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Speaker 1: My girlfriend had zero respect for my culture, so a dumper.

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Speaker 2: Hey, you can't respect the culture, I don't respect you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I did my ex for about four years. My

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Speaker 1: family is from Nigeria and I'm very proud of my culture.

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Speaker 1: My ex is white. I grew up in Australia, but

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Speaker 1: I have close ties to my roots. Fair enough. Originally,

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Speaker 1: race was not an issue when we first started dating,

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Speaker 1: but as we got more and more serious, I felt

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Speaker 1: like she wasn't willing or didn't really understand how important

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Speaker 1: my family and culture are. Tomy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a typical white behavior high landing culture.

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Speaker 1: Straight up.

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Speaker 3: It's true.

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Speaker 2: I mean it's not It's not true for us, but

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Speaker 2: it's true for like, you know.

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Speaker 1: For some I guess yes, for some people.

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Speaker 4: Some it's like a widely known thing or it's like

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Speaker 4: there's like white Americans have no culture.

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Speaker 2: I think they don't understand culture.

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Speaker 1: I actually think I have thoughts of this, but I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna keep reading this story.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm sorry I jumped in with the bands are

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Speaker 4: way too fast. We didn't give them thirty seconds. Dude,

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Speaker 4: I'm breaking the rules.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Throwaway three two three

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Speaker 1: one three zero on the r slash Okay story time,

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Speaker 1: so I wrote it so. My sister in law was

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Speaker 1: always close with my mother despite the cultural barrier, and

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Speaker 1: always seemed happy to come to family events and spend

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Speaker 1: time with us and treats me like her own brother.

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Speaker 1: She's even been learning how to cook some of our

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Speaker 1: foods from my mother, which made my mom really happy,

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Speaker 1: and my brother has been learning to cook North Indian

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Speaker 1: style curries and stuff as well. My sister in law

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Speaker 1: isn't conservative or anything, but culture is important to her

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Speaker 1: and my brother and I. As I get older, it

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Speaker 1: feels important to me too, which I feel like I

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Speaker 1: feel like as you get older, generally getting in touch

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Speaker 1: with like whatever roots you have feels more important. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the final straw was at my brother's wedding that spurred

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Speaker 1: me into action. My sister in law as Indian, and

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Speaker 1: she's also very fiercely proud of her culture as well,

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Speaker 1: and they've always talked about how mixed race kids grow

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Speaker 1: like kids of immigrants will kind of raise them culturally

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Speaker 1: neutral so they'll fit in more. But then they like

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Speaker 4: I feel like it's the thing of like, oh, never mind,

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Speaker 4: I don't want to Let's continue reading.

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Speaker 1: Let's keep reading. Let's keep reading, but we'll discuss later.

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Speaker 1: I've noticed that my ex was never that into my culture,

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Speaker 1: never never really spent time with my family and didn't

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Speaker 1: and used to always question some of our cultural practices

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Speaker 4: Bro Okay, So that's exactly what I was going to

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Speaker 4: bring up, is like the people who are like the

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Speaker 4: people that should just similight into our culture.

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Speaker 1: Literally, It's like that's the whole America is a melting

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Speaker 1: pot of culture. That's what that is what is beautiful

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Speaker 1: about it. It's also like American culture is ubiquitous because

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Speaker 1: we have like you know, movies and TV shows showcasing

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Speaker 1: movies are One of the reasons for somepular.

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Speaker 2: American culture is jazz. Jazz is the only thing America

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Speaker 2: has given to the world.

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Speaker 1: Do you mean Marvel?

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Speaker 2: Okay?

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Speaker 1: Yes, sure, and Les, but that's far wors Legos is

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Speaker 1: not America us claiming.

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Speaker 2: The Hamburger too, Nope? Yeah, what about French fries? Did

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Speaker 2: we invent those?

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Speaker 1: Nope? We didn't invent them, but we did perfect them.

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Speaker 1: She also made comments about anyway, my brothers had an

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Speaker 1: specifically underdress code stated wear your colors no black or white.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's pretty. You don't wear black?

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Speaker 1: Who would wear black to like a wedding? Now, maybe

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Speaker 1: What about a freaking suit?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you don't wear a black suit. What do you

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Speaker 4: mean you wear a it's different shades? You wear a

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Speaker 1: Questions for you guys at a wedding, can't you wear black?

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Speaker 4: And seeing I'm seeing yes, I'm saying yes.

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Speaker 1: So it didn't really bother me. Oh so my ex

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Speaker 1: mostly wears only black. It didn't really bother me. But

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Speaker 1: on the day of the wedding she wore a black dress.

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Speaker 1: was adamant that my sister in law was being a

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Speaker 1: After the wedding, she was mad at me for not

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Speaker 4: It was literally on the invite. It's not like a

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Speaker 4: Bridezilla thing. They made one request. Yeah, yeah, that's that's

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Speaker 1: After the wedding, she was mad at me for not

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Speaker 2: Is that racist?

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Speaker 1: Like?

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Speaker 4: What I mean is that like the logic there, I

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Speaker 1: I don't know necessarily if like that isolated incident is racist,

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Speaker 1: it's getting towards I don't know, some kind of racism

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Speaker 2: That what what was that last sentence? How does that

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Speaker 1: It was unreasonable to anything dictate something like this for

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Speaker 2: She's like being because it's not my culture, I don't

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Speaker 1: Or because it's not my culture, I don't have to participate.

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Speaker 1: I think it's crazy. I wouldn't necessarily say it is racist,

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Speaker 4: The bisness is what I think is making me feel

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Speaker 4: like there's such a sprinkled on there.

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Speaker 3: It's a closed mindset. I mean that sounds really cool

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Speaker 3: to be part of somebody's culture that you like, Oh,

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Speaker 1: I will, you know, experience. I think of my friends

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Speaker 1: want to wear that's cool. Yeah, it's so cool to

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Speaker 3: If someone's welcome you to do it. Yeah, that's so

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Speaker 3: much fun. Like I would love to do that. That's

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Speaker 3: so cool. This is what your culture is. I want

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I think at the very least, it's incredibly disrespectful.

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Speaker 3: One thousand.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, the fight escalated, and finally, in the heat of

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Speaker 1: but also what the heck? I can't believe you here,

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Speaker 1: but take me back. But I can wear a black dress,

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Speaker 2: Take me back in my black dress, please, take me back. Well,

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Speaker 2: I wear my black dress whenever I want, please take

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Speaker 1: But also I hate your culture.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, let's do that one.

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Speaker 1: I feel like, given how well my sister in law into,

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Speaker 1: I want someone like that for me. A wedding is

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Speaker 1: I need some perspective here. Did I do the right thing?

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Speaker 1: Or should I have backed up my ex? I mean,

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Speaker 1: it's a silly final, right the bride herself wasn't even

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Speaker 1: do the right thing? Should I have backed up my ex? Yes?

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Speaker 1: Or no? What do you think?

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Speaker 4: It depends on like the nature of the answer to

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Speaker 4: that question. It's like, what what could you do to

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Speaker 4: make your life theoretically the easiest and like your relationship

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Speaker 4: the smoothest.

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Speaker 2: Is you just back her up?

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Speaker 4: If that is what is more important to you over

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Speaker 4: like you respecting, like culture of this wedding? Like, but

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Speaker 4: I think like the right thing to do is to

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Speaker 4: not back her up, especially after like her attitude about it.

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Speaker 4: I could never back her up if that's her attitude.

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Speaker 2: If it was really just like a like, this is the.

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Speaker 4: Only thing that I feel comfortable wearing. Yeah, that would

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Speaker 4: be a different thing if it was like a red flag. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: it feels like it's a huge red flag.

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Speaker 1: She's literally part of the culture.

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Speaker 4: That out of hand because she's like, oh, it's not

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like it's my culture. Hello, it's my culture.

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Speaker 1: Even if it was like even if it was like

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Speaker 1: even if it wasn't a cultural thing, it would be

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Speaker 2: It was the one thing, Yeah, the one one ask

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Speaker 2: and it's too much.

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Speaker 1: But she called.

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Speaker 4: She said it was being Bridezilla. Yeah, asking one, not

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Speaker 1: But we got an update. Let's go, we got an update.

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Speaker 2: Let's dig.

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Speaker 1: So I spoke to my brother and sister in law

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Speaker 4: And the thing is is it's been four years. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Let's teach you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, four years you should already know or have expressed

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Speaker 3: It's your culture. It's a part of who you are.

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Speaker 1: Because yeah, that's a part of Yeah, she's not accepting.

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Speaker 4: A part of that's literally a part completely out of hand.

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Speaker 4: Just like I'm so dismissive.

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Speaker 1: It's crazy.

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Speaker 2: That's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Ever can if you ever asked like someone like a

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Speaker 3: Like a Filipino thing, Yeah, I mean we like it's

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Speaker 1: It's trying food.

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Speaker 3: If I came up to you and you wanted to

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Speaker 3: there's like chicken, there's like noodles, there's veggie, there's vegetable

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Speaker 3: options like lumpia. Lumpia is like the bare minimum, Like

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Speaker 3: and okay, and they might like it great something like that.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. If we were in the Philippines, it's.

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Speaker 1: Like if a person who were dating didn't want to

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Speaker 3: I got to see their reasoning, like if it's like

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Speaker 1: Because because I want to try it. No, their answer

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Speaker 1: is I'm not part of your culture. I don't have

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Speaker 3: I would that's just lap in my face.

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Speaker 5: That's just that'd be immediately then I would literally be like,

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Speaker 5: why are you with me?

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Speaker 3: I very outward Filipino.

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Speaker 1: You taste me all the time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you want Filipino food, you already had Filipino.

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Speaker 2: You've already had Filipino babe.

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Speaker 3: But no, Like it's like Sam, if someone was like, oh,

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Speaker 3: I don't like like we go to Australia and.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I no, no, I think that. I think if

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Speaker 1: it was like, oh, I don't like this kind of food,

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Speaker 3: Flats, right Red, that's just like you're so.

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Speaker 1: You're just so, Yeah it is.

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Speaker 2: It's one of the most things you could say.

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Speaker 3: It's just ill you're very close minded, and then like, wow,

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Speaker 3: how fortunate are you to be like, I don't want

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Speaker 3: to try someone's culture. Okay, great, I don't want to

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Speaker 1: Yeah. We got more of the story. So my brothers

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Speaker 1: She told me that she'd forgotten about the wedding and

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Speaker 2: I told her.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't convinced the wedding had been on everyone's mind,

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Speaker 1: not respecting our culture.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, right, it's not about the dress.

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Speaker 1: That's when she got annoyed and told me that culture

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Speaker 3: You said the word, you said Australia.

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Speaker 1: And that we were in Australia now. I told her

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Speaker 3: Mm hm.

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Speaker 1: She mentioned things like FGM, what's I don't know what

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Speaker 1: that is and stuff future grandmother. None of the women

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Speaker 2: Oh, I know what that is. No one, we don't

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Speaker 2: want to say that with GM.

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Speaker 4: It's oh it's not good.

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Speaker 1: Yeah I know, yes, yes, yes, yes yeah. And I

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's actually super for her to be like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: what about that?

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Speaker 2: It's like, okay, so do you just think everyone does that?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: That's again again racist, Like.

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Speaker 3: It's just how closed minded you are is it's disgusting

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Speaker 1: I was a and did she'd even think so? Surely

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Speaker 1: It was wrong of me, but I pointed out that

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Speaker 1: It's like, you can, you can just change it when

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that was a you decision, And now she's making

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Speaker 1: This is it for you? Dare you? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Do you know what? Don't you know how much I sacrifice?

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Speaker 1: I built this company from nothing.

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Speaker 1: She then got upset and said she didn't have much

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Speaker 1: She should have listened to her family that I was

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Speaker 2: Boom you do it, Hey, that's how you do it.

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Speaker 2: From Hey, look at you you missed a.

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Speaker 1: Weird CA got in red flags left and right.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely made a great decision in not staying with her.

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Speaker 1: I blocked all of them. I told my family about it,

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Speaker 1: It's a good thing we didn't live together, even though

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Speaker 1: So I went with my brother, sister in law, and

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Speaker 1: Oh with her father there, Yeah right, I told her

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Speaker 1: She takes me back, saying it didn't have to be

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Speaker 1: like this, I have to be like this.

442
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Speaker 2: Oh, but it turns out it does, Babe, Sorry about that.

443
00:20:56,600 --> 00:20:59,240
Speaker 1: But I told her it did, and I didn't want

444
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Speaker 1: to discuss any thing further. But if you want to

445
00:21:01,280 --> 00:21:03,760
Speaker 1: discuss more stuff with us, brother, you can join us

446
00:21:03,840 --> 00:21:05,840
Speaker 1: live on YouTube every week day at three pm PST.

447
00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:09,080
Speaker 1: Just tap her profile. I'm gonna get right into this

448
00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:11,680
Speaker 1: rest of the story, so in the future I'll notice

449
00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:14,639
Speaker 1: warning signs about her family's behavior and stuff well ahead

450
00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:17,080
Speaker 1: and not always feel like I have to prove myself

451
00:21:17,240 --> 00:21:20,800
Speaker 1: over and over again because I'm black, or put up

452
00:21:20,840 --> 00:21:25,399
Speaker 1: with Nigerian scam jokes or being affectionately called blackie. What

453
00:21:25,720 --> 00:21:28,280
Speaker 1: because I don't want to make a fuss, or because

454
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Speaker 1: I didn't want to be seen as over sensitive? Really quick,

455
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Speaker 1: there's more to the story. But thank god, this man

456
00:21:34,800 --> 00:21:37,359
Speaker 1: is breaking up with this person I don't know with

457
00:21:37,440 --> 00:21:37,840
Speaker 1: too much.

458
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Speaker 3: Yeah, why did Why did it take that much to odd?

459
00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:45,560
Speaker 2: Maybe she was hot, she could have been hot, she could.

460
00:21:46,920 --> 00:21:47,320
Speaker 1: Really hot.

461
00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:50,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh no, oh god, she must have been so hot.

462
00:21:50,359 --> 00:21:53,720
Speaker 1: Du yeah to put up with like, oh that she

463
00:21:53,880 --> 00:21:57,399
Speaker 1: just been hot. It wasn't until I spoke to my

464
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Speaker 1: brother and to a lesser extent, my sister in law

465
00:22:00,440 --> 00:22:05,720
Speaker 1: after this conversation, that I realized how not normal this was. Anyway,

466
00:22:05,880 --> 00:22:07,920
Speaker 1: I have dropped her stuff off and I'm hoping I

467
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Speaker 1: get my stuff back from our place. The most expensive

468
00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:12,080
Speaker 1: thing is a tablet, but I won't be too out

469
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Speaker 1: of sorts if I don't get it back. It'll just

470
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Speaker 1: be an expensive lesson, but a lesson well worth learning.

471
00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:24,560
Speaker 1: And that is where this story and stream ends. Oh wow,

472
00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:27,040
Speaker 1: we're out of time. It's over, but we're gonna read

473
00:22:27,080 --> 00:22:31,600
Speaker 1: some donos really quick, really quick. Avery from the Swamps,

474
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Speaker 1: thanks for the four months of members that what a

475
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Speaker 1: miserable existence, depriving yourself of true joy and missing out

476
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Speaker 1: on the beautiful diversity of humanity dark Yeah, dude, I

477
00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:43,560
Speaker 1: love going to other Like what I love doing is

478
00:22:43,600 --> 00:22:46,200
Speaker 1: going to a new country meaning local and then just

479
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Speaker 1: doing whatever they want.

480
00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:50,240
Speaker 3: Drinking and eating is the most fun thing you can do.

481
00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:53,600
Speaker 2: Oh so friendly in other countries.

482
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Speaker 1: Yeah for real.

483
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Speaker 3: Oh that's the first thing I do. It's like, hey,

484
00:22:55,840 --> 00:22:58,080
Speaker 3: what's the best spot? And like you asked a local,

485
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Speaker 3: they'll take you like yeah, a whole and then say

486
00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:02,639
Speaker 3: want to come yeah, and like you to show me

487
00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:04,119
Speaker 3: it's the best. I love it.

488
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Speaker 1: D thanks for the six bucks. We appreciate you. Uh Leila,

489
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Speaker 1: bit mona, we think we already ready read that. Then, Teresa,

490
00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:14,960
Speaker 1: it's a pizza that.

491
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Speaker 4: Was actually from Who's in China? Oh, millennial, that was

492
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Speaker 4: actually from one done millennial.

493
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Speaker 3: Nice.

494
00:23:22,240 --> 00:23:25,280
Speaker 1: I saw that nice and then anymore.

495
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Speaker 2: Don't forget. No, it's not it. Keon, what's left?

496
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Speaker 1: What do you have to do?

497
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Speaker 2: Kek Yeah, it's right.

498
00:23:32,600 --> 00:23:33,120
Speaker 3: I gotta walk.

499
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Speaker 2: Her name's fashion.

500
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Speaker 1: You gotta here. Let's do a little beat bra and

501
00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:38,000
Speaker 1: away bra and new way.

502
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Speaker 3: I'm not wearing past.

503
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Speaker 1: Oh oh, oh my god.

504
00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:56,840
Speaker 2: Well here we are, folks, Here we are again.

505
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Speaker 1: We said us guy.

506
00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:04,600
Speaker 2: Oh yes, three guys on the street, late night, late

507
00:24:04,760 --> 00:24:11,600
Speaker 2: night on the streem. Okay, uh, I guess your walk's

508
00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:14,480
Speaker 2: gonna be on pause? Kean, yeah, do.

509
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Speaker 1: A little walk, Yeah, give the little walk. U no, no, no, no,

510
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Speaker 1: no no no.

511
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Speaker 2: Doo doo doo doo doo doo doo doo doo doo

512
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Speaker 2: doo doo.

513
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Speaker 3: Do do do do do do Do Do Do Do

514
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Speaker 3: Do Do Do Do Do do do do do do

515
00:24:30,080 --> 00:24:31,320
Speaker 3: do do do doo.

516
00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:35,320
Speaker 1: Okay, wow, my god.

517
00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:40,960
Speaker 4: Also Ski just wow ninety us dollars and says nothing

518
00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:44,680
Speaker 4: just bam yeah a net Ski. Well we know what

519
00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:46,880
Speaker 4: she said. She says, you're not leaving.

520
00:24:47,080 --> 00:24:48,000
Speaker 1: You're not leaving.

521
00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:48,960
Speaker 2: We're not leaving.

522
00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:53,399
Speaker 1: We're not leaving, all right. I at that time of

523
00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:54,359
Speaker 1: the clock right now.

524
00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:55,439
Speaker 2: I'm doing all right.

525
00:24:56,080 --> 00:24:59,040
Speaker 4: Hold on, Mariah from Alaska, thank you for the five dollars.

526
00:24:59,119 --> 00:25:01,680
Speaker 4: Dakota says he wants a whole ass polar bear from Alaska,

527
00:25:02,200 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 4: but not a hungry one, but from India.

528
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:08,200
Speaker 2: A rock s mh. You can send me a rock

529
00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:09,080
Speaker 2: from Alaska too.

530
00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:12,480
Speaker 1: I like rocks, dude, Yeah, all kinds of neurospicy.

531
00:25:12,600 --> 00:25:15,359
Speaker 2: I like rocks. It's true.

532
00:25:16,560 --> 00:25:17,280
Speaker 4: We like rocks.

533
00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:21,679
Speaker 2: Were my neurospicies in the chat. Tell me about how

534
00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:21,879
Speaker 2: you like.

535
00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:26,080
Speaker 1: Is there food in the h Is there food in

536
00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:29,639
Speaker 1: the fridge for us? Should we should we grab some?

537
00:25:29,920 --> 00:25:32,040
Speaker 3: Yeah? I'm kind of I'm not even hungry, but I'm

538
00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:36,080
Speaker 3: pretty hung I'm pretty hungry. I'm pretty hungry hungry.

539
00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:40,000
Speaker 1: Do you want to I'll go downstairs and yeah, I'll go.

540
00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:43,240
Speaker 4: I'll just keep I'll keep the baby's company. I'll keep

541
00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:46,200
Speaker 4: the baby's company. Do we want to do geography again?

542
00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:47,800
Speaker 4: Do we want to do more geography?

543
00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:56,840
Speaker 1: No, let's figure out how to put the uh thing

544
00:25:57,119 --> 00:26:02,520
Speaker 1: on the thing. Yeah, so da code Wikipedia.

545
00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:05,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, well we'll need to know how to do that

546
00:26:05,560 --> 00:26:10,200
Speaker 4: when we start our another stream with just explaining cool,

547
00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:11,360
Speaker 4: just doing.

548
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:14,720
Speaker 2: Like, what do they call it again? The Wikipedia race?

549
00:26:16,160 --> 00:26:17,080
Speaker 2: What is that called?

550
00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:18,200
Speaker 1: Wika? What Wiki?

551
00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:21,360
Speaker 2: It's like, it's yeah, it's a race.

552
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:22,399
Speaker 1: Uh.

553
00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:24,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love reading.

554
00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:27,080
Speaker 4: I actually considered for a while I was going to

555
00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:31,080
Speaker 4: start a Ezekiel. Don't tell me to not embarrass myself.

556
00:26:31,119 --> 00:26:36,359
Speaker 4: I'm here to redeem myself. I was thinking about starting

557
00:26:36,400 --> 00:26:39,320
Speaker 4: an as MR channel where I would just read things

558
00:26:40,200 --> 00:26:43,199
Speaker 4: on Wikipedia and go down the rabbit hole where it's

559
00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:46,280
Speaker 4: like a a Wikipedia race, but there's no finish line,

560
00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:49,080
Speaker 4: So I would just go through Wikipedia articles and just

561
00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:52,760
Speaker 4: slowly get lost in the depths of Wikipedia for an hour,

562
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:54,920
Speaker 4: and then that would be an ASMR video. But I

563
00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:56,600
Speaker 4: never did end up doing it because I didn't get

564
00:26:56,640 --> 00:27:00,840
Speaker 4: the mic set up correctly because I have ADHD, and

565
00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:03,840
Speaker 4: I probably thought of another fun project to do instead

566
00:27:03,880 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 4: of that. And yeah, everybody, yeah, and everybody give love

567
00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 4: to a net in the chat because the single handedly

568
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:15,520
Speaker 4: the goat, the goat of the stream tonight is definitely

569
00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:20,960
Speaker 4: a net. Oh and we have another we have another

570
00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:26,240
Speaker 4: donation from Annette Tayauyo teyo. Uh, thank you for the

571
00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:29,800
Speaker 4: two hundred and forty nine Filipino Pesos. I was rushing

572
00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:35,920
Speaker 4: because Keon was walking. But I promise that's the last one, Yeah,

573
00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:41,439
Speaker 4: Caitlin van Kamp. And the tattoo on my wrist says

574
00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:46,680
Speaker 4: A man is no one and this one, uh that,

575
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:48,520
Speaker 4: that one also says it.

576
00:27:49,560 --> 00:27:54,000
Speaker 2: That one says it, this one and this one says it, and.

577
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:56,600
Speaker 1: That one says it.

578
00:27:57,320 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 2: It says the same thing, so it can be seen

579
00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:02,520
Speaker 2: from any angle.

580
00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:04,640
Speaker 4: Um.

581
00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:06,800
Speaker 2: I don't want to do anyth where it's gonna break

582
00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:07,840
Speaker 2: the strong any angle.

583
00:28:08,800 --> 00:28:09,280
Speaker 1: Uh what?

584
00:28:09,600 --> 00:28:11,119
Speaker 2: Somebody who asked me what?

585
00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:11,680
Speaker 3: Well?

586
00:28:11,840 --> 00:28:15,320
Speaker 4: Yet that's a yes from Avery from the swamps on

587
00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 4: the Wikipedia reading.

588
00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:18,480
Speaker 1: Very cool, very cool.

589
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:19,800
Speaker 3: I take it rally.

590
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:22,520
Speaker 2: How do I pronounce your last name?

591
00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 1: And that.

592
00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:26,520
Speaker 2: Is it tao or tayau.

593
00:28:29,200 --> 00:28:29,800
Speaker 4: H i?

594
00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 3: I uh h?

595
00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:38,320
Speaker 2: And also cal is calcif Is that cal calcifear calcifer.

596
00:28:39,480 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 4: Calcifer? How's moving castle? One of the best Chippy Lee

597
00:28:43,360 --> 00:28:47,640
Speaker 4: understands it? Game of Thrones quote, Yes, very nice, very nice.

598
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:51,600
Speaker 1: Oh no.

599
00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:52,320
Speaker 2: The only other.

600
00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:55,600
Speaker 4: Tattoo I have is this little worm on my hand,

601
00:28:56,640 --> 00:29:10,760
Speaker 4: little worm, hand worm, hand worm hand wormy h Uh.

602
00:29:11,280 --> 00:29:12,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd listen to anything you do. To go to

603
00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:19,240
Speaker 2: a stop it, Caitlin. Yeah, here to y'all. Oh, it's

604
00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:21,960
Speaker 2: to y'all all right, a net to y'all.

605
00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:24,600
Speaker 1: Cool. I love it.

606
00:29:29,560 --> 00:29:37,960
Speaker 4: Uh huh tough y'all. A like apple app tat tat

607
00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 4: to y'all. Tay y'all, tat ta y'all. Wow, it's tag

608
00:29:45,200 --> 00:29:49,200
Speaker 4: tay y'all. Okay annett tay y'all.

609
00:29:50,520 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 1: I like that. All right. I'm going to.

610
00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:59,200
Speaker 2: Thank you for saying I have nice hands brains, I

611
00:29:59,280 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 2: got these.

612
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:04,360
Speaker 1: Paul alrighty we keep those.

613
00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 2: I don't know what to do with these pauls.

614
00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:11,520
Speaker 1: Do we want to do? We want to do? Uh

615
00:30:11,920 --> 00:30:13,480
Speaker 1: modern Chinese again.

616
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:18,480
Speaker 2: From that place, the dumpling place, soup dumpling.

617
00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:22,920
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I love that. Cool Kean, can you order

618
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:25,040
Speaker 1: enough for all of us? Oh?

619
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:25,400
Speaker 4: Thank you?

620
00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:27,440
Speaker 2: Fine, then keep your tailor. You say your rings are

621
00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:29,560
Speaker 2: so cool, Dakota, thank you.

622
00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:33,480
Speaker 1: Last time, plus extra so we can.

623
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:37,160
Speaker 2: You guys want the same thing I think, calm hands.

624
00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:38,560
Speaker 3: Do you guys want soup dumplings?

625
00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:40,240
Speaker 1: I want? Yeah, dude, the soup dumplings?

626
00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:44,880
Speaker 2: Yes, I I I would I would enjoy those.

627
00:30:44,920 --> 00:30:46,480
Speaker 1: Those were great. Those were so good.

628
00:30:46,680 --> 00:30:50,280
Speaker 2: And that says my name has never been butchered like this.

629
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:51,800
Speaker 2: I still love you, Dakota.

630
00:30:51,960 --> 00:30:54,480
Speaker 4: Thank you, thank you for still loving me even though

631
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:56,680
Speaker 4: I'm absolutely eviscerating your name.

632
00:30:58,160 --> 00:30:59,120
Speaker 1: We read the new donus.

633
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:04,760
Speaker 4: Oh, I'm Tom hans uh nicolel in uh As. Thank

634
00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:06,920
Speaker 4: you for the five dollars. As someone who also has

635
00:31:07,040 --> 00:31:10,160
Speaker 4: extreme ADHD and the ability and the inability to chill,

636
00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:12,520
Speaker 4: believe it or not, Dakota, watching you talk has a

637
00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:17,080
Speaker 4: calming effect. Yeah, I'm like verbal uh, I'm like verbal

638
00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:20,440
Speaker 4: ADHD meds. It's like that's because you know, the ADHD

639
00:31:20,840 --> 00:31:23,920
Speaker 4: for normal people amped them up, but then for people

640
00:31:23,960 --> 00:31:25,440
Speaker 4: with ADHD it like levels of s.

641
00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:28,320
Speaker 3: I'm getting soup dumpleks only sep dumplings because those were

642
00:31:28,360 --> 00:31:28,600
Speaker 3: the best.

643
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 1: Those were yeah, five far the best. How about the

644
00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:32,760
Speaker 1: scallion pancakes.

645
00:31:33,080 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm getting three chicken shrimp, three chicken, three pork shrimp.

646
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:42,920
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, looks were watching the anime after we finished here.

647
00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:44,680
Speaker 2: Josephine.

648
00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:49,640
Speaker 4: Josephine has a donation as well, the twenty seven Swedish Kroner.

649
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:52,960
Speaker 2: I don't know how to say that. Kean a taste

650
00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:56,040
Speaker 2: of my Swati heritage. What is Swati?

651
00:31:56,640 --> 00:31:59,760
Speaker 1: Swati is a heritage is Swati.

652
00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:00,280
Speaker 4: Is that?

653
00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:03,120
Speaker 2: Like, is that Swaziland.

654
00:32:03,520 --> 00:32:04,760
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna try.

655
00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:07,760
Speaker 2: I'll try it.

656
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 3: Yeah.

657
00:32:09,400 --> 00:32:12,560
Speaker 2: In in yak In yak you got.

658
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:15,080
Speaker 1: I think it's uh.

659
00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:20,400
Speaker 4: In yak Sanza you got in yak Sanza ki yakut sacks.

660
00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:22,000
Speaker 2: And in yak Sanza ki.

661
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:24,080
Speaker 3: We get popcorn shrimp that someone's got fire.

662
00:32:24,360 --> 00:32:27,520
Speaker 2: How close is in yak Sanza, Josephine, how close is it?

663
00:32:28,680 --> 00:32:32,160
Speaker 1: I was right? Oh my god, Swaziland cool do the

664
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:35,880
Speaker 1: King of Swaziland is dope, you know, he's not actually dope,

665
00:32:35,920 --> 00:32:37,600
Speaker 1: but like it's just crazy.

666
00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:38,600
Speaker 2: That there's a king in Swaziland.

667
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:40,840
Speaker 1: There's a king. There's a king. He's like the last monarch.

668
00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:44,480
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, and it's not Swaziland anymore, Josephin, it's Swatini.

669
00:32:44,920 --> 00:32:46,800
Speaker 1: M all right, let's keep going.

670
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:51,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's it. Who's the next one?

671
00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:52,000
Speaker 1: Sorry?

672
00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:53,240
Speaker 2: I said that with so much sass.

673
00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:54,280
Speaker 4: This is.

674
00:32:56,320 --> 00:32:57,360
Speaker 1: Uh, you're the next one?

675
00:32:58,160 --> 00:32:58,480
Speaker 2: Okay?

676
00:32:59,840 --> 00:33:01,880
Speaker 3: The one is the Oh I think it's just the

677
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:05,800
Speaker 3: it's the it's the one. It's the one. Dakota no way, Yeah,

678
00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:06,960
Speaker 3: what what's the way?

679
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 1: What's the one?

680
00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:12,640
Speaker 2: It's the it's here we go?

681
00:33:13,040 --> 00:33:13,400
Speaker 1: You got it?

682
00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:16,680
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, here sham do you want anything else.

683
00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:22,440
Speaker 1: Oh, just make sure it's like like good brother, just

684
00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:24,560
Speaker 1: make just make it and make it, make it enough

685
00:33:24,640 --> 00:33:28,959
Speaker 1: for us. And then also make sure you're thinking it's

686
00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:29,680
Speaker 1: a business card.

687
00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:31,480
Speaker 3: I don't know which one that is.

688
00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:32,680
Speaker 1: All right, then just hand it back to me when

689
00:33:32,680 --> 00:33:32,959
Speaker 1: you're done.

690
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:36,600
Speaker 3: Um, there's Chrispy du'mbling.

691
00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:37,560
Speaker 1: But was it good?

692
00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:38,200
Speaker 3: But was it good?

693
00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:38,400
Speaker 1: Though?

694
00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 2: Josephine did?

695
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:44,239
Speaker 1: I was I close, dude, and Dakota showed me Dan

696
00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:46,480
Speaker 1: to Dan and it was very.

697
00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:49,080
Speaker 2: The first episode should make you feel uncomfortable.

698
00:33:49,120 --> 00:33:50,480
Speaker 1: It was very. It was a little uncomfortable.

699
00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:52,000
Speaker 3: Not the newest one, not the one from today, but

700
00:33:52,120 --> 00:33:53,800
Speaker 3: the one from last week should make you cry.

701
00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:54,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, O, my god.

702
00:33:55,400 --> 00:33:59,200
Speaker 4: The emotional pieces of media I've ever seen, I swear

703
00:33:59,680 --> 00:34:04,360
Speaker 4: was it's insane and it's yeah, the the the whip

704
00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:06,720
Speaker 4: in it back if it's crazy. You go from like

705
00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:08,920
Speaker 4: this is ridiculous and this is to like, oh my god,

706
00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:12,360
Speaker 4: my heart is breaking, ridiculous heart, ridiculous heartbreak.

707
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:14,440
Speaker 1: I kind of want to see it. Okay, let's hit

708
00:34:14,440 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 1: it read read read Okay.

709
00:34:17,719 --> 00:34:23,440
Speaker 4: Um, my boyfriend threw away my teddy bear, so I

710
00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:25,360
Speaker 4: destroyed his Lego collection.

711
00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 1: Not the Lego collection just would destroy me. Can you

712
00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:35,160
Speaker 1: imagine me? Can you imagine Keon has Hella legos? That

713
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:36,440
Speaker 1: would that would hurt?

714
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:38,800
Speaker 4: Editor note, can you can you make the sound of

715
00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:41,480
Speaker 4: like the lego from from the Lego Games of like

716
00:34:41,760 --> 00:34:44,560
Speaker 4: somebody breaking that the breaking lego.

717
00:34:44,480 --> 00:34:47,840
Speaker 2: Sound from the Lego Games right there? Please edit that

718
00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:50,759
Speaker 2: in Yeah and the and the Yoda yell where he goes.

719
00:34:50,880 --> 00:34:56,640
Speaker 4: Okay, I just need to vent I twenty four female,

720
00:34:56,680 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 4: have been living with my twenty five male now ex

721
00:34:59,239 --> 00:35:02,680
Speaker 4: boyfriend for about eight months now. I have a teddy

722
00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:05,080
Speaker 4: bear that my grandmother gave to me when I was younger,

723
00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:09,960
Speaker 4: and it has no monetary value, but the sentimental value

724
00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 4: is more important.

725
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:12,080
Speaker 1: By the way, This.

726
00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:15,279
Speaker 4: Comes from user secure son ninety six eighty nine on

727
00:35:15,320 --> 00:35:20,960
Speaker 4: the r slash okay story time subreddit. So when I

728
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:24,279
Speaker 4: was eight she gave it to me. While when I

729
00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:26,320
Speaker 4: was eight, she gave it to me while she was

730
00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:30,040
Speaker 4: struggling with cancer. It was stage four and it spread

731
00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:32,920
Speaker 4: quickly and there was nothing they could do. She gave

732
00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:34,759
Speaker 4: me a teddy bear and told me to take care

733
00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:36,800
Speaker 4: of it and I could talk to the teddy bear.

734
00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:37,600
Speaker 2: Whenever I missed her.

735
00:35:37,640 --> 00:35:40,480
Speaker 4: Oh my god, my heart, Oh my heart's breaking. She

736
00:35:40,640 --> 00:35:43,040
Speaker 4: got one of those talking mics and put it in

737
00:35:43,320 --> 00:35:46,000
Speaker 4: and it would say, I hope you're feeling loved today,

738
00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:48,560
Speaker 4: because I love you more than all the stars in

739
00:35:48,640 --> 00:35:51,239
Speaker 4: the sky and all the fish in the sea, and

740
00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:54,360
Speaker 4: you mean the world to me. She would say that

741
00:35:54,640 --> 00:35:57,200
Speaker 4: all the time when I would spend the night. He

742
00:35:57,360 --> 00:35:58,680
Speaker 4: knows how much it means to me.

743
00:35:59,200 --> 00:35:59,880
Speaker 2: I told him.

744
00:36:00,600 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 4: He seen me hugging the bear and sitting outside to

745
00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:06,680
Speaker 4: talk to my grandma when I was just sad or

746
00:36:06,800 --> 00:36:10,560
Speaker 4: needed to vent, without judgment or even a response. Two

747
00:36:10,680 --> 00:36:14,200
Speaker 4: days ago, he decided that it was raggedy and not

748
00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:18,319
Speaker 4: appealing to look at. I can admit bear Bear has

749
00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:21,640
Speaker 4: been through it. I carried it around with me everywhere

750
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:24,480
Speaker 4: for two years. He would go in my book bag

751
00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:26,960
Speaker 4: when I went to school, went to dance class with me.

752
00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:29,719
Speaker 4: He even went out of town when I had cheer

753
00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:32,960
Speaker 4: meats when I got into high school. My cousin pulled

754
00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:35,040
Speaker 4: out one of his eyes when I was ten, and

755
00:36:35,160 --> 00:36:37,239
Speaker 4: he's missing an arm. When my brother got mad at

756
00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:40,040
Speaker 4: me and cut it off, it was sewn back on

757
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:41,520
Speaker 4: and then ripped off again.

758
00:36:41,960 --> 00:36:45,000
Speaker 2: You get it right, But he was mine.

759
00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 4: I found a button that was exactly like his from

760
00:36:48,800 --> 00:36:51,000
Speaker 4: some bear at Goodwill, and I was going to sew

761
00:36:51,080 --> 00:36:51,799
Speaker 4: it on his eye.

762
00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:54,719
Speaker 2: I went to my room. We have separate bedrooms.

763
00:36:54,760 --> 00:36:56,800
Speaker 4: I can decorate my space how I want and have

764
00:36:56,960 --> 00:37:00,239
Speaker 4: my workspace at the same and the same for him.

765
00:37:00,280 --> 00:37:01,480
Speaker 2: But we always sleep together.

766
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:03,839
Speaker 4: I just never had my own room and have only

767
00:37:03,880 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 4: been living alone for two years, so I want to

768
00:37:05,760 --> 00:37:07,919
Speaker 4: keep that way. I want to keep that for a while.

769
00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:12,759
Speaker 4: I went into my room to fix his eye and

770
00:37:12,920 --> 00:37:16,600
Speaker 4: he was not on my bed. I went scouring for

771
00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:20,920
Speaker 4: him for hours, and he watched me. I started to

772
00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:23,279
Speaker 4: cry because that was the last thing she gave me,

773
00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:27,759
Speaker 4: and she made it especially for me. He finally told

774
00:37:27,800 --> 00:37:31,279
Speaker 4: me he threw it away because it was disgusting and

775
00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:34,360
Speaker 4: he hated coming into my room and seeing it. I

776
00:37:34,480 --> 00:37:37,960
Speaker 4: got so mad, and I felt so betrayed. I want

777
00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:41,279
Speaker 4: to throw this phone as hard as I can. It's

778
00:37:41,360 --> 00:37:45,880
Speaker 4: in his room, it's the Yeah, exactly, it's not. It

779
00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:48,480
Speaker 4: wasn't even in his room, it was in hers. And

780
00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:52,359
Speaker 4: he's like, it looks so gross, I'm gonna throw it away. Yeah,

781
00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:54,800
Speaker 4: And he knows that the sentimental value it has. This

782
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:55,879
Speaker 4: guy's psycho.

783
00:37:57,480 --> 00:38:01,520
Speaker 1: Like not bothering anyone go in her room, literally bothering

784
00:38:01,640 --> 00:38:03,080
Speaker 1: zero people except him.

785
00:38:04,200 --> 00:38:09,239
Speaker 4: This guy, it deserves a level beyond the black hole.

786
00:38:10,040 --> 00:38:12,360
Speaker 4: I would throw this guy into the black hole so fast,

787
00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:14,440
Speaker 4: but I don't know. We need something worse than the

788
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:19,239
Speaker 4: black hole for this guy. So my boyfriend likes to

789
00:38:19,760 --> 00:38:22,960
Speaker 4: spend time on legos and building them. He's built the

790
00:38:23,040 --> 00:38:26,279
Speaker 4: Eiffel Tower, which is the lamest lego set you could

791
00:38:26,320 --> 00:38:30,839
Speaker 4: possibly build, the Harry Potter Tower, a cherry which that's good.

792
00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:32,640
Speaker 1: Whatever I have, I have that in my room, a.

793
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:36,160
Speaker 4: Cherry blossom tree, and dozens of others. I went to

794
00:38:36,280 --> 00:38:38,640
Speaker 4: his room and I destroyed them.

795
00:38:39,360 --> 00:38:43,239
Speaker 2: All, like Godzilla. I fully support this.

796
00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:44,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, they got name.

797
00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:47,880
Speaker 4: I kit them all, not even just the men, but

798
00:38:48,080 --> 00:38:51,879
Speaker 4: the women and the children too, theos and the chill

799
00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:58,040
Speaker 4: legos too. I threw the pieces around the room and

800
00:38:58,120 --> 00:38:59,880
Speaker 4: out the window and in the garbage. So he is

801
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:04,400
Speaker 4: not rebuilding these, no, no way. He came in screaming

802
00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:06,560
Speaker 4: at me and saying, how dare I touch his thing

803
00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:08,479
Speaker 4: is that he bought with his money and he spent

804
00:39:08,680 --> 00:39:12,240
Speaker 4: hours on. I told him he can GTFO and spend

805
00:39:12,360 --> 00:39:15,600
Speaker 4: hours rebuilding it someplace else, because I'm done with them.

806
00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:20,680
Speaker 2: You, yes, be done with this absolute trash can of

807
00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:21,200
Speaker 2: a person.

808
00:39:21,680 --> 00:39:26,480
Speaker 1: Hey, really, really quick, really quick to interject terrible what

809
00:39:26,560 --> 00:39:28,560
Speaker 1: he did st I don't think you should break us

810
00:39:28,600 --> 00:39:28,800
Speaker 1: like this.

811
00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:33,239
Speaker 4: Oh no, dude, I'm surprised that it stopped at just

812
00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:33,800
Speaker 4: the legos.

813
00:39:33,960 --> 00:39:36,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd be breaking I would be breaking this.

814
00:39:36,200 --> 00:39:41,880
Speaker 1: I understand why you did this. He is terrible. Still,

815
00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:45,880
Speaker 1: never condone an eye for an eye behavior.

816
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:48,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, you know, it's not understand it's not

817
00:39:49,120 --> 00:39:52,120
Speaker 4: the most enlightened thing that you could have done. No.

818
00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:55,000
Speaker 2: No, Sam just got back from ten days of meditation.

819
00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:58,319
Speaker 4: I did, so he understands that it's you know, you're

820
00:39:58,640 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 4: it's poisoned for you as Yeah, but at the same time,

821
00:40:02,040 --> 00:40:04,439
Speaker 4: your heart. I'd be going to jail for the things

822
00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:06,160
Speaker 4: that I would do to this guy if he threw

823
00:40:06,200 --> 00:40:10,720
Speaker 4: away something that was that sentimental to me. Like quick, okay,

824
00:40:10,760 --> 00:40:13,880
Speaker 4: story quick, quick, just very quick storytime that relates to

825
00:40:13,960 --> 00:40:16,000
Speaker 4: something like this. I had a bag in my car

826
00:40:16,120 --> 00:40:17,880
Speaker 4: that was stolen out of my car that was my

827
00:40:18,000 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 4: diaper bag and it was like my mom's bag, and

828
00:40:20,719 --> 00:40:22,440
Speaker 4: it was like it was a nice bag. It was

829
00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:25,279
Speaker 4: like a whatever, and I was using whatever like I

830
00:40:25,400 --> 00:40:27,000
Speaker 4: used it and it was like just a sentimental thing

831
00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:29,160
Speaker 4: of like, oh, this was mine when I was a baby,

832
00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:31,400
Speaker 4: and it'll last forever and I can maybe pass it.

833
00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:35,000
Speaker 4: Who knows and somebody, you know, it's on me because

834
00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:36,840
Speaker 4: my car was unlocked, but it was parked in the garage.

835
00:40:36,960 --> 00:40:39,600
Speaker 4: Somebody clearly got into the garage and just took the

836
00:40:39,680 --> 00:40:41,399
Speaker 4: bags out of my car and they were just gone.

837
00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 4: And in that moment, if I could have been face

838
00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:47,720
Speaker 4: to face with the person who had that bag, jail,

839
00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:53,120
Speaker 4: jail for me, Jail for me. So this the Teddy

840
00:40:53,160 --> 00:40:56,080
Speaker 4: bear with the Grandma's voice in it, that just past

841
00:40:56,200 --> 00:40:56,760
Speaker 4: that passed.

842
00:40:56,920 --> 00:40:59,839
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh my god, yeah, oh my god.

843
00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:03,840
Speaker 2: It would be It would a solitary confinement, no parole.

844
00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:07,520
Speaker 4: That's where I would be straight up, never crossed, Dakota.

845
00:41:08,080 --> 00:41:09,720
Speaker 4: Do not mess with me with that stuff.

846
00:41:09,760 --> 00:41:09,960
Speaker 1: Dude.

847
00:41:12,000 --> 00:41:17,080
Speaker 4: Anyway, he started telling me I was overreacting and whatever else.

848
00:41:17,560 --> 00:41:19,920
Speaker 4: I forgot a lot of the argument because I was

849
00:41:20,000 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 4: blind with rage. I told him that he had one

850
00:41:23,200 --> 00:41:25,560
Speaker 4: week to get his things out and move out because

851
00:41:25,920 --> 00:41:27,960
Speaker 4: but he wasn't staying here while it happened.

852
00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:29,319
Speaker 2: He started telling me.

853
00:41:29,320 --> 00:41:32,320
Speaker 4: That I couldn't do that, and he paid bills I

854
00:41:32,480 --> 00:41:35,080
Speaker 4: told him I really don't give a crap and to

855
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:37,120
Speaker 4: get out or I'd call the police.

856
00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:40,000
Speaker 2: We have mutual friends, and he told them a completely

857
00:41:40,040 --> 00:41:40,720
Speaker 2: different story.

858
00:41:40,920 --> 00:41:42,879
Speaker 1: But I agree with all of that. By the way,

859
00:41:43,120 --> 00:41:46,200
Speaker 1: all of kicking him out, kicking out, being over him,

860
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:50,440
Speaker 1: being him, that all completely justified him, kind of like

861
00:41:50,600 --> 00:41:54,560
Speaker 1: like immediate shut down, justifying you're out of here. Yeah,

862
00:41:54,840 --> 00:41:58,719
Speaker 1: legos less. So uh, this is says Sam, go sit

863
00:41:58,800 --> 00:41:59,879
Speaker 1: in your corner with your.

864
00:42:04,520 --> 00:42:07,040
Speaker 4: We have mutual friends, and he's told them a completely

865
00:42:07,080 --> 00:42:10,839
Speaker 4: different story, because two have texted me asking how could

866
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:11,960
Speaker 4: I do that to him?

867
00:42:12,719 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 2: Did you was that you? Did you texture that? Sam?

868
00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:20,840
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, like, oh boy, I just I just

869
00:42:20,960 --> 00:42:27,680
Speaker 1: don't think anyone should should inflict hurt on a note.

870
00:42:27,680 --> 00:42:29,920
Speaker 2: All right, cool go sit underneath the buddy satfa tree

871
00:42:30,000 --> 00:42:36,799
Speaker 2: or whatever. Man, that's very cool of you. I really don't.

872
00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:39,600
Speaker 4: I really don't care to clear it up. In the

873
00:42:39,680 --> 00:42:42,400
Speaker 4: moment I did, I didn't feel bad, but now I

874
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:44,400
Speaker 4: kind of do because that's his hobby.

875
00:42:44,800 --> 00:42:47,040
Speaker 2: But I was so hurt and betrayed by what he did.

876
00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:49,680
Speaker 4: He's even called me a few times saying that he'll

877
00:42:49,719 --> 00:42:55,120
Speaker 4: get me another what But I that's that is so stupid.

878
00:42:55,200 --> 00:42:58,480
Speaker 4: I can't even be bothered to explain why. Yeah, we'll

879
00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:01,440
Speaker 4: work on things and don't throw away three years over

880
00:43:01,520 --> 00:43:04,759
Speaker 4: a mistake. But I'm not completely disgusted by him yet,

881
00:43:05,080 --> 00:43:11,360
Speaker 4: the mistake of you showing your true light as a psychopath. Anyway,

882
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:14,399
Speaker 4: there's an update. But like for him to say, I'll

883
00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:15,200
Speaker 4: get you a new one.

884
00:43:15,600 --> 00:43:16,320
Speaker 2: What are you gonna do?

885
00:43:16,760 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 4: Resurrect her grandma so she can record another voice recording, Like,

886
00:43:20,719 --> 00:43:21,720
Speaker 4: are you stupid?

887
00:43:22,120 --> 00:43:25,040
Speaker 1: I mean you can these days, you can't clone voices

888
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:30,200
Speaker 1: pretty easy. So but no, Sam, that's actually a really

889
00:43:30,239 --> 00:43:35,480
Speaker 1: good point because but the break up with him, she

890
00:43:36,080 --> 00:43:38,840
Speaker 1: does like, you do not deserve this guy. He is

891
00:43:39,560 --> 00:43:40,279
Speaker 1: terrible for doing that.

892
00:43:40,400 --> 00:43:43,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, this guy does not deserve you, and you don't

893
00:43:43,080 --> 00:43:49,359
Speaker 4: deserve to have nothing, dumpster of a human being. All Right,

894
00:43:49,400 --> 00:43:51,600
Speaker 4: so let's let's get into the update. Clearly this guy

895
00:43:52,280 --> 00:43:53,200
Speaker 4: is the worst guy.

896
00:43:53,640 --> 00:43:57,920
Speaker 1: Or cloud Riley, Riley, stop that Riley donating?

897
00:43:59,080 --> 00:44:01,480
Speaker 2: Ye, I'm named Chuae. We don't hate me.

898
00:44:01,640 --> 00:44:02,120
Speaker 1: I don't hate you.

899
00:44:02,600 --> 00:44:03,880
Speaker 2: We could never hate you, Riley.

900
00:44:04,239 --> 00:44:04,759
Speaker 1: We all love you.

901
00:44:05,160 --> 00:44:06,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, I love you, buddy.

902
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:07,400
Speaker 2: Update.

903
00:44:08,640 --> 00:44:10,319
Speaker 4: I want to say thank you to all the people

904
00:44:10,320 --> 00:44:12,480
Speaker 4: who told me not to give up on finding my

905
00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:15,520
Speaker 4: bear because I went out in that dumpster for three

906
00:44:15,560 --> 00:44:17,719
Speaker 4: hours with my sister, my best friend, and even a

907
00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:20,919
Speaker 4: neighbor came down to help when I told him what happened.

908
00:44:20,920 --> 00:44:22,080
Speaker 2: And I having found it.

909
00:44:23,880 --> 00:44:24,200
Speaker 1: The bear.

910
00:44:24,440 --> 00:44:28,360
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, she found the bear. Oh my god.

911
00:44:28,520 --> 00:44:31,800
Speaker 4: That was like a resurrected I felt like like the

912
00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:34,080
Speaker 4: biggest weight just came off my chest right now.

913
00:44:34,360 --> 00:44:35,839
Speaker 1: How do I feel if you found your back?

914
00:44:37,000 --> 00:44:38,800
Speaker 2: Oh, dude, I would have been. I would be. I

915
00:44:38,800 --> 00:44:41,000
Speaker 2: would have been so happy, like if it was just

916
00:44:41,040 --> 00:44:42,560
Speaker 2: in a dumpster, like a low key.

917
00:44:42,719 --> 00:44:45,279
Speaker 4: After it first happened, I was like, because you know,

918
00:44:45,480 --> 00:44:47,080
Speaker 4: I mean, I live in Hollywood, so there's like a

919
00:44:47,160 --> 00:44:50,879
Speaker 4: lot of unhoused individuals, which and one of them took

920
00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:53,320
Speaker 4: my back, like one of them got into the garage

921
00:44:53,320 --> 00:44:55,360
Speaker 4: and took my back, and it's is it is what

922
00:44:55,440 --> 00:44:55,600
Speaker 4: it is.

923
00:44:56,560 --> 00:44:58,400
Speaker 2: And I eventually got to a point where I was like,

924
00:44:58,440 --> 00:44:58,680
Speaker 2: I just.

925
00:44:58,680 --> 00:45:00,520
Speaker 4: Hope whatever they're us in that bag before really needed

926
00:45:00,560 --> 00:45:02,640
Speaker 4: it they and it's you know whatever, I wish this.

927
00:45:03,320 --> 00:45:04,680
Speaker 4: I hope they get to a place in their lives

928
00:45:04,719 --> 00:45:06,640
Speaker 4: where they don't have to take stuff out of other

929
00:45:06,680 --> 00:45:08,000
Speaker 4: people's cars to.

930
00:45:08,719 --> 00:45:10,600
Speaker 2: I guess exist that's beautiful.

931
00:45:10,640 --> 00:45:13,560
Speaker 4: But at first I was like, if I see somebody

932
00:45:13,640 --> 00:45:16,600
Speaker 4: walking around with his bag, I'm immediately pressing the issue

933
00:45:16,880 --> 00:45:19,960
Speaker 4: and it's gonna end up being a fight. So I

934
00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:24,719
Speaker 4: was ready for probably a month after that happened, I

935
00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:29,800
Speaker 4: was keeping my eyes peeled. I did not find it though. Anyway,

936
00:45:30,920 --> 00:45:35,080
Speaker 4: I am so relieved and beyond happy. Also, I love

937
00:45:35,160 --> 00:45:37,760
Speaker 4: all the men calling me crazy and saying he dodged

938
00:45:37,760 --> 00:45:40,160
Speaker 4: a bullet and I committed a crime and he should

939
00:45:40,200 --> 00:45:42,120
Speaker 4: call the police or take me to court, as if

940
00:45:42,160 --> 00:45:44,920
Speaker 4: he didn't go into my personal space and throw away

941
00:45:45,160 --> 00:45:48,880
Speaker 4: my property because he didn't like my property in my

942
00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:49,880
Speaker 4: personal space.

943
00:45:50,040 --> 00:45:53,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean that it like they both. I mean,

944
00:45:53,239 --> 00:45:55,279
Speaker 1: he did an aggressive thing.

945
00:45:56,880 --> 00:45:57,319
Speaker 2: I'm sorry.

946
00:45:57,800 --> 00:46:01,240
Speaker 4: Unless his grandma who passed away, built all those legos

947
00:46:01,280 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 4: for him, this isn't even in the same universe of

948
00:46:04,680 --> 00:46:05,520
Speaker 4: a thing that you got.

949
00:46:05,800 --> 00:46:08,000
Speaker 1: What he did is way words, and he didn't he go.

950
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:10,680
Speaker 4: Buy brand new sets of all those legos and they'll

951
00:46:10,719 --> 00:46:11,919
Speaker 4: be exactly the same.

952
00:46:12,080 --> 00:46:14,359
Speaker 1: It's just, you know, an eye for an eye makes

953
00:46:14,400 --> 00:46:15,440
Speaker 1: the whole world line. Man.

954
00:46:16,520 --> 00:46:18,719
Speaker 2: This is yeah, this is not even an eye.

955
00:46:19,600 --> 00:46:22,719
Speaker 4: This is like an eye for a toenail, you know,

956
00:46:22,960 --> 00:46:26,080
Speaker 4: that's he lost a toenail, she lost an eye, which

957
00:46:26,320 --> 00:46:26,759
Speaker 4: she found it.

958
00:46:26,760 --> 00:46:27,440
Speaker 1: Which she found the eye.

959
00:46:28,680 --> 00:46:30,200
Speaker 2: He's lucky that all I did.

960
00:46:31,200 --> 00:46:34,719
Speaker 4: Uh Oh, he's lucky that smashing his legos is all

961
00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:37,480
Speaker 4: that I did, and that I didn't sue him for

962
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:40,320
Speaker 4: throwing my bear away. Men are telling me that I

963
00:46:40,400 --> 00:46:42,799
Speaker 4: committed a crime as if he didn't, and that I'm

964
00:46:42,880 --> 00:46:46,879
Speaker 4: crazy for destroying his things, but he isn't. That I'm

965
00:46:46,920 --> 00:46:50,000
Speaker 4: immature for being upset that he threw the last thing

966
00:46:50,040 --> 00:46:53,600
Speaker 4: I have of my grandmother out. But he can buy

967
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:56,600
Speaker 4: replicas of the same Harry Potter Lego set until the

968
00:46:56,680 --> 00:46:59,359
Speaker 4: day he dies, if he wants. But I'm the worst

969
00:46:59,400 --> 00:47:04,279
Speaker 4: person to ever walk this planet. It's insane anyway, I

970
00:47:04,440 --> 00:47:07,560
Speaker 4: found it, and he's air drying. I'm going to sew

971
00:47:07,600 --> 00:47:09,440
Speaker 4: the button in over the weekend, and my dad and

972
00:47:09,480 --> 00:47:11,920
Speaker 4: brother will be here while he comes to get his stuff.

973
00:47:12,320 --> 00:47:12,920
Speaker 2: And that's that.

974
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:14,799
Speaker 1: I'm glad that she found the bear.

975
00:47:14,880 --> 00:47:18,359
Speaker 2: I think that's you better be who wouldn't be glad

976
00:47:18,440 --> 00:47:20,840
Speaker 2: that she found the bear? Is there anyone who's not?

977
00:47:21,840 --> 00:47:24,320
Speaker 4: Is there anyone who's like dang, I wish you wouldn't

978
00:47:24,360 --> 00:47:27,760
Speaker 4: have found that bear? After she smashed the Eiffel Tower.

979
00:47:28,840 --> 00:47:30,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, wait, pause and then.

980
00:47:34,440 --> 00:47:38,160
Speaker 4: A yeah, no, this guy is I can't imagine having

981
00:47:38,280 --> 00:47:43,439
Speaker 4: like just a black hole pit in my soul. Yeah,

982
00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:46,240
Speaker 4: to be able to away that important.

983
00:47:46,000 --> 00:47:48,320
Speaker 2: So selfish just because it's like, oh it looks raggedy.

984
00:47:48,840 --> 00:47:53,160
Speaker 1: They they they completely need to break up for you.

985
00:47:53,400 --> 00:47:57,360
Speaker 4: At the very least, you're completely your sociopathy doesn't feel anything. Yeah, Like,

986
00:47:58,719 --> 00:48:00,319
Speaker 4: I don't know, and I guess get helpful.

987
00:48:00,120 --> 00:48:03,279
Speaker 2: That truly, I don't know.

988
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:08,720
Speaker 4: I'm now free of someone who doesn't respect my space

989
00:48:09,120 --> 00:48:12,000
Speaker 4: or how I feel. Oh, and I didn't come here

990
00:48:12,080 --> 00:48:13,680
Speaker 4: to ask if I was an a hole. I don't

991
00:48:13,719 --> 00:48:16,600
Speaker 4: care if I was. Now that I found my bear,

992
00:48:16,760 --> 00:48:18,560
Speaker 4: I really don't care. And I can't wait to have

993
00:48:18,680 --> 00:48:21,279
Speaker 4: my apartment to myself again. Great, And by the way,

994
00:48:23,080 --> 00:48:27,160
Speaker 4: you can always join us live on YouTube every weekday

995
00:48:27,160 --> 00:48:31,360
Speaker 4: at three pm PST. Just tap on her profile, just

996
00:48:31,440 --> 00:48:34,879
Speaker 4: tap it. And there isn't a little bit more left

997
00:48:34,920 --> 00:48:38,759
Speaker 4: in the story. And I think we should just dive in.

998
00:48:40,640 --> 00:48:45,520
Speaker 1: Wait really quick. I would love Okay, I would love

999
00:48:45,640 --> 00:48:49,040
Speaker 1: to know, and I think I know what the result

1000
00:48:49,120 --> 00:48:49,840
Speaker 1: of this poll will be.

1001
00:48:50,239 --> 00:48:54,560
Speaker 3: But Samuel, you don't need this pole. You do not

1002
00:48:54,680 --> 00:48:55,200
Speaker 3: need this pole.

1003
00:48:55,360 --> 00:49:00,160
Speaker 1: I want the poll. No you don't, is OP a

1004
00:49:00,480 --> 00:49:03,359
Speaker 1: justified a hole or not the A hole?

1005
00:49:04,320 --> 00:49:06,160
Speaker 3: I'm not doing that poll because I already know the answer,

1006
00:49:06,320 --> 00:49:08,080
Speaker 3: not the a hole, not the a hole, not the

1007
00:49:08,160 --> 00:49:10,680
Speaker 3: ale as a man who has a bunch of legos.

1008
00:49:11,000 --> 00:49:14,920
Speaker 3: If I did that, it's very understandably so I deserve that.

1009
00:49:15,719 --> 00:49:18,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, I can't even dude, if if bro, I'm not

1010
00:49:18,600 --> 00:49:21,480
Speaker 4: gonna lie ke on, keon. If I found out that

1011
00:49:21,600 --> 00:49:23,360
Speaker 4: you were the guy in this story and that you

1012
00:49:23,520 --> 00:49:26,719
Speaker 4: did this to uh someone you were dating, I would

1013
00:49:27,040 --> 00:49:30,680
Speaker 4: never look at you the same way. Agree, straight up? Hey, No,

1014
00:49:30,880 --> 00:49:34,360
Speaker 4: I don't know if we would even be friends anymore. Okay,

1015
00:49:34,800 --> 00:49:37,960
Speaker 4: because that because that is, it was so much deeper

1016
00:49:38,040 --> 00:49:45,719
Speaker 4: than that unhinged psychotic behavior, a heartless cruelty.

1017
00:49:47,040 --> 00:49:50,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, to be clear, to be clear, I am not

1018
00:49:50,200 --> 00:49:52,320
Speaker 1: on this guy's side. I just don't think you should

1019
00:49:52,440 --> 00:49:57,920
Speaker 1: ever uh the other to what the other person does.

1020
00:49:58,000 --> 00:50:01,080
Speaker 1: Look at that, And I disagree with chat chat chat

1021
00:50:01,480 --> 00:50:04,399
Speaker 1: Chat's not enlightened chat.

1022
00:50:04,440 --> 00:50:06,480
Speaker 2: You need to spend some more time underneath the budystf

1023
00:50:06,640 --> 00:50:07,600
Speaker 2: ST is.

1024
00:50:07,600 --> 00:50:10,880
Speaker 1: That is, that's what it's called, right, I don't I

1025
00:50:10,920 --> 00:50:13,600
Speaker 1: don't remember what is the BUDDYSTFA But it seems like

1026
00:50:13,760 --> 00:50:17,680
Speaker 1: Chad says not the ahle aggressively?

1027
00:50:20,400 --> 00:50:21,640
Speaker 3: Is it Sam in this story?

1028
00:50:21,840 --> 00:50:23,040
Speaker 1: And you know what? Yeah?

1029
00:50:23,080 --> 00:50:23,319
Speaker 2: Sam?

1030
00:50:23,440 --> 00:50:24,120
Speaker 4: Was that you? I?

1031
00:50:24,560 --> 00:50:30,640
Speaker 1: I I appreciate your fervor and and your beauty. Sam.

1032
00:50:30,680 --> 00:50:35,040
Speaker 3: I would never in Dakota. I would never. I would

1033
00:50:35,080 --> 00:50:36,480
Speaker 3: never do that. That's like if I.

1034
00:50:36,520 --> 00:50:37,759
Speaker 1: Knew, I'm like, I know you would never.

1035
00:50:37,920 --> 00:50:38,600
Speaker 2: No, I know you would never.

1036
00:50:38,640 --> 00:50:40,239
Speaker 4: I was just making an example if I would never

1037
00:50:40,360 --> 00:50:42,600
Speaker 4: do what Like, You're like one of my best friends,

1038
00:50:42,760 --> 00:50:44,480
Speaker 4: and if I found out that you did that, it

1039
00:50:44,480 --> 00:50:46,200
Speaker 4: would be immediately.

1040
00:50:45,680 --> 00:50:47,239
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, if you did the same thing, I'd be

1041
00:50:47,320 --> 00:50:50,360
Speaker 3: like you of course over But question for you guys.

1042
00:50:50,440 --> 00:50:56,799
Speaker 1: All right, let's say let's say uh Keon's girlfriend threw

1043
00:50:56,840 --> 00:51:00,279
Speaker 1: away his priceless teddy bear, right, would you go and

1044
00:51:00,440 --> 00:51:03,120
Speaker 1: destroy whatever collection she had as one of his boys?

1045
00:51:04,080 --> 00:51:05,240
Speaker 2: No, I mean it's not my place.

1046
00:51:05,480 --> 00:51:06,000
Speaker 1: Would you go?

1047
00:51:06,320 --> 00:51:09,000
Speaker 3: And what would I do? So?

1048
00:51:09,280 --> 00:51:10,680
Speaker 2: Would throw out her makeup away?

1049
00:51:10,760 --> 00:51:10,920
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1050
00:51:10,920 --> 00:51:12,120
Speaker 1: Would you would you do that?

1051
00:51:14,000 --> 00:51:14,040
Speaker 4: No?

1052
00:51:14,200 --> 00:51:15,600
Speaker 1: I would go up there, I'm like, what the hell

1053
00:51:15,640 --> 00:51:18,359
Speaker 1: you doing exactly exactly? You wouldn't do that. I would

1054
00:51:18,400 --> 00:51:19,239
Speaker 1: do that. You would do that?

1055
00:51:19,360 --> 00:51:28,279
Speaker 3: If if now, now, if somebody threw away my dog's ashes, like, oh,

1056
00:51:29,040 --> 00:51:32,480
Speaker 3: I'm throwing this away, You're losing it?

1057
00:51:33,000 --> 00:51:35,520
Speaker 1: Would you would you? Would you like destroy their stuff?

1058
00:51:36,960 --> 00:51:38,879
Speaker 3: I would throw I would be like, this is something

1059
00:51:38,960 --> 00:51:44,359
Speaker 3: valuable to you, all right, Well I don't see I don't.

1060
00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:46,279
Speaker 3: I agree with you, Sam, and I didn't. An eye

1061
00:51:46,280 --> 00:51:48,400
Speaker 3: for an eye is not great. Everyone gets blind, but

1062
00:51:49,320 --> 00:51:52,760
Speaker 3: out of in the instant of here, rage and anger

1063
00:51:52,960 --> 00:51:55,640
Speaker 3: and just how upset I am and just disappointment.

1064
00:51:56,400 --> 00:51:58,560
Speaker 1: I am going to do it. I will.

1065
00:51:58,760 --> 00:52:02,719
Speaker 3: I will get something that oh that was If it

1066
00:52:02,840 --> 00:52:05,880
Speaker 3: was like something very important, I don't know, I wouldn't

1067
00:52:05,880 --> 00:52:07,160
Speaker 3: do the same thing. I wouldn't do the same thing.

1068
00:52:07,200 --> 00:52:10,200
Speaker 3: Like the legos again, legos are like you can replace them.

1069
00:52:10,440 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't replace I don't know.

1070
00:52:15,160 --> 00:52:18,480
Speaker 4: That. I like if it wasn't an accident, but if

1071
00:52:18,520 --> 00:52:20,959
Speaker 4: she was, like I found this jar full of dust,

1072
00:52:21,080 --> 00:52:22,200
Speaker 4: so I threw the dust away.

1073
00:52:23,960 --> 00:52:24,400
Speaker 1: She didn't know.

1074
00:52:25,200 --> 00:52:26,840
Speaker 3: Then don't touch things you don't know.

1075
00:52:27,280 --> 00:52:30,040
Speaker 5: You'd still break up with it, right, Yeah, like you

1076
00:52:30,080 --> 00:52:33,319
Speaker 5: threw my dog away, I'd be I would I would

1077
00:52:33,360 --> 00:52:34,040
Speaker 5: literally break down.

1078
00:52:34,960 --> 00:52:40,400
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I would be like you you Yeah, if

1079
00:52:40,440 --> 00:52:42,040
Speaker 3: I if I went into your room right now and

1080
00:52:42,160 --> 00:52:45,840
Speaker 3: if I got that legos, there's there's nothing that you.

1081
00:52:46,360 --> 00:52:50,680
Speaker 1: Could destroy that I would destroy something of yours back. Well,

1082
00:52:50,840 --> 00:52:53,120
Speaker 1: but I would be mad and I would distance you. Guys.

1083
00:52:53,200 --> 00:52:55,640
Speaker 2: Wait, are you the Buddha?

1084
00:52:56,160 --> 00:52:56,400
Speaker 1: Are you?

1085
00:52:56,760 --> 00:52:58,759
Speaker 2: Is that the Buddha? I'm sitting next to you right now.

1086
00:52:59,000 --> 00:53:01,080
Speaker 1: I don't worldly possession.

1087
00:53:01,880 --> 00:53:04,240
Speaker 2: I don't you look different?

1088
00:53:04,480 --> 00:53:06,879
Speaker 1: Oh my god? Stop? Why?

1089
00:53:08,320 --> 00:53:09,200
Speaker 3: Oh too late?

1090
00:53:09,560 --> 00:53:09,680
Speaker 4: Oh?

1091
00:53:09,760 --> 00:53:13,720
Speaker 2: Here it goes here, it goes here, it goes again. Anyway,

1092
00:53:13,760 --> 00:53:14,439
Speaker 2: it goes again.

1093
00:53:15,440 --> 00:53:16,040
Speaker 1: Let's keep you on.

1094
00:53:16,239 --> 00:53:17,319
Speaker 2: How do we do that? Wait?

1095
00:53:17,440 --> 00:53:21,359
Speaker 1: What I know? I have no idea how I'll show

1096
00:53:21,360 --> 00:53:22,960
Speaker 1: you why there are Oh.

1097
00:53:23,080 --> 00:53:25,080
Speaker 4: Crap, you know how mad Riley's gonna be when he

1098
00:53:25,120 --> 00:53:27,320
Speaker 4: finds out how many stories we read after all this time.

1099
00:53:27,880 --> 00:53:29,200
Speaker 1: I feel like we read these.

1100
00:53:30,719 --> 00:53:36,359
Speaker 4: Okay, well, speaking finish okay. Oh and one more thing

1101
00:53:37,480 --> 00:53:40,239
Speaker 4: I did tell our mutual friends what he did. I

1102
00:53:40,320 --> 00:53:42,080
Speaker 4: took a picture of all of us digging through the

1103
00:53:42,160 --> 00:53:44,680
Speaker 4: trash to find my bear. I took a picture of

1104
00:53:44,840 --> 00:53:46,520
Speaker 4: the bear and the state he was in after I

1105
00:53:46,680 --> 00:53:50,000
Speaker 4: found him and told them, quote, thank you for taking

1106
00:53:50,120 --> 00:53:52,760
Speaker 4: his side and not even trying to figure out the situation.

1107
00:53:53,120 --> 00:53:55,720
Speaker 4: He threw away my property, so I took away his hobby.

1108
00:53:56,239 --> 00:53:58,400
Speaker 4: I also sent the text of him begging me to

1109
00:53:58,480 --> 00:54:01,239
Speaker 4: take him back and admitted what he did, how he

1110
00:54:01,360 --> 00:54:04,520
Speaker 4: watched me cry for hours while I looked for it

1111
00:54:04,600 --> 00:54:05,680
Speaker 4: and knowing he threw it out.

1112
00:54:06,160 --> 00:54:09,440
Speaker 2: See, look there's another layer. This dude is psycho.

1113
00:54:09,560 --> 00:54:13,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's terrible. She should actual sociopathic. You should definitely

1114
00:54:13,239 --> 00:54:14,520
Speaker 1: leave him as soon as possible.

1115
00:54:15,200 --> 00:54:18,439
Speaker 4: He watched me being distressed and he didn't even care.

1116
00:54:19,040 --> 00:54:22,400
Speaker 4: Those friends have texted me saying he said that I

1117
00:54:22,560 --> 00:54:24,719
Speaker 4: cheated on him and when he didn't take me back

1118
00:54:24,800 --> 00:54:27,880
Speaker 4: that I went crazy. And that's the end of that story.

1119
00:54:28,360 --> 00:54:29,520
Speaker 2: And that guy.

1120
00:54:32,120 --> 00:54:35,320
Speaker 4: I want him, sure, I mean beyond the orc clouds.

1121
00:54:35,520 --> 00:54:37,960
Speaker 4: He's in the black hole. But I feel like we're

1122
00:54:38,000 --> 00:54:40,759
Speaker 4: experimenting with something that goes beyond the black hole. And

1123
00:54:40,840 --> 00:54:43,359
Speaker 4: I think it might be tartarous, but it doesn't feel

1124
00:54:43,440 --> 00:54:46,520
Speaker 4: extreme enough. It doesn't feel extreme enough.

1125
00:54:47,320 --> 00:54:48,640
Speaker 2: I think you know what he is.

1126
00:54:49,239 --> 00:54:56,719
Speaker 4: He gets the Prometheus treatment, chained to a rock, and

1127
00:54:56,960 --> 00:54:59,279
Speaker 4: you get your liver picked out by seagulls.

1128
00:55:00,040 --> 00:55:01,480
Speaker 3: Repeat, there are crows.

1129
00:55:02,080 --> 00:55:04,040
Speaker 2: I think they were goals because he's on the coast.

1130
00:55:04,680 --> 00:55:07,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, so not only you're being eroded by the tide,

1131
00:55:07,360 --> 00:55:11,319
Speaker 4: were vultures, there's something, there's something with a beak ya

1132
00:55:11,680 --> 00:55:17,960
Speaker 4: gonna your liver on the daily. Well, it's just like unbelievable, man, Like,

1133
00:55:18,920 --> 00:55:21,440
Speaker 4: how do you do that to another person that you like,

1134
00:55:21,719 --> 00:55:22,720
Speaker 4: love or care about?

1135
00:55:22,840 --> 00:55:26,320
Speaker 1: Like, And I don't know.

1136
00:55:26,360 --> 00:55:27,760
Speaker 2: I'm just put myself in those shoes.

1137
00:55:27,560 --> 00:55:30,000
Speaker 4: Because I have a lot of sentimental little items, right, Yeah,

1138
00:55:30,400 --> 00:55:33,320
Speaker 4: And if somebody threw away not not just somebody, but

1139
00:55:33,520 --> 00:55:37,200
Speaker 4: like my partner threw away one of something like that,

1140
00:55:38,920 --> 00:55:41,919
Speaker 4: because it grows. And then they saw me distressed about

1141
00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:47,920
Speaker 4: it for hours, said nothing like I would blackout with rage.

1142
00:55:48,280 --> 00:55:50,440
Speaker 4: And I don't know what I would do, but I

1143
00:55:50,880 --> 00:55:52,120
Speaker 4: guarantee you I'd go to jail for it.

1144
00:55:52,160 --> 00:55:56,080
Speaker 1: Whatever it was. I could totally understand where that anger

1145
00:55:56,200 --> 00:55:56,719
Speaker 1: is coming from.

1146
00:55:57,600 --> 00:56:00,320
Speaker 4: I know you can, because you're a Buddha. You underderstand,

1147
00:56:00,360 --> 00:56:02,759
Speaker 4: you get it, You're tapped into all of it.