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Speaker 1: Good.

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Speaker 2: All right, break it down.

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Speaker 3: If you ever have feelings that you just fons Amy

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Speaker 3: and Cat gotcha covin locking m brother, Ladies and folks,

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Speaker 3: do you just follow ann the spirit where it's all

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Speaker 3: the front and real stuff to the chill stuff and them.

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Speaker 3: But Swayne, sometimes the best thing you can do it just.

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Speaker 1: You feel things.

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Speaker 3: This is feeling things with Amy and Cat.

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Speaker 2: Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and I'm Kat,

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Speaker 2: and We're gonna kick things off with our feeling of

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Speaker 2: the day feelings coming from me. And it's actually the

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Speaker 2: same feeling twice. Okay, so it's shocked times two.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so really shocked.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we shocked by two totally different things. Okay, one

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Speaker 2: involving kids and an adult and another involving adults.

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Speaker 4: Okay, we hope.

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Speaker 2: So the first one is are shocked to be at

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Speaker 2: a school recital for children and they're giving their performance.

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Speaker 2: All the parents are there to see their kids perform.

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Speaker 2: It's already long enough, you.

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Speaker 4: Know what I mean, Ye can be pretty long.

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Speaker 2: It's pretty long. It's a week nights, gotta get home

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Speaker 2: and do dinner and homework and all the things. So

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Speaker 2: kids are performing, kids are performing and then what do

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Speaker 2: you know, the teacher has a solo.

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Speaker 5: I was shocked, Is this what kind of recital?

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Speaker 2: It wasn't that the teacher had a solo, like a

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Speaker 2: guess if the kids are involved, what do you mean

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Speaker 2: what kind of a it was?

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Speaker 5: Is this choir?

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Speaker 2: Is this like a grand recital? Yes, there's there's instruments,

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Speaker 2: they're singing. I think you have to be involved in something.

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Speaker 2: It's like the the arts, the like, you know, like

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Speaker 2: every the whole school is involved, your whole performance. Yes,

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Speaker 2: it's like it's like everyone has different things they're bringing

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Speaker 2: to the evening. And even the teacher had their own solo,

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Speaker 2: and I just thought, well, this is adding time.

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Speaker 4: Wait what kind of what kind of a solo did

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Speaker 2: Well, a singing solo and a flute solo.

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Speaker 5: So they did a flute and then they were like next,

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Speaker 5: I'm going to say, yeah.

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Speaker 2: It just was awkward. So is that a feeling awkward?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah, feeling awkward.

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Speaker 5: So shocked.

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Speaker 2: It was awkward, and I just I don't know. I

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Speaker 2: don't want to be a hater because it was beautiful.

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Speaker 2: I just feel like, as the teacher, it's the kid's

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Speaker 2: the parents, like get us out a few minutes early.

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Speaker 5: But can I ask a couple of questions? I just

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Speaker 5: have some follow up questions. Okay, to understand.

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Speaker 2: I didn't know this is going to be that interesting.

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Speaker 2: I just thought i'd be like, I was shocked by this,

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Speaker 2: and you'd be like, yeah, that is weird.

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Speaker 5: Well it is weird, but I get you know, before

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Speaker 2: Of I don't want to judge them. I just was shocked.

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Speaker 4: Was this teacher like the choir teacher? Do you know

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Speaker 4: what they were? Well, yeah, they were the choir teacher.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like they teach, they put together the whole recital.

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Speaker 4: Do you think that they just so they.

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Speaker 2: They worked in their performance.

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Speaker 4: I wonder if they just like feel left out.

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Speaker 2: But they're the teacher, I know.

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Speaker 5: But imagine that you're a musician and you can't get

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Speaker 4: They're like, well I can work myself into this, right.

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, I feel like that's what happened, and I

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Speaker 5: He's like I'm actually gonna do the relay. If you

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Speaker 2: Does the football coach put themselves in?

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Speaker 4: No, No they don't.

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Speaker 5: Okay, that's a good point, right.

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Speaker 4: And was it good?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: It was real good.

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Speaker 2: They were like it was really good.

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Speaker 4: So I'm gonna show you what they could do right there.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, the talent was there. It was beautiful. I

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Speaker 2: a lot. It was already a lengthy evening.

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Speaker 5: It's shocking, shocking thing.

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Speaker 2: Number two, I had never heard of. I forget how

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Speaker 2: to say it, Finn Doom. Is that how you say it?

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Speaker 4: Know what you're talking about?

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Speaker 2: Financial domination? You never heard of this? Oh I'm not

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Speaker 2: shocked you ever heard of it, because I'm just now

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Speaker 2: learning of it. It popped up in my for you

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Speaker 2: page on TikTok, which I'm like, why is this?

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Speaker 5: Wait? So when you first say that, say financial domination, Yeah,

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Speaker 5: I would think it's about becoming financially independent.

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Speaker 2: No domination dom sexual? Well, no, there's no nothing sexual

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Speaker 2: about it. Actually, I mean maybe for the giver. They

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Speaker 2: like to give the money. Okay, so let me exclin

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Speaker 2: I pulled the exact definition. Well, I guess I didn't.

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Speaker 2: I thought I did. But it's pretty much where men

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Speaker 2: give money to women that just say to them, give

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Speaker 2: me money, like they're dominant over their finances, like this

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Speaker 2: is how you need to spend your money. And the

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Speaker 2: men that are giving it they're known as finn subs

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Speaker 2: and pay pigs, and they willingly offer financial support for

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Speaker 2: everyday expenses like lunches, nail shoes, and even hair. And

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Speaker 2: they like being told by the women what to do

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Speaker 2: with their money. So if the woman says, give me

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Speaker 2: five hundred dollars right now, they do it.

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Speaker 4: This is not people in a relationship.

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Speaker 2: No, I think it's a fetish. Okay, findom okay, findam.

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Speaker 4: I have not heard about this.

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Speaker 2: Oh, but you're not shocked by it.

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Speaker 4: I'm not shocked about kat so she needs it. I'm

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Speaker 4: not shocked about this.

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Speaker 5: I think maybe because in my line of work, I

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Speaker 5: hear a lot about the different types of things people do. Oh,

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Speaker 5: I guess when you started talking about this, I thought

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Speaker 5: it was more like a seeking arrangements thing, And maybe

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Speaker 5: that's part of it too. Like men seeking you've heard

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Speaker 5: of Seeking Arrangements is a website?

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Speaker 2: Oh no, that's a website. Is it's like a only vance.

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Speaker 2: It's literally called seeking arrangement arrangement.

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Speaker 5: I think they rebranded though, so I don't know what

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Speaker 5: it's called now if I don't know if you can

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Speaker 5: google seek any arrangements.

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Speaker 2: So they needed a rebrand I don't know.

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Speaker 5: Well maybe because then people were judging every Okay, I'll

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Speaker 5: just tell you what it is. So Seeking Arrangements or

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Speaker 5: whatever it's called now, was a website where you could

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Speaker 5: go on and you could look for a sugar daddy

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Speaker 5: or a sugar mama, or you could be the daddy

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Speaker 5: or the mama looking for somebody to treat. And what,

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Speaker 5: from my understanding, is that you would create an arrangement

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Speaker 5: and it could be whatever you want.

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Speaker 4: It didn't have to be sexual.

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Speaker 5: It could be like I'm going to pay you three

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Speaker 5: hundred dollars to go to dinner with me twice a

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Speaker 5: week or I think probably most of the time they

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Speaker 5: got more than that. But they had an arrangement, and

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Speaker 5: you would have that person and they'd be like, I

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Speaker 5: have this concert I want to go to. If you

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Speaker 5: come with me, I'll pay you six hundred dollars or

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Speaker 5: I'll pay you five hundred dollars to text with me

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Speaker 5: three hours a night or.

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Speaker 4: Something like that.

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Speaker 5: Okay, yeah, but that's not the same thing.

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Speaker 4: This is an arrangement.

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Speaker 2: Like they're getting paid by simply saying pay me money

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Speaker 2: because it's like you're the dominant person over their finances,

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Speaker 2: like they want.

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Speaker 4: This is genius for the women.

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Speaker 2: Yes, because the one woman that showed up on my

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Speaker 2: for me page, like she said, look, I like to

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Speaker 2: keep my page classy. I'm not trying to do anything,

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Speaker 2: you know, with my body. I don't want any women

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Speaker 2: to feel like I guess she put together a course

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Speaker 2: to teach women how to.

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Speaker 5: Do findom and where do you find them?

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Speaker 2: Where do I find the people to pay for findom

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Speaker 2: dot com? I don't know findom.

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Speaker 4: I kind of love this, you do.

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Speaker 2: Well, I don't know, Okay, but you're only getting my

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Speaker 2: short version of it that I don't know, because like

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Speaker 2: what if findom dot com is actually like maybe this

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Speaker 2: one particular findom coach is clean, but maybe some of

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Speaker 2: the others are subjected to other type of behaviors. So

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Speaker 2: I don't know that I want to give it like

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Speaker 2: a big old step of approval before we know more.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I thought i'd even I even had the

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Speaker 2: exact definition for you, and I didn't know that.

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Speaker 5: Whatever people want to do, if it's not hurting them

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Speaker 5: causing them harm, go for it. Okay. The reason I

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Speaker 5: love this is because, first of all, there's already a

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Speaker 5: hard enough wage gap with women. So if they can

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Speaker 5: just like tell a man to pay the money.

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Speaker 2: Right, because you're not even having to give it's not

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Speaker 2: like you can do anything. There's no feet picks, there's

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Speaker 2: no nothing. No, it's just give me money. You know.

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Speaker 2: I didn't take the course, so I don't know.

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Speaker 5: Okay, so your homework is to take the course and

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Speaker 5: then you're gonna come back and tells how much money

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Speaker 5: you make.

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Speaker 2: No, but that's how she was scaling her business because

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Speaker 2: she is a scam. No, I don't think so, but

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Speaker 2: I didn't. I'm not going to sign up for it.

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Speaker 2: But she clearly was doing it for herself. And then

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Speaker 2: she wanted to coach other women how to do it.

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Speaker 2: But now she's making money by charging women to take

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Speaker 2: her course.

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Speaker 5: Okay, this is the I get. This gets me hot

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Speaker 5: when there's like coaches coaching coaches how to coach like,

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Speaker 5: I can't know, but.

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Speaker 2: You know people are making a lot of money that way.

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Speaker 4: Yes, and it's just interesting to me.

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Speaker 5: Cryocat from back there said she would sign up for

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Speaker 5: the Corseulo Snow, how it goes? Okaydom, and then you

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Speaker 5: can come and be a guest and tell us how

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Speaker 5: it goes?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and she will also.

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Speaker 4: I love that this showed up on your for you page?

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Speaker 2: Why is that?

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Speaker 4: I wonder what that says about you?

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Speaker 2: Should I should I call my boyfriend and say give me.

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Speaker 5: Call him like saying, give me five hundred dollars, let

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Speaker 5: me go to lunch.

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Speaker 2: What happens? Okay, we'll see if he well, it says

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Speaker 2: here you can get lunches, nails.

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Speaker 1: He sent me the voice?

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Speaker 2: What is he busy working?

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Speaker 1: Wait?

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Speaker 4: Just because you can send him a text?

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Speaker 5: What do you get voice?

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Speaker 4: Know and say give me five hundred dollars. I need

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Speaker 4: a pair of shoes.

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Speaker 6: Okay, Hey, cat's gotta get a nail.

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Speaker 2: Hey give me give me five hundred dollars.

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Speaker 5: Now, I wish I could send one of those to Patrick.

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Speaker 2: Why you don't have a pH phone?

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Speaker 5: Okay?

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Speaker 2: Findom? That's all I got about that?

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Speaker 2: Speaking of money and spending it, making it, giving it?

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Speaker 2: I put up this story about influencers and not money influencing,

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Speaker 2: He thinks I was abducted. Hello, Hey, well I was

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Speaker 4: But did you.

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Speaker 2: Get did you get my message?

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Speaker 1: Did you know you did it?

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Speaker 2: Right now, no, right now, right now. I can think

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Speaker 7: Now you bad bad boy, bad boy, Okay, okay, give

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Speaker 2: Okay, No, but I feel like, okay, thank you.

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Speaker 5: Guys, Well I have ten dollars. You bad boy? He

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Speaker 5: I'm gonna record myself doing this with Patrick later. Okay,

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Speaker 5: but it's something more reasonable though, mm hmm.

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Speaker 2: Fifty I was like okay, bye and it just goes bye.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay. I got to recover from that. Where were

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Speaker 5: I can't just ask for it. We have to make

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Speaker 2: So to be clear, I'm not.

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry you think like in subscribe, I just imagine

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Speaker 4: Sorry, Okay, Okay, I'm cool. It's not that funny.

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Speaker 2: We're cool, cool, cool, we're cool influencers. Every job to

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Speaker 2: It's a theory that I've had because I'm buying these

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Speaker 2: that is like way too expensive. I'm not going to

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Speaker 2: I don't care. I don't have to have a name

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Speaker 5: I didn't ever think about that. I think you're onto something.

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Speaker 5: I love this, I love this, And I'm like, how

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Speaker 2: Well they might or they're making so much money that

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Speaker 5: It's why you would Yeah, that's what I mean.

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Speaker 2: I would share it anyway, but then also off of it,

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Okay, because I'm not.

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Speaker 2: The fashion person, like, don't don't follow me for fashion.

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Speaker 2: I mean sometimes you kick it's so cute right now,

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Speaker 5: It's I want to make sure that I'm not buying

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, here's which I should be able to think

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Speaker 4: That's what I was going to say.

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Speaker 2: I think sometimes I struggle with that because having a

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Speaker 2: log into es. Yeah you have Twitter radio Amy. That

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Speaker 2: Fifty characters or less.

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Speaker 4: I can't wait to go look at your old Twitter.

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Speaker 2: And then who can we trust because there's no way

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Speaker 2: cute fire hot? Yeah? Trust was that one? Well, that's

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Speaker 2: not trying, but you tried, but you're not trying. And

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00:21:25,680 --> 00:21:27,480
Speaker 2: so she was like, tuck it into your brawl a

443
00:21:27,480 --> 00:21:29,760
Speaker 2: little bit. But I mean, my stomach wasn't showing, but

444
00:21:30,040 --> 00:21:32,720
Speaker 2: it was this messy tuck into the brawl, but it

445
00:21:32,760 --> 00:21:34,800
Speaker 2: looked like it was tucked into the pants. And I

446
00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:36,600
Speaker 2: was like, this feels weird. And she looked at me

447
00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:38,280
Speaker 2: and she goes, you look cute.

448
00:21:38,520 --> 00:21:40,280
Speaker 4: Trust Okay.

449
00:21:40,440 --> 00:21:44,399
Speaker 2: I was like trust dead Trust say hot fire. But

450
00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:47,760
Speaker 2: I guess now I can't remember my thoughts.

451
00:21:47,760 --> 00:21:50,840
Speaker 5: Well, you're imagining what they're they're doing that then and

452
00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:53,199
Speaker 5: then they throw off and they're like this is disgusting.

453
00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:57,800
Speaker 2: Exactly Like I'm like, did did I just buy this

454
00:21:57,920 --> 00:22:03,800
Speaker 2: like blue crochet us off at Amazon? Thinking it's sleigh fire?

455
00:22:04,520 --> 00:22:06,600
Speaker 2: And then you take it off and you're putting it

456
00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:08,760
Speaker 2: back in the Amazon package to ship it back because

457
00:22:08,800 --> 00:22:10,560
Speaker 2: you're there's no way to be caught dead wearing it,

458
00:22:10,600 --> 00:22:13,399
Speaker 2: and you're like, oh, thousand people are gonna buy that,

459
00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:15,159
Speaker 2: and I'm gonna make so much money yea in the

460
00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:17,280
Speaker 2: matter where Like I don't know, I don't want to

461
00:22:17,280 --> 00:22:20,879
Speaker 2: think people are that way, but it's just become so easy.

462
00:22:21,440 --> 00:22:24,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, this is giving that best is disgusting?

463
00:22:24,840 --> 00:22:26,960
Speaker 2: What is that from? Is that Mean Girls?

464
00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:30,160
Speaker 4: That's like one of the most famous lines.

465
00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:30,600
Speaker 2: From Mean Girls.

466
00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:33,280
Speaker 4: I guess I just do you not love that movie?

467
00:22:33,359 --> 00:22:34,160
Speaker 2: I love that movie?

468
00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:36,840
Speaker 5: But I yeah. When she's like I love your vest

469
00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:38,879
Speaker 5: and then she's like that fest is disgusting, She's like,

470
00:22:38,960 --> 00:22:40,879
Speaker 5: expand it from my mom. And then she's like that

471
00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:43,639
Speaker 5: best is disgusting, Like that's literally what the Then that

472
00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:46,720
Speaker 5: influencer sees you in person and she's like, oh my gosh,

473
00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:47,400
Speaker 5: she bought that dress.

474
00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:47,800
Speaker 2: I love it.

475
00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:49,520
Speaker 4: And then she walks away and she's like, oh, what

476
00:22:49,640 --> 00:22:50,200
Speaker 4: a loser.

477
00:22:50,680 --> 00:22:53,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, But then they're like, but I bought a new

478
00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:55,479
Speaker 2: bag with all the money that IGEL earned.

479
00:22:56,920 --> 00:22:59,760
Speaker 5: Okay, I believe there's probably people that do that, and

480
00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:02,719
Speaker 5: they're people that don't. Yeah, and what we really have

481
00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:05,000
Speaker 5: to look at and this isn't like a fun funny

482
00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:07,919
Speaker 5: answer is if we like something, are we buying it

483
00:23:07,960 --> 00:23:09,879
Speaker 5: just because this influencer said it was cool or they

484
00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:11,160
Speaker 5: said it was cool and we like it.

485
00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:13,080
Speaker 4: I know it's hard.

486
00:23:13,000 --> 00:23:14,960
Speaker 2: Because I can differentiate if I really like it or

487
00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:18,080
Speaker 2: not because I trust. I like having their like when

488
00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:20,800
Speaker 2: I get ready. I love having my friends say like, yes,

489
00:23:20,840 --> 00:23:23,600
Speaker 2: that's cute. I like validation okay, which that's something my

490
00:23:23,640 --> 00:23:25,920
Speaker 2: therapist was having me work on. I forgot years ago

491
00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:28,240
Speaker 2: to go to my closet, get dressed and not ask

492
00:23:28,280 --> 00:23:32,240
Speaker 2: a single person their thoughts about my outfit. But getting

493
00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:34,560
Speaker 2: dressed was hard for me. But remember I told you

494
00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:36,120
Speaker 2: my mantra, I get dressed with these.

495
00:23:36,560 --> 00:23:37,960
Speaker 4: It looks like you got dressed with these today. I

496
00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:38,600
Speaker 4: don't know if you did.

497
00:23:38,640 --> 00:23:42,720
Speaker 2: I just put on a white tank top, black jeans,

498
00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:44,159
Speaker 2: and a denim jacket.

499
00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:44,719
Speaker 4: And cool shoes.

500
00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:47,560
Speaker 2: And you're wearing a denim jacket and a tank top truss.

501
00:23:47,640 --> 00:23:49,719
Speaker 5: No I'm not wearing I'm wearing a potato sack right

502
00:23:49,720 --> 00:23:51,760
Speaker 5: now you can't see it, but a black tank top. Well,

503
00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:55,240
Speaker 5: and then I have this like potato sack jumper on. Oh,

504
00:23:55,280 --> 00:23:59,560
Speaker 5: I got dressed with these link it, I think you

505
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:02,600
Speaker 5: have something. You know you have something there, So I.

506
00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:05,760
Speaker 2: Think it's really not an important question, though it is

507
00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:08,520
Speaker 2: an important question, just like I wish people could just

508
00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:09,840
Speaker 2: give a disclaimer, like.

509
00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:13,080
Speaker 5: I really hate this, but I want you to buy their.

510
00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:15,120
Speaker 2: Business thanks for funding my lifestyle.

511
00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:20,119
Speaker 5: Suckers know what they should do. They should have to

512
00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:22,120
Speaker 5: post what they bought with the money that they made

513
00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:23,560
Speaker 5: from each item that they.

514
00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:25,400
Speaker 2: But that would be like we would have to post

515
00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:27,359
Speaker 2: what we buy for people. I know our podcast, but

516
00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:29,640
Speaker 2: also our podcast is free for listeners. Do you see

517
00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:32,840
Speaker 2: the difference. Our podcast is free for listeners. We have

518
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:36,280
Speaker 2: advertisers that pay to advertise on our podcast so that

519
00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:38,879
Speaker 2: we can give something for free. People are not paying

520
00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 2: for our content, so our money isn't actually coming from them,

521
00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:44,280
Speaker 2: It's coming from our advertisers.

522
00:24:44,440 --> 00:24:45,120
Speaker 4: Yeah.

523
00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:48,400
Speaker 5: You know, this is the whole influencer debate that could

524
00:24:48,480 --> 00:24:51,600
Speaker 5: Tailor's old as time where it is so helpful and

525
00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:55,159
Speaker 5: I'm so grateful to have easy access to people that

526
00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:58,919
Speaker 5: can give you recommendations, whether it's clothes or design or

527
00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:02,560
Speaker 5: food or like anything. At the same time, people always

528
00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:06,000
Speaker 5: find a way to abuse and manipulate, you know.

529
00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:08,240
Speaker 4: So it's like we have to just be mindful.

530
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:10,040
Speaker 2: But what I am proud a sucker.

531
00:25:10,119 --> 00:25:10,359
Speaker 1: I know.

532
00:25:10,480 --> 00:25:12,080
Speaker 5: I'm proud of you though, because I feel like your

533
00:25:12,080 --> 00:25:15,080
Speaker 5: scam meter is on. And that's why you're asking yourself

534
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:16,480
Speaker 5: that question, because you're like, I don't want to be

535
00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:19,280
Speaker 5: scammed anymore. I want to be able to think for myself.

536
00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:21,640
Speaker 5: And that's where this maybe is coming from.

537
00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:22,360
Speaker 4: This is growth.

538
00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:27,199
Speaker 2: Well, I just want authenticity, yeah, because you're sick of

539
00:25:27,280 --> 00:25:30,600
Speaker 2: getting scammed, right, Yeah, I want that too.

540
00:25:30,680 --> 00:25:33,120
Speaker 4: That's why I get so angry when I see things

541
00:25:33,119 --> 00:25:34,560
Speaker 4: that I'm like, that's not well.

542
00:25:34,560 --> 00:25:36,040
Speaker 2: And that's why I mean, I I don't think we

543
00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:38,000
Speaker 2: all need to be transparent about every single thing and

544
00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:40,439
Speaker 2: walk around with like I mean, some stuff can be

545
00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:45,320
Speaker 2: kept private, but I don't mind saying like, yes, when

546
00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:46,960
Speaker 2: we post links, that's.

547
00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:47,520
Speaker 4: You make money.

548
00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:51,480
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, like and in some parts of me because

549
00:25:51,520 --> 00:25:53,240
Speaker 2: it's not my main job, which some people it is

550
00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:55,600
Speaker 2: their main bread and butter and I and I'm sure

551
00:25:55,600 --> 00:25:56,679
Speaker 2: they do it and they do it well, and they

552
00:25:56,720 --> 00:26:00,400
Speaker 2: do it with integrity and they are authentic, so that's great.

553
00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:03,400
Speaker 4: I guess you gotta look out.

554
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:05,760
Speaker 2: I just want to figure it out and I'm not

555
00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:08,679
Speaker 2: slamming it because I've done it, but I've done it

556
00:26:08,680 --> 00:26:10,840
Speaker 2: with things I actually use.

557
00:26:11,119 --> 00:26:13,720
Speaker 5: But you're saying I want authenticity. There's a difference between

558
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:16,159
Speaker 5: being transparent and having authenticity. We don't have to be

559
00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:18,879
Speaker 5: transparent to be authentic, thank you. So you're just saying

560
00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:20,639
Speaker 5: you don't have to tell me every detail, like you

561
00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:22,119
Speaker 5: don't really have to post what you bought with the

562
00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:23,000
Speaker 5: money that you made.

563
00:26:23,280 --> 00:26:24,760
Speaker 2: But you were saying that I.

564
00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:26,640
Speaker 4: Went a little too far.

565
00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:31,399
Speaker 2: I went an itemized report of your last vacation that

566
00:26:31,560 --> 00:26:32,600
Speaker 2: we funded.

567
00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:36,880
Speaker 5: Everything you ate and drank and bought all that. But yeah,

568
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 5: we just want to know. We want to be able

569
00:26:38,560 --> 00:26:41,440
Speaker 5: to trust you. And the sad thing is I that's

570
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:42,520
Speaker 5: not probably never gonna happen.

571
00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:45,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, in any brands I've worked with in the past,

572
00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:49,639
Speaker 2: or on social or wherever like, and also even in radio,

573
00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:52,280
Speaker 2: there's a difference in voicing and endorsing, Like sometimes I'll

574
00:26:52,320 --> 00:26:54,800
Speaker 2: lend my voice to something, but you won't hear in

575
00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:59,600
Speaker 2: the spot maybe that I I I I, because that

576
00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:03,359
Speaker 2: would be a personal endorsement of like my personal experience

577
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:06,440
Speaker 2: if you've finished that sentence, like I D D DA.

578
00:27:07,280 --> 00:27:11,640
Speaker 2: But sometimes this is less of a payment to the business.

579
00:27:11,800 --> 00:27:13,919
Speaker 2: This a little behind the curtain, but they won't have

580
00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:16,240
Speaker 2: to pay as much. But we lend our voices because

581
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:19,160
Speaker 2: we're the personalities. So just be like, Okay, that would

582
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:22,240
Speaker 2: be my voice, but I'm gonna voice it exactly however

583
00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:25,240
Speaker 2: you say and not give a personal experience. But it

584
00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:27,159
Speaker 2: still has to be somewhat in alignment, like I'm not

585
00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:29,480
Speaker 2: going to do something. There's things I pass on all

586
00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:33,760
Speaker 2: the time, and there's other things that I'm like, Okay,

587
00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:36,679
Speaker 2: that's totally fine. I can do that because I will

588
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:40,160
Speaker 2: eat that or I have eaten that, and I can't

589
00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:43,520
Speaker 2: do that. Yeah, And I don't know. Sometimes I feel

590
00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:45,199
Speaker 2: like people think they also know us and they're like, well,

591
00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:46,639
Speaker 2: that doesn't feel in alignment with you, and it's like,

592
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:49,560
Speaker 2: well you don't. You don't know us at every level.

593
00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:52,600
Speaker 2: But anyway, sometimes we're just lending our voice and sometimes

594
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:55,159
Speaker 2: we're lending an endorsement, and those are two very different

595
00:27:55,200 --> 00:28:00,480
Speaker 2: types of payment scales or whatever. So anyway, that is

596
00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:04,320
Speaker 2: a time for commercial break. Just kidding. We maybe just

597
00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:06,720
Speaker 2: got out of it. I don't know where Houston's gonna

598
00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:10,199
Speaker 2: put it, but I do have some questions that we

599
00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:12,960
Speaker 2: got from Instagram a little question box that I put

600
00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:26,840
Speaker 2: up and then people sent their questions. One of the

601
00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:30,119
Speaker 2: first ones that came in was makeup links, yes please,

602
00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:32,800
Speaker 2: So then I was laughing. I was like, I don't

603
00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:33,920
Speaker 2: have any makeup links, but.

604
00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:36,560
Speaker 5: And you will make money if you post the link,

605
00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:38,960
Speaker 5: but you will use these products.

606
00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:41,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know if I'll post the links because

607
00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:43,280
Speaker 2: I've had these products for a week now. I'm just

608
00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:45,560
Speaker 2: saying that's not my Like some people the minute they

609
00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:48,960
Speaker 2: get it because this is their job, like influencing online.

610
00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:51,840
Speaker 2: So they're like, just went to Sephora. Here's my Sephora hall,

611
00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:54,600
Speaker 2: which is great. I'm grateful for that because I will

612
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:57,600
Speaker 2: click on it and I will buy it because.

613
00:28:57,800 --> 00:28:59,640
Speaker 5: But you want them to try it first, that's what

614
00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:00,760
Speaker 5: you're saying. I don't know if I'm going to link

615
00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:01,880
Speaker 5: this because I haven't tried it yet.

616
00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:04,040
Speaker 2: Yes, I do like it though, Okay, I but all

617
00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:09,120
Speaker 2: of Selena Gomez is makeup, rare wait, rare, rare beauty, rare.

618
00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:13,840
Speaker 5: Beauty, not to be confused with road that is Bieber

619
00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:14,720
Speaker 5: Haley Beber.

620
00:29:14,800 --> 00:29:17,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, what did you get? You said all of

621
00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 4: is that what you got?

622
00:29:18,560 --> 00:29:20,040
Speaker 2: The contour.

623
00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:22,160
Speaker 5: Something is that stick.

624
00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:25,479
Speaker 2: It's like a little sponge on a tip and you

625
00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:26,240
Speaker 2: go dot dot.

626
00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:27,400
Speaker 4: Oh that sounds fun.

627
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:30,720
Speaker 2: And then I got the Blushka and then I got

628
00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:34,800
Speaker 2: concealer okay, and I got powder okay. I needed all

629
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:36,640
Speaker 2: new makeup like I needed a.

630
00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:39,440
Speaker 4: Fresh you think, like fun and crazy, like an eyeshadow.

631
00:29:39,640 --> 00:29:43,520
Speaker 2: I didn't get an eyeshadow. I have my Charlotte Tillberry

632
00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 2: is that how you say it? Eyeshadow from a few

633
00:29:46,560 --> 00:29:48,240
Speaker 2: years ago that I still really like because I feel

634
00:29:48,240 --> 00:29:50,320
Speaker 2: like eyeshadow doesn't really expire. But some of my other

635
00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:53,320
Speaker 2: makeup from I had Charlotte Tillberry before. This is what

636
00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:54,160
Speaker 2: I replaced with.

637
00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:56,000
Speaker 4: Oh, Selena, you're trading it in.

638
00:29:56,720 --> 00:29:59,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it was time. I was like, how long

639
00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:02,280
Speaker 2: does this stuff? Because it had been yours. What else

640
00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:04,880
Speaker 2: did I get? I got a lip gloss from Selena

641
00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:05,480
Speaker 2: all Selena?

642
00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:06,800
Speaker 4: Is that what you have on your face now?

643
00:30:07,120 --> 00:30:09,560
Speaker 2: So if you like it, I'll link it, just kidding.

644
00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:11,360
Speaker 2: I don't even have links. But you can go to

645
00:30:11,960 --> 00:30:13,560
Speaker 2: And that's the thing with makeup is maybe if you

646
00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:15,160
Speaker 2: can go to the store and like try it on

647
00:30:15,200 --> 00:30:17,200
Speaker 2: yourself and then see what works and what you like,

648
00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 2: because what looks good on me, may not look good

649
00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:19,080
Speaker 2: on you.

650
00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:20,280
Speaker 4: True.

651
00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:23,600
Speaker 2: Thanks, I don't a T shirt.

652
00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:28,440
Speaker 5: That should be the disclaimer on the influencer's thing when

653
00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:30,720
Speaker 5: they're like sligh fire, this looks so cute, and at

654
00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:32,680
Speaker 5: the bottom they say, what looks good on me might

655
00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:33,480
Speaker 5: not look good on you.

656
00:30:33,600 --> 00:30:36,160
Speaker 2: Bye with pation. So good luck. You're gonna order this

657
00:30:36,200 --> 00:30:37,800
Speaker 2: and you're gonna get it in. It's probably to look

658
00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:40,280
Speaker 2: like so gross on you, but then you're gonna be

659
00:30:40,320 --> 00:30:42,280
Speaker 2: like ugh returning it is such a process. So you're

660
00:30:42,280 --> 00:30:43,760
Speaker 2: gonna keep it, and I'm gonna keep your money.

661
00:30:43,760 --> 00:30:44,120
Speaker 1: Thank you.

662
00:30:46,720 --> 00:30:48,000
Speaker 5: Okay, more question.

663
00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:50,840
Speaker 2: We got multiple like questions about our friendship, like how

664
00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:53,600
Speaker 2: did you encap meet or how did you two become friends?

665
00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 4: That's a fun story.

666
00:30:55,320 --> 00:30:55,880
Speaker 1: Go for it.

667
00:30:56,120 --> 00:30:57,560
Speaker 5: Do you want me to I get to tell it?

668
00:30:57,960 --> 00:30:59,560
Speaker 5: What do you mean you get to back in?

669
00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:01,240
Speaker 4: Well, I don't know.

670
00:31:01,840 --> 00:31:05,120
Speaker 5: We can popcorn it or donn popcorn itay? Can you

671
00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:10,120
Speaker 5: tell it back in twenty twenty? Right, yeah, twenty twenty.

672
00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:12,600
Speaker 5: You were doing a.

673
00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:15,400
Speaker 2: You maybe emailed me in twenty nineteen though.

674
00:31:15,360 --> 00:31:17,680
Speaker 5: It was twenty it was twenty twenty. Because I know

675
00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:20,120
Speaker 5: where I was. I was in a coffee shop in Chicago.

676
00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:20,880
Speaker 2: But it was January.

677
00:31:21,640 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 4: It was February.

678
00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:23,640
Speaker 2: Okay, it was February.

679
00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:25,920
Speaker 4: I only know this for a specific reason.

680
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:29,040
Speaker 5: So you were doing Outweigh and I guess you were

681
00:31:29,200 --> 00:31:32,080
Speaker 5: talking about it maybe on your podcast that you were

682
00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:35,040
Speaker 5: going to be doing it. Okay, one of my friends

683
00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:38,560
Speaker 5: moms listens to your podcast. You were talking about doing

684
00:31:38,600 --> 00:31:44,280
Speaker 5: an eating disorder podcast. My friend's mom, shout out pie said,

685
00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:48,560
Speaker 5: tell Catherine to email Amy to see I don't know

686
00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:50,800
Speaker 5: if she wants to be on this podcast or whatever.

687
00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:54,240
Speaker 5: And I was like, she would never respond to my email.

688
00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:56,920
Speaker 5: In my head, you don't read emails. But I didn't

689
00:31:56,920 --> 00:31:58,200
Speaker 5: listen to your podcast, and I didn't know that you

690
00:31:58,240 --> 00:32:01,080
Speaker 5: had like the interaction that you do with the people, So.

691
00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:01,920
Speaker 4: I was like, not going to do it.

692
00:32:01,960 --> 00:32:04,320
Speaker 5: But I went on a trip to Chicago with my

693
00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 5: friend Hannah and she had to leave for over twenty

694
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:08,920
Speaker 5: four hours, so I had twenty four hours by myself

695
00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:11,320
Speaker 5: in Chicago, and I was like, oh, I guess I'll

696
00:32:11,360 --> 00:32:12,240
Speaker 5: pretend to work in.

697
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:13,480
Speaker 4: A coffee shop in Chicago.

698
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:17,160
Speaker 5: So I went and I had a latte that had

699
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:20,600
Speaker 5: glitter in it and banana toast. Do you like all

700
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:23,760
Speaker 5: the details of love the details, and I was like,

701
00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 5: I guess. So this was before chat GBT too, so

702
00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:29,400
Speaker 5: I wonder how good the email was. So I emailed

703
00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:31,320
Speaker 5: you and then I was like, okay, I'll probably never

704
00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:34,360
Speaker 5: hear from her, And the next day you emailed me.

705
00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:37,120
Speaker 5: I think it was really the next day. So then

706
00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:41,400
Speaker 5: I came and I did outweigh, and I remember us

707
00:32:41,480 --> 00:32:43,120
Speaker 5: not really knowing what we were going to talk about,

708
00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 5: and ME being like, Okay, I have an idea, let's

709
00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:45,720
Speaker 5: just talk about this.

710
00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:48,959
Speaker 4: And then it was really with Lisa. Yeah, with Lisa.

711
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:53,800
Speaker 2: Lisa's who I started out weigh with, Lisa Haym. She

712
00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:57,320
Speaker 2: flew in from New York, and I'm surprised, honestly she

713
00:32:57,400 --> 00:32:59,720
Speaker 2: got back. She flew out right before the tornado then

714
00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:03,840
Speaker 2: hit my neighborhood in East Nashville, and then COVID hit

715
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:05,920
Speaker 2: right after that. So when she flew back to New York,

716
00:33:05,920 --> 00:33:08,560
Speaker 2: COVID was already getting a little weird there. It wasn't

717
00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:11,840
Speaker 2: weird in Nashville yet, but New York, she said, was

718
00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:13,160
Speaker 2: starting to get a little eerie.

719
00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:15,280
Speaker 4: But two weeks after that it got weird.

720
00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:15,560
Speaker 1: Yeah.

721
00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:20,720
Speaker 5: Here, I also just want to say that is not

722
00:33:21,040 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 5: like me to do that. I do not like doing

723
00:33:23,280 --> 00:33:26,480
Speaker 5: things by myself. I mean, you know this, I get nervous,

724
00:33:26,800 --> 00:33:30,320
Speaker 5: so I'm like, what was twenty twenty Catherine thinking it.

725
00:33:30,320 --> 00:33:30,800
Speaker 2: Was meant to be?

726
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 5: And I walked in there being like, oh no, I

727
00:33:33,560 --> 00:33:36,520
Speaker 5: don't know anything about how these things work.

728
00:33:37,120 --> 00:33:38,360
Speaker 4: I didn't know how you were going to edit it.

729
00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:39,760
Speaker 4: I was nervous.

730
00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:43,200
Speaker 5: So luckily it worked out and I feel like the

731
00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:45,320
Speaker 5: I mean, the episode was really good. I remember us

732
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 5: all like having like a little moment and tearing up

733
00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:50,000
Speaker 5: for a second, and then in my head, I'm like, Okay,

734
00:33:50,040 --> 00:33:51,120
Speaker 5: I'll never see this girl again.

735
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:53,720
Speaker 2: When you and Lisa kept in touch, you on social

736
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:55,360
Speaker 2: media and then we went to New York and we

737
00:33:55,400 --> 00:33:57,720
Speaker 2: met up with her like two or three years later,

738
00:33:57,920 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 2: maybe that was twenty twenty one or something now twenty two. Yeah, yeah,

739
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:05,479
Speaker 2: so a couple years later we went to New York

740
00:34:05,520 --> 00:34:08,400
Speaker 2: and hang out with her, and so that's that's been

741
00:34:08,440 --> 00:34:08,840
Speaker 2: a fun.

742
00:34:09,440 --> 00:34:12,120
Speaker 5: So we met through email thing to look back on.

743
00:34:12,280 --> 00:34:13,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, just you never know.

744
00:34:13,560 --> 00:34:15,600
Speaker 5: And you were so nice. That's so I will say.

745
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:18,480
Speaker 5: I remember you being I didn't know what to expect.

746
00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:21,520
Speaker 5: This isn't judgmental. I just thought in my head I'm like,

747
00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:23,399
Speaker 5: I'm some nobody coming in here like that. You don't

748
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:26,239
Speaker 5: even have a reason to even listen to me. You

749
00:34:26,280 --> 00:34:27,920
Speaker 5: were so nice, and I remember you gave me the

750
00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:30,720
Speaker 5: biggest hug at the end. Oh yeah, And I remember

751
00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:32,600
Speaker 5: what you were wearing. What was I wearing?

752
00:34:32,719 --> 00:34:33,000
Speaker 4: I don't.

753
00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:38,520
Speaker 5: I was wearing a yellow long sleeve kind of like

754
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:41,840
Speaker 5: cut off baggy T shirt. You were wearing some like

755
00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:43,520
Speaker 5: crocheted cream top.

756
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:46,640
Speaker 2: Oh, I remember that now. I think you were wearing

757
00:34:46,640 --> 00:34:48,759
Speaker 2: that if that's what I was wearing. Okay, I had

758
00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:51,160
Speaker 2: crocheted flowers on it, because now I remember Lisa and

759
00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:53,000
Speaker 2: I being at my house later and that's what I

760
00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:57,600
Speaker 2: was wearing, because I have a picture of us. Good memory. Wow,

761
00:34:57,719 --> 00:34:59,080
Speaker 2: yellow like your nails.

762
00:34:59,400 --> 00:35:00,640
Speaker 4: Why did you bring that up?

763
00:35:02,400 --> 00:35:08,520
Speaker 5: Because your nails are so yellow. Speaking of feelings, I'm

764
00:35:08,520 --> 00:35:12,160
Speaker 5: feeling disgusted by my nails. Okay, they were so cute

765
00:35:12,400 --> 00:35:14,160
Speaker 5: like two days ago, and I took all the nail

766
00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:16,799
Speaker 5: polish off and then I thought that this was gonna

767
00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:18,680
Speaker 5: be cute. And it looks like highlighters. If you can't

768
00:35:18,719 --> 00:35:21,960
Speaker 5: see it, yeah, that says we can see.

769
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:23,920
Speaker 2: It's it's worse than a highlighter.

770
00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:25,799
Speaker 5: Oh. My that's what you said. When I texted you.

771
00:35:25,920 --> 00:35:28,120
Speaker 5: I thought you were going to like reassure me and

772
00:35:28,160 --> 00:35:30,600
Speaker 5: be like, no, oh, wasn't that bad. I texted you

773
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:32,319
Speaker 5: as I'm doing it, I'm like, oh, this was the

774
00:35:32,360 --> 00:35:35,719
Speaker 5: biggest mistake. And I sent you a picture of it,

775
00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:38,480
Speaker 5: thinking that you'd be like, oh, don't worry about it.

776
00:35:38,520 --> 00:35:41,160
Speaker 5: They look good, and you said, oh, that's worse than

777
00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 5: you said. You said, that's worse than a highlighter.

778
00:35:44,680 --> 00:35:47,239
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, because we can affirm each other all day long,

779
00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 2: but the color of your nails. You don't need my affirmation.

780
00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:52,160
Speaker 2: You need my honesty. Yeah, yeah, like if it was

781
00:35:52,320 --> 00:35:55,440
Speaker 2: actually something that you couldn't change or help, but this

782
00:35:55,480 --> 00:35:56,239
Speaker 2: is a nail color.

783
00:35:56,280 --> 00:35:57,839
Speaker 4: Don't lie to me, I know.

784
00:35:58,320 --> 00:36:02,480
Speaker 5: And also also I appreciate because I didn't like it,

785
00:36:02,560 --> 00:36:05,799
Speaker 5: so I didn't need you to like if I loved it,

786
00:36:05,880 --> 00:36:08,680
Speaker 5: and I'm like, I love this nail color so much

787
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 5: and it's so beautiful, isn't it.

788
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:12,879
Speaker 4: You don't really have to give an opinion.

789
00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:14,719
Speaker 2: Right, I'd be like, oh, good job, But.

790
00:36:14,719 --> 00:36:15,520
Speaker 4: If you're a job.

791
00:36:15,840 --> 00:36:19,160
Speaker 5: If I hated it, and then you know it's ugly

792
00:36:19,200 --> 00:36:20,360
Speaker 5: and you're like, don't worry about it.

793
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:23,840
Speaker 2: No, help me out right remove that.

794
00:36:24,400 --> 00:36:25,239
Speaker 4: It'll be removed to myrow.

795
00:36:25,320 --> 00:36:26,080
Speaker 2: This is days later.

796
00:36:26,080 --> 00:36:26,960
Speaker 5: Are you still on?

797
00:36:27,560 --> 00:36:29,879
Speaker 4: It takes me three hours to do my nails.

798
00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:34,440
Speaker 2: Okay, because that's like Jill, it's Joe. Yeah. Kat does

799
00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:36,360
Speaker 2: her own nails. She has a nail salon in her kitchen.

800
00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:37,239
Speaker 4: Yes, I do.

801
00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:39,239
Speaker 2: I knew you wanted to come mine and come meet

802
00:36:39,320 --> 00:36:41,759
Speaker 2: You're like, never mind, you want me to come over

803
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:44,560
Speaker 2: and get mine done, but maybe I will, Okay. So

804
00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:47,240
Speaker 2: that is how we know each other. That's our origin

805
00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:51,040
Speaker 2: story and we were fast friends after that, and our

806
00:36:51,080 --> 00:36:55,960
Speaker 2: friendship really has been easy. And I why'd you make

807
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:56,360
Speaker 2: that face?

808
00:36:56,440 --> 00:36:56,720
Speaker 5: Sorry?

809
00:36:56,719 --> 00:36:58,160
Speaker 4: That face was like, oh that was nice.

810
00:36:58,239 --> 00:37:01,279
Speaker 2: Sorry, Oh okay, tell y'all. Kat just made some face

811
00:37:01,280 --> 00:37:03,160
Speaker 2: that made me think, like, don't lie.

812
00:37:04,040 --> 00:37:04,839
Speaker 5: Well it was.

813
00:37:05,000 --> 00:37:08,040
Speaker 4: It's We've had some kerfuffles in the last.

814
00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:10,520
Speaker 2: Couple of weeks, but that's work stuff.

815
00:37:10,760 --> 00:37:13,520
Speaker 4: But I think also the kerfuffles have been easy.

816
00:37:14,040 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 2: The kurfuffles are when you did I say that wrong?

817
00:37:17,600 --> 00:37:17,759
Speaker 1: No?

818
00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:19,680
Speaker 5: Should we tell them the new thing that we came

819
00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:21,319
Speaker 5: up with the other day where you came up with it?

820
00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:25,120
Speaker 2: Sib sib. Yeah, you can tell them in a minute.

821
00:37:25,160 --> 00:37:26,000
Speaker 4: Okay, don't forget.

822
00:37:26,040 --> 00:37:27,919
Speaker 5: Okay, It's like you.

823
00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:30,279
Speaker 2: Have ADHD and you tell your other friend with ADHD

824
00:37:30,360 --> 00:37:31,440
Speaker 2: to remember something.

825
00:37:32,440 --> 00:37:33,520
Speaker 5: Hopefully we'll come back to it.

826
00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:39,040
Speaker 2: Hey, we'll circle back, Okay five years later. Hey, remember

827
00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:43,560
Speaker 2: we were going to talk about that thing. Okay, so

828
00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:44,440
Speaker 2: we'll get to SIB.

829
00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:47,000
Speaker 4: But what was it you were saying that our relationship

830
00:37:47,040 --> 00:37:47,919
Speaker 4: was easy? Okay?

831
00:37:48,120 --> 00:37:50,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, but the kerfuffles.

832
00:37:50,360 --> 00:37:50,760
Speaker 4: Yeah.

833
00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:56,040
Speaker 2: The kerfuffles, I think are that when you have a friendship,

834
00:37:56,239 --> 00:37:58,600
Speaker 2: anytime you change the dynamic and like say, you start

835
00:37:58,640 --> 00:38:02,200
Speaker 2: working together. I think some of that was me figuring

836
00:38:02,239 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 2: out how how to work with you and you figuring

837
00:38:05,200 --> 00:38:07,640
Speaker 2: out how to work with me. I don't think they

838
00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:10,879
Speaker 2: were real things. They were just kinks, Like.

839
00:38:11,280 --> 00:38:12,720
Speaker 4: They weren't like friendship things.

840
00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:14,880
Speaker 2: No, like it wasn't gonna ruin. But I think we

841
00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:17,160
Speaker 2: handled it in a way that showed us that, oh wow,

842
00:38:17,760 --> 00:38:21,759
Speaker 2: we have a very mature friendship and working relationship, and

843
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:26,040
Speaker 2: we are determined to not let our friendship get ruined

844
00:38:26,040 --> 00:38:30,439
Speaker 2: by any work stuff because that happens a lot, and

845
00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:33,040
Speaker 2: I think neither one of us want that, So we're

846
00:38:33,120 --> 00:38:40,960
Speaker 2: being very intentional. So the kirkfuffles are normal. Are normal,

847
00:38:41,480 --> 00:38:44,759
Speaker 2: sib is Kat. You can say it about yourself, but

848
00:38:44,800 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 2: if you want me to say I'll say it. But

849
00:38:46,239 --> 00:38:49,279
Speaker 2: she's been a little in a mood, you can say it, Okay,

850
00:38:49,280 --> 00:38:50,240
Speaker 2: she's been snappy.

851
00:38:50,280 --> 00:38:53,880
Speaker 5: She's been snappy to everybody, not just well, actually, I

852
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:56,560
Speaker 5: think it's just you and my husband, the people you're

853
00:38:56,600 --> 00:38:57,080
Speaker 5: closest to.

854
00:38:57,239 --> 00:39:00,719
Speaker 2: Huh you were You have people other people that you're

855
00:39:00,719 --> 00:39:02,040
Speaker 2: close to you, but you're probably talking to.

856
00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:02,480
Speaker 4: Us the most.

857
00:39:02,560 --> 00:39:05,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, so you want to explain, Yeah, I was just

858
00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:07,880
Speaker 5: having a snappy day and then you.

859
00:39:08,680 --> 00:39:10,960
Speaker 2: I think it was already snappy a few days.

860
00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:16,040
Speaker 4: Like, I'm gonna keep you honest. I've been having a

861
00:39:16,080 --> 00:39:19,120
Speaker 4: snappy month, honestly, and.

862
00:39:18,640 --> 00:39:21,760
Speaker 5: Now it's a month twenty twenty five. It's been snappy

863
00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:24,759
Speaker 5: for me. And I think I was already talking to

864
00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:28,160
Speaker 5: you that morning about my just mood. And then you

865
00:39:28,200 --> 00:39:30,960
Speaker 5: text started texting me things and I think you were

866
00:39:30,960 --> 00:39:34,160
Speaker 5: at work, so you were texting short things like just right,

867
00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:34,919
Speaker 5: like here fire.

868
00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:36,759
Speaker 2: I find stuff off, especially when I'm at work, like

869
00:39:36,800 --> 00:39:38,319
Speaker 2: if I have a quick commercial break, I might be

870
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:40,200
Speaker 2: like here cat ping ping ping, pink peek and then

871
00:39:40,239 --> 00:39:40,600
Speaker 2: you're like.

872
00:39:40,680 --> 00:39:43,560
Speaker 4: Wait what, And so I was trying.

873
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:45,840
Speaker 5: I knew I was being snappy in my head, so

874
00:39:45,880 --> 00:39:47,600
Speaker 5: I was like, Catherine, don't be snappy. How do you

875
00:39:47,719 --> 00:39:49,440
Speaker 5: say this in a non snappy way? But I think

876
00:39:49,480 --> 00:39:53,400
Speaker 5: it still came off snappy. So then I had to

877
00:39:53,440 --> 00:39:55,400
Speaker 5: send you a text that said I'm sending this in

878
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:57,359
Speaker 5: a kind tone. I don't know if you can tell.

879
00:39:58,080 --> 00:40:00,320
Speaker 5: And then you said a really nice voice. Then we

880
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:02,840
Speaker 5: started voice memming that was much better, and you were like, no,

881
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:05,239
Speaker 5: it's fine, blah blah blah, I get it. And then

882
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:08,200
Speaker 5: you explained yourself, and then I explained myself, and then

883
00:40:08,239 --> 00:40:11,399
Speaker 5: you said, we need a word that if we're ever

884
00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:14,880
Speaker 5: feeling like we're coming off wrong, we can say sorry.

885
00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:16,680
Speaker 4: I sib well.

886
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:19,279
Speaker 2: I think I was playing off of WTW and how

887
00:40:19,320 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 2: powerful that is, like wait to Worry, which we talked

888
00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:23,840
Speaker 2: about recently. But it's just like when you can just

889
00:40:23,920 --> 00:40:28,240
Speaker 2: say WTW to yourself or somebody else, it's like hey boom.

890
00:40:28,480 --> 00:40:30,600
Speaker 2: When you both are in the know of what that means,

891
00:40:30,680 --> 00:40:35,279
Speaker 2: it's like huh, it's like exhale WTW. And so we

892
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:37,799
Speaker 2: had just got done talking about that a little bit

893
00:40:38,239 --> 00:40:42,080
Speaker 2: and how we love WTW. So I was like, we

894
00:40:42,200 --> 00:40:45,000
Speaker 2: need something for this because I'm perimid apousal. You have

895
00:40:45,200 --> 00:40:49,320
Speaker 2: other hormone situations stuff happening, and we need an acronym

896
00:40:49,440 --> 00:40:52,360
Speaker 2: that can just like sort of shut.

897
00:40:52,160 --> 00:40:52,759
Speaker 1: It in the bud.

898
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:55,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, nip it in the bud, shut it down, just

899
00:40:55,600 --> 00:40:57,080
Speaker 2: regulate it. Help.

900
00:40:57,440 --> 00:41:01,120
Speaker 5: Just do you watch New Girl? No, I have before

901
00:41:01,560 --> 00:41:03,160
Speaker 5: watch this New Girl. If you listen to New Girl,

902
00:41:03,400 --> 00:41:04,880
Speaker 5: you said shut it down. In my head, all I

903
00:41:04,920 --> 00:41:06,760
Speaker 5: can think is shut it down.

904
00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:09,680
Speaker 4: Okay, so shut it shut it down.

905
00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:13,239
Speaker 5: We could also do that. Shutut it down. They're talking

906
00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:16,239
Speaker 5: about workplace romantic oh engagements.

907
00:41:16,360 --> 00:41:18,520
Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, shut if somebody comes up to you.

908
00:41:18,520 --> 00:41:20,240
Speaker 5: And is trying to engage in you in a sexual

909
00:41:20,320 --> 00:41:22,200
Speaker 5: encounter at school, shut it down.

910
00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:24,120
Speaker 4: But we can use that for oursels.

911
00:41:24,120 --> 00:41:26,719
Speaker 2: Okay, so we have we use I shut it SID,

912
00:41:27,520 --> 00:41:30,600
Speaker 2: shut it down SID. But we have s I b

913
00:41:31,120 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 2: which is they said, said, what is SIB?

914
00:41:34,680 --> 00:41:34,960
Speaker 5: Sorry?

915
00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:38,440
Speaker 2: I oh oh yeah, And it's not even grammatically correct,

916
00:41:38,719 --> 00:41:40,359
Speaker 2: so that way, it's also a little bit funny because

917
00:41:40,360 --> 00:41:44,160
Speaker 2: it's SIB and so it's sorry I bitch.

918
00:41:45,920 --> 00:41:46,120
Speaker 1: Say.

919
00:41:46,600 --> 00:41:48,000
Speaker 5: Because then I was like, can we say that word?

920
00:41:48,080 --> 00:41:50,560
Speaker 2: I think you can, but we typically don't don't cuss

921
00:41:50,640 --> 00:41:54,839
Speaker 2: on our podcast. But ear mops, sorry, I okay, we're

922
00:41:54,880 --> 00:41:56,960
Speaker 2: going to say the word, and you've got little kids

923
00:41:57,000 --> 00:41:58,000
Speaker 2: in the car, turn it down.

924
00:41:58,080 --> 00:42:00,759
Speaker 5: But that's if your kids in the car, shut it down.

925
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:01,760
Speaker 5: Shut it down.

926
00:42:03,719 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 2: So anytime we're acting that way and we know it

927
00:42:06,880 --> 00:42:08,719
Speaker 2: and we want to apologize for it, but we want

928
00:42:08,719 --> 00:42:11,400
Speaker 2: to warn the other person, we just go SIB and

929
00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:13,120
Speaker 2: it means sorry, I bitchy.

930
00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:20,160
Speaker 5: I love the way he said, sorry I bitchy.

931
00:42:21,440 --> 00:42:24,239
Speaker 4: But okay, that's gonna be so helpful for SIB.

932
00:42:24,840 --> 00:42:26,480
Speaker 2: And that's just like have it with your girlfriends, have

933
00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:27,840
Speaker 2: it with your partner. Like you can even do that

934
00:42:27,920 --> 00:42:30,440
Speaker 2: with Patrick, and you can just tell Patrick SIB.

935
00:42:30,560 --> 00:42:34,000
Speaker 4: And you don't have to explain it. Yeah, you automatically know, like, oh.

936
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:37,040
Speaker 2: Then Patrick can be like, I'm gonna wtw whether or

937
00:42:37,040 --> 00:42:39,000
Speaker 2: not I'm still gonna be married to you, he said

938
00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:40,680
Speaker 2: the other day. I'm gonna wait to worry.

939
00:42:40,840 --> 00:42:44,040
Speaker 5: I snapped at him fifteen times in a row, like

940
00:42:44,120 --> 00:42:47,880
Speaker 5: over stupid things. At one point, I go, stop chewing

941
00:42:47,920 --> 00:42:50,279
Speaker 5: your gum, like I was, Oh.

942
00:42:50,200 --> 00:42:51,919
Speaker 2: That's literally what you're supposed to do with gum.

943
00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 1: Chew it.

944
00:42:53,280 --> 00:42:55,360
Speaker 5: He was streting it so loud, and then I was

945
00:42:55,440 --> 00:42:58,800
Speaker 5: like anyway, I just looked at him and he just

946
00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:01,680
Speaker 5: was like, I love you. And then I was like,

947
00:43:02,239 --> 00:43:05,279
Speaker 5: sib ari, id g I.

948
00:43:05,360 --> 00:43:07,200
Speaker 4: Needed that back then. Oh I felt so bad. He's

949
00:43:07,239 --> 00:43:09,760
Speaker 4: so nice. Yeah, any more questions?

950
00:43:09,920 --> 00:43:13,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, how to attract quality adult friendships when everyone is

951
00:43:13,520 --> 00:43:27,520
Speaker 2: in a different stage of life? How to attract quality

952
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:30,840
Speaker 2: adult friendships when everyone is in a different stage of life?

953
00:43:31,200 --> 00:43:33,400
Speaker 4: Can I shout somebody else out to answer this?

954
00:43:34,080 --> 00:43:34,719
Speaker 2: Absolutely?

955
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:35,759
Speaker 5: So there?

956
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:38,640
Speaker 2: But also you don't have to ask that. Well, I

957
00:43:38,760 --> 00:43:40,680
Speaker 2: remember this is one of those things. This is part

958
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:43,840
Speaker 2: of ALE that we had at the beginning. It's like

959
00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:46,440
Speaker 2: this is our podcast now. I think when you're on

960
00:43:46,520 --> 00:43:48,560
Speaker 2: fifth thing, which I never wanted you to ask anyway,

961
00:43:48,560 --> 00:43:51,960
Speaker 2: I'm like, nobody has to ask permission, But sometimes you

962
00:43:52,080 --> 00:43:54,240
Speaker 2: still do that, and then it makes me feel uncomfortable

963
00:43:54,239 --> 00:43:55,960
Speaker 2: because I'm like, I don't want people to think that, like.

964
00:43:56,040 --> 00:43:57,600
Speaker 5: You have to ask you wait.

965
00:43:57,760 --> 00:43:59,400
Speaker 4: But I have a reason why I do that.

966
00:44:00,400 --> 00:44:03,480
Speaker 5: I'm used to at work always asking permission to do anything.

967
00:44:03,960 --> 00:44:06,440
Speaker 5: Oh so clients so, and I think I carry that

968
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:10,160
Speaker 5: out with like friends and with different relationships. Is before

969
00:44:10,160 --> 00:44:13,439
Speaker 5: I give advice or say something or change something, I'll say,

970
00:44:13,520 --> 00:44:15,400
Speaker 5: like do you mind or are you open to or

971
00:44:15,719 --> 00:44:17,120
Speaker 5: can I be?

972
00:44:17,320 --> 00:44:19,719
Speaker 4: I'm just used. I've trained myself to do that, so

973
00:44:19,760 --> 00:44:20,600
Speaker 4: I don't even think.

974
00:44:20,520 --> 00:44:23,919
Speaker 2: I now, yeah, but this okay, but this is something, Yeah,

975
00:44:23,920 --> 00:44:26,600
Speaker 2: I need to work obviously your conditioned for it, because

976
00:44:26,640 --> 00:44:30,640
Speaker 2: this is like they're asking how do you attract quality friendships?

977
00:44:30,719 --> 00:44:33,759
Speaker 2: And then you're like, can I shout somebody out because

978
00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:35,440
Speaker 2: not even like you're asking permission to like give a

979
00:44:35,480 --> 00:44:37,680
Speaker 2: thought about some deep feeling that I have that might

980
00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:40,640
Speaker 2: impact me, you know, like, because that's respectful to be like, hey,

981
00:44:41,880 --> 00:44:43,360
Speaker 2: do you mind if I share this with you? Or

982
00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:44,680
Speaker 2: can I tell you my thoughts?

983
00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:46,759
Speaker 4: Say it again? And I'm gonna practice.

984
00:44:46,640 --> 00:44:51,440
Speaker 2: Practice pause pause, pause, post pause past. If someone is

985
00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:55,719
Speaker 2: listening to our podcast for the first time today ever, yeah,

986
00:44:56,320 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 2: it's like, because give me five hundred dollars. We have

987
00:44:58,200 --> 00:45:02,919
Speaker 2: inside jokes like puz pu pos pause, pus pause, shut

988
00:45:02,960 --> 00:45:07,160
Speaker 2: it down. That's a new one though, how to attract

989
00:45:07,239 --> 00:45:09,879
Speaker 2: quality adult friendships when everyone is in different stages of life.

990
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:11,880
Speaker 4: Okay, I'm going to shout somebody.

991
00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:14,480
Speaker 5: I can't even say it seriously, but I was doing

992
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:16,480
Speaker 5: a good job. I want to shout somebody else out

993
00:45:16,560 --> 00:45:19,960
Speaker 5: for this because There is a therapist, a licensed therapist

994
00:45:20,440 --> 00:45:24,359
Speaker 5: who lives in South Carolina. She's moved a couple times.

995
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:26,400
Speaker 5: I think it's South Carolina now. It's a detail that

996
00:45:26,440 --> 00:45:29,080
Speaker 5: doesn't it doesn't matter, but my brain needs to say it.

997
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:30,040
Speaker 2: But I appreciate.

998
00:45:30,160 --> 00:45:30,319
Speaker 1: Yeah.

999
00:45:30,480 --> 00:45:33,440
Speaker 5: Her name is Blake, Blake and Beckler.

1000
00:45:33,920 --> 00:45:35,840
Speaker 4: Her name is very hard to say, so pat on

1001
00:45:35,960 --> 00:45:36,400
Speaker 4: my shoulder.

1002
00:45:36,440 --> 00:45:39,399
Speaker 2: I've been reviewed before. She's great. She oft too write.

1003
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:39,640
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1004
00:45:39,719 --> 00:45:41,920
Speaker 5: I used to work with her too, way back in

1005
00:45:41,960 --> 00:45:44,960
Speaker 5: the day. And she is a expert on friendship. She

1006
00:45:45,080 --> 00:45:48,000
Speaker 5: even has a little card deck called the Friendship Deck

1007
00:45:48,040 --> 00:45:50,480
Speaker 5: that's really cool she created that you can buy for

1008
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:54,919
Speaker 5: developing your friendships. But she gives so much good, free

1009
00:45:55,160 --> 00:45:58,799
Speaker 5: information and content on her instagram. So if you want

1010
00:45:58,880 --> 00:46:02,600
Speaker 5: more information about French chips, head to her instagram. I

1011
00:46:02,680 --> 00:46:06,680
Speaker 5: think it's at Blake Bluckin' bad. I'll look it up

1012
00:46:07,239 --> 00:46:09,520
Speaker 5: like I'm sorry if you're listening, but we can link

1013
00:46:09,640 --> 00:46:11,960
Speaker 5: her handle in the show notes, so you guys can

1014
00:46:12,040 --> 00:46:12,640
Speaker 5: just click on it.

1015
00:46:13,120 --> 00:46:15,800
Speaker 4: Perfect because you're not gonna know how to spell it anyway,

1016
00:46:16,600 --> 00:46:17,040
Speaker 4: no question.

1017
00:46:17,200 --> 00:46:19,600
Speaker 2: But your hair looks pretty today. See what I did there.

1018
00:46:20,239 --> 00:46:23,440
Speaker 2: That's one of our listeners being hilarious and funny and

1019
00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:28,120
Speaker 2: complimentary and making us practice going thank you past paus,

1020
00:46:28,239 --> 00:46:29,200
Speaker 2: pause post paus.

1021
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:31,520
Speaker 4: You don't have to say the pause out loud, but

1022
00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:31,960
Speaker 4: it's fun.

1023
00:46:32,120 --> 00:46:34,479
Speaker 2: Well when I did, because I put up this video

1024
00:46:34,560 --> 00:46:36,680
Speaker 2: with a question box on Instagram, and I guess she's saying,

1025
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:38,520
Speaker 2: next to my hair is in a ponytail today, I've

1026
00:46:38,600 --> 00:46:40,239
Speaker 2: told you so many times today I love your hair

1027
00:46:40,400 --> 00:46:44,200
Speaker 2: like the ponytail. It's so thank you, pus pus pu

1028
00:46:44,480 --> 00:46:50,719
Speaker 2: pu pus. And then our our friend Katie Gustafson. Yeah,

1029
00:46:50,880 --> 00:46:53,080
Speaker 2: she left a little comment to saying no question, just

1030
00:46:53,160 --> 00:46:56,759
Speaker 2: so grateful for these soulful and fun conversations. So those

1031
00:46:56,800 --> 00:47:00,560
Speaker 2: are just some of the ones that I pulled. She's awesome, Yeah,

1032
00:47:00,640 --> 00:47:01,680
Speaker 2: she's She's great.

1033
00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:04,719
Speaker 4: Ania Graham, if you need any Aneagraham content, I did.

1034
00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:06,520
Speaker 2: That's Instagram.

1035
00:47:06,920 --> 00:47:08,040
Speaker 5: I did her.

1036
00:47:09,239 --> 00:47:12,040
Speaker 2: I'm trying to look up Blake's account, but Katie's. I

1037
00:47:12,080 --> 00:47:14,400
Speaker 2: did her workshop with Ali Fallon once and it was

1038
00:47:14,800 --> 00:47:22,680
Speaker 2: so good, like so good. It's just at Blake, Blake

1039
00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:23,640
Speaker 2: and Beckler.

1040
00:47:24,520 --> 00:47:28,719
Speaker 5: You were right, Blake and Beckler, Blake and Katie Guston's

1041
00:47:28,800 --> 00:47:31,480
Speaker 5: last name is hard to yes. When I interviewed her,

1042
00:47:31,600 --> 00:47:33,560
Speaker 5: on you need therapy. Before we started, I said, can

1043
00:47:33,640 --> 00:47:35,120
Speaker 5: we practice say in your name a couple of times

1044
00:47:35,120 --> 00:47:37,000
Speaker 5: because I want to introduce you as your full name?

1045
00:47:37,680 --> 00:47:40,480
Speaker 5: And I think we spent a good five minutes practicing it.

1046
00:47:40,920 --> 00:47:43,040
Speaker 5: God bless her for not being mad at me.

1047
00:47:43,360 --> 00:47:46,880
Speaker 2: Yeah. I just realized too. I had my lip gloss

1048
00:47:46,920 --> 00:47:48,399
Speaker 2: in my lap this whole time, and we were talking

1049
00:47:48,400 --> 00:47:52,000
Speaker 2: about this is not Selena Gomez though, what is it?

1050
00:47:52,200 --> 00:47:56,000
Speaker 2: This is the Lenage? Oh oh, I love and I

1051
00:47:56,120 --> 00:47:59,120
Speaker 2: bought the dupes before it was Lenage and they're not

1052
00:47:59,200 --> 00:48:02,320
Speaker 2: as good, but you have the dupe of the Dire

1053
00:48:03,320 --> 00:48:04,000
Speaker 2: and it is good.

1054
00:48:04,800 --> 00:48:07,640
Speaker 4: Well kind of. I have the Door and then I

1055
00:48:07,760 --> 00:48:10,600
Speaker 4: have the lip oil. No, I have their lip plumper.

1056
00:48:11,040 --> 00:48:13,880
Speaker 2: Oh, best lipgloss I've ever had from Dire.

1057
00:48:14,080 --> 00:48:16,719
Speaker 5: Yes, it was just like expensive and I lost it

1058
00:48:16,800 --> 00:48:18,399
Speaker 5: and I said I don't deserve to buy another one

1059
00:48:18,600 --> 00:48:19,360
Speaker 5: because I lost it.

1060
00:48:19,760 --> 00:48:21,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, but it was amazing.

1061
00:48:21,239 --> 00:48:23,360
Speaker 5: If anybody ever wants to buy me a gift, you

1062
00:48:23,440 --> 00:48:25,520
Speaker 5: can send me the Door lip plumper.

1063
00:48:25,800 --> 00:48:27,759
Speaker 2: Thank you. Well, maybe if you link it you could

1064
00:48:27,800 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 2: afford to by it.

1065
00:48:30,280 --> 00:48:33,480
Speaker 5: Or wait, I'm going to text Patrick later and say,

1066
00:48:33,880 --> 00:48:37,160
Speaker 5: buy me the Dore lip plumper now.

1067
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:42,840
Speaker 4: Two of them, and I went different colors.

1068
00:48:44,400 --> 00:48:45,879
Speaker 5: Also, I've never tried the lip oil.

1069
00:48:45,960 --> 00:48:49,000
Speaker 2: Add that too, because I keep having to buy the

1070
00:48:49,120 --> 00:48:54,120
Speaker 2: ELF one, which is the seven dollars mixer seven dollars one.

1071
00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:54,680
Speaker 1: Bye, I know.

1072
00:48:54,880 --> 00:48:57,160
Speaker 5: I resorted to buying the one on Amazon, which was

1073
00:48:57,239 --> 00:49:01,600
Speaker 5: four fifty. Oh, so I bought the ELF because it

1074
00:49:01,680 --> 00:49:04,200
Speaker 5: was a dollar fifty more. Well, so the ELF one

1075
00:49:04,280 --> 00:49:06,800
Speaker 5: is the one with color that you bottom mine that

1076
00:49:06,880 --> 00:49:09,960
Speaker 5: you love. Huh, that one's great. I think rose Envy

1077
00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:16,920
Speaker 5: was the color. And then I bought on Amazon the

1078
00:49:17,080 --> 00:49:18,360
Speaker 5: fake but it's not an oil.

1079
00:49:18,400 --> 00:49:19,040
Speaker 4: Why are you laughing?

1080
00:49:19,239 --> 00:49:19,600
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1081
00:49:19,600 --> 00:49:21,760
Speaker 2: I'm just picturing you yelling that at Patrick.

1082
00:49:22,800 --> 00:49:24,240
Speaker 4: You know what he would say is you would probably

1083
00:49:24,239 --> 00:49:24,960
Speaker 4: say by yourself.

1084
00:49:25,920 --> 00:49:30,800
Speaker 2: Probably, I mean, but are you My boyfriend's just like no, no,

1085
00:49:31,840 --> 00:49:34,240
Speaker 2: But I mean I wasn't asking for a lip gloss.

1086
00:49:34,280 --> 00:49:36,040
Speaker 2: But I think even if I said buy me this

1087
00:49:36,560 --> 00:49:39,560
Speaker 2: lip gloss now, he would just be like no, no.

1088
00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:41,000
Speaker 4: But maybe he.

1089
00:49:41,000 --> 00:49:43,479
Speaker 5: Would say by yourself, because he's like, well, your money

1090
00:49:43,560 --> 00:49:44,759
Speaker 5: is my money, so just buy it.

1091
00:49:45,400 --> 00:49:47,560
Speaker 4: But it's not the same. I want him to wipe

1092
00:49:47,640 --> 00:49:49,360
Speaker 4: his card, like when we go to dinner and he

1093
00:49:49,440 --> 00:49:51,120
Speaker 4: uses his credit card. I'm like, that was free.

1094
00:49:52,520 --> 00:49:55,439
Speaker 2: That's y'all have joined account Well not yet?

1095
00:49:55,840 --> 00:49:58,920
Speaker 5: Wait what because we haven't changed my last name yet.

1096
00:49:59,320 --> 00:50:01,480
Speaker 5: So I'm like, I don't want to go through because

1097
00:50:02,120 --> 00:50:02,759
Speaker 5: do you want to know why?

1098
00:50:03,880 --> 00:50:05,040
Speaker 2: Oh? I know, it's a process.

1099
00:50:05,040 --> 00:50:08,160
Speaker 4: It's a process. And last year his dad told me

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Speaker 4: his dad does my taxis. His dad is a tax accountant.

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Speaker 5: Very nice for me. He said, wait until you do

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Speaker 5: your taxi before you change your last name. But then

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Speaker 5: we had a couple out of the country trips. I

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Speaker 5: don't want to pay for a new passport, so then

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Speaker 5: new TAXIIR comes around. He goes, well, don't change you

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Speaker 5: name till I do your taxes. Well, haven't done my

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Speaker 5: taxies yet, but we got an extension.

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Speaker 2: I'm not like you wqw on that wait to worry on?

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah yeah that, so wait to where I want

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Speaker 4: to do my taxes?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, change your name.

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Speaker 5: Oh well, so now we haven't joined our bank accounts

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Speaker 5: because I don't want to have to join them and

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Speaker 5: then go back to the bank again and change my

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Speaker 5: name again.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So now when you go out to eat and

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Speaker 2: he pays, you're like free.

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Speaker 4: It's free, even though it's technically our money.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but do you know like how much he is

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Speaker 2: in there?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, you do.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I know. There's full transparency, So that would be

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Speaker 2: hard for me to be in a relationship. Lunchbox and

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Speaker 2: his wife don't. I don't even know that. They talk

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Speaker 2: about it. They have separate accounts, and he says she

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Speaker 2: doesn't know what he makes and whatnot. Who knows her

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00:51:07,680 --> 00:51:10,120
Speaker 2: way mm hmm, oh, I know what he makes.

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Speaker 5: And also we have joint investment accounts. We just have

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Speaker 5: separate like checking accounts. And two we have separate credit cards.

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Speaker 5: He doesn't know it's on my credit card though, so you.

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Speaker 2: Can buy whatever you want and it's not like he's like, hey.

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Speaker 5: But part of the reason I want to keep that

1133
00:51:25,520 --> 00:51:28,120
Speaker 5: is because when we buy gifts for each other, it

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00:51:28,239 --> 00:51:30,520
Speaker 5: feels like one I want to be able to hide

1135
00:51:30,560 --> 00:51:30,879
Speaker 5: it too.

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Speaker 4: It's like, I do want you to buy a gift

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Speaker 4: with my credit card. Yeah, it's a mind game. It's

1138
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Speaker 4: a mind game. No, I get that I'm feeling judgment

1139
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Speaker 4: from you.

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Speaker 5: No, okay, No, I'm.

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Speaker 2: Over here just thinking about what you wonder what I'm

1142
00:51:43,280 --> 00:51:45,719
Speaker 2: gonna do. Yeah, I'm sorry I was paying attention to you,

1143
00:51:45,960 --> 00:51:47,800
Speaker 2: but my face was probably.

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00:51:47,520 --> 00:51:51,759
Speaker 5: Like SYD you, but I was thinking about myself, as

1145
00:51:52,120 --> 00:51:55,960
Speaker 5: many people with ADHD often do.

1146
00:51:56,440 --> 00:51:58,799
Speaker 2: I guess I'm just trying to like, I'm thinking about

1147
00:51:58,840 --> 00:52:01,480
Speaker 2: what you're saying and how y'all do it, and then

1148
00:52:01,520 --> 00:52:04,120
Speaker 2: thinking about how I did it in my marriage where

1149
00:52:04,120 --> 00:52:06,400
Speaker 2: I wasn't involved in anything, but now I'm going to be.

1150
00:52:06,640 --> 00:52:08,440
Speaker 2: And then I'm thinking about how Lunchbox does it. And

1151
00:52:08,480 --> 00:52:10,480
Speaker 2: then I'm like, how are we really going to do it?

1152
00:52:10,520 --> 00:52:14,520
Speaker 2: Because we already have these established lives. Yeah, my boyfriend's established,

1153
00:52:14,520 --> 00:52:18,360
Speaker 2: and then he's got three kids. I am as like,

1154
00:52:18,719 --> 00:52:21,000
Speaker 2: have my own thing going. I've got two kids, and

1155
00:52:21,080 --> 00:52:23,600
Speaker 2: then like what he has his own investments.

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Speaker 4: There's no right way to do it.

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Speaker 5: I think that's the beauty of it is you can

1158
00:52:27,320 --> 00:52:29,120
Speaker 5: look at whatever else is doing and say what works

1159
00:52:29,160 --> 00:52:32,640
Speaker 5: for me? Are And also you can change our situation

1160
00:52:32,760 --> 00:52:34,960
Speaker 5: is going to change when I changed my last.

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Speaker 2: Name and then you know, I thought I just have

1162
00:52:36,680 --> 00:52:39,279
Speaker 2: is what if he's like drained your bake account? Who

1163
00:52:39,280 --> 00:52:40,120
Speaker 2: you sign a prenup?

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00:52:41,440 --> 00:52:44,800
Speaker 4: What if what would you say? No, I would have

1165
00:52:44,840 --> 00:52:45,080
Speaker 4: done it.

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Speaker 5: Maybe now that.

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00:52:46,960 --> 00:52:49,040
Speaker 2: I've been divorced, I might be like, Okay, fine, I

1168
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Speaker 2: get it.

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Speaker 5: But then I'd be like, you know what, this is

1170
00:52:52,280 --> 00:52:56,200
Speaker 5: my thought on prenups. I almost said can I share it?

1171
00:52:56,320 --> 00:52:57,760
Speaker 5: And I did it, but then I said it anyway,

1172
00:53:00,880 --> 00:53:03,600
Speaker 5: So my thought. I told Patrick I wanted to prenup

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00:53:03,960 --> 00:53:07,759
Speaker 5: because my because when you get married, you essentially sign

1174
00:53:07,880 --> 00:53:11,560
Speaker 5: a prenup is a nuptial agreement. We agree that this

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00:53:11,719 --> 00:53:13,719
Speaker 5: is what's going to happen to our money when if

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Speaker 5: we get divorced. So when you get married, you technically

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Speaker 5: sign a prenup just with the deal that the state

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00:53:20,719 --> 00:53:24,520
Speaker 5: has created for you. So in my head, if I'm

1179
00:53:24,520 --> 00:53:26,920
Speaker 5: going to sign an agreement when I get married that

1180
00:53:27,000 --> 00:53:28,719
Speaker 5: this is what's going to happen, it should be one

1181
00:53:28,800 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 5: that I made, not just one the state made for me.

1182
00:53:33,080 --> 00:53:35,680
Speaker 5: But I have ADHD, and I got lazy, and I

1183
00:53:35,760 --> 00:53:36,879
Speaker 5: was like, oh, that sounds like a lot of work,

1184
00:53:36,960 --> 00:53:37,520
Speaker 5: so I didn't do it.

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Speaker 2: Take a shot anytime you hear me and Kat talk

1186
00:53:41,000 --> 00:53:41,479
Speaker 2: about how.

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Speaker 5: We have ADHD, you'll be drunk, yeah, or you could

1188
00:53:46,400 --> 00:53:48,040
Speaker 5: like just take a shot of water because that might

1189
00:53:48,080 --> 00:53:48,680
Speaker 5: not be good for you.

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Speaker 2: Well, you'll be hydrated, speaking of a hydration for our

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00:53:53,120 --> 00:53:55,840
Speaker 2: skin before we do wrap. I do want to remind

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00:53:55,920 --> 00:53:59,560
Speaker 2: people that the Happy twenty five code for the Snail

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00:53:59,600 --> 00:54:05,160
Speaker 2: serum is still working today through through the thirtieth. So

1194
00:54:05,400 --> 00:54:06,600
Speaker 2: today's the twenty seventh, so you.

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00:54:06,640 --> 00:54:07,400
Speaker 5: Got one to.

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Speaker 2: Do through the thirtieth, because I think they have another

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Speaker 2: sales starting on the thirty first, so at that point

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Speaker 2: in time, Happy twenty five the code will no longer work.

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Speaker 2: And Cat and I really do use it. I really

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Speaker 2: do use biopel. We only have the code from them

1201
00:54:28,719 --> 00:54:30,600
Speaker 2: because we used it. I used to not have a code.

1202
00:54:30,600 --> 00:54:32,440
Speaker 2: I would just post about it and then then I

1203
00:54:32,560 --> 00:54:34,400
Speaker 2: was like, oh, I could post about it on Instagram,

1204
00:54:34,840 --> 00:54:39,360
Speaker 2: which or no, on Amazon through Instagram, And yes, I

1205
00:54:39,560 --> 00:54:42,239
Speaker 2: get a kickback from that too, but like again, if

1206
00:54:42,280 --> 00:54:46,480
Speaker 2: I'm posting it might as well. And I love this stuff.

1207
00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:48,720
Speaker 2: It is so hydrating for your skin. And I realized

1208
00:54:48,760 --> 00:54:50,400
Speaker 2: last week we talked all about it, and then I

1209
00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:54,200
Speaker 2: didn't share any of the benefits at all. Like later

1210
00:54:54,320 --> 00:54:57,640
Speaker 2: Shannon was like, oh, we didn't say, like what, why

1211
00:54:57,640 --> 00:54:58,080
Speaker 2: do you like it?

1212
00:54:58,239 --> 00:54:59,160
Speaker 5: Why we like it?

1213
00:54:59,400 --> 00:55:01,840
Speaker 2: But we love it for the glow, but it's a

1214
00:55:01,920 --> 00:55:05,560
Speaker 2: growth factor and there's benefits of that. We use specifically

1215
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Speaker 2: the Tensage forty ampules and all this will be linked

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Speaker 2: in the show notes. But quickly. This is from the

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Speaker 2: biopeal website. And these snails they live on a cute

1218
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Speaker 2: little snail farm in Brazil. They're treated great. They eat

1219
00:55:18,160 --> 00:55:20,319
Speaker 2: like lettuce and carrots, and they're so cute. I've seen

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Speaker 2: a whole video about them. Then they're having the dream.

1221
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Speaker 2: I think they're happy. And this is just like some

1222
00:55:25,480 --> 00:55:27,960
Speaker 2: sexual type secretion they release and then we put it

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Speaker 2: on our face.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, like how sexual I don't think snails have.

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Speaker 4: It's not that I didn't say it with sperm, Well,

1226
00:55:35,520 --> 00:55:37,160
Speaker 4: people put salmon sperm on their face.

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00:55:37,360 --> 00:55:40,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is some sort of secretion that maybe has

1228
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Speaker 2: to do with a something.

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Speaker 1: Sally.

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Speaker 5: Don't talk about that part because it took me a

1231
00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:46,240
Speaker 5: while to get on board with snail serum.

1232
00:55:46,360 --> 00:55:48,879
Speaker 4: That thought, okay, so just give us the best face.

1233
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Speaker 2: That doesn't make it a little more exotic, oh findum.

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00:55:54,800 --> 00:56:01,440
Speaker 2: So it improves skins, texture, tone, luminosity, visibly improved fine lines,

1235
00:56:01,680 --> 00:56:05,319
Speaker 2: reduces signs of photo damage. It helps shorten healing time

1236
00:56:05,880 --> 00:56:07,400
Speaker 2: if you were to get a treatment, like if you

1237
00:56:07,560 --> 00:56:09,960
Speaker 2: some people get micro needling or some sort of treatment,

1238
00:56:10,000 --> 00:56:12,000
Speaker 2: they can use the snail serrum to heal up your

1239
00:56:12,040 --> 00:56:17,359
Speaker 2: face faster. So some dermatologists and stuff offer may offer

1240
00:56:17,440 --> 00:56:19,920
Speaker 2: biopel like as part of the Hey, this is part

1241
00:56:19,960 --> 00:56:23,840
Speaker 2: of your you know, post treatment regimen regimen. Yes, but

1242
00:56:23,960 --> 00:56:27,240
Speaker 2: really in a nutshell, just say, I love the vitamin

1243
00:56:27,320 --> 00:56:29,160
Speaker 2: C in it, the vitamin E, and I love the glow.

1244
00:56:29,680 --> 00:56:30,239
Speaker 4: I'm telling you.

1245
00:56:30,640 --> 00:56:32,680
Speaker 5: When I used it, my friend asked me what makeup

1246
00:56:32,719 --> 00:56:36,239
Speaker 5: I was wearing and I wasn't wearing any And you're like,

1247
00:56:36,560 --> 00:56:40,720
Speaker 5: that is it is snail snail serum. Don't say secretion,

1248
00:56:41,040 --> 00:56:43,600
Speaker 5: don't say it serum.

1249
00:56:44,360 --> 00:56:47,759
Speaker 2: Okay, that is the snail serum. Happy twenty five is

1250
00:56:47,760 --> 00:56:50,360
Speaker 2: the code that's twenty five percent off, which is this

1251
00:56:50,480 --> 00:56:53,400
Speaker 2: already pricey stuff. We know that we get it, but

1252
00:56:53,480 --> 00:56:55,640
Speaker 2: twenty five percent off is the most the highest discount

1253
00:56:55,640 --> 00:56:57,520
Speaker 2: I've ever seen them get. Like, sometimes there's a twenty

1254
00:56:57,560 --> 00:57:02,399
Speaker 2: percent off code, but this is twenty five exclusively for y'all.

1255
00:57:02,560 --> 00:57:06,040
Speaker 2: So not misday, Not misday. We don't have any e

1256
00:57:06,040 --> 00:57:08,600
Speaker 2: mail of the day, So okay, wells.

1257
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Speaker 4: Time, Amy, Where can they find our podcast on YouTube.

1258
00:57:12,440 --> 00:57:14,479
Speaker 2: Or wherever you listen to podcasts. If they're already listening

1259
00:57:14,480 --> 00:57:15,640
Speaker 2: to this part, they're listening to it.

1260
00:57:15,719 --> 00:57:17,880
Speaker 4: Well, it meant like where can they find us?

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00:57:18,080 --> 00:57:22,800
Speaker 2: Oh, Feeling Things podcast on Instagram that's the handle, and

1262
00:57:22,880 --> 00:57:25,880
Speaker 2: then Feeling Things podcasts on YouTube, yeah, and Feeling Things

1263
00:57:25,960 --> 00:57:27,000
Speaker 2: podcasts on TikTok.

1264
00:57:27,760 --> 00:57:29,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, follow us on TikTok.

1265
00:57:30,200 --> 00:57:30,439
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1266
00:57:31,120 --> 00:57:33,880
Speaker 2: Okay, I think we just went up some on TikTok,

1267
00:57:34,640 --> 00:57:37,439
Speaker 2: on TikTok, on the Tico. We're about to hit twenty

1268
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Speaker 2: three thousand followers on TikTok.

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Speaker 5: That's a lot.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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00:57:40,680 --> 00:57:42,760
Speaker 4: Oh we have over six hundred on YouTube.

1272
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's fun. Yeah, man, who knews growing something

1273
00:57:47,680 --> 00:57:50,280
Speaker 2: so starting to zero. Also, we can see the downloads

1274
00:57:50,280 --> 00:57:52,880
Speaker 2: of people listening, and I'm like, I guess people are

1275
00:57:52,960 --> 00:57:54,919
Speaker 2: just so accustomed to listening to us on podcasts, they're

1276
00:57:54,960 --> 00:57:57,080
Speaker 2: like not used to watching us on YouTube. And I

1277
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Speaker 2: don't know if people are coming across us organically and

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00:57:59,360 --> 00:58:00,000
Speaker 2: maybe not inter.

1279
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Speaker 1: But maybe they are.

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Speaker 2: Well because some people I don't know, like the millions

1281
00:58:06,160 --> 00:58:08,200
Speaker 2: and millions and millions of you people like they just

1282
00:58:08,360 --> 00:58:10,920
Speaker 2: missed that's like their thing and they're that's what they

1283
00:58:11,000 --> 00:58:13,440
Speaker 2: do on YouTube. And then maybe maybe sometimes they come

1284
00:58:13,480 --> 00:58:16,160
Speaker 2: across content like if they have a lot of views,

1285
00:58:16,200 --> 00:58:18,120
Speaker 2: it's piped out more and then people come across them

1286
00:58:18,200 --> 00:58:20,480
Speaker 2: organically and they're like, oh, I like them. Well, I

1287
00:58:20,520 --> 00:58:22,920
Speaker 2: don't know if anybody's coming across this organically, but if

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Speaker 2: they are, are they sticking around?

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Speaker 4: We hope so as we can do.

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Speaker 2: We would like to invite you too. You are welcome here.

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Speaker 5: If you're coming across this organically on YouTube, you're welcome here,

1292
00:58:34,320 --> 00:58:35,959
Speaker 5: and we would love it if you would stick around.

1293
00:58:36,080 --> 00:58:37,000
Speaker 2: This is a safe culick.

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Speaker 4: Subscribe. We promise to give you content that will keep

1295
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Speaker 4: you coming back.

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Speaker 2: For more, which we're not sure if we did that today,

1297
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Speaker 2: but maybe next time. Oh, cry, okay goes, I love this.

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Speaker 2: Oh it's good to have supportive friends.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Which, yeah, to the one listener asking about friendships, we

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Speaker 2: didn't really acknowledge this part, but that is hard and

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Speaker 2: especially when everyone's in different seasons of life. But Blake

1303
00:58:59,680 --> 00:59:02,800
Speaker 2: does have such good info that if you start following her,

1304
00:59:02,920 --> 00:59:06,000
Speaker 2: I promise or somewhere in some episodes or interviews that

1305
00:59:06,080 --> 00:59:08,680
Speaker 2: she probably has linked like, she will have addressed that

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00:59:08,840 --> 00:59:12,280
Speaker 2: topic because she really covers everything about friendship. So good

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Speaker 2: luck with that, and yeah, we'll see y'all next time.

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Speaker 4: I hope you have the day you need to have.

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Speaker 1: Bye. Bye,