1 00:00:06,360 --> 00:00:10,119 Speaker 1: What at my beautiful listeners, Welcome to this week's episode 2 00:00:10,160 --> 00:00:14,040 Speaker 1: of Cheeky's and Chill. I don't know if you've heard, 3 00:00:14,120 --> 00:00:16,479 Speaker 1: I'm sure you have, of the phrase keeping up with 4 00:00:16,480 --> 00:00:19,599 Speaker 1: the Joneses. But if you haven't, don't worry. You're in 5 00:00:19,680 --> 00:00:22,759 Speaker 1: luck because we're going to talk about all of that today. 6 00:00:23,120 --> 00:00:24,800 Speaker 1: I know it's a little bit of an older phrase, 7 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:27,480 Speaker 1: but it's still very relevant and something a lot of 8 00:00:27,520 --> 00:00:30,920 Speaker 1: people struggle with, especially in this era of social media. 9 00:00:31,480 --> 00:00:33,640 Speaker 1: And I'll be honest, it's a trap I have fallen 10 00:00:33,680 --> 00:00:36,159 Speaker 1: into in the past, but today things are a lot 11 00:00:36,200 --> 00:00:38,440 Speaker 1: different for me and I want to share, so let's 12 00:00:38,440 --> 00:00:43,479 Speaker 1: talk about it, all right. So what does keeping up 13 00:00:43,520 --> 00:00:48,320 Speaker 1: with the Joneses mean? It's basically when you're constantly trying 14 00:00:48,479 --> 00:00:53,640 Speaker 1: to match everyone else's lifestyle or trying to one up them, 15 00:00:53,800 --> 00:00:58,000 Speaker 1: even if you can't afford it. And I will say, 16 00:00:58,120 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 1: especially in the beginning of my career, and I became 17 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:04,040 Speaker 1: a singer after my mom passed in like twenty thirteen, 18 00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:08,560 Speaker 1: twenty fourteen, fifteen sixteen, I think all the way up 19 00:01:08,640 --> 00:01:13,080 Speaker 1: until like twenty eighteen, something clicked AnyWho, I felt like 20 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:16,160 Speaker 1: I had to play the part that fake it till 21 00:01:16,200 --> 00:01:18,960 Speaker 1: you make it sort of thing. It's saying that we've 22 00:01:19,040 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 1: mentioned before, and I've said it before. I don't like 23 00:01:21,319 --> 00:01:25,360 Speaker 1: that saying. But I realized that I was doing that 24 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:28,120 Speaker 1: for a while, and it was because I wanted to 25 00:01:28,120 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 1: be respected in my career. I wanted to be taking 26 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:34,760 Speaker 1: seriously and I thought, well, artists need this type of 27 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:36,720 Speaker 1: car and this type of clothes, and they need to 28 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:39,960 Speaker 1: have chains, and even if they're not real diamonds, you know, 29 00:01:40,080 --> 00:01:43,120 Speaker 1: like they look like it. It was all of that 30 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:48,160 Speaker 1: pressure that made me do things that, at the end 31 00:01:48,200 --> 00:01:51,840 Speaker 1: of the day made me unhappy. As crazy as that sounds, 32 00:01:52,240 --> 00:01:56,360 Speaker 1: I was buying things that I had no business buying. Yeah, 33 00:01:56,400 --> 00:01:58,640 Speaker 1: maybe I had the money to buy it, but that 34 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:01,520 Speaker 1: doesn't mean I had enough money to buy it, Like 35 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:04,960 Speaker 1: I should have been spending those thousands of dollars in 36 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:08,160 Speaker 1: a business, in an investment home. And now I think 37 00:02:08,160 --> 00:02:10,360 Speaker 1: about it, I'm like, oh, my goodness, the amount of 38 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:13,040 Speaker 1: money that I spent not only on clothes and shoes 39 00:02:13,080 --> 00:02:17,960 Speaker 1: and purses and cars and jewelry, on parties, on parties 40 00:02:18,160 --> 00:02:21,240 Speaker 1: to make other people happy, to invite people that weren't 41 00:02:21,280 --> 00:02:24,320 Speaker 1: really my friends that I knew, And I'm cool with, 42 00:02:24,400 --> 00:02:26,840 Speaker 1: but I wouldn't consider a part of my inner circle 43 00:02:27,200 --> 00:02:29,600 Speaker 1: enough to invite you to my home and I would 44 00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:32,120 Speaker 1: do that. Sure I had fun. Yeah, I'm not going 45 00:02:32,200 --> 00:02:33,840 Speaker 1: to say I didn't have fun and I didn't enjoy 46 00:02:33,919 --> 00:02:36,560 Speaker 1: the presence of these people. Of course I did. But 47 00:02:36,639 --> 00:02:39,480 Speaker 1: the amount of money that I spent just to look cool, 48 00:02:40,280 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 1: just to say I could throw this party for the 49 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:47,200 Speaker 1: New Year, or I would throw a lot of holiday 50 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:50,919 Speaker 1: parties before, it's just crazy guys. Like I think back, 51 00:02:50,960 --> 00:02:52,919 Speaker 1: and it kind of makes my tummy turn because I'm like, 52 00:02:52,960 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 1: oh my god, like cringe, you know. But it's growth 53 00:02:58,440 --> 00:03:03,280 Speaker 1: and it's learning and it's maturing, and I'm not mad 54 00:03:03,320 --> 00:03:06,240 Speaker 1: at myself for it. I'm grateful that I can realize 55 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:09,480 Speaker 1: it and just learn from it. And I see that 56 00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:15,000 Speaker 1: happening a lot, especially on social media, and I know 57 00:03:15,080 --> 00:03:19,400 Speaker 1: I have an episode on it on how people just 58 00:03:19,639 --> 00:03:24,919 Speaker 1: front and even sometimes the cars aren't theirs, they'll rent 59 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:27,800 Speaker 1: them for the day and just say, Okay, I'm gonna 60 00:03:27,800 --> 00:03:29,600 Speaker 1: post this because it makes me look cool and the 61 00:03:29,639 --> 00:03:31,280 Speaker 1: car was just rented, which is cool. If that's what 62 00:03:31,320 --> 00:03:33,560 Speaker 1: you want to do. Cool, that's awesome. Whatever, whatever makes 63 00:03:33,600 --> 00:03:36,960 Speaker 1: you happy that wasn't making me happy. I never rented 64 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 1: a car like to do unless it was like a 65 00:03:38,840 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 1: photo shooter video. But when I got a g Wagon 66 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:46,560 Speaker 1: and that thing was like one hundred something thousand dollars cool. 67 00:03:46,600 --> 00:03:48,200 Speaker 1: I mean, if you have the money, you have millions, 68 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:50,560 Speaker 1: do it. You know what I mean. But now I 69 00:03:50,600 --> 00:03:54,800 Speaker 1: just see things differently. A luxury vehicle comes with a 70 00:03:54,840 --> 00:03:58,400 Speaker 1: lot of responsibility. Especially let's talk about the g Wagon 71 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:03,280 Speaker 1: because I was like, my freakin' dream car and I 72 00:04:03,320 --> 00:04:06,680 Speaker 1: got it. And someone once told me, if you're gonna 73 00:04:06,720 --> 00:04:09,480 Speaker 1: complain about filling up the tank, then that means you 74 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:12,400 Speaker 1: probably shouldn't have the car. And I was like, well, damn, 75 00:04:12,480 --> 00:04:16,320 Speaker 1: I probably shouldn't because it's a gas guzzler. It's awesome. 76 00:04:16,360 --> 00:04:18,160 Speaker 1: I loved it. I'm so grateful that I was able 77 00:04:18,200 --> 00:04:22,800 Speaker 1: to drive that thing. But now I'm thinking, like, I 78 00:04:22,880 --> 00:04:27,640 Speaker 1: need to be smarter with my money, and I don't 79 00:04:27,680 --> 00:04:30,479 Speaker 1: need to buy that car. I should spend those hundred 80 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:33,680 Speaker 1: thousand dollars as a down payment to a home, an 81 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:40,040 Speaker 1: investment home, a business, you know. And again I'm grateful. 82 00:04:41,160 --> 00:04:43,320 Speaker 1: I don't want to sound ungrateful. I don't want to 83 00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:45,960 Speaker 1: knock anybody if that's what you want. If that's a 84 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:49,480 Speaker 1: car you're driving, girl, I'm happy for you. I'm talking 85 00:04:49,520 --> 00:04:53,599 Speaker 1: about me now that my mindset has changed. I'm not 86 00:04:53,640 --> 00:04:56,440 Speaker 1: saying I'll never drive a g Wagon because I will, 87 00:04:56,480 --> 00:04:58,440 Speaker 1: be honest. The electric one is looking real nice. But 88 00:04:58,440 --> 00:05:00,120 Speaker 1: then I looked at the price and I was like, girl, oh, 89 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:02,760 Speaker 1: we're not there right now. Like I could, but not 90 00:05:02,839 --> 00:05:04,919 Speaker 1: just because I could, does that mean I should? You know, 91 00:05:05,880 --> 00:05:08,960 Speaker 1: luxury cars do come with a lot of responsibility. For instance, 92 00:05:09,120 --> 00:05:12,800 Speaker 1: if you, god forbid, crash it or someone hits you. 93 00:05:13,880 --> 00:05:19,240 Speaker 1: The parts are so expensive to fix the car. The 94 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:22,240 Speaker 1: more luxury the vehicle is, the more expensive it is 95 00:05:22,279 --> 00:05:27,160 Speaker 1: to service it. Even an oil change is ridiculously expensive. 96 00:05:27,279 --> 00:05:30,880 Speaker 1: The brakes, the tires. Now I think about all of 97 00:05:30,880 --> 00:05:35,080 Speaker 1: that before I didn't, And I think that's what the 98 00:05:35,160 --> 00:05:39,600 Speaker 1: difference is. Now. I'm more mindful. Now, I'm not worried 99 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:45,360 Speaker 1: about my status or how people are going to view me. 100 00:05:45,680 --> 00:05:49,600 Speaker 1: If I walk into rehearsals for a show, I'm going 101 00:05:49,680 --> 00:05:51,720 Speaker 1: to be on you know, for instance, like when they 102 00:05:51,720 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 1: have the award shows, and you know, before it was 103 00:05:54,120 --> 00:05:55,640 Speaker 1: like I gotta I gotta look good. You know, the 104 00:05:55,680 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 1: cameras are going to be there, I gotta wear this 105 00:05:57,320 --> 00:05:59,599 Speaker 1: expensive thing, or I gotta like look like an artist. 106 00:05:59,720 --> 00:06:01,680 Speaker 1: What the hell does like an artist look like? First all, 107 00:06:01,760 --> 00:06:03,240 Speaker 1: you know, but in my mind it was like I 108 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:06,160 Speaker 1: gotta look like an artist. I'm like, I am an artist. 109 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:08,200 Speaker 1: I don't need to look like one, you know what 110 00:06:08,279 --> 00:06:10,960 Speaker 1: I mean? And now it's just I don't know. Now 111 00:06:10,960 --> 00:06:13,760 Speaker 1: I'm just more mindful in everything that I do, and 112 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:19,479 Speaker 1: even with purses. Guys, like I love bags, I do, 113 00:06:20,800 --> 00:06:24,200 Speaker 1: but now I'm starting to resell a lot of my 114 00:06:24,279 --> 00:06:27,039 Speaker 1: luxury bags and purses on the real real that's where 115 00:06:27,080 --> 00:06:31,480 Speaker 1: I've been doing it mainly. And I'm like, okay, thank you, bag, 116 00:06:31,680 --> 00:06:34,000 Speaker 1: I think it I do, and I'm like, thank you 117 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:37,880 Speaker 1: for being with me during these times. I appreciate it. 118 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:40,240 Speaker 1: Now you're going to go to someone else, you know, 119 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:43,640 Speaker 1: our time is up. And it might sound silly, but 120 00:06:43,920 --> 00:06:46,919 Speaker 1: I'm the type of person that names my cars. I 121 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:51,120 Speaker 1: don't necessarily name my purses unless it has a specific 122 00:06:51,240 --> 00:06:54,240 Speaker 1: name or like a specific like meaning. But I do 123 00:06:54,440 --> 00:06:56,120 Speaker 1: speak to my things. I mean, I'll speak to my 124 00:06:56,160 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 1: shoes and I'm like, damn, you hurt me today, or 125 00:06:57,920 --> 00:07:00,359 Speaker 1: like you know, I do. That's just a I know. 126 00:07:01,040 --> 00:07:04,440 Speaker 1: But even with my purses again, I'm learning to donate. 127 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:07,720 Speaker 1: I've always donated, but now I'm like, Okay, if I'm 128 00:07:07,720 --> 00:07:12,000 Speaker 1: going to purchase a bag, then I need to sell 129 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:15,960 Speaker 1: one or give one away, donate it. It's not just Okay, 130 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:17,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna buy a purse and keep buying and keep 131 00:07:17,840 --> 00:07:21,960 Speaker 1: buying like I'm just filling up my closet with just stuff, 132 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:24,960 Speaker 1: and I for me, like it just becomes stagnant energy 133 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:28,680 Speaker 1: and I just want to keep the energy flowing in 134 00:07:28,760 --> 00:07:32,240 Speaker 1: my households, in my career, in my clothing. And the 135 00:07:32,280 --> 00:07:34,480 Speaker 1: way to do that as being intentional by doing that, 136 00:07:34,560 --> 00:07:38,800 Speaker 1: and that's what I'm doing. Even with jewelry. I've never 137 00:07:38,840 --> 00:07:42,800 Speaker 1: really been a diamond girl. I had an era of diamonds, 138 00:07:42,840 --> 00:07:46,720 Speaker 1: you know, And it had nothing to do with diamonds 139 00:07:46,720 --> 00:07:50,160 Speaker 1: and the flashiness of them or or like diamonds are 140 00:07:50,160 --> 00:07:54,280 Speaker 1: a girl's best friend. My thing was was different. But 141 00:07:54,360 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 1: there was a time when I was with a specific 142 00:07:57,200 --> 00:08:02,760 Speaker 1: person that will remain nameless. But that's when I bought 143 00:08:02,800 --> 00:08:05,880 Speaker 1: a little bit more jewelry. But that was never really me. 144 00:08:06,280 --> 00:08:09,280 Speaker 1: It was something that I was, I guess peer pressured 145 00:08:09,880 --> 00:08:13,880 Speaker 1: into doing and I guess maybe for like a tiny 146 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:16,760 Speaker 1: bit of time, I thought it was cool. But I've 147 00:08:16,840 --> 00:08:20,080 Speaker 1: never been that type of girl of like diamonds, it's 148 00:08:20,080 --> 00:08:25,080 Speaker 1: not my thing. And the crazy thing is that, because 149 00:08:25,120 --> 00:08:26,960 Speaker 1: I've never been a diamond girl, I didn't know the 150 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:30,920 Speaker 1: difference between real diamonds or lab diamonds. And I realized 151 00:08:30,960 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 1: that there was a person that was selling me all 152 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:36,400 Speaker 1: this stuff that were basically not real diamonds. They were 153 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:39,800 Speaker 1: lab diamonds. But it's okay. You live and you learn, 154 00:08:40,440 --> 00:08:42,600 Speaker 1: and I should have just gone with my intuition then, 155 00:08:42,640 --> 00:08:44,040 Speaker 1: where I was like, I don't really need this. It's 156 00:08:44,080 --> 00:08:46,440 Speaker 1: not really my style, but okay, it's cool. You know, 157 00:08:46,480 --> 00:08:49,720 Speaker 1: it's what an artist wears, you know, or uses. And 158 00:08:49,800 --> 00:08:52,439 Speaker 1: I spent a lot of unnecessary money on that, and 159 00:08:52,480 --> 00:08:55,440 Speaker 1: it's just now I'm like, no, I'm not spending on 160 00:08:55,559 --> 00:09:00,240 Speaker 1: jewelry unless it's a watch that I really love. And 161 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:02,760 Speaker 1: thank god, a friend of mine just gave me for 162 00:09:02,920 --> 00:09:07,800 Speaker 1: my birthday last year a Rolex and that's something that 163 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:10,960 Speaker 1: I could buy, but I just didn't. I hadn't boughten 164 00:09:10,960 --> 00:09:13,600 Speaker 1: myself one. I just felt like, how am I going 165 00:09:13,679 --> 00:09:16,200 Speaker 1: to pay that amount of money for a watch like 166 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:21,400 Speaker 1: I just I couldn't see myself doing it unless I 167 00:09:21,440 --> 00:09:24,720 Speaker 1: really love a watch like a Cardia, right, But God 168 00:09:24,800 --> 00:09:27,320 Speaker 1: is good to me, and God sent it with my 169 00:09:27,360 --> 00:09:29,680 Speaker 1: sister Jenica for Christmas. Look at that. I was like, 170 00:09:29,679 --> 00:09:30,960 Speaker 1: oh my god. I was looking at this watch and 171 00:09:30,960 --> 00:09:32,920 Speaker 1: I was like, oh. I even told myself. I was like, 172 00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:35,280 Speaker 1: I don't feel comfortable spending this amount on this right now. 173 00:09:36,040 --> 00:09:37,560 Speaker 1: If I do well in the beginning of the year, 174 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:40,040 Speaker 1: then I'll go ahead and like, you know, see where 175 00:09:40,040 --> 00:09:41,600 Speaker 1: we're at, and maybe I'll buy it. And then I 176 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:43,640 Speaker 1: got it for Christmas, guys, So I'm like, look at that. 177 00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:46,960 Speaker 1: I manifested it. But that's what I'm talking about. I'm 178 00:09:47,080 --> 00:09:53,880 Speaker 1: just asking myself more now do I need this? And 179 00:09:53,920 --> 00:09:56,440 Speaker 1: most of the time it's no, because it's more of 180 00:09:56,480 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 1: a want, and it's okay to want things and to 181 00:09:59,240 --> 00:10:01,120 Speaker 1: buy yourself because you deserve it, and you're like, I'm 182 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:03,760 Speaker 1: gonna go buy myself a bag. Cool, do it, but 183 00:10:03,920 --> 00:10:07,080 Speaker 1: do it for the right reasons, not to keep up, 184 00:10:07,800 --> 00:10:11,160 Speaker 1: not to one up, not to go off and show 185 00:10:11,160 --> 00:10:12,600 Speaker 1: it off and be like, oh, yeah, I got this. 186 00:10:12,679 --> 00:10:15,880 Speaker 1: It's I bought this bag or I bought this watch 187 00:10:16,360 --> 00:10:19,400 Speaker 1: because I want it because me, not for anyone else. 188 00:10:20,520 --> 00:10:23,800 Speaker 1: I worked hard and I deserve this, this something, whatever 189 00:10:23,880 --> 00:10:35,040 Speaker 1: it may be. And for a moment there, I was 190 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:40,880 Speaker 1: doing and buying things not for myself, for other people 191 00:10:42,800 --> 00:10:48,280 Speaker 1: to get quote unquote respected, as silly as it sounds, 192 00:10:48,920 --> 00:10:51,680 Speaker 1: and I'm just being real. A lot of people won't 193 00:10:52,240 --> 00:10:54,079 Speaker 1: sit here and tell you this the way it is, 194 00:10:54,160 --> 00:10:57,440 Speaker 1: but I'm not most people. I'm Cheeky's and I'm gonna 195 00:10:57,480 --> 00:10:58,880 Speaker 1: be real and I'm gonna be vulnerable and I'm gonna 196 00:10:58,880 --> 00:11:03,000 Speaker 1: be honest and transparent with you guys. And it's not 197 00:11:03,040 --> 00:11:06,400 Speaker 1: something that I'm necessarily proud of, but it's not something 198 00:11:06,400 --> 00:11:09,840 Speaker 1: that I'm ashamed of either, because I grew and I learned, 199 00:11:09,880 --> 00:11:12,800 Speaker 1: and this is what this podcast is all about, is 200 00:11:13,040 --> 00:11:15,120 Speaker 1: being honest with you guys, because that's the only way 201 00:11:15,320 --> 00:11:20,600 Speaker 1: that there could be change, is by saying the truth 202 00:11:20,679 --> 00:11:24,040 Speaker 1: and for me sharing my personal experiences and the things 203 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:27,160 Speaker 1: that I have grown from and the adversities that I 204 00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:31,400 Speaker 1: have faced to hopefully keep you guys for making the 205 00:11:31,440 --> 00:11:38,000 Speaker 1: same mistake. Or maybe you didn't even realize that you're 206 00:11:38,040 --> 00:11:41,440 Speaker 1: doing this right now, and that's okay too. Does it 207 00:11:41,559 --> 00:11:43,839 Speaker 1: make you a bad person to want things and to 208 00:11:43,920 --> 00:11:48,600 Speaker 1: buy yourself things. It becomes a problem when you're doing 209 00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:51,800 Speaker 1: it for the wrong reasons. It becomes a problem when 210 00:11:51,840 --> 00:11:56,560 Speaker 1: you're purchasing things out of your means, and I've seen 211 00:11:56,640 --> 00:12:02,440 Speaker 1: that happen quite a bit, when people are showing off 212 00:12:03,280 --> 00:12:07,920 Speaker 1: but they owe other people money, or their light bill 213 00:12:07,960 --> 00:12:11,520 Speaker 1: hasn't been paid, but they will go and buy themselves 214 00:12:12,280 --> 00:12:17,559 Speaker 1: the newest iPhone. That's where I think it becomes a problem, 215 00:12:18,679 --> 00:12:22,920 Speaker 1: and it's all just to show off, to put up 216 00:12:22,960 --> 00:12:25,240 Speaker 1: a front. It's a facade at the end of the day, 217 00:12:25,960 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 1: and I see a lot of that happening. I think 218 00:12:29,679 --> 00:12:32,320 Speaker 1: now it's a little bit less and that makes me happy. 219 00:12:32,360 --> 00:12:35,640 Speaker 1: I feel like people are focusing more on wellness on 220 00:12:35,679 --> 00:12:38,760 Speaker 1: social media, or at least on my algorithm, where I 221 00:12:38,800 --> 00:12:41,360 Speaker 1: see there's just the same people that used to do 222 00:12:41,440 --> 00:12:45,400 Speaker 1: it that I would be like, damn, they're just just 223 00:12:45,480 --> 00:12:48,880 Speaker 1: showing off. Now I've noticed a little switch. Now they're 224 00:12:48,880 --> 00:12:51,960 Speaker 1: focusing more on taking care of their body and not 225 00:12:52,000 --> 00:12:55,240 Speaker 1: necessarily always having to post oh my watch my car 226 00:12:55,360 --> 00:12:57,120 Speaker 1: logo and then the purse in the back, and it's 227 00:12:57,160 --> 00:13:00,640 Speaker 1: just all it's just like, damn, it's cool. I mean, 228 00:13:00,640 --> 00:13:03,480 Speaker 1: it's cool if that's what you want to do. But 229 00:13:03,520 --> 00:13:06,120 Speaker 1: I personally, I don't like show offs. That's just not 230 00:13:06,320 --> 00:13:09,080 Speaker 1: my thing. I feel like it's just it's just not 231 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:11,440 Speaker 1: cute in my eyes, Like don't, don't. There's no need 232 00:13:11,480 --> 00:13:13,480 Speaker 1: to show off, Like we can see when you're like 233 00:13:13,920 --> 00:13:18,400 Speaker 1: intentionally trying to do something or show something, and it's 234 00:13:18,720 --> 00:13:20,840 Speaker 1: I don't know, it just doesn't feel right to me. 235 00:13:21,960 --> 00:13:24,400 Speaker 1: But again, got again. People are going to do what 236 00:13:24,440 --> 00:13:26,679 Speaker 1: they want with their money. I'm not here trying to 237 00:13:26,720 --> 00:13:29,280 Speaker 1: tell you what to do with your money, but take 238 00:13:29,320 --> 00:13:34,040 Speaker 1: it from a person that has had a lot, lost 239 00:13:34,080 --> 00:13:40,040 Speaker 1: a lot, didn't invest enough. But at least I realized 240 00:13:40,320 --> 00:13:42,520 Speaker 1: and now I can correct it. And it's never too 241 00:13:42,559 --> 00:13:44,960 Speaker 1: late to correct it. And that's all I'm trying to 242 00:13:44,960 --> 00:13:51,520 Speaker 1: tell you. Another thing that has caused in my life anyway, 243 00:13:52,520 --> 00:13:56,280 Speaker 1: some problems. It's been a little bit of a problem 244 00:13:56,360 --> 00:14:03,240 Speaker 1: for me is being too excessive consumption. Even when I eat, 245 00:14:03,520 --> 00:14:07,479 Speaker 1: I'm always in a rush. I have to remind myself 246 00:14:07,679 --> 00:14:11,120 Speaker 1: to eat slowly, to take the time to let my 247 00:14:11,200 --> 00:14:15,079 Speaker 1: body digest, to chew the food, even as simple as that. Guys, 248 00:14:15,080 --> 00:14:16,920 Speaker 1: I mean, I know it's like off topic a little bit, 249 00:14:16,960 --> 00:14:20,240 Speaker 1: but I needed to give you this example, because this 250 00:14:20,320 --> 00:14:22,760 Speaker 1: is something that I've realized lately that it's like, Okay, 251 00:14:22,760 --> 00:14:24,080 Speaker 1: I just need to slow down and not eat so 252 00:14:24,120 --> 00:14:27,880 Speaker 1: fast because I'm always just on the go. Enjoy it, chew, 253 00:14:28,160 --> 00:14:31,480 Speaker 1: savor the food, and if you do that, you won't 254 00:14:31,480 --> 00:14:34,040 Speaker 1: eat that much. And that's happened to me where I'm 255 00:14:34,040 --> 00:14:36,480 Speaker 1: like I'm gonna rush, I'm eating a lot, I'm over eating. 256 00:14:36,600 --> 00:14:38,600 Speaker 1: I mean, now I don't. But like I used to 257 00:14:38,640 --> 00:14:42,160 Speaker 1: overserve myself and now it's like, okay, portion control in 258 00:14:42,240 --> 00:14:46,760 Speaker 1: every area of my life. I used to love a 259 00:14:46,800 --> 00:14:49,760 Speaker 1: shirt and buy the same damn shirt in all the 260 00:14:49,760 --> 00:14:53,240 Speaker 1: colors because I loved it. Now I'm like, okay, am 261 00:14:53,280 --> 00:14:56,680 Speaker 1: I really gonna wear all these colors? No? I just 262 00:14:56,720 --> 00:14:58,960 Speaker 1: need one black one. I don't need three black ones. 263 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:01,960 Speaker 1: I need one black one and one white one and 264 00:15:02,000 --> 00:15:04,400 Speaker 1: maybe if I want a colorful one. But before it 265 00:15:04,440 --> 00:15:07,520 Speaker 1: was like I love this so much, it's like gonna 266 00:15:07,560 --> 00:15:11,480 Speaker 1: run out. That's having scarcity mindset me thinking oh my gosh, 267 00:15:11,520 --> 00:15:14,480 Speaker 1: it's gonna run out. I need to buy five of 268 00:15:14,840 --> 00:15:18,120 Speaker 1: the black ones because they're gonna sell out, and I 269 00:15:18,160 --> 00:15:21,080 Speaker 1: would just have them there and it's taking up space. 270 00:15:21,120 --> 00:15:28,160 Speaker 1: It becomes stagnant energy. It's it's just excessive. Now, I 271 00:15:28,280 --> 00:15:31,040 Speaker 1: do my best to just buy one. Or if I 272 00:15:31,120 --> 00:15:35,800 Speaker 1: have a pair of shoes that look very similar, I 273 00:15:35,840 --> 00:15:39,000 Speaker 1: don't need all those shoes that look very similar. I 274 00:15:39,080 --> 00:15:42,200 Speaker 1: want one new shoe that I love and that is comfortable, 275 00:15:42,880 --> 00:15:45,040 Speaker 1: because I'm not gonna buy the Christian lubatons anymore. My 276 00:15:45,080 --> 00:15:49,000 Speaker 1: feet have changed, girl, Like I just I can't walk 277 00:15:49,040 --> 00:15:51,040 Speaker 1: in them for too long. I don't need to be 278 00:15:51,080 --> 00:15:53,280 Speaker 1: spending all that money on a shoe that's that expensive, 279 00:15:53,320 --> 00:15:55,880 Speaker 1: that hurts my feet that much. I could just buy 280 00:15:55,920 --> 00:15:58,160 Speaker 1: a shoe that looks just as good that's half the 281 00:15:58,200 --> 00:16:01,080 Speaker 1: price or less, and it's it's a new true and 282 00:16:01,080 --> 00:16:02,400 Speaker 1: then I have a black one, and then I have 283 00:16:02,440 --> 00:16:04,600 Speaker 1: some fun ones. When before I was like, oh my god, 284 00:16:04,640 --> 00:16:06,200 Speaker 1: I would just buy and buy and buy, and it 285 00:16:06,320 --> 00:16:08,680 Speaker 1: just it's just it would make me feel like when 286 00:16:08,680 --> 00:16:10,600 Speaker 1: I would clean out my closet to donate, it would 287 00:16:10,600 --> 00:16:13,960 Speaker 1: make me feel very sad with myself. I felt ashamed. 288 00:16:14,040 --> 00:16:16,720 Speaker 1: I felt like, oh my gosh, there's stuff that still 289 00:16:16,720 --> 00:16:22,280 Speaker 1: has tags on them. That's that's not okay in my eyes, 290 00:16:22,320 --> 00:16:24,200 Speaker 1: Like I'm like, what am I doing? Like I need 291 00:16:24,280 --> 00:16:26,960 Speaker 1: to stop doing this to myself to the world because 292 00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:29,440 Speaker 1: where is all this clothes going? Which it makes me 293 00:16:29,480 --> 00:16:33,600 Speaker 1: feel better to donate it, But the fast fashion has 294 00:16:33,640 --> 00:16:37,000 Speaker 1: really messed things up for us guys, for businesses, not 295 00:16:37,040 --> 00:16:39,360 Speaker 1: only for businesses, but just for the earth guys. Like 296 00:16:39,480 --> 00:16:43,120 Speaker 1: I don't know if you've seen those videos in like 297 00:16:43,160 --> 00:16:45,600 Speaker 1: I think it was like India or Africa, like where 298 00:16:45,840 --> 00:16:49,880 Speaker 1: all of our trash goes, especially clothing, and it's in 299 00:16:49,960 --> 00:16:53,840 Speaker 1: like the ocean, and it's just it's really bad. Guys. 300 00:16:53,840 --> 00:16:56,080 Speaker 1: We have a big problem. And I'm not going to 301 00:16:56,120 --> 00:17:01,400 Speaker 1: get into that, but over consumption is, in my opinion, 302 00:17:02,400 --> 00:17:10,760 Speaker 1: a sin I have learned. Even with my grocery shopping. 303 00:17:10,880 --> 00:17:13,320 Speaker 1: I used to go to the grocery store on a 304 00:17:13,320 --> 00:17:15,800 Speaker 1: weekly basis and just buy stuff, stuff that I thought 305 00:17:15,800 --> 00:17:17,879 Speaker 1: I was gonna eat, and then I didn't for whatever 306 00:17:17,880 --> 00:17:19,959 Speaker 1: reason because life got busy or I didn't cook, or 307 00:17:20,160 --> 00:17:24,159 Speaker 1: whatever the case may be, and the food would spoil 308 00:17:25,280 --> 00:17:29,600 Speaker 1: like what, And I remember throwing away the foot I'm like, God, 309 00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:33,320 Speaker 1: I am so sorry. I feel so bad because I'm like, 310 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:36,000 Speaker 1: this isn't cool. There are people that don't have food 311 00:17:36,040 --> 00:17:38,920 Speaker 1: to eat, people are suffering, and now I'm like, Okay, 312 00:17:39,000 --> 00:17:42,639 Speaker 1: if there's nothing in the refrigerator besides eggs, milk, tortillas, 313 00:17:42,640 --> 00:17:45,879 Speaker 1: that's what I buy. Bananas, avocados, I'm like, I know 314 00:17:45,960 --> 00:17:47,720 Speaker 1: I'm going to eat those. I eat these things on 315 00:17:47,760 --> 00:17:49,560 Speaker 1: a daily basis. That's all I'm going to buy. If 316 00:17:49,560 --> 00:17:52,680 Speaker 1: I want to make something delicious for dinner, I'm gonna 317 00:17:52,680 --> 00:17:54,840 Speaker 1: go to the store that day and buy what I need. 318 00:17:55,320 --> 00:18:00,679 Speaker 1: Even with that, I have gotten better because being excessive, 319 00:18:01,720 --> 00:18:06,080 Speaker 1: it almost never brings anything good. It will most likely 320 00:18:06,119 --> 00:18:12,680 Speaker 1: bring feelings of guilt, of abandonment of yourself. You've abandoned 321 00:18:12,680 --> 00:18:16,680 Speaker 1: yourself and your truth. It brings a lot of things 322 00:18:16,920 --> 00:18:20,160 Speaker 1: being excessive, And that is something that I work on 323 00:18:20,760 --> 00:18:24,480 Speaker 1: almost every day, of reminding myself to not be excessive 324 00:18:24,560 --> 00:18:28,639 Speaker 1: because I will give excessively. And there's nothing wrong with 325 00:18:28,720 --> 00:18:31,880 Speaker 1: giving excessively. It's like, Okay, just give enough. You don't 326 00:18:31,920 --> 00:18:35,160 Speaker 1: have to over do it and know where to give 327 00:18:35,200 --> 00:18:37,159 Speaker 1: it because I love to give and I love to 328 00:18:37,200 --> 00:18:40,480 Speaker 1: make people happy and that's just who I am. But 329 00:18:40,520 --> 00:18:43,080 Speaker 1: when you start doing it and overdoing it and you 330 00:18:43,119 --> 00:18:46,680 Speaker 1: don't receive the appreciation, not that you need it back, 331 00:18:47,480 --> 00:18:51,119 Speaker 1: when you don't feel that it's appreciated because you're not 332 00:18:51,200 --> 00:18:55,320 Speaker 1: giving the energy in the right place, then it makes 333 00:18:55,359 --> 00:18:59,240 Speaker 1: you feel a certain way about yourself. I'm not sure 334 00:18:59,280 --> 00:19:01,439 Speaker 1: if that made any sense, but it makes sense to me. 335 00:19:02,200 --> 00:19:04,280 Speaker 1: So I'm not saying not to give. It's not what 336 00:19:04,280 --> 00:19:06,240 Speaker 1: I'm saying. What I'm saying it's okay to give. It's 337 00:19:06,280 --> 00:19:08,520 Speaker 1: just being mindful, guys. This whole episode is about being 338 00:19:08,520 --> 00:19:11,679 Speaker 1: mindful about what we purchase, about what we're doing, and 339 00:19:11,720 --> 00:19:15,960 Speaker 1: the real reasons on why we're doing things. Make sure 340 00:19:16,000 --> 00:19:19,200 Speaker 1: that that is aligned first and foremost before you purchase anything, 341 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:23,359 Speaker 1: before you go to the grocery store, all of it. Like, 342 00:19:23,400 --> 00:19:26,919 Speaker 1: it's really thinking, Okay, do I need this now? Or 343 00:19:26,960 --> 00:19:28,760 Speaker 1: am I just buying this because it's a want? Is 344 00:19:28,760 --> 00:19:31,280 Speaker 1: it a luxury? Is it a necessity? Is it something 345 00:19:31,320 --> 00:19:33,600 Speaker 1: that I'm buying for myself because I feel proud of 346 00:19:33,640 --> 00:19:37,040 Speaker 1: myself and I deserve it. That's cool, But only you 347 00:19:37,119 --> 00:19:40,680 Speaker 1: know and only you can answer those questions. Is okay? 348 00:19:40,720 --> 00:19:45,840 Speaker 1: Am I doing this for the right reasons? And that's 349 00:19:45,880 --> 00:19:49,760 Speaker 1: all AnyWho, Guys, I'm not trying to give you a 350 00:19:49,840 --> 00:19:52,320 Speaker 1: lecture here, and again, you are grown. You can do 351 00:19:52,440 --> 00:19:57,639 Speaker 1: as you please with your money. I just suggest that 352 00:19:57,720 --> 00:20:01,960 Speaker 1: we're mindful in every area of our life and try 353 00:20:02,000 --> 00:20:05,960 Speaker 1: not to fall into the pressures of the world, especially 354 00:20:06,119 --> 00:20:09,880 Speaker 1: on the algorithm, because our phones hear us and they 355 00:20:09,920 --> 00:20:11,800 Speaker 1: know what we're looking for and what we want. And 356 00:20:12,000 --> 00:20:14,120 Speaker 1: just take a moment to ask yourself, do I really 357 00:20:14,160 --> 00:20:17,719 Speaker 1: need this or is it just something that it's an 358 00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:23,000 Speaker 1: impulsive decision and impulsive purchase. Because I've done those too, 359 00:20:23,040 --> 00:20:25,800 Speaker 1: and I've been better at returning. You guys, I used 360 00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:27,920 Speaker 1: to be a queen of not returning things. Now am I, uh, 361 00:20:28,040 --> 00:20:30,040 Speaker 1: let's return it. Nope, I'm going to return it if 362 00:20:30,040 --> 00:20:33,439 Speaker 1: it doesn't fit. The other day I went to the store. Dude, 363 00:20:33,480 --> 00:20:36,320 Speaker 1: anyone that knows me knows that I'll never try anything on. 364 00:20:36,359 --> 00:20:38,040 Speaker 1: I'll take it home. And sometimes I try it on, 365 00:20:38,080 --> 00:20:39,680 Speaker 1: and then if I try it on, like months later 366 00:20:39,720 --> 00:20:41,199 Speaker 1: and the I'm like, oh it didn't fit. By then 367 00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:44,000 Speaker 1: it's too late to return it. It was a whole thing. 368 00:20:44,400 --> 00:20:46,600 Speaker 1: But the other day I went to the store and 369 00:20:46,920 --> 00:20:51,800 Speaker 1: I tried on closed because I don't like, I despise 370 00:20:52,800 --> 00:20:59,359 Speaker 1: the lighting in almost every dressing room. The lighting is horrible. 371 00:20:59,480 --> 00:21:01,359 Speaker 1: And I know, oh, I know, you guys know what 372 00:21:01,359 --> 00:21:04,400 Speaker 1: I'm talking about. But I just turned around and I said, 373 00:21:04,400 --> 00:21:06,080 Speaker 1: I'm not going to look at this overhead lighting. I 374 00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:08,919 Speaker 1: don't know who invented this. It was horrible. I just 375 00:21:08,960 --> 00:21:12,919 Speaker 1: turned around. I took off. You know. I was like 376 00:21:13,000 --> 00:21:14,720 Speaker 1: trying things on, and I was very proud of myself. 377 00:21:14,760 --> 00:21:16,480 Speaker 1: Even Emilia was like, you're going to try it on? 378 00:21:16,520 --> 00:21:19,120 Speaker 1: I'm like, yes, because I'm not doing this. It either 379 00:21:19,119 --> 00:21:20,840 Speaker 1: fits and I love it and I'm taking it home 380 00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:23,920 Speaker 1: or not. And there were jeanes the color of Genes 381 00:21:23,920 --> 00:21:25,840 Speaker 1: that I didn't have, so I even thought about that. 382 00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:27,840 Speaker 1: I'm like, do I have this color? I'm not buying. 383 00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:32,480 Speaker 1: I had like twenty jeans the same color, the same 384 00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:34,399 Speaker 1: color scheme. I was like, grow, no, you only need 385 00:21:34,440 --> 00:21:39,000 Speaker 1: two max. You know, one could be straight leg, wide leg, etc. 386 00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:42,440 Speaker 1: But It's like, dude, it was crazy. Anyway, I don't 387 00:21:42,440 --> 00:21:44,199 Speaker 1: know how I got to this point again, but I 388 00:21:44,280 --> 00:21:46,200 Speaker 1: just had to say that I hope you guys enjoy 389 00:21:46,240 --> 00:21:48,640 Speaker 1: your day, and I hope that you enjoyed this episode. 390 00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:51,280 Speaker 1: Thank you for listening, thank you for being here. I 391 00:21:51,320 --> 00:21:56,600 Speaker 1: am so grateful for you. And yeah, just think a 392 00:21:56,640 --> 00:21:58,720 Speaker 1: little bit about what I'm talking about. Just think about it. 393 00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:01,560 Speaker 1: Let a process, let it sim let it marinate and 394 00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:05,119 Speaker 1: if you know someone in your life that needs a 395 00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:08,560 Speaker 1: little help in this area, it's okay, nothing to be 396 00:22:08,560 --> 00:22:11,280 Speaker 1: ashamed of. It's all right, guys. I'm sure we're not 397 00:22:11,359 --> 00:22:16,399 Speaker 1: the only ones share the episode and yeah, that is 398 00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:19,280 Speaker 1: all for now. Thank you again for being here, and 399 00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:21,360 Speaker 1: I will catch you on the next episode of your 400 00:22:21,359 --> 00:22:27,440 Speaker 1: favorite podcast, Stay it Out Loud. Cheeky Isn't Chill. 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