WEBVTT - Financial Domination, Influencer Doubts & The Email That Started It All

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<v Speaker 1>Good.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, break it down.

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<v Speaker 3>If you ever have feelings that you just fons Amy

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<v Speaker 3>and Cat gotcha covin locking m brother, Ladies and folks,

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<v Speaker 3>do you just follow ann the spirit where it's all

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<v Speaker 3>the front and real stuff to the chill stuff and them.

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<v Speaker 3>But Swayne, sometimes the best thing you can do it just.

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<v Speaker 1>You feel things.

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<v Speaker 3>This is feeling things with Amy and Cat.

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<v Speaker 2>Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and I'm Kat,

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<v Speaker 2>and We're gonna kick things off with our feeling of

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<v Speaker 2>the day feelings coming from me. And it's actually the

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<v Speaker 2>same feeling twice. Okay, so it's shocked times two.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, so really shocked.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we shocked by two totally different things. Okay, one

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<v Speaker 2>involving kids and an adult and another involving adults.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, we hope.

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<v Speaker 2>So the first one is are shocked to be at

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<v Speaker 2>a school recital for children and they're giving their performance.

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<v Speaker 2>All the parents are there to see their kids perform.

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<v Speaker 2>It's already long enough, you.

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<v Speaker 4>Know what I mean, Ye can be pretty long.

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<v Speaker 2>It's pretty long. It's a week nights, gotta get home

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<v Speaker 2>and do dinner and homework and all the things. So

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<v Speaker 2>kids are performing, kids are performing and then what do

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<v Speaker 2>you know, the teacher has a solo.

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<v Speaker 5>I was shocked, Is this what kind of recital?

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<v Speaker 2>It wasn't that the teacher had a solo, like a

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<v Speaker 2>solo with the because it wouldn't be a solo. I

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<v Speaker 2>guess if the kids are involved, what do you mean

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<v Speaker 2>what kind of a it was?

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<v Speaker 5>Is this choir?

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<v Speaker 2>Is this like a grand recital? Yes, there's there's instruments,

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<v Speaker 2>they're singing. I think you have to be involved in something.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like the the arts, the like, you know, like

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<v Speaker 2>every the whole school is involved, your whole performance. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like it's like everyone has different things they're bringing

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<v Speaker 2>to the evening. And even the teacher had their own solo,

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<v Speaker 2>and I just thought, well, this is adding time.

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<v Speaker 4>Wait what kind of what kind of a solo did

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<v Speaker 4>they have?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, a singing solo and a flute solo.

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<v Speaker 5>So they did a flute and then they were like next,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm going to say, yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>It just was awkward. So is that a feeling awkward?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah? Yeah, feeling awkward.

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<v Speaker 5>So shocked.

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<v Speaker 2>It was awkward, and I just I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to be a hater because it was beautiful.

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<v Speaker 2>I just feel like, as the teacher, it's the kid's

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<v Speaker 2>time to shine, and you lead them and then spare

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<v Speaker 2>the parents, like get us out a few minutes early.

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<v Speaker 5>But can I ask a couple of questions? I just

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<v Speaker 5>have some follow up questions. Okay, to understand.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't know this is going to be that interesting.

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<v Speaker 2>I just thought i'd be like, I was shocked by this,

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<v Speaker 2>and you'd be like, yeah, that is weird.

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<v Speaker 5>Well it is weird, but I get you know, before

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<v Speaker 5>I judge something, I just kind.

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<v Speaker 2>Of I don't want to judge them. I just was shocked.

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<v Speaker 4>Was this teacher like the choir teacher? Do you know

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<v Speaker 4>what they were? Well, yeah, they were the choir teacher.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like they teach, they put together the whole recital.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you think that they just so they.

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<v Speaker 2>They worked in their performance.

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<v Speaker 4>I wonder if they just like feel left out.

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<v Speaker 2>But they're the teacher, I know.

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<v Speaker 5>But imagine that you're a musician and you can't get

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<v Speaker 5>a gig and.

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<v Speaker 4>They're like, well I can work myself into this, right.

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, no, I feel like that's what happened, and I

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<v Speaker 2>was just shocked, like it is shocking. Does the track

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<v Speaker 2>coach get out there?

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<v Speaker 5>He's like I'm actually gonna do the relay. If you

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<v Speaker 5>don't mind, you're gonna step out today.

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<v Speaker 2>Does the football coach put themselves in?

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<v Speaker 4>No, No they don't.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, that's a good point, right.

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<v Speaker 4>And was it good?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>It was real good.

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<v Speaker 2>They were like it was really good.

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<v Speaker 4>So I'm gonna show you what they could do right there.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, the talent was there. It was beautiful. I

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<v Speaker 2>just was shocked, and I think as were all the

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<v Speaker 2>parents sitting around me, because we're just ready for It's

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<v Speaker 2>a lot. It was already a lengthy evening.

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<v Speaker 5>It's shocking, shocking thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Number two, I had never heard of. I forget how

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<v Speaker 2>to say it, Finn Doom. Is that how you say it?

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<v Speaker 4>Know what you're talking about?

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<v Speaker 2>Financial domination? You never heard of this? Oh I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>shocked you ever heard of it, because I'm just now

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<v Speaker 2>learning of it. It popped up in my for you

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<v Speaker 2>page on TikTok, which I'm like, why is this?

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<v Speaker 5>Wait? So when you first say that, say financial domination, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>I would think it's about becoming financially independent.

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<v Speaker 2>No domination dom sexual? Well, no, there's no nothing sexual

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<v Speaker 2>about it. Actually, I mean maybe for the giver. They

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<v Speaker 2>like to give the money. Okay, so let me exclin

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<v Speaker 2>I pulled the exact definition. Well, I guess I didn't.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought I did. But it's pretty much where men

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<v Speaker 2>give money to women that just say to them, give

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<v Speaker 2>me money, like they're dominant over their finances, like this

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<v Speaker 2>is how you need to spend your money. And the

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<v Speaker 2>men that are giving it they're known as finn subs

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<v Speaker 2>and pay pigs, and they willingly offer financial support for

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<v Speaker 2>everyday expenses like lunches, nail shoes, and even hair. And

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<v Speaker 2>they like being told by the women what to do

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<v Speaker 2>with their money. So if the woman says, give me

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<v Speaker 2>five hundred dollars right now, they do it.

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<v Speaker 4>This is not people in a relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I think it's a fetish. Okay, findom okay, findam.

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<v Speaker 4>I have not heard about this.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, but you're not shocked by it.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not shocked about kat so she needs it. I'm

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<v Speaker 4>not shocked about this.

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<v Speaker 5>I think maybe because in my line of work, I

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<v Speaker 5>hear a lot about the different types of things people do. Oh,

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<v Speaker 5>I guess when you started talking about this, I thought

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<v Speaker 5>it was more like a seeking arrangements thing, And maybe

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<v Speaker 5>that's part of it too. Like men seeking you've heard

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<v Speaker 5>of Seeking Arrangements is a website?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, that's a website. Is it's like a only vance.

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<v Speaker 2>It's literally called seeking arrangement arrangement.

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<v Speaker 5>I think they rebranded though, so I don't know what

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<v Speaker 5>it's called now if I don't know if you can

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<v Speaker 5>google seek any arrangements.

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<v Speaker 2>So they needed a rebrand I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>Well maybe because then people were judging every Okay, I'll

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<v Speaker 5>just tell you what it is. So Seeking Arrangements or

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<v Speaker 5>whatever it's called now, was a website where you could

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<v Speaker 5>go on and you could look for a sugar daddy

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<v Speaker 5>or a sugar mama, or you could be the daddy

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<v Speaker 5>or the mama looking for somebody to treat. And what,

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<v Speaker 5>from my understanding, is that you would create an arrangement

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<v Speaker 5>and it could be whatever you want.

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<v Speaker 4>It didn't have to be sexual.

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<v Speaker 5>It could be like I'm going to pay you three

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<v Speaker 5>hundred dollars to go to dinner with me twice a

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<v Speaker 5>week or I think probably most of the time they

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<v Speaker 5>got more than that. But they had an arrangement, and

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<v Speaker 5>you would have that person and they'd be like, I

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<v Speaker 5>have this concert I want to go to. If you

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<v Speaker 5>come with me, I'll pay you six hundred dollars or

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<v Speaker 5>I'll pay you five hundred dollars to text with me

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<v Speaker 5>three hours a night or.

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<v Speaker 4>Something like that.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, yeah, but that's not the same thing.

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<v Speaker 4>This is an arrangement.

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<v Speaker 2>Like they're getting paid by simply saying pay me money

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<v Speaker 2>because it's like you're the dominant person over their finances,

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<v Speaker 2>like they want.

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<v Speaker 4>This is genius for the women.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, because the one woman that showed up on my

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<v Speaker 2>for me page, like she said, look, I like to

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<v Speaker 2>keep my page classy. I'm not trying to do anything,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, with my body. I don't want any women

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<v Speaker 2>to feel like I guess she put together a course

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<v Speaker 2>to teach women how to.

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<v Speaker 5>Do findom and where do you find them?

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<v Speaker 2>Where do I find the people to pay for findom

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<v Speaker 2>dot com? I don't know findom.

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<v Speaker 4>I kind of love this, you do.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I don't know, Okay, but you're only getting my

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<v Speaker 2>short version of it that I don't know, because like

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<v Speaker 2>what if findom dot com is actually like maybe this

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<v Speaker 2>one particular findom coach is clean, but maybe some of

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<v Speaker 2>the others are subjected to other type of behaviors. So

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know that I want to give it like

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<v Speaker 2>a big old step of approval before we know more.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I thought i'd even I even had the

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<v Speaker 2>exact definition for you, and I didn't know that.

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<v Speaker 5>Whatever people want to do, if it's not hurting them

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<v Speaker 5>causing them harm, go for it. Okay. The reason I

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<v Speaker 5>love this is because, first of all, there's already a

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<v Speaker 5>hard enough wage gap with women. So if they can

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<v Speaker 5>just like tell a man to pay the money.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, because you're not even having to give it's not

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<v Speaker 2>like you can do anything. There's no feet picks, there's

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<v Speaker 2>no nothing. No, it's just give me money. You know.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't take the course, so I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, so your homework is to take the course and

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<v Speaker 5>then you're gonna come back and tells how much money

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<v Speaker 5>you make.

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<v Speaker 2>No, but that's how she was scaling her business because

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<v Speaker 2>she is a scam. No, I don't think so, but

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't. I'm not going to sign up for it.

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<v Speaker 2>But she clearly was doing it for herself. And then

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<v Speaker 2>she wanted to coach other women how to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>But now she's making money by charging women to take

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<v Speaker 2>her course.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, this is the I get. This gets me hot

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<v Speaker 5>when there's like coaches coaching coaches how to coach like,

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<v Speaker 5>I can't know, but.

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<v Speaker 2>You know people are making a lot of money that way.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, and it's just interesting to me.

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<v Speaker 5>Cryocat from back there said she would sign up for

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<v Speaker 5>the Corseulo Snow, how it goes? Okaydom, and then you

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<v Speaker 5>can come and be a guest and tell us how

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<v Speaker 5>it goes?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and she will also.

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<v Speaker 4>I love that this showed up on your for you page?

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<v Speaker 2>Why is that?

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<v Speaker 4>I wonder what that says about you?

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<v Speaker 2>Should I should I call my boyfriend and say give me.

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<v Speaker 5>Call him like saying, give me five hundred dollars, let

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<v Speaker 5>me go to lunch.

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<v Speaker 2>What happens? Okay, we'll see if he well, it says

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<v Speaker 2>here you can get lunches, nails.

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<v Speaker 1>He sent me the voice?

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<v Speaker 2>What is he busy working?

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<v Speaker 1>Wait?

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<v Speaker 4>Just because you can send him a text?

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<v Speaker 5>What do you get voice?

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<v Speaker 4>Know and say give me five hundred dollars. I need

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<v Speaker 4>a pair of shoes.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, Hey, cat's gotta get a nail.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey give me give me five hundred dollars.

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<v Speaker 5>Now, I wish I could send one of those to Patrick.

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<v Speaker 2>Why you don't have a pH phone?

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<v Speaker 5>Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>Findom? That's all I got about that?

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<v Speaker 4>All right, and then we'll check back into CUGA a

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<v Speaker 4>text message.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, should I really just send.

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<v Speaker 1>That out a text.

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<v Speaker 2>Speaking of money and spending it, making it, giving it?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I put up this story about influencers and not money influencing,

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<v Speaker 2>and I follow a lot of influencers and I'm very grateful.

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<v Speaker 2>And also other influencers show up in my for me

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<v Speaker 2>or my suggested And I love links. I love clicking links.

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<v Speaker 2>I even post links myself. I have nothing against the links.

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<v Speaker 2>I just trusting people. I'm pro links. I'm pro Hey,

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<v Speaker 2>if you want the link to this, I want to

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<v Speaker 2>help you. I've never been able to be con assistant

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<v Speaker 2>with clothing links, trust me. I wish that maybe one

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<v Speaker 2>day I'll get it figured out and I can be

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<v Speaker 2>because that is lucrative. Yeah, and that's just in all honesty,

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<v Speaker 2>Like some people are making so much bank and I've

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<v Speaker 2>started to wonder if now are we to a point

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<v Speaker 2>where sometimes it's a money grab, Like are they really

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<v Speaker 2>wearing it or did they put it on for the

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<v Speaker 2>Instagram video to be like, Hey, I've already built this

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<v Speaker 2>trust with you. I'm into fashion. You trust me for fashion,

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<v Speaker 2>So now I'm going to sell you this thing. I

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<v Speaker 2>would never be caught dead and in public, but it's

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<v Speaker 2>cute enough for me to post about it on Instagram,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm going to get you to buy it, and

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<v Speaker 2>now you're going to wear it, and I'm going to

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<v Speaker 2>make money off of it because it's a cheap item

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<v Speaker 2>off of Amazon, and so many of you are going

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<v Speaker 2>to buy it that I'm going to I'm making a

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<v Speaker 2>gazillion dollars. And after this video that I show you

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<v Speaker 2>on Instagram, like, I'm never wearing it again, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh oh, boyfriends calling.

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<v Speaker 4>Me, Okay, you have to answer and we'll come back

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<v Speaker 4>to this Fox.

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<v Speaker 2>He thinks I was abducted. Hello, Hey, well I was

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<v Speaker 2>gonna put you on speaker, but then we're recording a podcast,

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<v Speaker 2>so that seems unfair.

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<v Speaker 4>But did you.

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<v Speaker 2>Get did you get my message?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you know you did it?

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<v Speaker 2>You haven't got my text yet you Okay, hold on,

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<v Speaker 2>we'll just say it with Okay, give me five hundred dollars, no.

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<v Speaker 6>What, okay, give me, give me two hundred dollars, give

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<v Speaker 6>me two hundred dollars now, okay, give me one dollar.

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<v Speaker 2>Right now, no, right now, right now. I can think

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<v Speaker 2>of bad words that I can't say, like, right now

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<v Speaker 2>you you like any blank but right.

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<v Speaker 7>Now you bad bad boy, bad boy, Okay, okay, give

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<v Speaker 7>me ten dollars right now, give me, give me your

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<v Speaker 7>money now transfer to me.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, No, but I feel like, okay, thank you.

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<v Speaker 7>Okay, bye.

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<v Speaker 5>Guys, Well I have ten dollars. You bad boy? He

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<v Speaker 5>well absolutely he.

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<v Speaker 2>Was my boyfriend. So if that was my audition for Fendom,

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<v Speaker 2>I failed, Like, I don't think that's what they're looking for.

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<v Speaker 2>They're looking for like professionals that can hold it together

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<v Speaker 2>and really demand the money like I I obviously would

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<v Speaker 2>be really bad at that.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm gonna record myself doing this with Patrick later. Okay,

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<v Speaker 5>but it's something more reasonable though, mm hmm.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Fifty I was like okay, bye and it just goes bye.

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<v Speaker 2>He has no questions, no nothing. It's like I get to.

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<v Speaker 5>Go okay, that's good.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh okay. I got to recover from that. Where were

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<v Speaker 2>we we were money talking about giving all of our

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<v Speaker 2>money to influencers, influencing and.

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<v Speaker 5>I can't just ask for it. We have to make

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<v Speaker 5>it right.

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<v Speaker 2>So to be clear, I'm not.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm sorry you think like in subscribe, I just imagine

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<v Speaker 5>it being like no, no, no, no, and then I'm

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<v Speaker 5>like okay, bye, and he's like bye, We'll see if

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<v Speaker 5>I ever see him again.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, let's see.

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<v Speaker 4>Sorry, Okay, Okay, I'm cool. It's not that funny.

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<v Speaker 2>We're cool, cool, cool, we're cool influencers. Every job to

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<v Speaker 2>do here. Yeah, we have a podcast, so I know

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<v Speaker 2>that I post things. So this isn't me calling out

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<v Speaker 2>anybody specifically. It's just you're curious, and I'm curious about it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a theory that I've had because I'm buying these

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<v Speaker 2>things from these people and I'm like, are they really

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<v Speaker 2>wearing this or like do they throw it? Like okay,

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<v Speaker 2>it'll be like a cute outfit head to toe, one

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<v Speaker 2>that is like way too expensive. I'm not going to

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<v Speaker 2>probably buy the outfit. But then they'll be like and

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<v Speaker 2>then look at these shoes. I got an Amazon for

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<v Speaker 2>twenty dollars and they are cute and they are twenty

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<v Speaker 2>dollars and they do go with the outfit. But here's

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<v Speaker 2>my thinking. I picture them doing that and then before

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<v Speaker 2>they leave they put on their Prada or they're whatever

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<v Speaker 2>they're putting on. I don't know, but I'm like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe they are walking out of the house and they're

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<v Speaker 2>Amazon shoes, which I will buy and wear, Like I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't care. I don't have to have a name

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<v Speaker 2>or anything. But well, when there's a lot of name

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<v Speaker 2>brand stuff happening, I do think there's some that don't care.

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<v Speaker 2>But then I think there's some that they might be

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<v Speaker 2>just putting that on for the quick money grab of

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<v Speaker 2>like I'm going to get so many people to buy

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<v Speaker 2>this right now because it looks so cute, But there's

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<v Speaker 2>no way I'm walking out wearing it.

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<v Speaker 5>I didn't ever think about that. I think you're onto something.

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<v Speaker 5>I also think in this I have no I have

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<v Speaker 5>nothing to base this off of. But one thought I've

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<v Speaker 5>had because I've randomly posted a link to something is

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<v Speaker 5>that I can't afford this life. I can't afford the

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<v Speaker 5>life of linking because of how much stuff you have

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<v Speaker 5>to buy. Well, here's my thought, do you send it

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<v Speaker 5>back after you post it? I think a lot of

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<v Speaker 5>people buy a lot of especially people that do the

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<v Speaker 5>try ons, like here's my Amazon hall and they try

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<v Speaker 5>and the I'm like.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, it's so cute.

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<v Speaker 1>I love this.

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<v Speaker 5>I love this, I love this, And I'm like, how

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<v Speaker 5>do you have a whole business off of Amazon halls.

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<v Speaker 5>You have to be spending so much money on Amazon.

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<v Speaker 5>I think they try it on they keep one or

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<v Speaker 5>two things and they send the rest back.

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<v Speaker 2>Well they might or they're making so much money that

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<v Speaker 2>it doesn't matter because they are so much you can Yeah. No,

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<v Speaker 2>there's times where I've been really this is full transparency,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I've been good at linking my Amazon maybe and

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<v Speaker 2>you make a lot of money yeah, and I'm like, whoa,

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<v Speaker 2>that was so crazy. Now it's genuinely stuff that I wear,

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<v Speaker 2>I like, or I have products I use. Like it

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<v Speaker 2>could even be like my salad chopper. I love my

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<v Speaker 2>salad chopper. So if I link that and then a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of people get the salad chopper, well I get

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<v Speaker 2>a percentage of everybody gets a salad chopper, because that's why.

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<v Speaker 5>It's why you would Yeah, that's what I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>I would share it anyway, but then also off of it,

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<v Speaker 2>make money off of it. I guess what I'm specifically

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<v Speaker 2>talking about is if they genuinely really like it, great

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<v Speaker 2>link away, and then I'm trusting you and I want

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<v Speaker 2>to know. I don't want to get duped into thinking

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<v Speaker 2>something is cool and cute because I trust your fashion,

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<v Speaker 2>and then you're putting in a box and returning it

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<v Speaker 2>or not wearing it and ditching it and putting on

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<v Speaker 2>your really cute thing. And then now I got it

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm wearing it, and people are like, what are

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<v Speaker 2>those shoes? Those are not cute. But because you're fashion

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<v Speaker 2>forward and I'm trusting you, you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, because I'm not.

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<v Speaker 2>The fashion person, like, don't don't follow me for fashion.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean sometimes you kick it's so cute right now,

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<v Speaker 2>thank you you very fashion pause pause.

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<v Speaker 5>Good job. Okay. I want to clarify this because I

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<v Speaker 5>think this is helpful. I think you said this, but

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<v Speaker 5>I just want to reiterate it. You're saying, if that's

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<v Speaker 5>your job and that's your hustle, do it. There's no

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<v Speaker 5>shame in making money from links.

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<v Speaker 4>I do it. It's cool, it's great. Why not do it?

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<v Speaker 5>It's I want to make sure that I'm not buying

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<v Speaker 5>stuff that is ugly.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, okay, here's which I should be able to think

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<v Speaker 2>for myself.

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<v Speaker 4>That's what I was going to say.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, thank you for pointing out what I'm.

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<v Speaker 4>Not say it yet, though I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Aware I want to think for myself, but fashion is

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<v Speaker 2>not my thing. And when I'm following someone for their

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<v Speaker 2>fashion inspo, and then I feel like I'm getting duped.

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<v Speaker 2>That's where I'm like, something's off here, Like I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know why, I just I had this theory. And again,

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<v Speaker 2>I've posted clothing links before, but it's people that are

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<v Speaker 2>following me. They're not like, oh my gosh, you need

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<v Speaker 2>to follow Radio Amy right now because she has so

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<v Speaker 2>many cute clothing links. I post a clothing link once

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<v Speaker 2>in a blue moon, and if I'm really on a roll,

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<v Speaker 2>then I do it. But then I'm like, Okay, it's

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<v Speaker 2>just not my it's not type of mind fat, it's

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<v Speaker 2>not my gift to the world. It's not my dad.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I don't really know what I offer on Instagram.

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<v Speaker 2>I think sometimes I struggle with that because having a

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<v Speaker 2>radio career and then social media coming along after a

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<v Speaker 2>radio career, and it's like, then we have to utilize

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<v Speaker 2>these tools when we used to just have to focus

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<v Speaker 2>on radio, and then it was like, okay, now you

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<v Speaker 2>need to focus on Facebook, and now you need to

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<v Speaker 2>focus on Instagram, and just oh my gosh, Twitter used

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<v Speaker 2>to give all to Twitter, and now I don't even

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<v Speaker 2>log into es. Yeah you have Twitter radio Amy. That

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<v Speaker 2>was I mean, Twitter was the og. Like I was

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<v Speaker 2>tweeting way more than I was instagramming, and then I

0:20:07.080 --> 0:20:09.760
<v Speaker 2>was instagramming more than Twitter, and then we were snapchat chatting,

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<v Speaker 2>and then we were tweet my thoughts.

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<v Speaker 5>I want to go back and.

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<v Speaker 2>Fifty characters or less.

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<v Speaker 4>I can't wait to go look at your old Twitter.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, my mom had a Twitter. We would tweet.

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<v Speaker 5>That's where pimp and joyweeting.

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<v Speaker 2>Joy got started on Twitter because it's the hashtags.

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<v Speaker 5>Hashtags where the Twitter. But that was where they came from, right, Yeah, Twitter.

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<v Speaker 2>Twitter, Twitter, which is now ex So yeah, this isn't

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<v Speaker 2>a hate thing on that. I guess it's just a

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<v Speaker 2>does anybody else feel this way? Or are my thoughts valid?

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<v Speaker 2>And then who can we trust because there's no way

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<v Speaker 2>to really know. But then some people, you're right, they

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<v Speaker 2>have all these hauls and they may have like their

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<v Speaker 2>body is perfect for it. So then it's like deceiving

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<v Speaker 2>because you think, like, oh my gosh, every single one

0:20:55.240 --> 0:20:58.919
<v Speaker 2>of those outfits is so cute, and then I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>but are they like this is how I picture in

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<v Speaker 2>my head? They put it on and they look cute

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<v Speaker 2>and they go and they're like, oh my gosh, this

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<v Speaker 2>dress dead wearing it on vacation. I cannot wait. So

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<v Speaker 2>cute fire hot? Yeah? Trust was that one? Well, that's

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<v Speaker 2>what my daughter told me the other day when she

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<v Speaker 2>was helping me get dressed for something. She was like,

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<v Speaker 2>kinda tuck your shirt and like like messy, like you're

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<v Speaker 2>not trying, but you tried, but you're not trying. And

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<v Speaker 2>so she was like, tuck it into your brawl a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit. But I mean, my stomach wasn't showing, but

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<v Speaker 2>it was this messy tuck into the brawl, but it

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<v Speaker 2>looked like it was tucked into the pants. And I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, this feels weird. And she looked at me

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<v Speaker 2>and she goes, you look cute.

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<v Speaker 4>Trust Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like trust dead Trust say hot fire. But

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<v Speaker 2>I guess now I can't remember my thoughts.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, you're imagining what they're they're doing that then and

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<v Speaker 5>then they throw off and they're like this is disgusting.

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<v Speaker 2>Exactly Like I'm like, did did I just buy this

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<v Speaker 2>like blue crochet us off at Amazon? Thinking it's sleigh fire?

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<v Speaker 2>And then you take it off and you're putting it

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<v Speaker 2>back in the Amazon package to ship it back because

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<v Speaker 2>you're there's no way to be caught dead wearing it,

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<v Speaker 2>and you're like, oh, thousand people are gonna buy that,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm gonna make so much money yea in the

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<v Speaker 2>matter where Like I don't know, I don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>think people are that way, but it's just become so easy.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, this is giving that best is disgusting?

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<v Speaker 2>What is that from? Is that Mean Girls?

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<v Speaker 4>That's like one of the most famous lines.

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<v Speaker 2>From Mean Girls.

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<v Speaker 4>I guess I just do you not love that movie?

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<v Speaker 2>I love that movie?

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<v Speaker 5>But I yeah. When she's like I love your vest

0:22:36.880 --> 0:22:38.879
<v Speaker 5>and then she's like that fest is disgusting, She's like,

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<v Speaker 5>expand it from my mom. And then she's like that

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<v Speaker 5>best is disgusting, Like that's literally what the Then that

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<v Speaker 5>influencer sees you in person and she's like, oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 5>she bought that dress.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it.

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<v Speaker 4>And then she walks away and she's like, oh, what

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<v Speaker 4>a loser.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, But then they're like, but I bought a new

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<v Speaker 2>bag with all the money that IGEL earned.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, I believe there's probably people that do that, and

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<v Speaker 5>they're people that don't. Yeah, and what we really have

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<v Speaker 5>to look at and this isn't like a fun funny

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<v Speaker 5>answer is if we like something, are we buying it

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<v Speaker 5>just because this influencer said it was cool or they

0:23:09.920 --> 0:23:11.160
<v Speaker 5>said it was cool and we like it.

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<v Speaker 4>I know it's hard.

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<v Speaker 2>Because I can differentiate if I really like it or

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<v Speaker 2>not because I trust. I like having their like when

0:23:18.080 --> 0:23:20.800
<v Speaker 2>I get ready. I love having my friends say like, yes,

0:23:20.840 --> 0:23:23.600
<v Speaker 2>that's cute. I like validation okay, which that's something my

0:23:23.640 --> 0:23:25.920
<v Speaker 2>therapist was having me work on. I forgot years ago

0:23:26.359 --> 0:23:28.240
<v Speaker 2>to go to my closet, get dressed and not ask

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<v Speaker 2>a single person their thoughts about my outfit. But getting

0:23:32.320 --> 0:23:34.560
<v Speaker 2>dressed was hard for me. But remember I told you

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<v Speaker 2>my mantra, I get dressed with these.

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<v Speaker 4>It looks like you got dressed with these today. I

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<v Speaker 4>don't know if you did.

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<v Speaker 2>I just put on a white tank top, black jeans,

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<v Speaker 2>and a denim jacket.

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<v Speaker 4>And cool shoes.

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<v Speaker 2>And you're wearing a denim jacket and a tank top truss.

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<v Speaker 5>No I'm not wearing I'm wearing a potato sack right

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<v Speaker 5>now you can't see it, but a black tank top. Well,

0:23:51.920 --> 0:23:55.240
<v Speaker 5>and then I have this like potato sack jumper on. Oh,

0:23:55.280 --> 0:23:59.560
<v Speaker 5>I got dressed with these link it, I think you

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<v Speaker 5>have something. You know you have something there, So I.

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<v Speaker 2>Think it's really not an important question, though it is

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<v Speaker 2>an important question, just like I wish people could just

0:24:08.520 --> 0:24:09.840
<v Speaker 2>give a disclaimer, like.

0:24:09.880 --> 0:24:13.080
<v Speaker 5>I really hate this, but I want you to buy their.

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<v Speaker 2>Business thanks for funding my lifestyle.

0:24:15.440 --> 0:24:20.119
<v Speaker 5>Suckers know what they should do. They should have to

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<v Speaker 5>post what they bought with the money that they made

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<v Speaker 5>from each item that they.

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<v Speaker 2>But that would be like we would have to post

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<v Speaker 2>what we buy for people. I know our podcast, but

0:24:27.560 --> 0:24:29.640
<v Speaker 2>also our podcast is free for listeners. Do you see

0:24:29.640 --> 0:24:32.840
<v Speaker 2>the difference. Our podcast is free for listeners. We have

0:24:33.000 --> 0:24:36.280
<v Speaker 2>advertisers that pay to advertise on our podcast so that

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<v Speaker 2>we can give something for free. People are not paying

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<v Speaker 2>for our content, so our money isn't actually coming from them,

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<v Speaker 2>It's coming from our advertisers.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, this is the whole influencer debate that could

0:24:48.480 --> 0:24:51.600
<v Speaker 5>Tailor's old as time where it is so helpful and

0:24:51.680 --> 0:24:55.159
<v Speaker 5>I'm so grateful to have easy access to people that

0:24:55.200 --> 0:24:58.919
<v Speaker 5>can give you recommendations, whether it's clothes or design or

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<v Speaker 5>food or like anything. At the same time, people always

0:25:02.600 --> 0:25:06.000
<v Speaker 5>find a way to abuse and manipulate, you know.

0:25:06.119 --> 0:25:08.240
<v Speaker 4>So it's like we have to just be mindful.

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<v Speaker 2>But what I am proud a sucker.

0:25:10.119 --> 0:25:10.359
<v Speaker 1>I know.

0:25:10.480 --> 0:25:12.080
<v Speaker 5>I'm proud of you though, because I feel like your

0:25:12.080 --> 0:25:15.080
<v Speaker 5>scam meter is on. And that's why you're asking yourself

0:25:15.080 --> 0:25:16.480
<v Speaker 5>that question, because you're like, I don't want to be

0:25:16.480 --> 0:25:19.280
<v Speaker 5>scammed anymore. I want to be able to think for myself.

0:25:19.800 --> 0:25:21.640
<v Speaker 5>And that's where this maybe is coming from.

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<v Speaker 4>This is growth.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I just want authenticity, yeah, because you're sick of

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<v Speaker 2>getting scammed, right, Yeah, I want that too.

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<v Speaker 4>That's why I get so angry when I see things

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<v Speaker 4>that I'm like, that's not well.

0:25:34.560 --> 0:25:36.040
<v Speaker 2>And that's why I mean, I I don't think we

0:25:36.080 --> 0:25:38.000
<v Speaker 2>all need to be transparent about every single thing and

0:25:38.040 --> 0:25:40.439
<v Speaker 2>walk around with like I mean, some stuff can be

0:25:40.600 --> 0:25:45.320
<v Speaker 2>kept private, but I don't mind saying like, yes, when

0:25:45.359 --> 0:25:46.960
<v Speaker 2>we post links, that's.

0:25:46.880 --> 0:25:47.520
<v Speaker 4>You make money.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeah, like and in some parts of me because

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<v Speaker 2>it's not my main job, which some people it is

0:25:53.240 --> 0:25:55.600
<v Speaker 2>their main bread and butter and I and I'm sure

0:25:55.600 --> 0:25:56.679
<v Speaker 2>they do it and they do it well, and they

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<v Speaker 2>do it with integrity and they are authentic, so that's great.

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<v Speaker 4>I guess you gotta look out.

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<v Speaker 2>I just want to figure it out and I'm not

0:26:05.800 --> 0:26:08.679
<v Speaker 2>slamming it because I've done it, but I've done it

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<v Speaker 2>with things I actually use.

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<v Speaker 5>But you're saying I want authenticity. There's a difference between

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<v Speaker 5>being transparent and having authenticity. We don't have to be

0:26:16.200 --> 0:26:18.879
<v Speaker 5>transparent to be authentic, thank you. So you're just saying

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<v Speaker 5>you don't have to tell me every detail, like you

0:26:20.640 --> 0:26:22.119
<v Speaker 5>don't really have to post what you bought with the

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<v Speaker 5>money that you made.

0:26:23.280 --> 0:26:24.760
<v Speaker 2>But you were saying that I.

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<v Speaker 4>Went a little too far.

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<v Speaker 2>I went an itemized report of your last vacation that

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<v Speaker 2>we funded.

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<v Speaker 5>Everything you ate and drank and bought all that. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>we just want to know. We want to be able

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<v Speaker 5>to trust you. And the sad thing is I that's

0:26:41.480 --> 0:26:42.520
<v Speaker 5>not probably never gonna happen.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, in any brands I've worked with in the past,

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<v Speaker 2>or on social or wherever like, and also even in radio,

0:26:49.680 --> 0:26:52.280
<v Speaker 2>there's a difference in voicing and endorsing, Like sometimes I'll

0:26:52.320 --> 0:26:54.800
<v Speaker 2>lend my voice to something, but you won't hear in

0:26:54.840 --> 0:26:59.600
<v Speaker 2>the spot maybe that I I I I, because that

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<v Speaker 2>would be a personal endorsement of like my personal experience

0:27:03.400 --> 0:27:06.440
<v Speaker 2>if you've finished that sentence, like I D D DA.

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<v Speaker 2>But sometimes this is less of a payment to the business.

0:27:11.800 --> 0:27:13.919
<v Speaker 2>This a little behind the curtain, but they won't have

0:27:13.960 --> 0:27:16.240
<v Speaker 2>to pay as much. But we lend our voices because

0:27:16.280 --> 0:27:19.160
<v Speaker 2>we're the personalities. So just be like, Okay, that would

0:27:19.160 --> 0:27:22.240
<v Speaker 2>be my voice, but I'm gonna voice it exactly however

0:27:22.280 --> 0:27:25.240
<v Speaker 2>you say and not give a personal experience. But it

0:27:25.280 --> 0:27:27.159
<v Speaker 2>still has to be somewhat in alignment, like I'm not

0:27:27.160 --> 0:27:29.480
<v Speaker 2>going to do something. There's things I pass on all

0:27:29.920 --> 0:27:33.760
<v Speaker 2>the time, and there's other things that I'm like, Okay,

0:27:33.840 --> 0:27:36.679
<v Speaker 2>that's totally fine. I can do that because I will

0:27:36.840 --> 0:27:40.160
<v Speaker 2>eat that or I have eaten that, and I can't

0:27:40.200 --> 0:27:43.520
<v Speaker 2>do that. Yeah, And I don't know. Sometimes I feel

0:27:43.560 --> 0:27:45.199
<v Speaker 2>like people think they also know us and they're like, well,

0:27:45.200 --> 0:27:46.639
<v Speaker 2>that doesn't feel in alignment with you, and it's like,

0:27:46.640 --> 0:27:49.560
<v Speaker 2>well you don't. You don't know us at every level.

0:27:50.119 --> 0:27:52.600
<v Speaker 2>But anyway, sometimes we're just lending our voice and sometimes

0:27:52.640 --> 0:27:55.159
<v Speaker 2>we're lending an endorsement, and those are two very different

0:27:55.200 --> 0:28:00.480
<v Speaker 2>types of payment scales or whatever. So anyway, that is

0:28:00.560 --> 0:28:04.320
<v Speaker 2>a time for commercial break. Just kidding. We maybe just

0:28:04.680 --> 0:28:06.720
<v Speaker 2>got out of it. I don't know where Houston's gonna

0:28:06.760 --> 0:28:10.199
<v Speaker 2>put it, but I do have some questions that we

0:28:10.280 --> 0:28:12.960
<v Speaker 2>got from Instagram a little question box that I put

0:28:13.040 --> 0:28:26.840
<v Speaker 2>up and then people sent their questions. One of the

0:28:26.840 --> 0:28:30.119
<v Speaker 2>first ones that came in was makeup links, yes please,

0:28:31.280 --> 0:28:32.800
<v Speaker 2>So then I was laughing. I was like, I don't

0:28:32.800 --> 0:28:33.920
<v Speaker 2>have any makeup links, but.

0:28:34.280 --> 0:28:36.560
<v Speaker 5>And you will make money if you post the link,

0:28:36.960 --> 0:28:38.960
<v Speaker 5>but you will use these products.

0:28:39.240 --> 0:28:41.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't know if I'll post the links because

0:28:41.440 --> 0:28:43.280
<v Speaker 2>I've had these products for a week now. I'm just

0:28:43.280 --> 0:28:45.560
<v Speaker 2>saying that's not my Like some people the minute they

0:28:45.560 --> 0:28:48.960
<v Speaker 2>get it because this is their job, like influencing online.

0:28:48.960 --> 0:28:51.840
<v Speaker 2>So they're like, just went to Sephora. Here's my Sephora hall,

0:28:51.920 --> 0:28:54.600
<v Speaker 2>which is great. I'm grateful for that because I will

0:28:54.600 --> 0:28:57.600
<v Speaker 2>click on it and I will buy it because.

0:28:57.800 --> 0:28:59.640
<v Speaker 5>But you want them to try it first, that's what

0:28:59.640 --> 0:29:00.760
<v Speaker 5>you're saying. I don't know if I'm going to link

0:29:00.760 --> 0:29:01.880
<v Speaker 5>this because I haven't tried it yet.

0:29:02.000 --> 0:29:04.040
<v Speaker 2>Yes, I do like it though, Okay, I but all

0:29:04.120 --> 0:29:09.120
<v Speaker 2>of Selena Gomez is makeup, rare wait, rare, rare beauty, rare.

0:29:09.000 --> 0:29:13.840
<v Speaker 5>Beauty, not to be confused with road that is Bieber

0:29:14.120 --> 0:29:14.720
<v Speaker 5>Haley Beber.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, okay, what did you get? You said all of

0:29:17.600 --> 0:29:18.520
<v Speaker 4>is that what you got?

0:29:18.560 --> 0:29:20.040
<v Speaker 2>The contour.

0:29:21.080 --> 0:29:22.160
<v Speaker 5>Something is that stick.

0:29:22.480 --> 0:29:25.479
<v Speaker 2>It's like a little sponge on a tip and you

0:29:25.520 --> 0:29:26.240
<v Speaker 2>go dot dot.

0:29:26.440 --> 0:29:27.400
<v Speaker 4>Oh that sounds fun.

0:29:27.920 --> 0:29:30.720
<v Speaker 2>And then I got the Blushka and then I got

0:29:30.800 --> 0:29:34.800
<v Speaker 2>concealer okay, and I got powder okay. I needed all

0:29:34.840 --> 0:29:36.640
<v Speaker 2>new makeup like I needed a.

0:29:36.600 --> 0:29:39.440
<v Speaker 4>Fresh you think, like fun and crazy, like an eyeshadow.

0:29:39.640 --> 0:29:43.520
<v Speaker 2>I didn't get an eyeshadow. I have my Charlotte Tillberry

0:29:44.000 --> 0:29:46.520
<v Speaker 2>is that how you say it? Eyeshadow from a few

0:29:46.560 --> 0:29:48.240
<v Speaker 2>years ago that I still really like because I feel

0:29:48.240 --> 0:29:50.320
<v Speaker 2>like eyeshadow doesn't really expire. But some of my other

0:29:50.400 --> 0:29:53.320
<v Speaker 2>makeup from I had Charlotte Tillberry before. This is what

0:29:53.400 --> 0:29:54.160
<v Speaker 2>I replaced with.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, Selena, you're trading it in.

0:29:56.720 --> 0:29:59.400
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and it was time. I was like, how long

0:29:59.440 --> 0:30:02.280
<v Speaker 2>does this stuff? Because it had been yours. What else

0:30:02.280 --> 0:30:04.880
<v Speaker 2>did I get? I got a lip gloss from Selena

0:30:05.000 --> 0:30:05.480
<v Speaker 2>all Selena?

0:30:05.600 --> 0:30:06.800
<v Speaker 4>Is that what you have on your face now?

0:30:07.120 --> 0:30:09.560
<v Speaker 2>So if you like it, I'll link it, just kidding.

0:30:09.600 --> 0:30:11.360
<v Speaker 2>I don't even have links. But you can go to

0:30:11.960 --> 0:30:13.560
<v Speaker 2>And that's the thing with makeup is maybe if you

0:30:13.560 --> 0:30:15.160
<v Speaker 2>can go to the store and like try it on

0:30:15.200 --> 0:30:17.200
<v Speaker 2>yourself and then see what works and what you like,

0:30:17.240 --> 0:30:18.800
<v Speaker 2>because what looks good on me, may not look good

0:30:18.840 --> 0:30:19.080
<v Speaker 2>on you.

0:30:20.000 --> 0:30:20.280
<v Speaker 4>True.

0:30:21.080 --> 0:30:23.600
<v Speaker 2>Thanks, I don't a T shirt.

0:30:24.520 --> 0:30:28.440
<v Speaker 5>That should be the disclaimer on the influencer's thing when

0:30:28.480 --> 0:30:30.720
<v Speaker 5>they're like sligh fire, this looks so cute, and at

0:30:30.760 --> 0:30:32.680
<v Speaker 5>the bottom they say, what looks good on me might

0:30:32.720 --> 0:30:33.480
<v Speaker 5>not look good on you.

0:30:33.600 --> 0:30:36.160
<v Speaker 2>Bye with pation. So good luck. You're gonna order this

0:30:36.200 --> 0:30:37.800
<v Speaker 2>and you're gonna get it in. It's probably to look

0:30:37.880 --> 0:30:40.280
<v Speaker 2>like so gross on you, but then you're gonna be

0:30:40.320 --> 0:30:42.280
<v Speaker 2>like ugh returning it is such a process. So you're

0:30:42.280 --> 0:30:43.760
<v Speaker 2>gonna keep it, and I'm gonna keep your money.

0:30:43.760 --> 0:30:44.120
<v Speaker 1>Thank you.

0:30:46.720 --> 0:30:48.000
<v Speaker 5>Okay, more question.

0:30:48.080 --> 0:30:50.840
<v Speaker 2>We got multiple like questions about our friendship, like how

0:30:50.840 --> 0:30:53.600
<v Speaker 2>did you encap meet or how did you two become friends?

0:30:54.200 --> 0:30:55.160
<v Speaker 4>That's a fun story.

0:30:55.320 --> 0:30:55.880
<v Speaker 1>Go for it.

0:30:56.120 --> 0:30:57.560
<v Speaker 5>Do you want me to I get to tell it?

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<v Speaker 5>What do you mean you get to back in?

0:31:00.520 --> 0:31:01.240
<v Speaker 4>Well, I don't know.

0:31:01.840 --> 0:31:05.120
<v Speaker 5>We can popcorn it or donn popcorn itay? Can you

0:31:05.160 --> 0:31:10.120
<v Speaker 5>tell it back in twenty twenty? Right, yeah, twenty twenty.

0:31:11.160 --> 0:31:12.600
<v Speaker 5>You were doing a.

0:31:13.320 --> 0:31:15.400
<v Speaker 2>You maybe emailed me in twenty nineteen though.

0:31:15.360 --> 0:31:17.680
<v Speaker 5>It was twenty it was twenty twenty. Because I know

0:31:17.720 --> 0:31:20.120
<v Speaker 5>where I was. I was in a coffee shop in Chicago.

0:31:19.880 --> 0:31:20.880
<v Speaker 2>But it was January.

0:31:21.640 --> 0:31:22.440
<v Speaker 4>It was February.

0:31:22.640 --> 0:31:23.640
<v Speaker 2>Okay, it was February.

0:31:23.920 --> 0:31:25.920
<v Speaker 4>I only know this for a specific reason.

0:31:26.040 --> 0:31:29.040
<v Speaker 5>So you were doing Outweigh and I guess you were

0:31:29.200 --> 0:31:32.080
<v Speaker 5>talking about it maybe on your podcast that you were

0:31:32.080 --> 0:31:35.040
<v Speaker 5>going to be doing it. Okay, one of my friends

0:31:35.160 --> 0:31:38.560
<v Speaker 5>moms listens to your podcast. You were talking about doing

0:31:38.600 --> 0:31:44.280
<v Speaker 5>an eating disorder podcast. My friend's mom, shout out pie said,

0:31:44.720 --> 0:31:48.560
<v Speaker 5>tell Catherine to email Amy to see I don't know

0:31:49.040 --> 0:31:50.800
<v Speaker 5>if she wants to be on this podcast or whatever.

0:31:51.720 --> 0:31:54.240
<v Speaker 5>And I was like, she would never respond to my email.

0:31:54.400 --> 0:31:56.920
<v Speaker 5>In my head, you don't read emails. But I didn't

0:31:56.920 --> 0:31:58.200
<v Speaker 5>listen to your podcast, and I didn't know that you

0:31:58.240 --> 0:32:01.080
<v Speaker 5>had like the interaction that you do with the people, So.

0:32:01.000 --> 0:32:01.920
<v Speaker 4>I was like, not going to do it.

0:32:01.960 --> 0:32:04.320
<v Speaker 5>But I went on a trip to Chicago with my

0:32:04.400 --> 0:32:07.280
<v Speaker 5>friend Hannah and she had to leave for over twenty

0:32:07.320 --> 0:32:08.920
<v Speaker 5>four hours, so I had twenty four hours by myself

0:32:08.920 --> 0:32:11.320
<v Speaker 5>in Chicago, and I was like, oh, I guess I'll

0:32:11.360 --> 0:32:12.240
<v Speaker 5>pretend to work in.

0:32:12.200 --> 0:32:13.480
<v Speaker 4>A coffee shop in Chicago.

0:32:14.000 --> 0:32:17.160
<v Speaker 5>So I went and I had a latte that had

0:32:17.200 --> 0:32:20.600
<v Speaker 5>glitter in it and banana toast. Do you like all

0:32:20.640 --> 0:32:23.760
<v Speaker 5>the details of love the details, and I was like,

0:32:23.800 --> 0:32:26.120
<v Speaker 5>I guess. So this was before chat GBT too, so

0:32:26.160 --> 0:32:29.400
<v Speaker 5>I wonder how good the email was. So I emailed

0:32:29.400 --> 0:32:31.320
<v Speaker 5>you and then I was like, okay, I'll probably never

0:32:31.360 --> 0:32:34.360
<v Speaker 5>hear from her, And the next day you emailed me.

0:32:34.880 --> 0:32:37.120
<v Speaker 5>I think it was really the next day. So then

0:32:37.160 --> 0:32:41.400
<v Speaker 5>I came and I did outweigh, and I remember us

0:32:41.480 --> 0:32:43.120
<v Speaker 5>not really knowing what we were going to talk about,

0:32:43.640 --> 0:32:45.120
<v Speaker 5>and ME being like, Okay, I have an idea, let's

0:32:45.160 --> 0:32:45.720
<v Speaker 5>just talk about this.

0:32:46.920 --> 0:32:48.959
<v Speaker 4>And then it was really with Lisa. Yeah, with Lisa.

0:32:49.560 --> 0:32:53.800
<v Speaker 2>Lisa's who I started out weigh with, Lisa Haym. She

0:32:53.920 --> 0:32:57.320
<v Speaker 2>flew in from New York, and I'm surprised, honestly she

0:32:57.400 --> 0:32:59.720
<v Speaker 2>got back. She flew out right before the tornado then

0:32:59.800 --> 0:33:03.840
<v Speaker 2>hit my neighborhood in East Nashville, and then COVID hit

0:33:03.960 --> 0:33:05.920
<v Speaker 2>right after that. So when she flew back to New York,

0:33:05.920 --> 0:33:08.560
<v Speaker 2>COVID was already getting a little weird there. It wasn't

0:33:08.600 --> 0:33:11.840
<v Speaker 2>weird in Nashville yet, but New York, she said, was

0:33:11.880 --> 0:33:13.160
<v Speaker 2>starting to get a little eerie.

0:33:13.520 --> 0:33:15.280
<v Speaker 4>But two weeks after that it got weird.

0:33:15.400 --> 0:33:15.560
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:33:15.640 --> 0:33:20.720
<v Speaker 5>Here, I also just want to say that is not

0:33:21.040 --> 0:33:23.280
<v Speaker 5>like me to do that. I do not like doing

0:33:23.280 --> 0:33:26.480
<v Speaker 5>things by myself. I mean, you know this, I get nervous,

0:33:26.800 --> 0:33:30.320
<v Speaker 5>so I'm like, what was twenty twenty Catherine thinking it.

0:33:30.320 --> 0:33:30.800
<v Speaker 2>Was meant to be?

0:33:31.240 --> 0:33:33.520
<v Speaker 5>And I walked in there being like, oh no, I

0:33:33.560 --> 0:33:36.520
<v Speaker 5>don't know anything about how these things work.

0:33:37.120 --> 0:33:38.360
<v Speaker 4>I didn't know how you were going to edit it.

0:33:39.080 --> 0:33:39.760
<v Speaker 4>I was nervous.

0:33:40.200 --> 0:33:43.200
<v Speaker 5>So luckily it worked out and I feel like the

0:33:43.440 --> 0:33:45.320
<v Speaker 5>I mean, the episode was really good. I remember us

0:33:45.320 --> 0:33:47.040
<v Speaker 5>all like having like a little moment and tearing up

0:33:47.080 --> 0:33:50.000
<v Speaker 5>for a second, and then in my head, I'm like, Okay,

0:33:50.040 --> 0:33:51.120
<v Speaker 5>I'll never see this girl again.

0:33:51.560 --> 0:33:53.720
<v Speaker 2>When you and Lisa kept in touch, you on social

0:33:53.760 --> 0:33:55.360
<v Speaker 2>media and then we went to New York and we

0:33:55.400 --> 0:33:57.720
<v Speaker 2>met up with her like two or three years later,

0:33:57.920 --> 0:34:04.040
<v Speaker 2>maybe that was twenty twenty one or something now twenty two. Yeah, yeah,

0:34:04.080 --> 0:34:05.479
<v Speaker 2>so a couple years later we went to New York

0:34:05.520 --> 0:34:08.400
<v Speaker 2>and hang out with her, and so that's that's been

0:34:08.440 --> 0:34:08.840
<v Speaker 2>a fun.

0:34:09.440 --> 0:34:12.120
<v Speaker 5>So we met through email thing to look back on.

0:34:12.280 --> 0:34:13.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, just you never know.

0:34:13.560 --> 0:34:15.600
<v Speaker 5>And you were so nice. That's so I will say.

0:34:15.800 --> 0:34:18.480
<v Speaker 5>I remember you being I didn't know what to expect.

0:34:18.640 --> 0:34:21.520
<v Speaker 5>This isn't judgmental. I just thought in my head I'm like,

0:34:21.560 --> 0:34:23.399
<v Speaker 5>I'm some nobody coming in here like that. You don't

0:34:23.400 --> 0:34:26.239
<v Speaker 5>even have a reason to even listen to me. You

0:34:26.280 --> 0:34:27.920
<v Speaker 5>were so nice, and I remember you gave me the

0:34:27.920 --> 0:34:30.720
<v Speaker 5>biggest hug at the end. Oh yeah, And I remember

0:34:30.719 --> 0:34:32.600
<v Speaker 5>what you were wearing. What was I wearing?

0:34:32.719 --> 0:34:33.000
<v Speaker 4>I don't.

0:34:34.680 --> 0:34:38.520
<v Speaker 5>I was wearing a yellow long sleeve kind of like

0:34:38.560 --> 0:34:41.840
<v Speaker 5>cut off baggy T shirt. You were wearing some like

0:34:41.960 --> 0:34:43.520
<v Speaker 5>crocheted cream top.

0:34:43.960 --> 0:34:46.640
<v Speaker 2>Oh, I remember that now. I think you were wearing

0:34:46.640 --> 0:34:48.759
<v Speaker 2>that if that's what I was wearing. Okay, I had

0:34:48.840 --> 0:34:51.160
<v Speaker 2>crocheted flowers on it, because now I remember Lisa and

0:34:51.200 --> 0:34:53.000
<v Speaker 2>I being at my house later and that's what I

0:34:53.080 --> 0:34:57.600
<v Speaker 2>was wearing, because I have a picture of us. Good memory. Wow,

0:34:57.719 --> 0:34:59.080
<v Speaker 2>yellow like your nails.

0:34:59.400 --> 0:35:00.640
<v Speaker 4>Why did you bring that up?

0:35:02.400 --> 0:35:08.520
<v Speaker 5>Because your nails are so yellow. Speaking of feelings, I'm

0:35:08.520 --> 0:35:12.160
<v Speaker 5>feeling disgusted by my nails. Okay, they were so cute

0:35:12.400 --> 0:35:14.160
<v Speaker 5>like two days ago, and I took all the nail

0:35:14.200 --> 0:35:16.799
<v Speaker 5>polish off and then I thought that this was gonna

0:35:16.800 --> 0:35:18.680
<v Speaker 5>be cute. And it looks like highlighters. If you can't

0:35:18.719 --> 0:35:21.960
<v Speaker 5>see it, yeah, that says we can see.

0:35:21.760 --> 0:35:23.920
<v Speaker 2>It's it's worse than a highlighter.

0:35:24.200 --> 0:35:25.799
<v Speaker 5>Oh. My that's what you said. When I texted you.

0:35:25.920 --> 0:35:28.120
<v Speaker 5>I thought you were going to like reassure me and

0:35:28.160 --> 0:35:30.600
<v Speaker 5>be like, no, oh, wasn't that bad. I texted you

0:35:30.680 --> 0:35:32.319
<v Speaker 5>as I'm doing it, I'm like, oh, this was the

0:35:32.360 --> 0:35:35.719
<v Speaker 5>biggest mistake. And I sent you a picture of it,

0:35:36.600 --> 0:35:38.480
<v Speaker 5>thinking that you'd be like, oh, don't worry about it.

0:35:38.520 --> 0:35:41.160
<v Speaker 5>They look good, and you said, oh, that's worse than

0:35:41.200 --> 0:35:44.160
<v Speaker 5>you said. You said, that's worse than a highlighter.

0:35:44.680 --> 0:35:47.239
<v Speaker 2>Well, yeah, because we can affirm each other all day long,

0:35:47.239 --> 0:35:49.680
<v Speaker 2>but the color of your nails. You don't need my affirmation.

0:35:49.920 --> 0:35:52.160
<v Speaker 2>You need my honesty. Yeah, yeah, like if it was

0:35:52.320 --> 0:35:55.440
<v Speaker 2>actually something that you couldn't change or help, but this

0:35:55.480 --> 0:35:56.239
<v Speaker 2>is a nail color.

0:35:56.280 --> 0:35:57.839
<v Speaker 4>Don't lie to me, I know.

0:35:58.320 --> 0:36:02.480
<v Speaker 5>And also also I appreciate because I didn't like it,

0:36:02.560 --> 0:36:05.799
<v Speaker 5>so I didn't need you to like if I loved it,

0:36:05.880 --> 0:36:08.680
<v Speaker 5>and I'm like, I love this nail color so much

0:36:09.080 --> 0:36:11.040
<v Speaker 5>and it's so beautiful, isn't it.

0:36:11.160 --> 0:36:12.879
<v Speaker 4>You don't really have to give an opinion.

0:36:12.760 --> 0:36:14.719
<v Speaker 2>Right, I'd be like, oh, good job, But.

0:36:14.719 --> 0:36:15.520
<v Speaker 4>If you're a job.

0:36:15.840 --> 0:36:19.160
<v Speaker 5>If I hated it, and then you know it's ugly

0:36:19.200 --> 0:36:20.360
<v Speaker 5>and you're like, don't worry about it.

0:36:20.440 --> 0:36:23.840
<v Speaker 2>No, help me out right remove that.

0:36:24.400 --> 0:36:25.239
<v Speaker 4>It'll be removed to myrow.

0:36:25.320 --> 0:36:26.080
<v Speaker 2>This is days later.

0:36:26.080 --> 0:36:26.960
<v Speaker 5>Are you still on?

0:36:27.560 --> 0:36:29.879
<v Speaker 4>It takes me three hours to do my nails.

0:36:29.600 --> 0:36:34.440
<v Speaker 2>Okay, because that's like Jill, it's Joe. Yeah. Kat does

0:36:34.440 --> 0:36:36.360
<v Speaker 2>her own nails. She has a nail salon in her kitchen.

0:36:36.800 --> 0:36:37.239
<v Speaker 4>Yes, I do.

0:36:37.360 --> 0:36:39.239
<v Speaker 2>I knew you wanted to come mine and come meet

0:36:39.320 --> 0:36:41.759
<v Speaker 2>You're like, never mind, you want me to come over

0:36:41.840 --> 0:36:44.560
<v Speaker 2>and get mine done, but maybe I will, Okay. So

0:36:45.520 --> 0:36:47.240
<v Speaker 2>that is how we know each other. That's our origin

0:36:47.360 --> 0:36:51.040
<v Speaker 2>story and we were fast friends after that, and our

0:36:51.080 --> 0:36:55.960
<v Speaker 2>friendship really has been easy. And I why'd you make

0:36:55.960 --> 0:36:56.360
<v Speaker 2>that face?

0:36:56.440 --> 0:36:56.720
<v Speaker 5>Sorry?

0:36:56.719 --> 0:36:58.160
<v Speaker 4>That face was like, oh that was nice.

0:36:58.239 --> 0:37:01.279
<v Speaker 2>Sorry, Oh okay, tell y'all. Kat just made some face

0:37:01.280 --> 0:37:03.160
<v Speaker 2>that made me think, like, don't lie.

0:37:04.040 --> 0:37:04.839
<v Speaker 5>Well it was.

0:37:05.000 --> 0:37:08.040
<v Speaker 4>It's We've had some kerfuffles in the last.

0:37:07.920 --> 0:37:10.520
<v Speaker 2>Couple of weeks, but that's work stuff.

0:37:10.760 --> 0:37:13.520
<v Speaker 4>But I think also the kerfuffles have been easy.

0:37:14.040 --> 0:37:17.480
<v Speaker 2>The kurfuffles are when you did I say that wrong?

0:37:17.600 --> 0:37:17.759
<v Speaker 1>No?

0:37:17.840 --> 0:37:19.680
<v Speaker 5>Should we tell them the new thing that we came

0:37:19.760 --> 0:37:21.319
<v Speaker 5>up with the other day where you came up with it?

0:37:22.120 --> 0:37:25.120
<v Speaker 2>Sib sib. Yeah, you can tell them in a minute.

0:37:25.160 --> 0:37:26.000
<v Speaker 4>Okay, don't forget.

0:37:26.040 --> 0:37:27.919
<v Speaker 5>Okay, It's like you.

0:37:27.840 --> 0:37:30.279
<v Speaker 2>Have ADHD and you tell your other friend with ADHD

0:37:30.360 --> 0:37:31.440
<v Speaker 2>to remember something.

0:37:32.440 --> 0:37:33.520
<v Speaker 5>Hopefully we'll come back to it.

0:37:33.520 --> 0:37:39.040
<v Speaker 2>Hey, we'll circle back, Okay five years later. Hey, remember

0:37:40.320 --> 0:37:43.560
<v Speaker 2>we were going to talk about that thing. Okay, so

0:37:43.680 --> 0:37:44.440
<v Speaker 2>we'll get to SIB.

0:37:44.960 --> 0:37:47.000
<v Speaker 4>But what was it you were saying that our relationship

0:37:47.040 --> 0:37:47.919
<v Speaker 4>was easy? Okay?

0:37:48.120 --> 0:37:50.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but the kerfuffles.

0:37:50.360 --> 0:37:50.760
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

0:37:51.040 --> 0:37:56.040
<v Speaker 2>The kerfuffles, I think are that when you have a friendship,

0:37:56.239 --> 0:37:58.600
<v Speaker 2>anytime you change the dynamic and like say, you start

0:37:58.640 --> 0:38:02.200
<v Speaker 2>working together. I think some of that was me figuring

0:38:02.239 --> 0:38:05.160
<v Speaker 2>out how how to work with you and you figuring

0:38:05.200 --> 0:38:07.640
<v Speaker 2>out how to work with me. I don't think they

0:38:07.640 --> 0:38:10.879
<v Speaker 2>were real things. They were just kinks, Like.

0:38:11.280 --> 0:38:12.720
<v Speaker 4>They weren't like friendship things.

0:38:12.800 --> 0:38:14.880
<v Speaker 2>No, like it wasn't gonna ruin. But I think we

0:38:14.920 --> 0:38:17.160
<v Speaker 2>handled it in a way that showed us that, oh wow,

0:38:17.760 --> 0:38:21.759
<v Speaker 2>we have a very mature friendship and working relationship, and

0:38:21.840 --> 0:38:26.040
<v Speaker 2>we are determined to not let our friendship get ruined

0:38:26.040 --> 0:38:30.439
<v Speaker 2>by any work stuff because that happens a lot, and

0:38:31.239 --> 0:38:33.040
<v Speaker 2>I think neither one of us want that, So we're

0:38:33.120 --> 0:38:40.960
<v Speaker 2>being very intentional. So the kirkfuffles are normal. Are normal,

0:38:41.480 --> 0:38:44.759
<v Speaker 2>sib is Kat. You can say it about yourself, but

0:38:44.800 --> 0:38:46.160
<v Speaker 2>if you want me to say I'll say it. But

0:38:46.239 --> 0:38:49.279
<v Speaker 2>she's been a little in a mood, you can say it, Okay,

0:38:49.280 --> 0:38:50.240
<v Speaker 2>she's been snappy.

0:38:50.280 --> 0:38:53.880
<v Speaker 5>She's been snappy to everybody, not just well, actually, I

0:38:53.920 --> 0:38:56.560
<v Speaker 5>think it's just you and my husband, the people you're

0:38:56.600 --> 0:38:57.080
<v Speaker 5>closest to.

0:38:57.239 --> 0:39:00.719
<v Speaker 2>Huh you were You have people other people that you're

0:39:00.719 --> 0:39:02.040
<v Speaker 2>close to you, but you're probably talking to.

0:39:02.080 --> 0:39:02.480
<v Speaker 4>Us the most.

0:39:02.560 --> 0:39:05.640
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, so you want to explain, Yeah, I was just

0:39:05.719 --> 0:39:07.880
<v Speaker 5>having a snappy day and then you.

0:39:08.680 --> 0:39:10.960
<v Speaker 2>I think it was already snappy a few days.

0:39:12.520 --> 0:39:16.040
<v Speaker 4>Like, I'm gonna keep you honest. I've been having a

0:39:16.080 --> 0:39:19.120
<v Speaker 4>snappy month, honestly, and.

0:39:18.640 --> 0:39:21.760
<v Speaker 5>Now it's a month twenty twenty five. It's been snappy

0:39:21.760 --> 0:39:24.759
<v Speaker 5>for me. And I think I was already talking to

0:39:24.800 --> 0:39:28.160
<v Speaker 5>you that morning about my just mood. And then you

0:39:28.200 --> 0:39:30.960
<v Speaker 5>text started texting me things and I think you were

0:39:30.960 --> 0:39:34.160
<v Speaker 5>at work, so you were texting short things like just right,

0:39:34.280 --> 0:39:34.919
<v Speaker 5>like here fire.

0:39:34.960 --> 0:39:36.759
<v Speaker 2>I find stuff off, especially when I'm at work, like

0:39:36.800 --> 0:39:38.319
<v Speaker 2>if I have a quick commercial break, I might be

0:39:38.360 --> 0:39:40.200
<v Speaker 2>like here cat ping ping ping, pink peek and then

0:39:40.239 --> 0:39:40.600
<v Speaker 2>you're like.

0:39:40.680 --> 0:39:43.560
<v Speaker 4>Wait what, And so I was trying.

0:39:44.200 --> 0:39:45.840
<v Speaker 5>I knew I was being snappy in my head, so

0:39:45.880 --> 0:39:47.600
<v Speaker 5>I was like, Catherine, don't be snappy. How do you

0:39:47.719 --> 0:39:49.440
<v Speaker 5>say this in a non snappy way? But I think

0:39:49.480 --> 0:39:53.400
<v Speaker 5>it still came off snappy. So then I had to

0:39:53.440 --> 0:39:55.400
<v Speaker 5>send you a text that said I'm sending this in

0:39:55.480 --> 0:39:57.359
<v Speaker 5>a kind tone. I don't know if you can tell.

0:39:58.080 --> 0:40:00.320
<v Speaker 5>And then you said a really nice voice. Then we

0:40:00.360 --> 0:40:02.840
<v Speaker 5>started voice memming that was much better, and you were like, no,

0:40:02.920 --> 0:40:05.239
<v Speaker 5>it's fine, blah blah blah, I get it. And then

0:40:05.280 --> 0:40:08.200
<v Speaker 5>you explained yourself, and then I explained myself, and then

0:40:08.239 --> 0:40:11.399
<v Speaker 5>you said, we need a word that if we're ever

0:40:11.600 --> 0:40:14.880
<v Speaker 5>feeling like we're coming off wrong, we can say sorry.

0:40:15.080 --> 0:40:16.680
<v Speaker 4>I sib well.

0:40:16.719 --> 0:40:19.279
<v Speaker 2>I think I was playing off of WTW and how

0:40:19.320 --> 0:40:21.640
<v Speaker 2>powerful that is, like wait to Worry, which we talked

0:40:21.640 --> 0:40:23.840
<v Speaker 2>about recently. But it's just like when you can just

0:40:23.920 --> 0:40:28.240
<v Speaker 2>say WTW to yourself or somebody else, it's like hey boom.

0:40:28.480 --> 0:40:30.600
<v Speaker 2>When you both are in the know of what that means,

0:40:30.680 --> 0:40:35.279
<v Speaker 2>it's like huh, it's like exhale WTW. And so we

0:40:35.400 --> 0:40:37.799
<v Speaker 2>had just got done talking about that a little bit

0:40:38.239 --> 0:40:42.080
<v Speaker 2>and how we love WTW. So I was like, we

0:40:42.200 --> 0:40:45.000
<v Speaker 2>need something for this because I'm perimid apousal. You have

0:40:45.200 --> 0:40:49.320
<v Speaker 2>other hormone situations stuff happening, and we need an acronym

0:40:49.440 --> 0:40:52.360
<v Speaker 2>that can just like sort of shut.

0:40:52.160 --> 0:40:52.759
<v Speaker 1>It in the bud.

0:40:52.960 --> 0:40:55.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, nip it in the bud, shut it down, just

0:40:55.600 --> 0:40:57.080
<v Speaker 2>regulate it. Help.

0:40:57.440 --> 0:41:01.120
<v Speaker 5>Just do you watch New Girl? No, I have before

0:41:01.560 --> 0:41:03.160
<v Speaker 5>watch this New Girl. If you listen to New Girl,

0:41:03.400 --> 0:41:04.880
<v Speaker 5>you said shut it down. In my head, all I

0:41:04.920 --> 0:41:06.760
<v Speaker 5>can think is shut it down.

0:41:07.320 --> 0:41:09.680
<v Speaker 4>Okay, so shut it shut it down.

0:41:10.239 --> 0:41:13.239
<v Speaker 5>We could also do that. Shutut it down. They're talking

0:41:13.280 --> 0:41:16.239
<v Speaker 5>about workplace romantic oh engagements.

0:41:16.360 --> 0:41:18.520
<v Speaker 4>Okay, yeah, shut if somebody comes up to you.

0:41:18.520 --> 0:41:20.240
<v Speaker 5>And is trying to engage in you in a sexual

0:41:20.320 --> 0:41:22.200
<v Speaker 5>encounter at school, shut it down.

0:41:22.880 --> 0:41:24.120
<v Speaker 4>But we can use that for oursels.

0:41:24.120 --> 0:41:26.719
<v Speaker 2>Okay, so we have we use I shut it SID,

0:41:27.520 --> 0:41:30.600
<v Speaker 2>shut it down SID. But we have s I b

0:41:31.120 --> 0:41:34.560
<v Speaker 2>which is they said, said, what is SIB?

0:41:34.680 --> 0:41:34.960
<v Speaker 5>Sorry?

0:41:35.080 --> 0:41:38.440
<v Speaker 2>I oh oh yeah, And it's not even grammatically correct,

0:41:38.719 --> 0:41:40.359
<v Speaker 2>so that way, it's also a little bit funny because

0:41:40.360 --> 0:41:44.160
<v Speaker 2>it's SIB and so it's sorry I bitch.

0:41:45.920 --> 0:41:46.120
<v Speaker 1>Say.

0:41:46.600 --> 0:41:48.000
<v Speaker 5>Because then I was like, can we say that word?

0:41:48.080 --> 0:41:50.560
<v Speaker 2>I think you can, but we typically don't don't cuss

0:41:50.640 --> 0:41:54.839
<v Speaker 2>on our podcast. But ear mops, sorry, I okay, we're

0:41:54.880 --> 0:41:56.960
<v Speaker 2>going to say the word, and you've got little kids

0:41:57.000 --> 0:41:58.000
<v Speaker 2>in the car, turn it down.

0:41:58.080 --> 0:42:00.759
<v Speaker 5>But that's if your kids in the car, shut it down.

0:42:00.920 --> 0:42:01.760
<v Speaker 5>Shut it down.

0:42:03.719 --> 0:42:06.640
<v Speaker 2>So anytime we're acting that way and we know it

0:42:06.880 --> 0:42:08.719
<v Speaker 2>and we want to apologize for it, but we want

0:42:08.719 --> 0:42:11.400
<v Speaker 2>to warn the other person, we just go SIB and

0:42:11.480 --> 0:42:13.120
<v Speaker 2>it means sorry, I bitchy.

0:42:16.320 --> 0:42:20.160
<v Speaker 5>I love the way he said, sorry I bitchy.

0:42:21.440 --> 0:42:24.239
<v Speaker 4>But okay, that's gonna be so helpful for SIB.

0:42:24.840 --> 0:42:26.480
<v Speaker 2>And that's just like have it with your girlfriends, have

0:42:26.520 --> 0:42:27.840
<v Speaker 2>it with your partner. Like you can even do that

0:42:27.920 --> 0:42:30.440
<v Speaker 2>with Patrick, and you can just tell Patrick SIB.

0:42:30.560 --> 0:42:34.000
<v Speaker 4>And you don't have to explain it. Yeah, you automatically know, like, oh.

0:42:34.080 --> 0:42:37.040
<v Speaker 2>Then Patrick can be like, I'm gonna wtw whether or

0:42:37.040 --> 0:42:39.000
<v Speaker 2>not I'm still gonna be married to you, he said

0:42:39.040 --> 0:42:40.680
<v Speaker 2>the other day. I'm gonna wait to worry.

0:42:40.840 --> 0:42:44.040
<v Speaker 5>I snapped at him fifteen times in a row, like

0:42:44.120 --> 0:42:47.880
<v Speaker 5>over stupid things. At one point, I go, stop chewing

0:42:47.920 --> 0:42:50.279
<v Speaker 5>your gum, like I was, Oh.

0:42:50.200 --> 0:42:51.919
<v Speaker 2>That's literally what you're supposed to do with gum.

0:42:52.680 --> 0:42:53.040
<v Speaker 1>Chew it.

0:42:53.280 --> 0:42:55.360
<v Speaker 5>He was streting it so loud, and then I was

0:42:55.440 --> 0:42:58.800
<v Speaker 5>like anyway, I just looked at him and he just

0:42:58.920 --> 0:43:01.680
<v Speaker 5>was like, I love you. And then I was like,

0:43:02.239 --> 0:43:05.279
<v Speaker 5>sib ari, id g I.

0:43:05.360 --> 0:43:07.200
<v Speaker 4>Needed that back then. Oh I felt so bad. He's

0:43:07.239 --> 0:43:09.760
<v Speaker 4>so nice. Yeah, any more questions?

0:43:09.920 --> 0:43:13.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, how to attract quality adult friendships when everyone is

0:43:13.520 --> 0:43:27.520
<v Speaker 2>in a different stage of life? How to attract quality

0:43:27.560 --> 0:43:30.840
<v Speaker 2>adult friendships when everyone is in a different stage of life?

0:43:31.200 --> 0:43:33.400
<v Speaker 4>Can I shout somebody else out to answer this?

0:43:34.080 --> 0:43:34.719
<v Speaker 2>Absolutely?

0:43:35.360 --> 0:43:35.759
<v Speaker 5>So there?

0:43:36.000 --> 0:43:38.640
<v Speaker 2>But also you don't have to ask that. Well, I

0:43:38.760 --> 0:43:40.680
<v Speaker 2>remember this is one of those things. This is part

0:43:40.680 --> 0:43:43.840
<v Speaker 2>of ALE that we had at the beginning. It's like

0:43:44.280 --> 0:43:46.440
<v Speaker 2>this is our podcast now. I think when you're on

0:43:46.520 --> 0:43:48.560
<v Speaker 2>fifth thing, which I never wanted you to ask anyway,

0:43:48.560 --> 0:43:51.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, nobody has to ask permission, But sometimes you

0:43:52.080 --> 0:43:54.240
<v Speaker 2>still do that, and then it makes me feel uncomfortable

0:43:54.239 --> 0:43:55.960
<v Speaker 2>because I'm like, I don't want people to think that, like.

0:43:56.040 --> 0:43:57.600
<v Speaker 5>You have to ask you wait.

0:43:57.760 --> 0:43:59.400
<v Speaker 4>But I have a reason why I do that.

0:44:00.400 --> 0:44:03.480
<v Speaker 5>I'm used to at work always asking permission to do anything.

0:44:03.960 --> 0:44:06.440
<v Speaker 5>Oh so clients so, and I think I carry that

0:44:06.520 --> 0:44:10.160
<v Speaker 5>out with like friends and with different relationships. Is before

0:44:10.160 --> 0:44:13.439
<v Speaker 5>I give advice or say something or change something, I'll say,

0:44:13.520 --> 0:44:15.400
<v Speaker 5>like do you mind or are you open to or

0:44:15.719 --> 0:44:17.120
<v Speaker 5>can I be?

0:44:17.320 --> 0:44:19.719
<v Speaker 4>I'm just used. I've trained myself to do that, so

0:44:19.760 --> 0:44:20.600
<v Speaker 4>I don't even think.

0:44:20.520 --> 0:44:23.919
<v Speaker 2>I now, yeah, but this okay, but this is something, Yeah,

0:44:23.920 --> 0:44:26.600
<v Speaker 2>I need to work obviously your conditioned for it, because

0:44:26.640 --> 0:44:30.640
<v Speaker 2>this is like they're asking how do you attract quality friendships?

0:44:30.719 --> 0:44:33.759
<v Speaker 2>And then you're like, can I shout somebody out because

0:44:33.880 --> 0:44:35.440
<v Speaker 2>not even like you're asking permission to like give a

0:44:35.480 --> 0:44:37.680
<v Speaker 2>thought about some deep feeling that I have that might

0:44:37.719 --> 0:44:40.640
<v Speaker 2>impact me, you know, like, because that's respectful to be like, hey,

0:44:41.880 --> 0:44:43.360
<v Speaker 2>do you mind if I share this with you? Or

0:44:43.480 --> 0:44:44.680
<v Speaker 2>can I tell you my thoughts?

0:44:44.960 --> 0:44:46.759
<v Speaker 4>Say it again? And I'm gonna practice.

0:44:46.640 --> 0:44:51.440
<v Speaker 2>Practice pause pause, pause, post pause past. If someone is

0:44:51.520 --> 0:44:55.719
<v Speaker 2>listening to our podcast for the first time today ever, yeah,

0:44:56.320 --> 0:44:58.120
<v Speaker 2>it's like, because give me five hundred dollars. We have

0:44:58.200 --> 0:45:02.919
<v Speaker 2>inside jokes like puz pu pos pause, pus pause, shut

0:45:02.960 --> 0:45:07.160
<v Speaker 2>it down. That's a new one though, how to attract

0:45:07.239 --> 0:45:09.879
<v Speaker 2>quality adult friendships when everyone is in different stages of life.

0:45:10.239 --> 0:45:11.880
<v Speaker 4>Okay, I'm going to shout somebody.

0:45:12.280 --> 0:45:14.480
<v Speaker 5>I can't even say it seriously, but I was doing

0:45:14.480 --> 0:45:16.480
<v Speaker 5>a good job. I want to shout somebody else out

0:45:16.560 --> 0:45:19.960
<v Speaker 5>for this because There is a therapist, a licensed therapist

0:45:20.440 --> 0:45:24.359
<v Speaker 5>who lives in South Carolina. She's moved a couple times.

0:45:24.360 --> 0:45:26.400
<v Speaker 5>I think it's South Carolina now. It's a detail that

0:45:26.440 --> 0:45:29.080
<v Speaker 5>doesn't it doesn't matter, but my brain needs to say it.

0:45:29.239 --> 0:45:30.040
<v Speaker 2>But I appreciate.

0:45:30.160 --> 0:45:30.319
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:45:30.480 --> 0:45:33.440
<v Speaker 5>Her name is Blake, Blake and Beckler.

0:45:33.920 --> 0:45:35.840
<v Speaker 4>Her name is very hard to say, so pat on

0:45:35.960 --> 0:45:36.400
<v Speaker 4>my shoulder.

0:45:36.440 --> 0:45:39.399
<v Speaker 2>I've been reviewed before. She's great. She oft too write.

0:45:39.480 --> 0:45:39.640
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:45:39.719 --> 0:45:41.920
<v Speaker 5>I used to work with her too, way back in

0:45:41.960 --> 0:45:44.960
<v Speaker 5>the day. And she is a expert on friendship. She

0:45:45.080 --> 0:45:48.000
<v Speaker 5>even has a little card deck called the Friendship Deck

0:45:48.040 --> 0:45:50.480
<v Speaker 5>that's really cool she created that you can buy for

0:45:50.840 --> 0:45:54.919
<v Speaker 5>developing your friendships. But she gives so much good, free

0:45:55.160 --> 0:45:58.799
<v Speaker 5>information and content on her instagram. So if you want

0:45:58.880 --> 0:46:02.600
<v Speaker 5>more information about French chips, head to her instagram. I

0:46:02.680 --> 0:46:06.680
<v Speaker 5>think it's at Blake Bluckin' bad. I'll look it up

0:46:07.239 --> 0:46:09.520
<v Speaker 5>like I'm sorry if you're listening, but we can link

0:46:09.640 --> 0:46:11.960
<v Speaker 5>her handle in the show notes, so you guys can

0:46:12.040 --> 0:46:12.640
<v Speaker 5>just click on it.

0:46:13.120 --> 0:46:15.800
<v Speaker 4>Perfect because you're not gonna know how to spell it anyway,

0:46:16.600 --> 0:46:17.040
<v Speaker 4>no question.

0:46:17.200 --> 0:46:19.600
<v Speaker 2>But your hair looks pretty today. See what I did there.

0:46:20.239 --> 0:46:23.440
<v Speaker 2>That's one of our listeners being hilarious and funny and

0:46:23.520 --> 0:46:28.120
<v Speaker 2>complimentary and making us practice going thank you past paus,

0:46:28.239 --> 0:46:29.200
<v Speaker 2>pause post paus.

0:46:30.120 --> 0:46:31.520
<v Speaker 4>You don't have to say the pause out loud, but

0:46:31.560 --> 0:46:31.960
<v Speaker 4>it's fun.

0:46:32.120 --> 0:46:34.479
<v Speaker 2>Well when I did, because I put up this video

0:46:34.560 --> 0:46:36.680
<v Speaker 2>with a question box on Instagram, and I guess she's saying,

0:46:36.680 --> 0:46:38.520
<v Speaker 2>next to my hair is in a ponytail today, I've

0:46:38.600 --> 0:46:40.239
<v Speaker 2>told you so many times today I love your hair

0:46:40.400 --> 0:46:44.200
<v Speaker 2>like the ponytail. It's so thank you, pus pus pu

0:46:44.480 --> 0:46:50.719
<v Speaker 2>pu pus. And then our our friend Katie Gustafson. Yeah,

0:46:50.880 --> 0:46:53.080
<v Speaker 2>she left a little comment to saying no question, just

0:46:53.160 --> 0:46:56.759
<v Speaker 2>so grateful for these soulful and fun conversations. So those

0:46:56.800 --> 0:47:00.560
<v Speaker 2>are just some of the ones that I pulled. She's awesome, Yeah,

0:47:00.640 --> 0:47:01.680
<v Speaker 2>she's She's great.

0:47:02.000 --> 0:47:04.719
<v Speaker 4>Ania Graham, if you need any Aneagraham content, I did.

0:47:05.880 --> 0:47:06.520
<v Speaker 2>That's Instagram.

0:47:06.920 --> 0:47:08.040
<v Speaker 5>I did her.

0:47:09.239 --> 0:47:12.040
<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to look up Blake's account, but Katie's. I

0:47:12.080 --> 0:47:14.400
<v Speaker 2>did her workshop with Ali Fallon once and it was

0:47:14.800 --> 0:47:22.680
<v Speaker 2>so good, like so good. It's just at Blake, Blake

0:47:22.760 --> 0:47:23.640
<v Speaker 2>and Beckler.

0:47:24.520 --> 0:47:28.719
<v Speaker 5>You were right, Blake and Beckler, Blake and Katie Guston's

0:47:28.800 --> 0:47:31.480
<v Speaker 5>last name is hard to yes. When I interviewed her,

0:47:31.600 --> 0:47:33.560
<v Speaker 5>on you need therapy. Before we started, I said, can

0:47:33.640 --> 0:47:35.120
<v Speaker 5>we practice say in your name a couple of times

0:47:35.120 --> 0:47:37.000
<v Speaker 5>because I want to introduce you as your full name?

0:47:37.680 --> 0:47:40.480
<v Speaker 5>And I think we spent a good five minutes practicing it.

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<v Speaker 5>God bless her for not being mad at me.

0:47:43.360 --> 0:47:46.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I just realized too. I had my lip gloss

0:47:46.920 --> 0:47:48.399
<v Speaker 2>in my lap this whole time, and we were talking

0:47:48.400 --> 0:47:52.000
<v Speaker 2>about this is not Selena Gomez though, what is it?

0:47:52.200 --> 0:47:56.000
<v Speaker 2>This is the Lenage? Oh oh, I love and I

0:47:56.120 --> 0:47:59.120
<v Speaker 2>bought the dupes before it was Lenage and they're not

0:47:59.200 --> 0:48:02.320
<v Speaker 2>as good, but you have the dupe of the Dire

0:48:03.320 --> 0:48:04.000
<v Speaker 2>and it is good.

0:48:04.800 --> 0:48:07.640
<v Speaker 4>Well kind of. I have the Door and then I

0:48:07.760 --> 0:48:10.600
<v Speaker 4>have the lip oil. No, I have their lip plumper.

0:48:11.040 --> 0:48:13.880
<v Speaker 2>Oh, best lipgloss I've ever had from Dire.

0:48:14.080 --> 0:48:16.719
<v Speaker 5>Yes, it was just like expensive and I lost it

0:48:16.800 --> 0:48:18.399
<v Speaker 5>and I said I don't deserve to buy another one

0:48:18.600 --> 0:48:19.360
<v Speaker 5>because I lost it.

0:48:19.760 --> 0:48:21.200
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, but it was amazing.

0:48:21.239 --> 0:48:23.360
<v Speaker 5>If anybody ever wants to buy me a gift, you

0:48:23.440 --> 0:48:25.520
<v Speaker 5>can send me the Door lip plumper.

0:48:25.800 --> 0:48:27.759
<v Speaker 2>Thank you. Well, maybe if you link it you could

0:48:27.800 --> 0:48:28.520
<v Speaker 2>afford to by it.

0:48:30.280 --> 0:48:33.480
<v Speaker 5>Or wait, I'm going to text Patrick later and say,

0:48:33.880 --> 0:48:37.160
<v Speaker 5>buy me the Dore lip plumper now.

0:48:40.000 --> 0:48:42.840
<v Speaker 4>Two of them, and I went different colors.

0:48:44.400 --> 0:48:45.879
<v Speaker 5>Also, I've never tried the lip oil.

0:48:45.960 --> 0:48:49.000
<v Speaker 2>Add that too, because I keep having to buy the

0:48:49.120 --> 0:48:54.120
<v Speaker 2>ELF one, which is the seven dollars mixer seven dollars one.

0:48:54.200 --> 0:48:54.680
<v Speaker 1>Bye, I know.

0:48:54.880 --> 0:48:57.160
<v Speaker 5>I resorted to buying the one on Amazon, which was

0:48:57.239 --> 0:49:01.600
<v Speaker 5>four fifty. Oh, so I bought the ELF because it

0:49:01.680 --> 0:49:04.200
<v Speaker 5>was a dollar fifty more. Well, so the ELF one

0:49:04.280 --> 0:49:06.800
<v Speaker 5>is the one with color that you bottom mine that

0:49:06.880 --> 0:49:09.960
<v Speaker 5>you love. Huh, that one's great. I think rose Envy

0:49:10.080 --> 0:49:16.920
<v Speaker 5>was the color. And then I bought on Amazon the

0:49:17.080 --> 0:49:18.360
<v Speaker 5>fake but it's not an oil.

0:49:18.400 --> 0:49:19.040
<v Speaker 4>Why are you laughing?

0:49:19.239 --> 0:49:19.600
<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

0:49:19.600 --> 0:49:21.760
<v Speaker 2>I'm just picturing you yelling that at Patrick.

0:49:22.800 --> 0:49:24.240
<v Speaker 4>You know what he would say is you would probably

0:49:24.239 --> 0:49:24.960
<v Speaker 4>say by yourself.

0:49:25.920 --> 0:49:30.800
<v Speaker 2>Probably, I mean, but are you My boyfriend's just like no, no,

0:49:31.840 --> 0:49:34.240
<v Speaker 2>But I mean I wasn't asking for a lip gloss.

0:49:34.280 --> 0:49:36.040
<v Speaker 2>But I think even if I said buy me this

0:49:36.560 --> 0:49:39.560
<v Speaker 2>lip gloss now, he would just be like no, no.

0:49:40.040 --> 0:49:41.000
<v Speaker 4>But maybe he.

0:49:41.000 --> 0:49:43.479
<v Speaker 5>Would say by yourself, because he's like, well, your money

0:49:43.560 --> 0:49:44.759
<v Speaker 5>is my money, so just buy it.

0:49:45.400 --> 0:49:47.560
<v Speaker 4>But it's not the same. I want him to wipe

0:49:47.640 --> 0:49:49.360
<v Speaker 4>his card, like when we go to dinner and he

0:49:49.440 --> 0:49:51.120
<v Speaker 4>uses his credit card. I'm like, that was free.

0:49:52.520 --> 0:49:55.439
<v Speaker 2>That's y'all have joined account Well not yet?

0:49:55.840 --> 0:49:58.920
<v Speaker 5>Wait what because we haven't changed my last name yet.

0:49:59.320 --> 0:50:01.480
<v Speaker 5>So I'm like, I don't want to go through because

0:50:02.120 --> 0:50:02.759
<v Speaker 5>do you want to know why?

0:50:03.880 --> 0:50:05.040
<v Speaker 2>Oh? I know, it's a process.

0:50:05.040 --> 0:50:08.160
<v Speaker 4>It's a process. And last year his dad told me

0:50:08.440 --> 0:50:10.520
<v Speaker 4>his dad does my taxis. His dad is a tax accountant.

0:50:11.040 --> 0:50:13.200
<v Speaker 5>Very nice for me. He said, wait until you do

0:50:13.239 --> 0:50:14.960
<v Speaker 5>your taxi before you change your last name. But then

0:50:15.040 --> 0:50:17.560
<v Speaker 5>we had a couple out of the country trips. I

0:50:17.600 --> 0:50:19.520
<v Speaker 5>don't want to pay for a new passport, so then

0:50:19.600 --> 0:50:21.480
<v Speaker 5>new TAXIIR comes around. He goes, well, don't change you

0:50:21.520 --> 0:50:23.680
<v Speaker 5>name till I do your taxes. Well, haven't done my

0:50:23.719 --> 0:50:25.440
<v Speaker 5>taxies yet, but we got an extension.

0:50:25.520 --> 0:50:28.719
<v Speaker 2>I'm not like you wqw on that wait to worry on?

0:50:28.960 --> 0:50:31.680
<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah yeah that, so wait to where I want

0:50:31.680 --> 0:50:32.360
<v Speaker 4>to do my taxes?

0:50:32.480 --> 0:50:33.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, change your name.

0:50:33.719 --> 0:50:37.400
<v Speaker 5>Oh well, so now we haven't joined our bank accounts

0:50:38.040 --> 0:50:40.279
<v Speaker 5>because I don't want to have to join them and

0:50:40.360 --> 0:50:41.880
<v Speaker 5>then go back to the bank again and change my

0:50:41.960 --> 0:50:42.359
<v Speaker 5>name again.

0:50:42.760 --> 0:50:45.000
<v Speaker 2>Okay, So now when you go out to eat and

0:50:45.080 --> 0:50:46.560
<v Speaker 2>he pays, you're like free.

0:50:46.760 --> 0:50:49.200
<v Speaker 4>It's free, even though it's technically our money.

0:50:49.760 --> 0:50:52.759
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but do you know like how much he is

0:50:52.840 --> 0:50:53.160
<v Speaker 2>in there?

0:50:53.840 --> 0:50:54.840
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, okay, you do.

0:50:55.000 --> 0:50:57.560
<v Speaker 2>Oh, I know. There's full transparency, So that would be

0:50:57.600 --> 0:50:59.360
<v Speaker 2>hard for me to be in a relationship. Lunchbox and

0:50:59.440 --> 0:51:01.480
<v Speaker 2>his wife don't. I don't even know that. They talk

0:51:01.520 --> 0:51:04.680
<v Speaker 2>about it. They have separate accounts, and he says she

0:51:04.760 --> 0:51:07.600
<v Speaker 2>doesn't know what he makes and whatnot. Who knows her

0:51:07.680 --> 0:51:10.120
<v Speaker 2>way mm hmm, oh, I know what he makes.

0:51:10.160 --> 0:51:13.680
<v Speaker 5>And also we have joint investment accounts. We just have

0:51:13.880 --> 0:51:17.720
<v Speaker 5>separate like checking accounts. And two we have separate credit cards.

0:51:18.640 --> 0:51:21.040
<v Speaker 5>He doesn't know it's on my credit card though, so you.

0:51:21.040 --> 0:51:23.400
<v Speaker 2>Can buy whatever you want and it's not like he's like, hey.

0:51:23.480 --> 0:51:25.279
<v Speaker 5>But part of the reason I want to keep that

0:51:25.520 --> 0:51:28.120
<v Speaker 5>is because when we buy gifts for each other, it

0:51:28.239 --> 0:51:30.520
<v Speaker 5>feels like one I want to be able to hide

0:51:30.560 --> 0:51:30.879
<v Speaker 5>it too.

0:51:30.920 --> 0:51:32.040
<v Speaker 4>It's like, I do want you to buy a gift

0:51:32.120 --> 0:51:36.200
<v Speaker 4>with my credit card. Yeah, it's a mind game. It's

0:51:36.239 --> 0:51:38.600
<v Speaker 4>a mind game. No, I get that I'm feeling judgment

0:51:38.680 --> 0:51:38.880
<v Speaker 4>from you.

0:51:39.600 --> 0:51:40.840
<v Speaker 5>No, okay, No, I'm.

0:51:40.680 --> 0:51:43.239
<v Speaker 2>Over here just thinking about what you wonder what I'm

0:51:43.280 --> 0:51:45.719
<v Speaker 2>gonna do. Yeah, I'm sorry I was paying attention to you,

0:51:45.960 --> 0:51:47.800
<v Speaker 2>but my face was probably.

0:51:47.520 --> 0:51:51.759
<v Speaker 5>Like SYD you, but I was thinking about myself, as

0:51:52.120 --> 0:51:55.960
<v Speaker 5>many people with ADHD often do.

0:51:56.440 --> 0:51:58.799
<v Speaker 2>I guess I'm just trying to like, I'm thinking about

0:51:58.840 --> 0:52:01.480
<v Speaker 2>what you're saying and how y'all do it, and then

0:52:01.520 --> 0:52:04.120
<v Speaker 2>thinking about how I did it in my marriage where

0:52:04.120 --> 0:52:06.400
<v Speaker 2>I wasn't involved in anything, but now I'm going to be.

0:52:06.640 --> 0:52:08.440
<v Speaker 2>And then I'm thinking about how Lunchbox does it. And

0:52:08.480 --> 0:52:10.480
<v Speaker 2>then I'm like, how are we really going to do it?

0:52:10.520 --> 0:52:14.520
<v Speaker 2>Because we already have these established lives. Yeah, my boyfriend's established,

0:52:14.520 --> 0:52:18.360
<v Speaker 2>and then he's got three kids. I am as like,

0:52:18.719 --> 0:52:21.000
<v Speaker 2>have my own thing going. I've got two kids, and

0:52:21.080 --> 0:52:23.600
<v Speaker 2>then like what he has his own investments.

0:52:24.760 --> 0:52:25.800
<v Speaker 4>There's no right way to do it.

0:52:25.840 --> 0:52:27.239
<v Speaker 5>I think that's the beauty of it is you can

0:52:27.320 --> 0:52:29.120
<v Speaker 5>look at whatever else is doing and say what works

0:52:29.160 --> 0:52:32.640
<v Speaker 5>for me? Are And also you can change our situation

0:52:32.760 --> 0:52:34.960
<v Speaker 5>is going to change when I changed my last.

0:52:34.800 --> 0:52:36.440
<v Speaker 2>Name and then you know, I thought I just have

0:52:36.680 --> 0:52:39.279
<v Speaker 2>is what if he's like drained your bake account? Who

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<v Speaker 2>you sign a prenup?

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<v Speaker 4>What if what would you say? No, I would have

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<v Speaker 4>done it.

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<v Speaker 5>Maybe now that.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been divorced, I might be like, Okay, fine, I

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<v Speaker 2>get it.

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<v Speaker 5>But then I'd be like, you know what, this is

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<v Speaker 5>my thought on prenups. I almost said can I share it?

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<v Speaker 5>And I did it, but then I said it anyway,

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<v Speaker 5>So my thought. I told Patrick I wanted to prenup

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<v Speaker 5>because my because when you get married, you essentially sign

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<v Speaker 5>a prenup is a nuptial agreement. We agree that this

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<v Speaker 5>is what's going to happen to our money when if

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<v Speaker 5>we get divorced. So when you get married, you technically

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<v Speaker 5>sign a prenup just with the deal that the state

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<v Speaker 5>has created for you. So in my head, if I'm

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<v Speaker 5>going to sign an agreement when I get married that

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<v Speaker 5>this is what's going to happen, it should be one

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<v Speaker 5>that I made, not just one the state made for me.

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<v Speaker 5>But I have ADHD, and I got lazy, and I

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<v Speaker 5>was like, oh, that sounds like a lot of work,

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<v Speaker 5>so I didn't do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Take a shot anytime you hear me and Kat talk

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<v Speaker 2>about how.

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<v Speaker 5>We have ADHD, you'll be drunk, yeah, or you could

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<v Speaker 5>like just take a shot of water because that might

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<v Speaker 5>not be good for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you'll be hydrated, speaking of a hydration for our

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<v Speaker 2>skin before we do wrap. I do want to remind

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<v Speaker 2>people that the Happy twenty five code for the Snail

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<v Speaker 2>serum is still working today through through the thirtieth. So

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<v Speaker 2>today's the twenty seventh, so you.

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<v Speaker 5>Got one to.

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<v Speaker 2>Do through the thirtieth, because I think they have another

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<v Speaker 2>sales starting on the thirty first, so at that point

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<v Speaker 2>in time, Happy twenty five the code will no longer work.

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<v Speaker 2>And Cat and I really do use it. I really

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<v Speaker 2>do use biopel. We only have the code from them

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<v Speaker 2>because we used it. I used to not have a code.

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<v Speaker 2>I would just post about it and then then I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, oh, I could post about it on Instagram,

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<v Speaker 2>which or no, on Amazon through Instagram, And yes, I

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<v Speaker 2>get a kickback from that too, but like again, if

0:54:42.280 --> 0:54:46.480
<v Speaker 2>I'm posting it might as well. And I love this stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>It is so hydrating for your skin. And I realized

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<v Speaker 2>last week we talked all about it, and then I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't share any of the benefits at all. Like later

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<v Speaker 2>Shannon was like, oh, we didn't say, like what, why

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<v Speaker 2>do you like it?

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<v Speaker 5>Why we like it?

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<v Speaker 2>But we love it for the glow, but it's a

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<v Speaker 2>growth factor and there's benefits of that. We use specifically

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<v Speaker 2>the Tensage forty ampules and all this will be linked

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<v Speaker 2>in the show notes. But quickly. This is from the

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<v Speaker 2>biopeal website. And these snails they live on a cute

0:55:15.520 --> 0:55:18.040
<v Speaker 2>little snail farm in Brazil. They're treated great. They eat

0:55:18.160 --> 0:55:20.319
<v Speaker 2>like lettuce and carrots, and they're so cute. I've seen

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<v Speaker 2>a whole video about them. Then they're having the dream.

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<v Speaker 2>I think they're happy. And this is just like some

0:55:25.480 --> 0:55:27.960
<v Speaker 2>sexual type secretion they release and then we put it

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<v Speaker 2>on our face.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know, like how sexual I don't think snails have.

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<v Speaker 4>It's not that I didn't say it with sperm, Well,

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<v Speaker 4>people put salmon sperm on their face.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, this is some sort of secretion that maybe has

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<v Speaker 2>to do with a something.

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<v Speaker 1>Sally.

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<v Speaker 5>Don't talk about that part because it took me a

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<v Speaker 5>while to get on board with snail serum.

0:55:46.360 --> 0:55:48.879
<v Speaker 4>That thought, okay, so just give us the best face.

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<v Speaker 2>That doesn't make it a little more exotic, oh findum.

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<v Speaker 2>So it improves skins, texture, tone, luminosity, visibly improved fine lines,

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<v Speaker 2>reduces signs of photo damage. It helps shorten healing time

0:56:05.880 --> 0:56:07.400
<v Speaker 2>if you were to get a treatment, like if you

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<v Speaker 2>some people get micro needling or some sort of treatment,

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<v Speaker 2>they can use the snail serrum to heal up your

0:56:12.040 --> 0:56:17.359
<v Speaker 2>face faster. So some dermatologists and stuff offer may offer

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<v Speaker 2>biopel like as part of the Hey, this is part

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<v Speaker 2>of your you know, post treatment regimen regimen. Yes, but

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<v Speaker 2>really in a nutshell, just say, I love the vitamin

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<v Speaker 2>C in it, the vitamin E, and I love the glow.

0:56:29.680 --> 0:56:30.239
<v Speaker 4>I'm telling you.

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<v Speaker 5>When I used it, my friend asked me what makeup

0:56:32.719 --> 0:56:36.239
<v Speaker 5>I was wearing and I wasn't wearing any And you're like,

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<v Speaker 5>that is it is snail snail serum. Don't say secretion,

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<v Speaker 5>don't say it serum.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, that is the snail serum. Happy twenty five is

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<v Speaker 2>the code that's twenty five percent off, which is this

0:56:50.480 --> 0:56:53.400
<v Speaker 2>already pricey stuff. We know that we get it, but

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<v Speaker 2>twenty five percent off is the most the highest discount

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<v Speaker 2>I've ever seen them get. Like, sometimes there's a twenty

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<v Speaker 2>percent off code, but this is twenty five exclusively for y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>So not misday, Not misday. We don't have any e

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<v Speaker 2>mail of the day, So okay, wells.

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<v Speaker 4>Time, Amy, Where can they find our podcast on YouTube.

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<v Speaker 2>Or wherever you listen to podcasts. If they're already listening

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<v Speaker 2>to this part, they're listening to it.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, it meant like where can they find us?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, Feeling Things podcast on Instagram that's the handle, and

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<v Speaker 2>then Feeling Things podcasts on YouTube, yeah, and Feeling Things

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<v Speaker 2>podcasts on TikTok.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, follow us on TikTok.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I think we just went up some on TikTok,

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<v Speaker 2>on TikTok, on the Tico. We're about to hit twenty

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<v Speaker 2>three thousand followers on TikTok.

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<v Speaker 5>That's a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh we have over six hundred on YouTube.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, that's fun. Yeah, man, who knews growing something

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<v Speaker 2>so starting to zero. Also, we can see the downloads

0:57:50.280 --> 0:57:52.880
<v Speaker 2>of people listening, and I'm like, I guess people are

0:57:52.960 --> 0:57:54.919
<v Speaker 2>just so accustomed to listening to us on podcasts, they're

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<v Speaker 2>like not used to watching us on YouTube. And I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know if people are coming across us organically and

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<v Speaker 2>maybe not inter.

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<v Speaker 1>But maybe they are.

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<v Speaker 2>Well because some people I don't know, like the millions

0:58:06.160 --> 0:58:08.200
<v Speaker 2>and millions and millions of you people like they just

0:58:08.360 --> 0:58:10.920
<v Speaker 2>missed that's like their thing and they're that's what they

0:58:11.000 --> 0:58:13.440
<v Speaker 2>do on YouTube. And then maybe maybe sometimes they come

0:58:13.480 --> 0:58:16.160
<v Speaker 2>across content like if they have a lot of views,

0:58:16.200 --> 0:58:18.120
<v Speaker 2>it's piped out more and then people come across them

0:58:18.200 --> 0:58:20.480
<v Speaker 2>organically and they're like, oh, I like them. Well, I

0:58:20.520 --> 0:58:22.920
<v Speaker 2>don't know if anybody's coming across this organically, but if

0:58:22.920 --> 0:58:25.080
<v Speaker 2>they are, are they sticking around?

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<v Speaker 4>We hope so as we can do.

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<v Speaker 2>We would like to invite you too. You are welcome here.

0:58:30.840 --> 0:58:34.120
<v Speaker 5>If you're coming across this organically on YouTube, you're welcome here,

0:58:34.320 --> 0:58:35.959
<v Speaker 5>and we would love it if you would stick around.

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<v Speaker 2>This is a safe culick.

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<v Speaker 4>Subscribe. We promise to give you content that will keep

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<v Speaker 4>you coming back.

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<v Speaker 2>For more, which we're not sure if we did that today,

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<v Speaker 2>but maybe next time. Oh, cry, okay goes, I love this.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh it's good to have supportive friends.

0:58:51.000 --> 0:58:51.240
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:58:51.680 --> 0:58:54.720
<v Speaker 2>Which, yeah, to the one listener asking about friendships, we

0:58:54.800 --> 0:58:56.880
<v Speaker 2>didn't really acknowledge this part, but that is hard and

0:58:57.000 --> 0:58:59.600
<v Speaker 2>especially when everyone's in different seasons of life. But Blake

0:58:59.680 --> 0:59:02.800
<v Speaker 2>does have such good info that if you start following her,

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<v Speaker 2>I promise or somewhere in some episodes or interviews that

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<v Speaker 2>she probably has linked like, she will have addressed that

0:59:08.840 --> 0:59:12.280
<v Speaker 2>topic because she really covers everything about friendship. So good

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<v Speaker 2>luck with that, and yeah, we'll see y'all next time.

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<v Speaker 4>I hope you have the day you need to have.

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<v Speaker 1>Bye. Bye,