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Speaker 1: You feel things.
Speaker 3: This is feeling things with Amy and Cat.
Speaker 2: Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and I'm Kat,
Speaker 2: and We're gonna kick things off with our feeling of
Speaker 2: the day feelings coming from me. And it's actually the
Speaker 2: same feeling twice. Okay, so it's shocked times two.
Speaker 4: Okay, so really shocked.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we shocked by two totally different things. Okay, one
Speaker 2: involving kids and an adult and another involving adults.
Speaker 4: Okay, we hope.
Speaker 2: So the first one is are shocked to be at
Speaker 2: a school recital for children and they're giving their performance.
Speaker 2: All the parents are there to see their kids perform.
Speaker 2: It's already long enough, you.
Speaker 4: Know what I mean, Ye can be pretty long.
Speaker 2: It's pretty long. It's a week nights, gotta get home
Speaker 2: and do dinner and homework and all the things. So
Speaker 2: kids are performing, kids are performing and then what do
Speaker 2: you know, the teacher has a solo.
Speaker 5: I was shocked, Is this what kind of recital?
Speaker 2: It wasn't that the teacher had a solo, like a
Speaker 2: solo with the because it wouldn't be a solo. I
Speaker 2: guess if the kids are involved, what do you mean
Speaker 2: what kind of a it was?
Speaker 5: Is this choir?
Speaker 2: Is this like a grand recital? Yes, there's there's instruments,
Speaker 2: they're singing. I think you have to be involved in something.
Speaker 2: It's like the the arts, the like, you know, like
Speaker 2: every the whole school is involved, your whole performance. Yes,
Speaker 2: it's like it's like everyone has different things they're bringing
Speaker 2: to the evening. And even the teacher had their own solo,
Speaker 2: and I just thought, well, this is adding time.
Speaker 4: Wait what kind of what kind of a solo did
Speaker 4: they have?
Speaker 2: Well, a singing solo and a flute solo.
Speaker 5: So they did a flute and then they were like next,
Speaker 5: I'm going to say, yeah.
Speaker 2: It just was awkward. So is that a feeling awkward?
Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah, feeling awkward.
Speaker 5: So shocked.
Speaker 2: It was awkward, and I just I don't know. I
Speaker 2: don't want to be a hater because it was beautiful.
Speaker 2: I just feel like, as the teacher, it's the kid's
Speaker 2: time to shine, and you lead them and then spare
Speaker 2: the parents, like get us out a few minutes early.
Speaker 5: But can I ask a couple of questions? I just
Speaker 5: have some follow up questions. Okay, to understand.
Speaker 2: I didn't know this is going to be that interesting.
Speaker 2: I just thought i'd be like, I was shocked by this,
Speaker 2: and you'd be like, yeah, that is weird.
Speaker 5: Well it is weird, but I get you know, before
Speaker 5: I judge something, I just kind.
Speaker 2: Of I don't want to judge them. I just was shocked.
Speaker 4: Was this teacher like the choir teacher? Do you know
Speaker 4: what they were? Well, yeah, they were the choir teacher.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like they teach, they put together the whole recital.
Speaker 4: Do you think that they just so they.
Speaker 2: They worked in their performance.
Speaker 4: I wonder if they just like feel left out.
Speaker 2: But they're the teacher, I know.
Speaker 5: But imagine that you're a musician and you can't get
Speaker 5: a gig and.
Speaker 4: They're like, well I can work myself into this, right.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, I feel like that's what happened, and I
Speaker 2: was just shocked, like it is shocking. Does the track
Speaker 2: coach get out there?
Speaker 5: He's like I'm actually gonna do the relay. If you
Speaker 5: don't mind, you're gonna step out today.
Speaker 2: Does the football coach put themselves in?
Speaker 4: No, No they don't.
Speaker 5: Okay, that's a good point, right.
Speaker 4: And was it good?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 5: It was real good.
Speaker 2: They were like it was really good.
Speaker 4: So I'm gonna show you what they could do right there.
Speaker 2: I'm like, the talent was there. It was beautiful. I
Speaker 2: just was shocked, and I think as were all the
Speaker 2: parents sitting around me, because we're just ready for It's
Speaker 2: a lot. It was already a lengthy evening.
Speaker 5: It's shocking, shocking thing.
Speaker 2: Number two, I had never heard of. I forget how
Speaker 2: to say it, Finn Doom. Is that how you say it?
Speaker 4: Know what you're talking about?
Speaker 2: Financial domination? You never heard of this? Oh I'm not
Speaker 2: shocked you ever heard of it, because I'm just now
Speaker 2: learning of it. It popped up in my for you
Speaker 2: page on TikTok, which I'm like, why is this?
Speaker 5: Wait? So when you first say that, say financial domination, Yeah,
Speaker 5: I would think it's about becoming financially independent.
Speaker 2: No domination dom sexual? Well, no, there's no nothing sexual
Speaker 2: about it. Actually, I mean maybe for the giver. They
Speaker 2: like to give the money. Okay, so let me exclin
Speaker 2: I pulled the exact definition. Well, I guess I didn't.
Speaker 2: I thought I did. But it's pretty much where men
Speaker 2: give money to women that just say to them, give
Speaker 2: me money, like they're dominant over their finances, like this
Speaker 2: is how you need to spend your money. And the
Speaker 2: men that are giving it they're known as finn subs
Speaker 2: and pay pigs, and they willingly offer financial support for
Speaker 2: everyday expenses like lunches, nail shoes, and even hair. And
Speaker 2: they like being told by the women what to do
Speaker 2: with their money. So if the woman says, give me
Speaker 2: five hundred dollars right now, they do it.
Speaker 4: This is not people in a relationship.
Speaker 2: No, I think it's a fetish. Okay, findom okay, findam.
Speaker 4: I have not heard about this.
Speaker 2: Oh, but you're not shocked by it.
Speaker 4: I'm not shocked about kat so she needs it. I'm
Speaker 4: not shocked about this.
Speaker 5: I think maybe because in my line of work, I
Speaker 5: hear a lot about the different types of things people do. Oh,
Speaker 5: I guess when you started talking about this, I thought
Speaker 5: it was more like a seeking arrangements thing, And maybe
Speaker 5: that's part of it too. Like men seeking you've heard
Speaker 5: of Seeking Arrangements is a website?
Speaker 2: Oh no, that's a website. Is it's like a only vance.
Speaker 2: It's literally called seeking arrangement arrangement.
Speaker 5: I think they rebranded though, so I don't know what
Speaker 5: it's called now if I don't know if you can
Speaker 5: google seek any arrangements.
Speaker 2: So they needed a rebrand I don't know.
Speaker 5: Well maybe because then people were judging every Okay, I'll
Speaker 5: just tell you what it is. So Seeking Arrangements or
Speaker 5: whatever it's called now, was a website where you could
Speaker 5: go on and you could look for a sugar daddy
Speaker 5: or a sugar mama, or you could be the daddy
Speaker 5: or the mama looking for somebody to treat. And what,
Speaker 5: from my understanding, is that you would create an arrangement
Speaker 5: and it could be whatever you want.
Speaker 4: It didn't have to be sexual.
Speaker 5: It could be like I'm going to pay you three
Speaker 5: hundred dollars to go to dinner with me twice a
Speaker 5: week or I think probably most of the time they
Speaker 5: got more than that. But they had an arrangement, and
Speaker 5: you would have that person and they'd be like, I
Speaker 5: have this concert I want to go to. If you
Speaker 5: come with me, I'll pay you six hundred dollars or
Speaker 5: I'll pay you five hundred dollars to text with me
Speaker 5: three hours a night or.
Speaker 4: Something like that.
Speaker 5: Okay, yeah, but that's not the same thing.
Speaker 4: This is an arrangement.
Speaker 2: Like they're getting paid by simply saying pay me money
Speaker 2: because it's like you're the dominant person over their finances,
Speaker 2: like they want.
Speaker 4: This is genius for the women.
Speaker 2: Yes, because the one woman that showed up on my
Speaker 2: for me page, like she said, look, I like to
Speaker 2: keep my page classy. I'm not trying to do anything,
Speaker 2: you know, with my body. I don't want any women
Speaker 2: to feel like I guess she put together a course
Speaker 2: to teach women how to.
Speaker 5: Do findom and where do you find them?
Speaker 2: Where do I find the people to pay for findom
Speaker 2: dot com? I don't know findom.
Speaker 4: I kind of love this, you do.
Speaker 2: Well, I don't know, Okay, but you're only getting my
Speaker 2: short version of it that I don't know, because like
Speaker 2: what if findom dot com is actually like maybe this
Speaker 2: one particular findom coach is clean, but maybe some of
Speaker 2: the others are subjected to other type of behaviors. So
Speaker 2: I don't know that I want to give it like
Speaker 2: a big old step of approval before we know more.
Speaker 2: I mean, I thought i'd even I even had the
Speaker 2: exact definition for you, and I didn't know that.
Speaker 5: Whatever people want to do, if it's not hurting them
Speaker 5: causing them harm, go for it. Okay. The reason I
Speaker 5: love this is because, first of all, there's already a
Speaker 5: hard enough wage gap with women. So if they can
Speaker 5: just like tell a man to pay the money.
Speaker 2: Right, because you're not even having to give it's not
Speaker 2: like you can do anything. There's no feet picks, there's
Speaker 2: no nothing. No, it's just give me money. You know.
Speaker 2: I didn't take the course, so I don't know.
Speaker 5: Okay, so your homework is to take the course and
Speaker 5: then you're gonna come back and tells how much money
Speaker 5: you make.
Speaker 2: No, but that's how she was scaling her business because
Speaker 2: she is a scam. No, I don't think so, but
Speaker 2: I didn't. I'm not going to sign up for it.
Speaker 2: But she clearly was doing it for herself. And then
Speaker 2: she wanted to coach other women how to do it.
Speaker 2: But now she's making money by charging women to take
Speaker 2: her course.
Speaker 5: Okay, this is the I get. This gets me hot
Speaker 5: when there's like coaches coaching coaches how to coach like,
Speaker 5: I can't know, but.
Speaker 2: You know people are making a lot of money that way.
Speaker 4: Yes, and it's just interesting to me.
Speaker 5: Cryocat from back there said she would sign up for
Speaker 5: the Corseulo Snow, how it goes? Okaydom, and then you
Speaker 5: can come and be a guest and tell us how
Speaker 5: it goes?
Speaker 2: Yeah, and she will also.
Speaker 4: I love that this showed up on your for you page?
Speaker 2: Why is that?
Speaker 4: I wonder what that says about you?
Speaker 2: Should I should I call my boyfriend and say give me.
Speaker 5: Call him like saying, give me five hundred dollars, let
Speaker 5: me go to lunch.
Speaker 2: What happens? Okay, we'll see if he well, it says
Speaker 2: here you can get lunches, nails.
Speaker 1: He sent me the voice?
Speaker 2: What is he busy working?
Speaker 1: Wait?
Speaker 4: Just because you can send him a text?
Speaker 5: What do you get voice?
Speaker 4: Know and say give me five hundred dollars. I need
Speaker 4: a pair of shoes.
Speaker 6: Okay, Hey, cat's gotta get a nail.
Speaker 2: Hey give me give me five hundred dollars.
Speaker 5: Now, I wish I could send one of those to Patrick.
Speaker 2: Why you don't have a pH phone?
Speaker 5: Okay?
Speaker 2: Findom? That's all I got about that?
Speaker 4: All right, and then we'll check back into CUGA a
Speaker 4: text message.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, should I really just send.
Speaker 1: That out a text.
Speaker 2: Speaking of money and spending it, making it, giving it?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Oh yeah.
Speaker 2: I put up this story about influencers and not money influencing,
Speaker 2: and I follow a lot of influencers and I'm very grateful.
Speaker 2: And also other influencers show up in my for me
Speaker 2: or my suggested And I love links. I love clicking links.
Speaker 2: I even post links myself. I have nothing against the links.
Speaker 2: I just trusting people. I'm pro links. I'm pro Hey,
Speaker 2: if you want the link to this, I want to
Speaker 2: help you. I've never been able to be con assistant
Speaker 2: with clothing links, trust me. I wish that maybe one
Speaker 2: day I'll get it figured out and I can be
Speaker 2: because that is lucrative. Yeah, and that's just in all honesty,
Speaker 2: Like some people are making so much bank and I've
Speaker 2: started to wonder if now are we to a point
Speaker 2: where sometimes it's a money grab, Like are they really
Speaker 2: wearing it or did they put it on for the
Speaker 2: Instagram video to be like, Hey, I've already built this
Speaker 2: trust with you. I'm into fashion. You trust me for fashion,
Speaker 2: So now I'm going to sell you this thing. I
Speaker 2: would never be caught dead and in public, but it's
Speaker 2: cute enough for me to post about it on Instagram,
Speaker 2: and I'm going to get you to buy it, and
Speaker 2: now you're going to wear it, and I'm going to
Speaker 2: make money off of it because it's a cheap item
Speaker 2: off of Amazon, and so many of you are going
Speaker 2: to buy it that I'm going to I'm making a
Speaker 2: gazillion dollars. And after this video that I show you
Speaker 2: on Instagram, like, I'm never wearing it again, you know.
Speaker 2: Oh oh, boyfriends calling.
Speaker 4: Me, Okay, you have to answer and we'll come back
Speaker 4: to this Fox.
Speaker 2: He thinks I was abducted. Hello, Hey, well I was
Speaker 2: gonna put you on speaker, but then we're recording a podcast,
Speaker 2: so that seems unfair.
Speaker 4: But did you.
Speaker 2: Get did you get my message?
Speaker 1: Did you know you did it?
Speaker 2: You haven't got my text yet you Okay, hold on,
Speaker 2: we'll just say it with Okay, give me five hundred dollars, no.
Speaker 6: What, okay, give me, give me two hundred dollars, give
Speaker 6: me two hundred dollars now, okay, give me one dollar.
Speaker 2: Right now, no, right now, right now. I can think
Speaker 2: of bad words that I can't say, like, right now
Speaker 2: you you like any blank but right.
Speaker 7: Now you bad bad boy, bad boy, Okay, okay, give
Speaker 7: me ten dollars right now, give me, give me your
Speaker 7: money now transfer to me.
Speaker 2: Okay, No, but I feel like, okay, thank you.
Speaker 7: Okay, bye.
Speaker 5: Guys, Well I have ten dollars. You bad boy? He
Speaker 5: well absolutely he.
Speaker 2: Was my boyfriend. So if that was my audition for Fendom,
Speaker 2: I failed, Like, I don't think that's what they're looking for.
Speaker 2: They're looking for like professionals that can hold it together
Speaker 2: and really demand the money like I I obviously would
Speaker 2: be really bad at that.
Speaker 5: I'm gonna record myself doing this with Patrick later. Okay,
Speaker 5: but it's something more reasonable though, mm hmm.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Fifty I was like okay, bye and it just goes bye.
Speaker 2: He has no questions, no nothing. It's like I get to.
Speaker 5: Go okay, that's good.
Speaker 2: Oh okay. I got to recover from that. Where were
Speaker 2: we we were money talking about giving all of our
Speaker 2: money to influencers, influencing and.
Speaker 5: I can't just ask for it. We have to make
Speaker 5: it right.
Speaker 2: So to be clear, I'm not.
Speaker 5: I'm sorry you think like in subscribe, I just imagine
Speaker 5: it being like no, no, no, no, and then I'm
Speaker 5: like okay, bye, and he's like bye, We'll see if
Speaker 5: I ever see him again.
Speaker 2: Okay, let's see.
Speaker 4: Sorry, Okay, Okay, I'm cool. It's not that funny.
Speaker 2: We're cool, cool, cool, we're cool influencers. Every job to
Speaker 2: do here. Yeah, we have a podcast, so I know
Speaker 2: that I post things. So this isn't me calling out
Speaker 2: anybody specifically. It's just you're curious, and I'm curious about it.
Speaker 2: It's a theory that I've had because I'm buying these
Speaker 2: things from these people and I'm like, are they really
Speaker 2: wearing this or like do they throw it? Like okay,
Speaker 2: it'll be like a cute outfit head to toe, one
Speaker 2: that is like way too expensive. I'm not going to
Speaker 2: probably buy the outfit. But then they'll be like and
Speaker 2: then look at these shoes. I got an Amazon for
Speaker 2: twenty dollars and they are cute and they are twenty
Speaker 2: dollars and they do go with the outfit. But here's
Speaker 2: my thinking. I picture them doing that and then before
Speaker 2: they leave they put on their Prada or they're whatever
Speaker 2: they're putting on. I don't know, but I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 2: maybe they are walking out of the house and they're
Speaker 2: Amazon shoes, which I will buy and wear, Like I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't care. I don't have to have a name
Speaker 2: or anything. But well, when there's a lot of name
Speaker 2: brand stuff happening, I do think there's some that don't care.
Speaker 2: But then I think there's some that they might be
Speaker 2: just putting that on for the quick money grab of
Speaker 2: like I'm going to get so many people to buy
Speaker 2: this right now because it looks so cute, But there's
Speaker 2: no way I'm walking out wearing it.
Speaker 5: I didn't ever think about that. I think you're onto something.
Speaker 5: I also think in this I have no I have
Speaker 5: nothing to base this off of. But one thought I've
Speaker 5: had because I've randomly posted a link to something is
Speaker 5: that I can't afford this life. I can't afford the
Speaker 5: life of linking because of how much stuff you have
Speaker 5: to buy. Well, here's my thought, do you send it
Speaker 5: back after you post it? I think a lot of
Speaker 5: people buy a lot of especially people that do the
Speaker 5: try ons, like here's my Amazon hall and they try
Speaker 5: and the I'm like.
Speaker 4: Oh, it's so cute.
Speaker 1: I love this.
Speaker 5: I love this, I love this, And I'm like, how
Speaker 5: do you have a whole business off of Amazon halls.
Speaker 5: You have to be spending so much money on Amazon.
Speaker 5: I think they try it on they keep one or
Speaker 5: two things and they send the rest back.
Speaker 2: Well they might or they're making so much money that
Speaker 2: it doesn't matter because they are so much you can Yeah. No,
Speaker 2: there's times where I've been really this is full transparency,
Speaker 2: Like I've been good at linking my Amazon maybe and
Speaker 2: you make a lot of money yeah, and I'm like, whoa,
Speaker 2: that was so crazy. Now it's genuinely stuff that I wear,
Speaker 2: I like, or I have products I use. Like it
Speaker 2: could even be like my salad chopper. I love my
Speaker 2: salad chopper. So if I link that and then a
Speaker 2: lot of people get the salad chopper, well I get
Speaker 2: a percentage of everybody gets a salad chopper, because that's why.
Speaker 5: It's why you would Yeah, that's what I mean.
Speaker 2: I would share it anyway, but then also off of it,
Speaker 2: make money off of it. I guess what I'm specifically
Speaker 2: talking about is if they genuinely really like it, great
Speaker 2: link away, and then I'm trusting you and I want
Speaker 2: to know. I don't want to get duped into thinking
Speaker 2: something is cool and cute because I trust your fashion,
Speaker 2: and then you're putting in a box and returning it
Speaker 2: or not wearing it and ditching it and putting on
Speaker 2: your really cute thing. And then now I got it
Speaker 2: and I'm wearing it, and people are like, what are
Speaker 2: those shoes? Those are not cute. But because you're fashion
Speaker 2: forward and I'm trusting you, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 5: Okay, because I'm not.
Speaker 2: The fashion person, like, don't don't follow me for fashion.
Speaker 2: I mean sometimes you kick it's so cute right now,
Speaker 2: thank you you very fashion pause pause.
Speaker 5: Good job. Okay. I want to clarify this because I
Speaker 5: think this is helpful. I think you said this, but
Speaker 5: I just want to reiterate it. You're saying, if that's
Speaker 5: your job and that's your hustle, do it. There's no
Speaker 5: shame in making money from links.
Speaker 4: I do it. It's cool, it's great. Why not do it?
Speaker 5: It's I want to make sure that I'm not buying
Speaker 5: stuff that is ugly.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, here's which I should be able to think
Speaker 2: for myself.
Speaker 4: That's what I was going to say.
Speaker 2: Okay, thank you for pointing out what I'm.
Speaker 4: Not say it yet, though I'm.
Speaker 2: Aware I want to think for myself, but fashion is
Speaker 2: not my thing. And when I'm following someone for their
Speaker 2: fashion inspo, and then I feel like I'm getting duped.
Speaker 2: That's where I'm like, something's off here, Like I don't
Speaker 2: know why, I just I had this theory. And again,
Speaker 2: I've posted clothing links before, but it's people that are
Speaker 2: following me. They're not like, oh my gosh, you need
Speaker 2: to follow Radio Amy right now because she has so
Speaker 2: many cute clothing links. I post a clothing link once
Speaker 2: in a blue moon, and if I'm really on a roll,
Speaker 2: then I do it. But then I'm like, Okay, it's
Speaker 2: just not my it's not type of mind fat, it's
Speaker 2: not my gift to the world. It's not my dad.
Speaker 2: Like I don't really know what I offer on Instagram.
Speaker 2: I think sometimes I struggle with that because having a
Speaker 2: radio career and then social media coming along after a
Speaker 2: radio career, and it's like, then we have to utilize
Speaker 2: these tools when we used to just have to focus
Speaker 2: on radio, and then it was like, okay, now you
Speaker 2: need to focus on Facebook, and now you need to
Speaker 2: focus on Instagram, and just oh my gosh, Twitter used
Speaker 2: to give all to Twitter, and now I don't even
Speaker 2: log into es. Yeah you have Twitter radio Amy. That
Speaker 2: was I mean, Twitter was the og. Like I was
Speaker 2: tweeting way more than I was instagramming, and then I
Speaker 2: was instagramming more than Twitter, and then we were snapchat chatting,
Speaker 2: and then we were tweet my thoughts.
Speaker 5: I want to go back and.
Speaker 2: Fifty characters or less.
Speaker 4: I can't wait to go look at your old Twitter.
Speaker 2: Yeah, my mom had a Twitter. We would tweet.
Speaker 5: That's where pimp and joyweeting.
Speaker 2: Joy got started on Twitter because it's the hashtags.
Speaker 5: Hashtags where the Twitter. But that was where they came from, right, Yeah, Twitter.
Speaker 2: Twitter, Twitter, which is now ex So yeah, this isn't
Speaker 2: a hate thing on that. I guess it's just a
Speaker 2: does anybody else feel this way? Or are my thoughts valid?
Speaker 2: And then who can we trust because there's no way
Speaker 2: to really know. But then some people, you're right, they
Speaker 2: have all these hauls and they may have like their
Speaker 2: body is perfect for it. So then it's like deceiving
Speaker 2: because you think, like, oh my gosh, every single one
Speaker 2: of those outfits is so cute, and then I'm like,
Speaker 2: but are they like this is how I picture in
Speaker 2: my head? They put it on and they look cute
Speaker 2: and they go and they're like, oh my gosh, this
Speaker 2: dress dead wearing it on vacation. I cannot wait. So
Speaker 2: cute fire hot? Yeah? Trust was that one? Well, that's
Speaker 2: what my daughter told me the other day when she
Speaker 2: was helping me get dressed for something. She was like,
Speaker 2: kinda tuck your shirt and like like messy, like you're
Speaker 2: not trying, but you tried, but you're not trying. And
Speaker 2: so she was like, tuck it into your brawl a
Speaker 2: little bit. But I mean, my stomach wasn't showing, but
Speaker 2: it was this messy tuck into the brawl, but it
Speaker 2: looked like it was tucked into the pants. And I
Speaker 2: was like, this feels weird. And she looked at me
Speaker 2: and she goes, you look cute.
Speaker 4: Trust Okay.
Speaker 2: I was like trust dead Trust say hot fire. But
Speaker 2: I guess now I can't remember my thoughts.
Speaker 5: Well, you're imagining what they're they're doing that then and
Speaker 5: then they throw off and they're like this is disgusting.
Speaker 2: Exactly Like I'm like, did did I just buy this
Speaker 2: like blue crochet us off at Amazon? Thinking it's sleigh fire?
Speaker 2: And then you take it off and you're putting it
Speaker 2: back in the Amazon package to ship it back because
Speaker 2: you're there's no way to be caught dead wearing it,
Speaker 2: and you're like, oh, thousand people are gonna buy that,
Speaker 2: and I'm gonna make so much money yea in the
Speaker 2: matter where Like I don't know, I don't want to
Speaker 2: think people are that way, but it's just become so easy.
Speaker 4: Yeah, this is giving that best is disgusting?
Speaker 2: What is that from? Is that Mean Girls?
Speaker 4: That's like one of the most famous lines.
Speaker 2: From Mean Girls.
Speaker 4: I guess I just do you not love that movie?
Speaker 2: I love that movie?
Speaker 5: But I yeah. When she's like I love your vest
Speaker 5: and then she's like that fest is disgusting, She's like,
Speaker 5: expand it from my mom. And then she's like that
Speaker 5: best is disgusting, Like that's literally what the Then that
Speaker 5: influencer sees you in person and she's like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 5: she bought that dress.
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 4: And then she walks away and she's like, oh, what
Speaker 4: a loser.
Speaker 2: Yeah, But then they're like, but I bought a new
Speaker 2: bag with all the money that IGEL earned.
Speaker 5: Okay, I believe there's probably people that do that, and
Speaker 5: they're people that don't. Yeah, and what we really have
Speaker 5: to look at and this isn't like a fun funny
Speaker 5: answer is if we like something, are we buying it
Speaker 5: just because this influencer said it was cool or they
Speaker 5: said it was cool and we like it.
Speaker 4: I know it's hard.
Speaker 2: Because I can differentiate if I really like it or
Speaker 2: not because I trust. I like having their like when
Speaker 2: I get ready. I love having my friends say like, yes,
Speaker 2: that's cute. I like validation okay, which that's something my
Speaker 2: therapist was having me work on. I forgot years ago
Speaker 2: to go to my closet, get dressed and not ask
Speaker 2: a single person their thoughts about my outfit. But getting
Speaker 2: dressed was hard for me. But remember I told you
Speaker 2: my mantra, I get dressed with these.
Speaker 4: It looks like you got dressed with these today. I
Speaker 4: don't know if you did.
Speaker 2: I just put on a white tank top, black jeans,
Speaker 2: and a denim jacket.
Speaker 4: And cool shoes.
Speaker 2: And you're wearing a denim jacket and a tank top truss.
Speaker 5: No I'm not wearing I'm wearing a potato sack right
Speaker 5: now you can't see it, but a black tank top. Well,
Speaker 5: and then I have this like potato sack jumper on. Oh,
Speaker 5: I got dressed with these link it, I think you
Speaker 5: have something. You know you have something there, So I.
Speaker 2: Think it's really not an important question, though it is
Speaker 2: an important question, just like I wish people could just
Speaker 2: give a disclaimer, like.
Speaker 5: I really hate this, but I want you to buy their.
Speaker 2: Business thanks for funding my lifestyle.
Speaker 5: Suckers know what they should do. They should have to
Speaker 5: post what they bought with the money that they made
Speaker 5: from each item that they.
Speaker 2: But that would be like we would have to post
Speaker 2: what we buy for people. I know our podcast, but
Speaker 2: also our podcast is free for listeners. Do you see
Speaker 2: the difference. Our podcast is free for listeners. We have
Speaker 2: advertisers that pay to advertise on our podcast so that
Speaker 2: we can give something for free. People are not paying
Speaker 2: for our content, so our money isn't actually coming from them,
Speaker 2: It's coming from our advertisers.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 5: You know, this is the whole influencer debate that could
Speaker 5: Tailor's old as time where it is so helpful and
Speaker 5: I'm so grateful to have easy access to people that
Speaker 5: can give you recommendations, whether it's clothes or design or
Speaker 5: food or like anything. At the same time, people always
Speaker 5: find a way to abuse and manipulate, you know.
Speaker 4: So it's like we have to just be mindful.
Speaker 2: But what I am proud a sucker.
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 5: I'm proud of you though, because I feel like your
Speaker 5: scam meter is on. And that's why you're asking yourself
Speaker 5: that question, because you're like, I don't want to be
Speaker 5: scammed anymore. I want to be able to think for myself.
Speaker 5: And that's where this maybe is coming from.
Speaker 4: This is growth.
Speaker 2: Well, I just want authenticity, yeah, because you're sick of
Speaker 2: getting scammed, right, Yeah, I want that too.
Speaker 4: That's why I get so angry when I see things
Speaker 4: that I'm like, that's not well.
Speaker 2: And that's why I mean, I I don't think we
Speaker 2: all need to be transparent about every single thing and
Speaker 2: walk around with like I mean, some stuff can be
Speaker 2: kept private, but I don't mind saying like, yes, when
Speaker 2: we post links, that's.
Speaker 4: You make money.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, like and in some parts of me because
Speaker 2: it's not my main job, which some people it is
Speaker 2: their main bread and butter and I and I'm sure
Speaker 2: they do it and they do it well, and they
Speaker 2: do it with integrity and they are authentic, so that's great.
Speaker 4: I guess you gotta look out.
Speaker 2: I just want to figure it out and I'm not
Speaker 2: slamming it because I've done it, but I've done it
Speaker 2: with things I actually use.
Speaker 5: But you're saying I want authenticity. There's a difference between
Speaker 5: being transparent and having authenticity. We don't have to be
Speaker 5: transparent to be authentic, thank you. So you're just saying
Speaker 5: you don't have to tell me every detail, like you
Speaker 5: don't really have to post what you bought with the
Speaker 5: money that you made.
Speaker 2: But you were saying that I.
Speaker 4: Went a little too far.
Speaker 2: I went an itemized report of your last vacation that
Speaker 2: we funded.
Speaker 5: Everything you ate and drank and bought all that. But yeah,
Speaker 5: we just want to know. We want to be able
Speaker 5: to trust you. And the sad thing is I that's
Speaker 5: not probably never gonna happen.
Speaker 2: Yeah, in any brands I've worked with in the past,
Speaker 2: or on social or wherever like, and also even in radio,
Speaker 2: there's a difference in voicing and endorsing, Like sometimes I'll
Speaker 2: lend my voice to something, but you won't hear in
Speaker 2: the spot maybe that I I I I, because that
Speaker 2: would be a personal endorsement of like my personal experience
Speaker 2: if you've finished that sentence, like I D D DA.
Speaker 2: But sometimes this is less of a payment to the business.
Speaker 2: This a little behind the curtain, but they won't have
Speaker 2: to pay as much. But we lend our voices because
Speaker 2: we're the personalities. So just be like, Okay, that would
Speaker 2: be my voice, but I'm gonna voice it exactly however
Speaker 2: you say and not give a personal experience. But it
Speaker 2: still has to be somewhat in alignment, like I'm not
Speaker 2: going to do something. There's things I pass on all
Speaker 2: the time, and there's other things that I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 2: that's totally fine. I can do that because I will
Speaker 2: eat that or I have eaten that, and I can't
Speaker 2: do that. Yeah, And I don't know. Sometimes I feel
Speaker 2: like people think they also know us and they're like, well,
Speaker 2: that doesn't feel in alignment with you, and it's like,
Speaker 2: well you don't. You don't know us at every level.
Speaker 2: But anyway, sometimes we're just lending our voice and sometimes
Speaker 2: we're lending an endorsement, and those are two very different
Speaker 2: types of payment scales or whatever. So anyway, that is
Speaker 2: a time for commercial break. Just kidding. We maybe just
Speaker 2: got out of it. I don't know where Houston's gonna
Speaker 2: put it, but I do have some questions that we
Speaker 2: got from Instagram a little question box that I put
Speaker 2: up and then people sent their questions. One of the
Speaker 2: first ones that came in was makeup links, yes please,
Speaker 2: So then I was laughing. I was like, I don't
Speaker 2: have any makeup links, but.
Speaker 5: And you will make money if you post the link,
Speaker 5: but you will use these products.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know if I'll post the links because
Speaker 2: I've had these products for a week now. I'm just
Speaker 2: saying that's not my Like some people the minute they
Speaker 2: get it because this is their job, like influencing online.
Speaker 2: So they're like, just went to Sephora. Here's my Sephora hall,
Speaker 2: which is great. I'm grateful for that because I will
Speaker 2: click on it and I will buy it because.
Speaker 5: But you want them to try it first, that's what
Speaker 5: you're saying. I don't know if I'm going to link
Speaker 5: this because I haven't tried it yet.
Speaker 2: Yes, I do like it though, Okay, I but all
Speaker 2: of Selena Gomez is makeup, rare wait, rare, rare beauty, rare.
Speaker 5: Beauty, not to be confused with road that is Bieber
Speaker 5: Haley Beber.
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, what did you get? You said all of
Speaker 4: is that what you got?
Speaker 2: The contour.
Speaker 5: Something is that stick.
Speaker 2: It's like a little sponge on a tip and you
Speaker 2: go dot dot.
Speaker 4: Oh that sounds fun.
Speaker 2: And then I got the Blushka and then I got
Speaker 2: concealer okay, and I got powder okay. I needed all
Speaker 2: new makeup like I needed a.
Speaker 4: Fresh you think, like fun and crazy, like an eyeshadow.
Speaker 2: I didn't get an eyeshadow. I have my Charlotte Tillberry
Speaker 2: is that how you say it? Eyeshadow from a few
Speaker 2: years ago that I still really like because I feel
Speaker 2: like eyeshadow doesn't really expire. But some of my other
Speaker 2: makeup from I had Charlotte Tillberry before. This is what
Speaker 2: I replaced with.
Speaker 4: Oh, Selena, you're trading it in.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it was time. I was like, how long
Speaker 2: does this stuff? Because it had been yours. What else
Speaker 2: did I get? I got a lip gloss from Selena
Speaker 2: all Selena?
Speaker 4: Is that what you have on your face now?
Speaker 2: So if you like it, I'll link it, just kidding.
Speaker 2: I don't even have links. But you can go to
Speaker 2: And that's the thing with makeup is maybe if you
Speaker 2: can go to the store and like try it on
Speaker 2: yourself and then see what works and what you like,
Speaker 2: because what looks good on me, may not look good
Speaker 2: on you.
Speaker 4: True.
Speaker 2: Thanks, I don't a T shirt.
Speaker 5: That should be the disclaimer on the influencer's thing when
Speaker 5: they're like sligh fire, this looks so cute, and at
Speaker 5: the bottom they say, what looks good on me might
Speaker 5: not look good on you.
Speaker 2: Bye with pation. So good luck. You're gonna order this
Speaker 2: and you're gonna get it in. It's probably to look
Speaker 2: like so gross on you, but then you're gonna be
Speaker 2: like ugh returning it is such a process. So you're
Speaker 2: gonna keep it, and I'm gonna keep your money.
Speaker 1: Thank you.
Speaker 5: Okay, more question.
Speaker 2: We got multiple like questions about our friendship, like how
Speaker 2: did you encap meet or how did you two become friends?
Speaker 4: That's a fun story.
Speaker 1: Go for it.
Speaker 5: Do you want me to I get to tell it?
Speaker 5: What do you mean you get to back in?
Speaker 4: Well, I don't know.
Speaker 5: We can popcorn it or donn popcorn itay? Can you
Speaker 5: tell it back in twenty twenty? Right, yeah, twenty twenty.
Speaker 5: You were doing a.
Speaker 2: You maybe emailed me in twenty nineteen though.
Speaker 5: It was twenty it was twenty twenty. Because I know
Speaker 5: where I was. I was in a coffee shop in Chicago.
Speaker 2: But it was January.
Speaker 4: It was February.
Speaker 2: Okay, it was February.
Speaker 4: I only know this for a specific reason.
Speaker 5: So you were doing Outweigh and I guess you were
Speaker 5: talking about it maybe on your podcast that you were
Speaker 5: going to be doing it. Okay, one of my friends
Speaker 5: moms listens to your podcast. You were talking about doing
Speaker 5: an eating disorder podcast. My friend's mom, shout out pie said,
Speaker 5: tell Catherine to email Amy to see I don't know
Speaker 5: if she wants to be on this podcast or whatever.
Speaker 5: And I was like, she would never respond to my email.
Speaker 5: In my head, you don't read emails. But I didn't
Speaker 5: listen to your podcast, and I didn't know that you
Speaker 5: had like the interaction that you do with the people, So.
Speaker 4: I was like, not going to do it.
Speaker 5: But I went on a trip to Chicago with my
Speaker 5: friend Hannah and she had to leave for over twenty
Speaker 5: four hours, so I had twenty four hours by myself
Speaker 5: in Chicago, and I was like, oh, I guess I'll
Speaker 5: pretend to work in.
Speaker 4: A coffee shop in Chicago.
Speaker 5: So I went and I had a latte that had
Speaker 5: glitter in it and banana toast. Do you like all
Speaker 5: the details of love the details, and I was like,
Speaker 5: I guess. So this was before chat GBT too, so
Speaker 5: I wonder how good the email was. So I emailed
Speaker 5: you and then I was like, okay, I'll probably never
Speaker 5: hear from her, And the next day you emailed me.
Speaker 5: I think it was really the next day. So then
Speaker 5: I came and I did outweigh, and I remember us
Speaker 5: not really knowing what we were going to talk about,
Speaker 5: and ME being like, Okay, I have an idea, let's
Speaker 5: just talk about this.
Speaker 4: And then it was really with Lisa. Yeah, with Lisa.
Speaker 2: Lisa's who I started out weigh with, Lisa Haym. She
Speaker 2: flew in from New York, and I'm surprised, honestly she
Speaker 2: got back. She flew out right before the tornado then
Speaker 2: hit my neighborhood in East Nashville, and then COVID hit
Speaker 2: right after that. So when she flew back to New York,
Speaker 2: COVID was already getting a little weird there. It wasn't
Speaker 2: weird in Nashville yet, but New York, she said, was
Speaker 2: starting to get a little eerie.
Speaker 4: But two weeks after that it got weird.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Here, I also just want to say that is not
Speaker 5: like me to do that. I do not like doing
Speaker 5: things by myself. I mean, you know this, I get nervous,
Speaker 5: so I'm like, what was twenty twenty Catherine thinking it.
Speaker 2: Was meant to be?
Speaker 5: And I walked in there being like, oh no, I
Speaker 5: don't know anything about how these things work.
Speaker 4: I didn't know how you were going to edit it.
Speaker 4: I was nervous.
Speaker 5: So luckily it worked out and I feel like the
Speaker 5: I mean, the episode was really good. I remember us
Speaker 5: all like having like a little moment and tearing up
Speaker 5: for a second, and then in my head, I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 5: I'll never see this girl again.
Speaker 2: When you and Lisa kept in touch, you on social
Speaker 2: media and then we went to New York and we
Speaker 2: met up with her like two or three years later,
Speaker 2: maybe that was twenty twenty one or something now twenty two. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: so a couple years later we went to New York
Speaker 2: and hang out with her, and so that's that's been
Speaker 2: a fun.
Speaker 5: So we met through email thing to look back on.
Speaker 2: Yeah, just you never know.
Speaker 5: And you were so nice. That's so I will say.
Speaker 5: I remember you being I didn't know what to expect.
Speaker 5: This isn't judgmental. I just thought in my head I'm like,
Speaker 5: I'm some nobody coming in here like that. You don't
Speaker 5: even have a reason to even listen to me. You
Speaker 5: were so nice, and I remember you gave me the
Speaker 5: biggest hug at the end. Oh yeah, And I remember
Speaker 5: what you were wearing. What was I wearing?
Speaker 4: I don't.
Speaker 5: I was wearing a yellow long sleeve kind of like
Speaker 5: cut off baggy T shirt. You were wearing some like
Speaker 5: crocheted cream top.
Speaker 2: Oh, I remember that now. I think you were wearing
Speaker 2: that if that's what I was wearing. Okay, I had
Speaker 2: crocheted flowers on it, because now I remember Lisa and
Speaker 2: I being at my house later and that's what I
Speaker 2: was wearing, because I have a picture of us. Good memory. Wow,
Speaker 2: yellow like your nails.
Speaker 4: Why did you bring that up?
Speaker 5: Because your nails are so yellow. Speaking of feelings, I'm
Speaker 5: feeling disgusted by my nails. Okay, they were so cute
Speaker 5: like two days ago, and I took all the nail
Speaker 5: polish off and then I thought that this was gonna
Speaker 5: be cute. And it looks like highlighters. If you can't
Speaker 5: see it, yeah, that says we can see.
Speaker 2: It's it's worse than a highlighter.
Speaker 5: Oh. My that's what you said. When I texted you.
Speaker 5: I thought you were going to like reassure me and
Speaker 5: be like, no, oh, wasn't that bad. I texted you
Speaker 5: as I'm doing it, I'm like, oh, this was the
Speaker 5: biggest mistake. And I sent you a picture of it,
Speaker 5: thinking that you'd be like, oh, don't worry about it.
Speaker 5: They look good, and you said, oh, that's worse than
Speaker 5: you said. You said, that's worse than a highlighter.
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, because we can affirm each other all day long,
Speaker 2: but the color of your nails. You don't need my affirmation.
Speaker 2: You need my honesty. Yeah, yeah, like if it was
Speaker 2: actually something that you couldn't change or help, but this
Speaker 2: is a nail color.
Speaker 4: Don't lie to me, I know.
Speaker 5: And also also I appreciate because I didn't like it,
Speaker 5: so I didn't need you to like if I loved it,
Speaker 5: and I'm like, I love this nail color so much
Speaker 5: and it's so beautiful, isn't it.
Speaker 4: You don't really have to give an opinion.
Speaker 2: Right, I'd be like, oh, good job, But.
Speaker 4: If you're a job.
Speaker 5: If I hated it, and then you know it's ugly
Speaker 5: and you're like, don't worry about it.
Speaker 2: No, help me out right remove that.
Speaker 4: It'll be removed to myrow.
Speaker 2: This is days later.
Speaker 5: Are you still on?
Speaker 4: It takes me three hours to do my nails.
Speaker 2: Okay, because that's like Jill, it's Joe. Yeah. Kat does
Speaker 2: her own nails. She has a nail salon in her kitchen.
Speaker 4: Yes, I do.
Speaker 2: I knew you wanted to come mine and come meet
Speaker 2: You're like, never mind, you want me to come over
Speaker 2: and get mine done, but maybe I will, Okay. So
Speaker 2: that is how we know each other. That's our origin
Speaker 2: story and we were fast friends after that, and our
Speaker 2: friendship really has been easy. And I why'd you make
Speaker 2: that face?
Speaker 5: Sorry?
Speaker 4: That face was like, oh that was nice.
Speaker 2: Sorry, Oh okay, tell y'all. Kat just made some face
Speaker 2: that made me think, like, don't lie.
Speaker 5: Well it was.
Speaker 4: It's We've had some kerfuffles in the last.
Speaker 2: Couple of weeks, but that's work stuff.
Speaker 4: But I think also the kerfuffles have been easy.
Speaker 2: The kurfuffles are when you did I say that wrong?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 5: Should we tell them the new thing that we came
Speaker 5: up with the other day where you came up with it?
Speaker 2: Sib sib. Yeah, you can tell them in a minute.
Speaker 4: Okay, don't forget.
Speaker 5: Okay, It's like you.
Speaker 2: Have ADHD and you tell your other friend with ADHD
Speaker 2: to remember something.
Speaker 5: Hopefully we'll come back to it.
Speaker 2: Hey, we'll circle back, Okay five years later. Hey, remember
Speaker 2: we were going to talk about that thing. Okay, so
Speaker 2: we'll get to SIB.
Speaker 4: But what was it you were saying that our relationship
Speaker 4: was easy? Okay?
Speaker 2: Yeah, but the kerfuffles.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: The kerfuffles, I think are that when you have a friendship,
Speaker 2: anytime you change the dynamic and like say, you start
Speaker 2: working together. I think some of that was me figuring
Speaker 2: out how how to work with you and you figuring
Speaker 2: out how to work with me. I don't think they
Speaker 2: were real things. They were just kinks, Like.
Speaker 4: They weren't like friendship things.
Speaker 2: No, like it wasn't gonna ruin. But I think we
Speaker 2: handled it in a way that showed us that, oh wow,
Speaker 2: we have a very mature friendship and working relationship, and
Speaker 2: we are determined to not let our friendship get ruined
Speaker 2: by any work stuff because that happens a lot, and
Speaker 2: I think neither one of us want that, So we're
Speaker 2: being very intentional. So the kirkfuffles are normal. Are normal,
Speaker 2: sib is Kat. You can say it about yourself, but
Speaker 2: if you want me to say I'll say it. But
Speaker 2: she's been a little in a mood, you can say it, Okay,
Speaker 2: she's been snappy.
Speaker 5: She's been snappy to everybody, not just well, actually, I
Speaker 5: think it's just you and my husband, the people you're
Speaker 5: closest to.
Speaker 2: Huh you were You have people other people that you're
Speaker 2: close to you, but you're probably talking to.
Speaker 4: Us the most.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so you want to explain, Yeah, I was just
Speaker 5: having a snappy day and then you.
Speaker 2: I think it was already snappy a few days.
Speaker 4: Like, I'm gonna keep you honest. I've been having a
Speaker 4: snappy month, honestly, and.
Speaker 5: Now it's a month twenty twenty five. It's been snappy
Speaker 5: for me. And I think I was already talking to
Speaker 5: you that morning about my just mood. And then you
Speaker 5: text started texting me things and I think you were
Speaker 5: at work, so you were texting short things like just right,
Speaker 5: like here fire.
Speaker 2: I find stuff off, especially when I'm at work, like
Speaker 2: if I have a quick commercial break, I might be
Speaker 2: like here cat ping ping ping, pink peek and then
Speaker 2: you're like.
Speaker 4: Wait what, And so I was trying.
Speaker 5: I knew I was being snappy in my head, so
Speaker 5: I was like, Catherine, don't be snappy. How do you
Speaker 5: say this in a non snappy way? But I think
Speaker 5: it still came off snappy. So then I had to
Speaker 5: send you a text that said I'm sending this in
Speaker 5: a kind tone. I don't know if you can tell.
Speaker 5: And then you said a really nice voice. Then we
Speaker 5: started voice memming that was much better, and you were like, no,
Speaker 5: it's fine, blah blah blah, I get it. And then
Speaker 5: you explained yourself, and then I explained myself, and then
Speaker 5: you said, we need a word that if we're ever
Speaker 5: feeling like we're coming off wrong, we can say sorry.
Speaker 4: I sib well.
Speaker 2: I think I was playing off of WTW and how
Speaker 2: powerful that is, like wait to Worry, which we talked
Speaker 2: about recently. But it's just like when you can just
Speaker 2: say WTW to yourself or somebody else, it's like hey boom.
Speaker 2: When you both are in the know of what that means,
Speaker 2: it's like huh, it's like exhale WTW. And so we
Speaker 2: had just got done talking about that a little bit
Speaker 2: and how we love WTW. So I was like, we
Speaker 2: need something for this because I'm perimid apousal. You have
Speaker 2: other hormone situations stuff happening, and we need an acronym
Speaker 2: that can just like sort of shut.
Speaker 1: It in the bud.
Speaker 2: Yeah, nip it in the bud, shut it down, just
Speaker 2: regulate it. Help.
Speaker 5: Just do you watch New Girl? No, I have before
Speaker 5: watch this New Girl. If you listen to New Girl,
Speaker 5: you said shut it down. In my head, all I
Speaker 5: can think is shut it down.
Speaker 4: Okay, so shut it shut it down.
Speaker 5: We could also do that. Shutut it down. They're talking
Speaker 5: about workplace romantic oh engagements.
Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, shut if somebody comes up to you.
Speaker 5: And is trying to engage in you in a sexual
Speaker 5: encounter at school, shut it down.
Speaker 4: But we can use that for oursels.
Speaker 2: Okay, so we have we use I shut it SID,
Speaker 2: shut it down SID. But we have s I b
Speaker 2: which is they said, said, what is SIB?
Speaker 5: Sorry?
Speaker 2: I oh oh yeah, And it's not even grammatically correct,
Speaker 2: so that way, it's also a little bit funny because
Speaker 2: it's SIB and so it's sorry I bitch.
Speaker 1: Say.
Speaker 5: Because then I was like, can we say that word?
Speaker 2: I think you can, but we typically don't don't cuss
Speaker 2: on our podcast. But ear mops, sorry, I okay, we're
Speaker 2: going to say the word, and you've got little kids
Speaker 2: in the car, turn it down.
Speaker 5: But that's if your kids in the car, shut it down.
Speaker 5: Shut it down.
Speaker 2: So anytime we're acting that way and we know it
Speaker 2: and we want to apologize for it, but we want
Speaker 2: to warn the other person, we just go SIB and
Speaker 2: it means sorry, I bitchy.
Speaker 5: I love the way he said, sorry I bitchy.
Speaker 4: But okay, that's gonna be so helpful for SIB.
Speaker 2: And that's just like have it with your girlfriends, have
Speaker 2: it with your partner. Like you can even do that
Speaker 2: with Patrick, and you can just tell Patrick SIB.
Speaker 4: And you don't have to explain it. Yeah, you automatically know, like, oh.
Speaker 2: Then Patrick can be like, I'm gonna wtw whether or
Speaker 2: not I'm still gonna be married to you, he said
Speaker 2: the other day. I'm gonna wait to worry.
Speaker 5: I snapped at him fifteen times in a row, like
Speaker 5: over stupid things. At one point, I go, stop chewing
Speaker 5: your gum, like I was, Oh.
Speaker 2: That's literally what you're supposed to do with gum.
Speaker 1: Chew it.
Speaker 5: He was streting it so loud, and then I was
Speaker 5: like anyway, I just looked at him and he just
Speaker 5: was like, I love you. And then I was like,
Speaker 5: sib ari, id g I.
Speaker 4: Needed that back then. Oh I felt so bad. He's
Speaker 4: so nice. Yeah, any more questions?
Speaker 2: Yeah, how to attract quality adult friendships when everyone is
Speaker 2: in a different stage of life? How to attract quality
Speaker 2: adult friendships when everyone is in a different stage of life?
Speaker 4: Can I shout somebody else out to answer this?
Speaker 2: Absolutely?
Speaker 5: So there?
Speaker 2: But also you don't have to ask that. Well, I
Speaker 2: remember this is one of those things. This is part
Speaker 2: of ALE that we had at the beginning. It's like
Speaker 2: this is our podcast now. I think when you're on
Speaker 2: fifth thing, which I never wanted you to ask anyway,
Speaker 2: I'm like, nobody has to ask permission, But sometimes you
Speaker 2: still do that, and then it makes me feel uncomfortable
Speaker 2: because I'm like, I don't want people to think that, like.
Speaker 5: You have to ask you wait.
Speaker 4: But I have a reason why I do that.
Speaker 5: I'm used to at work always asking permission to do anything.
Speaker 5: Oh so clients so, and I think I carry that
Speaker 5: out with like friends and with different relationships. Is before
Speaker 5: I give advice or say something or change something, I'll say,
Speaker 5: like do you mind or are you open to or
Speaker 5: can I be?
Speaker 4: I'm just used. I've trained myself to do that, so
Speaker 4: I don't even think.
Speaker 2: I now, yeah, but this okay, but this is something, Yeah,
Speaker 2: I need to work obviously your conditioned for it, because
Speaker 2: this is like they're asking how do you attract quality friendships?
Speaker 2: And then you're like, can I shout somebody out because
Speaker 2: not even like you're asking permission to like give a
Speaker 2: thought about some deep feeling that I have that might
Speaker 2: impact me, you know, like, because that's respectful to be like, hey,
Speaker 2: do you mind if I share this with you? Or
Speaker 2: can I tell you my thoughts?
Speaker 4: Say it again? And I'm gonna practice.
Speaker 2: Practice pause pause, pause, post pause past. If someone is
Speaker 2: listening to our podcast for the first time today ever, yeah,
Speaker 2: it's like, because give me five hundred dollars. We have
Speaker 2: inside jokes like puz pu pos pause, pus pause, shut
Speaker 2: it down. That's a new one though, how to attract
Speaker 2: quality adult friendships when everyone is in different stages of life.
Speaker 4: Okay, I'm going to shout somebody.
Speaker 5: I can't even say it seriously, but I was doing
Speaker 5: a good job. I want to shout somebody else out
Speaker 5: for this because There is a therapist, a licensed therapist
Speaker 5: who lives in South Carolina. She's moved a couple times.
Speaker 5: I think it's South Carolina now. It's a detail that
Speaker 5: doesn't it doesn't matter, but my brain needs to say it.
Speaker 2: But I appreciate.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Her name is Blake, Blake and Beckler.
Speaker 4: Her name is very hard to say, so pat on
Speaker 4: my shoulder.
Speaker 2: I've been reviewed before. She's great. She oft too write.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 5: I used to work with her too, way back in
Speaker 5: the day. And she is a expert on friendship. She
Speaker 5: even has a little card deck called the Friendship Deck
Speaker 5: that's really cool she created that you can buy for
Speaker 5: developing your friendships. But she gives so much good, free
Speaker 5: information and content on her instagram. So if you want
Speaker 5: more information about French chips, head to her instagram. I
Speaker 5: think it's at Blake Bluckin' bad. I'll look it up
Speaker 5: like I'm sorry if you're listening, but we can link
Speaker 5: her handle in the show notes, so you guys can
Speaker 5: just click on it.
Speaker 4: Perfect because you're not gonna know how to spell it anyway,
Speaker 4: no question.
Speaker 2: But your hair looks pretty today. See what I did there.
Speaker 2: That's one of our listeners being hilarious and funny and
Speaker 2: complimentary and making us practice going thank you past paus,
Speaker 2: pause post paus.
Speaker 4: You don't have to say the pause out loud, but
Speaker 4: it's fun.
Speaker 2: Well when I did, because I put up this video
Speaker 2: with a question box on Instagram, and I guess she's saying,
Speaker 2: next to my hair is in a ponytail today, I've
Speaker 2: told you so many times today I love your hair
Speaker 2: like the ponytail. It's so thank you, pus pus pu
Speaker 2: pu pus. And then our our friend Katie Gustafson. Yeah,
Speaker 2: she left a little comment to saying no question, just
Speaker 2: so grateful for these soulful and fun conversations. So those
Speaker 2: are just some of the ones that I pulled. She's awesome, Yeah,
Speaker 2: she's She's great.
Speaker 4: Ania Graham, if you need any Aneagraham content, I did.
Speaker 2: That's Instagram.
Speaker 5: I did her.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to look up Blake's account, but Katie's. I
Speaker 2: did her workshop with Ali Fallon once and it was
Speaker 2: so good, like so good. It's just at Blake, Blake
Speaker 2: and Beckler.
Speaker 5: You were right, Blake and Beckler, Blake and Katie Guston's
Speaker 5: last name is hard to yes. When I interviewed her,
Speaker 5: on you need therapy. Before we started, I said, can
Speaker 5: we practice say in your name a couple of times
Speaker 5: because I want to introduce you as your full name?
Speaker 5: And I think we spent a good five minutes practicing it.
Speaker 5: God bless her for not being mad at me.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I just realized too. I had my lip gloss
Speaker 2: in my lap this whole time, and we were talking
Speaker 2: about this is not Selena Gomez though, what is it?
Speaker 2: This is the Lenage? Oh oh, I love and I
Speaker 2: bought the dupes before it was Lenage and they're not
Speaker 2: as good, but you have the dupe of the Dire
Speaker 2: and it is good.
Speaker 4: Well kind of. I have the Door and then I
Speaker 4: have the lip oil. No, I have their lip plumper.
Speaker 2: Oh, best lipgloss I've ever had from Dire.
Speaker 5: Yes, it was just like expensive and I lost it
Speaker 5: and I said I don't deserve to buy another one
Speaker 5: because I lost it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but it was amazing.
Speaker 5: If anybody ever wants to buy me a gift, you
Speaker 5: can send me the Door lip plumper.
Speaker 2: Thank you. Well, maybe if you link it you could
Speaker 2: afford to by it.
Speaker 5: Or wait, I'm going to text Patrick later and say,
Speaker 5: buy me the Dore lip plumper now.
Speaker 4: Two of them, and I went different colors.
Speaker 5: Also, I've never tried the lip oil.
Speaker 2: Add that too, because I keep having to buy the
Speaker 2: ELF one, which is the seven dollars mixer seven dollars one.
Speaker 1: Bye, I know.
Speaker 5: I resorted to buying the one on Amazon, which was
Speaker 5: four fifty. Oh, so I bought the ELF because it
Speaker 5: was a dollar fifty more. Well, so the ELF one
Speaker 5: is the one with color that you bottom mine that
Speaker 5: you love. Huh, that one's great. I think rose Envy
Speaker 5: was the color. And then I bought on Amazon the
Speaker 5: fake but it's not an oil.
Speaker 4: Why are you laughing?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I'm just picturing you yelling that at Patrick.
Speaker 4: You know what he would say is you would probably
Speaker 4: say by yourself.
Speaker 2: Probably, I mean, but are you My boyfriend's just like no, no,
Speaker 2: But I mean I wasn't asking for a lip gloss.
Speaker 2: But I think even if I said buy me this
Speaker 2: lip gloss now, he would just be like no, no.
Speaker 4: But maybe he.
Speaker 5: Would say by yourself, because he's like, well, your money
Speaker 5: is my money, so just buy it.
Speaker 4: But it's not the same. I want him to wipe
Speaker 4: his card, like when we go to dinner and he
Speaker 4: uses his credit card. I'm like, that was free.
Speaker 2: That's y'all have joined account Well not yet?
Speaker 5: Wait what because we haven't changed my last name yet.
Speaker 5: So I'm like, I don't want to go through because
Speaker 5: do you want to know why?
Speaker 2: Oh? I know, it's a process.
Speaker 4: It's a process. And last year his dad told me
Speaker 4: his dad does my taxis. His dad is a tax accountant.
Speaker 5: Very nice for me. He said, wait until you do
Speaker 5: your taxi before you change your last name. But then
Speaker 5: we had a couple out of the country trips. I
Speaker 5: don't want to pay for a new passport, so then
Speaker 5: new TAXIIR comes around. He goes, well, don't change you
Speaker 5: name till I do your taxes. Well, haven't done my
Speaker 5: taxies yet, but we got an extension.
Speaker 2: I'm not like you wqw on that wait to worry on?
Speaker 4: Oh yeah yeah that, so wait to where I want
Speaker 4: to do my taxes?
Speaker 2: Yeah, change your name.
Speaker 5: Oh well, so now we haven't joined our bank accounts
Speaker 5: because I don't want to have to join them and
Speaker 5: then go back to the bank again and change my
Speaker 5: name again.
Speaker 2: Okay, So now when you go out to eat and
Speaker 2: he pays, you're like free.
Speaker 4: It's free, even though it's technically our money.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but do you know like how much he is
Speaker 2: in there?
Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, you do.
Speaker 2: Oh, I know. There's full transparency, So that would be
Speaker 2: hard for me to be in a relationship. Lunchbox and
Speaker 2: his wife don't. I don't even know that. They talk
Speaker 2: about it. They have separate accounts, and he says she
Speaker 2: doesn't know what he makes and whatnot. Who knows her
Speaker 2: way mm hmm, oh, I know what he makes.
Speaker 5: And also we have joint investment accounts. We just have
Speaker 5: separate like checking accounts. And two we have separate credit cards.
Speaker 5: He doesn't know it's on my credit card though, so you.
Speaker 2: Can buy whatever you want and it's not like he's like, hey.
Speaker 5: But part of the reason I want to keep that
Speaker 5: is because when we buy gifts for each other, it
Speaker 5: feels like one I want to be able to hide
Speaker 5: it too.
Speaker 4: It's like, I do want you to buy a gift
Speaker 4: with my credit card. Yeah, it's a mind game. It's
Speaker 4: a mind game. No, I get that I'm feeling judgment
Speaker 4: from you.
Speaker 5: No, okay, No, I'm.
Speaker 2: Over here just thinking about what you wonder what I'm
Speaker 2: gonna do. Yeah, I'm sorry I was paying attention to you,
Speaker 2: but my face was probably.
Speaker 5: Like SYD you, but I was thinking about myself, as
Speaker 5: many people with ADHD often do.
Speaker 2: I guess I'm just trying to like, I'm thinking about
Speaker 2: what you're saying and how y'all do it, and then
Speaker 2: thinking about how I did it in my marriage where
Speaker 2: I wasn't involved in anything, but now I'm going to be.
Speaker 2: And then I'm thinking about how Lunchbox does it. And
Speaker 2: then I'm like, how are we really going to do it?
Speaker 2: Because we already have these established lives. Yeah, my boyfriend's established,
Speaker 2: and then he's got three kids. I am as like,
Speaker 2: have my own thing going. I've got two kids, and
Speaker 2: then like what he has his own investments.
Speaker 4: There's no right way to do it.
Speaker 5: I think that's the beauty of it is you can
Speaker 5: look at whatever else is doing and say what works
Speaker 5: for me? Are And also you can change our situation
Speaker 5: is going to change when I changed my last.
Speaker 2: Name and then you know, I thought I just have
Speaker 2: is what if he's like drained your bake account? Who
Speaker 2: you sign a prenup?
Speaker 4: What if what would you say? No, I would have
Speaker 4: done it.
Speaker 5: Maybe now that.
Speaker 2: I've been divorced, I might be like, Okay, fine, I
Speaker 2: get it.
Speaker 5: But then I'd be like, you know what, this is
Speaker 5: my thought on prenups. I almost said can I share it?
Speaker 5: And I did it, but then I said it anyway,
Speaker 5: So my thought. I told Patrick I wanted to prenup
Speaker 5: because my because when you get married, you essentially sign
Speaker 5: a prenup is a nuptial agreement. We agree that this
Speaker 5: is what's going to happen to our money when if
Speaker 5: we get divorced. So when you get married, you technically
Speaker 5: sign a prenup just with the deal that the state
Speaker 5: has created for you. So in my head, if I'm
Speaker 5: going to sign an agreement when I get married that
Speaker 5: this is what's going to happen, it should be one
Speaker 5: that I made, not just one the state made for me.
Speaker 5: But I have ADHD, and I got lazy, and I
Speaker 5: was like, oh, that sounds like a lot of work,
Speaker 5: so I didn't do it.
Speaker 2: Take a shot anytime you hear me and Kat talk
Speaker 2: about how.
Speaker 5: We have ADHD, you'll be drunk, yeah, or you could
Speaker 5: like just take a shot of water because that might
Speaker 5: not be good for you.
Speaker 2: Well, you'll be hydrated, speaking of a hydration for our
Speaker 2: skin before we do wrap. I do want to remind
Speaker 2: people that the Happy twenty five code for the Snail
Speaker 2: serum is still working today through through the thirtieth. So
Speaker 2: today's the twenty seventh, so you.
Speaker 5: Got one to.
Speaker 2: Do through the thirtieth, because I think they have another
Speaker 2: sales starting on the thirty first, so at that point
Speaker 2: in time, Happy twenty five the code will no longer work.
Speaker 2: And Cat and I really do use it. I really
Speaker 2: do use biopel. We only have the code from them
Speaker 2: because we used it. I used to not have a code.
Speaker 2: I would just post about it and then then I
Speaker 2: was like, oh, I could post about it on Instagram,
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Speaker 2: get a kickback from that too, but like again, if
Speaker 2: I'm posting it might as well. And I love this stuff.
Speaker 2: It is so hydrating for your skin. And I realized
Speaker 2: last week we talked all about it, and then I
Speaker 2: didn't share any of the benefits at all. Like later
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Speaker 2: do you like it?
Speaker 5: Why we like it?
Speaker 2: But we love it for the glow, but it's a
Speaker 2: growth factor and there's benefits of that. We use specifically
Speaker 2: the Tensage forty ampules and all this will be linked
Speaker 2: in the show notes. But quickly. This is from the
Speaker 2: biopeal website. And these snails they live on a cute
Speaker 2: little snail farm in Brazil. They're treated great. They eat
Speaker 2: like lettuce and carrots, and they're so cute. I've seen
Speaker 2: a whole video about them. Then they're having the dream.
Speaker 2: I think they're happy. And this is just like some
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Speaker 4: I don't know, like how sexual I don't think snails have.
Speaker 4: It's not that I didn't say it with sperm, Well,
Speaker 4: people put salmon sperm on their face.
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is some sort of secretion that maybe has
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Speaker 1: Sally.
Speaker 5: Don't talk about that part because it took me a
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Speaker 4: That thought, okay, so just give us the best face.
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Speaker 2: if you were to get a treatment, like if you
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Speaker 2: biopel like as part of the Hey, this is part
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Speaker 2: really in a nutshell, just say, I love the vitamin
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Speaker 4: I'm telling you.
Speaker 5: When I used it, my friend asked me what makeup
Speaker 5: I was wearing and I wasn't wearing any And you're like,
Speaker 5: that is it is snail snail serum. Don't say secretion,
Speaker 5: don't say it serum.
Speaker 2: Okay, that is the snail serum. Happy twenty five is
Speaker 2: the code that's twenty five percent off, which is this
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Speaker 4: Time, Amy, Where can they find our podcast on YouTube.
Speaker 2: Or wherever you listen to podcasts. If they're already listening
Speaker 2: to this part, they're listening to it.
Speaker 4: Well, it meant like where can they find us?
Speaker 2: Oh, Feeling Things podcast on Instagram that's the handle, and
Speaker 2: then Feeling Things podcasts on YouTube, yeah, and Feeling Things
Speaker 2: podcasts on TikTok.
Speaker 4: Yeah, follow us on TikTok.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Okay, I think we just went up some on TikTok,
Speaker 2: on TikTok, on the Tico. We're about to hit twenty
Speaker 2: three thousand followers on TikTok.
Speaker 5: That's a lot.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Oh we have over six hundred on YouTube.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's fun. Yeah, man, who knews growing something
Speaker 2: so starting to zero. Also, we can see the downloads
Speaker 2: of people listening, and I'm like, I guess people are
Speaker 2: just so accustomed to listening to us on podcasts, they're
Speaker 2: like not used to watching us on YouTube. And I
Speaker 2: don't know if people are coming across us organically and
Speaker 2: maybe not inter.
Speaker 1: But maybe they are.
Speaker 2: Well because some people I don't know, like the millions
Speaker 2: and millions and millions of you people like they just
Speaker 2: missed that's like their thing and they're that's what they
Speaker 2: do on YouTube. And then maybe maybe sometimes they come
Speaker 2: across content like if they have a lot of views,
Speaker 2: it's piped out more and then people come across them
Speaker 2: organically and they're like, oh, I like them. Well, I
Speaker 2: don't know if anybody's coming across this organically, but if
Speaker 2: they are, are they sticking around?
Speaker 4: We hope so as we can do.
Speaker 2: We would like to invite you too. You are welcome here.
Speaker 5: If you're coming across this organically on YouTube, you're welcome here,
Speaker 5: and we would love it if you would stick around.
Speaker 2: This is a safe culick.
Speaker 4: Subscribe. We promise to give you content that will keep
Speaker 4: you coming back.
Speaker 2: For more, which we're not sure if we did that today,
Speaker 2: but maybe next time. Oh, cry, okay goes, I love this.
Speaker 2: Oh it's good to have supportive friends.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Which, yeah, to the one listener asking about friendships, we
Speaker 2: didn't really acknowledge this part, but that is hard and
Speaker 2: especially when everyone's in different seasons of life. But Blake
Speaker 2: does have such good info that if you start following her,
Speaker 2: I promise or somewhere in some episodes or interviews that
Speaker 2: she probably has linked like, she will have addressed that
Speaker 2: topic because she really covers everything about friendship. So good
Speaker 2: luck with that, and yeah, we'll see y'all next time.
Speaker 4: I hope you have the day you need to have.
Speaker 1: Bye. Bye,