Speaker 1: The Nicky Glazer Podcast. Here's Nicky. Hello here I am.
Speaker 1: It's a Nicki Glazer podcast. Welcome to the show. I'm
Speaker 1: in Los Angeles. Still, Noah is here. Anya's here. Welcome guys.
Speaker 1: How are you this morning? Is it morning where you are?
Speaker 1: Kind of maybe now it's for me? It is, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's morning for us. Yeah. Um, top of the morning
Speaker 1: to you. My boyfriend is still asleep in the other room. Um.
Speaker 1: I went in turned on his uh white noise machine
Speaker 1: and I was like, you need to crank it up
Speaker 1: boo boo because it's just like like it's not loud enough.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I want to talk about you, bitch.
Speaker 1: Crank that bitch now. Um, he's a snuggle buggle in
Speaker 1: the next room, and um, he had a late night
Speaker 1: last night, so he's sleeping in a little bit today.
Speaker 1: And um, what's it like? Oh done, yes, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: you both sad? Cohabitation too instead of living together? Honestly,
Speaker 1: what is this podcast? Um? Okay, welcome back to NPR.
Speaker 1: This is terry gross. Um so cohabitation it's I mean,
Speaker 1: it's we've done it before. We did it for many years,
Speaker 1: and um, I feel like we've probably lived together, um
Speaker 1: for like two years out of the ten that we've
Speaker 1: been off and on, So it's it's the same. It's
Speaker 1: always great. It's we get along really good living together.
Speaker 1: There's never been it's better than not living together for us.
Speaker 1: Always more conflict arises when we don't see each other
Speaker 1: and we're not living together, but when we're living together,
Speaker 1: we're just Maybe it's um like the whole theory of
Speaker 1: you have to make it work, like you know, how
Speaker 1: like people go when you get married, you just you
Speaker 1: get into a fight. It fights don't escalate to insanity
Speaker 1: as much because you both know that this you're going
Speaker 1: to have to make it work because you're married. And
Speaker 1: I feel like we both know there's no other place
Speaker 1: for us to go unless we get a hotel. So
Speaker 1: maybe that's maybe it just makes us feel secure, I guess,
Speaker 1: And in a relationship. I feel like like it's just
Speaker 1: so obvious when I'm secure in my relationship. To me,
Speaker 1: it's like, you know, when I realized that my happiness
Speaker 1: and my mood and so much of my life unfortunately
Speaker 1: is dictated by the security I feel with my partner.
Speaker 1: Now when I'm single, I don't know what dictates my happiness,
Speaker 1: honestly not sure, like if Starbucks filled my cup all
Speaker 1: the way to the top, if they're accepting mobile orders today,
Speaker 1: so beautiful metaphorically and literally. It's I really don't know
Speaker 1: what I don't remember, but I know that when I'm
Speaker 1: in a relationship, instability in my relationship equals instability and
Speaker 1: the rest of my life. And that is called codependency.
Speaker 1: It is also but my old therapist used to say codependency.
Speaker 1: There's this whole realm of therapists who think codependency is
Speaker 1: the worst thing. We need other people, we need to
Speaker 1: depend on people. We don't need that other people to
Speaker 1: dictate how we feel. But like there is there is
Speaker 1: always such a negative connotation with codependency, and I think
Speaker 1: that there is something to be said for like, well,
Speaker 1: there's benefits of it too, and there is a reason
Speaker 1: why we partner up as humans, and and why being
Speaker 1: single and living alone isn't ideal and why you know,
Speaker 1: there's so much loneliness going on with older people, like
Speaker 1: I get my heart has been breaking recently for old
Speaker 1: people like living alone. Like I read some stat about
Speaker 1: like how many elderly people have no one and this
Speaker 1: die alone, don't not even in a nursing home. Just
Speaker 1: die like no one is left. And it makes me
Speaker 1: so fucking sad. I can't even handle it. And so yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean we need but it's it really bothers me.
Speaker 1: I guess it doesn't bother me. It just, um it's
Speaker 1: nice to It's nice to be able to recognize when
Speaker 1: I'm feeling depressed in the world sucks and I am
Speaker 1: just in general, um so negative about everything. It's usually
Speaker 1: because my boyfriend and I are like not feeling secure.
Speaker 1: There's like we're having a lack of communication or something.
Speaker 1: But that's both sad and nice to know. But what
Speaker 1: the fuck, man, I don't want I don't want that.
Speaker 1: I don't want my happiness to be dependent on it.
Speaker 1: I mean, hasn't be dependent on something. People go, you're happy,
Speaker 1: you shouldn't be dependent on your job or like your
Speaker 1: successes at work or you know, your home life. But
Speaker 1: it's like, then, what the fuck else is it supposed
Speaker 1: to be dependent on your inner spirit and how much
Speaker 1: you like yourself? Like who has that besides and Oprah, Yeah,
Speaker 1: yeah exactly. So I gotta get a job working at Starbucks. Oh,
Speaker 1: you would probably love it. I kind of would, except
Speaker 1: today at Starbucks. The woman was so chipper it fucking annoyed.
Speaker 1: I'm not kidding you. I should have recorded it. Well,
Speaker 1: I can't do an impression right now because I would
Speaker 1: wait Chris up. But it was so loud and she
Speaker 1: was just like, hey, thanks for coming. Oh no, you
Speaker 1: did it like screaming, and I was looking around like
Speaker 1: is anyone else gonna clock this? And like I do
Speaker 1: want people to enjoy their jobs, but I felt so
Speaker 1: I've never felt worse for Starbuck work, Sparbabucks workers than
Speaker 1: them working with this overly cheery one. It's ironic light
Speaker 1: attendant like that the other day and I think I
Speaker 1: sent you were recording she was screaming on the flight
Speaker 1: and like at such a high pitch and doing a
Speaker 1: trivia game. But it was terrifying because she was screaming
Speaker 1: and all of us are just like you're taking us
Speaker 1: a hostage. It was a Southwest flight. Let me just say,
Speaker 1: why them stopp hang out because my dad always says
Speaker 1: I love Southwest. You know when Johm interviews, they ask
Speaker 1: if Southwest job interview. Every single interview, they asked, tell
Speaker 1: me a joke, and if you can't, they don't really,
Speaker 1: they don't get the job. And I go, well, if
Speaker 1: you asked me to tell you a joke, I wouldn't
Speaker 1: tell I wouldn't have one on hand. I have one
Speaker 1: now because I just read this book and there was
Speaker 1: a great joke. Now when people go, tell me a
Speaker 1: good joke, like, I'm not someone who just like carries
Speaker 1: jokes in their pocket like well too, gays walk into
Speaker 1: a bar like, I don't memorize those jokes. I like
Speaker 1: people that do. It's a skill that people have as
Speaker 1: a comedian. I do not have that skill. But what
Speaker 1: I do, like that I just read was a cop
Speaker 1: pulls over car and there's three priests inside, and the
Speaker 1: cop goes, we're looking for three pedophiles, and they go,
Speaker 1: we'll do it to dad. We all know why I
Speaker 1: like that joke. I'll screenshot it for you because it
Speaker 1: was in a David Sideris book. I don't think it
Speaker 1: wasn't It wasn't his joke. He just had a joke
Speaker 1: in a book. But it's you know, for many reasons,
Speaker 1: that's my favorite joke. But yeah, Southwest. The other day,
Speaker 1: I was on a flight and their little chip or
Speaker 1: cheery attitude, which is some people love it, and it's
Speaker 1: so sweet when someone's stupid enough to get a kick
Speaker 1: out of that, When your life is that simple that
Speaker 1: a flight attendant making a joke like is enough to
Speaker 1: make you laugh out loud, Like I look at you,
Speaker 1: and I go, how dumb? How easy is your life
Speaker 1: that this is giving you joy. I envy people that
Speaker 1: just get kicks out of dumb shit, you know, like
Speaker 1: those people in my audience. I mean, I don't think
Speaker 1: they'd even like me, because it would beat It wouldn't
Speaker 1: be easy enough to get like. I don't not that
Speaker 1: I'm like super intellectual humor by any Yeah, they just
Speaker 1: need like they just go whole and they're looking at
Speaker 1: each other like, oh, the people who clap when you land,
Speaker 1: you know, that's that whole thing, which I don't really
Speaker 1: actually hate that. I think clapping when you're landing isn't
Speaker 1: that bad. It's like kind of cute. People hate clappers
Speaker 1: when they land. But the other day I was texting
Speaker 1: with Chris because there was or maybe it was texting
Speaker 1: with you, I get you guys confused, But I was saying, like, emotionally,
Speaker 1: I get you guys confused. Text share the same kind
Speaker 1: of things. Yeah, it's the it's the pictures I send
Speaker 1: you guys. Um, although you like it from behind, that's
Speaker 1: the difference. Oh that's a cool sound. How do you
Speaker 1: do it? Yean Um, Chris saw her last night. Uh yeah,
Speaker 1: the hip dance where his strings on his hips and
Speaker 1: cuts one and his hip falls, it's the best. Um.
Speaker 1: So I was telling someone that I was on this
Speaker 1: flight and oh yeah, I was on the way out here,
Speaker 1: and there was this girl that was so loud and
Speaker 1: just being so obnoxious, and like it was the kind
Speaker 1: of person where if you were to tell them, hey,
Speaker 1: there are people, like, there's people on this flight. Like
Speaker 1: she was having a conversation with her friend next to her,
Speaker 1: and they're like laughing because she's one of these people
Speaker 1: that's just so loud and has to have every thought
Speaker 1: that comes in her head set out loud and she
Speaker 1: can't speak. She's talking to her friend. She's like, I
Speaker 1: told them that if we are delayed, I'm not sleeping
Speaker 1: in this airport. I am not sleeping to this airport.
Speaker 1: You all should be happy right now we're about to
Speaker 1: take off, Like and it was so obnoxious, but you
Speaker 1: knew she's the kind of girl that if you were like,
Speaker 1: excuse me, you're being rude, she'd be like, what did
Speaker 1: you say? Are you a racist? Fucking bit? Like it
Speaker 1: was gonna go to that, Like I just knew it.
Speaker 1: So I just unbridled self expression. Really, yeah, is that
Speaker 1: like a real thing. Yeah, it's she was Chinese by
Speaker 1: the way. If you guys were thinking she was black, um, no,
Speaker 1: she was unbridled self expression us. Yeah. So it's basically
Speaker 1: like when you just say everything that's on your mind,
Speaker 1: just like dump it. My therapist calls it shooting from
Speaker 1: the hip. Okay, you know what. I was furious as
Speaker 1: this girl at the time, and also the Southwest flight
Speaker 1: attendant who was making jokes wasn't helping because they were
Speaker 1: setting her up to be jokey and loud, so people
Speaker 1: were laughing. So then she wants attention, so now it's
Speaker 1: getting so I'm like, this is encouraging this bad behavior.
Speaker 1: But then I was like and I hated this girl.
Speaker 1: I was like seething. I was literally hoping my plane
Speaker 1: would crash so that she would be eliminated from the
Speaker 1: arm I was like having those kinds of thoughts. I
Speaker 1: have those on planes all the time, where I look
Speaker 1: around and I go, I will take the sacrifice because
Speaker 1: these people are fucking awful. Like it's usually on a
Speaker 1: Southwest flight too. Oh, you know what the problem was.
Speaker 1: It was a Southwest flight at fucking four pm direct
Speaker 1: from Saint Louis to Las Vegas, Nevada. That is your problem.
Speaker 1: You're getting on a flight to Las Vegas direct from
Speaker 1: anywhere on a Friday, and you are going to have rowdy,
Speaker 1: drunk idiots. It was like a booze cruise. So girl. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but this girl was not drunk. She was just loud
Speaker 1: and you can tell. And I just go, you know what,
Speaker 1: And I look around there's people trying to sleep. This
Speaker 1: girl is like so disruptive, and I go, NICKI, she
Speaker 1: probably grew up in a home where she never got
Speaker 1: any people. When she was trying to nap as a
Speaker 1: little girl. Her parents were probably screaming at each other,
Speaker 1: had the TV loud, listening to music. She probably never
Speaker 1: learned this poor little child. I tried to shrink her
Speaker 1: down to a child and picture where she learned this
Speaker 1: behavior where no one else's feelings matter or ear drums.
Speaker 1: And I realized this person was probably you know, emotionally
Speaker 1: abused as a child, and she didn't learn and to
Speaker 1: have empathy that this and most of the time rude
Speaker 1: asked people that have note like people on their speaker
Speaker 1: phones having full conversations. People who were blasting music in
Speaker 1: hotel rooms or apartments are just being loud. They're either
Speaker 1: drunk because you have lack of self awareness when you're drunk,
Speaker 1: or they just grew up. Just imagine how they grew
Speaker 1: up where they learned this. They probably have fucking parents.
Speaker 1: Their parents have the worst fucking parents. What do you say?
Speaker 1: I wish I had had that kind of compassion. The
Speaker 1: other day on the Southwest flight, I was so upset.
Speaker 1: I was thinking, like, how can I complain about this?
Speaker 1: I'm like, don't be a Karen, just let it go.
Speaker 1: But it was. It was terrifying, and I could tell
Speaker 1: a lot of passengers were annoyed. They were trying. That's
Speaker 1: where you look around and you kind of just go
Speaker 1: what the fuck? And that's where when it's the flight attendant,
Speaker 1: I get mouthy and I go okay, we get it,
Speaker 1: and I go ugh, I do a opian anthony, which
Speaker 1: I used to pull from as they should, as they
Speaker 1: shout should oh my god, I like, as they should
Speaker 1: is sweeping the names to that girl's boyfriend. Oh, just
Speaker 1: an ugh, Like, there's nothing more that I want to
Speaker 1: avoid in life than someone looking at me and going like,
Speaker 1: just isn't that the worst insults? It's slight. Also, a
Speaker 1: shush works too, like a s like they don't know
Speaker 1: where it's coming from. We're all kind of subconsciously programmed
Speaker 1: to shut the fuck up when we hear a sum
Speaker 1: that works. But I love an ugh and I have
Speaker 1: gotten I mean, I'm getting to the point where I'm
Speaker 1: getting too famous to be this person in public anymore,
Speaker 1: where I call out rude behavior and like and the
Speaker 1: one that gets a bit a bit loud about like
Speaker 1: no one cares, sir, Like I'll shout that, like if
Speaker 1: a guy of three rows back is like talking really loud,
Speaker 1: or like I'll go ka the other day I said
Speaker 1: so loud to someone, which they didn't even know what
Speaker 1: that meant, hasn't hasn't implied, Yeah, it's in it, it's yes.
Speaker 1: And so that's I think, why could work so well?
Speaker 1: But it is good to the point where I'm i
Speaker 1: and I know that people roll their eyes when I
Speaker 1: say I'm famous or whatever, because I would too. But
Speaker 1: it's just a thing, like the it's growing, like even
Speaker 1: I just had a voice lesson right before this, and
Speaker 1: my voice teacher has no concept of who I am,
Speaker 1: which is fine, Like I wouldn't expect him too. He's
Speaker 1: sixty five year old, you know, guy who lives in Ballwin, Missouri,
Speaker 1: and um opera like opera singer and he uh, he
Speaker 1: was like over the weekend. You know, I sang with
Speaker 1: Michael McDonald and he grew up with Michael McDonald and
Speaker 1: had told me about you know, his days back in
Speaker 1: the days, like me and Michael being in bands or whatever.
Speaker 1: And so when I met Michael McDonald this weekend, yeah,
Speaker 1: if you don't know who he is, he's in the
Speaker 1: Doobie Brothers and he's also the guy that sings like
Speaker 1: this and taken it to the streets and he um.
Speaker 1: I like went up to Michael and was like I
Speaker 1: studied with Michael Rochio, who you grew up with, And
Speaker 1: he was like, oh yeah, guy from back in the day.
Speaker 1: Like I mean he's sixty and they knew each other
Speaker 1: when they were twenties, so he was kind of like
Speaker 1: I think, but I told my voice teacher and send
Speaker 1: him all these pictures and he's like, what is happening,
Speaker 1: Like what is this? Like you're performing with John Mayer
Speaker 1: and the Ario Speedwagon. Like he was blown away, but
Speaker 1: I said him pictures and he was like, I posted
Speaker 1: those pictures on Facebook because he wanted to brag about
Speaker 1: his student, like getting to do this thing, even though
Speaker 1: it was like I was a comedian not a singer
Speaker 1: in it. And he said to me, Nikki today, he
Speaker 1: was like, I posted that on Facebook. I I had
Speaker 1: no idea how well known you are. I had no clue,
Speaker 1: and I go, I know, it surprises me as well
Speaker 1: sometimes like it's it's been, it's growing, it's growing a
Speaker 1: lot recently. And it was just so cute that he
Speaker 1: was just like people were freaking out and it was
Speaker 1: just really cute. But even yesterday, I mean, I've been
Speaker 1: doing this for probably ten years now, but when I
Speaker 1: walk on Sunset Boulevard and there is a celebrity sightseeing van,
Speaker 1: you know, there's these tmz ones, There's tons of them,
Speaker 1: and they are constantly roaming Sunset Boulevard just pointing out
Speaker 1: that's where whoever died and that's the Viper room, and
Speaker 1: like they're just going and maybe they'll see a celebrity,
Speaker 1: and I always because I know. I once was a
Speaker 1: young girl in LA who went on a celebrity tour
Speaker 1: and I would have killed to see a celebrity walking
Speaker 1: down the sidewalk. But you don't know because everyone looks
Speaker 1: normal and you don't know who is who unless you
Speaker 1: were very savvy. So I always used to say, I'm
Speaker 1: I'm a comedian, I'm I'm friends with Amy Schumer, like
Speaker 1: that was my joke back in the day. I would
Speaker 1: film myself saying it when when I was someone who
Speaker 1: was not recognizable. But yesterday I was filming a show
Speaker 1: and I was like waiting to walk into this business
Speaker 1: and I was waiting on the sidewalk and people were
Speaker 1: filming outside the business because they like love this business
Speaker 1: because of the show or whatever, and they're paparazzi out there.
Speaker 1: Then there's like a van of people that came through
Speaker 1: and they're kind of staring at me, and I'm waving
Speaker 1: at them because I'm just waiting for my I'm like,
Speaker 1: we're waiting for i don't know, sound or something lighting inside.
Speaker 1: So I'm waving to this van of people and then
Speaker 1: they start kind of like waving back and I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm Nicki Glazer, I have a comedian. I'm screaming across
Speaker 1: traffic and the guy that's like the crew guy that's
Speaker 1: holding me is like, you like thinking, I go, I
Speaker 1: do that because not because I want attention, but because
Speaker 1: I feel like I want to give them a gift
Speaker 1: of like seeing a live animal on a safari, Like
Speaker 1: I want to be the cheetah that's like comes up
Speaker 1: and like pause at the window. Not for myself, like really,
Speaker 1: I promise, like maybe it's ten percent for myself, but
Speaker 1: I don't even think it's that. Like I really do
Speaker 1: it because I know what it means to be a
Speaker 1: celebrity fanatic and to see someone that you go, Okay,
Speaker 1: she's not like, we're not seeing Brad Pitt, but we're
Speaker 1: seeing someone who we can look at her IMDb and
Speaker 1: she's like people get excited about famous people. But that
Speaker 1: leads me to saying, oh, oh, I'm the level of
Speaker 1: famous now where at the gym I have to wipe
Speaker 1: down my equipment. Afterwards, I realized that because people want
Speaker 1: to stattle the sweat or something, oh oh that's so funny. No,
Speaker 1: because they'll think I'm they might go one person sees
Speaker 1: Nikki Glazer not wipe down her machine. And I know
Speaker 1: the way people talk about celebrities on read it and stuff,
Speaker 1: and how much people who love celebrities actually hate them
Speaker 1: and are looking for any reason to like write you
Speaker 1: off as a bad person, right, and a story like that,
Speaker 1: if one person saw me not wipe down machine, I
Speaker 1: am entitled and gross. And but the truth is, and
Speaker 1: so I wipe own machine now, not because I care
Speaker 1: about the person after me, but because I don't want
Speaker 1: to be besmirched in the public eye by one person
Speaker 1: who might see me. Because the other day at my
Speaker 1: gym in my building, I could tell these girls were
Speaker 1: like I can tell when people recognize me and they
Speaker 1: kind of look at they look at me a little long,
Speaker 1: and then I look back at them always and they're
Speaker 1: always on their phone googling and I and I've caught
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not kidding you, dozens of Uber drivers.
Speaker 1: I've caught them kind of like rear view mirror eye contact.
Speaker 1: And then I see them on their phone Google Google
Speaker 1: comedie like, or they'll google Nikki fame and I'll see
Speaker 1: I'll see my fucking net Worth pop up or whatever
Speaker 1: the fuck they're googling. Um, They're like, she better give
Speaker 1: me a tip. But um, but I see it a lot,
Speaker 1: so I just know the I kind of know the
Speaker 1: and I's been friends with famous people so long, Like
Speaker 1: I remember being friends with Amy and just seeing people
Speaker 1: see her and then tell their friends and then like
Speaker 1: look back, Like I know, I know the steps of recognition.
Speaker 1: But I want to just say, you shouldn't wipe down
Speaker 1: your machine. If you care about germs so much, wipe
Speaker 1: it down before you work out. I think the new rule, Chris,
Speaker 1: that's perfect that you've emerged for this new rule. You
Speaker 1: wipe down a machine before you use it the person.
Speaker 1: You don't wipe it after because the only I don't
Speaker 1: care about a sweaty machine, I don't care if someone's
Speaker 1: If it is covered and discussed, I will wipe it down.
Speaker 1: But if it is, this is a perfect system because
Speaker 1: people who actually care about germs are gonna wipe it
Speaker 1: down anyway. They're not gonna trust it was wipe down
Speaker 1: before them people that really care, so they're wiping it
Speaker 1: down twice. So just stop wiping it down if you're
Speaker 1: because the people who actually care already do it anyway.
Speaker 1: What do you think. I completely agree. I need to
Speaker 1: remember to wipe it down before because it's like I
Speaker 1: care for myself and I care for others. If you're
Speaker 1: my mom, by the way, only washed us our hands
Speaker 1: before she peas, and I always thought that was gross,
Speaker 1: and then I was like, she kind of has a point.
Speaker 1: It's not like when I'm peeing, I'm fingering myself. I
Speaker 1: don't even touch myself, and pea is like clean. Actually,
Speaker 1: people like drink their peace, So if I get pee
Speaker 1: on my head, I honestly don't care. It's not like
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go like I like touch a baby's mouth
Speaker 1: or something like I usually like even if it's a
Speaker 1: little like this, this is grossing everyone out. Let's take
Speaker 1: a break and come back and like three group because
Speaker 1: I really hate to think about what I'm about to
Speaker 1: admit here. Okay, we'll be right back after this. All right,
Speaker 1: we're back. Um, Yeah, hand washing. I do it most
Speaker 1: of the time, Like, but interesting your mom does it
Speaker 1: before she goes to the bathroom because I guess I
Speaker 1: don't know why. I don't know. I take it back
Speaker 1: now because I'm like, yeah, if you touched yourself, maybe
Speaker 1: because she touches the toilet paper, and then she thinks
Speaker 1: the dirt will go on the toilet paper into her vagina.
Speaker 1: Do you know that her phones are like worse than
Speaker 1: toilet seats. Yeah, they're covered in pooh. They're like grease everything.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I open my phone. I took my
Speaker 1: phone case off because I don't know if you know
Speaker 1: this little hack, but if you want to give yourself
Speaker 1: a speaker on your phone, you know how your iPhone
Speaker 1: speaker kind of sucks. Yeah, sorry for droid listeners, but
Speaker 1: you you probably are, like you know, I was gonna
Speaker 1: make some just higher poor no, but um for any phone.
Speaker 1: I think your speaker sucks if you put it in
Speaker 1: a glass in a in a you know, in a
Speaker 1: hotel room, might always put it in the glasses. So
Speaker 1: I had to take my cover off to fit my
Speaker 1: phone in a glass. And whoa what did you find that?
Speaker 1: It was like this? It was like digging in the
Speaker 1: seat of a of a Southwest flight like it was
Speaker 1: just it was just it was sticky, and I could
Speaker 1: I couldn't believe there weren't like silverfish living in it.
Speaker 1: I was like, this would be a perfect place for
Speaker 1: a bug to life. I remember my keyboard in college.
Speaker 1: One time a silverfish crawled out of the letter J
Speaker 1: and like went over to like the Tilda, and I
Speaker 1: was like, oh god, how was that? I have like
Speaker 1: critters living in here? I mean I was so discussing
Speaker 1: in college, just like ripping things constantly in the keyboard. Um,
Speaker 1: but yeah, satisfying. Yeah, what to open it up and
Speaker 1: clean it out? Oh? I didn't clean it. I just
Speaker 1: lifted it and go, that's gross. I like, I looked
Speaker 1: for a thing to wipe it off, but there was
Speaker 1: nothing nearby, and so I just put it back on.
Speaker 1: I mean discussed it. I don't get it. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: was like, what satisfying? Oh, cleaning something? I don't know
Speaker 1: what you mean hiring someone to clean something for you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I guess that feels good, but I don't have a
Speaker 1: sense of accomplishment about it. Um, okay, we have to
Speaker 1: discuss the elephant in the room. Um, which are Anya's
Speaker 1: new tasks? Anya got new team? There's anymore? Yeah, but
Speaker 1: yesterday when I came, I mean, I still am having
Speaker 1: a lot of trouble speaking. I think I sound like
Speaker 1: I'm having some trouble with my list. Yeah, so's they're
Speaker 1: not permanent yet though you're like, you have a of
Speaker 1: what's it called a temporary Yeah, you know what it
Speaker 1: feels like, Nick, It's exactly like if he took two
Speaker 1: denting ice and chewed him up for like a minute
Speaker 1: and then tucked him right behind your front teeth. That's
Speaker 1: how it is to talk. So it's a lot nice
Speaker 1: new matter or material right there. Oh that you're yeah,
Speaker 1: you're doing really well with it. I can't. As soon
Speaker 1: as you pointed out, it starts to go, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: I hear it, but hey, yeah, getting like bubblegum tongue.
Speaker 1: What's that? My god? What the fuck is that? It's
Speaker 1: John Mayor lyric? Oh song? Because if you want what
Speaker 1: was it like interacting with him? Nikki? I know him. Yeah.
Speaker 1: A lot of people wrote me and were like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, tell him I love him. I'm like, I'm gone,
Speaker 1: Like the pictures are posted, this was last night. Um.
Speaker 1: I've known John for you know, just perfect. I mean
Speaker 1: I've known John about John since the year two thousand
Speaker 1: when he opened for Guster and my my, the guy
Speaker 1: that was in a little with Doug Rees took me
Speaker 1: on like what I guess, a quasi date to go
Speaker 1: see him and during your Body is Wonderland, which was
Speaker 1: the first time I'd ever heard that song. He was
Speaker 1: a new performer. We were there to see Guster, but
Speaker 1: he was like this guy John. He had seen them
Speaker 1: the night before and he was like, this kid that's
Speaker 1: opening for them is so good. And he whispered in
Speaker 1: my ear during your Body is Wondering and he goes
Speaker 1: the song is about Sacks, and I was just like,
Speaker 1: oh my God, and then um and it told me yes.
Speaker 1: I mean this was high school. This was I was sixteen,
Speaker 1: so I didn't lose my virginity for another um five
Speaker 1: years and Doug's thirty year. No, Doug was my age two.
Speaker 1: I loved time so much. Where are you Doug Reees?
Speaker 1: If any Doug Reese? That is such a popular boy's name,
Speaker 1: ninety eight Doug Grease. Yeah, that's what we called him
Speaker 1: because ninety eight Degrees was such a popular band, and
Speaker 1: so Taylor came up with it. She was like ninety
Speaker 1: eight Doug Grease. So Doug Rees r ei s if
Speaker 1: you know Doug Reese, please someone tell me how to
Speaker 1: find him and tell him I'm looking for him. I'm
Speaker 1: not trying to me like I feel like he's like,
Speaker 1: she's a comedian. I don't want to be brought into
Speaker 1: the spotlight. I will not put you on my podcast.
Speaker 1: I just want to know where you. I just want
Speaker 1: to reconnect with you and share some memories because I
Speaker 1: love you as a friend and and and I don't
Speaker 1: it's so sad that I lost touch with him. But um,
Speaker 1: that song was about sex, and that's anyway John I
Speaker 1: was like a huge fan of back in the day,
Speaker 1: and then continuing on slow Dance, Sitting in a Burning
Speaker 1: Room is one of my favorite songs. Um. I really
Speaker 1: loved his like soul album he did, or like his
Speaker 1: like um kind of like country ish, like folky album
Speaker 1: he did, Born and Raised. I think it was called like.
Speaker 1: I've been into him off and on over the years
Speaker 1: and um, and then I met him at the Comedy
Speaker 1: Seller maybe in two thousand fourteen or something like that,
Speaker 1: and he was very nice and he's like comedy adjacent,
Speaker 1: you know, his friends with a lot of comedians. So
Speaker 1: that's how I met him through that, and then we
Speaker 1: obviously connected. We obviously we connected when Bob Sagett died
Speaker 1: again and um like helped each other a little bit
Speaker 1: through that and that was really nice. And then I
Speaker 1: saw him at UM. Where else have I seen him?
Speaker 1: I guess I saw him at the after party the wake,
Speaker 1: I guess um. And then I then I called him
Speaker 1: for advice on having my vocal cord surgery because he
Speaker 1: had the same same surgery, and so he gave me
Speaker 1: good advice there and I did exactly what he said,
Speaker 1: which is like get an iPad and a keyboard, and
Speaker 1: like uh, and I ordered too small of an iPad,
Speaker 1: so I returned it. But anyway, um, and then yeah,
Speaker 1: the other night, I saw him backstage and I just
Speaker 1: we just were like hey, and just like hugged and
Speaker 1: then he was like you look great. I was like
Speaker 1: you look great. And then he had a cold, and
Speaker 1: I was he performed. I was front row watching him perform,
Speaker 1: and then and then I went backstage because we like
Speaker 1: went so I did my stand up and then I
Speaker 1: just stayed out in the audience and watched the all
Speaker 1: the bands, and then I went back for the finale backstage,
Speaker 1: and that's where I saw him, and he had a
Speaker 1: cold and he was like, I apologize. I'm singing you know,
Speaker 1: an octave lower because I have a cold. So instead
Speaker 1: of gravity, he was doing gravity Deacon, you know, like
Speaker 1: he was just took it down one and then he
Speaker 1: but I was like, I just told him. I go,
Speaker 1: no one would have noticed, no, but you could just
Speaker 1: tell he like, it's interesting to see someone who's so
Speaker 1: famous and beloved call out this thing that no one
Speaker 1: would notice if we didn't. Like, you didn't need to
Speaker 1: tell us she had a cold. You sounded amazing. But
Speaker 1: I as as a comedian myself, like anytime a joke
Speaker 1: doesn't go well, I had to be like that was new.
Speaker 1: I had to like always, or even when I was
Speaker 1: on stage the other night, Chris was like, you didn't
Speaker 1: need to say that, because there was supposed to be
Speaker 1: a five minute like countdown clock, but there was none.
Speaker 1: And as soon as I looked down to see how
Speaker 1: much time I had, there was nothing there. And I go,
Speaker 1: there's supposed to be a countdown clock, but I don't
Speaker 1: know how much time I have. And then I got
Speaker 1: offstage and Chris is like, next time, people didn't need
Speaker 1: to know that. I was like, that's a really good point,
Speaker 1: Like I need to remember the audience isn't, yeah, isn't
Speaker 1: backstage they're not like, but you forget that and great
Speaker 1: performers don't apologize for things they don't need to apologize for.
Speaker 1: So what you're saying is John is not It's not
Speaker 1: a great performance. No, I think that, like I. But
Speaker 1: you know what it shows is that he's a humble
Speaker 1: and still like doubts himself, and especially in front of
Speaker 1: all of these legend legendary musicians. I perhaps if it
Speaker 1: was his own show, he wouldn't have apologized. But I
Speaker 1: think he knew he was amongst musicians that would maybe
Speaker 1: notice or something. You know, when I perform in front
Speaker 1: of comedians, I up it a little bit more. Unfortunately,
Speaker 1: sometimes when people like real fans will come to your
Speaker 1: shows though as a musician I've found the elegant, they'll
Speaker 1: be like sticklers about like you didn't sing it like
Speaker 1: on the record, you know, like why didn't you sing
Speaker 1: it like on the record, Because a lot of times
Speaker 1: you don't, you'll veer away from it, you know, yeah,
Speaker 1: fun because you're bored. So maybe he's just like people
Speaker 1: real fans will notice if I'm not singing the note,
Speaker 1: I usually yeah, no, And you know what I would
Speaker 1: have noticed. I probably would have noticed. And but but
Speaker 1: he But I guess my point was like he he
Speaker 1: sounded amazing with cold like what the fuck? And um,
Speaker 1: so yeah, that was We just had a brief interaction backstage,
Speaker 1: but that was it. Um what was my What was
Speaker 1: I talking about before that? Ye? Teeth? Oh yeah you
Speaker 1: teeth back to such a major Like I've I've kind
Speaker 1: of wanted to get veneers before because they are they veneers?
Speaker 1: Is that what they're called? What you think? So their
Speaker 1: porcelain veneers. The reason I got them was because as
Speaker 1: I've aged, my teeth have gotten a little discolored. I've
Speaker 1: always had this one thing on my front tooth that
Speaker 1: breaks off every eight years. I have to get it fixed.
Speaker 1: And I was just like, I don't. And then like
Speaker 1: braces didn't stick, like they've gotten a little more crooked.
Speaker 1: And then my dentist is like, you could do in
Speaker 1: visiline or you could spend a couple grand and just
Speaker 1: get these four things replaced. And I was like that
Speaker 1: would have said that. I cannot believe how affordable it was.
Speaker 1: I can't believe I've been in invisilne since before Trump
Speaker 1: was president. I'm not kidding. This is such a violent
Speaker 1: procedure though, yeah it is. Do they fucking grind your
Speaker 1: teeth down to stillagtites. At one point they go, okay,
Speaker 1: you're all down, sit up, and you can rent did
Speaker 1: have it ground down to little knobs? Yes, and you
Speaker 1: can see they show you see that's the reaction. That's
Speaker 1: I mean reaction I know that anyone should have. And
Speaker 1: they avoid your nerves. I was asking the dentists. I'm like,
Speaker 1: how do you know like that you're avoiding my nerves?
Speaker 1: She's like, because I went to school for most of
Speaker 1: my life. I was like, easy, lady, I'm sorry. I
Speaker 1: wasn't an insult. That's that's what I could see how
Speaker 1: that would be an annoying question, Like hattie, y'all know
Speaker 1: what you're doing? No, you know what? I want to
Speaker 1: know what they're doing in there. They are taking so
Speaker 1: long to do little things. I'd recently had a tooth procedure,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, what's he doing up in there? Like
Speaker 1: there's somebody like different, like whirring sounds, and like, yes,
Speaker 1: there's like a grind. There was a thing they were
Speaker 1: chipping off an old filling and it's all of a
Speaker 1: sudden a rock came shooting out him me and he goes,
Speaker 1: that's normal. And I go, how about you tell me
Speaker 1: it's normal before it happens, like a rock might come
Speaker 1: shooting out of your face. It felt like, and it
Speaker 1: sounded like you're driving the highway in a semi truck,
Speaker 1: like flicks a rock into your windshield. That's what it
Speaker 1: sounded like. It was like flicking around in my mouth,
Speaker 1: all of us filling just shooting everywhere. And he goes,
Speaker 1: that's normal, that's normal, And I'm like, it's flight. When
Speaker 1: pilots don't tell you this turbulence is normal, We're not
Speaker 1: gonna die, Like, let us know, John Mayer, us, let
Speaker 1: us know your process, let us know what is happening here,
Speaker 1: assume that we are going to assume the worst about
Speaker 1: you even though we're not, and fill us in a
Speaker 1: little bit on these stars. I would have associated a
Speaker 1: heads up, like, you know, twenty five minutes in, I'm like,
Speaker 1: how much longer is this gonna go on? And if
Speaker 1: she had just told me so, we're gonna be up
Speaker 1: in here for like twenty eight minutes or thirty minutes
Speaker 1: like that would have been so nice. Give us a
Speaker 1: time limit. And now you're scared to ask her questions
Speaker 1: because she got so defensive about in the nerve question,
Speaker 1: you hit a nerve clearly, but to not hit them.
Speaker 1: At one point I stood up. She goes, all right,
Speaker 1: just rinse. Now, I had no idea that my teeth
Speaker 1: weren't in yet, and I'm like rinsing, and then I'm
Speaker 1: feeling and all I feel. Nikki are like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: imagine like three long drapes of your gums and I'm
Speaker 1: like feeling these strings. I'm like, what, why is there?
Speaker 1: Like there's so much stuff still hanging in my mouth
Speaker 1: behind I think you need to trim my gums. And
Speaker 1: she's like, oh, your teeth aren't in yet. Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: just scentists, no wonder they were cheating. She was sorry,
Speaker 1: this is not okay. No, Like, can I just say
Speaker 1: come on that people need to know because I did
Speaker 1: not know this, Because I feel like I've always been
Speaker 1: to reliable dentists. I've heard multiple stories lately, um about
Speaker 1: people going to the dentist and needing tons of work
Speaker 1: done because ben dentists prey on people's people know people.
Speaker 1: Dentists know that people don't take care of their teeth,
Speaker 1: and they're shamed of it. So people will wait ten
Speaker 1: years to go to the dentist. You know, Andrew, I
Speaker 1: think hadn't been to the dentists in like twenty years,
Speaker 1: like something like that, because people get ashamed and then
Speaker 1: they go and they will just don't if you go
Speaker 1: to the dentists and you need more than two cavities
Speaker 1: or I would say more than three cavities filled and
Speaker 1: your teeth aren't hurting, Like if you go in hurting
Speaker 1: and then they say you have four cavities, Okay, you
Speaker 1: probably have four cavities. But if you go in for
Speaker 1: a checkup and your teeth aren't hurting and you get
Speaker 1: more three or more cavities that they need filled. Second opinion,
Speaker 1: because there are con artist dentists everywhere. I've run about
Speaker 1: this and Reddit. I've heard personal experiences of it. Chris
Speaker 1: is going to come in right now and tell us
Speaker 1: a personal experience pro tip. As a pro tip pro
Speaker 1: tip loss, don't go to a brand new dentist. They
Speaker 1: have tons of student debt. Oh but if you go
Speaker 1: to a guy that's why do you have me? Go
Speaker 1: to doctor Bacila's he's like twenty two. He's in a
Speaker 1: group that of like, he's in a good group. He's
Speaker 1: a good guy. He's been at pyramid schemes. He's the coolest,
Speaker 1: he's so good. He's he's totally surfer tennis. He has
Speaker 1: a surfer voice, and he's Scott Bacula's nephew. He's just like, hey,
Speaker 1: how's your teeth going today? How are you feeling going today?
Speaker 1: So yeah, those I mean, I'm not saying that they're
Speaker 1: all bad, but those dentists that are like young and
Speaker 1: just out of dental school, they've got tons of debt
Speaker 1: and they're like, hey, man, if we do a bunch
Speaker 1: of fillings, that's what I think. That's what happened with
Speaker 1: the stories that you're doing. Yeah, well there's yeah, there's
Speaker 1: one story in Saint Louis. But I've i've I think
Speaker 1: this is something that people don't know about. So they
Speaker 1: they prey on your shame, you know, like they go,
Speaker 1: oh my god, this is bad. You listen, and they
Speaker 1: roll their chair over. Listen, they move the light out
Speaker 1: of the way. This isn't good. So you've got six
Speaker 1: cavities on your left side, you got four on the
Speaker 1: right side, and we've got a couple of go to
Speaker 1: a second opinion. I'm not I'm not lying to you
Speaker 1: like they they they know when people are ashamed, and
Speaker 1: there are bad people out there that are taking advantage.
Speaker 1: So also I went to two dentists in New York City.
Speaker 1: They said, okay, you have to get an implant. I
Speaker 1: got a six thousand dollars implant on the right. And
Speaker 1: then they go, you have a hairline fracture on this
Speaker 1: on your other side. You're gonna have to get an implant.
Speaker 1: Do you want to just do it now? I go, no,
Speaker 1: I don't have six thousand dollars. I go get a
Speaker 1: second opinion. That guy goes, you do have a hairline fracture,
Speaker 1: but you don't yet need an implant, but you will.
Speaker 1: Then I go to this guy a couple of years later,
Speaker 1: and he goes, you have no hairline fracture. It's fine,
Speaker 1: you do not and will not I need an implant.
Speaker 1: Let's all just get second opinions for fucking everything. I mean,
Speaker 1: that's that's the name of the game. I've never done
Speaker 1: that in my life. I just take I just always
Speaker 1: defer that I'm an idiot, and everyone knows better be
Speaker 1: especially doctors who are fucking egomaniacs. You have to be
Speaker 1: kind of sociopathic and you know, just like they just
Speaker 1: kind of look at bodies like they cut into bodies,
Speaker 1: like especially surgeons. They surgeons. That's why um sociopathy is
Speaker 1: kind of beneficial to society because we need people that
Speaker 1: can like cut into a body and not feel anything
Speaker 1: or feel remorse or like deal with people dying on them. Babe,
Speaker 1: before you leave, I got you some sugar. He hates them,
Speaker 1: but sometimes when I want intimacy with him, I'll go
Speaker 1: give me some sugar. And he loves it but hates it.
Speaker 1: But today I got you a chocolate croissant. Yeah, because
Speaker 1: I know you did. Yeah, yeah, enjoy it. If you
Speaker 1: don't like it, just give it to someone who does.
Speaker 1: You know, I hope you have the greatest day. They
Speaker 1: hear it. Wait, he loves you when he thinks you
Speaker 1: were wonderful. Thank you. I've heard about He didn't even
Speaker 1: see my teeth. I'm just kidding. He didn't say that.
Speaker 1: Should I shave off my incisors because I've heard that
Speaker 1: it gives them more youthful appearance. What are they called,
Speaker 1: Nikki la incisors? Because your first four teeth are all incisors.
Speaker 1: I looked it up. Now, your lateral incisors are the
Speaker 1: ones next to your front teeth. Two buddies on the side,
Speaker 1: the little two little henchmen, And I think, yeah, can
Speaker 1: make them a little maybe like a hairline shorter. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but that's so exciting to have a new fresh set
Speaker 1: of teeth. Like it's really whenever I get my teeth whitened,
Speaker 1: it's such a boost. When I just got some like
Speaker 1: gaps filled in and my teeth and it was like,
Speaker 1: oh yeah, just like yeah, because when I would smile,
Speaker 1: there would be I just have, um it's not like
Speaker 1: a gap, but it's like my molars come together and
Speaker 1: they make like a cave and it's called the black triangles.
Speaker 1: And it was so funny because I was telling my
Speaker 1: surf I was telling my surf or Dennis when he
Speaker 1: was like, how your teeth, you know, hanging loose, And
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, there's like there's just when I
Speaker 1: smile sometimes it looks like I have like food in
Speaker 1: my back molars and these like at the very top
Speaker 1: it looks like a little poppy seed. And he was like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: maybe we'll scrape up something in the stain that didn't work, Okay,
Speaker 1: we'll knock out this filling and refill it because the
Speaker 1: filling looks stained. That didn't work, and I go, it's
Speaker 1: not a stain, it's a fucking shadow because it's a cave.
Speaker 1: It's like a little cave hole. And so he goes, oh,
Speaker 1: black triangle. Oh yeah, he goes, usually we yeah, we
Speaker 1: we have a process for filling those in, but it's
Speaker 1: usually the front teeth, not on the sides. And I
Speaker 1: was like, he's like, I've never done on the side.
Speaker 1: I was like, I'll be the guinea pig. Fill those
Speaker 1: pitches up and so now it doesn't look like I
Speaker 1: have food in my teeth anymore. Which was the thing
Speaker 1: that bugged me all the time. Why couldn't you figure
Speaker 1: that out on the first try? Why did you have
Speaker 1: to go through all these procedures. I can't say procedures
Speaker 1: because it was a nice fucking he caught a wave
Speaker 1: that morning and what it was, what it was it
Speaker 1: called when it's like a nice uh what is it
Speaker 1: called when when they're like the ocean's good for serving
Speaker 1: a nar wave? You caught an there's a good swell.
Speaker 1: There's a good swell or something I don't yeah, a
Speaker 1: sweet swell. Yeah, I'm reading this book about um uh,
Speaker 1: it's really fascinating. Hold on, what's the name of it.
Speaker 1: I'm reading it slowly. I am going to read more
Speaker 1: than a third of it. The book I do want
Speaker 1: to update you all. The book about um adult children
Speaker 1: of emotionally mature parents. I've only read. I stopping at
Speaker 1: half because I got it. It's just repeating itself now,
Speaker 1: but I got it, and it's unread the last like
Speaker 1: a couple of pages, just so you get the drift
Speaker 1: of the end. Sho dies. Yeah, it's me from loneliness
Speaker 1: because my heard's from um. No, you're right, maybe I should,
Speaker 1: but it's just repeating the same stuff, and it's I
Speaker 1: hate books that. First of all, let me just say
Speaker 1: another strong opinion. I have no more forwards, no more prologs.
Speaker 1: I don't care about reading. I've already said this before
Speaker 1: it bears repeating. I don't need to hear a bunch
Speaker 1: of people who didn't write the book tell me how
Speaker 1: good your book is. I bought it already. I don't
Speaker 1: need to read someone famous who I don't even fucking now.
Speaker 1: I'm fucking Michael Rochio about this person that's my voice
Speaker 1: teacher who didn't know who I was. I don't know
Speaker 1: whoever it is that you got to write your forward
Speaker 1: that's so impressive saying how great you are. I paid
Speaker 1: to read your book, and then I don't want to
Speaker 1: read about all your thank you is about who helped
Speaker 1: you along the process, how this book came to be.
Speaker 1: Save that for the end when I give a shit,
Speaker 1: because I've just read the book and I want to
Speaker 1: know what's the genesis of this book. Don't forwards need
Speaker 1: to be shorter. I don't need to see. I don't
Speaker 1: need to see you think every colleague and every all
Speaker 1: your I don't need you. If you're a psychologist writing
Speaker 1: a book, spare me the bullshit about thank you to
Speaker 1: all my clients who provided case studies and were so
Speaker 1: vulnerable and offered me your time and compet like, shut up,
Speaker 1: you're a doctor. You used your patients. They did sign
Speaker 1: a release. Maybe you're using fake names. We know that.
Speaker 1: Shut up. We don't care. We just want to hear
Speaker 1: the data. But this book, it just goes. This is
Speaker 1: another thing annoying in these psychology books. They'll go there
Speaker 1: are three types of emotionally avoidant parents, and then they'll
Speaker 1: tell you each one of them and then they have
Speaker 1: to take you through each I guess what my point
Speaker 1: is is, I just want I want to know what
Speaker 1: I can do about it. Like all they do in
Speaker 1: this book. What I thought it was gonna be was like,
Speaker 1: if you have emotionally your parents, this is how it
Speaker 1: shows up in your relationships, and here's what you can
Speaker 1: do about it. Instead, the whole book is just like,
Speaker 1: here's how to not here's how to not be an
Speaker 1: emotionally avoidant parent or immature parent. First of it, it
Speaker 1: helps you identify you had them, and then all of
Speaker 1: a sudden, it's like, this is this is what they do,
Speaker 1: and you go, yeah, I know, I lived it. And
Speaker 1: then they go, well, here's here's how the here's how
Speaker 1: your parents got that way. It's like, I don't give
Speaker 1: a fuck. I already forgave them, like teach me how
Speaker 1: to live. And you're also they're assuming that you're going
Speaker 1: to have children. Yes, maybe that's it that annoys me.
Speaker 1: But I'm reading this new book that I um actually
Speaker 1: think is gonna help me a lot, even though I
Speaker 1: know I've said this about a bunch of books, but
Speaker 1: it can't hurt. And once it loads. It's called the
Speaker 1: Art of Impossible by Stephen Cotler. Kot Ler Stephen with
Speaker 1: a v The Art of Impossible, and it's really fascinating
Speaker 1: and um it talks about how he used to he
Speaker 1: was a journalist that was following people who would be
Speaker 1: in the X Games, and these people that were doing
Speaker 1: like death defying stunts like the X Games. When it started,
Speaker 1: people were like, you can't do fucking fourteen one hundred
Speaker 1: degree spin on a half pipe or whatever. Like they
Speaker 1: were doing things that like no one could ever imagine
Speaker 1: a human could do, and they were doing it. And
Speaker 1: he was like, this is so fascinating that this is
Speaker 1: constantly happening. I'm seeing the impossible being achieved by people
Speaker 1: that had would not you would never think science would
Speaker 1: not even think this is possible. And then he pretty
Speaker 1: much gives you a step by step which is not
Speaker 1: easy to follow by any means, Like this takes a
Speaker 1: lot of work. But if you want to do the impossible,
Speaker 1: if you have like a goal that seems impossible, there
Speaker 1: is a way to do it. And it's a perfect
Speaker 1: mixture of hold on, let me look at my bookmark
Speaker 1: really quick. It's a perfect mixture of autonomy. They found
Speaker 1: that people when they're told to work on something. If
Speaker 1: you're at work and you're told you gotta you have
Speaker 1: this deadline, you gotta have this in you'll get the
Speaker 1: work done, but you're not going to glean from that work. Well,
Speaker 1: what you as much as if you're not going to
Speaker 1: like improve your yourself, is not going to improve from
Speaker 1: doing that work. But if you are left to your
Speaker 1: own devices and told, like do whatever you want with
Speaker 1: this time, you will get so much more out of that.
Speaker 1: So companies have like really used autonomy because they know
Speaker 1: it's more productive. So it's really interesting three m you
Speaker 1: know that makes tape and stuff. They were the first
Speaker 1: people to say to their In nineteen forty eight, they
Speaker 1: implemented this system where they allowed their employees fifteen percent
Speaker 1: of their day they can do whatever they want, work
Speaker 1: towards a project that they're passionate about, and which then
Speaker 1: led to the development of the post it note. So
Speaker 1: they did the math on it, and they go, okay, well,
Speaker 1: fifteen percent of their income in nineteen forty eight, and
Speaker 1: until nineteen seventy three was like a billion dollars or
Speaker 1: something like fifteen percent of like their revenue was spent
Speaker 1: on paying people to do nothing for their for three
Speaker 1: m right, it was just their personal development, but it
Speaker 1: led to innovation, multi billion dollar idea. And so Apple
Speaker 1: has done this, Facebook has done this, Google does this.
Speaker 1: They all have this thing of like during your eight
Speaker 1: hour work day, fifteen percent of that time is devoted
Speaker 1: to autonomy, whatever you want to do and if you're
Speaker 1: like I want to spend it on Instagram, No, it's
Speaker 1: supposed to be like it's supposed to be work, you know,
Speaker 1: it's supposed to be like a passion project, like something
Speaker 1: that you're passionate about. So um, but it's it's a
Speaker 1: mixture of autonomy. So doing something that you care about
Speaker 1: mastery and flow and mastery is really hard because you
Speaker 1: need to constantly be pushing yourself slightly. Like if you
Speaker 1: want if I want to improve singing and songwriting or
Speaker 1: playing music, I always have to be working on a
Speaker 1: song that's a slightly above of my level of being
Speaker 1: able to play. Not a lot, it's a it's a
Speaker 1: very fine window. So if you want to improve in things,
Speaker 1: if you go too far, you're gonna hit a wall
Speaker 1: and you're gonna stop improving. Always slightly better. Because the
Speaker 1: human brain gets huge shoots of dopamine when you are
Speaker 1: rewarded for learning something new, and like we are constantly
Speaker 1: in search of dopamine. That's what makes us, that is what.
Speaker 1: So what this book is all about is like triggering motivation,
Speaker 1: because if you have motivation, you'll fucking do the work.
Speaker 1: And so to trigger motivation, you have to have dopamine,
Speaker 1: and dopamine gets set off and nor pronephron and all
Speaker 1: those good feeling things get set off when you slightly
Speaker 1: challenge yourself and you have little tiny winds. And so
Speaker 1: this book kind of outlines how to perfectly reach a
Speaker 1: flow state, and a lot of it had to do
Speaker 1: also with like you have to exercise. You have to
Speaker 1: like literally move your body and exercise, and you have
Speaker 1: to get into a flow state, which a lot of
Speaker 1: times surfing can I don't know. He was talking about
Speaker 1: how surfing causes that because it takes focus, but also
Speaker 1: your mind is I don't I've never had I don't
Speaker 1: think I've been in a flow state before. Jiu jitsu. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you get in flow. Oh yeah, it's like this like
Speaker 1: meditative state when you're just kind of like like you
Speaker 1: have this like tunnel vision where you're so like in
Speaker 1: the moment and those little winds and stuff that happens
Speaker 1: too in the sport. It's like, wow, so cool. Have
Speaker 1: you skied Nikki? Yes, I get I definitely feel it
Speaker 1: in skiing. You're right, like, skiing is my favorite feeling.
Speaker 1: When I'm going down mountain by myself as fast as
Speaker 1: I can, trying a little. He compares it to skiing too, actually,
Speaker 1: because he's like, I try something new, I'm alone on
Speaker 1: the mountain, I'm alone in my head, Like it's just
Speaker 1: Skiing's the best fucking feeling. But this is what he
Speaker 1: says to really harness mastery as a motivator, which mastery
Speaker 1: is the hardest motivator there is. But if you get
Speaker 1: mastery down and you're mastering, like that's where you see
Speaker 1: the most growth. He says, take the fifteen percent of
Speaker 1: your life that you've carved it out for yourself. So
Speaker 1: fifteen percent of your week is usually one afternoon. It's
Speaker 1: a four hour block, So four hours of your week
Speaker 1: and you can or no five hours. I'm sorry. You
Speaker 1: either do a five hour chunk once a week or
Speaker 1: you split it into two two and a half hours.
Speaker 1: I don't think you can do five separate hours. So
Speaker 1: it's two and a half and two and a half
Speaker 1: or five altogether. Carve that out for yourself, call it
Speaker 1: your autonomy time, and spend it pushing on the challenge
Speaker 1: skills balance, which the challenge skills balance is what I
Speaker 1: just talked about of like slightly challenging, like you're learning
Speaker 1: a new skill that's not completely but you're going to
Speaker 1: feel a reward when you get there because you will
Speaker 1: get there because it's not too challenging, trying to get
Speaker 1: a little better at something that's aligned. And this is
Speaker 1: what else you would need to have. You have to
Speaker 1: have curiosity be about where you're pursuing, because without that
Speaker 1: you will you will not keep going. So you have
Speaker 1: to be curious about what you're pursuing, passionate. And it
Speaker 1: has to have a purpose. So you can't just want
Speaker 1: to write a book because I have a story to tell.
Speaker 1: Your story has to have a purpose to change the world.
Speaker 1: There has to be a purpose behind what you want
Speaker 1: to do. If you want to write songs like, it
Speaker 1: just can't be my Like your purpose could be to
Speaker 1: make money and become famous, but that's not going to
Speaker 1: get you far your If your purpose is to change
Speaker 1: the world in some way and even in some small way,
Speaker 1: but outside of yourself, you're going to also achieve so
Speaker 1: much more than if you are just keeping it to
Speaker 1: like your own personal goals. So this book is really fascinating,
Speaker 1: and um, I hope people read it if if I've
Speaker 1: inspired them at all, Let's go to break and come
Speaker 1: back with um some pantos. All right, it's time for
Speaker 1: fan thrust and let's just get to final thought. Let's
Speaker 1: do it. Oh, I've missed obvious voice and I've missed
Speaker 1: our listeners voices. Let's hear what they have to say. Okay,
Speaker 1: let's start off with Amanda. Hey, guys, I wanted to
Speaker 1: get your opinion on this because I feel like Nikki
Speaker 1: would have a strong, one strong opinion. There's a girl,
Speaker 1: Shanna Ray. I'm sure you've seen videos on YouTube or
Speaker 1: TikTok or whatever, I guess you. How to show has
Speaker 1: a show on TLC and she had cancer, some sort
Speaker 1: of tumor in her pratuitary gland and she wasn't child
Speaker 1: to like mature girl. So she looks like an eight
Speaker 1: year old girl, sounds like an eight year old girl,
Speaker 1: but she's twenty three years old. And this full grown
Speaker 1: like adult man found the show or saw the show
Speaker 1: and liked her and said her flowers and all this stuff.
Speaker 1: I don't know, but they're dating and I don't gonna
Speaker 1: feel about it, but I have to look it up.
Speaker 1: It's fucking freaking me out, and I feel like he's
Speaker 1: probably a pedophile. But this is like the perfect loophole,
Speaker 1: you know, I don't know, what do you think? It
Speaker 1: is a perfect good jack off? Yeah, okay, now you
Speaker 1: know how I feel at the end of every episode.
Speaker 1: It's really hard to come up with jay things. So
Speaker 1: thank you for that. Um, what is this listener's name again, Amanda, Amanda,
Speaker 1: thank you so much for this. Yeah, this is an
Speaker 1: interesting story. You're I think you're gonna I'm gonna surprise
Speaker 1: you here and say that I'm okay with it because
Speaker 1: I've watched a lot of this girl's clips and she
Speaker 1: comes across to me very much like an adult with
Speaker 1: just a child's voice, and that looks like a child,
Speaker 1: but like her essence to me is so adult that
Speaker 1: she's maybe more adult than like a lot of fully
Speaker 1: grown women I see that like do talk like this
Speaker 1: and are just like, I'm a wait, a baby girl,
Speaker 1: Like she's more autonomous and like knows who she is
Speaker 1: more and especially given that she has that affliction, I
Speaker 1: think or that whatever thing with her petunity Terry Glynn
Speaker 1: that I think that she's probably a cooler person and
Speaker 1: more mature because she's had to deal with such scrutiny
Speaker 1: probably her whole life. And I think this guy and
Speaker 1: I trust her to snuff out who wants to date
Speaker 1: her because she looks like a child and who doesn't
Speaker 1: because she's probably been dealing with this her whole life
Speaker 1: or her whole adult life. Really, but I do first
Speaker 1: of all, yes, spidy sense goes off and you go why,
Speaker 1: I mean same with Mail and guy in acologists. Why
Speaker 1: why do you want this above anything else? And I
Speaker 1: feel like I saw some clip where he was drawn
Speaker 1: to her because of her personality, and I trusted him
Speaker 1: and I believed him, although I do think they are
Speaker 1: broken up now, Noah, do we have any update that
Speaker 1: you can find about their status. Let me just see
Speaker 1: a travel blogger who is accused of being creepy for
Speaker 1: dating a twenty three year old woman who looks like
Speaker 1: an eight year old girl has given an update on
Speaker 1: the pairs relationship. Swiggert the guy recently shared several snaps
Speaker 1: on right whatever. Okay, so what's the update here? He said,
Speaker 1: they're better off his friends. Yeah, we are just good friends.
Speaker 1: We're getting to know each other. But I think it's
Speaker 1: absolutely disgusting the attitude of some people. She's been through
Speaker 1: so much in life. She survived cancer as a child,
Speaker 1: She's always felt different, was treated by society, and her
Speaker 1: pussy does not feel like an eight year old. I
Speaker 1: you know, it sucks for this girl because, yeah, anyone
Speaker 1: she dates is going to look suspicious, and I think
Speaker 1: I wanna I want her to be able to have
Speaker 1: all the things that I have as an adult woman
Speaker 1: in life, So I wanna be air on the side
Speaker 1: of like, I'm gonna trust her to find someone that's
Speaker 1: not a pedophile. But yeah, it doesn't It doesn't look
Speaker 1: great if she chose a child to exactly like she's
Speaker 1: supposed to be alone her whole So is the other thing.
Speaker 1: She's like, let me please, you guys, just date someone
Speaker 1: that looks like I'm gonna date an eight year old
Speaker 1: And then he'd be like, oh, that looks better. And
Speaker 1: if you she just looks like an adult woman shrunk down,
Speaker 1: she doesn't, you know, she doesn't look like a little person,
Speaker 1: because little people have like definite different features that make
Speaker 1: them look like little people. But she looks like there's
Speaker 1: adultness to her. Um, do you think her skin ages?
Speaker 1: Do you? I mean, like, do you think she because
Speaker 1: she's small and she has like almost like her skull
Speaker 1: shape has not taken that of an adult. So she's
Speaker 1: like a child's probably skull. But the amount of I
Speaker 1: think just then of college and leaves our body. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so she's probably losing that, but maybe she's not because
Speaker 1: her body thinks she's eight quickly, because your pituitary gland
Speaker 1: regulates aging, doesn't it. Yes, So how do we stunt
Speaker 1: that for all of us? Yeah, the last of us.
Speaker 1: We should use her blood and rub it all over us.
Speaker 1: This girl, shouldn't We get her to the fireflies as
Speaker 1: quickly as possible. That's the last of us. Are Jaylo's
Speaker 1: already on it? Oh yeah, yeah, she probably watch out
Speaker 1: girls shot array. Jlo will be harvesting you're lately themselves. God. Um, yeah,
Speaker 1: I can't. By the way, that fucking Ben Affleck commercial
Speaker 1: super Bowl commercial where he works the drive through? Can
Speaker 1: we give credit where credit is due? David Letterman did
Speaker 1: that first? Go look it up YouTube. David Letterman used
Speaker 1: to be at the McDonald's and Taco Bell drive throughs
Speaker 1: and people would order and then they'd see David Letterman.
Speaker 1: It was hilarious and it annoys me that they stole
Speaker 1: that idea. And there Bob did it, like Albert Brooks's
Speaker 1: brother by him. Can't I remember his name? He's on
Speaker 1: Curb Your Enthusiasm. He died Bob? Oh, yeah, what's yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 1: yeah he did that. Didn't he do that on Dave?
Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, he used to do stuff like
Speaker 1: that too, But yeah, it really bugged me watching the commerce,
Speaker 1: I'm like, they just ripped off another comedy bit and
Speaker 1: it's just they gross me out. But that's my opinion,
Speaker 1: not knowing them at all. But you know, I think
Speaker 1: we all know. Okay, let's get to the next caller. Okay,
Speaker 1: let's give Peyton some advice. Hello everyone, Um, this is
Speaker 1: my third time trying to get this done in less
Speaker 1: than ninety seconds, so I'm going he just jump right
Speaker 1: into it. My brother measures me saying that he can
Speaker 1: only r s VP for himself from my wedding in March.
Speaker 1: That is correct, because I asked him multiple times whether
Speaker 1: or not he was going to bring his boyfriend, and
Speaker 1: I received no response. My brother rarely texts or calls
Speaker 1: back unless he needs something, which is typically money. The
Speaker 1: wedding is going to be small and family only and
Speaker 1: is less than thirty people. No one in my family
Speaker 1: other than my mother and I know that he's gay
Speaker 1: or even in a committed relationship. My family also thinks
Speaker 1: of my brother as the golden child that can do
Speaker 1: no wrong, but they are also the typical backwood Appalachis
Speaker 1: that people would expect from southern West Virginia. Is it
Speaker 1: shitty of me to not want my brother to come
Speaker 1: out to our entire family on my wedding day? Or like,
Speaker 1: what should I do? Let me know? Also, Nicky, I
Speaker 1: am very excited to see you in Lexington, Kentucky in
Speaker 1: less in a month. This will be my person first
Speaker 1: week at the show and I'm very excited and listened
Speaker 1: to for a very long time. Thanks. Thanks girl, And
Speaker 1: how cool? I mean, what an interesting question? Yeah, this
Speaker 1: is a hard one I'm gonna go with. Man, I
Speaker 1: know I can't relate to weddings being a special day
Speaker 1: like how that? Like I think I can relate to
Speaker 1: this like if my sister wanted to go, if my
Speaker 1: sister got engaged at my comedy special, my first comedy
Speaker 1: special taping or something like, I'm trying to relate it
Speaker 1: to my own life of like this is my night
Speaker 1: and you're doing your thing. But getting engaged is the
Speaker 1: same as coming out, So that's tough too, Okay, my
Speaker 1: sister comes out, Like if someone wanted to come out.
Speaker 1: I feel that your brother sounds like he's very angry
Speaker 1: with your family, Like if he doesn't get back to things,
Speaker 1: and he feels like and he seems like he's probably
Speaker 1: not operating on a level that functioning human would operate.
Speaker 1: If he's not getting back to tex he's asking you
Speaker 1: for money and stuff. Might be all from the fact
Speaker 1: that he has had to hide who he is within
Speaker 1: your larger family and within your you know, culture growing
Speaker 1: up in West Virginia. So my instinct is like throw
Speaker 1: him a bull, like maybe him being able to come
Speaker 1: out will be will like make him a better brother
Speaker 1: and like U. But at the same time, you only
Speaker 1: get one wedding, you know, if it goes well, So
Speaker 1: maybe there's some kind of middle ground where he can
Speaker 1: come out. Maybe maybe the wedding ceremony, boyfriend not there.
Speaker 1: I've skipped a wedding ceremony where my boyfriend went because
Speaker 1: it was just family and his cat like and like.
Speaker 1: And then I went down a massage and then I
Speaker 1: joined them for the reception later. Maybe the boyfriend shows
Speaker 1: up at the reception. By that time, you've had your
Speaker 1: glory of getting married. It's time for you to just
Speaker 1: be on the dance floor and party anyway. It's not
Speaker 1: You're not even going to notice the attention is not
Speaker 1: on you. Something like that, or maybe or maybe offering
Speaker 1: to you know, support him in some way to facilitate
Speaker 1: him coming out in different way with your family in
Speaker 1: a different time, but hold his hand through it and
Speaker 1: support him and offer your like love and support in
Speaker 1: and figuring out the best way to do that. That
Speaker 1: isn't Your wedding day might be good, but this sounds
Speaker 1: like a really tough situation. And I do not and
Speaker 1: be the position you're in. So what do you guys think?
Speaker 1: I am maybe being like neurodivergent on you're getting married
Speaker 1: with a small wedding. What do you think can I
Speaker 1: come out are your wedding? Yeah? I mean I have
Speaker 1: questions for this woman. If she was here, I'd ask
Speaker 1: follow ups like is it more important that your brother
Speaker 1: comes out to you or is it more important that
Speaker 1: you know how many people are coming to your wedding?
Speaker 1: Because that was confusing. It sounds like she wants RSVPs. No,
Speaker 1: it sounds like it's it sounds like there's a she
Speaker 1: needs to find out if he wants to bring his
Speaker 1: partner or not. It sounds like he's probably has gotten
Speaker 1: back to her about like, yes, you do what to
Speaker 1: bring a partner? And now the issue it started out,
Speaker 1: it sounded like it was about like how many people.
Speaker 1: I think the real issue is does my brother come
Speaker 1: out at my wedding or not? I would say it's
Speaker 1: to be a big deal. Lay off, just say I mean,
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter like he's gonna come out when it's
Speaker 1: his it's his journey. But if he brings her boyfriend
Speaker 1: to her wedding, it's a coming. It's coming out, so
Speaker 1: everyone will see it. So it's your it's your wedding day.
Speaker 1: She want this spotlight taken off herself. I'm so confused. Yeah,
Speaker 1: which I don't think is a bad thing to feel,
Speaker 1: Like nobody if you're gay in West Virginia. I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: it's still a little bit backwards there. That's what it's like.
Speaker 1: It's like her family is still it's going to be
Speaker 1: the bad day. She's saying this, I don't want my
Speaker 1: brother to come out at my wedding. I'm having she's saying,
Speaker 1: she's like if she's if it's like selfish of her
Speaker 1: to have those feelings of like, I kind of don't
Speaker 1: want my brother to come out of my wedding because
Speaker 1: it's gonna pull for allowed to have any feelings you want.
Speaker 1: But like, beyond that, what is she really asking us
Speaker 1: is that he's asking us if it's okay for her
Speaker 1: to tell her brother don't come out at my wedding yet,
Speaker 1: because it's just it's got too much of a big
Speaker 1: deal and this is my day. It's totally okay, Okay.
Speaker 1: I completely misunderstood, Thank you. I thought she was like,
Speaker 1: but do you want why that would be hard to
Speaker 1: tell your brother, like, especially given that he has spent
Speaker 1: his whole life closeted, probably with her family to be
Speaker 1: like yourself one more event, yes, of course. But if
Speaker 1: you were getting a woman, it would be no issue
Speaker 1: and you could she for your new girlfriend, but so passive.
Speaker 1: She's being so indirect, like even I didn't understand what
Speaker 1: she's saying, what she really wants to say. She's like
Speaker 1: cloaking theft. Fuck no, I can't, Well, yeah, she's I
Speaker 1: can't think she's been I think she's ashamed of this
Speaker 1: feeling that she's having that she doesn't want to share
Speaker 1: this day with her brother's very important day of coming out,
Speaker 1: which obviously she acknowledges the importance of that, and she
Speaker 1: loves her brother and wants him to have that. I
Speaker 1: don't think this is her being like, stay closeted. I
Speaker 1: don't want anyone to know you're gay. It's like I
Speaker 1: don't want them to know I don't want them to
Speaker 1: find out you're gay today. But it sounds reluctant to
Speaker 1: even see. So it doesn't sound like she doesn't want
Speaker 1: to share the day. And I think a little bit
Speaker 1: harping on what Nikki said, there's nothing wrong with saying
Speaker 1: I don't want some form of drama to happen at
Speaker 1: the wedding. I've spent a lot of time planning it,
Speaker 1: and I want it the day to go like this. However,
Speaker 1: I do want to support you and I want to
Speaker 1: be there to hold your hand through this moment and
Speaker 1: to introduce your boyfriend to the family. Sometimes there's like
Speaker 1: a pre event dinner, why don't you invite him to that,
Speaker 1: or some kind of family affair that happens before the wedding,
Speaker 1: So then that way, at your wedding it could be
Speaker 1: a harmonious event and hopefully even you're what does she say,
Speaker 1: like her backwoods family or whatever, will take some curiosity
Speaker 1: and use that as like a being event to not
Speaker 1: only celebrate you, but get to know your brother in
Speaker 1: this new way, new light in their world and his boyfriend.
Speaker 1: That's why it's you know, And now I'm coming at
Speaker 1: it from the brother's angle of like this this weekend
Speaker 1: I got, you know, I was doing this event at
Speaker 1: the rock and roll event I did, and there's these
Speaker 1: I'm trying to, you know, win over this crowd and
Speaker 1: five minutes and I said something before the show, I
Speaker 1: was like talking to the producers of the thing, and
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm a little nervous about what material
Speaker 1: to do, and They're like, we just want you to
Speaker 1: like kind of the action is happening right after you
Speaker 1: go on, so maybe like kind of just like make
Speaker 1: fun of how they're all rich, tell them to like
Speaker 1: fucking and I go, yeah, I'll be like, you know,
Speaker 1: I know you guys are rich and you're you got
Speaker 1: rich because you're greedy motherfucker's but like tonight it's not
Speaker 1: that night to be greedy. We all know how you voted,
Speaker 1: you know, like I just said that. I was just
Speaker 1: like riffing of like what like And then this guy
Speaker 1: took me aside, like was like, really rich guy who's
Speaker 1: like part of the event, was like, I know your
Speaker 1: act political stuff isn't going to work with this crowd.
Speaker 1: And I go, well, you don't know my act because
Speaker 1: I don't do political jokes. You just heard me like
Speaker 1: say that off the hand, so you're acting like you've
Speaker 1: like familiar with me. But I mean I didn't say this,
Speaker 1: But I go, you, well, you don't know my act
Speaker 1: because I don't do anything political like ever. I was
Speaker 1: just you know, say, and I tell you the second
Speaker 1: he told me not to fucking say something about voting,
Speaker 1: I was five like the second you feel oppressed for
Speaker 1: something you know is right, and the second you feel like,
Speaker 1: don't upset Trump people, I mean that if that whenever
Speaker 1: I get told tiptoe around Trumper's feelings. I mean, the
Speaker 1: party of fuck your feelings, and then I have to
Speaker 1: tiptoe around their feelings. I fucking get enraged and I
Speaker 1: want to throw my whole set. I mean, I want
Speaker 1: to do all I want to go. I want to
Speaker 1: I want to go the other way, and I feel
Speaker 1: it's all related to that injustice of like I just
Speaker 1: of I'm not going to let these people who like
Speaker 1: I don't want to cater to their good time when
Speaker 1: they are on the wrong side of things, so I
Speaker 1: don't want so I could see your brother being like,
Speaker 1: I'm so angry that I have to pretend I'm something
Speaker 1: other than I am because these people are so close
Speaker 1: minded and I have to do it one more fucking
Speaker 1: night because my sister doesn't want to share it, like
Speaker 1: I could see. And I could also see how he's
Speaker 1: a loose cannon and you telling him the truth, which
Speaker 1: is I'd rather do it another time, which is so
Speaker 1: fine for you to say, and I believe the way
Speaker 1: I would feel as well. I could see how that
Speaker 1: would be terrifying because he could have that reaction that
Speaker 1: I had, which is like, oh, another fucking injustice another time,
Speaker 1: I have to keep my mouth shut. Well, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: then when they say does anyone want to object to
Speaker 1: this wedding, I'm going to stand up and go. I'm
Speaker 1: get you know, like I could see it going. I
Speaker 1: could see how tricky this is. And I don't think
Speaker 1: I offered any solutions. But I is it too late?
Speaker 1: Like did she already invite him with a plus? I
Speaker 1: mean I think she said this was a month ago.
Speaker 1: So I bet you we're going to find out in Lexington.
Speaker 1: I hope she gets a meet and greet. If you
Speaker 1: hear this, come talk to us, honey, go to the
Speaker 1: merch booth, get a meet and greet, and then tell
Speaker 1: us what happened. Because this is a month after you
Speaker 1: left the message, so something has happened in this time.
Speaker 1: And I'll see you in Lexington on Saturday to get
Speaker 1: the details. Okay, we have to go. Great fan Trexes,
Speaker 1: keep leaving messages. You can find them on our Instagram
Speaker 1: in the link. UM, thank you guys for listening this week.
Speaker 1: We'll see you this weekend in Bloomington, Indiana. That is
Speaker 1: going to be tomorrow night Thursday. Then um Newport, Kentucky,
Speaker 1: which is pretty much Cincinnati is going to be Friday
Speaker 1: night and then and my dad is also going to
Speaker 1: be on that show, so that's gonna be really fun.
Speaker 1: And then Saturday will be in Lexington, Kentucky. So very
Speaker 1: excited and we'll get answers to what happened with that guy. Um,
Speaker 1: a girl's brother and her wedding. Um, thanks for listening, Anya.
Speaker 1: Are your teeth gonna be normal next week? I know
Speaker 1: it'll be like three weeks. Well, but I look awards
Speaker 1: to that update. I don't know. I don't know when
Speaker 1: you're having the when you're having them, like the chickolate
Speaker 1: feeling removed. I don't know if I can for like
Speaker 1: a while, like I don't want them because I have
Speaker 1: to live with these temporaries for a week. Then I'll
Speaker 1: shave them down again and make some adjustments, and then
Speaker 1: they send it to a fucking lab for three weeks. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it takes forever. That That's why I asked. I didn't
Speaker 1: assume it would be anytime soon, but it's I'm still
Speaker 1: worth it, and I think that look amazing, as I've
Speaker 1: told you a million times, like I'm thinking about getting
Speaker 1: it too, because it's so it just looks And now
Speaker 1: you can have whatever teeth you want, and you're and
Speaker 1: they are big enough that you can now make them
Speaker 1: perfectly what you want them to be. Like they're get
Speaker 1: off too much, you can't get it back. You won't
Speaker 1: though you won't. Okay. Did you feel like this when
Speaker 1: you got your vocal cord surgery? Like what if I consolutely?
Speaker 1: I felt like this when I got lasick, like I
Speaker 1: can't go back to having blurry vision? Who would want to?
Speaker 1: But there was something about, like, I don't know if
Speaker 1: people relate to this when you you know, when even
Speaker 1: when Kursen got her in Visiline, she had like moved
Speaker 1: on and learned straight. She was like, I miss in Visiline.
Speaker 1: I want those back, like you want you just want
Speaker 1: The other day you were kind of depressed, and I go,
Speaker 1: I think it's because you just are getting rid of
Speaker 1: your teeth that you've had your entire life my teeth. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's grief. I mean, your your teeth, the old teeth
Speaker 1: are gone forever. And there's someone I'm doing. I'll just
Speaker 1: be like I'm grieving my teeth. Yeah. I grieve hair.
Speaker 1: When I lose one strand of hair, I go, this
Speaker 1: has been with me for four years. I look at it,
Speaker 1: I go, it's a half an inch a month at most.
Speaker 1: And I go, that's that's fucking two years that this thing.
Speaker 1: And I go, I'm I get sad, so it makes
Speaker 1: total sense, but I'm excited to see your smile as
Speaker 1: it evolves. All Right, we gotta go. Thank you guys
Speaker 1: for listening. Don't be cooked and just shaved out your
Speaker 1: teeth