 3: is just just know the rules are borrowing.

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Speaker 1: Come yeah yeah,