WEBVTT - Shay Mitchell: A Year In Quarantine (Pt. 2) 0:00:02.400 --> 0:00:05.280 Welcome to Katie's Crib, a production of Shonda land Audio 0:00:05.360 --> 0:00:16.120 in partnership with I Heart Radio. Hi everybody, and welcome 0:00:16.200 --> 0:00:20.159 back to the second episode of the season finale of 0:00:20.239 --> 0:00:24.120 Katie's Crib season three. If you haven't already, make sure 0:00:24.200 --> 0:00:28.040 you've listened to episode one of this two for so 0:00:28.080 --> 0:00:32.440 you can hear from Shay Mitchell in March. And then 0:00:33.159 --> 0:00:35.680 we decided we had to do an addendum to that episode. 0:00:36.159 --> 0:00:38.800 I had to hear how Shay Mitchell is doing now. 0:00:38.920 --> 0:00:41.920 I wanted to know during this time that has been 0:00:42.159 --> 0:00:49.840 so insane for everybody, and especially for mothers who have newborns, babies, 0:00:49.880 --> 0:00:54.520 toddler's children, out of school, this whole situation we find ourselves. 0:00:54.560 --> 0:00:56.280 I was like, I gotta talk to Shane Mitchell. I 0:00:56.280 --> 0:00:59.360 got to hear about what this past year has been 0:00:59.400 --> 0:01:03.320 like for her. And so here you have it, the 0:01:03.440 --> 0:01:07.440 second episode of the two part finale of Katie's Group 0:01:07.520 --> 0:01:11.960 season three, Shane Mitchell, the one and only. Enjoy it, guys, 0:01:11.959 --> 0:01:18.760 Thanks so much for listening. Guys. This is uh like 0:01:18.880 --> 0:01:23.880 being in a time capsule. Shane Mitchell just exploded her 0:01:23.920 --> 0:01:28.080 hands off her temples because the last time we saw 0:01:28.120 --> 0:01:32.880 each other it was literally the day before shutdown, the 0:01:33.000 --> 0:01:35.960 day before shutdown, and I remember you've been telling like 0:01:36.000 --> 0:01:38.000 my team, You're like, okay, and I know that there's 0:01:38.000 --> 0:01:40.560 this thing starting, so if you don't feel say, we 0:01:40.640 --> 0:01:43.320 have so much hand sanitizer. And I was like we 0:01:43.760 --> 0:01:45.560 no one knew what it was, what was going on. 0:01:45.680 --> 0:01:48.880 We were all like wait, what, Like, I just remember, 0:01:49.000 --> 0:01:51.160 like so much hand sanitized and I'm still doing that 0:01:51.200 --> 0:01:53.400 to this day. So it's been a full year of that. 0:01:53.560 --> 0:01:57.240 It's wild a full year we're coming upon. Since I 0:01:57.280 --> 0:01:59.360 saw you face to face, you may be the last 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:02.960 person I saw unmasked that is outside of my pot 0:02:03.080 --> 0:02:06.920 or my family. We felt the major impulse to hug, 0:02:07.000 --> 0:02:10.200 but we were like, let's shake elbows or feet because 0:02:10.240 --> 0:02:13.680 we don't know what this is. And here we are 0:02:13.760 --> 0:02:16.600 one year later. There's toilet paper back on the shelves 0:02:16.600 --> 0:02:18.359 in the grocery store, though, because the week we left 0:02:18.360 --> 0:02:21.240 saw each other there was no toilet paper. Everyone was 0:02:21.320 --> 0:02:24.520 running to this grocery store cleaning out all that stuff. 0:02:24.720 --> 0:02:30.160 And we were like, let's talk about motherhood. Yeah, Also, 0:02:30.919 --> 0:02:33.359 you had a five month old Atlas at the time. 0:02:33.520 --> 0:02:37.680 Oh my gosh, yes, And I didn't know was literally 0:02:37.680 --> 0:02:41.560 two minutes pregnant with my daughter via Oh my gosh, 0:02:41.600 --> 0:02:48.240 which is so crazy and congratulations you have two kids. Yeah, 0:02:48.240 --> 0:02:50.560 it's been a journey. It's been a journey, and I 0:02:50.600 --> 0:02:53.800 got pregnant. I think March eighth and shutdown was marked thirteen. 0:02:53.960 --> 0:02:56.440 So we just talked about that first set because I 0:02:56.520 --> 0:03:01.040 actually feel extreme jealousy for all women who have been 0:03:01.080 --> 0:03:03.080 pregnant courts. Now, there's some people that I know are 0:03:03.080 --> 0:03:04.359 going to be like, what do you mean we haven't 0:03:04.360 --> 0:03:06.600 been able to go out, And that's a fair point too, 0:03:07.040 --> 0:03:10.399 But I'm like, I should have actually should have done 0:03:10.400 --> 0:03:13.080 this last March. I'm like, just to have been home, 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:16.000 not to have been worried about be now you know, 0:03:16.120 --> 0:03:19.840 you're like, it's been amazing. I've worned sweatpants for a year, 0:03:20.240 --> 0:03:25.919 Like I've literally made a human birth to human and back. 0:03:26.120 --> 0:03:29.840 I've been in sweatpants the entire time. I've seen nobody. 0:03:30.400 --> 0:03:33.840 I know. I've nested, like, I mean, when this is over, 0:03:33.880 --> 0:03:35.920 I'm never nesting again. I have to say, I'm sure 0:03:36.080 --> 0:03:39.600 over it. But now, wait, are you are you thinking 0:03:39.600 --> 0:03:41.720 about ever having a second? Do we know? I mean, 0:03:42.840 --> 0:03:45.640 I'm like, damn, I wish it was last March, like 0:03:46.120 --> 0:03:47.960 you know, just because it does feel like this time 0:03:48.000 --> 0:03:51.680 has been so nice, like to be spending it with Atlas, 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:54.240 and and that has been the silver lining of this 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:57.160 whole thing, because without it being like this, I would 0:03:57.160 --> 0:03:59.840 have been traveling once a month, and and you know, 0:04:00.000 --> 0:04:02.040 who knows how many of those little moments I would 0:04:02.040 --> 0:04:04.280 have missed looking back on it now, So it's a 0:04:04.280 --> 0:04:07.960 completely different, you know, experience, and I have than my 0:04:08.000 --> 0:04:11.360 other friends without children. I get that, like I completely 0:04:11.360 --> 0:04:14.800 different experience. Being able to wake up to her changing 0:04:14.840 --> 0:04:18.800 every single day and seeing these changes has has been incredible. 0:04:19.000 --> 0:04:21.280 So I love that is a silver lifed day. And 0:04:21.360 --> 0:04:23.800 also when we last spoke a year ago, and I 0:04:23.839 --> 0:04:25.920 can say still to this day, you are still one 0:04:25.960 --> 0:04:29.600 of the most unflappable moms I've ever spoken to you. 0:04:29.839 --> 0:04:31.719 So my question to you is that I've been dying 0:04:31.760 --> 0:04:35.720 to ask in this year of quarantine, have you stayed 0:04:35.720 --> 0:04:39.520 that way? Are you chill is fuck still? If you are, 0:04:39.640 --> 0:04:42.400 please send it my way, because I'm not tell me 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:47.479 how parenting at List during this past year has changed 0:04:47.520 --> 0:04:50.920 that or made it stronger. I can only speak from 0:04:50.920 --> 0:04:54.279 my experience with this one child that I have and 0:04:56.320 --> 0:04:58.000 you know, are we following all the rules and she 0:04:58.080 --> 0:05:00.919 sleep trained perfectly? No? Absolutely not. Does she wake up 0:05:01.000 --> 0:05:03.479 at two when we bring into our bed? Yeah? And 0:05:03.520 --> 0:05:06.479 am I okay with it? Yeah, because I'm not getting 0:05:06.520 --> 0:05:08.280 enough to go to set at seven am where I 0:05:08.320 --> 0:05:10.160 need a full night sleep. But by the way, when 0:05:10.160 --> 0:05:12.120 I bring her in, she sleeps until seven thirty, So 0:05:12.160 --> 0:05:14.880 it's like a peaceful thing and I love waking up 0:05:14.920 --> 0:05:17.080 next to her. So it's like that's changed. So is 0:05:17.120 --> 0:05:20.359 my sleep routine exactly how I would have imagined to be. 0:05:20.600 --> 0:05:23.120 Now that's not structured. She goes to bed at seven 0:05:23.200 --> 0:05:25.120 thirty every night, but the wake up and ending up 0:05:25.120 --> 0:05:26.840 in our bed is a new thing. And we're like, 0:05:26.920 --> 0:05:30.640 all right, whatever, it's quarantine or whatever this is. Now 0:05:30.640 --> 0:05:33.840 at this point she's not hit the two stage. I 0:05:33.839 --> 0:05:36.320 think we need to check back in after she's like two, 0:05:36.839 --> 0:05:39.480 becase my runner. You can be my runner of like 0:05:39.560 --> 0:05:42.159 the next four or five seasons. We'll just always check in, 0:05:42.800 --> 0:05:45.560 Just always check in, because I know the teenagers are 0:05:45.560 --> 0:05:47.479 going to be a whole other experience, But for right now, 0:05:47.880 --> 0:05:50.000 it's a different experience than what I'm sure I may 0:05:50.000 --> 0:05:52.400 have had if we were traveling with her on the road. 0:05:52.760 --> 0:05:54.279 You know, I may have been like, oh my gosh, 0:05:54.320 --> 0:05:56.120 hey like her on the plane and then at the 0:05:56.279 --> 0:05:58.599 hotel she was jet like. But I haven't had that 0:05:58.640 --> 0:06:01.640 experience to compare it to. So for her being at home, yeah, 0:06:01.640 --> 0:06:05.280 I mean she's still we're still like, I'm not potty 0:06:05.279 --> 0:06:08.200 training yet. We haven't hit any of those milestones. So 0:06:08.240 --> 0:06:12.159 I'm like, it's good. It's more of the same. I 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:15.240 have help here, you know, um to do this and 0:06:15.400 --> 0:06:19.479 to be working without completely again another experience. I have 0:06:19.720 --> 0:06:22.520 no idea how I would handle it. The milestones she 0:06:22.600 --> 0:06:25.279 has hit though, in this quarantine she I'm assuming she 0:06:25.320 --> 0:06:30.240 took her first steps, she started walking running around. Has 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:32.839 that been emotional for you that you've been kind of 0:06:32.920 --> 0:06:36.560 alone with all these things? The thing that I missed 0:06:36.600 --> 0:06:39.680 the most is not having my family and Matt's family 0:06:39.760 --> 0:06:43.320 able to see her and you know, in real life, 0:06:43.320 --> 0:06:45.600 because FaceTime a whole lot of that. Like she gets 0:06:45.600 --> 0:06:48.240 it now, she sees that's still for us. The only 0:06:48.279 --> 0:06:50.440 screen time that we've really had is when she uses 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:53.000 FaceTime to see my parents. So she's always like, whoa, 0:06:53.120 --> 0:06:54.640 you know, every I don't know what she's going to 0:06:54.720 --> 0:06:56.920 think when she starts seeing TV, she'll think that people 0:06:56.960 --> 0:06:58.960 can wave back to her. But right now, it's like 0:06:59.360 --> 0:07:01.640 she's seen my family that way. So that's the thing 0:07:01.680 --> 0:07:04.640 that I'm like, oh, I wish my grandma could just 0:07:04.680 --> 0:07:07.280 be seeing her right now. That has been the hardest part, 0:07:07.440 --> 0:07:11.920 but you know, yeah, her milestones are crazy. Every single night, 0:07:12.000 --> 0:07:13.480 Matt and I are going to bed and we're literally 0:07:13.480 --> 0:07:15.520 just looking at the phone from those days photos and 0:07:15.600 --> 0:07:18.880 videos and we do that too. You know, it's sick. 0:07:18.920 --> 0:07:20.840 It's like you put them down to thirty and then 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:23.120 you spend your night looking at photos of them. It's 0:07:23.160 --> 0:07:26.120 the most disgusting. I'm like excited to put her to bed, 0:07:26.160 --> 0:07:28.080 but then I'm also excited to wake her up. Like 0:07:28.320 --> 0:07:30.680 that doesn't go away. I still do that with my 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:32.680 three year old. I'm like, please go to sleep, like 0:07:32.680 --> 0:07:34.840 you're a toddler. You're so hard right now, And he 0:07:34.880 --> 0:07:36.560 goes down, and then what am I doing. I'm in 0:07:36.600 --> 0:07:38.960 bed scrolling through the photos of the day and his 0:07:39.080 --> 0:07:44.040 videos like it's I know, it's insane, it's insane, but 0:07:44.560 --> 0:07:47.240 I didn't have an emotional time like everyone now and 0:07:47.280 --> 0:07:49.520 again I'll look and I'll be like, but she's so 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:52.040 big now. And Matt's like, okay, but bait, like that's 0:07:52.040 --> 0:07:54.400 what we want. I'm like, I know, but like look 0:07:54.440 --> 0:07:56.520 at her bed then, you know, did I really soak 0:07:56.560 --> 0:07:58.000 that in? And of course I did. I was there 0:07:58.040 --> 0:08:01.679 every moment for it. But it's just it's it's it's wild. 0:08:02.160 --> 0:08:04.560 I'm like, oh wow, I get it now, Mom and Dad, 0:08:04.840 --> 0:08:10.920 I'm sorry, I get it. You know, has anything for 0:08:10.960 --> 0:08:13.640 the motherhood journey popped up for you that's been like 0:08:13.680 --> 0:08:17.400 super unexpected. Having a child has definitely made me realize 0:08:18.000 --> 0:08:22.120 just time is flying. Um, you know, it's tough, just 0:08:22.160 --> 0:08:24.480 because it's like I'm trying to figure out ways to 0:08:24.560 --> 0:08:27.920 help her development while being at home. Fortunately for us, 0:08:27.960 --> 0:08:30.560 we went to Vancouver for a few months. I think 0:08:30.600 --> 0:08:36.000 that amazing. We're going back. It's it's different. It's different 0:08:36.080 --> 0:08:38.840 over there. I think they have less cases and you know, 0:08:38.920 --> 0:08:40.559 I don't know, it's just a different vo They have 0:08:40.679 --> 0:08:43.920 like parks open, there's like there's there's some there's a 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:45.760 bit more normals. I mean, all of my friends who 0:08:45.760 --> 0:08:47.600 are shooting in Vancouver, I like, look at there because 0:08:47.600 --> 0:08:50.520 you have to quarantine there, right, you know, like so 0:08:50.720 --> 0:08:53.800 things are working over there. So I do feel like 0:08:53.840 --> 0:08:55.960 that is something that I'm going to be doing with her. 0:08:55.960 --> 0:08:57.400 I have to take her back because I want to 0:08:57.480 --> 0:08:59.720 enroll her in some classes so she can see other kids. 0:08:59.800 --> 0:09:02.400 It's like, that's the only thing that has been really 0:09:02.440 --> 0:09:04.640 weird that I would never have thought i'd have to 0:09:04.679 --> 0:09:21.080 deal with. Pre COVID is really really hard. Yeah. The 0:09:21.160 --> 0:09:23.680 other thing you've been doing in quarantine is you've been 0:09:23.760 --> 0:09:29.920 working out a ton Like what what? What inspired that? 0:09:30.000 --> 0:09:31.760 Just being stuck at home and feeling the need to 0:09:31.840 --> 0:09:39.160 move or I feel like yeah, lash after I feel 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:42.360 like Vanity Fair that was the last big event that 0:09:42.400 --> 0:09:46.800 I went to. After that, I was like, Okay, we're here, Like, um, 0:09:46.840 --> 0:09:48.720 I'm a new mom. I feel like I should be 0:09:48.760 --> 0:09:51.920 back at work. What am I doing? A little bit 0:09:51.920 --> 0:09:54.320 of a struggle of course, Like I talked about, the 0:09:54.360 --> 0:09:56.280 silver lining of this was being able to spend all 0:09:56.320 --> 0:09:58.120 this time with that list, But it was a lot 0:09:58.160 --> 0:10:01.760 of changes really quickly. For me. It was now being 0:10:01.880 --> 0:10:05.360 a stay at home mom, working from home and not 0:10:05.440 --> 0:10:09.000 being able to travel go to my job. Feel like 0:10:09.320 --> 0:10:12.120 any part of my old life was there. And I 0:10:12.160 --> 0:10:15.000 think that it was the biggest struggle. It wasn't like 0:10:15.040 --> 0:10:17.120 I was just coming into this like without child, like 0:10:17.160 --> 0:10:18.840 I was coming into this as like a new mom 0:10:18.880 --> 0:10:20.679 and like trying to figure out my new place in 0:10:20.720 --> 0:10:25.040 this world. While the world was really hard. Whoa, It's 0:10:25.040 --> 0:10:29.040 like your whole identity shifted, whole identity, but the whole 0:10:29.080 --> 0:10:31.800 world changed too, so it's like, what the hell? Who 0:10:31.840 --> 0:10:34.480 are we? And I right? And and you know it 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:37.160 forced me to in it to a position that I 0:10:37.200 --> 0:10:39.720 wasn't used to before, which was a stay at home mom. 0:10:39.760 --> 0:10:42.280 I wasn't prepared for that. And I don't know if 0:10:42.320 --> 0:10:45.440 we talked about that last time too, but I have 0:10:45.640 --> 0:10:49.240 friends that are incredible, and that in itself, as we 0:10:49.320 --> 0:10:53.040 both know, is a full time job. I wasn't ready 0:10:53.160 --> 0:10:56.480 for that job, hardest job in the world. I didn't 0:10:56.480 --> 0:10:57.920 think about it like that. I was like, oh, I 0:10:57.960 --> 0:11:00.760 will have that list, I have an incredible team, I'll 0:11:00.800 --> 0:11:03.600 be able to travel, feel like myself again, come back 0:11:03.880 --> 0:11:06.600 be a mom. And that was taken it out. So 0:11:06.640 --> 0:11:08.600 I was like, all right, not feel bad for me, 0:11:08.640 --> 0:11:10.640 but like, oh my gosh, I need to figure this out. 0:11:11.040 --> 0:11:12.960 And from that I was like, Okay, I'll figure it 0:11:12.960 --> 0:11:17.240 out while sitting here, and you know, really enjoying myself 0:11:17.360 --> 0:11:20.320 with you know, maybe not the best food, maybe not 0:11:20.559 --> 0:11:23.600 you know, having too much wine, you know, at the 0:11:23.600 --> 0:11:26.280 beginning and all of that. And then I was like, 0:11:26.440 --> 0:11:29.040 I'm not even moving. And I realized how much I 0:11:29.120 --> 0:11:31.240 used to just move. Whether it was going to the 0:11:31.240 --> 0:11:33.439 grocery store. I cut that out because I was getting 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:35.800 my groceries delivered. So it was like all of that 0:11:35.840 --> 0:11:39.600 movement had stopped. And I've always said my entire life, 0:11:39.600 --> 0:11:41.960 I've been active since I was a child. I've always 0:11:42.000 --> 0:11:44.800 talked about working out for my mental health. That is 0:11:44.840 --> 0:11:48.200 my therapy. And when I stopped doing that because I 0:11:48.200 --> 0:11:49.600 don't have it. I didn't have a gym in my 0:11:49.640 --> 0:11:52.000 house at that time, I was like, Okay, I didn't 0:11:52.040 --> 0:11:55.319 want to go on walks because paparazzi out there. I 0:11:55.360 --> 0:11:57.679 don't feel like getting photographed in my sweatpants and stained 0:11:57.679 --> 0:12:00.240 shirt today. So it was like all of that just 0:12:00.280 --> 0:12:02.199 took a toll. And I felt like ship last year 0:12:02.400 --> 0:12:05.600 Atlas was the best part of that. But mentally for me, 0:12:05.800 --> 0:12:08.880 I was like, I don't feel myself, like all of 0:12:08.920 --> 0:12:12.520 old Shay was gone. And so for me, I knew 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:14.520 that I had to make a change. I wanted to 0:12:14.520 --> 0:12:20.480 go into one different and January one I remember, like 0:12:20.520 --> 0:12:23.600 New Year's Eve, I went Ham, I ordered everything, and 0:12:23.679 --> 0:12:25.560 I've been doing that for the last six months. But 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:28.840 like Ham and jan first, I'm like, no, I need 0:12:28.880 --> 0:12:31.160 to be healthier. I need to be what I was 0:12:31.200 --> 0:12:34.320 doing before this because I have to be strong and 0:12:34.360 --> 0:12:36.640 be here for Atlas. It's not just about me anymore. 0:12:36.679 --> 0:12:38.000 I want to be the best version. I want her 0:12:38.040 --> 0:12:41.440 to see me eating salads and not ordering all of 0:12:41.440 --> 0:12:43.880 this stuff every single day. Like trust me, I'm a 0:12:43.880 --> 0:12:47.320 big fan of junk food, but in moderation, not every 0:12:47.360 --> 0:12:50.600 single day is my clutch. And so after I made 0:12:50.600 --> 0:12:53.000 that change, like now I'm like, I feel so freaking strong. 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:54.800 I can pick her up my arms at any time, 0:12:54.800 --> 0:12:56.719 I can walk upstairs. I'm not out of breath. Like 0:12:57.160 --> 0:12:59.480 now I'm like cool, I feel like me And now 0:12:59.520 --> 0:13:02.200 I can be the best mom to you, the best 0:13:02.240 --> 0:13:05.400 partner to Matt, the best everything to everybody else because 0:13:05.440 --> 0:13:07.160 now I feel like I'm at my strongest again, And 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:11.520 that was super important. And also you set up the boundary, 0:13:11.559 --> 0:13:14.200 you know, you set up the boundary of like you 0:13:14.240 --> 0:13:17.240 know this is my time, you know, like I take 0:13:17.280 --> 0:13:19.160 this hour every day or whatever it is that you 0:13:19.240 --> 0:13:22.720 do three days is where you're like, I have to 0:13:22.880 --> 0:13:26.080 do this for mental physical health. I used to think 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:28.360 about working out, you know, it's such a vanity what 0:13:28.480 --> 0:13:31.319 I look like, and now it's so much like, oh, 0:13:31.400 --> 0:13:33.400 I just want to sap it here. I just want 0:13:33.440 --> 0:13:35.560 to be here for like a really long time so 0:13:35.640 --> 0:13:38.080 I can see your life and if that means that 0:13:38.120 --> 0:13:41.400 my heart is like able to do cardio so that 0:13:41.480 --> 0:13:43.400 I don't get sick, you know, like I actually it 0:13:43.760 --> 0:13:45.920 sounds dark, but like that's how I think about it. 0:13:45.960 --> 0:13:48.160 I'm like, I just really need to be healthy so 0:13:48.240 --> 0:13:51.280 I can like watch your life as long as I 0:13:51.320 --> 0:13:53.120 can and look back and be like I did what 0:13:53.200 --> 0:13:57.439 I could to be here. Man like absolutely absolutely. Yeah. 0:13:57.520 --> 0:13:59.600 It's a you know, it's a weird world. Last night 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:02.400 I had a little bit of a uh, you know, 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:05.560 an ups and downs because I did my post. I 0:14:05.640 --> 0:14:07.920 posted this photo showing as a new mom, I feel 0:14:07.920 --> 0:14:10.679 super strong. So many people were like, wait, you should 0:14:10.720 --> 0:14:13.920 have a trigger warning with that. I'm like, I understand that. 0:14:14.120 --> 0:14:17.320 I mean I don't. I actually don't understand. And social 0:14:17.360 --> 0:14:20.480 media I've always been able to not pay attention to, 0:14:20.640 --> 0:14:23.040 but that really bothered me. I don't know how that 0:14:23.120 --> 0:14:25.600 can affect anybody in a negative way because I busted 0:14:25.600 --> 0:14:27.560 my ass and I have proved a show for that. 0:14:27.640 --> 0:14:29.720 Like I worked out, I ate healthy. That is how 0:14:29.840 --> 0:14:31.800 I feel strong now. It's not about a diet t 0:14:32.240 --> 0:14:34.600 it's not about any of that stuff. I now feel 0:14:34.600 --> 0:14:36.760 like my old self and that needs to be celebrated, 0:14:36.840 --> 0:14:39.000 especially as a new mom. I couldn't. I could not 0:14:39.120 --> 0:14:43.320 agree with you more. Yeah, Dolphace hasn't gone back is 0:14:43.320 --> 0:14:47.600 on hamew So is this like the least like for you? 0:14:47.680 --> 0:14:50.720 This is like being on set. It's slowed down for you. 0:14:50.840 --> 0:14:53.600 Does that feel good to you? Do you feel like 0:14:54.640 --> 0:14:56.720 you hate? Like? Are you like itching to get back 0:14:56.720 --> 0:15:01.000 to work? I'm not. I'm not itching because as I've been, 0:15:01.200 --> 0:15:04.480 you know, keeping myself busy with like social media content, 0:15:04.920 --> 0:15:07.600 still the YouTube, and then I have I launched Onto 0:15:07.760 --> 0:15:09.680 which is ready to drink to quill a brand in 0:15:10.080 --> 0:15:14.760 June of last year. So I've been busy and bass 0:15:14.880 --> 0:15:17.520 that have allowed me to stay home, which is nice. 0:15:17.680 --> 0:15:19.880 But I remember we were talking. I was launching the 0:15:19.920 --> 0:15:25.480 diaper bags and it's out, We're sold out, we're getting restocked. 0:15:25.520 --> 0:15:27.480 So every day I'm replying to comments with my friends 0:15:27.480 --> 0:15:29.800 are like when's the backpack back? And that has been 0:15:29.840 --> 0:15:33.120 so much fun? Like it's that has been so cool. 0:15:33.160 --> 0:15:36.440 Bas is like my first baby, thank you um bass 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:39.680 was like my first you know baby, and and my 0:15:39.840 --> 0:15:44.080 creative you know um energy is being put somewhere, So 0:15:44.120 --> 0:15:46.200 I feel good about that. To physically be on set, 0:15:46.240 --> 0:15:48.960 do I miss that ish But to me, to be 0:15:49.040 --> 0:15:50.840 quite honest with you, for me to go back to 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:53.120 being on set and being away from our physically, because 0:15:53.120 --> 0:15:55.120 I can do so much from home, it has to 0:15:55.160 --> 0:15:57.440 be a great project, like I have to want to 0:15:57.480 --> 0:16:00.240 do it. I'm not just doing you know. I don't 0:16:00.240 --> 0:16:02.000 feel that strong about I'm not going to keep myself 0:16:02.040 --> 0:16:04.800 away from over twelve however many hours on set now, 0:16:05.080 --> 0:16:06.720 So I have a different perspective with that, and I 0:16:06.720 --> 0:16:08.600 think that's the one thing I let my whole team know, 0:16:08.760 --> 0:16:11.680 like unless it's a project, I feel really passionate about 0:16:12.800 --> 0:16:15.480 not itching, you know. That's the biggest shift I feel 0:16:15.520 --> 0:16:19.360 like with motherhood is definitely like everything comes down to 0:16:19.480 --> 0:16:23.000 like a choice where this takes me away from my family, 0:16:23.040 --> 0:16:24.880 my children, So it either has to be worth it 0:16:25.240 --> 0:16:29.040 financially or artistically. Absolutely, or you know something that you're like, 0:16:29.520 --> 0:16:32.480 it has to be a real reason. So this year, 0:16:32.560 --> 0:16:35.920 we have truly been forced to sit with ourselves and 0:16:36.040 --> 0:16:38.800 we've we're reassessing a lot of things in our personal 0:16:38.880 --> 0:16:42.680 lives and in our country. How have you been reflecting 0:16:43.120 --> 0:16:47.160 and how has this time shaped you? Oh my gosh, 0:16:47.240 --> 0:16:49.720 just everything Like what you just said, I'm like, yeah, 0:16:49.760 --> 0:16:55.400 because how much has happened in this past year. There's 0:16:55.440 --> 0:16:57.800 two sides to it. On one side, I'm like, okay, 0:16:57.840 --> 0:16:59.760 I feel you know, the positive side, I'm like, we 0:16:59.840 --> 0:17:03.160 are making movement. I want to say that we are 0:17:03.200 --> 0:17:05.399 heading in the right direction, you know, and that's and 0:17:05.440 --> 0:17:08.000 that's exciting, that's positive. And then on the other side, 0:17:08.000 --> 0:17:10.040 I'm like, oh my gosh, we've been in this safe 0:17:10.040 --> 0:17:13.520 little bubble here and now I'm like freaked out. I'm 0:17:13.560 --> 0:17:16.080 freaked out when this is over, Like then she's out 0:17:16.119 --> 0:17:17.919 there and then she's in this world, and this world 0:17:17.960 --> 0:17:20.199 is all so crazy. While we're moving, I want to 0:17:20.200 --> 0:17:22.760 say in a better direction, there's also so much happening. 0:17:22.800 --> 0:17:26.320 And I'm like I teeter tot her between like feeling 0:17:26.400 --> 0:17:28.600 safe in this moment right now because she's at home 0:17:28.640 --> 0:17:30.399 and I have her here and she's not in school 0:17:30.480 --> 0:17:32.240 yet and all of that to then also be like, 0:17:32.280 --> 0:17:34.719 but I want you to see the world. So this 0:17:34.800 --> 0:17:36.840 year is really kind of tugged with my emotions of 0:17:36.880 --> 0:17:39.320 like wanting it to be over and wanting to push 0:17:39.320 --> 0:17:40.919 her out there, but then also wanting to keep her 0:17:40.960 --> 0:17:43.600 safe in this little bubble that we've had. Of course, 0:17:44.000 --> 0:17:45.639 I mean, I think if I feel like we're going 0:17:45.720 --> 0:17:48.119 to feel that way our whole lives. I'm in the 0:17:48.200 --> 0:17:49.960 same I didn't put out THEA in pre school because 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:51.399 I was pregnant and then I had a newborn and 0:17:51.400 --> 0:17:53.119 I was like, oh my god, like this is crazy. 0:17:53.160 --> 0:17:54.640 But I have a three and a half year old 0:17:55.200 --> 0:17:59.919 toddler who doesn't see friends, and he writes socialization and 0:18:00.080 --> 0:18:03.040 he needs to learn how to share and like get 0:18:03.040 --> 0:18:06.399 out there. But I'm keeping him in this protected bubble 0:18:06.440 --> 0:18:09.600 because I have a twelve week old and it's just 0:18:09.760 --> 0:18:11.760 like it's a But I think we'll feel that we 0:18:11.840 --> 0:18:14.560 have of wanting to keep them safe but then also 0:18:14.600 --> 0:18:18.560 wanting them to expand and have life experiences and learn 0:18:18.760 --> 0:18:21.280 how to pick themselves up when they fall down. What 0:18:21.440 --> 0:18:24.840 advice or heads up would you have given to Shay 0:18:24.920 --> 0:18:30.399 Mitchell in March of know right, oh, man, Like what 0:18:30.440 --> 0:18:34.080 would we have told ourselves then, I don't know, go 0:18:34.200 --> 0:18:36.840 out to a party, like go on a trip right now, 0:18:37.200 --> 0:18:39.840 I don't know, like where there was less cases like 0:18:39.920 --> 0:18:42.600 just go on a trip and then come back, get 0:18:42.600 --> 0:18:44.879 it out of I mean, I don't know what we 0:18:44.880 --> 0:18:46.840 could have said to ourselves back then that would have 0:18:46.880 --> 0:18:49.159 prepared us for to have a whole I know I 0:18:49.160 --> 0:18:51.280 would have said to myself, get pregnant right out, trying 0:18:51.720 --> 0:18:54.000 it right now, That's what I would have said to myself. Actually, 0:18:54.000 --> 0:18:57.320 what am I saying now is the perfect time, Shay like, 0:18:58.440 --> 0:19:00.280 because it was hard for me. It was hard to 0:19:00.280 --> 0:19:03.040 be pregnant, and as it is for so for everybody, 0:19:03.040 --> 0:19:05.600 I'm sure. But like you took to go to work, 0:19:06.000 --> 0:19:08.080 you know, to be out, and then we talked about 0:19:08.119 --> 0:19:10.720 the paparazzi photos, them getting you at your worst when 0:19:10.720 --> 0:19:13.920 you already don't feel great, you feel vulnerable. That was hard. 0:19:14.040 --> 0:19:16.159 So had I could have just you know, not have 0:19:16.240 --> 0:19:18.800 had that. I don't know. I have so many mixed 0:19:18.800 --> 0:19:22.760 of feelings about how I felt and and and some 0:19:22.840 --> 0:19:24.960 of it is like blurry to me now, you know. 0:19:25.080 --> 0:19:27.159 I think that's obviously, what it does so that we 0:19:27.200 --> 0:19:32.119 get pregnant again completely wipes your memory. Because you know, 0:19:32.160 --> 0:19:34.399 I'll watch some videos and I will say, for the 0:19:34.400 --> 0:19:39.040 majority of it, I was so blessed and like liked 0:19:39.080 --> 0:19:41.479 a lot of it. But the parts that I didn't like, 0:19:41.600 --> 0:19:45.120 I'm like, oh man, wow, it's like I want to say, 0:19:45.640 --> 0:19:47.919 and I'm gonna be honest and say it, like I 0:19:47.960 --> 0:19:50.199 wanted sibling so bad, but I don't want to go 0:19:50.240 --> 0:19:53.520 through pregnancy again. And and I wasn't that be mean 0:19:53.640 --> 0:19:56.760 goddess that absolutely loved it. I don't want to do 0:19:56.800 --> 0:20:00.160 it again, um, because it is. It took a oh 0:20:00.200 --> 0:20:03.040 I mean mentally, you know, and that's what we said, 0:20:03.080 --> 0:20:06.200 like I had pre partum, not post pre and and 0:20:06.240 --> 0:20:09.239 that was something that I didn't know back then. I 0:20:09.280 --> 0:20:11.920 only heard postpartum, so I was preparing myself for that. 0:20:12.440 --> 0:20:15.199