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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for not wanting to marry

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Speaker 1: my brother and his fiance anymore?

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Speaker 2: Marrying both your brother and his fiance that say I'm illegal?

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Speaker 1: You know this is something that can be read many

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Speaker 1: different ways, but it's answering the question when should you

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Speaker 1: give or take away support those close to you. We're

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Speaker 1: going to dive into that after reading sufficient Strike ten story.

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Speaker 1: Who says, Hi, everyone, I Mail twenty six need some

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Speaker 2: That you can offer.

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Speaker 1: My brother and his fiance have asked me to officiate

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Speaker 1: their wedding in May twenty twenty five, which we should

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Speaker 1: all officiate our.

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Speaker 2: Own weddings to yet each other's weddings.

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Speaker 1: Yes, that would be kind of fire.

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Speaker 2: Or or we can officiate one of your weddings if

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Speaker 2: you let us just just in the discord, just.

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Speaker 1: Let us do it.

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Speaker 2: Please.

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Speaker 1: However, after observing how she treats my brother, I no

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Speaker 1: longer feel comfortable officiating the warriage and wedding. The backstory,

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Speaker 1: I wonder why my brother Mail twenty seven is fiance

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Speaker 1: Positive qualities of my future sister in law. She is

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Speaker 1: She's a good human being and very intelligent, just like

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Speaker 2: Sounds like all green flags.

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Speaker 1: Concerns about control. However, some things have come up that

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Speaker 1: Future sister in law is very controlling of my brother.

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Speaker 1: She always has to know what my brother is doing

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Speaker 2: Put some ICUs in the chat if you think that

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Speaker 2: she's projecting and she's really the one cheating.

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Speaker 1: Ooh, that's literally the ICU word for word. Whenever my

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Speaker 1: because she likes having control over him. The level of

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Speaker 2: That is what is she worried about or like them

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Speaker 1: For whatever stemming reason. Maybe it's past relationship trust issues.

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Speaker 1: Maybe it's her projecting because she's the one doing something

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Speaker 1: Is it No? I would say, yeah, no, I was

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Speaker 1: Projected like a projector at elementary school. But we have more.

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Speaker 1: Also, he's like, what else do I know? I think

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Speaker 1: Nowadays, my brother spends most of the time at their

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Speaker 2: Beautiful, yeah, But future sister in laws know is like

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Speaker 1: Tone matters. Recently, there was an incident where she was

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Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen. Reading between the lines, it does seem

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Speaker 2: You you deserve love?

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Speaker 1: And and all of that. So to some extent was

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Speaker 1: I mean, what do you what do you think? Chat?

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Speaker 2: that it's time to have a real sit down conversation

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Speaker 2: because like, this isn't this isn't run of the mill,

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Speaker 2: it's not going to get better. But there's more to

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Speaker 1: Chinks so entitled demanding and emotionally abusive title the section

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Speaker 1: It reads, My brother and future sister in law moved

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Speaker 2: Oh a little, she's rich.

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Speaker 1: law is quite the scaredy cat and didn't want to

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Speaker 1: Despite making more money than my brother, she and her

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Speaker 1: or even decreased. In the past, future sister in law

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Speaker 1: have shown a significant sense of entitlement. She struggles to

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Speaker 1: My brother once asked her to buy a simple four

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Speaker 1: hurt her to consider that. Her response was im traditional woman,

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Speaker 2: don't see what Opie's brother sees.

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Speaker 1: I don't see I see zero good qualities. Because also

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Speaker 1: Like literally, I feel like she's debunking every single good thing,

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I think she's just trying to say something

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Speaker 1: Just Casanda saying oh no, financially abusive to she is

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Speaker 1: more ladies and gentlemen future as sister in law tends

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Speaker 2: My god, it was a feeling.

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Speaker 1: I had it. It was in my gut. It knew,

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Speaker 1: I mean, low key, this was her forcing him to propose. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and if I just tell everyone that he has, he

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Speaker 2: Do you mean you didn't propose? I don't think you

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Speaker 2: would just make that up. I bet you're just riscinding

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Speaker 2: the proposal, you turn exactly, dude. It was so embarrassing

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Speaker 2: because when the family asked to see the ring, as

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Speaker 1: For it because she got so ahead of herself. This

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Speaker 1: behavior often puts my brother in a difficult position, feeling

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Speaker 1: pressured to meet her premature plans and commitments. Dude, she

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Speaker 2: She's gonna announce that she's like pregnant a year before

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Speaker 1: Yeah, She's like like, oh, I'm pregnant, Like, oh my gosh,

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Speaker 1: Like how many weeks? Oh?

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Speaker 1: My brother ended up proposing to her on Valentine's Day

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Speaker 1: this year, twenty twenty four. After ring shopping for about

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Speaker 1: two months. He got her a beautiful ring, spending about

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Speaker 1: two months worth of his wages, which was very admirable.

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Speaker 1: What if he completely drained.

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Speaker 2: His fake account. I mean that seems like what he's doing,

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Speaker 2: He's spending all of his money on this person.

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Speaker 1: Literally. However, her reaction felt entitled. When I privately asked

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Speaker 1: It's what it should be, as if he barely met

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Speaker 1: her expectation. Despite my brother's significant effort and expense, even

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Speaker 1: after pressuring him to propose to her. Next section further implications,

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Speaker 1: that one of us could face that outcome. Thinking logically,

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Speaker 2: Over here, Opie's writing this like their dissertation.

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Speaker 1: Thinking logically given these odds, I worry about my brother's

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Speaker 1: even more strain and issues in their merit. Obviously, every

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Speaker 1: aking half of his assets when things could you imagine

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Speaker 1: she sits here, she's paying She's literally paying for nothing,

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Speaker 1: making more.

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Speaker 2: Money Dutchess Casana says, what assets man has no money?

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Speaker 1: Bro Literally, you know what my suspicion is. I would

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Speaker 1: say he wanted to get a three months wage rang,

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Speaker 1: that would have been literally all of his savings, so

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Speaker 1: he earns way less. He earns less and opie or

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Speaker 1: earns less than then h a future sister in law

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Speaker 1: exact the fiance the unfortunate bride to be op He continues,

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Speaker 1: this kind of impulsive behavior can be damaging and adds

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Speaker 1: my concerns for their future. I can foresee these issues

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Speaker 1: continuing in the future, and I feel like I won't

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Speaker 1: be able to see my brother as much, and the

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Speaker 1: same goes for my parents. It seems like it's going

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Speaker 1: to be like that. My role and decision here's where

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Speaker 1: the juice. The juice is popping up. My role in

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Speaker 1: the relationship with my brother is significant, and my decision

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Speaker 1: not to officiate their wedding comes out of a place

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Speaker 1: I'm afraid that if I back out, future sister in

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Speaker 1: law will be deeply hurt. Given her reaction to me

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Speaker 1: setting boundaries in my own home, you can only imagine

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Speaker 1: how she'll react to this more personal decision. I would

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Speaker 1: be kind of afraid.

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Speaker 2: If she's that controlling when everything is going well, what

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Speaker 2: she gonna do when things hit shit they like boom

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Speaker 2: hit the fan.

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Speaker 1: Boom, yes, crap on those fans. She might take it

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Speaker 1: as a side that I don't like her, I don't

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Speaker 1: in the family, which isn't true. What maybe OP is

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Speaker 2: I feel like I feel like they're trying to be

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Speaker 2: as nice as possible, but this person is garbage.

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Speaker 1: But I don't want to officiate officiate their wedding anymore.

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Speaker 1: If I were to go through with the officiating, I

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Speaker 1: feel like it would be forced and my heart wouldn't

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Speaker 1: be in it. I'm afraid that she'll get very upset,

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Speaker 1: possibly even poison my brother mind against me.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I thought we were going to stop that just

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Speaker 2: poison my brother, which is not out of the question.

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Speaker 1: I am I do not trust this person at all

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Speaker 1: in the slightest however, I believe my brother will understand

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Speaker 1: and respect my decision. While he might be disappointed and sad,

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Speaker 1: I think our strong relationship will remain intact. He will

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Speaker 1: respect my choice and not force me into something I

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Speaker 1: am uncomfortable with.

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Speaker 2: The advice I seek?

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Speaker 1: Is am I the ahole for not wanting to mary

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Speaker 1: carry my brother and his fiance anymore? How should I

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Speaker 1: break it to them? Should I break it to my

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Speaker 1: brother first? Or should I break it to them together? Man,

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Speaker 1: we got we got a few questions, and I feel

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Speaker 1: like we should quickly break them down. So first, is

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Speaker 1: OP the a hole for not wanting to officiate the wedding?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 2: Because she really thinks it shouldn't go through.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, honestly, I'm almost like you're the a You could

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Speaker 1: almost say you're the a hole for not going far enough.

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Speaker 2: I feel like she needs to step in and ave

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Speaker 2: this guy.

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Speaker 1: And then big question, how should I break it to them? Comments?

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Speaker 1: Let me know if you have any thoughts on this

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Speaker 1: or if you've had to do something similar.

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Speaker 2: But I think that what needs to happen is she

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Speaker 2: needs to have a one on one conversation, maybe just

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Speaker 2: reading out this post saying like, hey, this is everything.

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Speaker 2: That I'm seeing. Yes, are you seeing this too?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Ideal best case scenario. I totally forgot about that

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Speaker 1: tidbit that you mentioned earlier, which I one thousand percent

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Speaker 1: think is the right move. I think maybe maybe you

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Speaker 1: curate the store and then some relevant comments and you

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Speaker 1: could be like, hey, you could read everything in all

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Speaker 1: the comments if you want, But like, if you could

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Speaker 1: do me this favor as your sister who loves you

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Speaker 1: and supports you and wants to be there for you,

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Speaker 1: just read this story and these relevant comments and let

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Speaker 1: me know how you feel. Either read it to him

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Speaker 1: if you have to, or have him read it if

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Speaker 1: he is ultimately willing. It does seem like OP does

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Speaker 1: have the rapport and respect with OP to be able

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Speaker 1: to make that ask in him. I feel like he

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Speaker 1: probably will agree. So from Tentacle Wolverine irrelevant comment, not

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Speaker 1: the ahole, but there is a good chance to repercussions

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Speaker 1: from your decision are going to be much worse than

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Speaker 1: you think. I think that you should make a much

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Speaker 1: bigger effort to get your brother alone and discuss all

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Speaker 1: of this with him before announcing anything to anyone. And

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Speaker 1: then someone replies, not the a hole, but I would

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Speaker 1: try talking to brother first and laying it all out

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Speaker 1: as kindly and respectfully as you can before you make

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Speaker 1: it public that you aren't officiating, and be prepared that

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Speaker 1: he may cut you off for go no contact. Just

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Speaker 1: remind him that your door is always open should he

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Speaker 1: need someone. I'm so sorry for you and your brother.

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Speaker 1: Future sister in law sounds like a horrible partner in

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Speaker 1: downright abusive, an elegant p Forty one ninety five says,

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Speaker 1: not the a hole. But you're right to be worried.

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Speaker 1: I would imagine future sitistan in law will attempt to

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Speaker 1: phase you out like she did your brother's friends. Good point.

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Speaker 1: I think it's okay to admit that you don't love her. Dude,

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Speaker 1: she's an utter jerk, and.

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Speaker 2: That's what we were saying, Like it's okay to admit that. Honestly.

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Speaker 1: I think it's like you're kind of doing yourself and

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Speaker 1: everyone at disservice by not admitting, Like, call the apple

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Speaker 1: the apple exactly, but don't call an orange anything bad

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Speaker 1: out a driggen nightmare person who will probably resemble jacqulin

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Speaker 1: Hyde to your brother on a daily basis. You say

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Speaker 1: she is driven and hard working, but if she refuses

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Speaker 1: to buy a coffee or a burger, claiming to be

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Speaker 1: a traditional woman. Now, then dollars to donuts. She's planning

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Speaker 1: on quitting her job five minutes after the wedding to

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Speaker 1: become to become.

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Speaker 2: A lady of leisure, which I really like that term though,

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Speaker 2: lady of the lady of leisure.

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Speaker 1: Which important context. That could be great, but probably the

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Speaker 1: brother would be struggling to financially completely support both of them.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, although he's not not making enough.

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Speaker 1: To do that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds like her tastes.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it sounds like shol her taste will

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Speaker 1: increase and he will be under even more pressure. But

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Speaker 1: I fear that your brother's relief over no longer being single,

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Speaker 1: as well as most likely persistent low self esteem, has

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Speaker 1: made him feel grateful to not be alone, no matter

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Speaker 1: how monstrous his partner is. Uh, if the marriage goes ahead,

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Speaker 1: he can probably look forward to a life of misery

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Speaker 1: and self Uh what is it?

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Speaker 2: A h A facement?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, self effacement. I guess that's kind of like self

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Speaker 1: torture almost, Yes, sit him down and all that. But

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Speaker 1: to be honest, everyone seems to realize that this is

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Speaker 1: a huge problem, but no one dares say anything because

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Speaker 1: her personality is so dominant, her control of him is

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Speaker 1: so complete, which honestly leads me to a thought, do

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Speaker 1: you actually, first, maybe before showing the post relevant comments

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Speaker 1: like this, quietly go to the other family members that

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Speaker 1: you trust the most and do it as a unit.

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Speaker 2: Okay, here we go, here we go, talk to me talk.

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Speaker 2: You take this post, everything that everyone said yes, and

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Speaker 2: all everything that you've lined up. You go to family

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Speaker 2: members that you think you could currye support with. You

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Speaker 2: go to the mom, you go to the to the uncles,

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Speaker 2: you go to the everyone else in the family. But

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Speaker 2: you basically go to him with all of this and say,

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Speaker 2: we all believe that you should break up with this

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Speaker 2: person because she's terrible. Not only that, but the entire

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Speaker 2: internet believes that you should break up with this person.

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Speaker 1: Or maybe you intentionally plan and go one by one.

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Speaker 2: And then let's say if he starts cutting people out,

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00:20:39,200 --> 00:20:40,840
Speaker 2: there's still is multiple chances.

440
00:20:41,359 --> 00:20:45,760
Speaker 1: There's multiple chances, and probably what happens is you go

441
00:20:45,840 --> 00:20:49,040
Speaker 1: down the line, maybe like you know, three, four, five, six,

442
00:20:49,119 --> 00:20:52,399
Speaker 1: and then he finally starts coming around, and if he

443
00:20:52,440 --> 00:20:58,440
Speaker 1: comes around, almost guaranteed he will go full contact back

444
00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:00,199
Speaker 1: to those people. Because if you think about it, like

445
00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:02,960
Speaker 1: even things like oh so like when somebody recommends like

446
00:21:02,960 --> 00:21:05,600
Speaker 1: a book or a show, when some like after three

447
00:21:05,600 --> 00:21:08,399
Speaker 1: people recommend it, you're like, I literally have to especially

448
00:21:08,440 --> 00:21:10,600
Speaker 1: people can trust their opinion. I have to watch this,

449
00:21:10,680 --> 00:21:11,320
Speaker 1: I have to read this.

450
00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:15,280
Speaker 2: Or that's been happening to me with Shit's Creek. Really

451
00:21:15,520 --> 00:21:17,159
Speaker 2: people keep recommending it to me.

452
00:21:17,280 --> 00:21:20,520
Speaker 1: That's so funny. I feel like I feel like that

453
00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:23,760
Speaker 1: is a good plan. I feel like we've landed at

454
00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:26,040
Speaker 1: a good, good plan And maybe just to touch back

455
00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:28,760
Speaker 1: on real quick to tie the bow on this episode,

456
00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:31,160
Speaker 1: when should you give or take away support to those

457
00:21:31,320 --> 00:21:33,760
Speaker 1: close to you? I think this is a clear cut

458
00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:37,720
Speaker 1: example of giving support because it's it's there's this like

459
00:21:37,760 --> 00:21:39,480
Speaker 1: threshold where it's like, okay, you need to step in,

460
00:21:39,720 --> 00:21:41,360
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, And you're the person and

461
00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:43,639
Speaker 1: all of the kind of stars aligned to step in.

462
00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:45,840
Speaker 1: This is the time to do it. But with that,

463
00:21:46,840 --> 00:21:48,960
Speaker 1: this is a wrap, So if you love us, make

464
00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:52,560
Speaker 1: sure to subscribe we love You and see it tomorrow.

465
00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:56,280
Speaker 2: This is an episode from Deep within the Archives.

466
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Speaker 1: Time for okop rewamh my mom evicted my sixteen year

467
00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:05,879
Speaker 1: old brother for defending my gay friend. I thought it

468
00:22:05,960 --> 00:22:10,359
Speaker 1: was over, but now Child Protective Services are getting involved. Yeah.

469
00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:15,359
Speaker 2: When Child Protective Services parachutes in descends on your home,

470
00:22:15,720 --> 00:22:17,440
Speaker 2: that's when you know things are getting serious.

471
00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:18,560
Speaker 1: CPS is not playing.

472
00:22:18,640 --> 00:22:19,160
Speaker 2: No, they don't.

473
00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:21,000
Speaker 1: Three letter mafia, do you know what I mean?

474
00:22:21,040 --> 00:22:25,280
Speaker 2: Out here taking your kids, taking your wife, that they're

475
00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:26,240
Speaker 2: taking everyone out here?

476
00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:29,080
Speaker 1: Is this three letter mafia versus alphabet mafia?

477
00:22:29,400 --> 00:22:33,840
Speaker 2: M alphabet mafia? Dude, I love the alphabet mafia. Honestly,

478
00:22:34,080 --> 00:22:35,600
Speaker 2: shout out to you, allergy.

479
00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:36,240
Speaker 1: Shout out you.

480
00:22:36,840 --> 00:22:39,920
Speaker 2: I A two S plus. That's right, we know that,

481
00:22:39,960 --> 00:22:43,840
Speaker 2: we know, we know all the letters. Oh yeah, all right, allies.

482
00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:46,400
Speaker 1: So such allies we are.

483
00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:48,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, we know every letter.

484
00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:50,800
Speaker 1: This happened a few days ago, and my brother's been

485
00:22:50,840 --> 00:22:54,040
Speaker 1: staying at a friend's place ever since, around Sunday night.

486
00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:56,640
Speaker 1: To be exact, my mom and brother have argued about

487
00:22:56,680 --> 00:22:59,119
Speaker 1: this friend in the past, but this time it was

488
00:22:59,160 --> 00:23:02,240
Speaker 1: about me and my brother is still not back home yet.

489
00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:05,439
Speaker 2: Oh geez. So this is a ramifications.

490
00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:09,000
Speaker 1: Serious ramifications, like literally the parents have kicked him out before,

491
00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:10,760
Speaker 1: Like this is insanity.

492
00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:14,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, this seems like a not the best home environment.

493
00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:22,160
Speaker 2: Wait wait, doctor Donner, is it whoa my last name's

494
00:23:22,200 --> 00:23:27,879
Speaker 2: daughter and he has prescribed a dysfunctional family.

495
00:23:28,520 --> 00:23:29,320
Speaker 1: It's been decided.

496
00:23:29,320 --> 00:23:31,720
Speaker 2: It's been decided. Take two prozac in the morning.

497
00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:35,679
Speaker 1: There we go. Now, our family went out for dinner

498
00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:38,719
Speaker 1: on Mother's Day when we began talking about my upcoming

499
00:23:38,800 --> 00:23:43,200
Speaker 1: sweet sixteen and a family that my mom doesn't want there.

500
00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:47,360
Speaker 2: Oh what family? What's the tea? John? Well, I've got

501
00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:51,400
Speaker 2: that tea Like you're like a Boston tea party guy

502
00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:54,280
Speaker 2: and dude going to the tea and spilling it in

503
00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:57,960
Speaker 2: the river the Boston Harbor.

504
00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:00,760
Speaker 1: I'm about to spill this tea like we're never going

505
00:24:00,800 --> 00:24:01,520
Speaker 1: to be taxed again.

506
00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:05,080
Speaker 2: Oh without representation.

507
00:24:05,480 --> 00:24:09,680
Speaker 1: Yeah. I have a friend Max, not his real name,

508
00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:13,320
Speaker 1: Oh to God forbid use his real name, who's always

509
00:24:13,320 --> 00:24:15,680
Speaker 1: cool with us, But ever since he came out as gay,

510
00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:18,120
Speaker 1: I haven't been allowed to hang out with him anymore.

511
00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:22,119
Speaker 1: And my mom uninvited him from the party because she

512
00:24:22,320 --> 00:24:24,080
Speaker 1: said she's paying for the party.

513
00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:29,680
Speaker 2: Why bro, Wow, dude, it's like twenty twenty three. You can't.

514
00:24:29,840 --> 00:24:34,040
Speaker 2: You can't just be hating people absolutely like this.

515
00:24:34,200 --> 00:24:37,359
Speaker 1: Come on, God, and I can't because I'm paying for

516
00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:39,840
Speaker 1: the party. You're the parent, bro.

517
00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:43,159
Speaker 2: You're supposed to be setting an example. Yeah, Leliah a

518
00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 2: good example, but you're just setting an example.

519
00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:54,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, a terrible example. She's crushed that crushed, terrible bro.

520
00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:57,080
Speaker 1: She's the queen of homophobia. Yeah, she's like top to

521
00:24:57,160 --> 00:25:02,040
Speaker 1: your homophobia. Westboro Baptist Church. Is me is missing a

522
00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:03,280
Speaker 1: key member over here?

523
00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:04,000
Speaker 2: God?

524
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:08,280
Speaker 1: I told him many times I wanted my friend Max

525
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:10,800
Speaker 1: at the party, and look, he's not my best friend,

526
00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:14,560
Speaker 1: but we're still friends. But she said no because it's

527
00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:18,720
Speaker 1: her money. And she's also gone on Facebook to talk

528
00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:22,000
Speaker 1: about why his parents raised him wrong in all kinds

529
00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:22,679
Speaker 1: of stuff like that.

530
00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:28,600
Speaker 2: Yo, I don't care if you don't agree with someone's

531
00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:32,280
Speaker 2: parenting style, right, I could care even if you do,

532
00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:36,920
Speaker 2: like vehmiently disagree. Why would you flame him on Facebook?

533
00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:38,479
Speaker 1: No, that's not the place.

534
00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:41,719
Speaker 2: Do it on Reddit, that's not the place, you know,

535
00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:44,000
Speaker 2: what is this? Do it on Snapchat?

536
00:25:44,440 --> 00:25:49,240
Speaker 1: Like, do it on our slash Oko show show.

537
00:25:49,359 --> 00:25:52,800
Speaker 2: That's where you flame people because we can flame back bitches.

538
00:25:52,920 --> 00:25:57,639
Speaker 1: Who imagine people start using us as revenge, Like I

539
00:25:57,680 --> 00:26:02,280
Speaker 1: got revenge on my boyfriend by blowing up his cheating

540
00:26:02,320 --> 00:26:04,200
Speaker 1: on our slash OKP show.

541
00:26:04,520 --> 00:26:09,240
Speaker 2: Please do that, please, that we're here for here wrongly,

542
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 2: we are the roastmasters over.

543
00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:15,960
Speaker 1: Here exactly now. My mom said that Max's father wasn't

544
00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:18,800
Speaker 1: too happy about him coming out too, but I don't

545
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:20,320
Speaker 1: know too many specifics.

546
00:26:20,359 --> 00:26:22,520
Speaker 2: All irrelevant, all irrelevant.

547
00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:26,280
Speaker 1: God. When we were all at dinner and the party

548
00:26:26,320 --> 00:26:28,840
Speaker 1: came up, my brother got upset when my mom made

549
00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:32,360
Speaker 1: a comment about a Facebook post she liked regarding BLM

550
00:26:32,560 --> 00:26:36,840
Speaker 1: that she was agreeing with, but my brother called her

551
00:26:36,840 --> 00:26:39,959
Speaker 1: a hypocrite when she showed my dad the post and

552
00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:43,200
Speaker 1: said that she supported the movement.

553
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:46,920
Speaker 2: What a great ally, wow, huge.

554
00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:51,600
Speaker 1: All wow, still hating gay people, and that she was

555
00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:54,760
Speaker 1: no better than a racist, And my dad told him

556
00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:57,560
Speaker 1: to stop saying stuff like that. And then my mom

557
00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:00,359
Speaker 1: said she didn't want to talk about the party at dinner.

558
00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:03,240
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry.

559
00:27:03,520 --> 00:27:06,440
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry being confronted with your homophobia.

560
00:27:09,119 --> 00:27:12,040
Speaker 1: Also, when she was like like, oh, look look at me,

561
00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:18,040
Speaker 1: I'm such a good ally, like at Like, God, I'm

562
00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:19,320
Speaker 1: getting sick from the story.

563
00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:20,879
Speaker 2: I'm literally about to throw up.

564
00:27:21,000 --> 00:27:25,639
Speaker 1: Yeah, But my brother didn't stop. He raised his voice

565
00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:27,879
Speaker 1: so that others could hear him, and he called her

566
00:27:27,960 --> 00:27:33,080
Speaker 1: a salute got him. Bro escalated quickly, and that's when

567
00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:36,320
Speaker 1: she told him to leave the house. He got up

568
00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 1: and drove away.

569
00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:42,320
Speaker 2: A bing about a bull. I actually, I mean I

570
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:43,440
Speaker 2: like that he's sticking up.

571
00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:47,000
Speaker 1: I honestly, Yeah, like shout shout out to the brother

572
00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 1: especially like this mom is just so like.

573
00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:54,200
Speaker 2: I mean, it's also like to be the son of

574
00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:57,520
Speaker 2: a set of parents that are that homophobic and then

575
00:27:57,560 --> 00:27:59,479
Speaker 2: to like come out on the other side of it

576
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:02,760
Speaker 2: and be an ally, I think is like more power

577
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 2: to you because you'll find those answers out yourself.

578
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:08,439
Speaker 1: So now my mom has thrown a lot of his

579
00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:12,200
Speaker 1: stuff out, and she said that she's talked to the parents,

580
00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 1: to the friend he's staying with, but he hasn't come

581
00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:16,720
Speaker 1: back yet, and I feel like it's my fault and

582
00:28:16,760 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 1: I don't even know when he'll come back. God, she's

583
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:23,080
Speaker 1: she's literally your own mother is throwing your stuff like

584
00:28:23,480 --> 00:28:26,879
Speaker 1: out of the house. Wait, so the mother is throwing

585
00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:30,480
Speaker 1: the brothers stuff out of the house. Yes, and the

586
00:28:30,560 --> 00:28:33,959
Speaker 1: brothers not even gay. He's just an ally.

587
00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 2: Defending a new level of homophobiah right, like you know,

588
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:43,719
Speaker 2: anti gay that anyone who even is in support of

589
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 2: gay people God, they're out there. Yeah, you forget like

590
00:28:48,840 --> 00:28:50,560
Speaker 2: we live in LA. We forget these people.

591
00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:56,200
Speaker 1: This insanity. At this point, part of me doesn't even

592
00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 1: want to have my birthday party anymore. And I just

593
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:01,040
Speaker 1: feel like I've ruined everything by even wanting one.

594
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 2: No, your mom has ruined. This is your mom, opie,

595
00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:05,840
Speaker 2: don't don't blame yourself.

596
00:29:05,960 --> 00:29:08,440
Speaker 1: No. Is there anything I can do to fix this

597
00:29:08,560 --> 00:29:10,560
Speaker 1: besides telling them that I don't want to have the

598
00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:13,440
Speaker 1: party because my mom has said that I'm having it

599
00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:15,080
Speaker 1: whether I want it or not.

600
00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:21,080
Speaker 2: This is what you do? Tell us save some money. Yep,

601
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 2: you know, do your party is normal? But then order

602
00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:31,880
Speaker 2: a gay stripper? Geanus, there we go, genius have well

603
00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:35,200
Speaker 2: is it a because I was gonna say, and have

604
00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:39,120
Speaker 2: that gay stripper rub up against your mom? But is

605
00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:41,800
Speaker 2: the stripper gay? Two male strippers? Two male?

606
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:44,400
Speaker 1: Oh, two male strippers rubbing up against each other. That's right,

607
00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:46,360
Speaker 1: Make it a show. Make it a show.

608
00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:49,480
Speaker 2: That would be have her weapon say this is love,

609
00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:51,720
Speaker 2: you know, look upon it.

610
00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:54,040
Speaker 1: No, this is this is what they do. So they

611
00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:56,760
Speaker 1: come in like dress as police officers. Like you're making

612
00:29:56,760 --> 00:29:58,640
Speaker 1: way too much noise. You need to do you need

613
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:01,080
Speaker 1: to turn it down and then like, oh my gosh,

614
00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:04,240
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, officer. And then they rip off their

615
00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:06,960
Speaker 1: their clothes and they have just a tiny little spandex

616
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:11,280
Speaker 1: and on their asses it says, this is love wow,

617
00:30:11,600 --> 00:30:13,720
Speaker 1: and they're like doing a little booty bump just like.

618
00:30:13,760 --> 00:30:15,640
Speaker 2: Dude, this is a piece of art right here.

619
00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:19,280
Speaker 1: Oh, that's what I would do, the op honestly, that's

620
00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:20,400
Speaker 1: that's an update for you.

621
00:30:20,720 --> 00:30:24,080
Speaker 2: I O, Pie, please do this, do this if we

622
00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:26,560
Speaker 2: if you are serious about doing this, we will start

623
00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:30,920
Speaker 2: a gofund me. We really will to have you have

624
00:30:31,080 --> 00:30:37,520
Speaker 2: your your your gay stripper birthday, which is what Opie wants, right,

625
00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:42,520
Speaker 2: I mean, come on, I love how op just was

626
00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:45,520
Speaker 2: to be like inclusive. That's like it and.

627
00:30:45,640 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 1: All we want is gay strippers, and all we want

628
00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:49,520
Speaker 1: is gay strippers. It's really a simple ass.

629
00:30:49,600 --> 00:30:51,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think, I think. I mean, if you want

630
00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:53,760
Speaker 2: to elevate any party you get, you get gay strippers.

631
00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:55,960
Speaker 1: I would I would say that. But you know, the

632
00:30:56,040 --> 00:30:59,400
Speaker 1: story is about to get elevated it because there's an update.

633
00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:04,440
Speaker 2: There's enough. They please tell me their baby, let me

634
00:31:04,520 --> 00:31:05,240
Speaker 2: tell you.

635
00:31:05,200 --> 00:31:08,240
Speaker 1: Let me tell you it's not being My brother ended

636
00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:11,640
Speaker 1: up coming home after a few days but before he did,

637
00:31:12,160 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 1: I was able to talk to one of my friend's

638
00:31:14,080 --> 00:31:17,640
Speaker 1: moms from school, and I told her everything that happened

639
00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:19,640
Speaker 1: and everything before.

640
00:31:19,400 --> 00:31:23,960
Speaker 2: He spilled t is spilt tea party collution in this bitch.

641
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:26,400
Speaker 2: She say, bitch too much. I'm gonna. I'm gonna, Yeah,

642
00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:30,240
Speaker 2: what are you doing, I'm gonna. I'm cool at it

643
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:30,840
Speaker 2: on the bitching.

644
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:35,480
Speaker 1: Okay, great, Now, she already knew about Max coming out

645
00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:38,239
Speaker 1: and was totally cool with it. And she said that

646
00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:40,880
Speaker 1: she saw my mom's Facebook post too, and she very

647
00:31:40,960 --> 00:31:43,440
Speaker 1: much disagreed with it. I showed her my Reddit post

648
00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:45,760
Speaker 1: and some of the responses, saying that I didn't do

649
00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:51,000
Speaker 1: anything wrong and that I didn't video it's true, and

650
00:31:51,320 --> 00:31:53,400
Speaker 1: I told her I didn't want to call Child Protective

651
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:56,120
Speaker 1: Services or the police on my phone because of all

652
00:31:56,160 --> 00:32:00,480
Speaker 1: the parental controls. Dude, dude, this is my is.

653
00:32:00,400 --> 00:32:06,520
Speaker 2: Like helicopter mom and she's a big, terrible man. Bro

654
00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:08,880
Speaker 2: get out of a helicopter mom. At least have her

655
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:13,600
Speaker 2: be woke. Yeah, exactly like my mom. Exactly.

656
00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:16,000
Speaker 1: I needed to go out and eat your vegetables and

657
00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:19,320
Speaker 1: play in the dirt. Yeah, gosh, darn it.

658
00:32:19,320 --> 00:32:24,040
Speaker 2: And make sure to to vote yeah, Obama, exactly, this

659
00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:24,840
Speaker 2: is my youth.

660
00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:29,200
Speaker 1: Yes, But my friend's mom said that she would call

661
00:32:29,280 --> 00:32:32,120
Speaker 1: CPS for me because she didn't want them to find

662
00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:35,800
Speaker 1: it on my phone. Honestly, good idea. Shout out friend's mom,

663
00:32:36,680 --> 00:32:39,719
Speaker 1: go to a payphone. True, that's a smart idea. I

664
00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 1: also told her that I just did not want to

665
00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:43,000
Speaker 1: have the sweet sixteen anymore.

666
00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:47,400
Speaker 2: That sucks. It sucks in like your entire sweet sixt

667
00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 2: literally and she mean and God is so sitty so much.

668
00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:53,920
Speaker 1: She didn't call CPS when I was there because she

669
00:32:53,960 --> 00:32:55,840
Speaker 1: said she wanted to talk to her husband about it

670
00:32:55,880 --> 00:32:58,520
Speaker 1: first and then get back to me later. But my

671
00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:01,720
Speaker 1: brother also came back with dad a few days later,

672
00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:04,200
Speaker 1: and my mom said that they had worked it out,

673
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:08,000
Speaker 1: but didn't tell me any of the specifics. H Okay.

674
00:33:09,760 --> 00:33:11,880
Speaker 1: My brother was upset with some of the things that

675
00:33:11,920 --> 00:33:16,719
Speaker 1: my mom threw out, I mean, understanding.

676
00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:21,240
Speaker 2: Shit, oh god, oh, after she went through his room

677
00:33:21,280 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 2: when he wasn't there.

678
00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:24,960
Speaker 1: But my mom said that she still might have some

679
00:33:25,040 --> 00:33:27,800
Speaker 1: of the items or something like that. And I did

680
00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:29,840
Speaker 1: tell him I was able to set aside a few

681
00:33:29,880 --> 00:33:32,960
Speaker 1: things and that I was on his side and definitely

682
00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:36,440
Speaker 1: disagreed with Mom. I'm not sure if CPS did anything,

683
00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:39,840
Speaker 1: because he came back really soon afterwards. But my mom

684
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:47,240
Speaker 1: went back on Facebook. We're back after I after I

685
00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:48,840
Speaker 1: told her that I just didn't want to do the

686
00:33:48,880 --> 00:33:52,880
Speaker 1: party anymore, and she posted that it was Max's fault

687
00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:55,400
Speaker 1: and said a bunch of things about him again.

688
00:33:55,920 --> 00:34:01,080
Speaker 2: Oh wow, Max is getting so much heat, bro.

689
00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:03,000
Speaker 1: Why is she doing this?

690
00:34:03,000 --> 00:34:08,000
Speaker 2: This this poor this, poor freaking kids came out as

691
00:34:08,239 --> 00:34:10,880
Speaker 2: is and then to get all of this like heat

692
00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:15,240
Speaker 2: from someone you don't really even know, literally, like, God,

693
00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:18,439
Speaker 2: mind your own business, your business for freak's sake.

694
00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:27,840
Speaker 1: That's that's CPS trophies. And she also said I'm still

695
00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:31,480
Speaker 1: gonna have the party because I already paid for.

696
00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 2: It without Ope, what's doing a party for yourself?

697
00:34:37,560 --> 00:34:38,560
Speaker 1: What does this accomplish?

698
00:34:38,960 --> 00:34:42,359
Speaker 2: Please? Please tell me accept a party for the mom,

699
00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:46,839
Speaker 2: which you know, I guess sounds like she.

700
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:49,439
Speaker 1: Gets to feel like a homophobe back in the day

701
00:34:49,440 --> 00:34:51,000
Speaker 1: when she could freely express.

702
00:34:50,640 --> 00:34:54,400
Speaker 2: Your v throw her sweet sixteen and and and then

703
00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:57,360
Speaker 2: a throwback to the more homophobic.

704
00:34:56,719 --> 00:35:04,480
Speaker 1: Time exactly make my birthday party great again. Mom also

705
00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:08,040
Speaker 1: said that she is no longer paying for my brother's

706
00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 1: college after he yelled at her at dinner.

707
00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:15,319
Speaker 2: Wow camp for this, like this family is falling apart. Oh,

708
00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:18,400
Speaker 2: this this mom all over a birthday party.

709
00:35:19,239 --> 00:35:22,120
Speaker 1: God. At this point, they haven't argued too much since

710
00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:24,319
Speaker 1: he got back, but I feel like they might start

711
00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:27,680
Speaker 1: arguing again soon. Right now, I have no intentions of

712
00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:30,520
Speaker 1: having the party, and I'm completely embarrassed by my mom.

713
00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 1: She also said that if I didn't have it, I

714
00:35:33,719 --> 00:35:36,560
Speaker 1: wouldn't be allowed to volunteer at the summer camp that

715
00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:38,680
Speaker 1: I have this summer, So I feel like I have

716
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:41,160
Speaker 1: to if I want to attend my summer camp, although

717
00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:44,120
Speaker 1: I really do not want to. I just want to

718
00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:46,000
Speaker 1: ask if there's any way to get through all of

719
00:35:46,000 --> 00:35:48,359
Speaker 1: this without coming off as hateful as my mom. All

720
00:35:48,400 --> 00:35:50,840
Speaker 1: of my friends know that I support my brother and Max,

721
00:35:51,040 --> 00:35:53,080
Speaker 1: but I'm afraid that no one will like me because

722
00:35:53,120 --> 00:35:55,560
Speaker 1: of her ways, even after she has the party.

723
00:35:57,719 --> 00:35:59,520
Speaker 2: Dang, this is so hard. Like, Like, one of my

724
00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:01,840
Speaker 2: thoughts was like, all right, what if you just, you know,

725
00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:05,080
Speaker 2: do a party in secret, don't tell your party, have

726
00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:08,880
Speaker 2: your own party in the forest. I don't know, but

727
00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:12,319
Speaker 2: the thing is your mom, Like, or maybe you could

728
00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:14,799
Speaker 2: just say, hey, I'm hanging out with like billy for

729
00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:17,520
Speaker 2: a couple hours on my birthday and then just invite

730
00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:19,839
Speaker 2: you know, everyone else to build all.

731
00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:22,319
Speaker 1: The people that the mom invites her own birthday and

732
00:36:22,360 --> 00:36:25,399
Speaker 1: she's like, don't tell her at all, just like think

733
00:36:25,480 --> 00:36:29,840
Speaker 1: that no one showed up, right, because everyone's like, everyone's

734
00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:33,600
Speaker 1: like fuck this mom. She's like literally a Cuban garbage, like,

735
00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:36,640
Speaker 1: let's just all not show up and instead we'll do like.

736
00:36:36,600 --> 00:36:40,160
Speaker 2: Our own little part whatever. Yeah, yeah, I say to

737
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:43,719
Speaker 2: a forest romp, I, well, maybe not a romp, but

738
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:47,040
Speaker 2: I thought a romp was, like, you know, I think

739
00:36:47,160 --> 00:36:49,719
Speaker 2: a romp. I don't know. I always hear romp in

740
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:53,080
Speaker 2: the sack. Yeah, but I but I think a romp

741
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:55,000
Speaker 2: is just any kind of like fun and get together.

742
00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:56,920
Speaker 1: Let's let's let's see what I'll do.

743
00:36:57,000 --> 00:37:03,840
Speaker 3: I'll do without the sack sack s sand sack playing

744
00:37:03,960 --> 00:37:09,120
Speaker 3: roughly Okay, Yeah, I mean decent decent innuendo there.

745
00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:14,719
Speaker 2: Means to you do that A couple of romps here

746
00:37:14,719 --> 00:37:17,880
Speaker 2: and there, never heard about it. I remembering, are you

747
00:37:18,120 --> 00:37:21,280
Speaker 2: and my my your mother and I used to romp

748
00:37:21,280 --> 00:37:24,440
Speaker 2: in the forest back in the day. This is me

749
00:37:24,560 --> 00:37:28,440
Speaker 2: pretending to be your old uh father.

750
00:37:29,719 --> 00:37:32,719
Speaker 1: My old bot that's exactly what he sounds.

751
00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:34,960
Speaker 2: In twenty years and twenty years, twenty years and twenty

752
00:37:35,040 --> 00:37:35,680
Speaker 2: years years.

753
00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:41,000
Speaker 1: He sounds like an old wizard every old person is.

754
00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:44,600
Speaker 1: That's true, that's true. But you know, you know what

755
00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:46,920
Speaker 1: The best place to romp around is same.

756
00:37:46,800 --> 00:37:49,040
Speaker 2: Oh r slash o gao pie show.

757
00:37:49,920 --> 00:37:53,480
Speaker 1: Yes, baby, romp around and throw us your raunchy or

758
00:37:53,520 --> 00:37:56,400
Speaker 1: not raunchy stories. We accept them. All were rompy or

759
00:37:56,440 --> 00:37:59,120
Speaker 1: not rob We're not rampy. Yeah, send him in. We'll

760
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:00,799
Speaker 1: read him on the show, just like this one.

761
00:38:00,880 --> 00:38:01,480
Speaker 2: Yeah.

762
00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:05,640
Speaker 1: Today, I fed up by making boom boom on a

763
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:06,280
Speaker 1: school trip.

764
00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:12,080
Speaker 2: Oh god, on a school trip on I school trip.

765
00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:13,800
Speaker 1: Education.

766
00:38:14,680 --> 00:38:17,000
Speaker 2: I know, I didn't know the magic school bus was

767
00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:19,240
Speaker 2: getting uh was turning into bang bus.

768
00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:23,640
Speaker 1: Hey, missus Frizzle, you're not again classes in session, baby,

769
00:38:24,760 --> 00:38:30,960
Speaker 1: open your books. We're about to get into it. Oh.

770
00:38:31,200 --> 00:38:33,200
Speaker 2: The book is called Karma Sutra, by the way. That

771
00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:37,720
Speaker 2: is Miss Frizzle's going on an adventure magic school bus.

772
00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:40,080
Speaker 1: Missus Frizzle's kind of bad if you think about it, like.

773
00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:47,120
Speaker 2: How obvious Miss Frizzle, Miss Frizzle book Club.

774
00:38:47,320 --> 00:38:53,360
Speaker 1: I pass that frizz over here. Sorry, missus Frizzle and

775
00:38:53,480 --> 00:38:54,720
Speaker 1: whoever wrote that book.

776
00:38:54,760 --> 00:38:57,760
Speaker 2: You know, no, we are very respectful and we expect

777
00:38:57,800 --> 00:38:59,280
Speaker 2: your ability to educate children.

778
00:38:59,400 --> 00:39:02,160
Speaker 1: All education near just like this person in the story,

779
00:39:02,200 --> 00:39:03,360
Speaker 1: it's all it's all about education.

780
00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:04,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, education.

781
00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:06,080
Speaker 1: We're here for the kids.

782
00:39:06,360 --> 00:39:07,440
Speaker 2: Do it for the kids.

783
00:39:08,400 --> 00:39:11,600
Speaker 1: So I'm an eighteen year old female on a school

784
00:39:11,680 --> 00:39:15,080
Speaker 1: trip to Berlin. Fun times right, Well, yeah, that's kind

785
00:39:15,120 --> 00:39:19,120
Speaker 1: of the problem. I'm having too much fun. So you see,

786
00:39:19,360 --> 00:39:21,719
Speaker 1: my school understands that eighteen year olds don't want to

787
00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:24,120
Speaker 1: go to bed at eight and drink group beer. Yeah,

788
00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:25,520
Speaker 1: that's that's pretty accurate.

789
00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:27,000
Speaker 2: We want to drink real beer.

790
00:39:27,440 --> 00:39:33,759
Speaker 1: We want to drink real beerer. It also helps that

791
00:39:33,760 --> 00:39:36,920
Speaker 1: we're from a country where drinking beer is probably consumed

792
00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:41,040
Speaker 1: more than water. So what do we do? They tell

793
00:39:41,120 --> 00:39:43,880
Speaker 1: us that we can do whatever we want on Thursday

794
00:39:43,960 --> 00:39:46,520
Speaker 1: night as long as we're home by three am and

795
00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:49,040
Speaker 1: ready to travel home the next morning, which is very

796
00:39:49,120 --> 00:39:50,200
Speaker 1: late for like.

797
00:39:50,400 --> 00:39:53,320
Speaker 2: Bro, three d m are you eating?

798
00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:55,640
Speaker 1: It's so freaking late?

799
00:39:55,920 --> 00:40:01,040
Speaker 2: So late? Bro, what, I'm twenty four and my bedtime

800
00:40:01,200 --> 00:40:03,320
Speaker 2: is like sooner than three am.

801
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:03,960
Speaker 1: Yeah?

802
00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:06,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, man, I'm just an old band now, Yeah.

803
00:40:06,520 --> 00:40:09,160
Speaker 1: I feel it. Like sometimes I'd just be like drifting

804
00:40:09,239 --> 00:40:11,919
Speaker 1: off at ten or eleven, and I'm like, wow, I'm

805
00:40:11,960 --> 00:40:12,359
Speaker 1: just old.

806
00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 2: Yeah I'm not old.

807
00:40:15,600 --> 00:40:18,919
Speaker 1: Throw my back at again, back out. So now, oh,

808
00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:22,360
Speaker 1: well would you look at that it is one a m.

809
00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:24,360
Speaker 1: And want to know what I've been doing?

810
00:40:24,560 --> 00:40:27,520
Speaker 2: Let me tell you, tell me, tell me what you've

811
00:40:27,560 --> 00:40:27,959
Speaker 2: been doing.

812
00:40:29,280 --> 00:40:31,400
Speaker 1: Well, I found out that a guy I kind of

813
00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:35,000
Speaker 1: flirted with back home was also on a school trip

814
00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:35,440
Speaker 1: to Berlin.

815
00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:38,920
Speaker 2: Fun, what are all these school trips to Berlin? Why

816
00:40:38,960 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 2: is everyone over there?

817
00:40:39,880 --> 00:40:42,000
Speaker 1: This is this is a little bit too It's too

818
00:40:42,040 --> 00:40:44,840
Speaker 1: much rucus, too much ruckus M, too much Rocus dms

819
00:40:44,840 --> 00:40:47,400
Speaker 1: were slimmed into and one of my roommies had the

820
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:50,359
Speaker 1: best idea, why don't you tell them to come over

821
00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:52,880
Speaker 1: to harro hotel Me and the other room. He can

822
00:40:53,000 --> 00:40:55,080
Speaker 1: hang out on the couches right outside the door. Now,

823
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:59,400
Speaker 1: shout out to this roommate. This is a real one.

824
00:40:59,480 --> 00:41:02,040
Speaker 1: This is the realist of ones. Like, I don't know

825
00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 1: if you really that for my best friend. I'm like, yeah,

826
00:41:05,200 --> 00:41:09,680
Speaker 1: I'm trying to sleep. Like cool, great idea plans were made,

827
00:41:10,120 --> 00:41:12,840
Speaker 1: but wait, what if we get a noise complaint? The

828
00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:15,040
Speaker 1: hotel is so old that we can't drop items on

829
00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:17,720
Speaker 1: the floor, or walk too hard after ten pm it's

830
00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:20,520
Speaker 1: too loud. What if teachers find out? Oh god, what

831
00:41:20,600 --> 00:41:24,280
Speaker 1: if they get a noise complaint because of our devil's tango?

832
00:41:24,840 --> 00:41:28,600
Speaker 2: I like all the different words for uh the boom boom,

833
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:31,600
Speaker 2: great voteab here, this is this is your sat votecab

834
00:41:31,680 --> 00:41:32,040
Speaker 2: coming in.

835
00:41:32,120 --> 00:41:35,160
Speaker 1: That's right, that's right. She passed, and OPI says I

836
00:41:35,160 --> 00:41:37,520
Speaker 1: would never look at them the same way. Again, I

837
00:41:37,520 --> 00:41:40,920
Speaker 1: wouldn't either, So I expressed some of these concerns to

838
00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 1: my roomies. Thankfully, they're some of my best friends as well,

839
00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:46,560
Speaker 1: and they know I have anxiety and they just tell

840
00:41:46,600 --> 00:41:50,640
Speaker 1: me to chill. Nothing will happen. It's only eleven pm.

841
00:41:50,800 --> 00:41:54,440
Speaker 1: It's not that bad. It's gonna be fun. Yeah, okay,

842
00:41:54,440 --> 00:41:57,600
Speaker 1: op yeah, yeah, come on, Like, who's gonna complain about

843
00:41:57,640 --> 00:42:01,320
Speaker 1: a squeaky bed, right, they're right. The teachers are probably

844
00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:07,680
Speaker 1: asleep now, nothing to worry about. Easy. Now, my sneaky

845
00:42:07,719 --> 00:42:09,719
Speaker 1: link is here and I have to let him in

846
00:42:09,760 --> 00:42:11,439
Speaker 1: through the gate and walk him up to our room.

847
00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:13,279
Speaker 1: It's showtime.

848
00:42:13,680 --> 00:42:16,880
Speaker 2: I thought it was specifically not supposed to be showtime, though.

849
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:24,600
Speaker 1: It's quiet, low key showtime, play time. Oh okay, I

850
00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:28,040
Speaker 1: bring him to my room. Roomies hang outside. We have

851
00:42:28,280 --> 00:42:32,840
Speaker 1: as quiet boom boom as humanly possible, because I'm terrified

852
00:42:32,840 --> 00:42:36,279
Speaker 1: of anyone hearing. But of course it's still pretty loud.

853
00:42:36,320 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 1: YadA YadA, YadA. It's time for him to leave. I

854
00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:41,719
Speaker 1: ride the elevator with him, because that elevator is just

855
00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:46,920
Speaker 1: super complicated. I'm relieved we did it. Nothing went wrong.

856
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:48,399
Speaker 1: It is okay.

857
00:42:48,600 --> 00:42:52,320
Speaker 2: No, it's not like I like happy endings. But as

858
00:42:52,520 --> 00:42:54,960
Speaker 2: you might be able to tell, the post has to continue.

859
00:42:55,040 --> 00:42:57,080
Speaker 1: I'm about to ruin your good spirits here. I'm just

860
00:42:57,120 --> 00:42:59,960
Speaker 1: gonna take a dukie, hot dukie all over.

861
00:42:59,840 --> 00:43:03,160
Speaker 2: Him, a hot lookie, I would prefer a cold dookie.

862
00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:14,080
Speaker 1: No, it's it's pipe and ding. The elevator door opens.

863
00:43:14,719 --> 00:43:19,960
Speaker 1: My history teacher is waiting on the other side. Her

864
00:43:20,000 --> 00:43:25,080
Speaker 1: freaking yo teacher is there. I'm standing there with this guy.

865
00:43:25,920 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 1: I look like I just made the boom boom, running makeup,

866
00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:34,879
Speaker 1: messy hair like the whole nine yards. What do I do?

867
00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:39,200
Speaker 1: Ignore him, Pretend I don't know the guy act drunk,

868
00:43:39,320 --> 00:43:40,920
Speaker 1: which is a terrible.

869
00:43:41,280 --> 00:43:45,319
Speaker 2: Terrible thing to do. Acting drunk much worse, much much worse,

870
00:43:45,360 --> 00:43:48,560
Speaker 2: because then, like the teachers actually maybe concerned for your safety, right.

871
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:52,920
Speaker 1: Exactly, Yeah, you know, not looking so great. Op ends

872
00:43:53,000 --> 00:43:55,720
Speaker 1: up saying, oh, well, hello there.

873
00:43:56,920 --> 00:44:04,320
Speaker 2: Hello there. I'm imagining like a seventeen hundred British person

874
00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:07,720
Speaker 2: saying like a pinky out definitely like a little teacup.

875
00:44:07,680 --> 00:44:13,680
Speaker 1: Hello the whole like I'm about to like sign something

876
00:44:13,680 --> 00:44:16,880
Speaker 1: into Parliament in seventeen hundred British.

877
00:44:16,920 --> 00:44:19,600
Speaker 2: He is a history teacher, after all, so maybe maybe.

878
00:44:19,360 --> 00:44:22,400
Speaker 1: He'd appreciate that. She says that like an effing idiot.

879
00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:24,960
Speaker 1: I think he said high back. But honestly, my brain

880
00:44:25,040 --> 00:44:28,319
Speaker 1: was yelling, no way, this is happening right now, Like

881
00:44:28,360 --> 00:44:31,600
Speaker 1: she's just totally bugging out, so I don't remember, to

882
00:44:31,640 --> 00:44:35,799
Speaker 1: be honest. Sneaky Link walks back home. I panic in

883
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:40,399
Speaker 1: my room, my roommates die of laughter, and now I'm

884
00:44:40,400 --> 00:44:43,400
Speaker 1: writing this, I will never look at my history teacher

885
00:44:43,440 --> 00:44:46,480
Speaker 1: the same way ever. Again. It's the most embarrassing thing

886
00:44:46,520 --> 00:44:49,640
Speaker 1: that has ever happened. But hey, at least it'll be

887
00:44:49,640 --> 00:44:52,120
Speaker 1: a fun story in a few years when I finished school,

888
00:44:52,239 --> 00:44:53,160
Speaker 1: right right.

889
00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:55,560
Speaker 2: I love how she started to convince herself at that

890
00:44:55,640 --> 00:44:57,080
Speaker 2: end of the like this is all.

891
00:44:56,960 --> 00:44:59,759
Speaker 1: Gonna be worth it, please, I mean, hey, you know

892
00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:02,520
Speaker 1: you made it on OKOP. That's you can put that

893
00:45:02,560 --> 00:45:02,719
Speaker 1: on you.

894
00:45:02,920 --> 00:45:06,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, put down on your resume. That's gonna get

895
00:45:06,080 --> 00:45:08,520
Speaker 2: you on the college. You don't need those SATs, you

896
00:45:08,560 --> 00:45:10,960
Speaker 2: don't need that four point zero. You just you be

897
00:45:11,160 --> 00:45:14,439
Speaker 2: on this show being talked about in front of the world.

898
00:45:14,200 --> 00:45:16,359
Speaker 1: Right, anyone will want to hire you after being on this.

899
00:45:16,520 --> 00:45:18,960
Speaker 1: So yeah, we're doing we're doing a big favor here,

900
00:45:19,200 --> 00:45:19,880
Speaker 1: Frankie down here.

901
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:21,279
Speaker 2: Ope, if you want to reach out to us, let

902
00:45:21,360 --> 00:45:25,600
Speaker 2: us know, Frankie Downhill, we want you man, give us

903
00:45:25,640 --> 00:45:30,440
Speaker 2: your contact for the sturn of weird for the show

904
00:45:31,000 --> 00:45:33,520
Speaker 2: to say I'm not a sneaky link.

905
00:45:33,680 --> 00:45:35,640
Speaker 1: It was funny because like you were trying, I could

906
00:45:35,680 --> 00:45:38,520
Speaker 1: see like your gears working, like, oh, hey this is weird.

907
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:39,920
Speaker 1: Let me move on to the next thing.

908
00:45:39,920 --> 00:45:42,279
Speaker 2: But then yeah, let me dig I'm trying to dig

909
00:45:42,320 --> 00:45:42,879
Speaker 2: myself out of.

910
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:46,400
Speaker 1: This was also weird. It's just not in a winning scenario.

911
00:45:46,440 --> 00:45:48,680
Speaker 2: There's a lot of improv going on here, and so

912
00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:51,120
Speaker 2: we're like old men of the West. We got guns

913
00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:54,279
Speaker 2: on our side. We were like, you know, you never

914
00:45:54,320 --> 00:45:56,520
Speaker 2: know when we're gonna shoot this down. Ain't big enough

915
00:45:56,520 --> 00:45:57,640
Speaker 2: for both of us.

916
00:45:57,920 --> 00:46:01,759
Speaker 1: Only one of us can do this. Well, Sam, this

917
00:46:01,840 --> 00:46:04,200
Speaker 1: has been another successful edition.

918
00:46:04,400 --> 00:46:07,840
Speaker 2: I would say successful edition. Also, John, I think we

919
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Speaker 2: have a request of anyone that's watching this YouTube video

920
00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:11,319
Speaker 2: right now.

921
00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:14,080
Speaker 1: Yes we do. What is that request?

922
00:46:14,520 --> 00:46:21,800
Speaker 2: Freaking subscribe, baby, subscribe, leave a comment, smash it, smash

923
00:46:21,920 --> 00:46:32,480
Speaker 2: that button harder than uh bo got boom boom. Alright,

924
00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:33,960
Speaker 2: we'll see you guys in the next episode.