1 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:22,960 Speaker 1: Hi, Emily, it's ken. I just want to say good 2 00:00:23,040 --> 00:00:25,919 Speaker 1: luck in the half tomorrow. I'll be reading for you. 3 00:00:26,920 --> 00:00:30,800 Speaker 2: I registered my ten year old in the kids race 4 00:00:30,840 --> 00:00:34,600 Speaker 2: for tomorrow, and we went out today to practice the 5 00:00:34,640 --> 00:00:41,000 Speaker 2: one point five k and as we rounded up this hill, 6 00:00:41,560 --> 00:00:44,040 Speaker 2: he turned to me and he said, I am strong, 7 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:48,120 Speaker 2: I am capable. This run is going to be great, 8 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:51,839 Speaker 2: and I was so happy. I wanted to share that 9 00:00:51,920 --> 00:00:55,200 Speaker 2: with you. I have a picture of you with that 10 00:00:55,760 --> 00:00:58,600 Speaker 2: mantra from one of your instagrams taped in my closet, 11 00:00:59,200 --> 00:01:03,480 Speaker 2: so I love that he conjured up his my mantra 12 00:01:03,680 --> 00:01:06,640 Speaker 2: from my closet for our hurdle moment together. 13 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:12,560 Speaker 3: Like, honestly, how could I not start five Minute Friday 14 00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:13,640 Speaker 3: with that story. 15 00:01:13,920 --> 00:01:18,640 Speaker 4: I am sitting here in the AG studio in my feelings. 16 00:01:19,040 --> 00:01:21,880 Speaker 4: You all know who it is. It's Emily here, just. 17 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:26,600 Speaker 3: Looking out my gloomy window, reflecting on a crazy week 18 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:31,440 Speaker 3: and I am just having so many yeah, so many feelings. 19 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:35,280 Speaker 3: I ran a half marathon last weekend. It was a 20 00:01:35,280 --> 00:01:40,600 Speaker 3: great time, and not just an actual great time and 21 00:01:40,640 --> 00:01:43,040 Speaker 3: that it's the fastest I've ever run a half marathon, 22 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:49,080 Speaker 3: but it was a great time because I went into 23 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:56,680 Speaker 3: last week weekend. I went into last weekend wanting to 24 00:01:56,760 --> 00:02:00,480 Speaker 3: have fun and focused on fun of time. Talked about 25 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 3: this briefly on the show before, but my biggest takeaway 26 00:02:04,400 --> 00:02:08,760 Speaker 3: from the New York Marathon last year was that I 27 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:12,800 Speaker 3: wasn't in it for what felt like the right reasons 28 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:15,640 Speaker 3: in the moment. In the moment, I was so wrapped 29 00:02:15,760 --> 00:02:21,160 Speaker 3: up in pace and worried about performance that I forgot 30 00:02:21,760 --> 00:02:24,800 Speaker 3: why it is that I toe the line in the 31 00:02:24,840 --> 00:02:28,200 Speaker 3: first place. I run because of the feeling that it 32 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:31,080 Speaker 3: gives me, and because it's a reminder that I am capable, 33 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:35,840 Speaker 3: and because of the community and so many things, and 34 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:40,079 Speaker 3: because I wasn't focused on that stuff. I like, look 35 00:02:40,200 --> 00:02:44,320 Speaker 3: back on that experience and I'm proud of me. But 36 00:02:45,240 --> 00:02:48,840 Speaker 3: I learned because now that I know better, I can 37 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:52,600 Speaker 3: do better. And so I went into what felt like 38 00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:57,560 Speaker 3: this fun opportunity last weekend with the mindset that fun 39 00:02:57,720 --> 00:03:04,240 Speaker 3: was priority number one. If quote unquote running fast wasn't fun, 40 00:03:04,520 --> 00:03:07,440 Speaker 3: then that's not what I wanted to do last Saturday. 41 00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:10,280 Speaker 3: What I wanted to do last Saturday, it was go 42 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:14,200 Speaker 3: out and have a good time with my city. That's 43 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:16,119 Speaker 3: what I wanted to do, and that's exactly what I did, 44 00:03:16,160 --> 00:03:19,120 Speaker 3: and it all paid off. I feel like I've been 45 00:03:19,200 --> 00:03:21,240 Speaker 3: rambling about this for three minutes and twenty seconds and 46 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:22,840 Speaker 3: that's not actually what I came to talk to you 47 00:03:22,919 --> 00:03:26,600 Speaker 3: about today, So I digress five minute Friday here. 48 00:03:26,639 --> 00:03:29,120 Speaker 4: I am. What I actually really want to. 49 00:03:29,120 --> 00:03:33,720 Speaker 3: Wrap about here today is abundance and manifestation, and I 50 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:36,240 Speaker 3: totally understand that this is one of those things that 51 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:38,440 Speaker 3: can feel really fluofy. 52 00:03:39,000 --> 00:03:40,560 Speaker 4: I think that's a real word. I'm going to use 53 00:03:40,600 --> 00:03:41,000 Speaker 4: it here. 54 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:43,800 Speaker 3: But lately, there are a lot of things that are 55 00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:47,320 Speaker 3: going on in my life that are beyond my control. 56 00:03:47,520 --> 00:03:51,320 Speaker 3: A prime example of this would be something like my 57 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:53,880 Speaker 3: rent going up by an exorbitant amount of money. 58 00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:55,880 Speaker 4: Long sigh. 59 00:03:57,280 --> 00:03:59,560 Speaker 3: I am not leaving this apartment. I worked way too 60 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:04,040 Speaker 3: hard to put together. I'm happy here, and so I 61 00:04:04,080 --> 00:04:07,040 Speaker 3: tried to counter the rent moment. It didn't work, And 62 00:04:07,120 --> 00:04:10,320 Speaker 3: now I am just accepting that this is something that's 63 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:13,839 Speaker 3: happening in my life, and I am going to come 64 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:17,719 Speaker 3: into a circumstance by doing the things that are within 65 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:23,560 Speaker 3: my control to make this work for me. Sitting here 66 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:27,080 Speaker 3: and worrying about the things that I can do absolutely 67 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:28,240 Speaker 3: nothing about. 68 00:04:28,200 --> 00:04:30,080 Speaker 4: Does me no good. 69 00:04:30,279 --> 00:04:33,760 Speaker 3: And it was interesting, right because instead of sitting here 70 00:04:33,960 --> 00:04:39,120 Speaker 3: angry about the rent thing, it was as if magic 71 00:04:39,240 --> 00:04:44,320 Speaker 3: happened yesterday and opportunities that I didn't expect started to 72 00:04:44,400 --> 00:04:46,479 Speaker 3: come my way. And I'm not saying that I'm going 73 00:04:46,520 --> 00:04:48,120 Speaker 3: to sit down at my desk every day and there 74 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:51,360 Speaker 3: are going to be like dollar signs in my inbox, 75 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:54,839 Speaker 3: but it was one of those days where things just 76 00:04:54,960 --> 00:04:58,760 Speaker 3: kind of started rolling. Granted, for every like one of 77 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:01,599 Speaker 3: those days, there's a zillion days that doesn't happen. 78 00:05:01,640 --> 00:05:05,400 Speaker 4: I feel the need to reiterate that again, But you 79 00:05:05,520 --> 00:05:06,320 Speaker 4: just got to trust. 80 00:05:06,960 --> 00:05:12,040 Speaker 3: So I continually ask myself, how can these situations that 81 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:13,520 Speaker 3: are beyond my control? 82 00:05:13,760 --> 00:05:15,640 Speaker 4: How can I make them work for me? 83 00:05:16,320 --> 00:05:20,000 Speaker 3: Another really good example of where I had to come 84 00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:23,479 Speaker 3: into this mindset understanding that these things in my life 85 00:05:23,480 --> 00:05:26,880 Speaker 3: that might be difficult are happening to work in my favor. 86 00:05:27,560 --> 00:05:30,400 Speaker 3: I was trying to get a doctor's appointment last month, 87 00:05:30,440 --> 00:05:33,599 Speaker 3: and after finally securing one, the day of the appointment. 88 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:35,239 Speaker 4: I got a call that the doctor had to cancel. 89 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:38,160 Speaker 3: And oh my god, if you saw me sitting in 90 00:05:38,200 --> 00:05:42,240 Speaker 3: this exact spot when that happened, I was beside myself, 91 00:05:42,320 --> 00:05:45,200 Speaker 3: just in tears, so frustrated at the system and how 92 00:05:45,279 --> 00:05:47,400 Speaker 3: much money I pay for health insurance that feels like 93 00:05:47,440 --> 00:05:47,960 Speaker 3: it does. 94 00:05:47,800 --> 00:05:48,400 Speaker 4: Nothing for me. 95 00:05:49,520 --> 00:05:53,919 Speaker 3: And I was texting with someone and she asked me 96 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 3: that question, why do you think that maybe this is 97 00:05:56,680 --> 00:06:00,359 Speaker 3: happening for you in that moment? Well, in retrospect, now, 98 00:06:00,480 --> 00:06:03,200 Speaker 3: that moment led me to joining one medical here in 99 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:05,080 Speaker 3: New York. I ended up being able to get in 100 00:06:05,200 --> 00:06:07,760 Speaker 3: same day to see a doctor. Now I've seen that 101 00:06:07,880 --> 00:06:12,200 Speaker 3: doctor twice and I really like her. I feel like 102 00:06:12,240 --> 00:06:14,479 Speaker 3: it was all supposed to happen this way, but in 103 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:17,760 Speaker 3: the moment, it can be extremely frustrating when it feels 104 00:06:17,760 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 3: like the world is out to get you. So circling 105 00:06:21,240 --> 00:06:24,320 Speaker 3: back on this idea of manifestation and understanding that life 106 00:06:24,360 --> 00:06:27,560 Speaker 3: can happen for you if you open yourself up to possibility, 107 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:30,760 Speaker 3: I encourage you to maybe do some thinking about how 108 00:06:30,800 --> 00:06:34,120 Speaker 3: you can be proactive instead of reactive. How can you 109 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:36,560 Speaker 3: put more trust in what's going on in your day 110 00:06:36,640 --> 00:06:40,720 Speaker 3: to day, and how can you feed what it is 111 00:06:40,760 --> 00:06:43,680 Speaker 3: that you really want into the world so that you 112 00:06:43,839 --> 00:06:46,840 Speaker 3: open up the pathway for these things to come back 113 00:06:46,880 --> 00:06:47,120 Speaker 3: to you. 114 00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:48,080 Speaker 4: Again. 115 00:06:48,320 --> 00:06:50,920 Speaker 3: I know it's a little flufy, but I feel as 116 00:06:50,960 --> 00:06:54,440 Speaker 3: though when I have started to surrender her a little 117 00:06:54,480 --> 00:06:58,480 Speaker 3: bit more lately and trust the process and be upfront 118 00:06:58,480 --> 00:07:01,560 Speaker 3: with myself and trust so that the things that I 119 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:06,359 Speaker 3: am doing that are within my control are enough. Things 120 00:07:06,360 --> 00:07:10,360 Speaker 3: I've started to seem like they're working out a little 121 00:07:10,360 --> 00:07:13,239 Speaker 3: bit for me in that way, and it feels really good. 122 00:07:14,120 --> 00:07:17,560 Speaker 3: So my prompt for you this week, what's something that 123 00:07:17,640 --> 00:07:20,400 Speaker 3: maybe you can reframe in your life right now that 124 00:07:20,560 --> 00:07:24,520 Speaker 3: is happening for you instead of to you. What is 125 00:07:24,560 --> 00:07:27,600 Speaker 3: something that maybe you can reframe in your life right 126 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 3: now that is happening for you instead of to you? 127 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:35,040 Speaker 4: And now a listener question. 128 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:40,680 Speaker 1: Hey, Emily, this is Steph. I'm a huge fan of 129 00:07:40,680 --> 00:07:43,240 Speaker 1: the podcast and I wanted to let you know how 130 00:07:43,320 --> 00:07:46,800 Speaker 1: much you've helped me overcome hurdles even in sports outside 131 00:07:46,800 --> 00:07:50,200 Speaker 1: of running. One of the many things I admire about 132 00:07:50,200 --> 00:07:53,440 Speaker 1: you is your mental strength, and so my question for 133 00:07:53,520 --> 00:07:56,720 Speaker 1: you is how do you build that mental strength and 134 00:07:56,840 --> 00:08:00,920 Speaker 1: endurance needed to be an athlete through all the ups 135 00:08:00,920 --> 00:08:03,600 Speaker 1: and downs and triggers that you may go through. It 136 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:05,920 Speaker 1: may be easy to have a setback, but how do 137 00:08:06,040 --> 00:08:09,960 Speaker 1: you build that mental strength and maintain it in a sport? 138 00:08:10,320 --> 00:08:13,920 Speaker 1: Especially if it's competitive. Is there anything that you do, 139 00:08:14,400 --> 00:08:16,520 Speaker 1: or that you read, or maybe that you say to 140 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:19,240 Speaker 1: yourself that can help you maintain it for the long run. 141 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:22,920 Speaker 1: Any advice or tips would be helpful. Thank you so much, 142 00:08:23,280 --> 00:08:23,960 Speaker 1: appreciate it. 143 00:08:25,240 --> 00:08:28,119 Speaker 3: What's going on, staph. It's always good to hear your voice. 144 00:08:28,880 --> 00:08:34,199 Speaker 3: Mental strength in sport. Mental strength in sport is a muscle. 145 00:08:34,320 --> 00:08:39,240 Speaker 3: Your mind is a muscle just like your calves, your biceps, 146 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:47,040 Speaker 3: your quads, and that muscle grows with exercise. That muscle 147 00:08:47,120 --> 00:08:50,480 Speaker 3: grows when you work it. So when it comes to 148 00:08:50,960 --> 00:08:56,400 Speaker 3: building fortitude and strength to push through hard moments, that's 149 00:08:56,440 --> 00:08:59,000 Speaker 3: not something that's just going to happen overnight, although I 150 00:08:59,040 --> 00:09:02,200 Speaker 3: think a lot of us wish that it worked that way. 151 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:05,120 Speaker 3: What I've learned through all of the tough moments that 152 00:09:05,160 --> 00:09:07,679 Speaker 3: I've gone through is that these moments happened to teach 153 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:11,800 Speaker 3: me something, And when you approach future tough moments with 154 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:15,200 Speaker 3: that understanding and with that mindset, then you know when 155 00:09:15,240 --> 00:09:19,000 Speaker 3: things get hard that there is opportunity in that. Again, 156 00:09:19,040 --> 00:09:23,559 Speaker 3: it's not something that you can automatically fall back on 157 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:26,160 Speaker 3: this idea in a hard moment that this is happening 158 00:09:26,280 --> 00:09:28,720 Speaker 3: for me even though it feels like I actually want 159 00:09:28,720 --> 00:09:29,680 Speaker 3: to die right now. 160 00:09:30,840 --> 00:09:31,800 Speaker 4: It doesn't work like that. 161 00:09:32,120 --> 00:09:36,000 Speaker 3: But what I encourage you to do the next time 162 00:09:36,160 --> 00:09:41,400 Speaker 3: that something feels hard or it feels like you quote 163 00:09:41,440 --> 00:09:45,080 Speaker 3: unquote can't even is ask yourself if you have a 164 00:09:45,080 --> 00:09:48,800 Speaker 3: little more gas in the tank. This morning, for instance, 165 00:09:48,840 --> 00:09:54,359 Speaker 3: I was doing an interval workout, and the interval workout 166 00:09:54,600 --> 00:09:59,560 Speaker 3: was four reps of eight minute efforts, and at the 167 00:09:59,600 --> 00:10:02,520 Speaker 3: beginning of the first effort, I'm like, something like two 168 00:10:02,559 --> 00:10:06,280 Speaker 3: minutes in and it feels absolutely impossible, and so I 169 00:10:06,320 --> 00:10:10,600 Speaker 3: start to break it up into smaller, little doables. Those 170 00:10:10,640 --> 00:10:16,000 Speaker 3: small little doables will change your life. I started every 171 00:10:16,240 --> 00:10:19,320 Speaker 3: minute changing the song that I was listening to, and 172 00:10:19,360 --> 00:10:21,640 Speaker 3: as a result to this thing that I was dreading, 173 00:10:21,760 --> 00:10:25,440 Speaker 3: it started to breeze by. And when it's done and 174 00:10:25,520 --> 00:10:30,240 Speaker 3: the effort is done, you realize and are reminded of 175 00:10:30,280 --> 00:10:32,840 Speaker 3: your strength, even though there was a moment when you 176 00:10:32,960 --> 00:10:38,520 Speaker 3: doubted yourself, and that, oh, that's the best damn feeling 177 00:10:38,559 --> 00:10:41,280 Speaker 3: in the world. And so if you can muster up 178 00:10:41,360 --> 00:10:46,800 Speaker 3: the courage the bravery to start and actually start and 179 00:10:46,840 --> 00:10:49,840 Speaker 3: be present in that moment and be proud of yourself 180 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:54,520 Speaker 3: and keep pushing little by little as the challenge persists. 181 00:10:55,040 --> 00:10:57,120 Speaker 4: Then you have the opportunity. 182 00:10:57,120 --> 00:10:59,200 Speaker 3: And I use that word all the time, but you 183 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:01,760 Speaker 3: know that it is to be true, that it is 184 00:11:02,120 --> 00:11:07,360 Speaker 3: an opportunity to prove to yourself your capability and what 185 00:11:07,400 --> 00:11:09,640 Speaker 3: you can do if you put your mind to it, 186 00:11:10,160 --> 00:11:14,319 Speaker 3: little doables, self belief, and the rest of the pieces 187 00:11:14,559 --> 00:11:16,040 Speaker 3: will slowly fall into place. 188 00:11:16,720 --> 00:11:17,600 Speaker 4: That's it for this week. 189 00:11:17,640 --> 00:11:19,640 Speaker 3: Make sure you're following me over at Emily a Body 190 00:11:19,720 --> 00:11:22,960 Speaker 3: and also hurdle over at Hurdle Podcasts. I'll see you 191 00:11:23,040 --> 00:11:28,720 Speaker 3: on Monday for episode two hundred. Trust me, it's a 192 00:11:28,760 --> 00:11:33,520 Speaker 3: good one. Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.