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Speaker 1: The Nicky Glazer Podcast. Here's Nicky. Hello here I am.

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Speaker 1: It's a Nicki Glazer podcast. Welcome to the show. I'm

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Speaker 1: in Los Angeles. Still, Noah is here. Anya's here. Welcome guys.

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Speaker 1: How are you this morning? Is it morning where you are?

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Speaker 1: Kind of maybe now it's for me? It is, yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's morning for us. Yeah. Um, top of the morning

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Speaker 1: to you. My boyfriend is still asleep in the other room. Um.

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Speaker 1: I went in turned on his uh white noise machine

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Speaker 1: and I was like, you need to crank it up

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Speaker 1: boo boo because it's just like like it's not loud enough.

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, I want to talk about you, bitch.

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Speaker 1: Crank that bitch now. Um, he's a snuggle buggle in

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Speaker 1: the next room, and um, he had a late night

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Speaker 1: last night, so he's sleeping in a little bit today.

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Speaker 1: And um, what's it like? Oh done, yes, yes, yes,

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Speaker 1: you both sad? Cohabitation too instead of living together? Honestly,

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Speaker 1: what is this podcast? Um? Okay, welcome back to NPR.

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Speaker 1: This is terry gross. Um so cohabitation it's I mean,

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Speaker 1: it's we've done it before. We did it for many years,

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Speaker 1: and um, I feel like we've probably lived together, um

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Speaker 1: for like two years out of the ten that we've

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Speaker 1: been off and on, So it's it's the same. It's

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Speaker 1: always great. It's we get along really good living together.

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Speaker 1: There's never been it's better than not living together for us.

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Speaker 1: Always more conflict arises when we don't see each other

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Speaker 1: and we're not living together, but when we're living together,

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Speaker 1: we're just Maybe it's um like the whole theory of

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Speaker 1: you have to make it work, like you know, how

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Speaker 1: like people go when you get married, you just you

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Speaker 1: get into a fight. It fights don't escalate to insanity

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Speaker 1: as much because you both know that this you're going

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Speaker 1: to have to make it work because you're married. And

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Speaker 1: I feel like we both know there's no other place

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Speaker 1: maybe that's maybe it just makes us feel secure, I guess,

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Speaker 1: And in a relationship. I feel like like it's just

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Speaker 1: so obvious when I'm secure in my relationship. To me,

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Speaker 1: it's like, you know, when I realized that my happiness

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Speaker 1: and my mood and so much of my life unfortunately

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Speaker 1: is dictated by the security I feel with my partner.

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Speaker 1: Now when I'm single, I don't know what dictates my happiness,

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Speaker 1: honestly not sure, like if Starbucks filled my cup all

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Speaker 1: the way to the top, if they're accepting mobile orders today,

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Speaker 1: so beautiful metaphorically and literally. It's I really don't know

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Speaker 1: what I don't remember, but I know that when I'm

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Speaker 1: in a relationship, instability in my relationship equals instability and

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Speaker 1: the rest of my life. And that is called codependency.

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Speaker 1: It is also but my old therapist used to say codependency.

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Speaker 1: There's this whole realm of therapists who think codependency is

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Speaker 1: the worst thing. We need other people, we need to

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Speaker 1: depend on people. We don't need that other people to

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Speaker 1: dictate how we feel. But like there is there is

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Speaker 1: always such a negative connotation with codependency, and I think

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Speaker 1: that there is something to be said for like, well,

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Speaker 1: there's benefits of it too, and there is a reason

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Speaker 1: why we partner up as humans, and and why being

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Speaker 1: single and living alone isn't ideal and why you know,

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Speaker 1: there's so much loneliness going on with older people, like

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Speaker 1: I get my heart has been breaking recently for old

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Speaker 1: people like living alone. Like I read some stat about

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Speaker 1: die like no one is left. And it makes me

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Speaker 1: so fucking sad. I can't even handle it. And so yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean we need but it's it really bothers me.

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Speaker 1: I guess it doesn't bother me. It just, um it's

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Speaker 1: nice to It's nice to be able to recognize when

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Speaker 1: I'm feeling depressed in the world sucks and I am

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Speaker 1: just in general, um so negative about everything. It's usually

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Speaker 1: There's like we're having a lack of communication or something.

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Speaker 1: But that's both sad and nice to know. But what

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Speaker 1: the fuck, man, I don't want I don't want that.

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Speaker 1: I don't want my happiness to be dependent on it.

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Speaker 1: I mean, hasn't be dependent on something. People go, you're happy,

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Speaker 1: you shouldn't be dependent on your job or like your

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Speaker 1: you like yourself? Like who has that besides and Oprah, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: yeah exactly. So I gotta get a job working at Starbucks. Oh,

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Speaker 1: you would probably love it. I kind of would, except

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Speaker 1: today at Starbucks. The woman was so chipper it fucking annoyed.

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Speaker 1: I'm not kidding you. I should have recorded it. Well,

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Speaker 1: I can't do an impression right now because I would

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Speaker 1: want people to enjoy their jobs, but I felt so

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Speaker 1: I've never felt worse for Starbuck work, Sparbabucks workers than

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Speaker 1: them working with this overly cheery one. It's ironic light

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Speaker 1: attendant like that the other day and I think I

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Speaker 1: sent you were recording she was screaming on the flight

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Speaker 1: trivia game. But it was terrifying because she was screaming

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Speaker 1: and all of us are just like you're taking us

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Speaker 1: a hostage. It was a Southwest flight. Let me just say,

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Speaker 1: why them stopp hang out because my dad always says

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Speaker 1: I love Southwest. You know when Johm interviews, they ask

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Speaker 1: if Southwest job interview. Every single interview, they asked, tell

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Speaker 1: me a joke, and if you can't, they don't really,

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Speaker 1: they don't get the job. And I go, well, if

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Speaker 1: now because I just read this book and there was

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Speaker 1: people that do. It's a skill that people have as

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Speaker 1: a comedian. I do not have that skill. But what

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Speaker 1: we'll do it to dad. We all know why I

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Speaker 1: like that joke. I'll screenshot it for you because it

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Speaker 1: was in a David Sideris book. I don't think it

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Speaker 1: wasn't It wasn't his joke. He just had a joke

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Speaker 1: in a book. But it's you know, for many reasons,

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Speaker 1: that's my favorite joke. But yeah, Southwest. The other day,

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Speaker 1: I was on a flight and their little chip or

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Speaker 1: when they land. But the other day I was texting

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Speaker 1: I mean discussed it. I don't get it. Yeah, I

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00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:27,080
Speaker 1: was like, what satisfying? Oh, cleaning something? I don't know

426
00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:29,640
Speaker 1: what you mean hiring someone to clean something for you. Yeah,

427
00:22:29,680 --> 00:22:31,560
Speaker 1: I guess that feels good, but I don't have a

428
00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:34,720
Speaker 1: sense of accomplishment about it. Um, okay, we have to

429
00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:39,880
Speaker 1: discuss the elephant in the room. Um, which are Anya's

430
00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:47,760
Speaker 1: new tasks? Anya got new team? There's anymore? Yeah, but

431
00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:50,720
Speaker 1: yesterday when I came, I mean, I still am having

432
00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:54,919
Speaker 1: a lot of trouble speaking. I think I sound like

433
00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:57,960
Speaker 1: I'm having some trouble with my list. Yeah, so's they're

434
00:22:58,000 --> 00:23:00,199
Speaker 1: not permanent yet though you're like, you have a of

435
00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:03,119
Speaker 1: what's it called a temporary Yeah, you know what it

436
00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:05,920
Speaker 1: feels like, Nick, It's exactly like if he took two

437
00:23:06,080 --> 00:23:09,520
Speaker 1: denting ice and chewed him up for like a minute

438
00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:12,080
Speaker 1: and then tucked him right behind your front teeth. That's

439
00:23:12,080 --> 00:23:14,600
Speaker 1: how it is to talk. So it's a lot nice

440
00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:18,639
Speaker 1: new matter or material right there. Oh that you're yeah,

441
00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:21,399
Speaker 1: you're doing really well with it. I can't. As soon

442
00:23:21,440 --> 00:23:23,040
Speaker 1: as you pointed out, it starts to go, oh yeah,

443
00:23:23,080 --> 00:23:27,359
Speaker 1: I hear it, but hey, yeah, getting like bubblegum tongue.

444
00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:31,440
Speaker 1: What's that? My god? What the fuck is that? It's

445
00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:37,200
Speaker 1: John Mayor lyric? Oh song? Because if you want what

446
00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:43,440
Speaker 1: was it like interacting with him? Nikki? I know him. Yeah.

447
00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:45,080
Speaker 1: A lot of people wrote me and were like, oh

448
00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:47,639
Speaker 1: my god, tell him I love him. I'm like, I'm gone,

449
00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:51,840
Speaker 1: Like the pictures are posted, this was last night. Um.

450
00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:55,119
Speaker 1: I've known John for you know, just perfect. I mean

451
00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:57,720
Speaker 1: I've known John about John since the year two thousand

452
00:23:57,760 --> 00:24:00,360
Speaker 1: when he opened for Guster and my my, the guy

453
00:24:00,400 --> 00:24:02,040
Speaker 1: that was in a little with Doug Rees took me

454
00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:03,879
Speaker 1: on like what I guess, a quasi date to go

455
00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:06,280
Speaker 1: see him and during your Body is Wonderland, which was

456
00:24:06,280 --> 00:24:07,720
Speaker 1: the first time I'd ever heard that song. He was

457
00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:10,000
Speaker 1: a new performer. We were there to see Guster, but

458
00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:11,479
Speaker 1: he was like this guy John. He had seen them

459
00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:13,080
Speaker 1: the night before and he was like, this kid that's

460
00:24:13,080 --> 00:24:15,439
Speaker 1: opening for them is so good. And he whispered in

461
00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:17,240
Speaker 1: my ear during your Body is Wondering and he goes

462
00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:19,960
Speaker 1: the song is about Sacks, and I was just like,

463
00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:24,640
Speaker 1: oh my God, and then um and it told me yes.

464
00:24:24,760 --> 00:24:26,480
Speaker 1: I mean this was high school. This was I was sixteen,

465
00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:30,240
Speaker 1: so I didn't lose my virginity for another um five

466
00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:34,480
Speaker 1: years and Doug's thirty year. No, Doug was my age two.

467
00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:36,600
Speaker 1: I loved time so much. Where are you Doug Reees?

468
00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:40,800
Speaker 1: If any Doug Reese? That is such a popular boy's name,

469
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:43,560
Speaker 1: ninety eight Doug Grease. Yeah, that's what we called him

470
00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:46,280
Speaker 1: because ninety eight Degrees was such a popular band, and

471
00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:48,560
Speaker 1: so Taylor came up with it. She was like ninety

472
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:52,760
Speaker 1: eight Doug Grease. So Doug Rees r ei s if

473
00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:57,239
Speaker 1: you know Doug Reese, please someone tell me how to

474
00:24:57,359 --> 00:24:59,560
Speaker 1: find him and tell him I'm looking for him. I'm

475
00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:02,359
Speaker 1: not trying to me like I feel like he's like,

476
00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 1: she's a comedian. I don't want to be brought into

477
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:06,840
Speaker 1: the spotlight. I will not put you on my podcast.

478
00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:08,080
Speaker 1: I just want to know where you. I just want

479
00:25:08,080 --> 00:25:09,960
Speaker 1: to reconnect with you and share some memories because I

480
00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:13,760
Speaker 1: love you as a friend and and and I don't

481
00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:17,560
Speaker 1: it's so sad that I lost touch with him. But um,

482
00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:21,800
Speaker 1: that song was about sex, and that's anyway John I

483
00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:23,680
Speaker 1: was like a huge fan of back in the day,

484
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:26,320
Speaker 1: and then continuing on slow Dance, Sitting in a Burning

485
00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:29,240
Speaker 1: Room is one of my favorite songs. Um. I really

486
00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:31,399
Speaker 1: loved his like soul album he did, or like his

487
00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:34,159
Speaker 1: like um kind of like country ish, like folky album

488
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:36,040
Speaker 1: he did, Born and Raised. I think it was called like.

489
00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:38,320
Speaker 1: I've been into him off and on over the years

490
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:40,520
Speaker 1: and um, and then I met him at the Comedy

491
00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:44,840
Speaker 1: Seller maybe in two thousand fourteen or something like that,

492
00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:47,880
Speaker 1: and he was very nice and he's like comedy adjacent,

493
00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:49,560
Speaker 1: you know, his friends with a lot of comedians. So

494
00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:52,000
Speaker 1: that's how I met him through that, and then we

495
00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:55,720
Speaker 1: obviously connected. We obviously we connected when Bob Sagett died

496
00:25:55,760 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 1: again and um like helped each other a little bit

497
00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:02,639
Speaker 1: through that and that was really nice. And then I

498
00:26:02,680 --> 00:26:05,440
Speaker 1: saw him at UM. Where else have I seen him?

499
00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:09,880
Speaker 1: I guess I saw him at the after party the wake,

500
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:12,679
Speaker 1: I guess um. And then I then I called him

501
00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:15,440
Speaker 1: for advice on having my vocal cord surgery because he

502
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:19,200
Speaker 1: had the same same surgery, and so he gave me

503
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:22,120
Speaker 1: good advice there and I did exactly what he said,

504
00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:24,400
Speaker 1: which is like get an iPad and a keyboard, and

505
00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:27,520
Speaker 1: like uh, and I ordered too small of an iPad,

506
00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:31,040
Speaker 1: so I returned it. But anyway, um, and then yeah,

507
00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:33,280
Speaker 1: the other night, I saw him backstage and I just

508
00:26:33,520 --> 00:26:36,080
Speaker 1: we just were like hey, and just like hugged and

509
00:26:36,119 --> 00:26:37,359
Speaker 1: then he was like you look great. I was like

510
00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:39,080
Speaker 1: you look great. And then he had a cold, and

511
00:26:39,119 --> 00:26:42,280
Speaker 1: I was he performed. I was front row watching him perform,

512
00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:45,080
Speaker 1: and then and then I went backstage because we like

513
00:26:45,160 --> 00:26:46,840
Speaker 1: went so I did my stand up and then I

514
00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:49,280
Speaker 1: just stayed out in the audience and watched the all

515
00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:51,920
Speaker 1: the bands, and then I went back for the finale backstage,

516
00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:53,119
Speaker 1: and that's where I saw him, and he had a

517
00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:56,400
Speaker 1: cold and he was like, I apologize. I'm singing you know,

518
00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:59,760
Speaker 1: an octave lower because I have a cold. So instead

519
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 1: of gravity, he was doing gravity Deacon, you know, like

520
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:06,480
Speaker 1: he was just took it down one and then he

521
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:08,840
Speaker 1: but I was like, I just told him. I go,

522
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:11,639
Speaker 1: no one would have noticed, no, but you could just

523
00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 1: tell he like, it's interesting to see someone who's so

524
00:27:15,440 --> 00:27:19,080
Speaker 1: famous and beloved call out this thing that no one

525
00:27:19,119 --> 00:27:21,760
Speaker 1: would notice if we didn't. Like, you didn't need to

526
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:23,800
Speaker 1: tell us she had a cold. You sounded amazing. But

527
00:27:23,920 --> 00:27:27,280
Speaker 1: I as as a comedian myself, like anytime a joke

528
00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:29,400
Speaker 1: doesn't go well, I had to be like that was new.

529
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:31,800
Speaker 1: I had to like always, or even when I was

530
00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:33,440
Speaker 1: on stage the other night, Chris was like, you didn't

531
00:27:33,440 --> 00:27:35,119
Speaker 1: need to say that, because there was supposed to be

532
00:27:35,119 --> 00:27:37,200
Speaker 1: a five minute like countdown clock, but there was none.

533
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:38,639
Speaker 1: And as soon as I looked down to see how

534
00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:40,760
Speaker 1: much time I had, there was nothing there. And I go,

535
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 1: there's supposed to be a countdown clock, but I don't

536
00:27:43,040 --> 00:27:44,679
Speaker 1: know how much time I have. And then I got

537
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:48,080
Speaker 1: offstage and Chris is like, next time, people didn't need

538
00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:49,600
Speaker 1: to know that. I was like, that's a really good point,

539
00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:52,960
Speaker 1: Like I need to remember the audience isn't, yeah, isn't

540
00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:56,639
Speaker 1: backstage they're not like, but you forget that and great

541
00:27:56,680 --> 00:28:01,840
Speaker 1: performers don't apologize for things they don't need to apologize for.

542
00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:03,919
Speaker 1: So what you're saying is John is not It's not

543
00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:08,280
Speaker 1: a great performance. No, I think that, like I. But

544
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:11,679
Speaker 1: you know what it shows is that he's a humble

545
00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:14,439
Speaker 1: and still like doubts himself, and especially in front of

546
00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:19,400
Speaker 1: all of these legend legendary musicians. I perhaps if it

547
00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:21,480
Speaker 1: was his own show, he wouldn't have apologized. But I

548
00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:25,320
Speaker 1: think he knew he was amongst musicians that would maybe

549
00:28:25,400 --> 00:28:27,120
Speaker 1: notice or something. You know, when I perform in front

550
00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:31,800
Speaker 1: of comedians, I up it a little bit more. Unfortunately,

551
00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:35,960
Speaker 1: sometimes when people like real fans will come to your

552
00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:39,320
Speaker 1: shows though as a musician I've found the elegant, they'll

553
00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:41,480
Speaker 1: be like sticklers about like you didn't sing it like

554
00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:44,280
Speaker 1: on the record, you know, like why didn't you sing

555
00:28:44,280 --> 00:28:45,920
Speaker 1: it like on the record, Because a lot of times

556
00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:48,400
Speaker 1: you don't, you'll veer away from it, you know, yeah,

557
00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:51,800
Speaker 1: fun because you're bored. So maybe he's just like people

558
00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 1: real fans will notice if I'm not singing the note,

559
00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:56,680
Speaker 1: I usually yeah, no, And you know what I would

560
00:28:56,680 --> 00:29:01,239
Speaker 1: have noticed. I probably would have noticed. And but but

561
00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:03,760
Speaker 1: he But I guess my point was like he he

562
00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:07,520
Speaker 1: sounded amazing with cold like what the fuck? And um,

563
00:29:07,560 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 1: so yeah, that was We just had a brief interaction backstage,

564
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:12,560
Speaker 1: but that was it. Um what was my What was

565
00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:15,360
Speaker 1: I talking about before that? Ye? Teeth? Oh yeah you

566
00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:19,400
Speaker 1: teeth back to such a major Like I've I've kind

567
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:21,960
Speaker 1: of wanted to get veneers before because they are they veneers?

568
00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 1: Is that what they're called? What you think? So their

569
00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:28,280
Speaker 1: porcelain veneers. The reason I got them was because as

570
00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:31,160
Speaker 1: I've aged, my teeth have gotten a little discolored. I've

571
00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 1: always had this one thing on my front tooth that

572
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:36,120
Speaker 1: breaks off every eight years. I have to get it fixed.

573
00:29:36,480 --> 00:29:39,080
Speaker 1: And I was just like, I don't. And then like

574
00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:42,560
Speaker 1: braces didn't stick, like they've gotten a little more crooked.

575
00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:44,360
Speaker 1: And then my dentist is like, you could do in

576
00:29:44,520 --> 00:29:47,800
Speaker 1: visiline or you could spend a couple grand and just

577
00:29:47,880 --> 00:29:50,520
Speaker 1: get these four things replaced. And I was like that

578
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 1: would have said that. I cannot believe how affordable it was.

579
00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:58,680
Speaker 1: I can't believe I've been in invisilne since before Trump

580
00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:03,400
Speaker 1: was president. I'm not kidding. This is such a violent

581
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:08,000
Speaker 1: procedure though, yeah it is. Do they fucking grind your

582
00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:11,720
Speaker 1: teeth down to stillagtites. At one point they go, okay,

583
00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:13,960
Speaker 1: you're all down, sit up, and you can rent did

584
00:30:14,040 --> 00:30:16,760
Speaker 1: have it ground down to little knobs? Yes, and you

585
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:20,920
Speaker 1: can see they show you see that's the reaction. That's

586
00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:24,920
Speaker 1: I mean reaction I know that anyone should have. And

587
00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:27,800
Speaker 1: they avoid your nerves. I was asking the dentists. I'm like,

588
00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:30,120
Speaker 1: how do you know like that you're avoiding my nerves?

589
00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:32,080
Speaker 1: She's like, because I went to school for most of

590
00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:34,240
Speaker 1: my life. I was like, easy, lady, I'm sorry. I

591
00:30:34,360 --> 00:30:39,440
Speaker 1: wasn't an insult. That's that's what I could see how

592
00:30:39,480 --> 00:30:42,200
Speaker 1: that would be an annoying question, Like hattie, y'all know

593
00:30:42,280 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 1: what you're doing? No, you know what? I want to

594
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 1: know what they're doing in there. They are taking so

595
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:50,000
Speaker 1: long to do little things. I'd recently had a tooth procedure,

596
00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:52,480
Speaker 1: and I'm like, what's he doing up in there? Like

597
00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:55,280
Speaker 1: there's somebody like different, like whirring sounds, and like, yes,

598
00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:57,760
Speaker 1: there's like a grind. There was a thing they were

599
00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:00,520
Speaker 1: chipping off an old filling and it's all of a

600
00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:02,520
Speaker 1: sudden a rock came shooting out him me and he goes,

601
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:04,640
Speaker 1: that's normal. And I go, how about you tell me

602
00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:07,400
Speaker 1: it's normal before it happens, like a rock might come

603
00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:09,240
Speaker 1: shooting out of your face. It felt like, and it

604
00:31:09,400 --> 00:31:12,880
Speaker 1: sounded like you're driving the highway in a semi truck,

605
00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:14,680
Speaker 1: like flicks a rock into your windshield. That's what it

606
00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:16,640
Speaker 1: sounded like. It was like flicking around in my mouth,

607
00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:19,560
Speaker 1: all of us filling just shooting everywhere. And he goes,

608
00:31:19,640 --> 00:31:23,800
Speaker 1: that's normal, that's normal, And I'm like, it's flight. When

609
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:27,200
Speaker 1: pilots don't tell you this turbulence is normal, We're not

610
00:31:27,200 --> 00:31:31,320
Speaker 1: gonna die, Like, let us know, John Mayer, us, let

611
00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:34,240
Speaker 1: us know your process, let us know what is happening here,

612
00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:37,080
Speaker 1: assume that we are going to assume the worst about

613
00:31:37,080 --> 00:31:39,720
Speaker 1: you even though we're not, and fill us in a

614
00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:42,480
Speaker 1: little bit on these stars. I would have associated a

615
00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:45,840
Speaker 1: heads up, like, you know, twenty five minutes in, I'm like,

616
00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:48,800
Speaker 1: how much longer is this gonna go on? And if

617
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:50,920
Speaker 1: she had just told me so, we're gonna be up

618
00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:54,240
Speaker 1: in here for like twenty eight minutes or thirty minutes

619
00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:56,280
Speaker 1: like that would have been so nice. Give us a

620
00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:58,760
Speaker 1: time limit. And now you're scared to ask her questions

621
00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:01,719
Speaker 1: because she got so defensive about in the nerve question,

622
00:32:02,840 --> 00:32:07,480
Speaker 1: you hit a nerve clearly, but to not hit them.

623
00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:09,440
Speaker 1: At one point I stood up. She goes, all right,

624
00:32:09,520 --> 00:32:12,640
Speaker 1: just rinse. Now, I had no idea that my teeth

625
00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:14,920
Speaker 1: weren't in yet, and I'm like rinsing, and then I'm

626
00:32:14,960 --> 00:32:18,480
Speaker 1: feeling and all I feel. Nikki are like, oh my god,

627
00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:23,520
Speaker 1: imagine like three long drapes of your gums and I'm

628
00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:26,640
Speaker 1: like feeling these strings. I'm like, what, why is there?

629
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:29,920
Speaker 1: Like there's so much stuff still hanging in my mouth

630
00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:31,960
Speaker 1: behind I think you need to trim my gums. And

631
00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 1: she's like, oh, your teeth aren't in yet. Okay, I'm

632
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 1: just scentists, no wonder they were cheating. She was sorry,

633
00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:41,560
Speaker 1: this is not okay. No, Like, can I just say

634
00:32:41,760 --> 00:32:44,040
Speaker 1: come on that people need to know because I did

635
00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 1: not know this, Because I feel like I've always been

636
00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:51,240
Speaker 1: to reliable dentists. I've heard multiple stories lately, um about

637
00:32:51,280 --> 00:32:54,680
Speaker 1: people going to the dentist and needing tons of work

638
00:32:54,720 --> 00:32:59,400
Speaker 1: done because ben dentists prey on people's people know people.

639
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:01,840
Speaker 1: Dentists know that people don't take care of their teeth,

640
00:33:01,840 --> 00:33:03,880
Speaker 1: and they're shamed of it. So people will wait ten

641
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:06,200
Speaker 1: years to go to the dentist. You know, Andrew, I

642
00:33:06,200 --> 00:33:08,240
Speaker 1: think hadn't been to the dentists in like twenty years,

643
00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:10,479
Speaker 1: like something like that, because people get ashamed and then

644
00:33:10,520 --> 00:33:14,600
Speaker 1: they go and they will just don't if you go

645
00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:16,920
Speaker 1: to the dentists and you need more than two cavities

646
00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:19,680
Speaker 1: or I would say more than three cavities filled and

647
00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:22,160
Speaker 1: your teeth aren't hurting, Like if you go in hurting

648
00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:23,840
Speaker 1: and then they say you have four cavities, Okay, you

649
00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:25,360
Speaker 1: probably have four cavities. But if you go in for

650
00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:27,400
Speaker 1: a checkup and your teeth aren't hurting and you get

651
00:33:27,440 --> 00:33:32,280
Speaker 1: more three or more cavities that they need filled. Second opinion,

652
00:33:32,400 --> 00:33:36,360
Speaker 1: because there are con artist dentists everywhere. I've run about

653
00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:38,840
Speaker 1: this and Reddit. I've heard personal experiences of it. Chris

654
00:33:38,880 --> 00:33:40,120
Speaker 1: is going to come in right now and tell us

655
00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:43,600
Speaker 1: a personal experience pro tip. As a pro tip pro

656
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 1: tip loss, don't go to a brand new dentist. They

657
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:54,760
Speaker 1: have tons of student debt. Oh but if you go

658
00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:56,760
Speaker 1: to a guy that's why do you have me? Go

659
00:33:56,800 --> 00:33:59,400
Speaker 1: to doctor Bacila's he's like twenty two. He's in a

660
00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:02,560
Speaker 1: group that of like, he's in a good group. He's

661
00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:05,640
Speaker 1: a good guy. He's been at pyramid schemes. He's the coolest,

662
00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:08,080
Speaker 1: he's so good. He's he's totally surfer tennis. He has

663
00:34:08,080 --> 00:34:11,480
Speaker 1: a surfer voice, and he's Scott Bacula's nephew. He's just like, hey,

664
00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:16,160
Speaker 1: how's your teeth going today? How are you feeling going today?

665
00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:18,520
Speaker 1: So yeah, those I mean, I'm not saying that they're

666
00:34:18,560 --> 00:34:21,719
Speaker 1: all bad, but those dentists that are like young and

667
00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:24,799
Speaker 1: just out of dental school, they've got tons of debt

668
00:34:24,840 --> 00:34:26,319
Speaker 1: and they're like, hey, man, if we do a bunch

669
00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:28,960
Speaker 1: of fillings, that's what I think. That's what happened with

670
00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:31,839
Speaker 1: the stories that you're doing. Yeah, well there's yeah, there's

671
00:34:31,880 --> 00:34:33,839
Speaker 1: one story in Saint Louis. But I've i've I think

672
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:36,440
Speaker 1: this is something that people don't know about. So they

673
00:34:36,719 --> 00:34:39,319
Speaker 1: they prey on your shame, you know, like they go,

674
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:42,680
Speaker 1: oh my god, this is bad. You listen, and they

675
00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:45,319
Speaker 1: roll their chair over. Listen, they move the light out

676
00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:48,479
Speaker 1: of the way. This isn't good. So you've got six

677
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:50,920
Speaker 1: cavities on your left side, you got four on the

678
00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:55,319
Speaker 1: right side, and we've got a couple of go to

679
00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:57,880
Speaker 1: a second opinion. I'm not I'm not lying to you

680
00:34:57,920 --> 00:35:01,640
Speaker 1: like they they they know when people are ashamed, and

681
00:35:01,680 --> 00:35:03,840
Speaker 1: there are bad people out there that are taking advantage.

682
00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:08,440
Speaker 1: So also I went to two dentists in New York City.

683
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:11,440
Speaker 1: They said, okay, you have to get an implant. I

684
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:14,440
Speaker 1: got a six thousand dollars implant on the right. And

685
00:35:14,480 --> 00:35:16,799
Speaker 1: then they go, you have a hairline fracture on this

686
00:35:17,400 --> 00:35:19,400
Speaker 1: on your other side. You're gonna have to get an implant.

687
00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:20,759
Speaker 1: Do you want to just do it now? I go, no,

688
00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:23,480
Speaker 1: I don't have six thousand dollars. I go get a

689
00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:26,760
Speaker 1: second opinion. That guy goes, you do have a hairline fracture,

690
00:35:26,800 --> 00:35:29,040
Speaker 1: but you don't yet need an implant, but you will.

691
00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:31,360
Speaker 1: Then I go to this guy a couple of years later,

692
00:35:31,640 --> 00:35:34,560
Speaker 1: and he goes, you have no hairline fracture. It's fine,

693
00:35:34,640 --> 00:35:36,720
Speaker 1: you do not and will not I need an implant.

694
00:35:37,280 --> 00:35:40,680
Speaker 1: Let's all just get second opinions for fucking everything. I mean,

695
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:43,120
Speaker 1: that's that's the name of the game. I've never done

696
00:35:43,160 --> 00:35:45,880
Speaker 1: that in my life. I just take I just always

697
00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:48,200
Speaker 1: defer that I'm an idiot, and everyone knows better be

698
00:35:48,400 --> 00:35:52,600
Speaker 1: especially doctors who are fucking egomaniacs. You have to be

699
00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:55,239
Speaker 1: kind of sociopathic and you know, just like they just

700
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:57,360
Speaker 1: kind of look at bodies like they cut into bodies,

701
00:35:57,360 --> 00:36:02,640
Speaker 1: like especially surgeons. They surgeons. That's why um sociopathy is

702
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:05,359
Speaker 1: kind of beneficial to society because we need people that

703
00:36:05,520 --> 00:36:07,640
Speaker 1: can like cut into a body and not feel anything

704
00:36:07,760 --> 00:36:11,279
Speaker 1: or feel remorse or like deal with people dying on them. Babe,

705
00:36:11,320 --> 00:36:15,640
Speaker 1: before you leave, I got you some sugar. He hates them,

706
00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:18,239
Speaker 1: but sometimes when I want intimacy with him, I'll go

707
00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:21,440
Speaker 1: give me some sugar. And he loves it but hates it.

708
00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:24,359
Speaker 1: But today I got you a chocolate croissant. Yeah, because

709
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:27,360
Speaker 1: I know you did. Yeah, yeah, enjoy it. If you

710
00:36:27,400 --> 00:36:29,120
Speaker 1: don't like it, just give it to someone who does.

711
00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:32,640
Speaker 1: You know, I hope you have the greatest day. They

712
00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:35,680
Speaker 1: hear it. Wait, he loves you when he thinks you

713
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:39,799
Speaker 1: were wonderful. Thank you. I've heard about He didn't even

714
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 1: see my teeth. I'm just kidding. He didn't say that.

715
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 1: Should I shave off my incisors because I've heard that

716
00:36:46,520 --> 00:36:48,480
Speaker 1: it gives them more youthful appearance. What are they called,

717
00:36:48,560 --> 00:36:52,879
Speaker 1: Nikki la incisors? Because your first four teeth are all incisors.

718
00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:55,319
Speaker 1: I looked it up. Now, your lateral incisors are the

719
00:36:55,320 --> 00:36:58,600
Speaker 1: ones next to your front teeth. Two buddies on the side,

720
00:36:58,719 --> 00:37:03,399
Speaker 1: the little two little henchmen, And I think, yeah, can

721
00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:07,640
Speaker 1: make them a little maybe like a hairline shorter. Yeah,

722
00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:10,040
Speaker 1: but that's so exciting to have a new fresh set

723
00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:12,960
Speaker 1: of teeth. Like it's really whenever I get my teeth whitened,

724
00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:16,360
Speaker 1: it's such a boost. When I just got some like

725
00:37:16,440 --> 00:37:18,480
Speaker 1: gaps filled in and my teeth and it was like,

726
00:37:18,480 --> 00:37:20,960
Speaker 1: oh yeah, just like yeah, because when I would smile,

727
00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 1: there would be I just have, um it's not like

728
00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:27,040
Speaker 1: a gap, but it's like my molars come together and

729
00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:29,839
Speaker 1: they make like a cave and it's called the black triangles.

730
00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:31,279
Speaker 1: And it was so funny because I was telling my

731
00:37:31,320 --> 00:37:36,319
Speaker 1: surf I was telling my surf or Dennis when he

732
00:37:36,360 --> 00:37:38,719
Speaker 1: was like, how your teeth, you know, hanging loose, And

733
00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:41,560
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, there's like there's just when I

734
00:37:41,640 --> 00:37:43,560
Speaker 1: smile sometimes it looks like I have like food in

735
00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:46,239
Speaker 1: my back molars and these like at the very top

736
00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:48,960
Speaker 1: it looks like a little poppy seed. And he was like, oh, yeah,

737
00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:52,360
Speaker 1: maybe we'll scrape up something in the stain that didn't work, Okay,

738
00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:54,400
Speaker 1: we'll knock out this filling and refill it because the

739
00:37:54,400 --> 00:37:57,120
Speaker 1: filling looks stained. That didn't work, and I go, it's

740
00:37:57,200 --> 00:38:01,240
Speaker 1: not a stain, it's a fucking shadow because it's a cave.

741
00:38:01,520 --> 00:38:04,640
Speaker 1: It's like a little cave hole. And so he goes, oh,

742
00:38:04,800 --> 00:38:08,200
Speaker 1: black triangle. Oh yeah, he goes, usually we yeah, we

743
00:38:08,200 --> 00:38:09,759
Speaker 1: we have a process for filling those in, but it's

744
00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:11,560
Speaker 1: usually the front teeth, not on the sides. And I

745
00:38:11,600 --> 00:38:13,359
Speaker 1: was like, he's like, I've never done on the side.

746
00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:14,960
Speaker 1: I was like, I'll be the guinea pig. Fill those

747
00:38:15,000 --> 00:38:17,000
Speaker 1: pitches up and so now it doesn't look like I

748
00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:19,400
Speaker 1: have food in my teeth anymore. Which was the thing

749
00:38:19,440 --> 00:38:21,440
Speaker 1: that bugged me all the time. Why couldn't you figure

750
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:23,080
Speaker 1: that out on the first try? Why did you have

751
00:38:23,120 --> 00:38:26,600
Speaker 1: to go through all these procedures. I can't say procedures

752
00:38:26,640 --> 00:38:30,560
Speaker 1: because it was a nice fucking he caught a wave

753
00:38:30,680 --> 00:38:32,840
Speaker 1: that morning and what it was, what it was it

754
00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:34,920
Speaker 1: called when it's like a nice uh what is it

755
00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:37,640
Speaker 1: called when when they're like the ocean's good for serving

756
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:41,360
Speaker 1: a nar wave? You caught an there's a good swell.

757
00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:44,520
Speaker 1: There's a good swell or something I don't yeah, a

758
00:38:44,680 --> 00:38:49,399
Speaker 1: sweet swell. Yeah, I'm reading this book about um uh,

759
00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:52,080
Speaker 1: it's really fascinating. Hold on, what's the name of it.

760
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:54,239
Speaker 1: I'm reading it slowly. I am going to read more

761
00:38:54,239 --> 00:38:55,839
Speaker 1: than a third of it. The book I do want

762
00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:59,000
Speaker 1: to update you all. The book about um adult children

763
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:02,879
Speaker 1: of emotionally mature parents. I've only read. I stopping at

764
00:39:02,880 --> 00:39:05,919
Speaker 1: half because I got it. It's just repeating itself now,

765
00:39:06,120 --> 00:39:08,960
Speaker 1: but I got it, and it's unread the last like

766
00:39:08,960 --> 00:39:10,799
Speaker 1: a couple of pages, just so you get the drift

767
00:39:10,840 --> 00:39:15,240
Speaker 1: of the end. Sho dies. Yeah, it's me from loneliness

768
00:39:15,239 --> 00:39:18,600
Speaker 1: because my heard's from um. No, you're right, maybe I should,

769
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:21,040
Speaker 1: but it's just repeating the same stuff, and it's I

770
00:39:21,080 --> 00:39:24,359
Speaker 1: hate books that. First of all, let me just say

771
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:29,120
Speaker 1: another strong opinion. I have no more forwards, no more prologs.

772
00:39:29,280 --> 00:39:31,359
Speaker 1: I don't care about reading. I've already said this before

773
00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:34,279
Speaker 1: it bears repeating. I don't need to hear a bunch

774
00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:36,600
Speaker 1: of people who didn't write the book tell me how

775
00:39:36,640 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 1: good your book is. I bought it already. I don't

776
00:39:39,120 --> 00:39:42,080
Speaker 1: need to read someone famous who I don't even fucking now.

777
00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:45,560
Speaker 1: I'm fucking Michael Rochio about this person that's my voice

778
00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:47,480
Speaker 1: teacher who didn't know who I was. I don't know

779
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:49,280
Speaker 1: whoever it is that you got to write your forward

780
00:39:49,280 --> 00:39:51,520
Speaker 1: that's so impressive saying how great you are. I paid

781
00:39:51,520 --> 00:39:53,680
Speaker 1: to read your book, and then I don't want to

782
00:39:53,680 --> 00:39:56,920
Speaker 1: read about all your thank you is about who helped

783
00:39:56,920 --> 00:39:58,759
Speaker 1: you along the process, how this book came to be.

784
00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:01,399
Speaker 1: Save that for the end when I give a shit,

785
00:40:01,760 --> 00:40:03,480
Speaker 1: because I've just read the book and I want to

786
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:07,319
Speaker 1: know what's the genesis of this book. Don't forwards need

787
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:09,600
Speaker 1: to be shorter. I don't need to see. I don't

788
00:40:09,600 --> 00:40:12,200
Speaker 1: need to see you think every colleague and every all

789
00:40:12,239 --> 00:40:14,960
Speaker 1: your I don't need you. If you're a psychologist writing

790
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:18,680
Speaker 1: a book, spare me the bullshit about thank you to

791
00:40:18,760 --> 00:40:21,960
Speaker 1: all my clients who provided case studies and were so

792
00:40:22,040 --> 00:40:26,160
Speaker 1: vulnerable and offered me your time and compet like, shut up,

793
00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:29,000
Speaker 1: you're a doctor. You used your patients. They did sign

794
00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:31,640
Speaker 1: a release. Maybe you're using fake names. We know that.

795
00:40:31,920 --> 00:40:34,520
Speaker 1: Shut up. We don't care. We just want to hear

796
00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:38,120
Speaker 1: the data. But this book, it just goes. This is

797
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:41,359
Speaker 1: another thing annoying in these psychology books. They'll go there

798
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:45,840
Speaker 1: are three types of emotionally avoidant parents, and then they'll

799
00:40:45,840 --> 00:40:48,080
Speaker 1: tell you each one of them and then they have

800
00:40:48,120 --> 00:40:52,120
Speaker 1: to take you through each I guess what my point

801
00:40:52,160 --> 00:40:55,279
Speaker 1: is is, I just want I want to know what

802
00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:57,120
Speaker 1: I can do about it. Like all they do in

803
00:40:57,160 --> 00:40:58,920
Speaker 1: this book. What I thought it was gonna be was like,

804
00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 1: if you have emotionally your parents, this is how it

805
00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:03,160
Speaker 1: shows up in your relationships, and here's what you can

806
00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:05,040
Speaker 1: do about it. Instead, the whole book is just like,

807
00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:08,200
Speaker 1: here's how to not here's how to not be an

808
00:41:08,200 --> 00:41:11,279
Speaker 1: emotionally avoidant parent or immature parent. First of it, it

809
00:41:11,360 --> 00:41:13,400
Speaker 1: helps you identify you had them, and then all of

810
00:41:13,400 --> 00:41:16,759
Speaker 1: a sudden, it's like, this is this is what they do,

811
00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:18,799
Speaker 1: and you go, yeah, I know, I lived it. And

812
00:41:18,840 --> 00:41:23,600
Speaker 1: then they go, well, here's here's how the here's how

813
00:41:23,640 --> 00:41:25,120
Speaker 1: your parents got that way. It's like, I don't give

814
00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:27,480
Speaker 1: a fuck. I already forgave them, like teach me how

815
00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:30,160
Speaker 1: to live. And you're also they're assuming that you're going

816
00:41:30,200 --> 00:41:34,200
Speaker 1: to have children. Yes, maybe that's it that annoys me.

817
00:41:34,560 --> 00:41:37,120
Speaker 1: But I'm reading this new book that I um actually

818
00:41:37,120 --> 00:41:38,960
Speaker 1: think is gonna help me a lot, even though I

819
00:41:39,000 --> 00:41:40,440
Speaker 1: know I've said this about a bunch of books, but

820
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:43,200
Speaker 1: it can't hurt. And once it loads. It's called the

821
00:41:43,280 --> 00:41:47,279
Speaker 1: Art of Impossible by Stephen Cotler. Kot Ler Stephen with

822
00:41:47,320 --> 00:41:52,399
Speaker 1: a v The Art of Impossible, and it's really fascinating

823
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:57,960
Speaker 1: and um it talks about how he used to he

824
00:41:58,040 --> 00:42:00,279
Speaker 1: was a journalist that was following people who would be

825
00:42:00,320 --> 00:42:02,919
Speaker 1: in the X Games, and these people that were doing

826
00:42:02,960 --> 00:42:07,080
Speaker 1: like death defying stunts like the X Games. When it started,

827
00:42:07,080 --> 00:42:12,440
Speaker 1: people were like, you can't do fucking fourteen one hundred

828
00:42:12,480 --> 00:42:15,560
Speaker 1: degree spin on a half pipe or whatever. Like they

829
00:42:15,560 --> 00:42:18,840
Speaker 1: were doing things that like no one could ever imagine

830
00:42:18,840 --> 00:42:21,279
Speaker 1: a human could do, and they were doing it. And

831
00:42:21,320 --> 00:42:23,440
Speaker 1: he was like, this is so fascinating that this is

832
00:42:23,480 --> 00:42:27,240
Speaker 1: constantly happening. I'm seeing the impossible being achieved by people

833
00:42:27,640 --> 00:42:31,239
Speaker 1: that had would not you would never think science would

834
00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:33,800
Speaker 1: not even think this is possible. And then he pretty

835
00:42:33,880 --> 00:42:37,400
Speaker 1: much gives you a step by step which is not

836
00:42:37,520 --> 00:42:39,440
Speaker 1: easy to follow by any means, Like this takes a

837
00:42:39,440 --> 00:42:41,799
Speaker 1: lot of work. But if you want to do the impossible,

838
00:42:41,840 --> 00:42:44,319
Speaker 1: if you have like a goal that seems impossible, there

839
00:42:44,520 --> 00:42:46,360
Speaker 1: is a way to do it. And it's a perfect

840
00:42:46,360 --> 00:42:51,440
Speaker 1: mixture of hold on, let me look at my bookmark

841
00:42:51,440 --> 00:42:59,400
Speaker 1: really quick. It's a perfect mixture of autonomy. They found

842
00:42:59,440 --> 00:43:02,000
Speaker 1: that people when they're told to work on something. If

843
00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:05,719
Speaker 1: you're at work and you're told you gotta you have

844
00:43:05,760 --> 00:43:07,600
Speaker 1: this deadline, you gotta have this in you'll get the

845
00:43:07,640 --> 00:43:10,960
Speaker 1: work done, but you're not going to glean from that work. Well,

846
00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:14,200
Speaker 1: what you as much as if you're not going to

847
00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:16,439
Speaker 1: like improve your yourself, is not going to improve from

848
00:43:16,440 --> 00:43:18,560
Speaker 1: doing that work. But if you are left to your

849
00:43:18,560 --> 00:43:20,680
Speaker 1: own devices and told, like do whatever you want with

850
00:43:20,719 --> 00:43:23,279
Speaker 1: this time, you will get so much more out of that.

851
00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:27,279
Speaker 1: So companies have like really used autonomy because they know

852
00:43:27,360 --> 00:43:32,160
Speaker 1: it's more productive. So it's really interesting three m you

853
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:34,200
Speaker 1: know that makes tape and stuff. They were the first

854
00:43:34,239 --> 00:43:38,600
Speaker 1: people to say to their In nineteen forty eight, they

855
00:43:38,719 --> 00:43:42,280
Speaker 1: implemented this system where they allowed their employees fifteen percent

856
00:43:42,280 --> 00:43:44,439
Speaker 1: of their day they can do whatever they want, work

857
00:43:44,480 --> 00:43:47,359
Speaker 1: towards a project that they're passionate about, and which then

858
00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:49,759
Speaker 1: led to the development of the post it note. So

859
00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:51,719
Speaker 1: they did the math on it, and they go, okay, well,

860
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:55,799
Speaker 1: fifteen percent of their income in nineteen forty eight, and

861
00:43:56,400 --> 00:43:59,719
Speaker 1: until nineteen seventy three was like a billion dollars or

862
00:43:59,760 --> 00:44:02,920
Speaker 1: something like fifteen percent of like their revenue was spent

863
00:44:03,040 --> 00:44:05,480
Speaker 1: on paying people to do nothing for their for three

864
00:44:05,719 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 1: m right, it was just their personal development, but it

865
00:44:08,680 --> 00:44:14,560
Speaker 1: led to innovation, multi billion dollar idea. And so Apple

866
00:44:14,640 --> 00:44:16,799
Speaker 1: has done this, Facebook has done this, Google does this.

867
00:44:16,880 --> 00:44:19,200
Speaker 1: They all have this thing of like during your eight

868
00:44:19,239 --> 00:44:22,520
Speaker 1: hour work day, fifteen percent of that time is devoted

869
00:44:22,560 --> 00:44:25,399
Speaker 1: to autonomy, whatever you want to do and if you're

870
00:44:25,480 --> 00:44:28,680
Speaker 1: like I want to spend it on Instagram, No, it's

871
00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:30,640
Speaker 1: supposed to be like it's supposed to be work, you know,

872
00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:33,320
Speaker 1: it's supposed to be like a passion project, like something

873
00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:37,239
Speaker 1: that you're passionate about. So um, but it's it's a

874
00:44:37,239 --> 00:44:39,880
Speaker 1: mixture of autonomy. So doing something that you care about

875
00:44:40,320 --> 00:44:46,239
Speaker 1: mastery and flow and mastery is really hard because you

876
00:44:46,640 --> 00:44:50,400
Speaker 1: need to constantly be pushing yourself slightly. Like if you

877
00:44:50,440 --> 00:44:53,560
Speaker 1: want if I want to improve singing and songwriting or

878
00:44:54,040 --> 00:44:56,719
Speaker 1: playing music, I always have to be working on a

879
00:44:56,760 --> 00:45:01,399
Speaker 1: song that's a slightly above of my level of being

880
00:45:01,480 --> 00:45:04,440
Speaker 1: able to play. Not a lot, it's a it's a

881
00:45:04,560 --> 00:45:06,920
Speaker 1: very fine window. So if you want to improve in things,

882
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:09,120
Speaker 1: if you go too far, you're gonna hit a wall

883
00:45:09,160 --> 00:45:13,960
Speaker 1: and you're gonna stop improving. Always slightly better. Because the

884
00:45:14,040 --> 00:45:18,520
Speaker 1: human brain gets huge shoots of dopamine when you are

885
00:45:18,560 --> 00:45:22,279
Speaker 1: rewarded for learning something new, and like we are constantly

886
00:45:22,520 --> 00:45:25,440
Speaker 1: in search of dopamine. That's what makes us, that is what.

887
00:45:26,160 --> 00:45:29,080
Speaker 1: So what this book is all about is like triggering motivation,

888
00:45:29,080 --> 00:45:31,120
Speaker 1: because if you have motivation, you'll fucking do the work.

889
00:45:31,360 --> 00:45:34,120
Speaker 1: And so to trigger motivation, you have to have dopamine,

890
00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:36,960
Speaker 1: and dopamine gets set off and nor pronephron and all

891
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:40,040
Speaker 1: those good feeling things get set off when you slightly

892
00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:44,600
Speaker 1: challenge yourself and you have little tiny winds. And so

893
00:45:44,640 --> 00:45:46,920
Speaker 1: this book kind of outlines how to perfectly reach a

894
00:45:46,920 --> 00:45:48,759
Speaker 1: flow state, and a lot of it had to do

895
00:45:48,840 --> 00:45:52,360
Speaker 1: also with like you have to exercise. You have to

896
00:45:52,400 --> 00:45:55,319
Speaker 1: like literally move your body and exercise, and you have

897
00:45:55,400 --> 00:45:57,080
Speaker 1: to get into a flow state, which a lot of

898
00:45:57,080 --> 00:45:59,799
Speaker 1: times surfing can I don't know. He was talking about

899
00:45:59,800 --> 00:46:03,040
Speaker 1: how surfing causes that because it takes focus, but also

900
00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:06,600
Speaker 1: your mind is I don't I've never had I don't

901
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:09,840
Speaker 1: think I've been in a flow state before. Jiu jitsu. Yeah,

902
00:46:09,880 --> 00:46:12,120
Speaker 1: you get in flow. Oh yeah, it's like this like

903
00:46:12,200 --> 00:46:15,719
Speaker 1: meditative state when you're just kind of like like you

904
00:46:15,760 --> 00:46:17,600
Speaker 1: have this like tunnel vision where you're so like in

905
00:46:17,640 --> 00:46:20,880
Speaker 1: the moment and those little winds and stuff that happens

906
00:46:20,960 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 1: too in the sport. It's like, wow, so cool. Have

907
00:46:24,200 --> 00:46:27,680
Speaker 1: you skied Nikki? Yes, I get I definitely feel it

908
00:46:27,719 --> 00:46:31,480
Speaker 1: in skiing. You're right, like, skiing is my favorite feeling.

909
00:46:31,520 --> 00:46:34,120
Speaker 1: When I'm going down mountain by myself as fast as

910
00:46:34,160 --> 00:46:37,560
Speaker 1: I can, trying a little. He compares it to skiing too, actually,

911
00:46:37,560 --> 00:46:40,600
Speaker 1: because he's like, I try something new, I'm alone on

912
00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:42,879
Speaker 1: the mountain, I'm alone in my head, Like it's just

913
00:46:43,440 --> 00:46:45,920
Speaker 1: Skiing's the best fucking feeling. But this is what he

914
00:46:45,960 --> 00:46:49,160
Speaker 1: says to really harness mastery as a motivator, which mastery

915
00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:51,080
Speaker 1: is the hardest motivator there is. But if you get

916
00:46:51,120 --> 00:46:54,600
Speaker 1: mastery down and you're mastering, like that's where you see

917
00:46:54,640 --> 00:46:57,080
Speaker 1: the most growth. He says, take the fifteen percent of

918
00:46:57,080 --> 00:46:58,640
Speaker 1: your life that you've carved it out for yourself. So

919
00:46:58,719 --> 00:47:02,839
Speaker 1: fifteen percent of your week is usually one afternoon. It's

920
00:47:02,840 --> 00:47:04,839
Speaker 1: a four hour block, So four hours of your week

921
00:47:04,880 --> 00:47:07,200
Speaker 1: and you can or no five hours. I'm sorry. You

922
00:47:07,320 --> 00:47:09,239
Speaker 1: either do a five hour chunk once a week or

923
00:47:09,280 --> 00:47:11,080
Speaker 1: you split it into two two and a half hours.

924
00:47:11,120 --> 00:47:13,279
Speaker 1: I don't think you can do five separate hours. So

925
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:14,920
Speaker 1: it's two and a half and two and a half

926
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:18,200
Speaker 1: or five altogether. Carve that out for yourself, call it

927
00:47:18,239 --> 00:47:21,720
Speaker 1: your autonomy time, and spend it pushing on the challenge

928
00:47:21,760 --> 00:47:24,000
Speaker 1: skills balance, which the challenge skills balance is what I

929
00:47:24,040 --> 00:47:27,640
Speaker 1: just talked about of like slightly challenging, like you're learning

930
00:47:27,640 --> 00:47:29,759
Speaker 1: a new skill that's not completely but you're going to

931
00:47:29,800 --> 00:47:31,680
Speaker 1: feel a reward when you get there because you will

932
00:47:31,719 --> 00:47:34,879
Speaker 1: get there because it's not too challenging, trying to get

933
00:47:34,880 --> 00:47:37,560
Speaker 1: a little better at something that's aligned. And this is

934
00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:38,840
Speaker 1: what else you would need to have. You have to

935
00:47:38,840 --> 00:47:42,319
Speaker 1: have curiosity be about where you're pursuing, because without that

936
00:47:42,440 --> 00:47:45,040
Speaker 1: you will you will not keep going. So you have

937
00:47:45,040 --> 00:47:48,480
Speaker 1: to be curious about what you're pursuing, passionate. And it

938
00:47:48,520 --> 00:47:51,120
Speaker 1: has to have a purpose. So you can't just want

939
00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:53,520
Speaker 1: to write a book because I have a story to tell.

940
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:56,320
Speaker 1: Your story has to have a purpose to change the world.

941
00:47:56,400 --> 00:47:58,759
Speaker 1: There has to be a purpose behind what you want

942
00:47:58,800 --> 00:48:00,520
Speaker 1: to do. If you want to write songs like, it

943
00:48:00,640 --> 00:48:04,120
Speaker 1: just can't be my Like your purpose could be to

944
00:48:04,200 --> 00:48:06,840
Speaker 1: make money and become famous, but that's not going to

945
00:48:06,880 --> 00:48:09,160
Speaker 1: get you far your If your purpose is to change

946
00:48:09,200 --> 00:48:11,319
Speaker 1: the world in some way and even in some small way,

947
00:48:11,360 --> 00:48:14,359
Speaker 1: but outside of yourself, you're going to also achieve so

948
00:48:14,480 --> 00:48:16,440
Speaker 1: much more than if you are just keeping it to

949
00:48:16,480 --> 00:48:19,839
Speaker 1: like your own personal goals. So this book is really fascinating,

950
00:48:19,880 --> 00:48:21,960
Speaker 1: and um, I hope people read it if if I've

951
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:23,759
Speaker 1: inspired them at all, Let's go to break and come

952
00:48:23,760 --> 00:48:28,440
Speaker 1: back with um some pantos. All right, it's time for

953
00:48:28,520 --> 00:48:30,439
Speaker 1: fan thrust and let's just get to final thought. Let's

954
00:48:30,480 --> 00:48:38,759
Speaker 1: do it. Oh, I've missed obvious voice and I've missed

955
00:48:38,800 --> 00:48:41,560
Speaker 1: our listeners voices. Let's hear what they have to say. Okay,

956
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:47,279
Speaker 1: let's start off with Amanda. Hey, guys, I wanted to

957
00:48:47,320 --> 00:48:49,760
Speaker 1: get your opinion on this because I feel like Nikki

958
00:48:49,800 --> 00:48:53,000
Speaker 1: would have a strong, one strong opinion. There's a girl,

959
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:56,759
Speaker 1: Shanna Ray. I'm sure you've seen videos on YouTube or

960
00:48:56,760 --> 00:49:00,279
Speaker 1: TikTok or whatever, I guess you. How to show has

961
00:49:00,320 --> 00:49:05,520
Speaker 1: a show on TLC and she had cancer, some sort

962
00:49:05,520 --> 00:49:09,360
Speaker 1: of tumor in her pratuitary gland and she wasn't child

963
00:49:09,520 --> 00:49:12,359
Speaker 1: to like mature girl. So she looks like an eight

964
00:49:12,400 --> 00:49:14,680
Speaker 1: year old girl, sounds like an eight year old girl,

965
00:49:14,920 --> 00:49:18,520
Speaker 1: but she's twenty three years old. And this full grown

966
00:49:18,560 --> 00:49:23,200
Speaker 1: like adult man found the show or saw the show

967
00:49:23,360 --> 00:49:29,800
Speaker 1: and liked her and said her flowers and all this stuff.

968
00:49:29,840 --> 00:49:32,799
Speaker 1: I don't know, but they're dating and I don't gonna

969
00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:34,359
Speaker 1: feel about it, but I have to look it up.

970
00:49:35,120 --> 00:49:37,160
Speaker 1: It's fucking freaking me out, and I feel like he's

971
00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:40,640
Speaker 1: probably a pedophile. But this is like the perfect loophole,

972
00:49:40,719 --> 00:49:43,120
Speaker 1: you know, I don't know, what do you think? It

973
00:49:43,239 --> 00:49:49,680
Speaker 1: is a perfect good jack off? Yeah, okay, now you

974
00:49:49,719 --> 00:49:51,120
Speaker 1: know how I feel at the end of every episode.

975
00:49:51,120 --> 00:49:52,719
Speaker 1: It's really hard to come up with jay things. So

976
00:49:52,800 --> 00:49:57,200
Speaker 1: thank you for that. Um, what is this listener's name again, Amanda, Amanda,

977
00:49:57,239 --> 00:49:58,600
Speaker 1: thank you so much for this. Yeah, this is an

978
00:49:58,600 --> 00:50:04,640
Speaker 1: interesting story. You're I think you're gonna I'm gonna surprise

979
00:50:04,680 --> 00:50:07,480
Speaker 1: you here and say that I'm okay with it because

980
00:50:08,160 --> 00:50:10,359
Speaker 1: I've watched a lot of this girl's clips and she

981
00:50:10,560 --> 00:50:13,359
Speaker 1: comes across to me very much like an adult with

982
00:50:13,560 --> 00:50:15,520
Speaker 1: just a child's voice, and that looks like a child,

983
00:50:15,520 --> 00:50:18,319
Speaker 1: but like her essence to me is so adult that

984
00:50:18,440 --> 00:50:20,840
Speaker 1: she's maybe more adult than like a lot of fully

985
00:50:20,840 --> 00:50:23,120
Speaker 1: grown women I see that like do talk like this

986
00:50:23,200 --> 00:50:25,120
Speaker 1: and are just like, I'm a wait, a baby girl,

987
00:50:25,200 --> 00:50:29,560
Speaker 1: Like she's more autonomous and like knows who she is

988
00:50:29,640 --> 00:50:32,319
Speaker 1: more and especially given that she has that affliction, I

989
00:50:32,360 --> 00:50:36,839
Speaker 1: think or that whatever thing with her petunity Terry Glynn

990
00:50:37,440 --> 00:50:40,560
Speaker 1: that I think that she's probably a cooler person and

991
00:50:40,680 --> 00:50:43,520
Speaker 1: more mature because she's had to deal with such scrutiny

992
00:50:43,680 --> 00:50:46,440
Speaker 1: probably her whole life. And I think this guy and

993
00:50:46,520 --> 00:50:49,680
Speaker 1: I trust her to snuff out who wants to date

994
00:50:49,719 --> 00:50:51,840
Speaker 1: her because she looks like a child and who doesn't

995
00:50:51,880 --> 00:50:53,880
Speaker 1: because she's probably been dealing with this her whole life

996
00:50:54,239 --> 00:50:58,399
Speaker 1: or her whole adult life. Really, but I do first

997
00:50:58,400 --> 00:51:00,880
Speaker 1: of all, yes, spidy sense goes off and you go why,

998
00:51:01,040 --> 00:51:03,760
Speaker 1: I mean same with Mail and guy in acologists. Why

999
00:51:04,320 --> 00:51:06,879
Speaker 1: why do you want this above anything else? And I

1000
00:51:06,920 --> 00:51:09,680
Speaker 1: feel like I saw some clip where he was drawn

1001
00:51:09,719 --> 00:51:12,440
Speaker 1: to her because of her personality, and I trusted him

1002
00:51:12,440 --> 00:51:14,440
Speaker 1: and I believed him, although I do think they are

1003
00:51:14,480 --> 00:51:16,680
Speaker 1: broken up now, Noah, do we have any update that

1004
00:51:16,680 --> 00:51:20,840
Speaker 1: you can find about their status. Let me just see

1005
00:51:21,400 --> 00:51:23,279
Speaker 1: a travel blogger who is accused of being creepy for

1006
00:51:23,360 --> 00:51:24,759
Speaker 1: dating a twenty three year old woman who looks like

1007
00:51:24,800 --> 00:51:26,440
Speaker 1: an eight year old girl has given an update on

1008
00:51:26,480 --> 00:51:30,120
Speaker 1: the pairs relationship. Swiggert the guy recently shared several snaps

1009
00:51:30,160 --> 00:51:33,759
Speaker 1: on right whatever. Okay, so what's the update here? He said,

1010
00:51:33,800 --> 00:51:36,520
Speaker 1: they're better off his friends. Yeah, we are just good friends.

1011
00:51:36,560 --> 00:51:38,359
Speaker 1: We're getting to know each other. But I think it's

1012
00:51:38,360 --> 00:51:40,680
Speaker 1: absolutely disgusting the attitude of some people. She's been through

1013
00:51:40,719 --> 00:51:42,480
Speaker 1: so much in life. She survived cancer as a child,

1014
00:51:42,480 --> 00:51:45,120
Speaker 1: She's always felt different, was treated by society, and her

1015
00:51:45,160 --> 00:51:49,799
Speaker 1: pussy does not feel like an eight year old. I

1016
00:51:50,080 --> 00:51:53,920
Speaker 1: you know, it sucks for this girl because, yeah, anyone

1017
00:51:54,000 --> 00:51:59,080
Speaker 1: she dates is going to look suspicious, and I think

1018
00:51:59,840 --> 00:52:02,200
Speaker 1: I wanna I want her to be able to have

1019
00:52:02,400 --> 00:52:04,919
Speaker 1: all the things that I have as an adult woman

1020
00:52:04,920 --> 00:52:07,719
Speaker 1: in life, So I wanna be air on the side

1021
00:52:07,719 --> 00:52:10,120
Speaker 1: of like, I'm gonna trust her to find someone that's

1022
00:52:10,160 --> 00:52:13,239
Speaker 1: not a pedophile. But yeah, it doesn't It doesn't look

1023
00:52:13,280 --> 00:52:17,680
Speaker 1: great if she chose a child to exactly like she's

1024
00:52:17,640 --> 00:52:20,000
Speaker 1: supposed to be alone her whole So is the other thing.

1025
00:52:20,360 --> 00:52:22,879
Speaker 1: She's like, let me please, you guys, just date someone

1026
00:52:22,880 --> 00:52:24,640
Speaker 1: that looks like I'm gonna date an eight year old

1027
00:52:24,719 --> 00:52:26,640
Speaker 1: And then he'd be like, oh, that looks better. And

1028
00:52:26,680 --> 00:52:30,439
Speaker 1: if you she just looks like an adult woman shrunk down,

1029
00:52:30,520 --> 00:52:33,000
Speaker 1: she doesn't, you know, she doesn't look like a little person,

1030
00:52:33,040 --> 00:52:36,080
Speaker 1: because little people have like definite different features that make

1031
00:52:36,120 --> 00:52:40,560
Speaker 1: them look like little people. But she looks like there's

1032
00:52:40,560 --> 00:52:45,080
Speaker 1: adultness to her. Um, do you think her skin ages?

1033
00:52:46,280 --> 00:52:48,279
Speaker 1: Do you? I mean, like, do you think she because

1034
00:52:48,320 --> 00:52:51,520
Speaker 1: she's small and she has like almost like her skull

1035
00:52:51,520 --> 00:52:53,919
Speaker 1: shape has not taken that of an adult. So she's

1036
00:52:53,960 --> 00:52:58,080
Speaker 1: like a child's probably skull. But the amount of I

1037
00:52:58,120 --> 00:53:02,200
Speaker 1: think just then of college and leaves our body. Yeah,

1038
00:53:02,200 --> 00:53:04,359
Speaker 1: so she's probably losing that, but maybe she's not because

1039
00:53:04,360 --> 00:53:08,240
Speaker 1: her body thinks she's eight quickly, because your pituitary gland

1040
00:53:08,840 --> 00:53:13,720
Speaker 1: regulates aging, doesn't it. Yes, So how do we stunt

1041
00:53:13,760 --> 00:53:18,359
Speaker 1: that for all of us? Yeah, the last of us.

1042
00:53:18,520 --> 00:53:21,359
Speaker 1: We should use her blood and rub it all over us.

1043
00:53:24,120 --> 00:53:26,000
Speaker 1: This girl, shouldn't We get her to the fireflies as

1044
00:53:26,040 --> 00:53:28,120
Speaker 1: quickly as possible. That's the last of us. Are Jaylo's

1045
00:53:28,120 --> 00:53:31,640
Speaker 1: already on it? Oh yeah, yeah, she probably watch out

1046
00:53:31,719 --> 00:53:40,600
Speaker 1: girls shot array. Jlo will be harvesting you're lately themselves. God. Um, yeah,

1047
00:53:40,680 --> 00:53:43,400
Speaker 1: I can't. By the way, that fucking Ben Affleck commercial

1048
00:53:43,480 --> 00:53:45,839
Speaker 1: super Bowl commercial where he works the drive through? Can

1049
00:53:45,880 --> 00:53:48,040
Speaker 1: we give credit where credit is due? David Letterman did

1050
00:53:48,040 --> 00:53:51,200
Speaker 1: that first? Go look it up YouTube. David Letterman used

1051
00:53:51,239 --> 00:53:53,800
Speaker 1: to be at the McDonald's and Taco Bell drive throughs

1052
00:53:53,840 --> 00:53:55,880
Speaker 1: and people would order and then they'd see David Letterman.

1053
00:53:55,920 --> 00:53:58,879
Speaker 1: It was hilarious and it annoys me that they stole

1054
00:53:58,920 --> 00:54:02,960
Speaker 1: that idea. And there Bob did it, like Albert Brooks's

1055
00:54:03,000 --> 00:54:05,200
Speaker 1: brother by him. Can't I remember his name? He's on

1056
00:54:05,320 --> 00:54:10,680
Speaker 1: Curb Your Enthusiasm. He died Bob? Oh, yeah, what's yeah? Yeah,

1057
00:54:10,719 --> 00:54:13,560
Speaker 1: yeah he did that. Didn't he do that on Dave?

1058
00:54:13,840 --> 00:54:15,600
Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, he used to do stuff like

1059
00:54:15,640 --> 00:54:18,000
Speaker 1: that too, But yeah, it really bugged me watching the commerce,

1060
00:54:18,080 --> 00:54:22,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, they just ripped off another comedy bit and

1061
00:54:22,200 --> 00:54:24,560
Speaker 1: it's just they gross me out. But that's my opinion,

1062
00:54:24,640 --> 00:54:27,040
Speaker 1: not knowing them at all. But you know, I think

1063
00:54:27,080 --> 00:54:29,600
Speaker 1: we all know. Okay, let's get to the next caller. Okay,

1064
00:54:29,680 --> 00:54:35,400
Speaker 1: let's give Peyton some advice. Hello everyone, Um, this is

1065
00:54:35,400 --> 00:54:38,120
Speaker 1: my third time trying to get this done in less

1066
00:54:38,120 --> 00:54:41,879
Speaker 1: than ninety seconds, so I'm going he just jump right

1067
00:54:41,880 --> 00:54:45,120
Speaker 1: into it. My brother measures me saying that he can

1068
00:54:45,160 --> 00:54:48,160
Speaker 1: only r s VP for himself from my wedding in March.

1069
00:54:48,360 --> 00:54:51,399
Speaker 1: That is correct, because I asked him multiple times whether

1070
00:54:51,520 --> 00:54:53,359
Speaker 1: or not he was going to bring his boyfriend, and

1071
00:54:53,440 --> 00:54:57,280
Speaker 1: I received no response. My brother rarely texts or calls

1072
00:54:57,320 --> 00:55:00,640
Speaker 1: back unless he needs something, which is typically money. The

1073
00:55:00,719 --> 00:55:03,400
Speaker 1: wedding is going to be small and family only and

1074
00:55:03,600 --> 00:55:06,560
Speaker 1: is less than thirty people. No one in my family

1075
00:55:06,600 --> 00:55:08,640
Speaker 1: other than my mother and I know that he's gay

1076
00:55:08,760 --> 00:55:13,160
Speaker 1: or even in a committed relationship. My family also thinks

1077
00:55:13,160 --> 00:55:15,440
Speaker 1: of my brother as the golden child that can do

1078
00:55:15,480 --> 00:55:19,840
Speaker 1: no wrong, but they are also the typical backwood Appalachis

1079
00:55:19,880 --> 00:55:24,319
Speaker 1: that people would expect from southern West Virginia. Is it

1080
00:55:24,320 --> 00:55:26,759
Speaker 1: shitty of me to not want my brother to come

1081
00:55:26,800 --> 00:55:31,000
Speaker 1: out to our entire family on my wedding day? Or like,

1082
00:55:31,080 --> 00:55:34,200
Speaker 1: what should I do? Let me know? Also, Nicky, I

1083
00:55:34,239 --> 00:55:37,120
Speaker 1: am very excited to see you in Lexington, Kentucky in

1084
00:55:37,280 --> 00:55:39,839
Speaker 1: less in a month. This will be my person first

1085
00:55:39,880 --> 00:55:42,120
Speaker 1: week at the show and I'm very excited and listened

1086
00:55:42,160 --> 00:55:45,520
Speaker 1: to for a very long time. Thanks. Thanks girl, And

1087
00:55:45,920 --> 00:55:49,480
Speaker 1: how cool? I mean, what an interesting question? Yeah, this

1088
00:55:49,520 --> 00:55:57,920
Speaker 1: is a hard one I'm gonna go with. Man, I

1089
00:55:58,040 --> 00:56:01,640
Speaker 1: know I can't relate to weddings being a special day

1090
00:56:01,840 --> 00:56:04,360
Speaker 1: like how that? Like I think I can relate to

1091
00:56:04,400 --> 00:56:08,520
Speaker 1: this like if my sister wanted to go, if my

1092
00:56:08,560 --> 00:56:12,920
Speaker 1: sister got engaged at my comedy special, my first comedy

1093
00:56:12,960 --> 00:56:15,719
Speaker 1: special taping or something like, I'm trying to relate it

1094
00:56:15,760 --> 00:56:17,960
Speaker 1: to my own life of like this is my night

1095
00:56:18,400 --> 00:56:21,040
Speaker 1: and you're doing your thing. But getting engaged is the

1096
00:56:21,080 --> 00:56:23,120
Speaker 1: same as coming out, So that's tough too, Okay, my

1097
00:56:23,160 --> 00:56:25,239
Speaker 1: sister comes out, Like if someone wanted to come out.

1098
00:56:27,680 --> 00:56:33,920
Speaker 1: I feel that your brother sounds like he's very angry

1099
00:56:33,920 --> 00:56:35,920
Speaker 1: with your family, Like if he doesn't get back to things,

1100
00:56:36,000 --> 00:56:38,920
Speaker 1: and he feels like and he seems like he's probably

1101
00:56:38,960 --> 00:56:42,480
Speaker 1: not operating on a level that functioning human would operate.

1102
00:56:42,520 --> 00:56:44,200
Speaker 1: If he's not getting back to tex he's asking you

1103
00:56:44,200 --> 00:56:47,640
Speaker 1: for money and stuff. Might be all from the fact

1104
00:56:47,680 --> 00:56:51,280
Speaker 1: that he has had to hide who he is within

1105
00:56:51,480 --> 00:56:55,880
Speaker 1: your larger family and within your you know, culture growing

1106
00:56:55,960 --> 00:57:01,800
Speaker 1: up in West Virginia. So my instinct is like throw

1107
00:57:01,880 --> 00:57:04,239
Speaker 1: him a bull, like maybe him being able to come

1108
00:57:04,239 --> 00:57:07,240
Speaker 1: out will be will like make him a better brother

1109
00:57:07,520 --> 00:57:10,200
Speaker 1: and like U. But at the same time, you only

1110
00:57:10,200 --> 00:57:13,560
Speaker 1: get one wedding, you know, if it goes well, So

1111
00:57:15,160 --> 00:57:23,360
Speaker 1: maybe there's some kind of middle ground where he can

1112
00:57:23,880 --> 00:57:31,560
Speaker 1: come out. Maybe maybe the wedding ceremony, boyfriend not there.

1113
00:57:31,600 --> 00:57:33,959
Speaker 1: I've skipped a wedding ceremony where my boyfriend went because

1114
00:57:33,960 --> 00:57:35,600
Speaker 1: it was just family and his cat like and like.

1115
00:57:35,800 --> 00:57:37,520
Speaker 1: And then I went down a massage and then I

1116
00:57:37,600 --> 00:57:40,160
Speaker 1: joined them for the reception later. Maybe the boyfriend shows

1117
00:57:40,240 --> 00:57:43,000
Speaker 1: up at the reception. By that time, you've had your

1118
00:57:43,000 --> 00:57:45,800
Speaker 1: glory of getting married. It's time for you to just

1119
00:57:45,840 --> 00:57:47,840
Speaker 1: be on the dance floor and party anyway. It's not

1120
00:57:47,880 --> 00:57:50,040
Speaker 1: You're not even going to notice the attention is not

1121
00:57:50,080 --> 00:57:54,000
Speaker 1: on you. Something like that, or maybe or maybe offering

1122
00:57:54,120 --> 00:57:59,160
Speaker 1: to you know, support him in some way to facilitate

1123
00:57:59,200 --> 00:58:02,120
Speaker 1: him coming out in different way with your family in

1124
00:58:02,120 --> 00:58:04,800
Speaker 1: a different time, but hold his hand through it and

1125
00:58:04,800 --> 00:58:08,640
Speaker 1: support him and offer your like love and support in

1126
00:58:09,080 --> 00:58:10,760
Speaker 1: and figuring out the best way to do that. That

1127
00:58:10,840 --> 00:58:15,000
Speaker 1: isn't Your wedding day might be good, but this sounds

1128
00:58:15,000 --> 00:58:17,520
Speaker 1: like a really tough situation. And I do not and

1129
00:58:17,760 --> 00:58:20,160
Speaker 1: be the position you're in. So what do you guys think?

1130
00:58:22,040 --> 00:58:26,200
Speaker 1: I am maybe being like neurodivergent on you're getting married

1131
00:58:26,280 --> 00:58:27,920
Speaker 1: with a small wedding. What do you think can I

1132
00:58:27,960 --> 00:58:31,560
Speaker 1: come out are your wedding? Yeah? I mean I have

1133
00:58:31,680 --> 00:58:33,880
Speaker 1: questions for this woman. If she was here, I'd ask

1134
00:58:34,000 --> 00:58:36,920
Speaker 1: follow ups like is it more important that your brother

1135
00:58:37,000 --> 00:58:40,000
Speaker 1: comes out to you or is it more important that

1136
00:58:40,040 --> 00:58:41,960
Speaker 1: you know how many people are coming to your wedding?

1137
00:58:41,960 --> 00:58:46,280
Speaker 1: Because that was confusing. It sounds like she wants RSVPs. No,

1138
00:58:46,400 --> 00:58:51,400
Speaker 1: it sounds like it's it sounds like there's a she

1139
00:58:51,440 --> 00:58:53,440
Speaker 1: needs to find out if he wants to bring his

1140
00:58:53,480 --> 00:58:55,479
Speaker 1: partner or not. It sounds like he's probably has gotten

1141
00:58:55,480 --> 00:58:56,720
Speaker 1: back to her about like, yes, you do what to

1142
00:58:56,720 --> 00:58:59,560
Speaker 1: bring a partner? And now the issue it started out,

1143
00:58:59,560 --> 00:59:01,320
Speaker 1: it sounded like it was about like how many people.

1144
00:59:01,560 --> 00:59:03,640
Speaker 1: I think the real issue is does my brother come

1145
00:59:03,640 --> 00:59:05,560
Speaker 1: out at my wedding or not? I would say it's

1146
00:59:05,920 --> 00:59:11,280
Speaker 1: to be a big deal. Lay off, just say I mean,

1147
00:59:11,360 --> 00:59:14,080
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter like he's gonna come out when it's

1148
00:59:14,160 --> 00:59:16,880
Speaker 1: his it's his journey. But if he brings her boyfriend

1149
00:59:16,880 --> 00:59:19,560
Speaker 1: to her wedding, it's a coming. It's coming out, so

1150
00:59:19,960 --> 00:59:23,000
Speaker 1: everyone will see it. So it's your it's your wedding day.

1151
00:59:23,440 --> 00:59:27,160
Speaker 1: She want this spotlight taken off herself. I'm so confused. Yeah,

1152
00:59:27,200 --> 00:59:30,240
Speaker 1: which I don't think is a bad thing to feel,

1153
00:59:30,560 --> 00:59:33,600
Speaker 1: Like nobody if you're gay in West Virginia. I'm sorry,

1154
00:59:33,640 --> 00:59:36,160
Speaker 1: it's still a little bit backwards there. That's what it's like.

1155
00:59:36,240 --> 00:59:38,720
Speaker 1: It's like her family is still it's going to be

1156
00:59:38,760 --> 00:59:44,480
Speaker 1: the bad day. She's saying this, I don't want my

1157
00:59:44,520 --> 00:59:48,160
Speaker 1: brother to come out at my wedding. I'm having she's saying,

1158
00:59:48,280 --> 00:59:50,960
Speaker 1: she's like if she's if it's like selfish of her

1159
00:59:51,640 --> 00:59:53,560
Speaker 1: to have those feelings of like, I kind of don't

1160
00:59:53,560 --> 00:59:55,120
Speaker 1: want my brother to come out of my wedding because

1161
00:59:55,120 --> 00:59:57,640
Speaker 1: it's gonna pull for allowed to have any feelings you want.

1162
00:59:57,840 --> 01:00:01,280
Speaker 1: But like, beyond that, what is she really asking us

1163
01:00:01,560 --> 01:00:03,960
Speaker 1: is that he's asking us if it's okay for her

1164
01:00:04,000 --> 01:00:06,080
Speaker 1: to tell her brother don't come out at my wedding yet,

1165
01:00:06,200 --> 01:00:08,280
Speaker 1: because it's just it's got too much of a big

1166
01:00:08,320 --> 01:00:11,400
Speaker 1: deal and this is my day. It's totally okay, Okay.

1167
01:00:11,440 --> 01:00:14,800
Speaker 1: I completely misunderstood, Thank you. I thought she was like,

1168
01:00:14,920 --> 01:00:16,640
Speaker 1: but do you want why that would be hard to

1169
01:00:16,640 --> 01:00:19,480
Speaker 1: tell your brother, like, especially given that he has spent

1170
01:00:19,520 --> 01:00:22,600
Speaker 1: his whole life closeted, probably with her family to be

1171
01:00:22,640 --> 01:00:26,480
Speaker 1: like yourself one more event, yes, of course. But if

1172
01:00:26,520 --> 01:00:28,520
Speaker 1: you were getting a woman, it would be no issue

1173
01:00:28,800 --> 01:00:31,880
Speaker 1: and you could she for your new girlfriend, but so passive.

1174
01:00:32,080 --> 01:00:36,000
Speaker 1: She's being so indirect, like even I didn't understand what

1175
01:00:36,040 --> 01:00:38,120
Speaker 1: she's saying, what she really wants to say. She's like

1176
01:00:38,200 --> 01:00:45,880
Speaker 1: cloaking theft. Fuck no, I can't, Well, yeah, she's I

1177
01:00:45,880 --> 01:00:49,640
Speaker 1: can't think she's been I think she's ashamed of this

1178
01:00:49,680 --> 01:00:52,640
Speaker 1: feeling that she's having that she doesn't want to share

1179
01:00:52,720 --> 01:00:56,000
Speaker 1: this day with her brother's very important day of coming out,

1180
01:00:56,040 --> 01:00:58,560
Speaker 1: which obviously she acknowledges the importance of that, and she

1181
01:00:58,600 --> 01:01:00,200
Speaker 1: loves her brother and wants him to have that. I

1182
01:01:00,240 --> 01:01:03,560
Speaker 1: don't think this is her being like, stay closeted. I

1183
01:01:03,640 --> 01:01:05,440
Speaker 1: don't want anyone to know you're gay. It's like I

1184
01:01:05,440 --> 01:01:06,840
Speaker 1: don't want them to know I don't want them to

1185
01:01:06,840 --> 01:01:10,680
Speaker 1: find out you're gay today. But it sounds reluctant to

1186
01:01:10,800 --> 01:01:15,600
Speaker 1: even see. So it doesn't sound like she doesn't want

1187
01:01:15,600 --> 01:01:19,440
Speaker 1: to share the day. And I think a little bit

1188
01:01:19,440 --> 01:01:22,880
Speaker 1: harping on what Nikki said, there's nothing wrong with saying

1189
01:01:23,280 --> 01:01:26,760
Speaker 1: I don't want some form of drama to happen at

1190
01:01:26,760 --> 01:01:29,400
Speaker 1: the wedding. I've spent a lot of time planning it,

1191
01:01:29,720 --> 01:01:32,440
Speaker 1: and I want it the day to go like this. However,

1192
01:01:33,040 --> 01:01:35,200
Speaker 1: I do want to support you and I want to

1193
01:01:35,240 --> 01:01:37,320
Speaker 1: be there to hold your hand through this moment and

1194
01:01:37,440 --> 01:01:40,680
Speaker 1: to introduce your boyfriend to the family. Sometimes there's like

1195
01:01:40,720 --> 01:01:44,360
Speaker 1: a pre event dinner, why don't you invite him to that,

1196
01:01:44,880 --> 01:01:47,760
Speaker 1: or some kind of family affair that happens before the wedding,

1197
01:01:47,840 --> 01:01:49,800
Speaker 1: So then that way, at your wedding it could be

1198
01:01:50,160 --> 01:01:54,800
Speaker 1: a harmonious event and hopefully even you're what does she say,

1199
01:01:54,880 --> 01:01:58,320
Speaker 1: like her backwoods family or whatever, will take some curiosity

1200
01:01:58,680 --> 01:02:01,680
Speaker 1: and use that as like a being event to not

1201
01:02:01,760 --> 01:02:04,840
Speaker 1: only celebrate you, but get to know your brother in

1202
01:02:04,880 --> 01:02:09,600
Speaker 1: this new way, new light in their world and his boyfriend.

1203
01:02:10,840 --> 01:02:14,120
Speaker 1: That's why it's you know, And now I'm coming at

1204
01:02:14,120 --> 01:02:16,720
Speaker 1: it from the brother's angle of like this this weekend

1205
01:02:16,800 --> 01:02:19,360
Speaker 1: I got, you know, I was doing this event at

1206
01:02:19,400 --> 01:02:22,080
Speaker 1: the rock and roll event I did, and there's these

1207
01:02:22,160 --> 01:02:24,360
Speaker 1: I'm trying to, you know, win over this crowd and

1208
01:02:24,640 --> 01:02:26,960
Speaker 1: five minutes and I said something before the show, I

1209
01:02:27,000 --> 01:02:29,600
Speaker 1: was like talking to the producers of the thing, and

1210
01:02:29,640 --> 01:02:31,560
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm a little nervous about what material

1211
01:02:31,600 --> 01:02:33,520
Speaker 1: to do, and They're like, we just want you to

1212
01:02:33,600 --> 01:02:36,240
Speaker 1: like kind of the action is happening right after you

1213
01:02:36,280 --> 01:02:38,440
Speaker 1: go on, so maybe like kind of just like make

1214
01:02:38,480 --> 01:02:40,040
Speaker 1: fun of how they're all rich, tell them to like

1215
01:02:40,120 --> 01:02:42,080
Speaker 1: fucking and I go, yeah, I'll be like, you know,

1216
01:02:42,480 --> 01:02:44,400
Speaker 1: I know you guys are rich and you're you got

1217
01:02:44,480 --> 01:02:46,640
Speaker 1: rich because you're greedy motherfucker's but like tonight it's not

1218
01:02:46,640 --> 01:02:49,040
Speaker 1: that night to be greedy. We all know how you voted,

1219
01:02:49,480 --> 01:02:51,560
Speaker 1: you know, like I just said that. I was just

1220
01:02:51,600 --> 01:02:53,760
Speaker 1: like riffing of like what like And then this guy

1221
01:02:53,800 --> 01:02:56,680
Speaker 1: took me aside, like was like, really rich guy who's

1222
01:02:56,720 --> 01:02:59,000
Speaker 1: like part of the event, was like, I know your

1223
01:02:59,040 --> 01:03:02,040
Speaker 1: act political stuff isn't going to work with this crowd.

1224
01:03:02,040 --> 01:03:03,720
Speaker 1: And I go, well, you don't know my act because

1225
01:03:03,760 --> 01:03:05,840
Speaker 1: I don't do political jokes. You just heard me like

1226
01:03:05,880 --> 01:03:08,000
Speaker 1: say that off the hand, so you're acting like you've

1227
01:03:08,040 --> 01:03:10,520
Speaker 1: like familiar with me. But I mean I didn't say this,

1228
01:03:10,560 --> 01:03:12,600
Speaker 1: But I go, you, well, you don't know my act

1229
01:03:12,600 --> 01:03:15,240
Speaker 1: because I don't do anything political like ever. I was

1230
01:03:15,320 --> 01:03:19,280
Speaker 1: just you know, say, and I tell you the second

1231
01:03:19,280 --> 01:03:22,080
Speaker 1: he told me not to fucking say something about voting,

1232
01:03:23,000 --> 01:03:29,040
Speaker 1: I was five like the second you feel oppressed for

1233
01:03:29,240 --> 01:03:33,000
Speaker 1: something you know is right, and the second you feel like,

1234
01:03:33,520 --> 01:03:37,040
Speaker 1: don't upset Trump people, I mean that if that whenever

1235
01:03:37,080 --> 01:03:42,560
Speaker 1: I get told tiptoe around Trumper's feelings. I mean, the

1236
01:03:42,920 --> 01:03:45,440
Speaker 1: party of fuck your feelings, and then I have to

1237
01:03:45,480 --> 01:03:49,400
Speaker 1: tiptoe around their feelings. I fucking get enraged and I

1238
01:03:49,440 --> 01:03:51,360
Speaker 1: want to throw my whole set. I mean, I want

1239
01:03:51,360 --> 01:03:53,600
Speaker 1: to do all I want to go. I want to

1240
01:03:53,720 --> 01:03:56,640
Speaker 1: I want to go the other way, and I feel

1241
01:03:57,560 --> 01:04:00,320
Speaker 1: it's all related to that injustice of like I just

1242
01:04:01,400 --> 01:04:04,760
Speaker 1: of I'm not going to let these people who like

1243
01:04:05,120 --> 01:04:07,040
Speaker 1: I don't want to cater to their good time when

1244
01:04:07,040 --> 01:04:08,360
Speaker 1: they are on the wrong side of things, so I

1245
01:04:08,400 --> 01:04:10,920
Speaker 1: don't want so I could see your brother being like,

1246
01:04:12,160 --> 01:04:14,480
Speaker 1: I'm so angry that I have to pretend I'm something

1247
01:04:14,520 --> 01:04:16,800
Speaker 1: other than I am because these people are so close

1248
01:04:16,880 --> 01:04:18,600
Speaker 1: minded and I have to do it one more fucking

1249
01:04:18,720 --> 01:04:20,520
Speaker 1: night because my sister doesn't want to share it, like

1250
01:04:20,680 --> 01:04:22,600
Speaker 1: I could see. And I could also see how he's

1251
01:04:22,640 --> 01:04:25,959
Speaker 1: a loose cannon and you telling him the truth, which

1252
01:04:26,000 --> 01:04:28,480
Speaker 1: is I'd rather do it another time, which is so

1253
01:04:28,720 --> 01:04:30,480
Speaker 1: fine for you to say, and I believe the way

1254
01:04:30,520 --> 01:04:32,080
Speaker 1: I would feel as well. I could see how that

1255
01:04:32,120 --> 01:04:34,400
Speaker 1: would be terrifying because he could have that reaction that

1256
01:04:34,440 --> 01:04:38,480
Speaker 1: I had, which is like, oh, another fucking injustice another time,

1257
01:04:38,520 --> 01:04:40,480
Speaker 1: I have to keep my mouth shut. Well, I'm gonna

1258
01:04:40,760 --> 01:04:42,880
Speaker 1: then when they say does anyone want to object to

1259
01:04:42,920 --> 01:04:44,520
Speaker 1: this wedding, I'm going to stand up and go. I'm

1260
01:04:44,600 --> 01:04:46,880
Speaker 1: get you know, like I could see it going. I

1261
01:04:46,880 --> 01:04:51,080
Speaker 1: could see how tricky this is. And I don't think

1262
01:04:51,080 --> 01:04:55,520
Speaker 1: I offered any solutions. But I is it too late?

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Speaker 1: Like did she already invite him with a plus? I

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Speaker 1: mean I think she said this was a month ago.

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Speaker 1: So I bet you we're going to find out in Lexington.

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Speaker 1: I hope she gets a meet and greet. If you

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Speaker 1: hear this, come talk to us, honey, go to the

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Speaker 1: merch booth, get a meet and greet, and then tell

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Speaker 1: us what happened. Because this is a month after you

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Speaker 1: left the message, so something has happened in this time.

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Speaker 1: And I'll see you in Lexington on Saturday to get

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Speaker 1: the details. Okay, we have to go. Great fan Trexes,

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Speaker 1: keep leaving messages. You can find them on our Instagram

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Speaker 1: in the link. UM, thank you guys for listening this week.

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Speaker 1: We'll see you this weekend in Bloomington, Indiana. That is

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Speaker 1: going to be tomorrow night Thursday. Then um Newport, Kentucky,

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Speaker 1: which is pretty much Cincinnati is going to be Friday

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Speaker 1: night and then and my dad is also going to

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Speaker 1: be on that show, so that's gonna be really fun.

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Speaker 1: And then Saturday will be in Lexington, Kentucky. So very

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Speaker 1: excited and we'll get answers to what happened with that guy. Um,

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Speaker 1: a girl's brother and her wedding. Um, thanks for listening, Anya.

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Speaker 1: Are your teeth gonna be normal next week? I know

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Speaker 1: it'll be like three weeks. Well, but I look awards

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Speaker 1: to that update. I don't know. I don't know when

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Speaker 1: you're having the when you're having them, like the chickolate

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Speaker 1: feeling removed. I don't know if I can for like

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Speaker 1: a while, like I don't want them because I have

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Speaker 1: to live with these temporaries for a week. Then I'll

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Speaker 1: shave them down again and make some adjustments, and then

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Speaker 1: they send it to a fucking lab for three weeks. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it takes forever. That That's why I asked. I didn't

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Speaker 1: assume it would be anytime soon, but it's I'm still

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Speaker 1: worth it, and I think that look amazing, as I've

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Speaker 1: told you a million times, like I'm thinking about getting

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Speaker 1: it too, because it's so it just looks And now

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Speaker 1: you can have whatever teeth you want, and you're and

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Speaker 1: they are big enough that you can now make them

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Speaker 1: perfectly what you want them to be. Like they're get

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Speaker 1: off too much, you can't get it back. You won't

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Speaker 1: though you won't. Okay. Did you feel like this when

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Speaker 1: you got your vocal cord surgery? Like what if I consolutely?

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Speaker 1: I felt like this when I got lasick, like I

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Speaker 1: can't go back to having blurry vision? Who would want to?

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Speaker 1: But there was something about, like, I don't know if

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Speaker 1: people relate to this when you you know, when even

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Speaker 1: when Kursen got her in Visiline, she had like moved

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Speaker 1: on and learned straight. She was like, I miss in Visiline.

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Speaker 1: I want those back, like you want you just want

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Speaker 1: The other day you were kind of depressed, and I go,

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Speaker 1: I think it's because you just are getting rid of

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Speaker 1: your teeth that you've had your entire life my teeth. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's grief. I mean, your your teeth, the old teeth

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Speaker 1: are gone forever. And there's someone I'm doing. I'll just

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Speaker 1: be like I'm grieving my teeth. Yeah. I grieve hair.

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Speaker 1: When I lose one strand of hair, I go, this

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Speaker 1: has been with me for four years. I look at it,

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Speaker 1: I go, it's a half an inch a month at most.

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Speaker 1: And I go, that's that's fucking two years that this thing.

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Speaker 1: And I go, I'm I get sad, so it makes

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Speaker 1: total sense, but I'm excited to see your smile as

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Speaker 1: it evolves. All Right, we gotta go. Thank you guys

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Speaker 1: for listening. Don't be cooked and just shaved out your

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Speaker 1: teeth