1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:10,400 Speaker 1: The Nicky Glizer Podcast. Glaser, Hello here I am, It's 2 00:00:10,480 --> 00:00:13,039 Speaker 1: Nicky Glazer Podcast. Welcome to the show. I'm Nicky Glazer. 3 00:00:13,720 --> 00:00:15,840 Speaker 1: Brian Frangie is with us. What's up, Brian? 4 00:00:16,480 --> 00:00:17,320 Speaker 2: I'm doing all right. 5 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:18,320 Speaker 1: Yeah. 6 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:22,759 Speaker 3: I was watching you on the Nicky Glazer Podcast live 7 00:00:22,840 --> 00:00:26,560 Speaker 3: on Instagram and then oh, yeah I didn't watch you 8 00:00:26,600 --> 00:00:27,159 Speaker 3: spotted me. 9 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:28,960 Speaker 1: I said, get out of here. 10 00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:30,400 Speaker 2: Fuck out of here, Brian. 11 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:33,920 Speaker 1: Get out of here. And I get no business in here. Yeah. 12 00:00:33,920 --> 00:00:36,160 Speaker 1: I kicked people out of those Instagram lives all the time. 13 00:00:37,159 --> 00:00:39,680 Speaker 1: So Anya, I was doing one like playing guitar with 14 00:00:39,760 --> 00:00:42,720 Speaker 1: Anya backstage one night and Kyle dun again came into 15 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:47,800 Speaker 1: the chat and I just he's like he's musically talented 16 00:00:47,880 --> 00:00:49,919 Speaker 1: and he's just comedically like he's just I just don't 17 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:51,960 Speaker 1: want him to see the side of me, like yeah, 18 00:00:52,520 --> 00:00:55,440 Speaker 1: playing Taylor Stiftstar, like it's just confusing to people who 19 00:00:55,440 --> 00:00:56,640 Speaker 1: don't get it, and they go, oh, I want to 20 00:00:56,640 --> 00:00:58,240 Speaker 1: see what Nicky's up to, and it's like what is 21 00:00:58,280 --> 00:01:00,880 Speaker 1: she doing? So yeah, you don't get to watch. And 22 00:01:00,920 --> 00:01:03,680 Speaker 1: so I blocked him. I kicked him out, and I 23 00:01:04,000 --> 00:01:06,600 Speaker 1: could not believe it, and I just said, sorry, Kyle, 24 00:01:06,680 --> 00:01:08,360 Speaker 1: you gotta go. It's not even an insult. It means 25 00:01:08,360 --> 00:01:10,279 Speaker 1: I respect you too much, Not that I don't respect 26 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:12,360 Speaker 1: the other people in the room, but like everyone kind 27 00:01:12,360 --> 00:01:16,160 Speaker 1: of knows what they're in fort. 28 00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:16,560 Speaker 3: He goes in for the live, they know what they're 29 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:18,200 Speaker 3: going to see. They want to see that, they know 30 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:20,760 Speaker 3: that side of you. And when Kyle Dunnigan goes in 31 00:01:20,760 --> 00:01:22,280 Speaker 3: and it's like what the fuck? 32 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:25,120 Speaker 1: Who? Yeah he would he is, Like I love him 33 00:01:25,160 --> 00:01:27,000 Speaker 1: and sometimes I let him stay because I know he 34 00:01:27,040 --> 00:01:29,280 Speaker 1: doesn't judge me and he's just like a lovely man 35 00:01:29,319 --> 00:01:32,280 Speaker 1: and a good friend. But I just it's just sometimes 36 00:01:32,360 --> 00:01:35,960 Speaker 1: you don't need to see certain sides of your friends. Yeah, 37 00:01:36,040 --> 00:01:38,240 Speaker 1: Like I just I don't need to see like you know, 38 00:01:38,360 --> 00:01:39,959 Speaker 1: you don't like to see the side of your friend 39 00:01:39,959 --> 00:01:43,080 Speaker 1: that gets in an argument with their spouse. It's not 40 00:01:43,160 --> 00:01:46,320 Speaker 1: a good side or with their parents, ye like when 41 00:01:46,319 --> 00:01:49,120 Speaker 1: they start acting like a child like or the way 42 00:01:49,200 --> 00:01:51,480 Speaker 1: like I have like one friend who's like rude to 43 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:55,080 Speaker 1: waiters and waitresses. Otherwise it is a really lovely person 44 00:01:55,240 --> 00:01:58,920 Speaker 1: and I'm real weird, and I because I this person's 45 00:01:58,960 --> 00:02:00,920 Speaker 1: in my life and I want them in my life, 46 00:02:01,000 --> 00:02:03,600 Speaker 1: I just have to like not go to dinner with them, 47 00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:05,000 Speaker 1: or if I do go to dinner, I kind of 48 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:07,160 Speaker 1: have to like run things so that they're. 49 00:02:06,960 --> 00:02:10,000 Speaker 3: Gonna have example without giving our identity away, like what 50 00:02:10,040 --> 00:02:12,000 Speaker 3: happened something they's just like just. 51 00:02:12,560 --> 00:02:15,959 Speaker 1: Look in for trouble, look in for something to complain 52 00:02:16,040 --> 00:02:20,160 Speaker 1: about looking for and here, Okay, this is not related 53 00:02:20,200 --> 00:02:24,520 Speaker 1: to that person. But I am one hundred percent over 54 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:26,840 Speaker 1: something that people do all the time, and people are 55 00:02:26,880 --> 00:02:28,680 Speaker 1: gonna come at me for having an opinion about this. 56 00:02:28,960 --> 00:02:31,480 Speaker 1: People are and I've done it before too, so I'm 57 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:33,800 Speaker 1: telling you I've done it before too. I'm gonna slam 58 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:36,840 Speaker 1: everyone right now so hard. Okay, Okay, if you go 59 00:02:36,880 --> 00:02:39,840 Speaker 1: to a restaurant, and maybe I've covered this before because 60 00:02:39,880 --> 00:02:42,760 Speaker 1: I think Carlisle initially told me about this, because Carlisle 61 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:45,880 Speaker 1: did a reel about working in a really fine dining 62 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:50,000 Speaker 1: restaurant and when people ask the server like what they recommend, 63 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:53,320 Speaker 1: She's like, I can't afford anything here. I've taken nibbles 64 00:02:53,360 --> 00:02:56,000 Speaker 1: of stuff off plates when I'm starving because I'm working 65 00:02:56,080 --> 00:02:58,400 Speaker 1: a double, but like I don't get to eat. We 66 00:02:58,480 --> 00:03:01,880 Speaker 1: maybe ate it once in the beginning of working here, 67 00:03:01,919 --> 00:03:06,919 Speaker 1: but like it's not like stop here's the thing. Not 68 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:09,040 Speaker 1: only do I do, I think that they don't know 69 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:11,160 Speaker 1: everything on the menu, so they're a dumb person to ask. 70 00:03:11,720 --> 00:03:15,360 Speaker 1: They literally have different desires and needs than you, your 71 00:03:15,400 --> 00:03:19,000 Speaker 1: waiter when you ask. What you can ask your waiter 72 00:03:19,200 --> 00:03:21,160 Speaker 1: is what what is popular here? 73 00:03:21,320 --> 00:03:22,920 Speaker 2: That way that quay popular? 74 00:03:23,400 --> 00:03:27,520 Speaker 1: But I don't like when I mean, I guess I've 75 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:31,280 Speaker 1: done it before. I just think every time consulting the waiter, 76 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:32,919 Speaker 1: like it's like a thing you do. It's kind of 77 00:03:32,960 --> 00:03:35,240 Speaker 1: like part of your routine with the waiter is like 78 00:03:35,320 --> 00:03:38,760 Speaker 1: to seem cool or to seem nice. That's it, Okay, 79 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:39,760 Speaker 1: I I've whatever. 80 00:03:39,960 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 2: What is it if you're. 81 00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:44,040 Speaker 1: Really struggling with what to get ask the waiter, But 82 00:03:44,200 --> 00:03:47,760 Speaker 1: if it is part of like this kind of ploy 83 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:50,080 Speaker 1: that you don't even know you're doing to get the 84 00:03:50,120 --> 00:03:51,880 Speaker 1: waiter to like you or to have some kind of 85 00:03:51,960 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 1: rapport like I'm one of you and like, so what 86 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:58,280 Speaker 1: do you get here? Like it's it's really strikes me 87 00:03:58,320 --> 00:04:01,240 Speaker 1: as wasting everyone's time, include your waiter who doesn't give 88 00:04:01,280 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 1: a fuck about what your dietary needs are, or like 89 00:04:04,640 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 1: no one's interested in hearing like, well, I do have 90 00:04:07,520 --> 00:04:09,960 Speaker 1: this thing, like my friend Cursen is going to feel 91 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:12,120 Speaker 1: attacked right now because she does alert everyone of her 92 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:15,760 Speaker 1: mango thing, and it's it's a she has a mango 93 00:04:16,040 --> 00:04:17,919 Speaker 1: allergy that her lips will swell up and look like 94 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:21,960 Speaker 1: Homer Simpson if she if she eats mango, Simpson lips 95 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:23,120 Speaker 1: vigilant about it. 96 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 2: I don't see Homer Simpson is having. 97 00:04:24,760 --> 00:04:27,120 Speaker 1: Big lips, well like that big like the like the 98 00:04:27,480 --> 00:04:28,960 Speaker 1: the big mouth he has. 99 00:04:29,360 --> 00:04:31,520 Speaker 2: Okay, she gets the big mouth, the big brown mouth. 100 00:04:31,640 --> 00:04:33,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't eat. Well, it's not brown. It's like 101 00:04:33,960 --> 00:04:36,520 Speaker 1: you know whatever Homer is yellow. 102 00:04:37,000 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 3: Well to Homer's mouth is tan. It is five o'clock shadow. 103 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:45,159 Speaker 3: I don't think Homer Simpson lips the whole. 104 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:48,400 Speaker 1: Mounts what we're talking about, like the puffy mouth, yes, okay, 105 00:04:48,400 --> 00:04:50,080 Speaker 1: his mouth extends. 106 00:04:49,560 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 2: Out the whole thing and not just the lips. 107 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:54,000 Speaker 1: Yes, well, I don't. I think she's just saying, like 108 00:04:54,040 --> 00:04:57,280 Speaker 1: her lips do that what his face looks like is 109 00:04:57,279 --> 00:05:00,560 Speaker 1: what I would guess she would be saying. But but no, 110 00:05:00,720 --> 00:05:03,760 Speaker 1: she can be pretty vigilant about like is there's mango back? 111 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:07,280 Speaker 1: There is there like, so I do have an allergy 112 00:05:07,279 --> 00:05:09,160 Speaker 1: and I'm just like Kirstin all you have to say, 113 00:05:09,200 --> 00:05:11,159 Speaker 1: is you have an allergy. You don't have to be like, well, 114 00:05:11,160 --> 00:05:13,279 Speaker 1: my lips like swell up, like they don't need to 115 00:05:13,320 --> 00:05:16,239 Speaker 1: know like what happens, like just allergy across the board 116 00:05:16,320 --> 00:05:20,040 Speaker 1: is going to like make them know enough. And then 117 00:05:20,080 --> 00:05:22,000 Speaker 1: she always finds out that there's mango in a drink 118 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:24,120 Speaker 1: that's being served only at the bar counter, and then 119 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:27,080 Speaker 1: she goes, oh, that's okay, that's fine, and then she's 120 00:05:27,080 --> 00:05:29,240 Speaker 1: like oh and she totally is fine with it, but 121 00:05:29,279 --> 00:05:31,880 Speaker 1: it's like that's always what happens, is like the mango, 122 00:05:32,120 --> 00:05:34,600 Speaker 1: but not always she has to be vigilant. I get 123 00:05:34,600 --> 00:05:36,599 Speaker 1: it she doesn't want her lips to blow up. But 124 00:05:36,680 --> 00:05:38,760 Speaker 1: I do feel that sometimes, and this is not related 125 00:05:38,800 --> 00:05:40,679 Speaker 1: to Curson. It's not related to the person being rude. 126 00:05:40,839 --> 00:05:44,640 Speaker 1: Sometimes people try to be buddy buddy with their waitress 127 00:05:44,720 --> 00:05:46,000 Speaker 1: or waiter, and I would like to hear f some 128 00:05:46,080 --> 00:05:49,360 Speaker 1: waiters or waiters waitresses how that feels. But when I 129 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:51,839 Speaker 1: was doing it, I was kind of like, I don't 130 00:05:51,880 --> 00:05:54,960 Speaker 1: give a fuck what you're getting and how long it's 131 00:05:54,960 --> 00:05:58,039 Speaker 1: taking you to side and you're going hmmm, and I'm like, 132 00:05:58,120 --> 00:05:59,960 Speaker 1: I gave you first of all, I already came out 133 00:05:59,960 --> 00:06:01,160 Speaker 1: to you're a table to give your waters and I said, 134 00:06:01,160 --> 00:06:02,760 Speaker 1: you want to order now, and I gave you more time. 135 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:04,680 Speaker 1: Then I went back and you said you needed more time. 136 00:06:04,800 --> 00:06:07,360 Speaker 1: So if you couldn't come up with in eight minutes, 137 00:06:07,400 --> 00:06:09,960 Speaker 1: let's say eight minutes at the least looking at the 138 00:06:10,000 --> 00:06:12,719 Speaker 1: menu what you want, and everyone else at your table 139 00:06:12,760 --> 00:06:16,359 Speaker 1: has there's something wrong with you. Yeah, where people just 140 00:06:16,400 --> 00:06:19,159 Speaker 1: go they get to you, The waiter just gets to them, 141 00:06:19,320 --> 00:06:20,920 Speaker 1: and they let everyone else go in front of them 142 00:06:21,040 --> 00:06:24,440 Speaker 1: and they still are going m And I know people 143 00:06:24,520 --> 00:06:27,039 Speaker 1: relate to this. I know because almost everyone in my 144 00:06:27,080 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 1: life is like this, and this is why I'm so 145 00:06:28,320 --> 00:06:29,839 Speaker 1: annoyed by it. And I think I used to be 146 00:06:29,880 --> 00:06:32,680 Speaker 1: a little bit like it until I realized, Nikki, no 147 00:06:32,720 --> 00:06:35,800 Speaker 1: one needs to hear your inner monologue about like, oh 148 00:06:35,839 --> 00:06:39,000 Speaker 1: but I just had this yesterday and sometimes cheese makes 149 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:40,840 Speaker 1: my stomach hurt and I do want to go to bed, 150 00:06:40,920 --> 00:06:43,279 Speaker 1: and this kid of that to come out of sugar 151 00:06:43,320 --> 00:06:45,560 Speaker 1: will keep me up. It's like no one cares, No, 152 00:06:45,800 --> 00:06:47,800 Speaker 1: not even people at your table who might love you care, 153 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:48,960 Speaker 1: let alone the waitress. 154 00:06:49,400 --> 00:06:51,080 Speaker 3: You know what you got to do in those situations, 155 00:06:51,560 --> 00:06:54,520 Speaker 3: You just order and then they go last, because if 156 00:06:54,520 --> 00:06:56,920 Speaker 3: it's going in an order circle and they're like, okay, 157 00:06:56,960 --> 00:07:00,719 Speaker 3: I'm last, then that signals to them Okay, they have 158 00:07:00,760 --> 00:07:03,080 Speaker 3: to make a decision, but they have quote unquote sometimes 159 00:07:03,160 --> 00:07:04,320 Speaker 3: this is an acceptable sinnation. 160 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:06,400 Speaker 1: They always go last. I'm talking about they go last 161 00:07:06,640 --> 00:07:08,039 Speaker 1: and they're still hemming and hawing. 162 00:07:08,800 --> 00:07:10,600 Speaker 2: It goes all around the circle and they don't keep 163 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:11,480 Speaker 2: get and. 164 00:07:11,480 --> 00:07:13,720 Speaker 1: Then it'll get to them and they'll still hem in hawe. 165 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:16,400 Speaker 3: And really usually when I when I put someone in 166 00:07:16,400 --> 00:07:19,480 Speaker 3: that situation, they go, oh the fish and then they're like, ah, fuck, 167 00:07:19,520 --> 00:07:20,040 Speaker 3: I hate the fish. 168 00:07:20,040 --> 00:07:20,960 Speaker 2: Why did I order the fish? 169 00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:22,320 Speaker 1: And yeah, is that too? 170 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:23,280 Speaker 2: Whatever? 171 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:26,680 Speaker 1: I what I say when you're dining with me, because 172 00:07:26,800 --> 00:07:29,800 Speaker 1: I if I'm for dining, I'm usually getting the bill. 173 00:07:29,920 --> 00:07:32,320 Speaker 1: It's just gonna happen with me and my friends. I say, 174 00:07:32,360 --> 00:07:35,760 Speaker 1: get them both, save me this conversation that I witness 175 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:38,920 Speaker 1: take the other one home for leftovers. I would rather 176 00:07:39,320 --> 00:07:41,520 Speaker 1: you get what you want and not have a dinner 177 00:07:41,560 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 1: regretting and not liking your meal and picking at it. 178 00:07:44,520 --> 00:07:46,920 Speaker 1: Just get lots of things if you don't know, because 179 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:51,240 Speaker 1: I enjoy people around me being comfortable and not like 180 00:07:51,440 --> 00:07:54,040 Speaker 1: hungry or not pretending they're not oh like, oh, I 181 00:07:54,120 --> 00:07:55,840 Speaker 1: just I don't know. I'm not hungry anymore, even though 182 00:07:55,840 --> 00:07:57,400 Speaker 1: they don't like their meal, but they're too scared to 183 00:07:57,400 --> 00:07:58,840 Speaker 1: say it because they don't want to send it back. 184 00:07:59,280 --> 00:08:02,200 Speaker 1: Let's just all get a bunch of shit. Let's just 185 00:08:02,240 --> 00:08:02,960 Speaker 1: be comfortable. 186 00:08:03,520 --> 00:08:06,080 Speaker 3: You know what I do, because I have You know, 187 00:08:06,120 --> 00:08:09,160 Speaker 3: I'm very picky eater. I guess I'll look at the 188 00:08:09,240 --> 00:08:12,840 Speaker 3: menu before I go to the restaurant. In factful, if 189 00:08:12,880 --> 00:08:15,480 Speaker 3: I don't like the menu at the restaurant, I might 190 00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:17,040 Speaker 3: not go to the restaurant at all. 191 00:08:17,360 --> 00:08:19,480 Speaker 1: I look at a menu too, but I kind of 192 00:08:19,520 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 1: sometimes if I know it's the type of food I'm 193 00:08:21,480 --> 00:08:23,480 Speaker 1: gonna like, I like to be surprised when I get there. 194 00:08:23,640 --> 00:08:25,240 Speaker 1: And by the way, I do not know what I'm 195 00:08:25,240 --> 00:08:27,480 Speaker 1: going to order until the waiter comes to me, and 196 00:08:27,520 --> 00:08:30,080 Speaker 1: then I I'm not kidding you, I'll be deciding between 197 00:08:30,120 --> 00:08:33,000 Speaker 1: like five things, maybe even more because I'm getting like 198 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:35,320 Speaker 1: I usually get five things. I get like appetiers, And 199 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:37,400 Speaker 1: when the waiter comes, I literally sit down the table 200 00:08:37,440 --> 00:08:39,480 Speaker 1: and kind of look over. If it's a sushi restaurant 201 00:08:39,520 --> 00:08:43,120 Speaker 1: or a Thai restaurant, stop looking you know what you get. 202 00:08:43,160 --> 00:08:45,199 Speaker 1: You should. It's all the same. The menus are all 203 00:08:45,200 --> 00:08:47,480 Speaker 1: the same, you guys, They're all the same. So I 204 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:49,160 Speaker 1: just pick up the menu when it's my time, and 205 00:08:49,200 --> 00:08:52,320 Speaker 1: I go those this, And I guess if I was 206 00:08:52,320 --> 00:08:54,920 Speaker 1: only ordering one thing, it would be more of a struggle. 207 00:08:54,960 --> 00:08:57,200 Speaker 1: But and I'm talking from a place of privilege where 208 00:08:57,200 --> 00:08:59,359 Speaker 1: I can get multiple things if I go out to dinner. 209 00:08:59,520 --> 00:09:02,840 Speaker 2: But you're also a vegan, so half the menu is eliminated. 210 00:09:03,559 --> 00:09:05,880 Speaker 1: That's a good point. Yeah, that is a good point. 211 00:09:07,160 --> 00:09:09,520 Speaker 1: I can't imagine looking at me and being like, hmm, 212 00:09:09,880 --> 00:09:13,000 Speaker 1: that looks good. I can't And it's just so insane 213 00:09:13,040 --> 00:09:18,040 Speaker 1: to me that anyone is like, oh steak, Like yeah, 214 00:09:18,080 --> 00:09:20,840 Speaker 1: I just don't get it. But people love it. And 215 00:09:21,160 --> 00:09:23,120 Speaker 1: but yeah, that is nice a whole Like if I 216 00:09:23,160 --> 00:09:25,120 Speaker 1: just see anything, it's just like it doesn't even exist 217 00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:27,800 Speaker 1: on the menu. The menu becomes very small. Okay, that's 218 00:09:27,800 --> 00:09:29,640 Speaker 1: a good point, maybe the whole menu that you don't. 219 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:33,280 Speaker 1: Speaking from a place of but I but generally, I 220 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:35,199 Speaker 1: think these people are choosing between two things, and I 221 00:09:35,240 --> 00:09:36,960 Speaker 1: don't want them to have to ask the waiter. 222 00:09:37,520 --> 00:09:40,080 Speaker 3: So to me, waiting around like hamming and hung about 223 00:09:40,080 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 3: the menu is an indecisive person. 224 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:44,839 Speaker 2: But that's not rude to waiters. So what's the rude example? 225 00:09:45,400 --> 00:09:48,400 Speaker 3: Rude r friend? 226 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:50,719 Speaker 2: You're rude friend who sucks. 227 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:54,840 Speaker 1: Just it's not even rude, it's like actually nice. They're 228 00:09:54,960 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 1: always have like a nice smile, but they're just complaining 229 00:09:58,000 --> 00:10:00,480 Speaker 1: about everything. And I am someone al so who will 230 00:10:00,480 --> 00:10:03,240 Speaker 1: complain about ambiance, who will complain about sound. By the way, 231 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 1: Chris and I were at Tokaya the other day. Yeah, 232 00:10:06,920 --> 00:10:10,600 Speaker 1: And by the way, everywhere in la is dark or loud. 233 00:10:11,400 --> 00:10:13,840 Speaker 1: Sometimes both it is. You can either. Literally, I'm not 234 00:10:13,880 --> 00:10:16,559 Speaker 1: kidding you. The restaurant we went to, where was that? 235 00:10:17,480 --> 00:10:17,600 Speaker 3: Uh? 236 00:10:18,400 --> 00:10:21,240 Speaker 2: That was in Times Square of Hollywood, but. 237 00:10:21,200 --> 00:10:23,480 Speaker 1: That should have had some lights. It should have been 238 00:10:23,480 --> 00:10:24,199 Speaker 1: more Midwestern. 239 00:10:24,200 --> 00:10:26,440 Speaker 3: It was dark and there was a DJ, and it 240 00:10:26,520 --> 00:10:28,480 Speaker 3: was almost like we were in a club. 241 00:10:28,840 --> 00:10:30,840 Speaker 1: I told them to turn it down and they did slightly. 242 00:10:30,960 --> 00:10:32,280 Speaker 1: Go We turned it down in a way that no 243 00:10:32,320 --> 00:10:34,760 Speaker 1: one will notice. But like my ear drums won't be 244 00:10:35,080 --> 00:10:39,040 Speaker 1: bleeding during this meal because everywhere has to be loud. 245 00:10:39,240 --> 00:10:42,520 Speaker 1: That's why everyone has bad vocal cords, because they're screaming 246 00:10:42,520 --> 00:10:43,080 Speaker 1: over stuffs. 247 00:10:43,200 --> 00:10:44,760 Speaker 2: That's constant screaming. 248 00:10:44,840 --> 00:10:47,960 Speaker 1: And then everything's dark and we went to I went 249 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:49,640 Speaker 1: to so many restaurants with my parents when they were 250 00:10:49,640 --> 00:10:51,600 Speaker 1: in LA. They couldn't see the menu. They all had 251 00:10:51,600 --> 00:10:54,200 Speaker 1: to get out their flashlights. We asked for more candles, 252 00:10:54,240 --> 00:10:55,840 Speaker 1: and they go, we have one candle per table. 253 00:10:55,920 --> 00:10:59,640 Speaker 3: It was just like, what is this every restaurant in 254 00:10:59,840 --> 00:11:02,640 Speaker 3: l it's like a haunted house. It's just it's holly 255 00:11:02,679 --> 00:11:06,160 Speaker 3: start and the dark, trying to find food they have not. 256 00:11:06,400 --> 00:11:09,480 Speaker 1: Your food has like foam on it and like wild 257 00:11:09,520 --> 00:11:12,480 Speaker 1: berries and flowers, and you need to eat around that shit, 258 00:11:12,640 --> 00:11:15,000 Speaker 1: Like if the food is that intricate and not just 259 00:11:15,040 --> 00:11:16,800 Speaker 1: a plate of mac, and I could see eating mac 260 00:11:16,840 --> 00:11:19,800 Speaker 1: and cheese in the dark, Like I feel like Golden Corral. 261 00:11:20,160 --> 00:11:21,120 Speaker 1: It's the dark. 262 00:11:21,160 --> 00:11:24,280 Speaker 3: You should be ashamed of yourself. It's Golden Corral anyway. 263 00:11:24,320 --> 00:11:26,960 Speaker 3: It should be dark. It's like the fancier of the place. 264 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:29,760 Speaker 3: The darker it is, you should be proud. And because you're. 265 00:11:29,640 --> 00:11:32,480 Speaker 1: You're you're eating something that has like eighteen layers with 266 00:11:32,520 --> 00:11:34,480 Speaker 1: all this, like you're supposed to look at the food 267 00:11:34,559 --> 00:11:38,640 Speaker 1: like that's part of what's beautiful about food, and like 268 00:11:38,800 --> 00:11:41,080 Speaker 1: the culinary skill is making it look beautiful. You can't 269 00:11:41,080 --> 00:11:44,040 Speaker 1: see fucking anything in these places. And I'm calling you out. 270 00:11:44,080 --> 00:11:47,199 Speaker 1: I'm calling you out, Nobu, I'm calling you out. Cooy, 271 00:11:47,520 --> 00:11:50,760 Speaker 1: I'm calling you out. Where did we go to Kaya? 272 00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:51,560 Speaker 2: No? 273 00:11:51,559 --> 00:11:58,880 Speaker 1: No, great great food, like amazing food, amazing service. The 274 00:11:58,920 --> 00:12:03,040 Speaker 1: ambiance is incredible. Will turn up the lights? What are 275 00:12:03,080 --> 00:12:04,600 Speaker 1: you trying to prove? What is going on? 276 00:12:05,040 --> 00:12:06,840 Speaker 2: Why do it makes you look hot or on a date? 277 00:12:08,720 --> 00:12:11,200 Speaker 1: Okay, everyone's hot in LA. That's going to those restaurants. 278 00:12:11,240 --> 00:12:13,720 Speaker 1: Everyone's hot. They want to be seen. I'm someone who 279 00:12:13,840 --> 00:12:16,680 Speaker 1: like I don't turn off the lights in bed because 280 00:12:16,679 --> 00:12:19,320 Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm hot. I want to see myself like. 281 00:12:19,720 --> 00:12:22,400 Speaker 1: I'm never someone who's like I'm embarrassed. In fact, I'm 282 00:12:22,600 --> 00:12:25,559 Speaker 1: I have a naked picture in Peter today and I 283 00:12:25,640 --> 00:12:28,120 Speaker 1: don't care all. It's a yeah, it just came out 284 00:12:28,120 --> 00:12:32,640 Speaker 1: this morning on Instagram. Today's Wednesday for us, and and 285 00:12:32,720 --> 00:12:34,760 Speaker 1: I don't care at all. I want to be seen. 286 00:12:34,880 --> 00:12:38,240 Speaker 1: Why is everything dark? I don't like it? I don't 287 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:41,160 Speaker 1: I don't like the dark restaurants and and yeah, the 288 00:12:41,679 --> 00:12:44,000 Speaker 1: thing I'm talking about is just being so. I will 289 00:12:44,120 --> 00:12:46,320 Speaker 1: tell a restaurant too, if we can have more candles. 290 00:12:46,400 --> 00:12:48,079 Speaker 1: But that I'm really nice about it. I know it's 291 00:12:48,080 --> 00:12:51,440 Speaker 1: not the server's fault, but there's like a just wanting 292 00:12:51,480 --> 00:12:56,480 Speaker 1: to be like just just a just a rudeness of 293 00:12:56,559 --> 00:13:00,200 Speaker 1: like thinking. It's the same kind of rudeness where when 294 00:13:00,240 --> 00:13:03,400 Speaker 1: people Matt is taking pictures for me for after the 295 00:13:03,440 --> 00:13:07,840 Speaker 1: shows at meet and greets, when people go shoot it higher, 296 00:13:08,360 --> 00:13:11,240 Speaker 1: doesn't this guy know the angles? And I'm like, he's 297 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:14,240 Speaker 1: a person that you just handed your phone to and 298 00:13:14,280 --> 00:13:16,920 Speaker 1: who's not You didn't pay him to do this, and like, 299 00:13:17,080 --> 00:13:18,880 Speaker 1: I guess you paid for the experience to meet me, 300 00:13:18,960 --> 00:13:21,320 Speaker 1: but he eat part of it. Treat him nicely, and 301 00:13:21,360 --> 00:13:23,800 Speaker 1: even if you are paying him, what are you yelling 302 00:13:23,840 --> 00:13:27,920 Speaker 1: at him for? It's so weird. It's so weird. And 303 00:13:27,920 --> 00:13:31,560 Speaker 1: then there's this thing. Oh my god, people check yourselves, dude. 304 00:13:31,920 --> 00:13:34,280 Speaker 1: There is this thing that has been happening to me recently. 305 00:13:34,440 --> 00:13:38,079 Speaker 1: It's happened to me twice where and I think we 306 00:13:38,120 --> 00:13:39,840 Speaker 1: had to go to break at some point, but where 307 00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:44,640 Speaker 1: I will be with a guy friend and then I 308 00:13:44,679 --> 00:13:50,760 Speaker 1: will come across a guy who might like think I'm 309 00:13:50,760 --> 00:13:54,440 Speaker 1: hot shit, either because he's romantically interested in me or 310 00:13:55,840 --> 00:13:59,319 Speaker 1: career just you know, status interested, right, And my friend 311 00:13:59,360 --> 00:14:02,280 Speaker 1: will not have this same status as me. Let's just 312 00:14:02,320 --> 00:14:04,360 Speaker 1: say they're just they're a friend that might not have 313 00:14:04,360 --> 00:14:07,200 Speaker 1: any connections to the business whatsoever. And it's a male, 314 00:14:07,280 --> 00:14:10,040 Speaker 1: it's always a male friend. And then if this male 315 00:14:11,160 --> 00:14:13,680 Speaker 1: senses any kind of threat, but it's not like my 316 00:14:13,720 --> 00:14:15,280 Speaker 1: they would never do this to Chris, Like if it's 317 00:14:15,360 --> 00:14:17,839 Speaker 1: my boyfriend, they wouldn't do it. But if they're a 318 00:14:17,880 --> 00:14:19,760 Speaker 1: guy and my it's not my boyfriend, it's just a 319 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:24,280 Speaker 1: male friend, they'll be fucking rude to him. And I 320 00:14:24,640 --> 00:14:27,480 Speaker 1: really got to say, who the Like they start kind 321 00:14:27,480 --> 00:14:30,080 Speaker 1: of throwing him under the bus. And it's like the 322 00:14:30,120 --> 00:14:33,640 Speaker 1: goal of this kind of person to think that I 323 00:14:33,680 --> 00:14:37,240 Speaker 1: Am going to suddenly be enchanted by someone who comes 324 00:14:37,280 --> 00:14:39,760 Speaker 1: over and starts blocking out my friend first of all, 325 00:14:39,800 --> 00:14:41,960 Speaker 1: like stepping in front of them, like they're not in 326 00:14:41,960 --> 00:14:45,720 Speaker 1: the conversation. Yeah, like almost like treating them like, yeah, 327 00:14:45,800 --> 00:14:48,080 Speaker 1: they're not part of the conversation. 328 00:14:48,480 --> 00:14:48,680 Speaker 3: Yeah. 329 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:51,360 Speaker 2: Is it like at a party or who is the one. 330 00:14:51,160 --> 00:14:52,760 Speaker 1: Time it was at an event. One time it was 331 00:14:52,800 --> 00:14:56,360 Speaker 1: at like an industry event and I was with a 332 00:14:56,400 --> 00:14:59,120 Speaker 1: friend and my friend was like my date, you know, yeah, 333 00:14:59,200 --> 00:15:01,200 Speaker 1: and they meet both me and my friend and they 334 00:15:01,280 --> 00:15:03,480 Speaker 1: kind of know my friend through a person and they 335 00:15:03,520 --> 00:15:05,720 Speaker 1: all have a moment, and then this person starts talking 336 00:15:05,720 --> 00:15:08,160 Speaker 1: to me and they just start to start stepping almost 337 00:15:08,200 --> 00:15:10,240 Speaker 1: in front of my friend, as if he's not in 338 00:15:10,280 --> 00:15:13,000 Speaker 1: the conversation too. Yeah, And I later said to my friend, 339 00:15:13,000 --> 00:15:15,280 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, what the fuck? I like thought I 340 00:15:15,400 --> 00:15:17,720 Speaker 1: liked that guy, but he is a bona fide asshole. 341 00:15:17,880 --> 00:15:18,080 Speaker 2: Yeah. 342 00:15:18,200 --> 00:15:20,040 Speaker 1: My friend's like, no, that happens all the time. That's like, 343 00:15:20,680 --> 00:15:21,840 Speaker 1: that's what men do to each other. 344 00:15:22,160 --> 00:15:23,160 Speaker 2: That's a Hollywood movie. 345 00:15:23,280 --> 00:15:25,240 Speaker 1: He's not even Hollywood. My friend. He was like, that's 346 00:15:25,320 --> 00:15:27,080 Speaker 1: just what men do to each other when they're threatened. 347 00:15:27,640 --> 00:15:29,640 Speaker 3: Wow. But the other guy was Hollywood, the one that 348 00:15:29,680 --> 00:15:31,920 Speaker 3: came into the conversation. Yeah, I mean that to me, 349 00:15:31,960 --> 00:15:33,920 Speaker 3: I've seen that happen. I mean it probably happens in 350 00:15:33,960 --> 00:15:37,440 Speaker 3: every industry where there's like jostling for power or whatever. 351 00:15:37,480 --> 00:15:40,200 Speaker 3: But I've seen it. So like, the people look through you. 352 00:15:40,440 --> 00:15:42,440 Speaker 3: They look through you. They're looking for the next person, 353 00:15:42,680 --> 00:15:44,560 Speaker 3: and if they get into a situation where they can 354 00:15:44,600 --> 00:15:47,760 Speaker 3: talk to someone like you, they will completely it's all. 355 00:15:47,760 --> 00:15:48,680 Speaker 2: It's unbelievable. 356 00:15:48,720 --> 00:15:51,760 Speaker 3: They'll completely cut out anyone else or try to at least, 357 00:15:52,040 --> 00:15:53,760 Speaker 3: and then you kind of have to like jostle back 358 00:15:53,760 --> 00:15:58,560 Speaker 3: into place. It's so weird, so immature and insecure too. 359 00:15:59,040 --> 00:16:01,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the problem with it is that I see 360 00:16:01,400 --> 00:16:03,000 Speaker 1: when it happens with someone that I'm like, oh, I'm 361 00:16:03,000 --> 00:16:04,880 Speaker 1: excited to see this person and introduce them to my friend, 362 00:16:04,920 --> 00:16:06,960 Speaker 1: and then they do that, I go, well, we're not 363 00:16:07,080 --> 00:16:09,440 Speaker 1: friends anymore because I'm not friends with people that would 364 00:16:09,440 --> 00:16:13,320 Speaker 1: ever like strong arm someone or think they're cooler. Then 365 00:16:13,600 --> 00:16:16,480 Speaker 1: not only anyone my friend, this is my friend that 366 00:16:16,560 --> 00:16:18,960 Speaker 1: you just met, I'm here with him, and you're going 367 00:16:19,000 --> 00:16:23,400 Speaker 1: to like, oh, it really irritates me, and then it 368 00:16:23,440 --> 00:16:25,440 Speaker 1: makes me so sad because my friend isn't who I 369 00:16:25,440 --> 00:16:27,400 Speaker 1: thought they were, and they're a person that does that, 370 00:16:27,560 --> 00:16:30,520 Speaker 1: and it's just like kid, they're so good. They think 371 00:16:30,560 --> 00:16:33,200 Speaker 1: I'm suddenly gonna be like, oh my god, this guy 372 00:16:33,360 --> 00:16:36,400 Speaker 1: is like softle that he just alphaed my friend he 373 00:16:36,640 --> 00:16:38,920 Speaker 1: just met who I actually chose to be here with, 374 00:16:39,000 --> 00:16:40,960 Speaker 1: and this person who I didn't choose to be here with, 375 00:16:41,200 --> 00:16:43,040 Speaker 1: Oh my god, you're looking way cooler now. Like it 376 00:16:43,120 --> 00:16:45,600 Speaker 1: is the dumbest move. It will never ever work. I 377 00:16:45,640 --> 00:16:48,280 Speaker 1: can't even believe it exists in the world I live in, 378 00:16:48,440 --> 00:16:50,480 Speaker 1: but it's happened twice to me. And there was another 379 00:16:50,520 --> 00:16:53,520 Speaker 1: guy who he the first guy was just not trying 380 00:16:53,520 --> 00:16:56,280 Speaker 1: to fuck me, but the second guy was. And he 381 00:16:56,360 --> 00:16:59,520 Speaker 1: asked my friend are like, are you guys together? And 382 00:16:59,560 --> 00:17:01,240 Speaker 1: I was like, no, this is my friend. And then 383 00:17:01,280 --> 00:17:04,080 Speaker 1: he just starts like saying these digs at my friend, 384 00:17:05,040 --> 00:17:07,439 Speaker 1: like and the guy's drunk, so I'll give him that, 385 00:17:07,480 --> 00:17:09,960 Speaker 1: but he's just digging like and like and so, and 386 00:17:10,000 --> 00:17:11,679 Speaker 1: I just go hey, and then I don't want my 387 00:17:11,680 --> 00:17:14,399 Speaker 1: friend to feel like a bitch by me defending. 388 00:17:14,080 --> 00:17:15,440 Speaker 2: Hucking bitch that you're defending. 389 00:17:15,720 --> 00:17:17,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, but I'm also like, what the fuck? And so 390 00:17:17,920 --> 00:17:19,640 Speaker 1: I just let it slide because later on I'm gonna 391 00:17:19,640 --> 00:17:21,760 Speaker 1: be like he sucks and we all know it, and 392 00:17:21,800 --> 00:17:25,640 Speaker 1: that's what you know, that's what was Yeah, well no, 393 00:17:25,760 --> 00:17:27,680 Speaker 1: because I also would have been like if he would 394 00:17:27,680 --> 00:17:29,600 Speaker 1: have stood up to this guy and been like, hey man, 395 00:17:29,640 --> 00:17:31,320 Speaker 1: I would have been like, don't make this a thing, 396 00:17:31,440 --> 00:17:33,040 Speaker 1: Like let's just all get through this and roll our 397 00:17:33,040 --> 00:17:34,359 Speaker 1: eyes because we know you stop. 398 00:17:34,440 --> 00:17:36,159 Speaker 2: Can you please stop undermining me? 399 00:17:36,760 --> 00:17:41,080 Speaker 1: Like sometimes we all just got is to call out the. 400 00:17:41,560 --> 00:17:44,040 Speaker 3: Like can you stop undermining me? I can't imagine the 401 00:17:44,040 --> 00:17:44,639 Speaker 3: only thing he could do. 402 00:17:44,840 --> 00:17:45,800 Speaker 2: Two options there. 403 00:17:45,960 --> 00:17:48,359 Speaker 3: He can ignore the guy and then just be like 404 00:17:48,520 --> 00:17:51,360 Speaker 3: and let it be wash over him, or he could 405 00:17:51,400 --> 00:17:52,000 Speaker 3: beat him up. 406 00:17:52,480 --> 00:17:53,800 Speaker 2: Both options are terrible. 407 00:17:54,160 --> 00:17:56,199 Speaker 1: No, it wasn't that it wasn't bad enough for a 408 00:17:56,240 --> 00:17:58,320 Speaker 1: beat up. It might have been bad enough for a 409 00:17:58,359 --> 00:18:01,119 Speaker 1: call out, but this guy was so ridiculous, Like we 410 00:18:01,160 --> 00:18:02,840 Speaker 1: both kind of agreed we're just gonna laugh at him, 411 00:18:02,840 --> 00:18:06,280 Speaker 1: So that was the right call. But the cook, Yeah, 412 00:18:06,359 --> 00:18:08,879 Speaker 1: this this stuff needs to be called out. And women, 413 00:18:08,960 --> 00:18:11,520 Speaker 1: you should never be attracted to someone who would ever 414 00:18:11,640 --> 00:18:14,360 Speaker 1: treat anyone you're with like less than because they want 415 00:18:14,359 --> 00:18:16,520 Speaker 1: to fuck you. It is not a sign that they 416 00:18:16,640 --> 00:18:18,440 Speaker 1: like like you more than that, like they were willing 417 00:18:18,440 --> 00:18:21,040 Speaker 1: to fight for you. It's like really antisocial and a 418 00:18:21,280 --> 00:18:24,080 Speaker 1: bread flag. All right, more with the uh more with 419 00:18:24,119 --> 00:18:26,240 Speaker 1: me and Brian on this show when we get by 420 00:18:28,760 --> 00:18:29,159 Speaker 1: what's up? 421 00:18:29,200 --> 00:18:32,000 Speaker 3: Brian, it's such a good point about the I just 422 00:18:32,000 --> 00:18:34,040 Speaker 3: want to put a fine point on this point about 423 00:18:34,080 --> 00:18:37,720 Speaker 3: the restaurant brightness, because it is like reverse brightness. The 424 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:40,160 Speaker 3: fancier of the restaurant is the less shame you should 425 00:18:40,160 --> 00:18:43,240 Speaker 3: feel for eating the food, and it's darker if like 426 00:18:43,240 --> 00:18:46,320 Speaker 3: when I'm eating like two Chick fil a sandwiches, I 427 00:18:46,359 --> 00:18:47,680 Speaker 3: want that to be stark right. 428 00:18:48,280 --> 00:18:49,560 Speaker 2: I want to be in the corner with. 429 00:18:49,480 --> 00:18:52,640 Speaker 3: The corner of a basement eating my I get two 430 00:18:52,680 --> 00:18:55,240 Speaker 3: Chick fil A sandwiches in a file at and I 431 00:18:55,280 --> 00:18:56,800 Speaker 3: dip it in the ranch LUs. I should be in 432 00:18:56,840 --> 00:18:59,240 Speaker 3: the dark in the basement eating that. Instead you go 433 00:18:59,280 --> 00:19:02,639 Speaker 3: to Nobuo, You're being like fine fresh fish prepared by 434 00:19:02,640 --> 00:19:04,800 Speaker 3: a Michelin star chef, and they make it dark. 435 00:19:04,840 --> 00:19:05,359 Speaker 2: It should be the. 436 00:19:05,359 --> 00:19:07,800 Speaker 1: Reverse, It really should. That's such a good point. There 437 00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:14,320 Speaker 1: should be really aggressive, harsh. You know what's it called 438 00:19:14,920 --> 00:19:17,639 Speaker 1: the worst lighting? The tubes? 439 00:19:17,840 --> 00:19:20,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, the tubes? Oh god, I forgot. Also, we both 440 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:24,440 Speaker 3: forgot office. My got fluorescent. 441 00:19:25,040 --> 00:19:29,000 Speaker 1: Yah, good job, Oh my god, what association. I feel 442 00:19:29,000 --> 00:19:31,600 Speaker 1: like if you pulled a thousand people, only two out 443 00:19:31,600 --> 00:19:33,359 Speaker 1: of those thousand would not be able to come up 444 00:19:33,400 --> 00:19:35,919 Speaker 1: with that word. And we were working the same podcast together. 445 00:19:36,160 --> 00:19:38,960 Speaker 3: We don't work in offices. That's if you work in 446 00:19:38,960 --> 00:19:41,640 Speaker 3: an office, fluorescent is like top of mind because it's 447 00:19:41,640 --> 00:19:43,360 Speaker 3: like the worst thing. I mean, I've been I've worked 448 00:19:43,359 --> 00:19:46,800 Speaker 3: in office before, and the fluorescent lighting fucks with you. 449 00:19:46,960 --> 00:19:51,080 Speaker 1: Really. Yeah, it's sensitive of what fus with you? 450 00:19:51,440 --> 00:19:51,960 Speaker 2: Yeah? 451 00:19:52,040 --> 00:19:53,919 Speaker 3: Well, so, speaking of so, I went to the doctor 452 00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:56,880 Speaker 3: yesterday while and I. While I was waiting on the doctor, 453 00:19:56,920 --> 00:19:59,520 Speaker 3: I was listening to some beautiful guitar music. 454 00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:01,359 Speaker 1: Yeah. Then I kicked you out. 455 00:20:01,680 --> 00:20:06,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, so I have to the doctor says, I have 456 00:20:06,040 --> 00:20:10,200 Speaker 3: to get my gallbladder removed. Yeah, just another thing added 457 00:20:10,240 --> 00:20:11,040 Speaker 3: on top of all. 458 00:20:11,080 --> 00:20:11,760 Speaker 2: What problem? 459 00:20:11,800 --> 00:20:14,520 Speaker 1: Why, I'm sorry, I'm smiling. That's such a weird thing 460 00:20:14,560 --> 00:20:14,800 Speaker 1: to get. 461 00:20:15,200 --> 00:20:16,960 Speaker 2: I'm not just hit Nikki. 462 00:20:18,720 --> 00:20:20,639 Speaker 1: Wait, why do you have to get your gall bladder removed? 463 00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:21,800 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. 464 00:20:21,800 --> 00:20:26,560 Speaker 3: Well, this year I've had three attacks, and this is 465 00:20:26,600 --> 00:20:29,560 Speaker 3: you know, I'm just giving this information because maybe someone 466 00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:31,720 Speaker 3: else out there listening has had their gallbladder removed, or 467 00:20:31,880 --> 00:20:34,200 Speaker 3: they made me need to have their gall bladder removed. 468 00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:36,560 Speaker 3: My mom had her gall bladder removed, so it's like 469 00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:38,800 Speaker 3: in the family. But I had three attacks this year 470 00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:43,440 Speaker 3: where I ate like a decent sized meal the night before, 471 00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:45,760 Speaker 3: went to bed, and then woke up in excruciating pain. 472 00:20:46,240 --> 00:20:49,479 Speaker 3: And did I I told you the Indie story. When 473 00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:53,199 Speaker 3: I was in Indianapolis, I got food poisoning. The toilet 474 00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:54,840 Speaker 3: was clogged in a shitty hotel, and so I had. 475 00:20:54,760 --> 00:20:56,840 Speaker 1: To puke into the tub next to. 476 00:20:56,800 --> 00:21:00,600 Speaker 3: My toilet, and that I thought that was food poisoning. 477 00:21:00,600 --> 00:21:03,200 Speaker 3: But it maybe wasn't food poisoning. It might have been 478 00:21:03,320 --> 00:21:05,879 Speaker 3: your gall bladder, my gallbladder, because it also happened on 479 00:21:05,880 --> 00:21:07,920 Speaker 3: New Year's Eve, and then it also happened two days ago. 480 00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:10,720 Speaker 1: God, what does your gallbladder do? I mean, yours isn't 481 00:21:10,720 --> 00:21:12,439 Speaker 1: doing anything, but what does it do normally? 482 00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:12,560 Speaker 3: Do? 483 00:21:12,720 --> 00:21:17,040 Speaker 2: The gallbladder stores bile? So it is shit. 484 00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:20,119 Speaker 3: Yeah, So the goal the gall bladder is kind of 485 00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:23,360 Speaker 3: like the appendix and that it's it's like number two 486 00:21:23,480 --> 00:21:24,440 Speaker 3: in uselessness. 487 00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:25,560 Speaker 2: It's not quite. 488 00:21:25,280 --> 00:21:28,480 Speaker 3: Totally useless, but it's pretty close to being useless. It's like, 489 00:21:28,520 --> 00:21:29,520 Speaker 3: you don't need it. 490 00:21:29,640 --> 00:21:32,720 Speaker 1: We are going to probably a couple thousand years probably not. 491 00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:35,439 Speaker 3: Have one, right, Yeah, and a couple thousand and so 492 00:21:35,640 --> 00:21:37,439 Speaker 3: if you get it taken out, it's like not a 493 00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:40,600 Speaker 3: huge deal. But it is like a surgery under anesthesia 494 00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:41,119 Speaker 3: and stuff. 495 00:21:41,200 --> 00:21:43,160 Speaker 1: So what is it gonna? Is it gonna cure this 496 00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:44,359 Speaker 1: stomach issue you have? 497 00:21:44,760 --> 00:21:47,359 Speaker 2: Hopefully? Yeah? But the pain. 498 00:21:47,960 --> 00:21:50,359 Speaker 3: So two days ago, I ate a decadent meal at 499 00:21:50,359 --> 00:21:55,000 Speaker 3: a dark restaurant and I with my wife, and that 500 00:21:55,160 --> 00:21:57,160 Speaker 3: night I felt like such shit, But I didn't feel 501 00:21:57,160 --> 00:21:58,360 Speaker 3: like I was in pain. You know how you eat 502 00:21:58,400 --> 00:22:01,280 Speaker 3: like just like a greasy or heavy greasy either you 503 00:22:01,400 --> 00:22:02,720 Speaker 3: seat like a lot of food, and then you just 504 00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:05,320 Speaker 3: feel kind of like I felt like that. I went 505 00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:07,160 Speaker 3: to sleep. I woke up in the middle of the night. 506 00:22:07,240 --> 00:22:10,960 Speaker 3: Excruciating pain. Not an uncommon feeling for me. I've experienced 507 00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:13,320 Speaker 3: IBS symptoms and all this stuff for my entire life. 508 00:22:13,359 --> 00:22:16,080 Speaker 3: But then I got rid of it thanks to sarno 509 00:22:16,320 --> 00:22:19,520 Speaker 3: esque type thinking away the pain. But I haven't had 510 00:22:19,560 --> 00:22:23,520 Speaker 3: a stomach issue for five years, god and so. But 511 00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:26,880 Speaker 3: this year, three times within the last five months, I've 512 00:22:26,920 --> 00:22:31,119 Speaker 3: had a stomach issue that caused me to vomit profusely, 513 00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:33,480 Speaker 3: which is something that I have never done. I I 514 00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:35,560 Speaker 3: haven't thrown up in twenty five years, and now I've 515 00:22:35,600 --> 00:22:38,560 Speaker 3: thrown up on three different occasions this year. And the 516 00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:41,679 Speaker 3: pain is excruciating and I was so. I was in 517 00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:46,160 Speaker 3: pain two nights ago for sixteen straight hours. 518 00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:47,840 Speaker 2: I could not get over it. 519 00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:51,240 Speaker 1: And I was like to take anything like an advilla 520 00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:51,760 Speaker 1: or something. 521 00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:55,399 Speaker 3: You can't take advilla that's bad for your stomach. You 522 00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:59,640 Speaker 3: have to take like my Lanta pepsid tombs. 523 00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:00,480 Speaker 1: Like, and you're doing that stuff. 524 00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:03,920 Speaker 3: I took pepsid and thumbs and my Lanta didn't absolutely nothing. 525 00:23:03,960 --> 00:23:05,800 Speaker 3: It felt like it made things worse. But I was 526 00:23:05,800 --> 00:23:08,920 Speaker 3: in so much pain that I was like, I feel 527 00:23:08,960 --> 00:23:11,560 Speaker 3: like this is like child what childbirth is like. And 528 00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:13,320 Speaker 3: I didn't want to be like, oh, I know what. 529 00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:16,760 Speaker 3: I'm a man, I have no idea. But then my 530 00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:21,200 Speaker 3: friend's sister had her gallbladder removed and she has three children, 531 00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:23,520 Speaker 3: and she said I asked him. I was like, she 532 00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:27,920 Speaker 3: what did she say? And she said, unprompted, she said, childbirth. 533 00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:32,680 Speaker 3: Get the gallbladder removed. I feel much better now. It's 534 00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:37,080 Speaker 3: worth it. And also the pain of I would put 535 00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:39,440 Speaker 3: the pain of a gallbladder attack is this is almost 536 00:23:39,440 --> 00:23:41,679 Speaker 3: as no, she said. I want to say exactly what 537 00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:44,080 Speaker 3: she said because I want I want the women to 538 00:23:44,200 --> 00:23:45,639 Speaker 3: know out there who've had me, I would know. 539 00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:46,800 Speaker 1: We don't think. 540 00:23:48,359 --> 00:23:50,160 Speaker 2: For a man to experience. 541 00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:52,480 Speaker 1: By the way, I wanted to say, as a woman 542 00:23:52,520 --> 00:23:55,440 Speaker 1: who's never having kids, I would like to have the 543 00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:57,920 Speaker 1: right to be able to say that something is as 544 00:23:57,920 --> 00:24:00,760 Speaker 1: painful as childbirth, just because I never I'm like a 545 00:24:00,800 --> 00:24:02,719 Speaker 1: man too, I'm never going to experience it, so I 546 00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:03,960 Speaker 1: believe there are pain the. 547 00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:07,480 Speaker 3: Fact that child it lasted for sixteen hours. That's why 548 00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:09,080 Speaker 3: I was comparing it to labor. 549 00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:11,080 Speaker 1: Right, right, right? Did you have contractions on it? 550 00:24:11,280 --> 00:24:14,000 Speaker 3: I was like, I was thinking, just breathe, just breathe, 551 00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:15,760 Speaker 3: and I kept doing deep breathing to try to get 552 00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:15,960 Speaker 3: through it. 553 00:24:16,240 --> 00:24:18,600 Speaker 1: ALI like rubbing your back, Like what is she doing 554 00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:21,280 Speaker 1: during this? Like being in pain this long by yourself 555 00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:22,160 Speaker 1: is awful? 556 00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:24,320 Speaker 2: She had no idea. She was asleep in the other room. 557 00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:27,800 Speaker 1: Sixteen hours. You were asleep for. 558 00:24:29,720 --> 00:24:30,600 Speaker 2: Well, well she was. 559 00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:33,800 Speaker 3: She went to work. So I was in bed and 560 00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:36,040 Speaker 3: she went to work. I was in bed. 561 00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:37,720 Speaker 1: I don't lasted till the day. 562 00:24:37,960 --> 00:24:39,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't remember what the time. No, yeah, it 563 00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:42,399 Speaker 3: was sixteen hours because it was Sunday. She was just asleep. 564 00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:45,639 Speaker 3: She sleeps until two pm on the weekends. Okay, So 565 00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:48,960 Speaker 3: this person's sister said, she said the pain of the 566 00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:51,920 Speaker 3: gallbladder attacks was as bad as labor. I wouldn't wish 567 00:24:51,960 --> 00:24:54,800 Speaker 3: it on anyone. And I felt so vindicated for my 568 00:24:54,840 --> 00:24:56,359 Speaker 3: feeling because I was like, yes, I knew it was 569 00:24:56,440 --> 00:25:01,720 Speaker 3: that bad. It was so bad, moody, it was so painful, 570 00:25:02,480 --> 00:25:05,480 Speaker 3: and I couldn't do anything about it. The only solution 571 00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:09,800 Speaker 3: I could think of was to run. So I just 572 00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:11,560 Speaker 3: started running around town. 573 00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:14,320 Speaker 1: In penn in the middle of the night or once was. 574 00:25:14,320 --> 00:25:14,879 Speaker 2: In the morning. 575 00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:17,639 Speaker 3: This early morning, I just started running because running was 576 00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:19,640 Speaker 3: really distracting, and I felt like maybe it would help 577 00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:22,879 Speaker 3: me like digest whatever's happening. Yes, and also just like 578 00:25:22,920 --> 00:25:25,560 Speaker 3: get everything moving, get the blood flowing. So I ran 579 00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:27,479 Speaker 3: for like thirty minutes. 580 00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:32,919 Speaker 1: Yes, because you're if your body is moving and distracted, yeah, 581 00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:34,000 Speaker 1: maybe you won't feel it. 582 00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:37,040 Speaker 3: Holy shit, it was so it's I'm so sorry, man, 583 00:25:37,200 --> 00:25:40,600 Speaker 3: I still feel like queasy and not right. 584 00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:42,960 Speaker 1: And when are you having the surgery? 585 00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:45,800 Speaker 3: So first I have to get an ultrasound to show 586 00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:49,240 Speaker 3: that I have gallstones, and maybe I don't, maybe it's 587 00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:50,920 Speaker 3: something else I don't know, but so I have an 588 00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:52,120 Speaker 3: ultrasound next week. 589 00:25:52,600 --> 00:25:57,680 Speaker 1: And then uh so the thinking it's gallstones like kidney stones. 590 00:25:57,320 --> 00:25:59,800 Speaker 2: But for your for your gallbladder. Yeah, because I went 591 00:25:59,840 --> 00:26:00,560 Speaker 2: to the doctor. 592 00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:03,280 Speaker 1: That's what they said. Kidney stones are horribly painful. Yeah, 593 00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:04,960 Speaker 1: I can only match the same. 594 00:26:05,480 --> 00:26:07,720 Speaker 3: I went to the doctor and he said, like, you 595 00:26:07,840 --> 00:26:10,880 Speaker 3: have a gallbladder problem. Because he's like, we we should 596 00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:14,480 Speaker 3: have filmed this doctor's appointment because it should be shown 597 00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:18,280 Speaker 3: to medical students to show them what a textbook definition 598 00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:21,840 Speaker 3: of someone presenting a problem. And then he pushed on 599 00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:23,840 Speaker 3: my stomach. He did a manual exam. I was laying 600 00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:26,320 Speaker 3: on the table. He pushed on my stomach. He pushed 601 00:26:26,359 --> 00:26:28,399 Speaker 3: on the gallbladder. And I'm a guy like, if I 602 00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:32,080 Speaker 3: get a massage, I want them to destroy me. Nothing 603 00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:37,000 Speaker 3: you can do that, Well, I'll say that's not gall Yeah, 604 00:26:37,040 --> 00:26:39,520 Speaker 3: And he pushed down on my gallbladder and I could 605 00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:42,359 Speaker 3: not help but WinCE. 606 00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:43,280 Speaker 2: I was like ah. 607 00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:45,600 Speaker 3: And he's like, that hurt you, and I was like yeah. 608 00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:47,679 Speaker 3: And then he pushed on the other side and he 609 00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:49,720 Speaker 3: said this is the same pressure. And I was like, 610 00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:51,560 Speaker 3: I don't even feel that. And he's like and they 611 00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:52,600 Speaker 3: pushed on the gall bladder. 612 00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:53,120 Speaker 1: Definite. 613 00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:57,480 Speaker 3: So I have an issue. It could be inflamed, but 614 00:26:57,520 --> 00:27:00,879 Speaker 3: it could be gallstones. And the that is to get 615 00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:03,280 Speaker 3: it removed and then hopefully I'll feel better. 616 00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:07,560 Speaker 1: But it's just another of your I mean, how many 617 00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:10,200 Speaker 1: surgeries have you had on your ass alone? 618 00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:11,480 Speaker 2: Oh my ass alone? 619 00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:14,280 Speaker 1: Well, like you had the surgery alone on your ass, 620 00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:16,520 Speaker 1: six on your ass? Any others? 621 00:27:16,880 --> 00:27:21,960 Speaker 3: Balls, balls, laparoscopic surgery of my balls, any other I 622 00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:23,800 Speaker 3: mean I had in the last two years, I've had 623 00:27:24,680 --> 00:27:26,600 Speaker 3: three teeth extracted. 624 00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:29,359 Speaker 1: Just like an it's kind of a surgery. 625 00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:30,240 Speaker 2: And I've got a gum graph. 626 00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:32,199 Speaker 1: Under Jesus Christ. 627 00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:34,400 Speaker 2: So now I don't know what So that's a question. 628 00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:35,560 Speaker 3: I was like, I would love to do the gum 629 00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:39,119 Speaker 3: graph in the and the gall bladder removal at the 630 00:27:39,119 --> 00:27:42,040 Speaker 3: same time, because then I'm just like. 631 00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:45,520 Speaker 1: I was just at my facial list talking about when 632 00:27:45,520 --> 00:27:49,359 Speaker 1: I was going to do some laser treatments and the 633 00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:52,000 Speaker 1: downtime is eight days, and I go, I can't There's 634 00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:54,320 Speaker 1: no time where I'm not on stage or on camera 635 00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:56,760 Speaker 1: for eight days. It just isn't going to happen. And 636 00:27:56,800 --> 00:27:59,359 Speaker 1: I really don't understand where people have any time to 637 00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:02,880 Speaker 1: have plastics surgery, which all these women have in Hollywood. 638 00:28:02,920 --> 00:28:04,919 Speaker 1: I want to know where Emily Blunt went, and I 639 00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:06,800 Speaker 1: want to know what she did, and I want to 640 00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:08,879 Speaker 1: know the timeline, and I want to know where she 641 00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:11,560 Speaker 1: went and healed. And that's not calling her out, It's 642 00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:14,400 Speaker 1: just stating the obvious that that is a beautiful face 643 00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:15,600 Speaker 1: and I want it, and. 644 00:28:15,560 --> 00:28:19,000 Speaker 3: There's got a way to get it. Yeah, we went 645 00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:20,880 Speaker 3: a whole month without talking, but. 646 00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:23,199 Speaker 1: That was like it under the guise of like this 647 00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:25,440 Speaker 1: is emergency, like I'm not gonna be able to talk, 648 00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:27,400 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be able to perform, but it really 649 00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:29,000 Speaker 1: if I won't be able to perform, if I don't 650 00:28:29,000 --> 00:28:32,320 Speaker 1: get a facelift, I truly will not be so sad. 651 00:28:32,640 --> 00:28:36,119 Speaker 1: It's but yeah, I feel like the running thing is 652 00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:38,880 Speaker 1: really interesting. I went running two days ago because I 653 00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:43,600 Speaker 1: was in mental anguish and I just couldn't deal with it. 654 00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:46,080 Speaker 1: And I was just like, Okay, I just have to 655 00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:49,000 Speaker 1: like tire myself, like I just need to do something 656 00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:50,560 Speaker 1: to distract it. So I do think that a lot 657 00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:53,440 Speaker 1: of times. Wait, it's the best, and I usually go 658 00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:56,400 Speaker 1: running just for exercise and for fresh air. But the 659 00:28:56,440 --> 00:28:59,000 Speaker 1: other day I was just like I just need to 660 00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:01,400 Speaker 1: burn because I had already done a pilates class to 661 00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:03,240 Speaker 1: day that was really hard. It was one of those 662 00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:06,360 Speaker 1: like intense plunk I call it plunk p l n 663 00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:10,000 Speaker 1: K classes that makes you want to die several times 664 00:29:10,040 --> 00:29:12,520 Speaker 1: through it. But I still didn't. I was still like 665 00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:15,000 Speaker 1: I can't be alone with these I've tried to pick 666 00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:16,960 Speaker 1: up a book and maybe get into that, but like 667 00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:20,080 Speaker 1: sometimes your thoughts are just like won't go away, so 668 00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:22,320 Speaker 1: you have to. Like when I run, I can feel 669 00:29:22,320 --> 00:29:26,000 Speaker 1: like I don't ruminate as much, yeahcause I'm focused on 670 00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:28,400 Speaker 1: like how exhausted I am. 671 00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:30,479 Speaker 2: Yeah, and pushing through. Do you listen to anything when 672 00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:31,000 Speaker 2: you're running? 673 00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:33,840 Speaker 1: Oh the whole time? Taylor Swift, No No, and other 674 00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:36,040 Speaker 1: stuff too, just like I love I love running to music. 675 00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:39,680 Speaker 1: It makes me feel like it's my Probably my second 676 00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:43,360 Speaker 1: favorite way to listen to music first is in a 677 00:29:43,400 --> 00:29:47,280 Speaker 1: car driving. Maybe maybe running is number one though, but 678 00:29:47,320 --> 00:29:50,560 Speaker 1: that's too. I love car music. 679 00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:54,160 Speaker 3: But car that's better than car music. Singing to your car. 680 00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:56,800 Speaker 3: You're in a box where you can sing as loud 681 00:29:56,800 --> 00:30:00,840 Speaker 3: as you want. Oh, you just run on town singing. 682 00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:04,160 Speaker 1: Well, if there's someone I'm coming across, I stop singing 683 00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:07,000 Speaker 1: they get close. But I if i'd like you can 684 00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:09,000 Speaker 1: see kind of around you, and if someone's behind me, 685 00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:09,640 Speaker 1: that's their fault. 686 00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:11,480 Speaker 2: I was I did but in their house or something. 687 00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:12,040 Speaker 2: What can heppen? 688 00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:12,120 Speaker 3: Well? 689 00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:13,920 Speaker 1: My thing is like I don't want people to think 690 00:30:13,960 --> 00:30:16,760 Speaker 1: that I'm trying to sing, so they're like they they 691 00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:18,560 Speaker 1: think that I'm like trying to be like I have 692 00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:22,200 Speaker 1: a good voice, Like I just so if someone if 693 00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:24,840 Speaker 1: I'm singing and someone comes in the gym, I'm not 694 00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:27,200 Speaker 1: that embarrassed because I don't think they think I was 695 00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:29,080 Speaker 1: doing it for them. They know I was just doing 696 00:30:29,080 --> 00:30:31,960 Speaker 1: this alone anyway. Yeah, if that makes any sense. 697 00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:34,000 Speaker 3: I think for most people that would be more embarrassing 698 00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:36,360 Speaker 3: to know you were caught. 699 00:30:36,720 --> 00:30:39,160 Speaker 1: Oh yeah. The embarrassing thing to me is not like 700 00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:41,920 Speaker 1: because actually singing while you're running is so fun, but 701 00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:44,880 Speaker 1: it's more embarrassing to be like, I think I have 702 00:30:44,920 --> 00:30:46,760 Speaker 1: a beautiful voice, I'm gonna sing. 703 00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:46,880 Speaker 3: Like. 704 00:30:46,920 --> 00:30:48,960 Speaker 1: You know, some people just like sing in public and 705 00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:51,200 Speaker 1: like hum and you know that they like think they 706 00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:53,600 Speaker 1: sound good and they're just trying to show off or 707 00:30:53,640 --> 00:30:55,240 Speaker 1: am I being really negative? 708 00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:57,680 Speaker 2: My wife does that, She hums all the time, and 709 00:30:57,720 --> 00:30:58,840 Speaker 2: she's no, she's. 710 00:30:58,640 --> 00:31:00,680 Speaker 1: Not someone that does that. I'm talking about people who 711 00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:04,040 Speaker 1: know there's a difference. Some people just hum yeah, like 712 00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:05,600 Speaker 1: past the time and sing to themselves. 713 00:31:05,600 --> 00:31:08,120 Speaker 3: It's like a soothing it's so it's like it's something 714 00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:09,200 Speaker 3: that their mother probably did. 715 00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:12,880 Speaker 1: I guess I'm thinking about crazy people, like literal crazy 716 00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:15,560 Speaker 1: people who are you like, they're singing to themselves in 717 00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:18,240 Speaker 1: public and that happens once in a while at the 718 00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:21,640 Speaker 1: airport once a but on the train in New York 719 00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:26,360 Speaker 1: lots or in public in LA homeless people. I'm I 720 00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:27,000 Speaker 1: guess that's. 721 00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:29,680 Speaker 3: Why homeless people trying to busk. I'm having trouble picture 722 00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:33,520 Speaker 3: someone just like impromptu singing on the subway train because 723 00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:36,240 Speaker 3: they think they sound good unless they're like a homeless 724 00:31:36,240 --> 00:31:37,560 Speaker 3: person busking or. 725 00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:40,360 Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, I don't know. I'm kind of mixing ideas here, 726 00:31:40,720 --> 00:31:44,239 Speaker 1: but I do know that some people I don't know, 727 00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:47,560 Speaker 1: Like I think that some people when they're working out 728 00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:50,320 Speaker 1: or like singing in their car and you're in the 729 00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:52,600 Speaker 1: car with them, they're like trying to sound really. 730 00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:54,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, so that I can that I can relate to 731 00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:56,720 Speaker 3: is being in the car, and then. 732 00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:59,320 Speaker 1: Can I also try to sound good for myself and 733 00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:01,000 Speaker 1: you're in the car, are like, and you don't think 734 00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:02,600 Speaker 1: that I'm trying to sound good for you because I 735 00:32:02,680 --> 00:32:04,440 Speaker 1: try to sound good all the time, like I'm always 736 00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:05,720 Speaker 1: working at sounding the best. 737 00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:06,200 Speaker 3: Yeah. 738 00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:09,560 Speaker 1: Well, I don't want people to be around when I 739 00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:11,400 Speaker 1: sing because I don't want them to think that I 740 00:32:11,560 --> 00:32:12,280 Speaker 1: think I'm cool. 741 00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:14,800 Speaker 3: Right well, now, I'm a culprit of what you're describing 742 00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:17,320 Speaker 3: in the car, like, if we're listening to a song 743 00:32:17,360 --> 00:32:20,120 Speaker 3: in the car and we're singing, I do sing. I 744 00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:23,960 Speaker 3: try to sing a little bit better, yeah, or especially 745 00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:26,000 Speaker 3: if it's like a song I know all the lyrics 746 00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:28,200 Speaker 3: to and I'm like, I'm going to prove that I 747 00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:28,760 Speaker 3: know everything. 748 00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:29,520 Speaker 1: We all do it. 749 00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:31,160 Speaker 2: And then I messed up a lyric and I'm like, 750 00:32:31,200 --> 00:32:33,280 Speaker 2: I'm so embarrassed. I want to jump out of the car. 751 00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:37,440 Speaker 1: Confident and hitting that lyric. Oh god, we've all just 752 00:32:37,560 --> 00:32:41,560 Speaker 1: the way you is a fuck yes, yes, fuck no. 753 00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:42,880 Speaker 2: I know it's our I know it's our. 754 00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:45,840 Speaker 3: No, the other person probably thinks you're a piece of 755 00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:49,280 Speaker 3: shit after that, and the yeah get no billy fan, Yeah, 756 00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:51,040 Speaker 3: oh take got a gun. 757 00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:51,720 Speaker 2: Yeah. 758 00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:54,479 Speaker 1: That's was a big fear of At Swifty concerts, it's like, 759 00:32:54,600 --> 00:32:57,280 Speaker 1: oh god, like because everyone's like, oh my god, what 760 00:32:57,280 --> 00:32:59,920 Speaker 1: if I don't know the lyrics and I'm like, I don't. 761 00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:02,560 Speaker 1: As of someone who I know, my swiftness could not 762 00:33:02,640 --> 00:33:04,960 Speaker 1: be stronger. I wouldn't want it to be. I don't 763 00:33:04,960 --> 00:33:07,680 Speaker 1: know many lyrics to many songs, and that's okay, and 764 00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:10,200 Speaker 1: I'm a lyric at once. I will learn the lyrics 765 00:33:10,200 --> 00:33:12,280 Speaker 1: once I really really care about a song and have 766 00:33:12,320 --> 00:33:15,240 Speaker 1: a romance with it. But it's not. It's it's impossible 767 00:33:15,240 --> 00:33:15,680 Speaker 1: for me to know. 768 00:33:17,120 --> 00:33:19,440 Speaker 3: In fact, if you get the lyric wrong, it makes 769 00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:22,040 Speaker 3: people feel better because they're like, oh, I'm a little 770 00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:23,880 Speaker 3: better than this person because I knew that lyric and 771 00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:24,320 Speaker 3: she did it. 772 00:33:24,360 --> 00:33:28,400 Speaker 1: But I do love knowing lyrics. It's it's fun when 773 00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:30,840 Speaker 1: I'm like learning new ones. It's it's a good experience. 774 00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:33,920 Speaker 3: I'm like, it's like such a meaningless skill to have too, 775 00:33:33,960 --> 00:33:36,200 Speaker 3: It's like it doesn't mean anything to know the lyrics. 776 00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:38,640 Speaker 1: No, it's taking up space in your brain that could 777 00:33:38,680 --> 00:33:39,840 Speaker 1: be for other things. 778 00:33:39,960 --> 00:33:42,040 Speaker 2: You could be learning science or Spanish or something. 779 00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:46,920 Speaker 1: Or that Mexico is not in South America. Yeah, yeah, 780 00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:50,479 Speaker 1: found that out the hard way. Oh my god, bygling it. 781 00:33:52,080 --> 00:33:54,760 Speaker 1: Wait did you get questioned that on a show your recently? No, 782 00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:57,719 Speaker 1: I just like think it came up once and I 783 00:33:57,800 --> 00:34:00,640 Speaker 1: was like, I don't know if Mexico is in North 784 00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:03,640 Speaker 1: or South America. I literally think it's in South America 785 00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:07,920 Speaker 1: because it's Mexico, you know, like south right, Like North 786 00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:11,919 Speaker 1: America is just Canada and US, like it just feels 787 00:34:12,239 --> 00:34:12,880 Speaker 1: we're white. 788 00:34:13,239 --> 00:34:15,160 Speaker 2: What I thought North America was white. 789 00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:18,920 Speaker 1: Honestly, maybe my brain was thinking that kind of and 790 00:34:18,960 --> 00:34:21,120 Speaker 1: not that I think it was more. I wish it 791 00:34:21,160 --> 00:34:24,120 Speaker 1: were more brown. I don't give a fuck. It's just it. 792 00:34:24,160 --> 00:34:27,200 Speaker 1: That's the way my But that was a really dumb 793 00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:28,880 Speaker 1: one for me to learn late in life. 794 00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:31,520 Speaker 3: I felt, Oh, yeah, I'm trying to I'm trying to 795 00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:34,840 Speaker 3: implant a bunch of those things into my niece. So like, 796 00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:36,480 Speaker 3: one thing I do to my niece is I'll tell 797 00:34:36,480 --> 00:34:43,280 Speaker 3: her wrong information, like but information that just doesn't matter. Uh, 798 00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:48,919 Speaker 3: Like I'd be like the the the the uh, what's 799 00:34:48,960 --> 00:34:52,799 Speaker 3: the president face? The Mount Rushmore is in Montana. 800 00:34:53,840 --> 00:34:56,600 Speaker 1: That's not good because she's gonna be on some trivia 801 00:34:56,600 --> 00:34:59,120 Speaker 1: show someday and be like, I know this because my 802 00:34:59,120 --> 00:35:02,560 Speaker 1: my uncle. She trusted it in my head, she trusted me. 803 00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:04,640 Speaker 3: I also for the first two years of her life, 804 00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:07,080 Speaker 3: only whenever I saw her, I would wear oven mits. 805 00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:10,200 Speaker 3: And I told her that why. I said, I have 806 00:35:10,239 --> 00:35:14,160 Speaker 3: an issue with my hands, and I I'm embarrassed about 807 00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:15,800 Speaker 3: my hands, so I wear of a mits. 808 00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:16,160 Speaker 2: All the time. 809 00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:18,120 Speaker 1: This is not what you did. 810 00:35:18,719 --> 00:35:19,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I literally did that. 811 00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:24,759 Speaker 1: No you did it. No you didn't. Yeah, no, you 812 00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:25,200 Speaker 1: did it. 813 00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:25,879 Speaker 2: It was a joke. 814 00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:28,360 Speaker 1: Okay, wait, no, it was a joke that you just 815 00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:30,319 Speaker 1: said that you did that, or you actually wore oven 816 00:35:30,320 --> 00:35:31,240 Speaker 1: mits around your knees. 817 00:35:31,520 --> 00:35:34,200 Speaker 3: The joke really, if I'm gonna it's for my The 818 00:35:34,320 --> 00:35:36,960 Speaker 3: oven mits around my niece was for everyone around my niece. 819 00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:39,920 Speaker 1: So every time you saw her, you would wear oven mits. 820 00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:41,200 Speaker 1: And how often were you seeing her? 821 00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:43,920 Speaker 2: Not very often. It would be like a couple of 822 00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:44,520 Speaker 2: times a year. 823 00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:47,520 Speaker 1: So she just thought maybe you had just some crazy. 824 00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:50,320 Speaker 3: She didn't think anything because she's the baby. It was 825 00:35:50,320 --> 00:35:51,560 Speaker 3: the first two years of her life. 826 00:35:51,840 --> 00:35:54,600 Speaker 1: Were you scared of like touching her and getting germs. 827 00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:56,160 Speaker 2: To I wouldn't even be with her. 828 00:35:56,200 --> 00:35:58,839 Speaker 3: I'd be on the on FaceTime or something and I'd 829 00:35:58,880 --> 00:36:01,000 Speaker 3: be like, oh, uncle Brian has oven mits on, and 830 00:36:01,080 --> 00:36:02,960 Speaker 3: it doesn't matter because she's not gonna remember that. 831 00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:05,439 Speaker 2: It was more like a bit for my brother. 832 00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:07,839 Speaker 1: And okay, yeah, did they like it. 833 00:36:08,719 --> 00:36:09,840 Speaker 2: Everyone thought it was weird. 834 00:36:10,480 --> 00:36:13,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, it is weird. I don't even know why it's 835 00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:15,959 Speaker 1: supposed to be funny. But that's I don't know either. 836 00:36:16,120 --> 00:36:18,120 Speaker 1: I mean, I just and how did were you getting 837 00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:19,880 Speaker 1: on a FaceTime at one point where like I just 838 00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:20,520 Speaker 1: put on these other. 839 00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:22,799 Speaker 3: The very first time I had oven Okay, so this 840 00:36:22,880 --> 00:36:25,000 Speaker 3: is the origin of it. The very first time I 841 00:36:25,040 --> 00:36:27,239 Speaker 3: had oven mits on. When because the first time I 842 00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:28,879 Speaker 3: ever met her face time? 843 00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:30,840 Speaker 1: Okay, that makes sense. Okay, so that's so. 844 00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:33,120 Speaker 3: Then from that point on, I was like, well, I'm 845 00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:34,840 Speaker 3: wearing it because I was I was cooking something and 846 00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:36,759 Speaker 3: I had oven mits on and it's like, oh, gole 847 00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:38,799 Speaker 3: Brian ovimtz. And then I said, at that time, now 848 00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:42,520 Speaker 3: this makes more sense to me. Yes, I always wear 849 00:36:42,560 --> 00:36:45,719 Speaker 3: oven mits because I'm I have a tell Aila, I 850 00:36:45,760 --> 00:36:48,319 Speaker 3: have a problem with my hand, very self conscious. 851 00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:49,720 Speaker 1: But my mind that's funny. That's funny. 852 00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:51,319 Speaker 3: So then from that point on I kept a bit 853 00:36:51,400 --> 00:36:53,600 Speaker 3: going for about two years and then you know, eventually 854 00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:54,840 Speaker 3: I saw her enough times where I was like, I 855 00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:58,400 Speaker 3: can't wear oven mits for all of Thanksgiving. 856 00:36:57,840 --> 00:37:00,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, to Grandma's funeral, Yeah. 857 00:36:59,800 --> 00:37:00,879 Speaker 2: And the mok kind of thing. 858 00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:02,960 Speaker 3: I would say, she doesn't know what any of those 859 00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:06,279 Speaker 3: words mean, at least not yet. 860 00:37:06,480 --> 00:37:08,600 Speaker 1: And so I mean, we lie to them about Santa Claus. 861 00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:10,880 Speaker 1: Why not throw in you know, mouth that take me? 862 00:37:10,960 --> 00:37:13,920 Speaker 3: Or so, now that she's getting older, instead of telling 863 00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:17,040 Speaker 3: her lies about things, I tell her the truth the 864 00:37:17,360 --> 00:37:18,200 Speaker 3: brutal truth. 865 00:37:18,719 --> 00:37:21,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, I try to. I've tried been trying to do 866 00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:23,520 Speaker 1: that lately too. We'll talk about more niece and nephew 867 00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:25,600 Speaker 1: stuff because I have a thing. I saw them last night, 868 00:37:25,760 --> 00:37:27,840 Speaker 1: and I have a thing to talk about when we 869 00:37:27,880 --> 00:37:33,480 Speaker 1: get back that. Yeah, Like I'm not gonna have kids. 870 00:37:33,560 --> 00:37:36,799 Speaker 1: I'm really sure of that, especially now that I just 871 00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:39,560 Speaker 1: feel like my life is all kind of coming together 872 00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:41,360 Speaker 1: in a way. I really like it, and I really 873 00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:44,160 Speaker 1: just am liking life. And so maybe I might do 874 00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:46,640 Speaker 1: a hotocopy and like adopt a kid in my fifties, 875 00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:49,160 Speaker 1: but who knows. But I did see my niece and 876 00:37:49,200 --> 00:37:52,239 Speaker 1: nephew last night because my other nephew was sleeping. I 877 00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:55,160 Speaker 1: went over there and they kept asking me why are 878 00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:57,359 Speaker 1: you here? There was a question I got a lot. 879 00:37:57,400 --> 00:37:59,560 Speaker 1: They are seven and five, Why. 880 00:37:59,440 --> 00:37:59,920 Speaker 3: Are you here? 881 00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:03,560 Speaker 1: Because I was supposed to meet their mom out for dinner, 882 00:38:03,600 --> 00:38:05,520 Speaker 1: but then I decided I was like bored, and so 883 00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:06,880 Speaker 1: I was like, I'll just come over and hang out 884 00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:08,719 Speaker 1: and I'll pick you up. And so when I got there, 885 00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:11,280 Speaker 1: they were confused a lot of why are you heres? 886 00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:17,600 Speaker 1: And then they also my brother in law, Matt, told 887 00:38:17,640 --> 00:38:22,720 Speaker 1: me that they have been bullying my sister and brother 888 00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:26,319 Speaker 1: in law and my both my parents for why aren't 889 00:38:26,320 --> 00:38:29,960 Speaker 1: they famous? Because they are mad that that, like they 890 00:38:30,120 --> 00:38:33,480 Speaker 1: showed them up me on TV. And now Arlo is like, 891 00:38:33,719 --> 00:38:36,400 Speaker 1: why are you guys famous? Like it's not enough, Like 892 00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:38,719 Speaker 1: he wants his parents, like his parents are failing him 893 00:38:38,719 --> 00:38:41,120 Speaker 1: now that they're not famous, like he's understanding what money 894 00:38:41,160 --> 00:38:43,880 Speaker 1: and fame are in a way. So I thought I 895 00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:45,920 Speaker 1: got the text message from my sister, and I got 896 00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:48,000 Speaker 1: to admit I felt kind of cool, like he is 897 00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:51,319 Speaker 1: like thinks he kind of under understands what I do 898 00:38:51,440 --> 00:38:54,000 Speaker 1: is cool, which makes me feel good because usually they 899 00:38:54,040 --> 00:38:57,000 Speaker 1: just don't care at all, and I'm just dying for 900 00:38:57,040 --> 00:38:59,520 Speaker 1: them to think I'm cool. So I went over there thinking, 901 00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:02,040 Speaker 1: like they're to talk about me being famous because I 902 00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:04,480 Speaker 1: saw them I wasn't this famous and they didn't care 903 00:39:04,520 --> 00:39:08,440 Speaker 1: at all. Why are you here? And then and they 904 00:39:08,680 --> 00:39:10,480 Speaker 1: do you have presents for us? And I go, no, 905 00:39:10,600 --> 00:39:12,279 Speaker 1: I don't have presents for you, because we've done this 906 00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:14,240 Speaker 1: new thing where we're like not giving them presents anymore. 907 00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:15,840 Speaker 1: Because I used to give them presents every time I 908 00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:21,080 Speaker 1: saw them. They're they're obsessed with presents, and so even 909 00:39:21,080 --> 00:39:23,680 Speaker 1: if you might have one, they keep obsessively talking about 910 00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:25,560 Speaker 1: it the whole time you're there. Once they open it, 911 00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:28,040 Speaker 1: they instantly want another one. It's not enough. So we've 912 00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:29,680 Speaker 1: just said, like, no present. 913 00:39:29,840 --> 00:39:31,640 Speaker 2: Man, the other shoe is dropped on this one. 914 00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:34,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, and so they're kind of understanding it. But Poppy 915 00:39:34,520 --> 00:39:37,560 Speaker 1: did say, do you have a present for us? And 916 00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:40,239 Speaker 1: I said, no, no more presence. I'm just coming up. 917 00:39:40,320 --> 00:39:43,040 Speaker 1: Isn't my presence enough? And she didn't understand that because 918 00:39:43,040 --> 00:39:47,640 Speaker 1: she's a present kissed my as, oh that's yeah. And 919 00:39:47,680 --> 00:39:51,520 Speaker 1: then so she I go, you know what, what, You've 920 00:39:51,560 --> 00:39:53,960 Speaker 1: never given me a present? Why is it just like 921 00:39:54,160 --> 00:39:56,080 Speaker 1: get you just get get yet. 922 00:39:56,040 --> 00:39:56,840 Speaker 2: Like you're a kid. 923 00:39:57,360 --> 00:39:59,640 Speaker 3: And I tell the kids lies and I were often 924 00:39:59,680 --> 00:40:02,160 Speaker 3: mits around them because they don't deserve anything. 925 00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:04,960 Speaker 1: Give me a present, Poppy, I go, next, I will 926 00:40:04,960 --> 00:40:07,359 Speaker 1: give you a present if you give me presents. And 927 00:40:07,400 --> 00:40:09,719 Speaker 1: I was like, I go, and I know you don't 928 00:40:09,760 --> 00:40:12,560 Speaker 1: have any money, I said, but you can make things. 929 00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:13,359 Speaker 2: Yeah. 930 00:40:13,360 --> 00:40:15,120 Speaker 1: I was like, you can make things and she was like, 931 00:40:15,400 --> 00:40:17,520 Speaker 1: I don't know how to make things. And I go, yes, 932 00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:19,960 Speaker 1: you do, make a card, draw some shapes on it, 933 00:40:20,239 --> 00:40:22,359 Speaker 1: and then send me a message about how you feel 934 00:40:22,360 --> 00:40:24,280 Speaker 1: about me? And she's like, I don't know. I don't 935 00:40:24,280 --> 00:40:26,520 Speaker 1: write that. I go tell your mommy what you want 936 00:40:26,560 --> 00:40:28,040 Speaker 1: to tell me and then put it in a card. 937 00:40:28,520 --> 00:40:31,279 Speaker 1: And she was like okay, and then I'm going to 938 00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:32,560 Speaker 1: do it now. And I was like, no, just spend 939 00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:34,520 Speaker 1: time with me now, make a card later. And she 940 00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:36,239 Speaker 1: was like, no, I want to do it now. So 941 00:40:36,360 --> 00:40:38,080 Speaker 1: she goes off and makes a card and I got 942 00:40:38,120 --> 00:40:40,640 Speaker 1: a card that said, Nikki, thank you so much for 943 00:40:40,719 --> 00:40:45,560 Speaker 1: coming over. PS, why are you here? Niki, thank you 944 00:40:45,560 --> 00:40:47,560 Speaker 1: for coming over? And it was nice. But now I oh, 945 00:40:47,760 --> 00:40:50,640 Speaker 1: now I learn. But I think that is good to 946 00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:52,000 Speaker 1: think there's a barn. 947 00:40:52,000 --> 00:40:52,840 Speaker 2: Give a pony. 948 00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:55,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, I got so I gotta go buy her gift 949 00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:57,799 Speaker 1: because she's graduating tonight from pre school. I have to 950 00:40:57,800 --> 00:40:59,239 Speaker 1: go to a preschool graduation. 951 00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:02,960 Speaker 3: And you see, this is exactly why I tell my 952 00:41:03,040 --> 00:41:06,480 Speaker 3: niece that Mount Rushmore is in Montana because she won't graduate. 953 00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:09,560 Speaker 3: It teaches them she won't graduate. I'll never have a stupid, 954 00:41:09,600 --> 00:41:12,719 Speaker 3: boring graduation. Yeah no, it teaches them a lesson. And 955 00:41:12,760 --> 00:41:15,919 Speaker 3: the lesson is, you can't trust anybody. You can't trust 956 00:41:16,040 --> 00:41:19,279 Speaker 3: Uncle Brian. They're gonna lie to you you got to 957 00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:20,240 Speaker 3: look it up yourself. 958 00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:24,640 Speaker 1: No, but thank me, I was trying to actually get through. 959 00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:28,040 Speaker 1: My nephew is a perfectionist, and I really relate to it. 960 00:41:28,080 --> 00:41:32,319 Speaker 1: Like they were. They were painting these pottery things that 961 00:41:32,440 --> 00:41:35,000 Speaker 1: was like a little Gnome house, and on the box 962 00:41:35,120 --> 00:41:38,000 Speaker 1: for this thing there was a perfectly painted one, and 963 00:41:38,080 --> 00:41:40,239 Speaker 1: so they This is a tip to all parents that 964 00:41:40,280 --> 00:41:43,880 Speaker 1: my sister learned yesterday. The kids like can't handle that, 965 00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:45,800 Speaker 1: they can't make it look perfect like the one on 966 00:41:45,840 --> 00:41:49,400 Speaker 1: the box. Like it's really stressful for theirs. And so 967 00:41:49,920 --> 00:41:51,640 Speaker 1: just if you ever have a craft project with the 968 00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:54,880 Speaker 1: finished product on the box, get the box out of 969 00:41:54,880 --> 00:41:56,840 Speaker 1: there before you give it to your kids, because it 970 00:41:56,880 --> 00:41:59,520 Speaker 1: actually stifles their creativity because it makes them want to 971 00:41:59,520 --> 00:42:04,440 Speaker 1: be uniform and do exactly this. So Arlow was so 972 00:42:04,680 --> 00:42:09,080 Speaker 1: upset and just like I hate it. I'm gonna throw 973 00:42:09,120 --> 00:42:11,120 Speaker 1: it in the trash. I hate it. I'm bad at 974 00:42:11,120 --> 00:42:13,560 Speaker 1: this and like just so mad at himself for not 975 00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:16,080 Speaker 1: being good at it. And boy did I relate to that, 976 00:42:16,280 --> 00:42:19,600 Speaker 1: Like that is so me of like if I if 977 00:42:19,640 --> 00:42:21,400 Speaker 1: it can't be perfect, I want to throw it in 978 00:42:21,440 --> 00:42:23,600 Speaker 1: the trash. And I'm mad that anyone even gave it 979 00:42:23,640 --> 00:42:25,879 Speaker 1: to me, like why would you? I mean, I used 980 00:42:25,920 --> 00:42:27,600 Speaker 1: to feel so ugly. I used to tell my mom 981 00:42:27,719 --> 00:42:29,719 Speaker 1: why did you and dad have sex to make me? 982 00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:32,680 Speaker 1: When I was I'm so disgusting, Like it's your fault, 983 00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:34,600 Speaker 1: and he started even getting into that. He was like, 984 00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:37,960 Speaker 1: it's your fault for buying this, that I'm bad at it, 985 00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:40,080 Speaker 1: and it was like, oh my god, we have the 986 00:42:40,120 --> 00:42:42,480 Speaker 1: same brain. And so I told my sister, I'm like, 987 00:42:42,800 --> 00:42:48,240 Speaker 1: we need to stop this right now. Final thought, perfectionism 988 00:42:48,560 --> 00:42:52,839 Speaker 1: is a disease and if you can't get a hold 989 00:42:52,880 --> 00:42:54,200 Speaker 1: of it, I was like, I do not want him 990 00:42:54,200 --> 00:42:57,239 Speaker 1: to be pushing forty and fighting it like I am 991 00:42:57,320 --> 00:43:00,319 Speaker 1: still like it's not this isn't good for you. It's 992 00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:02,360 Speaker 1: an illusion and there's got to be a way to 993 00:43:02,360 --> 00:43:03,920 Speaker 1: get in there. So I was like, we both need 994 00:43:03,960 --> 00:43:08,879 Speaker 1: to google YouTube videos about child childhood perfectionism and how 995 00:43:08,880 --> 00:43:13,160 Speaker 1: to combat it and what causes it, because they are 996 00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:15,760 Speaker 1: amazing parents that do not expect perfection from their kids 997 00:43:15,800 --> 00:43:18,560 Speaker 1: at all, Like they're both not perfectionists in that way, 998 00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:22,279 Speaker 1: but he is. And I it's so hard to watch 999 00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:24,960 Speaker 1: because he's he will not hear well, you need to 1000 00:43:25,000 --> 00:43:27,320 Speaker 1: be bad to be good at things like he won't 1001 00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:29,320 Speaker 1: hear it, And I remember being that same kid. 1002 00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:32,400 Speaker 3: I think I'm a perfectionist for sure, and it's probably 1003 00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:34,719 Speaker 3: the root of almost all my problems. And I think 1004 00:43:34,800 --> 00:43:38,920 Speaker 3: one of the solutions to perfectionism is recognizing that that 1005 00:43:39,160 --> 00:43:42,799 Speaker 3: standard that picture on the box, just because it's on 1006 00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:46,320 Speaker 3: the box, doesn't mean it's perfect. No, that box picture 1007 00:43:46,480 --> 00:43:48,919 Speaker 3: is maybe not the correct thing. And if you made, 1008 00:43:48,920 --> 00:43:50,920 Speaker 3: you might make something that's better than the box thing. 1009 00:43:51,320 --> 00:43:53,799 Speaker 3: And so just hold yourself to some arbitrary standard that 1010 00:43:53,880 --> 00:43:57,240 Speaker 3: society has set for you, or that someone says, whoever 1011 00:43:57,320 --> 00:44:00,479 Speaker 3: says is the perfect standard, that who says that they're 1012 00:44:00,560 --> 00:44:01,560 Speaker 3: right and they're perfect. 1013 00:44:02,040 --> 00:44:04,480 Speaker 1: And I think this is why like looking at like 1014 00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:09,640 Speaker 1: abstract art in like Jackson Pollock type stuff is important 1015 00:44:09,680 --> 00:44:12,880 Speaker 1: to focus on, Like staying in the lines is not 1016 00:44:13,640 --> 00:44:16,879 Speaker 1: that great and is not is not what makes you good, 1017 00:44:16,920 --> 00:44:19,760 Speaker 1: Like I feel like I wish someone would have told 1018 00:44:19,880 --> 00:44:23,120 Speaker 1: me that, like the things you do wrong are actually 1019 00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:26,239 Speaker 1: gonna make you the most successful in your life, Like 1020 00:44:26,280 --> 00:44:28,480 Speaker 1: the things that the reason you can't draw in the 1021 00:44:28,520 --> 00:44:31,839 Speaker 1: lines on that GNOME's face is actually the reason why 1022 00:44:31,840 --> 00:44:34,440 Speaker 1: you're going to be so much better than ever drawing 1023 00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:39,239 Speaker 1: a fucking gnome pottery house. Yeah, like that that you're 1024 00:44:39,280 --> 00:44:41,560 Speaker 1: gonna be the reason that you're going to be better 1025 00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:43,400 Speaker 1: than you have to be bad at this to be 1026 00:44:43,400 --> 00:44:45,120 Speaker 1: good at all the things you're good at. And I 1027 00:44:45,120 --> 00:44:47,200 Speaker 1: wish that there was some way to make that connection 1028 00:44:47,320 --> 00:44:50,240 Speaker 1: in kids' minds, but it's so fucking hard. 1029 00:44:50,520 --> 00:44:52,200 Speaker 3: And see, these are the types of things you don't 1030 00:44:52,200 --> 00:44:55,240 Speaker 3: lie to kids about. I like my sister that my 1031 00:44:55,440 --> 00:45:01,279 Speaker 3: niece she is learning now that sometimes foods that you 1032 00:45:01,360 --> 00:45:03,000 Speaker 3: haven't tried yet might be good. 1033 00:45:04,360 --> 00:45:06,680 Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean there's adults who still don't know that. 1034 00:45:06,920 --> 00:45:09,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, right, So I mean that's important lesson. I'm not 1035 00:45:09,360 --> 00:45:12,000 Speaker 3: gonna lie to her about that. Yeah, that's these are 1036 00:45:12,040 --> 00:45:16,399 Speaker 3: the things. Yeah, but you still you so like for perfectionism, 1037 00:45:16,480 --> 00:45:18,239 Speaker 3: for things like this, These are all the things you'd 1038 00:45:18,239 --> 00:45:19,960 Speaker 3: be a good What about you? 1039 00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:22,760 Speaker 1: There was like an argument online about if you should 1040 00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:24,839 Speaker 1: tell your kid to say sorry even if they're not, 1041 00:45:25,080 --> 00:45:27,680 Speaker 1: like teaching kids to say sorry as almost like a 1042 00:45:27,840 --> 00:45:33,120 Speaker 1: serb okay, because I thought that at first. 1043 00:45:32,800 --> 00:45:34,960 Speaker 2: And then I was like, that's my initial instinct. 1044 00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:37,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, my initial instinct was that, But then I didn't 1045 00:45:37,520 --> 00:45:39,520 Speaker 1: read the full article. But there was. I guess a 1046 00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:42,480 Speaker 1: pretty substantial argument for the other side, which is just 1047 00:45:42,600 --> 00:45:45,880 Speaker 1: like just learn how you kind of sometimes have to 1048 00:45:45,960 --> 00:45:48,120 Speaker 1: learn how to be a nice person and sometimes empathy 1049 00:45:48,160 --> 00:45:51,720 Speaker 1: does not come easy, and just to keep the world working. 1050 00:45:51,800 --> 00:45:52,520 Speaker 1: Like so like. 1051 00:45:52,560 --> 00:45:55,600 Speaker 3: Sorry even when you feel when you don't feel sorry 1052 00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:57,840 Speaker 3: or sorry, even when you shouldn't be sorry. 1053 00:45:58,239 --> 00:46:00,640 Speaker 1: I guess like if you you tell your if your 1054 00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:03,160 Speaker 1: kid is not feeling sorry and like hit some kid 1055 00:46:03,200 --> 00:46:05,440 Speaker 1: on the playground and it is one hundred percent not sorry, 1056 00:46:05,600 --> 00:46:06,960 Speaker 1: you still have to be like you have to tell 1057 00:46:07,000 --> 00:46:09,480 Speaker 1: that kid sorry. I guess I wouldn't. I would say 1058 00:46:09,520 --> 00:46:11,919 Speaker 1: no in that case, but I would then go take 1059 00:46:11,960 --> 00:46:15,760 Speaker 1: my kid to be tested for psychopathy. I really would, 1060 00:46:15,960 --> 00:46:20,080 Speaker 1: because people are psychopaths. And if you don't feel remorse, ever, 1061 00:46:20,440 --> 00:46:23,080 Speaker 1: somebody should check on your kid. Yeah, you should check 1062 00:46:23,120 --> 00:46:24,880 Speaker 1: on your kid if they don't feel remorse paths, if 1063 00:46:24,880 --> 00:46:27,520 Speaker 1: they're like age six and they're still doing really shitty 1064 00:46:27,560 --> 00:46:30,560 Speaker 1: things and not feeling sorry, I would bother. 1065 00:46:30,800 --> 00:46:33,040 Speaker 3: I don't have children, but I'd feel weird if my 1066 00:46:33,239 --> 00:46:36,560 Speaker 3: kid didn't feel sorry and I told them go lie 1067 00:46:37,160 --> 00:46:39,600 Speaker 3: to that other kid and tell them that you feel 1068 00:46:39,640 --> 00:46:42,399 Speaker 3: sorry even though you don't. Then you'll get the you'll 1069 00:46:42,440 --> 00:46:46,399 Speaker 3: get the accolade of being empathetic and you and you'll 1070 00:46:46,400 --> 00:46:47,080 Speaker 3: love just lied. 1071 00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:50,160 Speaker 1: Yeah I would. Also, You're right, I don't want to 1072 00:46:50,680 --> 00:46:54,480 Speaker 1: flying lying. I'm really fucking done with I just put 1073 00:46:54,480 --> 00:46:57,640 Speaker 1: out a thing in my girl's chat because I've just 1074 00:46:57,760 --> 00:46:59,520 Speaker 1: noticed that and I do it too, and I just 1075 00:46:59,560 --> 00:47:02,080 Speaker 1: want to to us all to catch it is this 1076 00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:05,280 Speaker 1: like if you don't want to go somewhere, saying you're sick, 1077 00:47:05,400 --> 00:47:09,680 Speaker 1: when you're really not saying that, like oh, not telling 1078 00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:12,320 Speaker 1: like say I don't like something that you did for me, Brian, 1079 00:47:12,640 --> 00:47:14,440 Speaker 1: And instead of telling you, like this wasn't a good 1080 00:47:14,520 --> 00:47:18,319 Speaker 1: enough job you did, I tell you the people that 1081 00:47:18,400 --> 00:47:20,800 Speaker 1: I'm doing this for think it's not a good job, 1082 00:47:21,600 --> 00:47:24,080 Speaker 1: right even though they never even saw it. And then 1083 00:47:24,160 --> 00:47:26,160 Speaker 1: I but it's I still get the message across that 1084 00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:27,760 Speaker 1: you don't have that you didn't do the good job, 1085 00:47:28,200 --> 00:47:31,080 Speaker 1: but I don't have to be accountable for it, or 1086 00:47:31,640 --> 00:47:34,400 Speaker 1: even just saying I don't want to go somewhere or 1087 00:47:34,440 --> 00:47:36,600 Speaker 1: I don't I don't want to Yes, you're my friend, 1088 00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:38,279 Speaker 1: but I don't want to see you. I just don't 1089 00:47:38,280 --> 00:47:42,160 Speaker 1: have it in me, like like, just no more lying 1090 00:47:42,480 --> 00:47:45,040 Speaker 1: about our true feelings. 1091 00:47:45,480 --> 00:47:48,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it's hard to do because you're afraid 1092 00:47:48,800 --> 00:47:52,080 Speaker 3: you're gonna upset the other person. And sometimes people can't 1093 00:47:52,080 --> 00:47:54,920 Speaker 3: handle the truth. And that's a line from that movie. 1094 00:47:54,960 --> 00:47:55,880 Speaker 1: But but it's true. 1095 00:47:56,040 --> 00:47:59,560 Speaker 3: Sometimes people can't handle hearing that and they can't handle criticism. 1096 00:48:00,160 --> 00:48:01,680 Speaker 1: Well, then those people need to get out of your 1097 00:48:01,719 --> 00:48:03,839 Speaker 1: life because I can't deal with at AA. 1098 00:48:03,920 --> 00:48:05,920 Speaker 3: That's why you're afraid to say it sometimes because it's 1099 00:48:05,920 --> 00:48:07,520 Speaker 3: the reaction that might happen. 1100 00:48:07,680 --> 00:48:10,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, and that probably you need to have that reaction 1101 00:48:11,000 --> 00:48:13,719 Speaker 1: because you need to just those people need to show 1102 00:48:13,760 --> 00:48:16,480 Speaker 1: you their true colors. Like I can't. I don't take 1103 00:48:16,520 --> 00:48:19,360 Speaker 1: guilt trips anymore. If I like can't make it to 1104 00:48:19,440 --> 00:48:24,279 Speaker 1: something and someone goes, oh, we were really looking forward 1105 00:48:24,320 --> 00:48:29,759 Speaker 1: to it, what really? Like are you? Are you? If 1106 00:48:29,800 --> 00:48:31,760 Speaker 1: I tell you I can't do something, there's no wiggle 1107 00:48:31,800 --> 00:48:33,560 Speaker 1: room for me. If there is wiggle room, I'll go 1108 00:48:33,680 --> 00:48:35,279 Speaker 1: listen if you really need me to make it to 1109 00:48:35,320 --> 00:48:38,680 Speaker 1: the set, because whatever, if I'm canceling something, if it's 1110 00:48:38,680 --> 00:48:40,359 Speaker 1: gonna be hard for you to find a replacement, if 1111 00:48:40,360 --> 00:48:42,680 Speaker 1: this is something you were counting on, like, I will 1112 00:48:42,680 --> 00:48:44,640 Speaker 1: absolutely do it. I will put that in there. But 1113 00:48:44,719 --> 00:48:47,120 Speaker 1: if I'm saying I can't do it, no amount of 1114 00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:50,040 Speaker 1: you being like, but I wanted it. Why would you 1115 00:48:50,120 --> 00:48:52,080 Speaker 1: even want me to show up then? Because now I'm 1116 00:48:52,080 --> 00:48:53,600 Speaker 1: showing up because I feel bad? 1117 00:48:54,040 --> 00:48:54,680 Speaker 2: Yeah? 1118 00:48:55,440 --> 00:48:58,720 Speaker 1: Like what people are weird that they would even want 1119 00:48:58,800 --> 00:49:01,799 Speaker 1: someone to still with them and hang out with them 1120 00:49:01,840 --> 00:49:04,440 Speaker 1: if they've already tried to get out of it. There 1121 00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:06,600 Speaker 1: was a so I shared this tweet in my girl's 1122 00:49:06,680 --> 00:49:09,040 Speaker 1: chat to emphasize my point, which they were all on 1123 00:49:09,040 --> 00:49:11,399 Speaker 1: board for. And I find myself doing this stuff too 1124 00:49:11,440 --> 00:49:14,799 Speaker 1: to avoid conflict. But it's from Adam M Grant on 1125 00:49:15,280 --> 00:49:17,600 Speaker 1: x or Twitter, whatever we call it. When you turn 1126 00:49:17,640 --> 00:49:20,640 Speaker 1: down a request, you don't owe an explanation. Other people 1127 00:49:20,719 --> 00:49:24,240 Speaker 1: aren't entitled to know your reasons and priorities. Being courteous 1128 00:49:24,320 --> 00:49:27,480 Speaker 1: is not just about is not about justifying your decision. 1129 00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:31,399 Speaker 1: Being courteous is not about justifying your decision. It's about 1130 00:49:31,440 --> 00:49:34,440 Speaker 1: showing gratitude for the invitation and then in quotes honored 1131 00:49:34,520 --> 00:49:38,680 Speaker 1: to be asked, sorry to decline, boom done. You don't 1132 00:49:38,760 --> 00:49:41,719 Speaker 1: need to say why you can't go? This is my thing. 1133 00:49:41,800 --> 00:49:44,840 Speaker 1: Is like when people ask, well, why why can't you go? 1134 00:49:45,160 --> 00:49:47,399 Speaker 1: People don't do that often and if they do, they're 1135 00:49:47,440 --> 00:49:50,200 Speaker 1: a really weird person and you probably are trying to 1136 00:49:50,200 --> 00:49:52,480 Speaker 1: get them out of your life. Anyway, This is the 1137 00:49:52,520 --> 00:49:55,080 Speaker 1: thing most people that like. But she's gonna say something 1138 00:49:55,120 --> 00:49:57,600 Speaker 1: weird back, I go, do you why are you friends 1139 00:49:57,600 --> 00:50:01,319 Speaker 1: with this person? Well? We met early on, and she 1140 00:50:01,680 --> 00:50:03,879 Speaker 1: helped me with this thing a couple of years ago. 1141 00:50:04,000 --> 00:50:06,200 Speaker 1: And it's like, so you don't like this person, Like, 1142 00:50:06,280 --> 00:50:08,440 Speaker 1: if you had a choice to go to dinner with her, 1143 00:50:08,480 --> 00:50:11,560 Speaker 1: you probably did have dinner alone, right, So why are 1144 00:50:11,560 --> 00:50:13,080 Speaker 1: you trying to keep this person in your life in 1145 00:50:13,080 --> 00:50:13,680 Speaker 1: the first place? 1146 00:50:13,800 --> 00:50:14,319 Speaker 2: Oh my god. 1147 00:50:14,360 --> 00:50:17,240 Speaker 3: So many people keep people in their lives because they've 1148 00:50:17,280 --> 00:50:20,120 Speaker 3: known them for a long time. No. I can't imagine 1149 00:50:20,120 --> 00:50:22,480 Speaker 3: a worse reason to keep someone in your life than 1150 00:50:22,520 --> 00:50:24,520 Speaker 3: be like, well, I've known them since I was twelve, and. 1151 00:50:24,440 --> 00:50:26,640 Speaker 1: It's or to be kept in someone's life. Yeah, that's 1152 00:50:26,640 --> 00:50:29,440 Speaker 1: so embarrassing. Oh yeah, I'm just friend. She's friends with 1153 00:50:29,480 --> 00:50:33,080 Speaker 1: me because we met in middle school. That you don't 1154 00:50:33,120 --> 00:50:35,720 Speaker 1: know them anything. You don't know them anything. 1155 00:50:36,120 --> 00:50:39,160 Speaker 3: I have one friend who has a friend who is 1156 00:50:39,200 --> 00:50:43,960 Speaker 3: a legit piece of shit, and they're still friends because 1157 00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:46,640 Speaker 3: it's this person's oldest friend. They've known each other since 1158 00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:49,920 Speaker 3: they were like five. Yeah, and there's this person has 1159 00:50:49,960 --> 00:50:55,000 Speaker 3: like literally done like evil demonic. Well, they're probably scared 1160 00:50:55,000 --> 00:50:55,640 Speaker 3: of crails. 1161 00:50:55,880 --> 00:50:57,200 Speaker 1: They're probably scared of them a little bit. 1162 00:50:57,440 --> 00:50:59,520 Speaker 2: I'm a little scared of some people that i've you. 1163 00:50:59,480 --> 00:51:02,400 Speaker 1: Know, Yeah, I mean there are some people that like 1164 00:51:02,840 --> 00:51:05,880 Speaker 1: might get really mad at you when you have boundaries 1165 00:51:05,920 --> 00:51:07,440 Speaker 1: with them. And that's why you don't and that's why 1166 00:51:07,480 --> 00:51:09,560 Speaker 1: you say, agree to go on hikes with them, and 1167 00:51:09,600 --> 00:51:11,440 Speaker 1: agree to go to lunches and agree. 1168 00:51:11,160 --> 00:51:13,000 Speaker 3: To go on girls drips, which situation. 1169 00:51:13,400 --> 00:51:16,440 Speaker 1: But at some point, and this is what I'm turning 1170 00:51:16,480 --> 00:51:19,319 Speaker 1: forty in two weeks. I think it is so lame 1171 00:51:19,400 --> 00:51:23,280 Speaker 1: to be in your forties and beyond and doing things 1172 00:51:23,320 --> 00:51:26,000 Speaker 1: because other people want you to. I just like don't 1173 00:51:26,000 --> 00:51:27,880 Speaker 1: think it's a good look. I don't want it for 1174 00:51:27,960 --> 00:51:30,359 Speaker 1: other people I look up to, Like everyone I look 1175 00:51:30,400 --> 00:51:32,560 Speaker 1: up to in their forties and fifties, like don't go 1176 00:51:32,640 --> 00:51:34,920 Speaker 1: to things they don't want to go to. They don't, 1177 00:51:35,280 --> 00:51:38,680 Speaker 1: they don't just they're not insecure. Like I think that 1178 00:51:38,719 --> 00:51:40,799 Speaker 1: at forty, I need to leave that shit behind. I'm 1179 00:51:40,800 --> 00:51:44,240 Speaker 1: trying so hard because I don't want to people please anymore. 1180 00:51:44,480 --> 00:51:46,360 Speaker 1: I think it's when I see my friends do it, 1181 00:51:46,400 --> 00:51:49,200 Speaker 1: I'm just like, ugh, it like makes me disrespect them, 1182 00:51:49,280 --> 00:51:51,279 Speaker 1: and it also makes me think that they lie to me. 1183 00:51:51,800 --> 00:51:53,960 Speaker 1: When my friends are making up excuses in front of 1184 00:51:54,000 --> 00:51:57,080 Speaker 1: me about being sick because they don't want to go 1185 00:51:57,120 --> 00:51:58,759 Speaker 1: out with this girl and they don't really like her, 1186 00:51:58,920 --> 00:52:01,319 Speaker 1: the next time they tell me they're sick, it's boy 1187 00:52:01,320 --> 00:52:03,480 Speaker 1: who cried sick. I'm not going to believe them. I'm 1188 00:52:03,480 --> 00:52:05,719 Speaker 1: gonna think maybe they don't like me. And honestly, I 1189 00:52:05,719 --> 00:52:07,480 Speaker 1: don't care if you don't like me or not, just 1190 00:52:08,239 --> 00:52:10,480 Speaker 1: like I'll not you know what, I won't like you 1191 00:52:10,520 --> 00:52:13,560 Speaker 1: anymore because I don't trust you, because I just think 1192 00:52:13,560 --> 00:52:15,680 Speaker 1: you lie to everyone. And I've worked on it too. 1193 00:52:16,360 --> 00:52:18,399 Speaker 2: Sounds like there's a lot of I don't like. 1194 00:52:18,560 --> 00:52:20,760 Speaker 1: Shit talking, no more cutting or lying. 1195 00:52:20,960 --> 00:52:24,280 Speaker 3: No more cutting in front of somebody in a talk circle. 1196 00:52:24,760 --> 00:52:26,520 Speaker 1: Cutting those people everyone. 1197 00:52:26,920 --> 00:52:29,279 Speaker 3: Yeah, a number of being rude to waiters, and no 1198 00:52:29,360 --> 00:52:31,520 Speaker 3: more hemming and hawing at the menu. 1199 00:52:31,840 --> 00:52:32,520 Speaker 2: You're all done. 1200 00:52:32,600 --> 00:52:36,920 Speaker 3: You're out watching me on Instagram live playing guitar. You 1201 00:52:37,040 --> 00:52:37,600 Speaker 3: watch me on. 1202 00:52:37,560 --> 00:52:40,920 Speaker 1: Instagram live play the guitar, don't I don't want anyone 1203 00:52:40,960 --> 00:52:42,839 Speaker 1: in there, all right? 1204 00:52:42,960 --> 00:52:45,080 Speaker 2: I cannot give that disclaimer before we leave. 1205 00:52:45,360 --> 00:52:46,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, I know a lot of people are going to 1206 00:52:47,000 --> 00:52:48,560 Speaker 3: come at me for being a piece of shit to 1207 00:52:48,600 --> 00:52:50,480 Speaker 3: my knees, for lying to her, and I have it. 1208 00:52:50,560 --> 00:52:52,879 Speaker 3: I just want to I just want to say or 1209 00:52:53,080 --> 00:52:54,719 Speaker 3: or worse, people will be like, who is that guy? 1210 00:52:54,719 --> 00:52:56,600 Speaker 3: I don't care, But if you do come at me 1211 00:52:56,640 --> 00:52:58,120 Speaker 3: for being a piece of shit, I just want to say, 1212 00:52:58,120 --> 00:52:59,960 Speaker 3: I've only done it a few times. And I'm really 1213 00:53:00,040 --> 00:53:02,640 Speaker 3: lizing slowly funny that you shouldn't lie to children. 1214 00:53:02,920 --> 00:53:04,920 Speaker 1: Know, these people are all lying about Santa Claus and 1215 00:53:04,920 --> 00:53:07,120 Speaker 1: the Easter Bunny and even God at many times, and 1216 00:53:07,239 --> 00:53:10,840 Speaker 1: Jesus and all the things kids are constantly being told lies. 1217 00:53:11,080 --> 00:53:13,320 Speaker 3: But I do have a very good relationship with my niece. 1218 00:53:13,440 --> 00:53:15,720 Speaker 2: She loves me. She calls me uncle Brian. 1219 00:53:16,600 --> 00:53:17,880 Speaker 1: Oh does she that's original? 1220 00:53:18,640 --> 00:53:21,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, she's well, you know, she could say I don't 1221 00:53:21,080 --> 00:53:22,320 Speaker 3: know who that guy is because I don't live in 1222 00:53:22,360 --> 00:53:23,200 Speaker 3: the same state as her. 1223 00:53:23,320 --> 00:53:25,719 Speaker 1: I mean, noting that your niece calls you uncle Brian 1224 00:53:25,880 --> 00:53:27,280 Speaker 1: is one of the most boring. 1225 00:53:27,400 --> 00:53:28,480 Speaker 2: She goes, I love uncle. 1226 00:53:29,160 --> 00:53:33,000 Speaker 1: My niece calls me Uncle Brian. It was really gonna 1227 00:53:33,000 --> 00:53:34,600 Speaker 1: sound like she had a pet name for you or 1228 00:53:34,640 --> 00:53:35,360 Speaker 1: like a fun. 1229 00:53:35,600 --> 00:53:37,960 Speaker 2: Like that, you know that feels like my uncle. 1230 00:53:37,719 --> 00:53:40,000 Speaker 1: Bobo or something like that would be of note, But 1231 00:53:40,040 --> 00:53:40,480 Speaker 1: it just. 1232 00:53:40,400 --> 00:53:42,800 Speaker 2: Says I love Uncle Brian. I want to see Uncle Brian. 1233 00:53:42,640 --> 00:53:44,879 Speaker 1: Even though it does mean a lot when they when 1234 00:53:44,880 --> 00:53:48,399 Speaker 1: they say your name, or when they struggle to say 1235 00:53:48,440 --> 00:53:53,480 Speaker 1: it for us to say, he goes nay, I love it. 1236 00:53:53,880 --> 00:53:55,960 Speaker 1: And then we've got the rest of that bar. Why 1237 00:53:55,960 --> 00:53:58,160 Speaker 1: are you here lady? All right, guys, thank you for 1238 00:53:58,160 --> 00:54:00,719 Speaker 1: listening to the podcast. We'll see you next week. I'll 1239 00:54:00,719 --> 00:54:03,560 Speaker 1: be at Bally's in Tahoe this weekend. I think it's 1240 00:54:03,600 --> 00:54:06,200 Speaker 1: pretty much sold out, and then next weekend we'll be 1241 00:54:06,480 --> 00:54:09,840 Speaker 1: Salt Lake City. Two shows in Boulder, one show added 1242 00:54:10,600 --> 00:54:14,319 Speaker 1: on June eighth at the Boulder Theater. Calm on down, 1243 00:54:14,360 --> 00:54:16,640 Speaker 1: It's gonna be so much fun, and I'll see there, Delbika, 1244 00:54:16,880 --> 00:54:18,919 Speaker 1: and listen to my song some Day You'll Die, watch 1245 00:54:18,960 --> 00:54:21,760 Speaker 1: my special Some Dale'll Die, watch the Roast of Tom Brady, 1246 00:54:22,239 --> 00:54:25,680 Speaker 1: and look at my new peda ad and don't eat animals, 1247 00:54:25,719 --> 00:54:27,640 Speaker 1: all right, don't be ka Bye